SNEAKO - July 18, 2022Why Women Can’t Take Accountability for ANYTHING
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss self-esteem, self-confidence, dating in your 20's and 30's, and what it means to be a woman in the 21st century. We also talk about how to deal with the pressures of social media, and why we shouldn t care so much about our social security numbers.
Transcript
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What were some of the things that you were told about men while growing up?
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On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate yourself?
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Does that mean there's no room for improvement?
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But I just feel that I have a lot to bring to the table.
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If there was besides your eyelashes, what you got to bring to the table?
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If you could improve one thing about yourself, what would it be?
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There's a correlation between how long your fake eyelashes are and how diluted your self-esteem is.
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Does that mean like there's no room for improvement?
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If you were going to improve like one thing about yourself, what would it be?
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Can you think of any time in recorded human history where women have had more power than
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Can you think of any countries other than Western countries like America, Australia,
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Canada, where women have more power than they do in those countries?
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Maybe the Queen of Elizabeth, you know, over there.
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Probably not Asia or the Middle East or anything like that.
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Why do you think so many women feel so oppressed in both the time and place where they have the
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Women have literally never had more power than today and they still...
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Because there's still like a lot of men who don't see the value of women.
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So it feels like we're always constantly having to prove ourselves.
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What do you think is the difference between confidence and arrogance?
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I literally just asked this question on the one minute podcast.
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I was just having a conversation with my girls tonight about like wearing something like this.
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It brings a lot to light because I still want to be viewed a certain way and not be viewed
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Do you think that your partner's past body count matters in dating?
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Personally, it has affected me because an ex got a little crazy when I told him mine,
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If it, if it doesn't matter, why do so many people insist on keeping it a secret?
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But what's there to hide if there's no, if there's no.
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You don't want to come off being judged about something that had nothing to do with them
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I get that, but I'm saying the fact that you might be.
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I feel like that's just like your social security number.
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The fact that people feel judged by that, doesn't that mean that it shouldn't matter, but it
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If it doesn't matter to you, then why do you tell everybody?
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To some, to some people, it actually does matter.
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Do you think men and women can be just friends?
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So if you asked your best straight single male friend, if he.
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But you can, but usually it's the woman who sets the boundaries.
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If you're not attracted to the person, you can be.
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Each of you, if you asked your best straight single male friend, if he date you or hook up,
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I have a best friend for 10 years and we've never slept together.
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Who's the one who typically sets the boundaries in the relationship?
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Is it, is it both or is it, is it one or is it the female?
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I'd really say the female because she, as soon as he makes that move, she's like, okay,
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I got to back up because you're catching feelings.
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So who typically sets the boundaries in the relationship?
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Do you think that gives them an advantage in relationships?
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Because, I mean, if you're setting boundaries, then I guess you can let them have a little
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Why do you think women want equality in everything except for dating?
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So they, so they can just have a more di, no, diagnic.
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Was there anything in your experience dealing with men that came as a surprise to you?
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So if, uh, if men are just natural horn dogs, why do you think women don't typically approach
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I mean, because pretty much, I mean, wouldn't that, wouldn't that make sense?
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I mean, any, any guy, you know, that you go approach would probably be down, right?
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So why are men typically the ones that approach women?
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Probably my values growing up, because I was not allowed to chase boys or call boys.
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They had to pursue me, and they had to meet my dad first.
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Do you think, uh, religion and politics matter in dating?
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I don't think that should define a relationship.
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You don't think it does, but I mean, most women, like, probably wouldn't date a guy who,
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like, was a Trump supporter, or they wouldn't date a guy who was a...
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I mean, I actually think it matters a lot, because...
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Because, you know, I mean, like, there are some people I know...
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You can have somebody that's Christian and have somebody that's atheist, and then, like,
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the spirituality doesn't match because, you know, like, what if I believe in God,
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So why do you think that a lot of people will say don't discuss politics or religion on a first date
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when it seems to be the first thing that you would want to talk about, right?
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Yeah, I feel that maybe because they don't want it, like, to be too much drama all at first.
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That's probably why, and they just want to keep it, because that's those hard topics they're really going to.
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But at the end of the day, if you love somebody, it's because you love them because of who they are,
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Do you think unconditional love is possible in a romantic relationship?
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I believe it's possible, but why do we have a term called deal breakers?
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Because people tend to find the, how do you say, the defects of other people.
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I'm sorry, of other people, you know, because they try to, I think because sometimes, like,
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there just needs to be some drama that people want to cause, but I don't think it should
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Like, because if you're going to love somebody, like, I really hope somebody loves me the way
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I am without having to force me to change, you know?
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So if I'm going to ever love somebody, I don't know, I'm sorry, did I lose myself?
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No, it's okay, we'll move to a different question.
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Do you think men are socialized to protect and provide for women?
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Do you think some men go as far as putting women up on a pedestal?
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If all that is true, why are there so many women who are angry at men?
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Because a lot of men are kind of demonized for being cheaters and liars and players and
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But you basically, a general, a generalization of men is cheaters and womanizers.
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So I'm just saying, like, why do you think a toxic...
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Term like that exists when most men are socialized to protect and provide for women and be, put them
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And hopefully, we're trying to continue those types of standards for our boys.
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But I do see society, unfortunately, has changed a lot of that.
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You don't meet up and have a beer and have a date.
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And then it usually goes to sexting or wanting nude pictures of you very quickly.
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And I've experienced even married where I've had that and I'm like, whoa.
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Do you think there's a difference between what women say that they want in a relationship
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A lot of women will say that they want a nice guy, but then they'll go and date the bad boy.
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The girl on the right was not getting enough attention, so she left.
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...say that they want with their actions, doesn't that mean it's kind of hard to take women seriously
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I think relationships are something that if it's a mutual feeling, both people will want
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If it's just like women like to say like, oh no, you know, do whatever you want.
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But at the end of the day, we still want you to do what we want.
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Like we're not, I'm not going to lie to you about that.
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I can tell a guy like, oh, you don't have to get me...
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But at the end of the day, I'll still want flowers.
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I don't want flowers, but get me flowers anyway.
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Because look, she's just saying, I don't make any sense.
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And if you don't get it right, you could slip up and hear this nonsense and then end up in jail.
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You have to be really careful and be five steps ahead of their bullshit.
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But at the end of the day, I'll still want flowers.
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But men should, like, you know, put their effort.
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Do you think that it's true that women often find...
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Do you think it's true that women often find...
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Do you think it's true that women often find attractive men cute and romantic
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when an ugly one doing the exact same thing is creepy?
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So you can't trust women because they make no sense.
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If you're an ugly guy and you bring your flowers...
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Complain about guys not willing to make an effort.
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When single women dress sexy and wear makeup, are they seeking attention?
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Who the fuck else are you putting on makeup for?
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Sometimes I put on makeup to feel good by myself.
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If you were the only person on earth, you would throw that shit in the garbage and have to survive.
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Makeup only exists because you're looked at all the time.
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Are they seeking attention from other women, men, or the right man?
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And there's a lot of women who say, you know, I dress a certain way for myself, right?
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My question is, if women are dressing for themselves, why do you often see women walking
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around in uncomfortable shoes and skimpy dresses when it's freezing cold outside?
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For myself, I'm gonna trip and fall and have to carry my shoes in my hands when I walk to
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the cab because I'm doing it for myself and I'm freezing cold for me.
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If they're walking around with, you know, uncomfortable shoes and...
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Freezing, wearing skimpy outfits or, like, wearing really uncomfortable shoes.
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I mean, they can't be dressing for themselves because otherwise they'd be comfortable and they
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I think a lot of women say that they dress for themselves, but they're really not dressing
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I think it's, like, subconsciously dressing for others, but, like, they're like, oh, my...
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You know what the fuck you're doing, but they gotta live in la-la land.
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Do you think there's a difference between what women say that they want and what they actually
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You know, some of them choose to wear high heels every day of their...
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No, there's definitely exceptions to every rule, but do you think generalizing is always
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Bro, this guy has really good questions and it's the perfect example of how the Socratic
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He's saying all the stuff that I believe and I get all angry about it, but people can't
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handle the truth and get turned off when you start...
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So he's just asking the questions and making them realize it for themselves.
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That's the same thing I do with the One Minute Podcast.
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So then people have to figure out their bullshit for themselves.
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And if you really talk to enough people, you realize it.
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Well, don't women typically want to date men taller than them?
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Women typically want to date a man taller than them, right?
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Why do you think so many women like hip-hop music when so much of it is degrading to women?
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Bitches ain't nothing but hoes and tricks, you know?
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Why do so many women, you know, why do they listen to that music if it's degrading to women?
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Because they like being degraded, but they also love complaining about it too.
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I think now women listen more to female rappers, female singers.
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Just strippers who rap a little bit and didn't write their music.
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Because we still have a lot of problems going on with sex trafficking.
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But I want to ask you and just go with me on this because it's an interesting topic.
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Imagine a woman jogging through a park and some drunken homeless guy just, you know, attacks her and rapes her and stuff, right?
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I think we can all agree that that is criminal, that is a terrible thing, and that guy should be, you know, prosecuted, right?
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Is there a difference between that alcohol-fueled rape and consensual sex under the influence of alcohol?
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Is there a difference between that alcohol-fueled rape that I just described versus...
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He's talking about the fact that, like, nowadays you say, like, you can't consent if you're drunk, but you could also get prosecuted if you drink and drive.
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So why are you responsible when you get in a car when you're under the influence of alcohol, but if a girl is drunk, I didn't know what I was doing!
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Versus consensual sex under the influence of alcohol.
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Is there a difference between those two situations?
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And you say yes, it could still be un-contextual.
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You don't even know how to say the word that you're disgusted by.
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Chat, the same logic does not ever apply to men.
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like it's only non-contentual for women but men can be drunk and fuck anything and nobody says
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whoa are you okay do you need did you did you consent did you could could you contend did you
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context women like i mean i don't know but i'm guessing like when they do that it's because
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they're drunk and i understand they're drunk you know sometimes you don't know what you're doing
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whatever i don't know where i am that shouldn't be because i drank a beer even if you said yes when
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you were drunk like it shouldn't matter it does matter wait i don't want to say shut up it matters
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it matters but just because you were drunk that's not an excuse you know what you're doing you have
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control over your body over your mind and when it comes to somebody jogging and getting raped
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then that's different well because they have no control over that but here's my here's my ultimate
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question why are women typically held accountable for their own actions when they babe i didn't
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cheat i drank a shot of casamigos it's not my fault drive drunk but not when they have drunk sex
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when they drive drunk but not when they have drunk sex do y'all know this
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why are women typically held accountable for their own decisions when they drive drunk but not when
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they have drunk sex because women are never wrong okay
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maybe because this shit is blowing her fucking contextual mind the way our society works
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yo chris from a and p is calling me should i pick up
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what's popping gang i'm streaming right now what's popping
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say what's up to my chat real quick we're on a red pill rage thing right now
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what's up chad what's up chad what's up chad what's y'all doing what's y'all doing today what's y'all doing
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what's y'all doing i was just trying to check in on you
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check in on me we check out many why i'm fine how you doing they deleted your shit off youtube
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five seconds five seconds if i'm gonna keep i'm gonna censor everything out right
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but i put this it's youtube's gonna like everything i censor i censor it's the actual thing
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wait so what's the problem if you censor everything then what
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i'm so sick of these niggas i i don't like susan
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yeah susan sucks bro susan belongs to the streets
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you think they were age-restrict fireworks nigga
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if a nigga was in charge he'd be like fireworks is fun
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you'll be all right send me the video when it's done
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if a woman it's true we both know it okay so let me no no i'm not saying you think like that
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but a lot of you know in the society that we live in like people see women as less than men and it's normal we all understand that so when a woman is becoming powerful you know and wants to stand up for herself that's when the people start responding back because they don't know that they don't know how to control it because they don't see a woman and they don't know how to control it because they don't see a woman and they don't know how to control it
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okay follow me on this question okay can you think of any time in recorded human history where women have more power than they have right now
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look at that the ceo of youtube is susan women have more power today than ever and then look at she's never even contemplated this before she's never even heard of this contextual in her life
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no no no can you think of any countries other than western countries like america canada australia where women have more power than they do in those countries
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nope yes um also is australia a western country the middle east no southeast asia no so any western countries
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no no so why do women feel so oppressed in both the time and place where women have the most power ever
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because because either way at the end of the day they're women and women no matter what we do women are
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always going to be seen as less than men at the end of the day because it's just the society that people
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have normalized up until this day and unfortunately it's the truth like i've personally gone through it
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like i'm a po you know do you think my people like my clients respect me as much as they respect the men
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officers they don't you know even as much as they try to do that they don't do it because i'm a girl
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we're complicated so i think you kind of just have to roll with the punches and be willing to
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be flexible because women are naturally just complicated okay why do you think women are
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naturally complicated because you make no fucking sense we're all very different um what it's just
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i don't know if i could give you a good answer on that but we are uh what is the incentive to get
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married i don't know i don't want to be married you don't want to get married you want to get married
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yeah you want to get married you want to get married will you marry me no
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no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no
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no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no hey no no do
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no no no no no no yeah no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no