Tate Speech - Tate on Happiness (Part 1)

In this episode, I talk about my theory on happiness and how it has a lot to do with being a grownup. I also talk about why you are not as happy as you were when you were a kid, and how to get back to that place in your life that you were in as a kid where you had no worries in the world and you were carefree and you didn t have a carefree childhood. It's not going to happen when you become a grown up, it's going to be a life of responsibilities and stresses and you have to learn to deal with it. I don't care if you're a millionaire or not, you're not gonna feel that way unless you crack the billionaire status, and that's not likely to happen unless you become one of those people who can become a billionaire. I'm not a scientist, I'm just a guy who has a theory about happiness and I think you should listen to it because it's pretty damn good. I hope you enjoy this episode and tweet me if you like it! with any thoughts or opinions you have about anything I mention in this episode. I'll try to make a video about it in the next episode. Tweet Me! if I can help you out! Timestamps: 0:00 - What's the secret to being happy? 5:20 - How to be happy? 6:30 - Why you need to be more like a kid? 7:15 - You're not a kid any more? 8:40 - You don't have to feel like that? 9: What's your perception of happiness? 11:00 12:00 | Happy? 13:30 | How do you feel like you don't feel like it? 14:15 | What do you want to be happier? 15:30 16:40 | How can you be happier than when you think you re a kid anymore? 17:20 | What are you a kid ? 18:00 // How do I feel like I m a kid now? 19:40 21:30 Are you not a happy person? 22:30 Can you be happy because you don t feel like a grown-up? 26: Are you happy because I don t have enough money? 27:00 Can I be happy yet? 28:30 Do you have a good day? 29:30 What colour colour is more important to you?

00:00:00.000 So we're doing the Tate speech on the road today because I've got some work to do. 0.98

00:00:24.360 I can't just spend my time spreading wisdom to you motherfuckers for free with my measly 0.97

00:00:30.480 3,000 subscribers. 1.00

00:00:32.140 I ain't making no money from this shit. 0.99

00:00:33.440 I'm just fixing the world because I'm a philanthropist. 0.99

00:00:36.100 I'm a kind guy.

00:00:37.940 Today we're going to talk about happiness.

00:00:39.040 People say to me all the time, Tate, what's the secret to being happy?

00:00:41.720 What's the secret to being happy?

00:00:43.340 I've got a unique theory on happiness.

00:00:44.840 My theory on happiness is as follows.

00:00:47.500 I'm not a physicist, but I remember from physics, which I did at college level.

00:00:52.540 I didn't do at the university level, but they said that in a scientific term, there's

00:00:57.440 not really such thing as cold.

00:00:59.920 Cold is just a lack of heat.

00:01:01.960 Heat has a scientific, you can observe heat scientifically.

00:01:07.120 The atoms move or things jitter or whatever and heat is generated, but cold isn't a thing.

00:01:12.400 Cold is just a lack of heat.

00:01:15.240 And for that perspective, when people say to me, Tate, how do you be happy?

00:01:17.820 I try to explain to them, happiness isn't a thing.

00:01:20.520 In my view, happiness is just a lack of grief, as cold is just a lack of heat.

00:01:29.060 And when I say this to people, they look at me like, oh, what are you talking about?

00:01:31.420 Or, well, that's not true because I don't feel happy.

00:01:33.460 We are not children anymore.

00:01:35.600 We're grownups and grownups have responsibilities and stresses and things are on our shoulders.

00:01:40.360 When you say you want to be happy, what you're saying is you want to feel like you did when

00:01:43.500 you were two years old and you got given those jelly beans and you were staying up late

00:01:47.580 and you had no fucking worries in the world, that ain't going to happen unless you literally 0.91

00:01:52.080 crack billionaire status. 0.96

00:01:53.360 And even if you do, depending on the country you're in, if you're in Saudi Arabia or Russia

00:01:56.680 or whatever, most of these billionaires are up in jail anyway for one reason or another, 0.99

00:01:59.340 politically motivated shit. 1.00

00:02:01.100 You're a fucking grownup. 1.00

00:02:02.380 You are never going to have a life that's that carefree. 1.00

00:02:05.760 That Giddish happiness, that childish happiness you felt inside when you were a child is specifically

00:02:11.500 that.

00:02:11.820 It's childish happiness.

00:02:13.300 Happiness for grownups doesn't work that way.

00:02:16.980 Happiness for grownups is an absolute lack of grief.

00:02:19.100 And when I say this, people go, oh yeah, but I'm sad. 1.00

00:02:21.180 You ain't sad, motherfucker. 1.00

00:02:22.860 You ain't sad. 1.00

00:02:24.200 Imagine the worst thing that could happen to you.

00:02:26.860 Imagine your entire family's in a car and they get in a car crash in the M1 and they all

00:02:31.740 die.

00:02:32.860 Your wife, your parents, your siblings, all of them die at once.

00:02:37.900 That's the worst thing that could happen to you.

00:02:39.220 How does that happen today?

00:02:40.260 And if you're watching this video and go, no, that hasn't happened today, then you're 0.95

00:02:43.880 fucking happy because you're not grief stricken. 0.91

00:02:46.320 You're not completely breaking down in tears in a state of mind where you cannot imagine 0.98

00:02:50.720 life ever being the same again.

00:02:52.240 So if you don't feel that way, you are happy. 1.00

00:02:55.120 You're just not as happy as you imagine yourself to be as a kid because you're a fucking immature 1.00

00:02:58.500 moron. 1.00

00:02:59.680 Like everything else in life, happiness is a sliding scale. 1.00

00:03:02.060 You're trying to attain a happiness, which you're only going to attain two or three times

00:03:06.720 in your adult life.

00:03:07.440 So I've won four kickboxing world titles.

00:03:11.860 Each time I won one of them, I felt that childish type happiness.

00:03:16.020 When I made my first million, I felt that childish type happiness.

00:03:19.720 When I made my 10th million, I felt that childish like happiness. 0.94

00:03:22.540 But in general, besides very, very key events, you're not going to feel that happy every fucking 0.97

00:03:27.960 day. 0.95

00:03:28.460 It would be abnormal for you to feel that happy every day.

00:03:30.920 And the reason people are taking these antidepressants and going through life, making up this complete 0.88

00:03:35.100 garbage, saying that depression is a thing when it isn't, is because they're trying to 0.99

00:03:38.500 find a level of happiness, which you are not programmed to experience every fucking day. 0.99

00:03:42.820 If you are not grief stricken, if you are not in a state of mind where you are literally, 0.98

00:03:48.880 literally don't know how to go forward.

00:03:51.160 If there's not tears running from your eyes, then you're a happy person because happiness

00:03:56.200 like absolutely everything else is subjective and it's down to your perception of happiness.

00:03:59.860 I say this all the time.

00:04:00.920 There's a really interesting thing on YouTube you can watch about colors and there's a tribe

00:04:05.340 in Africa which view color completely different to us.

00:04:09.040 So when we say something's brown and we say something's blue, it's an actual real interesting

00:04:13.320 documentary.

00:04:14.000 I'll try and find it and link it in this video about how language affects how we see, because

00:04:19.100 to them, two very similar shades of blue.

00:04:22.780 And I say, I mean, very similar.

00:04:24.100 Like I would struggle to decipher between the two.

00:04:26.800 To them, they have different names.

00:04:28.200 So because they have different names, for them, it's very easy to see, as easy as black

00:04:31.800 and white, these two different shades of blue.

00:04:33.720 Whereas to me, it's just different, slightly different turquoise.

00:04:36.560 And it's exactly the same as anything else.

00:04:37.920 How you perceive things is how they end up viewing.

00:04:40.920 You view yourself as unhappy when you're unhappy.

00:04:43.280 If you view yourself as happy, if you understand, well, I'm not grief stricken, so I'm a happy

00:04:47.280 person, and you start to understand that happiness is something you can perceive and you can set

00:04:50.940 the boundaries of, if you're setting the boundaries of happiness at the absolute top of that 0.72

00:04:55.360 childish, giddy, giggle bullshit, what you need to do is extend those boundaries and understand 0.90

00:05:00.180 that anything above grief is happiness. 0.99

00:05:03.620 If you don't say to me, Tate, how are you happy?

00:05:04.720 I'm happy because I'm not grief stricken.

00:05:06.120 I'm happy because today none of my family members have died.

00:05:08.580 Both of my arms and both of my legs are still here.

00:05:11.280 We're pushing around in this Bentley. 0.99

00:05:13.120 This fucking cement truck right in front of us could come and crash into the side of me 1.00

00:05:17.580 and take out my fucking one of my arms. 1.00

00:05:20.480 Then I'd be unhappy. 1.00

00:05:22.040 But right now, both my arms are working.

00:05:23.640 My family members are alive.

00:05:25.440 I'm just going to pass this cement truck quickly before anything bad happens. 0.95

00:05:29.240 I have nothing to be fucking sad about. 0.98

00:05:31.060 And if you're going to pretend, if you're not smart enough to be able to look at your life and say, 0.98

00:05:35.320 my life is not as bad as it could be.

00:05:37.920 I'm not in cereal with no legs and dead family and no food team.

00:05:42.320 I'm not, my life is not over.

00:05:43.960 My life is okay.

00:05:45.040 If you should be able to look at your life like that and be happy, and that's a sign of intelligence. 1.00

00:05:48.720 If you refuse to do that, then you're either low IQ, extremely selfish, or most likely an attention-seeking moron. 1.00

00:05:56.900 Because we live in a world where people find the easiest way to get attention is to invent ailments. 1.00

00:06:01.480 Oh, poor me.

00:06:02.220 I'm depressed. 1.00

00:06:03.180 Fuck off. 1.00

00:06:04.080 Key to being happiness is to decide you're happy. 1.00

00:06:06.200 That's the key to being happy.

00:06:07.280 So anyone, I'm going to make this video because I get asked all the time,

00:06:10.580 Tay, were you happy before you had money?

00:06:12.540 Yeah.

00:06:12.760 Am I happier now I have money?

00:06:15.720 Hmm, probably a bit, but that's not what it's about. 0.94

00:06:18.740 I've always been happy my entire fucking life because I decided to be happy. 0.96

Tate Speech - July 04, 2022

Tate on Happiness (Part 1)

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