The Art of Manliness - July 31, 2025


#569： How to Perform Your Best Under Pressure


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Don Green has spent decades coaching Olympian divers, professional athletes, race car drivers, opera singers, classical musicians, and Wall Street traders and how not to choke under pressure. He shares the principles he uses as a stretch coach and his five-step strategy for recovering when you do make a mistake.


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00:00:00.000 brett mckay here and welcome to another edition of the art of manliness podcast when don green
00:00:11.640 was a springboard diver in high school and college his performances were erratic sometimes
00:00:15.700 they'd be amazing and sometimes embarrassing none of his coaches could explain why that
00:00:19.380 happened to him so don set out to find the answers himself after serving as an army ranger
00:00:23.580 in green beret and getting his phd in sports psychology don has spent decades coaching
00:00:27.680 olympic divers professional athletes race car drivers opera singers classical musicians and
00:00:32.200 wall street traders and how not to choke under pressure he shares the principles he uses as a
00:00:36.380 stretch coach and fight your fear and win seven skills performing your best under pressure today
00:00:40.820 we talk about those skills beginning with why people choke in the first place and what's going
00:00:44.760 on in your mind when that happens we then talk about the fundamentals of managing performance anxiety
00:00:48.660 and staying in right brain flow including making adrenaline work for instead of against you
00:00:53.280 getting your mind centered ignoring distraction and becoming mentally tough we also discuss how
00:00:58.120 to thwart negative self-talk through a practice don calls thought monitoring and his five-step
00:01:02.160 strategy for recovering when you do make a mistake after the show's over check out our show notes at
00:01:06.220 aom.is slash don't choke
00:01:08.280 all right don green welcome to the show thank you very much nice to be here
00:01:22.360 so you spent decades coaching elite performers we're talking golfers tennis players olympic divers
00:01:28.840 race car drivers opera singers juilliard musicians and even financial investors and how to master their
00:01:36.140 mental game what's the reason these performers initially come to you for help the issue is they want to do
00:01:42.420 better under pressure because because all of them can do it well in a practice room all the divers can do
00:01:48.640 well you know in relaxed circumstances all the opera singers can nail it in lessons that's not the
00:01:55.920 issue that's not what they get paid for they all have in common the fact that they tend if if they're
00:02:01.000 not trained in this or experienced in this they tend not to do as well under pressure as they do in
00:02:08.060 relaxed circumstances and what i teach them to do is what olympic athletes learn to do is not just do it
00:02:15.020 as well as you do in a practice room in relaxed circumstances but learn how to use the adrenaline
00:02:20.740 to perform better under pressure than you do in relaxed circumstances that's what olympic athletes
00:02:27.500 are trained to do by sports psychologists for many years if you look at olympic competition
00:02:33.040 olympic athletes compete all the time continually national championships pan am games university game
00:02:42.320 macabia games it's continual nationals all the time and they have an opportunity to set records
00:02:50.220 world records in any of these sanctioned events but only once every four years do not only the olympic
00:02:59.960 records drop but the world records drop in events that can be measured like like the shot put like the
00:03:07.220 long jump like swimming events they drop dramatically because the athletes have learned how to use the
00:03:14.140 adrenaline and that's what sports psychologists teach and that's basically what i do teach
00:03:20.140 to musicians and opera singers i mean opera is an athletic event athletic event you need a lot of power
00:03:26.540 to to create that that incredible sound without microphones that's like the shot put and instead of
00:03:33.980 trying to suppress that energy or just relax or take beta blockers or alcohol what i teach musicians how
00:03:42.240 to do is use that energy and power to blow audition panels away you don't want to just do it the way the
00:03:50.240 other hundred candidates are doing you got to stand out if you want to win and that's the performance
00:03:56.540 approach versus just relax so whenever the stakes are high then as you said the adrenaline increases
00:04:03.820 what does that adrenaline surge do to a performer well it has dramatic effects if you don't know how to
00:04:11.440 use it it comes across in three different areas the symptoms physically are racing heart rate change in
00:04:19.640 breathing increased perspiration want to go to the bathroom a lot increased muscle tension butterflies in
00:04:26.860 the stomach shakiness tremors those are just the physical ones mentally there's increased self-consciousness
00:04:34.820 there's increased negative thinking increased doubt tend to think the worst imagine the worst doomsday
00:04:42.200 thinking fearing the worst a lot of critical thinking blaming opinions judgments so it puts the mind into
00:04:52.540 overdrive which which affects performance and the last is is the emotional because pure people go into a fear
00:05:01.600 response they brace for the danger their muscles tighten and the musicians tend to play defensively
00:05:08.520 because of this versus playing out or singing out because of the adrenaline they don't know how to use
00:05:15.900 it i think everyone listening has probably experienced that self-consciousness that happens when you feel
00:05:21.400 that adrenaline and it causes you to overthink what you're doing and then you end up just screwing up
00:05:26.220 whatever you're doing even though you're thinking really hard about it well the thinking hard is what
00:05:30.040 causes screwing up yeah that's the choking part don't choke don't choke yeah sports have
00:05:36.460 causes have identified in detail the choking mechanism it's well well documented most musicians
00:05:44.600 are not that familiar with it most people are not that familiar with it because they don't want to think
00:05:49.500 about choking because it's it's like thinking about shanking and golf you don't want to think about it
00:05:54.860 but it but it does happen but here's the mechanism the there's a difference between panicking and choking
00:06:03.260 panicking happens to people that are not trained that all of a sudden they're in disastrous situations
00:06:10.760 for not trained they don't want to do don't know how to handle it they're not experienced so they do
00:06:16.700 stupid things you know like people no offense yeah if you watch your house burning down people go in
00:06:24.460 you know get the stuffed animals not the financial records because they're not trained
00:06:29.520 to use the adrenaline or what to think well under when the adrenaline hits but that's panicking
00:06:37.200 but experienced people can choke and choke is a very different mechanism this is people are expected
00:06:46.020 to do well and because they're trained they're they went to the right schools they have the proper
00:06:51.540 training so they're expected to handle this pressure situation so they're in a pressure situation
00:06:57.380 and then they can make a minor mistake or a lapse and focus whatever and and it's not good and they
00:07:07.020 realize that you know people are watching them or listening to them because they're expected to be good
00:07:12.100 and it it shifts them from the right brain where they're you know in flow with playing the music or
00:07:19.420 an athlete in flow in a competition with mental quiet and right brain feeling the movement seeing them
00:07:26.620 correctly possibly hearing the right sounds they shift from that performance right brain state
00:07:32.560 to the left brain which is where we think in words and numbers and analysis and criticism and blaming
00:07:39.960 and because the spotlights on this person because they're expected to be good and everybody's listening
00:07:47.600 they get super self-conscious and shift from right brain to left brain and not just left brain but
00:07:55.280 prefrontal cortex prefrontal cortex is the most advanced form of human thinking it's it's responsible for
00:08:04.760 what's called executive functioning this is high speed rapid left brain thinking this is very helpful
00:08:13.120 in a board meeting if you're presenting to the investors and you scrambling ask a question not prepared for
00:08:21.000 or challenge you or challenge you and all of a sudden your brain goes out into left brain executive
00:08:27.380 functioning and thing called liquid intelligence this is very very rapid left brain thinking analysis to
00:08:34.740 try to plan your way out of this dilemma and it's very useful in a board meeting but it's not useful in the
00:08:43.060 middle of a concerto or a athletic performance or anything where you need to be in right brain flow
00:08:50.740 and and it causes people to go from right brain flow to left brain staccato robotic movements
00:09:00.360 because you go from implicit memory of knowing how to do it and trust it without the left brain
00:09:06.380 interference to left brain explicit memory where you have to talk yourself way through it the way you
00:09:14.880 learned it when you were 12 years old or 14 years old and it comes out as staccato and robotic
00:09:19.860 like like a stick figure biomechanical stick figure going through a golf swing with 100 different
00:09:26.020 positions and and it doesn't work and it will produce a bad shot or a mistake a bad note in music
00:09:34.660 and when the athlete or musician hears that it drives them further into left brain prefrontal cortex
00:09:44.180 and that's what causes a meltdown or choking so i think i've heard uh the right brain sort of
00:09:51.840 activity memory isn't that proceed is that procedural memory where it's like riding a bike like your body
00:09:57.620 just implicitly knows what to do that's exactly that's exactly it but but your body knows what to do
00:10:04.080 but this is when the left brain prefrontal cortex overrides that and that's what causes a problem
00:10:13.440 it overrides that that implicit system that procedural memory and also in your book you noted that you
00:10:20.480 also worked with wall street brokers who you think are very analytical right using that left brain
00:10:26.880 what issues do they have with the high pressure like what is their is it it's not the procedural
00:10:32.780 stuff i would imagine because it's very analytical what is what's causing their block well that's the
00:10:38.800 problem i don't see it as a block i think it's their procedure yes it's very left brain and they need to be
00:10:45.580 left brain they need to analyze weigh the options pros and cons but to me it shouldn't stop there
00:10:55.440 because that's only using half their brain and that to me sets up mistakes what what works and this
00:11:03.540 works for experienced traders not new traders or amateur day traders this is for professionals
00:11:10.280 like professional musicians or professional athletes this is not for beginners you need the explicit
00:11:16.440 memory you need to learn it in left brain athletes musicians need to learn it in left brain
00:11:22.860 explicit and after years and 10 000 hours shift to right brain and trust it that it will work
00:11:30.360 procedurally implicitly so you need to put in the hours for this system to work but after you have
00:11:36.860 you have developed an incredible power beyond the left brain with your right brain namely intuition
00:11:45.200 so the idea is that you start in left brain crunch the numbers pros and cons and switch to right brain
00:11:55.420 check in with your gut how's it feel feel right or right or wrong approach or avoid yes or no
00:12:03.000 it's not it doesn't take long it shouldn't take long because if it starts thinking then you're back
00:12:08.700 to left brain but it's an up or down it's in your gut not in your head certainly not in your left brain
00:12:15.420 that's step two and then step three is you go back to left brain and make sure it's it's you can live
00:12:23.920 with this you know that's not that if you go this way you know it's really off the charts and it doesn't
00:12:31.840 work you could lose your job right well i think that's a good point you brought up this stuff that
00:12:38.080 you the things that you do the tactics some of the tactics we'll talk about today this is for people
00:12:42.120 who are hyper like they they've they've put in the hours they have the experience this probably is not
00:12:46.200 going to work for say someone who has to give a presentation it's the first public speech they've
00:12:50.800 ever given might not work not not so you're talking about people maybe someone who uh who has maybe
00:12:57.440 just a corporate job where they're they're a fantastic public presenter but then for some
00:13:03.140 reason they just hit this like they go through this they choke they start choking your job is to
00:13:08.680 help them figure out like well what's going on they're not necessarily a fantastic presenter if
00:13:14.500 they're fantastic well they were they were and now they're not yeah well that that's an easy one
00:13:21.480 if they were it's just to take them back to what they were doing when they were doing it well
00:13:26.520 yeah no i think that's i've i forgot who it was there was a baseball player who was this fantastic
00:13:32.680 hitter then he had to hit this terrible slump and he was like about to go back to the minor leagues
00:13:38.480 and what they ended up doing is they just said quit quit thinking about it they just said just have
00:13:44.700 fun and then i think one game he had like three home runs or something like that it was nothing
00:13:48.640 crazy but well that's that's the problem coaches in baseball are trained in baseball not necessarily
00:13:57.360 in how to focus or quiet the mind so what they're telling an athlete to do is focus but they're not
00:14:04.640 telling the athlete how to do it or specifically how to quiet the mind that's what sports psychology
00:14:10.260 teaches but but it's as simple as switching from the left brain instructions on how to hit the ball
00:14:17.420 to right brain quieting the mind so you can fully see the trajectory to the ball because every time
00:14:25.560 you switch to left brain to check the position of your of your right elbow or this or your balance
00:14:32.100 you're going to be out of right brain and you're not going to see the ball and for every time you don't
00:14:39.000 see the ball for that amount of trajectory you're not seeing the ball and the ball is going to jump
00:14:43.980 and the more it jumps the less you see it unless you can hit it where when i work with professional
00:14:49.940 hitters i teach them to quiet the mind so they can see the full trajectory of the ball in their right
00:14:56.440 brain and then it seems to slow down because they're so used to bouncing between left and right brain and
00:15:03.000 missing parts of the trajectory that when they see the whole trajectory it slows down and they hit it
00:15:09.340 better but but professional baseball coaches don't necessarily know how to do that but but yogi
00:15:19.680 bearer one of my favorite philosophers said you can't hit the ball and think at the same time
00:15:25.760 no it's true that's it but but most people don't know how to stop thinking they their left brain is a
00:15:35.620 machine that that's continually running 24 7 other than when they're in a deep sleep and they don't
00:15:41.220 have either the stop switch or the slow switch to slow it down somewhat or to shift into right brain
00:15:47.740 and that's what sports psychology teaches but you know cliche is well well just just focus or just
00:15:55.160 just focus or just relax is nice but it doesn't work well and you published a book um called fight
00:16:04.580 your fear and when and you talk about seven skills you teach your clients to help them with the stuff
00:16:10.660 we've been talking about so we can talk about a few of these skills in detail but over like can you give
00:16:15.620 us a broad view like what are these seven skills that you found help people perform um when the
00:16:20.820 pressure's on yeah what i've found to work across the board is number one is learned how to control this
00:16:29.540 energy the adrenaline that goes with high pressure situations and make it work for you that's one of
00:16:35.680 the key things because if that overrides the performance or affects the performance it will
00:16:44.260 affect it if people misinterpret the signals like they think their their heart racing means they're not
00:16:50.060 going to do well or they get too self-conscious if they're if the energy is out of control they're just
00:16:56.700 not going to do well so one of the main things i do is i have a strategy called centering which is
00:17:02.540 a very complicated strategy seven steps from the martial art of aikido and western sports psychology
00:17:09.980 to teach athletes and musicians how to how to quiet the mind how to shift to right brain how to control
00:17:16.740 their energy how to control their breathing how to intensify their focus at first it takes about a
00:17:22.800 minute and a half and seven steps and after about a week or two of practicing going from basic to
00:17:28.560 intermediate advanced they can get centered in less than 10 seconds before they step in a batter's box
00:17:35.620 to quiet their mind before they start their concerto or before they make a trade a really important trade
00:17:42.080 so they're using both parts of their brain not just the left to use whole brain functioning
00:17:48.720 that's one of the first things i work on is centering so they can learn how to control the energy and
00:17:54.840 learn how to start focusing under pressure in right brain versus left brain the next one has to do with
00:18:02.500 controlling both the left brain and right brain in other words channeling the negative self-talk
00:18:09.620 more into positive going from negative critical to more positive supportive from negative to positive and
00:18:17.400 ultimately to mental quiet that batters don't need a lesson on how to hit the ball traders don't need
00:18:23.940 instruction on the market they need to quiet that and again shift to right brain to either see the
00:18:33.000 baseball or trust their intuition on this trade that's another thing the next is mental rehearsal that
00:18:43.080 that they're able to imagine it going well whether it's imagine them hitting this batter hitting this
00:18:50.140 pitcher or or playing the concerto well uh i've found that that not all elite athletes elite musicians
00:18:58.600 can really imagine themselves performing flawlessly if you ask them to sit down and imagine you know
00:19:07.120 the toughest concerto they play they might wind up hearing mistakes in their mind and mental rehearsal
00:19:13.820 is is a skill a learned skill just like any other skill where people get the correct information and
00:19:19.640 they practice it for a while and they get better at it so that they can fully vividly imagine
00:19:25.300 their performance going flawlessly under pressure and if they can't do that they have reason to doubt
00:19:33.660 how well they're going to do under pressure the next has to do with focus of getting them past
00:19:40.520 distractions and into the zone and distractions come from either outside like things moving or sounds
00:19:48.540 or worrying about people and what they're thinking about you and your performance or internal
00:19:56.500 distractions besides that such as left brain distractions like instructions commentary
00:20:03.020 blaming criticism judgments while they're trying to perform in right brain and the last thing i work on
00:20:12.820 resilience none of the performers or athletes i work with it's not easy it's very challenging at all those
00:20:22.040 levels and the question is can they can they be mentally tough under challenging situations when things
00:20:30.460 are going against them i have a background in psychology but i have a background in the military
00:20:35.980 i went to west point which is a four-year instruction on how to compete under terrible situations conditions
00:20:44.320 an airborne ranger i was the first in my west point class to join the green berets fish special forces
00:20:51.820 i i add some of that to my training with people not boot camp but to to get them tougher to prepare them
00:21:02.280 for the competition because it's not easy and things happen things happen in auditions things happen
00:21:08.600 in competition one of our olympic divers who won a silver medal in 84 on 10 meter platform
00:21:17.340 came in second to a chinese lady and the third third girl was chinese as well so michelle mitchell
00:21:26.240 got a silver medal in 84 but she wasn't happy about it she wanted a gold medal
00:21:30.680 so two years later they had the world championship in china and michelle went there with the intention to win
00:21:39.940 and she started the competition very well in china it's very popular event like 10 000 people come to diving
00:21:49.140 events in the u.s about 100 people come but but michelle was diving very well there's eight dives in
00:21:58.660 women's competition 10 meter platform 33 feet very challenging event two people have killed themselves
00:22:07.300 hitting the platform very dangerous michelle got off to a very good start hit her first four dives
00:22:15.180 after the fifth dive she was winning the competition she was beating the two chinese competitors
00:22:20.920 they have big leaderboards in china showing dive by dive where the divers were standing she was
00:22:27.440 after the fifth round she was leading the competition she hit a sixth dive
00:22:34.040 and the seventh dive she was leading by 15 points going to the last dive her last dive was an inward three
00:22:44.800 and a half it's where you turn around backwards on the platform and then spin towards the platform
00:22:51.660 three and a half three and a half three and a half times she was one of the only two women in the world
00:22:56.540 doing it
00:22:57.960 and
00:23:01.900 it was her last dive and she went out to the end of the platform and turned around and started setting up
00:23:10.540 putting her toes on the end and she started hearing a noise
00:23:15.160 and she thought somebody dropped a key teacup and then two teacups
00:23:20.800 and then started more and she realized people were stomping their feet
00:23:26.340 and it got louder and louder
00:23:29.980 it was really dangerous
00:23:33.260 the rules would allow her to step back and ask the rules official
00:23:37.720 to quiet the crowd
00:23:39.460 so she could do the dive
00:23:41.620 we had prepared for this
00:23:45.340 michelle and i had trained for years for this
00:23:48.620 in practice we did distraction training
00:23:52.240 we would drop things on the pool deck
00:23:55.120 we would play crowd noise
00:23:56.360 we'd put on am talk stations
00:23:58.340 the divers did not like it at first
00:24:00.720 they got used to it
00:24:02.200 michelle did not ask
00:24:05.280 to start again
00:24:07.080 she went through her routine
00:24:09.200 she said some expletives about the chinese people
00:24:13.020 and she nailed the die for nine and a half
00:24:17.280 she got one ten
00:24:18.480 she won the world championship
00:24:21.220 the next morning she got a public apology
00:24:24.340 in the official chinese newspaper
00:24:26.200 apologizing for the behavior of their citizens
00:24:29.660 that's mental toughness
00:24:33.160 when i was at juilliard
00:24:36.360 the final exam
00:24:38.500 was adversity training
00:24:41.500 i prepared them for weeks ahead of time with mental toughness
00:24:45.460 this was their final exam
00:24:47.360 i told them things would happen
00:24:49.760 one of the time they came in
00:24:52.560 the first thing they did after they got set up
00:24:54.720 we had a four by eight plywood plank
00:24:56.640 we dropped in front of them
00:24:57.840 made a huge noise
00:24:59.220 i had an am radio station playing
00:25:01.720 i had one of my other musicians
00:25:04.120 play whatever that musician was playing
00:25:07.340 but slightly out of tune
00:25:09.180 and off tempo
00:25:10.480 i had a tv monitor in front of them
00:25:13.000 and a camera on them
00:25:14.580 if they looked up
00:25:15.260 they saw themselves
00:25:16.240 we did 22 things
00:25:18.060 to them
00:25:19.060 they all nailed it
00:25:21.140 all got an a
00:25:22.420 it happened that
00:25:24.280 npr national public radio
00:25:26.720 had heard about my class
00:25:30.020 they were doing a series on the most popular
00:25:32.320 courses in university
00:25:34.400 and it came to juilliard
00:25:36.200 and they picked my class
00:25:37.640 it just so happened
00:25:39.380 i was doing this on that day
00:25:40.940 so we had the extra pressure
00:25:43.080 we had professional radio
00:25:46.560 there listening
00:25:47.760 or taping them
00:25:50.020 and the whole thing
00:25:51.940 and it was all things considered
00:25:55.000 and it's you can still hear it
00:25:57.220 of all the things we did to the students
00:25:59.740 it was not abusive
00:26:00.980 it was train them
00:26:01.880 for exactly what happened
00:26:02.940 to michelle mitchell in china
00:26:04.240 because things happen
00:26:05.900 in auditions
00:26:07.000 audition panel members
00:26:08.840 talk to each other
00:26:09.800 cell phone rings
00:26:11.180 stage hands
00:26:12.420 knock things over
00:26:13.320 and you can complain about it
00:26:15.280 or you can just make the best of it
00:26:16.980 and that's what my military training
00:26:18.520 taught me to do
00:26:19.800 regardless of the situation
00:26:21.280 you make the best of it
00:26:22.420 and that's what i've tried to teach
00:26:24.220 performers
00:26:25.020 that you can't expect it
00:26:26.880 to go perfectly
00:26:27.960 it's not going to
00:26:28.860 and get used to it
00:26:30.680 from my juilliard students
00:26:32.780 that had problems
00:26:33.720 playing with distractions
00:26:35.060 external distractions
00:26:36.360 people making noise
00:26:37.900 while they were playing
00:26:38.700 their homework assignment
00:26:40.700 for the next week
00:26:41.540 was take their instrument
00:26:42.500 go on the subway platform
00:26:43.840 and play their concerto
00:26:45.600 if they came out
00:26:47.000 things didn't bother them anymore
00:26:48.520 that's that's mental toughness
00:26:50.760 we're going to take a quick break
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00:26:56.000 so that's a technique right there
00:26:57.860 that you just talk
00:26:58.200 if you want to build mental toughness
00:26:59.580 you have to practice it
00:27:00.580 you have to
00:27:01.420 create the circumstances
00:27:03.000 this reminds me of Bill Belichick
00:27:04.500 the Patriots coach
00:27:05.700 whenever there's
00:27:07.380 like it gets cold in Boston
00:27:08.740 about this time
00:27:09.440 and sometimes it snows
00:27:10.380 and sometimes the player's like
00:27:11.820 hey are we going to practice indoors
00:27:13.160 he's like no
00:27:13.640 we're going to practice outdoors
00:27:15.000 well that's exactly it
00:27:17.600 the golf coach at the Oklahoma State
00:27:19.940 which wins a lot of national championships
00:27:21.740 where there's a lot of wind in Oklahoma
00:27:24.220 he says you know
00:27:25.640 if it's a calm day
00:27:27.440 you can stay at the range
00:27:28.380 but if the wind starts howling
00:27:29.900 if it starts raining
00:27:31.240 we're going out to play
00:27:32.500 that's it
00:27:34.380 in sports psychology
00:27:36.140 it's called overcompensation
00:27:37.620 whatever the problem is
00:27:40.140 you don't ignore it
00:27:41.700 hope it goes away
00:27:42.960 but you exaggerate it
00:27:44.500 and then under safe conditions
00:27:46.420 you learn how to deal with it
00:27:47.920 that's mental toughness training
00:27:49.380 and I think for a lot of athletes
00:27:51.640 or coaches
00:27:52.200 who aren't familiar
00:27:53.280 with this sort of thing
00:27:53.900 they would think
00:27:54.460 well if you need to improve your hitting
00:27:55.800 say it's a baseball
00:27:56.560 a hitting coach
00:27:57.400 well just go to the batting cages
00:27:58.900 and get those
00:27:59.640 you know
00:28:00.880 medium fast pitches
00:28:02.740 right down the middle
00:28:03.620 all the time
00:28:04.400 that's probably not going to help
00:28:06.180 you actually need to get
00:28:07.120 something more real world
00:28:08.320 or exaggerate
00:28:09.240 the type of pitches you get
00:28:10.020 no that's a false
00:28:11.040 that's a false sense of security
00:28:12.520 that does no good at all
00:28:14.040 what you want to do
00:28:15.560 is subject yourself
00:28:17.240 to the most extreme
00:28:18.700 instead of hitting
00:28:20.040 you know
00:28:20.600 average speed pitches
00:28:21.860 you know
00:28:22.660 get a pitcher
00:28:23.680 just really hurling them at you
00:28:26.080 or a lot of different change ups
00:28:28.540 when I worked with the Texas Rangers
00:28:31.200 in spring training
00:28:32.660 I saw that
00:28:33.900 all of the hitters
00:28:34.800 can hit the fast straight balls
00:28:36.460 all of them
00:28:37.220 just throw me another one
00:28:38.340 let me hit this out of the park
00:28:39.640 but
00:28:40.400 they get very few of those
00:28:42.360 and then in competition
00:28:44.000 they have to figure out
00:28:45.200 how to hit everything
00:28:46.000 but a fast ball
00:28:47.480 which again turns on
00:28:48.640 executive functioning
00:28:49.680 and overthinking
00:28:50.860 so to me
00:28:52.700 it's getting used to
00:28:53.880 the extremes
00:28:54.660 again
00:28:54.980 every kind of wild pitch
00:28:56.120 you can imagine
00:28:56.980 coming at you
00:28:57.780 that you get used to that
00:28:59.800 with musicians
00:29:01.340 it's the same thing
00:29:02.640 I wrote an article
00:29:04.140 for a musicians union
00:29:05.400 paper
00:29:06.140 a couple months ago
00:29:07.300 that musicians
00:29:09.000 auditions are like
00:29:10.960 hitting curve balls
00:29:12.340 and I wrote
00:29:14.480 that
00:29:15.180 you know
00:29:15.560 there's sliders
00:29:16.940 there's sinkers
00:29:17.940 there's change of pace
00:29:19.240 and that's how it is
00:29:21.100 in an audition
00:29:21.720 a number of my people
00:29:23.480 went
00:29:23.860 for big auditions
00:29:25.180 like at the Met
00:29:26.260 in New York Philharmonic
00:29:27.820 and they were
00:29:28.880 really well prepared
00:29:30.040 ready to win
00:29:31.420 they got there
00:29:32.940 they checked in
00:29:34.700 the person said
00:29:35.380 okay you have two hours
00:29:36.500 to warm up
00:29:37.220 so they go into
00:29:38.760 a green room
00:29:39.620 put their instrument down
00:29:41.700 and five minutes later
00:29:42.640 the guy says
00:29:43.120 oh we're running
00:29:43.940 way ahead
00:29:44.920 you're up next
00:29:45.940 and for an instrument
00:29:48.440 like a violin
00:29:49.140 it takes
00:29:50.640 maybe
00:29:51.720 an hour
00:29:52.340 two hours
00:29:52.860 to really get in the groove
00:29:53.960 practicing
00:29:55.240 to warm up
00:29:56.520 and that's the curve ball
00:29:58.680 or
00:29:59.180 they put them in a room
00:30:00.800 and I say
00:30:01.140 you'll be up in
00:30:02.020 20 minutes
00:30:03.300 so the person
00:30:04.340 rushes
00:30:04.980 goes through it
00:30:05.740 and they say
00:30:06.900 you know
00:30:07.380 we're going to have lunch
00:30:08.420 and then they're running
00:30:09.560 behind lunch
00:30:10.380 person who got there
00:30:11.600 checked in at 10 o'clock
00:30:12.780 at the New York
00:30:13.580 Philharmonic
00:30:14.620 at 4 o'clock
00:30:15.980 is finally called in
00:30:17.380 and their energy
00:30:18.560 went up
00:30:19.020 and then it dropped down
00:30:20.060 and
00:30:20.820 that's what they got
00:30:22.500 to get used to
00:30:23.220 and prepared for
00:30:24.480 not
00:30:25.340 it going
00:30:26.660 according
00:30:27.140 to plan
00:30:28.080 in an audition
00:30:29.380 it really does
00:30:30.540 and in sports
00:30:31.280 it's chaos
00:30:32.420 change happens
00:30:34.140 it's inevitable
00:30:34.720 it's not
00:30:35.680 resisting that
00:30:37.100 it's getting used to it
00:30:38.720 and learning how to deal
00:30:39.480 with it
00:30:39.840 I want to go back
00:30:41.000 to the skill
00:30:41.480 of managing energy
00:30:42.280 because you said
00:30:42.700 something interesting
00:30:43.360 that caught my attention
00:30:44.900 was that
00:30:46.020 oftentimes
00:30:46.520 when people feel
00:30:47.820 that adrenaline
00:30:48.960 they think
00:30:50.380 oh no
00:30:50.880 something's wrong
00:30:51.880 but you said
00:30:53.020 that you actually
00:30:53.460 have to
00:30:54.020 you said
00:30:54.880 you have to
00:30:55.460 teach your clients
00:30:56.660 that no
00:30:57.160 that's actually
00:30:57.840 nothing's wrong
00:30:58.980 that's normal
00:30:59.920 but you have to
00:31:01.500 channel that energy
00:31:02.360 for productive
00:31:03.460 aims
00:31:04.200 so it sounds like
00:31:04.880 you're reframing
00:31:06.340 like that stress response
00:31:08.000 well that's exactly it
00:31:09.500 it's reframing
00:31:10.500 it's a question
00:31:11.100 of interpretation
00:31:12.120 because
00:31:13.400 if you're in a situation
00:31:15.100 where the adrenaline
00:31:15.800 hits
00:31:16.380 regardless of what it is
00:31:18.440 whether it's a safe
00:31:19.420 situation
00:31:20.060 or unsafe situation
00:31:21.460 once it hits
00:31:23.000 it's going to start
00:31:24.200 this whole cascade
00:31:25.140 of symptoms
00:31:25.760 that I talked about
00:31:26.460 before
00:31:26.880 with the
00:31:27.380 because of the adrenaline
00:31:29.300 with the racing heart
00:31:30.520 perspiring
00:31:31.500 and all of that
00:31:32.360 so at that point
00:31:34.180 you can interpret it
00:31:35.380 correctly
00:31:36.140 or wrong
00:31:37.580 if it's a real danger
00:31:39.080 if it's there
00:31:40.400 somebody's standing there
00:31:41.560 with pointing
00:31:42.040 pointing a gun
00:31:42.900 at you
00:31:43.320 you won't be
00:31:45.320 thinking about it
00:31:46.200 you'll be
00:31:46.700 using it
00:31:47.980 rightfully so
00:31:49.540 to run real fast
00:31:51.420 fight fight
00:31:52.140 or stand there
00:31:53.280 and battle a guy
00:31:54.620 however
00:31:55.960 that's a real threat
00:31:58.180 but what we're talking about
00:32:00.000 is an imagined
00:32:01.340 or not real threat
00:32:03.200 if somebody points
00:32:05.080 a plastic gun
00:32:05.880 at you
00:32:06.180 and you think
00:32:06.840 it's a real gun
00:32:07.520 the adrenaline
00:32:08.240 is going to hit
00:32:08.940 but it doesn't need
00:32:10.860 to even be danger
00:32:11.940 it can be
00:32:12.920 going into a business
00:32:14.300 meeting
00:32:14.720 unprepared
00:32:16.580 and an angry boss
00:32:18.400 who could
00:32:19.920 who could fire you
00:32:21.020 and that's a threat
00:32:21.780 and the adrenaline
00:32:22.800 hits
00:32:23.320 or for musicians
00:32:25.500 that is just
00:32:26.200 an angry conductor
00:32:27.360 not pleased
00:32:28.260 with you playing
00:32:29.020 and reprimanding you
00:32:31.180 will send
00:32:31.740 the adrenaline
00:32:32.220 in
00:32:32.780 and at this point
00:32:34.280 the heart's going to race
00:32:35.280 and you can say
00:32:35.860 oh my god
00:32:36.560 you know
00:32:37.440 this is dangerous
00:32:38.840 oh my god
00:32:39.400 this is going to be terrible
00:32:40.320 or whatever
00:32:41.340 my heart is racing
00:32:42.640 that's danger
00:32:43.940 or you can
00:32:45.820 rationally
00:32:46.880 understand it as
00:32:49.100 no it's not real danger
00:32:50.800 I've got to
00:32:51.820 work on
00:32:52.480 my presentation
00:32:53.620 or work on a concerto
00:32:55.000 but it's not real danger
00:32:56.520 and interpret it correctly
00:32:58.020 namely
00:32:58.940 okay
00:32:59.700 and that switches it
00:33:01.980 because
00:33:02.460 it's a very quick reaction
00:33:04.720 from
00:33:05.500 perception
00:33:06.960 to interpretation
00:33:08.140 to action
00:33:09.460 it happens very fast
00:33:11.280 in other words
00:33:11.860 the perception
00:33:12.980 is
00:33:13.760 a threat
00:33:15.140 the interpretation
00:33:16.840 is real danger
00:33:18.360 or not real danger
00:33:19.780 the action
00:33:21.100 is run for your life
00:33:22.420 or take a breath
00:33:24.120 and deal with the situation
00:33:25.520 because
00:33:26.740 the symptoms
00:33:27.600 are going to be there
00:33:28.460 the racing heart
00:33:29.380 is going to be there
00:33:30.400 if the adrenaline hits
00:33:31.460 it's how you interpret it
00:33:33.220 as either
00:33:34.240 oh my god
00:33:35.220 no
00:33:35.620 or
00:33:36.160 it's okay
00:33:36.800 because
00:33:37.780 if you've ever been stopped
00:33:39.780 for a speeding ticket
00:33:40.900 which I have
00:33:42.020 a few times
00:33:44.120 after the cop
00:33:47.700 writes the ticket
00:33:49.020 and
00:33:50.200 chews you out
00:33:51.420 and he goes back
00:33:53.800 to his car
00:33:54.300 and he's finishing
00:33:54.880 the paperwork
00:33:55.620 there's no more danger
00:33:58.280 in fact
00:33:59.040 you're in a very safe place
00:34:00.160 there's a police officer
00:34:00.980 sitting behind you
00:34:01.680 nobody's going to rob you
00:34:02.580 or steer your car
00:34:03.300 but your heart
00:34:05.060 is still pounding
00:34:05.740 no danger
00:34:08.240 heart's still pounding
00:34:09.140 now you can interpret
00:34:11.940 and say
00:34:12.600 calm down
00:34:13.180 but the only time
00:34:13.820 people say calm down
00:34:14.800 is when they're freaking out
00:34:15.860 so it's to realize
00:34:18.340 that this is a normal
00:34:19.820 instinctual reaction
00:34:21.020 to perceive threat
00:34:22.200 and
00:34:23.160 take action
00:34:24.340 and one of the actions
00:34:26.240 I ask people to do
00:34:27.340 is
00:34:27.940 relax
00:34:28.860 their muscles
00:34:29.540 because
00:34:30.760 people tighten up
00:34:32.000 when they
00:34:33.240 when they go into
00:34:34.360 fight fight
00:34:34.860 when they feel
00:34:35.360 a perceived threat
00:34:36.220 so if a batter
00:34:37.400 steps
00:34:37.820 steps into the
00:34:38.900 batting box
00:34:39.920 with tight shoulders
00:34:40.940 it's
00:34:41.900 his muscles
00:34:42.760 are not going to work well
00:34:43.800 he's going to be
00:34:44.420 behind the pitch
00:34:45.340 it's going to slow down
00:34:46.900 his muscle movement
00:34:47.880 same thing with the golf swing
00:34:49.220 if a golf swing
00:34:50.480 is tight
00:34:50.860 the ball is going to be
00:34:51.580 blocked right
00:34:52.320 and performing arts
00:34:53.820 if the muscles are tight
00:34:55.860 or the support
00:34:57.340 is tight
00:34:58.040 opera singers
00:34:58.920 are not going to sing
00:34:59.780 with that power
00:35:00.500 musicians are not going
00:35:01.860 to play out
00:35:02.440 the trombonist
00:35:03.100 is not going to play out
00:35:04.200 because of the tight muscles
00:35:05.740 so it's the correct
00:35:07.220 interpretation
00:35:08.020 and the correct action
00:35:09.220 after the interpretation
00:35:10.860 that's a key
00:35:12.120 so another skill
00:35:13.740 you mentioned
00:35:14.160 was this self-talk
00:35:16.080 yeah
00:35:16.920 I think everyone
00:35:17.840 even if you're not
00:35:18.400 a high performer
00:35:18.800 you've all experienced
00:35:19.700 like when you mess up
00:35:20.500 you're such an idiot
00:35:21.680 you start talking to yourself
00:35:22.800 like why do you do
00:35:23.920 something so stupid
00:35:24.580 you're terrible
00:35:25.760 like how do you
00:35:27.340 coach your clients
00:35:29.000 your athletes
00:35:30.140 your musicians
00:35:31.080 on
00:35:31.620 because that's a hard
00:35:32.420 that's a hard thing
00:35:33.020 I can imagine
00:35:33.460 it's a hard habit
00:35:34.140 to break
00:35:34.740 no it's not
00:35:35.600 no it's not
00:35:36.280 okay
00:35:36.640 okay
00:35:37.300 so there's hope
00:35:38.180 for me
00:35:38.480 it's having the correct
00:35:39.360 information
00:35:40.020 having a plan
00:35:41.220 and sticking with the plan
00:35:42.600 this is very
00:35:43.240 straightforward
00:35:43.740 okay that's good to know
00:35:45.640 there's hope for me then
00:35:46.600 well not necessarily you
00:35:49.660 but
00:35:49.840 oh no okay
00:35:50.620 so here it is
00:35:53.680 and it's
00:35:54.280 it's a relatively
00:35:55.300 straightforward exercise
00:35:56.500 but people avoid this one
00:35:57.660 it's called thought monitoring
00:35:58.820 okay
00:35:59.920 here's how it works
00:36:01.200 do you have anybody
00:36:01.820 you know that
00:36:02.460 that is
00:36:03.140 that you teach
00:36:04.800 or you mentor
00:36:05.580 or looks up to you
00:36:06.640 yes
00:36:07.500 my son
00:36:08.120 okay
00:36:08.300 yeah
00:36:08.780 oh this is straightforward
00:36:10.600 what's his name
00:36:12.360 his name's Gus
00:36:13.200 Gus
00:36:14.320 how old is he
00:36:15.380 he's nine
00:36:16.100 okay
00:36:17.360 this is very easy
00:36:18.400 you can start him
00:36:19.160 on the right track
00:36:19.920 with this
00:36:20.400 and yourself
00:36:21.000 all you have to do
00:36:24.160 is write down
00:36:25.440 during the course
00:36:26.480 of your day
00:36:27.160 or afterwards
00:36:28.160 in reflection
00:36:28.920 everything that you
00:36:31.200 say to yourself
00:36:32.020 that you wouldn't
00:36:32.540 say to him
00:36:33.060 okay
00:36:34.580 that's
00:36:35.000 yeah
00:36:35.300 and then switch it over
00:36:38.500 that's column A
00:36:39.880 and column B
00:36:40.620 the transformation
00:36:42.260 of what you would
00:36:43.240 say to him
00:36:43.920 or nothing
00:36:45.100 at all
00:36:45.560 no that makes sense
00:36:47.180 it's super easy
00:36:48.080 because like yeah
00:36:48.600 if someone else
00:36:49.220 is going through
00:36:49.700 a hard time
00:36:50.300 if I was coaching
00:36:51.120 him
00:36:51.980 or providing
00:36:52.600 I would be supportive
00:36:53.820 and I would give
00:36:54.180 affirmation
00:36:54.800 I wouldn't say
00:36:55.820 you're an idiot
00:36:56.880 so why do you reserve
00:36:58.560 that treatment
00:36:59.060 for yourself
00:36:59.600 I have no clue
00:37:01.600 well most people
00:37:02.860 have no clue
00:37:03.520 but they continue
00:37:04.220 doing it
00:37:04.700 but this is the exercise
00:37:05.840 I call this
00:37:06.820 the Juilliard syndrome
00:37:07.720 when I was at Juilliard
00:37:09.340 one of the exercises
00:37:10.840 I would have him do
00:37:11.860 all in the same room
00:37:13.400 in rehearsal
00:37:13.820 and take out
00:37:14.360 their instrument
00:37:14.820 and play the most
00:37:15.560 challenging thing
00:37:16.280 they could play
00:37:17.040 in the midst
00:37:17.980 of all the chaos
00:37:18.940 people playing
00:37:19.920 different instruments
00:37:20.580 different pieces
00:37:21.260 I'd let him go on
00:37:22.840 a couple minutes
00:37:23.400 and I'd say
00:37:23.840 okay
00:37:24.140 write down
00:37:24.660 all the things
00:37:25.260 that you'd say
00:37:26.120 to yourself
00:37:26.640 when you're doing that
00:37:27.860 and I'd write it out
00:37:29.580 and you know
00:37:30.440 for these beautiful
00:37:31.680 young
00:37:32.760 bright
00:37:33.680 students
00:37:34.620 who play
00:37:35.020 beautiful music
00:37:35.780 when I read them
00:37:36.840 aloud
00:37:37.180 it sounded like
00:37:38.640 sailors
00:37:39.220 cursing
00:37:40.900 and it was amazing
00:37:43.840 and they started
00:37:44.860 laughing
00:37:45.260 we all started laughing
00:37:46.480 then I had
00:37:47.360 I made three copies
00:37:48.580 of each
00:37:48.980 then I would have
00:37:49.760 one of them sit
00:37:50.800 surrounded by
00:37:52.220 three people
00:37:52.960 reading
00:37:54.020 what they were
00:37:54.980 saying to themselves
00:37:55.840 like you idiot
00:37:57.080 can't you play
00:37:57.840 you sound like
00:37:58.600 crap
00:37:59.260 and everybody
00:38:00.300 started laughing
00:38:01.040 I said
00:38:01.380 that's what
00:38:01.740 you're doing
00:38:02.160 to yourself
00:38:02.660 that's how
00:38:03.540 you get to
00:38:03.980 Juilliard
00:38:04.320 not by being
00:38:04.980 sloppy
00:38:05.420 and ignoring it
00:38:06.260 but after you
00:38:07.160 reach a certain
00:38:07.680 level of competence
00:38:08.600 put the stick
00:38:09.800 away
00:38:10.080 and take out
00:38:10.640 the carrot
00:38:11.140 positive reinforcement
00:38:12.360 works much better
00:38:13.240 than negative
00:38:13.900 reinforcement
00:38:14.440 we use it
00:38:14.800 to everybody
00:38:15.120 else
00:38:15.360 but not
00:38:15.680 ourselves
00:38:16.140 and this is
00:38:17.300 the major shift
00:38:17.980 I had these
00:38:18.520 students do
00:38:19.140 that you know
00:38:20.140 if you want
00:38:20.440 to live a happy
00:38:20.960 life
00:38:21.300 stop with
00:38:22.300 the nonsense
00:38:22.940 of criticism
00:38:23.560 and learn
00:38:24.740 how to be
00:38:25.160 positive reinforcing
00:38:26.280 with yourself
00:38:26.980 like you do
00:38:27.740 everybody else
00:38:28.300 that's it
00:38:28.680 it's pretty
00:38:29.100 straightforward
00:38:29.720 and after about
00:38:30.700 a week or two
00:38:31.420 of writing it out
00:38:32.360 the list gets
00:38:33.480 shorter and shorter
00:38:34.340 and you're just
00:38:35.480 more positive
00:38:36.660 reinforcing with
00:38:37.580 yourself
00:38:37.920 or mentally
00:38:38.700 quiet
00:38:39.140 you don't need
00:38:39.920 all of that
00:38:40.480 you don't need
00:38:42.020 that noise
00:38:42.940 and this is
00:38:44.620 related to another
00:38:45.300 skill of just
00:38:46.020 handling setbacks
00:38:47.220 so you know
00:38:48.040 first thing you can
00:38:48.760 do we talked
00:38:49.220 about in depth
00:38:50.260 is planning
00:38:51.240 for those
00:38:51.640 setbacks
00:38:52.120 training for
00:38:52.900 them
00:38:53.200 but they're
00:38:54.200 going to occur
00:38:54.620 anyways
00:38:55.160 so you got
00:38:56.120 to bounce
00:38:56.460 back
00:38:56.900 and part of
00:38:58.020 that is
00:38:58.320 talking in a
00:38:59.360 positive way
00:39:00.300 towards yourself
00:39:01.060 but besides
00:39:02.140 that do you
00:39:02.900 do you give
00:39:03.860 your clients
00:39:04.780 any other
00:39:05.480 systems to
00:39:06.660 follow
00:39:07.020 to whenever
00:39:08.040 they have
00:39:08.700 a mistake
00:39:09.700 or failure
00:39:10.460 or setback
00:39:11.100 they can bounce
00:39:11.760 back immediately
00:39:12.680 sure
00:39:13.560 sure
00:39:14.200 not
00:39:14.960 at first
00:39:16.240 immediately
00:39:16.540 but that's
00:39:17.120 the goal
00:39:17.580 because mistakes
00:39:19.060 are inevitable
00:39:19.660 there is no
00:39:20.840 perfectionism
00:39:21.660 in elite
00:39:22.140 sports
00:39:22.940 or music
00:39:23.740 you have
00:39:25.160 striving for
00:39:26.360 excellence
00:39:26.840 which I
00:39:27.620 preach
00:39:28.200 but not
00:39:28.800 perfectionism
00:39:29.560 that's a
00:39:30.120 nasty thing
00:39:31.600 to impose
00:39:32.260 but not
00:39:34.000 anticipating
00:39:34.720 or predicting
00:39:36.120 that mistakes
00:39:36.820 will happen
00:39:37.260 but they do
00:39:37.820 happen
00:39:38.260 so
00:39:39.320 I have
00:39:41.260 people
00:39:41.580 do a
00:39:42.380 five step
00:39:43.040 recovery
00:39:43.600 strategy
00:39:44.240 and the
00:39:45.460 first step
00:39:46.140 is acceptance
00:39:47.340 that the
00:39:48.480 mistake
00:39:48.860 happened
00:39:49.360 in spite of
00:39:50.600 all the
00:39:50.860 training
00:39:51.140 preparation
00:39:51.760 mistakes
00:39:52.280 happen
00:39:52.700 and the
00:39:53.680 opposite
00:39:54.020 of that
00:39:54.640 is denial
00:39:55.400 and for
00:39:56.940 musicians
00:39:57.420 denial
00:39:57.920 sounds like
00:39:58.440 I can't
00:39:58.880 believe I
00:39:59.280 missed that
00:39:59.700 note
00:40:00.080 I've never
00:40:01.040 missed that
00:40:01.560 note
00:40:01.920 it's
00:40:02.720 it's
00:40:03.000 I never
00:40:03.700 missed it
00:40:04.100 well
00:40:04.360 you missed
00:40:04.940 the note
00:40:05.320 so the
00:40:06.560 first step
00:40:07.120 is accepted
00:40:07.740 immediately
00:40:08.200 you can work
00:40:09.240 on it later
00:40:09.800 correctly
00:40:10.220 analyze what's
00:40:11.080 the mistake
00:40:11.380 it's immediate
00:40:12.820 acceptance
00:40:13.860 number two
00:40:15.960 is when
00:40:16.440 people make
00:40:18.220 mistakes
00:40:18.680 they tend
00:40:19.080 to cringe
00:40:19.800 their muscles
00:40:21.160 tend to
00:40:21.680 tighten
00:40:21.980 they brace
00:40:22.600 for impact
00:40:23.380 they're
00:40:24.560 fearing the
00:40:25.200 worst
00:40:25.500 and they
00:40:26.060 brace
00:40:26.680 and the
00:40:27.020 muscles
00:40:27.300 tighten
00:40:27.760 especially if
00:40:28.440 they're under
00:40:28.660 pressure
00:40:29.040 they're already
00:40:29.640 probably
00:40:30.620 tight
00:40:30.960 in fact
00:40:31.280 the tightness
00:40:32.340 may have
00:40:32.700 caused
00:40:32.980 mistakes
00:40:33.440 in the
00:40:33.720 first place
00:40:34.360 so the
00:40:35.460 next thing
00:40:35.820 I ask
00:40:36.260 people to
00:40:36.640 do
00:40:36.820 is to
00:40:37.360 imagine
00:40:38.140 where they
00:40:38.600 tend to
00:40:39.060 tighten up
00:40:39.640 whether it's
00:40:40.760 their jaw
00:40:41.280 their shoulders
00:40:41.980 their hands
00:40:42.500 it doesn't
00:40:42.820 matter
00:40:43.120 but to
00:40:43.720 immediately
00:40:44.500 go to
00:40:44.980 those areas
00:40:45.880 and drop
00:40:46.780 the tension
00:40:47.260 the next
00:40:48.540 is to
00:40:50.200 bring their
00:40:50.740 mind back
00:40:51.400 into the
00:40:51.820 present
00:40:52.240 because you
00:40:53.620 can only
00:40:53.980 focus in
00:40:54.580 the present
00:40:55.000 moment
00:40:55.600 and with
00:40:56.400 a mistake
00:40:56.960 they tend
00:40:57.620 to get
00:40:57.980 stuck in
00:40:59.020 the past
00:40:59.740 of the
00:41:00.880 mistake
00:41:01.240 what caused
00:41:01.880 the mistake
00:41:02.260 how do I
00:41:02.640 fix the
00:41:03.100 mistake
00:41:03.460 well they're
00:41:04.340 just compounding
00:41:05.300 the mistake
00:41:05.900 because they're
00:41:06.720 no longer
00:41:07.440 in the
00:41:07.700 present
00:41:08.020 and you
00:41:08.780 make mistakes
00:41:09.680 if you're
00:41:10.040 not in the
00:41:10.380 present
00:41:10.760 the next
00:41:12.120 is a
00:41:12.580 process
00:41:13.660 cue
00:41:14.360 if they
00:41:15.000 need it
00:41:15.620 this is a
00:41:16.260 process
00:41:16.680 cue
00:41:16.940 this is a
00:41:17.440 way to
00:41:17.700 get the
00:41:18.040 train
00:41:18.380 back on
00:41:18.960 the track
00:41:19.580 because it's
00:41:20.840 not going
00:41:21.280 well this
00:41:21.700 is not
00:41:22.060 the time
00:41:22.800 to have
00:41:23.840 a sophisticated
00:41:24.840 analysis
00:41:26.480 and correction
00:41:27.340 this is a
00:41:28.640 time to be
00:41:29.160 very simple
00:41:30.100 with a
00:41:30.580 fundamental
00:41:31.160 basic
00:41:32.400 thing
00:41:33.020 that will
00:41:34.960 cue your
00:41:35.560 right brain
00:41:36.440 with one
00:41:37.300 word
00:41:37.760 back into
00:41:38.780 right brain
00:41:39.380 and these
00:41:40.460 are simple
00:41:40.980 words like
00:41:41.620 support
00:41:42.320 for opera
00:41:43.000 singers
00:41:43.500 or flow
00:41:45.040 for athletes
00:41:46.080 trust
00:41:47.440 let it
00:41:48.620 go
00:41:49.160 these
00:41:50.300 things
00:41:50.860 to get
00:41:52.460 you back
00:41:53.160 with musicians
00:41:54.420 it's a little
00:41:55.180 bit easier
00:41:55.940 because the
00:41:57.120 note is
00:41:57.660 moving
00:41:58.240 get back
00:41:59.600 on the
00:41:59.980 moving train
00:42:00.680 get back
00:42:01.140 on the
00:42:01.600 moving
00:42:02.020 note
00:42:03.400 it's moving
00:42:05.100 get back
00:42:05.740 out of the
00:42:06.320 past
00:42:06.600 into the
00:42:07.080 present
00:42:07.420 with some
00:42:08.620 sports
00:42:09.280 like golf
00:42:10.660 where the
00:42:11.000 ball is
00:42:11.380 just sitting
00:42:11.900 there
00:42:12.220 that can
00:42:12.660 be a little
00:42:13.020 bit
00:42:13.200 trickier
00:42:13.660 that's
00:42:14.560 when you
00:42:14.780 need again
00:42:15.260 to get
00:42:15.700 into flow
00:42:16.980 and the
00:42:18.460 last is
00:42:19.240 the fifth
00:42:20.020 step is
00:42:20.680 for the
00:42:21.580 rest of
00:42:22.160 it
00:42:22.380 or initially
00:42:23.340 the next
00:42:24.100 parts of
00:42:24.800 it
00:42:24.980 don't try
00:42:26.080 to make
00:42:26.540 up with
00:42:27.000 it
00:42:27.160 with an
00:42:27.640 incredible
00:42:28.320 spectacular
00:42:29.080 performance
00:42:29.940 or the
00:42:30.800 best
00:42:31.220 performance
00:42:32.020 of your
00:42:32.460 life
00:42:32.860 or this
00:42:33.840 time
00:42:34.000 now I'm
00:42:34.380 going to
00:42:34.540 hit a
00:42:34.760 home run
00:42:35.140 no this
00:42:36.320 is the
00:42:36.660 time to
00:42:37.540 get back
00:42:38.080 to solid
00:42:38.640 playing
00:42:39.100 just in
00:42:39.860 baseball
00:42:40.220 just make
00:42:40.740 solid
00:42:41.120 contact
00:42:41.620 with the
00:42:42.060 ball
00:42:42.420 musicians
00:42:43.300 just play
00:42:44.060 in tune
00:42:44.740 please
00:42:45.220 in tempo
00:42:45.960 just get
00:42:48.120 back to
00:42:48.680 solid
00:42:49.160 before you
00:42:50.900 try anything
00:42:51.560 extra special
00:42:52.360 to make up
00:42:53.020 for the
00:42:53.260 mistake
00:42:53.600 because if
00:42:54.180 you do
00:42:54.480 it will
00:42:54.700 just cause
00:42:55.540 another
00:42:55.800 mistake
00:42:56.400 so that's
00:42:57.640 the five
00:42:58.000 step strategy
00:42:58.740 I teach
00:42:59.460 to not
00:43:00.320 preclude
00:43:01.540 inevitable
00:43:02.000 mistakes
00:43:02.640 but even
00:43:03.460 in practice
00:43:04.080 room
00:43:04.380 in batting
00:43:04.920 practice
00:43:05.460 when it
00:43:06.260 happens
00:43:06.700 you know
00:43:07.360 practice
00:43:08.100 is strategy
00:43:08.840 so one
00:43:09.880 mistake
00:43:10.300 is an
00:43:10.960 isolated
00:43:11.500 event
00:43:11.980 that is
00:43:12.620 quickly
00:43:13.500 in the
00:43:13.840 past
00:43:14.180 and now
00:43:14.580 back in
00:43:14.920 the present
00:43:15.340 and again
00:43:16.280 these are
00:43:16.600 skills you
00:43:17.020 have to
00:43:17.280 practice
00:43:17.660 it's not
00:43:17.980 like
00:43:18.340 it's gonna
00:43:19.360 the first
00:43:19.740 time you
00:43:20.040 do it
00:43:20.340 yeah
00:43:20.720 people
00:43:21.140 sometimes
00:43:22.380 make a
00:43:22.880 mistake
00:43:23.140 thinking
00:43:23.440 in sports
00:43:23.840 psychology
00:43:24.280 once you
00:43:24.720 get the
00:43:25.000 concept
00:43:25.360 okay I
00:43:25.900 got it
00:43:26.460 and that
00:43:27.520 that's
00:43:28.480 like
00:43:28.780 once you
00:43:29.560 hit a
00:43:30.480 long
00:43:30.800 putt
00:43:31.260 okay
00:43:31.560 now
00:43:31.940 and it
00:43:32.340 goes in
00:43:32.720 okay now
00:43:33.200 I know
00:43:33.400 how to
00:43:33.660 putt
00:43:34.380 well Don
00:43:35.220 there's a lot
00:43:35.600 more we
00:43:35.840 could talk
00:43:36.200 about
00:43:36.440 where can
00:43:36.720 people go
00:43:37.040 to learn
00:43:37.280 more about
00:43:37.900 the book
00:43:38.260 and your
00:43:38.500 work
00:43:38.720 and what
00:43:38.920 you do
00:43:39.280 thanks
00:43:40.060 well what
00:43:41.860 I do
00:43:42.220 is on a
00:43:42.660 few websites
00:43:43.420 one is
00:43:44.540 called
00:43:44.860 winning
00:43:45.460 on stage
00:43:46.760 and this
00:43:47.240 is for
00:43:47.620 performing
00:43:48.100 artists
00:43:48.600 the one
00:43:49.720 for athletes
00:43:50.480 is winning
00:43:51.120 in sports
00:43:51.820 and they're
00:43:53.140 both similar
00:43:53.680 because it's
00:43:54.340 the same
00:43:54.780 kind of
00:43:55.180 ideas
00:43:55.560 of you
00:43:55.940 using
00:43:56.420 the mind
00:43:56.920 to learn
00:43:57.280 how to
00:43:57.580 perform
00:43:57.920 your best
00:43:58.320 under
00:43:58.540 pressure
00:43:59.000 so on
00:44:00.380 these
00:44:00.720 both
00:44:01.340 sites
00:44:01.660 I have
00:44:02.140 different
00:44:03.040 books
00:44:03.660 different
00:44:04.700 courses
00:44:05.280 online
00:44:05.640 courses
00:44:06.180 where I
00:44:06.580 teach
00:44:06.940 like the
00:44:07.460 centering
00:44:07.940 it's
00:44:08.940 it's a
00:44:09.380 self-study
00:44:09.980 course
00:44:10.380 with
00:44:10.740 its own
00:44:11.820 book
00:44:12.240 audio
00:44:13.220 tapes
00:44:13.700 video
00:44:14.460 tapes
00:44:14.980 a whole
00:44:15.800 course
00:44:16.200 where I
00:44:16.500 teach
00:44:16.740 people
00:44:17.180 how to
00:44:18.140 center
00:44:18.420 it's a
00:44:19.260 very
00:44:19.500 complicated
00:44:20.260 strategy
00:44:21.140 that can't
00:44:22.460 I can't
00:44:22.880 just say
00:44:23.460 here are the
00:44:23.820 seven steps
00:44:24.400 go for it
00:44:25.340 it's like
00:44:26.240 learning
00:44:26.500 anything
00:44:26.800 else
00:44:27.080 you need
00:44:27.660 to learn
00:44:28.580 the correct
00:44:29.280 information
00:44:29.800 and then
00:44:30.140 practice
00:44:30.520 it
00:44:30.780 but in
00:44:31.420 two weeks
00:44:31.860 people can
00:44:32.440 learn how
00:44:32.860 to really
00:44:33.740 be centered
00:44:34.400 and go
00:44:35.320 into
00:44:35.640 pressure
00:44:36.300 situations
00:44:37.160 not just
00:44:37.620 trying to
00:44:37.980 squeak
00:44:38.300 by
00:44:38.740 or worse
00:44:40.400 than left
00:44:40.800 brain
00:44:41.200 but how
00:44:41.980 to go
00:44:42.320 in and
00:44:42.720 learn how
00:44:43.100 to use
00:44:44.220 that energy
00:44:44.860 and be
00:44:45.880 centered
00:44:46.220 and perform
00:44:46.820 better
00:44:47.200 because of
00:44:47.860 the pressure
00:44:48.360 well
00:44:48.860 fantastic
00:44:49.380 well Don
00:44:50.000 Green
00:44:50.260 thanks for
00:44:50.640 your time
00:44:50.940 it's been
00:44:51.160 a pleasure
00:44:51.560 my pleasure
00:44:52.780 well I
00:44:53.400 certainly
00:44:54.560 appreciate it
00:44:55.320 and start
00:44:56.080 monitoring
00:44:57.360 your self
00:44:57.860 talk
00:44:58.120 and treating
00:44:58.520 yourself
00:44:58.880 better
00:44:59.260 with your
00:44:59.620 self
00:44:59.840 talk
00:45:00.240 my guest
00:45:01.220 there
00:45:01.320 was Don
00:45:01.700 Green
00:45:01.980 he is the
00:45:02.440 author of
00:45:02.920 the book
00:45:03.320 fight your
00:45:03.780 fear and win
00:45:04.440 it's available
00:45:04.800 on amazon.com
00:45:05.680 and bookstores
00:45:06.160 everywhere
00:45:06.520 you can find out
00:45:07.220 more information
00:45:07.700 about his work
00:45:08.180 at his website
00:45:08.820 winningonstage.com
00:45:10.680 also check out
00:45:11.380 our show notes
00:45:11.820 at aom.is
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00:45:13.640 where you find
00:45:14.100 links to resources
00:45:14.880 where you can delve
00:45:15.320 deeper into this
00:45:16.020 topic
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