The Art of Manliness - September 12, 2014


#81 Target Focus Training With Tim Larkin


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53 minutes

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Summary

Tim Larkin is a self-defense instructor who has been teaching a self defense program called Target-Focused Training for the past 20 years. In this episode, we talk about the difference between antisocial and asocial violence, and how to deal with it in everyday life situations.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Brett McKay here and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness podcast.
00:00:19.660 So if you were confronted with a really bad guy, a person who was threatening your life
00:00:24.840 or the life of your loved ones, and they had the capacity to do it, would you know what
00:00:29.300 to do to protect yourself or your loved ones?
00:00:32.040 Well, our guest today has been training individuals on this very matter, what to do in these life
00:00:38.320 or death situations.
00:00:39.580 His name is Tim Larkin, and for the past 20 years, he has been teaching a self-defense
00:00:43.780 program called Target-Focused Training to military special forces around the world, along with
00:00:50.460 law enforcement officers, as well as high-profile clientele, collegiate actors and business executives.
00:00:57.720 And Target-Focused Training, as we'll find out, is all about using violence to kill someone,
00:01:03.440 to disable them so you can come out and survive.
00:01:06.580 So in this podcast, we're going to talk about what Target-Focused Training involves and how
00:01:10.560 it's different from sport combat, you know, like MMA and things like that.
00:01:15.800 We're going to talk about the mind of a criminal.
00:01:18.180 We're going to talk about the difference between antisocial and asocial violence and how sometimes
00:01:24.040 the best response in some of those, you know, everyday confrontations is just to walk away
00:01:29.320 and then how do you know when you need to escalate your response in order to protect yourself or your
00:01:35.300 family.
00:01:36.740 And we also talk about why studying criminals, people who use violence on a regular basis,
00:01:42.500 is the best way to learn how to use violence to protect yourself.
00:01:45.260 So it's a really fascinating podcast, very interesting.
00:01:48.760 And yes, I'm aware that not too long ago, just two episodes ago, we did a podcast on violence and
00:01:53.720 killing with Dave Grossman.
00:01:55.320 Please don't read any, you know, too much into the scheduling of the podcast.
00:01:59.960 It's just the way the schedule shook out with guest availability and whatnot.
00:02:04.420 We're not turning into the art of how to kill people podcast.
00:02:08.240 So don't worry that we're going in some weird direction.
00:02:11.240 We're not.
00:02:11.600 It's just the way things happen.
00:02:13.480 So if this isn't your thing, check back next week because we'll have a great show as well
00:02:18.260 for there.
00:02:19.020 All right.
00:02:19.280 With that said, I had to say that caveat because I know I'd get emails and tweets complaining
00:02:24.060 about it.
00:02:25.120 Let's get to the show.
00:02:29.640 All right.
00:02:30.160 Tim Larkin, welcome to the show.
00:02:31.640 Hey, thanks for having me, Brett.
00:02:32.680 All right, Tim.
00:02:33.180 So can you give a little bit of background on yourself for those who aren't familiar with
00:02:37.640 you or your work?
00:02:38.880 How did you get to where you are today?
00:02:40.120 Yeah, I'm actually in my 26th year of being a professional instructor doing this, which
00:02:47.200 is crazy.
00:02:48.100 But I got started years ago.
00:02:52.040 I was always an avid martial artist.
00:02:53.660 My grandfather was a South Boston trained boxer and got me into boxing early on as a young
00:03:00.820 kid.
00:03:01.220 And, you know, I always had I was a Navy brat.
00:03:05.880 So I moved all around and got into the Korean martial arts because that's really all that
00:03:09.640 was available back then.
00:03:11.720 And it wasn't until I got into the Navy that I got introduced to, you know, the nexus of
00:03:21.220 this approach to violence that has become target focused training.
00:03:26.880 Um, it was an ex Vietnam vet that I ran into and, uh, it was, it's completely, you know,
00:03:32.560 it was one of those things where, you know, I went into, I was going into the SEAL teams
00:03:36.640 and I was the number one guy in my class.
00:03:40.140 I was an officer.
00:03:41.220 I had been training since I was 13 years old.
00:03:43.820 I literally lived across from the SEAL base.
00:03:46.840 Um, and so I made friends with all the guys.
00:03:50.060 I knew everything about SEAL training.
00:03:51.700 I knew how to do it.
00:03:52.320 Like we won hell week, you know, I was first in everything.
00:03:55.560 And then two weeks before I was going to graduate, um, got into a diving accident, blew my ears,
00:04:02.440 uh, uh, in a diving accident.
00:04:04.460 And it just literally just changed my whole life because, uh, I no longer was going to
00:04:10.240 be able to be a SEAL officer.
00:04:11.400 I wasn't going to go to the team that I was going to go to, which was the hottest SEAL team
00:04:15.280 at the time.
00:04:15.860 Um, my whole plans had been turned upside down.
00:04:18.560 I just, I just thought my life was, as I knew it at, you know, a 22 year old kid, it was
00:04:23.340 over, you know, and actually it was probably the greatest thing that ever happened to me
00:04:27.240 because it led me down this path.
00:04:28.780 And I got to meet these people.
00:04:30.500 Um, I worked, went and worked for the Admiral of, uh, the SEAL teams at the time.
00:04:35.820 They kept me in the community because they liked me, but it's the only reason they kept
00:04:38.820 me in.
00:04:39.780 And they had made me a special operations intelligence officer.
00:04:43.600 And they put me in a position because we were in expansion road in the SEAL teams at that
00:04:48.640 time.
00:04:48.800 So they put me in a very senior position, even though I was a very junior officer, it was
00:04:52.940 mainly because I was broken, you know, cause I couldn't dive.
00:04:55.880 So they figured why put a healthy SEAL in this position?
00:04:58.680 We can just use this kid who kind of knows what's, you know, what we're all about and
00:05:02.120 he can do the work.
00:05:02.920 And so here I was, I was hanging out with these legends of the SEAL teams and they started
00:05:08.040 looking at a problem in the late, you know, uh, late eighties, early nineties of the fact
00:05:13.660 that the world was changing and that we were going to have to start putting hands on people.
00:05:18.120 They basically predicted what we're dealing with today, warfare wise.
00:05:20.980 And they realized that the current military in the late eighties hadn't really trained to
00:05:27.140 kick doors in, put hands on people, deal with close combat.
00:05:30.320 And so they started looking at that again and, um, you know, I was in this little group
00:05:35.000 that was exposed to all the different martial arts systems and, um, trainers that were available.
00:05:41.160 It was incredible.
00:05:42.480 And by chance I ended up finding the guy, you know, here's the guy with the least experience.
00:05:48.980 I had no combat experience.
00:05:50.180 I had no, you know, no deployment experience at all.
00:05:52.660 I was just kind of an Intel geek.
00:05:54.600 And I ended up finding the guy right around the corner.
00:05:58.460 We were flying these guys to Coronado from all over the world.
00:06:02.740 And the guy we ended up using with for the pilot program literally lived in Pacific beach
00:06:06.560 about, you know, less than a half a mile away from my apartment.
00:06:10.100 And the only reason I found out about the guy was because a DEA agent called me up, a
00:06:15.000 buddy of mine and said, Hey, are you guys still doing that punchy, kicky stuff?
00:06:18.480 Cause he, everybody back then thought martial arts, you know, was stupid.
00:06:21.540 You just shoot people.
00:06:22.340 Why would you, why would you use martial arts?
00:06:24.120 And I said, yeah, yeah, we are.
00:06:26.180 He goes, Hey, well, there's this guy that has a real rep in Pacific beach.
00:06:30.320 He's a former army guy from Vietnam.
00:06:33.280 He's just crazy.
00:06:34.400 Everybody calls him the mad master.
00:06:35.920 He goes, he goes, but you like him.
00:06:37.600 He goes, you get along with personalities like that.
00:06:39.440 You might, you might like this guy.
00:06:40.660 And I went in and basically was just blown away.
00:06:44.780 But what I saw, I walked into what looked like a slow motion prison riot.
00:06:49.440 And even though I was really well trained back then, I saw things going on.
00:06:54.880 I saw one guy, you know, just coming in and basically he kicked the guy, he kicked the
00:07:00.140 guy to the groin, grabbed his head.
00:07:01.900 And then all of a sudden knife came out of nowhere and he was simulating, stabbing the
00:07:05.000 guy in the neck.
00:07:05.740 And then he just threw the body down.
00:07:08.260 And all I could think of was, this is exactly what, you know, I've seen on the street, you
00:07:15.860 know, in the streets of Boston, I saw a guy get stabbed.
00:07:18.040 I've seen a couple of guys, you know, real violence has happened before, but I've never
00:07:22.160 seen anybody training for something that looked like real violence.
00:07:26.220 And so it immediately intrigued me.
00:07:27.740 And, you know, long story short, bought, you know, we brought him in and this guy was a
00:07:34.980 former 173rd Charlie guy from Vietnam.
00:07:37.820 And that, that unit got a lot of, a lot of coverage back then, a lot of combat coverage.
00:07:44.720 And this guy was in the tunnels and all that stuff.
00:07:47.380 And he intimately understood violence.
00:07:49.320 He intimately understood how to integrate, you know, the combat soldier with his tools so
00:07:55.460 that everything works together, meaning you start them out completely stripped down to
00:08:00.780 your, basically you're just boxers and your t-shirt.
00:08:04.540 And once you can take care of yourself with your own human machine, when I start giving
00:08:09.140 you back tools, you're even that more effective.
00:08:11.640 And that was just a really, really cool concept.
00:08:13.880 And it completely changed the way I looked at, you know, how, how to deal with, you know,
00:08:20.520 a threat from another human.
00:08:22.380 Interesting. So it all started with this mad, the mad master.
00:08:26.680 Yeah, it wasn't mad. You know what it is? It's anytime somebody really understands lethal
00:08:31.040 application, oftentimes they're seen as a little bit off because nobody likes to talk about the
00:08:37.040 subject of violence. And, you know, like some of the top snipers that I've talked to, you
00:08:42.220 know, got, you know, friends of mine, oftentimes people just say how intense these guys are,
00:08:46.520 how, you know, how, how they come off. And it's not bad. It's just a familiarity with
00:08:50.520 the subject. They're very comfortable with the subject that most people are extremely
00:08:53.880 uncomfortable with.
00:08:55.400 Yeah. Okay. So, uh, you, you, you started, you found this guy, so you brought him into
00:08:59.560 the training and then from there, uh, you've developed what you call target focus training.
00:09:05.500 Uh, can you, I mean, briefly describe, uh, what target focus training is and how it differs
00:09:11.300 from other, uh, combatives that are out there?
00:09:13.460 Yeah, there's, there's probably two focuses with us. First, we focus on, um, you know,
00:09:18.200 I got to educate the client first. And the first thing that I do, if you come through the doors
00:09:21.800 is we quickly identify the difference between antisocial aggression and asocial violence.
00:09:28.860 Antisocial aggression is really what a lot of people go to martial arts training for. And,
00:09:34.660 uh, you know, and, and, and, you know, fighting and, and MMA training. It's, it's really basically,
00:09:40.660 you know, I got picked on in school or the bully, he said something to me at the bar and I want to
00:09:46.540 teach him a lesson.
00:09:47.660 You keep sand in your face, right?
00:09:48.920 Yeah. And how do I do it? Charles Atlas thing.
00:09:50.880 Yeah. And, uh, that stuff really, like I just lump all that stuff in antisocial aggression,
00:09:56.200 which is completely avoidable. Meaning you have to choose to participate in that.
00:09:59.940 Somebody insults you or drops a drink on you or calls you, uh, or, or, you know,
00:10:06.000 says something offensive to you and you choose to participate when you have an exit.
00:10:09.740 That's a choice to use violence. And it's just, it's, it's just never worth it. You know,
00:10:15.020 I know oftentimes everybody thinks it's great, but I can just give you a horror stories of people
00:10:19.640 on both ends of the equation. Guys that did that ended up inadvertently killing the individual
00:10:24.760 or vice versa. You know, they ended up getting seriously grievous bodily harm over something that
00:10:30.800 doesn't pass what I call the three-day test. Meaning three days from now, is this incident going to
00:10:35.200 matter to you? And, and very few things do. Now, the other side of the equation that we talk about,
00:10:40.900 which we're kind of more known for, because that's what gets us the press is, is anti or
00:10:46.440 asocial violence. And that's where it's imminent. Violence is imminent. There's no escape.
00:10:51.480 You have to take action. If you don't take action, you're essentially participating in your
00:10:55.580 own murder because you're going to be facing grievous bodily harm. And this is the area that makes
00:11:00.260 everybody kind of uncomfortable. You know, it's the unthinkable that's happening. And how do you deal
00:11:04.760 with imminent violence? How do you deal with another human being or human beings coming at you?
00:11:10.140 And, you know, the assumption always has to be the person's going to be, the threat's going to be
00:11:13.740 bigger, faster, and stronger. We assume they're going to carry weapons and we assume that there's
00:11:18.460 going to be more than one because that's just the real world. And if any of those things aren't true,
00:11:23.280 then, Hey, that's a, that's a Christmas gift to you. That's fantastic. You know,
00:11:26.620 but if we go off of that premise, we say, okay, what type of, what type of methods and principles
00:11:32.720 work in that environment? And you really come back to the idea of the vulnerability of the human body,
00:11:40.500 which gets exposed in sports injury. If you look at sports injury data, you find all the areas of the
00:11:47.920 human body that can't take trauma. I was intimately familiar with this as a young, you know, sealed
00:11:53.960 candidate going through. I was, like I said, I was the number one guy in my class. I was going to be
00:11:57.840 the, um, the anchor man. I was getting the award, which is the number one guy in each class that
00:12:03.000 graduates. I was unstoppable. And yet I was stopped dead in my tracks by an injury, something that I
00:12:09.480 couldn't will, I couldn't work through. We just got it out. It was a physiological breaking of a
00:12:15.940 sensory system of my body that just couldn't be fixed. Um, and that's really what you want to look
00:12:21.800 at when you're facing a bigger, faster, stronger threat, you're going to have to put an injury on
00:12:26.960 them that takes their brain, their will, everything out of the equation. Um, and that's really kind of
00:12:33.700 the whole focus on how we look at the subject matter. That's why it's called target focus
00:12:38.140 training. You target specific areas in the body. Yeah. Well, all we do is where do you put the effort
00:12:43.680 basically? You know, if I'm going to do something where somebody will sit there and they'll show
00:12:47.500 something that looks aggressive, a lot of people like to show aggressive type stuff. And when I look at
00:12:51.540 that, it's just mindless, I look at it as mindless aggression, the same slam that you just did to
00:12:56.400 the guy's chest. You know, if you just moved it up three inches, you'd crush his throat, you know,
00:13:02.160 and it's a completely different response to something like that. If your life's on the line,
00:13:07.120 um, one could just potentially annoy the person. The other one will absolutely incapacitate them so
00:13:13.300 that you can put another injury on them and save your life. So here's a question that I have when you
00:13:17.860 were talking about, um, anti-social aggression and asocial violence. I mean, how do you develop
00:13:23.920 the ability to distinguish between the two? Because some people might take anti-social
00:13:28.580 aggression as, you know, asocial violence. Uh, I mean, what, I mean, are there signs in human
00:13:35.260 behavior when you know that this is turning into, it's, you know, shifting from aggression to violence?
00:13:40.880 Yeah. It, it, it essentially, it's very, it's actually very straightforward. It just comes down
00:13:44.620 to choice. Meaning if you have to ask yourself, is this the time to use violence? It's not. There
00:13:50.740 won't be a question in your mind when it happens. Let me give you a quick example. Um, I train all
00:13:56.680 over the world and when I was in London, uh, I go there, I used to go there all the time. Um, and
00:14:01.880 in 2000, I believe it was 2005, an incident rocked London. A young lawyer got stabbed to death in a park.
00:14:07.920 He came home at night. Um, he actually lived in a good part of London and went through a park that
00:14:13.360 was not a dangerous park. This wasn't a dodgy area at all, but that night he was followed by two
00:14:19.300 Eastern European gangsters who saw him as a, just an opportunity. You know, he's a nicely dressed kid
00:14:24.660 and, uh, you know, he was the first one in his family to even get beyond basic education. He took
00:14:31.080 it all the way to university, became a lawyer, was extremely successful. It was a great story as a
00:14:35.740 person. You know, the achievement this kid had as he's walking through the park, these guys come up
00:14:41.040 behind him, draw knives, pin them up against a tree and demand all his stuff, you know, and this kid
00:14:47.420 does everything right. He gives them the watch, the wallet. Um, he gives them, uh, you know, the,
00:14:53.700 the briefcase they wanted and they left and everybody loves that part of the story. The second time they
00:15:01.800 came back, their knives, their knives were drawn, their heads were down. They rushed him and stabbed
00:15:07.680 him 47 times. And as he was being stabbed, the, the people said, as they were hearing him scream,
00:15:14.200 he was screaming, I gave you everything. I gave you everything. My goal for any client is to understand
00:15:21.180 the difference between those two situations. And in the first situation, you have an opportunity to
00:15:26.900 engage somebody socially and possibly use your social skills to talk your way out of the situation.
00:15:32.200 In the second situation, the only tool that's going to get you out of that is violence and you
00:15:36.560 have to know how to use it because it's imminent. Yeah. And so that, uh, in that case you would
00:15:42.540 go for, I mean, I guess, I guess the thing is like you, you were talking about, you would punch a,
00:15:47.240 punch a throat, um, groin attacks, I guess would be something. Would eye gouges be involved in this?
00:15:54.040 All of that's, all of that's available to you. Basically you're looking at the, the, the,
00:15:57.520 when you're, when you're putting an injury in the human body, you're either destroying a structure
00:16:00.960 of the human body or you're destroying a sensory system of the human body. And, and, and you're
00:16:06.060 doing it in a way that the pain part of it's irrelevant, meaning because everybody has a
00:16:11.100 different blood threshold of pain, it's functionality that you're destroying. You want to make sure that
00:16:16.280 when you, uh, you know, if you're going to slam a guy and you're going to, you're going to go after
00:16:20.520 his ankle that you're ripping the connective tissue to the point to where, you know, any,
00:16:26.220 any radiologist looking at the film would just sit there and say, Hey, I don't care whether this guy
00:16:30.860 feels it or not. He's not going to be able to walk on that. And that's really what you're looking at.
00:16:35.340 And it's a very different approach because a lot of times people talk about pain and they talk about,
00:16:39.960 you know, rushing somebody and doing things that are just, they look aggressive, but they're highly
00:16:45.500 ineffective. Hmm. So you're, we're, we're going for like maiming, right? So this is, well, you're
00:16:51.120 going, you're going for a result. Yeah. And again, you know, it sounds like it's overly aggressive.
00:16:55.860 It sounds like, you know, you're, you're, you're just teaching people to automatically go into kill
00:17:00.300 mode. And that's not the case at all. What we found is the more people are trained, you know,
00:17:04.920 when we were originally training just military and law enforcement, when we, the higher up they were
00:17:09.480 in the skillset of justified lethal force, the less likely they were to have reports of excessive force
00:17:17.160 on the job or, you know, any type of incidents outside of the job, as far as getting into fights
00:17:23.980 or anything like that. Because once you understand how the human body responds to trauma, it's not one
00:17:29.260 of those things that you want to try out. You know, it's, it's, it's akin to, you know, going out in the
00:17:34.800 range, shooting a 45 and then, you know, asking yourself, well, gee, I don't really know if this
00:17:40.840 would work. Maybe I'll just blow a hole in the guy next to me to see if it's, you know, going to work.
00:17:45.020 It's, it's that ridiculous. Meaning once you understand how the body responds to trauma and
00:17:49.780 you see this, and then we have numerous videos of, you know, sports injuries and also real violence
00:17:56.080 showing just how quickly the body shuts down when it's truly injured. That's the skillset you want
00:18:01.840 to build when your life's on the line. Interesting. Okay. So, uh, I mean, is this
00:18:06.120 something you can train at home by yourselves or do you need to have a, a, you know, go to a gym or
00:18:11.120 I don't know what you call it, a dojo. I don't know what you call it. Um, and because like research
00:18:15.240 has shown like on, for tactical training to be like really, really effective, uh, you need to make it
00:18:20.100 as real as possible. So it's, you know, military and LEOs, they'll sometimes use simunition and have
00:18:24.840 like a 3d arena. Right. Um, how do you do that with target focus training without killing your
00:18:31.840 partner? Well, you know, it's funny people, uh, when they, when they approach this type of, of idea,
00:18:40.220 this training, you know, I guess what's really funny to me when I look at like, you know, combat
00:18:46.400 sports and MMA in general, everybody wants to go ballistic right out of the gate. Hey, you gotta be
00:18:49.880 real. You gotta be real. You gotta stress you out right away. It's just like, there's no training,
00:18:55.600 no lethal training that's ever done that way. Only jack off training is done that way. Meaning
00:19:01.300 you would not go to a range and I, you know, I don't take you down to my kill house basically,
00:19:07.280 you know, load you up, load you up, you know, your first time loads you up, go, Hey, yeah,
00:19:11.920 you point the gun this way, throw you in the kill house and have people start shooting at you.
00:19:15.560 Yeah. Which is essentially the way most people try to train combat sports,
00:19:19.160 which is ridiculous. Um, the good guys learn that you have to be slow, deliberate at first to lock
00:19:25.900 in all the correct movement. And then, so you do the correct, you know, it's a special operations.
00:19:29.860 You basically do the crawl, the walk and the run. And so if I was shooting, I would first make sure
00:19:35.540 that I've locked in everything so that I can actually hit my target statically as many times
00:19:40.080 as possible with no stress, just doing that. Then I'll probably start to dynamically move a little
00:19:45.740 bit. I'll start moving and shooting a little bit. Okay. I get comfortable doing that.
00:19:48.920 Now the target's going to start moving. And then the last thing we're going to do is we'll,
00:19:52.820 we'll do the semination, uh, semination training, but you would not step into that process until
00:19:57.160 you really built a really good foundation. And it doesn't take a long time to do that,
00:20:01.560 you know, uh, you know, learning that, but we start out, you know, with people slowly and
00:20:06.920 deliberately learning how to engage body weight into each one of these areas. And all, the only thing
00:20:13.880 we pull out at the beginning is just the velocity, meaning going full speed. If you look at a lot of,
00:20:20.880 you know, quote unquote reality, self-defense, it just, it looks, it looks, it looks, sorry about
00:20:27.140 that. Yeah. It just looks ridiculous. These guys are doing these, these static movements
00:20:32.620 and they're making real aggressive sounds and ha ha ha ha ha. And then just slap on a video of a
00:20:39.460 prison yard takedown and see how those guys go. And they don't go like that. They don't fight like
00:20:46.420 that. They don't kill like that. They kill slow and deliberate. I got a great video of the black
00:20:52.920 gorilla family members, two of them, and they're sitting there simulating, stabbing to the human body
00:20:58.540 and they're doing it slow and deliberate. And they're doing it in kind of not the most obvious
00:21:03.720 parts of the human body. Uh, and when the corrections officer, who's a really good friend of mine was
00:21:08.620 showing me this, he goes, Hey, what are they doing? I said, well, they're obviously teaching themselves
00:21:12.580 how to stab. And he goes, yeah. He goes, but why are they stabbing where they're stabbing? And I said, uh,
00:21:18.820 I don't know. Is, is there something, something changed? He goes, yeah, something changed. He goes,
00:21:22.960 we just got new body armor. He said, we just got new body armor. And we had a call out yesterday that we
00:21:28.400 thought was kind of suspicious. And he said, all they wanted to do was see our new equipment.
00:21:32.960 And he goes, now they saw where the gaps are in the body armor. And they're practicing that if
00:21:37.020 they ever have to go up against us, they know where to stab. And it wasn't ballistic. It wasn't,
00:21:43.000 it was slow, methodical, make sure you get it in there because what most people understand they have
00:21:49.640 to use this stuff to protect themselves is you have to get it right. You have to tell your brain
00:21:53.940 exactly what you want it to do and lock that movement in first. The brain doesn't care
00:21:58.220 about speed. The brain just says, what do you want me to make the body do? And so once you lock
00:22:04.560 that in the last dynamic, you add into anything is the velocity, you know, and you can do it, but,
00:22:10.280 but why sacrifice the accuracy up front for this spastic, good feel, gee, I feel aggressive.
00:22:16.480 Yeah. That's scary about the, the gang calling out the police just to take a look at the body armor.
00:22:21.820 Oh yeah. Listen, the best information comes from the worst people. I I'm currently putting together a
00:22:27.920 book where I'm interviewing a lot of these guys. And what's really funny is, is when not funny,
00:22:32.520 well, funny to me, but I've interviewed a lot of the top combat sport guys in the world. I'm
00:22:37.000 interviewing a lot of the top law enforcement, military trainers. They're friends of mine. I
00:22:40.700 have a lot of circles, you know, friends, but what's most interesting is when you get into the
00:22:44.020 prison and you talk to the gang guys, the guys that are killing the guys that have to kill
00:22:47.920 violence is a commodity to them. It's, it's, it's currency. It's their power.
00:22:51.780 They are very specific. They train anatomy. They go in these areas because they don't have time.
00:22:57.940 They're not doing it because they want to learn the human body. They want to know where do I put
00:23:02.160 the effort in? You know, if I've, if I've set up this kill, if it's, you know, taking me six months
00:23:07.440 to set this up and I'm going to get one shot at this guy, I want to make sure that he's dead before
00:23:12.260 the response team is there. How do I do that? And so they look at things, they study anatomy,
00:23:17.160 you know, and they, they know, you know, if I have a, if I have a shank, I want to know where to put
00:23:21.380 it. If I'm going to break something on him, where am I going to go? And they just, they do it with
00:23:27.580 a complete intent. This is where you get really the roadmap. You know, if you really understand it,
00:23:32.300 you know, violence, I tell people all the time, the worst way to, to figure out what kind of training
00:23:38.300 works is to watch training videos because everybody's going to make themselves look good or
00:23:42.520 canned, or they're going to make it look impressive. What you need to do is you need to
00:23:46.920 watch video as distasteful as it is of real violence, of people doing real violence and
00:23:52.640 what really works. How do people really stab each other? How do they break each other? How do they
00:23:56.200 beat each other down? And does your training replicate that? I mean, if you're facing a threat
00:24:02.300 like that, because let's be honest, that's the threat we're really training for. We're not training
00:24:05.860 for a competition threat. If that's the threat we're training for, do my principles and methods
00:24:11.740 handle a situation like that. And very few people do, you know, a lot of it is just,
00:24:17.200 especially in reality, self-defense world, it's all about, you know, basically chest lumping and,
00:24:21.600 you know, questionable methods. Combat sports is fantastic, you know, but combat sports to,
00:24:29.060 in order to be combat sports, I mean, the UFC has 31 rules, I believe right now, at least last time I
00:24:33.580 there's 31, 27 of those rules took out injury to the human body, you know, and that says a lot
00:24:40.800 because you can't gamify violence if you have injury in it, you know, because it would just be
00:24:45.840 over. I mean, the reality of violence is very boring. It's very straightforward. It's, it's,
00:24:50.040 it's horrific. But it's absolutely essential if your life's on the line. You know, my grandfather
00:24:56.620 was this South Boston boxer and he's a young kid. I mean, I was like four years old when he started
00:25:01.160 telling me this, he would always say to us, boys, this is what you do in the ring. And he loved
00:25:05.380 boxing. And he'd say, this is what you do in the ring, but out here. And he'd point to the street.
00:25:10.640 He says, if anybody tries to get you out here, this is what you do. And what he essentially
00:25:15.720 started showing us was injury to the human body, you know, and, and that's it. Now the challenge is,
00:25:21.620 how do we put this into context that makes you sane and social? You know, I mean, for a sane social
00:25:25.940 individual, how do you, how do you engage them in this subject without them thinking that you're
00:25:32.160 turning them into a sociopath? And that's the challenge. And, and the idea is you got to show
00:25:38.760 it in the absolute right context. You know, if I sat there and said, okay, guy came up, he poured a drink
00:25:47.380 on me and, you know, called my mom a whore. So I reached up, grabbed his head, gouged his eye out.
00:25:58.500 You know, you'd sit there and go, oh shit, you know? And then if I said, Hey, I was coming in,
00:26:04.020 I was waiting five minutes for this parking, parking space. This guy came out, he just jammed
00:26:09.100 in right away, stole my parking space. I got out of the car, ripped him out of the car, gouged his eye
00:26:13.080 out. You'd sit there and go, okay, you know, but if I say, Hey, I'm at Sandy Hook, the guy,
00:26:22.840 the shooters just dropped down for a reload. I saw my opportunity. He'd already shot five kids. I
00:26:29.800 saw my opportunity. I was able to close distance, get on him. And the first thing I saw was his eye
00:26:34.860 and I was able to gouge it out. And that's what incapacitated him. And I was able to get him under
00:26:38.760 control. All of a sudden, nobody's laughing. Nobody's, nobody's thinking, Oh my God, they're
00:26:44.400 thinking, Oh, Hey, that's exactly what you need to do in a time like that. And you need to know when
00:26:50.340 to deploy something like that. Unfortunately, there's a lot of good information out there
00:26:56.920 shown in the wrong context. They show it in the context of a bar fight. They show it in the context
00:27:02.140 of all that's avoidable stuff that will absolutely get you arrested. If you're lucky enough to be
00:27:07.680 arrested at that point. And that's, and therefore what happens is general society looks at that
00:27:13.200 information and says, Oh, okay. I don't want to, I don't want to go to jail. So I'm going to dismiss
00:27:17.640 that because, you know, that is thug behavior. You know, with the challenges you have to put it in
00:27:24.080 the right context. And when it's in the right context, it becomes abundantly clear that this
00:27:28.820 is a skillset that's absolutely necessary. So training for this sort of thing, it's just slow
00:27:33.820 and deliberate. Like you're doing that slow motion fighting that you talked about, like play. I mean,
00:27:38.700 it looks like a slow motion movie fight. Basically that's what you're kind of, you're doing.
00:27:41.900 Yeah. And yeah. And no, that is, that is how you, that's how you set. That's how you begin.
00:27:46.260 Okay. So, so basically I go back to that firearms example because firearms is, is, is, is perfect.
00:27:51.840 Firearms training at first is extremely slow and deliberate because you got to get the feedback
00:27:56.640 before you can do all the cool combat shooting before you can do all of that stuff. You got to lock
00:28:01.960 everything in all your muscle movement and you got to make sure that you can consistently have
00:28:07.040 groupings that are, are consistent before you add in any dynamics. Okay. You know, you don't,
00:28:12.920 you don't add in moving and shooting at the same time. If you, you know, if you haven't mastered
00:28:17.300 static shooting yet, um, you can't have somebody engaging you back. You can't have force on force
00:28:22.380 like you were talking about until you know how to move and shoot and then move and shoot against
00:28:26.660 moving targets and you engage that. So you stair step somebody for success first and give them the
00:28:32.620 skill sets and then you can absolutely ramp it up and you can absolutely pressure. You know,
00:28:37.560 I hate to talk pressure test because I see what these idiots do for pressure testing in my industry
00:28:42.240 and it cracks me up. You know, it's like, Oh, I'm sitting at the bar and, and it comes at me.
00:28:47.240 So I glass them in the eye and I do, it's like, dude, just go to jail. You idiot. You know,
00:28:52.480 and people will dismiss that and it makes you feel good. It makes you feel like a tough guy. And
00:28:56.380 most of these guys would basically piss their pants if they ever were in a situation like that.
00:29:01.520 You know, their, their training is just ridiculous. It's not real. It's not, there's nothing realistic
00:29:06.220 about that because when you look at real violence, people don't operate that way. They don't go,
00:29:11.480 Hey you, well, and do all this. It's like a bunch of, it's like a bunch of sheep running around,
00:29:18.100 you know, yelling at each other, trying to pretend to be wolves. And then you see the wolf just kind of
00:29:21.880 standing in the background, you know, quietly slipping the knife out as he's just picking
00:29:26.840 who he wants. You know, that's the guy to worry about, not the loud mouth that's, that's running
00:29:31.960 around. The guy to worry about is that quiet little dude that just, you would never think
00:29:35.760 anything of, and he will easily slip out, you know, some sort of a device and just has no problem
00:29:41.380 putting it into you right away. You know, and, and that's the idea. When you understand how real
00:29:46.520 violence works, it's not about being bigger, faster, and stronger. You know, those things help.
00:29:50.960 Don't get me wrong. You know, I, I'm not saying that, but we have to assume that if we are facing,
00:29:56.120 if we personally are facing bigger, faster, and stronger, the person or persons coming against us,
00:30:01.380 that doesn't matter to them. They don't see that as a threat. So therefore, you know, you have to
00:30:07.440 be able to, you know, respond in a manner that bypasses, you know, having to be bigger, faster,
00:30:13.120 and stronger. You do that through injury and we've all experienced it. You know, I've got twin
00:30:17.840 daughters right now. They're one year, we're old and I have a three and a half year old boy
00:30:21.340 and they're just bundles of uncontrolled energy, you know, and you'll hold them and they'll throw
00:30:28.880 their heads back. They'll poke you in the eye. They'll do something that as a fully grown adult
00:30:33.860 will actually injure you at times, you know, temporarily. Yeah. But I mean, and it's not
00:30:39.100 intentional at all. Yeah. But you know, if we, if I sat there and I mean, the ridiculous scenario of
00:30:44.480 putting me in the ring with seeing my one-year-old daughter and, you know, a ref saying go, I think
00:30:49.960 we all know how that would turn out. But if I give that little girl the opportunity to poke me in the
00:30:57.680 eye, you know, because I don't feel a threat towards her. So I put something vulnerable close
00:31:02.860 to her and she can exploit it. She can easily injure me. You know, probably one of the things that grabbed
00:31:09.380 me when I was a kid, uh, was I used to read boxing books all the time. I, anything I could get on
00:31:14.400 boxing and Jack Dempsey has a great book that you can get on the internet for free. It's called
00:31:18.940 championship fighting. And one of the, one of the, the, um, graphics in it is literally a trucker,
00:31:25.760 you know, an old style trucker guy, you know, he says about a 200 pound trucker and it's this guy
00:31:30.360 kind of with a flat cap walking along, looks like an, you know, like a, like a trucker that you'd see
00:31:34.620 like in a three stooges comedy or something. And then there's this baby just falling on top of
00:31:39.720 his head. It's this picture of a baby falling on top of his head. And Dempsey's point was,
00:31:44.240 he said, even a 10 pound baby that falls out a two story window can easily take out a 200 pound
00:31:50.160 burly trucker, you know, coming out. And he was trying to show that, Hey, body weight into a part
00:31:56.120 of the body that can't take that is gonna, it's going to get you a huge result every time. And it does
00:32:02.220 not matter necessarily that the person is bigger, faster, and stronger because that part of their
00:32:08.400 body cannot take the trauma and they're going to have to physiologically react to that. And it's
00:32:13.460 going to take their brain out of the equation during that reaction to the trauma. We see it all
00:32:19.280 the times in sports, seeing combat sports all the time, guys will be going, you know, eight rounds of
00:32:23.940 hard boxing. And then somebody lands a liver punch. And here's this guy who's taken all this
00:32:29.040 non-specific trauma for eight rounds gets one shot to the liver and he just drops to his knees.
00:32:34.140 He's completely immobilized. You know, um, you see it all the time in MMA, you'll see a guy roll up
00:32:40.380 and snap a guy's ankle by accident. Um, and it's over at that point, you know, yet before that you
00:32:47.040 had guys viciously going after each other, really trying to compete. But as soon as injury enters the
00:32:52.080 game, the bigger, faster, stronger goes right out the window. So you've, uh, sort of alluded to this
00:32:57.420 throughout our conversation. Um, but how do you prepare psychologically or mentally for violent
00:33:04.520 attacks? Because it's like something that most people like won't experience in their life.
00:33:09.500 Right. You know, it's, it's a, I mean, we like the news makes it sound like the world is like a
00:33:14.640 really, really big, scary place, but generally you're not going to happen, but it's, it could
00:33:18.700 happen. Right. So you want to be prepared. How do you prepare for that? Right. Whenever you don't
00:33:24.440 face it on a daily or regular basis. Yeah. You basically, uh, like when my clients,
00:33:29.700 what I have them do is, uh, you know, uh, you there's, there's a couple of drills that you can
00:33:33.940 do. Um, one is when you watch an act of violence, be it movie, TV, internet, there's nothing to be
00:33:47.060 learned from the victim's point of view. So the idea of what most people do is they see a vicious
00:33:52.580 attack and they'll sit there and say, well, geez, you know, maybe if he had done this,
00:33:59.120 he could have avoided that strike, or maybe he could have done this. It's really interesting
00:34:03.460 when you went into the prison systems and we started interviewing some of the guys and
00:34:06.840 you show them an act of violence, they never see themselves on the receiving end ever.
00:34:14.920 They will only see themselves as the one successfully using the tool of violence.
00:34:21.280 And the only thing they will say is they'll either say, yeah, that's how I would have done it. Or
00:34:25.940 yeah, he's not as good. I would have done it this way. And so they see themselves making improvements
00:34:31.000 on the use of the tool in the situation. And there's a lot to be learned from that very uncomfortable
00:34:36.440 piece of knowledge. Meaning in your brain, you don't ever want to associate with a losing side of
00:34:41.740 violence. That's really what makes predators dangerous is they don't go into it with a defensive
00:34:46.140 mindset. They don't go into it with an idea that it could be done to them. Because again, that's not
00:34:51.840 a good survival mode. You want to go in with the idea, this is what I'm going to do to you. So you have
00:34:56.720 to focus on what you do to the other person versus that. Now it's a very good mental drill that you can
00:35:01.680 get involved in right away. It'll be extremely uncomfortable to most people at first, because it sounds
00:35:06.540 like you're validating the attack that's going on. And that's not the case at all. You're training your
00:35:11.400 mind to only look at violence from the successful side of it. How is it successfully used and what
00:35:16.840 can I learn from that? And it starts to inoculate you. From a training aspect, I've had tons of
00:35:24.100 people that have gone through that have never had an act of violence in their life, literally never
00:35:28.200 had a thought in their life. But because of the way this information was out, when the unthinkable
00:35:33.640 happened, they were able to go right into an injury, just one injury. And that led to another
00:35:38.180 injury that led to them saving their own life. It's the methodology of what you expose is, you know,
00:35:44.020 it's how you do it. You notice that when I was talking about the black gorilla family, they didn't
00:35:47.980 start out stabbing really hard and fast. They made sure they knew exactly where they wanted to go. They
00:35:53.640 wanted to know, okay, here's the vulnerable areas. Here's where we can get the best entry. Here's how we
00:35:57.880 can go. It wasn't until they had that well underway, that they started to employ dynamic movement into
00:36:04.180 it. And that's all I'm saying. I don't have a problem with people going hard in, you know,
00:36:09.980 quote unquote, pressure testing. But doing that prior to setting the skill set in is just, it's
00:36:15.780 just masturbation. You know, it doesn't do anything other than it makes you feel like, wow, I had a
00:36:20.560 rush. I went crazy. I went ballistic. I hit the Roby robot looking guy 50,000 times and, and all my
00:36:27.020 friends high five me, you know, I mean, it's, it's just, it's bullshit training. Yeah. That's all
00:36:32.760 there is because it doesn't replicate real violence. And, and you as a citizen, you don't have to live
00:36:38.300 it to be prepared for it. You just have to understand how the tool operates, you know, and
00:36:44.680 that's the most important thing. And then it starts to inoculate you towards it, you know?
00:36:48.600 So I guess a summary, like never see yourself as the defender, always see yourself as an attacker.
00:36:52.800 I don't, I don't even look at it as it's attacker and defender. Uh, you know, it's those terms that,
00:36:58.140 that look at people, uh, in violence as good guy, bad guy, you know, the attacker is always a bad
00:37:03.920 guy. Defender is always a good guy. That's bullshit. In violence, there's winners and losers and that's
00:37:09.140 it. And you always want to be identified on the winning side of violence. And that doesn't mean
00:37:14.280 you're condoning it. And it's, and like I said, let me emphasize this again, the best information
00:37:20.280 that you're going to find on how to use a tool of violence comes from the worst parts of society
00:37:24.980 because it's currency for them. So should you watch like footage of like gang fights or jail
00:37:32.660 fights? I mean, is that something that would be useful? It's extremely useful in the fact that you
00:37:37.200 can see, first of all, it blows through a lot of myths. Um, you can watch like a guy, uh, you can watch
00:37:44.180 some clips of guys instructing knife fighting, you know, like, uh, you know, just martial artists
00:37:50.040 or combat sport guys out there showing you how to use a knife and all the knife things.
00:37:53.880 And then you sit there and you watch an MS 13 member go in and shank some guy just hard and fast
00:38:01.100 and have them bleed out really fast. And you go, Oh my God, that looks nothing like what those idiots
00:38:05.500 were just showing me. And I will put the best quote unquote knife fighter in the world up against
00:38:11.560 an Aryan brother with a shank. And I know who I'm going to bet on. I know one guy knows how to kill.
00:38:17.940 I know another guy knows how to dance around and do things. And I'm not denigrating a lot of that.
00:38:23.060 Uh, it's just not realistic. That's okay to learn something for the art of what you're learning.
00:38:28.940 That's all right. I have no problem with that. There's a lot of great things you can learn.
00:38:33.040 Um, you know, learning how to use a, a sword using how to use different tools and weapons and,
00:38:38.680 and learning the history behind the art that you're learning. But to sit there and say,
00:38:43.480 that's how you would use it to save your life is just a fallacy.
00:38:47.380 All right. So here's a question I have for you. Whenever we write about combatives on the site,
00:38:51.640 uh, be it Krav Maga or something else like that. And, and you're using it to defend your life or the
00:38:57.580 life of a loved one. We always get a bunch of comments from dudes who will say something like,
00:39:03.200 I'll just shoot them with my gun. Right. Why learn a martial art, like target focus training
00:39:09.580 when, if you are carrying a gun, right, you're, you're concealed carry. Can't you just shoot the
00:39:13.780 guy? Okay. So I got a concealed carry. I got it in the maximum amount of States available. I'm
00:39:18.940 big on firearms. I have a, another firearms business here in Vegas, you know, a big, uh,
00:39:24.780 you know, machine gun Vegas, uh, that we have that you can shoot any kind of machine gun in the
00:39:29.320 world. I have guys that can build me anything legally that I want in the world. And let me just
00:39:34.460 tell you, and I also travel around the world and my concealed carry is pretty useless to me in most
00:39:39.700 parts of the world. Um, and I'm saying even the United States, because it's either not convenient
00:39:44.200 all the time. Even when I do carry, there's lots of good and free zones that you have to deal with.
00:39:48.120 And the reason we have to deal with that is because we are law abiding citizens.
00:39:52.900 And you just have to, you just have to realize that now, if I could drive it around in an M1 tank,
00:39:58.960 fully loaded every day, I'd do it. It would be fantastic, but that's, you know, just not realistic.
00:40:04.100 So I don't want people to think I'm anti firearms. I'm not at all. I'm very pro firearms.
00:40:08.980 What training in, uh, you know, something like target focus training does for you is every skill
00:40:14.700 set that you learn, at least with us translates directly to make you that much better with a
00:40:19.380 firearm. So the targeting that you get learning your brain, how, you know, how to use your brain to
00:40:25.660 identify the targets and then using the tools of your body to affect the injury on there gets you
00:40:31.580 into that idea of targeting, you know, the idea of constant targeting of effective areas of the human
00:40:35.980 body. And that just makes you that much better when you have something that can then project that
00:40:40.780 through distance with a firearm. Um, also there's lots of situations where if your first move is to
00:40:48.940 try to dig out your firearm, you're already done. They've already, they've already taken you out at
00:40:54.220 that point. Um, whereas it's very effective to know close in how to injure somebody first,
00:41:00.260 get them busy. And then it's very easy for you to deploy your firearm after that. Um, the problem
00:41:06.380 is most of the training where people show, you know, to get their gun, they show pushing or they show
00:41:12.000 really ineffective strikes, uh, that are not going to work if somebody is determined to get after you
00:41:18.240 at that point. Um, we did a huge thing, uh, with, uh, I have a bunch of friends in the Australian SAS
00:41:24.160 and they have a really good program on close in shooting. And it was amazing how synergistic
00:41:29.440 the TFT program and their close in shooting program was for the idea that as you close distance,
00:41:36.320 um, if the gun is not in your hand, it's not your first order of defense. Your first order is always
00:41:42.560 your body and getting out there. And so here are these guys that are at the highest level of tactical
00:41:47.920 training and they all feel that it's absolutely essential that you train your body first. You
00:41:53.280 train your mind first, coordinate your body, and then you can put tools into your body at that point.
00:41:58.960 You can, anything there. But if you, if you only are reliant on a tool, a firearm,
00:42:04.960 if that thing's not available to you, what do you have? You have nothing now. And so it just,
00:42:10.080 it just, you know, really just increases your, your abilities all around. If you, if you have
00:42:16.080 this information and you know how to deploy it with your, just your human machine. Yeah. Didn't
00:42:21.200 the FBI do a study where they found that like, it's like takes like five seconds to close like a 20 yard
00:42:27.520 gap. I mean, it was something like that, right? Where someone's really close to you. You really,
00:42:31.520 you don't have time to draw your gun. Yeah. It's a 21 foot rule. It's a tool or drill.
00:42:36.880 They talk about that. And what's interesting about that is I have a clip that I share with
00:42:41.040 people all the time. The guy that invented that, that drill that you're talking about,
00:42:46.080 the only reason they picked 21 feet was because that's how far they were shooting. They were
00:42:49.760 shooting seven yards. And the question was, Hey, if a guy, could a guy close distance in 21 yards
00:42:55.280 before you get your night, your gun out and shoot them. And they did that. And they quickly found that
00:42:58.960 the guys trying to deploy the weapon, even really good shooters, uh, were getting stabbed,
00:43:03.280 you know, um, uh, distantly. And so that it, the, the length actually goes even further if you,
00:43:11.760 you know, if you have your concealed carry in such a manner that you're not used to drawing it. So
00:43:16.640 how long does it take you to actually deploy your weapon at that point? And most people don't train
00:43:20.480 that. Um, what's interesting though, is the guys that take, that can take action out of the gate
00:43:26.320 without having to go to the tool first are usually the guys that ended up, you know,
00:43:31.280 taking out the threat. And, you know, what I mean is imminent dangers coming in a guy say,
00:43:37.520 I'll give you a perfect example. There was a SWAT, uh, there, there's a SWAT, uh, warrant that was
00:43:43.840 issued and SWAT team went in and cleared the house. They missed one area of the house. As the detectives
00:43:48.800 went in to guy kind of do the followup, uh, guy opened up a, a, uh, uh, closet door and a guy
00:43:56.640 literally came at him with an ax. His first move was to his holster and the ax just came right down
00:44:03.920 and split his skull and killed him, killed him right away. Had his first move been forward at that
00:44:09.760 point, attacking, you know, some vulnerable part of the guy's body, which he easily could have done.
00:44:14.400 Um, then, you know, this, the cop probably would still be alive today at that point. But again,
00:44:20.960 you'll do what you train. And if your first thing is, Hey, my only way to defend myself is if I,
00:44:25.280 if I reach down and get to this tool in a environment where it's just too close,
00:44:30.800 you know, you, you're just not going to get the result that you want.
00:44:32.960 Yeah. So tools don't win battles. People win battles, humans.
00:44:36.720 Yeah. Yeah. It's your, it's your, it's your mind for, you know, it sounds, it sounds like you were
00:44:41.840 doing semantics, but it's absolutely true. You have to train your mind, coordinate your body
00:44:46.640 first before you put any tool on it. And you have to be able to do it with just your human body first.
00:44:53.280 And then it's, and then tools are great because tools make the work that much easier. That's why
00:44:57.360 we put tools in our hands. They do something that our bare hands can't do, but we first have to know
00:45:02.400 what can our bare hands do and under what conditions can our bare hands help us?
00:45:06.080 All right. This is very good stuff. Um, so I know you're not a lawyer, um, but I'd like to get
00:45:10.880 your insights on the legal consequences of using, you know, pretty much lethal hand-to-hand force
00:45:17.840 on an attacker. Um, is that something someone should consider, uh, or keep in mind when they
00:45:23.760 do something, you know, when they protect themselves or should you just not care at all and just like,
00:45:27.680 okay, I gotta, I'll have to pay the defense attorney or whatever.
00:45:30.560 Yeah. Well, that, that's always, it's always smart. If you have a defense attorney, you know,
00:45:36.160 I know a lot of guys, um, advocate, you know, having somebody on retainer ahead of time just
00:45:40.640 to understand the laws in your specific area, you know, across the U S the castle law is pretty,
00:45:45.840 um, pretty prominent, meaning you as a citizen, I'm not talking about a, uh, a professional like
00:45:54.000 a police officer, military, anybody like that, but, but as a citizen, uh, being attacked, you have
00:45:59.920 pretty much carte blanche to protect yourself. If you're in imminent danger, if your life is
00:46:04.560 literally on the line, you really feel that your life is on the line, then you have justified means
00:46:09.120 to protect yourself up to, you know, killing the individual. Now, what's interesting is the methods
00:46:14.560 that we teach with, with target focus, you're always going for the response, meaning, you know,
00:46:19.760 you see what you're doing. You understand when you go to these parts of the human body,
00:46:22.960 if you're successful, here's what you're doing in the human body. You're not going to do anything
00:46:27.280 that's going to go against your moral code. I mean, you're not going to just murder somebody,
00:46:30.480 you know, you may end up killing somebody, but it's a very different term. Killing is a justified,
00:46:35.280 um, uh, stance, whereas murder is never justified. Um, so you familiarize yourself with that,
00:46:44.320 but the way you keep yourself out of a lot of the problems is avoiding the avoidable. The people that
00:46:49.680 really get themselves in gray areas are these people that use violence in a situation that when
00:46:54.720 you're explaining to the judge just seems ridiculous. You know, uh, the one years ago,
00:47:00.240 I don't know if, if you heard of this one, but it was a hockey dad and like early two thousands,
00:47:05.280 um, a dad, he's a big guy was watching his hockey coach, uh, you know, coach his kid.
00:47:11.840 And he thought the coach was just really abusive. And at one point he grabbed his son on the ice and
00:47:17.920 was yelling at him and just, he thought the dad just thought he was too violent. Well,
00:47:20.880 he jumped over onto the ice, went over there, grabbed the hockey, the, the hockey coach,
00:47:26.640 and they got into it right then and there fighting. When the hockey coach hit the guy to the face,
00:47:32.240 he, the, the, the father jumped on top of the guy and got him to the ground. And then just
00:47:37.360 repeatedly started like grabbing his shoulders and slamming the guy, you know, back and forth,
00:47:42.560 you know, kind of, uh, you know, like in almost in a schoolyard way, you know, he's on top of him,
00:47:46.480 just slamming him. What he didn't realize was every time he slammed him,
00:47:49.600 he was slamming the back of his skull against the ice. He ended up, the guy ended up going to
00:47:54.240 a coma and dying. And, you know, he, obviously that family lost their dad. The other family
00:48:00.800 lost their dad demands involuntary manslaughter, seven years in prison over a situation that yes,
00:48:06.640 is it hard for me as a father to see somebody be, you know, what I think is abusive to my son
00:48:10.800 and over the top. Yeah. But does it pass the three day test? It, it doesn't. Um, and so that incident
00:48:19.120 is, is something where, you know, inadvertent expectations, you have no idea. Once you cross
00:48:24.480 that physical plane, you put your hands on somebody, it can go anywhere and you have to
00:48:28.880 be prepared for that. And you have to sit there and say, okay, is it justified for me to take
00:48:33.680 action in this? Is this something that I don't, you know, I don't have choice here. I'm, I'm facing
00:48:37.280 grievous bodily harm. Um, in that case, again, I'm not a lawyer, but in that case, and in my
00:48:43.600 experience, you're, you're in great territory. We just had a 52 year old dentist who came through
00:48:49.360 training, never trained in martial arts or anything before came to us, went through one of our weekend
00:48:53.680 courses, got all of this done. Four weeks later, he walks in on a Sunday to his practice just because
00:49:01.120 he wanted to do some paperwork, catch up for the week, sees this guy breaking into his pharmacy,
00:49:07.520 realizes right away the guy draws a knife, charges him. And this guy goes, Oh my God,
00:49:11.840 this is it. This is exactly what they're talking about. No communication is asocial.
00:49:15.920 He was able to drop and he saw as the guy was coming in, he was able to strike him to the side of
00:49:21.760 the neck. Uh, the guy dropped the knife. And as he dropped the knife, he grabbed the guy's head.
00:49:26.240 He rammed it into the door jam and dropped them. The guy dropped down. And just when he was about to
00:49:32.640 do the next strike where he thought he was going to stomp them, uh, you know, like in the throat area,
00:49:36.880 because that's where the guy dropped. He realized, Oh, Hey, the guy's completely non-functional.
00:49:41.360 He's out cold. I don't have to do this. And he recognized it right away. Now we didn't show him
00:49:48.240 grabbing the head and ramming it into the door jam. He just understood that, Hey, that would produce a
00:49:53.680 useful injury to me at that point. He understood the principles of injury to the human body.
00:49:58.320 He also understood when it was over at that point and was able to do that. And we've had
00:50:04.000 tons of civilian clients that have had the same experience, meaning they had to take action
00:50:10.080 and they were able to stop and recognize the point where the other person was non-functional,
00:50:14.960 no longer a threat. And they were completely justified. What was interesting was in that one
00:50:18.560 I told you about when the cops showed up and they saw this guy's rap sheet, who he was,
00:50:23.200 they looked at the, they looked at this dentist and they said, you would have been absolutely
00:50:26.720 justified in killing him. He said, this guy's there. And it was, it really set the dentist back.
00:50:32.000 You know, he didn't really expect the cops to say that, but that's exactly what they told him.
00:50:35.840 Wow. That that's crazy. Um, all right, Tim. So, uh, we've been talking for a while and I know your
00:50:41.040 time is short, but so let's wrap it up before we go. Um, where can folks learn more about your work?
00:50:44.800 And do you have anything, you mentioned that you're working on a book, uh, any insights about
00:50:48.880 that? What's going to be in it? Yeah, I'm working on a book that really talks about the, the subject
00:50:52.880 of violence and really helps clarify, uh, you know, the different approaches, you know,
00:50:56.960 the different approaches from the combat sport world. I have tons of friends in the combat sport
00:51:00.160 world and they've shared their insights on how that applies to real violence. Then the military
00:51:05.200 and law enforcement community. Um, I have a lot of friends that I'm interviewing right now,
00:51:08.960 and they're sharing their methods and principles and, and challenges on how to, uh,
00:51:13.760 train their people to deal with real violence. And then I'm going right into the heart of the,
00:51:18.880 the, you know, the situation and I'm talking to, uh, the prison gangs and contacts within the prison
00:51:26.080 gangs on how they look at violence and how they use violence as a currency. And I'm comparing and
00:51:30.720 contrasting all that information. And it should be, uh, again, it, the, the goal of the book is to,
00:51:37.600 is to really just talk about the subject and get it out of this idea that it's a stigmatized subject,
00:51:42.400 meaning we've stigmatized violence so much in the last 50 years that the only people that have
00:51:48.480 access to the tools are the worst parts of society, the predators. And because we've,
00:51:53.520 we've told ourselves that it's bad to learn that this information, uh, we don't have it available to
00:51:59.760 us when we're being attacked. And again, it also take care of a lot of unnecessary violence. I truly
00:52:06.240 believe the more trained people are in this type of information, the much more peaceful society will
00:52:11.520 have. It's interesting. All right. Well, that's awesome. Well, I'm looking forward to working.
00:52:15.600 Uh, do you have, you have, you have a website, right? Where can people go?
00:52:17.840 Yeah. Yeah. You can get me. It's either, either two places, uh, timlarkin.com, just my name or
00:52:23.120 targetfocustraining.com. Either place will get you lots of free information. I would suggest anybody
00:52:29.600 just signing up for, you know, I'd love to sell you products. I'd love to sell you my book, but really,
00:52:34.240 uh, if this was interesting to you and you want more information, there's a lot of free content.
00:52:38.960 If you just sign up for our, uh, you know, our newsletter and, um, you know, take the time to
00:52:44.320 really read about this. And then, you know, if you like it and you see a product that makes sense,
00:52:48.400 there's lots of great stuff there. Awesome. Well, Tim Larkin, thank you so much for your time. It's
00:52:52.560 been a pleasure. Thank you, Brett. Our guest today was Tim Larkin. Tim is a self-defense instructor
00:52:58.160 and the creator of target focus training, as well as the author of several books on self-defense.
00:53:03.040 You can find out more information about Tim and his program at targetfocustraining.com.
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