The Art of Manliness - July 31, 2025


The Wisdom of Psychopaths


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When most people think of psychopaths, they think of uniformly monstrous characters who lack empathy and conscience. But my guest says that those characteristics are just one part of the spectrum of traits that make up psychopathy, and while always having these traits turned up high is indeed bad when employed to certain degrees in certain circumstances, they can actually be utilized for adaptive positive ends.


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00:00:00.000 brett mckay here and welcome to another edition of the art of manliness podcast
00:00:10.840 when most people think of psychopaths they think of uniformly monstrous characters who lack empathy
00:00:16.100 and conscience but my guest says that those characteristics are just one part of the spectrum
00:00:20.320 of traits that make up psychopathy and while always having these traits turned up high is
00:00:24.100 indeed bad when employed to certain degrees in certain circumstances they can actually be
00:00:28.680 utilized for adaptive positive ends kevin dutton is a researcher of experimental psychology at
00:00:33.660 oxford and the author of the wisdom of psychopaths what saints spies and serial killers can teach us
00:00:39.640 about success taylor show kevin first defines what makes psychopaths psychopaths and how they differ
00:00:45.000 from sociopaths he describes how psychopathic traits can be especially useful in some professions
00:00:49.860 in which professions attract the most psychopaths in the second half of our conversation kevin lays
00:00:55.180 out his argument for why he thinks the apostle paul was a psychopath and how that's actually what
00:00:59.480 made him such an effective evangelist at the end of our conversation kevin offers a test that
00:01:03.980 assesses psychopathy stay tuned to find out if i'm a psychopath and take the test yourself to see if you
00:01:08.820 are after the show's over check out our show notes at awim.is slash psychopath
00:01:13.060 all right kevin dutton welcome to the show thanks for having me brett it's really good to be here so
00:01:36.240 you are a research psychologist and you've written a book called the wisdom of psychopaths which is
00:01:41.520 about the lessons that non-psychopaths can get from psychopaths and i'm sure people are like what
00:01:47.300 aren't psychopaths not good people but let's let's talk about what is what makes a psychopath a
00:01:52.320 psychopath i think that's a word we throw around a lot like oh that guy's a real psychopath but uh
00:01:56.500 there's an actual that that means something so what does it mean yeah i mean it's true isn't it bro i'm
00:02:02.860 glad i'm glad we've kicked off with that question i mean psychopath is one of these words i mean it's
00:02:07.720 so ubiquitous these days that is almost losing its meaning you know and it's true isn't it when most
00:02:14.000 people hear the word psychopath they instantly think of on the silver screen serial killers like
00:02:19.500 Hannibal Lecter and in real life of course people like ted bundy but actually when psychologists like
00:02:24.500 myself talk about psychopaths we're in fact referring to a distinct subset of individuals with a
00:02:30.440 specific constellation of personality characteristics such as ruthlessness fearlessness mental toughness
00:02:38.400 self-confidence coolness under pressure emotional detachment focus charm charisma and of course those
00:02:45.960 trademark deficits in conscience and empathy that you hear so much about now none of these traits of
00:02:51.560 characteristics is necessarily a problem in itself in fact all of them dialed up at the right levels and
00:02:57.400 deployed within the right context can actually prove rather useful the key lies in context and level so
00:03:05.140 for example imagine that those qualities that i've just outlined for you comprise the dials on a studio
00:03:11.540 mixing desk of personality that may be twiddled up and down in various combinations right now if you use
00:03:17.600 that analogy you arrive at two conclusions the first is that there is no one definitive correct setting
00:03:24.860 which these dials may be positioned but rather it will invariably depend on timing upon the particular
00:03:30.960 set of circumstances you might happen to find yourself in okay and we'll come to that a little
00:03:35.340 bit later the second conclusion that you can draw is that there are certain jobs or professions which by
00:03:41.660 their very nature demand that some of these mixing desk dials be turned up just a little bit higher than
00:03:47.160 average demand what we might call some precision engineered psychopathy okay so for example
00:03:52.600 imagine you've got the skill set to be a top surgeon but that you lack the ability to emotionally
00:03:59.780 disengage from the person that you're operating on you're not going to cut it are you well quite
00:04:04.360 literally imagine you've got the skill set to be a top lawyer but that you lack that almost pathological
00:04:10.700 self-confidence and narcissism to be the center of attention in the middle of a packed courtroom again
00:04:15.880 it's not going to work is it imagine you've got the strategic and financial smarts to be a top
00:04:21.280 business person but you lack the ruthlessness to fire someone if they're underperforming or the
00:04:27.360 coolness under pressure to ride out a storm or the sheer balls necessary to take a calculated risk
00:04:34.180 when appropriate now those characteristics that i've just outlined for you there ruthlessness
00:04:38.680 fearlessness self-confidence coolness under pressure and emotional detachment comprise five
00:04:46.420 core characteristics of the psychopathic personality so you can see where the title of the book was coming
00:04:53.240 from i wouldn't say that those characteristics those psychopathic characteristics were necessarily
00:04:57.640 dysfunctional in those particular contexts in those particular professions they can be but it all if we go
00:05:06.140 back to that mixing desk dial analogy it all comes down to the context in which the personality traits are
00:05:12.740 used the combination in which they're used in the levels at which they're dialed up and of course the
00:05:19.580 intention with which they're used so that's basically what a psychopath is is somebody who's high on those
00:05:26.380 characteristics they're not necessarily bad as you can see in some professions those kinds of
00:05:32.260 characteristics will predispose you to success in forensic settings in case you're wondering about that
00:05:39.240 and how you might be diagnosed as a psychopath well in forensic settings it's kind of different
00:05:43.620 story if you're referred to a psychiatrist a forensic psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist say within a
00:05:49.900 prison setting you are diagnosed as a psychopath usually by being given a test called the psychopathy
00:05:58.880 checklist which is devised by the father of modern psychopathy research bob hair
00:06:04.620 canadian famous canadian psychologist and of a maximum score of 40 on that test it's usually around
00:06:10.640 a cutoff of 30 that you need to score above in order to be diagnosed as a psychopath in general
00:06:18.660 terms in terms of if we're diagnosing or we're rating people within the general population to see where they
00:06:26.660 might figure on the psychopathic spectrum we use other kinds of tests brett but in forensic settings
00:06:34.500 it tends to be the hair checklist which is the standard instrument of choice and if you're
00:06:39.060 interested perhaps a bit later on i've devised i've devised my own test actually which is a very
00:06:44.940 accurate test only lasts about two minutes to see where you are on the psychopathic spectrum so if
00:06:51.960 we've got time a little bit later on we can do it we can see where you are and perhaps where your
00:06:56.300 listeners are as well so you'll need a pen and paper or a mobile phone to keep a track of your score as
00:07:00.960 we're going through it but uh but yeah if we've got time a bit later on we can do it all right yeah
00:07:04.840 we'll definitely do i want to see if i'm a psychopath so psychopathy it's a personality
00:07:09.200 disorder it's not like depression or anxiety where those are like mood disorders and it's a cluster of
00:07:15.300 different things it's not just one thing it's a whole bunch of different things there's also a
00:07:18.920 diagnosis that you write about anti-social personality disorder that's similar to psychopathy
00:07:24.380 how are they similar but how are they different yeah many people confuse aspd anti-social personality
00:07:32.080 disorder with psychopathic personality disorder um and also in the mix is sociopathy okay so it's
00:07:41.060 really interesting this because i tell you what let me give you a demonstration sort of show rather
00:07:46.620 than tell imagine that you met me in a bar right and say you i don't know bumped into me in a bar
00:07:53.000 spilt your drink over me annoyed me in some way something like that if i was somebody say with
00:07:59.240 anti-social personality disorder which is basically akin to sociopathy or what we might call secondary
00:08:06.100 psychopathy i might react very violently to that i might instantly smash a bottle over your head i might
00:08:14.240 punch you um i might be instantly violent towards you i might then be arrested taken off to the police
00:08:22.120 station and later on i might regret my actions so in other words what i've done i've reacted to that
00:08:30.820 situation in a very impulsive volatile way and that tends to epitomize and characterize anti-social
00:08:40.360 personality disorder sufferers or people with sociopathy the two are pretty much interchangeable
00:08:47.220 however if i was somebody who was what we might call a primary psychopath i might not react at all
00:08:55.260 however if perhaps i saw that when you spilt your drink over me you had a wallet full of twenty dollar
00:09:02.380 bills then what i might do is i might wait for the bar to close or i might wait for you to leave
00:09:09.680 and then i might you know approach you outside down a dark alley put a knife in you
00:09:14.600 for your trouble and take your wallet and disappear but i would do it in a very calculated premeditated
00:09:21.360 cool calm and collected way so the main difference between a psychopath and someone with aspd or sociopathy
00:09:29.920 or what we might call secondary psychopathy brett is that psychopaths tend to respond and sociopaths or
00:09:39.460 aspd sufferers tend to react you know there was one psychopath a primary psychopath who i once
00:09:47.700 interviewed who put it really well and he said professor dutton i didn't really ever set out to hurt
00:09:55.220 anybody it was just collateral damage so in other words if i want something you've got and you get in
00:10:02.820 my way then you might get hurt so psychopathic violence is what we call instrumental brett it's a
00:10:11.840 means to an end whereas sociopathic violence tends to be more reactive to the situation sociopaths tend
00:10:22.240 to have more of a conscience they do experience remorse whereas psychopaths as i say are very premeditated
00:10:29.300 very instrumental very cold and emotionless reptilian you might say and don't have that remorse and
00:10:36.820 empathy so that's the difference between the two but generally speaking brett when journalists or say
00:10:43.260 non-scientific writers use the term sociopath and psychopath they do use them interchangeably
00:10:50.120 okay but there is a difference what percentage of the population might be labeled as psychopaths
00:10:56.280 yeah it's um roughly about one percent of the population there's um a slight difference in
00:11:03.780 estimates but it's usually estimated between three quarters of a percent and about one and a
00:11:08.720 half percent so the average being about one percent oh so okay about one percent of the population
00:11:13.440 are psychopathic what percentage of criminals are psychopathic yeah more there's more criminals that
00:11:19.760 are psychopathic brett roughly between 15 to 20 percent in a general kind of prison environment
00:11:28.160 would be psychopathic but of course you know the other thing about that is we don't know that they're
00:11:35.120 the criminals that have been caught right and this has always been you know an issue that i've brought
00:11:40.360 up you know we don't know how many criminals out there that haven't been caught a psychopathic
00:11:46.200 because they're the good ones so um although i don't mean good they're the ones who evaded
00:11:51.080 detection so roughly about 15 to 20 percent of incarcerated criminals are psychopaths but if we
00:11:58.580 take the view that actually the really skilled criminals haven't been caught yet it's impossible
00:12:04.520 to put a number on it so i've read these of course this is anecdotal what i've read but from
00:12:10.020 psychologists and counselors and therapists that they've actually seen an uptick in the number of
00:12:14.020 people coming to them with personality disorders so it could be borderline personality disorder
00:12:18.300 narcissistic personality disorder is something similar going on with psychopaths well it's remained
00:12:24.200 pretty stable i mean there's different kinds of i mean it is important to remember that when we talk
00:12:30.180 about someone who's who's one percent of the population we're talking about like you know genuine
00:12:35.040 pure what we might call criminal psychopaths i mean there's other it's interesting actually that um
00:12:42.140 you know studies have been done in the corporate sphere and actually the estimates in the corporate
00:12:49.120 sphere are actually higher studies have shown the data comes out as a little bit higher of the
00:12:54.240 incidence of psychopathy and the corporate or business sphere than in the general population
00:12:57.980 so estimates in the corporate sphere vary from between four to twelve percent which is probably not
00:13:05.960 going to come a surprise to too many of the listeners but i mean i think generally speaking
00:13:10.760 and you know psychologists like myself have this conversation i think you know if you look at
00:13:15.500 society in general and you compare it today to maybe how it was say 30 or 40 years ago i would say that
00:13:24.020 certainly society in general might be considered further along the psychopathic spectrum than it might
00:13:31.060 have been a few years ago i think you know look stating the obvious i think social media has got quite a bit
00:13:36.340 to do with that the anonymity of social media but also the pace of life has become much faster
00:13:43.300 everything from you know household objects to friends have become disposable and transient
00:13:49.020 so you know in general it wouldn't surprise me i don't have the figures off the top of my head about
00:13:54.920 any upticks in psychopathic personality disorder but it wouldn't surprise me one bit if people are
00:14:01.460 generally scoring higher on tests of psychopathy than they say would have done say 30 years ago
00:14:07.840 so you mentioned that a disproportionate amount of people who work in the corporate world are
00:14:13.560 psychopaths but a surprising one so you've looked at the correlation between career fields and psychopathy
00:14:19.400 and clergymen tend to rate high on psychopathy what's going on there do you think
00:14:25.680 well you tell me um when um yeah you're referring to a survey i did which became rather famous back in
00:14:34.640 um back in i think it was about 2014 called the great bridge psychopath survey brett and i was on a
00:14:40.800 radio show over here in the uk and i put out a call i actually put out a little test on the radio show's
00:14:48.680 website pretty similar to the test that we're going to do a bit later on here on on your show
00:14:52.980 and what i got people to do was to obviously fill out the questionnaire to answer the questions they
00:14:59.200 would then get their psychopath score so to speak and in return they would let me know what their
00:15:04.580 occupations were and well i didn't realize how popular this was actually going to be and it turned
00:15:11.200 out that low thousands of people filled out this questionnaire had i known it was going to be so
00:15:17.040 popular i would have probably done it in a more scientific fashion but um it was good enough to get some
00:15:22.180 pretty good data and it turned out that i've got the uh of the top of my head number one the most
00:15:30.260 psychopathic profession was ceo number two came in lawyers i think three was the media four i think
00:15:38.160 was sale surgeons came in at five the police were in there at some point a clergy i think came in at number
00:15:47.080 eight now at the time of course that did surprise me however being crude and being you know totally
00:15:56.320 realistic about it the church is just like any other business it involves uh power structures and
00:16:03.680 hierarchies and you know if you want to get to the top of that what it's pretty much like getting to
00:16:09.720 the top of any other business the same skill sets are needed and especially when you've got a business
00:16:15.580 where the merchandise is something ineffable like god and you're dealing with having power real power
00:16:23.800 over people's lives which is um you know apparently you know backed by a divine being then actually that's
00:16:33.480 quite a fertile environment for people high on the psychopathic spectrum who perhaps have rather dubious
00:16:40.020 motives to thrive in now one senior clergyman when i was in cambridge once said i have to say
00:16:46.920 one of the most chilling things that anyone has ever said to me in all my years of working in this field
00:16:53.380 and he turned around to me and he said kevin i don't believe in god i'm just good at him
00:16:58.940 and i'll never forget that brett i mean look i'm not hey we're not here to dig out church people
00:17:04.220 right there's always going to be one or two rotten apples in any barrel but i mean when you've got
00:17:09.060 people saying that to you is quite a senior figure in the church actually you tend as time goes on not
00:17:16.380 to be surprised that clergy are uh are up there in the top 10. So what separates you know there's
00:17:22.860 successful psychopaths like there's lawyers who are doing great neurosurgeons ceos they're not committing
00:17:28.240 crimes so what separates the psychopaths who direct their those traits to i would say adaptive ends
00:17:35.780 as opposed to ones who use them for maladaptive ends yeah you know well actually coming back to
00:17:42.540 surgeons i mean you mentioned surgeons there and i'll tell you something quite interesting i was doing
00:17:46.980 a talk a few years ago and there was a surgeon in the audience who came up to me afterwards
00:17:52.620 and he said i think you might be being a little bit generalistic in including surgeons in the list
00:18:00.500 he said i've got he's got no doubt he wasn't trying to defend surgery he said he's got no doubt at all
00:18:04.980 that you know psychopathic characteristics are important in the operating theater but he said
00:18:10.880 maybe it's a little bit more nuanced and he said he wouldn't be surprised if we did a study that
00:18:17.360 we'd find that out of i think there's 11 or 12 surgical disciplines within the umbrella term surgery
00:18:22.920 he said he probably wouldn't be surprised to find that there were differences amongst the surgical
00:18:31.460 disciplines and we began doing a study with the help of this guy actually actually covid kind of got
00:18:38.180 in the way of it and halted it so we should really should get back to it but actually it turns out
00:18:43.100 that there are three of those surgical disciplines which are really quite high on the psychopathic
00:18:49.960 spectrum higher than the others one you've mentioned is neurosurgery probably no surprise there you've
00:18:56.660 got you know differences in distance between crucial capillaries and veins in the brain are in the
00:19:04.180 order of fractions of a millimeter if you get it wrong you could kill someone or you could blind them
00:19:10.460 or incapacitate them for life so you know you really are walking a high wire surgical high wire there
00:19:17.000 and the second of the disciplines is cardiothoracic surgery again probably no surprise but the third one
00:19:24.640 did surprise me actually although not so much now i know it and i'm sure um you're going to have people
00:19:29.100 listening in who are going to get this and the third one was orthopedic surgery orthopedic surgeons have
00:19:34.320 to do some pretty nasty things to people they use drills they have to break bones they have to
00:19:40.120 crunch bones you know that's even though you're trying to heal someone and make them better you've
00:19:45.900 got to do some pretty nasty things to them so neurosurgery cardiothoracic surgery and orthopedic
00:19:51.280 surgery are the three leaders among the surgical disciplines but i think your question was what's the
00:19:58.080 difference between psychopaths who turn out all right and psychopaths who kind of go down the take the
00:20:03.440 the bad route you know what brett it comes down to something really simple as you know what kind of
00:20:10.520 background you grew up in and you came from i mean let's this gets very complicated so i always use a
00:20:16.860 kind of a simple analogy i always use an analogy of a bullet and a gun okay so let's say that the bullet
00:20:22.940 in a gun is your dna right it's your let's say that's your genetic predisposition to be a psychopath
00:20:30.520 okay now guns don't fire on their own right okay so you need a finger on the trigger to fire the gun
00:20:37.060 or in terms of our analogy to make that dna become live um now that finger on the trigger of the
00:20:46.600 psychopathy gun is usually some abusive or aversive incident or set of incidences in your formative years
00:20:58.160 as a child so it could be coming from a violent dysfunctional alcoholic home broken family emotional
00:21:07.940 abuse physical abuse sexual abuse you could have got a devastating rejection at a formative period of
00:21:16.220 your life you might not have had a good education you might come from a very poor family background
00:21:23.420 and you didn't have the right role models all kinds of stuff like that if you have that kind of
00:21:31.340 background that kind of start in life and you've got that bullet in the gun then it's likely you might
00:21:38.380 end up taking the kind of the criminal route especially if you are also aggressive by nature okay
00:21:45.520 however if you've got that bullet in the gun and you come from and by the way this isn't an exact
00:21:52.020 science by the way we all know people that have come from you know really really really rough
00:21:56.100 backgrounds that aren't haven't to who psychopathic who haven't turned out that way and we also know
00:22:00.580 people who come from very good backgrounds who turn out to be bad apples but generally speaking if
00:22:05.980 you've got that bullet in the gun and you come from a really good family background a loving family
00:22:11.040 background you have a good education you have good role models then you might take a different route
00:22:17.060 all together the famous reuters headline once put it you might be more likely to make a killing in
00:22:22.220 the market than anywhere else so it's pretty much background especially formative experiences in your
00:22:29.480 background as a child that tend to interact with genetics well you even kind of to highlight the
00:22:35.700 biological component of psychopathy you turned yourself temporarily into a psychopath with magnets in
00:22:42.820 your brain can you walk us through that well i'm glad you said temporarily there brett i mean i think
00:22:47.840 my missus my my my immeasurably superior other half might disagree with that but um uh yeah i mean it was
00:22:54.560 um it was a a bet that i entered into with a very good friend of mine andy mcnab who's an ex-british
00:23:01.720 special forces soldier who is a psychopath many people who are in special forces are high on the
00:23:08.840 psychopathic spectrum perhaps not surprisingly and andy andy and i went head to head on a task to see
00:23:15.680 who would be cooler under pressure and so what this task involved was being wired up to various
00:23:23.880 physiological measures such as a galvanic skin response which measures your sweat rate an index of
00:23:29.360 anxiety also your heart rate stuff like that all indexes of anxiety and we were sat in front of a
00:23:37.400 computer screen which played cut a long story short some extremely horrific images uh very very gruesome
00:23:45.480 images and we were then monitored to see where our physiological responses would end up and andy's
00:23:53.500 were just flatlining there was hardly anything going on pretty much the gold standard test for a
00:23:59.000 psychopath you know my physiological responses were going through the roof so you know if you looked at
00:24:05.560 the graph at the end of it my physiological responses were like the new york skyline you know up and down
00:24:10.760 up and down up and down whereas andy's were pretty much flatlining so that was stage one of the
00:24:15.240 experiments stage two of the experiment was i underwent a technique which a colleague of mine subjected me
00:24:21.140 to is one of the world experts in it called transcranial magnetic stimulation now very briefly for your
00:24:27.260 listeners brett not to go into too many details about this if you imagine your brain cells as being like
00:24:33.420 the hairs on your head well if you want to get a different hairstyle you basically comb your hair
00:24:39.320 into a different style well you can kind of do that with neurons using electromagnetic pulses you can
00:24:45.340 kind of give yourself an electromagnetic neural comb over so you've got a different neural hairstyle as it
00:24:51.180 were within your head but just like normal hairstyles it doesn't last long if you just do it once
00:24:56.100 it will soon go back to your usual style so transcranial magnetic stimulation involves putting a helmet on
00:25:02.300 your head and you target various areas of your brain that you are interested in stimulating in my case it was
00:25:11.260 the areas to do with emotion and empathy we needed to turn them down my colleagues subjected me to the
00:25:19.260 electromagnetic comb over as it were and then i sat the test again in other words i looked at these
00:25:27.240 horrific gruesome images and when i was looking at them this time whereas before i found them you know
00:25:33.720 truly horrific it was very difficult to kind of not suppress a smile this time now my readings my
00:25:42.380 psychophysiological readings still weren't as cool or as flat as my special forces friend andy so i did
00:25:50.500 have to buy him a few drinks and dinner that night but they were dramatically reduced from the new york
00:25:55.260 skyline that they were before and basically the effect lasted for about 45 minutes afterwards as well
00:26:03.840 and you know people have often asked me what it feels like and it feels like you know you have five or
00:26:08.420 six shots of jack daniels but without that kind of you know sluggishness or tiredness or lack of focus
00:26:16.060 that you get it was kind of like you know you couldn't really care what happened but you didn't
00:26:21.780 lose your focus i think i wrote at the time it was a line that people picked up on it was like my entire
00:26:27.360 brain had been spring cleaned or like put in a washer dryer and had come out completely different and i
00:26:34.680 remember afterwards there was a driving video game at the time which was in the student bar
00:26:39.740 which i had a go at and beat my previous score because obviously i was whizzing around corners i
00:26:44.560 wasn't caring somebody had left some money on the table to pay for a dinner they'd left and i felt very
00:26:50.340 much like taking that money i didn't by the way it was a very very interesting experience so yeah i guess
00:26:58.700 i guess i know what it's like to feel like a temporary psychopath anyway yeah so the psychopath's
00:27:05.060 brain is different from a regular person's brain non-psychopathic brain we're gonna take a quick
00:27:10.160 break for your words from our sponsors and now back to the show well going back to this idea that
00:27:20.120 psychopathy can be useful and be positive you use this example and people are gonna be like this is
00:27:26.040 crazy but you make the case that the apostle paul may have been a psychopath now we have been able
00:27:32.960 you you haven't given them test so all we have this is speculative we're basing on the historical
00:27:37.880 record but what's the case that the apostle paul might have been a psychopath and how that might
00:27:44.480 have made him greatest evangelizer of christianity yeah well a couple of things that let me let me
00:27:51.220 first of all pick you up on a point there brett uh you said that there's you know haven't tested him
00:27:56.080 there's no psychological evidence actually i have in a manner of speaking so you don't you don't just
00:28:00.820 have to take my word for this but you're absolutely right you know i'm really glad not many people ask
00:28:07.080 me about some paul it's one of my favorite topics i would have loved to have met the guy i mean there
00:28:12.180 is no doubt whatsoever he was a psychopath and very high on the psychopathic spectrum now i know that's
00:28:18.260 going to come as a shock to some of your listeners you know the founder of western christianity
00:28:22.160 before he turned into stained glass was a brutal narcissistic psychopath but he was and i have often
00:28:30.740 called saint paul the patron saint of psychopaths that's not to dig him out in any way i'm a great
00:28:35.940 admirer of saint paul it's just stating the fact so let me go back to how i came by this diagnosis
00:28:42.920 it's really interesting so the the tagline of the book wisdom of psychopaths is lessons in life
00:28:47.800 from saints spies and serial killers and when i first submitted to the publisher the publishers
00:28:52.580 were very very nervous about including saint paul in there because they thought it was going to
00:28:57.380 alienate vast swathes of of the public especially in america but i was absolutely adamant that i had
00:29:03.780 the data and i was very confident in this and it was something i felt very passionate about
00:29:08.500 and the publisher backed me and hence the the famous tagline so actually when i say don't take my
00:29:15.440 word for it when i was at university of oxford a few years ago i was surrounded by some of the
00:29:23.660 world's top biographers of people famous historical personages now some of these well all of these
00:29:31.240 biographers had studied the people that they were experts in for years and years and years and probably
00:29:35.800 knew those people better than they knew themselves so it suddenly dawned on me i was very interested to
00:29:41.500 find out where famous historical personages might feature on the psychopathic spectrum so i contrived a
00:29:51.180 way of doing this and i thought well okay imagine if i were to give a psychometric test of psychopathy
00:29:58.580 especially devised psychometric test of psychopathy that are used say for members of the general public and
00:30:03.260 we touched on that earlier imagine if i were to give these psychometric instruments to the world's
00:30:10.800 top biographers of famous historical personages people who knew these personages better than they
00:30:16.780 knew themselves and said hey fill this questionnaire out not on behalf of yourself obviously but on behalf
00:30:24.220 of the person you are an expert on it struck me as a scientist that actually i would probably get quite
00:30:31.000 an accurate reading on people but just to make sure for each historical personage that i profiled
00:30:37.860 i got two academic experts to do it and then i looked at the correlation between the ratings from
00:30:43.420 both of them and obviously if they were way out then you can pretty much say well okay there's you
00:30:47.880 know perhaps not that reliable but um actually i didn't find any that were too great a discrepancy
00:30:54.560 and saint paul was obviously one of the people who i profile gave two academic experts the questionnaire
00:31:01.840 to fill out on behalf of saint paul and he came in very high on the psychopathic spectrum and i mean
00:31:08.740 look it's not surprising first of all if he was alive today he'd probably be indicted by the geneva
00:31:15.200 convention for genocide i mean obviously before the road to damascus he was massacring christians in
00:31:22.200 large numbers so total lack of conscience there he had no concern whatsoever for his personal safety
00:31:29.040 he was constantly at risk of violent assault on open roads and in inner cities he was shipwrecked three
00:31:35.240 times he was estimated to have spent six years of his ministry in prison five times he received the
00:31:44.800 maximum 39 lashes any more than that and you're in danger of being killed he was beaten with
00:31:52.140 rods three times there was a famous incident outside the city of lystra where he was preaching and he
00:31:59.160 was stoned by an angry mob to within an inch of his life dragged outside the city walls and what did he
00:32:04.700 do as soon as he came around he went straight back in so he was a habitual lawbreaker as well no sense of
00:32:10.920 consequence or personal safety he was a cold and calculating political mover and shaker i think
00:32:18.940 very deficient in empathy he famously fell out with st peter in antioch where he called peter out to
00:32:26.440 his face he called him a hypocrite then in fact biblical scholars will note that paul had to leave
00:32:31.780 antioch after that and pretty much as persona non grata so he wasn't averse to riding roughshod over
00:32:38.020 people's feelings and sentiments and sensibilities without any care at all about them and no doubt with
00:32:44.780 more than a pinch of narcissism there's also the idea that he was a social chameleon as well
00:32:50.940 there's a famous passage in one corinthians when he says i've become all things to all people
00:32:56.920 to the jews i've become a jew in order to win jews to those under the law i've become under the law
00:33:03.180 though i am not under the law he says to win those who are under the law to those who are outside the
00:33:07.960 law i've become outside the law to win people who are outside the law and to the weak i've become weak
00:33:12.140 etc etc so i mean if you if you look at those qualities ruthlessness fearlessness narcissism
00:33:19.800 manipulativeness and a lack of empathy plus the high score that he got from two academic experts
00:33:28.200 who had been studying paul for years and years and years i think it's pretty certain that paul was high
00:33:35.700 on the psychopathic spectrum and you know when we look at the stained glass in our churches and cathedrals
00:33:40.100 we've got a psychopath in there he's also instrumental so in that verse you just quoted
00:33:44.620 first corinthians he says to the jews i became a jew in order to win the jews he says to the weak i
00:33:49.860 became the weak that i might win the weak so he does these things for a purpose absolutely right and
00:33:55.560 he's what i would call a good psychopath i mean he wasn't indiscriminate in what he was doing if we go
00:34:03.200 back to the mixing desk analogy which i told you about a little bit earlier and we look at those
00:34:10.160 kinds of dials on that mixing desk it's all to do with the right context the right combination the
00:34:16.660 right level and with the right intention and absolutely right that's why i find paul so
00:34:21.120 fascinating you know if i was god which i'm not i would have picked paul for that ministry precisely
00:34:28.820 because of the personality structure that he had if you wanted to spread christianity spread the word
00:34:35.080 in that kind of volatile environment that existed in those days you're not going to pick a shrinking
00:34:40.560 violet right no yeah you don't want to pick the guy who you know they get flogged once they give up
00:34:45.320 you want the guy who just he's gonna keep going back after he gets flogged he doesn't care you you've
00:34:50.320 got it he was ruthless fearless narcissist he had it all he had it all but this is the same guy
00:34:55.560 who wrote first corinthians 13 which is all about love right love is patient love is kind it does not
00:35:01.760 envy does not boast it is not proud so how do you reconcile you know saint paul the psychopath with
00:35:08.280 this guy who wrote this this great thing about love that people read at weddings and and the like
00:35:12.360 let me answer that question brett by reading you one of my favorite passages of love it's only a short
00:35:21.440 passage and it goes like this love true love real love is a plant that needs no watering it seeks not
00:35:31.280 to be sustained by its object but purely to nurture it love is blind not in the sense that it cannot see
00:35:38.680 but in the sense that it cannot condemn or desert or wither love is like a fire that burns in an empty
00:35:46.520 great it feeds only on itself it dances flickers and blazes from within now you might be forgiven
00:35:55.940 for thinking that that passage was written by one of the great romantic writers or the great romantic
00:36:01.680 poets of the 19th or 18th centuries but in fact it wasn't it was written by an ai program just a couple
00:36:07.900 of weeks ago with about as much experience of love as a turnip now i think that when we compare that
00:36:16.380 passage with that famous passage from 1 corinthians 13 that saint paul wrote um nothing specific in
00:36:23.480 that passage that paul wrote convinces me definitively that the author of it really had any any genuine
00:36:30.940 experience or feeling of love if an ai program can write a passage like the one i've just recited to
00:36:37.920 you then you know i don't think it's totally different from what paul wrote and i think your question
00:36:42.940 here actually flags up a very important distinction that we need to make when it comes to psychopaths
00:36:51.100 and empathy because there are two different kinds of empathy there's what we call hot empathy brett
00:36:57.900 which is basically the feeling of feeling what another person is feeling okay it's when we genuinely
00:37:04.240 feel what another person is feeling and then there's cold empathy which is the ability to cognitively and
00:37:11.880 dispassionately gauge what another person might be feeling and to act accordingly and there's a lot
00:37:21.340 of scientific evidence a lot of empirical data that suggests that psychopaths are deficient in the hot
00:37:28.180 empathy but they have a hell of a lot of cold empathy they're even better than the rest of us quite
00:37:34.080 possibly at gauging cognitively coolly calmly and dispassionately what another person is thinking and
00:37:40.600 acting accordingly and that of course makes them uh great manipulators great persuaders and so that
00:37:46.560 may well be what we're seeing here with saint paul in that passage i have to say by the way let me
00:37:52.140 again reiterate i'm a great admirer of saint paul i think he was a very very gifted personality so i'm not
00:37:57.740 having a goal digging him out here but i think given the fact that he was high on the psychopathic
00:38:02.300 spectrum i think quite possibly that this was more of a cognitive exercise this passage it was coolly
00:38:09.300 and dispassionately describing uh what he had perceived love to be as displayed in other people he doesn't
00:38:18.000 necessarily need to have felt it uh himself and and you know i always remember one psychopath saying
00:38:23.020 you know in order to know how traffic lights work you don't need color vision you don't need to see
00:38:29.940 the red and the green light you just need to know which bit of the light is lit up
00:38:36.560 and that very much sums up in visual form the relationship between psychopaths and empathy
00:38:44.880 they don't see the color of emotion but they know which bits are lit up if you want to put it in a music
00:38:51.500 analogy they see the notes on the page but they don't hear the tune or the melody so the fact that
00:38:58.460 saint paul wrote that very famous passage uh on love in one corinthians 13 certainly doesn't for me
00:39:04.200 contradict any of the scientific evidence that i've gathered that he's on the psychopathic spectrum
00:39:10.120 and it doesn't change my opinion one bit that he was high on the psychopathic spectrum of course if
00:39:15.700 you're a believer you'd say well he that's just revealed word he could be a psychopath but god
00:39:20.120 could still tell him this great thing about love absolutely yeah i'm not criticizing paul and you know
00:39:26.480 as i as i say i can absolutely see why paul was the right man for the job in that particular time
00:39:33.040 in that particular environment it was a very very dangerous world that he lived in you know christians
00:39:38.980 were in in mortal danger a lot of the time and his own life demonstrated that you know he spent as i
00:39:45.020 say six years in prison you know he was he was a real fearless adventurer and he had to be
00:39:50.880 in order to spread the word but he was a good psychopath because he needed to be okay so being
00:39:56.100 a little psychopathic can be useful if you're a you know a pioneering prophet type like paul but we've
00:40:01.820 also talked about how psychopathy can be useful in other vocations like being a doctor or a lawyer or
00:40:07.720 ceo but let's talk about some of the specific traits of psychopathy that can be adaptive for everyone
00:40:15.040 and one of those traits of psychopathy that you talk about is ruthlessness now a lot of people they
00:40:21.000 don't feel comfortable being ruthless but what can non-psychopaths learn from psychopaths as to how to
00:40:28.240 be ruthless but in an adaptive way yeah i mean i think one of the things which psychopaths are very
00:40:37.700 good at if we just factorize down what that means being ruthless brett is they're able to decouple
00:40:46.500 emotion from behavior okay so and this is something which a lot of us could do a little bit more of i'm
00:40:54.020 not saying you know actually when when the book first came out everyone said oh dutton's trying to
00:40:58.860 turn the whole world into psychopaths i wasn't at all but if you think about it a lot of us kind of
00:41:05.100 labor under the misapprehension that we've got to feel like something in order to do it
00:41:09.780 well that's just not true i mean if that was the case and half of us wouldn't get out of bed in the
00:41:14.680 morning right so that's the first number one truth you don't have to feel like doing something in order
00:41:21.100 to do it now you can split people into two camps brett okay let's say for example you go on holiday
00:41:30.120 right and let's say you go to the sea you got your swimming trunks on or your bathing costume on
00:41:35.520 and there's the sea and we you know what i'm going to say people you can divide people into two camps
00:41:40.620 there's people that basically run straight into the sea and dive into the waves right or you've got
00:41:46.900 another group of people that basically spend about half an hour getting in right they dip their toes
00:41:51.840 in they kind of splash they get up to their knees and then the wave oh and it's really cold and
00:41:56.580 and eventually they get in right whereas the person that just you know ran and jumped in
00:42:00.900 has been in for about 20 minutes now you may think this is quite flippant but actually there's been
00:42:07.120 studies done looking at this in real life and like well who experiences the most discomfort or pain
00:42:13.600 is it the runners and jumpers that go straight in or is it the splashers now perhaps unsurprisingly
00:42:19.880 it's actually the splashers that experience most pain because they're aggregating it
00:42:24.380 not only is the thought of going in exacerbating the pain that they're feeling but it's almost
00:42:29.240 death by a thousand cuts whereas if you get it out of the way completely you know straight away
00:42:34.720 in one go okay you have that one big dose of pain but actually it's all over then right so you
00:42:40.380 experience less pain if you just run in and do it and jump so what's that got to do with everyday
00:42:45.600 life well actually we are exactly the same as people on the beach there are psychological
00:42:51.760 splashes and there are psychological runners and jumpers in and if you just use exactly the same
00:43:00.260 logic the more you put something off the more you hesitate the more you come up with reasons not to do
00:43:07.540 something or procrastinate the more pain you are going to actually feel and that could be anything
00:43:12.920 from say firing someone to saying no or to say doing some chore that you've been putting off for years
00:43:19.660 or making an awkward phone call so just being aware of that and saying okay listen as soon as you need
00:43:29.020 to do something the quicker you can do it the less pain you're going to aggregate things start to change
00:43:35.300 weakness brett resides in the gaps or the cracks between thinking and doing when you think that
00:43:42.100 you've got to do something if you then leave it a long time before you actually do it basically the
00:43:48.980 germs of anxiety kind of fester and grow within that gap or that crack between thinking and doing and
00:43:56.460 that's when you start to get nervous and that's when anxiety starts creeping in so if you want to be
00:44:02.000 more ruthless if you want to be tougher if you want to be more resilient go with that Nike phrase just do it
00:44:09.540 okay because there's a lot of wisdom in it incidentally that was based on Gary Gilmore the
00:44:14.340 American serial killer don't know if you know this who was pretty much his last words when he was being
00:44:18.880 executed let's do it and that's where the slogan came from but if you want to be more ruthless if you
00:44:24.340 want to be more resilient don't think about it just do it decouple emotion from behavior don't leave
00:44:29.740 long gaps between thinking about doing something and then getting down and doing it last year I kind of
00:44:37.540 came to this idea that I'm actually possibly teaching my kids to be psychopaths in certain
00:44:42.000 situations so my kids play sports basketball flag football and you know when you're a parent you're
00:44:48.160 on the sidelines and you yell to your kids when they're on defense be aggressive be aggressive and
00:44:53.380 I remember I asked my daughter when I say be aggressive or a coach says be aggressive like what
00:44:58.780 do you think that means like I was trying to figure out like do they understand what I mean by that
00:45:02.060 and she said well it means you get really angry and you punch someone in the face and I said no
00:45:05.960 that's not that's not what I mean that'd be assault we're not going to do that and I realized
00:45:10.160 aggression when I say be aggressive I want you to think about the goal of what you're trying to do
00:45:14.340 in the sports get the ball right get the rebound and just go for that and you're not breaking the
00:45:18.700 rules but it's a proactive yeah it's not you're not responding to the other players if you jump up
00:45:24.480 for the rebound and you accidentally knock a guy over well that's that's fine you weren't trying to hurt
00:45:28.380 the guy but that was a byproduct of that so like in sports and I'm telling my kids like be aggressive
00:45:32.700 I'm kind of telling them you got to kind of be a psychopath like a good psychopath in a way you're
00:45:37.620 not reacting to the other players you're not getting angry your goal is just to pull the flag
00:45:42.240 get the ball and whatever happens in the process that's what happens you're not purposely trying
00:45:48.140 to hurt people but you got to do what you got to do to succeed yeah I couldn't put it better myself
00:45:52.400 I mean I call it the attack mindset and I do a lot of work in elite sport and I have never yet known
00:45:59.060 a great champion not to have the killer instinct not to have an attack mindset even when they're
00:46:05.200 losing even when they're behind having an attack mindset which is basically when in doubt attack
00:46:10.640 and I often use sport as an example of where psychopathic characteristics absolutely are justified
00:46:19.200 and the example I often use is say someone like Roger Federer one of the nicest guys you could ever wish
00:46:25.460 to meet off the court but you know when he's at Flushing Meadow or when he's at Wimbledon or when
00:46:31.780 he's at Roland Garros or you know places like that in a major final he is absolutely ruthless in crushing
00:46:40.320 the opponent on the other side of the net and you know as I say were Roger Federer to behave like that
00:46:48.400 off court in everyday life he'd soon have found himself in a very different court a court of law
00:46:54.040 but the difference in personality between say who Roger Federer is off the court and who he is on
00:47:00.580 court in the middle of a major grand slam final is drastic it's dramatic it's a huge gulf and yet
00:47:08.860 Federer would have thought nothing or any great champion Djokovic Nadal any any great champion would
00:47:14.440 think nothing of crushing the other person six love six love six love at Flushing Meadow in the
00:47:19.540 final of the US Open none none whatsoever you you're talking about in front of millions of people
00:47:24.960 who are tuned in worldwide you are completely crushing and sabotaging someone else's dream
00:47:30.620 why would you feel any shred of compunctional remorse about that and yet off court you can be the nicest
00:47:39.140 guy under the sun so you know and and and people's people often say to me yeah well sports not real
00:47:45.700 life of course it's real life there's billions and billions of dollars in sport and people can
00:47:51.340 be absolutely crushed in front of millions and millions of people their dreams laid bare in front
00:47:56.740 of the world and you're trampling all over them so don't tell me sport isn't about real life so I
00:48:02.400 couldn't agree with you more but it's a great example of how good psychopathic traits can be used
00:48:07.540 not just use they're essential in getting you to the top and keeping you there but yeah it depends on
00:48:13.560 the context and also how much the dial on it right you want to get so well absolutely I mean absolutely
00:48:18.280 it'd be bad in a different context yeah absolutely I mean like I said if Roger Federer came off court
00:48:23.440 in Flushing Meadow or Wimbledon and he didn't dial it back down he'd soon find himself in a very
00:48:28.560 different court of law but actually he's able to dial those dials up when necessary which is in the
00:48:35.620 middle of a major final and dial them down when he comes off court absolutely it's all about context
00:48:41.340 combination level and intention right so I guess the trick there is to learn when to detach emotion
00:48:47.300 from action and it's a skill you have to practice and you'll be uncomfortable at first but the more
00:48:53.160 you do it you'll learn how to you'll get better at it yeah that's one of the big differences Brett
00:48:58.360 between people who end up in prison and people who who are successful who use their psychopathic
00:49:04.780 characteristics to be successful and that is again going back to the mixing desk analogy
00:49:09.660 if your dials are stuck on max and you can't turn them down and they're just blaring out you know
00:49:15.820 ruthlessness fearlessness all the time you know you've got that soundtrack on and it doesn't matter where
00:49:21.700 you are then you're going to end up in prison pretty quickly but if you're able to turn those
00:49:26.560 dials up and down you know if you're a good personality producer then you're likely to be successful
00:49:32.880 and that's pretty much the difference you know if we use the mixing desk analogy between a good and
00:49:37.260 a bad psychopath there's some other traits what you talk about in the book fearlessness being
00:49:42.080 mentally resilient being mindful is another one so psychopaths often stay in the moment they're
00:49:48.020 really keyed in on what's going on but let's talk about let's do this test let's find out if
00:49:51.880 I'm a psychopath and maybe people are listening and figure out if they're psychopaths today all right
00:49:56.400 well what you're gonna need Brett you're gonna need let me get the test in front of me here
00:50:01.200 you're gonna need a pen and paper or you're gonna need like a mobile phone something you can record
00:50:06.100 your responses on okay because what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna read you out 11 items okay 11 statements
00:50:14.520 and these statements hypothetically describe you as a person okay and what you're gonna do
00:50:21.780 you are gonna rate them as I go through them 1 to 11 you're gonna rate them according to how
00:50:28.320 accurate a description you think each statement is of you and you're gonna use the following scoring
00:50:35.300 key okay so if you strongly disagree the statement describes you you award yourself zero points okay
00:50:42.440 strongly disagree zero points if you disagree you give yourself one point if you agree you give
00:50:51.120 yourself two points and if you strongly agree you give yourself three points okay so it says zero
00:50:57.280 one two three scoring key ranging from zero strongly disagree to three strongly agree okay you got it
00:51:05.300 got it what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna read you out 11 these 11 statements and you're gonna write
00:51:10.360 down on a piece of paper or type it on your mobile phone screen or whatever just keep a record as we're
00:51:15.440 going of what your score is for each of the items okay number one is I rarely plan ahead I'm a spur of
00:51:23.940 the moment kind of person I rarely plan ahead I'm a spur of the moment kind of person I'm going to give
00:51:28.780 you a bit of advice here Brett don't say your numbers out loud mate the reason for that will become
00:51:33.300 evident in a minute sure just write them down okay I rarely plan ahead I'm a spur of the moment kind
00:51:38.380 of person number two cheating on your partner is okay so long as you don't get caught that's why I was
00:51:44.780 telling you not to say them out loud you got to be honest on this test folks by the way whenever I do
00:51:50.600 this in a university with students who love this that question too is always the one where they're
00:51:55.100 kind of looking over each other's shoulder seeing what the other person's putting number three if
00:52:01.100 something better comes along it's okay to cancel a long-standing appointment something better comes
00:52:07.720 along it's okay to cancel a long-standing appointment just to recap Brett zero is strongly disagree
00:52:12.980 one is disagree to agree and three strongly agree number four seeing an animal injured or in pain
00:52:21.520 doesn't bother me in the slightest number five driving fast cars riding roller coasters and skydiving
00:52:31.960 appeal to me and number six it doesn't matter to me if I have to step on other people to get what I want
00:52:40.800 number seven number seven I'm very persuasive I have a talent for getting other people to do what I
00:52:48.560 want eight I'd be good in a dangerous job because I can make my mind up quickly don't think too long
00:52:56.520 about that one and nine I find it easy to keep it together when others are cracking under pressure
00:53:04.200 number 10 if you're able to con someone hey that's their problem they deserve it
00:53:11.800 and the final one number 11 most of the time when things go wrong it's somebody else's fault not mine
00:53:22.160 okay so you should have 11 numbers on a screen or a page in front of you there
00:53:28.280 Brett yeah or folks if you're playing at home what I want you to do is add them up top those numbers up
00:53:35.100 and you will come to a final total now Brett don't say your number out loud yet mate what I'll do
00:53:41.440 is I'll go through the scoring ranges and what it means okay where you are on the psychopathic spectrum
00:53:48.540 listen what we should say first of all here is we're not diagnosing anyone here by the way okay
00:53:54.300 this is not a clinical diagnosis this is just a general indication of where you might be on the
00:54:01.440 psychopathic spectrum okay so let's get that out the way now 0 to 11 if you've scored 0 to 11 on that
00:54:10.000 test folks you are low on the psychopathic spectrum okay if you score 12 to 17 below average
00:54:20.080 18 to 22 is average you can you can feel the tension rising can't you 23 to 28 you are high
00:54:32.100 on the psychopathic spectrum and 29 to 33 you are very high on the psychopathic spectrum so go on Brett
00:54:42.220 what did you get I got a six that's pathetic I'm gonna send you a few books mate you need to read
00:54:52.300 you need to read a few of those we need to get those dials turned up yeah a little bit we need
00:54:57.320 once you I can tell you've never been so happy to have done badly on a test in your life have you
00:55:02.940 no yeah I'm not gonna be James Bond for sure I'm not gonna be a spy yeah I'm a square I'm a square
00:55:08.920 for sure yeah six you are well you're you're you're you listen you're a saint you're a good saint
00:55:14.480 you're not even like St. Paul you're a good saint you're yeah you know you're uh yeah that's that's
00:55:19.800 one for the memoirs that is right but um listen I know I don't know if you want to do this Brett but
00:55:25.180 I'd be really interested to see what your listeners score so if your listeners can put it on Twitter
00:55:31.660 and maybe just put your score down and maybe say what you do for a living be kind of interesting
00:55:38.060 if you tag me in I'll give my Twitter Insta handle it's at the real doctor that's dr kev k-e-v
00:55:48.740 so at the real dr dr kev if you can tag me in put down what your score is and what you do for a living
00:55:57.880 I'll be keeping an eye on that because I'm sure there'll be some really interesting ones there
00:56:02.000 well Kevin this has been a great conversation besides your Instagram and Twitter where else
00:56:06.740 can people go to learn more about you and your work yeah you can go to my website which is dr dr
00:56:12.220 that is dr kevindutton.com and you can see a little bit about what I do on there so Brett I've thoroughly
00:56:21.140 enjoyed it I really have really great questions I am so glad you asked about St. Paul hardly anyone
00:56:26.860 asked me about St. Paul now as you can probably tell it was one of my favorite topics but I've really
00:56:32.320 really enjoyed it it's been fab it's been great fun well I've really enjoyed it too Kevin thanks
00:56:36.780 for coming on cheers Brett thanks for having me on my guest today was Kevin Dutton he's the author
00:56:42.120 of the book the wisdom of psychopaths is available on amazon.com and bookstores everywhere check out
00:56:46.400 our show notes at aom.is slash psychopath where you find links to resources where you delve deeper
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