The Auron MacIntyre Show - June 15, 2023


The Devouring Mother and the Total State | Guest: Mary Harrington | 6⧸15⧸23


Episode Stats

Length

54 minutes

Words per Minute

185.87804

Word Count

10,092

Sentence Count

251

Misogynist Sentences

61

Hate Speech Sentences

27


Summary

Mary Harrington is back with a piece that doesvetails with her new book, Feminism Against Progress. She argues that the way we re taught in schools is directly tied to the ways in which we interact with the surveillance state.


Transcript

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00:00:30.260 Hey everybody, how's it going? Thanks for joining me this afternoon.
00:00:33.820 I've got a great stream with a great guest that I think you're really going to enjoy.
00:00:38.840 So Mary Harrington is back and she's written a very interesting piece.
00:00:42.600 Actually, she's also got a very interesting book I just got to read here.
00:00:46.340 Got done recently. It's Feminism Against Progress.
00:00:51.120 And don't freak out just because it has the word feminism in it.
00:00:54.640 I think a lot of people will find it very interesting look at kind of our modern world and what is going on.
00:01:00.000 But Mary, thanks for joining me.
00:01:01.840 Thanks for having me.
00:01:03.240 So you had a very interesting piece about the devouring mother on your substack this week.
00:01:08.560 And I want to get into that because I think, as you pointed out to me,
00:01:11.880 it ties in very well with the idea of the total state and kind of how our hypervigilant culture,
00:01:17.760 our massified culture is working to kind of, even from a very young age, from the age of infants,
00:01:26.040 normalize people to this idea of the overbearing state.
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00:02:53.280 All right, guys.
00:02:54.220 So let's go ahead and jump into it.
00:02:56.400 So like I said, Mary had a very interesting piece that kind of dovetails with her book,
00:03:00.940 Feminism Against Progress.
00:03:02.360 But she was talking about how the devouring mother is something that is really impacting the way people interact with the surveillance state.
00:03:14.340 That kind of the tendency of our next generation to be okay with a large amount of state surveillance is tied to the way that we now rear children.
00:03:25.340 So Mary, could you kind of lay out that argument a little bit?
00:03:28.860 Sure.
00:03:29.160 My sense is often, Oren, you and I are looking at the same phenomena, but from opposite ends of the telescope.
00:03:34.860 And this is definitely one of those.
00:03:36.520 So my hypothesis is that, well, I mean, I'll come at it from another angle.
00:03:43.880 It's a classic left-wing critique of education in the conventional sense that the lesson it teaches is not just the content that's being delivered,
00:03:55.100 but also the manner of the environment that it habituates young people to.
00:03:59.740 And the classic left-wing critique of regimented Victorian-style education is that it's intentionally forming the masses to work in the factories,
00:04:09.900 the regime of bells, the regime of punctuality, the learning of, you know, the habituation to repetitive tasks of a mundane nature.
00:04:21.600 And the idea is that we should find a mode of education which isn't just norming people for the factories.
00:04:27.080 Now, if you, and I guess I sort of took that, I mean, let's set aside the critique of industrial society, because that's not where we are anymore.
00:04:36.280 But if you look at a conventional third-party childcare setting through the same lens, you've got to ask yourself, what is the environment teaching?
00:04:50.040 Right. Now, to be clear, I've used third-party childcare. I have one child, she's six now, but she spent some time, a measured and manageable amount of time in preschools and third-party childcare settings.
00:05:03.040 And I've also spent some time as a stay-at-home mum. I've done both of these things, and I've done my best to try to find a balance of these things.
00:05:10.000 But one of the things that that experience left me with just was some structural contrasts between the kind of care or the kind of environment, the environmental lessons, if you like, of third-party childcare compared to the environmental lessons that you pick up if you're in the care of a parent or somebody with more direct responsibility for you.
00:05:32.460 And the thing that really started me thinking about this was the aesthetics of the bump note, which I don't know if you have kids, but if you have kids, every time they have a minor injury or a minor accident at school or nursery or anywhere like that, they'll come home with an entire bureaucracy that emerges around the bump.
00:05:54.220 So, I mean, I don't know what it's like in the United States, but in the settings that my daughter's been in, that tends to be, it's a flimsy, sort of roughly, that's been filled out in triplicate.
00:06:05.580 You can tell because you've got one of the duplicates or triplicates or whatever, and a copy has gone into a ledger somewhere else, and it will report the time of the incident, the nature of the incident.
00:06:15.640 There's a whole bureaucracy of the bump note, and what I came to realise is that the bump note also has an emotional currency as well.
00:06:21.920 Now, you come home with a bump note, the bump note is produced from the bag, and then you relive the incident again, and some of the emotional weight of falling over and crying, and you're comforted by your parents all over again.
00:06:33.620 And there's also an emotional currency of the bump note amongst kids as well.
00:06:37.180 So there's this entire elaborate bureaucracy of minor accidents of the sort which, and I was thinking, well, this is odd, because, I mean, most of these are recounting the kind of incident where if my daughter was in my care,
00:06:48.520 when something like that happened, I'd be just like, oh, dear, never mind, kiss better, and distract her with, and we'd go off and do something else,
00:06:55.500 so it would just be like nothing really happened.
00:06:58.220 And it's not like, you know, if we were all sitting around the dinner table at the end of the day,
00:07:03.000 she would then report with great fanfare that she'd fallen over and raised her knee, because, I mean, whatever, it happens, and nobody cares.
00:07:10.120 Well, you know, mummy going for a kiss better, and then the day went on, kind of no comment.
00:07:14.120 And so I was thinking, what happens then when you scale that up?
00:07:18.880 Well, there are two things that happen.
00:07:20.460 Firstly, you have a whole bunch of parents who, for completely well-meaning and loving reasons,
00:07:27.440 will allow their kids to take risks in their own care.
00:07:31.020 And this is true of me, for sure.
00:07:33.080 I would have let, in my own, you know, when in my care, I'd let a three-year-old walk along a wall next to me without holding my hand,
00:07:39.640 and enjoy letting her take that risk and feel crazy and adventurous, even though it's like 18 inches off the ground, you know.
00:07:47.140 But if, in a childcare setting, there's absolutely no way that the person in charge of my child would have committed her to take that risk.
00:07:57.820 And I probably would have been kind of annoyed with her if she had, and she'd then come home with a bum note.
00:08:01.520 And I'd be like, why are you letting my, why are you treating, why are you watching my child this recklessly?
00:08:08.960 So when you scale that up, and you scale up the drama and the dynamics and the emotional currency of the bump note,
00:08:15.220 which is, you know, the bureaucracy of injury, if you like, and you also scale up the muted risk-taking,
00:08:21.440 and then you think about the proportion, I believe it's something that 75% of British mothers with dependent children now work at least some of the time.
00:08:31.140 I don't know what the statistics are, and I think it's a bit lower in the USA, it's 50 or 60%, thereabouts.
00:08:36.720 I forget the most recent numbers, but it's more than half in any case.
00:08:42.860 And some of these resume work very barbarically soon after their babies are born, some are back at work after only two weeks.
00:08:49.320 And essentially their babies grow up entirely in these sort of three third-party childcare settings.
00:08:54.440 And you're thinking, and quite aside from the attachment dynamic of third-party childcare,
00:09:02.180 just the bureaucratisation of safety and the norms that this inculcates from the very earliest age about what care means and what care looks like,
00:09:13.080 I think are radically different to the kind of experience and the kind of norms which are inculcated in an intimate family setting,
00:09:19.040 even with grandparents.
00:09:20.660 And really, and so my thesis, which I've expanded a bit more lengthily in the book,
00:09:27.120 but kind of compacted for this article, is that if you raise one, two, three generations in that sort of third-party environment,
00:09:37.800 they're going to assume that what care looks like is something much more impersonal, much more risk-averse,
00:09:43.860 much more safety-oriented, and much more, frankly, totalitarian, because there's no way out of it.
00:09:49.600 You know, this is an environment which is entirely focused on minimising risk, maximising the orientation on them,
00:09:54.960 and ensuring their comfort at all times, including refereeing and interpersonal quarrels.
00:09:59.800 And then you think, well, funnily enough, around 20 years after the mass entry of little children into daycare,
00:10:06.620 we find a generation-reaching university which is begging for greater authoritarianism,
00:10:13.440 is pleading for more of a focus on safety, and is demanding greater adult intervention in their interpersonal disputes and experiences of discomfort.
00:10:23.000 And you're thinking, where could this possibly come from?
00:10:25.040 I don't know.
00:10:25.600 Maybe you've got some ideas.
00:10:27.620 No, I think this is really important because a lot of us look at this kind of macro-political situation.
00:10:32.740 We look at the big picture, but we don't think about kind of these small, close-to-the-ground developmental things
00:10:39.900 that can have a huge shift in impact.
00:10:42.860 Everyone's worried about, you know, is it going to be Trump or DeSantis?
00:10:46.200 Are we going to have this policy or that policy?
00:10:48.840 But we don't think about how these pretty life-altering changes in things like childcare
00:10:53.860 can completely condition the population.
00:10:56.240 And having been on – I've seen this from both sides.
00:10:58.840 You know, I've taught public school in the United States, and I've had a little guy at home.
00:11:03.780 And so I see, you know, how this works.
00:11:06.360 We don't have bump notes, but that's a new concept for me in America.
00:11:11.280 But, of course, we do have kind of a similar – well, if, you know, the child is injured,
00:11:15.660 then there's a whole kind of bureaucracy you have to go through.
00:11:18.780 You have to take them to the nurse.
00:11:20.840 There has to be, you know, paperwork filed.
00:11:23.060 The parent has to be notified.
00:11:24.500 The teacher has to be worried about the – whatever that student was involved in kind of during that incident.
00:11:33.540 And so that means that there's a real shift away from any contact between children that could cause injury.
00:11:39.880 So, you know, a little guy wants to go to, you know, outside, ride his bike.
00:11:44.920 He wants to go to the skate park.
00:11:46.280 He wants to do those things.
00:11:47.520 I'm fine with that because I know, you know, we have the situation under control.
00:11:52.420 We can assume the risks.
00:11:53.980 That's something that's not going to be a huge deal.
00:11:55.720 If he falls down, scrapes his leg, you know, whatever, he can kind of have that autonomy, and it's not a big deal.
00:12:01.420 But at school, you have to be very careful about the type of interactions that happen.
00:12:06.480 And what happens is, very interestingly, along with that risk avoidance you're talking about,
00:12:10.660 we also get a feminization of these spaces, I believe,
00:12:13.840 because a lot of those more adolescent male activities are going to be more physical.
00:12:19.880 They're going to be more kinetic.
00:12:21.260 They're going to involve a more rough and tumble.
00:12:22.980 Not that, you know, girls don't get involved in that stuff too.
00:12:25.980 But I think this particularly has a shift in the way that the classroom or the socialization is allowed to kind of occur
00:12:33.460 because feminine activities tend to be a little less risky, tend to be a little less physical in this way.
00:12:40.920 The way that that social dynamic develops is a little less likely to produce the bump note as opposed to kind of...
00:12:50.440 This makes me think of the conversations I enjoy amongst friends who have girl toddlers as opposed to boy toddlers.
00:12:57.620 On the one hand, you hear, oh, you know, she's just so sweet and she wants to hang out and, like, play tea sets or whatever.
00:13:05.500 And I'm sorry, but, like, these things just happen.
00:13:08.560 It's not like anybody's implicating patriarchal stereotypes.
00:13:11.780 It's literally just that they're really different.
00:13:13.600 And boy mum, meanwhile, is like, oh, my God, he stuck his finger in my treadmill.
00:13:18.860 Literally, like, I switched it on and turned my back for two seconds and he'd already got his fingers in.
00:13:23.120 And then it was four hours in A&E, just hashtag FML.
00:13:25.800 Well, he's done it. Literally, that's the fourth time he's tried to kill himself today.
00:13:29.840 And he's two and a half. What do I do? Please, somebody pray for me.
00:13:34.380 And you can see how.
00:13:37.380 I mean, and this is mums who are with their toddlers.
00:13:42.820 And you can see how, you know, once you abstract that to a third-party setting
00:13:46.680 where these calculuses of insurance and liability and angry parents and risk-taking and licensing
00:13:54.220 and yada, yada, yada, yada, yada all obtain that, you know, you just have to sit very hard
00:13:59.200 on the little boys who are connected like that.
00:14:02.380 I mean, not all of them are, but a lot of them just really are.
00:14:05.140 And you basically have to sit on their heads all day to just stop them doing anything
00:14:09.540 that would get you sued.
00:14:11.620 Yeah, there's a...
00:14:13.020 I was just going to say, there's a very real dynamic in those settings
00:14:17.760 where, like, teachers actively avoid having classrooms with too many boys in them
00:14:22.240 because they just know that boys are less, you know,
00:14:26.980 likely to condition themselves this way immediately.
00:14:30.720 And so they kind of go out of their way to affect the mix or avoid those.
00:14:35.300 And so, again, I just think that has a very significant impact
00:14:38.460 on the way that these developmental spaces get shaped
00:14:41.900 with that risk avoidance that you're talking about.
00:14:44.060 Yeah, absolutely.
00:14:44.820 And I think it's completely wrong-headed.
00:14:46.420 I mean, going back to the campus thing,
00:14:48.320 I think periodically you hear the kind of anti-woke classical liberal type.
00:14:54.060 I'm sure you know that kind of spectrum of voices
00:14:57.020 who will say, oh, you know, it's another, you know, madness intensifies.
00:15:01.100 You know, here comes another bunch of woke administrators
00:15:04.640 who are inculcating young people in this insane safetyism.
00:15:10.420 You know, when will this madness end?
00:15:12.840 And I'm like, this isn't coming from the...
00:15:15.080 I mean, maybe some of it's coming from the administrators now,
00:15:17.960 but it's not coming from the academics.
00:15:19.720 It really isn't.
00:15:20.920 You know, the demand is coming from the bottom up.
00:15:22.800 And actually, you know, the norms that drive that demand
00:15:27.900 originate in kids' lives much, much, much, much, much earlier.
00:15:32.500 And I think you can trace it all the way back to even preschool
00:15:35.340 in infant daycare.
00:15:37.520 Because that paradigm of child-focused, safety-anxious management
00:15:45.380 and interpersonal refereeing is there all the way from preschool.
00:15:49.120 And once you see it in preschool, then it's very hard to unsee it
00:15:53.840 in the demand that young people have, the demands that are led
00:15:57.680 by young people for a continuation of that dynamic
00:16:00.340 into the university setting.
00:16:03.120 I remember there was one...
00:16:04.400 I'm sure you remember all the evergreen footage.
00:16:06.420 This is the first kind of eruption into consciousness
00:16:08.980 of the kids going crazy in this way.
00:16:12.260 And then there was one very obviously very distressed
00:16:15.500 and dysregulated young woman who was saying,
00:16:17.280 this is meant to be a home.
00:16:19.420 And I was thinking, what does home mean for her such that
00:16:22.580 it involves no risk and maximum management
00:16:25.420 of everybody's feelings?
00:16:26.560 And eventually it hit me that for her, home actually meant daycare.
00:16:30.960 Because that was...
00:16:31.840 Chances were...
00:16:33.380 I mean, I don't know.
00:16:34.360 I'd have to...
00:16:35.580 I'm sure somebody could figure her down and ask her.
00:16:38.140 But, you know, there's a lot of double-income families
00:16:42.600 where everybody has to work in order to afford to send their kids to college.
00:16:47.340 You know, is it any wonder that they grow up assuming
00:16:49.460 that home looks a bit like daycare
00:16:50.620 and involves the same level of interpersonal risk management
00:16:54.040 and refereeing as a daycare?
00:16:55.840 There's also an interesting kind of class dynamic here
00:16:59.120 in that while, like you said, a majority of homes
00:17:03.420 now have two parents needing to work to kind of make ends meet.
00:17:07.460 The more affluent parents
00:17:09.540 or even the more middle-income parents
00:17:12.340 will put their children in daycare.
00:17:14.900 The lower-income parents will actually often
00:17:18.060 just leave their children to their own devices
00:17:20.440 or have older children care for the younger children in this way.
00:17:26.060 And so interestingly, it is kind of this middle class
00:17:30.020 or the aspirational class
00:17:32.860 that is more likely to put their children
00:17:35.060 into these over-socialization situations.
00:17:39.480 You'll see, you know, a 10-year-old, you know,
00:17:43.500 who's in a lower-class area
00:17:45.980 will be more than used to walking themselves
00:17:48.560 down to the corner market,
00:17:49.880 picking things up for the family,
00:17:52.320 you know, occupying themselves outside for hours on end
00:17:55.240 like many of us did.
00:17:56.300 You know, when I was a kid,
00:17:57.020 I was riding my bike halfway across town
00:18:00.420 to go to a store,
00:18:02.300 that kind of thing that I wanted to go to.
00:18:04.020 That was considered very normal.
00:18:05.980 And, you know, I'm old, but I'm not that old.
00:18:08.300 And now if you have a 10-year-old out
00:18:10.700 riding their bike alone
00:18:11.920 more than a mile from the house,
00:18:13.900 you know, they're going to be calling
00:18:15.000 Child Protective Services on you
00:18:16.580 if you're in a middle-class neighborhood.
00:18:19.960 If you're in a low-class neighborhood,
00:18:21.060 they won't even think of it twice.
00:18:23.200 Yeah, yeah, for sure.
00:18:24.360 There are times when I wonder,
00:18:25.840 you know, periodically you see
00:18:27.100 these clips of footage going around
00:18:29.240 teenagers going nuts in McDonald's.
00:18:32.260 You know the genre.
00:18:34.120 You know, where there's just some completely
00:18:36.200 kind of just full-on, like, you know,
00:18:37.960 multi-person, chaotic chimp-out occurring
00:18:40.320 in a fast food joint.
00:18:41.980 And you see these periodically.
00:18:43.460 And so sometimes I wonder whether, in fact,
00:18:45.540 what we're looking at there
00:18:46.660 is a similar phenomenon,
00:18:48.600 just in a different class key
00:18:51.020 to the chimp-outs you get
00:18:52.580 inexpensive Ivy League colleges
00:18:54.800 over safety and home.
00:18:57.300 It suggests the same sort of
00:18:59.600 dysregulated relationship
00:19:01.220 to the kind of wider social setting.
00:19:05.600 And yeah, and there have been times
00:19:06.760 when I wondered how many of the kids
00:19:09.220 who are going bananas in McDonald's
00:19:10.500 are just the ones who were parked
00:19:12.060 in substandard childcare
00:19:13.080 from the age of two weeks old
00:19:14.260 and are just incredibly messed up
00:19:16.220 because they never had somebody
00:19:17.900 pick them up when they were screaming
00:19:18.920 or really paying the attention
00:19:20.620 to them at all
00:19:21.220 because they've just been warehoused
00:19:22.320 in little rows.
00:19:24.280 I mean, it messed up
00:19:24.960 the Romanian orphans under Czescu.
00:19:27.400 And you've got to wonder
00:19:28.560 what effect that has at scale
00:19:30.160 on the working class
00:19:31.020 who are the ones most likely
00:19:32.600 to be having to go back to work
00:19:34.580 and have absolutely no financial cushion,
00:19:36.240 such as to be able to take any time off
00:19:37.720 or really to have the kind of job
00:19:39.940 that comes with any maternity benefits.
00:19:42.140 I mean, I feel blessed to live in a country
00:19:44.160 where there is at least
00:19:44.880 a statutory minimum on that front.
00:19:46.220 But I mean, I'm aware that Americans
00:19:48.420 don't really see it in quite the same way.
00:19:50.120 Yeah, I think there are
00:19:51.320 there are some consequences to that, perhaps.
00:19:53.340 Yeah, I think it's something that
00:19:54.740 especially those who think of themselves
00:19:56.240 as socially conservative
00:19:57.400 need to start really reconsidering.
00:20:00.180 I understand the concern about,
00:20:01.780 you know, government intervention
00:20:03.520 in these things.
00:20:04.360 But if your if your formulation is
00:20:06.960 I want stronger families,
00:20:08.140 I want people to be able to form families.
00:20:10.240 But you're also not thinking about
00:20:12.120 how to create an environment
00:20:13.520 where women can care for their children directly
00:20:16.340 and provide the kind of,
00:20:17.640 you know, the kind of bond
00:20:19.420 that only the mother can form.
00:20:21.560 I think that you're
00:20:22.760 you're putting your priorities
00:20:23.980 in the wrong place.
00:20:25.500 Yeah, I think there's some
00:20:26.200 there's some justice to the joy
00:20:27.720 of you here sometimes
00:20:28.400 from feminists who say
00:20:30.100 that it's all very well
00:20:32.180 insisting on insisting on
00:20:34.100 caring for the unborn.
00:20:35.380 But, you know, you could maybe
00:20:36.560 spare a thought for the born
00:20:37.540 that one again as well.
00:20:39.060 Sure. And yeah, I'm with you there.
00:20:40.680 It's just sadly, once once they do,
00:20:43.180 I don't think a lot changes.
00:20:44.700 But it's nonetheless,
00:20:46.080 it is something that many
00:20:47.000 on the right need to need
00:20:48.660 to think about.
00:20:49.360 So I had considered the first part
00:20:51.960 that you were talking about
00:20:53.000 with the child care
00:20:53.900 and why that impacts people
00:20:55.820 to be, you know,
00:20:57.360 kind of more conducive
00:20:59.240 to the overwhelming state,
00:21:01.120 because that's something, again,
00:21:02.500 that I had directly experienced
00:21:04.440 with with my time teaching.
00:21:06.580 But the second one that you brought up,
00:21:08.220 which I thought was pretty interesting
00:21:09.580 that I had really considered
00:21:10.660 a whole lot,
00:21:11.720 was the kind of the digital native,
00:21:13.940 the the generation
00:21:15.280 that has been brought up
00:21:16.500 inside kind of the constant
00:21:18.460 contact the Internet
00:21:19.760 and the relationship they have
00:21:21.080 with kind of their personal information.
00:21:24.020 Many, especially as the Internet
00:21:25.520 was kind of getting on boarded,
00:21:26.760 were more than happy
00:21:27.600 to hand over large amounts
00:21:29.300 of personal information and data
00:21:31.420 to companies because
00:21:33.220 it had just never really been
00:21:34.440 collected that way before.
00:21:35.920 It just had never been
00:21:37.720 this this panopticon
00:21:39.100 of online data collection
00:21:42.540 that had allowed for that.
00:21:44.040 And so they didn't really think
00:21:44.740 they were trading anything
00:21:46.060 for these now free services.
00:21:48.920 But as many people
00:21:50.120 have now understood,
00:21:50.960 if you're not paying anything
00:21:52.520 for the service,
00:21:53.880 you're the product.
00:21:55.280 Right.
00:21:55.760 And so and so it's very interesting
00:21:57.580 that that new relationship
00:21:59.000 with handing over
00:22:00.540 my digital information
00:22:02.220 to different entities
00:22:04.740 now being kind of
00:22:06.200 my entry ticket
00:22:07.240 to being allowed
00:22:08.320 to exist in these online spaces.
00:22:10.380 Yeah, I think there are
00:22:11.420 it strikes me that
00:22:13.080 it's as plausible,
00:22:14.260 at least that there's a
00:22:15.180 there's a whole bunch of kids
00:22:16.060 who just don't really see
00:22:17.140 that as an issue at all.
00:22:18.920 I mean, to an extent,
00:22:20.220 that ship is that ship
00:22:21.240 is a dot on the horizon.
00:22:22.340 Right.
00:22:22.920 You know, I.
00:22:24.360 We hope you're enjoying
00:22:25.480 your Air Canada flight.
00:22:26.800 Rocky's vacation.
00:22:28.040 Here we come.
00:22:29.540 Whoa.
00:22:30.140 Is this economy?
00:22:31.140 Free beer, wine and snacks.
00:22:34.100 Sweet.
00:22:35.200 Fast free Wi-Fi means
00:22:36.480 I can make dinner reservations
00:22:37.600 before we land.
00:22:39.260 And with live TV,
00:22:40.540 I'm not missing the game.
00:22:42.280 It's kind of like
00:22:43.040 I'm already on vacation.
00:22:45.460 Nice.
00:22:46.620 On behalf of Air Canada,
00:22:48.260 nice travels.
00:22:49.720 Wi-Fi available to
00:22:50.560 aeroplane members
00:22:51.180 on Equip Flight
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00:22:53.180 See your Canada dot com.
00:22:54.720 You know, those obligatory
00:22:55.780 things that you have to click
00:22:56.860 to accept cookies.
00:22:57.900 Otherwise, the website
00:22:58.660 won't talk to you.
00:22:59.560 I mean, everyone just
00:23:01.720 everyone just clicks OK, right?
00:23:03.460 And all it really does
00:23:04.440 is drive home
00:23:05.280 how often you're relinquishing
00:23:07.000 yet another little bit
00:23:07.960 of your personal
00:23:09.020 digital footprint
00:23:10.300 to whoever the data brokers are.
00:23:12.800 And periodically,
00:23:13.360 I start reading through
00:23:14.500 one of these reports
00:23:15.200 on what the data brokers
00:23:16.080 actually do
00:23:16.780 and then what happens
00:23:17.560 when your data gets aggregated
00:23:18.880 and just how
00:23:19.580 just how finally
00:23:21.120 it can be sliced
00:23:22.040 and how minutely
00:23:23.680 it's possible
00:23:24.480 to track you,
00:23:25.900 me personally,
00:23:26.840 Mary Harrington down
00:23:27.980 based on what's in that
00:23:29.980 once it's all being collected
00:23:32.040 and sliced
00:23:33.320 and aggregated.
00:23:35.220 And I think, well,
00:23:36.200 there's a bit of me
00:23:38.300 which is tempted to think,
00:23:39.180 well, I guess that ship
00:23:40.500 has kind of sailed.
00:23:41.600 But it's also just like
00:23:42.920 it's just so horrific.
00:23:45.960 It's just so horrific
00:23:46.960 to think about
00:23:47.560 how much of that
00:23:48.580 how much of that
00:23:49.220 is just kind of a done deal,
00:23:50.740 you know,
00:23:50.960 in a sense of in a sense
00:23:51.960 how much of me
00:23:52.540 is already out there
00:23:53.480 and how much of me
00:23:54.580 is just irretrievably so.
00:23:56.480 I mean, short of,
00:23:57.860 I don't know,
00:23:58.400 changing my name,
00:23:59.460 deleting all of my accounts,
00:24:00.780 you know,
00:24:00.940 going dark and, you know,
00:24:02.060 going off to live
00:24:02.680 in the woods like Uncle Ted.
00:24:03.640 I don't really know.
00:24:05.400 I don't really know
00:24:06.440 what you do about it.
00:24:08.320 You know,
00:24:08.600 if you participate,
00:24:09.900 then you're just clicking OK
00:24:10.900 on that little thing all day.
00:24:12.560 And all it really does
00:24:13.680 is tell you how much
00:24:14.420 of yourself you're giving away.
00:24:15.680 It doesn't, you know,
00:24:16.400 there's no meaningful
00:24:17.460 consent there at all
00:24:18.480 because at the end of the day,
00:24:19.380 if you don't participate,
00:24:20.640 you just,
00:24:21.660 to a significant extent
00:24:22.840 in the public square
00:24:23.820 as it is now,
00:24:24.420 you just don't exist.
00:24:26.620 So, interesting that you brought up
00:24:28.400 Uncle Ted there
00:24:29.540 because obviously
00:24:30.720 with the death of Ted Kaczynski
00:24:32.640 this week,
00:24:34.320 a lot of people have been
00:24:36.040 taking an interest
00:24:37.200 in what he had said
00:24:38.960 or having debates
00:24:40.720 about the legacy
00:24:42.060 of his thought
00:24:43.000 and kind of what he,
00:24:44.480 what he had put out there
00:24:47.120 as in relation to
00:24:48.760 kind of industrial society.
00:24:50.820 Now, just to clarify
00:24:52.060 for YouTube
00:24:52.780 and everyone,
00:24:53.820 you know,
00:24:54.340 we're obviously
00:24:55.080 not going to be promoting
00:24:56.100 Ted Kaczynski's actions,
00:24:57.680 his political actions here.
00:24:59.140 Clearly not an endorsement.
00:25:00.420 However,
00:25:00.680 you've already used
00:25:01.340 the word over-socialized,
00:25:03.120 so we were kind of
00:25:03.900 already there, right?
00:25:04.660 So we already knew
00:25:05.400 we were coming here.
00:25:06.620 But, you know,
00:25:07.600 I listened to
00:25:08.740 the old manifesto
00:25:10.200 this week
00:25:10.820 on Skeptical Waves.
00:25:12.300 Shout out Skeptical Waves here,
00:25:13.680 which is kind of ironic,
00:25:14.700 I guess,
00:25:15.120 listening to a manifesto
00:25:16.420 against technological
00:25:18.200 advancement in society
00:25:19.720 on a YouTube channel
00:25:20.780 read to me by a robot.
00:25:22.860 But it is interesting
00:25:25.660 because a lot of
00:25:27.100 what you have talked about,
00:25:28.440 you know,
00:25:28.640 for people who don't know,
00:25:30.280 kind of the thesis of,
00:25:32.020 or one of the theses
00:25:32.920 of your book,
00:25:35.000 Feminism Against Progress,
00:25:36.120 is that feminism
00:25:37.660 was more of a movement
00:25:39.460 about our relationship
00:25:40.920 to technology
00:25:41.920 than it really was
00:25:43.720 about some kind of
00:25:44.880 ideological transformation.
00:25:45.780 Yeah, I don't believe
00:25:47.720 in progress.
00:25:48.260 Progress is not a thing.
00:25:49.420 It was a,
00:25:49.920 but it was a often
00:25:51.160 legitimate response
00:25:52.440 to the way family life
00:25:53.380 changed under the
00:25:54.200 industrial conditions,
00:25:55.220 which it did
00:25:55.860 in a huge number of ways.
00:25:57.900 Right.
00:25:58.460 And so this is,
00:25:59.640 of course,
00:25:59.980 also in many ways,
00:26:01.540 Ted Kaczynski's
00:26:02.520 kind of foundational
00:26:04.100 understanding
00:26:05.020 is that
00:26:05.680 the technology,
00:26:07.760 the society's interaction
00:26:09.740 with technology
00:26:10.520 and progress
00:26:11.380 is kind of way more
00:26:13.100 important than its
00:26:13.760 actual political systems.
00:26:15.620 These are the things
00:26:16.220 that are going to shape
00:26:16.980 people far more.
00:26:19.120 And so as we kind of
00:26:20.000 look at these problems,
00:26:21.340 many of which
00:26:21.900 are linked back to,
00:26:23.540 again,
00:26:23.820 you know,
00:26:24.620 the need of people
00:26:25.700 to conform to a system,
00:26:27.200 the constant surveillance,
00:26:29.660 the constant interaction
00:26:31.220 with bureaucratic management,
00:26:33.220 the constant need
00:26:34.260 to kind of homogenize
00:26:36.980 and reduce people
00:26:38.460 into kind of
00:26:39.380 a managerial state
00:26:40.620 so techniques can
00:26:41.660 routinely produce
00:26:43.180 pre-described outcomes.
00:26:46.040 With that necessity,
00:26:48.040 it becomes very difficult,
00:26:49.560 I think,
00:26:50.140 for people then
00:26:50.720 to think about
00:26:51.500 what comes next
00:26:52.620 because,
00:26:53.220 as you pointed out,
00:26:54.760 you know,
00:26:54.980 women aren't just
00:26:55.640 putting their children
00:26:56.520 into daycare
00:26:57.500 because they really want to.
00:26:59.140 They're putting children
00:27:00.300 into daycare
00:27:01.180 right after they have them
00:27:02.420 because our system
00:27:03.820 requires them to.
00:27:05.600 Right.
00:27:05.840 And that then
00:27:07.420 puts children
00:27:08.100 into this state
00:27:09.680 where they are
00:27:10.820 immediately being put,
00:27:12.160 raised by bureaucrats
00:27:13.680 and being conditioned
00:27:14.620 to conform
00:27:15.740 to a larger
00:27:16.720 centralized management.
00:27:18.720 And I think people
00:27:19.260 have a hard time
00:27:19.940 then looking at
00:27:20.860 what's going on
00:27:21.580 and saying,
00:27:22.040 how could we possibly
00:27:23.260 escape this
00:27:24.040 without at some point
00:27:25.580 recognizing that
00:27:27.320 industrialization,
00:27:29.740 you know,
00:27:30.040 that kind of,
00:27:31.140 the advancement
00:27:31.620 has been a disaster
00:27:32.880 in many ways
00:27:34.080 to kind of
00:27:34.460 social relationships.
00:27:36.240 Right.
00:27:36.400 I think
00:27:37.560 one of the reasons
00:27:40.360 nobody ever stops
00:27:41.200 to contemplate
00:27:42.180 the social conditioning
00:27:44.460 effect of daycare,
00:27:46.260 so in particular,
00:27:47.220 I think it's striking
00:27:48.520 that very,
00:27:50.200 it's striking
00:27:51.180 how few on the right
00:27:52.420 are willing
00:27:53.280 to contemplate
00:27:54.020 the social conditioning
00:27:54.840 impact of daycare,
00:27:55.960 even as that
00:27:56.920 militates actively
00:27:57.920 against a great many
00:27:58.980 conservative desires,
00:28:00.340 you know,
00:28:00.580 not least the inculcation
00:28:02.280 of, you know,
00:28:03.160 the spirit of liberty
00:28:04.300 or, you know,
00:28:05.260 even fairly bog-standard
00:28:06.920 right liberal concerns
00:28:08.400 for the straightforward
00:28:10.380 reason that
00:28:11.300 if you,
00:28:13.460 removing kids
00:28:14.220 from daycare
00:28:14.840 means removing
00:28:15.920 a solid 30%
00:28:17.060 of your workforce
00:28:18.080 from the market
00:28:19.220 and that's just
00:28:20.760 somewhere where
00:28:21.560 your average normicon
00:28:22.760 is not willing to go,
00:28:24.200 you know,
00:28:24.400 and they'll dress it up
00:28:25.720 as women's autonomy
00:28:26.760 and, you know,
00:28:27.760 various sort of
00:28:28.260 nice-sounding,
00:28:29.020 empowering
00:28:30.180 platitudes like that,
00:28:33.700 but fundamentally
00:28:34.560 it's a significant
00:28:36.760 chunk of your
00:28:37.260 workforce gone
00:28:37.960 and for what?
00:28:40.000 You know,
00:28:40.200 some indefinable gain
00:28:41.680 that you might
00:28:42.200 or might not
00:28:42.720 obtain 20 years
00:28:43.660 down the line,
00:28:44.720 you know,
00:28:45.040 are you going to
00:28:46.500 be able to sell that
00:28:47.220 to any of your
00:28:48.700 voters or investors
00:28:49.600 or supporters?
00:28:51.220 Unlikely,
00:28:51.860 to be honest.
00:28:53.060 Unlikely.
00:28:53.640 And so,
00:28:54.320 again and again
00:28:55.060 and again
00:28:55.540 when these policies,
00:28:58.120 yeah,
00:28:58.380 it's just,
00:28:59.080 it's the third rail
00:28:59.980 fundamentally
00:29:00.540 and it gets justified,
00:29:03.560 you know,
00:29:03.700 we tell a different
00:29:04.180 story about it
00:29:04.940 on the left
00:29:05.320 and on the right
00:29:05.880 but fundamentally
00:29:06.760 it's about
00:29:07.420 the liquefaction
00:29:08.900 of family
00:29:09.460 and it's reordering
00:29:11.400 to the market
00:29:12.000 and nobody wants
00:29:14.060 to look at the
00:29:14.560 downstream impacts
00:29:15.400 on the people
00:29:16.360 who are least,
00:29:17.020 who have the least
00:29:18.060 choice of all
00:29:18.760 in the mix
00:29:19.720 which is kids
00:29:20.360 and nobody wants
00:29:21.260 to look at what
00:29:21.760 happens to them
00:29:22.340 20 years down the line
00:29:23.480 when they're adults
00:29:24.140 and I think,
00:29:25.480 yeah,
00:29:25.840 it might take
00:29:27.780 another 20 years
00:29:28.560 for people
00:29:28.920 to figure out
00:29:29.460 that there is
00:29:29.880 actually a marked
00:29:30.480 difference
00:29:30.800 but I think
00:29:31.180 eventually
00:29:31.600 we'll have
00:29:32.900 enough data
00:29:33.460 and somebody
00:29:34.180 will have
00:29:34.500 the balls
00:29:34.880 to pass it
00:29:35.480 and somebody
00:29:35.780 will have
00:29:36.020 the balls
00:29:36.400 to do the studies.
00:29:37.760 I mean,
00:29:37.960 I think,
00:29:39.400 for example,
00:29:40.120 it will be
00:29:40.480 empirically researchable
00:29:41.840 to establish
00:29:44.920 whether or not
00:29:45.600 there's any kind
00:29:46.160 of a link
00:29:46.540 between
00:29:47.080 an experience
00:29:49.480 of a lot
00:29:50.040 of early infant
00:29:51.720 daycare
00:29:52.240 and extreme
00:29:53.400 dysregulated
00:29:54.080 wokeness
00:29:54.480 by the time
00:29:54.960 you get to
00:29:55.340 young adulthood
00:29:55.960 which seems
00:29:57.100 to me
00:29:57.340 completely plausible
00:29:58.080 because I trained
00:29:59.620 once upon a time
00:30:00.300 as a psychotherapist
00:30:01.180 and we did
00:30:05.720 a fair amount
00:30:06.260 on attachment
00:30:06.840 and disordered
00:30:08.060 attachment
00:30:08.460 and so on
00:30:08.960 and so forth
00:30:09.420 and to me,
00:30:10.840 just leaving us
00:30:11.420 never mind
00:30:12.020 what they're saying
00:30:12.760 never mind
00:30:13.260 what's coming
00:30:14.040 out of their
00:30:14.480 mouths
00:30:14.800 in terms
00:30:15.320 of third
00:30:15.980 rate
00:30:16.540 cult
00:30:17.760 platitudes
00:30:18.400 what those
00:30:20.220 kids mostly
00:30:20.880 look like
00:30:21.360 to me
00:30:21.820 is
00:30:22.300 the product
00:30:25.360 of long-term
00:30:26.140 low-key
00:30:26.500 neglect
00:30:26.960 long-term
00:30:29.480 low-key
00:30:30.100 nurture
00:30:31.560 deprivation
00:30:32.240 maternal
00:30:32.540 deprivation
00:30:33.040 fundamentally
00:30:33.560 and that
00:30:35.240 might seem
00:30:35.620 counterintuitive
00:30:36.320 when we're
00:30:36.640 talking about
00:30:37.060 children in
00:30:37.500 wealthy families
00:30:38.140 but again
00:30:38.580 a lot of
00:30:39.300 wealthy families
00:30:40.460 have both
00:30:41.080 parents working
00:30:41.780 because otherwise
00:30:43.240 how are they
00:30:44.120 ever going to
00:30:44.440 afford
00:30:44.760 house number
00:30:45.520 three
00:30:45.780 and the
00:30:46.280 college bills
00:30:46.840 etc.
00:30:47.220 so I think
00:30:49.400 it's eminently
00:30:50.660 plausible
00:30:51.140 that there's
00:30:51.720 a raft
00:30:52.480 of extremely
00:30:54.160 neglected
00:30:54.580 children at
00:30:55.120 the top
00:30:55.440 and at
00:30:55.640 the bottom
00:30:56.160 emotionally
00:30:58.420 under-mothered
00:31:00.640 I think you
00:31:01.040 could say
00:31:01.400 radically
00:31:01.880 under-mothered
00:31:02.520 children
00:31:02.880 pretty much
00:31:03.620 across the
00:31:04.100 spectrum
00:31:04.400 but probably
00:31:05.860 concentrated at
00:31:07.140 the top
00:31:07.420 and the bottom
00:31:07.880 for different
00:31:08.280 reasons
00:31:08.720 and that's
00:31:10.500 part of what's
00:31:11.400 driving for
00:31:11.880 example the
00:31:12.400 George Floyd
00:31:12.880 riots but
00:31:13.420 also the
00:31:14.100 regular
00:31:15.100 chimpouts
00:31:15.560 at universities
00:31:16.200 and nobody
00:31:17.900 wants to
00:31:18.400 look at
00:31:18.660 this
00:31:18.980 across the
00:31:20.640 political
00:31:20.900 spectrum
00:31:21.280 because it
00:31:21.700 just stands
00:31:22.140 on too
00:31:22.900 many toes
00:31:23.360 like you
00:31:24.620 said it
00:31:25.660 really
00:31:26.320 strikes at
00:31:27.740 some fundamental
00:31:29.580 pillars that
00:31:30.560 would if
00:31:31.100 taken out
00:31:31.900 would disassemble
00:31:33.080 what people
00:31:34.980 look at as
00:31:35.620 our current
00:31:36.440 social situation
00:31:37.460 I think you're
00:31:38.400 right that this
00:31:38.960 is a huge
00:31:40.320 problem but
00:31:41.300 I'm less
00:31:42.460 optimistic about
00:31:43.920 the possibility
00:31:44.920 that data
00:31:45.700 will shift
00:31:46.620 anyone's
00:31:47.320 mind
00:31:48.120 we really
00:31:48.820 don't
00:31:49.400 suffer from
00:31:51.900 a lack
00:31:53.020 of social
00:31:53.880 science data
00:31:54.660 on a lot
00:31:55.360 of issues
00:31:55.920 that just
00:31:57.140 don't shift
00:31:57.780 anything
00:31:58.320 in fact we
00:31:59.880 regularly have
00:32:00.380 to bury
00:32:00.760 social science
00:32:01.720 to make sure
00:32:02.600 that we can
00:32:02.980 continue on
00:32:04.300 with the
00:32:05.260 delusions
00:32:06.000 we've drawn
00:32:07.200 around certain
00:32:07.980 subjects
00:32:08.640 and so I
00:32:09.820 think it's
00:32:10.520 unfortunate
00:32:11.360 I think you're
00:32:12.120 right that the
00:32:12.500 data will bear
00:32:13.060 this out
00:32:13.480 I think it
00:32:14.160 absolutely
00:32:14.540 will but I
00:32:15.580 just don't
00:32:15.840 think that'll
00:32:16.180 shift people's
00:32:16.660 opinion because
00:32:17.220 we're going to
00:32:18.240 shift our mode
00:32:18.720 of production
00:32:19.240 are people
00:32:19.800 going to start
00:32:20.640 taking more
00:32:21.280 responsibility
00:32:21.940 are people
00:32:22.620 going to start
00:32:23.020 accounting for
00:32:23.900 things that can't
00:32:25.080 be put on
00:32:25.580 spreadsheets I
00:32:26.480 think you're
00:32:27.320 really going to
00:32:27.600 have to see
00:32:28.020 some things
00:32:28.780 really hit the
00:32:29.700 wall hard
00:32:30.300 before anyone
00:32:31.480 kind of learns
00:32:32.260 those lessons
00:32:33.520 unfortunately
00:32:34.360 but they
00:32:35.720 certainly will
00:32:36.320 come which I
00:32:37.300 guess kind of
00:32:38.020 leads me to my
00:32:39.500 next question
00:32:40.220 can people
00:32:42.540 or I guess
00:32:44.780 well you know
00:32:45.620 two levels of
00:32:46.540 this can
00:32:46.860 individuals make
00:32:47.660 these decisions
00:32:48.640 and can societies
00:32:49.720 make these
00:32:50.180 decisions can
00:32:51.340 they look at
00:32:52.480 where we're at
00:32:53.580 see kind of
00:32:54.660 the terrible
00:32:55.440 implications of
00:32:56.880 where we're
00:32:57.240 going and
00:32:58.280 actively choose
00:32:59.880 to walk away
00:33:01.200 from certain
00:33:02.540 pieces of
00:33:03.080 technology certain
00:33:04.460 things that they
00:33:05.620 think of as
00:33:06.060 liberating but
00:33:07.140 you know kind of
00:33:08.320 put us on the
00:33:08.880 course to where
00:33:09.500 we are now
00:33:10.000 I mean the
00:33:10.620 things that
00:33:11.000 you're talking
00:33:11.400 about would
00:33:11.920 basically the
00:33:14.160 changes that
00:33:14.660 would need to
00:33:15.060 be made would
00:33:16.340 impact both
00:33:17.080 left and right
00:33:17.920 goals in very
00:33:19.500 negative ways
00:33:20.760 the left would
00:33:21.800 have to
00:33:22.520 acknowledge that
00:33:23.920 you know women
00:33:24.760 can't have it
00:33:25.540 all that they
00:33:26.880 you know that
00:33:27.400 there are
00:33:28.260 responsibilities and
00:33:29.540 ties that have
00:33:30.860 to exist and
00:33:32.700 that certain
00:33:33.160 sacrifices and
00:33:34.240 autonomy have to
00:33:35.100 be made and
00:33:36.120 the right would
00:33:36.720 have to admit
00:33:37.660 that you know
00:33:39.280 there will be
00:33:40.160 an economic
00:33:40.780 impact for
00:33:42.160 this kind of
00:33:42.760 stuff sacrifices
00:33:43.940 have to be
00:33:44.780 made GDP can't
00:33:46.240 be the driver of
00:33:47.140 all decisions and
00:33:48.640 they'd have to
00:33:49.160 admit that we
00:33:49.960 have to dedicate
00:33:50.880 a certain segment
00:33:51.780 of our society
00:33:52.660 to actually
00:33:53.500 producing the
00:33:54.780 type of families
00:33:55.460 that we pretend
00:33:56.060 like we want to
00:33:56.640 see
00:33:56.900 I'd probably
00:33:59.780 share your
00:34:00.240 pessimism that
00:34:01.920 would be that
00:34:02.820 is the short
00:34:03.340 answer I mean
00:34:04.500 it hasn't
00:34:05.260 happened yet put
00:34:05.960 it that way but
00:34:07.020 but that said I
00:34:08.120 mean cultures
00:34:10.100 change slowly and
00:34:11.320 then all at once
00:34:12.080 right you know
00:34:13.400 and I think my
00:34:15.100 hunch is it will
00:34:15.960 change probably not
00:34:16.980 in our lifetimes you
00:34:18.020 know you and I
00:34:18.480 will still be raging
00:34:19.220 about all of this
00:34:19.980 in 20 30 40
00:34:21.560 years time you
00:34:22.500 know if there's an
00:34:23.500 internet still at that
00:34:24.360 point I mean if
00:34:24.900 there isn't you know
00:34:25.480 we'll be somewhere
00:34:26.540 quite different
00:34:26.980 anyway but
00:34:28.500 cultures change
00:34:29.420 slowly and then
00:34:30.060 all at once
00:34:30.640 and what's
00:34:33.460 what's most
00:34:34.060 likely will be
00:34:36.260 that it just
00:34:37.120 becomes rapidly
00:34:38.280 apparent that
00:34:39.500 the the only
00:34:40.720 people the only
00:34:41.560 the only subsets
00:34:42.620 of the culture
00:34:43.160 which are capable
00:34:43.840 of reproducing
00:34:44.520 themselves in any
00:34:45.360 meaningful way
00:34:46.220 are the ones who
00:34:47.200 figured out how
00:34:48.060 to how to buck
00:34:48.760 some of these
00:34:49.160 trends and how
00:34:50.680 to how to how
00:34:52.400 to transmit how
00:34:53.160 to transmit healthy
00:34:54.420 personhood of some
00:34:56.000 kind and healthy
00:34:56.820 healthy social and
00:34:59.140 child rearing norms
00:35:00.180 down the generations
00:35:01.040 and that's not going
00:35:02.140 to be everybody you
00:35:03.180 know certainly not on
00:35:04.040 current trends it's
00:35:05.000 not going to be
00:35:05.420 everybody but but
00:35:08.700 chances are it'll be
00:35:09.540 some people and and
00:35:10.940 those those will be
00:35:11.760 hopefully at least
00:35:12.860 those those will be
00:35:13.740 the the means that
00:35:15.100 that that perpetuate
00:35:16.620 with the genes you
00:35:18.560 know the I mean you
00:35:19.500 know there's there's a
00:35:20.200 whole a whole load of
00:35:20.900 bumps and you know
00:35:21.440 there's a whole there
00:35:22.580 there are too many
00:35:23.080 variables really to
00:35:24.000 be able to predict
00:35:24.580 with any with any
00:35:25.760 confidence but I think
00:35:28.200 eventually people will
00:35:29.340 figure it out and
00:35:29.940 they'll figure out that
00:35:30.660 actually there are there
00:35:31.820 are limits that you
00:35:32.480 can't go beyond either
00:35:33.480 in the name of personal
00:35:34.460 autonomy or in the name
00:35:35.820 of making the line go
00:35:36.680 up and that in fact
00:35:37.900 we're pretty much at
00:35:39.020 those limits already I
00:35:40.580 mean that's that's
00:35:41.160 certainly my read on
00:35:41.960 where we are now you
00:35:43.420 know we've reached the
00:35:44.280 point where we're
00:35:45.200 trying we're trying to
00:35:45.940 bust out of the limits
00:35:46.880 of we're trying to
00:35:49.540 sever the link between
00:35:50.260 mothers and babies which
00:35:51.340 is just nuts I mean
00:35:52.860 the the idea that you
00:35:53.760 can do that and still
00:35:54.640 be producing people I
00:35:56.940 mean the the the
00:35:58.900 point the point where
00:35:59.760 you're where you're
00:36:00.200 producing human gametes
00:36:01.620 which don't have a
00:36:02.640 mother or a father and
00:36:04.400 they're like oh no no
00:36:05.300 of course we're not
00:36:05.900 going to turn those
00:36:06.380 into actual babies I
00:36:07.180 mean this was a
00:36:07.600 headline this week it's
00:36:08.460 probably it's probably
00:36:09.400 crossed your radar
00:36:10.280 they've they figured
00:36:11.440 out how to how to
00:36:12.280 create synthetic
00:36:13.140 embryos that would
00:36:14.260 that do not originate
00:36:16.060 from from the gametes
00:36:17.300 of of live human men
00:36:19.080 and women and they're
00:36:19.960 like oh we're just
00:36:20.560 going to create them
00:36:21.040 for experiments and
00:36:21.760 we're not going to
00:36:22.100 grow actual babies
00:36:22.800 from them honest we're
00:36:23.560 not and you're like
00:36:24.640 well okay but
00:36:26.620 eventually somebody
00:36:27.920 will because you know
00:36:28.820 there's there's there's
00:36:29.680 going to be somebody
00:36:30.200 who'll do it just
00:36:30.660 because they can and
00:36:32.040 then I mean we can
00:36:33.700 only speculate at
00:36:34.660 what what it will what
00:36:35.620 it would be like
00:36:36.140 growing up as a
00:36:36.760 person with literally
00:36:37.640 no mother and father
00:36:38.460 even at the genetic
00:36:39.180 level but but there
00:36:41.680 comes a point where
00:36:42.720 you where you slice you
00:36:44.060 slice human normal down
00:36:45.240 to the point where
00:36:45.880 you're just not you're
00:36:46.600 not a human anymore
00:36:47.560 and you're not producing
00:36:48.480 humans and you're not
00:36:49.280 what you what you're
00:36:49.940 you're working with
00:36:50.620 something something
00:36:51.320 much more protein
00:36:52.320 and and I think I
00:36:54.240 think we're pretty
00:36:54.660 much already at that
00:36:55.700 limit you know in a
00:36:56.820 in a functional social
00:36:58.260 at the functional social
00:36:59.520 level when it comes to
00:37:00.980 dismantling the basic
00:37:02.500 givens of the human of
00:37:04.040 the of the intimate
00:37:05.200 social fabric certainly
00:37:06.680 and and I think people
00:37:10.160 are beginning to realize
00:37:11.000 that the it the people
00:37:12.260 that the group that
00:37:13.320 pays the price is always
00:37:14.420 children you know who
00:37:16.540 are who are the
00:37:17.180 shoulders with least able
00:37:18.400 to carry it you know if
00:37:19.600 you're if you're
00:37:20.100 reordering the the
00:37:21.280 fabric of human nature
00:37:22.340 to suit adult desire
00:37:23.320 it's always children who
00:37:24.260 pay the price event
00:37:25.260 ultimately you might say
00:37:26.580 oh it's women but
00:37:27.260 actually really if you if
00:37:28.440 you if you do the final
00:37:30.140 accounting it's always
00:37:30.840 children yeah because
00:37:32.600 whether they're sacrificing
00:37:34.940 mother love and nurture
00:37:36.600 so that so that their
00:37:39.380 mothers can be
00:37:40.080 emancipated either to make
00:37:41.200 rent or to self-actualize
00:37:42.380 depending on social class
00:37:43.500 or whether it's your
00:37:44.780 babies who are being
00:37:45.700 separated from their
00:37:46.680 gestational mother at
00:37:47.620 birth so they can be
00:37:48.380 handed to chloe
00:37:48.940 kardashian who then
00:37:49.820 basically ignores them
00:37:50.780 for for six months
00:37:52.380 until she gets her
00:37:53.060 heading gear or whatever
00:37:54.540 yeah that it's children
00:37:58.500 who pay the price
00:37:59.080 yeah I think that's
00:38:01.560 absolutely true because
00:38:02.600 there's just no there's
00:38:04.460 no accounting for what's
00:38:05.480 going to happen next
00:38:06.160 especially when those
00:38:06.900 kind of when those
00:38:08.020 changes are are kind of
00:38:09.720 in the works everyone
00:38:10.980 just kind of assumes
00:38:11.860 that children will kind
00:38:12.760 of move along with it
00:38:13.660 that everything will be
00:38:14.460 fine but it's amazing
00:38:16.120 kind of how prescient
00:38:17.100 uh c.s lewis was in
00:38:19.200 the abolition of man
00:38:20.100 just kind of looking at
00:38:21.280 how social engineering
00:38:22.840 would would eventually
00:38:24.360 just kind of completely
00:38:25.640 erase the baseline of
00:38:27.540 of human nature or it
00:38:29.060 could though I think
00:38:29.920 you're right that we're
00:38:30.680 we're getting to the
00:38:31.760 edge of that and it's
00:38:32.580 weird how everyone
00:38:33.320 that every totalitarian
00:38:34.480 regime eventually just
00:38:35.540 comes to the same
00:38:36.240 conclusion that we need
00:38:37.460 to create motherless
00:38:38.380 children it is it is
00:38:40.780 amazing how often that
00:38:41.900 that is uh you know
00:38:43.880 the natural kind of
00:38:45.100 evolution of the
00:38:46.340 centralization of power
00:38:47.460 it's not it's not
00:38:48.380 really that surprising
00:38:50.180 because I mean
00:38:51.180 ultimately if you want
00:38:52.240 to create the kind of
00:38:53.660 the kind of absolute
00:38:54.940 state that that admits
00:38:57.480 of no relationships at
00:38:58.900 all except that between
00:39:00.160 the individual and the
00:39:01.360 total state then you
00:39:02.880 have to you you have to
00:39:04.220 obliterate relationality as
00:39:05.820 such right and and the
00:39:07.900 original the the first and
00:39:09.380 original template for
00:39:10.480 relationality is the one
00:39:11.660 between mother and baby
00:39:12.440 and that that's that's
00:39:13.980 the first merged
00:39:15.140 interpersonal relationship
00:39:16.380 it's it's the original
00:39:17.780 one from which all of
00:39:18.800 the others then then
00:39:19.680 emerge and differentiate
00:39:20.540 so so of course of course
00:39:22.340 you want to create
00:39:23.000 motherless children
00:39:23.740 because motherless
00:39:24.740 children have nobody
00:39:25.480 looking out for them
00:39:26.200 when they're babies so
00:39:27.000 they can be formed in
00:39:27.800 any way you you care to
00:39:28.940 form them um and they
00:39:30.540 and they have no template
00:39:31.580 for what being loved
00:39:32.360 looks like so you can
00:39:33.560 you can ask them to do
00:39:34.720 anything in return for
00:39:35.800 scraps of whatever yeah
00:39:37.700 it's it stands to reason
00:39:39.220 of course it does
00:39:39.860 yeah i think it's i think
00:39:43.540 it's a it's a difficult
00:39:44.680 thing again like you
00:39:45.540 said it's a it's a
00:39:46.500 bridge it's a problem
00:39:48.100 that is uh kind of a
00:39:50.600 slow-moving train wreck
00:39:51.800 and no one can really
00:39:53.720 create a coalition to
00:39:55.400 stop it because again
00:39:56.360 it attacks kind of the
00:39:57.920 basis of of both sides
00:39:59.700 you know that every part
00:40:01.480 of the society that has
00:40:02.780 a significant hold on
00:40:04.320 power has every incentive
00:40:06.220 to kind of completely
00:40:07.400 ignore the problem uh
00:40:09.120 despite kind of all the
00:40:10.380 the evidence that this
00:40:11.480 is going to continue
00:40:12.580 do you see i guess we've
00:40:14.660 already kind of talked
00:40:15.360 about how neither of us
00:40:16.280 are particularly uh
00:40:17.860 optimistic on the
00:40:19.160 short-term prospects
00:40:20.200 we do actually have one
00:40:21.420 tiny note of optimism
00:40:22.600 oh great good
00:40:23.480 paradoxically it's
00:40:25.080 mediated by technology
00:40:26.140 i should i should make
00:40:27.360 it clear i'm by no means
00:40:28.840 in every way a tech
00:40:30.300 skeptic i do i do think
00:40:31.940 the only way out is
00:40:32.740 through um you know we
00:40:34.240 can't we uncle ted was
00:40:35.760 wrong about that
00:40:36.460 unfortunately so i
00:40:37.860 shouldn't say you know i
00:40:38.620 didn't say you know
00:40:39.500 uncle ted was wrong um
00:40:41.000 he we're not going to be
00:40:42.260 able to unplug any of
00:40:43.340 this stuff we're not we
00:40:44.140 you can't go back there's
00:40:45.080 no there's no there's no
00:40:46.160 return there just isn't
00:40:47.400 um but we but but we
00:40:51.200 have we have to go and
00:40:52.240 the only way out is
00:40:53.020 through um and one one
00:40:54.920 positive development um
00:40:57.120 actually in in my corner
00:40:58.640 of things which is which is
00:41:00.000 the women's movement i
00:41:00.900 guess one one one
00:41:02.260 structural change which has
00:41:03.880 been brought about more
00:41:04.840 than anything by the
00:41:05.900 internet is that mothers
00:41:07.560 get a say in feminism for
00:41:09.040 pretty much the first time
00:41:10.400 since since the early
00:41:11.640 20th century yeah but up
00:41:14.440 to the at the point where
00:41:15.660 where the the editor where
00:41:16.780 campaigning was for the
00:41:17.660 vote there were a great
00:41:18.720 many mothers involved but
00:41:19.820 from the second wave
00:41:20.580 onwards they were pretty
00:41:22.060 much structurally excluded
00:41:23.260 in it you know so so much
00:41:25.280 so in fact that it was the
00:41:26.980 movement was to a great
00:41:28.320 extent about being anything
00:41:29.380 except a mother i mean
00:41:30.780 shulamith firestone
00:41:31.780 fantasized about the the
00:41:33.260 ultimate emancipation of
00:41:34.500 women being the point at
00:41:35.420 which gestation could
00:41:36.280 happen in in a piece of
00:41:37.740 technology and thereby
00:41:39.340 liberate women from from
00:41:40.900 the the basic fact of
00:41:43.200 being female and i mean
00:41:44.360 she kind of got her wish
00:41:45.240 although it didn't really
00:41:46.040 work out quite as
00:41:47.140 emancipated as she thought
00:41:49.860 it would you know is it
00:41:51.360 yeah it didn't it didn't
00:41:52.080 quite work out as she was
00:41:53.040 expecting but we're kind of
00:41:54.780 mostly there but um but
00:41:57.640 but one of the one of the
00:41:58.420 things technology has done
00:41:59.640 actually in response to the
00:42:00.840 way women have been
00:42:01.720 emancipated quote unquote
00:42:02.940 more recently from even
00:42:04.420 needing to be female um
00:42:06.180 what one of the one of the
00:42:07.740 made major groups pushing
00:42:08.940 back against that has been
00:42:09.880 mothers because we know
00:42:11.460 perfect you know anybody
00:42:12.360 who's grown and grown a
00:42:13.420 human in their literal
00:42:14.380 entrails knows perfectly
00:42:15.580 well what woman is right
00:42:16.820 and and we also know what
00:42:18.640 the temp you know we also
00:42:19.600 understand that basic that
00:42:21.100 fundamental template for
00:42:22.140 relationality and and
00:42:23.780 whereas whereas back in the
00:42:25.960 day um i remember reading a
00:42:28.260 bitterly ironic piece in an
00:42:29.720 in a radical feminist
00:42:30.780 anthology from the 90s
00:42:32.400 about a feminist group that
00:42:34.020 that had taken a vote on
00:42:35.480 whether or not to include a
00:42:36.520 crash in their women's
00:42:37.420 center and and the the move
00:42:39.060 had been voted down because
00:42:40.240 all of the feminists who are
00:42:41.720 mothers weren't able to show
00:42:42.740 up because they had kids to
00:42:43.700 look after and that that's
00:42:45.100 the basic problem right right
00:42:46.680 you know there's a there's a
00:42:48.520 set of voices which are
00:42:49.500 structurally excluded because
00:42:50.640 they're just busy um and
00:42:52.320 thanks to the internet that's
00:42:53.560 just not nearly as much the
00:42:54.980 case as it used to be there
00:42:56.040 are a lot of mothers who are
00:42:57.460 scrolling while doing five
00:42:58.680 other things as mothers
00:42:59.540 generally are and who are
00:43:01.020 tweeting and who are
00:43:01.700 mobilizing and and pretty
00:43:03.480 much the entirety of the of
00:43:05.220 the of turf island began as a
00:43:07.920 as a as a room on mumsnet i
00:43:10.400 mean it's a great deal more
00:43:11.260 than that now and it's you
00:43:12.180 know it's spawned
00:43:12.800 internationally notorious
00:43:13.860 figures such as posy parker
00:43:15.020 but but posy parker was a
00:43:16.400 mumsnetter that's where she
00:43:17.400 got her handle from yeah and
00:43:18.940 there's so there's an entire
00:43:20.440 that and and there and i see
00:43:22.100 it i see it coming through i
00:43:23.340 said there's a whole a whole
00:43:24.860 swathe of women who are
00:43:26.260 mothers and who also think and
00:43:27.940 who also take an interest in
00:43:29.000 these questions and who see
00:43:30.620 and who see the defense of
00:43:31.980 children and the defense of
00:43:33.460 women as mothers as being
00:43:35.300 absolutely central to to the
00:43:37.580 women's movement now in a way
00:43:38.640 which was just structurally
00:43:39.600 impossible even back in the
00:43:41.000 1990s and i and to me that's
00:43:42.860 an incredibly positive
00:43:43.620 development and it's one of
00:43:44.600 the way the ways in which
00:43:46.160 technology might be a way
00:43:47.220 through as well as being a
00:43:48.960 whole concatenating series of
00:43:50.800 disasters yeah you you are kind
00:43:52.820 of through the other side of
00:43:53.960 this thing where you know
00:43:55.340 everybody was sold this lie
00:43:57.300 but particularly women that
00:43:58.560 there would be this progress
00:44:00.240 you know there'd be this
00:44:01.120 liberation uh you you all bonds
00:44:03.720 could be severed all
00:44:04.660 responsibilities could be
00:44:05.960 taken off of your shoulders
00:44:07.380 everything could be alienated
00:44:09.260 and what we've learned really
00:44:11.780 is that that's a lie you can
00:44:14.460 completely liberate yourself from
00:44:16.340 traditional bonds but you'll
00:44:17.900 simply receive a whole new set of
00:44:19.820 shackles and you'll also be uh
00:44:22.620 you'll also lose all of the
00:44:24.740 protections that those bonds
00:44:26.120 once created all of those
00:44:28.200 things that you know shielded
00:44:29.580 your children uh shielded you uh
00:44:32.060 from kind of the ravages of
00:44:33.620 things that maybe didn't
00:44:34.940 understand once once kind of
00:44:36.620 those things are gone and so i
00:44:38.500 think there is a like you said
00:44:39.820 there is a growing ability of
00:44:41.820 women who now understand the
00:44:44.120 value of those things to have a
00:44:45.460 voice in that discussion to
00:44:46.880 understand that you know taking
00:44:48.940 care of women means
00:44:50.380 understanding that some of
00:44:51.900 these things were there for
00:44:53.780 their protection some of those
00:44:54.960 things were there for the
00:44:55.880 protection of their children
00:44:56.840 some of those things exist you
00:44:59.180 know that there is no there is
00:45:02.060 no just free you know there's no
00:45:03.520 such thing as a free lunch you
00:45:04.700 don't just get to trade all these
00:45:05.920 things in and just be completely
00:45:08.060 liberated that in fact actually a
00:45:10.720 more fulfilling existence might
00:45:12.620 happen inside certain confines and
00:45:15.200 that is of course again as true for
00:45:17.000 men as women you know men have
00:45:18.380 also been lied to about you know
00:45:20.120 you you don't need a family you
00:45:21.260 don't need this stuff there's all
00:45:22.180 the you know there's all these
00:45:23.140 uh you know get rid of these
00:45:24.500 duties and responsibilities uh
00:45:26.420 play the field forever you'll
00:45:27.680 you'll never you'll never uh end
00:45:29.220 up paying any kind of uh
00:45:30.800 he was advising guys to get a
00:45:33.040 vasectomy in your 20s and then
00:45:34.400 spend all spend your life earning
00:45:36.240 money and having empty sex
00:45:37.720 right i have no idea if anybody
00:45:39.660 listens to rollo tomasti but i i
00:45:41.280 looked i was like what what really
00:45:43.800 but yeah but there's no shortage of
00:45:45.960 this kind of advice and so i think
00:45:47.540 there's um i think there really is
00:45:49.760 you're right that there is the
00:45:51.100 good news is that there's this
00:45:52.280 opportunity for many people have
00:45:54.600 learned this lesson and again you
00:45:55.860 see so i think that's probably why
00:45:57.760 you see you know on both sides like
00:46:00.160 you said you see these uh women who
00:46:02.080 might have been part of the
00:46:03.000 feminist movement or would have
00:46:04.140 been shut out of the feminist
00:46:04.980 movement now having a voice about
00:46:06.820 you know why motherhood and these
00:46:08.400 things matter you also have these
00:46:10.080 guys around that's the other thing
00:46:11.960 you know if you want so if you
00:46:13.360 want to get something done give it
00:46:14.920 to a mum who's got to get it done
00:46:16.220 before before the school run
00:46:17.540 seriously um i mean america's
00:46:20.140 newest hate group mums for liberty
00:46:21.900 right that's exactly right yeah yeah
00:46:24.700 lose lose your banking privileges
00:46:26.180 you're the new extremists
00:46:27.340 congratulations right
00:46:28.440 these are literally like carpooling
00:46:32.620 sandwich making you know uh school
00:46:35.540 gate mums is completely insane but
00:46:37.580 they're incredibly effective and and
00:46:40.060 because they really care you know
00:46:41.940 they've properly got skin in the
00:46:43.200 game they understand what's at stake
00:46:45.080 and they're mums so they get shit
00:46:46.280 done yep and you also you also have
00:46:48.920 this phenomenon on the other side
00:46:50.260 of kind of these men's right
00:46:51.400 activists or these uh these pickup
00:46:53.640 artist guys who are kind of get to
00:46:56.080 the end of this chase and they
00:46:57.700 realize you know they find god they
00:46:59.900 have a family like the you know
00:47:01.180 they there's they're just i think
00:47:02.820 it's a pipeline now isn't it it's
00:47:04.540 incredible i'm sorry yeah it's a
00:47:06.400 pipeline absolutely 100 percent and
00:47:08.380 so yeah you you kind of at the
00:47:10.320 bottom of this you know at the
00:47:12.040 bottom of that uh uh that bottle of
00:47:14.520 red pills is kind of the final is
00:47:16.540 kind of that final pill which is oh
00:47:18.880 actually a somewhat traditional
00:47:21.160 existence with inside bonds of duty
00:47:23.460 and commitment is actually the thing
00:47:25.340 that will give my life meaning
00:47:27.080 really tested this to destruction i've
00:47:29.540 finally i've taken the gold pill and
00:47:31.460 you know and now you can buy my new
00:47:32.920 lecture series
00:47:33.580 well i mean if you don't get to hock it
00:47:37.180 on twitter then well you know what did
00:47:38.560 you even go through the life
00:47:39.360 experience yeah no that's right but
00:47:40.900 equally you know
00:47:41.560 everyone loves a story of redemption
00:47:44.960 and
00:47:45.580 yeah no i think i think they resonate
00:47:49.940 because a lot of people are on these
00:47:51.500 tracks it's a it's something that a lot
00:47:52.880 of people are feeling simultaneously
00:47:54.300 yeah yeah but yeah i think if there's
00:47:56.860 if there's one positive there's a one
00:47:59.040 one positive avenue it's that it's
00:48:01.080 that the mums the mums are organized
00:48:02.460 and they're getting more organized and
00:48:04.320 and and the mums know what time it is
00:48:06.080 you know to a growing a growing subset
00:48:08.340 of the m of mothers know what time it
00:48:10.000 is
00:48:10.220 and and they're taking taking action
00:48:12.640 accordingly and and and politicians
00:48:15.700 notice pretty quickly you know when when
00:48:17.920 when when a country's mothers are
00:48:20.100 mobilized against you you're in trouble
00:48:22.900 because at the end of the day mums set
00:48:26.260 the moral tone
00:48:26.820 not just not just for now and not just
00:48:29.700 you know in amongst amongst communities
00:48:31.820 in general but for the next generation as
00:48:33.560 well you know unless you can extract their
00:48:35.700 children from them at the age of two
00:48:36.880 weeks and and and and you know educate
00:48:38.980 them within a totalitarian in safetyist
00:48:41.500 environment obviously but you know to to
00:48:43.440 the extent that that mothers resist that
00:48:45.560 they they should they they form the morals
00:48:47.220 of the next generation and yeah and if
00:48:50.320 they hate you you're in trouble so yeah so
00:48:52.480 once once mothers begin to once they use
00:48:55.280 use the internet to mobilize there's a
00:48:57.360 there's some there's some hope i think
00:48:58.920 yeah yeah i think you're right like we i can
00:49:01.200 deal out uh one more piece of optimism for
00:49:03.080 everybody here you know a lot of people
00:49:04.320 like to talk about elite theory they like
00:49:06.300 to say that okay i understand these things
00:49:08.620 kind of happen top down uh but they don't
00:49:11.100 really think about the implications you're
00:49:12.440 absolutely right that of course you know a
00:49:14.200 lot of people complain about the awful right
00:49:15.800 the the affluent uh white female liberal
00:49:18.760 because they because they have this innate
00:49:21.460 ability to kind of reinforce the standards of
00:49:24.240 the society and if the standards of the
00:49:27.060 society are currently hideous and destructive
00:49:30.120 then yeah it seems like these are your
00:49:32.240 enemy but they're not your enemy these
00:49:34.120 are people who are just doing their job
00:49:35.600 they're the the the social antibodies of
00:49:38.140 the system and so that's just what women
00:49:40.780 have always done where women set the
00:49:42.060 moral tone i mean it's it's it's as
00:49:44.120 evident in in 19th century literature and
00:49:47.300 history as it is in the in in 20th and
00:49:49.900 and and it's yeah it's always the same
00:49:51.800 picture that's just that's just what
00:49:53.060 women do at scale and so if you have
00:49:55.840 women who are making the only problem is
00:49:57.400 that it's ordered to the wrong the wrong
00:49:58.860 set of morals exactly but if you can
00:50:01.620 social ones but if you can get that flip
00:50:04.000 you know if you can get the movement
00:50:05.340 you're talking about where mothers
00:50:06.640 realize oh wait no this is terrible for
00:50:09.120 me and this is terrible for my children
00:50:10.880 and this is something that i have to
00:50:13.480 work against because if i don't it's
00:50:14.820 going to destroy the future of my
00:50:16.920 children then all of a sudden you can
00:50:18.820 get that uh that change in a very
00:50:20.800 dynamic way because of the uh thing
00:50:23.620 you're talking about here yeah and i
00:50:25.520 think what what needs to be spelled out
00:50:27.860 again and again and again is that it's
00:50:30.720 always children who pay the price
00:50:31.760 absolutely without fail and i we have
00:50:34.120 we we just need to tell that story we
00:50:36.680 just need to show the receipts i mean
00:50:38.260 it's it's clear enough to anybody who's
00:50:39.760 paying attention but that but that that
00:50:41.820 message just needs to be very much
00:50:44.380 clearer and very much more front and
00:50:45.660 center it's always the children who pay
00:50:47.060 the price you know when you set out to
00:50:48.960 destroy human nature you know the the it's
00:50:51.520 the littlest shoulders who bear the
00:50:52.980 biggest load and that's just not how it
00:50:55.260 should be absolutely all right guys so
00:50:57.980 before we move over to the questions of
00:51:00.440 the people mary can you let everyone
00:51:02.600 know where to find your stuff where they
00:51:04.300 can find your book everything they need
00:51:05.660 sure the the book is feminism against
00:51:08.260 progress i imagine most of your viewers
00:51:10.780 are in the united states there it's
00:51:12.200 published with regnery books
00:51:13.420 um i can be found at reactionary
00:51:16.460 feminist on substack or at moving
00:51:18.560 circles on twitter and i'm the
00:51:19.860 contributing editor at unheard which i
00:51:21.560 think some americans at least read it's
00:51:23.600 a daily current affairs and politics
00:51:25.640 uh digital magazine based in the united
00:51:28.160 kingdom where i write a weekly column
00:51:29.580 excellent all right guys let's go ahead
00:51:32.420 and check out your questions we got one
00:51:35.140 here from creeper weirdo for five dollars
00:51:36.980 thank you very much sir all a while back
00:51:39.220 i told my younger brother about the site
00:51:41.860 redux and that there is such a thing as
00:51:44.080 reactionary feminism what a difference
00:51:46.840 some years make yeah that that would have
00:51:50.040 sounded a very odd thing i'm sure to to
00:51:51.980 most people it still is i guess a little
00:51:53.640 bit uh to some people but i think
00:51:55.960 again i think that's kind of the i think
00:51:58.240 that was a very clever uh turn of phrase
00:52:00.100 uh for your book title because it really
00:52:02.380 does give people an understanding of
00:52:04.660 looking at female well-being from a
00:52:07.620 position uh that many people would have
00:52:09.920 understood perhaps as reactionary but i
00:52:12.180 think is really essential if you're going
00:52:15.280 to address the problems that women and men
00:52:17.280 are facing today well yeah i mean if if the
00:52:19.860 progressive project is just making life
00:52:22.320 measurably and obviously worse for the
00:52:24.480 majority of women then the obvious place
00:52:27.320 for a feminist to stand is against progress
00:52:29.120 i mean duh i mean great reactionary
00:52:32.960 feminism actually it kind of started as a
00:52:34.500 meme on my twitter bio and then i had to
00:52:36.480 i had to kind of back rationalize what it
00:52:38.700 was that i actually meant by it because
00:52:40.520 a very serious magazine wrote to me and said
00:52:43.180 well what do you mean by it so then i had to
00:52:45.040 work it out and that kind of yeah so i
00:52:48.140 actually i kind of wrote my manifesto
00:52:49.980 backwards but i mean as a general
00:52:51.660 principle meme first and ask questions
00:52:53.360 later i think it's exactly it's the right
00:52:55.220 way to do it 100 this is a war of memes
00:52:58.000 don't let anyone lie to you this is not a
00:53:00.120 war of essays this is not debate club this
00:53:02.080 is a war it's mad actually i've just like
00:53:04.420 the the concentration level you know you
00:53:06.580 you come out with a meme and you're like
00:53:08.040 yeah that's funny i don't know what it
00:53:09.080 means yet but it's funny and then and
00:53:11.140 then you realize that if you tried if you
00:53:12.580 tried to explain to somebody in like
00:53:14.460 normal paragraphs what that meant it
00:53:15.980 would take at least four or five thousand
00:53:17.200 words but no it's it's just i said i'm
00:53:19.520 just gonna leave it as reactionary
00:53:20.540 feminism until like yeah as someone who
00:53:23.680 also created a meme and now has a book
00:53:26.220 title after it i understand exactly did
00:53:28.260 you want to tap the sign no that well no
00:53:30.840 that's the other the other me i had but
00:53:32.060 the total state you know i the total
00:53:34.400 state started on me as a meme on twitter
00:53:36.120 and now it's uh i made myself write a book
00:53:39.680 about it so it's the way and then and
00:53:41.260 then you you realize that explaining it
00:53:43.040 takes 50 000 words yes exactly all right
00:53:46.780 guys well i think that's everybody there
00:53:48.760 so we're going to go ahead and wrap it
00:53:50.000 up of course make sure that you're
00:53:51.360 checking out everything that mary is
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