As the New York Times unleashes a hit piece on Florida Governor Ron DeSantis, we analyze why both men and women seem increasingly unhappy in the post-sexual revolution era, and Vladimir Putin may be on the verge of unprecedented aggression. We bring you the latest on Hurricane Ian, as the NY Times unloads a hit-piece on Governor Ron deSantis. We also discuss why both women and men are increasingly unhappy with the way things are going in the Post-Sex Revolution era. And we discuss why you should be worried about what's happening in the world outside of your home, and why it's a good idea to have a sex life in a post-sex revolution world. All that and more on today's show from Ben Shapiro's new show on The Ben Shapiro Show on Fox News Radio. Subscribe to the show on your favorite streaming platform so you never miss an episode, and get notified when a new episode is available. Use the promo code SHAPIRO for 50% off your first month of service. You'll get 50% OFF your very first month, plus 20% off of your next month's bill, plus free shipping when you upgrade to $99 or more! Want more Shapiro? Subscribe, rate, and review in Apple Podcasts? Subscribe, and become a supporter of the show! Subscribe & Review! Become a Friend! Ben Shapiro: Thank you for listening and Share this podcast on your favourite podcast platform! Be sure to let me know what you thought of the podcast! and what you think of it means to you and your fellow podcast listeners are listening to it! in the comments section below! And don't forget to tell a friend about the podcast and what they're listening to Ben Shapiro is listening to this episode on social media about it on their feed! I'll be checking it out! Tweet me what s your thoughts on it on Insta: and how much you think it's cool, and what else you're listening about it can do for you? and I'll like it on your podcasting greats? and other things like that you'll be helping me out there on the next episode of the Ben Shapiro Podcast? I'm listening to him on Instapreneurism and what he's listening to that's Ben Shapiro should be listening to you on Instafone or what else he's watching on his Insta on Instagasm?
00:00:00.000We bring you the latest on Hurricane Ian as the New York Times unleashes a hit piece on Florida Governor Ron DeSantis.
00:00:04.000We analyze why both men and women seem increasingly unhappy in the post-sexual revolution era, and Vladimir Putin may be on the verge of unprecedented aggression.
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00:02:34.000Well, the latest news from Hurricane Ian continues to be devastating.
00:02:37.000Obviously, the strike by Hurricane Ian on the west coast of Florida has had some dire consequences.
00:02:43.000Some hundreds of people apparently missing.
00:02:44.000The Florida government is doing an excellent job of ensuring that the resources have been brought to bear.
00:02:49.000You have emergency teams that are on the ground essentially right away looking for people trying to help out any survivors.
00:02:55.000The state itself is mobilizing not just in terms of state resources but also in terms of private charities.
00:03:00.000Pretty much every private institution in Florida has been mobilizing trying to gather food and resources for people who are out of power on the west coast of Florida.
00:03:08.000The storm, Hurricane Ian, continues to actually swirl around off now the east coast of the United States.
00:03:14.000It's going to make landfall again in South Carolina.
00:03:16.000It may in fact be a hurricane at that point.
00:03:18.000According to the Washington Post, Ian is a hurricane once again.
00:03:21.000A storm system that re-intensified Thursday evening as it churns toward South Carolina with 85 mph winds and what the National Hurricane Center called life-threatening flooding and storm surge.
00:03:30.000landfall this time near Charleston around midday on Friday.
00:03:33.000In its wake, Ian left a path of devastation in Florida, though much of the state is still making sense of the exact toll after rescue missions began on Thursday.
00:03:40.000In an evening briefing, Governor Ron DeSantis said that he expected to have mortality from the hurricane.
00:03:45.000There had been more than 700 confirmed rescues thus far.
00:03:48.000He also spoke of the indescribable damage, including buildings picked up off their foundations by the intense wind.
00:03:53.000More than 2.1 million customers remain without power in Florida.
00:03:55.000In Virginia, Georgia, North Carolina, and South Carolina, governors declared states of emergency ahead of Ian's expected shift in their direction.
00:04:03.000There's going to be a lot of people that need help, and I know you guys have been on the front lines of doing that.
00:04:30.000As we say, there is now an attempt being made to rescue people who are stuck in places like Fort Myers, people who stayed in their homes because either they couldn't leave or because they made a bad decision to stay in their homes.
00:04:40.000There's also an attempt to get the power back on because, again, a couple million people do not have power at this point.
00:04:45.000Governor DeSantis said they absolutely expect to have mortality again.
00:04:48.000Nobody knows the death toll at this point from this storm.
00:04:51.000For his part, President Biden did a good thing yesterday.
00:04:54.000He was asked about Florida and Governor DeSantis and his relationship with DeSantis.
00:04:57.000He was visiting FEMA, and he said that it's not worth politicizing all of this, that he and Governor DeSantis are working together, which is exactly what the president is supposed to say.
00:05:07.000How would you describe your relationship and your conversation with Governor DeSantis?
00:05:11.000It's totally irrelevant, but I'll answer it, okay?
00:05:16.000He complimented me, he thanked me for the immediate response we had, he told me how much he appreciated it, said he was extremely happy with what was going on.
00:05:24.000This is not about whether anything having to do with our disagreements politically.
00:05:28.000This is about saving people's lives, homes, and businesses.
00:05:33.000And so I've been, I've talked to him Four or five times already.
00:05:37.000And it's not a matter of my disagreement to them on other items.
00:05:41.000That is absolutely correct from the president and good for him.
00:05:45.000He couldn't resist a little bit of jab about climate change because no one on the left can resist a jab about climate change, despite the fact that, once again, there is no evidence that hurricanes have become either more common or more intense around Florida, thanks to climate change.
00:05:58.000That is not according to me. That is according to the head of the National Oceanographic Institute for the United States, the head of the Hurricane Center.
00:06:07.000Our commitment to tackling the climate crisis, which threatens all of us, we're seeing the consequences of climate change around the world very vividly, including in the United States right now.
00:06:35.000Because he voted against a boondoggle hurricane relief bill that was not a hurricane relief bill during Hurricane Sandy.
00:06:41.000So the New York Times is now just trying to retcon what happened during Hurricane Sandy.
00:06:44.000If you recall, there was a bill that was put forward by the House and Senate Republicans that was just aid for Hurricane Sandy that was voted for by all the Republicans.
00:06:52.000And then there was this enormous bill that included an extraordinary amount of pork that the Democrats put forward and many Republicans voted against that.
00:06:59.000So the New York Times now claims that when Ron DeSantis was in Congress, he voted against aid for Sandy.
00:07:15.000The President of the United States is somebody that you politically oppose.
00:07:18.000You are no longer allowed to access the resources available from FEMA.
00:07:22.000So just to get this straight, if you were a Democratic governor during Donald Trump, you were not allowed to petition the federal government.
00:07:28.000In fact, I remember during COVID, every blue governor begging the federal government for resources.
00:07:33.000And the idea was that if Trump didn't give them the resources, it was because it was political and bad.
00:07:37.000But now if DeSantis even asks for the resources, according to the New York Times, this means that he is political and a hypocrite.
00:07:44.000For the New York Times, Matt Flegenheimer reporting, As a freshman congressman in 2013, Ron DeSantis was unambiguous.
00:07:50.000A federal bailout for the New York region after Hurricane Sandy was an irresponsible boondoggle, a symbol of the put-it-on-the-credit-card mentality he'd come to Washington to oppose.
00:07:57.000He said he sympathized with the victims, but his answer was no.
00:07:59.000Nearly a decade later, as his state confronts the devastation and costly destruction wrought by Hurricane Ian, Mr. DeSantis is appealing to the nation's better angels and betting on its short memory.
00:08:07.000Well, no, he's not betting on his short memory.
00:08:09.000He literally voted in favor of a certain amount of aid for Hurricane Sandy, but Barack Obama and the Democrats crammed through a bill that was way more aid than was necessary for Hurricane Sandy.
00:08:19.000This is a very open debate at the time.
00:08:22.000But again, the goal of the New York Times here is to suggest that Ron DeSantis is suddenly a socialist.
00:08:27.000That Ron DeSantis is suddenly a fan of big government.
00:08:31.000It's the stupidest form of politics here.
00:08:35.000FEMA was created specifically for this thing.
00:08:38.000And now FEMA is bringing its resources to bear.
00:08:40.000The debate over whether the federal government should be involved in solving state-level issues like this.
00:08:47.000That debate, I think, should be open theoretically, but it has not been open on a practical level since, as I said yesterday, about 1895.
00:08:53.000For a very, very long time in the United States, there's been an understanding the federal government is going to bring its resources to bear when there's a major natural disaster in the United States.
00:09:01.000This has been true for well over a hundred years.
00:09:03.000And so this notion that Ron DeSantis is doing something unprecedented, Or evil.
00:09:17.000It's also absurd because again, they're retconning this thing because the notion that Hurricane Sandy was the breaking point for DeSantis and DeSantis didn't vote for it.
00:09:27.000He did vote for aid, he just didn't vote for all of the pork.
00:09:30.000In a local interview that year, DeSantis said the bill contained extraneous stuff that could not be classified as emergency spending.
00:09:36.000He said I never made the point of saying we shouldn't do anything.
00:09:39.000He did support, in favor of a relief package that was like $17 billion for Hurricane Sandy.
00:09:45.000Governor DeSantis supported an aid package in 2017, after Hurricanes Harvey, Irma, and Maria, as places like Florida, Texas, and Puerto Rico strained to recover.
00:09:54.000So again, this is a very stupid article by the New York Times, but this is perfectly typical of the New York Times and the media looking for some sort of excuse to go after Governor DeSantis.
00:10:03.000And of course, you have Joy Reid, the dumbest form of left-wing commentator on the air over on MSNBC doing the same thing.
00:10:11.000Ron DeSantis had the opportunity to make that decision and say, well, should the people of New York and New Jersey, who were hit by a catastrophic hurricane, they weren't even used to, they're not even in Florida, they don't use hurricanes.
00:10:41.000But they continue to lie because after all, Ron DeSantis is a very, very bad man.
00:10:45.000And so they have to continue to promulgate the idea that Ron DeSantis is a very, very bad man.
00:10:49.000Again, we're not going to know the extent to which the Florida government has done a good job on this hurricane until probably a week or two out.
00:10:54.000But as I said at the very beginning of this, the media is going to be looking for any indicator, any indicator at all, that Ron DeSantis is impersonally repelling from helicopters in order to save dogs in Fort Myers.
00:11:04.000In order to demonstrate that he is not fit to run for the presidency in 2024 because they are scared of the governor of Florida and so they're just making things up at this point.
00:11:11.000Well, meanwhile, controversy has broken out over my friend and colleague here, Jordan Peterson.
00:11:16.000He went on Piers Morgan's show and he was asked specifically about Olivia Wilde's brand new movie, Don't Worry Darling, which is getting just excoriated by the critics, which is a shocker because she is one of the protected people, Olivia Wilde.
00:11:28.000And it doesn't matter that this feminist hero made the actual star of that film, Florence Pugh, apparently extraordinarily uncomfortable on set because she was banging Florence Pugh's co-star, Harry Styles.
00:11:39.000None of that matters because Olivia Wilde is a feminist hero for making a movie that basically suggests that men want to put women back in the kitchen, like it's the 1950s, etc.
00:11:45.000Well, the movie, Don't Worry Darling, apparently, one of the stars, Chris Pine, According to Olivia Wilde is basically playing Jordan Peterson.
00:11:54.000He's supposed to be a cult leader who's trying to create a mental... I don't want to give any spoilers for this dumb movie, but apparently he's trying to create some sort of mental system that people live in a kind of virtual reality whereby Young men can essentially train women to be put back into the kitchen.
00:12:13.000And that's what Jordan Peterson wants.
00:12:15.000And so she says that that character, that Chris Pine cult leader character is based on Jordan Peterson.
00:12:18.000So Jordan was asked about this by Piers Morgan over on Sky News.
00:12:22.000And he got rather emotional about the idea that he should not be attempting to reach out and help disaffected young men.
00:12:29.000The film director Olivia Wilde has a new movie out which she says is based on you, this insane man, this pseudo-intellectual hero to the incel community.
00:12:38.000Incel being these weirdo loner men who are despicable in many ways.
00:13:57.000To the fact that Jordan gets emotional in favor of these young men, that he's attempting to give a sense of purpose.
00:14:02.000This is what the media and the left have jumped on.
00:14:04.000So there's a great hypocrisy here, right?
00:14:06.000The media and the left, they suggest that masculinity, traditional masculinity is bad because traditional masculinity doesn't allow you to show your feelings.
00:14:13.000Then here's Jordan Peterson, a hero to a lot of young men because he stands in favor of traditional masculinity and masculine roles.
00:14:21.000He's tearing up while talking about these people who are disaffected.
00:14:25.000So he's demonstrating to them that emotionality in public is actually not the end of the world and the left is angry at him for that.
00:14:30.000But this goes to a broader point that is really dangerous in American life right now.
00:14:34.000And that is that a huge swath of elite opinion makers in the United States, a huge swath of our media, Many members of the political left, they have decided that there's an entirely dispensable portion of the population, and this is young, disaffected men.
00:14:48.000And that is having a radical impact on how people live.
00:14:58.000The statistics on female happiness over the course of the last half century have not demonstrated increased female happiness with the androgynization of gender.
00:15:06.000They have not created extraordinary levels of female happiness with later marriage and less childbearing and rearing.
00:15:14.000The stats on men right now are devastating in the United States.
00:15:17.000David Brooks has a piece today in the New York Times titled, The Crisis of Men and Boys.
00:15:22.000He says, if you've been paying attention to the social trends, you probably have some inkling that boys and men are struggling in the United States and across the globe.
00:15:49.000Between three American men with only a high school diploma, 10 million men is now out of the labor force.
00:15:53.000The biggest drop in employment is among young men aged 25 to 34.
00:15:57.000Men who entered the workforce in 1983 will earn about 10% less in real terms in their lifetimes than those who started one generation earlier.
00:16:03.000Over the same period, women's lifetime earnings have increased 33%.
00:16:06.000Pretty much all of the income gains middle class American families have enjoyed since 1970 are because of increases in women's earnings.
00:16:13.000Now, all of that would be perfectly well and good if the net happiness here were up.
00:16:20.000Men account for close to three out of every four deaths of despair, suicide, and drug overdoses.
00:16:24.000For every 100 middle-aged women who die of COVID up to mid-September 2021, there are 184 middle-aged men who died.
00:16:32.000Richard Reeves' new book, Of Boys and Men, is a landmark, one of the most important books of the year, not only because it's a comprehensive look at the male crisis, but also because it searches for the roots of that crisis and offers solutions.
00:16:44.000Policies and programs designed to promote social mobility often work for women, but not men.
00:16:47.000Reeves, a scholar at the Brookings Institution, that's a liberal think tank, visited Kalamazoo, Michigan, where, thanks to a donor, high school graduates get to go to colleges in the state for free.
00:16:56.000The program increased the number of women getting college degrees by 45%.
00:16:59.000The men's graduation rates remained flat.
00:17:02.000Reeves lists a whole series of programs from early childhood education to college support efforts that produced impressive gains for women, but did not boost men.
00:17:10.000There are many reasons men are struggling.
00:17:12.000According to David Brooks, for example, the decline in manufacturing jobs that put a high value on physical strength, the rise of service sector jobs.
00:17:18.000But I was struck by the theme of demoralization that wafts through the book.
00:17:21.000Reeves talked to men in Kalamazoo about why women were leaping ahead.
00:17:23.000They said women are more motivated, work harder, plan ahead better.
00:17:26.000But this isn't a matter of individual responsibility.
00:17:28.000There's something in modern culture that is producing an aspiration gap.
00:17:54.000So David Brooks says, ambition doesn't just happen, it has to be fired.
00:17:56.000The culture is still searching for a modern masculine ideal.
00:17:59.000It is not instilling in many boys the nurturing and emotional skills that are so desperately important today.
00:18:03.000A system that labels more than a fifth of all boys developmentally disabled is not instilling in them a sense of confidence and competence.
00:19:10.000I took care of the kids while she was in medical school.
00:19:13.000I remember at 7 o'clock every night I would drive our two very young children at the time, my daughter was all of about two and a half years old and my son was a newborn, and I would drive them to the hospital where she was in residency so she could see them for like 25 minutes while she ate her dinner and then she would head back inside to the residency program.
00:19:29.000So I'm very much in favor of the idea that women should be able to work the jobs that they want to work.
00:19:32.000Also, life is a balance and my wife does that beautifully.
00:19:35.000My wife took off time to take care of both of our kids when they were babies.
00:19:39.000And now, because she has the ability to, she wants to work part-time so she can spend more time with the kids.
00:20:03.000I'm talking about the height of female aspiration, according to many members of the left, is abortion.
00:20:06.000For example, the Women's March, literally yesterday, tweeted out, this is a direct quote, quote, we are not just pro-choice, we are proudly, unapologetically pro-abortion.
00:20:17.000They're not even saying women should be able to make the decisions.
00:20:30.000And that was something that was said by Simone Duvalier going all the way back to like the 1960s, talking about the idea that women should be prohibited.
00:20:37.000from childbearing and childrearing because too many women, if allowed to make that decision, would make that decision.
00:20:42.000And that would re-instill all of these social roles and values that actually make life worth living and make life quite beautiful.
00:20:47.000In order to achieve complete equality and flattening, what you really need to do is prevent women from getting involved in marriage, getting involved in having kids.
00:20:54.000What you have to do is deprive men of their social role and deprive women of their social role and turn everybody into an interchangeable widget.
00:21:03.000We'll get to more on this in just one second.
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00:23:55.000And because of that, we have evolved, as a species, many institutions that are designed to channel that traditional masculine aggressive energy toward good purposes.
00:24:16.000Because men are the ones who are going to charge hills and kill each other on behalf of hearth and home.
00:24:20.000As a general rule throughout human history, there are exceptions because every rule has exceptions, but that does not mean the rule does not exist.
00:24:26.000So we created all of these institutions ranging from military service to fatherhood and the man staying in the home and monogamy and taking care of the kids.
00:25:04.000Who's now taking care of the kid by herself?
00:25:05.000It ain't liberation for the child who doesn't have a father.
00:25:07.000And it's not liberation for the man either.
00:25:09.000Because it turns out that all it does is it frees him to be a perennial adolescent who is unhappy and useless.
00:25:16.000What Jordan Peterson says is the same thing that I say.
00:25:18.000The burdens that you take on in life, the obligations you take on in life with regard to roles and family and children, these are what liberate you.
00:25:30.000We are a liberation-centered society in which the only thing that matters is your interior feeling at any given point in time.
00:25:37.000Fulfillment does not come from that interior sense of happiness at any given point in time.
00:25:42.000The man who eats tons of ice cream and dies at age 35 of a heart attack because of morbid obesity did not live a happy life.
00:25:48.000Even though every time he ate the ice cream he felt really good about himself.
00:25:53.000Human beings have always understood for literally all the time that there is a difference between the immediate joy of doing a thing that brings you happiness and the lifelong joy of taking on obligations that are very difficult and that make your life worse in many ways, but in the end make your life a hell of a lot better.
00:26:11.000You give up something and what you get in return is something far greater.
00:26:13.000And then we blew up those institutions in the name of this liberal utopian ideal of atomistic individualism in which the sexual identity that you take on is the most important thing in life.
00:26:25.000That is the only thing that matters in life.
00:26:26.000And again, the results have been dire.
00:26:28.000They've been disastrous for Western civilization as a whole.
00:26:32.000Nicholas Eberstadt has a good book out called Men Without Work.
00:26:36.000He works at American Enterprise Institute, and that book is based on an essay he wrote in January of 2018, talking about how American men are simply falling apart.
00:26:45.000He says the catastrophe is the collapse of work for men.
00:26:48.000In the half century between 1965 and 2015, work rates for the American male spiraled relentlessly downward.
00:26:54.000An ominous migration commenced, a flight from work In which ever greater numbers of working age men exited the labor force altogether.
00:27:01.000America is now home to an ever-growing army of jobless men no longer even looking for work.
00:27:05.000Over 7 million between ages 25 and 55, the traditional prime of working life.
00:27:09.000Now, there are some people who are blaming offshoring of jobs to China, right?
00:27:43.000In 2015, the work rate for American males aged 25 to 54 was slightly lower than it had been in 1940 at the tail end of the Great Depression.
00:27:51.000We're talking when the overall unemployment rate in 1940 was like 11% in the United States.
00:27:56.000Now, in 2015, you have an overall unemployment rate of like 5%.
00:28:01.000And you still have a work rate that is lower for men than in 1940.
00:28:05.000According to the latest official jobs report data available in 2018, the work rate for prime age men in November 2017 was still below the 1940 level.
00:28:14.000The progressive detachment of ever larger numbers of adult men from the reality and routines of regular paid labor poses a self-evident threat to our nation's future prosperity.
00:28:22.000It can only result in lower living standards, greater economic disparities, and slower economic growth than we might otherwise expect.
00:28:28.000The troubles posed by the male flight from work, says Nick Dieberstadt, are by no means solely economic.
00:28:32.000It's also a social crisis and a moral crisis.
00:28:34.000The growing incapability of grown men to function as breadwinners cannot help but undermine the American family.
00:28:38.000By the way, you know what creates the capacity for men to act as breadwinners?
00:28:49.000And so the idea of radical independence, where people don't lean on each other, I lean on my wife, she leans on me, that is the nature of the marriage.
00:28:57.000In Hebrew, the word for love is ahava.
00:29:02.000The root of that word is hav, which means to give.
00:29:20.000And modern society, once you do that, then actually you get far less out of a marriage than you are putting into the marriage.
00:29:26.000There's no reason to get married at all.
00:29:27.000You're basically roommates who have sex with one another.
00:29:30.000That's not a basis on which to build a happy life.
00:29:33.000Among those who should be most capable of shouldering the burdens of civic responsibilities, all of this, says Nicky Burstad, encourages sloth, idleness, and vice is perhaps more insidious.
00:29:41.000Whether we choose to recognize it or not, this feature of the American condition, the new men without work normal, is inimical to our tradition.
00:29:47.000It is subversive of our national ethos, arguably even of our civilization.
00:29:50.000You want to know why you have seen vast increases in pornography use among young men in the United States?
00:30:11.000Going all the way back to Emile Durkheim, there's been a widespread sociological understanding that societal institutions hem in and provide a rationale for existence.
00:30:18.000When you blow up all of those rules, which is what the sexual revolution was about, it wasn't about establishing anything good or new.
00:30:24.000It was about the idea that you have to blow up all these things because all rules and rules are inhibitions that are placed upon your true self.
00:30:31.000But what if your true self, that aimless, formless, chaotic sexual impulse, what if that doesn't make you happy?
00:30:36.000And what if a society that pushes that is not geared toward human happiness?
00:30:40.000What if it's offering you the sugar high, but then you die of morbid obesity at age 35?
00:30:44.000Because that's exactly what's going on in our society right now.
00:30:47.000And you can see it pretty much everywhere.
00:30:49.000You can see it in the way that companies now market.
00:30:53.000And so, for example, Virgin Airlines put out an ad talking about how they are the queerest airline.
00:30:58.000This is the thing they are very, very proud of.
00:31:00.000Because your identity is in, apparently, the clothes that you wear, your sexual activity, your gender identity.
00:31:07.000It is not in Actually like a social role and reinstilling that social role because remember there are children on these flights who are now going to be asking mommy and daddy why it is that men are wearing women's clothing and pretending to be women.
00:31:20.000No, it's all about the idea that you, all human beings, are basically fully formed adults who are allowed to, and should, act as children with regard to their sexual impulse.
00:31:32.000That is the thing that matters most of all.
00:32:07.000And then you have a man who is dressed in women's clothing at the end of that.
00:32:11.000Again, when you completely obliterate the distinction between the sexes, you lose the rationale for there being different sexes.
00:32:17.000You lose the social institutions that have evolved over the course of literally hundreds of thousands of years.
00:32:22.000When you have the Planned Parenthood Director of Trans Care out there saying, in a well-accepted viewpoint on the left now, that men get pregnant, if there's no distinction between men and women, then what exactly is the role of men, and what exactly is the role of women, and why should men take on additional obligation?
00:32:38.000Here's the testimony of Planned Parenthood's Director of Trans Care, Dr. Bhavik Kumar.
00:32:44.000Dr. Kumar, can biological men become pregnant and give birth?
00:32:50.000So, men can have pregnancies, especially trans men?
00:32:55.000Okay, so the question was, can a biological man give birth?
00:32:57.000And the noted doctor here just ignores the question entirely and pretends that men can have babies and give birth.
00:33:15.000He is also going to be a deeply unhappy human being.
00:33:18.000Without those roles, without any sort of purpose or meaning, people fall apart.
00:33:22.000And this is why what we're seeing now is an upswing, a sort of return to the idea that maybe some more traditional forms of, for example, courtship might be a good thing.
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00:35:01.000I may not be one of you, but in some ways, we're not so different.
00:35:04.000You and I, we're both unfairly portrayed by the media, and we're both among the men most hated by woke razor companies and leftist ideologies, which is unfortunate when you consider that frats raise millions of bucks every year for charity.
00:35:15.000One Virginia Tech frat alone raised $255,000 for St.
00:35:58.000So, you know, it turns out that blowing up rolls isn't always the most wonderful thing for humanity.
00:36:04.000The media have been attempting to sort of bury the lead in this particular story, but apparently the U.S.
00:36:08.000Army's first transgender officer and his wife, a Maryland doctor, were indicted on conspiracy charges Wednesday for allegedly attempting to transfer confidential military medical information to Russia.
00:36:18.000The eight-count indictment was unsealed Thursday upon the arrest of the defendants, Major Jamie Lee Henry and anesthesiologist Anna Gabrielin.
00:36:25.000According to a Department of Justice press release, the Army granted Henry's request to officially change his name in accordance with his gender preference in 2015 prior to Henry's case, identifying as a sex different than the one on one's birth certificate made a soldier unfit for military service warranting discharge.
00:36:39.000Gabrielian worked at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, referred to as Medical Institution 1 in the indictment, located in Baltimore, Maryland.
00:36:45.000Henry, who is also a doctor, worked as a staff internist stationed at Fort Bragg.
00:36:48.000The pair are accused of stealing patient health files from Johns Hopkins in Fort Bragg and giving them to an individual they believe to be working for the Russian government.
00:36:56.000So, so much historicness happening in the U.S.
00:37:02.000As we blow up all of these traditional gender roles, as we blow all this up, and as people become more unhappy, as men drop out of the workforce and lose their purpose, as women They become essentially working widgets.
00:37:13.000They become the inputs for capitalist growth without actually fulfilling many of the things that drive women in life.
00:37:20.000And they were lied to by the feminist movement, by the way.
00:37:21.000They were told they could have it all.
00:37:37.000You can't say that it's traditional Judeo-Christian values.
00:37:40.000You can't say that because it alienates too many people.
00:37:43.000But there is a newfound embrace of that happening because, again, those values are rooted in institutions that have been evolved over the course of hundreds of thousands of years to be good for human beings.
00:37:53.000Really good essay today by a person named Michal Liebowitz, an editorial assistant over at the New York Times op-ed section, called Dating is Broken, Going Retro Could Fix It.
00:38:01.000Quote, Among the traditional rights of an all-American high school experience is the taking and judging of yearbook photos.
00:38:06.000And in this, my all-girls Orthodox Jewish school is no exception.
00:38:08.000Our dialogue as we swap prints was more fiddler on the roof than sweet valley high.
00:38:11.000Are you going to use that for your shidduch resume?
00:38:14.000Shadok resume is how people basically date in the Orthodox Jewish community.
00:38:18.000So you put together an actual resume with a picture on it and you submit it to what's called a Shadokon, which is like a third party person who then thinks of all the people they know who are your age and they fix them up because they're fixing you up not to have sex with one another.
00:38:28.000They're fixing you up for the possibility of shared values, marriage, and children.
00:38:31.000In other words, dating with a purpose.
00:38:34.000It turns out that doing everything with a purpose is significantly better for human fulfillment than doing things without a purpose.
00:38:38.000All of Western life seems to be predicated now on the opposite.
00:38:49.000Though many of my peers, she says, would go on to make the dating profiles favored by orthodox matchmakers, most wouldn't do so for more than a few years.
00:38:55.000By then, our 17-year-old acne-studied punim would be poor likenesses.
00:38:59.000But the joke reflected something that was true.
00:39:00.000Even as high schoolers, many of us knew how we planned to meet our spouses.
00:39:03.000And it wasn't going to be the loosey-goosey way the secular world did it.
00:39:06.000Well, there's also something else there.
00:39:07.000In orthodox Jewish high school, you think about getting married.
00:39:10.000You're 17, you're already thinking about marriage when you go to an Orthodox Jewish high school.
00:39:13.000This is true in Catholic high schools as well.
00:39:15.000This is true in religious Protestant high schools.
00:39:17.000Basically religious, it's true in madrasas, religious institutions in the United States.
00:39:21.000By the time you hit close to marriageable age, which is 18 and up, you're already thinking about marriage, which means that you're already thinking about the values, not just the looks, but the values of the person who you want to be with.
00:39:33.000And this means that you are already channeling your life toward a particular purpose.
00:39:37.000You know, the highest purpose that we were put on God's green earth to do, which is to have children and raise them correctly.
00:39:44.000It's been odd the past several years watching the ways the secular mainstream has latched, tentatively, faddishly, onto traditional dating practices.
00:39:54.000There's the slew of matchmaking companies sorting out the love lives of the rich and famous, the articles declaring matchmaking is hot again, the Netflix carousel filled with shows casting back to an older, if partly imagined, vision of romance.
00:40:04.000Indian matchmaking married at first sight, Bridgerton.
00:40:06.000A reacquaintance with more traditional forms of meeting and falling in love makes me hopeful.
00:40:09.000I see signs of a culture grasping for things it rightly needs.
00:40:12.000In today's largely online world, burnout, opacity, and callousness define dating, reflecting the values of a society that prizes individualism, privacy, and choice in nearly all things, including matters of the heart.
00:40:22.000Well, dating is more convenient than it has ever been.
00:40:23.000People find dates while sitting on the toilet.
00:40:27.000There are elements of traditional dating culture that can provide solutions, not just to the way we find people to date, but also to the way we navigate relationships.
00:40:34.000What traditional dating does, because you're literally asking yourself, is this a person I wish to have children with?
00:40:40.000Because of that, this actually incentivizes men to be better.
00:40:44.000When it turns out that dating is just about the sexual pleasure to be obtained from a new partner at any given point, the most attractive of both sexes will tend to do the best, obviously.
00:40:53.000When it comes to marriage, now you can actually better yourself in certain ways.
00:40:56.000It's funny, I was watching a Bill Burr comedy special last night.
00:41:01.000And he was talking about how women tear each other down, how they how women are very nasty to each other privately.
00:41:08.000And then they will say to somebody that they'll say that they are fat positive, their body positive.
00:41:12.000But meanwhile, behind their back, they'll talk about how she just looks terrible.
00:42:00.000In fact, one of the bigger problems right now is that women are not particularly picky about the men that they date because they're not dating for marriage.
00:42:46.000Internet dating promises an abundance of choice to meet any standard, a profusion of filters to suit any relationship, low barriers to reaching out to relieve any anxiety.
00:42:55.000But now, as I found when I talked to people about what it's like to date, the theoretical abundance of options, filters, low barriers to engagement doesn't translate to high-quality interactions.
00:43:03.000Instead, daters find themselves caught in a cycle of unanswered messages and dead-end interactions contributing to a ubiquitous feeling of dating app burnout.
00:43:11.000Again, this is because men and women are typically looking for different things when they are dating unless you have institutions that incentivize men to look for the correct things when they are dating.
00:43:22.000It turns out that the general societal standard that applied for most of human history, which was you are supposed to You're supposed to put off your sex life until you get married.
00:43:33.000That this was a really good disincentive to men simply looking to get laid.
00:43:38.000That they were actually going to have to sacrifice something and demonstrate that they were worthwhile.
00:43:45.000McCall Liebowitz says one of the ironies of modern dating is that while it's not uncommon to date for months or even years without broaching the big questions about marriage and children, other forms of intimacy tend to be embraced more quickly.
00:43:54.000Almost all Americans have sex before getting married.
00:43:57.000But the normalization of casual sex is newer.
00:43:59.000It's not clear newer norms around having sex casually or very soon after meeting are really helping those who ultimately want lasting, committed relationships.
00:44:05.000I remember noting this while watching Friends back in the 1990s.
00:44:08.000In the religious community, here's how it goes.
00:44:10.000You fall in love, you get married, you have sex.
00:44:14.000That is the order of events in traditional communities.
00:44:47.000The sexual revolution has crippled men and women.
00:44:49.000It has made men and women both unhappier.
00:44:52.000And so no matter how pissed the left is at Jordan Peterson, the reason they're really pissed at Jordan Peterson is he's reminding them of a simple fact.
00:44:58.000The social standards that they have said was the bargain You're supposed to blow up all these institutions?
00:45:03.000You're supposed to completely reshape society around a promise?
00:45:08.000Jordan is noting that the cost of that promise is really high.
00:45:11.000And it's not just to quote-unquote incels.