The Ben Shapiro Show - Why Men And Women Are Unhappy | Ep. 1584

00:00:00.000 We bring you the latest on Hurricane Ian as the New York Times unleashes a hit piece on Florida Governor Ron DeSantis.

00:00:04.000 We analyze why both men and women seem increasingly unhappy in the post-sexual revolution era, and Vladimir Putin may be on the verge of unprecedented aggression.

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00:02:34.000 Well, the latest news from Hurricane Ian continues to be devastating.

00:02:37.000 Obviously, the strike by Hurricane Ian on the west coast of Florida has had some dire consequences.

00:02:43.000 Some hundreds of people apparently missing.

00:02:44.000 The Florida government is doing an excellent job of ensuring that the resources have been brought to bear.

00:02:49.000 You have emergency teams that are on the ground essentially right away looking for people trying to help out any survivors.

00:02:55.000 The state itself is mobilizing not just in terms of state resources but also in terms of private charities.

00:03:00.000 Pretty much every private institution in Florida has been mobilizing trying to gather food and resources for people who are out of power on the west coast of Florida.

00:03:08.000 The storm, Hurricane Ian, continues to actually swirl around off now the east coast of the United States.

00:03:14.000 It's going to make landfall again in South Carolina.

00:03:16.000 It may in fact be a hurricane at that point.

00:03:18.000 According to the Washington Post, Ian is a hurricane once again.

00:03:21.000 A storm system that re-intensified Thursday evening as it churns toward South Carolina with 85 mph winds and what the National Hurricane Center called life-threatening flooding and storm surge.

00:03:29.000 It's set for yet another U.S.

00:03:30.000 landfall this time near Charleston around midday on Friday.

00:03:33.000 In its wake, Ian left a path of devastation in Florida, though much of the state is still making sense of the exact toll after rescue missions began on Thursday.

00:03:40.000 In an evening briefing, Governor Ron DeSantis said that he expected to have mortality from the hurricane.

00:03:45.000 There had been more than 700 confirmed rescues thus far.

00:03:48.000 He also spoke of the indescribable damage, including buildings picked up off their foundations by the intense wind.

00:03:53.000 More than 2.1 million customers remain without power in Florida.

00:03:55.000 In Virginia, Georgia, North Carolina, and South Carolina, governors declared states of emergency ahead of Ian's expected shift in their direction.

00:04:03.000 There's going to be a lot of people that need help, and I know you guys have been on the front lines of doing that.

00:04:12.000 So I just want to say thank you.

00:04:13.000 We'll be back.

00:04:14.000 We'll be back tomorrow.

00:04:16.000 We'll probably be back, you know, every day for a while.

00:04:18.000 And so we're here to help, and when you guys need anything, he knows the call.

00:04:23.000 All these other people know.

00:04:24.000 Just give us a call, and I'll make sure Kevin gets it done.

00:04:27.000 Appreciate it.

00:04:27.000 So thanks, everybody.

00:04:30.000 As we say, there is now an attempt being made to rescue people who are stuck in places like Fort Myers, people who stayed in their homes because either they couldn't leave or because they made a bad decision to stay in their homes.

00:04:40.000 There's also an attempt to get the power back on because, again, a couple million people do not have power at this point.

00:04:45.000 Governor DeSantis said they absolutely expect to have mortality again.

00:04:48.000 Nobody knows the death toll at this point from this storm.

00:04:51.000 For his part, President Biden did a good thing yesterday.

00:04:54.000 He was asked about Florida and Governor DeSantis and his relationship with DeSantis.

00:04:57.000 He was visiting FEMA, and he said that it's not worth politicizing all of this, that he and Governor DeSantis are working together, which is exactly what the president is supposed to say.

00:05:07.000 How would you describe your relationship and your conversation with Governor DeSantis?

00:05:11.000 It's totally irrelevant, but I'll answer it, okay?

00:05:14.000 In fact, very fine.

00:05:16.000 He complimented me, he thanked me for the immediate response we had, he told me how much he appreciated it, said he was extremely happy with what was going on.

00:05:24.000 This is not about whether anything having to do with our disagreements politically.

00:05:28.000 This is about saving people's lives, homes, and businesses.

00:05:32.000 That's what this is about.

00:05:33.000 And so I've been, I've talked to him Four or five times already.

00:05:37.000 And it's not a matter of my disagreement to them on other items.

00:05:41.000 That is absolutely correct from the president and good for him.

00:05:45.000 He couldn't resist a little bit of jab about climate change because no one on the left can resist a jab about climate change, despite the fact that, once again, there is no evidence that hurricanes have become either more common or more intense around Florida, thanks to climate change.

00:05:58.000 That is not according to me. That is according to the head of the National Oceanographic Institute for the United States, the head of the Hurricane Center.

00:06:04.000 Anyway, here is Joe Biden.

00:06:07.000 Our commitment to tackling the climate crisis, which threatens all of us, we're seeing the consequences of climate change around the world very vividly, including in the United States right now.

00:06:18.000 now.

00:06:20.000 And I know your nations feel it acutely.

00:06:23.000 And for you all, it's an existential threat.

00:06:28.000 Some members of the media can't help but go after Ron DeSantis.

00:06:30.000 The New York Times had a piece on the front page of their website going after the governor of Florida.

00:06:34.000 Why?

00:06:35.000 Because he voted against a boondoggle hurricane relief bill that was not a hurricane relief bill during Hurricane Sandy.

00:06:41.000 So the New York Times is now just trying to retcon what happened during Hurricane Sandy.

00:06:44.000 If you recall, there was a bill that was put forward by the House and Senate Republicans that was just aid for Hurricane Sandy that was voted for by all the Republicans.

00:06:52.000 And then there was this enormous bill that included an extraordinary amount of pork that the Democrats put forward and many Republicans voted against that.

00:06:59.000 So the New York Times now claims that when Ron DeSantis was in Congress, he voted against aid for Sandy.

00:07:04.000 That is not true.

00:07:05.000 He voted in favor of aid for Sandy. 0.96

00:07:06.000 He voted against a bill that included a bunch of other crap in it. 0.81

00:07:08.000 But the New York Times headline quote DeSantis wants a no on storm aid petitions a president he's bashed. 0.76

00:07:13.000 So let me just get this straight.

00:07:15.000 The President of the United States is somebody that you politically oppose.

00:07:18.000 You are no longer allowed to access the resources available from FEMA.

00:07:22.000 So just to get this straight, if you were a Democratic governor during Donald Trump, you were not allowed to petition the federal government.

00:07:28.000 In fact, I remember during COVID, every blue governor begging the federal government for resources.

00:07:33.000 And the idea was that if Trump didn't give them the resources, it was because it was political and bad. 0.98

00:07:37.000 But now if DeSantis even asks for the resources, according to the New York Times, this means that he is political and a hypocrite. 0.99

00:07:43.000 You see how this dumb game works. 0.98

00:07:44.000 For the New York Times, Matt Flegenheimer reporting, As a freshman congressman in 2013, Ron DeSantis was unambiguous. 0.96

00:07:50.000 A federal bailout for the New York region after Hurricane Sandy was an irresponsible boondoggle, a symbol of the put-it-on-the-credit-card mentality he'd come to Washington to oppose.

00:07:57.000 He said he sympathized with the victims, but his answer was no.

00:07:59.000 Nearly a decade later, as his state confronts the devastation and costly destruction wrought by Hurricane Ian, Mr. DeSantis is appealing to the nation's better angels and betting on its short memory.

00:08:07.000 Well, no, he's not betting on his short memory.

00:08:09.000 He literally voted in favor of a certain amount of aid for Hurricane Sandy, but Barack Obama and the Democrats crammed through a bill that was way more aid than was necessary for Hurricane Sandy.

00:08:19.000 This is a very open debate at the time.

00:08:22.000 But again, the goal of the New York Times here is to suggest that Ron DeSantis is suddenly a socialist.

00:08:27.000 That Ron DeSantis is suddenly a fan of big government. 1.00

00:08:31.000 It's the stupidest form of politics here. 1.00

00:08:33.000 Because FEMA exists. 1.00

00:08:34.000 FEMA is funded.

00:08:35.000 FEMA was created specifically for this thing. 1.00

00:08:38.000 And now FEMA is bringing its resources to bear.

00:08:40.000 The debate over whether the federal government should be involved in solving state-level issues like this.

00:08:47.000 That debate, I think, should be open theoretically, but it has not been open on a practical level since, as I said yesterday, about 1895.

00:08:53.000 For a very, very long time in the United States, there's been an understanding the federal government is going to bring its resources to bear when there's a major natural disaster in the United States.

00:09:01.000 This has been true for well over a hundred years.

00:09:03.000 And so this notion that Ron DeSantis is doing something unprecedented, Or evil.

00:09:08.000 Or violative of his principles.

00:09:10.000 As the governor of the state saying to FEMA, an institution created just for this.

00:09:14.000 We need your help on this one.

00:09:16.000 Is absurd.

00:09:17.000 It's also absurd because again, they're retconning this thing because the notion that Hurricane Sandy was the breaking point for DeSantis and DeSantis didn't vote for it.

00:09:27.000 He did vote for aid, he just didn't vote for all of the pork.

00:09:30.000 In a local interview that year, DeSantis said the bill contained extraneous stuff that could not be classified as emergency spending.

00:09:36.000 He said I never made the point of saying we shouldn't do anything.

00:09:39.000 He did support, in favor of a relief package that was like $17 billion for Hurricane Sandy.

00:09:45.000 Governor DeSantis supported an aid package in 2017, after Hurricanes Harvey, Irma, and Maria, as places like Florida, Texas, and Puerto Rico strained to recover.

00:09:54.000 So again, this is a very stupid article by the New York Times, but this is perfectly typical of the New York Times and the media looking for some sort of excuse to go after Governor DeSantis. 0.88

00:10:03.000 And of course, you have Joy Reid, the dumbest form of left-wing commentator on the air over on MSNBC doing the same thing. 1.00

00:10:11.000 Ron DeSantis had the opportunity to make that decision and say, well, should the people of New York and New Jersey, who were hit by a catastrophic hurricane, they weren't even used to, they're not even in Florida, they don't use hurricanes.

00:10:21.000 He said, no, that shouldn't happen.

00:10:23.000 He, Marco Rubio and other Tea Party members, Senate and House, said they shouldn't have that money.

00:10:28.000 It's too expensive.

00:10:29.000 And now, as you said, he's now got to go hat in hand to Joe Biden for aid.

00:10:36.000 It's something he didn't even believe in as a Tea Partier.

00:10:40.000 Okay, I'm sorry, that's just a lie.

00:10:41.000 But they continue to lie because after all, Ron DeSantis is a very, very bad man.

00:10:45.000 And so they have to continue to promulgate the idea that Ron DeSantis is a very, very bad man.

00:10:49.000 Again, we're not going to know the extent to which the Florida government has done a good job on this hurricane until probably a week or two out.

00:10:54.000 But as I said at the very beginning of this, the media is going to be looking for any indicator, any indicator at all, that Ron DeSantis is impersonally repelling from helicopters in order to save dogs in Fort Myers.

00:11:04.000 In order to demonstrate that he is not fit to run for the presidency in 2024 because they are scared of the governor of Florida and so they're just making things up at this point.

00:11:11.000 Well, meanwhile, controversy has broken out over my friend and colleague here, Jordan Peterson.

00:11:16.000 He went on Piers Morgan's show and he was asked specifically about Olivia Wilde's brand new movie, Don't Worry Darling, which is getting just excoriated by the critics, which is a shocker because she is one of the protected people, Olivia Wilde.

00:11:27.000 She's a feminist hero. 1.00

00:11:28.000 And it doesn't matter that this feminist hero made the actual star of that film, Florence Pugh, apparently extraordinarily uncomfortable on set because she was banging Florence Pugh's co-star, Harry Styles. 0.96

00:11:39.000 None of that matters because Olivia Wilde is a feminist hero for making a movie that basically suggests that men want to put women back in the kitchen, like it's the 1950s, etc. 1.00

00:11:45.000 Well, the movie, Don't Worry Darling, apparently, one of the stars, Chris Pine, According to Olivia Wilde is basically playing Jordan Peterson.

00:11:54.000 He's supposed to be a cult leader who's trying to create a mental... I don't want to give any spoilers for this dumb movie, but apparently he's trying to create some sort of mental system that people live in a kind of virtual reality whereby Young men can essentially train women to be put back into the kitchen.

00:12:13.000 And that's what Jordan Peterson wants. 0.85

00:12:15.000 And so she says that that character, that Chris Pine cult leader character is based on Jordan Peterson.

00:12:18.000 So Jordan was asked about this by Piers Morgan over on Sky News.

00:12:22.000 And he got rather emotional about the idea that he should not be attempting to reach out and help disaffected young men.

00:12:28.000 Here's what Jordan had to say.

00:12:29.000 The film director Olivia Wilde has a new movie out which she says is based on you, this insane man, this pseudo-intellectual hero to the incel community. 0.96

00:12:38.000 Incel being these weirdo loner men who are despicable in many ways. 0.94

00:12:45.000 Is that you? 0.90

00:12:46.000 Are you the intellectual hero to these people?

00:12:50.000 Sure.

00:12:51.000 Why not?

00:12:52.000 You know, people have been after me for a long time because I've been speaking to disaffected young men.

00:13:00.000 You know, what a terrible thing to do that is.

00:13:02.000 I thought the marginalized were supposed to have a voice.

00:13:15.000 It's making you emotional.

00:13:16.000 Talk about it.

00:13:16.000 Well, God, you know.

00:13:18.000 It's very difficult to understand how demoralized people are.

00:13:23.000 And certainly, many young men are in that category.

00:13:27.000 And you get these casual insults, these incels.

00:13:32.000 What do they mean?

00:13:33.000 It's like, well, these men, they don't know how to make themselves attractive to women who are very picky.

00:13:38.000 And good for them.

00:13:39.000 Women, like, be picky. 1.00

00:13:40.000 That's your gift, man.

00:13:44.000 Demand high standards from your men.

00:13:46.000 Fair enough.

00:13:47.000 But all these men who are alienated, it's like they're lonesome and they don't know what to do.

00:13:54.000 And everyone piles abuse on them.

00:13:57.000 To the fact that Jordan gets emotional in favor of these young men, that he's attempting to give a sense of purpose.

00:14:02.000 This is what the media and the left have jumped on.

00:14:04.000 So there's a great hypocrisy here, right?

00:14:06.000 The media and the left, they suggest that masculinity, traditional masculinity is bad because traditional masculinity doesn't allow you to show your feelings.

00:14:13.000 Then here's Jordan Peterson, a hero to a lot of young men because he stands in favor of traditional masculinity and masculine roles.

00:14:19.000 And he's getting openly emotional, right?

00:14:21.000 He's tearing up while talking about these people who are disaffected.

00:14:25.000 So he's demonstrating to them that emotionality in public is actually not the end of the world and the left is angry at him for that.

00:14:30.000 But this goes to a broader point that is really dangerous in American life right now.

00:14:34.000 And that is that a huge swath of elite opinion makers in the United States, a huge swath of our media, Many members of the political left, they have decided that there's an entirely dispensable portion of the population, and this is young, disaffected men.

00:14:48.000 And that is having a radical impact on how people live.

00:14:50.000 I'm not just talking about men here.

00:14:51.000 I'm talking about women too. 1.00

00:14:52.000 It turns out that women are generally not in favor of androgynous, feminized men.

00:14:56.000 They do not like it.

00:14:58.000 The statistics on female happiness over the course of the last half century have not demonstrated increased female happiness with the androgynization of gender.

00:15:06.000 They have not created extraordinary levels of female happiness with later marriage and less childbearing and rearing.

00:15:12.000 It's not good for women. 1.00

00:15:13.000 It's particularly not good for men.

00:15:14.000 The stats on men right now are devastating in the United States.

00:15:17.000 David Brooks has a piece today in the New York Times titled, The Crisis of Men and Boys.

00:15:22.000 He says, if you've been paying attention to the social trends, you probably have some inkling that boys and men are struggling in the United States and across the globe.

00:15:27.000 They're struggling in the classroom.

00:15:29.000 American girls are 14 percentage points more likely to be school ready than boys at age five, controlling for parental characteristics.

00:15:34.000 By high school, two-thirds of the students in the top 10% of the class ranked by GPA are girls.

00:15:39.000 Roughly two-thirds of the students at the lowest decile are boys.

00:15:42.000 In 2020, at the 16 top American law schools, not a single one of the flagship law reviews had a man as editor-in-chief.

00:15:48.000 Men are struggling in the workplace.

00:15:49.000 Between three American men with only a high school diploma, 10 million men is now out of the labor force.

00:15:53.000 The biggest drop in employment is among young men aged 25 to 34.

00:15:57.000 Men who entered the workforce in 1983 will earn about 10% less in real terms in their lifetimes than those who started one generation earlier.

00:16:03.000 Over the same period, women's lifetime earnings have increased 33%.

00:16:06.000 Pretty much all of the income gains middle class American families have enjoyed since 1970 are because of increases in women's earnings.

00:16:13.000 Now, all of that would be perfectly well and good if the net happiness here were up.

00:16:18.000 It is not.

00:16:19.000 Men are also struggling physically.

00:16:20.000 Men account for close to three out of every four deaths of despair, suicide, and drug overdoses.

00:16:24.000 For every 100 middle-aged women who die of COVID up to mid-September 2021, there are 184 middle-aged men who died.

00:16:32.000 Richard Reeves' new book, Of Boys and Men, is a landmark, one of the most important books of the year, not only because it's a comprehensive look at the male crisis, but also because it searches for the roots of that crisis and offers solutions.

00:16:44.000 Policies and programs designed to promote social mobility often work for women, but not men.

00:16:47.000 Reeves, a scholar at the Brookings Institution, that's a liberal think tank, visited Kalamazoo, Michigan, where, thanks to a donor, high school graduates get to go to colleges in the state for free.

00:16:56.000 The program increased the number of women getting college degrees by 45%. 0.98

00:16:59.000 The men's graduation rates remained flat.

00:17:02.000 Reeves lists a whole series of programs from early childhood education to college support efforts that produced impressive gains for women, but did not boost men.

00:17:10.000 There are many reasons men are struggling.

00:17:12.000 According to David Brooks, for example, the decline in manufacturing jobs that put a high value on physical strength, the rise of service sector jobs.

00:17:18.000 But I was struck by the theme of demoralization that wafts through the book.

00:17:21.000 Reeves talked to men in Kalamazoo about why women were leaping ahead.

00:17:23.000 They said women are more motivated, work harder, plan ahead better. 1.00

00:17:26.000 But this isn't a matter of individual responsibility.

00:17:28.000 There's something in modern culture that is producing an aspiration gap.

00:17:31.000 Many men just seem less ambitious.

00:17:33.000 More men are leading haphazard and lonely lives.

00:17:36.000 Roughly 15% of men say they have no close friends, up from 3% in 1990.

00:17:40.000 One in five fathers doesn't live with his children.

00:17:42.000 In 2014, more young men were living with their parents than with a wife or partner.

00:17:45.000 Apparently, even many who are married are not ideal mates.

00:17:49.000 Wives are now twice as likely to initiate divorces as their husband.

00:17:54.000 What?

00:17:54.000 So David Brooks says, ambition doesn't just happen, it has to be fired.

00:17:56.000 The culture is still searching for a modern masculine ideal.

00:17:59.000 It is not instilling in many boys the nurturing and emotional skills that are so desperately important today.

00:18:03.000 A system that labels more than a fifth of all boys developmentally disabled is not instilling in them a sense of confidence and competence.

00:18:08.000 Masculinity has gone haywire.

00:18:10.000 And then of course he adds the obligatory because he's David Brooks, rip on Republicans.

00:18:14.000 Reverting to pseudo-macho cartoons like Donald Trump and Josh Hawley doesn't help.

00:18:17.000 What?

00:18:18.000 I was completely unaware that the alternatives here were the complete feminization of men.

00:18:23.000 And Donald Trump.

00:18:25.000 I love that.

00:18:27.000 He's unwilling to acknowledge the obvious.

00:18:29.000 What has happened here is the sexual revolution has castrated men in terms of their ambition, in terms of their mobility.

00:18:35.000 That is what the sexual revolution did, and it did not make women happier. 0.82

00:18:39.000 That is the dirty little secret here.

00:18:41.000 The second wave, third wave feminist movement did not make women happier, and it made men a lot unhappier.

00:18:47.000 And what we are seeing here is the impact of that.

00:18:49.000 David Brooks is afraid to say it, because if you say that sort of thing, people get very angry at you.

00:18:53.000 You violated the rules.

00:18:55.000 Now, I'm not making the case that women shouldn't be in the workplace, that they shouldn't be able to get the jobs that they want. 1.00

00:19:00.000 I'm making the case that traditional social roles, traditional gender roles absolutely matter.

00:19:05.000 Again, I will set my wife as a perfect example of this.

00:19:07.000 My wife is a doctor.

00:19:08.000 She's a primary care physician.

00:19:10.000 I took care of the kids while she was in medical school.

00:19:13.000 I remember at 7 o'clock every night I would drive our two very young children at the time, my daughter was all of about two and a half years old and my son was a newborn, and I would drive them to the hospital where she was in residency so she could see them for like 25 minutes while she ate her dinner and then she would head back inside to the residency program.

00:19:29.000 So I'm very much in favor of the idea that women should be able to work the jobs that they want to work.

00:19:32.000 Also, life is a balance and my wife does that beautifully. 0.78

00:19:35.000 My wife took off time to take care of both of our kids when they were babies. 1.00

00:19:39.000 And now, because she has the ability to, she wants to work part-time so she can spend more time with the kids. 0.72

00:19:44.000 This is not a rare coincidence.

00:19:46.000 This is kind of the ideal life as women seek to live it. 1.00

00:19:50.000 But the feminist movement has told women that all of that is very bad. 0.85

00:19:53.000 Having a husband is bad. 0.91

00:19:54.000 It's a sign that you are weak as a woman. 1.00

00:19:56.000 Having children is really bad. 0.99

00:19:57.000 The height of being a woman is to have an abortion. 1.00

00:20:00.000 I'm not just saying that, understand.

00:20:03.000 I'm talking about the height of female aspiration, according to many members of the left, is abortion. 0.99

00:20:06.000 For example, the Women's March, literally yesterday, tweeted out, this is a direct quote, quote, we are not just pro-choice, we are proudly, unapologetically pro-abortion.

00:20:17.000 They're not even saying women should be able to make the decisions. 0.99

00:20:17.000 There's a difference there. 0.99

00:20:20.000 Whatever you think of the pro-life versus pro-choice position, they're not even saying that.

00:20:23.000 They're saying abortion is an absolute good. 0.99

00:20:25.000 Women are doing something better for themselves if they decide not to engage in these roles. 1.00

00:20:28.000 That's nothing new.

00:20:30.000 And that was something that was said by Simone Duvalier going all the way back to like the 1960s, talking about the idea that women should be prohibited.

00:20:37.000 from childbearing and childrearing because too many women, if allowed to make that decision, would make that decision. 1.00

00:20:42.000 And that would re-instill all of these social roles and values that actually make life worth living and make life quite beautiful.

00:20:47.000 In order to achieve complete equality and flattening, what you really need to do is prevent women from getting involved in marriage, getting involved in having kids. 1.00

00:20:54.000 What you have to do is deprive men of their social role and deprive women of their social role and turn everybody into an interchangeable widget. 0.95

00:21:00.000 And this has dramatic effects.

00:21:01.000 The most obvious effects are on men.

00:21:03.000 We'll get to more on this in just one second.

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00:23:14.000 The sexual revolution's effect on men has been extraordinarily bad.

00:23:17.000 Now, there are a lot of men out there who took advantage of the sexual revolution. 0.93

00:23:20.000 It turns out that sexual liberation, really good for horny men. 0.76

00:23:23.000 The availability of people to have sex with, who you are not married to, skyrocketed. 0.78

00:23:28.000 So for guys who wanted to have sex with lots and lots of partners, which is many, many men, This was just a boon.

00:23:34.000 It was wonderful for them.

00:23:35.000 But it also robbed men of their soul because the entire idea of traditional masculinity is that men have aggressive instincts.

00:23:42.000 Men have aggressive, physical, sexual, work instincts.

00:23:47.000 Men are more aggressive. 0.71

00:23:48.000 They have testosterone.

00:23:49.000 This is evolutionary biology.

00:23:51.000 This is not stereotyping.

00:23:52.000 It's true among primates.

00:23:53.000 It's true among human beings.

00:23:55.000 And because of that, we have evolved, as a species, many institutions that are designed to channel that traditional masculine aggressive energy toward good purposes. 0.76

00:24:04.000 Toward defending hearth and home.

00:24:06.000 I said this about the military, got ripped earlier this week.

00:24:08.000 Well, it's perfectly obvious that this is the case.

00:24:11.000 That military service, for example, was a traditionally male pursuit.

00:24:14.000 And that was not a bad thing.

00:24:16.000 Because men are the ones who are going to charge hills and kill each other on behalf of hearth and home. 0.88

00:24:20.000 As a general rule throughout human history, there are exceptions because every rule has exceptions, but that does not mean the rule does not exist.

00:24:26.000 So we created all of these institutions ranging from military service to fatherhood and the man staying in the home and monogamy and taking care of the kids.

00:24:36.000 And we gave men roles.

00:24:38.000 That did not mean that we were supposed to let men get away with toxic masculinity.

00:24:42.000 Toxic masculinity would be, you know, actual violence against women or being promiscuous or abandoning your children.

00:24:47.000 We see a lot more toxic masculinity, by the way, in the aftermath of the sexual revolution than we saw before. 0.95

00:24:51.000 Because I consider it toxic masculinity to knock up a woman and then leave your child and abandon them.

00:24:55.000 That's like the worst thing that you can do to a woman and to the child.

00:24:58.000 And we see a lot of that these days.

00:25:00.000 And we're told that that is liberation.

00:25:02.000 It's not liberation for the woman. 1.00

00:25:04.000 Who's now taking care of the kid by herself? 1.00

00:25:05.000 It ain't liberation for the child who doesn't have a father.

00:25:07.000 And it's not liberation for the man either. 0.94

00:25:09.000 Because it turns out that all it does is it frees him to be a perennial adolescent who is unhappy and useless.

00:25:16.000 What Jordan Peterson says is the same thing that I say.

00:25:18.000 The burdens that you take on in life, the obligations you take on in life with regard to roles and family and children, these are what liberate you.

00:25:27.000 They are what give you fulfillment.

00:25:30.000 We are a liberation-centered society in which the only thing that matters is your interior feeling at any given point in time.

00:25:37.000 Fulfillment does not come from that interior sense of happiness at any given point in time.

00:25:42.000 The man who eats tons of ice cream and dies at age 35 of a heart attack because of morbid obesity did not live a happy life.

00:25:48.000 Even though every time he ate the ice cream he felt really good about himself.

00:25:53.000 Human beings have always understood for literally all the time that there is a difference between the immediate joy of doing a thing that brings you happiness and the lifelong joy of taking on obligations that are very difficult and that make your life worse in many ways, but in the end make your life a hell of a lot better.

00:26:07.000 That's what it's like to be married.

00:26:08.000 That's what it's like to have kids.

00:26:11.000 You give up something and what you get in return is something far greater.

00:26:13.000 And then we blew up those institutions in the name of this liberal utopian ideal of atomistic individualism in which the sexual identity that you take on is the most important thing in life.

00:26:25.000 That is the only thing that matters in life.

00:26:26.000 And again, the results have been dire.

00:26:28.000 They've been disastrous for Western civilization as a whole.

00:26:32.000 Nicholas Eberstadt has a good book out called Men Without Work.

00:26:36.000 He works at American Enterprise Institute, and that book is based on an essay he wrote in January of 2018, talking about how American men are simply falling apart.

00:26:45.000 He says the catastrophe is the collapse of work for men.

00:26:48.000 In the half century between 1965 and 2015, work rates for the American male spiraled relentlessly downward.

00:26:54.000 An ominous migration commenced, a flight from work In which ever greater numbers of working age men exited the labor force altogether.

00:27:01.000 America is now home to an ever-growing army of jobless men no longer even looking for work. 0.72

00:27:05.000 Over 7 million between ages 25 and 55, the traditional prime of working life.

00:27:09.000 Now, there are some people who are blaming offshoring of jobs to China, right?

00:27:12.000 It's an easy, convenient excuse.

00:27:14.000 But the reality is, we have far more open jobs in this country than we have people who are willing to seek those open jobs.

00:27:20.000 That's been true for years in the United States.

00:27:23.000 The labor force participation rate in this country is in the mid 60s.

00:27:25.000 We're talking for working age people in the United States.

00:27:29.000 We have literally millions and millions, maybe tens of millions of men who are on disability who are not in fact disabled.

00:27:36.000 We have tons of men who are on unemployment who don't need to be on unemployment.

00:27:40.000 How big is our men without work problem today?

00:27:42.000 Consider a single fact.

00:27:43.000 In 2015, the work rate for American males aged 25 to 54 was slightly lower than it had been in 1940 at the tail end of the Great Depression.

00:27:51.000 We're talking when the overall unemployment rate in 1940 was like 11% in the United States.

00:27:56.000 Now, in 2015, you have an overall unemployment rate of like 5%.

00:28:01.000 And you still have a work rate that is lower for men than in 1940.

00:28:05.000 According to the latest official jobs report data available in 2018, the work rate for prime age men in November 2017 was still below the 1940 level.

00:28:14.000 The progressive detachment of ever larger numbers of adult men from the reality and routines of regular paid labor poses a self-evident threat to our nation's future prosperity.

00:28:22.000 It can only result in lower living standards, greater economic disparities, and slower economic growth than we might otherwise expect.

00:28:28.000 The troubles posed by the male flight from work, says Nick Dieberstadt, are by no means solely economic.

00:28:32.000 It's also a social crisis and a moral crisis.

00:28:34.000 The growing incapability of grown men to function as breadwinners cannot help but undermine the American family.

00:28:38.000 By the way, you know what creates the capacity for men to act as breadwinners?

00:28:43.000 Marriage.

00:28:44.000 Family.

00:28:45.000 Obligations.

00:28:47.000 People who lean on you.

00:28:49.000 And so the idea of radical independence, where people don't lean on each other, I lean on my wife, she leans on me, that is the nature of the marriage.

00:28:57.000 In Hebrew, the word for love is ahava.

00:29:02.000 The root of that word is hav, which means to give.

00:29:05.000 The root of love is giving.

00:29:07.000 And one thing that you can give your spouse is your vulnerability.

00:29:10.000 One thing that you can give your spouse is a sense that you need your spouse.

00:29:13.000 The notion that spouses are people who actually don't need each other.

00:29:15.000 They just sort of get together for a contractual arrangement.

00:29:17.000 It's not true.

00:29:18.000 It has never been true.

00:29:20.000 And modern society, once you do that, then actually you get far less out of a marriage than you are putting into the marriage.

00:29:26.000 There's no reason to get married at all.

00:29:27.000 You're basically roommates who have sex with one another.

00:29:30.000 That's not a basis on which to build a happy life.

00:29:33.000 Among those who should be most capable of shouldering the burdens of civic responsibilities, all of this, says Nicky Burstad, encourages sloth, idleness, and vice is perhaps more insidious.

00:29:41.000 Whether we choose to recognize it or not, this feature of the American condition, the new men without work normal, is inimical to our tradition. 1.00

00:29:47.000 It is subversive of our national ethos, arguably even of our civilization.

00:29:50.000 You want to know why you have seen vast increases in pornography use among young men in the United States?

00:29:55.000 It is not mere availability.

00:29:56.000 It is also because they are not involved in institutions like family, like church, that actually give them something to do.

00:30:03.000 You want to know why men are increasingly abusing drugs?

00:30:05.000 This would be the reason.

00:30:06.000 You want to know why suicidal ideation is up among men?

00:30:10.000 This would be the reason.

00:30:11.000 Going all the way back to Emile Durkheim, there's been a widespread sociological understanding that societal institutions hem in and provide a rationale for existence.

00:30:18.000 When you blow up all of those rules, which is what the sexual revolution was about, it wasn't about establishing anything good or new.

00:30:24.000 It was about the idea that you have to blow up all these things because all rules and rules are inhibitions that are placed upon your true self.

00:30:31.000 But what if your true self, that aimless, formless, chaotic sexual impulse, what if that doesn't make you happy?

00:30:36.000 And what if a society that pushes that is not geared toward human happiness?

00:30:40.000 What if it's offering you the sugar high, but then you die of morbid obesity at age 35?

00:30:44.000 Because that's exactly what's going on in our society right now.

00:30:47.000 And you can see it pretty much everywhere.

00:30:49.000 You can see it in the way that companies now market.

00:30:53.000 And so, for example, Virgin Airlines put out an ad talking about how they are the queerest airline.

00:30:58.000 This is the thing they are very, very proud of.

00:31:00.000 Because your identity is in, apparently, the clothes that you wear, your sexual activity, your gender identity. 0.57

00:31:07.000 It is not in Actually like a social role and reinstilling that social role because remember there are children on these flights who are now going to be asking mommy and daddy why it is that men are wearing women's clothing and pretending to be women.

00:31:20.000 No, it's all about the idea that you, all human beings, are basically fully formed adults who are allowed to, and should, act as children with regard to their sexual impulse.

00:31:32.000 That is the thing that matters most of all.

00:31:33.000 The world is supposed to reflect you.

00:31:34.000 Social roles are an inhibition.

00:31:36.000 The world is supposed to reflect your innermost identity, and that's the case over at Virgin Airlines.

00:31:45.000 It says, your identity, your choice, because they're now allowing all of the members of their staff to dress in whatever they want.

00:31:54.000 And so now you've got women who are dressing as men and men who are dressing as women. 0.57

00:31:58.000 Our new uniform code, says Virgin Airlines.

00:32:04.000 Virgin Atlantic, see the world.

00:32:05.000 Oh, well, isn't that great?

00:32:07.000 And then you have a man who is dressed in women's clothing at the end of that. 1.00

00:32:11.000 Again, when you completely obliterate the distinction between the sexes, you lose the rationale for there being different sexes.

00:32:17.000 You lose the social institutions that have evolved over the course of literally hundreds of thousands of years.

00:32:22.000 When you have the Planned Parenthood Director of Trans Care out there saying, in a well-accepted viewpoint on the left now, that men get pregnant, if there's no distinction between men and women, then what exactly is the role of men, and what exactly is the role of women, and why should men take on additional obligation?

00:32:38.000 Here's the testimony of Planned Parenthood's Director of Trans Care, Dr. Bhavik Kumar.

00:32:44.000 Dr. Kumar, can biological men become pregnant and give birth?

00:32:50.000 So, men can have pregnancies, especially trans men?

00:32:55.000 Okay, so the question was, can a biological man give birth?

00:32:57.000 And the noted doctor here just ignores the question entirely and pretends that men can have babies and give birth.

00:33:05.000 Rules matter.

00:33:07.000 Rules matter.

00:33:08.000 Because these are things that give us purpose in life.

00:33:11.000 A man on a desert island by himself has no rules.

00:33:13.000 He has no roles.

00:33:15.000 He is also going to be a deeply unhappy human being.

00:33:18.000 Without those roles, without any sort of purpose or meaning, people fall apart.

00:33:22.000 And this is why what we're seeing now is an upswing, a sort of return to the idea that maybe some more traditional forms of, for example, courtship might be a good thing.

00:33:31.000 We'll get to that in just one second.

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00:34:56.000 Alright, so I'm going to speak to a segment of my audience I've never directly addressed before.

00:35:00.000 Sup bros.

00:35:00.000 Frat guys.

00:35:01.000 I may not be one of you, but in some ways, we're not so different.

00:35:04.000 You and I, we're both unfairly portrayed by the media, and we're both among the men most hated by woke razor companies and leftist ideologies, which is unfortunate when you consider that frats raise millions of bucks every year for charity.

00:35:15.000 One Virginia Tech frat alone raised $255,000 for St.

00:35:17.000 Jude's Children's Hospital last year.

00:35:20.000 With that influence in mind, I thought I'd share an idea I had.

00:35:22.000 You know, Jeremy Razor's contest to win the car.

00:35:25.000 You know, the one where you can win Jeremy's McLaren?

00:35:26.000 Well, we get you don't want to shuttle everyone around in a two-seater sports car.

00:35:30.000 That's why if you win, you can take the $250,000 cash prize instead.

00:35:32.000 Wow.

00:35:35.000 I'm sure your imagination will paint a picture of all the fun and good a quarter million bucks could do for you and your friends.

00:35:40.000 Listen, most of the top players in the contest still have not hit the 10 referral mark.

00:35:43.000 So there's plenty of opportunity for you to jump into the race and take all that cash.

00:35:47.000 Just go to jeremysrazors.com slash play to get your referral link.

00:35:51.000 Come November 1st, 2022, we will see which of you is the most woke-free frat in America.

00:35:56.000 Terms and conditions do apply.

00:35:58.000 So, you know, it turns out that blowing up rolls isn't always the most wonderful thing for humanity.

00:36:04.000 The media have been attempting to sort of bury the lead in this particular story, but apparently the U.S.

00:36:08.000 Army's first transgender officer and his wife, a Maryland doctor, were indicted on conspiracy charges Wednesday for allegedly attempting to transfer confidential military medical information to Russia.

00:36:18.000 The eight-count indictment was unsealed Thursday upon the arrest of the defendants, Major Jamie Lee Henry and anesthesiologist Anna Gabrielin.

00:36:25.000 According to a Department of Justice press release, the Army granted Henry's request to officially change his name in accordance with his gender preference in 2015 prior to Henry's case, identifying as a sex different than the one on one's birth certificate made a soldier unfit for military service warranting discharge.

00:36:39.000 Gabrielian worked at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, referred to as Medical Institution 1 in the indictment, located in Baltimore, Maryland.

00:36:45.000 Henry, who is also a doctor, worked as a staff internist stationed at Fort Bragg.

00:36:48.000 The pair are accused of stealing patient health files from Johns Hopkins in Fort Bragg and giving them to an individual they believe to be working for the Russian government.

00:36:56.000 So, so much historicness happening in the U.S.

00:36:59.000 Army.

00:36:59.000 That is just, that is excellent stuff.

00:37:01.000 Okay, so, here's the thing.

00:37:02.000 As we blow up all of these traditional gender roles, as we blow all this up, and as people become more unhappy, as men drop out of the workforce and lose their purpose, as women They become essentially working widgets. 0.95

00:37:13.000 They become the inputs for capitalist growth without actually fulfilling many of the things that drive women in life. 1.00

00:37:20.000 And they were lied to by the feminist movement, by the way. 1.00

00:37:21.000 They were told they could have it all.

00:37:22.000 It turns out you cannot.

00:37:23.000 Because the one thing on planet Earth that is finite is time.

00:37:27.000 You can always make more resources.

00:37:28.000 You can always make more money.

00:37:29.000 You cannot make more time.

00:37:30.000 And so you actually have to balance your life.

00:37:32.000 Well, it turns out people are really unhappy.

00:37:34.000 And so there's now a newfound embrace.

00:37:36.000 You can't call it this.

00:37:37.000 You can't say that it's traditional Judeo-Christian values.

00:37:40.000 You can't say that because it alienates too many people.

00:37:43.000 But there is a newfound embrace of that happening because, again, those values are rooted in institutions that have been evolved over the course of hundreds of thousands of years to be good for human beings.

00:37:53.000 Really good essay today by a person named Michal Liebowitz, an editorial assistant over at the New York Times op-ed section, called Dating is Broken, Going Retro Could Fix It.

00:38:01.000 Quote, Among the traditional rights of an all-American high school experience is the taking and judging of yearbook photos.

00:38:06.000 And in this, my all-girls Orthodox Jewish school is no exception.

00:38:08.000 Our dialogue as we swap prints was more fiddler on the roof than sweet valley high.

00:38:11.000 Are you going to use that for your shidduch resume? 1.00

00:38:14.000 Shadok resume is how people basically date in the Orthodox Jewish community.

00:38:18.000 So you put together an actual resume with a picture on it and you submit it to what's called a Shadokon, which is like a third party person who then thinks of all the people they know who are your age and they fix them up because they're fixing you up not to have sex with one another.

00:38:28.000 They're fixing you up for the possibility of shared values, marriage, and children.

00:38:31.000 In other words, dating with a purpose.

00:38:34.000 It turns out that doing everything with a purpose is significantly better for human fulfillment than doing things without a purpose.

00:38:38.000 All of Western life seems to be predicated now on the opposite.

00:38:42.000 Purpose hems you in.

00:38:43.000 No purpose makes you free.

00:38:45.000 No purpose also makes you depressed and suicidal as a general rule.

00:38:48.000 It was a joke, mostly.

00:38:49.000 Though many of my peers, she says, would go on to make the dating profiles favored by orthodox matchmakers, most wouldn't do so for more than a few years.

00:38:55.000 By then, our 17-year-old acne-studied punim would be poor likenesses.

00:38:59.000 But the joke reflected something that was true. 0.82

00:39:00.000 Even as high schoolers, many of us knew how we planned to meet our spouses.

00:39:03.000 And it wasn't going to be the loosey-goosey way the secular world did it.

00:39:06.000 Well, there's also something else there.

00:39:07.000 In orthodox Jewish high school, you think about getting married.

00:39:10.000 You're 17, you're already thinking about marriage when you go to an Orthodox Jewish high school.

00:39:13.000 This is true in Catholic high schools as well.

00:39:15.000 This is true in religious Protestant high schools.

00:39:17.000 Basically religious, it's true in madrasas, religious institutions in the United States.

00:39:21.000 By the time you hit close to marriageable age, which is 18 and up, you're already thinking about marriage, which means that you're already thinking about the values, not just the looks, but the values of the person who you want to be with.

00:39:33.000 And this means that you are already channeling your life toward a particular purpose.

00:39:37.000 You know, the highest purpose that we were put on God's green earth to do, which is to have children and raise them correctly.

00:39:44.000 It's been odd the past several years watching the ways the secular mainstream has latched, tentatively, faddishly, onto traditional dating practices.

00:39:54.000 There's the slew of matchmaking companies sorting out the love lives of the rich and famous, the articles declaring matchmaking is hot again, the Netflix carousel filled with shows casting back to an older, if partly imagined, vision of romance.

00:40:04.000 Indian matchmaking married at first sight, Bridgerton.

00:40:06.000 A reacquaintance with more traditional forms of meeting and falling in love makes me hopeful.

00:40:09.000 I see signs of a culture grasping for things it rightly needs.

00:40:12.000 In today's largely online world, burnout, opacity, and callousness define dating, reflecting the values of a society that prizes individualism, privacy, and choice in nearly all things, including matters of the heart.

00:40:22.000 Well, dating is more convenient than it has ever been.

00:40:23.000 People find dates while sitting on the toilet.

00:40:25.000 It is clearly falling short.

00:40:27.000 There are elements of traditional dating culture that can provide solutions, not just to the way we find people to date, but also to the way we navigate relationships.

00:40:33.000 Here's the thing.

00:40:34.000 What traditional dating does, because you're literally asking yourself, is this a person I wish to have children with?

00:40:40.000 Because of that, this actually incentivizes men to be better.

00:40:44.000 When it turns out that dating is just about the sexual pleasure to be obtained from a new partner at any given point, the most attractive of both sexes will tend to do the best, obviously. 0.73

00:40:53.000 When it comes to marriage, now you can actually better yourself in certain ways.

00:40:56.000 It's funny, I was watching a Bill Burr comedy special last night.

00:41:01.000 And he was talking about how women tear each other down, how they how women are very nasty to each other privately.

00:41:08.000 And then they will say to somebody that they'll say that they are fat positive, their body positive.

00:41:12.000 But meanwhile, behind their back, they'll talk about how she just looks terrible.

00:41:15.000 I would never look like that.

00:41:16.000 But what Bill Burr says, he says, women look at models very often like, you know, that's setting up unrealistic expectations for men.

00:41:23.000 And he says, yeah, like every time I look at Brad Pitt on screen, he takes off his shirt.

00:41:28.000 I'm not like, man, they're setting up unrealistic expectations for me.

00:41:30.000 He's like, I know I'm overweight.

00:41:32.000 I'm bald.

00:41:33.000 I'm orange. 0.61

00:41:34.000 And so I had to get really good at comedy in order to get chicks. 0.99

00:41:37.000 Hey, this is actually the way.

00:41:39.000 Put aside the kind of comedic job description there.

00:41:42.000 This is the way that men typically have bettered themselves to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. 0.72

00:41:46.000 This means get an education.

00:41:49.000 Get a job.

00:41:50.000 Demonstrate that you are responsible.

00:41:52.000 Do the things that would demonstrate that you are capable and worthy of having children with a particular woman. 0.98

00:41:56.000 By the way, exactly what Jordan Peterson says.

00:41:58.000 He says women should be picky. 0.99

00:42:00.000 In fact, one of the bigger problems right now is that women are not particularly picky about the men that they date because they're not dating for marriage.

00:42:06.000 They're not dating for kids.

00:42:08.000 So what does that mean?

00:42:09.000 It means no one is actually dating with an eye toward upping their social value as an aspect of getting married.

00:42:15.000 As an aspect of having kids.

00:42:17.000 Purpose is not part of the equation.

00:42:20.000 This columnist for the New York Times, Michal Iwicz, says it's worth asking, is it time to court again?

00:42:24.000 In October 2019, Pew conducted a survey to understand Americans' attitudes toward romantic relationships.

00:42:28.000 Most daters told Pew their romantic lives weren't going well.

00:42:31.000 Three quarters of respondents said it was difficult to find people to date.

00:42:34.000 When asked why finding a date was so difficult, reasons varied by gender.

00:42:37.000 Women tended to say it's challenging to find someone who meets their expectations or is looking for the same type of relationship. 1.00

00:42:41.000 Men mostly said they have trouble approaching people.

00:42:44.000 These complaints seem counterintuitive.

00:42:46.000 Internet dating promises an abundance of choice to meet any standard, a profusion of filters to suit any relationship, low barriers to reaching out to relieve any anxiety.

00:42:55.000 But now, as I found when I talked to people about what it's like to date, the theoretical abundance of options, filters, low barriers to engagement doesn't translate to high-quality interactions.

00:43:03.000 Instead, daters find themselves caught in a cycle of unanswered messages and dead-end interactions contributing to a ubiquitous feeling of dating app burnout.

00:43:11.000 Again, this is because men and women are typically looking for different things when they are dating unless you have institutions that incentivize men to look for the correct things when they are dating.

00:43:21.000 Yes, that institution of marriage.

00:43:22.000 It turns out that the general societal standard that applied for most of human history, which was you are supposed to You're supposed to put off your sex life until you get married.

00:43:33.000 That this was a really good disincentive to men simply looking to get laid.

00:43:38.000 That they were actually going to have to sacrifice something and demonstrate that they were worthwhile.

00:43:43.000 It's an amazing thing.

00:43:45.000 McCall Liebowitz says one of the ironies of modern dating is that while it's not uncommon to date for months or even years without broaching the big questions about marriage and children, other forms of intimacy tend to be embraced more quickly.

00:43:54.000 Almost all Americans have sex before getting married.

00:43:56.000 That's been true for decades.

00:43:57.000 But the normalization of casual sex is newer.

00:43:59.000 It's not clear newer norms around having sex casually or very soon after meeting are really helping those who ultimately want lasting, committed relationships.

00:44:05.000 I remember noting this while watching Friends back in the 1990s.

00:44:08.000 In the religious community, here's how it goes.

00:44:10.000 You fall in love, you get married, you have sex.

00:44:14.000 That is the order of events in traditional communities. 0.90

00:44:17.000 Fall in love, get married, have sex. 0.85

00:44:20.000 And in the most traditional communities, sometimes it is get married, fall in love, have sex. 0.95

00:44:25.000 But sex is the last thing you do. 0.73

00:44:29.000 In the modern community, the way that it works is have sex, Maybe fall in love and maybe, maybe you may get married.

00:44:35.000 So you'll have the most intimate relationship that you can have with a person.

00:44:39.000 And then you'll be like, man, I'm really nervous about saying I love you.

00:44:41.000 You wonder why things are failing?

00:44:43.000 You wonder why women are unhappy and men are purposeless? 1.00

00:44:45.000 I can't imagine why.

00:44:46.000 I can't imagine why.

00:44:47.000 The sexual revolution has crippled men and women. 0.68

00:44:49.000 It has made men and women both unhappier.

00:44:52.000 And so no matter how pissed the left is at Jordan Peterson, the reason they're really pissed at Jordan Peterson is he's reminding them of a simple fact.

00:44:58.000 The social standards that they have said was the bargain You're supposed to blow up all these institutions?

00:45:03.000 You're supposed to completely reshape society around a promise?

00:45:08.000 Jordan is noting that the cost of that promise is really high.

00:45:11.000 And it's not just to quote-unquote incels.

00:45:13.000 It's to everyone.

00:45:14.000 And that's why people are pissed at Jordan.

00:45:15.000 That's why people are angry at Jordan.

00:45:16.000 That's why people are angry at me for saying stuff like this.

00:45:18.000 But reality always wins.

00:45:20.000 Reality always wins. 1.00

00:45:22.000 And the utopian stupidity of atomistic individualism when it comes to sexual liberation is crippling societies. 1.00

00:45:29.000 Those societies are falling apart. 1.00

00:45:30.000 That shouldn't be a shock.

00:45:31.000 When you run directly into the teeth of reality, reality tends to bite.

00:45:35.000 Alrighty, guys, the rest of the show is continuing.

00:45:36.000 Now you're not going to want to miss it.

00:45:37.000 We'll be getting into Vladimir Putin ramping up the aggression.

00:45:40.000 Plus, Berkeley apparently now has a Jew-free zone. 0.83

The Ben Shapiro Show - September 30, 2022

Why Men And Women Are Unhappy | Ep. 1584

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