The Charlie Kirk Show - What It Means To Be A Man in Today's America

00:00:00.000 Hey everybody, happy Sunday.

00:00:01.000 This episode was the speech I gave on Father's Day of seven things that we need to restore strong men in America.

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00:00:21.000 Seven things that men need to do in America.

00:00:23.000 Buckle up, everybody.

00:00:24.000 Here we go.

00:00:25.000 Charlie, what you've done is incredible here.

00:00:27.000 Maybe Charlie Kirk is on the college campus.

00:00:29.000 I want you to know we are lucky to have Charlie Kirk.

00:00:32.000 Charlie Kirk's running the White House, folks.

00:00:36.000 I want to thank Charlie.

00:00:37.000 He's an incredible guy.

00:00:38.000 His spirit is love of this country.

00:00:40.000 He's done an amazing job building one of the most powerful youth organizations ever created, Turning Point USA.

00:00:46.000 We will not embrace the ideas that have destroyed countries, destroyed lives, and we are going to fight for freedom on campuses across the country.

00:00:55.000 That's why we are here.

00:00:59.000 Hey, everybody.

00:01:00.000 Good morning.

00:01:01.000 It's great to be with all of you.

00:01:02.000 Thank you, Pastor Joe.

00:01:04.000 When you emailed, I said, of course, I'd love to make this work.

00:01:06.000 I'm trying to speak everywhere I possibly can, as many places as possible.

00:01:10.000 We're doing over 330 speeches a year and from churches to college campuses.

00:01:14.000 I visit college campuses, so you don't have to.

00:01:17.000 And I'm also, we're doing three hours of radio a day.

00:01:20.000 I'm here locally on AM 590 The Answer, if you guys want, here locally in the Inland Empire.

00:01:26.000 So you guys can listen to me every single day.

00:01:28.000 They take all three hours of our show, and we're growing very quickly.

00:01:30.000 Thank you for those of you that listen to our podcast and our show.

00:01:34.000 I want to talk about a couple things today.

00:01:36.000 Obviously, it's Father's Day, and Victor kind of stole some of my thunder, but not all of it.

00:01:42.000 But I want to get into this idea of what does it mean to be a man in today's America and why we need to have strong men because there's an attack on men like never before.

00:01:50.000 And it's happening in a way that you might not even expect.

00:01:54.000 It's happening, I think, chemically.

00:01:57.000 It's happening societally, culturally, and spiritually.

00:02:00.000 But those of you that haven't kind of heard what I do and what we do, I run Turning Point USA.

00:02:05.000 We're the nation's largest student organization dedicated to bringing first principles, the Constitution, free markets, and American exceptionals in the high school and college campuses across the country.

00:02:15.000 We have hundreds of thousands of members and we host the biggest events on campus and off campus.

00:02:21.000 We reach millions of people every single day through digital and social media.

00:02:25.000 You guys have probably seen some of our content and some of the fun things that we've done online.

00:02:29.000 And in addition to that, we are launching Turning Point Faith to try to get Americans Christians to rise up and to take their proper right of leadership in our society and country as we see the ever-present decay of this beautiful gift that we have been given.

00:02:43.000 And so we're trying to rise up thousands and thousands of pastors.

00:02:47.000 And you have a wonderful one here.

00:02:49.000 And we have something in common.

00:02:50.000 My pastor is Pastor Rob McCoy, so kind of in the Calvary family.

00:02:54.000 He's about an hour down the road.

00:02:56.000 And God speak Thousand Oaks.

00:02:58.000 And actually after this, I'm going to go see Jack Kibbs, who's always fun to kind of go and see.

00:03:02.000 So we're all kind of in the same world together.

00:03:05.000 And we need more pastors that are willing to stand and proclaim truth in this moment.

00:03:10.000 And so I love the scripture, Jeremiah 29, 7, which is the Lord demands us to seek, which comes from a word badrash in the scriptures, or to demand the welfare or the shalom of the city or the nation that we are in.

00:03:24.000 We are called to care about what is going on around us.

00:03:27.000 Some Christians and some churches say, we're just going to do the gospel.

00:03:30.000 We're just going to do the Bible.

00:03:31.000 I don't care about what's happening around us.

00:03:33.000 I think that's irresponsible.

00:03:34.000 First of all, we've been given a nation, a constitutional republic that was inspired by the gospel, by the Bible, by Christians that was fought, fought for, bled for, and sacrificed for so that we can have first freedoms to be able to gather, be able to associate, to be able to actually be able to worship our Creator.

00:03:50.000 This is the exception to the rule.

00:03:51.000 Most of human history has lived under some form of penalty, some form of persecution, if you are doing what you're doing today.

00:03:59.000 In fact, the window of freedom in the world is shrinking.

00:04:02.000 It is not increasing.

00:04:03.000 Countries are becoming more harsh towards religion.

00:04:05.000 They are not becoming more acceptable towards religion.

00:04:07.000 So I think it is Christians' rightful place to care about what's happening in the news, to know what's happening in your local school board.

00:04:14.000 We're going to talk about that as well.

00:04:16.000 Some Christians say, well, politics is messy.

00:04:18.000 So is the church.

00:04:18.000 What's your point?

00:04:19.000 Victor just mentioned some pastor that did something like that.

00:04:23.000 You guys didn't hear that.

00:04:23.000 Just to reiterate it, for those of you on the live stream or listening to this on a podcast, pastor, adultery, 40 years younger.

00:04:29.000 Like, okay, it's a human institution.

00:04:31.000 It's corrupt.

00:04:32.000 So don't give me this idea that all of a sudden I'm not going to go into politics because it's messy.

00:04:35.000 Plenty of churches are messy too.

00:04:37.000 The point is whether or not are you going to proclaim things that are true, Paul says in the scriptures very clearly, contest or fight for whatsoever is true.

00:04:45.000 And that goes from the laws of nature and nature is God, which is articulated in our declaration, to the principles of the Constitution.

00:04:52.000 And that's where we as Christians must be very clear.

00:04:55.000 And it's tempting.

00:04:57.000 It's tempting not to care.

00:04:58.000 I wish I could be in that position because this is a hard fight.

00:05:01.000 It's hard to have to continually see what's happening to this beautiful gift we've been given.

00:05:06.000 It's hard to see critical race theory implemented in our schools.

00:05:09.000 It's hard to see our children have to be taught to hate themselves and hate the nation.

00:05:13.000 It's hard to see drag queens on Nickelodeon.

00:05:16.000 It's hard to see all this stuff.

00:05:17.000 It would be easier just to kind of self-medicate and just kind of enjoy whatever that is and be like, oh, it's not my responsibility, whatever.

00:05:24.000 This is tough.

00:05:25.000 We as Christians are called the tough fights.

00:05:28.000 In fact, we are commanded into the tough fights.

00:05:30.000 And there's a right way to do it and a wrong way to do it.

00:05:32.000 You don't want to make an idol out of politics?

00:05:34.000 Never, obviously.

00:05:35.000 There's one ultimate purpose, and that purpose is Jesus, who came here and we gave our life to him.

00:05:40.000 And every single day, we should just be on our knees with gratitude that we have been able to be given eternal life through our Creator, His Son, Jesus Christ.

00:05:49.000 And the question is, what kind of civic and political involvement should we actually care about?

00:05:55.000 And this is something that is now more and more hotly debated.

00:05:58.000 I don't think it's that really that difficult.

00:06:01.000 Happy to walk through it in kind of a bite-sized fashion.

00:06:04.000 I'm going to kind of get into more like a Father's Day type message.

00:06:08.000 Which is, look, we're called first and foremost by Christ, our Savior, to love those that do not have as much as we do, to care for the unfortunate and the disadvantaged.

00:06:22.000 But even before all of that, when we talk about what kind of government system that we want, the most important thing is to give your life to Christ.

00:06:29.000 The second most important thing is to make sure you can do the first thing.

00:06:31.000 And if you do not have that kind of ability, that freedom, that liberty, which means to pursue virtue, then all of a sudden, what are we doing here?

00:06:38.000 And the window of religious liberty is closing in this country.

00:06:40.000 I'll give you an example.

00:06:41.000 You might have saw this story.

00:06:42.000 Just this last week, the Internal Revenue Service came out and they decided not to give a tax-exempt status to a Bible-based group in Texas because they said, you're a political group because you preach the gospel and the gospel is basically the same tenets of the Republican Party.

00:06:57.000 That's our government.

00:06:58.000 Now, we've been warning against this, trying to get the church to rise up and do something about this.

00:07:03.000 This is just beginning.

00:07:04.000 Pastors in Canada went to prison because they reopened their church.

00:07:08.000 Mike McClure, who's a Calvary pastor up in San Francisco, is facing $2.5 million in fines because he's doing what we're doing right now.

00:07:14.000 $2.5 million in fines because he opened his church.

00:07:17.000 And so if we don't have a framework, a system to be able to actually express the gospel, to be able to share the good news, we're going to be all sharing it from prison.

00:07:25.000 And that is not an over-exaggeration.

00:07:27.000 That is what history tells us, is that a small group of people are threatened by the truth and they're willing to do evil, immoral things to try to prevent that truth from being spread.

00:07:37.000 Beyond that, we as Christians must appreciate the system that we have, a constitutional republic with a framework that first and foremost respects that you're made of the image of God.

00:07:46.000 We are the speaking beings.

00:07:48.000 It says in the two creation stories in the Bible, Genesis and John, God spoke and it was.

00:07:53.000 We are made of the image of God.

00:07:54.000 Speech is fundamental to who we are.

00:07:56.000 Speech and reason, logos, is what makes us different than the beasts of the wild.

00:08:00.000 Love dogs.

00:08:01.000 In fact, we just had a whole like hour-long discussion about dogs.

00:08:06.000 Dogs cannot talk.

00:08:08.000 That's a fundamental difference between the beasts of the wild and other animals.

00:08:12.000 We can speak.

00:08:13.000 And that's the First Amendment for a reason, because that is the most peaceful amendment.

00:08:18.000 It prevents us from tearing each other apart.

00:08:20.000 The Constitutional Republic that our founders gave us, fundamental in the system, was the ability to be able to solve differences without actually having to get to physical conflict.

00:08:30.000 The Second Amendment, the ability to protect yourself, protect your family against, yes, people that might want to harm you in the middle of the night, but also a tyrannical, usurpatious government.

00:08:40.000 The Third Amendment, that they can't put soldiers into your home.

00:08:43.000 The Fourth Amendment, they can't spy on you and they can't take your records without a warrant.

00:08:48.000 The Fifth Amendment, the right against self-incrimination.

00:08:51.000 Sixth, Seventh, and Eighth Amendment, all about due process, quick and speedy trial, juror of your peers.

00:08:56.000 The Ninth Amendment, it says that we might not have articulated all the other rights, but there are other rights out there granted to you by God, and those are worthy of protection too.

00:09:03.000 The 10th Amendment, which of course is that all of the rights not articulated are left to the states and to the people.

00:09:08.000 The framework of the Bill of Rights passed in December of 1791 is a gift to us that says you have the freedom, the rights to be able to pursue virtue.

00:09:17.000 That is a rarity, everybody.

00:09:19.000 And our founders had the wisdom and the foresight to be able to write a document that was not written for the times, but written to stand the test of time.

00:09:29.000 This Constitutional Republic is under assault every single day.

00:09:34.000 And so we as Christians, I believe, have a moral prerogative to try to contest for this document, to try to contest for this beautiful system that has been given us.

00:09:42.000 All around this wonderful room are imagery of veterans and people that have sacrificed for our country.

00:09:48.000 Let's give it up for our veterans, please, for your amazing contribution to our country.

00:09:56.000 I love the United Kingdom, but here's a difference between the United Kingdom and America.

00:10:00.000 When the United Kingdom is about to send some of their troops out to war, do you know who they pledge allegiance to?

00:10:05.000 The Queen.

00:10:06.000 Do you know who our troops pledge allegiance to?

00:10:08.000 The Constitution of the United States.

00:10:10.000 It's a big difference.

00:10:11.000 So our troops are pledging allegiance to basically a hierarchy of principle that our rights are given to us by God.

00:10:18.000 The United Kingdom, they say that's the same thing when they do the vessel, the queen.

00:10:22.000 I'm not as philosophically convinced of that.

00:10:24.000 Our troops, when it comes down to it, it's not a flag, it's not a person, it's not a lineage, it's not a bloodline, it's a set of eternal principles.

00:10:32.000 That's what they pledge allegiance to.

00:10:33.000 That's a big deal.

00:10:34.000 And that's something that is so unprecedented, and we're on the verge of losing it.

00:10:40.000 We're losing it, in my opinion, largely because the people that are supposed to be the guardians of the good have decided they don't care, us Christians.

00:10:47.000 We are supposed to be the guardians of the good.

00:10:49.000 We're supposed to contest for what is good and hate what is evil.

00:10:52.000 One of my favorite scriptures in the entire Bible, my wife and I, we read this at our wedding.

00:10:57.000 We just got married May 8th, by the way.

00:10:59.000 And May 8th, and Romans 12, 9.

00:11:04.000 I love this verse.

00:11:05.000 Love must be sincere.

00:11:07.000 Hate what is evil.

00:11:08.000 Cling to what is good.

00:11:10.000 What a great verse.

00:11:11.000 We are called to hate what is not good, evil.

00:11:15.000 And we're supposed to cling what is good.

00:11:16.000 Well, then we open up this, well, what is good?

00:11:19.000 And then for those of you that listen, like Aristotle, we can have a whole five-hour conversation on that.

00:11:24.000 But there's a hierarchy of good.

00:11:25.000 There are some things that are better than not.

00:11:27.000 The ultimate good is Jesus Christ.

00:11:28.000 There is no greater good than Jesus.

00:11:30.000 There's not a love or a mercy that's greater than Jesus.

00:11:30.000 There is.

00:11:33.000 And so if you believe that the good is worthy of preserving and protecting, then my goodness, we better preserve and protect this country.

00:11:40.000 So we say, hate what is evil, cling to what is good.

00:11:43.000 I will make an argument that there's a hierarchy of nations in the world right now.

00:11:47.000 That America is a much more moral nation than whatever Hamas is or ISIS or Iran.

00:11:54.000 We must hate what is evil and cling to what is good.

00:11:56.000 The scriptures tell us that.

00:11:57.000 Again, I could reiterate Jeremiah 29, 7.

00:12:01.000 Here's the issue.

00:12:02.000 A lot of Christians are hesitant to do this for a couple of reasons.

00:12:05.000 Number one, maybe you got involved in politics in years past and you got burned by it.

00:12:08.000 You know, politicians are a bunch of liars, thieves, deceitful people, and I want to stay away from it.

00:12:13.000 What's the point?

00:12:13.000 You're right.

00:12:15.000 You still have to get involved in the public square.

00:12:17.000 You still have to be aware of all those things.

00:12:18.000 Number two, it's not clear what the best way to do it, or you're like, I don't know.

00:12:23.000 Both parties, I don't know what really represents my biblical values.

00:12:27.000 Let's just forget politics.

00:12:28.000 There's three things that I don't think that are even controversial.

00:12:30.000 Number one, life begins at conception.

00:12:32.000 Every Christian has to believe this.

00:12:34.000 That I knew you before you're in the womb, and we must protect those that can't protect themselves.

00:12:39.000 Number two, God made man and God made woman.

00:12:41.000 Not that hard.

00:12:42.000 That this entire transgender nonsense goes at a complete and total war against nature.

00:12:47.000 I believe women's sports deserve to be protected, and I believe men should not be allowed in female locker rooms across the country.

00:12:54.000 Christians must be clear about that.

00:12:55.000 Number three, the church is more essential than abortion clinics, marijuana dispensaries, strip clubs, and whatever else that we saw that was given allowance in the last year.

00:13:06.000 The church is the most essential institution.

00:13:08.000 That without the ability to worship your creator and pursue virtue, everything else is going to fall apart.

00:13:14.000 So our troops, they swear allegiance to the Constitution.

00:13:17.000 What are the two things that are actually the shoulders that keep the head of the Constitution in place?

00:13:21.000 The two things that were actually before the Constitution?

00:13:24.000 Because the Constitution will fall apart like this if you do not have strong families and strong churches.

00:13:29.000 It's that simple.

00:13:30.000 So the founding fathers were able to even be able to write the Constitution because there were strong churches and strong families.

00:13:37.000 The first Reformation led to that, which is a beautiful transition to today, which is Father's Day.

00:13:43.000 And this is a really interesting kind of phenomenon because we have such an all-out assault and war on fathers and men in our country.

00:13:54.000 For young men in the audience right now, I hope you take my words very seriously.

00:13:58.000 I'm going to be rebroadcasting this as a podcast, which is kind of, I want to spend the most time on this, because you right now are basically enemy number one of what they want to do.

00:14:10.000 And I'm going to tell you why.

00:14:12.000 And that's, and again, for the women out there, you should want to have strong men in your country and in your life.

00:14:18.000 Some women, they send me these messages like, you know, men are terrible and patriarchal.

00:14:24.000 And I say, well, you don't really know what a man is if you think that all men are that way.

00:14:28.000 That you might have some sort of misunderstanding or misinterpretation of that.

00:14:32.000 And so without fathers, you can't have families.

00:14:36.000 Without families, you can't have a strong nation.

00:14:38.000 Right now, 77% of black kids are born without a stable father in the home.

00:14:43.000 And that number is going up in every community, white communities, Hispanic communities, and Asian communities.

00:14:48.000 We're talking about a divorce rate that is more likely than 50%.

00:14:52.000 You guys have been to weddings in the last year, and this is something my wife and I talked about.

00:14:56.000 And I'm just going to tell you a brutal truth.

00:14:58.000 You go to a wedding, it's a higher likelihood they're going to end up divorced and stay together.

00:15:02.000 That's tragic.

00:15:03.000 And a lot of it is the man's fault.

00:15:05.000 I'm going to walk through kind of what that is and how that is.

00:15:05.000 A lot of it.

00:15:09.000 And so I meet a lot of these young men and they look beat down for good reason.

00:15:14.000 They're beat down by their peers, by their teachers, by media, by the people around them.

00:15:18.000 They're told to be weak, afraid, intimidated, subservient.

00:15:22.000 They're lacking responsibility, direction, and clarity.

00:15:25.000 And the only way they can reconcile that is to become more feminine or to just kind of disconnect altogether and become the lost boys in Peter Pan, right?

00:15:33.000 Which is like, I'm going to play video games all day long, no responsibility.

00:15:36.000 I'm going to meandlessly wander.

00:15:38.000 And I don't know what I don't want to have to deal with all this.

00:15:41.000 That's the opposite of what creates a strong nation, strong families, and strong men.

00:15:47.000 And so what does it mean to be a strong man?

00:15:50.000 I pray I could be a strong man.

00:15:51.000 I'm just a vessel for these truths.

00:15:53.000 I'm not saying that I embody this perfectly.

00:15:55.000 I just want to be very clear.

00:15:56.000 This is something that I try to be clear about.

00:15:59.000 I'm no greater than anyone else in this.

00:16:01.000 I'm just telling you what is true because I'm just a communicator for what the Bible says about this.

00:16:05.000 Number one, true men follow God's commands with joy.

00:16:10.000 That's a true man.

00:16:11.000 A true man is obedient to the absolute father.

00:16:14.000 And that kind of hierarchy is really important.

00:16:17.000 And so every single person here today believes two things.

00:16:20.000 We believe that there is a God and you are not him, right?

00:16:24.000 We believe those two things, right?

00:16:26.000 And a true man believes those two things.

00:16:30.000 And those two things, a strong man, a determined man wants to always please his creator, his eternal father.

00:16:40.000 And understand, and I'm going to go through an actual checklist of this, for men out there that are like, what, you know, I want to get spring back into action.

00:16:48.000 And I'm going to kind of give a checklist.

00:16:50.000 It's really interesting when I give this speech on college campuses.

00:16:53.000 Some of these young men have, they enter.

00:16:57.000 You can just see the body posture of a young man that has just been broken down by the secular, collectivist, just hyper-feminine culture.

00:17:07.000 And by the way, there is a place for feminine culture.

00:17:10.000 In fact, we need a balance of both.

00:17:12.000 Without the feminine aspect of culture, we would be way, way, way too in one direction of hyper-aggressive, insensitive, monotasked, and no compassion, no understanding of the broader picture.

00:17:27.000 That mix is really important.

00:17:28.000 But if you get too feminine, then all of a sudden you will be conquered by your adversaries.

00:17:34.000 You will be less likely to stand up for the good, less confrontational.

00:17:38.000 And that is built into the psychology of women.

00:17:40.000 Some people are like, how dare you say that?

00:17:41.000 It's true.

00:17:42.000 Women are less confrontational.

00:17:43.000 They're less confrontational in work environments, less confrontational in relationships, less confrontational in romantic relationships.

00:17:50.000 They're more likely to try to sue or try to go for, let's say, a middle ground.

00:17:55.000 That is a fact.

00:17:56.000 Okay, so men follow God's commands with joy.

00:18:00.000 True and mature masculinity will be grounded in a man's underlying God-given purpose.

00:18:05.000 That's true masculinity.

00:18:07.000 It's trying to say, what does God want for my life?

00:18:09.000 And that goes back to what does it mean to be obedient?

00:18:13.000 Here's another thing that drives me nuts.

00:18:14.000 And my friend Ken Graves, who's a pastor for Calvary Chapel, Banger, Maine.

00:18:18.000 I don't know if you guys have ever heard him speak.

00:18:20.000 He's terrific.

00:18:22.000 And he kind of reminds me, you and Victor, Victor, you and him kind of got the same sort of thing going.

00:18:28.000 Yeah, you know, kind of like super alpha, alpha, alpha male.

00:18:31.000 You know, I was with Ken Graves in Banger, what was that, a couple weeks ago?

00:18:37.000 And we are eating lobster, obviously.

00:18:41.000 And he's like grunting as he's eating lobster.

00:18:46.000 And he's like, he has this massive Canadian lobster because they have different regulations on lobster.

00:18:51.000 And so it's huge.

00:18:52.000 He's like, I need a weapon.

00:18:54.000 And he goes in the next room.

00:18:55.000 He comes in with a sword, right?

00:18:58.000 Boom, breaks it open.

00:18:59.000 I'm like, oh my gosh.

00:19:00.000 Like, it's like a violent encounter having dinner with Ken Graves.

00:19:04.000 It's like, it's, it's like an all-involved, like, it's not just like, it's whatever gets the blood flowing.

00:19:10.000 Oh, my gosh.

00:19:11.000 Like, geez.

00:19:12.000 And he has a saying that I love.

00:19:14.000 He's like, I don't care about your feelings.

00:19:16.000 Stop talking about them.

00:19:17.000 No one cares about them, which is true.

00:19:18.000 And it's absolutely true.

00:19:19.000 And for men, I don't want to hear about it.

00:19:21.000 I honestly don't care how you feel.

00:19:22.000 I care about you think.

00:19:23.000 And I care about what's right.

00:19:25.000 Your feelings are absolutely irrelevant.

00:19:26.000 Stop it.

00:19:27.000 If you are being led by your feelings as a man, you're not a man.

00:19:30.000 It's true.

00:19:31.000 And I'm just going to say that again.

00:19:33.000 If you are being led by your feelings, not a man.

00:19:35.000 That doesn't mean you have to never feel, obviously, but don't let your feelings lead you.

00:19:39.000 Listen to what I said precisely.

00:19:41.000 And it says this in the scripture.

00:19:42.000 It says it in Isaiah.

00:19:43.000 It says it in Proverbs.

00:19:44.000 It says it in Leviticus.

00:19:45.000 The heart can be very, very misleading to be a director, especially for men.

00:19:50.000 Super misleading.

00:19:52.000 We have reason for a reason.

00:19:54.000 We are able to hopefully be able to say, man, outside of how I feel about this, what is true?

00:19:59.000 What is good?

00:19:59.000 What is beautiful?

00:20:00.000 And then what is the calculated decision I want to make there?

00:20:03.000 And the over-emphasis on feelings for men in particular, I think has been very, very harmful in kind of creating this.

00:20:13.000 And I say this and the media goes nuts.

00:20:15.000 I'm just going to say it.

00:20:16.000 This kind of metro-sexual male drives me nuts, right?

00:20:18.000 And these men that are like, I eat vegan meat or like, I haven't worked out in like a decade.

00:20:24.000 Like, what?

00:20:25.000 That's weird.

00:20:25.000 You know, no, there's actually, there's an argument to say that men should actually be physically involved in trying to build muscle mass, in trying to eat things that hopefully increase testosterone.

00:20:35.000 I don't know if you guys have seen these articles.

00:20:37.000 The testosterone rates of young men in America are plummeting.

00:20:41.000 They're 50% less than they were 40 years ago.

00:20:43.000 50% less.

00:20:44.000 How many, I know a lot of people that are like, I can't have kids.

00:20:47.000 I can't do this.

00:20:49.000 There's an agenda to this.

00:20:50.000 They want to create weaker men.

00:20:52.000 Now, some of them are like, well, because men can be totally tyrannical.

00:20:55.000 Ah, what you're talking about is the mismanagement of power.

00:20:58.000 That's a completely different conversation, right?

00:21:01.000 You're talking about how someone might have the ability to do something, but that doesn't mean they have to do that something.

00:21:07.000 I'm going to get into that.

00:21:08.000 And so the biggest issue with men in our country and when it comes to fathers, I'll get to that, is this idea that many of them lack purpose.

00:21:17.000 Now, purpose happens to be one of my favorite English words.

00:21:20.000 I have like three words that I love in the English language.

00:21:23.000 Just so you guys know, I actually don't like the English language.

00:21:25.000 I don't.

00:21:26.000 It's actually, it's kind of a sloppily put together language.

00:21:29.000 Let me give you an example.

00:21:30.000 We use the word love way too much, right?

00:21:33.000 And the Greeks had a lot of words for love.

00:21:35.000 Eros, agape, storge, philejo.

00:21:40.000 Even the Spanish language has more appreciation of miancanta or mia mor, right?

00:21:44.000 I love that because those are two totally different things to say, right?

00:21:48.000 And in America, it's like, oh, I love this slurpee, or I love my wife, or I love this person's work.

00:21:53.000 Like, whoa, that's kind of weird.

00:21:54.000 And we know what it is because of the nuance of that, but I actually think it's really destructive.

00:21:58.000 And I think that if I were to just kind of give one long-term goal, like we in the English language have to fix that because I actually think if you go back to the original Greek, of which the New Testament was written, there is some brilliance to this idea, the different types of love, different types of nuance behind that.

00:22:14.000 So one of my favorite words in the English language is purpose.

00:22:17.000 My other favorite language is earn.

00:22:19.000 I'll get into that word, earn.

00:22:20.000 I love that word earn.

00:22:22.000 And so purpose comes from a Greek word telos, which means we get the word telescope from that, which means far out into the distance.

00:22:28.000 That which I want to go to.

00:22:30.000 I'm aiming towards that.

00:22:31.000 The North Star, that's telos.

00:22:34.000 So many men today have no telos and no purpose.

00:22:37.000 No idea where they're going.

00:22:38.000 Meandering, right?

00:22:40.000 They're just kind of drifting, kind of going from one thing to the other.

00:22:44.000 And it's interesting because if you look at the kind of feminine and masculine traits, that actually is more harmful for young men.

00:22:53.000 And then it puts a lot of pressure on young women that have to act like men.

00:22:56.000 And that's what ends up happening is that young women then actually have to take on more of a masculine character trait.

00:23:02.000 And so masculine traits would be more competitive, assertive, hopefully more likely to protect, more goal-oriented, more rational, linear, and logical, hopefully a little bit more independent, focusing on one thing, not multitasking, right?

00:23:17.000 That is not, and that's not what men are naturally good at.

00:23:20.000 A bias for action, whereas women tend to be more compassionate, caring for others, collaborative, receptive, and grateful, more into nurturing, relationship-directed, a lot more intuitive.

00:23:33.000 Women intuition is a gift from the Lord.

00:23:35.000 Let me say that again.

00:23:36.000 I could tell that from my wife.

00:23:37.000 When she says not there, I say, okay, done.

00:23:40.000 Not even a question, right?

00:23:42.000 It's like a sixth sense.

00:23:43.000 And I honestly believe it is a gift from the Lord that we men do not have.

00:23:46.000 This kind of supernatural intuition.

00:23:48.000 And for those of you that have seen and experienced it, it is incredible.

00:23:52.000 And much better at multitasking, much more patient and likely to forgive, and more temporal.

00:24:00.000 Now, these are generalizations.

00:24:02.000 Are some women more likely?

00:24:04.000 Of course.

00:24:04.000 We're talking about the 95 rule here.

00:24:07.000 And this is what always drives me nuts: people say, well, Charlie, I'm not that way.

00:24:10.000 Again, the 95 rule is the basic categories of how these things tend to be true.

00:24:16.000 If we're going to just focus on the outliers or design entire cultural trends based on outliers, then we just throw away the rule altogether.

00:24:23.000 The rule is generally just what I articulated and went through.

00:24:26.000 And so because of this, because men tend to be more competitive and assertive, more likely to want to focus on something big without a purpose, they will perish.

00:24:36.000 And that is what the scriptures tell us.

00:24:37.000 When the people lack a purpose, they will perish.

00:24:40.000 And that's what's happened to young men across our country.

00:24:42.000 Here's a fire alarm.

00:24:44.000 The suicide epidemic that has happened across our country should be enough to have all the politicians stop and say, what are we doing?

00:24:51.000 We lost more young people, specifically young men, to suicide than the Chinese coronavirus in California over the last year.

00:24:58.000 That should be a five-alarm fire, everybody.

00:25:02.000 And we should be saying, what could possibly contribute to this?

00:25:05.000 And part of it is this overemphasis on self-esteem.

00:25:09.000 I'm going to get into that because I hate the self-esteem movement.

00:25:11.000 I think the self-esteem movement has done incredible damage to our country.

00:25:16.000 And my friend Dennis Prager completely agrees with me on that.

00:25:19.000 Actually, I agree with him.

00:25:20.000 So that's probably the better way to word it.

00:25:22.000 I agree with him on that.

00:25:23.000 And so, and so the other aspect of this, which is that young men don't, a lot of young men in the country, they've been so broken down.

00:25:35.000 They have been, they have to work against their nature at every single turn.

00:25:39.000 And by the way, our education system is the largest mass-scale feminized experiment in the history of America.

00:25:47.000 And we don't talk about this enough.

00:25:49.000 If you want to create young men to lose their mind, send them to school.

00:25:52.000 The whole schooling system is built for young women.

00:25:55.000 That's why they graduate with higher grades.

00:25:57.000 That's why they go to college more.

00:25:58.000 Think about it.

00:25:59.000 It's about sitting still for long periods of time, reading long romantic novels about like dogs on a prairie and like love stories.

00:26:07.000 It's about working collaboratively.

00:26:10.000 And if you're restless or if you have a lot of energy, you're the problem and you go get medicated.

00:26:16.000 I don't know how I survived public school.

00:26:18.000 I know how I survived government school.

00:26:20.000 It was before they actually started to deem people like me as problems.

00:26:24.000 It was right on the beginning of it, right?

00:26:25.000 I tend to be a little bit hyperactive, obviously, but that is an issue now because you can't control that, right?

00:26:33.000 Whereas when I went to school, the young women, they mature quicker, right?

00:26:36.000 They took grades very seriously.

00:26:38.000 Almost all the top people in my high school were either super feminine men or women that got the top grades.

00:26:45.000 It was the men that wanted to kind of work with their hands and do things.

00:26:48.000 They would always be considered like the problem students.

00:26:51.000 When in reality, they were just kind of looking for something.

00:26:54.000 They wanted to go pursue the good and fight against evil.

00:26:58.000 That's what they wanted to do.

00:26:59.000 And men have a higher tendency to want to do that.

00:27:01.000 Women want to do that too, but in a different way.

00:27:04.000 And so our government-run school system, I think, has been one of the most tragic failures of this in history.

00:27:10.000 And there's a great essay written about this by Heather McDonald.

00:27:13.000 In fact, a woman by the name of Christine Hoff Summers wrote a whole book about this called The War on Boys, Our Failure of Public Education, where schools should be a lot more involved learning for men.

00:27:23.000 It should be shorter periods of time, way more competition, pushing them, putting more pressure on men, way less idle reading time and more like, you could do better than that.

00:27:33.000 Come on, let's go.

00:27:34.000 That's the way, and young women don't respond as well to that, right?

00:27:37.000 And that's where you start to see these discrepancies of young women doing a lot better in every other metric, but they're actually miserable because their early 30s, unmarried, can't find men because our men are so weak, but they have a really, really great career, right?

00:27:51.000 So we're kind of seeing this crisis right now where we have the most successful generation of women.

00:27:56.000 That's the most unhappy generation of women in American history, right?

00:27:59.000 They're running the companies, they're partners at law firms, they have a bunch of money.

00:28:03.000 The number one complaint I get on my podcast is, Charlie, I'm 31 years old.

00:28:06.000 I love your podcast.

00:28:07.000 I go to a good church and I'm earning, you know, $200,000 a year and a partner at this thing and Irvine or whatever, but I can't find anyone to marry because all the men are complete and total slobs and like whatever.

00:28:17.000 Or they just have no direction, right?

00:28:19.000 They're kind of this, again, it's like the lost boys in Peter Pan.

00:28:22.000 Like, what do you do?

00:28:22.000 I play Xbox.

00:28:23.000 Like, okay, that's not very compelling.

00:28:24.000 Whereas the woman's like, I'm a partner.

00:28:26.000 I'm getting up at 6 a.m.

00:28:26.000 I'm working out.

00:28:27.000 I'm running like a marathon and a triathlete, whatever, right?

00:28:30.000 They got their whole life together.

00:28:31.000 Meanwhile, the man's like, yeah, I play Call of Duty, like, or whatever, right?

00:28:35.000 So it's like, whatever.

00:28:36.000 And it's kind of like, I'm just kind of figuring it out, right?

00:28:39.000 And so, and I'm not saying that's necessarily wrong, but at some point, that woman, and again, this is so politically incorrect, which is why I love talking about it.

00:28:49.000 I stopped caring a long time ago.

00:28:51.000 In the back of that woman's head around age 27, 28 is this biological clock, like, I want to have children.

00:28:56.000 And that's a real thing.

00:28:57.000 There is no suppressing that.

00:28:59.000 And it comes to a head right around 29 and 30, which is where you get these hyper-liberal activists that are like, all men are evil.

00:29:06.000 And well, it's not exactly the case.

00:29:08.000 It's just that maybe we need to create stronger men.

00:29:11.000 And also, you need to care about your career a little bit less and maybe building something that lasts like a family.

00:29:14.000 But that's, but they've been lied to by our public education system and specifically college, that you must go to college, become a partner, and do all these sorts of things.

00:29:21.000 And again, generally, that's fine.

00:29:22.000 If you're able to do that, I'm just saying that you're going to be miserable.

00:29:26.000 And that, and it's true.

00:29:28.000 If you want to go see miserable people, go to New York City and go meet early 30s-somethings women.

00:29:33.000 They are the angriest, most bitter.

00:29:35.000 And then, no, it's true.

00:29:36.000 And by the way, I see a lot of women nodding their head.

00:29:38.000 Like, it's true.

00:29:39.000 And, but they, you know what their religion is, their religion then becomes leftism, right?

00:29:44.000 Because then, since I'm so angry, I need a vehicle to go change the world and like, whatever.

00:29:47.000 Okay.

00:29:48.000 And so here's the first thing.

00:29:49.000 So here are seven steps for a man that's like, all right, I got it, Charlie.

00:29:53.000 I want to be that.

00:29:54.000 Or maybe it's like, man, you know, I think it's all bluster or whatever.

00:29:58.000 Here's seven things you got to do on Father's Day that a man has to do.

00:30:01.000 And for women, you got to demand this out of your man.

00:30:03.000 This is the other thing: is that women, you got to be like, what's your problem?

00:30:07.000 Like, why am I, why are you sleeping in later than me?

00:30:09.000 You know what I mean?

00:30:11.000 I'm being somewhat harsh on that, but it's got to be like, you know, and women, do not be afraid to say this to your male counterparts, which is like, can you lead me?

00:30:21.000 Like, can you start leading me?

00:30:23.000 That's what you have to say.

00:30:24.000 Be like, that's your job.

00:30:26.000 Lead us.

00:30:27.000 You know, don't just like be okay, just kind of meandering through this.

00:30:31.000 And that's a lot of pressure.

00:30:32.000 So, number one is that young men, men in particular, they need to become really, really good at self-control and forget about self-esteem.

00:30:40.000 I hate the self-esteem movement.

00:30:42.000 Again, this is, I'm going to zero in on this for a sec, which is all across the country, we decided to be a great idea in like 2008, 2009, 2010 to have this massive propaganda campaign in high schools across the country with all these like really creepy, like big yellow, smiley face emojis, posters.

00:30:57.000 They say like self-esteem, you're perfect the way you are.

00:30:59.000 Have you ever seen these things?

00:31:00.000 It's awful.

00:31:01.000 And like there's big kind of huge auditorium, like they fill up these auditoriums.

00:31:05.000 Like, let's talk about self-esteem, you know, all these.

00:31:07.000 And they never actually talk about things you have to do to improve your character.

00:31:11.000 It's just your existence is perfect.

00:31:13.000 Well, it actually has the opposite intended effect.

00:31:15.000 So I was kind of a smart aleck in high school and I was low on sleep one day.

00:31:19.000 And one of my teachers was doing this whole like pre, like this, this literature, this liturgy literally on self-esteem.

00:31:25.000 Like you are perfect.

00:31:26.000 You never have to change yourself, like all this sort of crazy thing, right?

00:31:29.000 And I know the intention was probably to stop bullying.

00:31:32.000 The intention was probably to stop self-harm.

00:31:34.000 The intention was, it had the opposite effect, though.

00:31:36.000 It was the exact opposite.

00:31:37.000 And so this, I remember asking my teacher, I raised my hand, I said, well, if we're all perfect the way we are, why am I in school?

00:31:47.000 Why do I have to improve?

00:31:50.000 What's homework?

00:31:51.000 What's character development?

00:31:52.000 And she was like, oh, stop it.

00:31:53.000 Like, you know, she had no real answer to that, obviously.

00:31:55.000 But that's the point, right?

00:31:56.000 Instead, here's the way education should work when you're 16.

00:31:59.000 Be like, man, you got a lot of problems, but I see a lot of potential in you.

00:32:04.000 And if you do a couple things, you could actually make something of yourself in a couple of years.

00:32:06.000 Let's do it together.

00:32:08.000 But I believe in you to be able to do that.

00:32:09.000 Do you?

00:32:10.000 That's what a young man needs to hear.

00:32:12.000 That's what a young man, not like perfect the way you are.

00:32:14.000 Be like, no, I see a lot of potential in you, but man, you're kind of a mess.

00:32:18.000 Like, that's the best thing that was told to me, by the way.

00:32:21.000 Like, when men lean to me, like, man, you could be something of your life, but you got to dress better.

00:32:25.000 And like, you know, you got to start working out.

00:32:28.000 Like, whatever it is, right?

00:32:29.000 That sort of challenge, that kind of teasing to a journey is what a man needs to be on.

00:32:35.000 Needs a journey.

00:32:36.000 Needs adventure.

00:32:37.000 Needs the call to the wild, literally.

00:32:39.000 And by the way, all these books that used to embody that, we've completely removed it from the canon of elementary high school, right?

00:32:45.000 Literally.

00:32:45.000 The call to the wild.

00:32:49.000 The tales of Huckleberry Finn.

00:32:51.000 Anything by Mark Twain.

00:32:52.000 These stories were written to be able to elevate the idea of the masculine adventurer fighting for the good when the unknown comes and you encounter it.

00:33:04.000 And now we've removed those stories and now we read like white fragility or whatever, right?

00:33:08.000 Brobin Dean.

00:33:09.000 I want to be an anti-racist or whatever that is, right?

00:33:11.000 And so what does that do to a young white man?

00:33:13.000 What it does to a young white man is like, wow, I'm an awful person.

00:33:16.000 And like, it's the opposite of the self-esteem thing.

00:33:17.000 It's like, not even like, we want to make you better.

00:33:19.000 It's like, no, the only way you could do this is like atone and become a revolutionary.

00:33:22.000 Like that's basically what they say.

00:33:24.000 And they're like, fine, I'm going to disconnect.

00:33:26.000 Like, there's nothing for me here.

00:33:28.000 I'm going to go find things that make me feel good.

00:33:30.000 I'm going to go do weep.

00:33:31.000 I'm going to go do heroin.

00:33:32.000 I'm going to go become substance abused.

00:33:33.000 And like, if I'm not needed here and you're going to keep on berating me, I'm done.

00:33:38.000 And men are more likely to do that than women, by the way.

00:33:41.000 So men operate on extremes.

00:33:42.000 You guys ever see this before?

00:33:44.000 Right?

00:33:44.000 Very little nuance at times.

00:33:46.000 It's either I'm all in, we're going for adventure, like I'm pulling the cord, the game's over, I'm going to go drink.

00:33:52.000 Done, right?

00:33:53.000 Very little nuance at times.

00:33:54.000 And then we see that, right?

00:33:56.000 Where women tend to be a little bit more like, oh, okay, we can navigate this.

00:33:59.000 But again, a lot of this is hyper designed for women because they want to create a feminized society.

00:34:06.000 And so that's number one, self-control, not self-esteem.

00:34:09.000 Number two, this is really, really important for young men.

00:34:12.000 And it's very biblical.

00:34:13.000 And Christ was amazing at articulating this, obviously.

00:34:17.000 But it's stop sinning early.

00:34:19.000 And this is something we don't talk about enough.

00:34:21.000 So sin is the distance from God.

00:34:23.000 If you choose to sin, you choose to suffer.

00:34:26.000 But you talk about that pastor that had adultery with the 40 years younger and a child.

00:34:30.000 No, that sin was that very big evil sin actually started when he didn't put himself in check when he started to have adulterous thoughts.

00:34:40.000 And Christ talked about this, right?

00:34:43.000 You have to be in control of not just your physical domain, in charge of your thoughts.

00:34:47.000 He said, if you even have lust in your eyes towards a woman, you've already committed adultery, right?

00:34:53.000 What is he really saying there?

00:34:54.000 Like, you got to get yourself in check right there, or else that's going to manifest itself into something really bad.

00:34:58.000 If your arm causes you to sin, cut it off, right?

00:35:00.000 And that, so you got to stop sinning early.

00:35:03.000 And this is a good lesson, by the way, for every person, man or woman, which is you've got to identify it.

00:35:08.000 You've got to spot it, and you got to be honest about it, and you got to remove it.

00:35:12.000 Maybe it's Instagram.

00:35:13.000 Maybe Instagram is causing you to go into a pattern of behavior you don't like.

00:35:16.000 You don't have to have Instagram.

00:35:17.000 You don't.

00:35:18.000 Delete it.

00:35:19.000 If it causes you to sin, get rid of it.

00:35:21.000 Go through an inventory of things that you spend your time on and say, am I glorifying God using this or am I falling away from God using this?

00:35:27.000 And now maybe you can adjust your behavior and all of a sudden say, hey, maybe I can do Instagram for God's glory.

00:35:32.000 And stop following these five accounts that always swear and do post things that are not kind of in disobedience.

00:35:37.000 Or maybe it's like, man, it's too much.

00:35:39.000 I'm going to delete it.

00:35:40.000 That's okay, by the way.

00:35:42.000 That's okay.

00:35:43.000 And that's a sign of strength to say that I'm not able to go through that.

00:35:47.000 And that's okay.

00:35:48.000 And that's why some people are like, I don't even want to go to that movie.

00:35:52.000 I don't want to watch that movie.

00:35:53.000 And that's a sign of maturity and strength.

00:35:55.000 It causes you to sin.

00:35:56.000 Cut it off.

00:35:57.000 Men need to be clear in particular to spot sins early and then preempt them and say, I'm not going to do it.

00:36:04.000 Because those sins then grow.

00:36:06.000 They grow into other sins, right?

00:36:07.000 The small lie then becomes an entire lie for the rest of your life, whatever that might be.

00:36:12.000 Okay, number three, which is this is for men in particular.

00:36:16.000 If you feel like you're without direction, and maybe you're watching this, and we have a lot of young men that listen to my podcast, you got to find something you don't want to lose.

00:36:25.000 You got to find something that if you lose it, all of a sudden you're willing to do something and sacrifice to get it back.

00:36:30.000 It's one of the biggest problems.

00:36:32.000 They lose video games, like, yeah, I guess whatever.

00:36:35.000 No, you got to find something that you're willing.

00:36:36.000 And all of a sudden, if it disappeared, you would go to the ends of the earth to get it back.

00:36:40.000 Like a meaningful relationship, right?

00:36:42.000 Like a connection with somebody that is just bigger than life.

00:36:47.000 One of the big problems with men is they don't have that.

00:36:50.000 There's just a bunch of substances after kind of direction aimless movements.

00:36:54.000 Find something that if you lost it, you would have to sacrifice for it, which we also call responsibility.

00:36:59.000 Number four, men, if you're like, man, I just can't get my life in order.

00:37:04.000 What do I do first?

00:37:05.000 Here's a mission.

00:37:06.000 And the next day or two, go find someone or something that can't protect themselves and go protect them.

00:37:13.000 Anything.

00:37:14.000 It could be someone at a homeless shelter.

00:37:16.000 It could be a bully in a school.

00:37:18.000 Go find someone that is currently under attack and go protect them.

00:37:21.000 It could be a pastor, by the way.

00:37:23.000 It could be someone who's getting ridiculed and just getting rolled over.

00:37:26.000 Go find them.

00:37:26.000 That's who you're built.

00:37:27.000 That's what you're built to do.

00:37:28.000 You are built to go protect the people that can't protect themselves.

00:37:31.000 You'll find purpose really quickly, really quickly.

00:37:34.000 And all of a sudden, you're like, no, this is an injustice.

00:37:37.000 If you're a man out there, you're looking for a purpose.

00:37:39.000 Go find injustice and do something about it.

00:37:42.000 Quickly.

00:37:43.000 That will all of a sudden make you feel as if that it's all just about my own substance flow.

00:37:48.000 And then all of a sudden you're like, man, I'm standing by these Calvary pastors that are under attack.

00:37:52.000 And my job right now is to assist them and run errands for them, whatever it might be, you know, during the lockdowns and all this.

00:37:57.000 And all of a sudden, you're like, man, I'm not able to do that as much if I get drunk every night.

00:38:01.000 Maybe I should stop doing that.

00:38:02.000 All of a sudden, your life naturally orders when you find a purpose bigger than yourself.

00:38:06.000 And people are like, well, what is that purpose?

00:38:08.000 Again, let me reiterate that.

00:38:09.000 Protect something that can't protect themselves.

00:38:13.000 It's that simple.

00:38:13.000 And you're like, well, I can't do that.

00:38:15.000 Yes, you can.

00:38:16.000 There is somebody in this town right now that can't protect themselves.

00:38:19.000 That's in a cycle where they need help.

00:38:22.000 And it could be as simple as like, I have an abusive relationship.

00:38:24.000 I need someone to stay.

00:38:25.000 I need to be able to just offer a bed for somebody, right?

00:38:29.000 I need a meal with somebody to be able to empathize with and pray for, right?

00:38:32.000 Any one of those things.

00:38:33.000 That's a form of protection.

00:38:35.000 Then all of a sudden, you are now in the service capacity, not just in the served capacity.

00:38:41.000 I need everything all the time.

00:38:42.000 No, no, no, no.

00:38:42.000 That's not what you're called to do, especially as men.

00:38:44.000 Protect something that can't protect themselves.

00:38:46.000 Number five, this is something that I think is not talked about enough, which is be super honest with your failures.

00:38:53.000 If you want to look at a cycle of hopelessness or directionless, it's built on a mountain of deceit to the self and the soul.

00:39:01.000 It's built on like, man, it's other people's fault.

00:39:05.000 You know, they screwed me over.

00:39:07.000 You know, they keep on whittling me down.

00:39:09.000 No, you got to be brutally honest with yourself.

00:39:11.000 And maybe you have to write to yourself, like, man, I could have done a lot better job there.

00:39:15.000 I was kind of a jerk to that person.

00:39:17.000 Or I was 10 minutes late to that job interview.

00:39:19.000 Whatever that is, that's being honest with yourself and holding yourself to a higher standard.

00:39:24.000 And for men out there, this is liberating because all of a sudden you write down, you're like, man, I have been screwing up a lot.

00:39:30.000 And I can fix a lot of this stuff because I have agency and I have the ability to do that.

00:39:33.000 And I think I can live a more fulfilling life when I do that.

00:39:35.000 Be honest with your failures.

00:39:37.000 And it's the most liberating thing in the world.

00:39:40.000 You want to know people that are kind of looking for that direction.

00:39:43.000 Every around every single turn is a half-truth and a lie that they told first and foremost to themselves.

00:39:49.000 Number six, which is be clear with your goals, is that you need to go find something worth doing.

00:39:54.000 You got to go find something meaningful and eternal, which is why I'm a big supporter of young men trying to be worthy of someone that women want to marry.

00:40:03.000 And so you got to do it early and you got to be, and so men say all the time, like, man, I just can't find a woman.

00:40:08.000 I'm like, you know what's interesting?

00:40:09.000 In Scottsdale, it's the most single city in the country, right?

00:40:13.000 Which is where we spend a lot of time.

00:40:14.000 There's five single women for every one man.

00:40:16.000 And it's funny, all the women have a completely different understanding of what's going on.

00:40:20.000 They're like, oh, we can find men and they're all losers.

00:40:24.000 Right?

00:40:25.000 All of them.

00:40:26.000 And like, we have like this married list kind of demographic in Scottsdale.

00:40:31.000 And this is, I'm just being very honest with men, be like, you got to raise your own standard.

00:40:36.000 Go work out a little bit.

00:40:37.000 Stop eating saturated fats and all that garbage of fast food, right?

00:40:41.000 Stop drinking.

00:40:42.000 Stop doing drugs.

00:40:43.000 Start telling the truth.

00:40:44.000 Go find a little purpose.

00:40:45.000 Save a little money.

00:40:46.000 Like, go put your life together.

00:40:49.000 I mean, and if I have to hear, like, oh, like everyone hates me, I'm going to go like watch some website that I shouldn't be watching.

00:40:54.000 Like, fine.

00:40:54.000 Then you really don't deserve to do it.

00:40:56.000 And so my call is more for the men than the women.

00:40:59.000 It really is.

00:41:00.000 My wife will be through the women's ministry of how to find, you know, a man and all that.

00:41:05.000 She's amazing.

00:41:06.000 But for men, I'm telling you, you got to raise your own standards.

00:41:08.000 You have to.

00:41:09.000 And you got to be harsh on yourself.

00:41:11.000 And that's actually going to be, in my opinion, the most liberating thing.

00:41:14.000 You might say, well, Charlie, harsh on yourself.

00:41:16.000 Doesn't that cause self-harm?

00:41:17.000 No, it doesn't.

00:41:18.000 No, it doesn't.

00:41:19.000 For men, that is the most liberating thing because we are called to a challenge.

00:41:23.000 We're called to pressure.

00:41:24.000 We're called to finally our breaking point.

00:41:26.000 We're like, I'm going to push through that.

00:41:27.000 That's what gives us purpose and meaning.

00:41:29.000 And then finally, this is the opposite of what you're told.

00:41:32.000 And then I will kind of do a pastor's close, so like 35-minute close.

00:41:36.000 Right.

00:41:36.000 So I'm kidding.

00:41:37.000 I'm kidding.

00:41:39.000 Which is discipline is freedom.

00:41:42.000 Discipline, it's the opposite of what you're told, is that when you decide to put a framework in place of where you have rules for your own life, you're going to be the most free person.

00:41:54.000 And so it's the opposite.

00:41:55.000 We're told freedom is being able to do whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it.

00:41:58.000 Indulge in yourself.

00:41:59.000 Be able to kind of do whatever substance you want.

00:42:02.000 We're going to listen to music that glamorizes it and hang out with friends that think it's terrific and we're just going to do enough to get by.

00:42:08.000 You're not going to be free.

00:42:10.000 You're going to be, I said this at the women's conference last week and it got written up everywhere.

00:42:14.000 And I'll just say it again, whatever.

00:42:16.000 You're going to be a metaphorical slave to whatever that stuff is.

00:42:18.000 You guys know what I mean when I mean that, by the way, okay?

00:42:21.000 Again, all the media is like, oh, you're like Jim Crow.

00:42:22.000 Like, that's not what I mean.

00:42:23.000 Okay.

00:42:24.000 A metaphorical slave to whatever that is, right?

00:42:27.000 And you guys that have ever dealt with alcoholics, you know exactly what I mean, by the way.

00:42:30.000 You know exactly what I mean.

00:42:32.000 And so all of a sudden, what if I told you that the wise restraints that you put yourself are going to keep you free?

00:42:40.000 That all of a sudden the rules that you write down, the things that you're not going to do.

00:42:43.000 Now, I want you to think about something.

00:42:45.000 The Ten Commandments are amazing, right?

00:42:48.000 I think it's six between us and God and four between yourselves.

00:42:50.000 I could be wrong.

00:42:51.000 Anyway, I think that's right.

00:42:54.000 But God's telling us to do and also not to do.

00:42:58.000 God's trying to put barriers on our own human nature.

00:43:01.000 And guess what?

00:43:02.000 If you just follow those 10 commandments, they're not like the fun police.

00:43:05.000 They actually, your life will be blessed immeasurably.

00:43:08.000 And that's the amazing thing is God gave us these rules to bless us.

00:43:12.000 He didn't give us these rules to all of a sudden be like, yeah, you're going to have a funless life and you're going to be miserable.

00:43:19.000 Actually, if you put those restraints on yourself, you're actually going to live a more free and flourishing life than before.

00:43:26.000 There's a beautiful sign at the Harvard Law School.

00:43:28.000 They're going to get rid of it really soon because way too wise.

00:43:31.000 And it says, The law are the wise restraints that keep men free.

00:43:38.000 And I want you to think about that.

00:43:39.000 That if you want to be free, you got to all of a sudden become controlling of yourself.

00:43:44.000 And you got to be able to have rules for yourself.

00:43:45.000 There's a guy that did this really well, Jordan Peterson.

00:43:48.000 You've probably read his book.

00:43:50.000 Some of them are really good rules.

00:43:51.000 Some of them are kind of silly, and a couple I disagree with.

00:43:53.000 But generally, they're really good and they're rooted in kind of biblical truths.

00:43:57.000 And one of them is sit up straight with your shoulders back, right?

00:44:00.000 Come on, present yourself like you're someone worthy to talk to.

00:44:03.000 Another one is when you shake someone's hand, look at them in the eye and speak clearly who you are and what your purpose is and what you want.

00:44:09.000 Never ever tell a lie and always tell the truth.

00:44:12.000 Those are really, really good rules, right?

00:44:14.000 And for the young male crisis we have in our country, that is very, very helpful.

00:44:20.000 Because you know what is missing?

00:44:21.000 What's missing is order.

00:44:23.000 We have nothing but chaos at every single turn, right?

00:44:26.000 Unpredictability, just kind of we don't know what next is going to happen.

00:44:29.000 Then maybe we need to create a framework which is discipline.

00:44:32.000 And I could tell you the most free people that I ever meet are the people that get up at 5 a.m. and they run like five and a half miles and they have their entire schedule built out.

00:44:41.000 And for some people, that's too manic, right?

00:44:44.000 But the point is that there's order and there's freedom in actually being able to structure your life that way.

00:44:50.000 And there's some human beings need variety too, and you could always kind of space that in.

00:44:55.000 But the opposite is this.

00:44:57.000 The opposite is like, man, I stayed up to 6 a.m. playing video games and I got marijuana delivered to my door at like 2 a.m.

00:45:04.000 And I don't remember what I ate.

00:45:06.000 I woke up at 3 and like I hadn't been outside in a week and like whatever, right?

00:45:12.000 That's not freedom.

00:45:13.000 Of course not, right?

00:45:14.000 And so that's the extreme of just total abyss and chaos.

00:45:18.000 And so I'm going to go through this list again.

00:45:19.000 Seven things that men have to do, seven charges, and you guys can spread them to men.

00:45:24.000 And these are good for women too, but for men in particular, because we have a male crisis in our country, the likes of which no one wants to admit.

00:45:31.000 And it's bad for women, it's bad for men, it's bad for families, bad for our nation.

00:45:34.000 Self-control, not self-esteem.

00:45:36.000 Stop sinning early.

00:45:37.000 Find something you don't want to lose, or that if you lost it, all of a sudden you would feel as if there was an urge to try to fight for that.

00:45:47.000 We call that responsibility, use that word responsibility.

00:45:50.000 So here's the test of whether or not you have responsibility in your life.

00:45:54.000 If you don't show up tomorrow morning, somewhere or anywhere, will anyone care?

00:45:59.000 If the answer is no, you don't have any responsibility.

00:46:02.000 If all of a sudden, if you don't show up anywhere, you're not responsible for anything.

00:46:06.000 Right?

00:46:06.000 But all of a sudden, if you are, let's say that you work at a dentist's office and you got to open that door at 8 a.m. to be able to get patients in at 9 a.m.

00:46:14.000 And you don't do that, all of a sudden the whole office is going to be like, why wasn't this open?

00:46:18.000 The coffee's not on.

00:46:19.000 That means that you have some responsibility.

00:46:21.000 Congratulations, people need you.

00:46:24.000 That's a big deal.

00:46:25.000 That you got something that all of a sudden you're in a connective tissue of humanity.

00:46:28.000 That's the definition of responsibility.

00:46:31.000 Number four, protect something that can't protect themselves.

00:46:34.000 Be the defenders of the good against evil, especially against people that are trying to do things that are nefarious.

00:46:41.000 Be honest with your failures always.

00:46:42.000 Be clear with your goals.

00:46:44.000 And discipline is freedom.

00:46:46.000 And I do want to speak to the women out there.

00:46:47.000 I just want to reinforce this, especially the moms.

00:46:50.000 Please, every way you possibly can with your sons, challenge them to be the best version of a biblical man.

00:46:58.000 Because everything around them in society is telling them to do the opposite.

00:47:02.000 And that kind of idea of responsibility and direction and goal is so incredibly important.

00:47:08.000 And so it's Father's Day.

00:47:10.000 In order for us to have fathers, we must have strong men.

00:47:12.000 Fathers build strong families alongside mothers.

00:47:15.000 And we currently don't have that.

00:47:17.000 One of the reasons we're losing our freedoms and our liberties is because of that.

00:47:20.000 It's because all of a sudden we don't have a father.

00:47:22.000 What replaces the father?

00:47:22.000 The state.

00:47:23.000 And the state becomes the father.

00:47:25.000 The state then sends all of a sudden sends the checks.

00:47:28.000 The state is the one that sends the assistance.

00:47:30.000 You want to all of a sudden be able to contest for liberty and freedom and virtue?

00:47:34.000 That's the best way to do it.

00:47:35.000 I'll close with this.

00:47:36.000 The church has to continue to rise up, everybody.

00:47:38.000 We're going to be doing this at Turning Point Faith.

00:47:40.000 I'm going to keep on talking about this on our radio show.

00:47:42.000 I would consider it a personal favor if every person here subscribed to my podcast.

00:47:47.000 It's super easy to do.

00:47:48.000 It's free of charge.

00:47:49.000 Every single smartphone has a podcast app.

00:47:52.000 And if everyone in this room did it here, we would beat the New York Times, the podcast charts by tomorrow morning, which I think would be a lot of fun.

00:47:58.000 Now, if you're like, Charlie, how do I subscribe to that?

00:48:00.000 Well, every Apple phone has a podcast app.

00:48:02.000 Is there like a 14-year-old around?

00:48:03.000 Just ask the 14-year-old.

00:48:05.000 They'll be able to help you very easily with that.

00:48:09.000 But look, this was obviously a less political speech than I usually give.

00:48:14.000 I give these speeches for a reason because I think that politics is just a reflection of the type of culture that we have.

00:48:19.000 The great Andrew Breitbart used to say politics flows downstream from culture.

00:48:22.000 And culture is how we build our families, how we educate our children, how we have our churches, how we communicate our values and what our values are.

00:48:30.000 And I think we all agree that without strong men and fathers and families that are being built that are having a lot of children and willing to raise them, then all of a sudden we're just kind of reorganizing chairs on the Titanic.

00:48:40.000 And so I hope this was helpful for a lot of our young men out there and for families.

00:48:44.000 And I can tell you, for our nation, everybody, we got to keep on fighting for what is true and what is beautiful and what is good.

00:48:49.000 And it starts with the church.

00:48:51.000 It starts with all of you showing up to school board meetings.

00:48:53.000 If every single person here showed up to a school board meeting and all of a sudden was like, wait a second, why is it that we're teaching this transgender nonsense?

00:49:00.000 Why is it that we have this kind of men can go into lockrooms?

00:49:04.000 Why are we teaching critical race theory in our local schools in Chino or Ontario?

00:49:08.000 Don't put up with it.

00:49:09.000 You guys have the power to be able to do something about it in your local school boards.

00:49:14.000 We hold the power.

00:49:14.000 So I encourage all of you to try to find your local school boards and do something about it.

00:49:18.000 So I just want to thank this incredible church and Pastor Joe.

00:49:21.000 And for those of you that might have just come and haven't given your life to Jesus Christ, that's the ultimate action item that I have here.

00:49:27.000 My friend Bob is watching all the way in Naples, Florida, and he's like, Charlie, give action items.

00:49:32.000 So here's my action item: give your life to Christ if you haven't already.

00:49:34.000 It's the most important thing you can do.

00:49:36.000 And I want to see you in heaven and have eternal life.

00:49:39.000 That's number one.

00:49:40.000 Number two, if you're a man that's currently a member of the Lost Boys in Peter Pan, get your life together and do these seven things.

00:49:46.000 If you have a man in your life that's like that, challenge them.

00:49:49.000 Put some pressure on them.

00:49:51.000 Believe in them and say that I see potential and I want to see you get to higher levels.

00:49:55.000 And remember those seven things.

00:49:56.000 If you could subscribe to the podcast, it would deeply bless me.

00:49:59.000 And guys, our best days are ahead in this country.

00:50:01.000 We have the truth and we are growing in numbers.

00:50:04.000 We have momentum.

00:50:04.000 Now, what is the physics definition of momentum?

00:50:07.000 Force, momentum, equals mass times acceleration.

00:50:10.000 I'm feeling our numbers increase and we're moving at quicker speed.

00:50:14.000 And it all starts with you guys.

00:50:15.000 I'm so blessed to be able to be with you, you guys, here today.

00:50:17.000 God bless you.

00:50:17.000 Thank you so much.

00:50:24.000 Thanks so much for listening, everybody.

00:50:25.000 Email us your thoughts, freedom at charliekirk.com.

00:50:28.000 And if you want to support our program, go to charliekirk.com/slash support.

00:50:32.000 Thanks so much for listening, everybody.

00:50:33.000 God bless.

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The Charlie Kirk Show - July 11, 2021

What It Means To Be A Man in Today's America

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