The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - 22 WITHOUT A BOO ｜ Drew Afualo ft. Anania ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 34

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00:01:24.760 Hey everyone and welcome back to another episode of the Comment Section Show starring me, your fave.

00:01:30.440 Who cares about me?

00:01:31.380 Today I'm so excited to introduce you all to one of my favorite guests of all time, Miss Ananiya.

00:01:39.500 Oh, I totally shouldn't yell.

00:01:41.700 I'm so excited.

00:01:43.220 I'm glad.

00:01:43.800 I'm glad you yelled.

00:01:46.860 I feel like I'm gonna cry.

00:01:48.160 Yell as much as you want.

00:01:49.640 Oh, thank you for having me.

00:01:50.880 I'm so happy to have you.

00:01:53.300 You're like, you two are another one that was like highly, highly requested.

00:01:58.160 Oh, nice.

00:01:58.820 Yeah. 0.98

00:01:59.060 And I've told, I literally have told people, I'm like, I, trust me, I asked the bitch, okay? 1.00

00:02:03.660 They're on the East Coast, okay? 0.95

00:02:05.780 I was waiting for you to come here so that you could film with me.

00:02:08.680 I'm so honored. 0.94

00:02:09.320 Also, I need to front load my compliments to you because I, I'm finally on the f*** mic. 0.92

00:02:14.520 Oh. 0.95

00:02:15.760 That's all right.

00:02:16.140 That's okay.

00:02:16.800 That's okay.

00:02:18.120 Anyway, I've been following you, like, ever since, like, I saw your first video.

00:02:22.680 Like, I feel like with a lot of people, I'm like, if I see her again on the, on the For

00:02:26.200 You page, I'll follow her. 0.72

00:02:26.860 I feel that.

00:02:27.600 I feel that. 1.00

00:02:27.920 I was like, no, there's something about this bitch. 1.00

00:02:29.680 I have to, I have to follow her. 0.99

00:02:31.720 And let me say that, like, following you and, like, just watching you and, like, seeing

00:02:36.540 your success, like, inspires me so much to just keep going.

00:02:39.420 And, like, whenever I'm, like, down on myself, because, like, if I'm being honest, like, I'm,

00:02:44.340 like, social media on, like, my psyche and stuff is pretty hard. 0.98

00:02:47.540 But, like, when I watch you, I'm like, f***. 1.00

00:02:51.260 Shoot. 1.00

00:02:53.040 Fork. 1.00

00:02:53.900 God darn it. 0.99

00:02:55.160 I feel like, I feel like I'm able to, like, go to war. 0.99

00:02:59.780 You know what I mean?

00:03:00.540 Like, you make me feel so, like, strong in myself.

00:03:04.040 And, yeah, I'm just, like, I'm just happy you have your platform and I'm happy to be

00:03:08.060 here.

00:03:08.540 And I feel like.

00:03:09.280 You're going to make me cry.

00:03:09.880 No, no, no, no.

00:03:11.240 Don't cry.

00:03:12.420 Because me first.

00:03:14.500 Other than that, I mean, I just feel like whenever I, like, have this moment, like, with people,

00:03:20.940 like, I've been following for a long time and I'm, like, meeting you and, like, talking

00:03:24.060 to you, it's just, like, so surreal.

00:03:25.680 It feels like I'm, like, like, I'm, like, doing something good.

00:03:29.560 You are.

00:03:30.160 Thank you.

00:03:30.600 You are.

00:03:31.140 You're so impactful.

00:03:32.800 I remember one of the first videos I ever saw about you was you talking about being an

00:03:37.260 RA in college. 0.99

00:03:40.900 And I was, like, this bitch is funny. 1.00

00:03:42.360 And I stan a funny bitch, let me tell you. 1.00

00:03:45.080 I try. 0.99

00:03:45.460 And that's why I immediately was drawn to you.

00:03:48.240 And I think that you also, you're also very, aside from, like, being obviously incredibly

00:03:53.980 funny, you're also very vulnerable and very honest.

00:03:56.960 And I think that's a great thing.

00:03:59.040 I think that's something that is lacking a lot of times when it comes to being a creator

00:04:03.160 because it's so easy to want to, like, front load only positive things and only positive

00:04:08.900 messaging.

00:04:09.400 Like, even now you're saying, like, it can be really hard being on social media, which

00:04:12.380 is true.

00:04:13.060 And I've talked about that with other creators, too.

00:04:15.700 Like, whether it was here or just privately, that Teffy, she described it one time as, like,

00:04:21.360 it's, like, a one-way mirror.

00:04:22.620 Yeah.

00:04:23.040 So, like, you can't see out, but everybody can see in.

00:04:26.120 That's exactly what it feels like.

00:04:27.020 Yeah, when you're a public person.

00:04:28.440 The thing that, like, pisses me off the most is, like, people feel so entitled to their opinions

00:04:33.720 on you. 0.99

00:04:34.400 And that's the shit that I'm, like, yeah. 1.00

00:04:36.760 Like, watching your shit, I'm, like, you're allowed to, one, defend yourself and the people 1.00

00:04:41.680 who, like, who are, like, represented by you. 1.00

00:04:44.400 Yeah.

00:04:44.800 And I'm just, like, yeah.

00:04:45.640 Like, I can't.

00:04:46.320 I'm going to be vulnerable, sure.

00:04:48.140 Just because I know that there's people out there who probably want to see, like, a queer 1.00

00:04:51.500 black person out there, like, doing what they do.

00:04:54.600 And I'm just going to keep going because, like, I have the people, I have the support

00:04:57.500 system, I have the mutuals to back me up for that. 0.99

00:04:59.700 Yeah.

00:04:59.980 And I think, and it's, I think it's the most intense form of validation, too, that you do

00:05:04.160 have your platform because it is absolutely validating that you have a space here.

00:05:09.180 You deserve to take up space here.

00:05:10.680 Well, shucks, Drew.

00:05:11.500 And I think, too, I think, too, I've told people this because sometimes people will

00:05:14.660 ask, like, I'm sure you get this question, too, like, how do I become a content creator?

00:05:18.760 Like, how do I get started?

00:05:20.320 And I always say, like, the first thing I always say is, like, be absolutely certain

00:05:24.380 this is what you want to do because it's not for everyone.

00:05:27.180 I can promise you that.

00:05:28.560 It's a lot harder on you mentally than I think people anticipate.

00:05:33.400 Oh.

00:05:34.160 It's bad.

00:05:34.960 It can be really bad.

00:05:36.340 It can be rotted.

00:05:36.960 I started therapy recently.

00:05:38.660 And I feel like.

00:05:39.840 Congratulations.

00:05:40.580 Thank you.

00:05:41.000 I think it's a wonderful thing.

00:05:42.160 Thank you, American Health Care.

00:05:43.620 We stand therapy here.

00:05:44.380 I feel like half of my session each time is just talking about, like, self-image and,

00:05:49.840 like, how to remove people's perceptions of me.

00:05:52.520 Yeah, absolutely.

00:05:52.900 On a large scale, like a macro scale.

00:05:54.960 Especially now.

00:05:55.680 Yeah.

00:05:55.940 Especially with the amount of eyes that are on you.

00:05:59.320 I think it's so funny, too, because this morning when I was getting glammed, I was talking

00:06:03.680 to my hair and makeup artist and we were talking about, like, plastic surgery and he had asked

00:06:08.660 me, like, would you ever want to get anything done?

00:06:10.380 And I was like, I don't think so.

00:06:11.940 But that doesn't mean that I've never thought about it because when you're in this job,

00:06:16.140 you're forced to look at yourself all the time. 1.00

00:06:19.020 Bitch. 1.00

00:06:19.220 And not just look at yourself, but have millions of strangers looking at you, too. 1.00

00:06:23.060 Sometimes.

00:06:23.500 Okay.

00:06:23.640 People always ask me why I, like, film my videos the way I do.

00:06:26.340 Yeah.

00:06:26.500 If you guys don't know, I film it, like, with, like, a back camera.

00:06:29.060 And the light, right?

00:06:29.840 Yeah.

00:06:30.140 Like, it's facing me.

00:06:31.120 Like, the back of my phone is facing me.

00:06:32.760 Yeah.

00:06:33.660 And it's just easier, bro.

00:06:34.920 It's easier.

00:06:35.880 You know what's funny?

00:06:36.620 I feel the opposite.

00:06:37.620 Okay.

00:06:37.900 I feel like I need to see myself.

00:06:39.160 Watch myself.

00:06:39.780 So you don't have the jump scare.

00:06:41.100 Yeah.

00:06:42.840 Because I feel like if I film from the back, I'm like, who is that?

00:06:45.540 Right.

00:06:45.880 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:06:46.540 When I have to mirror, like, things sometimes for deal, for brand deals, I'm always like, who 0.99

00:06:51.160 is that bitch? 1.00

00:06:51.880 But sometimes I'll, like, if I'm, like, on my front camera and it's, like, sometimes it 0.99

00:06:58.280 doesn't look like me.

00:06:59.120 And then I'll flip it.

00:06:59.320 You look too good.

00:07:00.380 I'm like, I just know that.

00:07:01.340 That's how I feel that.

00:07:02.040 I just know this is not the version.

00:07:03.260 I think I need the ignorance.

00:07:04.580 That's why I'm like, I need some blind faith that I look like that.

00:07:07.640 I need to know.

00:07:08.380 I need to think to myself that's what I actually look like.

00:07:09.740 I need the delusion.

00:07:10.600 Yeah.

00:07:11.100 I need to be free of myself.

00:07:14.600 Yeah.

00:07:15.220 You know what?

00:07:15.740 Yeah.

00:07:16.320 You have your process.

00:07:17.380 I have mine.

00:07:17.960 You know what I mean?

00:07:18.580 Like, that's my creative process.

00:07:20.060 Is this my camera?

00:07:20.760 Y'all hoes need to stop talking about me. 1.00

00:07:23.740 I don't know how much longer I can take it.

00:07:26.580 When we were talking about plastic surgery, though, I was telling him, like, sometimes

00:07:31.120 I do think, like, oh, maybe I would get this done, right?

00:07:34.320 If I had, like, the opportunity.

00:07:35.920 And then I think to myself, I have to remind myself constantly that the only reason I'm

00:07:41.160 saying that is because I'm looking at myself and I'm being mean to myself and I'm being

00:07:45.200 hypercritical of me.

00:07:46.780 And then I think also, too, when I want to change, like, facial features, for example,

00:07:51.880 if there was something I wanted to change about my face, I always think to myself that

00:07:55.420 that's, like, something that is very someone of me.

00:07:58.660 My features, because I'm someone person, are very Polynesian.

00:08:02.640 So if I change my face to fit, like, a Eurocentric beauty standard, I'm no longer going to look.

00:08:07.520 Yeah, exactly.

00:08:08.300 I'm, like, leaning into a beauty standard that doesn't even include me, right, in the

00:08:12.120 first place.

00:08:12.960 So then I tell myself that over and over and over again.

00:08:16.420 And I remind myself that there are other people in this world that look like me and want to

00:08:19.940 see themselves in media.

00:08:22.040 Yeah.

00:08:22.220 So if I change my face, then I'm, like, changing something that they feel like they

00:08:26.540 might have to change, too.

00:08:27.480 It's just, like, how many times can I get to that psychotic break where I'm talking to

00:08:30.760 myself and I'm, like, you know what, hoe, you're doing something great. 1.00

00:08:33.140 You're doing it good.

00:08:34.480 Keep going, hoe, keep going. 1.00

00:08:36.340 It gets hard.

00:08:37.620 It gets so hard.

00:08:38.740 And I was, me and my friends were talking about this the other day.

00:08:41.380 It was, like, we're literally built different.

00:08:44.400 Like, we're not supposed to be, we're not supposed to fit Eurocentric beauty because I, my

00:08:49.340 ancestors were not from Europe.

00:08:50.860 Yeah, same.

00:08:53.000 Same.

00:08:53.880 I can promise you that much.

00:08:55.240 Same, babe, yeah.

00:08:55.740 It's just, like, I'm not, I'm just, like, I have to keep shedding that, like, idea.

00:08:59.900 Same.

00:09:00.340 I was, my, I did a makeup look, this last makeup look, and I was just, like, oh, this

00:09:04.760 is what I'm wrestling with.

00:09:05.660 And it's, like, I keep changing myself or, like, clowning myself to, like, try to be

00:09:09.700 something to be ogled at.

00:09:10.960 Yeah.

00:09:11.140 Try to be something that's, like.

00:09:12.480 It's almost, like, getting in front of it.

00:09:14.220 Yeah.

00:09:14.580 Like, I keep trying to, like, lose, like, shed, I keep saying shed, lose, but that's

00:09:21.660 what I'm trying to say, like.

00:09:22.620 Cover.

00:09:23.600 Yeah.

00:09:24.100 Like, almost, like, almost, like, take Ananiah.

00:09:28.900 Yeah.

00:09:29.720 Doll them up.

00:09:30.840 Yeah. 1.00

00:09:31.180 And slap them on the ass and say, go present yourself to these people who, honestly, have 1.00

00:09:36.340 no right to criticize you. 1.00

00:09:38.820 Yeah, what you look like.

00:09:39.840 Yeah.

00:09:40.080 And I've said this many times, but beauty is subjective, so what's beautiful to one person

00:09:45.300 may not be beautiful to the next, so I always, like.

00:09:47.880 And the people watching Instagram reels will let you know that. 0.99

00:09:50.820 If they don't like your makeup, they will say some shit. 1.00

00:09:53.200 Yeah, literally. 1.00

00:09:54.220 Y'all hoes need a job. 1.00

00:09:55.140 I have countless, countless, countless men telling me all the time how ugly I am. 0.92

00:09:59.660 I can imagine. 0.77

00:10:00.660 The amount of times.

00:10:01.540 That's so sick.

00:10:02.380 That's why someone was like, I don't get why it doesn't bother you. 0.99

00:10:05.060 I'm like, because they're ugly. 0.65

00:10:07.120 Like, that's why it doesn't bother me.

00:10:09.160 I think this is why I love you the most.

00:10:10.200 And I think this is why you're so, you're funny in the way that, like, you're just saying

00:10:14.660 facts that happen to be so funny in this situation.

00:10:17.880 Like, this man is 5'6".

00:10:19.700 He should be worried about the first shelf of a cupboard.

00:10:22.760 You know.

00:10:23.900 Trying to, you know, get up these.

00:10:25.980 Rollercoasters.

00:10:26.780 Barely.

00:10:27.320 That's what I'm saying.

00:10:28.620 You know what I mean?

00:10:29.540 You should be worried about a lot of other things.

00:10:31.700 You have bigger problems.

00:10:33.120 That's why I made a video recently where someone had left a comment on my video and said, like,

00:10:38.100 I've never seen an attractive Drew supporter or something like that.

00:10:41.840 And then all I did was, I screenshot everything because I'm a Virgo.

00:10:45.500 So I literally just was staring at the camera and I was showing what they wrote and then what they looked like.

00:10:52.860 Right?

00:10:53.140 What they wrote and then what they looked like.

00:10:54.780 And then I did that over and over and over again.

00:10:56.520 And then I wrote, for the one millionth time, no, this doesn't hurt my feelings. 1.00

00:11:01.700 This does not hurt my feelings, bitch. 1.00

00:11:03.860 Right. 1.00

00:11:04.740 No.

00:11:05.200 Yeah.

00:11:05.760 I told this one guy, I literally was like, you own a mirror, right?

00:11:11.380 And he said, yeah, I look at myself every day.

00:11:13.140 I said, good.

00:11:13.640 That's good.

00:11:14.080 That's good that you know what you look like.

00:11:15.400 That must be really tough on him.

00:11:16.580 Self-awareness is key.

00:11:17.840 You know what I mean?

00:11:18.660 It's important to be a contributing member to society.

00:11:22.140 You got to know what you look like.

00:11:23.160 You got to know your place in this world.

00:11:24.180 You know what I mean?

00:11:24.860 And he is simply not that important.

00:11:26.540 No.

00:11:26.860 And yours is down there where Pennywise is.

00:11:30.300 Get back to work, babe.

00:11:31.740 No, you didn't.

00:11:32.440 You know what I mean?

00:11:33.620 That's what I'm saying.

00:11:34.640 I'm like, I always think that. 0.99

00:11:37.160 I'm always like, because you're ugly. 1.00

00:11:39.560 Like, you're going to call me a fat, ugly bitch. 1.00

00:11:41.320 Oh, I love that about you. 1.00

00:11:43.340 You know what I mean?

00:11:44.460 Like, twin him.

00:11:46.000 Oh, I love that about you.

00:11:47.640 I love that about you so much.

00:11:49.900 Because I find you gorgeous.

00:11:51.560 I think you're so gorgeous.

00:11:52.880 I wonder why you think that.

00:11:54.560 Because it's true, babe.

00:11:56.020 And so that's why I think that.

00:11:58.240 Because not only physically, but internally as well.

00:12:01.840 Yeah.

00:12:02.100 So that's why I always.

00:12:02.860 I tell people when they're like, you make fun of like short dudes, blah, blah, blah.

00:12:07.000 Because you brought up height.

00:12:08.140 And I'm like, you can be short and not be terrible.

00:12:10.500 You got to pick one or the other.

00:12:12.140 I'm pretty sure it's in the Ten Commandments.

00:12:14.660 Jesus was like, you can be short, but you can't be awful.

00:12:17.040 Those are the rules.

00:12:17.940 Yeah.

00:12:18.080 Pat Moses came right down.

00:12:20.340 He parted the seas and said, listen. 0.99

00:12:22.160 Hey, you can be as shitty as you want. 0.97

00:12:23.980 Five, ten up. 1.00

00:12:24.760 Yeah.

00:12:25.920 That's what I'm saying.

00:12:27.240 There's a height requirement for being terrible.

00:12:29.540 In my book.

00:12:30.600 And also that goes to the same thing with hair.

00:12:32.660 Same thing.

00:12:33.840 You can't be balding. 0.83

00:12:35.060 You can't be balding and awful. 0.96

00:12:37.740 Like, are you out of your mind? 0.92

00:12:38.960 You should reprioritize.

00:12:40.600 You're fighting with me.

00:12:41.300 What's important in your life.

00:12:42.160 You're fighting with me and you're losing a fight with your own genetics.

00:12:45.360 You're going to take that up with me?

00:12:47.320 You know what I mean?

00:12:47.980 Like, you're going to take that on me?

00:12:49.220 Take it up with God, babe.

00:12:50.640 I didn't do that to you.

00:12:52.800 I'm all, you're getting mad at me.

00:12:53.700 Get mad at your ancestors. 0.77

00:12:55.020 You just keep punching up. 0.62

00:12:56.380 You know what I'm saying?

00:12:57.080 Punching up at something that he should just stop.

00:12:57.960 Yeah, you're fighting the wrong person.

00:13:00.360 Oh, sweetie.

00:13:00.600 Yeah.

00:13:00.840 Your target, you're set on the wrong target.

00:13:02.200 God, I love that about you. 0.79

00:13:03.220 I feel like so many times, oh, this is, I have to get on my f***ing high horse.

00:13:07.700 Oh, please do. 0.60

00:13:08.440 I hate the notion and the narrative that we have to be so regal when it comes to people

00:13:17.000 coming at us, like in front of us.

00:13:19.500 I hate that notion that we have to be the bigger person, the bigger person in this situation

00:13:23.780 because why are we excusing the behavior that incited this incident?

00:13:31.880 You know what I mean?

00:13:32.300 Like, why are we, why are we letting these people feel as though they can even speak

00:13:37.280 such negative talk to whoever or someone who's trying to make it a name for themselves?

00:13:42.160 You know what I mean?

00:13:42.840 Yeah, absolutely.

00:13:43.460 I just hate, I just hate, hate, hate.

00:13:46.540 Yeah.

00:13:47.460 Feeling like, oh, this person, you know, said I look like the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle

00:13:52.080 with buff teeth.

00:13:52.720 Like, no, I'm going to say something equally as mean.

00:13:55.980 Yeah.

00:13:56.440 If not meaner.

00:13:57.500 I hope.

00:13:58.140 Oh, girl.

00:14:00.000 I told someone he looked like, he looked like he worked at the Edwards Cinema and they called

00:14:03.540 me the meanest person alive.

00:14:05.100 I was like, you look like you gave me my goobers when I went and saw Nope the other day.

00:14:10.040 That's what you look like to me.

00:14:11.660 You want to talk about what you look like?

00:14:13.120 That's why I was like, I don't need to make fun of your looks to hurt your feelings, but

00:14:16.260 I will.

00:14:16.740 Oh, honey.

00:14:17.560 But that's why I think social media has emboldened people like that.

00:14:20.340 Oh, yeah.

00:14:20.620 And then another excuse that sometimes people make, like, when they're, like, apologists

00:14:25.420 for these kinds of, like, cyber bullies is that, like, you have the platform, so, like,

00:14:30.020 that's on you.

00:14:30.960 Like, we didn't ask for the platform.

00:14:33.100 I didn't beg people to give me a platform.

00:14:35.220 That's just what happened.

00:14:35.860 That is one of my biggest pet peeves, actually.

00:14:37.320 Yeah.

00:14:37.880 Like, oh, you have a big platform.

00:14:39.600 You shouldn't be doing this because you're just going to, you're going to incite so much violence

00:14:42.540 to this person, violence to this person.

00:14:44.100 Yeah, yeah.

00:14:45.820 And that's all of a sudden, that's my problem?

00:14:47.860 Well, all of a sudden, that's on me.

00:14:49.560 Can we see why we got here?

00:14:51.080 Hold on now.

00:14:52.460 Nope.

00:14:53.320 Slow your roll.

00:14:54.220 Yeah.

00:14:54.660 Because why are we acting like I, like, I, I can't be morally, I, okay, so here's what's

00:15:00.940 not going to happen. 0.98

00:15:01.540 I can't be morally sound, hot, sexy, talented, funny, baddest bitch on the earth, and cater 0.99

00:15:11.460 to your whims. 1.00

00:15:13.500 Bitch, that's a tall order. 1.00

00:15:14.700 I'm tired. 1.00

00:15:15.560 I'm tired.

00:15:16.340 Am I not doing enough?

00:15:18.580 Am I not contributing enough to this world?

00:15:21.540 Well, I think, I always think, too, like, that remorse you feel afterwards, that's not

00:15:26.840 my responsibility.

00:15:27.880 Yeah.

00:15:28.220 It's not, that's why sometimes people have asked me, why don't you blur names?

00:15:31.340 I said, why would I do that?

00:15:33.220 When you're acting so bold in my comments or in my DMs, you think I'm not going to show

00:15:36.900 people what you said?

00:15:37.880 Why is that?

00:15:38.400 I had a dude literally message me once and say, like, I work at a school, can you please

00:15:43.300 take this down?

00:15:43.960 Because I could jeopardize my job.

00:15:46.500 I could tell you to munch on my nutsack.

00:15:48.840 How about that?

00:15:49.460 What school?

00:15:50.180 Yeah.

00:15:50.360 I'll send it to them.

00:15:51.740 I'll forward it there.

00:15:52.640 What school?

00:15:53.260 Yeah.

00:15:53.680 Just curious.

00:15:54.220 And he didn't even DM it to me directly.

00:15:56.520 He DMed it to my boyfriend.

00:15:57.860 And he wrote the most vile message about me and him.

00:16:00.800 And it was racist.

00:16:01.700 And then he sent it to him.

00:16:02.700 And then he wants me to worry about job security.

00:16:05.460 Uh-uh.

00:16:05.900 If it's up to me, if I find out, I'm going to make sure you lose it.

00:16:09.040 We right at dawn.

00:16:09.420 How about that?

00:16:10.560 We right at dawn.

00:16:11.720 Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah.

00:16:12.540 Well, that's why, even then, like, even if I just put your name up there because you

00:16:16.300 sent something terrible to me, it's on me to help you afterwards.

00:16:20.240 You're going to ask me for a favor?

00:16:24.460 Is it crack?

00:16:25.700 You know what I mean?

00:16:26.780 Like, you're going to ask me to do you a solid after you abused me verbally?

00:16:31.780 Absolutely not.

00:16:32.700 No, babe.

00:16:33.040 Absolutely not.

00:16:33.780 Especially if it's someone I've never even seen.

00:16:35.760 Like, I wasn't even talking to you about you at all.

00:16:39.300 And sometimes, I don't know, I mean, this might be exclusive.

00:16:42.540 But sometimes I'll get comments where they're like, I used to be a fan.

00:16:48.700 No, you weren't.

00:16:50.040 Because then it's followed up by nothing but, like, vitriol. 1.00

00:16:52.760 Like, they call me, like, a fat bitch monkey. 1.00

00:16:55.280 The butt is, I'm just like, shut up. 1.00

00:16:57.100 Literally shut up. 1.00

00:16:58.800 And then I go on their profile and I'll find a picture of what you look like. 0.95

00:17:02.980 And then I'll post it somewhere and I'll be like, this is, like, what I think.

00:17:07.820 Like, I literally, I had a dude, I made fun of what a dude looked like because he said 0.99

00:17:12.060 a bunch of mean shit about me. 0.97

00:17:14.360 And then I literally wrote, your chest is so concave if I knocked on it like a front door, 1.00

00:17:20.480 your heart would shoot out to your back, you bird-chested ass bitch. 1.00

00:17:23.640 That's what I wrote. 1.00

00:17:26.640 Hold on.

00:17:30.040 One second. 0.99

00:17:30.680 And his titties, his titties were so, like, his, like, his nipples were so, like, elongated. 0.99

00:17:37.180 I don't know if it was just cold in the room when he took the pic. 0.99

00:17:39.500 But then I said it looked like he just bore a fresh litter.

00:17:41.960 Like, protruding.

00:17:42.840 Yeah, like, they were hard.

00:17:44.020 Like, out of tension.

00:17:45.260 Wow.

00:17:45.700 Nipples hard.

00:17:46.680 You know what I mean?

00:17:47.600 Like, I'm sorry.

00:17:48.140 Can we just go back to the alliteration?

00:17:50.460 You said, what is, back to bone, what did you call him? 1.00

00:17:54.740 A bird-chested ass bitch. 1.00

00:17:55.980 Bird-chested ass bitch. 1.00

00:17:57.680 That's poetry, folks. 1.00

00:17:59.760 Slam poetry. 0.97

00:18:00.660 That is slam poetry.

00:18:03.060 And then I, like, snaps.

00:18:05.520 I literally wrote that just, like, within, like, seconds.

00:18:11.000 And then, oh, I never.

00:18:12.440 That was on your heart?

00:18:13.360 Huh?

00:18:13.660 That was on your heart?

00:18:14.620 Yeah. 1.00

00:18:15.300 You're the realest bitch I know. 1.00

00:18:15.620 It was in the, it was in the. 1.00

00:18:16.760 You're the realest bitch I know. 1.00

00:18:17.940 It was in the barrel. 1.00

00:18:18.140 I think I said that about you.

00:18:19.820 I think someone was like, I love Drew.

00:18:21.500 And I was like, you know what? 1.00

00:18:22.200 That's the realest bitch I know. 1.00

00:18:22.820 Oh, yeah, it was Aaliyah. 1.00

00:18:23.780 You are the realest bitch I know. 1.00

00:18:25.240 Aaliyah. 1.00

00:18:25.980 I can't believe you.

00:18:27.040 Aaliyah tweeted about me. 1.00

00:18:28.940 And she says, she's like, Drew Offalo is a real-ass bitch for real. 1.00

00:18:34.340 Oh, for Aaliyah. 1.00

00:18:34.980 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:18:35.960 Sometimes, sometimes I think, too, like, they're like, that was so, that was too far.

00:18:41.220 Was it?

00:18:42.120 I can go find it.

00:18:43.100 Yeah, I was like, that's me fighting with one hand tied behind my back.

00:18:45.860 You know on Twitter, people will, like, go to your bio, and if you have anyone, like,

00:18:48.960 RIP grandma, that's terrible, but I'm like, you.

00:18:53.660 Well, then I think, like, don't throw stones from a glass house is what I always think.

00:18:57.660 Like, you post, you literally post, like, I had a dude once try to get me, like, with a,

00:19:03.100 what do you call it?

00:19:04.440 It's like one of those, is this you?

00:19:06.760 But it's like, it's supposed to be like a picture that doesn't look like you kind of thing.

00:19:10.320 I know what you mean, yeah.

00:19:11.140 Yeah, so I posted, here's the thing about that.

00:19:14.160 If I post the picture, you're not getting me.

00:19:16.760 Right.

00:19:17.100 Do you see what I'm saying?

00:19:17.800 Yeah.

00:19:17.920 Like, if I post a picture of myself, and I look ugly because I find it funny, and then

00:19:21.760 you're like, this you? 1.00

00:19:24.040 Yeah, bitch. 1.00

00:19:25.000 Yeah. 1.00

00:19:25.800 Yes.

00:19:26.300 Yes, ho. 0.93

00:19:26.780 I'm glad you have.

00:19:27.720 You screenshotted it from Drew Avilo.

00:19:30.320 Yeah, that's me.

00:19:34.200 Like, I know what I look like.

00:19:35.380 I get that all the time.

00:19:36.240 People will be like, is this you?

00:19:37.320 And it's Russell Westbrook, the basketball player or something.

00:19:39.520 I'm like, can I be honest with you?

00:19:41.480 I have no clue who this, oh, lord.

00:19:45.840 Who this person is.

00:19:47.880 Yeah.

00:19:48.800 And, um, thank you.

00:19:50.380 Yeah.

00:19:50.640 He's cute.

00:19:50.860 Well, it's one, yeah, it's one of those where you're like, one time I told someone he made

00:19:54.760 a joke and I didn't get it.

00:19:56.260 Like, it was like calling me something, referencing me to something ugly.

00:19:59.500 But then I, because I just used context clues.

00:20:01.440 But then I wrote, I bet this joke would hit if I knew what you were talking about.

00:20:04.880 And then he got mad at me.

00:20:06.740 I'm like, you got to read the room.

00:20:08.460 You know what I'm saying?

00:20:09.520 I talk about, uh, one time this dude was like, you look like this person from Clash of Clans.

00:20:17.700 And then I go, you play Clash of Clans?

00:20:20.960 That's all I wrote.

00:20:22.220 And then he goes, is there something wrong with playing a video game? 0.97

00:20:24.800 I go, no, I just think that's lame as s***, bro. 1.00

00:20:27.620 I think you're a loser. 1.00

00:20:28.940 Okay. 0.99

00:20:29.360 Not too much on Clash of Clans, though.

00:20:30.920 Hold on.

00:20:32.140 I like it.

00:20:32.440 Listen, my grandpa plays that game.

00:20:33.880 I liked Passions.

00:20:34.760 It was okay.

00:20:35.700 He plays it enough to know the nuances of every single character in the sense that you can,

00:20:39.400 like, pinpoint.

00:20:40.680 You know what I'm saying?

00:20:41.200 Enough.

00:20:41.700 Come on.

00:20:42.420 Get a job.

00:20:43.360 It's a mobile phone. 1.00

00:20:44.020 Or some bitches. 1.00

00:20:45.000 I don't know. 1.00

00:20:46.220 Get some pussy, dog. 1.00

00:20:47.800 And abundance. 1.00

00:20:51.740 Exponitiously.

00:20:52.280 Do it quickly.

00:20:53.500 It's also, okay, I, okay, so when people, like, make fun of me and, like, my beauty and,

00:21:01.000 like, my attractiveness and stuff like that, I always feel bad going back to them.

00:21:05.220 But then there's just, there's that voice inside of me that's like, you know how, light

00:21:08.520 them up.

00:21:08.880 And it's me.

00:21:11.880 And it's me.

00:21:12.840 Light them up.

00:21:13.760 Light them up.

00:21:14.440 Like, the way I'm literally, like, almost so many, like, remember that trend that was

00:21:18.740 going on on TikTok where it was, like, it was, like, a slow-mo thing and someone was

00:21:23.300 behind them whispering something evil to them to say?

00:21:25.760 And it's true. 0.56

00:21:26.220 It was always me.

00:21:27.080 It was always me.

00:21:28.460 I saw thousands of videos where people were, it was literally me telling them, telling

00:21:32.620 him he's bald. 1.00

00:21:33.420 I think I got one of those and it was all, like, suck his dick. 1.00

00:21:36.040 I'm, like, oh, my God. 1.00

00:21:37.900 You're, okay, well, you know.

00:21:38.740 My digital image is getting a little warped.

00:21:41.900 I taught, like, Dylan, too, when she was here.

00:21:44.560 Oh, I love that episode.

00:21:45.860 Yeah.

00:21:46.140 I was telling her about, like, teaching her some insults or whatever.

00:21:51.340 And we talked about calling men balding.

00:21:54.020 And I told her, this is also another thing, too.

00:21:57.040 This is too nuanced for, like, the Neanderthals who hate me.

00:22:00.260 But, like, when you make fun of hairlines, like, that's a patriarchal beauty standard.

00:22:03.640 Oh, yeah.

00:22:04.020 You impose that on you.

00:22:05.520 Take it up with your peers, babe, is what I always say.

00:22:07.620 That double standard that men just place on themselves.

00:22:09.800 That's why.

00:22:10.560 Insane.

00:22:10.880 That's literally self-inflicted.

00:22:12.660 So, that's why, if I make fun of a conventionally attractive beauty standard, that's not you being oppressed.

00:22:18.240 But I was telling her, when you say balding, even if they're not, they're always going to think about it.

00:22:23.140 Yeah.

00:22:23.540 You know what I mean?

00:22:24.060 And they're going to stare at it.

00:22:26.520 They're going to brush it up.

00:22:28.100 Like, they always try to make fun of my eyes.

00:22:29.960 Like, say I'm, like, lazy eye or whatever.

00:22:32.020 And so, they'll write, like, what are you looking at?

00:22:34.420 And one of my recent videos, I wrote, I'm looking at that soon-to-be-gone hairline, brother.

00:22:40.160 I said, pour one now.

00:22:41.200 She's going to be gone in a couple years. 0.97

00:22:42.660 Because it was right there.

00:22:43.700 It's teetering.

00:22:44.360 You know what I mean?

00:22:46.100 Follicles. 0.80

00:22:47.000 Sparse.

00:22:48.520 Forest thinning.

00:22:49.740 You know what I mean?

00:22:51.020 And you think I can't tell?

00:22:51.940 Oh, sweetie.

00:22:52.700 You think I can't tell?

00:22:53.860 I said, just because you brush it up doesn't mean I can't see it.

00:22:56.020 Oh, that's so sad for him.

00:22:57.760 Mm-hmm.

00:22:58.740 I know.

00:22:59.620 Take it up with your mom, because that's actually maternal. 0.96

00:23:02.060 Is it?

00:23:02.700 Yeah.

00:23:03.460 Oh, I didn't know that.

00:23:04.480 It's, a lot of times.

00:23:05.940 Wow.

00:23:05.960 You learn so much on the comment section.

00:23:09.220 Okay.

00:23:09.660 We're going to get into our topic now.

00:23:11.560 Oh, my God.

00:23:12.520 So far off.

00:23:13.220 Okay.

00:23:13.960 Okay.

00:23:14.900 Love.

00:23:15.340 That's a great thing, though.

00:23:16.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:23:16.600 Yeah, love.

00:23:17.120 Okay, so with Anna and I today, we're going to be talking basically about dating.

00:23:22.900 The woes, the trials and tribulations, right?

00:23:26.000 I have some credentials.

00:23:27.900 The terrors of dating.

00:23:29.380 Yeah, yeah. 1.00

00:23:30.560 You need to repeat it, bitch. 1.00

00:23:31.480 I've been on the bench for a while. 1.00

00:23:32.980 I've been out the game.

00:23:34.240 Yeah.

00:23:34.640 But I was dating once upon a time.

00:23:37.100 I did have a hoe face, as we all should. 0.98

00:23:39.320 Good for you.

00:23:39.960 Good for you.

00:23:40.320 So, I had it early, though.

00:23:41.940 Oh, good.

00:23:42.380 Got it out of my system.

00:23:43.040 Got it out the way.

00:23:43.440 Yeah, well, you're younger than me.

00:23:44.940 Anna and I is only 22.

00:23:46.140 That's true.

00:23:46.960 So, when I was 22, yeah, I was home.

00:23:49.040 22 without a boo. 0.98

00:23:49.900 That's a f***ing bar. 0.95

00:23:52.560 I just made that up. 0.97

00:23:53.800 You're welcome.

00:23:55.040 TM.

00:23:55.720 TM.

00:23:57.300 TM, Anna and I are. 1.00

00:23:58.060 Not too much before Nicki Minaj gets on my ass. 1.00

00:24:01.140 So, what's your viewpoint on dating now? 0.99

00:24:04.940 Has it changed?

00:24:05.880 Has it evolved?

00:24:07.000 Yeah.

00:24:07.200 Thank you to my therapist.

00:24:09.380 If you see this, don't see this.

00:24:11.360 I was talking to my therapist about this, and she was like, I think you need to consider,

00:24:16.240 like, you're not the same person as, you know, who you were when you first came out and stuff.

00:24:20.920 Yeah.

00:24:21.240 And, like, yeah, like, right now I'm, like, I'm in a position where I don't want to settle, like, at all.

00:24:30.500 Love.

00:24:30.740 And I was going through a really bad phase where it's, like, I'm almost desperate for, like, romance and that kind of stuff because that's just who I am.

00:24:37.380 Like, I'm going to.

00:24:37.720 It's just connection.

00:24:38.940 Right.

00:24:39.040 Like, human connection.

00:24:40.020 Yeah.

00:24:40.060 Like, I'm a.

00:24:40.640 You got a lot of love to give.

00:24:42.280 Yes.

00:24:42.620 Yeah.

00:24:42.880 That's exactly what it was.

00:24:43.860 Like, I'm just, like, yearning for that kind of connection with people.

00:24:47.520 Yeah.

00:24:47.920 But then I realized, like, I don't need to, like, sell myself out just to, like, to satisfy this, like, itch that I have.

00:24:58.060 Yeah.

00:24:58.420 If that makes sense.

00:24:59.100 Absolutely.

00:24:59.760 Itch has the connotation that it's, like.

00:25:01.780 No, yeah.

00:25:02.680 No, it is.

00:25:03.280 It has the connotation that it's, like, almost addictive.

00:25:04.720 Yeah.

00:25:05.560 Like, these games of, like, Tinder and Grindr and Hinge and Bumble and, like, all this, like, stuff that's, like, evolving to be, like, what the dating scene is now is, like, terrible.

00:25:14.900 Yeah.

00:25:15.220 Personally, on my psyche.

00:25:16.160 It might work for other people.

00:25:17.840 No, I've heard that, actually, a lot from a lot of my single friends.

00:25:21.200 Yeah.

00:25:21.560 It's just, like, at this point, I have to consider.

00:25:23.240 It's taxing.

00:25:23.660 It's taxing.

00:25:24.400 Yeah.

00:25:24.980 It's almost, like, a part-time job. 1.00

00:25:26.380 It's, like, oh, oh, oh, shit. 1.00

00:25:28.940 You know what I mean? 1.00

00:25:29.460 Yeah.

00:25:29.780 I'm also probably in this era because my, I was working with Tinder not too long ago.

00:25:35.380 Oh, me too.

00:25:35.880 And they gave me Tinder Gold for free.

00:25:38.080 Ooh, no.

00:25:38.460 And it ran out.

00:25:39.720 So, maybe I was forced.

00:25:42.520 Maybe I was forced into a new era.

00:25:44.300 And, you know what?

00:25:44.900 Thank you, Tinder.

00:25:45.620 You know, it's a good thing.

00:25:46.540 Because I needed that push to be, like, okay, wait, I don't like this.

00:25:49.960 I don't like what I'm doing.

00:25:50.960 Yeah.

00:25:51.580 I don't like going through my profile and be, like, is this picture reading well?

00:25:56.240 Like, is this the intention that I want?

00:25:57.880 Yeah.

00:25:58.740 Absolutely.

00:25:59.020 I don't like it anymore.

00:26:00.240 So, I'm, like, in this, again, I'm in this era where it's, like, oh, I need to value myself

00:26:06.840 a lot higher than what I think.

00:26:08.580 Because I, when I think about it, like, I'm pretty f***ing cool.

00:26:12.320 You are.

00:26:13.080 Like, I'm funny.

00:26:13.600 I'm smart.

00:26:14.080 I'm making money.

00:26:14.900 And you're beautiful.

00:26:15.720 And I'm beautiful.

00:26:16.280 Hey, thanks.

00:26:16.560 Period.

00:26:17.120 And you're tall.

00:26:18.400 That's true.

00:26:18.860 Ananiya is so tall.

00:26:19.740 That is true.

00:26:20.000 That is not a joke.

00:26:20.900 Ananiya is really tall.

00:26:22.100 I'm, like, 6'5 with these hoes on. 1.00

00:26:23.260 No.

00:26:23.980 Like, actually, though, I was shocked.

00:26:26.840 Me and Ananiya were looking at everyone's scalps when we first met.

00:26:31.540 Like, the two of us.

00:26:32.640 We literally looked like brown giants just, like, walking around.

00:26:36.560 Literally.

00:26:36.760 Can I say brown giant? 0.99

00:26:37.760 Yeah.

00:26:38.140 I meant green giant.

00:26:39.240 But I was like, how do I make this funnier?

00:26:41.740 We were easily the tallest people.

00:26:43.360 We'll edit that in post.

00:26:43.860 Yeah.

00:26:44.660 We'll edit that in post.

00:26:45.520 Easily the tallest people there.

00:26:47.120 Oh, easily.

00:26:47.540 You, me, and my boyfriend.

00:26:48.620 Oh.

00:26:49.020 The three of us.

00:26:49.620 I was like, okay, so I see Drew.

00:26:50.740 I see your boyfriend.

00:26:51.780 And there's me.

00:26:53.320 Yeah, we just are looking up, like, everyone's heads are right here.

00:26:56.180 And we're all up here.

00:26:57.100 Yeah.

00:26:57.580 Love that.

00:26:58.260 See, so you have it all.

00:26:59.060 You got it all going on, babe.

00:27:00.320 I hope so.

00:27:01.120 Yeah, we absolutely do.

00:27:02.720 And one of the things that I, like, try to do on Ananiya00.

00:27:05.940 Mm-hmm.

00:27:07.020 Everywhere.

00:27:07.800 Follow me.

00:27:09.300 The one thing I try to do is, like, be as honest as possible with myself.

00:27:12.240 And it's just, like, you know, this doesn't always go well.

00:27:16.020 Yeah.

00:27:16.260 You know, like, one time, oh.

00:27:19.420 Let me hear it.

00:27:21.160 I want to hear it.

00:27:24.520 Is this a dating horror story?

00:27:26.760 I'm on the edge of my seat, babe.

00:27:29.720 I was hooking up with this guy.

00:27:31.740 Uh-huh.

00:27:32.100 And he looks at, like, my sides and stuff and, like, my armpits.

00:27:35.900 Uh-huh.

00:27:36.320 He's all like, is that self-harm marks?

00:27:39.940 Honey, these are stretch marks.

00:27:42.840 The way he was trying to have, like, a Fault in Our Stars moment with you.

00:27:45.620 He was like, stop for me.

00:27:50.200 You said, okay, John Green.

00:27:51.980 I said, oh. 1.00

00:27:54.560 Oh, bitch. 1.00

00:27:55.760 Oh, bitch, you just made the situation worse. 1.00

00:27:57.660 You said, relax, Ruby Carr. 1.00

00:28:00.420 Milk and honey head out. 0.99

00:28:01.520 Get the f*** on. 0.99

00:28:02.760 Yeah. 0.99

00:28:03.880 No. 0.98

00:28:04.540 What the hell? 0.98

00:28:04.860 You would not treat me like this. 0.99

00:28:06.080 Get the hell out. 0.87

00:28:07.140 Get out.

00:28:08.660 That was terrible.

00:28:09.880 He was trying to have, like, a moment with you.

00:28:13.100 And you're like.

00:28:13.860 Because then you're like, is this real?

00:28:16.140 Is this really where I'm at right now?

00:28:18.320 And you're like.

00:28:19.000 And you're like.

00:28:21.520 You're sitting on your full bed in your overpriced apartment.

00:28:25.700 And you're like.

00:28:26.240 A full?

00:28:26.840 Not even a queen? 0.99

00:28:27.460 Honey, what the f***? 0.98

00:28:28.600 I had two square feet to my name. 0.99

00:28:31.520 I'm like.

00:28:32.560 I don't know if this is something I can sustain.

00:28:34.900 I think. 0.87

00:28:35.760 I think I might have to castrate myself. 0.98

00:28:38.540 There has to be some way to neuter myself.

00:28:40.660 So I don't want to get in the situation again.

00:28:42.840 What did you say after?

00:28:44.360 What do you say?

00:28:45.480 Were you just like.

00:28:46.380 What do you say?

00:28:47.240 No. 0.98

00:28:47.720 You just have to say no and get the f*** out. 0.97

00:28:50.600 What do you say? 0.96

00:28:51.700 Like, you can't defend yourself.

00:28:53.140 Yeah.

00:28:53.360 That's like calling someone weird.

00:28:54.560 Like, you're weird.

00:28:55.300 What do you say back?

00:28:57.180 Okay.

00:28:57.360 Weirdo.

00:28:58.500 That's like. 0.88

00:28:58.940 Ooh.

00:28:59.680 Weirdo. 1.00

00:29:00.040 It's like shit. 1.00

00:29:01.260 My f***, Matt. 1.00

00:29:02.520 My God. 0.99

00:29:03.740 No, it's a war zone out there.

00:29:06.180 It's terrible.

00:29:06.400 Today.

00:29:06.840 It's literally terrible.

00:29:08.100 It's pretty rotten.

00:29:09.340 I think a lot of people.

00:29:11.340 Well, see, that's the thing with me too.

00:29:12.960 Like, because I've been with my boyfriend now for five years.

00:29:15.420 Oh.

00:29:15.740 We've celebrated five years.

00:29:17.020 So.

00:29:17.160 Congrats.

00:29:17.700 Thank you.

00:29:18.580 He still hasn't married you though yet.

00:29:20.200 That's what men always like to say to me.

00:29:21.500 But I'm always like. 1.00

00:29:22.320 It's not the 1950s, bitch. 0.99

00:29:24.120 Yeah. 1.00

00:29:24.660 I don't need him to buy a car.

00:29:26.720 We're going to get ready.

00:29:28.140 We're going to get married when we're ready.

00:29:30.000 Right.

00:29:30.320 And you're still going to be alone.

00:29:31.520 So worry about that.

00:29:32.640 But I always like get questions about like, especially since I'm dating a cis man, they're

00:29:39.960 like, how did you find one that wasn't rotten?

00:29:43.280 You know what I mean?

00:29:44.420 So I was like, I don't know.

00:29:47.060 I think that it's like you said, where you don't feel like you have to settle.

00:29:52.640 Yeah.

00:29:52.840 So you should just always hold your standards high, even if it takes, it's going to take

00:29:56.300 a minute.

00:29:57.400 But by the time, like once you find it, it's going to be worth the wait.

00:30:01.520 Oh, yeah.

00:30:02.000 So like I, when I was in my prime ho phase, I genuinely, I would talk to boys or men or

00:30:09.760 whatever.

00:30:10.000 And I'd be like, they do one thing.

00:30:12.900 And I'd be like, you got to wrap it up.

00:30:15.360 The ick would course through my veins.

00:30:18.120 I'd be like, oh, get out.

00:30:19.540 Yeah.

00:30:19.860 Oh, you will never see me again.

00:30:21.820 No, that's, that's the hardest thing that I was like struggling with.

00:30:25.000 It was like three strikes around.

00:30:26.040 I'm like, girl, come on.

00:30:27.500 Value yourself.

00:30:28.280 Come on now, ho. 1.00

00:30:29.140 Work it up.

00:30:30.460 Work it up.

00:30:31.140 And that's, you know what?

00:30:31.920 That's part of, that's part of the learning process.

00:30:34.320 Definitely.

00:30:35.000 The self, the self love process.

00:30:36.000 Cause I always say to like, sometimes I'll talk to my single friends and like some of

00:30:39.940 my friends who are single and they'll tell me like, oh, like I just like feel like, you

00:30:43.600 know, I'm, I really, I'm ready.

00:30:45.140 I'm ready.

00:30:45.440 I want to meet someone, blah, blah, blah.

00:30:46.840 But I always say like, if you're ready right now, it will happen when it's supposed to happen.

00:30:51.580 I truly believe that.

00:30:52.980 That's true.

00:30:53.380 If it's not happening yet, you're not there yet.

00:30:55.520 Like when in your self love journey, because no one's ever going to love you more than

00:30:59.220 you love yourself.

00:31:00.600 So you have to love yourself unconditionally.

00:31:03.780 And then when you meet the right person, you're not going to, um, seek them out for

00:31:09.000 that kind of love because you're going to already have it.

00:31:11.060 That's very true.

00:31:11.400 So they'll just, they'll just amplify it.

00:31:13.180 Right.

00:31:13.380 They'll make you feel love in a much different way than how you make yourself feel when you

00:31:17.860 love yourself.

00:31:18.200 So it's like, it's one of those things that you just got to be patient.

00:31:20.800 And that's different from like that notion that like, oh, I have to be perfect.

00:31:24.760 Exactly.

00:31:25.040 I have to love myself so much.

00:31:27.060 So where nothing can faze me, that's different than like, oh, like I need to be, I need to

00:31:32.740 love myself to receive love.

00:31:34.920 Yeah.

00:31:35.260 I just want that, that, um, difference to be said out loud.

00:31:38.580 Yeah, absolutely.

00:31:39.520 Cause it's like, uh, I, I had someone ask me a question recently, they're like, how do

00:31:43.000 I move on from someone that I was like dating?

00:31:46.980 I don't know if it was like a situation ship or if it was like an actual relationship, they're

00:31:50.960 like, how do I move on?

00:31:52.080 And then, um, cause it had been like two, three years.

00:31:54.340 And I said like, well, what you do is you remind yourself it's easier said than done,

00:31:59.040 but you remind yourself that you were a whole person before that person came into your life

00:32:02.520 with thoughts and dreams and hopes, ambition.

00:32:06.180 Like you had all of these things before that person and you'll have all of them after.

00:32:10.400 Sometimes they're not there forever and that's their loss, not yours.

00:32:13.260 My auntie's been said the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, which 0.99

00:32:18.080 if that works for you, that would, that would, I would probably take your advice.

00:32:22.660 Yeah.

00:32:23.140 Maybe we should.

00:32:23.720 Por que no los dos is what I say.

00:32:25.800 Like you could, you could, two things can be true at once, right?

00:32:28.380 Like if that's, sometimes that, that helps people heal too.

00:32:30.680 Yeah.

00:32:30.920 Whatever works for you.

00:32:31.900 As long as you just know it's not linear.

00:32:33.620 Healing is not linear.

00:32:34.420 It's not overnight.

00:32:34.960 But I do think that the dating horror stories, we all share, share a common thread in that.

00:32:41.760 Yep.

00:32:42.280 What's the thread?

00:32:43.040 Is it men? 0.99

00:32:44.900 Turns out they're the root of all evil, huh? 0.99

00:32:47.540 Okay.

00:32:47.960 So we're going to get into these videos now.

00:32:49.820 So what we do here in the comment section is we bring videos that I was tagged in that

00:32:53.740 are applicable to our topic and we bring them here, share the giggles, all that good stuff.

00:32:57.920 So I'm just going to give you a summary of this first one.

00:33:00.860 So this first one is a guy who's, uh, he's made a lot of videos giving his own dating advice.

00:33:06.660 Bad start.

00:33:07.700 Okay.

00:33:08.120 In this video, he says that women will always try to hook up with someone hotter than them

00:33:12.680 and men will hook up with any woman as long as they can get it in. 1.00

00:33:18.140 Those are his words, not mine.

00:33:20.400 He says it's hard for guys to date online because women have an expectation of hooking up with 1.00

00:33:25.420 someone as attractive or more attractive than them.

00:33:29.800 Okay.

00:33:30.280 Huh?

00:33:31.240 Okay.

00:33:31.460 He says it's hard for guys to date online because women have an expectation. 1.00

00:33:34.520 So you think you're ugly?

00:33:37.500 I'm so, I just want to get to the conflict. 0.95

00:33:42.160 Okay.

00:33:42.560 So he says women will always try to hook up with someone hotter than them.

00:33:46.320 Okay.

00:33:46.780 And men will hook up with anyone. 1.00

00:33:48.500 Oh, okay. 0.99

00:33:49.200 And he's saying that women won't hook up with ugly men. 0.99

00:33:52.300 Essentially. 0.94

00:33:52.860 So I'm like, he's saying it's harder for guys to date online because women have an expectation

00:33:56.200 of hooking up with someone hotter than them.

00:33:58.700 Did you guys know women have standards?

00:34:00.720 That's great.

00:34:01.700 I just found that out. 0.95

00:34:02.660 What a bum. 0.85

00:34:03.880 Wow. 0.96

00:34:04.220 When you find out that dating is per the person.

00:34:06.880 Wow.

00:34:07.400 When you discover that not everyone's attractive.

00:34:08.920 It's a crazy idea to think about right now that women have the choice to choose. 1.00

00:34:13.260 And you're also openly admitting that you're ugly. 0.99

00:34:16.120 Like you're saying like they don't pick me because I'm ugly. 1.00

00:34:19.100 I feel like you need to be donned ugly. 0.99

00:34:20.560 You shouldn't be like, I am ugly. 0.99

00:34:22.420 This is not Spongebob home. 0.84

00:34:23.500 Okay.

00:34:26.180 That's a little terrible.

00:34:27.540 That's.

00:34:28.040 I wish him all the best.

00:34:29.080 I hope he shuts the.

00:34:31.160 I hope he shuts the fork up.

00:34:33.340 No, truly.

00:34:34.300 I, I wish, I wish you the worst, honestly.

00:34:36.740 The opposite of it.

00:34:37.640 I wish you nothing but unhappiness.

00:34:40.440 I can get on that train.

00:34:41.640 I find.

00:34:42.280 Okay.

00:34:42.720 So my thing with like standards or like whatever your preferences are.

00:34:46.720 I've kind of. 1.00

00:34:47.380 Oh, bitch. 1.00

00:34:47.860 We'll get into preference. 1.00

00:34:48.380 A preference.

00:34:49.020 We'll talk.

00:34:50.320 Don't even get me started on a preference.

00:34:52.140 Okay.

00:34:52.460 But I always, I think to myself too, if you, especially now in this like modern age and

00:34:57.460 you know very well, I'm sure too, because you have been online dating as well.

00:35:01.880 But when it comes to that kind of culture that exists now, when you ask like any sort

00:35:08.800 of, any person that's not an aggressively straight cis man, anyone else who's dating online,

00:35:14.640 if you ask them, what are you looking for?

00:35:16.020 Right.

00:35:16.300 Like what, what are you looking for in a partner?

00:35:18.780 They'll say things like someone who's respectful, funny, funny, like, yeah.

00:35:25.260 It gets along with my family.

00:35:26.840 Like it's like things that are internal.

00:35:28.880 Isn't broke.

00:35:29.760 Yeah.

00:35:30.100 Fair.

00:35:30.740 Yeah.

00:35:31.380 It's like things that you have control over.

00:35:33.920 Yeah.

00:35:34.600 When you ask an aggressively cis hetero man, they're like only talking about looks and

00:35:41.520 it's all Eurocentric beauty standards.

00:35:43.320 There's nothing internal whatsoever.

00:35:44.900 That's absolutely terrible.

00:35:46.380 And it's so sad to watch because it's like, you really don't care.

00:35:49.780 Like at all.

00:35:50.540 And then there'll be the, there'll be the first person to be like, oh, women don't care about 1.00

00:35:55.000 my feelings.

00:35:55.600 They don't want me to, they don't want me to express how I'm feeling.

00:35:57.900 And you were looking for someone with literal pebbles for brains.

00:36:02.660 Yeah.

00:36:02.900 Literally.

00:36:03.060 That's it.

00:36:03.580 You were just looking for something on the outside.

00:36:05.640 Yeah.

00:36:05.760 Like an aesthetic.

00:36:06.980 Right.

00:36:07.440 Rather than a person.

00:36:08.500 That's literally what it is.

00:36:09.520 Yeah.

00:36:09.700 It's like people like look for like this kind of like thing where they think that they would

00:36:13.040 look best with.

00:36:13.680 They're trying to make this like equation.

00:36:15.880 Yeah.

00:36:16.080 Like work to equal something that's, it doesn't exist.

00:36:19.500 It's literally redundant for you to keep doing this.

00:36:21.680 Like men are just imploding on themselves.

00:36:24.000 I feel like it's like almost, um, what do you call it?

00:36:27.060 It's like, it's delusion, obviously, but I, I think too, it's, it's over complication.

00:36:32.320 Like, yeah, the reality is like, if you are not a terrible person, um, you'll find someone

00:36:38.960 eventually.

00:36:39.620 It almost feels like men are like trying to do like a book report and they'd haven't

00:36:42.980 read the book about like, you know, like this person does this and then they don't

00:36:47.220 do that.

00:36:47.800 I've never, I've never dated women, but like I've seen one. 0.99

00:36:51.780 I've seen, so I feel like I get it.

00:36:53.640 I've seen a few.

00:36:54.940 I watched a movie with one in it.

00:36:56.500 I love Keira Knightley.

00:36:58.080 Yeah.

00:36:58.460 You know, I've seen a few.

00:36:59.560 Um, the, the delusion, I feel like, well then I think of a preference, like when it

00:37:05.020 comes to a preference, um, I've said this in a video before, but like prefer in silence.

00:37:10.620 Like if you, if you are like, I don't like fat women, that's my preference. 1.00

00:37:15.180 Keep it in here, bitch. 1.00

00:37:16.840 Shut the fuck up. 1.00

00:37:17.480 Well, which just like in, out of curiosity, what fat person is, is pursuing you so aggressively 1.00

00:37:24.340 that you feel like, listen, okay.

00:37:26.620 I just don't like, that's my biggest thing. 0.99

00:37:29.000 You're making shit up. 0.99

00:37:30.040 That's my biggest thing. 0.99

00:37:31.400 And I, shoot, I'm so sorry.

00:37:35.500 No, you're fine.

00:37:36.340 My biggest thing is like, why do you think that you are so special that people are throwing

00:37:42.680 themselves at you?

00:37:43.620 That's what I'm saying.

00:37:44.160 People may approach you.

00:37:45.420 I'm not doubting that.

00:37:46.560 Yeah.

00:37:47.140 You might be approached all the time.

00:37:49.240 But the, the, the attitude of like, oh, like so many people want me and I, and I have to

00:37:55.720 turn them down all the time.

00:37:56.700 Like, oh, you are not that, you are a seven and a half.

00:37:59.980 It's like me when I lie.

00:38:01.160 On a good day.

00:38:01.800 Right.

00:38:02.140 Me when I just be lying.

00:38:03.460 Like, oh, you are not.

00:38:05.040 If I make things up too, I could do that also.

00:38:07.640 It's like, come on.

00:38:08.360 Like be for, be for real.

00:38:09.760 Be for real.

00:38:10.380 I think, I think like, that's why sometimes they'll bring up fat women or fat people in

00:38:15.880 general for no reason.

00:38:17.660 And I said, if you, there's the line between love and hay is razor thin, but if you keep

00:38:22.680 talking about them, chances are, whenever I talk to women, I never have to, like, I 0.98

00:38:28.400 never have to deal with like the, the, the notion that like, I have to explain myself.

00:38:32.920 Like I have to explain where my body's at.

00:38:34.500 I have to explain like what position I like during sex and stuff. 0.99

00:38:37.560 But whenever I talk to like men who are like looking for people with penises, it's like, 0.99

00:38:42.600 oh my God, this is the most frustrating experience in my life. 0.99

00:38:45.580 Especially with gay men. 0.99

00:38:46.720 It's like, are you a top or are you a bottom? 0.99

00:38:48.740 Yeah.

00:38:49.080 I don't like diverse people. 1.00

00:38:50.240 Yeah.

00:38:51.040 Are, what's your BMI?

00:38:52.600 Like something like, something like.

00:38:55.040 Yeah.

00:38:55.560 Like what, do you weigh, what's your muscle relation to like.

00:39:00.200 Like fat percentage?

00:39:01.040 Yeah.

00:39:01.340 It's like, cause you know how like dad bods are like in right now?

00:39:04.620 Yeah.

00:39:04.860 It's like, you might like someone who's like a little thicker, like a dad bod, but they 0.99

00:39:09.680 also, gay men are like, oh, they also have to have huge pecs. 0.98

00:39:13.680 They have to have huge biceps. 0.98

00:39:14.960 There's still like standards in it.

00:39:16.360 Right.

00:39:16.820 Even if it's like all, it's like not rock hard abs, but there's still stipulations.

00:39:21.880 That's what I'm saying.

00:39:22.600 It's like people want an athletic aesthetic rather than an athletic lifestyle from their

00:39:26.940 partner.

00:39:27.260 And that's the difference.

00:39:28.460 It's like, that's the negative part.

00:39:29.760 I see what you're saying.

00:39:30.240 Yeah.

00:39:30.340 It's like, you might want someone who works out just as much as you.

00:39:32.780 Yeah.

00:39:33.220 That might be your love language going to the gym together.

00:39:35.320 Yeah.

00:39:35.720 But to force your partner to look like something.

00:39:38.160 So you feel better about yourself.

00:39:39.620 Or so you're attracted to them.

00:39:42.080 Babe, you have a problem.

00:39:44.080 It's terrible.

00:39:44.780 It's such a terrible notion.

00:39:46.220 I think too, like, and this I can say with the utmost confidence because I'm with someone

00:39:51.280 who works in the fitness industry.

00:39:52.660 Right.

00:39:53.100 If that is the only thing you have going for you.

00:39:57.540 Oh my God. 0.99

00:39:58.500 Babe, you're going to die alone as you should because like you make your entire personality 0.99

00:40:04.220 around like macros. 1.00

00:40:06.840 Like you have a, you have a problem, bitch. 1.00

00:40:09.600 You do like literally terrible. 1.00

00:40:11.460 Well, it's also low key an illness.

00:40:12.560 Like you need to go to therapy.

00:40:14.120 It is.

00:40:14.840 It is.

00:40:15.120 And I'm getting to a point where it's like a red flag is like, I like going to the 0.97

00:40:19.600 gym.

00:40:19.840 I'm like, oh, I'm looking for someone, a healthy, someone who's into a healthy lifestyle.

00:40:26.140 That's why I was like, that means no fat people.

00:40:28.180 Yeah. 0.53

00:40:28.540 Just write that.

00:40:29.440 Like the lies. 1.00

00:40:30.620 That's the shit that pisses me off. 1.00

00:40:31.800 Yeah. 1.00

00:40:32.060 Because you can be fat and be healthy at the same time.

00:40:34.680 Well, and that's what I'm saying.

00:40:35.500 Abundance.

00:40:35.880 And.

00:40:36.300 Yeah.

00:40:36.580 Everyone, everyone's literally a doctor.

00:40:39.280 Like immediately.

00:40:40.460 Yeah.

00:40:40.700 They have access to Google and all of a sudden they go to John Hopkins.

00:40:43.240 I know that's right.

00:40:43.700 Yeah. 0.98

00:40:44.100 I fucking know that's right. 0.99

00:40:45.520 Immediately they have an MD because they know what fat people look like. 0.99

00:40:49.840 Yeah.

00:40:50.480 That's how I always say you diagnosing people with no prior knowledge of their medical history.

00:40:55.900 Also, when people bring up BMI, I'm always like, look up the history of BMI.

00:40:59.060 Please.

00:41:00.060 Because it's racist.

00:41:00.960 Because it's racist.

00:41:03.200 And a lot of you'd be surprised how many people don't know that.

00:41:06.220 Oh, yeah.

00:41:06.760 Why do you think it doesn't mean anything?

00:41:08.180 Thank you.

00:41:08.600 Because it doesn't factor in people of color or black people literally at all.

00:41:12.480 Yeah. 0.99

00:41:12.740 Or big boned people. 0.99

00:41:14.680 Black, black femme people. 1.00

00:41:16.880 Like, they have, we have to deal with so much bullshit. 1.00

00:41:20.380 Yeah. 1.00

00:41:20.800 Like from racism. 0.99

00:41:22.120 Lord forbid they're also fat. 0.94

00:41:23.860 Like all these different things that we just have to deal with.

00:41:26.640 Like.

00:41:26.760 It's coming from all angles.

00:41:28.380 Every single angle.

00:41:29.520 And I'm like, just because I'm a bigger person, I'm black, I'm feminine, I'm like feminine and all that kind of stuff.

00:41:35.020 Like, I shouldn't have to, I literally should not have to deal with your, like, it's not rejection that I'm saying.

00:41:40.940 It's like imposed rejection.

00:41:42.760 Like, I never, I never, I never.

00:41:45.280 Was going to pursue you.

00:41:46.540 I never, like you are.

00:41:49.520 You're safe.

00:41:50.720 Right.

00:41:51.120 Like, you're good.

00:41:52.120 Like.

00:41:52.240 You're safe.

00:41:53.420 In this.

00:41:53.960 I don't know.

00:41:55.060 But I never entered it.

00:41:56.320 You're safe.

00:41:56.960 I think the same thing about men who talk about like women who are like, like they're like all women do is date for 0.97

00:42:05.000 money.

00:42:05.860 I think the same thing.

00:42:07.000 I'm always like, you make 30K a year.

00:42:09.880 You're safe.

00:42:11.260 I promise you're good.

00:42:12.800 You're, you're, babe, you're hourly.

00:42:14.480 It's okay.

00:42:15.740 Relax.

00:42:16.440 You're good.

00:42:17.120 11.50 an hour.

00:42:17.920 You're good, babe.

00:42:19.020 No 401k, no healthcare.

00:42:20.560 You're fine.

00:42:21.140 Trust me.

00:42:21.680 I hate that when white men are like, oh, why is everyone against us? 0.88

00:42:24.800 Oh, if you don't open a book. 0.97

00:42:26.960 If you don't open a book.

00:42:27.760 I mean, I don't know.

00:42:28.940 Ask your peers.

00:42:30.240 You know what I'm saying?

00:42:31.080 Take it up within the house.

00:42:32.380 You don't have eyes.

00:42:33.280 You don't like me. 0.99

00:42:33.860 Or a brain, a functioning brain.

00:42:36.580 That's why one time I stitched a dude where he's like, what if, what if women or men treated

00:42:42.580 women the same way women treated men? 0.99

00:42:44.720 And then I go.

00:42:45.240 You do.

00:42:46.280 Yeah.

00:42:46.760 I go.

00:42:47.100 I literally was like, were you born an hour ago?

00:42:49.880 Like, is this your first day on planet earth? 1.00

00:42:52.640 Like, I'm assuming you mean like shit, right? 0.99

00:42:55.540 They've been doing that. 1.00

00:42:57.580 Babe, they clocked in a long time ago.

00:42:59.800 You guys are doing great.

00:43:00.760 Yeah.

00:43:01.260 So, you know what?

00:43:02.880 No days off.

00:43:03.860 You want to talk about no days off, babe.

00:43:05.640 They are never resting.

00:43:07.000 Yeah.

00:43:07.260 They are relentless.

00:43:08.400 So when you talk about like the, uh, when, whether it's like money or aesthetic or whatever

00:43:13.920 when it comes to dating, it, dating shouldn't feel like you're doing, um, a resume call.

00:43:19.040 Uh, you know what I mean?

00:43:20.220 It shouldn't feel like that.

00:43:21.660 It shouldn't feel like you're applying for a job.

00:43:23.360 That's a good way to say that.

00:43:24.140 Yeah.

00:43:24.480 Because it's taxing.

00:43:25.860 Applying for a job, you know, applying for a job is exhausting.

00:43:28.800 Dating shouldn't feel like that.

00:43:29.920 Yeah.

00:43:30.280 It should.

00:43:30.740 And I, that's why I think, um, before I started dating my boyfriend, um, I did, I had a Tinder

00:43:37.380 once, but I was doing it for like a social experiment for one of my friends.

00:43:42.520 So she was doing a project and she asked me if I'd ever had it.

00:43:45.060 And I said, no.

00:43:45.640 So I downloaded it to be one of her experimental people. 1.00

00:43:49.740 Bitch. 1.00

00:43:50.120 I had that thing for like two months and I was like, I can't do this. 1.00

00:43:53.500 Like this is exhausting.

00:43:54.940 It's terrible.

00:43:55.460 It's horrible.

00:43:56.140 It's awful, awful, awful.

00:43:57.120 Absolutely terrible.

00:43:57.760 And I feel like it's, I don't know.

00:44:00.400 It's, there are some stories that work out.

00:44:02.760 Congrats.

00:44:03.400 I think that's great, but there are many that don't.

00:44:06.560 So like, just let it happen naturally wherever it happens.

00:44:09.480 It could be someone you like least expect.

00:44:11.240 That's what happened with me.

00:44:12.780 Like my boyfriend and I went to high school together, but we're not high school sweethearts.

00:44:16.980 Enemies to lovers.

00:44:18.060 You know what I mean?

00:44:19.060 Just kidding.

00:44:19.900 We weren't enemies.

00:44:20.900 Work.

00:44:21.540 We were not enemies, but still.

00:44:23.720 Uh, so let's read some of the comments on this video.

00:44:25.400 So, uh, women get ran through by guys out of their league and then think they're in that

00:44:32.960 league.

00:44:33.360 The verbiage.

00:44:34.040 Can you read it one more time?

00:44:36.420 Women get ran through by guys out of their league and then they think they're in that 0.97

00:44:41.580 league.

00:44:42.040 Then they realized they forgot to get off the carousel at age 35.

00:44:46.340 How many characters is this?

00:44:47.940 Yeah.

00:44:48.300 Lots of, there's lots of metaphors in there, babe.

00:44:51.180 And one, and then the, the creator said, and wonder where all the good guys are and why

00:44:55.860 they don't want them. 1.00

00:44:56.500 Oh, I hate, I hate that good guy shit. 1.00

00:45:01.820 Oh no. 1.00

00:45:02.460 I hate, I hate that shit. 1.00

00:45:04.520 No, you want to get away with that. 1.00

00:45:05.260 When they say good guys finish last, women don't like nice guys, blah, blah, blah. 0.62

00:45:08.960 Who's ever said that?

00:45:10.600 What woman? 0.99

00:45:11.380 I'm trying to, who are you talking to?

00:45:13.260 That's what I'm saying.

00:45:13.960 Are you talking to me?

00:45:14.920 Who are you getting this information from?

00:45:16.180 I always think like, do you even need me for this conversation?

00:45:18.840 I feel like you're good.

00:45:19.720 What are you talking about?

00:45:20.500 Like who said that?

00:45:22.060 And you know what?

00:45:22.680 I, I saw someone once talk about it in a very simple way and it kind of clicked for me.

00:45:27.540 I forget who it was.

00:45:28.600 If I remember, I'll reference it.

00:45:29.980 But they basically were saying like, when they say nice guys finish last, a lot of times

00:45:34.460 they're talking about a woman that's like so far out of their league.

00:45:37.380 Oh yeah.

00:45:37.960 In the sense that she is in a different stage of life.

00:45:40.980 Like she doesn't want a scrub basically.

00:45:44.240 So like, he's like, well, women just don't want nice people. 0.56

00:45:46.960 What if you're not even that nice?

00:45:49.100 Have you thought about that?

00:45:50.000 Maybe, maybe you're not. 0.98

00:45:51.060 First of all, who the f*** is judging you? 0.97

00:45:53.220 Maybe you're not that nice. 0.97

00:45:54.700 Have you ever thought about that?

00:45:55.280 Who would be you nice?

00:45:56.220 Please.

00:45:57.460 You're a nice guy, but you say things like this on the internet.

00:45:59.860 Are you sure?

00:46:00.680 Bring out Judge Joe Mathis and Judge Nicole.

00:46:03.700 Please.

00:46:04.400 That's why I'm like, are you sure?

00:46:05.900 Can someone get eyes on him?

00:46:07.120 Because I don't think he's doing well enough to, enough to be like, oh, you know, I'm the 1.00

00:46:11.320 shit and women should be like falling to their knees for me. 1.00

00:46:13.860 At what point do you go, maybe it's me? 1.00

00:46:16.680 You know what I'm saying?

00:46:17.860 Like at what point are you like?

00:46:20.000 Why does everybody find me insufferable?

00:46:22.620 Wait.

00:46:23.220 Wait a second. 1.00

00:46:24.660 God damn it. 1.00

00:46:25.000 Yeah. 0.99

00:46:25.180 You think like all the women in the world and you're like, not one of them wants to be 1.00

00:46:29.160 with me.

00:46:29.440 I wonder why that is.

00:46:30.620 Is it the women? 1.00

00:46:31.620 Well, just statistically, what are the odds?

00:46:33.860 No.

00:46:34.180 Yeah.

00:46:34.400 Like, what are the odds they're all wrong?

00:46:37.000 Sometimes you just got to get like that cold and analytic about it.

00:46:39.940 Like, how are you?

00:46:42.660 Think about it.

00:46:43.440 The sole nice guy.

00:46:45.580 Like, you're the only one.

00:46:47.180 Like a morsel of critical thinking, I beg.

00:46:49.120 You know what I mean?

00:46:49.880 And like, I fear you haven't self-reflected enough.

00:46:52.920 That's like, what are the odds all the women in the world are wrong, but like Gigi Hadid 0.99

00:46:57.960 isn't.

00:46:58.440 You know what I'm saying?

00:46:59.040 Because they always are like, oh, I want a baddie like Bella Hadid. 1.00

00:47:02.260 And I'm like, your high school English teacher didn't even like you. 0.98

00:47:07.480 What the f*** do you mean, Bella Hadid? 0.92

00:47:09.880 You know what I'm saying? 0.99

00:47:10.960 Like, listen, like, be for real.

00:47:14.560 Like, be honest with yourself, man.

00:47:16.600 Be FFR. 0.67

00:47:17.140 That's right.

00:47:17.720 I just think be honest with yourself.

00:47:20.020 Yeah. 0.99

00:47:20.180 Do you really think all of these bitches are wrong, but Kylie Jenner won't be? 1.00

00:47:24.400 She's going to see me for who I really am. 0.99

00:47:26.500 Go ahead, ho. 1.00

00:47:29.300 Sometimes I wish.

00:47:30.480 Sometimes I wish.

00:47:31.300 DM her. 0.88

00:47:32.520 Honestly, sometimes I wish.

00:47:34.300 I really do. 0.98

00:47:35.060 I wish they would meet you in person and be like, you disgust me. 0.87

00:47:37.840 And then I think I feel like the world would, you know what I mean? 0.97

00:47:40.520 Implode like there.

00:47:41.400 Yeah.

00:47:41.800 Their whole psyche would break down probably instantly.

00:47:45.080 All right.

00:47:45.360 Let's move on to this next video.

00:47:46.560 So this is another another guy giving dating advice for other men. 0.99

00:47:51.680 Oh, he's gay. 1.00

00:47:53.880 No, I think it's I think it's to date women, I would assume. 0.93

00:47:57.040 But let's see.

00:47:58.480 He says the harsh truth.

00:47:59.840 Harsh truth of online dating is the hottest guy always wins.

00:48:03.800 They don't care about your personality.

00:48:05.440 They don't care what you have going on in your life.

00:48:07.420 He says guys need to take professional pictures to get noticed on the apps.

00:48:12.640 By the apps, do you mean Tinder or do you mean LinkedIn?

00:48:15.980 Like what are you talking about? 0.98

00:48:17.920 You might need a headshot or two. 0.99

00:48:19.580 Might, you know, to get through the door. 0.99

00:48:22.600 What are you talking about?

00:48:24.520 I feel like this is another one of those things where men need to look into the mirror.

00:48:27.680 Yeah.

00:48:28.020 Why are you taking pictures?

00:48:29.040 Oh, my God.

00:48:31.980 The way they can't take a picture to save their life.

00:48:34.220 Holding a fish.

00:48:35.040 Wow.

00:48:35.920 Or it's like if it's if it's like a supposed to be a sexy picture or like it's like it looks like the last picture taken of them alive.

00:48:44.480 You know what I mean?

00:48:44.960 Like they like are post laxed.

00:48:46.440 You know, like, you know, like the like the what is it?

00:48:49.600 The the the last 48 or the final 48.

00:48:53.000 Have you ever seen that show where it's like if someone gets kidnapped and they're gone for more than 48 hours, most likely they'll be gone forever.

00:48:58.440 So the last picture you have of them is like literally the last one alive, like security cam footage outside the gas station.

00:49:06.260 You know what I mean?

00:49:06.980 They're like, this is the last time she was spotted in public.

00:49:10.520 Girl, like the way they can't take a picture to save their life.

00:49:14.360 Oh, my God.

00:49:15.300 Or they'll have pictures from 10 years ago, like when like a football picture with like a helmet.

00:49:19.980 Right.

00:49:20.520 Well, it's a matter of reciprocation, too.

00:49:23.160 Like, yeah, women are putting beautiful pictures of themselves out there and they require and demand the same from you. 1.00

00:49:29.780 Yeah, totally fair.

00:49:30.920 Like it doesn't.

00:49:31.840 I mean, you need to get a professional headshot. 1.00

00:49:35.500 That that first of all, why is that your fucking complaint? 1.00

00:49:38.740 Really? 0.99

00:49:39.280 You know what?

00:49:39.860 They really don't care about the inside whatsoever.

00:49:42.860 They only care about what you look like.

00:49:44.040 So, yeah, make sure make sure you put on your Sunday best and go shoot.

00:49:49.260 You know what I mean?

00:49:49.640 In front of the local high school.

00:49:51.440 Right.

00:49:51.740 Like, you know, those ones where they're like up against a brick wall and they're like.

00:49:54.520 Oh, my God.

00:49:54.840 They're like.

00:49:57.440 Yeah.

00:49:57.940 Or they're like on their knees.

00:49:59.460 You know what I mean?

00:49:59.600 The Flynn Rider smolder.

00:50:00.880 Yeah.

00:50:01.820 Enough.

00:50:02.380 Thank you. 0.97

00:50:02.940 That would make my butthole clench if I saw that a bad way. 0.95

00:50:07.380 If I saw that. 0.98

00:50:08.680 Yeah.

00:50:09.120 No.

00:50:09.700 That's a no for me.

00:50:10.540 Wait.

00:50:10.900 What was the first part?

00:50:11.920 He's all like, you can't.

00:50:13.000 What?

00:50:13.080 The hottest guy always wins.

00:50:14.320 The hottest guy always wins.

00:50:14.920 They don't care about your personality and they don't care what you have going on in your life.

00:50:19.340 I disagree, friend.

00:50:20.520 I'm going to have to disagree, too.

00:50:22.200 Yeah.

00:50:22.700 Because sometimes the ugly people be the funniest ones I've ever met.

00:50:25.540 And that's enough for me.

00:50:26.620 That's enough for me.

00:50:27.820 And that's enough.

00:50:28.500 If you can make me laugh.

00:50:29.860 And I'm going to stick beside him.

00:50:31.400 If you can make me laugh.

00:50:32.120 If you can make me laugh, hoe. 1.00

00:50:34.120 Let's just.

00:50:34.460 Let's just take these off.

00:50:35.800 That goes a long way for a lot of people.

00:50:38.340 It's the best.

00:50:39.260 Like, I don't know.

00:50:40.340 I feel like my love language is laughter.

00:50:42.840 Yeah. 0.98

00:50:43.100 If you can make me laugh and I'm the funniest bitch I know. 1.00

00:50:47.300 Me. 0.99

00:50:48.200 Literally me.

00:50:48.700 Then we're going to have to figure it out.

00:50:49.740 Well, and just, like, general kindness.

00:50:52.120 Yeah.

00:50:52.280 You know what I mean?

00:50:53.060 Oh, yeah.

00:50:53.260 Like, I've said this.

00:50:56.060 I think I've mentioned this before about when my boyfriend and I first started dating.

00:50:59.600 But I always say, like, if he didn't start.

00:51:02.240 Like, if he wasn't pursuing me, we probably would never be where we are now.

00:51:05.860 Because, like, I wasn't.

00:51:06.920 I'm not a pursuing kind of person.

00:51:08.500 Fair.

00:51:09.240 I think just because I'm anxious and I'm like.

00:51:11.820 You know what I mean?

00:51:12.580 Instantly.

00:51:13.240 But with him, like, he was very intentional about wanting to date me.

00:51:16.840 So he was like, what are you doing tomorrow?

00:51:19.000 What time?

00:51:19.800 Yeah.

00:51:19.980 Okay, I'm going to pick you up.

00:51:21.160 Like, and then if I didn't text him back, he'd be like, do you still want to meet tomorrow?

00:51:23.920 Like, he was very intentional about, like.

00:51:25.840 Yeah.

00:51:26.080 And that was, like, so shocking to me because I had never really dealt with that when I was dating.

00:51:31.120 And he was very, like, I want to see you.

00:51:33.440 I want to spend time with you.

00:51:34.740 There's two things with that.

00:51:36.580 One, I feel like a lot of people our age are, like, in this zone where they want to be approached.

00:51:44.260 Yeah.

00:51:44.520 There's not a lot of people approaching.

00:51:45.960 Yeah.

00:51:46.120 Whereas they feel like.

00:51:46.980 They feel like.

00:51:50.240 Maybe it's, like, self-doubt.

00:51:51.560 Maybe it's, like.

00:51:52.000 I think so.

00:51:52.680 Something that nice.

00:51:53.560 Yeah.

00:51:53.780 I also think it's sometimes it's, like, maybe I'm not.

00:51:58.820 I'm.

00:51:59.660 I don't know what I'm trying to.

00:52:00.800 I think I kind of get what you're saying.

00:52:02.560 I think it's.

00:52:03.580 I would agree with you, too, if what you're saying is that everyone wants to be approached.

00:52:09.420 And I think a big part of it is, like, almost an insecurity because you're worried, like, if I make the first move.

00:52:14.460 Yeah, I think that's most of it. 0.97

00:52:15.260 If I make the first move and it doesn't work, then I'm going to look a fool. 0.98

00:52:18.600 Right. 0.97

00:52:18.980 Right.

00:52:19.260 And so it's, like, almost a nervousness.

00:52:20.820 I also think it goes back to that, like, aesthetic thing.

00:52:23.240 Like, I'm not finding the right people to approach.

00:52:24.920 Exactly.

00:52:25.560 And therefore, I'm just not going to.

00:52:27.040 Yeah, exactly.

00:52:27.840 So it's kind of, like, quitting before you get fired.

00:52:29.740 Right.

00:52:30.160 That kind of idea.

00:52:31.100 I feel that.

00:52:31.840 So I think when you're dating anybody, if they're intentional about wanting to see you and spend time with you, that goes so far.

00:52:39.960 That goes a long, long way.

00:52:41.980 Like, if you're just, like, hey, I want to, I would really like to see you if you're available.

00:52:46.400 That works.

00:52:47.360 It works.

00:52:48.080 Water works.

00:52:48.760 And you know that those people are going to screenshot it and send it to their friends and be like, oh, my God.

00:52:54.360 Yeah.

00:52:54.480 Like, they want to see me.

00:52:56.120 Yeah.

00:52:56.180 Like, it's so exciting.

00:52:56.980 Exactly.

00:52:57.400 Because it feels nice to feel wanted, desired, whatever it may be.

00:53:01.980 Yeah.

00:53:02.080 Even if it's your company.

00:53:04.080 The second thing about that, that comment about the hottest guy always wins.

00:53:08.040 I feel like a lot of, especially straight men, I literally see them not try to pamper or, like, groom themselves.

00:53:14.660 Yeah.

00:53:15.040 And it's like, you could, like, you, oh, I don't want to say this.

00:53:19.360 I don't want to say it.

00:53:20.420 But you might be attractive.

00:53:22.660 But, like, you present yourself as terrible as possible.

00:53:27.720 Yeah.

00:53:28.560 First of all, clean up your beard.

00:53:30.220 Yeah.

00:53:30.620 Number one. 1.00

00:53:31.460 Wash your ass. 1.00

00:53:32.260 Wash your ass. 1.00

00:53:33.660 This is the shit that be pissing me off. 1.00

00:53:35.840 Why are you not washing your body and trimming your hair? 1.00

00:53:41.360 Why are we going back to the Stone Age?

00:53:43.720 And why are you trying to enter society?

00:53:45.540 Well, and the same men who feel, who do that, have these, like, impossibly high standards for women about bodily hygiene.

00:53:51.980 Thank you.

00:53:52.400 You know what I mean? 0.99

00:53:52.780 Women have to be hairless, but you literally look like you just came out of a f***ing drain. 1.00

00:53:56.820 You know what I mean? 0.98

00:53:57.820 Like, it's like, no, honey.

00:53:59.240 Yeah.

00:53:59.600 No, no, no.

00:54:00.020 Like, literally on the Mayflower.

00:54:02.180 You know how, like, they didn't shower for months when they came over here and they were disgusting and riddled with disease.

00:54:07.500 Like, yeah.

00:54:09.280 Like, maybe clean up a little bit, too.

00:54:11.580 Thank you. 0.92

00:54:11.860 Like, take care of yourself in the sense that, like, you know, wash, wash your face, brush your f***ing teeth.

00:54:17.540 The amount of times, the amount of times I've been like, listen, you can say whatever you want about my teeth.

00:54:22.680 At least mine are brushed.

00:54:24.700 Listen.

00:54:25.640 At least mine are.

00:54:26.140 At least they're not plaque riddled.

00:54:28.460 You feel me?

00:54:29.060 Like, at least I'm not giving my dentist a nightmare.

00:54:31.420 You know what I mean?

00:54:32.100 Like, at least that's the case for me.

00:54:34.900 You know what I mean?

00:54:35.760 But I, it doesn't cost you anything.

00:54:38.840 You know what I mean?

00:54:39.360 Yeah.

00:54:39.580 To, like, clean up just a little.

00:54:41.720 You open their mouth and it's home in America.

00:54:43.140 Okay, so some of the comments on this video, this one says, meanwhile, a woman I know never works out and has two bad, blurry mirror selfies and has hundreds of matches and messages within a few days. 1.00

00:55:00.760 Okay.

00:55:01.740 Well, I'm going to go ahead and say wrong, then, if that's the case.

00:55:05.140 Also, what's the problem?

00:55:07.720 That sounds like hating from outside the club.

00:55:09.280 That's what I'm saying.

00:55:10.040 Like, bro, if it's working for her, it's working for her.

00:55:12.600 Get your bread up.

00:55:13.740 Get your bread up.

00:55:14.360 That's what I'm saying. 0.99

00:55:15.380 Like, you know, why don't you get your money up instead of your funny up, bitch? 1.00

00:55:18.000 Maybe, maybe, maybe the matches will start rolling in at that point. 0.98

00:55:21.620 I always think, too, like, when it comes to, like, how women present themselves on social media, regardless, like they said earlier, like, men, like, aggressively straight men like that are easy.

00:55:33.980 Yeah. 0.99

00:55:34.840 Like, you would f*** anything. 0.71

00:55:36.880 So, like, you're surprised that even if she's not presenting the best. 0.97

00:55:42.020 You're just, you're literally telling on yourself and your brothers, you know?

00:55:45.400 Like, it's like.

00:55:45.960 Your brethren.

00:55:46.600 Right.

00:55:47.120 Like, where do you think she's getting the matches from?

00:55:50.300 Yeah.

00:55:50.940 Think.

00:55:51.140 Not from herself.

00:55:52.260 Think.

00:55:52.840 It's like, I always think, like, you're right there.

00:55:55.240 You're so close.

00:55:56.340 You're so close.

00:55:57.020 Just one step farther.

00:55:58.280 Yeah.

00:55:58.480 I swear.

00:56:00.200 My God.

00:56:01.520 It says, it's true. 0.95

00:56:03.000 They are.

00:56:03.240 They're concrete operational skills.

00:56:05.100 That era for them must have been rough.

00:56:07.020 Oh, man.

00:56:07.600 Oh, I can't even imagine.

00:56:09.400 Wow.

00:56:09.860 They're probably still trying to figure out what red plus blue equals.

00:56:13.400 You know what I mean? 1.00

00:56:13.920 They're like, f***, man. 1.00

00:56:15.320 They might be green. 1.00

00:56:16.360 It says, it's true. 0.95

00:56:17.680 They are as shallow as us.

00:56:19.320 Don't believe the lies.

00:56:20.700 They are as shallow as us.

00:56:24.360 So you're admitting.

00:56:26.540 Well, I think being shallow is like, I don't, I have such strong opinions about that kind

00:56:34.440 of like.

00:56:34.880 Please.

00:56:35.400 Pray tell.

00:56:35.720 Just that, that like ideology is so riddled with like, oh, this is a double standard.

00:56:41.260 Right.

00:56:42.240 But like, attraction is attraction.

00:56:44.140 Like, who you're attracted to is not like a one size fits all.

00:56:48.580 Like, it's specific to the person.

00:56:50.140 And so like, it, the differences that women are like, oh, well, you know, to me, he's 0.58

00:56:55.940 not attractive.

00:56:56.460 So I'm not going to date that person.

00:56:58.620 I'm going to move on to men like that. 0.99

00:57:01.000 It's like, it's everybody's fault, but my own, that this person is ugly. 0.99

00:57:06.040 Yep. 0.96

00:57:06.540 What? 0.98

00:57:07.040 Like this person is ugly to me. 0.99

00:57:08.560 So I'm going to tell everyone around me that this person is also ugly. 0.99

00:57:11.000 Yeah. 0.95

00:57:11.420 Like, I don't understand.

00:57:13.240 Like shallow is I, to me being shallow is somebody who like, doesn't even want to engage

00:57:18.700 with people that aren't a certain aesthetic.

00:57:21.220 That doesn't mean just romantically.

00:57:23.120 I mean, like friendship wise, like there are people that exist in this world that don't 0.95

00:57:26.800 want to be friends with ugly people, whatever they mean, ugly, whether they're fat, ugly, 0.97

00:57:31.640 whatever. 0.99

00:57:32.500 And I feel like that's just a bad person.

00:57:35.840 That's not a gendered thing. 1.00

00:57:36.920 At the end of the day.

00:57:37.700 Yeah. 0.98

00:57:37.920 You're just a bad person. 0.91

00:57:39.120 If that's the case.

00:57:40.380 At the end of the day.

00:57:41.060 Yeah.

00:57:41.420 It's really, again, overcomplicating.

00:57:43.200 You know what I mean? 0.98

00:57:43.860 Like if you have no matches, just say that if you're dying of pussy list behavior right 0.98

00:57:49.180 now, that's on you. 0.97

00:57:51.160 Okay.

00:57:51.560 This last one says it's pretty ridiculous that men have to walk this route, taking professional 0.68

00:57:56.120 pics.

00:57:56.480 Like anyone has time for that.

00:57:58.580 LOL.

00:57:59.800 I feel like that was supposed to be like a drag on women. 1.00

00:58:02.360 Like, why do we have to do this?

00:58:04.060 But like, you want to talk about what beauty standards you have to meet in order to day.

00:58:07.800 Do you really want to talk about that?

00:58:09.700 Ooh, cause we can get into it.

00:58:11.440 Cause we can get into it.

00:58:12.360 We can go get you a good concealer, some lashes, get you into it.

00:58:17.820 Well, I think like, even if you're, if you're someone who only likes, uh, men, right.

00:58:22.100 Or if you like anyone, right.

00:58:24.000 When it comes to women and others, like the, the beauty standards that we have to uphold 1.00

00:58:29.800 or like hold ourselves to are so much more stringent than like a straight cis man.

00:58:35.080 Good word, by the way. 1.00

00:58:35.880 Boom, bitch. 1.00

00:58:36.700 Love, college. 1.00

00:58:37.480 I think that, uh, men like, like you just said, they roll out of bed and they're like, 0.99

00:58:44.680 I can't believe I have no matches and a bitch will like wax herself from head to toe. 1.00

00:58:49.800 It's a matter of reciprocation. 0.99

00:58:50.920 Just, just to go on one lunch date with someone.

00:58:53.900 There we go.

00:58:54.360 You know what I mean?

00:58:54.940 Like it's the, the, you want to talk double standard.

00:58:57.520 It's terrible.

00:58:58.080 It's literally such a terrible, I can't, I can't even, it like makes me upset.

00:59:02.460 Like, why can't you just think like, think it through?

00:59:05.400 Like, yeah.

00:59:06.080 Just a little getting the energy that you put out there and it's a terrible energy.

00:59:10.340 Exactly.

00:59:10.780 It doesn't feel very good.

00:59:12.100 You're going to hate it.

00:59:12.980 And I think too, that like, if you want to date a specific person, like a very specific

00:59:18.840 look or whatever, whatever.

00:59:20.960 Yeah.

00:59:21.240 But don't make it everybody else's problem.

00:59:22.800 Keep that to yourself.

00:59:23.320 Yeah.

00:59:23.520 I literally keep it in here.

00:59:25.160 It's the same thing with like people who only date a specific race or only date a specific

00:59:29.900 body type. 0.99

00:59:30.640 Like you're a weirdo. 0.97

00:59:32.360 I will also say this cause I can speak on it. 1.00

00:59:34.700 Gay men and like man loving men, like all that kind of shit. 1.00

00:59:41.360 Oh my God. 1.00

00:59:42.780 Yeah.

00:59:43.020 It's like, why are we trying to impose such like heteronormative, I hate that word, heteronormative

00:59:48.940 standards on ourselves.

00:59:50.200 It's true.

00:59:50.860 It's, you're not wrong though.

00:59:51.980 I know.

00:59:52.400 It's just like, why are we doing this?

00:59:54.060 Like you are acting just like your straight counterparts. 0.93

00:59:56.720 And I thought we were a little bit better than that.

00:59:58.460 Yeah.

00:59:58.860 Like it feels like almost like more evolved than that.

01:00:01.300 There's like this meme going around where it's like LG TBQIA plus. 0.97

01:00:07.280 And it's just because like gay men, like honestly bring down the community in a way that I hate 1.00

01:00:12.220 to watch. 0.88

01:00:12.820 It's like, why are we, these body standards and these like preferences to have like your

01:00:17.600 perfect white twink is just like, it's harmful.

01:00:21.140 It's harmful to a degree that I can't even, like, I don't have, I feel like I don't even

01:00:25.500 have the language skills to describe.

01:00:26.960 Like, it's like all these people are like getting on social media and like, I'm trying

01:00:32.720 to remember like when I was 14, like if I saw like someone like me, I would have been

01:00:36.080 like so happy.

01:00:36.920 Like, look at them go.

01:00:37.800 Yeah, exactly.

01:00:38.240 But then you also see the other side where it's like, you see these white queer men and 0.98

01:00:44.580 like, I should say white gay men. 0.90

01:00:47.580 And it's like, oh, like maybe I should try to fit them because they're doing so well 0.93

01:00:52.180 because again, they're white.

01:00:53.300 They still have so much privilege.

01:00:54.820 They're a man.

01:00:55.380 They're cis.

01:00:55.720 It's like, what do you, what do you glean to be like, wow.

01:01:04.200 Again, I don't have the language skills.

01:01:05.660 It's just like sad to see.

01:01:07.180 Yeah.

01:01:07.560 I think, I think too, like sometimes you, we forget like, because we've all been raised

01:01:13.640 within it.

01:01:14.380 Yeah.

01:01:14.700 Um, that like, um, a lot of these beauty standards, um, are rooted in white supremacy 1.00

01:01:19.040 and misogyny and misogyny, even if, even if you are someone who is gay, right?

01:01:24.500 So like patriarchy and misogyny has had these rampant effects on dating life and beauty and

01:01:31.080 what we find beautiful, what we perceive to be beautiful, what we perceive to be ugly.

01:01:34.780 Like all of that is, has been imposed on us.

01:01:37.820 So it's not our fault that we've been born in that culture, but it is our fault if we die

01:01:43.260 that way.

01:01:43.820 Yeah.

01:01:44.080 Because it's on us, especially as adults dating in the adult world to unlearn stuff

01:01:48.720 like that.

01:01:49.300 Like precisely ask yourself, why do I feel that way?

01:01:52.020 Like, why do I feel this like visceral distaste when someone looks a certain way?

01:01:57.640 Why do I feel like I can't date someone that doesn't look this way? 0.82

01:02:01.560 Why do I feel literally the only questions you can ask yourself?

01:02:03.780 Unpack it.

01:02:04.360 You know what I mean?

01:02:05.300 These comments like that, like, oh, like why, why do I have to put out the energy that

01:02:10.120 I want back?

01:02:10.900 Yeah.

01:02:11.100 It pisses me off to a certain, it's like to an extreme degree.

01:02:14.040 Yeah.

01:02:14.320 It's like, you're literally, you are asking for people to be better, different, sexier,

01:02:20.980 whatever for you.

01:02:22.940 Yeah. 0.99

01:02:23.340 And who the hell are you? 0.97

01:02:24.280 Yeah. 0.95

01:02:24.660 Yeah, exactly. 0.99

01:02:25.720 Who the hell are you? 0.98

01:02:26.440 Exactly. 0.96

01:02:27.000 And I also think too, when, when, uh, when it comes to like, uh, makeup and if men are

01:02:32.840 like, Oh, you have, you have makeup, blah, blah, blah.

01:02:34.900 Oh, that pisses me off.

01:02:35.700 You can wear makeup too.

01:02:37.020 You can wear makeup too.

01:02:38.760 You can wear makeup too.

01:02:38.780 Come here.

01:02:39.300 Come in in the chair.

01:02:40.000 I got you.

01:02:40.600 Last time I'm like, it's not as gendered as you think it, it's literally makeup. 0.94

01:02:44.540 It's, it's a, it's a thing like that doesn't have a gender.

01:02:48.120 So like, if you want to look snatched, if you want to beat a face, do it, by all means.

01:02:54.300 There's a couple of guys on TikTok now that I'm following just because I love makeup and

01:02:57.660 stuff.

01:02:57.900 Yeah.

01:02:58.320 And they're like making their own like male, I hate male like marketing, but it works.

01:03:04.300 It works.

01:03:05.020 Like they're making their own thing.

01:03:05.620 I think I know.

01:03:05.820 I think I have seen a guy like that.

01:03:06.980 Like the ads.

01:03:07.760 Like I'm like work.

01:03:08.640 I watched the whole ad.

01:03:09.420 I'm like, good for you.

01:03:10.280 Yeah.

01:03:10.420 I saw, I saw one guy say he like showed his makeup routine because he's a male model, but

01:03:15.380 Oh yeah.

01:03:16.100 He said, this is what I do when I'm not feeling as confident.

01:03:18.420 Like if I'm having skin issues or whatever.

01:03:19.740 And he was like, he wears real basic like drugstore makeup.

01:03:22.480 Right.

01:03:22.960 Kind of like concealer, powder, translucent powder.

01:03:25.680 That's blush. 0.92

01:03:26.580 Maybe a little bit of blush.

01:03:27.420 That's it.

01:03:28.480 You can wear it too.

01:03:29.100 You can do it too.

01:03:29.800 You can do whatever you want in this world, except be short and terrible.

01:03:33.280 That's the only thing you can't.

01:03:34.620 That's the only thing.

01:03:35.440 That's the rule.

01:03:36.460 Anna and I have made that a rule.

01:03:38.100 It's a law.

01:03:39.020 It's been passed.

01:03:39.560 Signing the law.

01:03:40.420 Okay.

01:03:42.480 So as we wrap this up, what is it that you want people to know when it comes to dating

01:03:48.840 or the pursuit of dating or what have you?

01:03:55.940 I feel like my, I feel like if there's one thing that I do on this planet, I hope that

01:04:00.860 it's teach people like you are allowed to express yourself the way you want.

01:04:06.120 You look beautiful while doing it.

01:04:08.640 And I want them to feel like loved at the end of the day.

01:04:13.900 So when it comes to dating, I hope that you respect yourself, you learn to love yourself, and you find ways to always hold on to that.

01:04:29.140 Because my biggest problem, like getting to this point where I am now today, it's like, I was so willing to change and like be a chameleon and like adapt to other people just so I can like fulfill this like fantasy that I've been seeing in all the media I was growing up with.

01:04:45.660 But, you know, like I love like Pride and Prejudice and like all those like romantic, like overly exaggerated, like romantics and scenarios.

01:04:54.400 Yeah.

01:04:54.640 And I am at this point now where I deserve that.

01:04:58.620 Yeah.

01:04:59.100 I want that.

01:04:59.960 Absolutely.

01:05:00.320 So I'm going to get it.

01:05:02.000 I mean, shoot, I'm going to get it.

01:05:03.740 Period.

01:05:04.340 God, I've been doing that a lot.

01:05:06.580 That's all right, babe.

01:05:07.600 So I just, I cast that upon you.

01:05:10.160 I challenge you.

01:05:11.340 I challenge everyone who's watching this to just like love yourself enough to just require and demand what you need.

01:05:17.820 Absolutely.

01:05:18.660 And what you deserve.

01:05:19.880 And what you deserve.

01:05:20.720 At the end of the day.

01:05:21.060 Oh.

01:05:21.640 And I think, too, I want to mention this, too, that people like you are so important to have on social media because, like you mentioned earlier, what you could do for somebody who's young or even somebody who's older, right, who sees you living your truth and being open and honest and vulnerable.

01:05:40.740 That's important.

01:05:41.580 That's impactful.

01:05:42.600 Yeah.

01:05:42.800 So the world needs people like you because we need you to take up space.

01:05:47.100 We need you to, like, establish a presence because when it comes to talking about things like dating, it is so much, it holds so much more weight for people, for kids who look like you, who may relate to you and whatever it may be to hear you talking about dating.

01:06:01.680 You know what I mean?

01:06:02.320 Especially, like, same thing with me.

01:06:04.020 Obviously, like, I'm someone who is dating a man.

01:06:07.320 But, like, as, like, a woman, as, like, a woman of color, as a thick girl, right, like, someone who's navigated dating and now does this for a living, I can, like, say with the utmost conviction that, like, holding your standards high is a good thing.

01:06:20.380 It's a really, really good thing.

01:06:21.900 It's required.

01:06:22.700 It's important.

01:06:23.600 And, God, I wish I beat that into myself a lot earlier.

01:06:26.400 You know what?

01:06:27.560 You're only 22.

01:06:28.360 I know.

01:06:28.900 That's true.

01:06:29.800 You're so young.

01:06:30.460 You've got so much time ahead of you.

01:06:31.480 And it's great that you do it now.

01:06:33.460 It's important that you do it now.

01:06:34.960 You do it whenever.

01:06:36.000 It's never too late to start loving yourself more than anyone else could.

01:06:39.480 Period.

01:06:40.080 Love that.

01:06:41.220 I hope you all enjoyed today's episode.

01:06:43.380 I want to thank Ananiya for joining us today.

01:06:47.100 The absolute best.

01:06:48.300 Where can everybody find you?

01:06:49.460 I am Ananiya00.

01:06:51.240 You spell it A-N-A-N-I-A-0-0.

01:06:57.660 Ananiya.00 on Instagram, though, because there's some random box. 0.99

01:07:01.480 Hot bitch who won't give it up. 1.00

01:07:05.380 Love that. 1.00

01:07:06.120 Make sure y'all go follow Ananiya.

01:07:08.140 You are truly a gem.

01:07:09.240 I adore you.

01:07:09.800 Thank you, Drew.

01:07:10.400 You are such an amazing creator.

01:07:12.060 And, and, and Ananiya is so talented. 1.00

01:07:16.560 You are real, bitch. 1.00

01:07:18.220 You are the realest bitch I know. 1.00

01:07:19.680 When it comes to makeup and when it also comes to singing, Ananiya. 1.00

01:07:22.280 You are the realest bitch I know. 1.00

01:07:23.460 Ananiya is going to be on Broadway one day. 1.00

01:07:24.720 I am.

01:07:25.040 And I'm calling it now. 0.99

01:07:25.740 And I'm going to be at opening night, bitch. 1.00

01:07:27.340 Oh, my God. 0.99

01:07:27.880 This is going to be so embarrassing if I'm not.

01:07:29.920 Can you imagine?

01:07:30.900 No, you are.

01:07:31.240 Everything I speak into existence, I make sure it comes true. 1.00

01:07:33.880 Boom, bitch. 1.00

01:07:34.280 There you go. 1.00

01:07:34.800 Period.

01:07:34.940 I know.

01:07:35.200 That's right.

01:07:35.600 Make sure y'all follow Ananiya for just the most, the funniest content, the most amazing

01:07:39.000 content.

01:07:39.720 Thank you all for joining us today on the comment section.

01:07:42.040 If you want to watch full episodes of the comment section show, they drop every Wednesday.

01:07:45.780 And you can also stream each episode on all streaming platforms.

01:07:49.320 Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon, you know, you know all the platforms.

01:07:53.980 Anyways, thank you all so much for joining us today.

01:07:55.960 Thank you so much to Ananiya.

01:07:57.200 And I'll see you guys next week.

01:07:58.500 Bye.

01:07:58.740 Bye!

The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - October 05, 2022

22 WITHOUT A BOO ｜ Drew Afualo ft. Anania ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 34

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