22 WITHOUT A BOO ｜ Drew Afualo ft. Anania ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 34
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1 hour and 7 minutes
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Summary
In this episode of the Comment Section Show, I sit down with one of my favourite people in the entire world, Ananiya! We talk about how she got her start in the gaming industry, how she became a professional gamer, and how she uses her platform to help others.
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Hey everyone and welcome back to another episode of the Comment Section Show starring me, your fave.
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Today I'm so excited to introduce you all to one of my favorite guests of all time, Miss Ananiya.
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You're like, you two are another one that was like highly, highly requested.
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And I've told, I literally have told people, I'm like, I, trust me, I asked the bitch, okay?
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I was waiting for you to come here so that you could film with me.
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Also, I need to front load my compliments to you because I, I'm finally on the f*** mic.
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Anyway, I've been following you, like, ever since, like, I saw your first video.
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Like, I feel like with a lot of people, I'm like, if I see her again on the, on the For
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I was like, no, there's something about this bitch.
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And let me say that, like, following you and, like, just watching you and, like, seeing
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your success, like, inspires me so much to just keep going.
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And, like, whenever I'm, like, down on myself, because, like, if I'm being honest, like, I'm,
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like, social media on, like, my psyche and stuff is pretty hard.
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I feel like, I feel like I'm able to, like, go to war.
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Like, you make me feel so, like, strong in myself.
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And, yeah, I'm just, like, I'm just happy you have your platform and I'm happy to be
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Other than that, I mean, I just feel like whenever I, like, have this moment, like, with people,
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like, I've been following for a long time and I'm, like, meeting you and, like, talking
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It feels like I'm, like, like, I'm, like, doing something good.
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I remember one of the first videos I ever saw about you was you talking about being an
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And I think that you also, you're also very, aside from, like, being obviously incredibly
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funny, you're also very vulnerable and very honest.
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I think that's something that is lacking a lot of times when it comes to being a creator
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because it's so easy to want to, like, front load only positive things and only positive
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Like, even now you're saying, like, it can be really hard being on social media, which
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And I've talked about that with other creators, too.
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Like, whether it was here or just privately, that Teffy, she described it one time as, like,
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So, like, you can't see out, but everybody can see in.
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The thing that, like, pisses me off the most is, like, people feel so entitled to their opinions
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Like, watching your shit, I'm, like, you're allowed to, one, defend yourself and the people
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Just because I know that there's people out there who probably want to see, like, a queer
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black person out there, like, doing what they do.
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And I'm just going to keep going because, like, I have the people, I have the support
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system, I have the mutuals to back me up for that.
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And I think, and it's, I think it's the most intense form of validation, too, that you do
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have your platform because it is absolutely validating that you have a space here.
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And I think, too, I think, too, I've told people this because sometimes people will
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ask, like, I'm sure you get this question, too, like, how do I become a content creator?
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And I always say, like, the first thing I always say is, like, be absolutely certain
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this is what you want to do because it's not for everyone.
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It's a lot harder on you mentally than I think people anticipate.
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I feel like half of my session each time is just talking about, like, self-image and,
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like, how to remove people's perceptions of me.
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Especially with the amount of eyes that are on you.
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I think it's so funny, too, because this morning when I was getting glammed, I was talking
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to my hair and makeup artist and we were talking about, like, plastic surgery and he had asked
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me, like, would you ever want to get anything done?
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But that doesn't mean that I've never thought about it because when you're in this job,
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you're forced to look at yourself all the time.
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And not just look at yourself, but have millions of strangers looking at you, too.
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People always ask me why I, like, film my videos the way I do.
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If you guys don't know, I film it, like, with, like, a back camera.
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Because I feel like if I film from the back, I'm like, who is that?
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When I have to mirror, like, things sometimes for deal, for brand deals, I'm always like, who
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But sometimes I'll, like, if I'm, like, on my front camera and it's, like, sometimes it
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That's why I'm like, I need some blind faith that I look like that.
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I need to think to myself that's what I actually look like.
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When we were talking about plastic surgery, though, I was telling him, like, sometimes
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I do think, like, oh, maybe I would get this done, right?
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And then I think to myself, I have to remind myself constantly that the only reason I'm
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saying that is because I'm looking at myself and I'm being mean to myself and I'm being
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And then I think also, too, when I want to change, like, facial features, for example,
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if there was something I wanted to change about my face, I always think to myself that
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that's, like, something that is very someone of me.
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My features, because I'm someone person, are very Polynesian.
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So if I change my face to fit, like, a Eurocentric beauty standard, I'm no longer going to look.
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I'm, like, leaning into a beauty standard that doesn't even include me, right, in the
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So then I tell myself that over and over and over again.
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And I remind myself that there are other people in this world that look like me and want to
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So if I change my face, then I'm, like, changing something that they feel like they
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It's just, like, how many times can I get to that psychotic break where I'm talking to
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myself and I'm, like, you know what, hoe, you're doing something great.
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And I was, me and my friends were talking about this the other day.
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Like, we're not supposed to be, we're not supposed to fit Eurocentric beauty because I, my
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It's just, like, I'm not, I'm just, like, I have to keep shedding that, like, idea.
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I was, my, I did a makeup look, this last makeup look, and I was just, like, oh, this
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And it's, like, I keep changing myself or, like, clowning myself to, like, try to be
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Like, I keep trying to, like, lose, like, shed, I keep saying shed, lose, but that's
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Like, almost, like, almost, like, take Ananiah.
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And slap them on the ass and say, go present yourself to these people who, honestly, have
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And I've said this many times, but beauty is subjective, so what's beautiful to one person
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may not be beautiful to the next, so I always, like.
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And the people watching Instagram reels will let you know that.
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If they don't like your makeup, they will say some shit.
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I have countless, countless, countless men telling me all the time how ugly I am.
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That's why someone was like, I don't get why it doesn't bother you.
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And I think this is why you're so, you're funny in the way that, like, you're just saying
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facts that happen to be so funny in this situation.
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He should be worried about the first shelf of a cupboard.
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You should be worried about a lot of other things.
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That's why I made a video recently where someone had left a comment on my video and said, like,
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I've never seen an attractive Drew supporter or something like that.
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And then all I did was, I screenshot everything because I'm a Virgo.
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So I literally just was staring at the camera and I was showing what they wrote and then what they looked like.
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What they wrote and then what they looked like.
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And then I did that over and over and over again.
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And then I wrote, for the one millionth time, no, this doesn't hurt my feelings.
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I told this one guy, I literally was like, you own a mirror, right?
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It's important to be a contributing member to society.
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Like, you're going to call me a fat, ugly bitch.
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Because not only physically, but internally as well.
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I tell people when they're like, you make fun of like short dudes, blah, blah, blah.
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And I'm like, you can be short and not be terrible.
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Jesus was like, you can be short, but you can't be awful.
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There's a height requirement for being terrible.
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And also that goes to the same thing with hair.
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You're fighting with me and you're losing a fight with your own genetics.
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Punching up at something that he should just stop.
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I feel like so many times, oh, this is, I have to get on my f***ing high horse.
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I hate the notion and the narrative that we have to be so regal when it comes to people
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I hate that notion that we have to be the bigger person, the bigger person in this situation
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because why are we excusing the behavior that incited this incident?
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Like, why are we, why are we letting these people feel as though they can even speak
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such negative talk to whoever or someone who's trying to make it a name for themselves?
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Feeling like, oh, this person, you know, said I look like the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle
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Like, no, I'm going to say something equally as mean.
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I told someone he looked like, he looked like he worked at the Edwards Cinema and they called
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I was like, you look like you gave me my goobers when I went and saw Nope the other day.
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That's why I was like, I don't need to make fun of your looks to hurt your feelings, but
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But that's why I think social media has emboldened people like that.
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And then another excuse that sometimes people make, like, when they're, like, apologists
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for these kinds of, like, cyber bullies is that, like, you have the platform, so, like,
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That is one of my biggest pet peeves, actually.
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You shouldn't be doing this because you're just going to, you're going to incite so much violence
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Because why are we acting like I, like, I, I can't be morally, I, okay, so here's what's
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I can't be morally sound, hot, sexy, talented, funny, baddest bitch on the earth, and cater
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Well, I think, I always think, too, like, that remorse you feel afterwards, that's not
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It's not, that's why sometimes people have asked me, why don't you blur names?
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When you're acting so bold in my comments or in my DMs, you think I'm not going to show
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I had a dude literally message me once and say, like, I work at a school, can you please
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And he wrote the most vile message about me and him.
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And then he wants me to worry about job security.
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If it's up to me, if I find out, I'm going to make sure you lose it.
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Well, that's why, even then, like, even if I just put your name up there because you
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sent something terrible to me, it's on me to help you afterwards.
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Like, you're going to ask me to do you a solid after you abused me verbally?
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Especially if it's someone I've never even seen.
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Like, I wasn't even talking to you about you at all.
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And sometimes, I don't know, I mean, this might be exclusive.
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But sometimes I'll get comments where they're like, I used to be a fan.
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Because then it's followed up by nothing but, like, vitriol.
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And then I go on their profile and I'll find a picture of what you look like.
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And then I'll post it somewhere and I'll be like, this is, like, what I think.
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Like, I literally, I had a dude, I made fun of what a dude looked like because he said
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And then I literally wrote, your chest is so concave if I knocked on it like a front door,
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your heart would shoot out to your back, you bird-chested ass bitch.
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And his titties, his titties were so, like, his, like, his nipples were so, like, elongated.
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I don't know if it was just cold in the room when he took the pic.
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But then I said it looked like he just bore a fresh litter.
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You said, what is, back to bone, what did you call him?
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I literally wrote that just, like, within, like, seconds.
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And she says, she's like, Drew Offalo is a real-ass bitch for real.
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Sometimes, sometimes I think, too, like, they're like, that was so, that was too far.
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Yeah, I was like, that's me fighting with one hand tied behind my back.
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You know on Twitter, people will, like, go to your bio, and if you have anyone, like,
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RIP grandma, that's terrible, but I'm like, you.
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Well, then I think, like, don't throw stones from a glass house is what I always think.
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Like, you post, you literally post, like, I had a dude once try to get me, like, with a,
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But it's like, it's supposed to be like a picture that doesn't look like you kind of thing.
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Yeah, so I posted, here's the thing about that.
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Like, if I post a picture of myself, and I look ugly because I find it funny, and then
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And it's Russell Westbrook, the basketball player or something.
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Well, it's one, yeah, it's one of those where you're like, one time I told someone he made
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Like, it was like calling me something, referencing me to something ugly.
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But then I wrote, I bet this joke would hit if I knew what you were talking about.
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I talk about, uh, one time this dude was like, you look like this person from Clash of Clans.
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And then he goes, is there something wrong with playing a video game?
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I go, no, I just think that's lame as s***, bro.
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He plays it enough to know the nuances of every single character in the sense that you can,
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It's also, okay, I, okay, so when people, like, make fun of me and, like, my beauty and,
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like, my attractiveness and stuff like that, I always feel bad going back to them.
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But then there's just, there's that voice inside of me that's like, you know how, light
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Like, the way I'm literally, like, almost so many, like, remember that trend that was
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going on on TikTok where it was, like, it was, like, a slow-mo thing and someone was
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behind them whispering something evil to them to say?
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I saw thousands of videos where people were, it was literally me telling them, telling
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I think I got one of those and it was all, like, suck his dick.
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I was telling her about, like, teaching her some insults or whatever.
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And I told her, this is also another thing, too.
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This is too nuanced for, like, the Neanderthals who hate me.
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But, like, when you make fun of hairlines, like, that's a patriarchal beauty standard.
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Take it up with your peers, babe, is what I always say.
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That double standard that men just place on themselves.
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So, that's why, if I make fun of a conventionally attractive beauty standard, that's not you being oppressed.
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But I was telling her, when you say balding, even if they're not, they're always going to think about it.
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And so, they'll write, like, what are you looking at?
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And one of my recent videos, I wrote, I'm looking at that soon-to-be-gone hairline, brother.
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I said, just because you brush it up doesn't mean I can't see it.
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Take it up with your mom, because that's actually maternal.
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Okay, so with Anna and I today, we're going to be talking basically about dating.
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Not too much before Nicki Minaj gets on my ass.
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I was talking to my therapist about this, and she was like, I think you need to consider,
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like, you're not the same person as, you know, who you were when you first came out and stuff.
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And, like, yeah, like, right now I'm, like, I'm in a position where I don't want to settle, like, at all.
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And I was going through a really bad phase where it's, like, I'm almost desperate for, like, romance and that kind of stuff because that's just who I am.
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Like, I'm just, like, yearning for that kind of connection with people.
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But then I realized, like, I don't need to, like, sell myself out just to, like, to satisfy this, like, itch that I have.
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It has the connotation that it's, like, almost addictive.
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Like, these games of, like, Tinder and Grindr and Hinge and Bumble and, like, all this, like, stuff that's, like, evolving to be, like, what the dating scene is now is, like, terrible.
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No, I've heard that, actually, a lot from a lot of my single friends.
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It's just, like, at this point, I have to consider.
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I'm also probably in this era because my, I was working with Tinder not too long ago.
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Because I needed that push to be, like, okay, wait, I don't like this.
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I don't like going through my profile and be, like, is this picture reading well?
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So, I'm, like, in this, again, I'm in this era where it's, like, oh, I need to value myself
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Because I, when I think about it, like, I'm pretty f***ing cool.
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Me and Ananiya were looking at everyone's scalps when we first met.
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We literally looked like brown giants just, like, walking around.
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Yeah, we just are looking up, like, everyone's heads are right here.
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And one of the things that I, like, try to do on Ananiya00.
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The one thing I try to do is, like, be as honest as possible with myself.
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And it's just, like, you know, this doesn't always go well.
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And he looks at, like, my sides and stuff and, like, my armpits.
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The way he was trying to have, like, a Fault in Our Stars moment with you.
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He was trying to have, like, a moment with you.
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You're sitting on your full bed in your overpriced apartment.
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I don't know if this is something I can sustain.
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Like, because I've been with my boyfriend now for five years.
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But I always like get questions about like, especially since I'm dating a cis man, they're
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I think that it's like you said, where you don't feel like you have to settle.
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So you should just always hold your standards high, even if it takes, it's going to take
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But by the time, like once you find it, it's going to be worth the wait.
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So like I, when I was in my prime ho phase, I genuinely, I would talk to boys or men or
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No, that's, that's the hardest thing that I was like struggling with.
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That's part of, that's part of the learning process.
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Cause I always say to like, sometimes I'll talk to my single friends and like some of
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my friends who are single and they'll tell me like, oh, like I just like feel like, you
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But I always say like, if you're ready right now, it will happen when it's supposed to happen.
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If it's not happening yet, you're not there yet.
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Like when in your self love journey, because no one's ever going to love you more than
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And then when you meet the right person, you're not going to, um, seek them out for
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that kind of love because you're going to already have it.
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They'll make you feel love in a much different way than how you make yourself feel when you
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So it's like, it's one of those things that you just got to be patient.
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And that's different from like that notion that like, oh, I have to be perfect.
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So where nothing can faze me, that's different than like, oh, like I need to be, I need to
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I just want that, that, um, difference to be said out loud.
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Cause it's like, uh, I, I had someone ask me a question recently, they're like, how do
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I don't know if it was like a situation ship or if it was like an actual relationship, they're
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And then, um, cause it had been like two, three years.
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And I said like, well, what you do is you remind yourself it's easier said than done,
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but you remind yourself that you were a whole person before that person came into your life
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Like you had all of these things before that person and you'll have all of them after.
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Sometimes they're not there forever and that's their loss, not yours.
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My auntie's been said the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, which
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if that works for you, that would, that would, I would probably take your advice.
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Like you could, you could, two things can be true at once, right?
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Like if that's, sometimes that, that helps people heal too.
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But I do think that the dating horror stories, we all share, share a common thread in that.
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So what we do here in the comment section is we bring videos that I was tagged in that
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are applicable to our topic and we bring them here, share the giggles, all that good stuff.
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So I'm just going to give you a summary of this first one.
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So this first one is a guy who's, uh, he's made a lot of videos giving his own dating advice.
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In this video, he says that women will always try to hook up with someone hotter than them
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and men will hook up with any woman as long as they can get it in.
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He says it's hard for guys to date online because women have an expectation of hooking up with
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someone as attractive or more attractive than them.
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He says it's hard for guys to date online because women have an expectation.
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So he says women will always try to hook up with someone hotter than them.
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And he's saying that women won't hook up with ugly men.
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So I'm like, he's saying it's harder for guys to date online because women have an expectation
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When you find out that dating is per the person.
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When you discover that not everyone's attractive.
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It's a crazy idea to think about right now that women have the choice to choose.
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And you're also openly admitting that you're ugly.
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Like you're saying like they don't pick me because I'm ugly.
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So my thing with like standards or like whatever your preferences are.
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But I always, I think to myself too, if you, especially now in this like modern age and
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you know very well, I'm sure too, because you have been online dating as well.
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But when it comes to that kind of culture that exists now, when you ask like any sort
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of, any person that's not an aggressively straight cis man, anyone else who's dating online,
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Like what, what are you looking for in a partner?
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They'll say things like someone who's respectful, funny, funny, like, yeah.
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When you ask an aggressively cis hetero man, they're like only talking about looks and
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And it's so sad to watch because it's like, you really don't care.
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And then there'll be the, there'll be the first person to be like, oh, women don't care about
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They don't want me to, they don't want me to express how I'm feeling.
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And you were looking for someone with literal pebbles for brains.
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You were just looking for something on the outside.
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It's like people like look for like this kind of like thing where they think that they would
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Like work to equal something that's, it doesn't exist.
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It's literally redundant for you to keep doing this.
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I feel like it's like almost, um, what do you call it?
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It's like, it's delusion, obviously, but I, I think too, it's, it's over complication.
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Like, yeah, the reality is like, if you are not a terrible person, um, you'll find someone
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It almost feels like men are like trying to do like a book report and they'd haven't
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read the book about like, you know, like this person does this and then they don't
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I've never, I've never dated women, but like I've seen one.
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Um, the, the delusion, I feel like, well then I think of a preference, like when it
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comes to a preference, um, I've said this in a video before, but like prefer in silence.
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Like if you, if you are like, I don't like fat women, that's my preference.
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Well, which just like in, out of curiosity, what fat person is, is pursuing you so aggressively
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My biggest thing is like, why do you think that you are so special that people are throwing
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But the, the, the attitude of like, oh, like so many people want me and I, and I have to
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Like, oh, you are not that, you are a seven and a half.
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I think, I think like, that's why sometimes they'll bring up fat women or fat people in
00:38:17.660
And I said, if you, there's the line between love and hay is razor thin, but if you keep
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talking about them, chances are, whenever I talk to women, I never have to, like, I
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never have to deal with like the, the, the notion that like, I have to explain myself.
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I have to explain like what position I like during sex and stuff.
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But whenever I talk to like men who are like looking for people with penises, it's like,
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oh my God, this is the most frustrating experience in my life.
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Like what, do you weigh, what's your muscle relation to like.
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It's like, cause you know how like dad bods are like in right now?
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It's like, you might like someone who's like a little thicker, like a dad bod, but they
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also, gay men are like, oh, they also have to have huge pecs.
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Even if it's like all, it's like not rock hard abs, but there's still stipulations.
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It's like people want an athletic aesthetic rather than an athletic lifestyle from their
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It's like, you might want someone who works out just as much as you.
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That might be your love language going to the gym together.
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But to force your partner to look like something.
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I think too, like, and this I can say with the utmost confidence because I'm with someone
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If that is the only thing you have going for you.
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Babe, you're going to die alone as you should because like you make your entire personality
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And I'm getting to a point where it's like a red flag is like, I like going to the
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I'm like, oh, I'm looking for someone, a healthy, someone who's into a healthy lifestyle.
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That's why I was like, that means no fat people.
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Because you can be fat and be healthy at the same time.
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They have access to Google and all of a sudden they go to John Hopkins.
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Immediately they have an MD because they know what fat people look like.
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That's how I always say you diagnosing people with no prior knowledge of their medical history.
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Also, when people bring up BMI, I'm always like, look up the history of BMI.
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And a lot of you'd be surprised how many people don't know that.
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Because it doesn't factor in people of color or black people literally at all.
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Like, they have, we have to deal with so much bullshit.
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Like all these different things that we just have to deal with.
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And I'm like, just because I'm a bigger person, I'm black, I'm feminine, I'm like feminine and all that kind of stuff.
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Like, I shouldn't have to, I literally should not have to deal with your, like, it's not rejection that I'm saying.
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I think the same thing about men who talk about like women who are like, like they're like all women do is date for
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I hate that when white men are like, oh, why is everyone against us?
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That's why one time I stitched a dude where he's like, what if, what if women or men treated
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I literally was like, were you born an hour ago?
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So when you talk about like the, uh, when, whether it's like money or aesthetic or whatever
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when it comes to dating, it, dating shouldn't feel like you're doing, um, a resume call.
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It shouldn't feel like you're applying for a job.
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Applying for a job, you know, applying for a job is exhausting.
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And I, that's why I think, um, before I started dating my boyfriend, um, I did, I had a Tinder
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once, but I was doing it for like a social experiment for one of my friends.
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So she was doing a project and she asked me if I'd ever had it.
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So I downloaded it to be one of her experimental people.
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I had that thing for like two months and I was like, I can't do this.
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I think that's great, but there are many that don't.
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So like, just let it happen naturally wherever it happens.
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Like my boyfriend and I went to high school together, but we're not high school sweethearts.
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Uh, so let's read some of the comments on this video.
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So, uh, women get ran through by guys out of their league and then think they're in that
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Women get ran through by guys out of their league and then they think they're in that
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Then they realized they forgot to get off the carousel at age 35.
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Lots of, there's lots of metaphors in there, babe.
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And one, and then the, the creator said, and wonder where all the good guys are and why
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When they say good guys finish last, women don't like nice guys, blah, blah, blah.
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I always think like, do you even need me for this conversation?
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I, I saw someone once talk about it in a very simple way and it kind of clicked for me.
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But they basically were saying like, when they say nice guys finish last, a lot of times
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they're talking about a woman that's like so far out of their league.
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In the sense that she is in a different stage of life.
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So like, he's like, well, women just don't want nice people.
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You're a nice guy, but you say things like this on the internet.
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Because I don't think he's doing well enough to, enough to be like, oh, you know, I'm the
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shit and women should be like falling to their knees for me.
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You think like all the women in the world and you're like, not one of them wants to be
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Sometimes you just got to get like that cold and analytic about it.
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And like, I fear you haven't self-reflected enough.
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That's like, what are the odds all the women in the world are wrong, but like Gigi Hadid
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Because they always are like, oh, I want a baddie like Bella Hadid.
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And I'm like, your high school English teacher didn't even like you.
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Do you really think all of these bitches are wrong, but Kylie Jenner won't be?
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I wish they would meet you in person and be like, you disgust me.
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And then I think I feel like the world would, you know what I mean?
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Their whole psyche would break down probably instantly.
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So this is another another guy giving dating advice for other men.
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No, I think it's I think it's to date women, I would assume.
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Harsh truth of online dating is the hottest guy always wins.
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They don't care what you have going on in your life.
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He says guys need to take professional pictures to get noticed on the apps.
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By the apps, do you mean Tinder or do you mean LinkedIn?
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I feel like this is another one of those things where men need to look into the mirror.
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The way they can't take a picture to save their life.
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Or it's like if it's if it's like a supposed to be a sexy picture or like it's like it looks like the last picture taken of them alive.
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You know, like, you know, like the like the what is it?
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Have you ever seen that show where it's like if someone gets kidnapped and they're gone for more than 48 hours, most likely they'll be gone forever.
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So the last picture you have of them is like literally the last one alive, like security cam footage outside the gas station.
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They're like, this is the last time she was spotted in public.
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Girl, like the way they can't take a picture to save their life.
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Or they'll have pictures from 10 years ago, like when like a football picture with like a helmet.
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Like, yeah, women are putting beautiful pictures of themselves out there and they require and demand the same from you.
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I mean, you need to get a professional headshot.
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That that first of all, why is that your fucking complaint?
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They really don't care about the inside whatsoever.
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So, yeah, make sure make sure you put on your Sunday best and go shoot.
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Like, you know, those ones where they're like up against a brick wall and they're like.
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That would make my butthole clench if I saw that a bad way.
00:50:14.920
They don't care about your personality and they don't care what you have going on in your life.
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Because sometimes the ugly people be the funniest ones I've ever met.
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If you can make me laugh and I'm the funniest bitch I know.
00:50:56.060
I think I've mentioned this before about when my boyfriend and I first started dating.
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Like, if he wasn't pursuing me, we probably would never be where we are now.
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But with him, like, he was very intentional about wanting to date me.
00:51:21.160
Like, and then if I didn't text him back, he'd be like, do you still want to meet tomorrow?
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And that was, like, so shocking to me because I had never really dealt with that when I was dating.
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One, I feel like a lot of people our age are, like, in this zone where they want to be approached.
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I also think it's sometimes it's, like, maybe I'm not.
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I would agree with you, too, if what you're saying is that everyone wants to be approached.
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And I think a big part of it is, like, almost an insecurity because you're worried, like, if I make the first move.
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If I make the first move and it doesn't work, then I'm going to look a fool.
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I also think it goes back to that, like, aesthetic thing.
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Like, I'm not finding the right people to approach.
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So it's kind of, like, quitting before you get fired.
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So I think when you're dating anybody, if they're intentional about wanting to see you and spend time with you, that goes so far.
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Like, if you're just, like, hey, I want to, I would really like to see you if you're available.
00:52:48.760
And you know that those people are going to screenshot it and send it to their friends and be like, oh, my God.
00:52:57.400
Because it feels nice to feel wanted, desired, whatever it may be.
00:53:04.080
The second thing about that, that comment about the hottest guy always wins.
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I feel like a lot of, especially straight men, I literally see them not try to pamper or, like, groom themselves.
00:53:15.040
And it's like, you could, like, you, oh, I don't want to say this.
00:53:22.660
But, like, you present yourself as terrible as possible.
00:53:35.840
Why are you not washing your body and trimming your hair?
00:53:45.540
Well, and the same men who feel, who do that, have these, like, impossibly high standards for women about bodily hygiene.
00:53:52.780
Women have to be hairless, but you literally look like you just came out of a f***ing drain.
00:54:02.180
You know how, like, they didn't shower for months when they came over here and they were disgusting and riddled with disease.
00:54:11.860
Like, take care of yourself in the sense that, like, you know, wash, wash your face, brush your f***ing teeth.
00:54:17.540
The amount of times, the amount of times I've been like, listen, you can say whatever you want about my teeth.
00:54:29.060
Like, at least I'm not giving my dentist a nightmare.
00:54:43.140
Okay, so some of the comments on this video, this one says, meanwhile, a woman I know never works out and has two bad, blurry mirror selfies and has hundreds of matches and messages within a few days.
00:55:01.740
Well, I'm going to go ahead and say wrong, then, if that's the case.
00:55:10.040
Like, bro, if it's working for her, it's working for her.
00:55:15.380
Like, you know, why don't you get your money up instead of your funny up, bitch?
00:55:18.000
Maybe, maybe, maybe the matches will start rolling in at that point.
00:55:21.620
I always think, too, like, when it comes to, like, how women present themselves on social media, regardless, like they said earlier, like, men, like, aggressively straight men like that are easy.
00:55:36.880
So, like, you're surprised that even if she's not presenting the best.
00:55:42.020
You're just, you're literally telling on yourself and your brothers, you know?
00:55:47.120
Like, where do you think she's getting the matches from?
00:55:52.840
It's like, I always think, like, you're right there.
00:56:09.860
They're probably still trying to figure out what red plus blue equals.
00:56:26.540
Well, I think being shallow is like, I don't, I have such strong opinions about that kind
00:56:35.720
Just that, that like ideology is so riddled with like, oh, this is a double standard.
00:56:44.140
Like, who you're attracted to is not like a one size fits all.
00:56:50.140
And so like, it, the differences that women are like, oh, well, you know, to me, he's
00:57:01.000
It's like, it's everybody's fault, but my own, that this person is ugly.
00:57:08.560
So I'm going to tell everyone around me that this person is also ugly.
00:57:13.240
Like shallow is I, to me being shallow is somebody who like, doesn't even want to engage
00:57:23.120
I mean, like friendship wise, like there are people that exist in this world that don't
00:57:26.800
want to be friends with ugly people, whatever they mean, ugly, whether they're fat, ugly,
00:57:43.860
Like if you have no matches, just say that if you're dying of pussy list behavior right
00:57:51.560
This last one says it's pretty ridiculous that men have to walk this route, taking professional
00:57:59.800
I feel like that was supposed to be like a drag on women.
00:58:04.060
But like, you want to talk about what beauty standards you have to meet in order to day.
00:58:12.360
We can go get you a good concealer, some lashes, get you into it.
00:58:17.820
Well, I think like, even if you're, if you're someone who only likes, uh, men, right.
00:58:24.000
When it comes to women and others, like the, the beauty standards that we have to uphold
00:58:29.800
or like hold ourselves to are so much more stringent than like a straight cis man.
00:58:37.480
I think that, uh, men like, like you just said, they roll out of bed and they're like,
00:58:44.680
I can't believe I have no matches and a bitch will like wax herself from head to toe.
00:58:50.920
Just, just to go on one lunch date with someone.
00:58:54.940
Like it's the, the, you want to talk double standard.
00:58:58.080
It's literally such a terrible, I can't, I can't even, it like makes me upset.
00:59:02.460
Like, why can't you just think like, think it through?
00:59:06.080
Just a little getting the energy that you put out there and it's a terrible energy.
00:59:12.980
And I think too, that like, if you want to date a specific person, like a very specific
00:59:25.160
It's the same thing with like people who only date a specific race or only date a specific
00:59:34.700
Gay men and like man loving men, like all that kind of shit.
00:59:43.020
It's like, why are we trying to impose such like heteronormative, I hate that word, heteronormative
00:59:54.060
Like you are acting just like your straight counterparts.
00:59:56.720
And I thought we were a little bit better than that.
00:59:58.860
Like it feels like almost like more evolved than that.
01:00:01.300
There's like this meme going around where it's like LG TBQIA plus.
01:00:07.280
And it's just because like gay men, like honestly bring down the community in a way that I hate
01:00:12.820
It's like, why are we, these body standards and these like preferences to have like your
01:00:17.600
perfect white twink is just like, it's harmful.
01:00:21.140
It's harmful to a degree that I can't even, like, I don't have, I feel like I don't even
01:00:26.960
Like, it's like all these people are like getting on social media and like, I'm trying
01:00:32.720
to remember like when I was 14, like if I saw like someone like me, I would have been
01:00:38.240
But then you also see the other side where it's like, you see these white queer men and
01:00:47.580
And it's like, oh, like maybe I should try to fit them because they're doing so well
01:00:55.720
It's like, what do you, what do you glean to be like, wow.
01:01:07.560
I think, I think too, like sometimes you, we forget like, because we've all been raised
01:01:14.700
Um, that like, um, a lot of these beauty standards, um, are rooted in white supremacy
01:01:19.040
and misogyny and misogyny, even if, even if you are someone who is gay, right?
01:01:24.500
So like patriarchy and misogyny has had these rampant effects on dating life and beauty and
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what we find beautiful, what we perceive to be beautiful, what we perceive to be ugly.
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So it's not our fault that we've been born in that culture, but it is our fault if we die
01:01:44.080
Because it's on us, especially as adults dating in the adult world to unlearn stuff
01:01:49.300
Like precisely ask yourself, why do I feel that way?
01:01:52.020
Like, why do I feel this like visceral distaste when someone looks a certain way?
01:01:57.640
Why do I feel like I can't date someone that doesn't look this way?
01:02:01.560
Why do I feel literally the only questions you can ask yourself?
01:02:05.300
These comments like that, like, oh, like why, why do I have to put out the energy that
01:02:11.100
It pisses me off to a certain, it's like to an extreme degree.
01:02:14.320
It's like, you're literally, you are asking for people to be better, different, sexier,
01:02:27.000
And I also think too, when, when, uh, when it comes to like, uh, makeup and if men are
01:02:32.840
like, Oh, you have, you have makeup, blah, blah, blah.
01:02:40.600
Last time I'm like, it's not as gendered as you think it, it's literally makeup.
01:02:44.540
It's, it's a, it's a thing like that doesn't have a gender.
01:02:48.120
So like, if you want to look snatched, if you want to beat a face, do it, by all means.
01:02:54.300
There's a couple of guys on TikTok now that I'm following just because I love makeup and
01:02:58.320
And they're like making their own like male, I hate male like marketing, but it works.
01:03:10.420
I saw, I saw one guy say he like showed his makeup routine because he's a male model, but
01:03:16.100
He said, this is what I do when I'm not feeling as confident.
01:03:19.740
And he was like, he wears real basic like drugstore makeup.
01:03:22.960
Kind of like concealer, powder, translucent powder.
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You can do whatever you want in this world, except be short and terrible.
01:03:42.480
So as we wrap this up, what is it that you want people to know when it comes to dating
01:03:55.940
I feel like my, I feel like if there's one thing that I do on this planet, I hope that
01:04:00.860
it's teach people like you are allowed to express yourself the way you want.
01:04:08.640
And I want them to feel like loved at the end of the day.
01:04:13.900
So when it comes to dating, I hope that you respect yourself, you learn to love yourself, and you find ways to always hold on to that.
01:04:29.140
Because my biggest problem, like getting to this point where I am now today, it's like, I was so willing to change and like be a chameleon and like adapt to other people just so I can like fulfill this like fantasy that I've been seeing in all the media I was growing up with.
01:04:45.660
But, you know, like I love like Pride and Prejudice and like all those like romantic, like overly exaggerated, like romantics and scenarios.
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And I am at this point now where I deserve that.
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I challenge everyone who's watching this to just like love yourself enough to just require and demand what you need.
01:05:21.640
And I think, too, I want to mention this, too, that people like you are so important to have on social media because, like you mentioned earlier, what you could do for somebody who's young or even somebody who's older, right, who sees you living your truth and being open and honest and vulnerable.
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So the world needs people like you because we need you to take up space.
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We need you to, like, establish a presence because when it comes to talking about things like dating, it is so much, it holds so much more weight for people, for kids who look like you, who may relate to you and whatever it may be to hear you talking about dating.
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Obviously, like, I'm someone who is dating a man.
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But, like, as, like, a woman, as, like, a woman of color, as a thick girl, right, like, someone who's navigated dating and now does this for a living, I can, like, say with the utmost conviction that, like, holding your standards high is a good thing.
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And, God, I wish I beat that into myself a lot earlier.
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It's never too late to start loving yourself more than anyone else could.
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When it comes to makeup and when it also comes to singing, Ananiya.
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