The Comment Section with Drew Afualo


Analyzing Your Relationships ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION with Drew Afualo ｜ Ep. 2


Summary

On this episode of the Comment Section Show, Drew is joined by Emily Grayson to talk about relationships and attachment theories. Drew and Emily talk about how attachment theories work and how they can be applied to relationships and how to deal with them.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I am ready to get hurt again. Yeah. I have taken my time. Yeah. I feel. Yeah. I'm ready to reopen it. Run it back. Yeah. Let's run it back one more time. Shits and giggles. I'm a little bored in my life. Run it back. That's just lesbianism, though. That's just how it is. That's just how it be sometimes, I think.
00:00:16.320 Hey, what's up, y'all? And welcome back to the comment section show with me, your girl, that bitch, Drew. And I tell you all the time, I am not just a menace on TikTok. I'm spreading like poison ivy, bitch, to every platform. And I'm bringing everybody with me.
00:00:35.200 So on this episode, this very special episode of the comment section show, I have the one, the only, the wonderful Emily Grayson.
00:00:43.840 Hello. Hello. They're clapping, but you can't hear them, I promise. There's definitely people here. It's not just the two of us.
00:00:49.560 Yeah, everyone's clapping. It's not silent, I promise. They are literally, they are soaked. Their panties are soaked.
00:00:54.460 Their panties are soaked. They're on their knees. They cannot believe it. They're shaking, they're convulsing, they're throwing up.
00:01:00.120 Shaking, crying, throwing up, sliding down the wall. Yeah. I'm so glad to have you here, Emily.
00:01:03.920 Thank you so much for joining me. Thank you for having me. I honestly, so f***ing excited to have Emily here.
00:01:10.080 We're, basically what we do here, Emily, if you're unaware, is on the comment section show, we'll basically show two videos that I got tagged in.
00:01:17.920 And then we're going to bring in some hot stuff that you got tagged in. And I always like to say, too, that basically what we do here is I like to ruin people's days.
00:01:25.360 I love that. Essentially. I do it already on TikTok, but now, like I said, I'm spreading to all the platforms.
00:01:31.380 I think you should go to lives, like you're like days, but you should like be like, I want to ruin their lives.
00:01:35.920 I mean, I guess that in a sense, I am ruining their lives.
00:01:39.180 Okay, yeah.
00:01:39.720 I'm ruining their days so much that they think about me forever.
00:01:42.500 Yeah.
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00:02:42.920 I guess that translates to a life.
00:02:44.140 Exactly.
00:02:44.580 Right? I'm a lifelong, like, I'm like a tumor.
00:02:46.880 Yeah.
00:02:47.280 You just put me in that head, I'm going to grow.
00:02:49.020 Yeah, grow, grow, grow, grow.
00:02:49.920 I'm going to go crazy in that head.
00:02:51.500 I'm going to go stupid in that head.
00:02:52.900 Okay. Chemo radiation cannot stop you.
00:02:56.720 Nothing's getting in the way. I'm inevitable, technically.
00:03:01.420 So, basically, on this episode, Emily's going to help me look at these videos that I got tagged in.
00:03:06.960 But our topic for today is relationships and, more specifically, attachment theories.
00:03:13.880 So, like, I, honestly, let me ask you first.
00:03:16.880 How familiar are you with attachment theories?
00:03:18.600 So familiar.
00:03:20.720 You should, like, I've been reading a book on attachment theories because, girl, am I anxious?
00:03:27.740 Like, you don't want to know.
00:03:29.320 I know enough.
00:03:30.180 I know enough to get by.
00:03:31.300 Okay.
00:03:31.480 Kind of like astrology.
00:03:32.520 Okay.
00:03:32.740 Like, I know enough to, like, talk my way through a conversation.
00:03:35.100 Yeah.
00:03:35.500 But I wouldn't say I'm an expert.
00:03:37.140 Okay, so, but how are you, how do you act?
00:03:39.260 I mean, you've been in a relationship for a minute.
00:03:40.920 Yeah.
00:03:41.120 So, it's, it's going well.
00:03:42.720 Yeah, I would say, yeah, I would say my, it's a secure attachment.
00:03:46.640 So, you have good parents.
00:03:49.320 Essentially, yeah.
00:03:50.380 Good for you.
00:03:50.940 I would say you're, like, I can tell.
00:03:52.780 Yeah.
00:03:53.440 Based off your attachment theory.
00:03:57.660 I think I wanted to really dive into this because I've seen your videos on attachment theory.
00:04:03.000 And how you were, like, I wish I was avoidant.
00:04:04.940 Yeah.
00:04:05.280 I saw that one.
00:04:06.300 I have an ex who's avoidant.
00:04:07.760 I'm, like, girl, you're just a robot.
00:04:09.820 Like, must be nice.
00:04:11.120 Must be nice to never feel anything.
00:04:12.940 Yeah.
00:04:13.120 And never be worried.
00:04:14.100 She wrote me, like, a seven-page letter about how she's never felt anything before.
00:04:18.220 Like, she just doesn't have emotions.
00:04:19.680 And I'm, like, girl, that's fun, though.
00:04:21.440 Like, good for you.
00:04:22.300 Like, I wish.
00:04:23.420 Okay, so, the first video that I'm going to show you, Emily, the wall, I'm going to describe it to you.
00:04:27.980 I'm going to give you a, I'm going to paint you a picture.
00:04:30.180 Love it.
00:04:30.420 Right?
00:04:30.980 And so, I'm sure you're familiar, but there's a podcast.
00:04:34.960 I won't say the name of it.
00:04:36.180 Okay.
00:04:36.500 But it's two baldies.
00:04:39.220 And they talk shit on women all the time.
00:04:41.280 That could be anybody.
00:04:42.460 Mm-hmm.
00:04:42.800 But these men, in particular, go viral all the time on TikTok for the worst reasons.
00:04:46.400 Okay.
00:04:46.940 And so, basically, this is a clip of him talking to a woman who was formerly in a relationship with a famous NBA player.
00:04:55.600 Okay.
00:04:56.100 And they broke up.
00:04:57.520 Like, she had his baby when they were together.
00:05:00.300 Basically, they broke up because he, like, couldn't stop putting his dick in other bitches.
00:05:04.300 Oh, I know.
00:05:05.020 Yeah, you know the one.
00:05:05.740 I'm aware.
00:05:06.160 I'm aware.
00:05:06.360 Yeah, so, basically, he couldn't stop cheating.
00:05:08.580 And so, she was like, I'm not this bitch, but you're definitely taking care of this baby with me.
00:05:12.820 So, of course, all the men are like, gold digger.
00:05:15.600 Right?
00:05:16.120 Yeah.
00:05:16.340 Like, just trying to eviscerate her for, like, I don't know, asking for an active father figure in her child's life.
00:05:22.500 Yeah.
00:05:22.920 Crazy.
00:05:23.640 It's just so crazy to ask.
00:05:24.660 Like, women expect way too much.
00:05:26.660 Yeah.
00:05:27.840 I have to, like, be responsible for the consequences of my own actions.
00:05:31.300 Nothing's ever good enough.
00:05:32.580 So, basically, this dude is telling her to her face.
00:05:35.400 It's a dude that's not in any way, shape, or form affected by her relationship.
00:05:40.520 Okay.
00:05:40.840 Whether or not she has one or not with this dude.
00:05:42.760 He's basically telling her that she should stay and work it out with him.
00:05:46.600 You should stay.
00:05:47.600 You should stay.
00:05:48.840 I mean, if it were me, if I was the girl, which, pause.
00:05:51.780 Yeah.
00:05:51.960 I feel like maybe there's something there.
00:05:56.720 Yeah.
00:05:56.880 That you should look into.
00:05:57.800 Yeah.
00:05:58.160 He's like, if it were me and I was with him.
00:06:00.920 Hmm.
00:06:03.360 And so, he's basically telling her to stay with a cheater.
00:06:06.040 Oh.
00:06:07.140 Which, I mean, I'm sure, like, anxious attachment styles, people stay with them, too.
00:06:10.500 Yeah.
00:06:11.280 But, okay, wait, wait.
00:06:12.060 He's saying to stay with him because why?
00:06:16.160 Because he's the father of her children?
00:06:18.700 Well, he, basically, well, that's the kicker.
00:06:21.660 Okay.
00:06:22.020 No.
00:06:22.500 That's not the reason why.
00:06:23.800 Oh.
00:06:23.960 Which would make the most sense.
00:06:25.400 Okay.
00:06:25.580 Right?
00:06:25.780 Even though abuse at the hands, like, that kind of emotional abuse just for the sake of
00:06:30.560 a child is not fair.
00:06:31.560 Yeah.
00:06:31.760 Because then you both are bad parents to their child, right?
00:06:34.300 Yeah.
00:06:34.580 Yeah.
00:06:34.600 But he was basically telling her because he's a one percenter man.
00:06:38.320 One percenter.
00:06:39.440 Oh.
00:06:39.580 Which is, like, a wealthy, influential person.
00:06:42.180 Okay.
00:06:42.880 Then she should try to work it out with him.
00:06:44.700 That's his reason.
00:06:46.240 Yeah.
00:06:46.580 So, why would you encourage someone to stay in that situation?
00:06:49.400 Yeah.
00:06:50.200 I feel like anxious people, though, are more, like, not the type to, like, be complacent.
00:06:58.640 Like, I feel like that might be more avoidant, honestly.
00:07:01.480 Because anxious people are, like, the ones that's, like, are always, like, what's wrong?
00:07:06.340 Like, why are you acting weird?
00:07:07.440 Yeah.
00:07:07.620 Like, are you cheating on me?
00:07:08.520 Yeah.
00:07:08.640 But, like, the people who are just, like, oh, I'm just going to let you, like, I know
00:07:11.920 you're cheating on me and I'm just going to, like, not say anything about it.
00:07:14.380 Yeah, that's a good point.
00:07:15.520 That's, like, that might be more avoidant.
00:07:17.660 Yeah.
00:07:17.820 Because it's just, like, ignorance is bliss.
00:07:20.300 Like, I'm just going to take your money.
00:07:21.700 I don't want to know.
00:07:22.740 Yeah.
00:07:23.080 I'm just going to not, I'm not going to acknowledge my emotions.
00:07:25.640 I'm pretending that I'm fine.
00:07:27.020 Yeah.
00:07:27.440 Like, I'm cool.
00:07:28.300 It's fine.
00:07:28.840 Yeah.
00:07:29.340 Like, I know.
00:07:30.120 And who cares?
00:07:30.660 I feel like anxious would be, like, well, why are you acting this way?
00:07:33.860 Like, why don't you love me anymore?
00:07:35.320 Like, blah, blah, blah.
00:07:38.640 For the other shoe to drop all the time.
00:07:40.400 Yeah.
00:07:40.780 Yeah.
00:07:41.040 I feel like, I just find it so f***ing ironic because this mentality, and I said this in
00:07:46.400 my video, is, like, adopted by normal ass dudes.
00:07:49.420 Yeah.
00:07:49.800 They're like, I don't get it.
00:07:51.540 Like, I work at f***ing AutoZone and you don't want to stay with me when I cheat on you?
00:07:55.420 Yeah.
00:07:55.600 That's crazy.
00:07:56.460 They're like, I have, like, an average sized dick and I work at AutoZone and, like, I get
00:08:01.540 Victory Royale on Fortnite all the time.
00:08:04.380 And you're telling me that that's not enough?
00:08:06.220 Yeah.
00:08:06.680 Like, I also can't cheat on you?
00:08:08.180 Yeah.
00:08:08.480 That's what you're saying?
00:08:09.200 That this, like, mentality of, like, one percenters, like, they, like, can do whatever
00:08:13.060 they want.
00:08:14.100 Okay.
00:08:14.780 But you're not one of them.
00:08:16.000 Yeah.
00:08:16.520 I just find it so odd that, like, these f***ing plebeians are speaking on behalf of rich people
00:08:21.820 all the f***ing time.
00:08:22.640 They're like, if that were me, it's not.
00:08:24.880 Yeah.
00:08:25.700 Stop that sentence right there.
00:08:26.760 It's not.
00:08:27.140 It's not.
00:08:27.600 And it's never going to be.
00:08:28.640 It's never going to be.
00:08:29.300 Mr. Best Buy.
00:08:30.120 It's not in the cards for you.
00:08:31.660 Yeah.
00:08:31.940 You know what I mean?
00:08:32.460 Like, you're working at Enterprise Rental Car forever.
00:08:34.720 Yeah.
00:08:34.960 You're working at Alamo for the rest of your life.
00:08:36.860 And even if it was, like, what are you really bringing to the table besides money?
00:08:41.280 Like, no one really care.
00:08:42.640 Like, women don't really care that much.
00:08:44.560 They think they care that much about them.
00:08:45.800 I mean, I'm sure there are some, like, sometimes on my For You page, I see, you know, 18-year-olds
00:08:51.680 with these 70-year-old sugar daddies and make it for you.
00:08:54.480 Like, that's fine.
00:08:55.520 You're having fun.
00:08:55.800 Do what you gotta do.
00:08:56.680 But that's not most women.
00:08:59.500 I mean, I'm not going to speak.
00:09:00.520 I don't know.
00:09:01.200 I don't know women.
00:09:02.380 I can speak on women.
00:09:02.540 Well, even those, like, subset of women who, like, again, it's reciprocal.
00:09:07.040 Like, they know.
00:09:07.980 Yeah.
00:09:08.160 They're all hip to the game.
00:09:09.380 They all know exactly why they're there.
00:09:10.800 Yeah.
00:09:11.220 He's there because she's hot and young.
00:09:13.120 There's nothing else going on.
00:09:14.560 And they think, that's so funny because they think that they're winning for that.
00:09:17.360 But really, the woman is winning for that.
00:09:19.380 Like, you're losing for that, my guy.
00:09:21.860 Like, you're not winning.
00:09:22.740 You're losing.
00:09:23.400 Someone's taking your money.
00:09:24.560 They're using you literally for your money.
00:09:26.240 And you're winning, question mark.
00:09:27.760 She won't even let you touch her.
00:09:29.380 Yeah, literally.
00:09:30.460 Like, at all.
00:09:31.120 Can you Venmo me those $700 first?
00:09:33.540 She's like, no, no, no.
00:09:34.520 No.
00:09:35.100 Like, she doesn't even send him pics.
00:09:36.420 I didn't get my payment last week.
00:09:38.500 Then I'll hang out with you.
00:09:39.500 Yeah.
00:09:39.820 And you're winning.
00:09:41.020 And they're like, period.
00:09:42.700 Like, I got a hot piece of ass.
00:09:44.140 Yeah.
00:09:44.940 Well, and then there's those two.
00:09:46.720 And then there's a bunch of baldies on the outskirts being like, that's so fucked.
00:09:51.960 Yeah.
00:09:52.480 You're dating for money.
00:09:54.060 Yeah.
00:09:54.260 And it's kind of like, you're not even in the equation.
00:09:56.640 Yeah.
00:09:57.160 You're so worried about how other people are eating.
00:09:59.540 Yeah.
00:09:59.800 That's what I think all the time.
00:10:00.860 You're starving out here.
00:10:02.320 You're not making any type of sense of what you're saying.
00:10:05.180 Yeah.
00:10:05.860 You're telling bitches to stay with people with money.
00:10:10.620 But then when they're staying with them, they're like, oh, but you're, they're just using them
00:10:14.380 for their money.
00:10:15.040 What do you want?
00:10:16.320 You're ugly.
00:10:17.640 That's exactly my point.
00:10:18.660 You're ugly and you're mad.
00:10:19.480 Yeah.
00:10:19.760 Look.
00:10:20.240 Just say that.
00:10:20.780 It is what it is.
00:10:21.440 It is what it is.
00:10:21.940 Like, it's okay.
00:10:22.760 Yeah.
00:10:22.940 We can all be upfront about it.
00:10:24.100 Yeah.
00:10:24.220 It's fine.
00:10:24.940 You know what I mean?
00:10:25.400 And we're all aware.
00:10:26.460 You're just not.
00:10:27.220 It's not a secret.
00:10:28.380 It's not a secret.
00:10:29.000 We all have eyes.
00:10:30.100 Exactly.
00:10:30.400 You know what I mean?
00:10:31.080 The God gave us all this, the gift of sight.
00:10:33.440 Yeah.
00:10:33.680 For a reason.
00:10:34.400 Yeah.
00:10:34.860 So we could recognize it.
00:10:36.000 I could smell that shit from a mile away.
00:10:37.680 I'm like, I've never seen someone hate from outside the clubs.
00:10:40.160 It's hard, dude.
00:10:41.100 They're like, if that were me.
00:10:43.920 We get it.
00:10:44.900 If that were you, but it's not.
00:10:46.360 But it's not.
00:10:47.760 So some of the comments on this video are funny, but this one says bro got his heart
00:10:52.740 broken in high school and decided to make it his entire personality.
00:10:56.240 Yeah.
00:10:57.000 It's fucking like, I got done so wrong back in the day when I was 14.
00:11:01.800 He asked, so he prom poses someone, they said no in front of everyone, and now he has
00:11:06.480 it out for everyone else.
00:11:08.420 He's like, just being mean to everyone he meets.
00:11:11.180 I hate all women for the rest of my life.
00:11:13.260 He probably asked out some girl who like, never even talked, he's never talked to in
00:11:18.360 his life.
00:11:18.920 Yeah.
00:11:19.240 And he was like, will you go to prom with me?
00:11:20.620 And she's like, who are you?
00:11:22.200 And she was like, you know what?
00:11:23.960 I'm okay.
00:11:24.620 And he was like, bitch, dude.
00:11:26.240 He's like, women.
00:11:27.340 These bitches, they just, they're all the same.
00:11:29.460 Basically, okay, so we're going to play an attachment theory game where I'm going to
00:11:33.100 explain something to you and then you've got to guess which attachment theory it is.
00:11:37.000 Okay.
00:11:37.220 But before we do that, let's talk about the different attachment theories.
00:11:39.960 Secure, which is like, good one.
00:11:42.660 Yeah.
00:11:42.900 And then there's anxious, which is just basically temp gauging constantly.
00:11:47.040 Right.
00:11:47.480 Whether it's like in an antagonistic way or in kind of like a worrisome way.
00:11:51.920 And then there's avoidant, which is robot.
00:11:54.560 Yeah.
00:11:55.000 Right.
00:11:55.400 Robot.
00:11:55.860 Black mirror robot.
00:11:56.820 Yeah.
00:11:57.060 No, no, no, no, no.
00:11:57.900 Yeah.
00:11:58.800 That's, mm-mm, mm-mm, mm-mm, mm-mm.
00:12:01.280 That's what that is.
00:12:02.380 Girl, you got no feelings.
00:12:03.300 And I think there's disorganized attachment theory, which from what I read is kind of like
00:12:07.980 you have this intense attachment to someone, but you're also very, you live like almost
00:12:13.100 in fear of them.
00:12:14.500 So like, it's almost like a fear of loss, but also a fear just in general, like an intimidation.
00:12:20.680 That's so interesting.
00:12:21.200 Yeah, which I, it's, you know, from what I read stems from abuse of some kind, so warning.
00:12:27.380 Yeah.
00:12:27.580 Right.
00:12:27.780 But like, it could be any kind of, any kind of abuse really.
00:12:30.540 But like, it's almost like, uh, like you keep coming back to something that's hurting
00:12:35.760 you, which is.
00:12:37.080 Oh, I'll be doing that.
00:12:38.420 I mean, it's fun.
00:12:40.460 You're like, I know you're bad for me, but I'm attracted to you because of that.
00:12:45.160 You're like, you know what?
00:12:45.840 I am ready to get hurt again.
00:12:47.160 Yeah.
00:12:47.480 I have taken my time.
00:12:49.120 I've healed.
00:12:49.920 Yeah.
00:12:50.160 I'm ready to reopen it.
00:12:50.900 Run it back.
00:12:51.640 Yeah.
00:12:52.460 Let's run it back one more time.
00:12:53.920 For shits and giggles, I'm a little bored in my life.
00:12:56.480 Run it back.
00:12:57.080 That's just lesbianism, though.
00:12:58.340 I don't know.
00:12:59.360 That's just how it is.
00:13:00.040 That's just how it be sometimes, I think.
00:13:03.020 Yeah.
00:13:03.420 You know what?
00:13:04.220 That's why I'm like, I'm so aggressively heterosexual, unfortunately, for myself.
00:13:07.980 It's another world.
00:13:09.140 Yeah.
00:13:09.440 It's so different.
00:13:10.580 Attachment theories, I think, get more nuanced because women are smarter.
00:13:14.020 So women are more emotionally mature and cognizant than men.
00:13:16.640 Yeah.
00:13:17.900 Yeah.
00:13:18.520 They're also more like attached and like, hee hee hee hee.
00:13:21.840 Yeah.
00:13:22.360 Everything's fine.
00:13:23.160 There's so much more like emotionally in tune than men.
00:13:26.540 Like men are like f***ing Anderthals.
00:13:28.320 No, yeah.
00:13:28.900 And that's why I feel like, but also that's why I feel like issues in like straight relationships
00:13:36.260 go on.
00:13:38.940 On like addressed.
00:13:40.140 Yeah.
00:13:40.320 Addressed for so long because the men are just so unaware and the women are like, I just don't
00:13:44.720 even feel like bringing it up to them.
00:13:46.520 So they're just like together for so long and there's no issues, but like there are issues.
00:13:51.780 They're just not aware.
00:13:52.720 They're just kind of like playing a blind eye.
00:13:54.220 Yeah.
00:13:54.460 We're like women are like, you breathe weird 36 seconds ago.
00:13:57.960 Are you cheating on me?
00:13:59.000 Let's sit and talk about it.
00:14:00.120 Yeah.
00:14:00.440 We have a lot to discuss.
00:14:01.560 Yeah.
00:14:01.920 You gave me a very weird look today.
00:14:03.260 Yeah.
00:14:03.440 And you didn't hug me long enough before you left.
00:14:05.280 Exactly.
00:14:05.820 No, that's literally lesbianism.
00:14:07.860 That's it.
00:14:08.040 I feel like maybe something's wrong.
00:14:10.100 Yeah.
00:14:10.600 And like speaking of, we're going to play this attachment theory game.
00:14:13.860 So I'm going to read something out to you and then you can like guess what attachment
00:14:17.780 theory that would be.
00:14:18.800 Okay.
00:14:19.260 So this says you quickly obsess over the people you date.
00:14:23.280 Anxious.
00:14:24.780 I don't know.
00:14:25.960 You were laughing, but I didn't know if you felt called out by that.
00:14:28.520 Is that, does that apply to you?
00:14:29.360 No, I'm actually the opposite.
00:14:30.480 Okay, cool.
00:14:31.460 That's where you said you could be multiple at the same time.
00:14:34.080 Yeah.
00:14:34.780 Also just to get more gay, I'm a Sagittarius moon.
00:14:38.220 So just no one intrigues me ever.
00:14:40.260 So it takes me a long time to like someone.
00:14:42.600 Gotcha.
00:14:42.780 That's actually anti-lesbian because people are like, they're a U-Haul.
00:14:46.700 Like I'm obsessed with you right away, but I'm just like, who are you?
00:14:49.660 Like I don't like people.
00:14:50.980 You're like, I don't trust you yet.
00:14:51.840 Yeah.
00:14:52.200 Right?
00:14:52.540 It takes me so long to like someone.
00:14:53.520 They got to get past that firewall before they can really get to know you.
00:14:57.000 Like anyone could just say that they like me, but like who, do you really though?
00:15:02.040 But do you?
00:15:02.740 Yeah.
00:15:03.260 Yeah.
00:15:04.920 Well, that's also anxious waiting for the other shoe to drop.
00:15:07.560 True.
00:15:07.780 Right?
00:15:08.500 Yeah.
00:15:08.740 Okay.
00:15:09.420 So this one is easily trust others.
00:15:12.400 Anxious or secure?
00:15:13.900 It's secure.
00:15:15.320 Which is odd because I guess that's why I'm saying like, I think I'm anxious and secure
00:15:20.560 because I don't very easily trust others.
00:15:23.020 Yeah.
00:15:23.320 No fucking way, dude.
00:15:24.920 The Virgo in me won't let me.
00:15:26.860 This one is insecure in relationships and are chasing people.
00:15:30.740 And are chasing people?
00:15:32.740 Yeah.
00:15:32.920 I think you're just like, I don't know.
00:15:35.160 I guess it's just like anxious.
00:15:36.640 Yeah.
00:15:37.020 Yes.
00:15:37.460 It says insecure in relationships.
00:15:39.600 Swag.
00:15:40.420 I think that's pretty obvious.
00:15:41.640 Yeah.
00:15:42.100 Yeah.
00:15:42.400 Because this one's having a hard time taking criticism.
00:15:46.440 Avoidant.
00:15:47.040 Yeah.
00:15:48.240 Yeah.
00:15:48.840 New right off the bat.
00:15:50.100 Oh, I'm aware.
00:15:51.120 Right off the bat.
00:15:52.180 Avoidant.
00:15:52.680 Yeah.
00:15:52.880 They're just like, I'm not trying to deal with this.
00:15:54.700 They're like, I did something wrong that hurt your feelings.
00:15:58.200 You're attacking me.
00:16:00.880 They're literally like, I'm sorry that you reacted that way.
00:16:03.940 I'm sorry that that made you feel that way, the way that I acted.
00:16:07.580 I'm sorry that you reacted so poorly to the really mean thing I said to you.
00:16:11.580 Literally.
00:16:11.920 That's kind of seemed like it's on you a little bit.
00:16:14.280 Yeah.
00:16:14.600 But I mean.
00:16:15.220 It kind of seems like a you issue.
00:16:16.200 Yeah.
00:16:16.560 That seems like you don't really need me for that conversation.
00:16:19.080 Yeah.
00:16:19.500 I'm going to go to sleep.
00:16:21.480 And they like, they sleep fine at night knowing that they did something really mean.
00:16:25.160 Knowing they just don't give a shit.
00:16:26.620 They're like, see ya.
00:16:28.560 Yeah.
00:16:28.760 Okay, so for this next section, we're going to go over another video that I got tagged
00:16:35.540 in, which is actually a positive one for once.
00:16:38.000 Right.
00:16:38.500 And I was telling Emily, my mentions are hot dumpster fire.
00:16:42.380 No.
00:16:42.700 It's Garbo in there.
00:16:43.880 I can't imagine.
00:16:44.860 A cesspool, truly.
00:16:45.940 Mm-mm.
00:16:46.340 I'm like a little raccoon, like digging through it every day.
00:16:48.420 Yeah.
00:16:49.140 No.
00:16:49.600 Looking for treasure.
00:16:50.520 Even just like anytime your video pops up on my For You page, like the first 10 seconds,
00:16:54.740 I'm like, what?
00:16:55.340 Like, what TikTok am I on?
00:16:57.880 And then I hit that, like your cute little hyena laugh.
00:17:02.100 And I'm like, oh, let's fucking get it.
00:17:03.660 She's about to fucking.
00:17:04.500 You're like, yeah, I get comments like that all the time.
00:17:06.600 They're like, I got to trust the algorithm just a little bit more.
00:17:09.560 Okay, so this one was basically, it was positive, but essentially it's about secure relationships
00:17:15.280 and they like wanted to share, which is like way to rub it in your face.
00:17:19.400 We get it.
00:17:20.420 You're secure.
00:17:21.580 We get it.
00:17:21.960 You're not mentally ill.
00:17:22.720 You're happy.
00:17:23.740 You're in a loving, healthy relationship.
00:17:25.960 Cool.
00:17:26.620 Good for you.
00:17:27.060 Okay.
00:17:28.840 So they basically talk about how they, the saying never go to bed angry is bullshit.
00:17:35.280 And sometimes you have to go to bed angry, I think, to like process.
00:17:39.220 So like, what are your initial thoughts on that?
00:17:42.480 I agree.
00:17:43.480 Yeah.
00:17:44.000 Honestly, because I've been with someone who they're like, I just don't want to go to bed
00:17:48.940 angry.
00:17:49.540 Emily, but like we're like, we, when we were together, we'd be like fighting and I'd be
00:17:54.040 like, can we please just table this in the morning?
00:17:56.660 Yeah.
00:17:57.220 And she'd be like, Emily, Emily, please.
00:18:00.060 And I'm like, we said everything we could say tonight.
00:18:02.860 Maybe we should just blow off some steam.
00:18:05.420 Sometimes like you can't just fix it before you go to sleep just because you're about
00:18:09.980 to go to sleep.
00:18:10.780 Yeah.
00:18:11.020 Emotions don't work that way.
00:18:12.520 Yeah.
00:18:12.760 You know, like it almost like prolongs it.
00:18:14.920 It's not natural to be like, okay, everything's fine when it's not like you feel things you
00:18:19.920 can't control when you're going to stop being upset about something.
00:18:23.660 Exactly.
00:18:24.060 Like when it actually, when you actually feel fine, like say that, but like, you know,
00:18:28.340 you know, what's funny is it's like so ironic that I'm talking about this because I was that
00:18:32.740 bitch.
00:18:32.980 Like I literally was like, it wasn't like go to bed, angry thing.
00:18:35.660 I just was like, I want to fix this now.
00:18:37.280 And like my boyfriend is like, I literally, my brain is out of words, like literally.
00:18:42.420 And it's so funny because he's like, you, when we would like grow and evolve through
00:18:46.760 it.
00:18:46.920 Cause like when we fought like crazy, it was, it was hard to like see it going well.
00:18:50.900 Yeah.
00:18:51.340 But then like when we would like, he would communicate to me finally, he would be like,
00:18:55.080 you just think so fast.
00:18:56.440 Like you just say all these things and you talk so fast.
00:18:58.960 I'm like, I don't like, I cannot think that fast.
00:19:01.200 Like you process so quickly and like you say all these things.
00:19:04.360 And then I'm like, Oh my God.
00:19:05.460 Like I, he just can't keep up with me when I'm in that state.
00:19:08.600 Like someone, sometimes people were like, Oh, like when you fight with your boyfriend,
00:19:11.820 like, do you do it like this?
00:19:13.420 Like when I roast people, I'm like, there's nothing funny about when I'm angry with my
00:19:16.960 boyfriend.
00:19:17.760 There's no laughing.
00:19:18.740 Yeah.
00:19:19.040 There's zero laughing.
00:19:20.100 No one is laughing.
00:19:20.860 It's honestly terrifying.
00:19:22.240 I give him all the props, but you know what?
00:19:24.600 He's fucking hard to deal with too.
00:19:26.160 So we're like real equal, I think match.
00:19:28.440 Yeah.
00:19:28.640 But he had to tell me that I honestly had to learn.
00:19:31.540 Like my sister taught me that she was like, sometimes space is good.
00:19:34.460 Yeah.
00:19:34.660 Sometimes taking some time away is good.
00:19:36.160 I had to learn.
00:19:37.060 I was that bitch too.
00:19:37.880 Yeah.
00:19:38.120 Okay.
00:19:38.600 I'll be honest.
00:19:39.440 I was that bitch too.
00:19:40.480 I was a bitch like, can we fix it?
00:19:42.180 Like, please.
00:19:42.620 Like I'm freaky.
00:19:43.160 And then I realized that like, you can't just, we could both fake that everything's
00:19:49.800 okay.
00:19:50.060 Now we're going to sleep, but we're just like, you can't rush something.
00:19:53.600 If you're rushing it, it's not really going to be fixed.
00:19:55.560 Oh, just so you can sleep peacefully tonight.
00:19:58.200 Yeah.
00:19:58.500 But then the problem is going to linger and it's going to turn into something bigger.
00:20:01.700 Yeah.
00:20:01.980 That's why I was, I would always be like, well, we have to fix it now.
00:20:04.520 And he'd be like, why?
00:20:06.080 And I'm like, I don't know.
00:20:08.040 Because I said so.
00:20:09.040 What do you mean?
00:20:09.500 Why?
00:20:10.020 Good point.
00:20:10.820 Yeah.
00:20:11.020 You're all, he's got me on the ropes.
00:20:12.700 Yeah.
00:20:13.020 So that's, I was like, Oh, I got nothing to say back.
00:20:15.240 I'm like, okay, well, you got me there.
00:20:19.000 Nothing gets me more mad than when he has like a solid point.
00:20:21.640 When he says something right.
00:20:22.540 You're like, yeah.
00:20:22.880 And then I'm all, whatever.
00:20:25.160 You know what?
00:20:25.640 I'm all, why are we even fighting?
00:20:26.940 You like growl at him.
00:20:28.200 I'm like, you know what?
00:20:30.260 You're just gaslighting me.
00:20:31.540 I just like start gaslighting him back like immediately.
00:20:33.760 Cause I'm like, nah, don't do that.
00:20:35.360 That's a joke.
00:20:36.240 Relax.
00:20:36.600 That's why I can't imagine being with a man.
00:20:38.840 Cause anything he'd say, even because like, if a girl like says something right, I'm like,
00:20:42.880 okay, like you're right.
00:20:44.040 Queen.
00:20:44.440 Like you're a queen.
00:20:45.560 Yeah.
00:20:45.840 But if a man said something right, I'd be like, I'd be like, I'd find something.
00:20:49.880 I'd find something.
00:20:50.900 I'd find water in that desert.
00:20:51.940 I'd find something.
00:20:53.020 I would dig so far deep.
00:20:54.480 I literally, I literally said too, cause my boyfriend and I have known each other since
00:20:59.440 high school.
00:21:00.140 So we've known each other for like over 10 years, but like everyone's like, Oh, high school
00:21:03.720 sweethearts.
00:21:04.380 No, dude.
00:21:05.140 No fucking way.
00:21:06.200 If we dated and I think we would have killed each other.
00:21:08.360 Yeah.
00:21:08.680 I'd be in jail.
00:21:09.540 Yeah.
00:21:09.820 And by week, I mean, I would have killed him because he was infuriating in high school.
00:21:13.560 So I wasn't nearly emotionally materna to be with him, let alone anybody at that age.
00:21:19.580 Yeah.
00:21:19.820 Like when I'm like 17.
00:21:20.860 Yeah.
00:21:21.220 So I used to be that like, you know, what's funny though, going to bed angry, a nice alternative
00:21:25.420 to that is like, not that, but like never like leave the house without saying I love
00:21:30.100 you.
00:21:30.580 I'm not advocating for going to bed angry.
00:21:33.240 Yeah.
00:21:33.520 But go to bed respecting each other still.
00:21:38.080 Yeah.
00:21:38.260 We love each other, respect each other, but we're not done with this conversation yet.
00:21:41.840 And I don't feel okay yet.
00:21:43.860 And that's okay.
00:21:44.720 We're still good.
00:21:45.880 Yeah.
00:21:46.120 I still love you, but I'm not just like, okay, everything's fine.
00:21:49.680 I feel fine now.
00:21:50.520 Yeah.
00:21:50.740 Like that's just unnatural.
00:21:51.920 Yeah.
00:21:52.100 And that's because me, I'm like, once, once they say, once we say sorry, it's like once
00:21:56.080 stories are dealt, I'm good.
00:21:57.380 Like I'm good.
00:21:58.020 I'm, I'm back to normal.
00:21:59.440 But like, sometimes he needs more time than I do.
00:22:01.780 Yeah.
00:22:01.960 I'm like, like how much?
00:22:03.200 Yeah.
00:22:03.540 Like five minutes.
00:22:04.640 I'm like, okay, I'll give you 15 minutes.
00:22:06.560 Yeah.
00:22:07.220 To get over it.
00:22:08.100 I'm just kidding.
00:22:08.540 I don't do that.
00:22:09.460 That's a joke.
00:22:10.380 But like I, as I grew older, I was like, okay, space is good.
00:22:14.420 And you, space is good when you're fighting.
00:22:16.060 And you learn with someone that like, if you love them, you're willing to give them that
00:22:19.620 space.
00:22:20.520 Even if you don't like it.
00:22:21.820 Yeah.
00:22:22.140 You're like, okay, it's what they fucking need.
00:22:23.720 Exactly.
00:22:24.240 I literally was like, you know what?
00:22:26.180 F*** this bitch.
00:22:27.420 Yeah.
00:22:27.700 I'll give you 15.
00:22:28.600 Sure.
00:22:28.980 Yeah.
00:22:29.240 Take five, buddy.
00:22:30.200 Yeah.
00:22:30.380 I'll see you in a little.
00:22:30.840 So some of the comments on this post are, is it just me who can resolve things with their
00:22:34.220 partner in under 30 minutes if given complete trust?
00:22:37.040 Because it's trauma telling me not to go to bed angry.
00:22:39.780 I mean, not everyone.
00:22:41.040 I mean, there's no need to flex.
00:22:42.320 Not everyone can fix their problems in 30 minutes.
00:22:45.540 There's no timestamp, buddy.
00:22:47.700 No, literally.
00:22:48.140 Like, we're not.
00:22:48.680 I've had arguments last like 12 hours.
00:22:50.780 We're not running the mile here.
00:22:52.560 I literally, I've gone to work and like gone fucking run errands.
00:22:56.960 Yeah.
00:22:57.040 And I'm still fighting.
00:22:58.020 Yeah.
00:22:58.160 Just from afar.
00:22:58.940 We need like context.
00:23:00.180 What's the fight about?
00:23:01.300 Yeah.
00:23:01.500 Like, what are we talking about?
00:23:02.800 Like, how long?
00:23:03.580 Like, where are we?
00:23:04.420 What's the context?
00:23:04.960 Yeah.
00:23:05.220 That seems like a flex.
00:23:06.460 Yeah.
00:23:06.600 Like a slight flex.
00:23:07.400 She's lying.
00:23:08.080 Literally liar.
00:23:10.360 She's like in a fight right now.
00:23:11.720 Like, well, is it just me or me and my partner?
00:23:14.600 Can solve it in 30 minutes or less.
00:23:16.780 Like on a fucking chop.
00:23:17.840 Yeah.
00:23:18.340 They're like, make a four course entree in 30 minutes or less.
00:23:21.580 Yeah.
00:23:21.900 She's like, done.
00:23:23.080 She's like, done, bitch.
00:23:24.760 Meanwhile, her partner's like, I'm not okay.
00:23:27.420 Yeah.
00:23:27.660 She's like, but I am.
00:23:29.600 Yeah.
00:23:29.740 So it's over.
00:23:30.420 Yeah.
00:23:30.560 Thank you very much.
00:23:32.100 No, girlie.
00:23:32.900 Okay.
00:23:33.360 This one says, I watched this and realized my whole life I've never had anyone model a
00:23:37.260 healthy relationship for me.
00:23:39.420 Period.
00:23:40.060 Oof.
00:23:40.900 But I mean, whatever works.
00:23:42.340 You know what I'm saying?
00:23:43.080 Whatever works, babes.
00:23:44.320 Yeah.
00:23:44.780 That's why representation is important.
00:23:46.860 Yeah.
00:23:47.640 But her parents probably f*** her up.
00:23:49.780 And like, I get it.
00:23:50.820 Tell them.
00:23:51.420 Yeah.
00:23:52.240 I get it.
00:23:53.340 You're like, twins.
00:23:55.180 Twins.
00:23:57.000 My parents say, good luck, bitch.
00:23:59.880 They're like, sorry.
00:24:02.800 Yeah.
00:24:03.180 Might be.
00:24:03.700 Like, this will be fun for her when she's growing up.
00:24:06.680 This will be really fun.
00:24:10.700 Okay.
00:24:11.320 So in this next section, we're going to be ranking comments.
00:24:14.900 So these are comments from both of our videos.
00:24:17.340 Okay.
00:24:17.580 And then what I did in the last time was it last episode was basically we try to guess
00:24:23.220 whose it is.
00:24:24.400 Oh.
00:24:24.940 And then we can at the end rank like best to worst.
00:24:27.900 Okay.
00:24:28.100 Essentially.
00:24:28.760 Okay.
00:24:29.060 So this first one says, just got broken up with, with my U-Haul girl currently trying
00:24:33.420 to get rid of my temporary tattoo.
00:24:35.180 Okay.
00:24:35.640 It's obviously mine.
00:24:36.520 As an empath, I'm thinking it's yours.
00:24:38.420 It's obviously mine.
00:24:40.220 A U-Haul.
00:24:41.520 Uh, is she straight?
00:24:43.300 That's literally lesbian.
00:24:44.220 Is it a man?
00:24:45.280 Is it a man?
00:24:46.560 No.
00:24:47.160 She's gay and she's unwell.
00:24:50.000 Which is fine.
00:24:51.100 And you're like, come on in, babes.
00:24:53.300 Yeah.
00:24:53.700 Open arms over here.
00:24:54.580 Welcome to the club.
00:24:55.480 We're welcome everyone in here.
00:24:57.440 Yeah.
00:24:57.640 Come on in.
00:24:58.180 Bring it in, buddy.
00:24:58.940 But not the tattoo.
00:25:00.360 Oh, I know.
00:25:01.480 I'm not getting a tattoo with anybody.
00:25:02.980 No.
00:25:03.400 Never.
00:25:03.980 No.
00:25:04.300 It's just never.
00:25:05.460 I mean, like, you don't want to say, like, what if it doesn't?
00:25:07.600 But, like, what if it doesn't?
00:25:08.620 Even if I, like, it'd be fine, like, at this point, like, I, you could tattoo a penis on
00:25:14.920 me, like, I really wouldn't care, but, like, I'm not, I don't want to be bonded with you
00:25:19.520 like that.
00:25:20.740 Wait, that makes me sound like I'm not intimate.
00:25:22.620 I am.
00:25:23.740 But I don't want to have a tattoo with you.
00:25:25.360 Yeah.
00:25:25.960 Intimacy can be spiritual or emotional.
00:25:29.380 It doesn't have to be physical.
00:25:30.420 Yeah.
00:25:30.600 You don't have to physically be intimate by branding yourself like cattle.
00:25:34.840 You know what I mean?
00:25:36.060 We both have, like, no, I hate it.
00:25:38.280 But, yeah, that's mine.
00:25:39.340 But we have to rate it, like, numbers?
00:25:41.280 We'll rate it at the end.
00:25:42.180 Okay.
00:25:42.440 Like, which one was the best and which one was the worst.
00:25:44.420 Okay.
00:25:44.660 Okay, so this next one says, men with podcasts, how to train your female 101.
00:25:49.680 I'm going to go ahead and say me.
00:25:50.820 Yeah, I'm going to go ahead and say you.
00:25:51.620 Yeah, as an empath.
00:25:52.940 Yeah.
00:25:53.480 Me.
00:25:53.960 As an empath, you.
00:25:55.280 I'm sensing you.
00:25:56.760 I'm sensing me because I shit on men with podcasts all the time.
00:26:01.100 Okay, this next one says, no, because every man I work with thought I was a lesbian.
00:26:05.780 Just because I didn't want to talk to them, LMAO.
00:26:09.060 I don't know.
00:26:09.760 That one's kind of hard.
00:26:10.180 It could be either.
00:26:10.720 It could be either of us.
00:26:11.600 It really could be.
00:26:12.520 Because, like, it doesn't have to be me.
00:26:14.440 Just because, honestly.
00:26:15.980 Just because she said the word lesbian.
00:26:17.480 It doesn't have to be good.
00:26:18.060 It doesn't have to be me.
00:26:18.940 No, that's true.
00:26:20.320 Like, it could very well be from mine as well.
00:26:22.380 I honestly feel like it's yours.
00:26:24.100 I think so, too.
00:26:24.920 You're trying to throw us off right now.
00:26:26.200 Right?
00:26:26.560 I think so, too.
00:26:27.460 Just because, yeah.
00:26:28.340 No, because I work with a man.
00:26:29.980 Every man thought I was a lesbian.
00:26:31.060 Well, I mean, that's just what men always say, I think.
00:26:33.100 Because he said, she said, I thought I was, and then wasn't like, I am one.
00:26:37.460 Yeah, she was like, but I'm so straight.
00:26:39.020 That was the end of it.
00:26:39.900 Yeah, too.
00:26:40.280 So that got cut off.
00:26:41.240 Yeah.
00:26:41.420 But I would never.
00:26:43.800 Yeah.
00:26:44.260 Sometimes I kiss girls when I'm drunk.
00:26:45.960 Yeah.
00:26:46.660 She's like, but.
00:26:49.740 I'm like, ew.
00:26:51.020 Yeah.
00:26:51.660 That's not how we feel.
00:26:52.960 Just, that's a joke.
00:26:54.080 Yeah.
00:26:54.540 It's a joke.
00:26:55.540 It's a joke.
00:26:56.080 Relax.
00:26:56.640 Okay.
00:26:56.840 This next one says, she's roasting people on looks like she doesn't own a mirror.
00:27:01.660 I'm going to go ahead and say me.
00:27:05.400 I'm going to go ahead and say me.
00:27:07.180 I'm going to go ahead and say you.
00:27:08.040 And you know what else I'm going to say?
00:27:09.180 I'm going to say this person doesn't have a profile picture.
00:27:10.960 I'm going to go so far as to say it's probably an anime one.
00:27:13.900 Yeah.
00:27:14.460 Oh, hell yeah.
00:27:15.420 Or a fucking 20 year old meme.
00:27:17.740 No.
00:27:18.300 You know what I mean?
00:27:19.020 Like with blown out eyes or some shit.
00:27:21.320 I'm private.
00:27:22.580 Yeah, literally.
00:27:23.660 User 1, 2, 3, 5, 5, 5, 5, 7.
00:27:26.020 Like, girl, shut up.
00:27:27.500 I get that all the time.
00:27:28.740 She's roasting people like she doesn't own a mirror.
00:27:30.460 Yeah.
00:27:30.680 I'm like, do you?
00:27:32.080 Yeah.
00:27:32.380 That's what I said.
00:27:32.900 I say all the time.
00:27:33.960 What if I pulled a random stranger?
00:27:36.720 Who do you think they would say is better looking?
00:27:38.440 Yeah.
00:27:38.780 Be honest with yourself.
00:27:39.700 Yeah.
00:27:39.880 You know what I mean?
00:27:40.820 It's okay.
00:27:41.260 Let's talk about it.
00:27:41.900 Let's talk about it.
00:27:42.520 Like, let's really talk teams then.
00:27:43.820 Like, if you really want to talk teams, let's.
00:27:45.860 Do people try to come for your boyfriend?
00:27:48.980 Yeah.
00:27:49.260 Because I think he's a cute guy.
00:27:50.400 Yeah.
00:27:50.760 But in my head, like, I was thinking to myself, like, if you're coming for men, they're going
00:27:55.460 to try to come for a man that you're close to, obviously.
00:27:58.340 You would think.
00:27:59.240 You would assume, right?
00:28:00.400 Like, but these men are so, they're in a fucking vice grip by the male gaze, toxic masculinity
00:28:08.080 that they see how big my man is and how, like, muscular he is and shit.
00:28:11.640 He's cute.
00:28:12.240 Yeah.
00:28:12.640 And he's handsome.
00:28:13.540 Yeah.
00:28:14.260 Objectively.
00:28:15.040 And then they're like, you look so good, bro.
00:28:17.900 Yeah.
00:28:18.080 I swear to God, he gets DMs all the time.
00:28:20.040 Hey, bro, you look fucking great.
00:28:21.240 You look, you're looking great.
00:28:22.300 Looking good.
00:28:22.820 Feeling good.
00:28:23.720 Honestly, I kind of want to kiss you on the lips.
00:28:25.740 Anyways, I fucking hate your girlfriend.
00:28:27.500 Yeah.
00:28:27.720 Just so you know, your girlfriend's a fat bitch.
00:28:29.360 I fucking hate her.
00:28:30.200 Yeah.
00:28:30.360 You get close all the time.
00:28:31.360 But looking good, man.
00:28:32.400 I said, dude, I can't imagine the grip that toxic masculinity has on you that, like, they
00:28:38.700 can't help but respect my man.
00:28:39.940 Yeah.
00:28:40.320 Because he's a cis straight man.
00:28:41.460 I love that for you.
00:28:42.420 Like, they can't help it.
00:28:43.760 They're like, but he looks like what I think I look like.
00:28:47.160 Yeah.
00:28:47.400 So, okay, I respect you, bro.
00:28:49.720 I respect you, bro.
00:28:50.980 So, this one says, the joke soared right over his 5'5 frame.
00:28:55.360 I'm going to go ahead and say mine.
00:28:56.400 Yeah, I'm going to say you.
00:28:57.280 I think I remember seeing that on, like, one of my most recent videos.
00:29:00.440 His 5'5 frame.
00:29:01.780 Ugh.
00:29:02.640 How are you going to try to insult a woman and your 5'5, my guy?
00:29:07.000 I don't know.
00:29:07.900 You have to be this tall to ride.
00:29:09.140 I'm saying.
00:29:09.800 Like, where are you?
00:29:10.580 I'm just, I mean, like, you would think.
00:29:12.440 Yeah.
00:29:12.580 You would think it would be.
00:29:13.360 Well, and that's why I'm saying, like, the body shaming argument.
00:29:16.600 Like, they're like, oh, like, he body shamed and she body shamed right back.
00:29:20.120 Like, I get that all.
00:29:20.980 But I'm like, okay, you did it first.
00:29:23.080 Now you want to talk about morals?
00:29:24.440 Yeah.
00:29:24.680 All of a sudden, you got a moral compass that points due north?
00:29:27.140 Yeah.
00:29:27.740 Okay.
00:29:28.300 None of us have them.
00:29:29.360 That's what I'm saying.
00:29:30.140 Well, see, like, you're a f***ing bigot.
00:29:31.920 So, that means gloves are off, bitch.
00:29:33.840 Like, I could literally.
00:29:35.000 That's why I said I say silly shit.
00:29:36.960 I said you worked at the movies and you f***ing lost your mind.
00:29:39.860 Yeah.
00:29:39.940 Like, if I really wanted to be pointed in me and I'd say meaner shit, but, like, I'm just
00:29:44.320 here for the silly, goofy time.
00:29:45.320 You could be saying way sillier shit.
00:29:47.620 You're pulling up pictures of animated characters and they're getting mad.
00:29:51.580 And they're like, she's a bully.
00:29:53.060 And I always say, if I'm a bully, then I'm a bully of bullies.
00:29:55.860 So, I'm like Robin Hood.
00:29:56.820 Yeah.
00:29:57.080 I'm taking from the rich and I'm giving to the poor.
00:29:58.760 Yeah.
00:29:59.240 I'm helping everybody else.
00:30:00.440 You're just doing what you were born to do.
00:30:04.920 Yeah.
00:30:05.240 Someone's called me Dexter.
00:30:06.580 Yeah.
00:30:07.120 So, yeah, I'm murdering.
00:30:08.440 Yeah.
00:30:08.640 But I'm murdering bad people.
00:30:09.980 So, like.
00:30:10.500 Exactly.
00:30:11.280 You really gotta think.
00:30:12.440 You know what I'm saying?
00:30:13.120 Is it bad?
00:30:13.880 There's a purpose.
00:30:14.840 Right?
00:30:15.740 Okay, and this last one says, one time me and my cousin got into an argument and he said
00:30:19.580 my attitude is so bad, my breast milk would be sour if I had a child and I still think
00:30:23.940 about it.
00:30:25.820 I feel like that's maybe yours.
00:30:27.360 I feel like I would have remembered that if it was mine.
00:30:31.300 That s*** goes bad?
00:30:33.440 Like, cutting out like cottage cheese?
00:30:35.340 Yuck, dude.
00:30:36.220 No.
00:30:36.720 The image alone makes me want to shoot myself.
00:30:38.960 I'm kind of like, I'm not like even mad at that.
00:30:42.040 I think it's kind of funny, to be honest.
00:30:43.780 Like, yeah.
00:30:44.540 That's a pretty specific roast.
00:30:46.480 That's pretty specific.
00:30:47.380 I wonder how long he was cooking that up in his head.
00:30:49.420 Yeah, he was like writing that in his notes.
00:30:50.780 He's like, I'm waiting for this bitch to say something to me.
00:30:52.560 Say something to me and I'm going to light her up.
00:30:54.720 She's never going to forget it.
00:30:55.760 Yeah.
00:30:56.720 That could be me.
00:30:57.660 Honestly, it could be me.
00:30:58.460 I think that's yours.
00:30:59.460 Okay, which one's the best one?
00:31:00.740 Honestly, I think the best one is she's roasting people and looks like she doesn't own a mirror.
00:31:07.000 Yeah.
00:31:07.320 Those make me laugh.
00:31:08.260 Yeah.
00:31:08.680 Those are funny.
00:31:09.260 No, that's funny.
00:31:10.040 I agree.
00:31:10.940 And I think the worst one would probably be...
00:31:14.560 Wait, now I can't remember them.
00:31:16.300 There's breast milk.
00:31:17.620 The joke sword over his right, right over his five-five frame.
00:31:20.480 No, it was before.
00:31:21.120 It was like the second one.
00:31:22.480 Oh, the no, because every man I work with thought I was a lesbian.
00:31:25.260 Yeah, that's the worst one.
00:31:26.200 Yeah, that's the worst one.
00:31:26.840 Easily.
00:31:27.300 Yeah, that's the worst one.
00:31:27.920 Because you know there's like a little edge to it.
00:31:30.300 Yeah.
00:31:30.440 Like there's like, yuck.
00:31:31.920 Yeah.
00:31:32.540 And not me.
00:31:33.700 And I could never be that.
00:31:34.980 If they thought I was a lesbian, I'd rather die.
00:31:38.880 She's literally like, she's like, not me though.
00:31:41.720 I mean, I kiss girls when I'm drunk.
00:31:43.080 I'll kiss you through a napkin when I'm drunk, but only through a napkin.
00:31:47.200 In between us.
00:31:48.640 Like when you smoke, what do you do?
00:31:51.060 When you smoke and you blow smoke in each other's mouths.
00:31:52.720 Yeah.
00:31:53.260 She's like, that's it.
00:31:54.680 The other person's like, here's like, I kiss the girl.
00:31:57.260 I had my first gay experience today.
00:32:01.140 Breathing another girl's air.
00:32:02.620 Yeah, she's like.
00:32:03.460 I think I might be gay.
00:32:06.080 I think we should talk about it.
00:32:07.620 They'll probably hit you up after that, honestly.
00:32:09.520 Yeah.
00:32:12.220 Okay, so on this next section, we're going to have Emily bring up actually one of her own videos,
00:32:17.560 which is so funny because that was like a big reason why I wanted to talk about this with you
00:32:21.500 because I see your videos on attachment theory.
00:32:23.660 Yeah.
00:32:23.900 And I thought they were so f***ing funny.
00:32:25.540 So I was like, this is the perfect topic to discuss with the expert on anxious attachment theory.
00:32:32.520 Okay, baby.
00:32:34.220 What are you doing?
00:32:35.380 Are you going to the bathroom?
00:32:36.260 Okay.
00:32:36.620 Can you give me a kiss?
00:32:37.560 Hey, come give me a kiss.
00:32:39.240 I love you.
00:32:43.820 Hey, what's wrong?
00:32:45.700 I love you.
00:32:47.140 Okay, no, go to the bathroom then.
00:32:48.900 No, fine.
00:32:49.680 Empty your bladder then.
00:32:50.640 I didn't, I literally don't care.
00:32:51.940 Empty your bladder.
00:32:52.780 Whatever.
00:32:53.340 You want to do it without me.
00:32:54.620 I get it.
00:32:55.400 I'm annoying.
00:32:56.360 La la la la la la.
00:32:58.840 I'm making fun of the bitches who are like that because I'm actually not like that.
00:33:02.780 Like, like I said.
00:33:04.480 It's anxious, right?
00:33:05.160 I am anxious, but not in that way.
00:33:06.560 Yeah.
00:33:06.720 Like, like, she's like, you're going to the bathroom?
00:33:09.320 Where are you going?
00:33:09.860 Well, give me a kiss first.
00:33:11.400 Well, you didn't look at me in the eyes before you're going to the bathroom.
00:33:13.860 Like, go relax.
00:33:15.460 Like, chill.
00:33:16.320 They're going to the bathroom.
00:33:17.860 I'll be right back.
00:33:18.420 The comments in that video are actually funny because they're like, well, what if they stop
00:33:21.700 being in love with me when they're like on the way to the bathroom?
00:33:24.780 Like, what if they catch someone else's eye that's more attractive than me when they
00:33:27.940 go to the bathroom?
00:33:28.240 Then they do.
00:33:29.220 People are so scared of the person they're with cheating on them.
00:33:32.020 Like, if they want to cheat on you.
00:33:33.540 They're going to cheat on you.
00:33:34.320 Let them.
00:33:34.980 Yeah.
00:33:35.160 Then you shouldn't be with them.
00:33:36.280 No, seriously.
00:33:37.320 Why are you going to babysit someone from cheating on you?
00:33:39.840 Let them cheat on you.
00:33:40.860 I literally always think to them like you, you, whatever people do or how they show you
00:33:45.860 they are, like, believe them.
00:33:47.540 Yeah.
00:33:47.740 Like, whatever they show you or, or make you perceive about them, like, believe them the
00:33:52.360 first time.
00:33:52.820 Yeah.
00:33:53.200 If they showed you that one time.
00:33:54.460 I'm not going to try to make you not cheat.
00:33:56.980 Why?
00:33:57.120 I'm, what is it doing for me to make you not cheat on me?
00:34:02.040 Why would I want to do that?
00:34:03.260 Like, that makes me feel like shit.
00:34:04.420 Yeah.
00:34:04.520 Like, you're just standing guard constantly.
00:34:05.960 Like, you're patrolling all the time.
00:34:07.300 Yeah.
00:34:07.700 Have fun.
00:34:08.340 It sounds exhausting.
00:34:09.600 Yeah.
00:34:09.880 And if you don't, I always think too, like, if you don't have trust, you don't have anything.
00:34:13.260 Yeah.
00:34:13.520 No.
00:34:13.980 Like, like, there's literally no point in being in a relationship if you don't fuck with each
00:34:17.420 other.
00:34:17.700 Yeah.
00:34:18.060 What's the point?
00:34:18.620 Like, I need to know your phone password.
00:34:20.080 And like, where are you and who are you with?
00:34:22.040 Like, if you don't, if you think they're going to cheat on you, you just say that.
00:34:25.800 And then don't be with them.
00:34:26.860 Yeah.
00:34:27.160 Like, you should, well, you shouldn't have to be fucking constantly, like, checking someone,
00:34:32.260 like, to see if they still love you.
00:34:33.760 If they don't show you they love you.
00:34:35.300 Yeah.
00:34:35.680 They could just show you without having to tell you constantly.
00:34:37.520 And if they're giving you that reason to think that they don't love you, then you
00:34:42.040 have to ask yourself, like, why am I with them?
00:34:44.120 Yeah.
00:34:44.400 Literally.
00:34:44.960 Like, what's this doing for me?
00:34:46.240 Yeah.
00:34:46.480 What's it doing for me?
00:34:46.800 Other than causing me f***ing utter and sheer panic all the time.
00:34:50.620 No.
00:34:50.680 And I, and as an anxious person, no way.
00:34:54.260 No.
00:34:54.780 I'm like that constantly in my own f***ing.
00:34:57.000 Yeah.
00:34:57.260 I don't need you adding to it.
00:34:58.800 I like to describe it as like, you know, Inside Out, the movie?
00:35:02.240 The Disney movie.
00:35:02.360 Yeah, but I didn't watch it.
00:35:03.620 Oh, okay.
00:35:04.200 Well, you know the premise of it.
00:35:05.580 Yeah.
00:35:05.720 It's basically like the emotions.
00:35:06.740 Yeah.
00:35:07.200 Okay, so like, I talked about this with my boyfriend once.
00:35:09.160 Because we were talking about like, which emotions are in the head, right?
00:35:11.640 In your head.
00:35:12.320 Because, you know, the main girl in the movie, she has all of them.
00:35:14.560 It's like, happy, sad, angry, disgust, fear, right?
00:35:18.360 Okay.
00:35:18.580 And I was like, for me, it's probably like, angry, like, four fears, and like, one sad.
00:35:25.840 Yeah.
00:35:26.360 And happy she's checked out.
00:35:27.760 Yeah.
00:35:27.860 She didn't clock in today.
00:35:28.860 Happy's gone.
00:35:29.660 She's gone.
00:35:30.300 She's on vacay, but she'll be back.
00:35:32.160 She's using all her PTO, and she's never coming back.
00:35:34.600 She's hurt.
00:35:35.880 And for my boyfriend, there's like an imaginary friend character in that movie.
00:35:39.740 And like, his name is Bing Bong.
00:35:41.160 And like, he don't do nothing but f*** around.
00:35:42.980 Yeah.
00:35:43.300 That's the dude in his head.
00:35:44.340 Yeah.
00:35:44.760 He's not even at the desk.
00:35:46.120 Yeah.
00:35:46.220 He's not even checked in.
00:35:47.020 Yeah.
00:35:47.380 He's not working.
00:35:48.220 I'm like, yeah.
00:35:48.940 He's like, I'm just vibing.
00:35:49.920 He's elevator music.
00:35:50.940 Yeah.
00:35:51.220 It's just constant.
00:35:52.080 It's constant.
00:35:52.740 It's like a hamster running on a wheel.
00:35:54.060 Yeah.
00:35:54.400 And he's just like.
00:35:55.780 Yeah.
00:35:56.260 And I think, must be nice.
00:35:57.780 Yeah.
00:35:58.180 I envy people like that.
00:35:59.560 Yeah.
00:35:59.920 Who could turn it off.
00:36:00.920 That's what I'm saying.
00:36:01.760 Like, I'm really anxious, but I feel like I'm like him in the, in, I'm just not scared
00:36:09.480 of someone cheating on me.
00:36:10.300 Yeah.
00:36:10.460 You're just no, there's no stress.
00:36:11.700 I'm not stressed about it.
00:36:12.800 Yeah.
00:36:12.920 And also, cause I just feel like if they did, of course I'd be hurt.
00:36:16.180 I'm a human.
00:36:16.940 Yeah.
00:36:17.140 But I'd just be like, okay, I'm good off of that.
00:36:19.860 Like, you showed me who you were so much.
00:36:20.740 Yeah.
00:36:21.200 I'd be like, what the f***?
00:36:22.480 Like.
00:36:22.680 And also, and that's, I think, the thing with both of us, with cheating.
00:36:25.680 Cause I don't worry about him cheating.
00:36:27.400 I'm not worried.
00:36:28.220 But if you did cheat, like, okay, suck a big fat dick.
00:36:31.120 See ya.
00:36:31.980 Bye.
00:36:32.520 That's what I think.
00:36:33.200 I literally am like, okay, see ya.
00:36:34.760 Of course I'd, of course I'd be hurt.
00:36:36.820 Cause I feel like people would watch this and be like, oh, you're lying if you said that
00:36:39.740 wouldn't hurt your feelings.
00:36:40.440 Of course it would hurt my feelings.
00:36:41.800 You're not gonna be like, well, let's think about why.
00:36:44.020 Yeah.
00:36:44.460 I don't need to know why.
00:36:44.980 Cause I know who the f*** I am.
00:36:46.320 Well, and the more details I hear, the more I'm gonna f***ing hate you.
00:36:49.600 Yeah.
00:36:49.780 So I don't, spare me.
00:36:51.080 And the more I'm like, something's wrong with you.
00:36:53.300 Yeah.
00:36:53.780 Like, that's a you thing.
00:36:55.060 That's a you thing.
00:36:55.600 I didn't do anything wrong.
00:36:56.740 Literally.
00:36:57.320 The comments on your video, like, are what you were saying.
00:37:00.100 Like, one of them says, but what if they die on the way to the bathroom?
00:37:02.760 Yeah.
00:37:04.680 Which, I mean, it could happen.
00:37:06.940 It could happen.
00:37:07.760 Always say I love you before you leave the house, like you said.
00:37:10.000 Yeah.
00:37:10.760 I'm a vicious, I love you, person, but not like, you're going to the bathroom?
00:37:14.780 Okay, give me a kiss.
00:37:15.800 Look me in the eyes before you go.
00:37:17.420 You love me?
00:37:18.000 Let's spiritually connect and then we part ways.
00:37:20.680 I, like, make videos where I'm, like, severely roasting people like that and people are like,
00:37:24.560 oh my god, me.
00:37:25.740 I'm like, girl, that's not a flex.
00:37:27.300 Me.
00:37:28.080 Me.
00:37:28.540 This is so me.
00:37:29.380 This is so me, though.
00:37:31.100 Like, mm.
00:37:32.100 Being insufferable?
00:37:33.380 Me.
00:37:34.240 That's so me.
00:37:35.160 Oh my god.
00:37:35.780 So me.
00:37:36.420 I'm so like that.
00:37:37.820 And it says, being in a relationship like this is so suffocating, you'll end up apologizing
00:37:41.840 for the most obscure things and have to constantly be forced to feel.
00:37:45.220 Yeah.
00:37:45.460 Which.
00:37:46.160 That sounds like an avoiding.
00:37:49.840 They're like, feelings?
00:37:51.020 Eh.
00:37:51.320 I'm being forced to feel something?
00:37:53.420 You're all, no thanks.
00:37:54.400 No.
00:37:54.740 No, they're like, feelings?
00:37:56.060 Not for me.
00:37:56.760 Yeah.
00:37:56.980 This one says, in a healthy relationship, yes, you will spend time, want to spend time
00:38:00.380 together, but it's also normal to be apart.
00:38:03.100 A hundred percent.
00:38:03.940 Well, yeah, duh.
00:38:04.900 Yeah.
00:38:05.260 It's like one of those things where it's like, well, yeah.
00:38:07.020 Yeah.
00:38:07.620 I mean, yeah.
00:38:08.360 Going to the bathroom shouldn't be counted as time apart.
00:38:11.020 Yeah.
00:38:11.840 Or even having like a day apart, like, you should have more than that.
00:38:16.980 You should.
00:38:17.260 It's unnatural to be with someone every second of every day.
00:38:19.800 Yeah.
00:38:20.200 Literally.
00:38:20.800 And then you'll grow to resent each other eventually.
00:38:23.020 Like, there's no way.
00:38:24.060 There's no way.
00:38:24.680 You're going to get into fights if you're with someone constantly.
00:38:27.240 Oh, yeah.
00:38:28.440 With like the best person in the world.
00:38:29.980 You could be the most in love and you'll still fight because it's just human nature.
00:38:34.160 Yeah.
00:38:35.000 And then the last one says, oh, my God, am I the drama?
00:38:37.600 Yes.
00:38:38.100 Yes.
00:38:38.460 Yes, you are.
00:38:41.220 Take that and process it.
00:38:44.160 Hold on to it.
00:38:45.220 The answer is yes.
00:38:46.600 The end.
00:38:47.600 The end.
00:38:48.540 The end.
00:38:51.180 Okay.
00:38:51.740 So that's going to do it for this episode of the comment section show.
00:38:55.160 Thank you so much for joining me.
00:38:56.680 And thank you so much again to the wonderful, amazing M. Grace Dog, Emily Grayson, the one
00:39:02.400 and only.
00:39:02.860 Thank you so much for having the time to sit down and talk about attachment theories with
00:39:08.240 us.
00:39:08.560 Thank you.
00:39:09.120 Thank you for having me.
00:39:10.360 And like I said earlier, I'd love to meet up again and talk all about astrology.
00:39:13.840 Yeah.
00:39:14.400 No.
00:39:14.740 I'm going to eat that shit up.
00:39:15.660 It's in my blood.
00:39:16.580 It's my gay agenda.
00:39:18.180 Let's talk about it.
00:39:18.980 You're pushing the astrological agenda.
00:39:22.600 I'm waiting for someone to ask me about astrology at all times.
00:39:25.660 So you can get right in there.
00:39:27.080 Yeah.
00:39:27.620 No.
00:39:28.100 I'm shitting it.
00:39:29.040 And also, I think our lessons for today are to understand what your attachment theories
00:39:34.280 are.
00:39:34.840 Right?
00:39:35.440 Look into it.
00:39:36.280 Come to terms with it.
00:39:37.520 Accept it.
00:39:38.460 Embrace it.
00:39:39.120 And if you're that kind of anxious, go to therapy.
00:39:43.860 Get your ass to therapy.
00:39:45.340 Anxiously run.
00:39:46.140 Immediately.
00:39:47.000 To a therapist.
00:39:48.580 And honestly, everyone should go to therapy.
00:39:50.720 Yeah.
00:39:51.900 Highly promote everyone going to therapy.
00:39:53.640 Everyone should go.
00:39:54.420 Even if you're secure.
00:39:55.620 Yeah.
00:39:56.280 Which, I mean, I thought I was.
00:39:57.480 Turns out I'm not.
00:39:58.840 Turns out.
00:39:59.320 Entirely.
00:40:00.000 You're a little mentally ill.
00:40:02.960 Period, to be honest.
00:40:04.200 So where can everybody find you on socials?
00:40:07.260 I am Grace Dog.
00:40:08.580 Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, TikTok.
00:40:12.520 I'm starting a podcast of my own.
00:40:14.820 Yay!
00:40:14.920 It's called Clown College.
00:40:17.180 K-L-O-W-N-Q-O-L-L-E-G-E.
00:40:21.860 Ooh.
00:40:22.300 Look out for that.
00:40:23.040 Also, I'm starting stand-up soon.
00:40:24.940 So if you're in the LA area, come see me.
00:40:27.560 Yay!
00:40:28.260 Yeah.
00:40:28.420 Thank you so much for joining us, Emily.
00:40:30.320 It was a blast.
00:40:31.120 Thank you.
00:40:31.480 And thank you so much for joining me on this episode of the Comments.
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