FANTASY FOOTBALL IS A MAN'S WATTPAD ｜ Drew Afualo ft. BootlegMegz ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 39
Summary
On this episode of Comment Section, we have special guest Bootleg Megs, AKA A.K.A. Bootleggers. She's a standup comedian, writer, and all-around funny bitch. She also happens to be a terrible man. We talk about how we met, how we first met, and how we became friends.
Transcript
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When you know to avoid him on the days his team has lost a match.
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You avoid him by never dating him or talking to him ever again.
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Hey everyone and welcome back to the comment section show starring me, your favorite, everyone's favorite except the terrible man.
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Today I have a very, very special guest, the one and only Bootleg Megs, a.k.a. Megs.
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We were just talking about how we found each other during the pandemic.
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COVID, quarantine hit and I think just about the same time when I was blowing up, I think October end is when I found you.
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And this was, I want to say, pre-Drew blowing up really big.
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This was pre-Drew Millian, pre-I was like, f*** honey.
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Because it just sounded like me and my friends talking shit.
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Because it's, I think the internet, when we were all inside, the internet made all of us realize we all have very specifically terrible shared experiences.
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And before it was like, in the workplace, harassment.
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And I was like, the same dude did the same f***ing thing.
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Well, it's also, I think, one of those things where like, we were all so like, like, I mean, still, I guess, for lack of a better word, that we had no choice but to pay attention very closely to each other and other things.
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So like, you and I were mutuals far before I really blew up.
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But I found you because you were always telling funny stories about your college experiences.
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I don't know anyone you're talking about, but I'm listening.
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They really hate it when you're funnier than them.
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because I just like don't want to deal with it.
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And also, this is a white man who says the N-word.
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Well, it's like, that's what my brain immediately goes to
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if you say that's your favorite director and or film.
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Also, the sexual assault scenes in every movie.
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They're like a new, like there's like, you know, like gym bros.
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They're all in like the very terrible food pyramid.
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I think too, uh, when it comes to men, like not liking certain dudes who don't like when
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you're funnier, I can sniff it like a drug dog in the airport.
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Like when you're being funny and you want to be bantering.
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There's a difference when you're just waiting to tell someone to shut up.
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And you're like, you can tell me to shut up, but be funny.
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Cause in classes, like acting classes, especially if they can want to do, just, it's the class.
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It's like, it's like if someone is in the room to discover you, now's the time to do it.
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This teacher, this 45 year old man who has taught the same curriculum.
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I've kind of picked that out actually on TikTok when there's like other prominent male creators
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who operate within the same like space as me as far as like we get invited to the same
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I think it's telling at this point it's telling because it's like, if you don't like me, why?
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Because you could not find me funny, that's fine, right?
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No, there are a few, I would say especially male comedians.
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I like use the term liberally even for myself because I'm like, I'm screaming in my room.
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When I meet them at events and some of them have a very, I don't know, they just feel
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We're all like talking to our phone and other people like it.
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Well, also in a space where it's just us and there's no fans, you don't have to do the
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No, just fans and like industry people, I guess.
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Yeah, they're like, so anyways, what's the deal with airplane food?
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It's the funniest joke to make about two people who aren't funny.
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I think sometimes too, when you, when I meet other men who I'm, whether it's in like the
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creator space or just like in real life, you can literally sense when they don't like
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You know when you crack jokes and you're like, these are my crowd.
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Every time I say them, I bring the house down every time.
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And then there's one dude who's like fighting the laugh to urge, the urge to laugh.
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When I, and everyone else is laughing and they're the only one who's not.
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You don't have to be like amazing to be funny dog.
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The most like low brow type of humor makes me laugh.
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When I tell people, when dudes will like call me like, what do you do for your bulk?
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Which is just like asking me how I put on weight.
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For me to watch you work out and then tell you.
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I told someone, I literally made a joke about that because I posted a video and I made a
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I was like, tell the worst dude you know to put me in a tight end on your fantasy football
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And then a bunch of like 14 year old white kids are like, more like left guard, which
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Those are typically the big boys, like the bigger men.
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So then when I said, I said, this joke would hit if O lineman scored points for you in
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So now you're not only admitting to me that you don't understand football, but you're
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The version you play in your couch, even that you're bad.
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I literally saw someone once tweet that they're like, men want to joke about how astrology
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isn't real when they play a game of spreadsheets six months a year.
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Like unfortunate nonsense that I like to keep up with.
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Getting in an argument about why, like, how is it useful?
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I'm like, in principle, why is it different than sports?
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And when they're like 40, they're like, I'll play it, but angry.
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And like, what's the difference between like buying merch from like Harry Styles and like
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buying a jersey with a grown man's name on the back?
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They're like, no, it's about the play statistics and the, you know, how they work and how they
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What's the difference between that and me and Harry Ween?
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Harry Styles singing, dancing, francing on stage.
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A man in clothes, in costume, running around with balls.
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And then there's men playing with balls who also have balls.
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And I talked about that with Jay Stoops too, because we talked about how like anything
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It has to be criticized or be critically analyzed in some way.
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And in a way that doesn't like apply to the other person.
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Well, and also I like, I enjoy, I enjoy football.
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I boycotted it for a while because I got fired from the NFL.
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So that's why I don't care who wins and who loses.
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I don't care at all because it doesn't affect me at the end of the day.
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And I always think like the men who like refuse to wash clothes, who like, like that are
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I was like, when you know to avoid him on the days his team has lost a match.
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Do you, you avoid him by never dating him or talking to him ever again?
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Do you hear a match losing and you're like, I should leave my own house?
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I'll be damned if Tom Brady runs me out my own house.
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Imagine if like Tyler Oakley had tea and I'm like, I'm pissed.
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I go and punch a hole in the wall because of it.
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It's so funny too because my boyfriend plays fantasy football sometimes and I have told people
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that's arguably the straightest thing about him is wanting to play that and wanting to
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It's literally cosplaying if you think about it.
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What's the difference between that and reading fan fiction?
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Because they're writing, they're writing their own fantasy in their head.
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If I was a coordinator, this is the team I would assemble.
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You just can't shit on other things that women like or fan-presenting people.
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I'm like, everything everyone does inherently is frivolous.
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I'll watch those tea videos till my eyeballs fall out, bitch.
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I'll go in the comments and like the first one's like part two and I'm all click.
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Sometimes I'll send them to my sister and I'm like, I need to remember to watch the rest of
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That's why being funny is so subjective, obviously, because like what's funny to one person may
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My peak sense of humor right now is like a base boosted image.
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It's like a shopping cart with like a sound and it says like nothing.
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Some of the ones that I laugh so hard at, like I once followed, I didn't follow the account
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It was like, it was just this guy, he would put a jar of mayonnaise, like he would like
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put it, he would throw it up and then he would slow-mo it and then he'd put like a
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And then all the comments were like too political.
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And it's supposed to be like explanations for each word, like each letter for simp.
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And so it's a simp, it spells down and for the M it says, mayonnaise on an escalator.
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Speaking of funny, your college experiences, how would you, how do you feel about college
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experiences as a whole, the social aspect of it?
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But it comes with its, you know, good and bad, like everything.
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So I think at the end of my college life, looking back at it, I feel like I see patterns, not
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just for like me and my, I guess, life cycle of friendships, but everyone, like your first
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There's like two friends you make and you like hold on to them for dear life.
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And it goes through it and it's very, I don't know.
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The university, nondescript university that I go to.
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And it's like super different than my city where I grew up from, which is very homogenous.
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It's like seeing everybody like, you know, amalgamate and somehow like know the same things
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and talk to each other about, you know, similar interests, not just in your like program or
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So I went, I went to the university of Hawaii, but like that was really cool.
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Cause I got to move away from home, but I got to like meet people from all different
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And there's a lot of international students and stuff as well at UH.
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So that was something that was my favorite part of college because I feel like I've, you
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know, if you want to go to some sort of secondary education, I like highly encourage you to
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do so if you can and you want to, I think it makes you a better person at the end of the
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I worked out the real last of my pick me ism, like my freshman year of college, like
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Cause obviously in high school you're at, you're like apex of pick me.
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And then once you go into the real world, it's almost like it got ripped out of me almost
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immediately because you're in an environment where you're like almost pseudo adults.
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So you're an adult, you're living on your own, but you're not fully in the real world
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And I feel like that's when the best and the worst come out of people.
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Cause you have to like, there's nobody telling you what to do like in school.
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And you see, I think the only thing that made me realize was seeing what other people chose
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I don't want to be the Quentin Tarantino man in class.
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I like, um, one of my best friends, she was like my first roommate.
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So I got really lucky in that sense, but she's like still my really good friend today.
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I, I attributed to my quirky Virgo, but like I am a know-it-all for sure.
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I think for my, my friend, she was like, she's an Aries.
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So like we were best friends all throughout college and with her, I always joked that like
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I would never have had college experiences without her because I'm very like careful about
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And I'm a planner and she's not cause she's an Aries.
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So she like helped me have a lot of fun and all these like once in a lifetime experiences
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That's like, I'm like, she would have died without me easily.
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And I remember actively thinking with her cause we would butt heads all the time cause she's
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And I remember watching her do it and I'm like, is that what I look like?
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Like I literally mirror bitch holding it right up to me.
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And I told her, I told her that I'm like, you made me less of a know-it-all cause you're
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She'd laugh and she'd be like, well, she just didn't care.
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She, she told me, she said, honestly, me too, because she was like that too.
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I mean, I wouldn't name them, but they were like super shitty meeting all of them and
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I mean, I don't have to do every single thing, but I know, okay, by the time I'm 25 this,
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I don't have to know every single day, but it's just meeting people with no direction.
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And just like, think I'm stupid for wanting to do things.
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And then it turns into kind of like, you guys start almost resenting each other because
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And these are all like, I guess women who had never really interacted with men in a social
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Like not to that capacity when you're in college where you see them all the time and
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And I'm like, it's just, it's whatever you make it.
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When they're open, he's looking at a lot of things.
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And it's like, I dealt with pick me's in college too.
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And they're pretty, pretty, I think they're pretty more like, they stand out a lot more
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in college because in high school, I feel like you're all kind of pick me's to some
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Once you're in college and you start growing through college, they start really standing
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Like you're really like, I don't really like that girl.
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I think people who hold on to their high school personas, when in high school, it's
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It's like people who are like, um, I'm just like, I'm just someone who's really blunt.
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And you don't know a way to communicate a complex thought.
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And I think like with, um, when it comes to men specifically in college, that's really
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what like solidified, like dating throughout college is what solidified.
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My ick, my ick grew and festered like over time in college, just because of how they are
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Like there's a white dude, Indian dude, Middle Eastern dude.
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They all say the same things, do the same things, act the same way.
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I have lots of dating horror stories, uh, from college.
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And also I think too, college is where you see almost the most like, it's like, ah, what's
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It's like the most aggressive approach in any social setting, like whether it's a party
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or you're in class, the things that men will say, and it's supposed to be a compliment,
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The number of, oh my God, your English is really good that I've gotten.
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They were like, they were like shocked because I sound, I sound Indian, that's what I sound
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With me, because I was in Hawaii, obviously I was around a lot of Polynesian people too
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So like when men, first of all, I think it's strange to ask someone what ethnicity or what
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In a setting where you're like attracted to this person, that's weird.
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One time I had, no, literally, one time I had a guy come up to me and it was like, they
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were like little things he would say where he would throw in Spanish words.
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Like I didn't, I didn't say anything because he was buying drinks.
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I'll entertain the Spanglish just for a little.
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And then he was like, yeah, I've never been with a Latin woman before.
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And then I go, well, is she here in the room with us?
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And then he was like, yeah, like you're giving me, he said, first of all, he said a Mexican
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And then he said, you're giving me Sofia Vergara vibes.
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In the sexism, at least get the racism part right.
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My head, they're like, I've never been with an Indian woman.
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You're going to keep up that streak tonight, bitch.
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You're going to continue not to be with a Latin American woman tonight.
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Yeah, I had a dude one say to me, he said, you're a lot smarter than you look.
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He's like, yeah, people who look like you aren't typically smart.
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How about, do you find these nuts impressive too?
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It was, the shit they say, it's just so, it's so egregious in its very nature.
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He was like, oh, there's just, when there's a fat thing in the room, she's just funny,
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Honestly, this is a thing where they're like, I know every fat girl has a story about a
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friend group where they're only in it because they know, as a comparative yardstick, they,
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like, the pretty girl, so to speak, would look better if you go out.
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And it's like a, you know, they're like the approach point for dudes.
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And, like, so many girlfriend groups are just like, yeah, I mean, that's just the way it is.
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Where they're like, we need to make sure whenever we go out, we're looking the best.
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When I, yeah, when, like, for me, I was like, I'm like the friend that's like, what did
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Like, I was literally, in college, I was a lot worse, believe it or not.
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Any, like, you give me a sprinkle of disrespect, I'm losing it.
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So much so to the point that my friends thought it was funny.
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Like, if dudes were being terrible, they'd be like, go tell her that.
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Yeah, like, they would say, hey, why don't you tell me, you just told me, go tell her
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Just to be funny, because they thought it was hilarious.
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But, at least I'm a little more, let's all laugh and giggle.
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Before, it was, like, more, like, I'm going to kill you.
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When I joined, I was, well, I would just avoid those people altogether.
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And I would, I was like, not, I don't, shut up.
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No, I don't have the space or the energy for this.
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Yeah, just, like, not even giving it any energy.
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And I think, over time, I got, I guess, more patient with it, because I realized I'll
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Like, not just here, but, like, back home, anywhere.
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And if I keep my, I guess, my cool around me, and I'm like, you need to, you know, just listen
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I remember so vividly, me and my friend, we went downtown for a clubbing night or whatever.
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And when he was leaving, he, like, petted my belly and walked behind me.
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And he turns around, he's like, what are you telling me what I did wrong?
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And I, in my little, like, black club mini dress with a drink in my hand, giving this
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And I'm like, it's the fact that you wanted to touch a body you didn't know that is wrong.
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I do have some critiques if you're open to hearing them.
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I've talked about how I'm a big proponent of free drinks.
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And it's not what the patriarchy has done to you.
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So I always say that whatever their intentions are, as far as, like, what they think, because
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sometimes they'll be like, I was just trying to get to know you.
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One of the dudes, he was, like, chatting to me and my friend, and I was like, hey, I'm
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gonna, I'm just gonna, you know, be real with you.
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He was like, oh, hold up, hold up, what do you think?
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He's like, well, you're fat and ugly, so that's what I think about you.
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I was literally like, whatever you think, whatever you thought, when I said that, that's, that's
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And he's like, no, I just wanted to be friends.
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That's why I say, yeah, you want to get to know me, I'm sure.
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That's why, when they say, I just want to be, well, you can't have friends, you just
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Yeah, in the meantime, go to hell, I guess is what I'm trying to say.
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And I brought my card, because I was planning on buying my own drinks, since we're all lying.
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I'd be like, I'm going to get every drink paid for, and did.
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Because they're not, there's no good intention behind chatting up a girl.
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So we're going to be talking about the college experience as a whole with Meg today.
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So for those of you who don't know here in the comment section, what we like to do is
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bring videos that are applicable to our topic that I've been tagged in.
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If we giggle, we make fun of terrible men, y'all know the deal.
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She's talking about going to college parties as a plus size girl and how in her college
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experience, she had to work really hard to get into the party scene because there is
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so much gatekeeping and favoring of girls who are skinny, especially from frats, which
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And as someone, I went to a school that didn't have a Greek row at all.
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We had like, I think a singular frat and a singular sorority.
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The frat, I think I went to one party at and it got closed.
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It, I swear to God, if you go inside, it looked like a haunted, like a maze, like a universal
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You know, everything's disgusting and there's no furniture.
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I went in there once, I said, no ma'am, I will never be back here again.
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And then they bulldozed that house down because it's terrible.
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Yeah, so I had, I guarantee it, honestly, it looked like a mad scientist was living in
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But I think in those, in those situations, I never had to deal with any sort of Greek life
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But I remember the only real interaction I had with Greek life was the same friend group
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The, I remember way before I joined like university itself and I'm from India, over there we know
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the lore about frats and sororities being so dark and just like, what was the movie that
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There was like this crazy movie about like colleges protecting fraternities when its members
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and especially as athletes were like, yeah, like commit, like accused of assault.
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And I was like, oh, so I know in my head to avoid frats and sororities with like the plague.
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They're, as far as I know, not typically welcoming to marginalized people in any capacity, especially
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Obviously, there are some Greek lives that are different marginalized people, which is
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But as far as like, I'm assuming we're talking about, yeah, the majority of them are run by
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They get to like be involved in the school still, even though they're far past.
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And then, you know, they're, they're like 1% or children go there.
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The, the concept is foreign to me because I'm not someone who went to a college with
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I remember like this experience being, they have something called Rush Week.
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And this group who, up until that point in my head, I was like, yeah, these are strong
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They were like, hey, rush, rush this sorority with us.
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Like fake being friends with these women for a year because I want to live in this stupid
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And I don't, I don't know what a sorority does or a frat does.
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I don't, I, as far as I know, it's as much as like my knowledge about it is like my knowledge
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And it's, it's kind of like what I've seen on TV is pretty much where it ends.
00:36:05.560
I do know, I do know it's like a networking thing, I believe.
00:36:09.180
Ah, that's what, so I thought it was like a previous like alums or I guess.
00:36:17.380
They like have connections in the industries and you can like meet them and stuff.
00:36:23.300
I'm not doing this because there are something you have to do every single day.
00:36:29.200
They're very, they're very strict too about like things like you can post.
00:36:33.380
Like all this like whole extra layer of pressure.
00:36:36.760
When I asked them, I looked at this friend group that was all women of color.
00:36:41.180
And I'm like, why do you want, this is an all white sorority.
00:36:45.340
Like just, I know you think they're sweet and they probably are, but just keep in mind
00:36:52.260
What are the chances of there not being a single?
00:37:03.580
You're like, no, we want to go because the sororities, so like each sorority has a brother
00:37:16.200
And I was like, you're going to make this your life.
00:37:26.540
And my school too, like my school had like dorms for like freshmen.
00:37:31.360
And then they had apartments too for like students that wanted to stay on campus, but were older
00:37:36.760
than being a freshman because you can't live in the freshman dorms if you're 21.
00:37:41.100
So like they had apartments and I lived in those apartments too.
00:37:50.220
Mine was like really, really old, but like it's nice to live on campus.
00:37:53.800
But like my point being that the living situation does not always have to center around why
00:38:02.820
But I mean, as far as like fat shaming and discrimination, I believe it.
00:38:09.340
I feel like they would do that at any, at normal parties in general, like that are thrown by
00:38:17.940
It's just, but like when you do, when you factor in Greek life and then that like proximity
00:38:22.200
to whiteness and like the white supremacy, it's probably.
00:38:50.220
So the comments on this video, one of them says, my mom told me that at her college to
00:38:57.100
And if you're over a certain weight, they wouldn't let you in.
00:39:02.900
If we say that, if you're someone who hyperfixates on weight,
00:39:06.160
you're a pedophile, you have pedophilic tendencies, unpack it in therapy or jail.
00:39:12.940
So like instead of a welcome mat, a weighing scale, I'll say, I'll say yes to that in one
00:39:20.380
So if when I don't clear it, I take the most world ending shit and then I'll clear that
00:39:33.120
The literal shit you care about, I get it out of me.
00:39:46.680
No, I just know there's some dude called Ryan who's like patting himself on the back
00:39:54.140
I've actually made fun of dudes on TikTok who have made videos like that where they're
00:39:59.820
They're like, we got new decoration for the house, for house parties.
00:40:03.420
And it's a scale and they just put it by the door.
00:40:15.760
I'm sure you got tons of girls wanting to come to your house.
00:40:17.480
I'm sure there are so many fat women dying to be with you.
00:40:27.660
Well, first of all, there's seven of you living in that house, so...
00:40:30.520
You all split that digital scale too, so I was bad.
00:40:37.100
Guys, I bought the scale for the TikTok video, so I'm going to send a Venmo request to everyone
00:40:46.880
We all bought scales, but none of us brought girls?
00:40:58.500
They would have different weights programmed into it.
00:41:02.080
I think if someone tells you that they're going to weigh you, I would say...
00:41:06.880
Well, honestly, if that were me, you know what I'm doing?
00:41:11.960
As soon as they put it down, I'm like cannonballing on top of it.
00:41:25.140
I'm literally like charging up all my power and just punching down onto it with my fist.
00:41:41.160
If I'm being weighed, it's because I'm stepping into a UFC ring.
00:41:46.400
There's no other place in which I'm being publicly weighed and not paid for it.
00:41:51.640
And even then, I'd be like, I'm not doing that.
00:42:02.760
I'm a big proponent of not weighing yourself, regardless of where you're at in your body
00:42:09.280
acceptance journey, because I'm a huge advocate for body neutrality.
00:42:18.620
So weighing yourself does nothing for you, in my opinion, if that's where you're working
00:42:26.240
It also is not indicative of health in any way, shape, or form.
00:42:31.720
Whenever terrible dudes do shit like that, they always reference BMI, and BMI is racist.
00:42:40.100
Based on, like, the chart you use is just for white men.
00:42:52.920
Because I didn't, like, I didn't really like the, when body positivity came up first,
00:43:07.080
It can be either, or, either, yeah, it just is.
00:43:11.700
I feel like when you're a child, when you're a child, I feel like you're in your most, like,
00:43:17.100
before puberty and stuff, when you're unaware of your body and how it affects how you're treated
00:43:22.580
in the world, that's when you're in your most, like, vigorous body neutrality area.
00:43:27.480
Yeah, because you don't, it means nothing to you.
00:43:29.860
What you put on it, what you don't, like, how it looks, how other people perceive it,
00:43:35.980
As you get older, you start to perceive it because it's being perceived.
00:43:42.100
And I feel like body neutrality works for me because I, it's just, it doesn't matter.
00:43:47.780
Because it doesn't, it doesn't matter what it looks like.
00:43:50.220
It shouldn't determine how you're treated, uh, is the whole point for me.
00:44:00.440
But if also you don't want to care about it at all, that's also great.
00:44:04.080
Yeah, I think the thing when there was like, your body is a temple, I'm like, my body is
00:44:10.440
Yeah, like, I want to do strip malls sometimes.
00:44:14.500
It really doesn't matter as long as you are healthy and happy.
00:44:20.600
And healthy has a big asterisk next to it because it's healthy on your terms, what's applicable
00:44:37.200
And the crazy thing is all the dudes who are like that are literally inside their most
00:44:44.160
Yeah, they never talk about that end of the spectrum, do they?
00:44:46.920
You're tracking your micros like down to the hour?
00:44:50.140
Yeah, it's, that's also a form of a disordered eating, which is why I think, that's why it's,
00:44:57.220
you know, it's rooted in nothing more than fatphobia because they don't, if you actually
00:45:02.780
cared about eating disorders of any kind, you would care about them across the board,
00:45:07.520
not just when it looks like something you would perceive to be unattractive.
00:45:12.860
Not when it looks like something you don't want to ****.
00:45:27.860
So this next comment says, my sister told me about how when she was at a party, the
00:45:32.620
frack I said anyone over 150 had to leave and they made, they made them and watched
00:45:45.560
Listen, if you're over 150, that does not mean that you're unhealthy, first of all.
00:45:54.620
But second of all, that's such a weird, bitchless dude thing to say.
00:46:07.540
You just know he pulled that number out of nowhere.
00:46:09.300
And you know what, when they fat shame you, they'll always say 225.
00:46:14.820
I'm not even kidding you, 225 is like the number they always say.
00:46:19.620
And it's so specific and it's because that's the weight they wish they were.
00:46:23.420
Because they're 175 and they can't get past it.
00:46:32.900
Yeah, they can't break 190 and that's their cross to bear.
00:46:44.600
And then, you know, they'll bitch about height.
00:46:46.500
Like they'll bitch about women being like, okay, well then you can't be 5'6".
00:46:50.380
And then they're like, oh, see, this is why men are so unhappy.
00:46:57.820
Oh, my favorite, my favorite argument they make is they'll say, uh, you can change your
00:47:07.640
Why don't you try, why don't you try, why don't you try a little harder?
00:47:11.480
Why don't you put your, like, axe to the grind, bitch.
00:47:17.040
Well, and at the same note, if that's the case, you're not discriminated against because
00:47:23.980
I know a single short dude who's like, my life is different because I'm short.
00:47:36.380
And everyone still makes short jokes about him.
00:47:45.300
The only thing they remember about that guy is that he was short, and you know why?
00:47:51.460
The myths that he did power crazy things because he was short.
00:48:14.380
It's like, it's, I just think like, that's how I said it.
00:48:21.500
Like, you have never seen a vagina in real life, and it's obvious to me.
00:48:29.160
Everyone who has access to their daddy's bank account, leave.
00:48:38.660
I think it's too like, or it's like, if you, if it can't get past the cheeks, you could
00:48:46.900
It's such a, it feels like so much of the time when they're defending their stances,
00:48:51.660
they're like, trying to find something that they can latch onto to make fun of.
00:48:58.420
So we're like, oh, we can't make fun of your astrology.
00:49:16.540
Women have to deal with the constant scrutiny of their looks all the time from a very, very
00:49:26.700
You call a dude short one time, he's going to hold that for the rest of his life, bitch.
00:49:34.000
It's going to be a life altering moment for him.
00:49:36.540
If you call a dude ugly, you call a dude short, you tell him his hairline sucks ass.
00:49:41.940
When he introduces you, he'll be like, oh, this is that girl.
00:49:50.000
Yeah, just to the end of time, he's going to hold on to that.
00:49:57.420
I promise you I'm going to find something that's going to.
00:49:59.680
See, like when sometimes when I say shit, sometimes people will be like, oh, you went
00:50:05.460
I'm like, babe, I'm going for the one that implants like like literal poison.
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One time, one time I made a video about this guy and I talked about that his his shoes
00:51:28.260
looked like they were about a size eight, which is offensive to most men.
00:51:32.140
You want to talk about you want to make fun of a dude, but don't want to say a short joke
00:51:40.440
Say like, what are you like a seven and a half?
00:51:46.680
I said a bunch of other terrible things and that was the only thing he wanted to talk
00:51:55.960
I just took a shot in the dark and I was right.
00:52:11.080
Like, and I had, yeah, and then his buddies like were also like terrible gym dudes and
00:52:18.500
they were stitching me and they were like, oh my God, I saw this one.
00:52:23.180
Oh, I wish I, to this day, I wish I saved it because it made me laugh so hard, but he
00:52:27.820
literally, it's nighttime, like late night, like probably like midnight.
00:52:32.420
He's in a parking lot, car doors open, headlights on.
00:52:36.400
He's using like something to prop his phone up.
00:52:39.220
He takes his shirt off and he's like, make fun of me.
00:52:45.900
My shoe size is an eight and I have struggled to put muscle on my legs.
00:53:01.260
That's the kind of effect you want to have on men like that.
00:53:05.820
The fact that he was like having a full, like, like almost like life transforming moment
00:53:14.140
and I didn't even talk about him and he just, he just hated what I said about that other
00:53:21.860
He's like, I'm also small and you're probably going to make fun of how uneven my nipples
00:53:29.020
But now that you offered this, dinner, yum, yum for me.
00:53:38.500
I talked about him once and I said that his nipples were so like drawn out, like long.
00:53:48.120
Who's been suckling at them teats for that long?
00:53:57.460
He was like, yeah, you know, I do have saggy nipples, like trying to play it off.
00:54:05.940
And he made one of the worst videos I've ever seen ever in my life.
00:54:09.560
He said like, if you're fat, if you're depressed, if you have any sort of mental illness, it's
00:54:16.260
And like, maybe you should care about yourself more and go work out like me had the nerve
00:54:23.940
Like he just bore a fresh litter and he's out here trying to tell other people.
00:54:31.480
And I'm like, you clearly hate this so much because you would hate to be perceived like
00:54:46.260
Okay, so this next video, it's two female UCLA students are being interviewed about what
00:54:58.880
And she says 80% of her classes were predominantly men.
00:55:02.360
And there has been exclusivity and gatekeeping a lot of her school's resources or clubs for
00:55:09.740
And that seems like to be expected in something like STEM.
00:55:18.880
I think the, the weird gatekeeping of information makes no sense to me because isn't the whole
00:55:24.080
point to like share the knowledge, you know, like evolutionary goals.
00:55:32.940
So, so I'd rather, rather not evolve than let a lady take care of it.
00:55:38.220
I'd rather not progress society as a whole than let a woman take charge.
00:55:42.660
A lady in my lab, the sodium would be different.
00:55:50.880
That's so, that's to be expected, unfortunately.
00:55:54.460
Yeah, that's about like clubs and like resources and stuff because it's probably previous STEM dudes
00:56:01.380
Well, just like knowledge, knowledge, that's what you want to gatekeep.
00:56:07.840
Like information that could be helpful to society as a whole.
00:56:12.280
You don't want, you don't want more people in there, like more ground to cover.
00:56:18.040
This actually, oh my God, this reminded me of like, what's the historical name?
00:56:22.860
Like the person who invented, who discovered the double helix structure of DNA.
00:56:27.000
It was a woman and she like wrote it down and discovered it, discovered it.
00:56:31.100
But years later, two dudes, who was the, the, Quicks and Watts?
00:56:36.980
The famous, the famous model that's based on, just took her little research, put it as a
00:56:43.000
part of their study and now it's their double helix model.
00:56:48.580
I always thought in some fields at least, like creative fields, that bias you can never
00:56:55.280
But I always felt that in STEM fields at least, in science fields where the work is information
00:57:11.220
Well, like DNA, like that's the shit you want to, you know what I mean?
00:57:18.480
Well, and I just think this is the, along the same lines as the argument when men are
00:57:23.100
like, you're going to talk shit on men and men built the world around you.
00:57:27.900
The building, the Wi-Fi, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:57:35.340
Bitch, I'll hook this iPhone up to an Ethernet cable.
00:57:40.580
I'll literally, I'll regress back to pilgrim times.
00:57:49.340
But I literally, when you see shit like that, I've said before, we have no idea how much women
00:58:00.020
But do you know how many men took credit for shit that was not theirs?
00:58:05.300
You have no idea how much women have contributed.
00:58:07.420
Just like that story where, like, Albert Einstein's wife is responsible for, like, a huge portion
00:58:15.100
of his work because she was doing his math and shit.
00:58:19.820
Yeah, so he obviously took credit for it because women were not recognized in that field
00:58:25.020
And obviously, he's, like, a pioneer in that department.
00:58:31.240
Yeah, and so, like, she was a huge piece to him succeeding in that field.
00:58:40.120
And you have no idea how many women, like, some women, I guarantee you, I bet you, someone
00:58:47.460
But, like, I bet you some women gave their information to other men and they were like,
00:58:51.980
Like, they need to figure, they need to know this.
00:58:55.060
We need the info for the progression of society as a whole.
00:58:58.200
Not even thinking about how many women probably wrote under a man's name.
00:59:05.800
They're like, take this and go tell the world they need this information.
00:59:20.700
But, I mean, I have a strong feeling that that's happened.
00:59:26.240
There's no way we've lived this long as a civilization.
00:59:29.760
And women have not contributed anything substantial.
00:59:45.680
Just like, I think, women invented, like, it's not Wi-Fi.
00:59:52.340
But, like, it was, like, security systems for homes and businesses.
00:59:59.200
It was either the, not the telephone, but, like, voicemail or something.
01:00:05.280
And that's why you know when to not answer when your mom calls.
01:00:13.500
A woman was a part of the, like, the source code writing for the moon landing?
01:00:20.640
It's like, I'm saying even when maybe one, one in ten, you know, people working in STEM fields
01:00:33.480
And I'm not even going to say, oh, it's because they were women they did it.
01:00:36.040
It's because they loved the subject, like, everyone else.
01:00:40.840
The fact that you hate a woman more than you love your subject is crazy.
01:00:52.620
Like, if you're telling me if there was, like, the vaccine for, like, what we already have
01:00:59.760
If it was created by a woman, tell me if it was.
01:01:02.940
And you're telling me that they'd be like, nah.
01:01:08.160
I'd rather let them die than give a woman credit for this.
01:01:18.520
And it was her DNA that led to huge breakthroughs in, like, AIDS, like, not AIDS curing, but,
01:01:30.120
And it was because something very unique about her DNA, it would replicate a lot, it would
01:01:45.840
And it was centuries before her family even knew.
01:01:55.520
And then they pop out, like, grandkids that are, like, men built the world on TikTok.
01:02:01.800
Men built the world that you live in, including the internet.
01:02:06.400
And then when they say that, too, if someone says that's you, too, your response can always
01:02:18.100
We contributed the same to society in that sense.
01:02:35.640
Thanks to those men, you get to play your game of spreadsheets.
01:02:47.580
Yeah, when they, the whole fallacy, too, of, like, working, like, men working.
01:02:52.380
As far as, like, that's their job is to work and provide.
01:02:57.780
I always think, like, that's because you told us to stay at home, babe.
01:03:04.280
And I always say, first off, true intersectional feminism does not believe in the draft.
01:03:12.280
But two, and more importantly, whose fault is it that only men get drafted?
01:03:16.840
Whose fault is it that you don't have wars so much that you need your citizens to go fight?
01:03:26.840
And they said, women aren't capable of going to war, so I'm only drafting men.
01:03:48.500
So much of the women in work argument where they were like, but yeah, of course they're
01:03:53.120
not getting paid the same amount for the same work, all this shit.
01:03:55.680
I'm like, women were allowed to enter the workforce 60 years ago.
01:04:00.180
We got the right to vote 100 years ago, 1919, just about 100 years ago.
01:04:04.660
We got the right to own our own credit cards and our own bank accounts and our own property
01:04:09.620
without having to put our husband's names or our father's names less than 70 years ago.
01:04:15.060
And we still consume so much of your work market.
01:04:18.060
So we had a fraction of the fraction of your time.
01:04:29.360
Now, when you went to war, do you know how you still needed milk in the fridge?
01:04:36.040
I said, when you guys go to war, what were women doing?
01:04:39.080
Sitting around having pillow fights like you guys think?
01:04:44.220
Like, making the shit to send to you to go to war.
01:04:54.920
The government asked women to be part of the workforce.
01:04:59.640
When the war ended, they were like, time to leave it up to the men.
01:05:32.960
I know I talked about, I had a video a while ago where a guy was like,
01:05:37.420
what if men treated women the same way women treat men?
01:05:51.100
If there's one thing I can count on from y'all, it's that.
01:05:58.760
That's the one consistent thing across the board for all of them.
01:06:02.200
And I was saying like, did you like just wake up today?
01:06:12.020
He just like woke up and was like, I think we should all treat each other nice.
01:06:16.940
And I've never seen a man treat a woman terribly.
01:06:39.200
Okay, so I'll go through some of these comments.
01:06:45.500
STEM is so competitive in the grand scheme of things.
01:06:49.780
If you were in their position, you, I'm assuming it would finish like you would do the same.
01:07:00.520
If she leaves, somebody else is going to discover that information.
01:07:24.440
At least like, I don't know, like creative corporate industries.
01:07:27.120
I'm like, oh yeah, competitiveness because there's only so many jobs, so many positions.
01:07:33.040
Yeah, positions, I understand, but I'm like, competitive for what?
01:07:37.420
If you're all in the same field, aren't you all working for the betterment of the field?
01:07:41.480
That's what I'm saying, like towards the same goal, in essence.
01:07:44.260
Like, because STEM could cover a broad spectrum of things.
01:07:51.320
So, like, aren't you all working towards the same goal?
01:07:54.980
I don't think that dude is really in a position to be removing more women in his workplace and life.
01:08:11.940
Maybe if the freshmen are intimidating you as a senior.
01:08:15.340
Maybe if you, maybe if you were as smart as me, you wouldn't feel as threatened.
01:08:20.120
Me excluding you is because you're better than me.
01:08:26.300
I mean, that's a real, real fancy way of saying that you don't got it like that.
01:08:30.580
That's a nice way of pronouncing I don't study.
01:08:33.940
This next one says, the people saying, oh, my engineering classes, oh, my engineering classes were mainly males.
01:08:40.460
The college can't do anything about women not enrolling in those classes.
01:08:45.660
It's more so the fact that a lot of times they're squeezed out.
01:08:48.740
It's like they're keeping the women there in it.
01:08:51.020
It's like it's like not cultivating an environment where it's welcome and open to all any and all genders that want to like study a specific research based.
01:09:02.240
So it's not even the fact that it's mostly men.
01:09:05.580
A lot of times it's mostly men because women don't want to subject themselves to fields like that.
01:09:10.640
Because then it's like you're fighting two fights.
01:09:12.800
You're doing school and you're fighting every day.
01:09:24.320
I think it's honestly, this is a very interesting conversation I was having with a friend back in university.
01:09:29.220
Where she's also in her final year and she was like, it's very rare that the professors themselves actually stand up to the douche bros of the class.
01:09:39.700
And she was saying she was in a political science class.
01:09:42.460
And there was a dude who would always interrupt but only interrupt her.
01:09:48.220
And the second or third time she was recounting the story of this professor and she was like, this is the only professor who's ever done this for me.
01:09:56.320
He's like, I want you to really try and understand why you think it's okay for you to interrupt her.
01:10:11.380
Like call a student's bias out to their face in front of the class.
01:10:16.280
Well, and then it's like, that's your, that you're watching it happen.
01:10:19.940
You're almost watching, you're almost watching bigotry take shape and form in someone.
01:10:27.980
And you're watching it fester and you're watching it like almost like tangibly become someone and not saying anything is just as harmful as doing it yourself.
01:10:42.260
Well, and in college too, where like high school and, and below like first form, like education is like, it's harder because they get, they're overworked and underpaid.
01:10:53.820
So I understand to an extent, but there are teachers that go above and beyond because they just love being a teacher and they deserve more money for that.
01:11:00.760
But like when you get to the next level, like a higher education, at that point, yeah, yeah.
01:11:07.120
Where they're adults, they're about to enter the workforce.
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Like you said developing their culture, like in that gray space.
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And then the professors are like, I don't give a shit, do what you want.
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In the workplace also, tons of bosses are like, okay.
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It's just like, it's a consistent behavior that's, that's encouraged and not chastised in any way or criticized.
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They can't be asked to like give enough of a shit about it.
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Like, it doesn't make you uncomfortable to watch that?
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I talked about like every terrible experience you have with a man, whether it's like in whatever capacity, the one common thing they always have in common is that there's always other people watching.
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And I said, and that, and that makes you a coward.
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But then when you, the very few times someone reacts or pushes back or stands up for themselves, you have more to say to that person than you do about the injustice that you watched happen in the first place.
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And it's kind of like, it's this, um, like ultimate contradiction.
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Cause you're talking about how you treat people and what's the right way to treat someone.
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But you watched someone treat someone terribly and had, you didn't want to get involved.
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But now all of a sudden you want to get involved when someone stands up for them.
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When it comes to men who criticize me, they always want to talk more about me than about what it is I was talking about in the first place.
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And I think, honestly, 90% of those men, if you got them in public and you were like, do you think women deserve less rights than men?
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And I'm like, do you treat the women in your life the same way you treat the boys in your life?
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Well, they're like, well, no, we're talking, we're not talking about me anymore.
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In that, in those instances, they literally immediately, they'll clam up.
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The amount of times I've like flipped out on dudes who were sexually harassing myself or other women in my vicinity and there were men watching it happen and did nothing.
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So then it's, it's a, it's the same concept when you have teachers watching it happen.
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I think it's a question of how much are you willing to engage with your discomfort?
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And I think women are constantly taught that discomfort is your default state.
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It's your responsibility, your obligation at this point.
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And with men, when, when people are like, yeah, we need men to be part of feminist conversations and like just generally treating the women in your life in a more intentional way.
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Like what am I actually thinking when I do this?
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Like it's that, it's, can you confront your uncomfortability?
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Can you be like, oh, I did X, Y, Z shitty things in the past.
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So it says in my engineering classes, there are only two girls or none, but probably cause
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women seem to be more interested in nursing and dental school.
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To that, to that same, uh, to that same sentiment, I'll raise you a scenario.
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Um, lots of men take like communication cause it's easy.
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You see, then me in those like communication majors.
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And I can say that cause I'm a communications major.
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I had a journalism degree in communications, but it helps with my job now.
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So period, but that's, yeah, communications is like, that's the joke about them is that
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Uh, so that you just have to take a lot of classes cause it can be anything.
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It's like anything women want to do is like tinge with this thing.
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Yeah, it's so lame to want to help people stay alive.
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There was this comment section that was ripping apart this, what it was, this family video
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that was like, the husband posted and they were like, babysitting my child.
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I'm like, don't have a kid if you're going to act like that.
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How are you going to admit that to the internet?
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Your kid's going to grow up and watch that and be like, my dad.
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If that's how you think and you treat women like shit, don't procreate.
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I made that joke to someone once and they were like, that's the meanest thing you could
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The meanest thing I could ever say to you is that you're going to live an aggressively
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mediocre life for the rest of your life because you're not special.
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Don't have children is just a perk, honestly, that I get to tell you.
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The apex of your life will have been your senior night when you played varsity football
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And you're going to talk about that in the Applebee's for the rest of your life.
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I think that's going to do it for our episode today.
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Do you have any other advice for our college attending friends who are just trying to get
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through it with their terrible interactions with men?
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Terrible interactions with men or women or whoever.
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Your college friends are the ones you really do take with you forever.
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Be smart about who you want to spend time with.
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And stick with, you know, whoever you thought was comfortable.
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