HE ASKED FOR MONEY FOR HIS UBER HOME？？ ｜ Drew Afualo ft. Aliyahs Interlude ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 41
Summary
In this episode of Comment Section, I sit down with the one and only Aaliyah Zinnerlude, AKA Aaliya. to talk all things self-esteem, self-confidence, and why men hate her.
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Hey, everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Comment Section Show, starring me, your favorite, and the men hate me the most.
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We all know that, but today is about my very, very special guest, the one and only Aaliyah Zinnerlude, a.k.a. Aaliyah.
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And honestly, I have to say that I feel like if men hate you, you're probably doing something right.
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The first video I ever saw of you that made me follow you was one where you said, like, men have red flags, and for women, it's just...
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Because I feel like a woman, she can be obsessed with herself, and that's like, that's c**t.
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What if it's a guy that's just like, ew, what are you doing?
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And I feel like you and I have very similar veins in which we operate, which is like, we're so completely free from the male gaze, it's not even funny.
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So far from it, it doesn't register to me whatsoever.
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I feel like when you cater to the male gaze, like, you don't benefit at all.
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That's like the longest, darkest tunnel with no light at the end.
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I don't even think it's like a tunnel, because there's like an end to a tunnel.
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That's why when you run into pick-me girls, lost in the sauce.
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I just don't understand how anyone could be a pick-me, because why would you ever want to be picked by, like, people?
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And I feel like when people be pick-me's, like, it's never to be picked by someone who actually matters.
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I mean, I always say, like, pour one out for them.
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But that's like, I think that's why it's so, you appealed to me so much, like, really attracted my attention with your videos.
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Because you're so yourself, and men hate nothing more than a bitch who knows herself, loves herself, and is confident outside of their approval.
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Even, like, it's mostly men, but also just insecure people.
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Like, literally, like, when people don't know who they are, they project those insecurities onto you, and they expect you to, like, feel hurt about it.
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Well, you're also like, I see what you look like.
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I feel like the baddest bitches are always the coolest people.
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Because it's just like, if somebody's hating, like, let's just look in the mirror for a second.
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They're the same people who, like, will tell you to humble yourself?
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I feel like my audience is mostly women, so I don't really get the humble, I don't know.
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No, honestly, I seen hate on my For You page the other day.
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And I was like, so y'all been hating on me on the low?
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I feel like you handle hate so eloquently, though.
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Because when you drag somebody, it's like, like, I get, like, I be feeling offended low-key.
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And I think, like, speaking of the male gaze, right, because I've talked about this before
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on, like, my TikTok as far as, like, freeing yourself from the male gaze.
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It's, like, the most liberating feeling in the world.
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You could literally do, be whatever you want at that point.
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And you're someone who is so free from the male gaze, specifically when it comes to your style.
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So that's our topic is, like, finding your style.
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Like, how women and femme presenting people in general can find their style.
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Because femininity is not inherently male gaze-y.
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It just depends on, I think, intention more than anything.
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I feel like I grew up, like, I was the type of person, I grew up, like, I got bullied growing up.
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So I feel like that had a big part into, like, who I became today.
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Because, like, when I had went to college, that was, like, the first time in my life where, like,
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And, like, I had lost hella weight during quarantine.
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And, like, you see the whole thing, like, just constantly change.
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And then I realized that men are never satisfied.
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Like, why would I ever cater to you when you do nothing for me?
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Like, I don't, I feel like when a woman compliments you, it's like, ooh, like, that's my sister.
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But when it's a guy, it's like, ew, why did you say that?
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But, like, yeah, I feel like why would I, I just don't cater to the male gaze at all.
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Like, it's just, like, what can you wear exactly?
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Like, skinny jeans, like, some, like, slutty outfit.
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But I could wear a slutty outfit and still cater to the female gaze.
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And it's also, I feel like it's always so by their terms.
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Like, what they like to see on women, what they find attractive, what they think is hot, what that women wear.
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And I'm, I'm the type of person, like, from the, because sometimes people will be like, have you always been this way?
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Like, some dudes will say, like, she was clearly wronged by someone in the past.
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No, y'all have been on a short leash with me my entire life.
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We all just unlearned it on, like, a lot of other people.
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But, even at my, even in the throes of my pick me stage, like, the most deep, like, cavernous pick me phase, I still hated how men acted and treated me.
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Like, I really, like, even then, I was never the type of bitch that'd be like, well, that's what he, I was never like that.
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As soon as they said they wanted something for me, I'd do the opposite.
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And it's like, I'd understand if you were doing something for me, like, or if you were, like, giving me something that I needed or I deeply desired.
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But it's like, first of all, you're annoying as hell.
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And, like, I feel like even, like, whether you're, you feel like you're attractive or you're not attractive, men are low-key horrible people.
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No, like, actually, like, it's, like, it's almost programmed in them.
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Because I also think, too, like, they're so, this is, like, a much deeper interpretation of it, but they're so used to taking up space, especially white men.
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They're so used to being welcome in every space, to being listened to, to being prioritized.
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So then when you factor in people like you and I, who they're at the very bottom of the list of people that I'm trying to prioritize, they get so offended.
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They're like, I can't believe that you don't care what I think.
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And I feel like that's what they hate the most, especially.
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Because I feel like for the longest time, men can be so mediocre and still, like, be desired by society.
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But women have to put in their all, like, all the time.
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And it's like, no, like, actually, I want you to do this, this, this, this, and this, just like we have to do.
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I think that it's also, it speaks to, like, just how much faster women mature than men.
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Because women, like, they mature faster, that's, like, a scientific fact.
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But they also, like, are exposed to, like, adulthood so much sooner.
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I feel like women are, like, when they grow up, they're taught to be, like, caretakers and mothers, to have empathy for other people.
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While as men, they're just taught to, like, just be a child, like, just to live and do whatever.
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But at the same time, and no, I feel like in society, that also makes it to where, like, when you get in relationships with men, you find, like, they have, like, no basic, like, emotions.
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Yeah, and it's, like, how are you a normal person?
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But it's just because society has enabled them.
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They live in a completely different world than we do sometimes.
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Some of the shit they say, I'm, like, there's no way that you, like, vote.
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There's no way that you're, like, an actual human being.
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And especially when I'm, like, mean to them and they fold, like, so easily.
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I literally think to myself, what I said was such a silly goose thing to say.
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If that is the worst thing that's ever happened to you, I would give up now.
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And I feel like the way, like, women, when we talk to our friends, we be like, bitch, shut
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Like, they'll be like, oh, what are you talking about?
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So, obviously, since we're talking about, like, finding your style and, like, male gaze,
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like, removing yourself from it, you have a very specific style.
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So, how did it, like, how did you come about your style?
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Did you always kind of know how you wanted to dress?
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Honestly, I feel like I've been into fashion my entire life, but I never got money until
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I was like, all real bitches started working, like, as soon as, like, they hit that legal
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age and they got a job so they could pay for the shit they wanted to pay for.
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And, like, when I turned 16, I got a job at McDonald's.
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But I had gotten a little bit of pocket change and I would go thrifting and then I would,
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like, cut up tops and, like, make outfits and shit.
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But, and then, but, like, my outfits in high school, like, compared to now, oof, I hope
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Yes, but people were eating that shit up because I got nominated for best dress in high school
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So I was like, okay, y'all, y'all see it a little bit.
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But, um, also, once, like, quarantine hit, I feel like for the first time in, like, most
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people's lives, they got the time to be, like, individuals, like, without society's gaze
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on us and, like, our, like, society's, um, projections on us.
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So during that time, I was just, like, on Pinterest, like, researching Hela and I'm like,
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Like, I'm gonna mix this with this with this and see what works.
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And I posted on Instagram and I started getting consistent, started posting on TikTok and
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I think, and I love, um, I love when women are so bold and confidently themselves in their
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style, regardless of what other people think or say.
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Because I feel like it's, especially now with so much access to social media, it's so easy
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to fall into trends just because you see it all the time and you see, like, influencers
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You see famous people wear things and you're like, oh, I want to look like that.
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But I love when people dress solely for themselves and nobody else.
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It's actually so freeing because I feel like the reason a lot of people don't do that is
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just because they're so afraid of being perceived.
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But honestly, like, when I go outside, even when I'm perceived, like, a lot of people love
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Like, when you're yourself, I think people also get inspired, too.
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Like, even if that's not the style that they want, like, they're inspired to, like, truly
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When you're real, other people want to be real, too.
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So we're going to talk about some videos that relate to style and finding your style.
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I think there's a lot of power in it, too, especially when it's obviously freed from
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the male gaze because then you know for a fact that's exactly who you are and what you
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want to look like and how you want to present to the world.
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And there's, like, a certain amount of power in that.
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And I feel like terrible men hate when you, like, know exactly who you are and what you
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And they can't, like, nothing they say matters because you're going to dress however you
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I feel like a lot of times when men get in relationships with women, they try to, like,
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make them into a version of themselves that, I mean, they try to make the women into a version
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And it's like, you knew who I was, like, before all of this and you still trying to do all
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And that's why I've talked about, like, my boyfriend, for example, is someone, like,
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because a lot of dudes will be like, I feel bad for your boyfriend.
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But I talk about how he, like, because sometimes they try to say things, like, I'm sure that
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they may have criticized you about your confidence or whatever.
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But they say, like, oh, you need to be with someone who's going to humble you, someone
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who's going to make you, you know, kind of, like, take a second look, like, not feel
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Does she look like the type of bitch to be with somebody like that?
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I'm like, he wouldn't be my man if he did that shit.
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And I feel like guys don't realize that us being confident is actually so attractive
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I was like, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person.
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But I also think, too, that, like, with him, I was like, that's why he loves me, because
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I'm so confident, because I know exactly who I am and what I want and how I feel about
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Like, when you derive all your male validation, or your validation from your male partner,
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it's very easy for it to, like, crumble when they leave.
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And I also feel like that happens a lot of times with friends also.
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Like, when you don't know who you are, like, you're kind of like a shapeshifter.
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Like, whenever you're with somebody else, you're like a different person, this, that, and
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Like, I don't understand how anyone could do that 24-7.
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So, we're going to talk about videos that have to do with our topic today.
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And what we do on the comment section is we bring them here, we, like, break them down,
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kiki, laugh, make jokes, all of that good stuff.
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So, this first one is a woman compares her style from when she used to dress for the male
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The first pictures are all dressed as, like, very feminine presenting, and she looks a
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And in the current pictures, she's wearing pantsuits, blazers, baggier clothes.
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It's clear she's found her personal style and looks way more confident now.
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One of my male gaze release things for dressing was baggy clothes.
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Because I'm a tall girl and I'm a thick girl, like, I used to think if I dressed baggy,
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it wouldn't, like, be, like, form-fitting or, like, flattering.
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Like, my favorite, like, if my, if, oh, I'll ask you this question, too.
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If you were a cartoon character, like, what their outfit would be.
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Mine would be, like, big baggy, like, high-waisted jeans and a tiny little top.
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But miniskirt, some high boots, and a short top, too.
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And I also feel like the thing that's crazy is, like, a lot of times when women stop dressing
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for the male gaze, they think that, or, like, a lot of times when we say that we're dressing
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for the female gaze, we think, like, it has to be, like, baggy clothes and shit, too.
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But I feel like guys hate when, like, women's, like, whole ass is out in their short skirts
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They don't, like, they want you to be, like, perfectly in the middle, but whatever that
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Like, when they're showing, when someone dresses with, where they're showing a lot more skin,
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And that's why it's, like, that especially is not for anyone but women.
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Because they're always, like, well, you're dressing like that to get attention.
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I feel like, um, not really, but I get a lot of, like, um, like, aren't you cold?
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Y'all know y'all want, y'all know, like, eating this outfit up.
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But I actually feel like, for some reason, maybe I do get hate, but I don't just be reading
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Like, I see the hate comments and I'm like, yeah, you're blocked.
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Like, you're never gonna see me again, actually.
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I feel like, you don't have to exist, I don't want you to exist.
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If someone comes in your space and they're being, like, hateful, you have no right to
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I feel like the reason that hate comments don't really affect me is just because of the
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fact that I know when I turn off my phone, you literally, like, aren't even a real person
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Like, you live in, like, the middle of f***ing nowhere.
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Like, I'm literally never gonna see you ever again.
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Yeah, it's like, I'm never gonna think about you, but you're always gonna be thinking about
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And I feel like if you're not getting hate for real, like, you're not doing something
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And so, the comments on this video, this first one says, you dress for the male gaze sounds
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Men don't dress for women, we know, because you are garbage.
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We're well aware that you don't dress for women because you look like shit every time
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What's the worst, like, outfit combo you could think of for a man?
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Yeah, like, the most, like, red flag, terrible outfit combo.
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Yeah, it's like, it just, it just, um, sparks this irrational rage inside of me.
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And I feel like, I, I hate when people don't have, like, real ass friends.
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Because I feel like, if my friends saw me in some crazy ass shit like that, they would
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be like, girl, like, please, let's be for real.
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Yeah, see, you always gotta have someone who's gonna keep it real with you.
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Like, like, like, be so honest with you out of love.
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And they're gonna tell you if you look like shit.
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Like, and I feel like, sometimes it's like, do you not, can you not tell?
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Do you think, do you really think you're eating in that outfit?
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I think that all the time, like, how do you think you look like?
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I, I, I think I hate, I hate, like, a really tight skinny jean.
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I guess it depends on the body it's on, but like, because sometimes, depending on the
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Yeah, with like, the chubbies and like, the polo.
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Yeah, it's the, with the, um, the khaki shorts and shit.
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Yeah, like, they're dressing like they're going golfing, but they're not golfing.
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And I, I've just seen the whole, um, those really, those glasses, the ones that are like,
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Yeah, they're like Oakley's, like, like, the, like, uh, they're kind of like the wraparounds.
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And it's like, I feel like men actually dress for the man gaze, too.
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Yeah, they like, they just like, copy each other.
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And I feel like it's so much harder for a girl to like, be noticed for her fashion.
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Because I feel like guys can wear anything outside of what they wear on the daily.
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But it's like, excuse me, Anna Wintour's calling.
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It's like, you're literally wearing the most basic shit ever.
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I once made a video where I talked about these two dudes.
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Like, I said, um, they said this, like, head ass shit.
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But I had commented, like, I'm like, you know, based off the fits alone, I know you're not
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smart enough to, like, have a conversation with me about, like, why it's so problematic
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But I was like, but you guys literally dress like dudes that are, like, they harass you
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Like, you're in the lazy river and they, like, buy you one drink and they, like, will
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And they're like, it's just too much and they wear too much cologne and it's.
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And I was like, and someone was saying, if someone said that about my outfit, I would
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I was like, I mean, those are just the vibes you give me.
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This next comment says, I mean, you're really trying to blame men for the way you choose
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But it's like, men say that, but you dress, like, you dress in a certain way and then
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She's just saying, like, she was influenced by the male gaze.
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So now she's like, I'm going to dress for myself now.
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And it's crazy how, like, a simple TikTok like that got those hate comments.
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If y'all see my For You page sometimes, like, y'all would really hate it, like, I swear.
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It's like, they're just constantly looking for ways to, like, be oppressed, you know?
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And I feel like TikTok is, like, a place where hate is so normalized.
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Like, you'll be in the comment section and one person hates it and then, like, it'll
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be, like, 60 people replying to that one just hating even more.
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And it's so wild to see, like, different platforms.
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Because I feel like Twitter, you can't really say too much at all.
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But TikTok, like, there's no filter whatsoever.
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I also think, too, like, when you wear certain things and you really like them, I find it
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just so stupid to be like, I think this is so ugly.
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And I feel like I've never been the person to be like, like, if I don't like something,
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like, I just go out of my way to tell you that I hate it.
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But I also think it's because for the first time, like, sometimes social media, like,
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for the first time in people's lives, they're getting validation that they never would get
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And it's like, in real life, though, you're actually a loser.
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Sometimes I'll get hate comments and I don't see them till, like, weeks later.
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And I'll go back and I'll look and they have, like, a hundred likes or something because my
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And so they have, like, a hundred likes and I know they're feeling themselves.
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Because sometimes I'll come, people will come back and they'll be like, she deleted my comment
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The fact that you came back to the video to say that says so much.
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And sometimes, I made a video about this so long ago, but, like, dudes will write me a
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They'll be like, one, this is why I think that blah, blah, blah.
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Like, literally, they're numbering it so you can read it in order.
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And, like, I'll wait till they get to, like, three and then I delete it.
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And I just delete it and then I block them and they'll come back from another account
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They're like, she deleted my first comment, but I just want to finish my thought.
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The absolute adrenaline rush I get from just ruining their day.
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I also feel like if you're, like, if you have multiple pages dedicated to hating one person,
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like, there's actually something wrong with you.
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I had one dude once, he made, like, this is not an exaggeration, like, 12 accounts.
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He kept making them and he was like, you think, you can't block all of them.
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Because I feel like if you can take that much time to make 12 accounts, like, you know,
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you have to make, like, a different email, like, use a different number.
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That's literally, that's quite literally a fan account.
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And I think that whenever women are like, well, you know, I've just, like, I realized, you
00:27:14.860
know, the problematic beliefs I had, and I unpacked them, and now I've shifted my view,
00:27:25.640
I mean, kind of, but, like, it wasn't about you.
00:27:28.980
Literally, like, how does my self, like, journey have anything to do with you at all?
00:27:35.900
Like, I feel like men have this thing to where, like, they have to be the center of attention
00:27:41.260
And it's crazy, because they say, like, you're the attention whore.
00:27:43.600
Like, you're the one who's looking for attention, but it's like, you're literally doing that.
00:27:46.960
It's the same sentiment as, that is the same sentiment as, like, when they're like, oh,
00:27:54.580
Men are the most dramatic people on planet Earth.
00:27:58.580
If you don't believe me, go Google my name on TikTok, and you tell me who's more dramatic.
00:28:08.100
Like, have you ever been friends with a man and just, like, thought, like, how do you
00:28:21.600
And I feel like it just makes me even more mad.
00:28:24.200
Because it's like, if it's a girl, it's like, oh, yeah.
00:28:28.700
But it's like, why are you, like, in our business?
00:28:33.020
Like, we're not, like, talking about y'all and doing all this extra shit.
00:28:37.040
Like, especially in, like, grade school or, like, college and stuff.
00:28:43.500
Well, and also, they would never know this because they're never in circles with, like,
00:28:48.240
primarily women or femme-presenting people in general.
00:28:50.640
But, like, women, like, if you're talking shit, like, let's, first of all, everyone
00:28:59.220
But sometimes, like, especially in my experience with all my girlfriends over all the years
00:29:04.060
of my life, when you're talking shit, sometimes if you're doing too much, like, they'll tell
00:29:20.100
Like, someone who tells you when you're doing the most.
00:29:26.480
I can genuinely say that all of my friends are women.
00:29:30.960
So, like, it's just, I find it hard to be around men all the time just because I feel
00:29:37.760
Like, do you want to be my friend or do you want to be more than my friend?
00:29:44.220
It's in the same vein as, like, when men try to hit on you and then you go, nah, I'm good.
00:29:56.800
And then when they say you don't want to be my friend, you go, no.
00:30:05.140
Because it's, like, why would I want to be friends with this random ass person?
00:30:12.960
I've said before, like, when they say that, I've said, like, you don't want to be my friend.
00:30:23.320
And I feel like a man being my friend would just be so annoying, too.
00:30:26.520
Just because I talk about hitting men all the time.
00:30:40.900
But y'all are, like, in a romantic relationship to where it's like, that doesn't even matter.
00:30:47.620
I've had men be like, does your boyfriend even know what you do?
00:30:51.160
My boyfriend's the reason I started doing it in the first place.
00:30:54.380
He literally encouraged me to start posting on TikTok.
00:31:03.080
I started consistently posting, like, last February.
00:31:10.880
He was like, I think you would be really good at it.
00:31:15.800
Turns out there's a lot of money in pissing men off.
00:31:22.400
I think that I've talked about this before, too.
00:31:26.200
But, like, it's not about, for me, it's not about, like, changing them.
00:31:32.920
I'm like, to hear this bullshit, because, like, that's just how I've always operated throughout life.
00:31:38.020
And it turns out not everybody has been exposed to, like, that kind of way of thinking before.
00:31:43.980
So that's why I'm like, you have to think about it like this.
00:31:51.440
And it's also the fact that I feel like so many other women feel exactly the same way.
00:32:01.220
We talk, I've talked about that in a video before, too, where I was like, the reason why so many women and other people like me is because we have a shared experience.
00:32:11.000
We've all encountered terrible dudes at one point or another.
00:32:13.900
And it's crazy because I feel like not every guy can say that about women.
00:32:18.680
I feel like there's so many good women compared to good men.
00:32:24.980
Like, sometimes, like, I feel like if there is, like, a woman who, like, does a guy, like, super dirty, I'm just like, you're just karma.
00:32:31.460
Like, for all the things that you guys have done to women.
00:32:37.600
I think the odds are a lot higher on the other side of, like, men being worse or terrible or traumatizing women.
00:32:46.920
And if it is, and the crazy part is, like, when men come out and tell they're terrible, like, let's say they had a genuinely terrible experience with someone who just so happened to be a woman or identify as a woman.
00:33:05.080
They're like, I'm so sorry that happened to you.
00:33:08.320
Like you said, like, how we learn empathy at such a young age and, like, to be there for others.
00:33:12.900
Whereas, like, when women come out and they're like, this guy literally sexually harassed me, they're like, well, maybe you shouldn't dress like that.
00:33:21.000
They're like, well, maybe, maybe you shouldn't do this.
00:33:26.260
Because I feel like guys, like, they just get a pass with everything.
00:33:30.140
And I feel like a lot of guys would be like, oh, like, my ex was, like, a horrible person.
00:33:34.760
And then you go, like, and you see, like, what he actually did to his ex or, like, what he did to his past relationship.
00:33:40.080
That was something I actually mentioned in one of my videos once.
00:33:43.780
I talked about how, like, if he talks about how crazy his ex is, but he does not ever talk about anything he did.
00:33:53.440
Sometimes someone's worse than the other, yada, yada, yada.
00:33:56.120
But when there's, like, a decline in a relationship, the odds of it just being one person is very slim when it comes to men describing their ex-girlfriends.
00:34:06.220
Like, you have to look at, like, really look and see.
00:34:09.620
And then you have to peep how he's describing her, too.
00:34:12.720
Because, like, the whole, like, yeah, she was crazy.
00:34:20.640
Like, you could be like, I genuinely didn't like this.
00:34:25.860
And that's, like, I was a perfect person, but, like, it just wasn't working.
00:34:35.260
Because I feel like a lot of guys think that you like when, like, they're, like, not friendly with, like, other women or, like, they're not doing this.
00:34:42.340
But it's just, like, you're actually, like, a horrible person.
00:34:46.000
I think it's, like, a, it's, it's a, well, yeah, it's, it's a brainwashing, like, manipulative tactic, I think.
00:34:54.640
Because they're, like, I'm just, like, I just wanted to love her.
00:34:58.300
And, like, I just wanted to, like, you know, be there for her.
00:35:03.160
And then they use that to project their trust issues onto you, too.
00:35:14.500
Like, literally, I hate when people get into relationships and they're not healed.
00:35:17.440
Because it's, like, why are you putting all of this, like, trauma and stuff on their new partner?
00:35:24.220
Well, and they, they try to argue about that all the time.
00:35:28.060
They'll be, like, oh, well, like, we need, you know, what happened to the era of women where they were, like, ride or dies.
00:35:35.300
Like, no matter what they did, like, they were always there.
00:35:48.480
Well, and it's, like, if someone's with you when you're down financially and then you guys come up together, that's great.
00:35:54.420
But if you're stepping out on her all the time and she didn't stand by you, like, go to hell.
00:35:58.680
Like, even with the broke thing, too, I feel like a lot of guys don't understand that it's just, like, we want to see you, like, have a plan to get out of this.
00:36:06.340
But, like, if you're just, like, doing nothing for yourself, it's like, why?
00:36:13.240
Like, why would we want to ever mess with somebody like that?
00:36:16.020
But I feel like women also, like, we give too many chances to men, like, just, like, being horrible people.
00:36:23.220
They're like, well, you know, maybe this, maybe that.
00:36:25.520
But that's, that's the empathy winning because it almost clouds the common sense.
00:36:31.440
Because then it's, like, sometimes I want to tell some women when men are, like, being manipulative and I can tell.
00:36:38.100
Like, they are getting really good at being sneaky about hiding how misogynistic they are.
00:36:44.800
And, like, I made this comparison the other day on the show.
00:36:47.600
I forget which episode, but I was talking about how, like, if you're listening to a song and then you go, but you don't even know who this is.
00:36:56.420
And they're like, see, that's why I like you because you're not like other girls.
00:37:05.320
It's, like, it will come up in more aggressive ways later.
00:37:08.560
And then it will be, like, the most basic artist.
00:37:12.100
Like, what do you mean you're surprised I knew what this was?
00:37:19.300
Like, just, like, you know, some girls, like, they're not like you.
00:37:24.060
Like, if he shit-talks women, too, in front of you, that's a bad one.
00:37:29.700
And I say that, but then I shit-talk men in front of, like, men.
00:37:33.400
I'm saying, like, when they're shit-talking women to, like, uplift you.
00:37:38.540
So they're like, oh, like, I hate when women dress like this.
00:37:42.380
That's why I like you so much because you don't act like these other hoes.
00:37:48.260
Because even, like, when I'm with women and they talk shit about other women, too, I hate that.
00:37:57.800
I've never been the type of person to, like, see somebody, like, just being themselves and, like, be the type of person to just, like, be mad about it.
00:38:05.120
Even, like, even if I, like, had problems, like, if I were to ever have problems with a woman, I'd be like, she's so pretty.
00:38:13.920
But, like, lying about it, like, you would know she's a bad bitch.
00:38:19.740
I was like, I mean, I'm not going to call you ugly because that's a lie, but you are not a nice person and that's the truth.
00:38:32.780
I don't really, yeah, I don't like being a hater either.
00:38:38.700
Yeah, I feel like there's a difference between being a hater and a loser.
00:38:42.560
Like, there's a thin line that a lot of times is crossed.
00:38:46.640
A lot of people say they're a hater, but really they're just a loser.
00:38:49.120
Like, if you hate things unprovoked, like, people especially just being themselves, you're a loser.
00:38:56.100
But if you hate shit like raisins, you're like, I hate raisins.
00:39:03.240
I super, super like that distinction because you're right, the line is razor thin.
00:39:10.200
Because some people will be like, oh, this is why I hate, like, me, for example, I've seen a video like this.
00:39:15.740
I'm like, this is why I hate, like, these are all TikTokers I hate for no particular reason.
00:39:25.280
Like, they're all, you have me blocked, but this came on my 40s page?
00:39:32.020
And it's the fact, like, you ever see those TikToks where it's like, when an influencer I didn't like for any particular reason gets canceled, like, I'd be so happy.
00:39:46.260
I'm too busy to be worrying about people like that.
00:39:51.160
In this one, this is an on the street, like, interview style video.
00:40:06.340
A guy asks a college frat boy what the worst female fashion trend is.
00:40:09.640
And the frat guy says, those mom jeans that are massive.
00:40:18.820
I need some tight jeans, yoga pants, or those bell-bottom pants.
00:40:25.700
I'll give you one guess as to what race all of these men were.
00:40:33.560
And they probably all have a specific look, too.
00:40:41.580
And I think if I know, I'm 99% sure I know the video.
00:40:46.340
He had, like, these, like, literally skin-tight, damn near painted-on skinny jeans.
00:40:53.200
Like, really highlighted how tiny the legs were.
00:40:56.480
And then he had, like, a big, like, jersey that was, like, hanging.
00:41:05.580
Like, it's also just the fact that, like, if you yourself know you can't dress,
00:41:10.800
you know you can't do all this, who gave you that right to ever project your insecurities
00:41:26.580
Like, why did you even ask this guy this question?
00:41:28.820
Like, he, they definitely knew what they were doing.
00:41:32.620
And, like, I think the other, if I remember, there's, like, three of them, and the one dude
00:41:36.600
was, like, asking them questions, and the other two kind of, like, bailed out a little
00:41:40.180
bit, they were, like, oh, I'm not trying to get canceled for that.
00:41:44.080
But I also, that's a perfect example of, like, the male-female gaze.
00:41:49.020
Like, those, like, pants that he's describing don't give him the opportunity to objectify
00:41:56.580
Like, he wants, I want to be able to sexualize you against your will, and you won't let me
00:42:02.980
And then it's the fact that once they sexualize you and you're not going for it, they call you,
00:42:07.160
like, a slut, or, like, they say, like, you're doing this for, like, one reason only.
00:42:15.080
You wanted me to do it for your attention, but now I tell you that you're ugly, and all
00:42:20.080
Like, you ever had a guy, like, hit on you, and then when you, like, reject their advances,
00:42:27.160
And also, I'm so glad you said no, because you're a fat bitch.
00:42:31.700
But it's, like, I was cute, like, two seconds ago, though.
00:42:38.700
That happened to me one time that I can think of.
00:42:42.040
When I was in college, my friends and I were, like, walking down the street.
00:42:45.620
It was, like, we just left a bar, so we were walking to our, we were walking home, I think.
00:42:51.960
There was a bunch of dudes in it, and they started, like, catcalling, objectifying us.
00:42:55.360
And they were, like, oh, like, come here, like, come here, blah, blah, blah, like, sing
00:43:04.140
So I was, honestly, crazier when I was younger.
00:43:09.140
Like, and then we kept walking, and they kept following us, kept doing it.
00:43:11.820
And I couldn't take it anymore, so I was, like, all right.
00:43:21.960
Immediately, they were, like, you're a fat bitch.
00:43:34.140
And it's also the fact, like, I feel like I've been through, like, a similar situation,
00:43:40.200
I was walking down the street, and this guy, like, I feel like, okay, have you ever, like,
00:43:50.460
Like, they're the worst people on planet Earth.
00:43:53.380
Because, like, I feel like in the South, like, there's this, like, southern hospitality aspect
00:43:58.060
But, like, once you get further up north, it's, like, all that shit just goes out the window.
00:44:02.480
So, like, we're walking, and this, like, this grown-ass man, like, he's catcalling me.
00:44:14.360
And then I'm like, why did you, like, at this point, like, I'm the type of person, my temper
00:44:20.420
gets, like, low when it's, like, somebody after I've already told them, like, you're making
00:44:27.580
Like, I say that, and I'm like, he's like, who the, are you talking to?
00:44:32.760
And mind you, we're in this store, like, there's people in there, there's employees, and he's
00:44:42.120
And they had to, like, escort me, like, back to my dorm because, like, he was going to fight
00:44:46.860
me, like, in this store because I said I didn't want to talk to him.
00:44:50.120
The way that masculinity, this, like, toxic masculinity is, like, so fragile.
00:44:55.800
I was, like, you're, like, the worst person on planet Earth.
00:44:58.320
I, I, no, I've never dealt with a man from New York, I don't think.
00:45:03.760
I'll tell you who, I'll tell you who is terrible, um, that I have dealt with.
00:45:11.780
I don't know if they put just, like, hella, like, I hate everyone but me.
00:45:20.460
I don't know what the f*** they're putting in their food over there.
00:45:23.120
But, like, Australian men are, like, another level of misogyny.
00:45:29.380
I've, I've pissed them off on TikTok so often, like, which is so funny because I have a huge
00:45:37.160
Now I know why because the men are so goddamn terrible.
00:45:40.380
So, is a lot of your, um, fan base from men, like, especially?
00:45:47.920
No, my, my, uh, ratio is literally, like, 97.3 women.
00:46:00.880
Uh, I've posted my ratio once a while ago and someone said, how do I do, how do I get
00:46:07.780
And I was like, it's real easy, uh, just to make them hate you.
00:46:13.720
The minute you start making fun of them, they can't hang.
00:46:16.360
It's actually kind of wild because I feel like more recently I've had, like, men come
00:46:28.480
They, they pale in comparison as far as the numbers go.
00:46:32.780
And like, sometimes, um, very few times have like straight men come up to me and, and said
00:46:41.140
Have you had people come up to you and say like mean things in person?
00:46:47.260
I've had, I've had like some dudes who are creators come up to me and like, you can tell
00:46:55.960
Because they, they know exactly who I am and I've never talked about them, but I think
00:47:00.600
they just, there's friction because they know who I am and they are the exact dude that
00:47:07.720
I've never, I've had straight men come up to me and be like, my girlfriend is such a
00:47:11.980
Like, can I please take a picture with you so I can show her?
00:47:14.740
So like that, that I've had and it's very sweet every single time.
00:47:17.800
And it's funny because all of them are not ugly and they're not terrible.
00:47:23.720
It's funny how like everyone who likes us is fun, sexy, and cool.
00:47:28.220
And everyone who hates us is like miserable and loser.
00:47:37.520
Like real, like when you're fun, sexy, and cool, you have fun, sexy, and cool people who
00:47:43.060
So like on, okay, so back to this video where this skinny jeans dude is talking about what
00:47:54.500
One of these comments says, why are y'all so pissed that he had an opinion?
00:47:57.620
If a girl, if it was a girl saying that, you would all agree.
00:48:03.020
Whenever you ask women, those like men on the street interviews, if it's like a, not a misogynistic
00:48:07.660
question, it's like a question like, Hey, what's a fashion trend you hate?
00:48:10.240
Like a lot of times they'll say it and then they'll be like, but you know, like they always
00:48:15.240
follow it up with something like, but like, you know, I, I think like I, if they did it
00:48:20.440
Like they always like cushion it with something.
00:48:25.640
I just, I'm not a big fan of that, but like, that's just me.
00:48:28.620
Whereas like when you ask women, they're like, I hate bitches who do this and they're
00:48:37.500
And I also feel like the fact that, um, like guys, when they say things like that, they
00:48:43.400
mean like, when they say they hate it, they mean they hate it.
00:48:46.260
Like, Oh God, a girl will say they hate something on a guy, but like if their boyfriend were to
00:48:50.220
wear it or something, they'd be like, Oh, like, okay.
00:48:54.240
But guys, like, that's like the worst thing on planet earth.
00:48:58.640
And then, and sometimes men will write like shit, like, like these shit, terrible comments.
00:49:04.200
And then I'll write to them like, uh, this is unrelated to your comment, but do you have
00:49:13.540
It's either crickets or they block me or they'll say, no, I have better.
00:49:18.520
Like one dude wrote to me recently, like literally the other day, he's like, I have better ways
00:49:29.040
Can we talk about how I feel like the main guys who talk about women being gold diggers
00:49:39.520
Like, I feel like in order for someone to be a gold digger, you have to have something
00:49:45.280
There's nothing like, I would not even pick up a shovel for you.
00:49:55.600
You don't like do anything that would ever make me attracted to you.
00:50:01.120
Well, and it's like men with money don't say shit like that.
00:50:05.780
Like they, they never say shit where they're like, we were just looking for money.
00:50:11.760
Cause I feel like also when men have money, like they don't mind spending it on somebody
00:50:19.220
But then again, I also feel like there's a difference between a guy who has money and
00:50:24.980
Cause I feel like a guy won't have any money, but like, if he likes you, he'll find a way
00:50:32.340
But sometimes I feel like it's the worst thing on planet earth to spoil a girl or to give
00:50:38.860
I saw a video from, um, you know, head of the hoochies, Nia.
00:50:46.400
I literally watched this morning and she was talking about how like the men are literally
00:50:51.480
And she said she saw a video where a dude was talking about buffer dates where you go
00:50:57.640
on a date with a woman where it's not expensive and it's not like date like, but you like find
00:51:07.540
And she was like, that's the craziest shit I've ever heard in my life.
00:51:17.820
It's just because of the fact that if you don't like this person, you actually never
00:51:23.120
But you're like taking them to a place that you don't even like probably just to.
00:51:31.440
No, if you take me somewhere that I know, like I feel like a guy can take you somewhere
00:51:35.800
and you could just tell he doesn't respect you like at all.
00:51:42.200
Actually, have you ever had it to where it's like the first date, like a guy made you like
00:51:46.760
split the bill or like made you do something that you hated?
00:51:57.420
I have gone on dates where I always offer and I'm being dead serious.
00:52:02.580
Mostly because I'm like, I don't trust these hoes.
00:52:05.200
And you don't want a guy to everything that he owes you.
00:52:10.620
But I did go on a date once where he we went to 7-Eleven, which is like a date.
00:52:21.880
I thought at the time I was like, that's sweet because it's in my head.
00:52:33.240
But like I didn't care because I had blown him off a million times, not on purpose.
00:52:38.860
And then he he bought me an ice cream because there's no real food there.
00:52:43.160
So and he got two ice creams and he ate them like carrot sticks, which stressed me out.
00:52:49.940
I don't like when people buy cold stuff with their front seat.
00:52:58.300
He ate them in two bites and like I ate mine so slow.
00:53:02.580
Wait, did he say like y'all were going on a date?
00:53:22.020
I feel like once I would be like, is this like the beginning?
00:53:30.520
I'm not, I don't mind like whatever, like getting to know each other.
00:53:35.460
And I talked about this on my podcast with my sister was like, he was eating, eating the
00:53:42.200
Well, he ate them so fast, which stressed me out a little bit, but I was like, it's fine.
00:53:47.760
And then he had the trash and then he just littered, but he didn't just litter.
00:53:55.060
Like I was like, so like, you know, how many siblings do you have?
00:54:00.640
And he's like, oh, you know, I have two, like three sisters.
00:54:06.900
Like, and the way it jarred me so much that I was like, the ick, the ick, the ick, it's
00:54:13.480
And then he did it again with the second rapper.
00:54:16.340
And the crazy part is we were in Hawaii, which is like, Malama Daina, like you're not
00:54:25.120
I was like, and then I, I don't know what it was about that action, but I was like, I
00:54:32.440
I feel like after the whole 7-Eleven thing, I would never even see you again.
00:54:40.240
I was like, let the record show that I am not like, all these men are like, she probably
00:54:45.600
makes someone make six figures, blah, blah, blah.
00:54:47.800
No, I was, I went on a date to 7-Eleven and the littering is what got me.
00:54:51.340
No, actually, I feel like littering is just the worst thing you could ever do.
00:54:55.500
And we were like, I literally said when he was about to launch the second one into the
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ether, I literally was like, hey, I can, there's a trash right here.
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I feel like when people litter, it's just like, you don't care about shit.
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That's why I was like, the way I was so like, stressed out by that.
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I was like, that's how you know he be doing that shit all the time.
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Like, literally, why do you have to be so, like, intent about it?
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I'm literally, I'm literally, like, it was so, like, MLB fast pitch.
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Yeah, you know how hard you have to throw paper for it to, like, actually, like, make a trek, like, go the distance?
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Like, and I also feel like I, that tells a lot about, like, who, like, he surrounds himself with, too.
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Like, because who allows you to do this all the time to where you thought it was comfortable to do it on her first date?
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And, like, in front of a stranger, like, you barely know me.
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And I also feel like some people are just so not self-aware at all.
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Like, how do you do that and just feel comfortable with yourself afterward?
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And he also chewed with his mouth open, which I really hate.
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You know when you, like, see it, like, stringing?
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Wait, okay, so after this date happened, what did you?
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Honestly, I haven't really been on that many dates, I will say.
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With someone that's, like, you were, like, oh, maybe I could, like, see myself dating
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It was this one time, I was talking to this one guy, and basically, we had went, like,
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out somewhere, and then he was like, I'm not going to lie, like, I might need money
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Like, are you, like, I thought it was a joke at first.
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And you didn't think, like, you didn't have no way to get, like, back home.
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And, like, after that, like, I just never talked to him.
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Like, he, and the way, like, he asked it, like, he was, like, used to asking, like,
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And I was like, this is not the type of relationship I'm.
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Because I was like, so you had Uber money to come here.
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But, like, and you knew you didn't have any to go back.
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And you just, like, knew you were going to ask me for money.
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I was like, why am I dealing, like, with somebody like this?
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I feel like when people can't pull things off, they think that everybody's, like, not going to look good in it.
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What would you say is your best piece of advice to give people who are really trying to find their, not just their style, which is a huge proponent, I think, of your sense of self.
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Like, what's your best piece of advice for finding that, like, truth?
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I feel like the best piece of advice is to really just come out of the fear of being perceived.
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Because whether you dress basic or whether you dress, like, how you truly want to dress.
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But, like, however you truly want to dress, you have to realize that people will judge you either way.
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Like, it has nothing to do with what you're wearing.
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And also the fact that, like, if you live your entire life, like, dressing for the male gays or, like, dressing for somebody else, you'll realize that, like, you literally wasted half your life doing things that everyone else wanted you to do rather than what you wanted to do.
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Thank you so much to Aaliyah for joining me on this episode of the comment section.
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And for those of you who haven't already, please make sure you go follow Aaliyah on all socials.
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I'm Aaliyah interlude because they didn't give me enough characters.
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I was, I was, I think, for a hot minute, but not really.
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And do you have anything you want to talk to them about?
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Like, anything coming up that you're excited about?
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Um, I am releasing a single before the end of the year.
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Like, I'm telling y'all, please be on the lookout.
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She's so funny and just the baddest bitch of all time.
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