The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - I'D LOVE TO SHAVE MY HEAD Ft. Gigi Gorgeous ｜ Drew Afualo ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 71

00:00:00.000 My boyfriend actually changed my view of fitness and my relation to it and stuff like that.

00:00:05.580 What do you guys do, by the way?

00:00:06.980 Like working out wise?

00:00:07.720 Yes, because I'm like, no, sexually, no.

00:00:15.560 Hey, everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Comment Section Show starring me, your favorite.

00:00:20.220 Everybody knows me who cares about me.

00:00:21.640 On to the amazing, wonderful guest.

00:00:24.000 Today, we have the iconic, the legendary, Gigi Gorgeous.

00:00:27.920 Woo! 0.99

00:00:29.240 Hey, hey, hey.

00:00:31.060 Thanks for having me, Drew.

00:00:32.540 Oh, my gosh.

00:00:32.960 You legend.

00:00:34.120 I'm so happy you're here.

00:00:35.380 I'm in the comment section. 0.99

00:00:36.860 Holy shit. 0.99

00:00:38.040 Pinch me. 1.00

00:00:38.740 I'm going to die.

00:00:39.400 And you match the set.

00:00:40.520 I do, right? 1.00

00:00:41.580 Period, bitch. 1.00

00:00:42.400 I think subconsciously I picked out this dress. 1.00

00:00:44.660 Really?

00:00:45.080 Because, yeah, I was like, maybe this will look good.

00:00:47.100 And then I got here, I was like, it matches.

00:00:48.200 And you look tan.

00:00:49.340 Girl, you look good.

00:00:50.280 Oh, my God.

00:00:50.660 So do you.

00:00:51.200 I'm just complimenting you.

00:00:52.360 No, I mean, ditto.

00:00:53.640 What was I doing for the past 20 minutes?

00:00:56.620 I'm like, you're nailed.

00:00:57.500 Your hair.

00:00:58.840 I'm so happy you're here.

00:01:00.540 Me too.

00:01:00.780 I've been a fan of yours for ebbs.

00:01:02.660 Oh, my God.

00:01:03.120 Ditto.

00:01:03.640 For the longest.

00:01:04.280 I first saw you on TikTok.

00:01:06.880 My husband actually brought you up.

00:01:09.100 Yes.

00:01:09.900 And your laugh is so infectious.

00:01:12.300 You have one of the best laughs.

00:01:13.760 I'm sure you get that all the time.

00:01:15.040 Yeah.

00:01:15.340 But it is so infectious.

00:01:18.200 Thank you.

00:01:18.340 I think you're so funny. 0.88

00:01:19.240 You're so savage and mean. 0.77

00:01:21.060 Period. 0.99

00:01:21.580 And I'm upset.

00:01:24.440 You know what? 1.00

00:01:25.480 I love a mean bitch. 1.00

00:01:26.720 Yes, I am. 1.00

00:01:27.000 Let me tell you. 1.00

00:01:27.660 I love a mean bitch. 1.00

00:01:28.840 I love a bitch who serves cunt. 1.00

00:01:30.620 I love all the bitches. 1.00

00:01:31.660 Yes. 1.00

00:01:32.460 The only people I don't like are men. 0.87

00:01:34.920 Yeah. 1.00

00:01:35.220 A lot of them suck, right? 1.00

00:01:36.340 Yes. 1.00

00:01:37.640 Well, you're in a relationship.

00:01:38.460 You found a good one.

00:01:38.740 Yeah.

00:01:40.240 Both of us?

00:01:40.940 We both found good ones.

00:01:41.820 We hate men, but oh, you found one.

00:01:43.460 Yeah. 1.00

00:01:44.460 I've had someone tweet me, I love a bad bitch who's down bad for a man. 1.00

00:01:49.400 What does that mean? 1.00

00:01:49.820 Like a bad bitch who hates men. 1.00

00:01:52.260 Yeah. 1.00

00:01:52.620 But is like hopelessly in love with a man.

00:01:54.820 Mm-hmm.

00:01:55.280 And I was like, period.

00:01:56.260 I think that's me.

00:01:57.360 Yeah, that is you.

00:01:58.180 Mm-hmm.

00:01:58.540 Absolutely.

00:01:59.160 Is that you?

00:01:59.760 Yeah, absolutely.

00:02:00.480 Yeah. 1.00

00:02:00.760 I hate men. 0.99

00:02:01.400 If it wasn't clear. 1.00

00:02:03.080 I think I like them, but I think that they're like dumb. 1.00

00:02:07.220 Like dumber than us. 0.99

00:02:08.360 Do you feel bad for them? 1.00

00:02:09.900 Mm-mm.

00:02:10.560 No.

00:02:11.060 Mm-mm.

00:02:12.320 Mm-mm.

00:02:12.840 Me neither.

00:02:14.000 Just kind of a side eye.

00:02:15.020 Yeah.

00:02:15.580 A big side eye.

00:02:17.140 Yeah.

00:02:18.020 Aw.

00:02:18.540 I do think they're inferior to women. 1.00

00:02:21.140 Absolutely.

00:02:21.560 I think so too.

00:02:22.320 Period.

00:02:22.780 Yeah.

00:02:23.220 I mean, I was once a man.

00:02:24.700 So you can say that.

00:02:26.220 I could say that.

00:02:27.020 She has all authority and she gave me the authority.

00:02:30.200 Yeah.

00:02:30.460 I'm allowed to say that.

00:02:31.700 Mm-mm. 0.70

00:02:31.880 Just like when I make fun of like men who are balding when they're like awful.

00:02:34.860 Yeah.

00:02:35.280 I'm like, my dad's bald.

00:02:36.160 It's okay.

00:02:36.880 I can say it.

00:02:37.920 Right.

00:02:38.220 He gave me permission on behalf of all bald people.

00:02:40.340 Mm-hmm.

00:02:40.820 So I have a pass.

00:02:42.080 We were actually talking about this just now before we started recording.

00:02:46.280 Yeah.

00:02:46.640 I would love to shave my head.

00:02:48.320 Yes.

00:02:48.740 I would love to.

00:02:49.800 If I could.

00:02:50.800 I shaved my husband's head last night and it was so freeing for me.

00:02:55.960 For you.

00:02:56.600 To see it.

00:02:57.220 To live vicariously through.

00:02:57.840 And I was even doing like the tape up with like the razor at the back.

00:03:01.420 I love that.

00:03:01.740 I was like, I f***ing want this.

00:03:03.000 I want my Amber Rose moment.

00:03:04.340 Are you cosmetologist trained?

00:03:06.020 No, but I just do everything.

00:03:07.560 I was going to say.

00:03:08.540 Except nails. 0.97

00:03:09.500 Okay.

00:03:10.120 But everything else.

00:03:11.460 Yeah.

00:03:12.260 That's awesome.

00:03:13.100 Yeah.

00:03:13.300 Self-tapped.

00:03:13.460 You just taught yourself?

00:03:14.460 Mm-hmm. 0.95

00:03:14.980 That's so sick.

00:03:16.080 I wish.

00:03:16.740 I feel like if you're an artist, you can just do it all.

00:03:20.040 And incredibly humble.

00:03:21.940 That's also part of it.

00:03:23.100 Mm-hmm.

00:03:23.360 That is part of it.

00:03:24.120 Being the best, but knowing that other people aren't as good.

00:03:28.380 That's okay.

00:03:29.320 Mm-hmm.

00:03:29.560 I feel you.

00:03:30.340 I can't do anything that you can do.

00:03:32.020 Really?

00:03:32.440 No. 0.99

00:03:33.400 I mean, I could do my own hair and makeup, but I'm not like a full beat bitch. 0.98

00:03:37.280 Like I can't like beat my face. 0.94

00:03:38.480 Did you do it today?

00:03:39.500 Hell no, I didn't do it.

00:03:40.400 Really?

00:03:40.680 It looks so good though.

00:03:41.620 Thank you.

00:03:42.140 Yeah.

00:03:42.280 That's because I hired somebody else to do it.

00:03:43.540 You like handle it well.

00:03:44.760 Yeah.

00:03:45.180 Thank you.

00:03:46.000 Thank you.

00:03:46.300 Yeah.

00:03:46.320 Some people, it looks weird.

00:03:48.580 I literally, you know, what's funny is when I got this show and we were talking about like

00:03:53.060 the format and everything and we did like a test shoot, my mom actually was like,

00:03:58.320 are you going to hire someone to do hair and makeup?

00:03:59.940 And then I was like, I mean, I'm pretty good at doing my own hair and makeup, which is

00:04:03.520 true, but I'm not good at doing hair and makeup for high quality cameras.

00:04:09.060 Right.

00:04:09.500 Like TV makeup.

00:04:11.220 And so that was proven to me, unfortunately for me when I did like the test shoot, we did

00:04:16.780 like a rehearsal and they filmed me on these cameras and then I watched the footage and

00:04:21.260 I was like, I'm going to hire someone.

00:04:23.060 Oh, yeah.

00:04:23.780 Yeah.

00:04:24.040 Yeah.

00:04:24.660 I'm going to hire someone.

00:04:25.460 We need a professional.

00:04:26.460 Yeah, we do.

00:04:27.100 Turns out I can't do it.

00:04:28.480 So I hired someone.

00:04:29.640 I feel like all the lights and, you know, the filters and everyone like back here.

00:04:33.640 Yeah.

00:04:34.160 It all works out.

00:04:36.140 Regardless.

00:04:37.560 You'd be surprised.

00:04:38.760 And I feel like, you know, this now because you've been in the industry too for a long

00:04:41.740 time.

00:04:42.040 Like they really, they film you.

00:04:44.340 They take pictures of you from all angles, all sides.

00:04:46.940 Yeah.

00:04:47.320 All the time.

00:04:48.040 Always.

00:04:48.380 Like I feel so acutely aware of my looks at all times now.

00:04:53.280 Really?

00:04:53.900 Yeah.

00:04:54.160 I think because I just see myself so much more often than I would typically would if I didn't

00:04:58.900 have this job.

00:04:59.660 So I just become acutely aware.

00:05:01.280 Does it make you more insecure?

00:05:02.440 Um, I think it makes me really confident in certain things and it also makes me insecure

00:05:08.620 in other ways.

00:05:09.320 Yeah.

00:05:09.720 Because like there are certain things I feel like I talk about a lot how I think I was

00:05:13.480 kind of lucky I had body neutrality for a while longer than you typically do when

00:05:17.660 you grow up in like this horrible society.

00:05:19.680 And, uh, I was so neutral towards my body.

00:05:22.580 I didn't feel anything towards it.

00:05:23.760 Once I started doing this, I became like very acutely aware of it because people are

00:05:28.180 always commenting on it, whether it's good or bad.

00:05:30.340 It still puts thoughts in my head, which I never really struggled with before.

00:05:33.920 Like I would have moments here and there where I felt insecure, but it was never like a huge

00:05:38.540 determining thing for my mood or anything like that.

00:05:41.180 But I feel like this industry changed that a little bit.

00:05:43.420 You're really lucky in that sense.

00:05:44.700 Cause I growing up, I was always aware of my body being trans.

00:05:49.440 Cause that's such a young, like realizing I was trans at such a young age, it was all 1.00

00:05:54.080 about looks.

00:05:54.760 It was all about, um, you know, how I felt in my body, how I looked in the mirror.

00:05:59.400 And it literally isn't until recently where I've been like, it, I kind of like want to

00:06:04.520 like work out and be cute and be strong and like, you know, like who cares about what I

00:06:09.100 think? 0.99

00:06:09.380 Cause everyone's worried about them, their goddamn own life. 0.99

00:06:12.160 Yeah. 0.98

00:06:12.360 Literally like people aren't paying attention nearly as much as you think sometimes when you're

00:06:16.400 feeling like one of those moments.

00:06:18.540 Yeah, exactly.

00:06:18.980 I think the gym too, like my relationship with fitness and everything helped that a

00:06:22.900 lot because like my boyfriend actually changed my view of fitness and my relation to it and

00:06:29.080 stuff like that.

00:06:29.700 What do you guys do by the way?

00:06:31.080 Like working out wise?

00:06:31.840 Yes.

00:06:32.280 Cause I'm like, so I'm like, no, sexually, no, I'm such a like CrossFit diva.

00:06:38.900 Oh, I love, I've done CrossFit before.

00:06:41.020 I love it.

00:06:41.640 I'm obsessed.

00:06:42.560 It's like, no, like heavy lifting, just all body weight stuff.

00:06:46.260 Oh yeah.

00:06:46.520 But like so addicting.

00:06:48.120 Yeah.

00:06:48.640 Yeah.

00:06:49.040 It's real high intensity.

00:06:50.260 Yes.

00:06:50.820 Great workout.

00:06:51.280 Yeah.

00:06:51.540 One hour. 0.99

00:06:52.660 Sweat my ass off. 0.98

00:06:53.540 The vibes are so high. 0.93

00:06:54.940 Like the energy is so high.

00:06:56.020 I love it.

00:06:56.620 Yeah.

00:06:56.940 And then I just do it in the morning and then I'm done and then can glam and do the rest

00:07:00.120 of the day.

00:07:00.540 Yeah.

00:07:00.760 That's so funny.

00:07:01.560 I did CrossFit years ago, I think when I was still in high school, but you like lift

00:07:06.020 I've seen.

00:07:07.000 Yeah.

00:07:07.120 Yeah.

00:07:07.420 Now I do.

00:07:08.300 But at the time I was playing sports like all the time.

00:07:11.120 So I played soccer like my whole life.

00:07:13.320 So it's all running.

00:07:14.580 So that was like the hit classes were a nice little change.

00:07:17.580 Like in CrossFit.

00:07:18.660 What's a hit class?

00:07:19.520 It's like, Hey, it's like high intensity interval training, which is high intensity

00:07:22.640 hit.

00:07:23.340 It's like hit is like not an acronym.

00:07:25.600 Yeah.

00:07:25.960 Girl high intensity interval training.

00:07:28.860 It's like two eyes.

00:07:29.920 Yeah.

00:07:30.120 So that's essentially what CrossFit is.

00:07:31.760 It's like, it's a high intensity interval training.

00:07:33.600 So you like do something a million times for however many, however long.

00:07:37.080 Yeah.

00:07:37.440 I was like, what's crazy about this class is like you can go at four in the morning and 1.00

00:07:42.120 everybody, everybody in that gym ready to go, bitch. 1.00

00:07:46.380 Like they've had, they're fully awake, fired up. 0.99

00:07:50.120 4am?

00:07:51.020 Girl, I don't know.

00:07:52.620 I don't know what they'd be doing.

00:07:53.260 What time do you wake up?

00:07:54.600 Now I wake up around like seven, eight.

00:07:56.480 Yeah.

00:07:56.840 Yeah.

00:07:57.140 That's typically when I get up.

00:07:58.060 Yeah.

00:07:58.200 I'll like wake up then, but not like be up.

00:08:00.340 Yeah.

00:08:00.560 I feel you.

00:08:01.060 Yeah.

00:08:01.180 I wake up and I look at my phone and then I doze off for a little and then I wake up

00:08:04.160 and then I actually get up at like 9.30.

00:08:05.800 It's giving like a monster energy drink.

00:08:08.340 Walk downstairs.

00:08:09.480 Yeah.

00:08:09.820 Like actually leave the room.

00:08:11.540 Yes.

00:08:11.900 Yeah.

00:08:12.080 Like turn the light on.

00:08:14.080 Yeah.

00:08:14.440 I sit in the dark on my phone.

00:08:15.760 Yeah.

00:08:16.960 I think too with CrossFit, like I just can't believe that they're willing to run a mile

00:08:21.220 so quickly.

00:08:22.700 Like they're like, we're going to run a mile. 1.00

00:08:24.020 I love that shit. 1.00

00:08:24.260 And then do a hundred jumping jacks. 1.00

00:08:25.680 Yeah.

00:08:26.020 Girl, you're out of your mind.

00:08:26.800 Yeah.

00:08:27.160 No, I love it.

00:08:27.700 And then me getting lapped by men in their 60s.

00:08:30.220 That doesn't make me feel good.

00:08:31.620 Yeah.

00:08:31.760 I don't need that.

00:08:32.400 Yeah.

00:08:32.560 Yeah.

00:08:32.840 But I did have fun.

00:08:34.220 It's really nice.

00:08:34.880 I like the camaraderie in CrossFit.

00:08:36.700 I like how everyone's like friends.

00:08:38.100 Me too.

00:08:38.300 And there's like CrossFit games.

00:08:39.900 Yeah.

00:08:40.200 That's right.

00:08:40.800 Yeah, there is.

00:08:41.540 So fun.

00:08:42.140 Where you like kept to qualify or whatever.

00:08:43.760 Yeah.

00:08:43.860 Yeah.

00:08:44.140 I've seen those.

00:08:44.900 I used to be an athlete as well.

00:08:45.800 You said soccer?

00:08:46.860 Yes.

00:08:47.120 I was a diver.

00:08:48.000 Oh, really?

00:08:48.920 Yes. 0.99

00:08:49.260 Damn, that's hard. 0.99

00:08:50.280 It was so, I mean, looking back, I'm like, who was she? 0.99

00:08:53.220 Yeah.

00:08:53.380 Like so scary.

00:08:54.680 So yeah, athlete mentality for sure.

00:08:56.700 I'm a firm believer that I like, I swim for leisure and leisure only.

00:09:01.440 So any kind of water sport, I did not do well at, like at all.

00:09:05.340 I tried out for water polo one time.

00:09:07.680 That's so hard.

00:09:08.920 Yeah.

00:09:09.180 My mom was like, let's, let's try water polo. 1.00

00:09:11.440 My sister and I were like, no, thanks.

00:09:13.520 Yeah.

00:09:13.940 She's like, no, we're going to go try water polo.

00:09:15.680 I'm like, girls are savage too. 1.00

00:09:17.040 They'll like scratch you. 1.00

00:09:18.360 It's exhausting.

00:09:19.880 Like I can barely even hover in the water, let alone like one handed with a ball.

00:09:24.760 We go, they're like, oh, you have to swim. 0.97

00:09:27.200 It was like four laps or some shit. 0.66

00:09:29.440 Like before you do the trial, like that's like a qualifying thing. 0.94

00:09:33.180 Fine.

00:09:33.740 Girl, they cut me after two.

00:09:34.880 No, not my lines.

00:09:35.420 I did one sort of coming back and I kept walking like, cause I was tall enough to reach the bottom

00:09:39.680 and I was just doing the motion and they were like, don't walk, don't walk.

00:09:42.580 And I wasn't listening.

00:09:43.240 I was just doing that.

00:09:43.980 And then they were like, Hey, come back next year.

00:09:46.440 And then I got sick cause I drank too much pool water.

00:09:49.420 Yeah.

00:09:49.860 So you're like, I don't even go here.

00:09:52.260 I don't even care.

00:09:53.400 My mom made me come.

00:09:54.860 So, and so they gave me a free t-shirt and I went home.

00:09:57.920 Yeah.

00:09:58.320 I took my L and I'm drinking the chlorine.

00:10:01.220 They were like, they're like this dingbat drinks pool water.

00:10:04.060 She can't be a water polo player.

00:10:05.660 Yeah.

00:10:06.100 She looks problems.

00:10:07.440 They cut me after two laps.

00:10:10.300 They were like, you ain't cut out for this.

00:10:12.020 Good.

00:10:12.140 I said, you're right.

00:10:13.300 You're right.

00:10:14.000 I'm not.

00:10:14.660 And now we're here.

00:10:15.380 Yeah.

00:10:15.500 Now we're here.

00:10:16.280 I commend you for being a diver.

00:10:18.780 It's hard.

00:10:19.380 I mean, flipping off of like a cement brick in the air, 10 meters up.

00:10:24.020 That's insane.

00:10:24.820 It's so crazy.

00:10:25.580 Did you dive in college too?

00:10:27.220 I didn't.

00:10:28.260 I was on my way to the Olympics.

00:10:30.200 I was like national champion in Canada.

00:10:33.080 So it was like serious.

00:10:34.580 What can't she do?

00:10:36.340 I don't know.

00:10:37.340 Haven't found one yet.

00:10:38.980 Nails. 0.99

00:10:40.500 That's so far.

00:10:41.560 The only thing that's beaten you is nails.

00:10:44.120 That's insane.

00:10:45.320 Oh my gosh.

00:10:46.220 I'm so happy to have you.

00:10:48.540 And that actually leads us into our topic today.

00:10:50.820 We're going to talk about living as your most authentic self because Miss Gigi has been 0.74

00:10:56.220 on social media for a long time.

00:10:58.220 And like you've shared your journey with everyone.

00:11:01.020 Like how do you see how like social media has changed over the last like 10 years or

00:11:06.440 so?

00:11:06.860 I'm not sure how long you've been on social media.

00:11:08.860 I know it's been a minute.

00:11:09.920 But like have you seen any serious changes?

00:11:12.320 Have you seen any progress or anything?

00:11:15.200 I mean, for me, it's all about like the inclusivity of like the community.

00:11:19.960 So I like when I started, there were really no like trans stories online.

00:11:24.400 Online and I was, I was really living throughout my friends in real life.

00:11:29.260 Like I only had like one or two trans girlfriends and they were, I grew up in Toronto and they

00:11:34.920 were in New York City.

00:11:35.820 So I would only really see them when I went there.

00:11:37.900 Okay.

00:11:38.260 So yeah, online, it was just really like, there was like no diversity or, and I just never

00:11:44.940 really saw myself.

00:11:45.760 So yeah, it was, it was, it's changed in like vastly.

00:11:51.280 There's so many trans people and so many trans stories online now.

00:11:55.320 Yeah.

00:11:55.680 That has visibility.

00:11:57.040 Yes.

00:11:57.440 And like everyone is living so authentically and I love that.

00:12:00.480 Yeah.

00:12:00.800 Um, but I think that there's just also so much, uh, more backlash because of it.

00:12:06.020 Because you guys are more visible now than you ever have.

00:12:08.620 Yes.

00:12:09.280 Yeah, absolutely.

00:12:10.660 I think there's, um, also to, well, first off, how, like what made you want to start sharing

00:12:17.260 your story?

00:12:17.620 Because obviously it's really daunting and scary, especially online because people are

00:12:21.180 evil and awful.

00:12:22.820 Uh, spoiler alert, people are really mean on the internet for no reason, um, especially to

00:12:27.160 marginalized people.

00:12:28.000 So like, what made you want to start sharing your story in the first place?

00:12:32.020 Like publicly with like your transition and everything, like going through life, anything

00:12:36.040 you've gone through.

00:12:37.140 So I started with like beauty and fashion strictly.

00:12:39.920 And then, um, I started opening up and then I got addicted and it was like a really positive,

00:12:45.260 uh, feedback from the community.

00:12:47.940 I was like, oh my God, like everyone wants to see me win.

00:12:50.780 Like everyone's like rooting for me.

00:12:52.520 Like I want to transition and just all this. 0.98

00:12:55.160 And then, you know, obviously shit hits the fan when you, when you blow up, but it, I 0.97

00:13:01.080 just think it's all about like staying positive, you know, because like sharing your story is 0.98

00:13:05.800 really, really, really hard, but it's about staying positive and also knowing, um, like

00:13:10.920 planning ahead and knowing your lane.

00:13:12.740 Like I never really share anything in my life until I'm like super ready to, and you know,

00:13:18.920 I've already like, I've already thought about everything that anybody can say.

00:13:23.160 I've already thought about any, anything that anybody can do.

00:13:26.720 Um, and then once it's out there, it's kind of, you know, out there and I'm like, I've

00:13:31.280 already dealt with it.

00:13:32.660 You know, prepared for it.

00:13:34.080 Yes.

00:13:34.540 Yeah.

00:13:34.700 I feel that.

00:13:35.340 I feel like I, any, any other influencer I've ever like talked to that's been in the

00:13:39.640 game for a long time, like Jackie Aina, for example, like obsessed.

00:13:42.600 Yeah.

00:13:42.900 Obsessed.

00:13:43.400 Love her.

00:13:44.120 Filming with her next week.

00:13:45.260 Oh, fun.

00:13:46.120 Weird.

00:13:46.600 I adore her.

00:13:47.360 Retail.

00:13:47.740 She, she also shared something similar to me when I like, cause I always ask, um, creators

00:13:52.940 like yourself who have been in the industry for a long time and also have dealt with like

00:13:57.040 bigotry and, um, different kinds of vitriol.

00:13:59.960 Like what helps you like take care of you and they all, all of you guys kind of tell

00:14:05.140 me this similar thing.

00:14:05.880 So I'll ask you the same question.

00:14:06.920 But even Jackie was like, she told me like parceling out what you want to share and what

00:14:12.660 you don't like distinguishing is very important cause it helps you keep distance between you

00:14:18.200 and the world.

00:14:19.420 Cause it's such a scary thing to share every single part of your life.

00:14:23.280 Yeah.

00:14:23.580 So like knowing when to gatekeep and when not to, it's like a big part.

00:14:27.660 It definitely is.

00:14:28.320 And I really, I find the, the way that she like molds her life so inspiring because I've

00:14:34.180 heard her talk about the same thing on her YouTube channel and she's just like, you know

00:14:37.800 what?

00:14:38.020 I'm not going to tell you guys everything.

00:14:39.660 I'm going to give you like just little bits and pieces of what I want.

00:14:42.480 And that's why I'm so happy that I never did like true reality TV.

00:14:45.940 Oh girl, same.

00:14:47.320 Like there are so many instances, like I could have fully done it and I'm so happy I didn't

00:14:54.420 because like my privacy is everything and like, you know, it would all be out there.

00:14:59.340 Yeah.

00:14:59.780 That is true.

00:15:00.600 Yeah.

00:15:00.980 And I feel like when you have opportunities to share, like maybe just a little bit more

00:15:07.320 when you put it in the hands of somebody else, there's like a risk that it may not be told

00:15:12.520 the way you want it to be.

00:15:13.720 Exactly.

00:15:14.000 Which is the case with reality TV, I think all the time.

00:15:16.020 Yes.

00:15:16.480 Which is why you see people who are like in real life, they're really nice, but they were

00:15:19.660 portrayed really mean or rude on a reality TV.

00:15:22.500 It's cause like it's drama.

00:15:24.180 And usually, honestly, from what my experience, at least in the industry and living here in

00:15:28.800 LA, a lot of the villains on reality TV are like the most fun.

00:15:33.700 Yeah.

00:15:34.340 Cause they were just down to play the villain.

00:15:36.220 Yeah, exactly.

00:15:36.940 You know, the producers like, are you down?

00:15:38.540 They're like, mm-hmm.

00:15:39.260 Yeah, absolutely.

00:15:40.680 You know, I can name like four right now in my head, but I won't.

00:15:43.460 But they're like so fun.

00:15:45.480 Yeah. 1.00

00:15:45.720 Cause they're just down bitches. 1.00

00:15:47.260 Yeah. 1.00

00:15:47.580 Yeah. 1.00

00:15:47.820 And like the, the nice ones are the bitches. 1.00

00:15:49.880 Like actually. 0.99

00:15:50.800 The ones that are portrayed as nice.

00:15:52.160 Yeah. 1.00

00:15:52.280 The cunts. 0.99

00:15:52.940 Yeah. 0.91

00:15:54.660 Well, that's why I think, uh, opportunities like this, like your amazing book that you're

00:15:59.100 coming out with, or it's out.

00:16:00.940 Yes, it's out.

00:16:01.620 Yeah.

00:16:01.700 Yeah.

00:16:01.880 It's out in collaboration with Got Mick.

00:16:04.680 Right.

00:16:05.000 Got Mick.

00:16:05.480 Yes.

00:16:05.800 Got Mick.

00:16:06.100 Yes.

00:16:06.420 I want to make sure I said it right.

00:16:07.180 Yes.

00:16:07.480 Got Mick.

00:16:08.140 Like Got Milk.

00:16:09.960 But minus the out.

00:16:11.100 Got it.

00:16:11.540 Okay.

00:16:11.780 So when you come out with something like this, it's incredible.

00:16:15.760 Cause you get to control, um, the story and you get to share more vulnerable parts.

00:16:20.300 I feel like of your life without having to like put it in somebody else's hands.

00:16:24.720 Is that what you found writing the book?

00:16:26.780 One hundred percent.

00:16:27.420 I felt like, you know, him and I are such, um, mind if I look at it.

00:16:32.440 Yeah.

00:16:32.640 He's so proud.

00:16:34.020 My baby.

00:16:35.700 Um, we just like, we work so well together and I just thought that, you know, both of

00:16:40.700 us, like him being a trans man and me being a trans woman, we just, we had, we had grown.

00:16:45.740 It's probably had been like, I don't know, four or five years that we'd been friends.

00:16:49.580 Yeah.

00:16:49.940 And we just thought one day we were like, we should really combine all of our resources,

00:16:54.940 like all of our major connections and like everything we've learned and put it down on

00:16:59.380 paper and write a book about it.

00:17:01.140 And solidify it.

00:17:01.840 Yes.

00:17:02.360 Yeah.

00:17:02.560 And like, because we get questions every day about like our, our transitions and stuff.

00:17:06.120 So I was like, uh, let's do it.

00:17:09.380 Yeah.

00:17:09.980 So we pitched it, sold it.

00:17:12.020 And then we got a bunch of our friends to write it in it as well.

00:17:14.900 I saw girl.

00:17:16.460 When I tell you like in the intro to this, they have all of their wonderful, amazing friends. 0.99

00:17:22.500 The most famous people you've ever seen, bitch. 1.00

00:17:25.260 That network knows no bounds, girl. 0.99

00:17:27.420 I was looking at it earlier. 1.00

00:17:28.280 I was like, well, damn. 0.99

00:17:29.980 But this is the book. 0.99

00:17:31.120 It's amazing.

00:17:32.240 The little inside pages.

00:17:33.940 And she's sturdy.

00:17:35.500 Like, I love how it's made.

00:17:37.440 Well, it's a guide.

00:17:38.300 So we never, I had never seen a book like this.

00:17:41.080 I'd never seen, um, you know, when I started transitioning, I was like, well, what if I

00:17:45.820 want to medically transition?

00:17:47.280 What if I want to find a doctor for my breasts? 1.00

00:17:50.040 Like, where do I go?

00:17:51.060 You know, because I was working with nothing before.

00:17:53.640 What if I want to, you know, talk to a therapist?

00:17:56.800 Yeah.

00:17:57.460 Um, I had to do all that research by myself.

00:18:00.120 So this is a guide and it's a hardcover.

00:18:03.660 It's like a textbook.

00:18:04.300 It's literally like, we are your best friends and we are here for you.

00:18:08.200 Anything you need is in here.

00:18:09.740 It's incredible.

00:18:10.900 I'm, and what a wonderful idea too, especially now, like in the world now, which can be so

00:18:16.380 scary and daunting, especially for trans people to have people like you and Gottmik, like publicly, 0.99

00:18:23.400 authentically living your lives.

00:18:24.960 I feel like it's so important.

00:18:26.920 Like representation is one of the few things that makes me emotional.

00:18:29.780 Don't tell the terrible men, but I love seeing people like you thrive because in spite of

00:18:35.960 everything terrible that happens and horrible things people say, um, you guys are still

00:18:40.620 living exactly as you are and who you want to be.

00:18:44.220 And I feel like that's so important.

00:18:45.980 So I'm really happy that you came out with something like this.

00:18:47.820 Oh my God.

00:18:48.140 I love you, Drew.

00:18:49.560 I love you too.

00:18:50.820 So speaking of living authenticity, we're going to talk about some TikToks today.

00:18:55.180 So for those of you who are new, what we like to do on this channel is we bring videos that

00:18:58.600 I was tagged in that are applicable to our topic for today.

00:19:01.660 And then we kiki, giggle, laugh, make fun of it, whatever is necessary.

00:19:06.280 Obsessed.

00:19:06.720 So, okay.

00:19:07.900 So this first one is a woman and she is making a sarcastic, exciting announcement that we don't 1.00

00:19:15.240 need gender reveal parties anymore because the American Medical Association is suggesting

00:19:19.740 that birth certificates no longer say boy or girl.

00:19:22.800 She says now we won't have baby showers because people won't know what gifts to buy the baby

00:19:26.660 without.

00:19:27.780 Knowing. 0.99

00:19:28.220 That's f***er. 0.99

00:19:29.520 That's insane. 1.00

00:19:30.080 F*** this. 1.00

00:19:31.660 That's insane. 1.00

00:19:34.280 What an insane thing to say.

00:19:36.080 Who wrote that?

00:19:37.020 Some random woman. 1.00

00:19:38.700 It's giving random.

00:19:40.640 It's giving nameless and faceless. 0.99

00:19:42.320 It's giving what the f***. 0.99

00:19:43.420 Yeah. 0.97

00:19:43.900 I think the shocking part about conservative ideology like this to me is I don't know what

00:19:52.740 is so bad about being more inclusive.

00:19:55.860 Not once did we say.

00:19:57.140 It's like fear.

00:19:57.580 Yeah.

00:19:58.020 But it's not once did we ever say that anything was going to be excluded.

00:20:02.180 We're just expanding it just a little bit more.

00:20:05.060 If that doesn't apply to you, that's okay.

00:20:08.680 Nobody's saying you can't identify as a boy or a girl.

00:20:12.900 Well said.

00:20:13.600 That's what I'm saying.

00:20:14.220 There are just some people that don't.

00:20:16.300 And that's okay too.

00:20:18.360 How do you feel about gender reveal parties?

00:20:20.500 When's the last time you've been to one?

00:20:21.860 I've never been to one.

00:20:23.000 I've never been to one either.

00:20:23.900 To be honest with you. 0.99

00:20:24.540 I think they're silly. 0.99

00:20:26.520 I do too. 0.99

00:20:27.220 I really do.

00:20:27.760 I do too.

00:20:28.160 Because I don't think it should matter.

00:20:29.080 I think they're cheesy.

00:20:30.280 They are. 1.00

00:20:30.540 I think they're always silly. 0.99

00:20:31.760 One of them caused that fire that ravaged California. 0.99

00:20:36.800 Don't know about that.

00:20:37.640 They had like an extreme.

00:20:38.720 Do you guys remember that?

00:20:39.620 No.

00:20:39.660 They had the extreme gender reveal party up in the mountains.

00:20:41.960 Like with fireworks?

00:20:42.820 Yeah.

00:20:43.120 And it exploded and lit a fire and that launched all the like some of the major fires up north.

00:20:48.600 Oh no.

00:20:49.020 Bad.

00:20:49.400 Well, yeah.

00:20:50.000 Like Northern California, but it came all the way down to LA.

00:20:52.580 So that's how bad it got.

00:20:54.180 But that's why it's like, that's one of those things where it's like, hey, not worth it.

00:20:57.960 Yeah.

00:20:58.240 It's okay.

00:20:58.840 Well, I think when you're having a baby, like me and my husband are like on our embryo journey

00:21:02.960 at IVF.

00:21:04.060 But I think once you have a baby, you're just, uh, any reason to celebrate the baby

00:21:09.260 is a reason to celebrate the baby.

00:21:10.860 Yeah.

00:21:11.160 So people are like gender reveal.

00:21:12.700 Yeah.

00:21:13.220 But I think it's so lame.

00:21:14.580 And I think, um, somebody like, um, Emrata, who's raising her baby, uh, I think she said

00:21:21.300 it's like full on, like literally like going to wait for it to choose whatever, um, the

00:21:26.560 baby wants is I think so inspiring.

00:21:29.360 It is.

00:21:29.680 And I think I'm going to do that too.

00:21:30.860 And there's like nothing wrong with that.

00:21:34.300 Because it's not your baby.

00:21:36.360 So you don't want to do that with your baby.

00:21:38.560 That's cool.

00:21:39.560 Some people do.

00:21:40.620 I just can't imagine being so unemployed that I worry about what other people do in their

00:21:44.300 homes.

00:21:44.700 Hello.

00:21:45.140 I don't know.

00:21:46.100 Like I can't relate to that feeling, I guess.

00:21:48.220 Me neither.

00:21:48.880 But I just don't, you know what I think is cute and what I think is a serve when they

00:21:53.400 make everything so neutral in the room.

00:21:55.860 Like everything's like tans or greens or yellow.

00:21:58.320 Not like blue or pink.

00:21:59.360 No.

00:21:59.660 Yeah.

00:21:59.900 No blue or pink.

00:22:00.640 Like they make it like a mauve-y tone or like orange or something super cute. 0.98

00:22:05.600 The f*** was that girl saying, I don't, uh, I don't know what to get the baby if I don't 0.99

00:22:09.620 know the gender. 1.00

00:22:10.180 If you don't know the gender, what are you supposed to get?

00:22:11.160 Would a Tonka truck or a Barbie?

00:22:13.000 You could just get a toy.

00:22:15.040 Or a diaper.

00:22:17.080 I'll give you a diaper. 0.98

00:22:18.400 A bottle.

00:22:19.220 Something.

00:22:20.180 Lotion.

00:22:20.780 I'll give you a hint.

00:22:21.980 Um, that baby's not going to know what anything is ever until it's like five.

00:22:25.760 Yeah.

00:22:25.960 And they don't even care about you.

00:22:27.280 No, they don't care about anything at all.

00:22:28.940 Won't care about you.

00:22:29.500 You'll buy it the most expensive toy and that baby will play with a paper plate. 0.95

00:22:32.560 Mm-hmm.

00:22:33.000 It's all right.

00:22:33.700 Just like my, I have three cats.

00:22:35.860 I'll buy them all the toys in the universe and they'll play with an Amazon box. 0.81

00:22:40.860 That's me with my dog.

00:22:42.380 I buy him all the toys in the world.

00:22:44.560 And he'll chew on like one silly little thing that he got, like that I got him like as

00:22:49.600 a puppy, like someone hand-me-down gave me stuff when I didn't know I was going to get

00:22:53.100 a puppy.

00:22:54.160 And he's just like, or he'll just sleep.

00:22:56.320 Doesn't play with anything.

00:22:57.880 I'm like, that's okay.

00:22:59.000 Same with my cats.

00:22:59.540 You're still perfect.

00:23:00.300 Yeah.

00:23:00.680 That's okay.

00:23:01.140 Love you so much.

00:23:02.200 I love you so much.

00:23:03.360 Are those the only animals you have?

00:23:04.560 I have three cats.

00:23:05.580 Yeah.

00:23:05.740 I used to be a dog girl, but, um, ever since I met my husband, like, I don't even know how

00:23:10.080 long we've been together.

00:23:10.800 Seven years, eight years.

00:23:11.700 Um, we are, we're cat people.

00:23:15.040 You're cat people.

00:23:16.240 I don't discriminate.

00:23:17.320 Honestly, I love both.

00:23:18.340 Oh, they're just cats are like, I get why the Egyptians worship them because they are 1.00

00:23:23.620 just, I look at them and I'm like, Oh my God, like you're perfect.

00:23:26.820 Yeah.

00:23:27.020 You're so perfect.

00:23:27.620 Like the Zen-ness and just like the majestic quality of them walking.

00:23:31.880 I'm like, you are epic. 1.00

00:23:33.280 They're so cunt. 1.00

00:23:34.420 Cats are so cunt. 1.00

00:23:35.560 And like, they don't like to be cuddled too often. 1.00

00:23:37.640 Like they let you know.

00:23:38.560 They're real independent.

00:23:39.540 Yeah.

00:23:39.740 It's very female energy. 1.00

00:23:41.380 But I have all three boys.

00:23:42.880 Yeah.

00:23:44.400 Cause I feel like they're more cuddly.

00:23:46.020 Like anybody that's a cat person knows like orange cats, orange boy cats.

00:23:49.720 Yeah.

00:23:50.140 Major.

00:23:50.700 Yeah.

00:23:51.140 Like the best.

00:23:51.820 I would say.

00:23:52.260 I haven't had a cat in so long.

00:23:55.580 I had a Siamese cat when I was a kid.

00:23:57.780 Cute.

00:23:58.140 Yeah.

00:23:58.480 He lived for a long time.

00:23:59.340 Like that Disney movie.

00:24:00.100 He lived for a long time. 0.96

00:24:01.800 Are they bitchy? 1.00

00:24:03.260 Yeah.

00:24:03.560 Yeah. 0.95

00:24:03.780 He was real bitchy. 1.00

00:24:04.500 Yeah. 0.95

00:24:04.740 He was so mean to me.

00:24:05.560 Like hissed at you and stuff?

00:24:06.560 Yeah.

00:24:06.840 Like he was so, he honestly, like, I'm just like the landlord and he's the tenant, but

00:24:11.520 he doesn't pay rent.

00:24:12.660 Yes.

00:24:12.820 Like he's not nice to me.

00:24:14.060 No.

00:24:14.600 Every animal I've ever had, I've been a bridesmaid, not a bride.

00:24:17.720 Like every animal we've had, they've, they've attached to a different person in my family.

00:24:21.740 And I'm like always a Jedi, a Jedi, never a Padawan.

00:24:24.780 Like I'm always a Padawan, never a Jedi. 0.71

00:24:26.580 I was going to say, wait, what?

00:24:28.780 I was like so upsetting to me that I'm never the main character in any of my animals lives.

00:24:33.420 That included my cat.

00:24:34.740 Like he.

00:24:35.080 You need like a fish.

00:24:36.060 Yeah.

00:24:36.280 He was so like whatevs to me.

00:24:38.960 And he became an outdoor cat.

00:24:40.440 Like he really wanted to go outside.

00:24:42.180 So I let him go out and then he just never really came.

00:24:44.820 He only came back to eat.

00:24:47.020 They go away to die. 0.89

00:24:48.260 Yeah.

00:24:48.540 Like he, he just like wanted to wander my neighborhood and like impregnate other neighborhood cats

00:24:52.600 and then come back.

00:24:53.480 And then he just would eat breakfast and dinner at my house and never wants to come inside.

00:24:57.780 A star.

00:24:58.240 Yeah. 0.99

00:24:58.580 He was like, if I was a cat, I'd do the same goddamn thing. 0.99

00:25:01.000 Yeah. 0.99

00:25:01.140 He came up and he was like, anyways, like this is not my life.

00:25:04.340 Yeah.

00:25:04.560 And like the morning I, um, that he, uh, passed on, he came, ate breakfast, but he brought

00:25:11.420 me like a rat and I stepped on it barefoot on accident.

00:25:14.540 And then I was like, oh my God.

00:25:16.360 Like I like freaked out.

00:25:17.340 Was it dead?

00:25:17.860 Yeah.

00:25:18.020 It was dead.

00:25:18.500 He killed it and brought it to me. 0.77

00:25:19.680 But like, that's a gift though. 0.57

00:25:21.040 I know.

00:25:21.480 But I was so pissed at him because I felt like, you know how much I hate dead mice.

00:25:25.400 My cats now will bring me like my underwear, like we'll drag the underwear and meow with

00:25:33.180 it in between their legs and like bring it to me and look at me.

00:25:36.000 And then I'm like, thank you.

00:25:37.620 Like it's not a rat, but it's my underwear.

00:25:40.260 At least it's not a rat.

00:25:41.500 Yeah.

00:25:41.700 But I'm like, thank you.

00:25:43.260 Like I let them know, like, I know this is a gift.

00:25:45.560 Thank you.

00:25:45.800 But let's stop.

00:25:47.920 My dog now eats his own poop. 0.75

00:25:49.980 So that's disgusting. 0.83

00:25:51.840 Different.

00:25:52.540 Yeah.

00:25:53.320 Don't know why he does it.

00:25:54.580 Do you still kiss him on the lips?

00:25:56.180 No.

00:25:56.680 Oh, you don't?

00:25:57.340 I don't.

00:25:58.000 Oh, I like totally kiss my cat on the lips.

00:26:00.780 I don't kiss him on the lips necessarily.

00:26:02.620 Well, I do kiss him all over the face.

00:26:03.960 I guess you could say I have kissed him on the lips. 0.69

00:26:05.480 Why is he eating poo?

00:26:06.980 It's like a puppy thing.

00:26:08.280 Oh, okay.

00:26:08.680 Because he's still kind of a puppy.

00:26:10.320 He's getting better at it now, but like he does have to be monitored because left alone 1.00

00:26:13.980 to his own devices, he will eat his own shit. 1.00

00:26:16.160 Mm-hmm. 1.00

00:26:16.680 Don't know why this is.

00:26:16.840 Like a lot of men we know.

00:26:18.140 Yeah.

00:26:19.120 Literally. 1.00

00:26:19.840 Like a lot of men when they see that I've stitched their video, that's them eating their own shit. 1.00

00:26:23.880 Totally. 0.99

00:26:24.580 Okay, let me get back to this video.

00:26:26.360 This says, this is like, oh, this is the creator of the video.

00:26:31.200 They said the clump of cells party is in the planning process.

00:26:35.480 I don't even know what that means.

00:26:36.940 I think that she's trying to make like an abortion joke, I think. 0.58

00:26:41.220 The clump of cells party?

00:26:42.700 Yeah, because, because when, you know, when pro-choice people say like that you should

00:26:48.780 have the ability to choose, they're like, oh, it's just a clump of cells.

00:26:52.560 So I think she's like making, you know, they're like liberals. 0.98

00:26:55.320 Yeah.

00:26:55.500 What was the second part of that?

00:26:56.620 The clump of cells?

00:26:57.760 Party is in the planning process because they're taking away boy girl, allegedly.

00:27:02.540 So they're like, you go.

00:27:03.840 This girl sounds awful. 1.00

00:27:06.320 She does.

00:27:07.600 She really does. 1.00

00:27:08.420 Like, holy shit. 1.00

00:27:09.320 Yeah, literally. 1.00

00:27:10.380 Like, you suck. 1.00

00:27:11.320 Well, just like, you could still have the party. 1.00

00:27:13.940 You just don't have to reveal a gender.

00:27:15.980 You don't need an excuse to bring people together and drink.

00:27:19.180 Right.

00:27:19.540 You know what I mean?

00:27:20.300 I don't need an invitation.

00:27:21.040 You're having a baby.

00:27:22.060 That's fabulous.

00:27:23.000 Yeah.

00:27:23.700 Minus the mom drinking like.

00:27:25.260 I also, so I, I don't agree with gender parties or gender reveal parties, but I also

00:27:30.080 at the same time kind of like, I don't really mind them.

00:27:33.540 Yeah, same.

00:27:33.900 I don't detest them.

00:27:35.240 Yeah.

00:27:35.600 I just don't know if it's for me.

00:27:36.980 Yeah.

00:27:37.240 I don't, I don't hate them.

00:27:38.500 I just don't think there's really a point.

00:27:41.560 I mean, it's exciting.

00:27:42.840 It's thrilling.

00:27:43.620 Yeah, you have that and then you have baby shower. 1.00

00:27:46.380 Like, I just think, just have a baby shower.

00:27:48.400 Shower.

00:27:48.800 Yeah.

00:27:48.980 Yeah.

00:27:49.200 Yeah.

00:27:49.600 It's just a reason to get everyone together.

00:27:51.420 That's what I'm saying.

00:27:52.140 And get wasted.

00:27:52.700 Yeah.

00:27:52.940 You don't need an excuse.

00:27:53.340 Celebrate you.

00:27:54.260 Yeah.

00:27:54.680 Yeah.

00:27:55.040 You don't need an excuse. 1.00

00:27:57.320 This next comment says, people are completely nuts, educated dumbasses. 1.00

00:28:02.600 Like talking about people who want to get rid of boy girl. 1.00

00:28:06.680 When they're old enough to decide they're going to be so confused on who they are, this is

00:28:12.000 going to lead to more suicides.

00:28:14.400 I like how they just say things and it's not true.

00:28:16.920 Not true.

00:28:17.480 Yeah.

00:28:17.640 Like I could also just say things that doesn't make it true.

00:28:20.720 Did you ever have any gender questioning in your upbringing when you were growing up?

00:28:27.780 Like me personally?

00:28:29.580 Because I always knew I was a girl.

00:28:31.320 Yeah.

00:28:31.580 I've never had anything like that personally.

00:28:34.920 Not about my gender.

00:28:37.060 Because I hated men so viscerally, I did at one point think maybe I like women. 1.00

00:28:41.620 Okay.

00:28:42.040 So I did experiment in college.

00:28:44.080 And?

00:28:44.820 It turns out I liked men.

00:28:46.540 Okay. 1.00

00:28:47.040 And then I was like, fuck. 1.00

00:28:47.700 How severely did you experiment? 1.00

00:28:50.260 I like fooled around with girls.

00:28:51.780 Like, but how much?

00:28:52.880 Not all the way.

00:28:53.700 Okay.

00:28:54.040 Yeah.

00:28:54.320 Not all the way?

00:28:55.140 No, because it didn't get me anywhere.

00:28:56.900 Didn't hit.

00:28:57.360 Yeah. 0.99

00:28:57.860 Once it started, I was kind of like, damn. 0.99

00:28:59.300 So it's giving like make out. 0.99

00:29:00.380 Yeah.

00:29:00.700 I was like, you're so pretty though.

00:29:01.940 Like, I was like, that means.

00:29:07.020 I love that you gave it a good college try.

00:29:09.060 I tried. 0.95

00:29:09.800 I did try because, and the only reason why was because I, I literally find men disgusting 0.97

00:29:15.340 and I always have. 0.90

00:29:16.600 Yeah.

00:29:16.820 So I was, and I never had crushes really growing up like on men or women.

00:29:21.740 And so it wasn't until I got older that I found out about like being, you know, different

00:29:26.580 kinds of sexuality, like sexuality is like, you know, so.

00:29:31.080 So fluid.

00:29:31.600 Pan A. 0.99

00:29:32.240 Yeah.

00:29:32.480 So fluid.

00:29:33.440 I never really knew about that in college.

00:29:35.640 So then when I got older, I was like, oh, that's so interesting.

00:29:38.400 Like I'd never, if I had thought about that, maybe I would have explored, but then I found

00:29:41.480 out I like men.

00:29:42.420 So only the 1% of men, the one man, the one 7 billion literally.

00:29:51.020 That's why I like, I dated men in college too.

00:29:53.840 And that's how I knew. 0.97

00:29:54.720 I was like, I know a lot of guys just, it's, it sucks. 1.00

00:29:59.540 It's, it's, it's like one thing will be like, oh, you suck. 1.00

00:30:03.580 Yeah. 1.00

00:30:05.500 I know.

00:30:06.360 And I never feel that way about women. 1.00

00:30:08.060 Like just shut up. 0.77

00:30:08.960 I just, I love women so much. 1.00

00:30:10.880 And I just, I was like, damn it. 0.98

00:30:13.240 I love that you tried though. 0.99

00:30:14.380 I did try.

00:30:14.980 That's everything.

00:30:15.380 I did try.

00:30:16.860 Because I was like, I viscerally hate them.

00:30:19.240 Maybe I'm not attracted to them.

00:30:20.620 Right.

00:30:20.800 That's what I asked myself when I was like 18, 17.

00:30:25.740 Well, yeah, I think, I think, you know, um, the person saying that they're going to be,

00:30:30.740 the kid is going to be raised and grow up to be so confused or whatever they said. 0.85

00:30:35.440 I think that's bullshit because I was told that I was a boy growing up and I conformed 0.98

00:30:41.740 to that when I didn't feel that. 0.98

00:30:43.420 But I later found out that I could be trans.

00:30:48.000 I, like, I could come out as my authentic self and like my soul could be seen.

00:30:52.320 Yeah. 0.99

00:30:52.720 So, you know, I think that that's just bullshit. 0.99

00:30:55.600 Yeah. 1.00

00:30:56.260 Like, you know what you are.

00:30:57.940 Yeah.

00:30:58.160 And they think they know better, first of all, and they don't even know you or anyone else

00:31:02.700 that is trans at all. 0.71

00:31:04.420 Yeah.

00:31:04.640 But they also don't apply it the same way, like what you're talking about, which is

00:31:09.320 like enforcing heteronormativity on everyone, which is like the default setting.

00:31:13.420 They, every time they raise children, regardless of, of how they may personally identify, they

00:31:20.000 assign them something at birth.

00:31:21.800 So they're automatically enforcing the gender binary. 0.98

00:31:25.000 They're automatically enforcing heteronormativity, but God forbid you don't do that at all.

00:31:29.600 And you kind of let them choose.

00:31:31.120 They're like, that's weird.

00:31:33.040 I was like, no, it's actually much more freeing.

00:31:36.720 Yeah.

00:31:36.980 If you think about it, alt control, delete.

00:31:38.820 Yeah.

00:31:39.660 It's actually like far more understanding and inclusive.

00:31:43.980 And also it doesn't really cost you anything to like, let them decide for themselves what

00:31:49.040 they want to do.

00:31:50.400 Like fear and anger.

00:31:51.940 Yeah.

00:31:52.440 Okay.

00:31:53.040 Let me go on to this next video.

00:31:55.640 Okay. 0.76

00:31:55.800 So this is a man and this man is simply saying gender pronouns are ridiculous and that everyone 0.78

00:32:03.220 would be happier if we all just called ourselves men and women.

00:32:09.120 I mean, if you were to like take non-binary people out for the sake of this discussion, 0.66

00:32:16.380 um, trans people are saying that they are identifying as a man or a woman.

00:32:22.620 And it's just not the way you like, I guess.

00:32:24.800 Yeah.

00:32:24.820 I think, you know, I am a very binary person.

00:32:28.240 Yeah.

00:32:28.440 Like I am fully female.

00:32:30.180 I'm not on that spectrum at all.

00:32:32.400 So I can't relate with that.

00:32:34.040 Yeah.

00:32:34.300 But writing this book, we have so many people in here that have written essays and I have,

00:32:40.340 I've never felt closer to like the non-binary, non-conforming community.

00:32:44.660 And I think it's something that people need to open their minds to.

00:32:48.260 Absolutely.

00:32:48.660 I think it's something that, you know, we need to, we need to value.

00:32:53.160 We need to see.

00:32:54.280 Um, and it takes courage to come out as something, you know, different.

00:32:58.760 Other than the gender binary. 0.74

00:33:00.740 Yes.

00:33:01.140 Like, it's like, it, it's something to be applauded. 0.95

00:33:04.300 And I think to discredit that is just, it's so ridiculous and it's just not, not fair. 0.87

00:33:09.860 Again, like unemployed business. 0.96

00:33:12.100 Like, like that's the business of an unemployed person who gets totally who like faffs and

00:33:18.920 worries and stresses about what non-binary people are doing. 0.83

00:33:22.720 Like, go back to Dunkin' Donuts.

00:33:25.260 Do you know what you, do you know what you could achieve in your life if you put that

00:33:29.060 energy towards like a job or making money or literally your eyelashes done?

00:33:36.660 Yeah. 0.99

00:33:37.000 Like shut up. 0.98

00:33:37.840 Like literally anything at all you could pick. 0.96

00:33:40.440 And yet you choose to do this. 0.83

00:33:42.080 I also think too, when they talk about pronouns, like, oh, that's so ridiculous or whatever.

00:33:47.480 Um, and they just, or they refuse to address people by the pronouns that they have chosen

00:33:52.320 for themselves.

00:33:53.120 Awful.

00:33:53.840 Yeah.

00:33:54.100 I just think that's a conscious choice.

00:33:55.740 You're making, you're actually making life harder for yourself.

00:33:58.320 And if it shows your insecurity as well, like growing up in high school, I'll never forget

00:34:02.840 when I first, when I was like, oh my God, uh, as my previous gender, I was like, I think

00:34:08.480 I might be gay.

00:34:09.740 I was so hateful to anyone else that was gay. 1.00

00:34:13.040 I was using, you know, that's so gay more than anyone. 0.86

00:34:17.060 Yeah. 0.68

00:34:17.300 Um, it's just overcompensation.

00:34:19.280 Yeah.

00:34:19.540 So anybody that's not down, it's like, oh, are you going through it too?

00:34:22.980 Yeah.

00:34:23.260 You're like, are you okay?

00:34:24.760 You care a little too much.

00:34:26.000 Yeah.

00:34:26.460 Yeah.

00:34:26.780 Like, are you okay?

00:34:27.640 For someone to be so, like, rustled and upset by something that doesn't affect you at all.

00:34:33.240 Right.

00:34:33.640 And I always think too, like, if you refuse to use proper pronouns or, or inclusive language

00:34:39.720 or whatever, like you really, you really got to be like working overtime being a bigot

00:34:45.800 for that to be a hindrance to your life.

00:34:48.120 Like someone says, hey, like my pronouns, are they, them?

00:34:51.020 Like you really got to overwork to misgender them.

00:34:55.060 It's not that hard.

00:34:56.140 That's why I'm like, you got to be hateful 24 seven.

00:34:59.780 Like just don't talk to them.

00:35:01.140 Yeah.

00:35:01.240 For that to be stressful.

00:35:03.540 You're like hating openly all the time.

00:35:05.520 Yes.

00:35:05.680 Like, I don't understand.

00:35:06.720 Yes.

00:35:07.020 Like, are you, are they, them too?

00:35:08.660 That's why I'm like.

00:35:09.580 Do you want to have a conversation?

00:35:11.120 Yeah.

00:35:11.700 I can't with people like that.

00:35:13.220 That's why I'm like, I don't understand how that could possibly be like something that

00:35:17.800 holds you back from getting things done.

00:35:19.960 Right.

00:35:20.440 I can't relate to that.

00:35:21.840 Like not even a little bit.

00:35:22.800 Like I'm going to go on and write about it. 1.00

00:35:24.720 Like, oh my God, you are sick, bitch. 1.00

00:35:27.140 You are. 1.00

00:35:28.100 Yeah.

00:35:28.380 And unhappy.

00:35:29.360 Mm-hmm. 0.54

00:35:30.040 And ugly. 0.87

00:35:31.260 People are though. 0.97

00:35:32.260 You know, like people are.

00:35:33.840 Yeah.

00:35:34.020 And with all this visibility, I feel like the trans community is really just like blasted 1.00

00:35:37.900 out there now and like the non-binary community.

00:35:39.940 So everyone's seeing it.

00:35:41.380 Everyone's seeing it.

00:35:42.180 And you know, people have to look in the mirror every single day.

00:35:45.340 Mm-hmm.

00:35:45.600 So they're looking at themselves like getting angrier.

00:35:48.580 Yeah.

00:35:48.820 Like I might be a trans woman too, but I'll never do it. 1.00

00:35:52.820 Yeah. 1.00

00:35:53.180 So I'm going to hate on this bitch. 1.00

00:35:54.360 Well, yeah. 1.00

00:35:54.640 And it's like, well, then you're just a coward. 0.98

00:35:56.540 Like you're contributing to like the oppression of marginalized groups, specifically trans people. 0.98

00:36:03.060 And like there's like open trans genocide happening right now currently.

00:36:07.160 All of that is happening. 0.99

00:36:08.140 And you're such a coward that because you may feel some type of woman may stir something 0.98

00:36:13.180 up inside of you, you can't even stand up for them. 0.99

00:36:15.380 You can't even mind your own business.

00:36:16.740 Like you don't have to, even if you don't want to stand up for the community, you don't

00:36:19.880 have to talk about them at all.

00:36:21.000 Don't attack it.

00:36:21.740 Yeah.

00:36:22.120 You could just turn the other way.

00:36:25.440 Like it's like actively seeking it out to be awful.

00:36:28.640 I'll never understand.

00:36:30.060 I won't either.

00:36:30.900 I never understand.

00:36:31.700 It's just so much easier to turn away or just blindly support.

00:36:37.000 You're like, that's fine.

00:36:38.860 It's your identity.

00:36:40.180 That's great.

00:36:40.840 Yeah.

00:36:41.400 I think it's supporting anything bad.

00:36:43.160 Yeah.

00:36:43.460 Like, and you don't have to look at it.

00:36:45.100 Like no one's forcing you to look at.

00:36:47.640 That's why with the whole, um, our friend, like my friend Dylan, you know, Dylan, and

00:36:52.980 uh, like the Bud Light thing, like that whole thing happening where people were being awful

00:36:57.680 towards her and they were boycotting Bud Light or whatever. 0.98

00:37:00.600 That whole entire situation, I was like, you guys are so sick in the head. 0.94

00:37:06.220 Like, first of all, you're drinking Bud Light. 0.98

00:37:09.140 I don't like beer.

00:37:10.660 Yeah.

00:37:11.220 Well, Bud Light is not good.

00:37:12.900 So it's fine.

00:37:13.700 Wait, why? 0.98

00:37:14.320 It just tastes like trash. 0.87

00:37:15.900 Oh, I thought you meant the company. 0.98

00:37:16.820 Yeah.

00:37:17.140 Yeah.

00:37:17.400 I don't like any beer.

00:37:19.400 Yeah.

00:37:19.860 I don't.

00:37:20.200 I mean, I.

00:37:20.720 Like it's just empty calories.

00:37:22.100 I feel that.

00:37:22.740 Like I'm eating bread.

00:37:23.600 Like I'm drinking bread.

00:37:26.020 I don't know how people eat and drink it.

00:37:27.900 Cause like, it's too filling.

00:37:29.140 I would vomit.

00:37:30.120 Yeah.

00:37:30.260 It's too filling for me.

00:37:31.260 Yeah.

00:37:31.540 Cause it's like.

00:37:32.060 And doesn't get the job done.

00:37:32.880 I feel like.

00:37:33.620 Oh, getting you drunk. 0.99

00:37:34.420 Like, it's like, I don't feel shit. 0.98

00:37:36.500 I feel. 0.98

00:37:37.160 And I'm full.

00:37:38.260 It's so full.

00:37:39.700 Like my arm.

00:37:40.420 And to lay down.

00:37:41.400 Yeah.

00:37:41.800 Like to lay on my left side.

00:37:43.340 Yeah.

00:37:43.580 I don't know who likes the taste, but apparently a lot of people do.

00:37:46.380 So.

00:37:46.720 A lot of hateful people do apparently.

00:37:49.000 Cause they were.

00:37:49.820 Their panties were in a bunch when they announced their partnership with Dylan.

00:37:54.200 Yeah.

00:37:54.420 Their statement after was a little shocking.

00:37:56.700 I know.

00:37:56.940 I agree.

00:37:57.720 They didn't stand up for her.

00:37:59.000 Like at all.

00:37:59.840 Yeah.

00:38:00.180 I read it and I was like, I got to read this again.

00:38:02.200 I was pissed off.

00:38:03.320 Me too.

00:38:03.700 I was mad.

00:38:04.540 I was shocked.

00:38:05.380 I really was.

00:38:06.180 I was like, who put this out?

00:38:07.800 And well, then I thought like you knew what you signed up for when you hired her.

00:38:11.640 Exactly.

00:38:11.760 So the fact that you guys are backing off is cowardly.

00:38:14.960 Stand behind her.

00:38:15.980 Yeah.

00:38:16.200 Literally.

00:38:16.760 And the community.

00:38:17.600 Absolutely.

00:38:17.920 Not this blanket weird statement.

00:38:19.480 Yeah. 0.99

00:38:19.680 I was like, what the fuck is this? 1.00

00:38:21.120 I thought the same shit when I saw it. 1.00

00:38:22.440 I was like, dude, that's just like them. 1.00

00:38:24.440 There's got to be more. 1.00

00:38:25.420 You guys are cowards. 1.00

00:38:26.440 Yes. 1.00

00:38:27.120 Literally.

00:38:27.780 And thought that it would be fine.

00:38:29.560 Girl.

00:38:30.360 I'm like, you'll make way more money off the people who love Dylan than you will off the

00:38:35.560 people who hate her.

00:38:36.300 Stand behind who you work with.

00:38:37.800 Yeah.

00:38:38.120 You know what I mean?

00:38:39.000 It's just like giving cowardly tail between the legs energy.

00:38:41.740 I agree.

00:38:42.420 Even if it's just capitalism playing a role.

00:38:44.580 Like let's say we're just talking money.

00:38:46.060 You'll make way more money off the people who love her. 1.00

00:38:49.560 She drives numbers, bitch. 1.00

00:38:51.800 Yeah. 1.00

00:38:52.140 Like she can sell something. 0.74

00:38:53.920 Totally.

00:38:54.380 So the fact that they not only didn't stand up for trans people in general and especially

00:38:58.760 her, but they took this weird neutral stance.

00:39:01.920 I hated the neutral. 0.99

00:39:03.020 To try and save both sides is fucked up. 0.99

00:39:05.100 I was like, I want to rip my weave out. 0.99

00:39:06.920 I couldn't stand it.

00:39:08.220 I was like, what are we?

00:39:09.600 Is that it?

00:39:10.340 I just think, I think situations like that too, like with her specifically, like in people

00:39:14.840 like, I'm going to burn my stuff, whatever.

00:39:16.820 I always think that they're like going to burn everything they own.

00:39:20.420 That's Bud Light related.

00:39:21.760 Like they threw it in the trash.

00:39:23.180 They were like posting all kinds of videos.

00:39:24.980 That's not like good.

00:39:25.860 Yeah.

00:39:26.540 I just felt like if your sense of self is threatened that easily, like you're never going to make

00:39:33.420 it in life.

00:39:34.100 Life is a lot harder than that.

00:39:35.900 I can promise you that.

00:39:37.560 You haven't lived.

00:39:38.200 Has nothing bad ever happened to you?

00:39:40.460 Like I promise you life's a lot harder than that.

00:39:42.640 Right.

00:39:43.160 Like seeing, this isn't the end.

00:39:45.120 No, it isn't.

00:39:45.980 It's the beginning.

00:39:46.680 It's just the beginning, honestly.

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00:40:50.380 Okay, so the comments on this video about how we hate, this guy hates gender pronouns.

00:40:56.800 They're just pronouns.

00:40:58.240 Literally.

00:40:59.500 Someone put, reject modernity, embrace.

00:41:03.240 What's modernity?

00:41:04.600 Is that like a was MPEC?

00:41:07.040 I think it's like the modern age.

00:41:11.280 Modernity.

00:41:11.800 Yeah.

00:41:12.420 I'm pretty sure.

00:41:13.680 I could be wrong.

00:41:13.980 I pounded on the keyboard.

00:41:15.780 And it says embrace masculinity.

00:41:19.680 Well, those are he, him pronouns.

00:41:23.080 I always think that when they're like, I don't do those pronouns.

00:41:27.020 No, I don't do those.

00:41:27.920 You know, you see, they're like, what are your pronouns?

00:41:29.020 I don't do those.

00:41:30.260 And then you go, okay, well, then I'll call you she, her.

00:41:33.160 Yeah, what's up, girl?

00:41:34.100 I'll call you a she, I'll call you a queen. 0.98

00:41:35.220 Totally.

00:41:35.800 And they're like, well, no, I'm a man.

00:41:37.820 Then you do have pronouns.

00:41:38.840 Uh-huh.

00:41:39.880 Their brain just, that hamster is working overtime in there.

00:41:42.820 It's probably because they want to be girls. 0.74

00:41:46.620 Or they're wearing like panties under their like trousers.

00:41:49.160 I just think like, what, it's okay if you, if you're a man, that's okay.

00:41:55.420 You can, not to me, but like you can say that.

00:41:58.060 You can be a man.

00:41:59.300 It's very okay if you're a man.

00:42:01.920 This one says they're just, they're just pissed.

00:42:04.860 Biology always says the truth. 1.00

00:42:07.600 So they create some stupid thing. 1.00

00:42:10.000 Majority society should rule. 1.00

00:42:12.520 Call it self-identity, not gender.

00:42:14.660 Or, spin me a yarn, why don't you?

00:42:18.260 I mean, it's giving a tumbleweed.

00:42:20.940 Yeah.

00:42:21.380 Is that a limerick?

00:42:22.280 It's like a haiku.

00:42:23.260 It's a haiku.

00:42:23.920 It's giving haiku.

00:42:24.660 Literally. 0.99

00:42:25.280 I think people are just so ignorant these days. 0.76

00:42:28.500 It's just like, what, like, how can't you see that somebody can live differently than you? 0.68

00:42:33.220 That's, that's at the very like, very, very bare bones of it.

00:42:38.600 That's not my life.

00:42:40.040 That's okay.

00:42:40.680 Like, it's fine.

00:42:42.120 It's okay.

00:42:43.160 It's okay.

00:42:44.240 Yes.

00:42:44.700 And like, you can learn and you'll maybe be happier after, my love.

00:42:49.480 Yeah.

00:42:50.300 That's why I said it costs you nothing to be more inclusive.

00:42:53.020 Yes.

00:42:53.380 It really doesn't.

00:42:54.220 No, that was so well put, what you said earlier. 0.99

00:42:55.960 I feel like people are just so quick to be ignorant and bigots. 0.86

00:42:59.620 And it's like, once they meet somebody or get inspired by like a trans person or a non-binary 0.97

00:43:04.540 person that they meet, it's like a light goes off.

00:43:07.500 Yeah.

00:43:07.720 I see it all the time whenever I do like meet and greets or whenever I'm like out or whatever.

00:43:12.140 And like, you know, like somebody will come up to me and like their dad or their mom is

00:43:16.860 behind them.

00:43:17.560 Yeah.

00:43:17.760 And I'm just like hanging out, talking with them, whatever.

00:43:20.520 I'll crack a joke and I'll see like a little smile from, from the sidelines.

00:43:24.080 And then they like warm up to me.

00:43:26.160 Yeah.

00:43:26.580 And I'm like, they definitely thought that they're like, you know, child was obsessed

00:43:30.180 with like a weirdo or whatever they think of me as.

00:43:33.400 And then I turn on them and they're like, oh my God, like she's actually kind of cool.

00:43:38.540 That's crazy.

00:43:39.300 You know?

00:43:39.840 And like, it's like, it literally is like all these people writing this.

00:43:42.580 It's like, you don't even mean that.

00:43:43.840 Like, stop.

00:43:44.240 Yeah.

00:43:44.820 And it's also, what's sad is like, they shouldn't have to like see you to humanize

00:43:50.860 you.

00:43:51.260 They shouldn't have to meet you in person to, to believe that you're a human deserving

00:43:55.840 of rights and choices.

00:43:57.220 Yep.

00:43:57.280 100%.

00:43:57.680 And that's the part that, that really blows me.

00:44:00.240 Cause I'm like, I don't need to like meet you. 0.96

00:44:03.040 Like for example, this ass dude who made this video, I don't need to meet him to know that 1.00

00:44:08.840 he's unemployed and ugly. 1.00

00:44:10.220 I don't need to meet you to know that. 0.92

00:44:11.240 Getting the real experience in real life, guys, this is epic.

00:44:15.420 I could get those vibes just off this. 0.97

00:44:17.860 Like when I read these, I don't see faces at all, but I know you're ugly. 0.92

00:44:21.080 I don't even think that that made sense. 0.95

00:44:22.480 Believe it.

00:44:23.040 Grammatically.

00:44:23.620 No, it didn't.

00:44:24.200 I don't think there's like words missing.

00:44:25.580 Yeah.

00:44:25.820 But the guy who created this video, like I can't see what you look like, but I know you're 0.97

00:44:28.680 ugly just based off this. 0.77

00:44:29.820 I don't need to meet you to know that. 1.00

00:44:31.020 I know you're a terrible person.

00:44:32.000 I know you're unemployed. 0.98

00:44:33.340 I know.

00:44:33.680 Smell bad.

00:44:34.340 Yeah.

00:44:34.640 I know you're probably short.

00:44:37.000 I know you're probably like eight, eight and a half size shoe.

00:44:39.860 Like shave all your pubic hair, but have like so many razor burns.

00:44:47.540 Like try, but fail.

00:44:49.060 Just red bumps.

00:44:49.860 Yeah.

00:44:50.280 Try, but fail.

00:44:51.160 Red bumps.

00:44:51.720 Mama.

00:44:52.340 You buy deodorant, not antiperspirant.

00:44:54.140 Yeah.

00:44:54.580 Like boxers, like boxer, boxers, like ones that are like have holes in them and they're

00:44:59.460 old.

00:44:59.940 Like you've had them since you were seven.

00:45:01.580 Yeah.

00:45:01.920 And they're white, but they're now like kind of a gray color.

00:45:06.140 I. 0.96

00:45:06.600 That's so sick. 1.00

00:45:07.560 Holy shit. 1.00

00:45:11.340 The stench in those girl. 1.00

00:45:13.660 No.

00:45:14.240 Let me tell you.

00:45:15.340 Not at all.

00:45:16.380 I think like that's one of those things that really annoys me because I'm like, someone

00:45:21.560 could tell me what their life experiences and how they identify.

00:45:24.600 And it costs me nothing to be like, okay, cool.

00:45:27.880 Sounds good.

00:45:28.620 Like when I started dating my, my boyfriend now, like going on seven years now, but like

00:45:34.980 when I first started dating him, um, my sister, my sister's gay and she had a partner at the

00:45:40.440 time.

00:45:40.680 And so we hadn't hung out in a while.

00:45:43.300 And so like when we hung out for the first time in like a few years, he's like, so what's

00:45:47.420 new?

00:45:47.660 I was like, nothing much.

00:45:48.520 My sister is a lesbian though. 1.00

00:45:49.880 Like just came out.

00:45:50.760 Yeah.

00:45:50.980 My, my sister is gay.

00:45:52.000 No, she'd been out for a minute, but like, I didn't know if he knew.

00:45:55.080 So I was like, she's gay by the way.

00:45:57.160 Do you have any thoughts on that?

00:45:58.600 You have any thoughts?

00:45:59.480 Gay friends around you ever?

00:46:01.560 Yeah.

00:46:01.820 Me?

00:46:02.080 Yeah.

00:46:02.320 Yeah, absolutely.

00:46:03.180 But him, I wasn't sure.

00:46:04.220 Cause I hadn't seen him in a few years.

00:46:05.660 So I was like, do you have any thoughts on that particular?

00:46:08.180 Yeah.

00:46:08.420 And the fact that my sister is gay. 0.95

00:46:10.740 Imagine he did. 0.92

00:46:11.780 Yeah.

00:46:12.240 Girl, we wouldn't be here.

00:46:13.460 Oh my God.

00:46:14.060 That's why I said, I would be like, are you okay?

00:46:17.640 Do you want to answer that again?

00:46:20.520 He had like, I brought that up immediately.

00:46:22.660 Like the second question that we talked like small talk.

00:46:26.280 That's my version of small talk.

00:46:27.420 No, that's major.

00:46:28.100 Cause I'm like, get this out the way now.

00:46:29.760 Like, and so he was like, cool.

00:46:32.640 And then I was like, first test passed.

00:46:35.780 Yes.

00:46:36.300 And then he, my boyfriend was a sociology major.

00:46:39.700 And my boyfriend.

00:46:40.080 I think you're about to say sociopath.

00:46:42.160 No.

00:46:42.620 I was like, okay.

00:46:43.500 No, that's me in the relationship.

00:46:44.700 Yeah.

00:46:44.860 Yeah.

00:46:44.980 Same.

00:46:45.160 But he, uh, he, he was a sociology major and he took a lot of, uh, women's studies

00:46:50.220 courses and like, uh, courses on.

00:46:52.020 So you guys were like so perfectly matched.

00:46:53.320 Gender and sexuality, like he learned all about that stuff.

00:46:56.660 So he talked to me a lot about it and I was like, all right.

00:47:00.280 Maybe I don't hate men.

00:47:01.960 One man. 1.00

00:47:03.000 Liar. 1.00

00:47:05.440 So you're lying. 1.00

00:47:06.900 Yeah.

00:47:07.960 So I don't hate all men.

00:47:10.600 Yeah.

00:47:10.920 That's what I always, that's what they always say.

00:47:12.240 The, um, I think that's the biggest test you could just hit someone with.

00:47:16.360 Yeah.

00:47:16.820 See their reaction.

00:47:18.080 Absolutely.

00:47:18.460 Cause I think inherently we are so, I think we just like know the vibes, you know, know

00:47:24.920 how to like read a room.

00:47:25.980 So if you ask someone like a hard hitting question like that, which isn't honestly even that hard

00:47:31.020 hitting.

00:47:31.420 No, not at all.

00:47:32.480 But it is.

00:47:33.440 I'm like, yeah. 0.98

00:47:34.100 I'm like, do you hate gay people? 0.99

00:47:35.520 Tell me now. 0.99

00:47:36.120 Yeah.

00:47:36.220 Yeah.

00:47:36.720 Yeah. 0.97

00:47:37.080 My sister's gay. 0.99

00:47:38.080 Yeah. 0.96

00:47:38.420 What up?

00:47:38.840 Oh, exactly.

00:47:40.240 And I've told people when people ask me like, how do I know if he's like a good guy like

00:47:44.040 early on?

00:47:44.780 So I don't like waste my time.

00:47:46.040 You know.

00:47:46.340 I'm like, you know, first of all, you do know.

00:47:48.460 Yes.

00:47:48.740 Like you have a gut feeling.

00:47:50.180 100%. 0.98

00:47:50.540 And I was like, but second of all, ask upfront, like, do you hate gay people? 0.95

00:47:55.680 Who'd you vote for? 0.81

00:47:56.560 Where were you on January 6th?

00:47:58.400 Ask all those questions upfront, get it out of the way.

00:48:01.100 And then you don't waste any time or just live in delusion that you could do that for

00:48:06.320 the rest of your life.

00:48:09.380 You could do that. 0.99

00:48:10.120 I was like, you could die. 1.00

00:48:10.740 I'd rather die alone. 1.00

00:48:11.800 Yeah. 0.96

00:48:11.980 Yeah.

00:48:12.060 I did.

00:48:12.220 I did.

00:48:12.420 I did.

00:48:12.680 I did.

00:48:12.920 I did.

00:48:14.140 Thankfully, I'm not going to, unlike the man who made this video, though. 1.00

00:48:17.060 You're a f***ing loser. 1.00

00:48:18.440 You're a f***ing loser. 1.00

00:48:18.460 You're a f***ing loser. 1.00

00:48:18.940 You're a f***ing loser. 1.00

00:48:21.340 It just costs you nothing, I feel like. 1.00

00:48:23.440 And I feel like you guys, men like that or women like whoever, just bigots in general,

00:48:28.380 they put way too much energy. 0.99

00:48:30.400 All of that energy that they put into that, they could just put into shut the f*** up. 0.99

00:48:34.540 Honestly. 0.99

00:48:35.180 Personally.

00:48:35.480 And just, I just have experienced it so many times.

00:48:39.380 Even like some trans girls that I know, they have been so hateful to me. 0.99

00:48:43.940 And then I see that they've come out as trans. 0.65

00:48:46.860 That's crazy.

00:48:48.440 I'm like, okay.

00:48:48.960 And that's why in this book, we have a chapter called Competition Within the Community.

00:48:53.840 Okay.

00:48:54.320 And I think it's so funny because you would think, I think a lot of people think like,

00:48:58.780 oh, all trans people stand together.

00:49:00.260 The gays are all together.

00:49:01.580 Yeah. 0.63

00:49:01.800 The LGBTQIA plus community, but there's so much hatred within it.

00:49:06.520 Because of how everyone's been conditioned.

00:49:08.580 Exactly.

00:49:09.280 And I think that is just, it just, the comments like these, I'm like, girl, give it a few years.

00:49:15.800 Really.

00:49:16.560 Like, I pray for you.

00:49:17.480 Like, love you.

00:49:18.180 And that's honestly what I think about when I think about like my trans friends,

00:49:22.360 like how I'm just in such admiration of the patience that they have and the understanding

00:49:28.800 and the empathy that they hold for people who are really, really hateful towards them.

00:49:33.520 Because like you said, like sometimes they're struggling with their own identity or sexuality,

00:49:38.220 whatever it may be.

00:49:39.280 Sometimes they're just hateful.

00:49:40.600 But like sometimes it is tied to something. 1.00

00:49:43.800 And the trans community, as much vitriol and shit and horror that you guys suffer, 1.00

00:49:49.120 they still hold the most empathy for anyone. 1.00

00:49:52.720 It's crazy. 0.99

00:49:53.840 We're patient bitches. 1.00

00:49:54.740 I'm saying. 0.98

00:49:55.640 I mean, I'm like the most impatient person, but I think maybe I'm not now.

00:49:59.420 Well, when it comes to like.

00:50:00.640 Talking to you, I'm like, maybe I am kind of patient.

00:50:02.460 No, you are.

00:50:03.640 Like, all my trans friends are so incredibly like understanding and empathetic towards like

00:50:09.420 the most hateful comments that they get because they're like, well, I know what it feels like.

00:50:13.380 Like what you're saying, like I had, I went through a period where I struggled with my

00:50:17.480 own kind of like internalized biases, which I feel like we all have to some capacity.

00:50:22.240 100%.

00:50:22.600 But what's crazy is how they show up for others.

00:50:25.480 You know what I mean?

00:50:26.080 Like the trans community always shows up for others.

00:50:29.700 I'm thinking about one friend of mine in particular, and she is like one of the most resilient,

00:50:34.740 beautiful, strong trans women I know.

00:50:38.340 And she teaches.

00:50:40.460 I see that in her.

00:50:41.740 Yeah.

00:50:41.940 You know, like I don't really see that in myself, but seeing her, I'm like, she could

00:50:46.400 never be knocked down.

00:50:47.920 She can like, like I've, I've seen her be dealt the worst cards, had, have the worst

00:50:52.760 days and just like the worst luck. 1.00

00:50:55.520 And I just see her and I'm like, you are a strong bitch. 1.00

00:50:58.880 Like you are the reason you are the, like you are one of the strongest women I know. 1.00

00:51:03.840 You are the reason why people should look up to trans women. 0.98

00:51:06.580 Yeah.

00:51:07.020 And she inspires me.

00:51:08.060 She's younger than me, but she, she is the reason. 0.99

00:51:10.760 I feel like at the, when I first started transitioning, I always made a joke.

00:51:14.420 I'm like, I'm more women.

00:51:15.640 I'm more of a woman than women who were born women because I had to fight and I had to like 0.98

00:51:20.740 do all of this, you know, to create myself basically.

00:51:23.700 Yeah.

00:51:24.000 Um, and I see that within her and it's so inspiring.

00:51:26.780 And I think, thank you for saying that.

00:51:28.880 Yeah, absolutely.

00:51:29.960 It inspires me endlessly, but it also like, it's, it's, it inspires me like in a, just

00:51:37.960 like in a sociological sense, but it also inspires me personally because I feel like trans women,

00:51:42.900 like you said, have had to fight for so long and continue to do so even now, not just for

00:51:47.140 themselves, but for other communities as well.

00:51:49.120 Whatever intersections they may sit at, but they have such a strong sense of self, like

00:51:54.380 so confident in who they are and what they like and what they want.

00:51:57.800 You have to.

00:51:58.540 And I love that.

00:51:59.860 Yeah.

00:52:00.020 You just have to, for so long we've been told what we want, who we are.

00:52:04.820 Yeah.

00:52:05.080 So like now it's like, no.

00:52:07.320 Yeah.

00:52:07.940 Yeah.

00:52:08.720 Like they, it's just like how confident you are in the decisions and how you choose to

00:52:13.840 be perceived by the world is something that I envy.

00:52:16.560 And I wish that you're the same way.

00:52:18.720 I, yeah, I think so.

00:52:19.580 Are you a trans woman?

00:52:21.800 We are one in the same.

00:52:23.280 To an extent.

00:52:23.640 To an extent.

00:52:24.380 Yes, absolutely.

00:52:25.480 And I feel, but I feel like too, my path was obviously a lot easier and that's why,

00:52:30.080 because that's not something that has oppressed me personally, but that is something that I

00:52:34.140 admire because I feel like, well, first of all, trans women make the world go around

00:52:38.500 for many reasons, but they have inspired so much of what is now youth culture today.

00:52:44.000 Anything that you like more oftentimes than not can be traced back to the LGBTQIA plus

00:52:48.820 community.

00:52:48.980 Hello, always.

00:52:49.800 Everything.

00:52:50.240 Oh yeah.

00:52:50.640 Anything that's popular, trending, hip, whatever for the young Gen Zers, that's like literally

00:52:57.160 it can all be drawn back to where it came from, which is black trans women, but also the LGBTQIA

00:53:03.040 plus community.

00:53:03.620 I want to live here.

00:53:05.880 I'm trying to live where you're at.

00:53:07.320 Where y'all are at.

00:53:08.280 Literally.

00:53:08.740 That's why I'm like, you guys, you just inspire me.

00:53:11.100 You inspire the out of me.

00:53:11.920 Oh my God.

00:53:12.260 You inspire me too.

00:53:13.200 I love you.

00:53:13.780 I love you.

00:53:14.660 And so what else do you want people to know when it comes to living your most authentic

00:53:19.140 life and being, being like the truest form of yourself?

00:53:23.620 I think the most important thing about being authentic and being true with yourself is really

00:53:28.120 checking in with yourself because you can get really comfy at the place that you're at.

00:53:32.820 Yeah.

00:53:33.880 You know, even in a week you can change.

00:53:36.740 So you got to really check in with yourself, make sure that you're happy, that the people

00:53:41.680 around you are good, making you feel good and any changes that you want to make in your

00:53:46.880 life.

00:53:47.320 You know, like coming out as trans is a huge feat, obviously.

00:53:50.420 But, you know, after that, there's so much work to be done.

00:53:52.900 Yeah.

00:53:53.280 And I'm still transitioning.

00:53:55.240 Like I'm, I'm off hormones now.

00:53:58.140 Me and my husband are trying to do this IVF journey, trying to create an embryo.

00:54:02.180 So it's like the journey is never done.

00:54:04.600 So just always keep checking in with yourself because that, I, I don't know why I get so

00:54:09.960 bothered by the word authentic, like my authentic self.

00:54:13.580 I don't know why it makes me cringe, but it, it really does make you more authentic.

00:54:18.840 You know, it's like, how am I feeling today?

00:54:20.360 Yeah.

00:54:20.880 You know?

00:54:21.300 Absolutely.

00:54:22.060 And I feel like too, I mean, even, I, even so as women, like we're taught for so long

00:54:28.320 and conditioned like socially to always prioritize the needs of others and how, checking on how

00:54:34.140 everyone else is feeling.

00:54:35.160 So I feel like that's even more important, like, especially, um, now in this day and

00:54:39.980 age where we're exposed to so many things and so much, um, media that we should, like

00:54:45.000 you said, be checking in, see how we're feeling, see what we want, what we really want, what

00:54:48.880 we want to do, that kind of stuff.

00:54:50.360 Yeah.

00:54:50.620 Something that I heard actually on a podcast yesterday, I forget which one, but it was

00:54:55.780 that our inner saboteur, like the voices, the negative voices we hear like in our head.

00:55:00.880 Yeah.

00:55:01.760 They're not us.

00:55:03.280 Yeah.

00:55:03.680 And we can ignore them.

00:55:06.300 And it really like, I've heard that before or whatever, but it just really like hit me

00:55:11.360 and I feel like it was like an awakening within myself.

00:55:14.540 I'm like, oh my God, like those are literally a projection of society, what everyone else

00:55:19.760 is doing, what everyone else is thinking, how I should feel, what I should do.

00:55:23.000 Yeah.

00:55:23.440 So you don't have to listen to those and it's how you talk to yourself is what matters.

00:55:28.740 Yeah, absolutely.

00:55:30.240 I think we're also the meanest to ourselves too.

00:55:33.260 Yes.

00:55:33.680 So like, like you said, that's when those, yeah, that's when they creep in.

00:55:37.340 I think when you start listening to them is when you like start being really mean to yourself.

00:55:41.620 Like no one's ever going to be meaner to you than you.

00:55:44.240 So I feel like that's why, like you said, it's really important that you talk yourself up

00:55:49.740 a lot.

00:55:50.320 I've learned that too.

00:55:51.200 Like listening to podcasts or like reading self-help books, like how you talk to yourself

00:55:55.420 is important.

00:55:56.600 It matters.

00:55:57.420 It matters.

00:55:58.040 When you were an athlete, like a soccer player back in the day, did you ever be like, oh,

00:56:04.060 I'm going to like, I'm going to suck at this match.

00:56:06.120 I'm going to like totally bomb this just to like keep the standards low.

00:56:09.480 So when you do something good, the success is higher.

00:56:11.440 Yeah, absolutely.

00:56:12.080 I did that all the time when I was a diver.

00:56:14.100 Yeah, absolutely.

00:56:15.160 Especially when I knew it was going to be harder.

00:56:17.420 I'm like, well, it's hard.

00:56:18.680 So if I do bad, like it's like me setting the bar low.

00:56:22.060 Yes.

00:56:22.540 Yeah.

00:56:22.780 Like you said.

00:56:23.300 So if I exceed it, I'm like, oh my God.

00:56:24.980 Oh my God.

00:56:25.440 I'm a major.

00:56:26.360 Oh my God.

00:56:26.720 I did so good despite me being horrible or almost being horrible.

00:56:30.640 Yeah, absolutely.

00:56:31.500 I feel like I still do that now, but it's way less.

00:56:34.480 And I think that that's something that everybody can work on because how you talk to yourself

00:56:38.640 really does matter.

00:56:40.020 And it literally makes you like a happier person.

00:56:41.900 It makes you more like positive.

00:56:43.580 Yeah.

00:56:43.880 Your relationships are better.

00:56:45.140 Yeah.

00:56:45.300 Your life turns out, like everything starts to fall into place, I think, too, sometimes

00:56:49.280 when you really work on how you talk to yourself.

00:56:52.540 Manifestation.

00:56:53.100 Yeah.

00:56:53.520 Oh, I love to manifest.

00:56:54.780 I don't really know manifestation.

00:56:56.340 Oh, girl, I love to manifest.

00:56:57.920 I feel like I do naturally, but like, yeah, that's like causing the astrology card.

00:57:02.400 Girl, everything you have in life, I bet you manifested it.

00:57:05.120 I think so, too.

00:57:05.960 You absolutely did.

00:57:06.640 But like, just don't think about it.

00:57:07.520 It just happens.

00:57:09.020 I'm so lucky and everything good happens, comes my way or whatever.

00:57:12.480 Yeah, all that.

00:57:13.380 Yeah.

00:57:13.580 In a bag of chips.

00:57:14.540 Yeah.

00:57:14.660 Yeah.

00:57:16.220 Okay.

00:57:16.940 Thank you so much for coming on the show.

00:57:18.900 I adore you.

00:57:19.680 Thank you for having me.

00:57:20.540 I adore you, too.

00:57:21.280 You're such a legend.

00:57:22.600 What do you want to tell people about your amazing book?

00:57:26.560 So, the Tea Guide is available now wherever books are sold.

00:57:29.760 Yes.

00:57:30.040 Me and Gottmik wrote it.

00:57:31.180 We were really, really, we were really inspired by each other's stories.

00:57:35.180 You'd think that, you know, a trans man and a trans woman wouldn't really have that

00:57:38.440 much in common, but we really do.

00:57:40.280 Yeah.

00:57:40.620 And we're just so proud of it.

00:57:42.860 My dad wrote in it.

00:57:44.160 I just flipped to his page.

00:57:45.640 Aw.

00:57:46.280 So cute.

00:57:47.080 Sweet.

00:57:47.500 And although it is a guide for transitioning, it really is about the human experience.

00:57:52.360 It's really just about having, you know, empathy for other people.

00:57:57.000 Yeah.

00:57:57.260 And their experiences, along with all of our resources that we've come to know over the

00:58:02.860 past few years.

00:58:03.820 Transition.

00:58:04.160 I want to say, I think you're such a legend.

00:58:07.280 I think you're such an inspiration.

00:58:08.680 Thank you.

00:58:09.060 And I'm proud to call you a friend.

00:58:11.180 And I think, I genuinely believe, like, books like this will, like, save lives.

00:58:15.020 I really do think that.

00:58:15.940 So, you inspire me.

00:58:16.900 And I love you.

00:58:17.740 Thank you.

00:58:18.200 I love you, too.

00:58:18.400 And this is amazing.

00:58:19.320 So, make sure y'all go get Gigi and Gottmik's new book.

00:58:22.560 It's out now.

00:58:23.500 Anywhere you can buy books.

00:58:24.920 And where can everybody find you?

00:58:26.420 Um, I am Gigi Gorgeous across all platforms.

00:58:30.260 Beautiful.

00:58:30.880 That's where you can find me, baby.

00:58:31.560 And Gigi's married to a very handsome man.

00:58:33.600 Yes, Nats.

00:58:34.040 And you can also follow Nats.

00:58:35.740 Yes.

00:58:36.060 Yes.

00:58:36.560 And Gottmik, since Gottmik is on here.

00:58:38.560 He's on here, too.

00:58:39.720 Follow everyone.

00:58:40.700 Everyone.

00:58:41.260 Except me.

00:58:41.720 Don't follow me.

00:58:43.280 Thank you all for joining us.

00:58:44.640 Thank you to amazing guests, Gigi, for being here today.

00:58:47.600 And don't forget that you can watch new episodes of the Comment Section Show.

00:58:50.840 They drop every Wednesday exclusively on Spotify.

00:58:53.800 I'll see you next week.

00:58:54.780 Bye.

00:58:56.420 Bye.

00:59:21.640 Bye.

00:59:22.140 Bye.

00:59:22.600 Bye.

00:59:22.660 Bye.

The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - June 21, 2023

I'D LOVE TO SHAVE MY HEAD Ft. Gigi Gorgeous ｜ Drew Afualo ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 71

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