The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - MEN HATE WHEN WOMEN DON'T NEED THEM Ft. Nai Jelee ｜ Drew Afualo ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 51

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00:00:15.940 Like, actually, and that's, like, they get mad at us.

00:00:19.460 Yeah.

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00:01:25.560 Hey, everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Comment Section Show

00:01:28.960 starring me, your fave, Who Cares About Me,

00:01:30.960 on to the beautiful, amazing guest.

00:01:32.960 Today, we have the one and only, Nyjah Lee.

00:01:36.240 Woo-hoo! 1.00

00:01:37.760 Oh, my gosh.

00:01:38.560 So excited to have you.

00:01:40.000 I can't even believe I'm here.

00:01:41.080 You're gorgeous and amazing.

00:01:42.480 Stop.

00:01:42.820 I'm a huge fan.

00:01:44.420 We've been fans of each other for a while.

00:01:46.000 Yeah, we have.

00:01:46.740 Several months.

00:01:47.440 Yeah, we've been in mutuals for a minute.

00:01:49.000 Yeah, we met a couple times before this.

00:01:50.600 I don't know if you realized I was following you a lot sooner than you may think.

00:01:53.880 I'd see yourself a lot.

00:01:55.780 Yeah, girl. 0.99

00:01:56.680 Why did I not know?

00:01:57.840 Like, I know as soon as I saw it, I freaked out.

00:02:00.880 That's what I'm saying.

00:02:01.460 I think you didn't realize I was following you a lot sooner than I actually was.

00:02:04.980 That's because even though I'm a TikToker, I do not be on TikTok like that.

00:02:08.160 Same.

00:02:08.440 Like, I go, I post my little videos, and I dip.

00:02:10.720 Like, log out.

00:02:11.600 I'm done.

00:02:11.880 As you should.

00:02:12.180 That's honestly probably for the best.

00:02:13.840 Yeah, protect your peace, babe.

00:02:15.380 We have to.

00:02:16.700 Yes.

00:02:17.180 We have to.

00:02:17.960 Your content is far different from mine.

00:02:20.980 And just a little bit.

00:02:21.940 Just a little.

00:02:22.660 Yes.

00:02:23.120 But you're a big glam girl on there.

00:02:25.160 How did you get into TikTok?

00:02:26.460 Always been a glam girl.

00:02:27.880 Honestly, I'm not going to lie. 0.99

00:02:29.340 At first, I thought TikTok was stupid. 0.98

00:02:31.660 Like, I thought it was just a bunch of 12-year-olds doing dances. 0.99

00:02:35.020 And I'm like, I'm 25.

00:02:36.520 Okay, I'm 27.

00:02:37.360 So we're in the same range.

00:02:38.500 Yes.

00:02:38.900 Yeah.

00:02:39.380 So I thought it was just, you know, kids on there doing little dances.

00:02:41.640 And I was just like.

00:02:42.960 I feel like white kids at that. 0.60

00:02:43.680 Yeah.

00:02:44.060 Yeah.

00:02:44.360 I'm like, y'all have fun.

00:02:45.380 Do you.

00:02:45.760 I'll be over here.

00:02:46.420 Yeah.

00:02:46.880 But I was always, like, into hair and makeup.

00:02:49.980 And I was on Instagram first.

00:02:51.280 And I was like, this algorithm, dude.

00:02:53.000 Like, I can't do it. 0.99

00:02:54.140 It sucks. 0.98

00:02:54.600 Instagram's impenetrable. 1.00

00:02:55.760 Yeah.

00:02:56.220 Yeah.

00:02:56.680 And I was, like, literally going to quit.

00:02:58.840 And my girlfriend was like, girl, you cannot quit.

00:03:01.920 Like, there's this whole new platform that's blowing up.

00:03:04.220 Like, why don't you post something on there?

00:03:05.380 And I'm like, no. 1.00

00:03:07.080 Like, it's stupid. 1.00

00:03:08.380 No. 1.00

00:03:09.080 And she was like, just do it.

00:03:10.780 So then I did it.

00:03:11.680 And it blew up.

00:03:12.920 Like, almost immediately after I started posting on TikTok.

00:03:15.920 Yeah.

00:03:16.320 Just back to back to back started blowing up. 0.99

00:03:18.100 And I was like, oh, damn. 0.99

00:03:19.620 Yeah. 0.99

00:03:20.140 Guess I'm an influencer now.

00:03:22.420 You know what's so funny?

00:03:24.040 My boyfriend encouraged me to post, too.

00:03:26.160 I remember you saying that.

00:03:27.320 He literally told, I didn't really, I saw it and I was like, ah, too white, too young.

00:03:33.700 That's not for my vibes.

00:03:35.220 But then he was like, during the pandemic, this is after I got fired.

00:03:38.980 So the pandemic hit and then, like, we were all at home.

00:03:42.040 So he was like, why don't you try posting stuff on TikTok?

00:03:44.880 And I'm like, ah, I don't know.

00:03:47.240 I just feel like maybe I'm too old for that app.

00:03:48.920 He's like, well, why don't you just try it?

00:03:50.420 Maybe it'll just be like a fun thing that you can do just for you.

00:03:53.460 And I was like, true.

00:03:54.700 So true, King.

00:03:56.000 So then I didn't. 1.00

00:03:57.280 Goddamn. 0.99

00:03:57.700 Good thing I did. 0.99

00:03:58.500 Yeah. 1.00

00:03:58.840 Goddamn. 0.99

00:03:59.540 Sometimes I think to myself, like, if you ever, if you hate me being on there, blame him. 0.99

00:04:04.360 That's his fault.

00:04:05.760 Now look at you.

00:04:06.380 A superstar.

00:04:07.020 And it's all his fault.

00:04:08.000 All his fault.

00:04:08.760 He unleashed the curse on all of them.

00:04:10.500 That's not my fault.

00:04:11.740 Yeah.

00:04:11.920 A plague that can never be undone now.

00:04:14.160 Truly, like, something you cannot undo.

00:04:17.180 Unfortunately. 1.00

00:04:17.540 Can't close that door, bitch. 1.00

00:04:19.620 And that's, I think that's so sweet, too, that your partner encouraged you to start posting, too. 0.99

00:04:24.720 What's beautiful about that is that she saw the potential and she knew that you could

00:04:28.520 do it.

00:04:29.160 You just needed the right vehicle.

00:04:30.320 It's hard.

00:04:31.260 I'm glad she saw it, dude.

00:04:32.540 Because me, I was like, nah, hell nah.

00:04:35.180 You know what's funny, too, is this is after you and I became mutuals on TikTok.

00:04:38.920 You were always on my Explore page.

00:04:41.720 Always on mine.

00:04:42.160 This is the first time I'm hearing this.

00:04:43.180 Yeah.

00:04:43.340 Oh, my goodness.

00:04:43.740 Always on mine.

00:04:44.020 And then I realized, I'm like, wait a second.

00:04:46.100 I follow her on TikTok.

00:04:47.240 And that's when I followed you on Instagram.

00:04:49.480 Because you were always, that's not a joke.

00:04:51.740 That sounds fake, but it's not.

00:04:53.000 You were always on my Explore page.

00:04:54.320 I always have nails and, like, glam girls because I'm always looking up, like, glam inspo, hair

00:04:58.700 inspo, that kind of stuff.

00:05:00.020 So that's, like, what populates my For You page.

00:05:02.340 Oh, my goodness.

00:05:02.820 What's crazy is that people tell me all the time, like, oh, my God, I saw you on my Discover page

00:05:06.240 today, like, oh, my God, I saw you on TikTok and I swear I forget that I'm an influencer.

00:05:10.840 Yeah.

00:05:11.180 And I'm like, am I being stalked?

00:05:12.620 Like, why is everyone seeing me?

00:05:13.980 Who told you where I was?

00:05:14.840 Right.

00:05:15.320 Like, I thought this was a secret.

00:05:16.560 But no, like, I really, like, I put myself out there.

00:05:19.480 That is my fault.

00:05:20.200 And now people know me. 0.99

00:05:21.020 I'm like, God damn. 0.99

00:05:21.840 Like, now I got to be perceived. 0.99

00:05:23.500 A beauty and a curse.

00:05:24.600 Yeah.

00:05:24.860 It truly is.

00:05:26.160 Do you ever get men commenting on your stuff all the time or saying, putting in their two

00:05:29.920 cents?

00:05:30.460 Don't get me stuck.

00:05:31.380 I mean, you don't need that.

00:05:32.420 We all know the answer to my question for that.

00:05:34.220 But yeah.

00:05:34.600 I get a lot of comments from men saying very interesting things.

00:05:39.680 Like, when they can't find a legitimate reason to hate on you, they will just make things

00:05:43.480 up.

00:05:43.960 Oh, girl, you don't got to tell me twice.

00:05:45.740 It's fascinating.

00:05:46.480 It is fascinating.

00:05:47.600 It's crazy.

00:05:47.620 I love to see it.

00:05:48.560 Honestly.

00:05:49.220 The narratives they make up.

00:05:51.100 Yeah.

00:05:51.400 I think the most common one, the common ones, I get called like, oh, you look like a drag queen

00:05:58.560 and people will call me like trans slurs.

00:06:01.540 And I'm like.

00:06:02.260 I get those too.

00:06:03.100 That's not an insult.

00:06:03.860 Yeah, it's not an insult. 0.99

00:06:05.140 I feel like you just called me the baddest bitch in the room. 0.99

00:06:06.960 No, truly. 0.99

00:06:08.020 What does that even mean?

00:06:08.800 If you can't beat it face down, just say that.

00:06:10.860 Exactly.

00:06:11.980 And I think a lot of these men are like, when they hate on a woman for how she looks, I'm

00:06:16.060 like, don't be mad that you can't have me, babe.

00:06:18.120 No, truly.

00:06:19.180 Just move on.

00:06:20.060 I promise there's more out there.

00:06:21.580 The strange.

00:06:22.820 Yeah.

00:06:23.140 I get, I get like, oh, like transphobic slurs or insults.

00:06:28.080 And I'm like, that's not an insult to me.

00:06:29.880 Do you have anything else?

00:06:31.060 Right.

00:06:31.400 Also, while we wait, send me a picture of you.

00:06:33.840 Since we're commenting on looks, I'd love to partake.

00:06:36.400 If you're cool with that, I'd love to join in.

00:06:38.780 Yeah.

00:06:38.920 First, first the hairline and then we'll move on to the rest.

00:06:41.480 We're a big, I'm a big fan of commenting on looks over here.

00:06:43.840 Yes.

00:06:44.220 Huge fan.

00:06:44.840 Let's do it.

00:06:45.360 When they say things like, oh, so like, cause men will make the most awful videos about me.

00:06:49.500 Like they'll comment on every, like from hairline to toes.

00:06:52.100 I have a great one on like them, but like from top to bottom, they'll comment on everything.

00:06:56.580 And I make one comment and they're like, so you're into body shaming.

00:07:00.180 Right.

00:07:00.460 All of a sudden when you do it, it's too much.

00:07:02.640 Yeah.

00:07:02.880 All of a sudden, huh?

00:07:03.980 We're holding space for each other.

00:07:05.940 All of a sudden.

00:07:06.760 Right. 0.93

00:07:07.020 You can call me all these names, all types of ugly, all types of this, that, and the 0.85

00:07:10.480 third, but when I say. 0.69

00:07:11.400 Or say those terrible things to you too.

00:07:13.180 But when I say you look like something cooked out of the chum bucket, then I'm doing too 1.00

00:07:17.060 much.

00:07:17.660 Then all of a sudden I'm mean and fully.

00:07:19.660 Oh my God.

00:07:20.180 What about body positivity?

00:07:22.060 Exactly.

00:07:22.860 Yeah.

00:07:23.300 But that's another, it lends towards to like, it's just such a veiled, like, I'm so used to

00:07:29.900 saying things like this and I can't handle when people say things back.

00:07:33.380 It's so fragile. 0.99

00:07:34.500 That's someone who's never got their ass beat in their life. 0.99

00:07:36.380 That's what it sounds like to me. 0.99

00:07:38.120 Like in real life.

00:07:39.180 That's what I mean.

00:07:39.660 Yeah. 1.00

00:07:40.200 It's like people who just walk around and say the most terrible shit with no fear of consequence. 1.00

00:07:45.220 Right. 1.00

00:07:45.780 You just need a good ass whooping. 1.00

00:07:46.940 That's all. 1.00

00:07:47.560 That could fix you.

00:07:48.520 Verbal, physical, whatever.

00:07:50.260 Yeah.

00:07:50.400 Anything in between.

00:07:51.480 It can come in several forms.

00:07:52.900 Several forms.

00:07:53.760 Free of charge when it comes to me.

00:07:56.160 Hands are rated E for everyone.

00:07:58.960 So it comes to you being a glam girl.

00:08:01.220 Yeah.

00:08:01.520 When did you get into glam?

00:08:02.760 Like what drew you to it?

00:08:03.780 I think I've always been into glam.

00:08:06.900 I think I can remember the first time putting on makeup when I was like 10 years old.

00:08:10.980 Like I snuck into my mom's bathroom and took like her eyeliner and lip gloss just as much

00:08:16.680 as I could take.

00:08:17.480 I would bring it to school and put it on in the bathroom before class started.

00:08:21.160 I got in so much trouble for this. 1.00

00:08:22.700 Not you trying to be a bad bitch in middle school. 1.00

00:08:25.680 I know. 1.00

00:08:26.460 I was definitely too young.

00:08:27.700 Or elementary school.

00:08:29.360 Definitely too young.

00:08:30.400 But I just always had an interest in it.

00:08:32.860 Just because I love creative things.

00:08:35.020 Like all creative mediums.

00:08:36.300 I've always been really good with my hands.

00:08:37.880 So literally everything.

00:08:39.260 Drawing, painting.

00:08:40.240 I was going to say.

00:08:40.800 I know you're an artist too.

00:08:41.880 Yes.

00:08:42.400 Like makeup and drawing.

00:08:43.900 Yeah.

00:08:44.340 I love that.

00:08:44.820 For me, makeup was just like another way to do art.

00:08:48.400 Yeah.

00:08:48.860 So like why wouldn't I do it?

00:08:50.180 God, I'm so jealous.

00:08:51.180 I wish I had the skill.

00:08:52.600 I'd pay someone to do mine.

00:08:54.020 Yeah.

00:08:54.460 I don't have it in me.

00:08:55.700 Yeah, that's how it started.

00:08:56.840 I'm jealous.

00:08:56.900 That's incredible.

00:08:57.440 I love that.

00:08:58.140 Thank you.

00:08:58.640 And I think you finally getting the platform that you deserve for all the hard work you put

00:09:04.340 in, girl, you earned it.

00:09:05.640 Yeah. 1.00

00:09:06.020 Damn. 0.99

00:09:06.740 See, it's hard to feel like that sometimes. 0.99

00:09:09.680 Yeah.

00:09:10.000 Because, you know, as a, particularly as a black creator, we're very much used to not

00:09:16.920 getting the same recognition as, let's say, you know, palm colored folks.

00:09:20.600 Yeah.

00:09:21.760 It's true.

00:09:22.620 And I think in a way I became accustomed to that.

00:09:25.300 So like now that I'm getting these accolades, it almost has, there's, it almost comes with

00:09:29.100 a guilt.

00:09:29.720 Yeah.

00:09:29.860 It's like an imposter syndrome.

00:09:31.500 Yes.

00:09:31.940 Yeah.

00:09:32.240 I think that's what it is.

00:09:33.080 Yeah.

00:09:33.340 Like you feel like you don't deserve what you've earned.

00:09:36.880 Oh my God.

00:09:37.220 I didn't realize we were going to do therapy today.

00:09:38.940 Oh yeah.

00:09:39.360 No, I'm like free of charge.

00:09:42.280 Well, I'm here to tell you if no one else tells you, I'm sure your partner tells you

00:09:45.320 all the time and your followers, but you do absolutely deserve all the recognition that

00:09:48.940 you get.

00:09:49.480 I think that's a great thing.

00:09:50.420 It's a wonderful thing.

00:09:51.300 And representation is so important.

00:09:52.800 It's one of the few things that makes me emo when it comes to talking about it because

00:09:57.600 women who look like us or other femme presenting people in general who look like us, they need 0.96

00:10:02.340 people like us.

00:10:03.280 Exactly.

00:10:03.740 To know that they can exist in these spaces.

00:10:05.920 Yes.

00:10:06.280 It's, there's very few.

00:10:07.540 That's why I'm, it's very few creators like yourself and there's very few creators like

00:10:11.080 me who are able to have the platform to be able to like show us in a different light,

00:10:16.160 especially like things that we love or enjoy.

00:10:18.500 Cause I know you're a big anime fan too.

00:10:20.120 Yes.

00:10:20.720 Which I love.

00:10:22.080 There's other creators like who I think are coming onto the scene more frequently now,

00:10:27.240 like about time is what I always say.

00:10:29.380 Like, right, right.

00:10:30.260 You know what I mean?

00:10:30.520 This is our time now.

00:10:31.680 Absolutely, girl.

00:10:33.020 And that's a big part of the reason that, um, I got into like the influencer part of

00:10:37.200 it.

00:10:37.440 Like, even though I was always into, you know, hair and makeup, the influencing didn't come

00:10:41.520 till later.

00:10:42.140 Um, well, the interest didn't come till later until when I was like 15, 16.

00:10:47.260 Um, I remember seeing Jackie Aina on YouTube for the first time ever.

00:10:51.920 She was the first black beauty guru I'd ever seen. 1.00

00:10:54.960 Yeah.

00:10:55.240 And I was like, oh my God, like we could do this too.

00:10:58.840 Let me, let me know how to do that.

00:11:00.800 Jackie's the best.

00:11:02.380 I remember I was just talking about today.

00:11:04.260 The first time I ever saw her videos too.

00:11:06.540 I watched her do a try on haul of the Mademoiselle, like, uh, lipsticks.

00:11:10.820 Yes.

00:11:11.200 That was the first video I ever saw of hers.

00:11:12.860 She was cracking me up.

00:11:14.480 I was like such a fan.

00:11:16.240 So I saw her and I was like, that's incredible.

00:11:18.640 And I used to watch her stuff all the time, even though I'm not a beauty girl.

00:11:21.280 I know a lot about makeup, like for myself, but I can't beat my own face like this.

00:11:25.900 Believe it or not.

00:11:26.460 Somebody else does it for me.

00:11:27.840 Everyone starts somewhere, girl.

00:11:28.820 You can do it.

00:11:29.540 You can do it too.

00:11:30.080 I know.

00:11:30.440 Maybe in the infancy stages.

00:11:32.040 Now I'm, I'm good at doing my own face, but it's very like boring to me. 0.99

00:11:36.460 I need like, I'm a full beat bitch. 0.98

00:11:38.480 Like I love a full, full, full beat. 0.99

00:11:40.900 I've always been like that.

00:11:42.180 So it's on my, I love a fake lash.

00:11:44.060 I love a contour, a highlight.

00:11:46.260 I love all that.

00:11:47.180 So she was like, uh, one of the first people I saw that I really, really like paid attention 0.97

00:11:51.520 to her reviews and shit. 0.92

00:11:53.480 So fast forward to now and I got to meet her and she's amazing. 0.97

00:11:56.560 She's just as amazing in real life as she seems online.

00:11:58.620 She's.

00:11:59.240 Hasn't she been on your show?

00:12:00.100 Yes.

00:12:00.920 Okay.

00:12:01.600 I knew, I knew I wasn't tripping.

00:12:02.940 I had like a very distinct memory of like hearing the two of your voices together.

00:12:08.020 Yeah.

00:12:08.380 I put on, I put on your show like on the TV while I'm cleaning and stuff.

00:12:11.640 Oh, thank you.

00:12:12.220 Like listen to it while I'm doing other stuff.

00:12:13.700 Well now you can put yourself on the TV, girl. 0.99

00:12:15.960 Oh my gosh.

00:12:18.400 How fun.

00:12:19.380 I love that.

00:12:19.820 So speaking of glam and being glam girls, uh, we're going to talk about today for our

00:12:24.960 topic.

00:12:25.300 We're going to talk about removing ourself or removing yourself from the male gaze.

00:12:29.080 Right.

00:12:29.700 Yeah.

00:12:29.920 We've talked about male and female gaze a little bit on the show already, but specifically talking

00:12:33.720 about removing ourselves from it because obviously you're a glam girl.

00:12:37.640 I'm a glam girl.

00:12:38.560 We all at one point have been a pygmy.

00:12:40.740 Ugh.

00:12:41.200 Unfortunately.

00:12:42.680 Unfortunately.

00:12:43.320 Yeah.

00:12:43.560 But, uh, I think that's the biggest step to like removing yourself from being a pygmy 1.00

00:12:49.320 is removing yourself from the male gaze, like completely expelling it entirely.

00:12:53.400 So what was that process like for you when you were going through it?

00:12:57.340 Well, being gay definitely helps. 1.00

00:12:59.960 So step one, become a lesbian. 1.00

00:13:04.920 No, just kidding.

00:13:08.600 But, um, I think it started when I was really young was when I first started to ask the question,

00:13:15.040 like, why are girls expected to compete with each other for the attention of men? 1.00

00:13:20.360 Truly.

00:13:21.100 Like, that's, I think that's where you got to start is asking the question, like, what

00:13:23.720 do you really get out of the male gaze? 1.00

00:13:25.600 Nothing at all, bitch. 1.00

00:13:27.100 And I came from a very interesting family dynamic. 1.00

00:13:31.160 Really?

00:13:31.660 Um, half of my family is Latino.

00:13:33.580 The other half is black. 0.83

00:13:35.240 And I was raised mostly with the black side of my family, right?

00:13:38.520 Yeah.

00:13:38.720 Where the women did everything. 1.00

00:13:41.000 Yeah.

00:13:41.200 Like, my mom, if she had anything going on, it was the aunties who would step in and help. 0.84

00:13:46.140 Yeah.

00:13:46.660 Versus the Latino side of my family. 0.90

00:13:49.480 Uh, it's very common in Latino culture for the men to be raised to be providers and the 1.00

00:13:55.100 women to be raised as wives and mothers. 0.84

00:13:57.840 Yeah.

00:13:58.740 So what I noticed, despite, like, the difference in culture, is that either way, the women were 1.00

00:14:05.000 doing it all.

00:14:06.960 And you saw both sides.

00:14:07.860 Yes.

00:14:08.260 Yeah.

00:14:08.560 And the older I got, the more I realized, like, there are married women, like, with husbands 0.99

00:14:13.740 who are still single parents.

00:14:16.560 Yeah. 1.00

00:14:17.200 Gee, bitch. 1.00

00:14:17.240 Who are still doing it all by themselves. 1.00

00:14:19.260 That's a word, bitch. 1.00

00:14:20.380 Yes. 1.00

00:14:20.880 Mm-hmm. 0.99

00:14:21.440 So when I realized this, I'm like, damn. 0.99

00:14:25.020 So why do we need men? 0.99

00:14:26.220 Like. 0.99

00:14:26.840 Useless. 0.98

00:14:27.420 Honestly. 0.98

00:14:27.440 If we're going to do it all anyway.

00:14:29.880 Yeah.

00:14:30.240 Why are we taught that, like, the formula to life is, you know, go to school, get a degree,

00:14:35.380 get a husband, have kids.

00:14:36.960 It's like, why, though?

00:14:38.540 Yeah.

00:14:38.840 Like, if everything falls on us anyway.

00:14:41.500 Truly. 0.99

00:14:41.920 And when that clicks, that's when you realize, like, damn, we're the prize. 0.99

00:14:46.220 Actually. 0.99

00:14:46.820 Women are the prize. 1.00

00:14:47.960 So if I am the prize. 1.00

00:14:48.820 And everything in between, bitch. 1.00

00:14:50.420 And everything in between. 1.00

00:14:51.460 Like, it's the prize, the journey, the hero, all of it.

00:14:54.160 Yes.

00:14:54.340 Literally.

00:14:55.000 So if women are the prize, then why do we have to seek the attention of men? 0.98

00:15:00.840 Yeah.

00:15:01.220 Truly.

00:15:01.940 Straight or not.

00:15:02.860 Like, why?

00:15:03.520 Regardless.

00:15:04.260 Yes.

00:15:04.420 Because believe it or not, even when you tell them, like, I'm not attracted to men, that

00:15:09.100 doesn't stop them, does it?

00:15:10.660 Oh, my God.

00:15:11.440 Not just from pursuing you, but also, like, from commenting and, like, being entitled to

00:15:18.500 your looks, to how you choose to express yourself, how you choose to, like, dress, how you choose

00:15:25.300 to look, how you choose anything you do in life.

00:15:27.280 They still feel very entitled to it.

00:15:29.620 Right.

00:15:30.180 Even when you're like, I don't care about men, like, at all.

00:15:33.220 I'm not even attracted to them.

00:15:34.180 I don't want to be with a man.

00:15:35.160 They're like, but still, why do you do that when I don't like it?

00:15:39.140 Right.

00:15:39.460 What?

00:15:40.260 Mental illness.

00:15:41.740 Go to a therapist. 0.92

00:15:43.120 I think it's just they really cannot believe it when a woman doesn't need a man. 1.00

00:15:47.680 They truly don't.

00:15:49.500 They truly can't.

00:15:50.720 You know?

00:15:51.240 Mind-blowing.

00:15:52.280 I just talked to my boyfriend about this literally yesterday.

00:15:55.020 I forget why we were talking about it, but I was telling him, like, you know those videos

00:15:58.880 where they go, they don't know that I know this.

00:16:01.580 That's like me when I'm, like, male validation, like, the social currency with men is worthless.

00:16:07.800 Yes.

00:16:08.140 It's worth nothing.

00:16:08.760 It means nothing.

00:16:09.320 It gives you nothing. 1.00

00:16:10.040 Like, if anything, all it gives me is a rash, bitch. 1.00

00:16:13.580 That's what it gives. 1.00

00:16:14.020 It makes my balls itch is what it does. 0.94

00:16:16.340 It doesn't do anything for me because I don't need them to do anything. 0.89

00:16:19.200 I could do literally anything I would like to.

00:16:21.800 I can accomplish by myself.

00:16:23.520 Right?

00:16:24.260 Right.

00:16:24.540 So the only thing they do is hold me back, if we're being honest, because they stand in

00:16:29.500 the way.

00:16:30.060 They're like barriers that you have to overcome.

00:16:32.320 Yes.

00:16:32.800 A lot of times.

00:16:33.680 So I always, like, I was telling my boyfriend, like, they don't know that I know this, but

00:16:38.640 if you, like, let it go, you're free.

00:16:41.520 You're so free, like, to do anything.

00:16:43.480 And it's that simple.

00:16:44.500 Oh, my gosh.

00:16:44.920 It's that simple.

00:16:45.200 The way that you can, like, if you release it truly and unlearn it, like, rip it out 1.00

00:16:49.360 root and stem, bitch. 1.00

00:16:50.980 You can live the happiest, most fulfilled life and not be with a man, not marry a man, 1.00

00:16:56.880 nothing.

00:16:57.280 Like, even if you're attracted to a man, you could be by yourself and live a wonderful,

00:17:01.240 beautiful life.

00:17:02.220 Yes.

00:17:02.760 And, like, that's what they hate the most.

00:17:04.480 Like, out of everything.

00:17:06.120 They can't stand it.

00:17:06.740 Yeah.

00:17:07.180 They cannot stand it.

00:17:08.520 And I love this thing that I'm starting to see, like, women who are best friends starting 1.00

00:17:12.960 to build households together, like, have kids together with no men involved, like, and

00:17:18.760 they're not even gay.

00:17:19.720 I'm like, go on.

00:17:21.260 I love that.

00:17:22.360 I'm like, do that, sis.

00:17:23.860 Yes.

00:17:24.320 Girl, I'm doing it regardless, but you should do it, too.

00:17:26.600 Right, right.

00:17:27.160 I love it.

00:17:28.160 I know.

00:17:28.620 I see.

00:17:28.960 I love, um, I just saw a TikTok the other day of this girl.

00:17:33.640 She's like, oh, my, my girlfriend told me that she's never had anyone ask to ask her

00:17:38.500 to be their Valentine.

00:17:39.400 So I'm going to do it early.

00:17:40.100 I watched that this morning.

00:17:41.160 This morning I watched that TikTok.

00:17:42.560 And then I saw all the comments were like, I'm never dating a man again.

00:17:46.680 Like, just, like, the way that women are just so amazing. 1.00

00:17:50.120 Yes.

00:17:50.400 In every way, shape, and form.

00:17:51.400 They really are.

00:17:52.040 And I'm not talking about pygmies. 1.00

00:17:53.360 I'm talking about women who love women and women who stand up for women and feel empowered

00:17:58.260 by women but understand, like, intersectionality and empathy. 1.00

00:18:02.220 Oh, my God.

00:18:03.140 Nothing quite like it. 1.00

00:18:04.200 When you get women together, bitch, there is nothing we can't do. 1.00

00:18:08.300 No, truly. 1.00

00:18:09.140 Seriously.

00:18:09.320 And that's what, uh, that's why I wanted to talk about this topic with you because I 0.99

00:18:13.380 was telling Nyjah before this, I was like, you're such a glam bitch. 1.00

00:18:17.640 I love that. 0.99

00:18:18.860 And at the same time, like, it's not for men, which they always say.

00:18:23.640 Anytime you get glam, you're feeling yourself, whatever it looks like, they're like, oh, men

00:18:28.600 don't like when you do that, okay?

00:18:30.980 Yeah, and what?

00:18:31.980 Yeah.

00:18:32.520 And what? 1.00

00:18:33.940 Men can eat my ass, honestly. 1.00

00:18:35.820 That's how you feel. 1.00

00:18:36.920 I really don't care.

00:18:37.840 Like, who cares? 0.99

00:18:38.840 Who gives a shit what they like? 0.99

00:18:40.040 Right. 0.99

00:18:40.480 And it's almost like when they're like, they don't like this, it makes me want to do it

00:18:42.900 even more.

00:18:43.720 Yes.

00:18:44.240 Like, it pushes me even further.

00:18:46.120 Let me sharpen up this cut crease.

00:18:47.580 Yeah, I was like, push me to the edge.

00:18:49.180 I want you to.

00:18:50.040 I'll stack three more lashes if that's what it takes.

00:18:52.660 Yes.

00:18:52.960 They say that to me about lashes, nails, all that kind of stuff.

00:18:57.100 And I was like, and?

00:18:58.500 First of all, why are y'all in women's business? 0.99

00:19:00.700 Like, why are y'all so concerned?

00:19:03.200 Yeah, literally.

00:19:04.040 Just say you want a full set, babe.

00:19:05.340 That's literally what Jackie said.

00:19:06.820 Jackie's like, you can wear them if you want.

00:19:08.700 Like, if you really want to, feel free.

00:19:11.280 It's like, it cannot be on your mind this much when you have no interest in it.

00:19:16.260 No, truly. 1.00

00:19:17.020 A penthouse up here, bitch. 1.00

00:19:18.720 Yeah. 1.00

00:19:19.180 Rent free.

00:19:19.420 I think it's so, it's just so confusing.

00:19:22.320 I'm like, what do you, what do you want?

00:19:24.260 You know what I mean? 0.87

00:19:24.740 Because even someone like you, who's literally like, I'm gay. 0.94

00:19:27.360 I don't like men.

00:19:28.480 They're like, but you still, you still shouldn't do that because I don't like that.

00:19:32.820 Right.

00:19:33.720 They're like, you're gay, but like, but also, are you? 0.83

00:19:37.680 Yeah.

00:19:38.080 Are you sure?

00:19:39.180 Are you sure?

00:19:39.720 Are you sure that you're gay?

00:19:40.900 Like, can I convince you?

00:19:41.200 Do you ever get comments like that?

00:19:43.120 Like, maybe you haven't been with the right man?

00:19:46.380 Every time.

00:19:47.080 What?

00:19:47.640 Every time.

00:19:48.820 That just means they're attracted to you.

00:19:50.360 Let me just say this.

00:19:51.460 I have never had a decent man hit on me ever, ever.

00:19:55.360 They are all exactly like that.

00:19:58.100 When I'm like, oh, sorry, I have a girlfriend or no, I shouldn't be saying sorry, actually.

00:20:02.120 No.

00:20:02.380 I should be like, sir, I'm gay.

00:20:04.200 Like, I'm not interested.

00:20:04.860 And there's always like a disbelief, like, because I'm feminine, I must be doing it for the, to attract men.

00:20:13.860 And I'm like, no.

00:20:15.460 Again, my ball's on fire.

00:20:16.780 Just because I am not a mask lesbian doesn't mean I'm not a real lesbian.

00:20:21.160 And what do you know about that?

00:20:23.740 Yeah. 1.00

00:20:24.380 Like, to those men, like, what do you know about what a lesbian should look like, bitch? 1.00

00:20:27.500 Yes, and that's not your business either. 0.98

00:20:29.200 Well, and it's also like, what you looked up on Twitter is not how they all look, sound, or act.

00:20:36.280 Like, it's very different.

00:20:38.380 Oh, my God.

00:20:38.620 And that's the way they try to act like they understand, like they get it at all.

00:20:43.440 I'm like, you don't even get straight women, let alone women. 0.97

00:20:47.100 I promise you're not going to bag me, bro.

00:20:48.980 I promise.

00:20:50.300 Like, don't even try it.

00:20:51.280 It's like that audio.

00:20:51.840 It was never going to be you.

00:20:53.400 It was never going to be you. 1.00

00:20:54.860 That's how I feel about that shit all the time when they're like, I would never date you. 0.99

00:20:58.440 Same. 1.00

00:20:59.060 Yeah.

00:20:59.840 Period.

00:21:00.280 Okay, twin.

00:21:01.540 Twin.

00:21:02.220 Okay.

00:21:03.220 Go all king.

00:21:07.080 Yeah.

00:21:07.720 Yeah.

00:21:08.080 I love that for us.

00:21:09.620 I love that we're on the same page.

00:21:10.920 I think that's so great for us.

00:21:12.220 I'm so proud of us.

00:21:13.640 I didn't even have to lead you there.

00:21:15.400 You found your way there on your own.

00:21:16.600 I love that.

00:21:17.860 It's honestly bonkers.

00:21:19.380 I think it's so absolutely asinine to think like, everyone around me is constantly performing for me.

00:21:26.960 What a crazy way to go through life.

00:21:29.400 Right.

00:21:29.700 How do you get anything done?

00:21:31.140 Just constantly.

00:21:31.700 He said, I'm the main character.

00:21:33.200 Yeah.

00:21:33.340 Just constantly concerned about what everyone else is doing because it could be.

00:21:38.280 Potentially affecting you.

00:21:39.380 Like, how exhausting.

00:21:40.660 Right.

00:21:40.920 I can't relate.

00:21:41.860 Not even a little.

00:21:43.060 Oh my God.

00:21:43.640 There's no way.

00:21:44.040 The mental strain.

00:21:45.120 Truly. 0.99

00:21:45.960 I said, that's why your hairline is ass. 1.00

00:21:47.800 It's stress. 0.98

00:21:48.540 Right.

00:21:48.760 Stress eats away at the follicles, babe.

00:21:50.500 Look it up.

00:21:51.200 That's science.

00:21:52.020 Time to go get you a baseball cap, babe.

00:21:53.140 Who says women aren't smart? 1.00

00:21:55.000 Women in STEM.

00:21:56.560 Support them.

00:21:57.740 Okay.

00:21:58.480 So, we're going to talk about removing ourselves from the male gaze, obviously.

00:22:01.900 What we do here on the comment section is we bring videos that I was tagged in that are

00:22:04.660 applicable to our topic.

00:22:05.500 We bring them here.

00:22:06.260 Kiki left.

00:22:06.960 We're going to have a fun time and we're going to talk about it with Nigel Lee.

00:22:09.640 So.

00:22:09.800 Can't wait.

00:22:10.060 Okay.

00:22:10.660 So, this first video, it says, in this video, this is a mask presenting person and saying

00:22:16.440 that 80% of their male friends disappeared after they cut their hair and came out.

00:22:20.720 And their caption says, it's not too bad being out of the male gaze. 1.00

00:22:23.900 Period, bitch. 1.00

00:22:25.200 Well, yeah. 1.00

00:22:26.160 Period.

00:22:26.700 Well, yeah.

00:22:27.720 Yeah.

00:22:28.240 I feel like the reason all those men disappeared is because, one, they weren't your friend.

00:22:32.340 They had some kind of interest in you.

00:22:34.200 Truly.

00:22:34.640 And when that interest went away, they're like, I'm good.

00:22:37.600 Yeah, exactly.

00:22:38.220 And also, why are guys like that?

00:22:40.240 Like, a guy can't be friends with a girl without having some kind of sexual interest in them?

00:22:43.940 I truly believe that, like, maybe this is just me.

00:22:48.620 I think that, like, heterosexual men.

00:22:51.960 Yes.

00:22:52.360 Can not.

00:22:53.440 Yeah.

00:22:53.940 Let's be clear.

00:22:54.840 Cannot be friends.

00:22:55.660 Like, cisgendered heterosexual men cannot be friends, like, platonic friends with women 0.98

00:23:00.660 without some kind of weirdness creeping in at some point or another.

00:23:04.760 See, but why, though?

00:23:06.040 Unless they've just fully decided, I'm not attracted to that person at all, you know what

00:23:10.900 I mean?

00:23:11.100 In which case, they put them in a specific category, then they can be friends with them.

00:23:15.260 But even then, they still sometimes, like, pursue relationship, like, activities with

00:23:23.760 this person, even though they have no plans on wifing that person, being interested in them.

00:23:28.020 And that's when women are like, do you not, like, are we not, like, a thing? 0.99

00:23:31.680 Are we dating?

00:23:32.400 And then they're like, I don't like you like that.

00:23:34.460 What? 1.00

00:23:35.600 That's why I said that kind of shit happens because men, like, are just incapable of not 1.00

00:23:41.120 thinking with this head as opposed to this head. 1.00

00:23:44.040 Right.

00:23:44.420 They, like, can't help it.

00:23:45.440 Right.

00:23:45.800 That is something I have never understood about.

00:23:47.960 Maybe it's because I am not exposed to men like that.

00:23:50.920 I've always been surrounded by women. 0.97

00:23:52.380 Thankfully. 1.00

00:23:53.000 I have one brother who, thankfully, is not a piece of shit. 1.00

00:23:56.020 Same. 1.00

00:23:57.760 Same.

00:23:58.640 So, like, when I hear about men like this from, like, my straight girlfriends, from the

00:24:02.620 internet, I'm like, this is what y'all straight girls really go through? 0.99

00:24:05.900 No shit. 1.00

00:24:06.740 Oh, my God. 1.00

00:24:07.420 That's why I'm like, girl, it's a war zone out there.

00:24:10.280 It sounds like it.

00:24:11.200 That's why I say I'm, like, my, the true, like, true fighters.

00:24:14.740 They really are single girls who are attracted to men, unfortunately. 0.98

00:24:17.680 Yeah.

00:24:17.960 Stronger than the Marines.

00:24:19.820 Yeah.

00:24:20.220 Truly give it up for them, honestly.

00:24:22.920 I think, I genuinely think all the time, I'm like, it's exhausting having to exist around

00:24:28.980 people.

00:24:30.000 It's almost like that video where that girl was, like, she was hanging out with all men

00:24:33.740 and she said, like, she had this, like, sudden fear that something could potentially happen

00:24:37.880 to her.

00:24:38.540 So, she wanted to leave.

00:24:40.080 And a lot of men got mad at her.

00:24:41.760 They were like, this is why women shouldn't be allowed at boys' night. 1.00

00:24:44.800 I was like, okay, first of all, boys' night?

00:24:47.080 Why are you calling it that?

00:24:47.820 See, that is something that brings you back to the male gaze and, like, what it is we

00:24:53.040 really get out of it.

00:24:54.400 Because I feel like in a lot of women and feminine presenting people's experience, the male gaze

00:25:00.040 is something that could be potentially dangerous.

00:25:03.120 Violent.

00:25:03.200 If you catch the wrong man's attention, it could really be a dangerous situation.

00:25:07.760 Actually, though.

00:25:08.400 So, like, why do you think we want your attention so bad?

00:25:10.440 We are afraid of you.

00:25:11.660 You know, like, actually.

00:25:13.140 And that's, like, they get mad at us that we're afraid of them.

00:25:17.320 I'm like, y'all set the standard.

00:25:18.960 That's on you.

00:25:19.840 And you know what's funny?

00:25:20.680 One time, because, like, every, like, three to six months, a new guy will log on to TikTok.com

00:25:26.080 and be like, has anyone ever thought about how Drew's probably a mean person?

00:25:29.640 Oh, my God.

00:25:30.280 I relive the same Groundhog's Day.

00:25:32.220 Babe, they're so in love with you.

00:25:33.500 They're so in love with you.

00:25:34.760 That's what I said.

00:25:35.240 Let's pay your fan account.

00:25:36.780 But men like that, like, one time some guy was like, this is why I think it's bad when

00:25:41.440 she does whatever, same song and dance, but someone commented on it and was like, the

00:25:46.860 power that she gives her followers is encouraging women to stand up for themselves against men.

00:25:55.260 And that puts them in danger.

00:25:58.020 She's putting them in danger.

00:25:59.800 And then I thought to myself, do you hear what that says?

00:26:04.920 Not you openly admitting that you're going to threaten, like, that you will threaten women

00:26:09.100 with violence if they dare to stand against you in any way?

00:26:12.380 Not you admitting to plotting a crime.

00:26:14.060 That's what I was like.

00:26:14.980 Okay, so you, so we're on the same page then.

00:26:17.300 Yeah. 0.98

00:26:17.620 Y'all are awful. 0.98

00:26:18.540 Yeah. 0.99

00:26:18.700 You're admitting it.

00:26:19.400 Okay, cool.

00:26:19.560 So you do understand.

00:26:20.620 Okay, so you do get it.

00:26:21.620 I was like, I can't believe you wrote this out and you were like, can't believe her.

00:26:26.740 Right.

00:26:27.220 How could she?

00:26:27.960 No, he wrote it, re-read it, and was like, yeah, this will get her.

00:26:31.780 And it's done.

00:26:33.020 No.

00:26:33.720 Whenever they try to compare me to, like, that sentient peanut, I always think to myself, like,

00:26:39.260 I'm like, the difference is.

00:26:40.440 I hate that I knew what you were talking about.

00:26:41.660 Exactly.

00:26:42.240 Everybody knows exactly who I'm talking about.

00:26:44.440 Oh, my God.

00:26:44.680 But the thing about me with that is that he encourages men to abuse women and to oppress

00:26:50.860 them and to hold them down.

00:26:52.280 I'm encouraging women to leave you. 1.00

00:26:54.420 Right.

00:26:54.680 I'm not telling them to hit you.

00:26:55.840 I'm telling them to leave you.

00:26:56.960 I'm telling them they're better than you.

00:26:58.560 Yes.

00:26:58.680 That's worse.

00:26:59.660 Because that's going to stick in their brain forever, and they're not going to waste their

00:27:02.960 time with scrubs anymore like you, and that's why you're mad. 0.66

00:27:05.880 Because you're like, oh, they're going to find out I'm awful. 0.99

00:27:08.680 And then I can't have sex anymore. 0.97

00:27:10.880 What are you doing to me? 0.99

00:27:12.440 That's so unfair to me.

00:27:14.240 Did you ever see that study that came out about, like, men being lonelier than ever because

00:27:18.420 women have higher standards? 1.00

00:27:20.580 I'm like, I read that, and I was like, I'd like to think Drew had something to do with

00:27:25.200 that. 1.00

00:27:25.380 I was like, you and me both, bitch. 1.00

00:27:27.560 I hope I'm a small piece in that puzzle. 1.00

00:27:30.840 I'm like, ooh, her impact.

00:27:32.680 And I love it.

00:27:33.620 Honestly, I love it for us.

00:27:35.120 I think, and it's also like what you said, how they're, like, cohabiting now with other

00:27:39.020 women, especially single mothers.

00:27:40.880 They, like, live together.

00:27:42.260 They live in groups.

00:27:43.000 It's almost like we're, like, back animals.

00:27:45.260 We're, like, seeking solid refuge with each other.

00:27:48.480 It's beautiful.

00:27:49.540 It's a beautiful thing.

00:27:50.340 Yes.

00:27:50.820 And I say, you have no one to blame but yourself, men.

00:27:53.460 That's on y'all.

00:27:54.360 Yeah.

00:27:54.620 Why do you think women feel like that? 1.00

00:27:56.120 Look in the mirror.

00:27:56.720 Yeah.

00:27:56.940 Now it's time to go get personalities and develop empathy.

00:28:00.680 Yeah.

00:28:00.920 And I was like.

00:28:01.240 It's going to be so hard.

00:28:01.920 That's almost impossible for most of you.

00:28:04.500 Right.

00:28:05.000 And that's why I think when they say that, like, nice, like, they don't want nice men 0.88

00:28:08.760 or whatever.

00:28:09.480 They're like, women are so entitled these days, whatever. 1.00

00:28:11.880 It's because, like, just being generally nice is, like, too big of an ask.

00:28:15.660 I know, right?

00:28:16.100 Like, if you tell men, like, just, like, don't be awful. 0.99

00:28:17.900 And, like, you could be the ugliest person on planet Earth. 0.99

00:28:21.480 You could be 4'11 and terrible, ugly. 1.00

00:28:24.520 If you're nice, you will find a woman. 1.00

00:28:27.060 I promise you.

00:28:27.760 Yeah.

00:28:28.080 She will find you.

00:28:29.020 Because unlike them, women also look within. 1.00

00:28:32.160 They don't look just at the physical.

00:28:33.620 They look on the inside, too. 1.00

00:28:35.780 Hence the reason why they're like, some of you guys are garbage. 1.00

00:28:39.540 And they're like, what do you mean? 1.00

00:28:40.840 I'm 6'4 and I have a 10% body fat.

00:28:43.900 Okay.

00:28:44.620 Okay.

00:28:44.940 And you can't even spell body fat, so that's the problem.

00:28:47.880 That's the problem, babe.

00:28:49.800 And what's crazy is most of them are so unaccustomed to being nice and having empathy that when a woman is nice to them, they're like, oh, she wants me.

00:28:57.520 She's flirting with me. 0.92

00:28:59.000 I'm like, no, this is how you interact with people.

00:29:01.720 Sir, have you seen that trend when it's like that scary music playing in the background and it's like a girl going like, when your male guy friend is making that dead eye stare like he's going to lean in for a kiss.

00:29:15.980 No.

00:29:16.300 And it's like this horrible, suspenseful noise that she's going.

00:29:20.940 And then the Jaws theme song in the background.

00:29:23.060 And in the comment, the top comment literally said, like, no, babe, you're not attracted to me.

00:29:29.280 You're just experiencing human connection for the first time.

00:29:32.400 Right.

00:29:32.880 That's not predicated on sexual tension or anything like that.

00:29:36.440 Yes.

00:29:36.620 Because, like, she feels no sexual attraction towards him.

00:29:38.820 But he automatically associates, like, empathy and care with, like, sexual attraction.

00:29:44.360 Like, y'all are conflating.

00:29:46.560 Yeah. 1.00

00:29:46.700 And it's because most of you are stupid and women are not. 1.00

00:29:49.640 So that's okay. 1.00

00:29:51.720 We can say that.

00:29:52.940 And you're so emotionally stunted that it's hard for them to understand the difference.

00:29:56.540 This is why the women are trying to give you guys the blueprint. 1.00

00:29:59.520 Like, we're trying to help you.

00:30:01.580 And they tell you all the time.

00:30:03.600 Women are very open and honest. 1.00

00:30:05.040 Like, when men are like, women are a mystery. 0.99

00:30:07.720 I'm like, are you?

00:30:08.220 We're really not.

00:30:08.820 Are you listening?

00:30:09.640 Yeah.

00:30:10.100 Open your ears.

00:30:10.880 Yeah.

00:30:11.320 You have selective hearing.

00:30:12.260 That's why you can't hear it.

00:30:13.180 Like, you're not.

00:30:14.160 Women are like, I just really would like if you did this, this, and this for me. 1.00

00:30:17.120 And men are like, oh, what a Rubik's Cube.

00:30:20.500 How could I possibly solve this mystery?

00:30:23.680 What do I say?

00:30:24.880 Like, what does she really want?

00:30:26.840 She's asking for so much.

00:30:28.320 She's asking for, and I just can't decode what it is.

00:30:31.880 And she's like, I just want you to take out the trash, like, once a week.

00:30:34.000 That would be really nice if you could remember to do that for me.

00:30:36.920 And he's like, God.

00:30:37.820 I don't think we're going to make it.

00:30:39.560 I can't figure her out.

00:30:40.920 She is a mystery, that one.

00:30:42.420 Like, it's so upsetting.

00:30:44.360 I'm like, you guys just aren't listening.

00:30:45.600 You're choosing not to listen.

00:30:46.600 Because if you do, it requires self-reflection.

00:30:49.360 And that's painful.

00:30:50.500 And a lot of times they don't want to unpack that.

00:30:52.200 Yeah, it's hard.

00:30:53.080 It's hard.

00:30:53.380 If you don't want to do it with girls, go to a therapist. 0.99

00:30:56.760 They do that.

00:30:57.680 They do that for a living. 0.97

00:30:58.780 Yeah, it's amazing what a little therapy can do for you.

00:31:01.180 Like, you all should try it.

00:31:02.640 Every single one of you.

00:31:03.580 Please do.

00:31:03.960 I highly, highly encourage it.

00:31:05.940 I love therapy.

00:31:06.700 It changed my life.

00:31:07.600 I'm a big, big, big fan.

00:31:08.900 So let's see.

00:31:10.240 Okay.

00:31:10.860 Some of the comments on this video.

00:31:12.160 This one says, you were an option and now you're not.

00:31:15.720 And men do not have girls as friends that are not options.

00:31:18.920 Is this under the same video?

00:31:20.340 Yeah.

00:31:20.940 What?

00:31:21.740 Well, first of all.

00:31:22.120 T, that's not what you just said.

00:31:23.380 Yeah, I'm like, thank you for admitting it out loud, I guess.

00:31:26.160 Yeah, literally. 1.00

00:31:27.060 But, like, y'all suck. 1.00

00:31:29.400 And that's awful. 1.00

00:31:30.280 Y'all suck so bad. 1.00

00:31:30.900 Yeah, and that's, it's just like when you're young, like if you're like high school age or 0.99

00:31:35.340 something and you're friends with a dude, this has happened to me in the past, and they

00:31:39.620 admit that they like you and you're like, ooh, friend, brother.

00:31:44.200 Right, right.

00:31:44.760 My brother in Christ.

00:31:46.160 My brother in Christ alone.

00:31:48.000 No, thank you.

00:31:49.040 And you're nice about it.

00:31:49.900 You're like, I really don't see you that way.

00:31:51.640 They get upset.

00:31:53.080 They either get upset or they just don't want to be your friend anymore.

00:31:55.720 Right.

00:31:55.900 And I remember my first time ever that happening to me, he got a little too mouthy with me.

00:32:01.620 Like, I was being nice.

00:32:03.020 Mouthy with you?

00:32:04.060 Yeah, girl. 0.99

00:32:05.200 Of all people.

00:32:06.620 And I was 14.

00:32:07.880 That's important to remember.

00:32:08.660 No, actually, I was 13 because I was young from my grade.

00:32:11.060 Okay.

00:32:11.380 He was like 15 or 16.

00:32:13.320 Yuck.

00:32:14.140 And then I told him, I literally told him, I'm like, I don't, I don't like you that

00:32:17.660 way.

00:32:18.260 Like, all peace, all love.

00:32:20.100 No.

00:32:20.620 Right.

00:32:21.680 And then he's like, he called me a tease. 0.99

00:32:25.000 He said that I was fucked up for like leading him on. 0.99

00:32:28.340 I'm all. 0.99

00:32:29.260 Ew. 1.00

00:32:29.920 All this terrible shit. 1.00

00:32:30.980 And then eventually he's like, I don't think I can be friends with you. 1.00

00:32:32.960 And I said, cool.

00:32:34.620 Sounds good.

00:32:35.820 Never talk to me again.

00:32:36.880 Yeah.

00:32:37.080 And I literally was like, I never want to, you were never my friend in the first place.

00:32:40.320 Right.

00:32:40.440 If that's the only reason you became my friend, you were never my friend.

00:32:43.420 I hate how common that is.

00:32:44.800 I was like, also, I'm taller than you and I'm 13.

00:32:46.700 So there's, that's another thing. 1.00

00:32:47.780 Add it to the list, bitch. 1.00

00:32:49.180 Yeah. 1.00

00:32:49.340 That was red flag number one.

00:32:51.100 Yeah.

00:32:51.840 Literally.

00:32:53.000 That's why I'm like, it's true.

00:32:54.700 It happens a lot and it's sad, but it's true. 1.00

00:32:56.940 It's really sad.

00:32:57.720 Like, I personally have never had a male friend in my life, like for that same reason, like

00:33:04.600 I'll meet a guy and I'm like, oh, he seems so nice.

00:33:07.120 And then literally like within weeks, he's like, oh, so by the way.

00:33:10.680 And I'm like, no, no, fat, no, no, ruin it, ruin it for everyone.

00:33:14.940 Get out.

00:33:15.680 That's how you're like, see, this is why with friends like that, who needs friends?

00:33:19.020 That's what I think.

00:33:19.880 You know what I mean?

00:33:20.720 We don't need them if they act like that.

00:33:22.900 CBH.

00:33:23.300 Okay.

00:33:23.740 So this next comment says men generally like longer hair. 0.96

00:33:27.980 You look like a lesbian after the haircut, not hating just facts. 0.73

00:33:31.880 There was so much to unpack in that comment. 0.99

00:33:35.280 Well, she is one, so. 0.98

00:33:37.920 So she is gay. 0.96

00:33:38.900 Yeah. 0.86

00:33:39.340 Okay.

00:33:39.840 She said she came out to her guy friends and cut her hair and then none of them wanted to

00:33:43.340 be her friend anymore.

00:33:44.220 Got it.

00:33:44.440 Got it.

00:33:44.660 Got it.

00:33:44.940 So first of all, why do we associate like more masculine women with. 1.00

00:33:52.440 Gender's not real. 1.00

00:33:53.380 So I say that all the time.

00:33:54.900 I'm like, gender's not real. 0.95

00:33:55.800 It's made up.

00:33:56.620 Gender.

00:33:57.000 Yeah, it is. 0.85

00:33:57.560 Literally, it's a man-made invention like by white people. 1.00

00:34:01.120 And gender expression, it goes across many different, it's so different for everyone.

00:34:07.560 Yeah.

00:34:07.980 So like how you choose to express yourself, how you identify is very specific to the person

00:34:12.020 and it's also not real.

00:34:13.860 Like gender's not real at all.

00:34:15.060 Yeah.

00:34:15.380 I feel like how someone expresses their gender, like that is their business and nobody else's.

00:34:20.260 Yeah.

00:34:20.580 Like it's cool if men prefer long hair.

00:34:24.140 That's great.

00:34:24.660 You can prefer that.

00:34:25.600 Yeah.

00:34:25.880 I'm going to be over here though and doing whatever the hell I want.

00:34:29.000 Congratulations, I guess.

00:34:29.860 Like, do you want a cookie? 0.99

00:34:31.280 He's like, you look like a lesbian. 1.00

00:34:32.780 And she's like, I am. 0.99

00:34:34.240 And then he goes, all right.

00:34:38.860 Now what? 1.00

00:34:39.500 He's like, oh, damn. 0.99

00:34:41.080 He's like, you really got me there. 1.00

00:34:42.620 Yeah.

00:34:43.020 He's like, you're so real for that.

00:34:44.980 You're so real for that.

00:34:46.420 He's like, dang, yeah.

00:34:47.680 Yeah, you got me.

00:34:48.720 I was like, you know, not much I can say back to that.

00:34:51.620 That's for sure.

00:34:52.380 He's like, yeah, you kind of ate.

00:34:53.620 Like, you ate me up a little bit.

00:34:55.840 I'm not going to lie to you.

00:34:58.280 That's like one time.

00:34:59.100 This is so off topic.

00:34:59.860 One time this guy wrote this terribly fat phobic comment on one of my videos.

00:35:03.780 And I went and like, naturally I go and look at what they look like and see if I want to

00:35:07.480 save the pic for later.

00:35:09.160 And so I go and I look and I see he has a girlfriend, right? 0.99

00:35:12.900 And I'm like, all right, I'm going to check with this bitch out. 1.00

00:35:14.720 I go on her thing. 0.99

00:35:15.600 She follows me.

00:35:17.180 So then I wrote back to him.

00:35:18.740 I go, did you know your girlfriend follows me?

00:35:20.860 You should check in on that.

00:35:22.020 That's T.

00:35:22.440 And then he wrote, I'm not even kidding.

00:35:24.080 He wrote back, honestly, this was so funny.

00:35:26.300 You really got me for that.

00:35:28.640 Hey, buddy, chew glass.

00:35:31.220 You know what I mean?

00:35:32.120 Yeah, I know I got you for that.

00:35:34.620 At least he owned it.

00:35:35.780 Yeah. 0.98

00:35:36.700 Like, damn, you didn't like verify that before you decided to comment on this video? 0.97

00:35:40.260 After he wrote that back, I went and looked again because I'm just that kind of 0.98

00:35:43.220 girl.

00:35:43.580 I went and looked again.

00:35:44.140 She unfollowed me.

00:35:45.360 No. 1.00

00:35:46.220 I said, bitch, run, run, run. 1.00

00:35:50.540 And you know what's funny? 0.99

00:35:52.080 I've told people before, I'm like, if they don't like my content in the sense that they

00:35:55.420 don't find me funny, that's fine.

00:35:58.080 Humor is subjective to whatever you find funny, you find funny.

00:36:01.220 But if he hates me, run.

00:36:04.160 Red flag. 1.00

00:36:05.280 Run, bitch. 1.00

00:36:06.220 I'm telling you, go the other way. 1.00

00:36:07.440 It's not going to work out for you. 0.99

00:36:08.960 And also, what would you do if you found out your boyfriend was writing, I hate you, you 0.99

00:36:16.780 fat cow, to a girl he's never met before? 1.00

00:36:19.060 What would you, would that blow your mind? 0.95

00:36:21.460 Like, why would you want a man like that? 0.64

00:36:23.960 That's my point.

00:36:24.960 I'm like, the way that would, I'd be like, get out.

00:36:28.020 Like, I never want to see you again.

00:36:29.720 The unfortunate thing is that there are quite a few women who let things like that slide. 1.00

00:36:34.240 And they're okay with it.

00:36:35.400 And they're like, it's just the internet.

00:36:37.180 I'm all, they're like, he wouldn't say that to me.

00:36:39.660 So, yeah.

00:36:40.080 So, first of all, your man spends a lot of free time looking at me.

00:36:43.960 Suspish?

00:36:44.700 I'd look into that if I were you. 0.99

00:36:46.200 Must not be that ugly. 0.98

00:36:48.400 You know what I mean? 1.00

00:36:49.660 You spend a lot of your free time looking at me, bitch. 1.00

00:36:51.580 Yeah, he must like something he sees. 1.00

00:36:52.980 You like when your man spends his free time looking at other women? 1.00

00:36:56.940 Okay.

00:36:57.660 Weirdo behavior.

00:36:58.700 Okay.

00:36:59.700 Sure.

00:37:00.360 Go off.

00:37:00.980 Can't relate, but sure.

00:37:02.600 You know what I mean?

00:37:03.580 I'm all, whatever makes you feel better, girl.

00:37:05.240 That's one of those things where pygmies fascinate me in a terrible way. 1.00

00:37:09.260 Because I think, I can't believe that you go your whole life without women.

00:37:13.580 By your side.

00:37:14.620 You know what I'm saying?

00:37:15.440 Like, you need women. 1.00

00:37:17.080 Where are your female friends? 1.00

00:37:18.540 That's what I'm saying.

00:37:19.200 Where are they at?

00:37:19.980 The way that they make the world go round.

00:37:22.300 Yeah. 0.99

00:37:22.580 And it's like, there's just sometimes you're like, I need my bitches. 1.00

00:37:26.860 Like, I need to talk to my girls about this. 0.99

00:37:29.420 Girl, if I didn't have my best friend, like, throw me off a cliff.

00:37:32.700 I'm done.

00:37:33.120 Like, I can't do it.

00:37:34.680 If she has no fans, I'm dead.

00:37:37.120 No, literally.

00:37:38.660 The way that there are just some things you need to talk to your girls about.

00:37:43.000 You know what I mean?

00:37:43.600 Yes.

00:37:44.200 Especially as women in this society, especially.

00:37:48.200 And like, my sister's like my best friend.

00:37:49.960 So, there are some things, like, I'll talk to my boyfriend about.

00:37:54.500 And he's so empathetic and wonderful and amazing.

00:37:56.880 And he, he's so, and sometimes he goes, you should talk to your sister about that.

00:38:00.980 Because he understands there are blind spots he has that he can't really access.

00:38:06.120 But he's working on it.

00:38:07.600 How self-aware of him.

00:38:08.660 That's what I'm saying.

00:38:09.280 He's like, sometimes he's like, you should call your sister.

00:38:10.860 I'm sure she can help too.

00:38:11.960 Like, I can help as much as I can, but I think you should call her.

00:38:15.120 And I'm like, go off, King.

00:38:16.900 That is beautiful.

00:38:18.080 Go off, King.

00:38:18.800 A man.

00:38:20.280 A true man.

00:38:21.560 A real man.

00:38:22.320 What an alpha move.

00:38:23.860 I love that for us.

00:38:25.480 Okay.

00:38:26.060 This last comment says, probably because of the self-absorption and vacuous air you assumed.

00:38:33.440 Huh?

00:38:33.800 Boy, what did you just say?

00:38:35.440 Are you speaking English? 0.67

00:38:37.360 What the hell was that? 1.00

00:38:38.520 You're talking to me crazy, bitch. 1.00

00:38:40.480 The way someone swallowed a dictionary. 1.00

00:38:42.900 Okay.

00:38:44.020 Word of the month.

00:38:45.340 Let me get every word in the therse.

00:38:47.320 Yeah.

00:38:47.640 So, risk.

00:38:48.380 Oh, my God.

00:38:48.700 The way you, like, when you're trying to fill the word count on an essay.

00:38:51.520 Yes.

00:38:52.520 I don't even know. 1.00

00:38:53.660 I can't even unpack that for you, bitch. 1.00

00:38:55.040 I don't even know what you just said. 0.99

00:38:57.220 Like, she took up more space?

00:39:00.840 Metaphorically?

00:39:01.420 I don't know.

00:39:01.920 First of all, she should be taking up more space.

00:39:04.660 Absolutely, she should.

00:39:05.240 As much space as possible.

00:39:06.860 Absolutely, she should.

00:39:07.680 It's her world.

00:39:07.860 We're just living in it, you know?

00:39:08.800 That's what I'm saying.

00:39:09.740 Especially men.

00:39:10.600 They're just visitors, you know what I mean, to the world that she created, I assume.

00:39:14.800 God, you're taking up too much space. 0.99

00:39:16.500 Like, shut up. 1.00

00:39:17.500 Oh, my God. 1.00

00:39:18.280 That's what we're supposed to do. 1.00

00:39:19.440 I guess step your pussy up? 1.00

00:39:20.460 I don't know what to tell you. 1.00

00:39:21.720 Get your bread up, bitch. 1.00

00:39:23.200 It's lonely at the top. 1.00

00:39:24.280 Come join me.

00:39:25.080 Yes.

00:39:25.500 You know what I mean?

00:39:26.120 That's what I always think.

00:39:27.160 I'm going to get you a ladder, babe.

00:39:29.160 Take your time.

00:39:29.900 Okay, so this next video is, this is a woman in this video, and she's saying one of the

00:39:36.560 funniest ways to explain the male gaze versus the female gaze to a man is to tell him most

00:39:41.060 women are more attracted to Loki than to Thor. 0.87

00:39:44.540 Ooh.

00:39:45.600 She makes the point that women are attracted to Loki for his personality instead of just

00:39:49.420 Thor's muscles and manly hyper-masculine look.

00:39:52.320 That was actually how the male-female gaze was explained to me when I was on TikTok eons

00:39:58.260 ago at the very beginning, because I made my very first gym bro video.

00:40:02.720 Ooh, my biggest fans.

00:40:04.960 The way I like check-

00:40:06.540 They love you over there.

00:40:07.320 They love me.

00:40:08.600 The way I go in and check in on them, and I'm like, I just go in and destroy everything,

00:40:12.960 and I'm like, I'll be back in six months.

00:40:14.840 Don't get too comfortable, babe.

00:40:16.640 Just you wait.

00:40:18.260 I will be back.

00:40:19.520 Yeah, I made my first gym bro video, and I talked about, we're not even going to get 1.00

00:40:24.940 into the male and female gaze, because they're too stupid to understand that. 0.99

00:40:28.680 They're never going to be able to unpack that. 1.00

00:40:30.760 And someone explained it to me in those terms.

00:40:32.880 They were like, you know, most-

00:40:34.660 He's kind of genius. 0.95

00:40:35.880 Most men would assume that women are attracted to Thor because he's titties out on display. 0.95

00:40:41.060 Right. 0.93

00:40:41.660 Because he's physically attractive.

00:40:43.340 And then Loki is who they're actually more attracted to because of his intellect.

00:40:48.500 And he's not ugly, but it holds more weight to be smart and funny and engaging and all 0.99

00:40:55.620 that kind of shit. 0.99

00:40:56.400 I was like, damn, that's tea. 1.00

00:40:57.520 I'd never thought about it like that. 0.98

00:40:58.720 No, that's so true, though. 0.96

00:40:59.700 I'm gay as hell, and I think Loki is fine. 0.98

00:41:02.900 That man is sexy. 0.99

00:41:04.520 Much more than four, I think.

00:41:06.140 And I don't even know what it is.

00:41:06.640 Until you pointed it out.

00:41:07.280 I'm like, yeah, it's like the intelligence, the sultriness.

00:41:10.260 Yeah, it's like mystery, too.

00:41:12.300 It's also like he works smarter, not harder, in a sense.

00:41:16.700 And also like this whole like dated ideology that women are looking for someone who can 1.00

00:41:23.260 protect them.

00:41:24.600 I'm all-

00:41:24.860 Oof. 1.00

00:41:25.480 What are we, fighting off saber-toothed tigers, bitch? 1.00

00:41:27.520 We're not cavemen anymore. 0.99

00:41:28.780 It's 2023.

00:41:30.160 Let's move on.

00:41:31.220 Well, and they're like, what are you going to do when men attack you?

00:41:34.160 I'm all-

00:41:34.540 Blame men.

00:41:36.080 When other men attack me, yeah, I'm still going to hate you.

00:41:39.660 Like, I'm going to blame. 0.89

00:41:41.820 It's still going to be all your fault.

00:41:42.220 Like, either way, I don't know why you thought that was going to go somewhere else, but it's

00:41:46.280 still y'all. 0.98

00:41:47.120 Turns out you're the root of all evil. 0.98

00:41:49.060 Yeah. 0.99

00:41:49.640 Surprise.

00:41:50.660 Who'd have thought?

00:41:51.480 All the world's problems can be linked to that.

00:41:54.100 That's a literal historical fact.

00:41:55.940 Yeah.

00:41:56.340 Okay, so let's get into these comments.

00:41:58.440 This one says, it's presumptuous to assume that a man can't understand it.

00:42:05.140 Pretty sexist, if you ask me.

00:42:07.460 Oh.

00:42:08.080 Well, first of all, no one asked you.

00:42:09.200 So there's that.

00:42:09.840 Yeah, those are some big words for Elmo.

00:42:11.820 Yeah.

00:42:12.620 Also, the way that they don't know the term sexist or sexism, they have no idea.

00:42:18.960 They so callously use that term.

00:42:21.860 Like, they throw it around like, no tomorrow.

00:42:24.280 Just like a misandress. 1.00

00:42:26.000 They call me that all the time.

00:42:27.520 Which is so funny because there are many other, like, female identifying creators on TikTok that 1.00

00:42:32.980 have said, like, I hate men.

00:42:34.120 I want to, I don't want them around anymore. 0.99

00:42:36.260 I wish they weren't here.

00:42:37.140 I actually have never said that, but they just always assume that I say that because

00:42:41.960 I'm constantly bullying terrible men.

00:42:44.720 So they're always like, oh, she must want them all to be gone.

00:42:48.060 Oh, my God.

00:42:49.040 I want them all to leave me alone.

00:42:50.920 Right.

00:42:51.240 I want them out.

00:42:52.280 That's fair.

00:42:52.820 Of my bubble.

00:42:53.680 Yeah.

00:42:53.900 And then we're good. 1.00

00:42:55.320 I want them to mind their goddamn business. 1.00

00:42:57.720 Yes. 1.00

00:42:57.800 That's what I want.

00:42:58.880 Yes.

00:42:59.420 Whether or not you fall off the face of the earth, I don't care, to be honest.

00:43:03.220 I don't care either way.

00:43:04.560 So sexism is oppression as no one's oppressing you by being mean to you.

00:43:08.220 I think the problem with that, though, is like, even if a woman is screaming from the 0.95

00:43:11.980 rooftops, like, I hate all men, y'all should disappear. 0.96

00:43:14.220 Like, yeah, that will never really affect men as a whole. 0.98

00:43:18.800 Yeah.

00:43:19.120 Like, ever. 0.99

00:43:19.920 When men hate women, women die. 1.00

00:43:22.400 Yeah. 1.00

00:43:22.760 When women hate men, we get trash talk. 0.93

00:43:25.860 Yeah. 0.88

00:43:26.300 They're like, that's not nice.

00:43:27.580 You're a man hater. 0.54

00:43:28.700 Like, you're sexist. 0.88

00:43:30.060 Yeah.

00:43:30.540 And it's like, OK.

00:43:32.400 It's like, OK, you're alive to type that.

00:43:34.460 Yeah.

00:43:34.780 It's the point.

00:43:35.420 Yeah, exactly.

00:43:36.320 And it's like, that's why femicide is a term.

00:43:39.000 And there's no term for men being murdered because it doesn't happen.

00:43:43.460 And that's another reason why it's like women have every right to hate all men. 1.00

00:43:49.140 They have every they've earned that right. 1.00

00:43:50.660 They've earned the stripes to be able to say, I don't trust any of you bitches. 1.00

00:43:54.760 I don't trust any of you. 1.00

00:43:55.840 You all scare me.

00:43:57.300 I don't like any of you. 0.99

00:43:58.120 They have every right to say that you have proven time and time again that you're horrible.

00:44:03.520 So why would they look at the world you've built?

00:44:06.140 Yeah, exactly.

00:44:07.540 And how you treat women within it.

00:44:09.040 And it's also misandry is a reaction to misogyny.

00:44:12.540 Misogyny is a structure and it's embedded period in different power structures all over the world.

00:44:19.680 And it's like that's why it's whenever you see like like recently there was like that state legislature that's trying to push forward like rules that representatives like in the house.

00:44:31.120 Like they work for the government that women are they have to wear things that cover their arms and 2023 bitch that's happening now. 1.00

00:44:41.160 They're they're debating why they think it makes sense that women have to dress appropriately.

00:44:47.860 What that means is wearing a jacket.

00:44:48.940 Hold on.

00:44:50.300 Everything that's happening in this country and that's what you're worried about.

00:44:53.840 This is our concern.

00:44:55.120 They said, yeah, don't talk.

00:44:56.320 I don't want to talk about I don't want to talk about anything that matters.

00:45:00.340 I want to talk about sleeves.

00:45:01.440 We need to talk about sleeves immediately. 0.97

00:45:04.600 That is ridiculous. 0.96

00:45:05.900 It's crazy. 1.00

00:45:06.400 In 2023, bitch. 1.00

00:45:07.820 Can you believe that shit? 1.00

00:45:08.820 It's like, I'm sorry. 1.00

00:45:09.380 Do my arms distract you?

00:45:10.520 They're representing they're they're representatives for like districts like they are is sitting in the house of representatives for their state legislature and they're debating why they don't want to wear a blazer.

00:45:23.060 What are you talking about?

00:45:24.920 I can't believe that.

00:45:25.540 Why are we doing that? 1.00

00:45:26.520 These are the people that we have running shit. 0.99

00:45:28.700 And that's why it's like like the the the female representatives in the legislature are like, what? 1.00

00:45:34.460 Yeah.

00:45:35.820 What about my bill about funding schools?

00:45:38.140 Did you guys get a chance to look at that or?

00:45:40.520 No, we decided to prioritize sleeves.

00:45:42.620 I'm so sorry.

00:45:43.580 What's crazy is there were so many activists when those abortion bans were presented like it's not going to stop here.

00:45:50.300 It's going to keep going.

00:45:51.960 Well, and they're all like some some people were like, what?

00:45:55.400 But most people were like, we've known that this was coming for a while now.

00:46:00.060 Once 2016 happened, we've been now like we were just kind of waiting on it.

00:46:05.280 To be honest, there were lots of other things that happened, too, that were just as important as reproductive health as well.

00:46:10.520 Like all these anti-trans laws that were being passed at the same time.

00:46:13.740 Yeah.

00:46:13.840 It's like it's just a constant, never ending fight to prove you're worthy of existing exactly as you are to men.

00:46:23.400 Yes.

00:46:23.840 Constantly.

00:46:24.620 Every day.

00:46:25.580 And it's exhausting.

00:46:25.860 I couldn't have said it better, girl.

00:46:26.940 Oh, my God.

00:46:27.480 And I said, and why do you think women are like, I don't know. 1.00

00:46:30.360 I hate you all. 0.99

00:46:31.480 It's just like you're shocked that women are like, no, I hate them all. 1.00

00:46:35.960 I hate them. 1.00

00:46:36.340 I hate every single one of you. 1.00

00:46:37.360 I hate you. 1.00

00:46:37.740 We can't even exist peacefully. 0.98

00:46:39.780 Never.

00:46:40.420 Never.

00:46:40.700 Because there's always it's like that thing when they're like, you'll never truly be alone because there'll always be a white person in your business.

00:46:46.440 Yep.

00:46:46.780 That's men.

00:46:47.540 Yeah.

00:46:47.660 Women, too. 0.99

00:46:48.240 Yeah.

00:46:48.340 Same thing.

00:46:49.080 Exactly.

00:46:49.440 Same vibes.

00:46:50.240 Same vibes.

00:46:51.560 They will. 1.00

00:46:51.920 You'll never truly be alone, bitch. 1.00

00:46:54.020 You'll always be surrounded by the opinions of people who don't care about you. 1.00

00:46:59.920 Oh, my God.

00:47:00.520 Not even a little.

00:47:01.300 It's honestly insane.

00:47:02.980 Okay.

00:47:03.140 This next comment.

00:47:03.600 You should riot.

00:47:04.420 Riot.

00:47:06.180 Listen, I know they're going to clip that and be like, see what she wants. 0.61

00:47:09.060 Is it?

00:47:09.540 Oh, my God. 1.00

00:47:10.300 You guys are so, eat my ass, bro. 1.00

00:47:12.020 Okay. 1.00

00:47:12.140 Yeah.

00:47:12.340 Plaster it everywhere.

00:47:13.280 Say that I said it. 1.00

00:47:15.840 This one says, I simply get over this issue by not giving a shit what women want. 1.00

00:47:21.260 Okay. 1.00

00:47:22.220 Ew. 0.97

00:47:23.580 When you die alone.

00:47:25.000 Well, I mean, kudos for being honest, I guess.

00:47:27.060 I guess.

00:47:27.820 I don't know.

00:47:28.760 But we knew that.

00:47:30.580 We already knew that.

00:47:31.920 You're telling me you don't care what?

00:47:33.600 What?

00:47:35.340 I'm shocked.

00:47:36.180 Are you shocked?

00:47:36.520 That's news to me.

00:47:38.620 Are people talking about this?

00:47:40.300 It's like, we should be talking about this.

00:47:42.380 What do you even get out of typing that?

00:47:44.320 Like, we know, bro.

00:47:45.620 We know.

00:47:46.740 Move along. 1.00

00:47:47.680 You're telling me some men don't give a shit what women want? 1.00

00:47:50.000 Oh, my God. 1.00

00:47:51.080 Alert the press.

00:47:52.620 Someone tell the church elders.

00:47:54.320 Call Fox.

00:47:56.240 Okay.

00:47:56.540 This next one says, it's simple.

00:47:58.240 Loki is toxic.

00:47:59.480 Of course, girls would go for him. 0.96

00:48:01.040 It isn't that complicated.

00:48:02.340 Excuse me.

00:48:03.400 No.

00:48:03.840 I'm offended.

00:48:04.540 And Thor isn't.

00:48:06.380 Girl, are you out of your mind?

00:48:08.200 That is an insane thing to think, one. 0.96

00:48:11.060 To type it, even crazier.

00:48:13.740 Loki?

00:48:14.520 Toxic?

00:48:15.080 No.

00:48:15.560 Sneaky?

00:48:16.140 Yes.

00:48:16.660 Yeah.

00:48:17.140 But I take personal offense to that, actually.

00:48:20.180 Yeah.

00:48:21.300 Because that's my husband.

00:48:23.140 So, first of all, girl, that's my man and I'm going to stick beside him.

00:48:27.060 Right.

00:48:27.960 Exactly.

00:48:28.600 Well, also, like, toxic is another word they misuse constantly.

00:48:33.460 Yeah.

00:48:33.660 You can't just throw that around.

00:48:35.320 Do y'all know what toxic is?

00:48:36.860 No, truly.

00:48:37.680 That's someone who's never been involved with somebody who's toxic.

00:48:40.280 Right. 0.97

00:48:40.600 And also, men are some of the most toxic people in the world. 0.97

00:48:44.800 Yeah.

00:48:45.060 We've been trying to explain to you.

00:48:45.740 You know how Loki also is?

00:48:47.100 A man.

00:48:49.480 So.

00:48:51.980 That kind of shoots your theory in the face.

00:48:53.840 Yeah.

00:48:54.220 Please.

00:48:54.760 Just a little bit.

00:48:55.940 Pump the brakes.

00:48:56.800 Also, Thor's toxic, too.

00:48:59.300 Like, the way that he was acting in the very first one, the way he was so full of himself

00:49:05.740 and, like, so dramatic and so.

00:49:08.580 Oh, okay.

00:49:09.000 I remember now.

00:49:09.620 He just is toxic.

00:49:10.460 What are you talking about?

00:49:11.360 He was just bad at it.

00:49:12.660 Yeah.

00:49:13.040 He wasn't as good at being toxic as Loki was.

00:49:16.380 Just because he was supposed to be, like, the hero of the story doesn't make him less

00:49:20.000 He was an awful human being in the beginning, in the first couple of Thor movies.

00:49:23.560 Yeah. 0.67

00:49:24.220 Awful.

00:49:24.940 Spoiled.

00:49:25.660 Yeah.

00:49:26.180 Nice try.

00:49:26.660 You tried it, though.

00:49:27.960 Also, watch Loki the series.

00:49:29.520 He's definitely not toxic.

00:49:31.000 Oh, my gosh.

00:49:31.740 What a great show.

00:49:33.180 I just started that, actually.

00:49:34.560 Did you?

00:49:35.040 Yeah.

00:49:35.340 Oh, it's so good.

00:49:35.980 I'm, like, a few episodes deep.

00:49:36.800 I'm, like, oof.

00:49:37.240 That's my favorite Disney series they've done.

00:49:39.940 It's really good.

00:49:40.780 Really?

00:49:41.240 Big fan.

00:49:41.700 Big fan.

00:49:42.240 I'm about to go home and binge.

00:49:44.400 Okay.

00:49:44.800 This last one says, Jesus, can we stop gender wars already? 0.87

00:49:48.920 I get those all the time.

00:49:50.020 Who started the gender wars, babe? 1.00

00:49:51.680 God, I don't know.

00:49:52.560 Who started it?

00:49:53.360 I think it starts with an M and ends with an N.

00:49:55.480 Yeah, I think you might be right.

00:49:57.380 The way that they're, like, the gender war.

00:50:00.980 The gender wars they're talking about is, like, men say something awful and then women 0.56

00:50:04.740 are, like, you shouldn't say that.

00:50:06.500 That's awful.

00:50:07.380 And then they're, like, why can't we just stop these wars?

00:50:11.920 Oh.

00:50:12.700 It's exhausting.

00:50:14.320 Men will do the most God-awful things.

00:50:16.920 And when we respond to it, they're, like, hey, whoa.

00:50:19.880 Whoa.

00:50:20.260 Hey, hey, hey.

00:50:21.340 Hey.

00:50:22.280 I was kidding.

00:50:23.000 What are you going on about?

00:50:23.560 Like, y'all are so sensitive.

00:50:25.620 Everyone's so soft.

00:50:27.860 Everyone can't tell a joke these days.

00:50:30.540 And I'm, like, I beg to differ because men are some of the softest people on the internet

00:50:35.480 in general.

00:50:36.080 So fragile.

00:50:37.160 Because, like, if you don't believe me, look up my name and look at the men who stitch 0.99

00:50:41.960 me and tell me that that's not the softest bitch you've ever seen in your life. 1.00

00:50:44.760 Oof. 0.99

00:50:45.340 They stitch my stuff and they're, like, this is why you can't.

00:50:48.720 Girl.

00:50:50.840 You're telling me that's an alpha?

00:50:52.180 I beg to differ.

00:50:53.760 Talk about soft. 0.79

00:50:54.880 Like, and I make the silliest jokes. 0.99

00:50:56.580 Like, I say the most, like, ridiculous, silly things. 0.96

00:51:01.360 Like, and they're, like, this is why I can't. 0.96

00:51:04.220 Okay.

00:51:04.800 Or, like, crying in a corner in the fetal position.

00:51:07.440 Truly.

00:51:08.120 Because you called them a peanut head. 1.00

00:51:09.460 Like, damn. 1.00

00:51:11.080 If that makes you buckle, give up. 1.00

00:51:13.200 Life is too hard. 1.00

00:51:14.500 Life is way too hard, bitch. 1.00

00:51:16.100 I promise. 0.99

00:51:16.780 And that's why it's, like, it's crazy to see the ripple it has because it's, like, that's

00:51:23.120 their very first time experiencing any sort of consequence for their actions for the things

00:51:28.400 that they say.

00:51:29.660 And they're, like, they're so stunned they don't know what to do.

00:51:33.260 So, they, like, they short circuit almost immediately.

00:51:35.940 I think it often comes back to, like, who's raising them?

00:51:40.980 Yeah.

00:51:41.540 I think that, too.

00:51:42.160 Like, where are their parents?

00:51:42.800 Yeah.

00:51:43.520 Who taught you this?

00:51:44.660 Yeah.

00:51:44.840 Because there's no way.

00:51:46.040 There's absolutely no way.

00:51:47.020 Some people have said, like, they've said that about me.

00:51:51.900 Like, I bet your parents don't know.

00:51:55.460 Babe.

00:51:56.220 Come on.

00:51:57.240 My parents have known I was mean since I was born, first of all.

00:52:00.200 Second of all, my parents tell me to be meaner.

00:52:02.680 Yeah.

00:52:02.820 They have been fully supportive from the jump.

00:52:04.940 Yeah.

00:52:04.980 From the jump.

00:52:06.160 So, try again.

00:52:06.680 Because it's me standing up for others or myself.

00:52:09.900 And yours is just attacking people for no reason.

00:52:12.620 I, like, that's, like, the simplest way to describe my content.

00:52:15.120 And they're always, like, no, I still hate you.

00:52:18.200 Right.

00:52:18.600 Okay.

00:52:19.220 You're, like, I'm out here fulfilling my purpose.

00:52:21.800 You're at home with Dorito crumbs on your chest.

00:52:25.080 Please stop.

00:52:26.120 Yeah.

00:52:26.460 And I'm, like, only ugly people hate me, so.

00:52:28.840 Period. 0.83

00:52:30.180 Listen.

00:52:30.840 If the shoe fits, wear it.

00:52:31.920 Yeah. 0.98

00:52:32.060 I've never had a single bad bitch have a problem with me. 1.00

00:52:34.640 That's what I'm saying. 1.00

00:52:36.360 Hot people don't waste their time doing shit like that. 1.00

00:52:38.860 I can promise you that, bitch. 1.00

00:52:40.600 And it's also a very, like, it's a very short, like, 1.00

00:52:46.060 map to, like, oh, like, I think she's awful. 1.00

00:52:49.320 Why?

00:52:50.160 Well, because she said something I didn't like.

00:52:51.740 Which part?

00:52:52.780 The part where I'm being misogynist is, like, you're a misogynist. 1.00

00:52:56.000 It's a real short map, bitch. 1.00

00:52:57.780 A very simple equation. 0.99

00:52:58.740 You can get there pretty quickly.

00:53:00.440 Like, sometimes they'll write me a dissertation. 0.98

00:53:02.580 I'm, like, you could just say you hate women. 1.00

00:53:03.820 That's a lot less words. 0.98

00:53:05.140 Right.

00:53:05.940 A lot less brain power being exerted. 1.00

00:53:08.140 You can very easily just be, like, well, I hate women 1.00

00:53:10.140 because they don't love me the way I feel like they should. 0.89

00:53:13.060 There you go.

00:53:13.460 Now let's unpack that.

00:53:14.540 Yeah.

00:53:14.920 Like, what do you mean by that?

00:53:16.280 And if we unpack that, you're going to have to pay me 1.00

00:53:19.400 because that's therapy, bitch. 1.00

00:53:21.300 You know what I'm saying? 1.00

00:53:22.180 Like, give me a license.

00:53:24.080 You know what I mean?

00:53:24.740 You're like, I'm out here with a job.

00:53:26.720 So, why don't you go get therapy?

00:53:30.540 And in a very strange but serious note, one of the things they tell me is, like,

00:53:36.560 oh, you don't care about all the problems that men suffer at the hands of patriarchy. 1.00

00:53:40.580 And I'm like, you don't care what men suffer at the hands of patriarchy 0.93

00:53:45.580 because you are constantly upholding it.

00:53:47.660 Right.

00:53:48.000 What you don't realize is that the patriarchy hurts all of us.

00:53:51.420 Like, it holds all of us down, especially women.

00:53:54.620 And we don't even factor in gender identification, sexuality, race.

00:54:00.300 Yes.

00:54:00.500 Because intersectional feminism is much different and more important than just white feminism. 1.00

00:54:06.080 Right.

00:54:06.300 Right.

00:54:06.680 So, if you take all of those pieces off the table, you don't even realize how much it hurts you as well.

00:54:12.140 Right.

00:54:12.440 Because sometimes I'll have men be like, you don't care about men's, like, suicide rates.

00:54:16.780 Right?

00:54:16.980 How high they are.

00:54:17.940 Mm-hmm.

00:54:18.260 And I actually, I was like, this is, like, something I recently learned.

00:54:22.060 But, like, statistically speaking, women attempt far more than men do.

00:54:25.300 Really?

00:54:25.980 Yeah.

00:54:26.680 However, women are empathetic to the very, very end. 0.99

00:54:30.780 So, what they think about is, like, what if somebody finds me?

00:54:33.340 So, what they do is they prioritize the feelings of the people who may or may not find them.

00:54:38.240 So, they attempt in far less violent ways.

00:54:41.340 Wow.

00:54:41.780 Which is why they don't succeed nearly as often.

00:54:44.080 Men succeed far more often because, at that point, they don't care how it happens.

00:54:47.960 They just want it to happen.

00:54:49.100 Right.

00:54:49.320 Women are still, still at the brink thinking about others. 1.00

00:54:54.220 I've never heard that. 1.00

00:54:54.460 And that's the shit that blew me. 0.99

00:54:55.740 When I found that out, I was like, are you kidding me? 0.99

00:54:58.160 Wow.

00:54:58.320 And it's true because it's very, like, it's awful no matter what.

00:55:01.680 But if you really, really cared, you would know that.

00:55:05.680 Right.

00:55:06.100 And you would do everything within your power to rip out toxic masculinity from the very, very root because that's why that happens.

00:55:14.200 Yeah.

00:55:14.280 Like, they're experiencing all this pressure and all this external standards and all these terrible things they cannot control.

00:55:20.160 And I feel like that contributes to their, like, you know, desire to not want to be here anymore.

00:55:25.880 And that's, like, one of those awful things you can't control.

00:55:27.800 However, if you really cared about men suffering like that, then you would help me.

00:55:33.520 Yeah.

00:55:33.700 You know what I'm saying?

00:55:34.180 Like, you would help rip it out.

00:55:36.240 Like, you would help get rid of it.

00:55:37.500 What gets me is these men, they're like, oh, we suffer from patriarchy too.

00:55:40.900 It's like, y'all have the power to do something about it.

00:55:43.080 No, truly.

00:55:43.700 Like, y'all built it.

00:55:46.340 Y'all can take it down.

00:55:47.820 Exactly.

00:55:48.380 It starts by unpacking these misogynistic habits that you have.

00:55:51.920 Exactly.

00:55:52.540 And I promise it's easier than you think it is.

00:55:54.700 No, truly.

00:55:55.540 And everybody has internalized misogyny.

00:55:57.440 Everyone.

00:55:57.900 Including women. 0.94

00:55:58.340 And everybody in between.

00:55:59.700 Like, it's our job as adults to get rid of it.

00:56:02.480 Right.

00:56:03.080 Right.

00:56:03.800 It all starts with the first, you know, first step.

00:56:06.220 No, actually, though.

00:56:07.500 Okay.

00:56:08.060 So, we ended on a little bit of a serious note.

00:56:10.720 Yes.

00:56:10.840 But, before we go, what is it that you want everybody to know when it comes to, like,

00:56:15.880 working on unpacking your internalized massaging, removing yourself from the male gaze entirely?

00:56:19.920 All of that.

00:56:20.660 Like, what do you want people to take away?

00:56:22.700 Mm.

00:56:23.160 That's a good question.

00:56:24.320 Mm-hmm. 0.99

00:56:25.260 I feel like, if it was one thing I can, if we can do it, bitch, you can do it. 0.99

00:56:32.240 Mm-hmm. 0.99

00:56:33.040 Like, when I tell you, the crippling anxiety.

00:56:36.960 Truly.

00:56:37.320 Something that I struggle with, like, all the time.

00:56:40.740 And as far as, like, my journey to, like, stepping away from the male gaze, all that

00:56:48.080 stuff.

00:56:48.600 Like, it's not easy.

00:56:50.640 It's definitely a step-by-step process.

00:56:53.240 Yeah.

00:56:53.660 But all you really need to do is start. 0.99

00:56:55.940 And once you start, you're like, oh, my God, that shit didn't make sense to begin with. 0.99

00:56:59.780 No, truly. 0.99

00:57:00.560 It never made sense.

00:57:01.760 You're going to taste freedom, and you're going to be like, oh, my God.

00:57:04.140 Yeah.

00:57:04.580 You're going to be, like, free.

00:57:05.180 Never, nothing like it.

00:57:06.480 Truly.

00:57:07.140 Actually.

00:57:07.460 So, just start.

00:57:08.960 Just start.

00:57:09.740 Yeah.

00:57:09.920 That's the only thing you got to do.

00:57:11.020 It's like, also, those videos, I don't know if you ever saw them on TikTok.

00:57:14.440 They were pretty big for a while, but they were, like, when I was dressing for men versus

00:57:17.700 when I was dressing for myself.

00:57:19.380 Mm, yes. 1.00

00:57:20.120 And the way they glow up, bitch. 1.00

00:57:21.860 Yes. 1.00

00:57:22.300 Ugh.

00:57:22.980 The juice that they access.

00:57:24.720 The sauce.

00:57:25.240 The sauce.

00:57:26.360 Almost immediately.

00:57:28.180 Yes.

00:57:28.660 Immediately.

00:57:29.060 They look so much happier, healthier, fulfilled.

00:57:31.680 Yes.

00:57:32.320 And just remember, like, how much better it feels when a woman compliments you versus

00:57:37.480 when a man compliments you.

00:57:38.960 I was just telling your team back here, like, when a man compliments me, it feels like a

00:57:43.580 threat. 1.00

00:57:44.320 But when a woman compliments me, I'm like, oh, my God, I'm the baddest bitch in town. 1.00

00:57:48.300 You said work, bitch. 1.00

00:57:50.140 It makes way, it's so much more meaningful. 1.00

00:57:53.400 Yes.

00:57:54.000 Because, like, that's why I said, they don't walk around handing those out a lot.

00:57:57.260 Mm-hmm. 1.00

00:57:57.880 So when you get them from women, you're like, ooh, bitch, I'm killing it today. 1.00

00:58:01.500 When you get it from men, you're like, what? 1.00

00:58:02.980 What?

00:58:03.700 What?

00:58:04.160 Yes.

00:58:04.620 What do you want?

00:58:05.260 You ever, like, walk past a group of women and you hear them whispering, like, oh, my 0.88

00:58:08.160 God, she looks so good.

00:58:09.080 She's so pretty. 1.00

00:58:09.940 I'm like, yes, bitch. 1.00

00:58:11.480 Like, that's my shit. 1.00

00:58:13.160 That's me. 1.00

00:58:15.060 I, ugh, so true.

00:58:17.080 You need women at the end of the day. 1.00

00:58:18.420 Yeah, just remember that.

00:58:18.880 Women and femmes, they make the world go around, I'm telling you. 1.00

00:58:21.720 They do.

00:58:22.120 You can't live life without them.

00:58:23.600 Yes.

00:58:23.740 You can live without a man. 0.99

00:58:25.080 Period.

00:58:25.280 Just kidding.

00:58:27.620 You could if you wanted to.

00:58:29.160 Yeah.

00:58:29.580 Want them, but don't need them.

00:58:30.780 Yeah, exactly.

00:58:31.760 And that's how it should be.

00:58:32.860 But I just want to say thank you to Nijalee for coming on this episode of the comment section

00:58:37.320 show.

00:58:37.800 I absolutely adore you.

00:58:38.920 Thank you for having me.

00:58:40.080 Oh, my God.

00:58:40.520 Anytime.

00:58:40.940 You're welcome back.

00:58:41.640 Anytime.

00:58:42.440 You're incredible.

00:58:43.080 I love you.

00:58:43.580 For those of you who haven't already, please go follow Nijalee.

00:58:46.680 Where can everybody find you?

00:58:47.700 Um, my at is TheGlamNijia across all platforms.

00:58:52.320 TikTok, Instagram, Twitter.

00:58:54.820 I think that's all I got.

00:58:56.620 TheGlamNijia. 0.99

00:58:57.160 Nothing more, nothing less.

00:58:58.320 Yeah.

00:58:58.980 Ignore all the fake pages because there's so many.

00:59:01.300 Oh, my gosh.

00:59:01.900 I bet.

00:59:02.440 And we'll have all her handles linked and everything, too.

00:59:05.100 But thank you so much to Nijalee for coming.

00:59:07.920 Thank you all for watching.

00:59:08.960 For those of you who want to watch full episodes of the comment section show, they drop every

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00:59:14.840 Make sure you subscribe so you never miss one.

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00:59:21.440 You guys already know.

00:59:22.260 You know, you know, you know the deal.

00:59:23.900 Make sure you find me.

00:59:24.700 Make sure you follow Nijalee. 0.98

00:59:26.100 And I'll see you next week.

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The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - February 01, 2023

MEN HATE WHEN WOMEN DON'T NEED THEM Ft. Nai Jelee ｜ Drew Afualo ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 51

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