The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - WE JUST HANG OUT AND SLAY ｜ Drew Afualo ft. Hina ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 30

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00:00:02.220 They are scary because they blend in these days. 0.96

00:00:04.940 Everyone's cuffing their f***ing jeans. 0.62

00:00:07.840 Everyone's wearing shirts about plants. 0.95

00:00:10.240 No, literally.

00:00:10.680 I'm like, how am I supposed to decide?

00:00:11.740 Everyone has a hand tattoo.

00:00:12.860 I'm like, I thought I had it.

00:00:14.380 I thought I had it.

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00:01:20.260 Hey everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Comment Section Show,

00:01:24.420 starring me, your favorite Drew.

00:01:26.080 Everybody knows me, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, who cares?

00:01:28.480 So, on to my wonderful, amazing guest today.

00:01:31.380 I have the incredible Hina Slay, your honor.

00:01:36.240 Thank you so much for having me.

00:01:37.960 They're not serving time, they're serving luck.

00:01:41.040 Hina and I go way back.

00:01:43.000 We do.

00:01:43.620 We met at that TikTok event.

00:01:45.280 We did.

00:01:45.940 And we were both being awkward and standing alone.

00:01:47.840 I love that for both of us.

00:01:50.640 I'm actually, like, really introverted, and I feel like people are like,

00:01:53.780 no, you're not.

00:01:54.420 And I'm like, no, but I am.

00:01:55.440 If I'm at a social function, I'm, like, in the corner.

00:01:57.800 No, I feel that.

00:01:58.840 I feel that.

00:01:59.240 I don't have the energy.

00:02:00.040 At that party, I felt very introverted.

00:02:02.680 Yeah, the vibe was very.

00:02:03.560 The vibe was, like, so uncomfortable.

00:02:04.980 It was very polite.

00:02:06.620 It was, I thought, I was like, am I the gay representation of America?

00:02:10.720 Because nobody else was fruity there.

00:02:12.660 No.

00:02:13.020 Then I saw you, and I was like, you're fruity adjacent.

00:02:15.520 I was like, I'm home.

00:02:17.220 A friendly face.

00:02:18.300 I was so happy to see you.

00:02:19.340 Right?

00:02:19.480 I was like, oh, my God, finally.

00:02:20.240 You want to hear something so funny?

00:02:21.720 So, Leo Gonzalez, when I had him on my show, I was talking to, because me and Leo are good

00:02:27.260 friends, too.

00:02:27.840 So, I was telling Leo, like, I remember, other than Hina, because I told Leo, I was like,

00:02:32.600 I saw Hina, and I recognized Hina.

00:02:34.760 But other than you, Leo was the only other person I recognized.

00:02:37.780 I recognized him there, too.

00:02:38.780 Yeah, I was the only other person, as well.

00:02:39.720 And I was starstruck.

00:02:41.380 Yeah, because I was like, oh, my God.

00:02:42.780 You're that man.

00:02:43.600 And I thought it was so funny.

00:02:46.180 And I told him, I didn't say anything, because I got nervous.

00:02:48.740 So, I just didn't approach him.

00:02:50.040 I literally said, oh, my God, you're that guy.

00:02:52.700 And he looked at me like, yeah.

00:02:55.460 And I was like, I don't even know why I know who you are, but you're that guy.

00:02:59.560 I know.

00:02:59.940 I told Leo that in person when he came on my show.

00:03:02.320 And he goes, yeah, I find that really funny, mostly because you saw that I was standing by

00:03:06.220 myself, and you didn't come say hi to me, because he was alone the entire party.

00:03:10.380 But I thought, like, I love when I see people alone at parties, because I feel like we're

00:03:15.040 allies.

00:03:15.620 Same.

00:03:15.920 Like, I feel safe with you, because you don't have friends like me.

00:03:18.560 So, we need each other.

00:03:19.780 This is usually beneficial.

00:03:20.960 Yeah, absolutely.

00:03:22.200 And I did stand there with you for a little bit.

00:03:23.800 Yeah, we did.

00:03:24.680 We took a pic.

00:03:24.960 We were in solidarity.

00:03:25.620 We took a pic.

00:03:26.280 Yeah, we took a pic.

00:03:27.320 And then we separated, and then just looked.

00:03:29.820 And then we came back.

00:03:30.520 And then the rest of the night, I was staring at you.

00:03:31.940 Yeah, we just looked at each other.

00:03:32.800 And I was like, Drew, please.

00:03:33.340 And then we followed each other on Instagram.

00:03:36.640 And the rest is rock and roll history, honestly.

00:03:38.880 Look at us now.

00:03:39.280 Look at us.

00:03:39.900 Look how far we've come.

00:03:41.080 Look at us.

00:03:41.620 So proud of us.

00:03:42.480 I know.

00:03:43.540 Now, API trailblazers.

00:03:45.800 That's right.

00:03:46.440 That's us.

00:03:46.940 We blazed.

00:03:47.520 We trailed.

00:03:48.120 We did.

00:03:48.700 We did all of the above.

00:03:50.020 We did everything.

00:03:51.980 And, like, it is hard being Asian.

00:03:54.180 But trailblazing?

00:03:55.660 That's another level.

00:03:56.380 That's another level.

00:03:57.240 Trailblazing as an Asian person? 1.00

00:03:58.720 Yeah.

00:03:59.060 As a Pacific Islander person?

00:04:01.260 There you go.

00:04:01.720 Who knew?

00:04:02.160 Who knew all the trails we would blaze?

00:04:04.620 I don't even like hiking.

00:04:06.540 Me either.

00:04:07.160 I'm not an outdoorsy person.

00:04:08.260 I literally hate the outdoors.

00:04:09.440 Me too.

00:04:09.680 One time someone asked to take me on a date.

00:04:11.260 And, like, they were, like, really cute.

00:04:12.400 We were having, like, a cute little moment.

00:04:13.880 And they were like, I love hiking.

00:04:15.080 I never texted them ever again.

00:04:16.860 I was like, this is just not going to be.

00:04:18.580 You could never work out.

00:04:19.420 I'm deathly allergic to fire ants.

00:04:21.340 It's, like, my one, like, lethal.

00:04:23.700 Your Achilles?

00:04:24.420 Yeah, it's my Achilles. 0.98

00:04:25.360 Like, I will die.

00:04:26.160 Mm-hmm. 0.64

00:04:26.600 Mm-hmm.

00:04:26.800 And so.

00:04:27.680 How'd you find that out?

00:04:29.220 The hard way, girl.

00:04:30.760 I got bit.

00:04:31.960 And I was like, hmm, my throat's closing.

00:04:34.040 What is this?

00:04:34.800 This is fun.

00:04:35.480 And it's, like, a random allergy to have.

00:04:37.380 And I'm like, this is God's way of showing me that she did not want me to be outside.

00:04:41.380 There you go.

00:04:41.700 And I'm like.

00:04:43.540 Say less.

00:04:44.460 I don't need to ask any more questions.

00:04:45.700 I was like, I'm not going to fight you on that.

00:04:47.460 Because I was forcing myself to be outside personally.

00:04:50.120 Because I thought that's what young people do.

00:04:51.820 But I don't know.

00:04:53.420 I don't really think I'm going to age now.

00:04:54.600 The universe doesn't want me to.

00:04:56.220 So I shall not.

00:04:56.440 I love air conditioning.

00:04:57.800 Me too.

00:04:58.520 An AC unit.

00:04:58.660 A natural breeze just doesn't hit the same.

00:05:01.420 That's kind of like my dad is such an outdoorsy person.

00:05:04.880 And my dad loves.

00:05:07.220 Every year he goes, you know what we should do for, like, any event that's not Father's

00:05:11.420 Day?

00:05:11.860 You know what we should do?

00:05:13.340 Ride bikes.

00:05:14.320 Oh, no.

00:05:15.280 No.

00:05:15.480 Even worse.

00:05:16.180 We should go on a hike.

00:05:17.420 No.

00:05:18.140 And sometimes on, like, Mother's Day, he'll literally, like, group text my.

00:05:21.680 Siblings and I.

00:05:22.900 And he'll be like, let's take your mom on a hike.

00:05:25.100 I'm like, she doesn't like that.

00:05:27.220 That's not a gift.

00:05:28.220 That's a punishment.

00:05:29.180 Do you love her?

00:05:31.860 And I'm all, you like that.

00:05:33.600 Yeah.

00:05:33.880 And he's like, your mom would love a hike.

00:05:35.320 I'm like, she would go on the hike.

00:05:37.180 She wouldn't love it.

00:05:38.120 Yeah.

00:05:38.580 She would just be there.

00:05:39.160 I think love is a strong word.

00:05:39.920 Love is a strong word.

00:05:40.840 I don't think.

00:05:41.200 That's why you don't say it on the first date.

00:05:42.300 I learned that the hard way.

00:05:44.700 Unfortunately.

00:05:45.380 Unfortunately.

00:05:45.880 Yeah.

00:05:46.060 Apparently that's my flag.

00:05:47.060 That's honestly a perfect segue into our topic for today.

00:05:49.900 So our topic for today is we're talking about roles in the relationship.

00:05:55.040 Okay.

00:05:55.280 Roles with quotes, obviously.

00:05:57.260 Because I'm a cis straight woman.

00:06:00.620 That's true.

00:06:01.100 But you are a non-binary lesbian. 1.00

00:06:02.580 That's true.

00:06:03.360 Who's also in a committed relationship.

00:06:04.940 That's true.

00:06:05.380 So we have roles, whatever they may be.

00:06:09.300 Yeah.

00:06:09.920 According to the heteronormative standard.

00:06:12.900 The science.

00:06:13.500 Yeah.

00:06:14.300 The science that dictates only two genders. 0.93

00:06:17.560 Right.

00:06:18.220 Apparently they both have specific roles, but we don't adhere to those.

00:06:21.900 Can you tell me about those?

00:06:23.200 I can't, honestly.

00:06:24.880 As a cis straight person, I can't.

00:06:26.360 I believe it's woman cook. 1.00

00:06:29.140 Woman cook. 1.00

00:06:29.660 Man money.

00:06:30.300 Ooh.

00:06:30.980 I think I might have heard that somewhere.

00:06:32.700 Yeah.

00:06:33.160 Yeah.

00:06:33.560 I don't know.

00:06:34.000 I don't really know what's going on over there.

00:06:36.240 I just, I just assume everyone is, is gay.

00:06:40.740 I met.

00:06:41.560 Or at least hoping.

00:06:42.340 Yeah.

00:06:42.640 I'm like, oh, that's weird.

00:06:44.120 What are you?

00:06:44.700 What are you?

00:06:45.100 Hetero or something?

00:06:46.500 I was on this music video set and like, in my opinion, everyone's wearing neon. 0.93

00:06:50.200 So I'm like, okay, everyone here is gay, obviously.

00:06:54.480 So I'm like over here being like fruity, like limp-wristed, walking around set.

00:06:58.160 And then everyone's like, everyone was straight.

00:07:01.660 I didn't know.

00:07:02.840 How disrespectful. 0.95

00:07:03.200 And so I was saying like, I was just going out to people being like, ugh, the gay agenda. 0.94

00:07:07.380 Am I right?

00:07:07.880 And nobody said anything.

00:07:10.120 And I'm like, am I?

00:07:11.620 Nobody can kiki with you? 1.00

00:07:12.260 Nobody. 1.00

00:07:12.660 And everyone was just like, oh my God, you're so silly. 0.99

00:07:14.340 And I'm like, I'm not being silly. 0.99

00:07:15.220 I'm trying to find allies.

00:07:16.340 I'm trying to find friends.

00:07:17.200 I'm trying to find friends.

00:07:17.820 And clearly none are present.

00:07:19.100 Yeah.

00:07:19.480 Because none of you are chiming in.

00:07:20.480 I don't trust anyone anymore.

00:07:21.880 So.

00:07:22.000 I feel that.

00:07:22.820 Yeah.

00:07:23.000 And then I was like, not me spending a whole day with straight people not even realizing.

00:07:25.780 They are scary because they blend in these days. 0.98

00:07:28.500 Everyone's cuffing their f***ing jeans. 0.62

00:07:31.460 Everyone's wearing shirts about plants. 0.95

00:07:33.800 No, literally.

00:07:34.220 I'm like, how am I supposed to decide?

00:07:35.300 Everyone has a hand tattoo.

00:07:36.420 I'm like, I thought I had it.

00:07:37.940 I thought I had it.

00:07:38.900 Okay, so basically, I think, I mean, according to the men, the straights, the scariest of

00:07:46.760 them all, if we're being real, women have very specific roles in relationships. 1.00

00:07:51.540 Oh, really?

00:07:52.240 And obviously, you're a non-binary lesbian. 1.00

00:07:54.420 Right.

00:07:54.680 In a relationship with a woman.

00:07:56.120 Right.

00:07:56.540 Do you feel like there's a role for her to play?

00:07:58.520 Well, personally, without a gender, like, I don't have any roles. 0.73

00:08:01.340 So she actually has all of them.

00:08:03.360 She assumes them all. 0.76

00:08:04.340 Yeah.

00:08:04.720 By default.

00:08:05.080 I call her, like, my husband, followed with the pronoun she. 0.57

00:08:09.120 There you go.

00:08:09.660 And, like, and I feel like that really encompasses, like, our relationship.

00:08:12.860 You know?

00:08:13.740 Yeah.

00:08:14.280 We, personally, I don't think there's a single role there.

00:08:17.380 I wouldn't.

00:08:18.140 And you know what?

00:08:18.640 How freeing is that?

00:08:19.540 Right.

00:08:20.100 That is so, release yourself from the heteronormativity.

00:08:23.080 Sometimes she cook. 0.99

00:08:24.080 Sometimes I cook.

00:08:25.980 Sometimes she clean. 0.81

00:08:27.200 Sometimes I clean.

00:08:28.540 I'm like, I don't really know what we're supposed to do.

00:08:31.220 It's just kind of.

00:08:31.960 I do laundry yesterday.

00:08:33.080 She do laundry today. 0.77

00:08:35.080 I'm like, it feels pretty equality.

00:08:36.940 Yeah.

00:08:37.080 It is equal.

00:08:39.000 Equal. 0.80

00:08:39.820 Equality.

00:08:40.660 Equality.

00:08:41.760 Coincidence?

00:08:42.320 I don't think not.

00:08:43.340 I don't think so.

00:08:44.280 Equality.

00:08:44.840 I think for me, too, like, sometimes my boyfriend, who's, like, aesthetically, like, very masculine.

00:08:52.700 He's mask.

00:08:53.640 Yeah.

00:08:54.220 As I would say in my community.

00:08:56.340 That's a mask.

00:08:57.400 He's mask.

00:08:58.080 He's mask.

00:08:58.640 Yeah.

00:08:59.280 And I think sometimes the whites, they will ask me things, like, about his long hair.

00:09:07.660 Right.

00:09:08.120 And, like, in my culture.

00:09:09.600 Because that's not mask.

00:09:10.080 No, that's not mask.

00:09:11.280 That's girl. 0.97

00:09:11.760 That's girl. 0.97

00:09:12.460 That's girl. 0.97

00:09:13.580 So, like, sometimes they'll ask, like, about the long hair.

00:09:16.120 My brother has long hair.

00:09:17.380 My dad had long hair at one point.

00:09:19.380 RIP.

00:09:19.820 He's bald now.

00:09:20.620 It happens to everybody.

00:09:21.720 That's what gives me the permission to talk about bald people.

00:09:23.520 I have alopecia, so I can say anything.

00:09:25.300 About bald people?

00:09:26.120 About bald people.

00:09:26.680 There you go.

00:09:26.900 I'm pulping.

00:09:28.620 Okay.

00:09:29.860 So, like, for my boyfriend, like, in my culture, it's very normal for men to have really long hair.

00:09:36.080 Like, very long, thick, luscious hair.

00:09:38.100 And it is gorgeous.

00:09:39.160 And it's, like, my thing, if I'm being honest.

00:09:41.660 Right.

00:09:42.060 Every man I've ever, like, liked, because I don't want to say crush, because men have repulsed me since the day I could formulate thoughts.

00:09:47.900 Crush is kind of aggressive.

00:09:49.400 Yeah.

00:09:49.860 It's more so tolerated.

00:09:51.380 Right.

00:09:51.640 From afar, they always have long hair.

00:09:54.380 So, it tracks that I'm with someone with long hair.

00:09:56.580 Yeah.

00:09:56.920 I have a thing for long hair, too.

00:09:58.360 Right.

00:09:58.740 But he does have an undercut.

00:10:00.600 Okay.

00:10:01.280 Which I would assume transcends. 0.50

00:10:02.620 That's so lesbian. 1.00

00:10:05.080 Well, there you go. 0.95

00:10:06.120 Yeah, there it is.

00:10:06.820 That's girl. 0.97

00:10:07.280 Yeah.

00:10:07.680 That's girl. 0.97

00:10:08.260 The undercut's also girl. 0.70

00:10:09.540 Yeah.

00:10:09.700 But, like, is lesbian girl? 0.98

00:10:12.480 Sometimes.

00:10:14.300 That's true.

00:10:15.120 It's up for interpretation, obviously.

00:10:16.620 Yeah, it is.

00:10:17.140 But I think sometimes they'll ask because, according to the rules in the relationship, like, femininity is solely with the female identifying person in the world of heteronormativity.

00:10:26.780 Right.

00:10:26.960 But I don't think hair has a gender.

00:10:29.180 Hair doesn't have a gender. 0.75

00:10:30.840 That's why, like, when I was like, okay, I'm not girl anymore.

00:10:33.720 I'm not boy either.

00:10:34.720 No.

00:10:34.900 When I was like, I'm non-binary, I was like, it doesn't even matter if I have long hair anymore.

00:10:38.380 Because it doesn't, like, I used to be insecure about presenting femme because I was like, oh, then people are going to think I'm a girl.

00:10:44.100 Mm-hmm.

00:10:44.900 But then I was like, men have, look at Hozier.

00:10:48.400 Yeah.

00:10:48.860 Look at Harry Styles.

00:10:50.000 Yeah.

00:10:50.420 Look at these, look at your mans.

00:10:51.780 Yeah.

00:10:52.320 They have long hair and no one's like, that's girl.

00:10:54.580 Yeah.

00:10:54.920 So I was like, who am I?

00:10:56.560 That's true.

00:10:57.100 To, you know, because I, one, I have alopecia.

00:11:00.060 So I'm not going to look good bald because it's going to be patchy.

00:11:02.960 Okay?

00:11:03.520 So when everyone is going bald during the pandemic, consider yourself privileged because I couldn't do that.

00:11:07.540 Okay?

00:11:07.720 And I don't have the head shape for it. 0.90

00:11:09.380 I'm shaped like a freaking peanut head from, you know. 0.98

00:11:12.060 That's me too. 0.96

00:11:12.820 Mine's just a big garbanzo bean.

00:11:14.880 That's what I'm saying.

00:11:16.240 I'd be, I'd look like a, like a Q-tip when you rub it really hard and it's all frayed.

00:11:20.760 Not a Q-tip.

00:11:21.280 That's literally what I would look like.

00:11:22.420 Yeah.

00:11:22.900 Bald.

00:11:23.320 But I have a theory that if I went bald, I would never sweat again.

00:11:26.580 And sometimes I'm tempted to try.

00:11:28.840 You mean wigs?

00:11:30.120 Yeah.

00:11:30.580 That's what I'm saying.

00:11:31.440 Go bald.

00:11:32.120 Yeah.

00:11:32.380 I kind of like the idea of wigs because then I could be a different person every time you saw me.

00:11:36.360 And like, I love a good rebrand.

00:11:37.940 A rebrand?

00:11:38.760 We support a rebrand.

00:11:39.740 I rebrand every week.

00:11:40.840 We were just talking about how cringe we were when we were younger.

00:11:44.280 And you were a big fan of rebrands.

00:11:46.020 I was, I've been rebranding before people knew what rebranding was. 0.94

00:11:48.620 When I was 14, I was like, okay, I'm going to be like super slutty and like crazy. 0.92

00:11:54.040 So like that was my brand. 0.97

00:11:55.260 But like I wasn't actually slutty.

00:11:56.800 I just wanted to wear high-waisted shorts.

00:11:59.120 So like I wanted to present.

00:12:00.660 But like in, in that year, that was really, that was really progressive.

00:12:04.140 Yeah.

00:12:04.380 You know what I mean?

00:12:04.840 You wanted to cosplay.

00:12:05.600 Yeah, it was exactly because I was on Tumblr at that time and like all the girlies who, I was in Hawaii.

00:12:10.920 So like in Hawaii, like people were on Tumblr like that, right?

00:12:13.200 That was like a Cali thing.

00:12:14.520 Yeah.

00:12:14.760 So I was like, I'm different.

00:12:17.260 I, I know what's going on out there.

00:12:19.720 I'm not like these other girls.

00:12:20.760 Yeah.

00:12:21.020 And like I was.

00:12:21.600 Pick me.

00:12:21.840 I was a big pick me when I was younger.

00:12:22.980 I was the most pick me of all pick me's because I, I was so convinced that I was different that I had to keep rebranding to be even more different.

00:12:30.160 And then like, I had.

00:12:31.400 That sounds exhausting.

00:12:31.980 It was.

00:12:32.520 And then I had an era where I was like, okay, I'm going to start reading now.

00:12:35.620 And then I read like one John Green book.

00:12:37.520 And then I was like, it's time for me to open up that chapter.

00:12:41.260 I found it.

00:12:41.980 I became an enigma.

00:12:43.320 I was elusive.

00:12:44.040 I didn't talk.

00:12:44.800 I was almost like on a silent retreat for like a whole school year because I thought people, if they knew less about me, they'd be more curious.

00:12:51.900 They'd like, they'd talk to me.

00:12:52.800 I'd just ignore them.

00:12:53.640 I'd be like, I don't.

00:12:54.700 They were like, I think something's wrong with her.

00:12:56.940 Yeah.

00:12:57.280 And I want it to be weird.

00:12:58.800 And I like to talk to me.

00:13:00.600 Yeah.

00:13:00.820 And like the irony was like, I was a cheerleader.

00:13:02.720 So like after school, I'd go to practice and I'd go, I'd be like screaming.

00:13:05.440 So it'd be like kind of that dichotomy was really weird to be like, is that the same person that was in class?

00:13:11.080 And then you just keep rebranding.

00:13:12.860 And then I wanted to talk again.

00:13:14.120 And I was like, okay, now I'm not going to shut up, you know?

00:13:16.780 And now I don't shut up on the internet.

00:13:18.200 So it's like.

00:13:18.980 I was a real cringe ball in high school.

00:13:20.900 I used to be one of those people that would be like, like this and I'll rate you on Facebook, you know?

00:13:25.500 Oh my God.

00:13:26.060 Not like my status.

00:13:26.980 I was one of those.

00:13:27.820 Like my status and I'll tell you my first thought about you.

00:13:30.160 Okay.

00:13:30.360 If you had, if I liked your status right now, like.

00:13:32.620 Yeah.

00:13:33.020 And it was like 2013, like, what would you say?

00:13:35.320 Ooh, 2013.

00:13:36.760 Yeah.

00:13:37.000 Maybe 2012.

00:13:37.780 Let's like kick it back to the OG days.

00:13:39.180 I would say something like, I would literally say something so cringe.

00:13:42.540 Like, I'd be like, I love that we're language arts besties.

00:13:45.200 Oh my God.

00:13:46.660 Thanks for letting me borrow your pencil.

00:13:48.360 Yeah.

00:13:48.580 I'd be like, you and I just get each other.

00:13:51.080 We're such good.

00:13:52.240 We're such besties.

00:13:53.560 Yeah.

00:13:53.840 I love language arts together.

00:13:55.160 And then you'd say, I own this pic.

00:13:57.480 And then I'd be like.

00:13:58.200 Not I own this pic.

00:14:00.260 Ew.

00:14:01.600 I hate that that was a thing, but that was it.

00:14:04.260 Because people would be competing.

00:14:06.120 They would.

00:14:06.680 They'd be like, I own.

00:14:07.740 Yeah.

00:14:08.020 I'm like, okay.

00:14:09.540 And then you'd have to change the caption to Hina owns this.

00:14:12.380 Yeah, exactly.

00:14:13.120 And what did that even mean?

00:14:14.780 It was territory.

00:14:16.120 Because back in the day, like, we were still, like, back in the day, meaning like 10 years

00:14:20.100 ago, like, we were still colonizing the internet.

00:14:22.860 Right?

00:14:23.280 And everyone wanted a piece of that colonization.

00:14:25.360 It didn't matter who you were, what race you were.

00:14:27.460 Like, you wanted to own something on the internet.

00:14:29.700 You wanted that real estate.

00:14:31.160 And so.

00:14:31.620 Just like the forefathers.

00:14:32.980 Exactly.

00:14:33.380 Of this country.

00:14:34.300 Colonizing.

00:14:34.800 Colonizing.

00:14:35.300 It's in our blood.

00:14:36.440 That's what I'm saying.

00:14:37.480 Were you born and raised in Hawaii?

00:14:38.640 No.

00:14:38.860 I was born in Japan.

00:14:40.020 Oh.

00:14:40.620 Yeah.

00:14:40.820 I just moved to Hawaii.

00:14:41.800 Just like a little, you know, taking a trip across the Pacific to get myself over to California

00:14:45.260 eventually.

00:14:45.920 Yeah.

00:14:46.340 So.

00:14:46.900 I didn't know that.

00:14:47.420 I went to high school there.

00:14:48.700 Oh, where'd you go to high school?

00:14:50.140 Kalaheo High School.

00:14:51.220 Shout out.

00:14:52.400 Shout out Mustangs.

00:14:54.620 I can't with those guys.

00:14:55.820 I went to UH for college. 1.00

00:14:57.320 Shut up. 1.00

00:14:58.080 Yeah. 0.99

00:14:58.600 As long as we've known each other, we've never talked about it.

00:15:00.540 I know.

00:15:00.920 Wait, what?

00:15:01.520 What did we talk about?

00:15:02.260 You went to UH, girl?

00:15:03.640 Yeah.

00:15:04.100 I was over in Kailua.

00:15:05.800 Yeah, period.

00:15:06.660 Yeah.

00:15:06.920 I was going to say.

00:15:07.560 You give me Kailua.

00:15:08.860 All the local girlies are going to love these jokes. 1.00

00:15:12.700 I made a joke on my podcast with my sister.

00:15:15.040 I was telling them about like a terrible first date I had in college.

00:15:18.780 Oh, give me the tea.

00:15:19.380 Give me the Hawaii tea.

00:15:20.220 Cause like, where'd he take you?

00:15:21.400 Where'd he take you?

00:15:21.820 Yeah.

00:15:22.020 Cause I was a real, like, I was a real local girl.

00:15:25.460 So like local boys.

00:15:26.840 You look like you're from Hawaii.

00:15:28.020 Yeah.

00:15:28.260 I went on a date with this guy.

00:15:29.660 I literally told this story on my podcast with my sister, but he asked me to like come

00:15:35.740 get ice cream with him.

00:15:36.660 Basically he had been trying to like hang out with me all spring break.

00:15:39.600 I hope he never watches this.

00:15:41.700 When we were watching.

00:15:42.080 If you're watching, nice try.

00:15:44.580 All spring break.

00:15:45.520 But you know, like, because I was underage, I was just losing my mind.

00:15:48.480 Right.

00:15:48.660 I was going wild.

00:15:49.420 What do you do out there when you can't drink?

00:15:51.140 That's what I'm saying.

00:15:52.120 Yeah.

00:15:52.340 That's what I was saying.

00:15:53.400 If you go, you're day drunk every single day during spring break.

00:15:55.980 Every single day.

00:15:56.120 You go to Sandy's.

00:15:56.500 There you go.

00:15:57.480 Sandy's almost dying in the water.

00:15:58.820 Oh my God, girl.

00:16:00.140 The amount of times I'm almost around.

00:16:00.860 Get humbled, come right back out.

00:16:02.440 Oh my God.

00:16:03.060 Do you remember, um, in, uh, Waimea, that rock?

00:16:05.880 Oh yeah.

00:16:06.580 Girly.

00:16:07.280 One time I was like, cause at this point I was like, I can swim.

00:16:10.560 Right.

00:16:10.960 Because you know, you, if you're like raised in Hawaii to some extent, like you can swim.

00:16:14.260 That's all you can do if anything.

00:16:15.680 Yeah.

00:16:16.000 So like, and then in Kailua, have you been to Kailua beach?

00:16:18.100 Yeah.

00:16:18.460 You know, flat Island.

00:16:19.340 Yes.

00:16:19.780 Girl.

00:16:20.040 I used to swim that back and forth, back and forth.

00:16:21.580 I was a swimmer.

00:16:22.440 Look at you.

00:16:22.720 I was like, I was literally Michael Phelps.

00:16:24.620 That's what I'm saying.

00:16:25.840 And so I was like, I'm an athlete, whatever.

00:16:27.700 So I go to Waimea, the swell, she was going through that day, but I was like, it's okay.

00:16:32.400 I can swim.

00:16:33.140 Yeah.

00:16:33.860 It's been proven.

00:16:34.940 I jumped into that water.

00:16:36.780 I almost got sucked out to sea.

00:16:39.560 It's like the way they tell you to just let yourself go taken so that you can come back.

00:16:44.280 But when you're in the moment, you are fighting for your life.

00:16:46.920 I'm like, there is no, there is no way.

00:16:49.700 I'm just going to let those right.

00:16:50.660 There's no effing way.

00:16:51.620 I'm just going to let this go right now.

00:16:53.460 I am going to fight for my life.

00:16:55.240 So I was fighting.

00:16:56.640 And then at one point there was like a rock in the water and I just like, I dug my toe

00:17:01.300 into it.

00:17:01.840 I'm scraping that toe and I'm like, Oh my God, I am fighting.

00:17:05.520 And then next thing you know, I'm swept underneath a wave takes me and I'm tumbled onto shore and

00:17:11.300 I want to do all the hottie on a grand days and all of the, all the little boys, they're

00:17:15.780 all on the shore scoping out who's jumping and who looks the hottest when jumping off

00:17:18.980 that rock.

00:17:19.500 Yeah.

00:17:19.740 And coming out the water.

00:17:21.160 That's the most important part who survives.

00:17:23.080 So I'm coming out of that water with like, literally my top is gone.

00:17:27.000 Like I am like crusty.

00:17:28.600 I'm out of breath.

00:17:29.340 My hair is over on the other side of my body.

00:17:31.040 Like kelp wrapped around my ankle pretty much humbled immediately.

00:17:34.820 I was so humbled that day.

00:17:35.920 I don't think I swam again.

00:17:38.040 And now nature, nature, she, I'm allergic to her.

00:17:44.840 I know.

00:17:45.500 I think that too with, uh, with Hawaii, like there are very specific places I know I can 0.93

00:17:51.040 swim, but I'm under no, I am no proud bitch.

00:17:54.500 I say, I look at that water. 0.97

00:17:56.120 I say, no, thank you.

00:17:57.040 Yeah.

00:17:57.420 And some of my, you know, my haole friends, they're like, it's just like any other beach, 0.98

00:18:02.480 babe.

00:18:02.600 I'm like, go check it out then.

00:18:04.080 It's not Pele's out there herself and she will punish you. 0.95

00:18:07.700 She's, she's always watching. 1.00

00:18:09.020 I will lay and fry like a fucking lobster on this beach before I go and test mother nature 1.00

00:18:14.660 herself. 1.00

00:18:15.100 That's what I'm saying.

00:18:15.660 I'm like, first of all, there's some things, there's a whole movie about a girl who can,

00:18:19.020 you know, Moana, you know her. 0.98

00:18:20.560 Yeah.

00:18:21.240 She had powers.

00:18:22.420 That's why she was able to do what we do.

00:18:23.560 Yeah.

00:18:24.000 I'm just a mere mortal.

00:18:25.400 I have no power out there.

00:18:26.620 I am but a mere mortal.

00:18:27.440 That's what I'm saying.

00:18:28.040 That's why I said, that's the part that doesn't represent me in that movie is her affliction with

00:18:32.240 water.

00:18:32.600 How much she loves the water.

00:18:34.260 I'm, I'm at odds with the water.

00:18:35.960 I feel like we're cool.

00:18:37.020 I don't want any beef.

00:18:38.040 Her and I are neutral.

00:18:39.140 Like I see her.

00:18:39.740 She sees me.

00:18:40.420 Yeah.

00:18:40.640 She did try to kill me once and I backed off real quick.

00:18:43.400 I'm not, I'm conflict avoidant.

00:18:44.520 My first time ever going to Waimea, I almost died too.

00:18:46.540 So I feel that.

00:18:47.160 Her.

00:18:47.460 Everyone does.

00:18:48.000 I feel like that's, that's tradition.

00:18:49.060 That's tradition.

00:18:49.660 Yeah.

00:18:50.000 That's how you get it.

00:18:50.860 It's like hazing.

00:18:52.220 Yes.

00:18:52.760 In like frat culture.

00:18:53.960 You become a woman.

00:18:54.660 Yeah.

00:18:54.980 You emerge.

00:18:56.640 You emerge a woman or a person or a person, whoever you identify as, whatever, honestly,

00:19:01.520 whatever, I don't care.

00:19:02.800 Anyways, what were we talking about?

00:19:03.940 Oh, my, my terrible date.

00:19:05.320 Yeah.

00:19:05.480 So I go on this date and he wants me, he, he's like, oh, let's walk to the 7-Eleven.

00:19:11.440 That's like right off my campus to go get ice cream.

00:19:13.520 I'm like, cool.

00:19:14.140 Cute.

00:19:14.480 Whatever.

00:19:14.720 7-Eleven was the move, huh?

00:19:16.200 Yeah.

00:19:16.620 So we walk and it's cute.

00:19:18.600 Whatever we go, he's like, get anything you want.

00:19:20.520 I'm like, oh gee.

00:19:21.520 Oh my God.

00:19:22.100 No way.

00:19:22.380 He's zattie. 0.99

00:19:22.940 Yeah.

00:19:23.340 So also he's a money.

00:19:24.980 He has got money.

00:19:25.640 If he has a 7-Eleven money.

00:19:28.260 So he buys me an ice cream.

00:19:29.960 He gets two ice creams, which is normal.

00:19:32.520 Right.

00:19:32.720 He eats them like carrots.

00:19:35.400 Oh, okay.

00:19:35.880 Like red flag.

00:19:38.300 That's huge.

00:19:39.400 It means he's not sensitive.

00:19:40.500 No.

00:19:40.860 Each one.

00:19:42.140 I'm like someone who can't bite things with my front teeth.

00:19:44.180 So when I eat cold stuff, don't watch me because you're going to hate how I do it.

00:19:47.360 Yeah.

00:19:47.380 You do that.

00:19:48.200 Yeah.

00:19:48.480 I do it from the side.

00:19:49.460 Like my grandfather.

00:19:51.080 So my, my literal grandpa eats like that.

00:19:53.020 Anyways.

00:19:53.640 So he eats these two popsicles like carrots in 20 seconds each.

00:19:58.060 And I'm, that's two red flags for me.

00:20:00.260 Back to back too.

00:20:01.400 And this is something that stuck with me so severely.

00:20:03.980 I still see it so clearly.

00:20:05.160 After he finishes, after he finishes the ice cream, we're talking, we're like, it's first 1.00

00:20:10.280 date shit. 0.98

00:20:10.680 So you're like getting to know each other. 1.00

00:20:11.740 Right.

00:20:12.320 You're like, oh yeah.

00:20:13.040 Like, so how many siblings do you have?

00:20:14.640 And he's like, oh, I have like, I have two brothers.

00:20:17.160 He takes the trash, throws it as hard as he can over the fence.

00:20:22.460 Cause we're walking under a freeway.

00:20:24.580 Throws it hard as.

00:20:25.740 What happened to Malama the Aina? 0.99

00:20:27.520 That's what I'm saying.

00:20:28.460 That's, there's no Malama here. 1.00

00:20:29.900 There is none of that.

00:20:30.520 But he throws it as hard as he can.

00:20:32.100 He goes, ah.

00:20:33.380 Anyways.

00:20:33.860 Yeah.

00:20:34.060 So do you have any siblings?

00:20:35.220 The way that he's so casually littered.

00:20:37.720 And then was like, so what's your favorite color?

00:20:41.620 The way that he did that.

00:20:42.960 The ick.

00:20:43.760 The ick.

00:20:44.460 I would have had the ick.

00:20:45.860 Like from the beginning, like, oh, let's go to 7-Eleven to go get ice cream.

00:20:49.100 We'd be like.

00:20:49.280 That's what my friend said.

00:20:50.060 But I was like, I think it's cute.

00:20:51.360 I don't care.

00:20:51.720 You were like, whatever.

00:20:52.940 Yeah.

00:20:53.320 It could be a vibe.

00:20:53.980 Cause with the right person.

00:20:55.320 Have you ever been at 7-Eleven with your boyfriend?

00:20:57.200 It's a joy.

00:20:57.900 Yeah.

00:20:58.400 It's fun.

00:20:59.040 It's a joy.

00:20:59.360 Road trip.

00:21:00.220 Road trip.

00:21:00.840 Road trip.

00:21:00.920 Yeah.

00:21:01.460 Slurpee.

00:21:02.040 Maybe take some pics.

00:21:03.280 There you go.

00:21:03.560 Take some pics.

00:21:04.620 Maybe like, get like a fancy water.

00:21:06.260 Yeah.

00:21:06.480 Like a bodega type pic.

00:21:07.820 You know what I mean?

00:21:08.820 I literally immediately, the way I immediately was like, this is.

00:21:12.560 This is not it.

00:21:13.200 Never going to work.

00:21:13.540 How did you get out of there?

00:21:14.440 Were you like.

00:21:15.060 We talked forever.

00:21:16.100 I felt like I kept trying to leave and he was like, no, let's talk more.

00:21:19.120 And I was like.

00:21:19.380 And then he was like, when am I going to see you again?

00:21:20.980 And then you were like.

00:21:21.600 Yeah.

00:21:21.760 Do you remember that?

00:21:22.780 February 31st.

00:21:24.080 Write it down.

00:21:24.780 Write it down.

00:21:25.140 That's when you'll see me again.

00:21:26.520 That part.

00:21:27.840 Yes, ma'am.

00:21:28.520 So I immediately, I was like.

00:21:32.420 That's so gross.

00:21:33.140 You know what I mean? 0.88

00:21:33.320 The way that he.

00:21:34.460 Oh, my God.

00:21:35.040 Just the casual littering.

00:21:36.360 I think it was the way that he threw it so hard.

00:21:38.740 But it was paper.

00:21:39.540 I think.

00:21:39.900 Did he not think you would notice?

00:21:41.780 I don't know.

00:21:42.720 It's like.

00:21:43.220 You might as well just pick your nose in front of you at that point.

00:21:45.100 The way he just turned around the torque on his torso.

00:21:48.680 The way he's like.

00:21:49.880 You know what I'm saying?

00:21:50.680 Yeah, I do.

00:21:51.380 I was.

00:21:51.780 And then.

00:21:52.140 So.

00:21:53.160 Yeah.

00:21:53.380 So I'm from here.

00:21:54.620 And I was like.

00:21:55.960 That's crazy.

00:21:56.560 And I literally said.

00:21:57.560 I was like, there's a trash can like right here.

00:21:59.660 And he was like.

00:22:00.240 No, it's all right.

00:22:00.720 I already took care of it.

00:22:02.120 I saw.

00:22:02.840 Oh, I would. 0.64

00:22:03.860 I would have been so bitchy about it.

00:22:05.480 I've been like, go pick it up.

00:22:07.120 He threw it over a fence.

00:22:08.800 I'd be like, climb the fence.

00:22:11.020 I was just like.

00:22:12.260 Are you?

00:22:12.640 I thought you're a man.

00:22:17.060 That's literally one of their roles is to climb the fence when they litter.

00:22:20.120 That's what I'm saying.

00:22:20.580 That's what I'm saying.

00:22:21.560 That is a role.

00:22:22.500 If I've ever heard it more.

00:22:23.880 That is a role.

00:22:24.540 If I litter over the fence, you're going to go get it.

00:22:26.400 That's what your girlfriend does. 1.00

00:22:27.740 Yeah.

00:22:28.000 That's her role. 0.85

00:22:29.160 Yeah.

00:22:29.380 She climbs fences pretty much every day for me. 0.51

00:22:32.140 To prove her love.

00:22:33.080 To prove.

00:22:33.600 Yeah.

00:22:33.800 To prove her masculinity. 1.00

00:22:35.780 To assert dominance.

00:22:37.020 Yeah.

00:22:37.600 To assert dominance.

00:22:38.000 As the alpha.

00:22:38.700 We have like this thing going on like back and forth because we're both like kind of like.

00:22:43.360 You know?

00:22:44.240 Like we're both like.

00:22:45.320 I don't.

00:22:46.040 Thammy.

00:22:46.740 Kind of.

00:22:47.360 Yeah.

00:22:47.480 And so we both.

00:22:48.680 Every time we're doing anything remotely mask.

00:22:51.360 Yeah.

00:22:51.620 Like it'd be like me like lifting a pile of laundry.

00:22:54.280 Yeah.

00:22:54.540 And I'll be like.

00:22:55.260 Am I a mask right now?

00:22:57.540 She'll be like.

00:22:58.660 She'll be like.

00:22:59.160 I don't know.

00:22:59.760 Like cleaning a mirror.

00:23:00.940 But like.

00:23:01.420 Maybe her bicep is out. 1.00

00:23:02.880 And she's like.

00:23:03.720 Am I a mask right now?

00:23:05.260 And I'm like.

00:23:05.780 Yeah.

00:23:06.120 You are.

00:23:06.420 Hanging a picture frame.

00:23:07.340 Yeah.

00:23:07.640 And that's why we call each other husband.

00:23:09.080 I love that.

00:23:10.000 Because it's like.

00:23:10.060 It makes us both feel really mask.

00:23:12.000 And you know what?

00:23:12.740 At the end of the day.

00:23:14.300 We like to have fun.

00:23:15.360 Yeah.

00:23:15.760 And I'm like.

00:23:16.560 Masks can have fun too.

00:23:18.000 We like.

00:23:18.500 I mean.

00:23:18.860 We are mask for mask.

00:23:20.140 At the end of the day.

00:23:22.280 Okay.

00:23:22.800 So.

00:23:23.300 We're gonna get into these videos.

00:23:24.960 That I was tagged in.

00:23:25.880 For those of you who don't know.

00:23:27.000 We bring videos that I was tagged in.

00:23:28.240 We bring them here.

00:23:28.780 We share all the giggles.

00:23:29.840 Laugh.

00:23:30.760 Do what it is we do.

00:23:31.960 Slay. 0.87

00:23:32.440 Slay. 0.87

00:23:32.860 Pretty much.

00:23:33.500 Yeah.

00:23:33.740 That's what I heard.

00:23:34.500 So.

00:23:35.080 The first video we have.

00:23:36.520 Is basically a guy making a skit.

00:23:38.640 Where him and his wife.

00:23:40.420 Act out.

00:23:41.760 Traditional gender roles. 0.98

00:23:43.660 And then they swap them. 0.99

00:23:45.140 And it's supposed to look dumb. 0.99

00:23:46.380 It's supposed to be funny. 0.99

00:23:47.340 Because he's a man.

00:23:48.600 Not man cook.

00:23:50.280 Not man clean. 0.98

00:23:52.220 That's so silly. 1.00

00:23:53.400 And it's supposed to look dumb. 1.00

00:23:54.580 That he's doing his wife's roles. 0.98

00:23:56.600 And his main point is.

00:23:58.000 At the end of the day.

00:23:58.900 A woman is a woman. 1.00

00:23:59.860 And I expect her to provide.

00:24:01.500 What a woman is meant to provide. 1.00

00:24:03.160 I'm sorry.

00:24:03.460 I'm gonna throw up.

00:24:05.660 Which is. 0.59

00:24:07.740 These nuts.

00:24:08.520 Apparently.

00:24:09.120 Yeah.

00:24:09.460 If you're asking me.

00:24:10.520 Yeah.

00:24:10.800 And you are the expert.

00:24:11.540 You have a PhD. 1.00

00:24:13.860 That's a pretty huge dick. 1.00

00:24:15.300 Yeah. 1.00

00:24:15.780 That's great.

00:24:16.660 That's good.

00:24:18.620 So for me.

00:24:19.860 I feel like.

00:24:21.560 This is just very typical.

00:24:23.580 It is typical.

00:24:24.360 It's predictable.

00:24:25.480 And.

00:24:25.780 I feel like also.

00:24:27.660 I want to see something really.

00:24:29.420 If they really wanted to make it funny.

00:24:31.180 I feel like it'd be like.

00:24:32.700 They would start already in the opposite roles.

00:24:36.040 Yeah.

00:24:36.160 And then switch roles.

00:24:37.200 Because then.

00:24:38.060 Your comments would look the opposite.

00:24:39.580 That's what I'm saying.

00:24:40.020 Where they'd be like.

00:24:40.800 Oh my god.

00:24:41.240 You guys are so progressive.

00:24:42.900 You know what I mean?

00:24:43.740 Oh my god.

00:24:44.080 You're so not like the others.

00:24:45.020 You're so not like the others.

00:24:46.160 They're not like.

00:24:47.140 They're.

00:24:47.340 What do they call it?

00:24:48.100 Like.

00:24:49.020 Spicy straight.

00:24:49.900 Oh my.

00:24:50.300 Oh my god.

00:24:51.380 I hate a spicy straight.

00:24:53.300 Those are the worst kinds of straights.

00:24:54.760 You know who calls them that?

00:24:56.040 Straight people.

00:24:56.660 Straight people.

00:24:57.800 I don't think that's up to you.

00:24:59.020 Yeah.

00:24:59.160 It's like when people are like 10% like Asian. 0.99

00:25:01.160 They're like.

00:25:01.340 I'm spicy white.

00:25:02.620 I'm like.

00:25:02.960 No you're not.

00:25:04.400 Or.

00:25:05.520 Or maybe you're just white girl. 1.00

00:25:07.020 Yeah.

00:25:07.360 Maybe it's just that.

00:25:08.380 Maybe.

00:25:08.940 Yeah.

00:25:09.220 I mean.

00:25:09.520 I don't know.

00:25:09.920 Look into it.

00:25:10.560 Look into it.

00:25:11.060 Google it.

00:25:11.520 Yeah.

00:25:12.020 Do a 23andMe.

00:25:13.940 Right.

00:25:14.480 But.

00:25:15.080 I.

00:25:15.420 Like some of the comments on this.

00:25:16.660 Like.

00:25:16.920 This says that's.

00:25:18.140 That was how relationships worked before World War II.

00:25:21.440 And this is how it's going to be after World War III.

00:25:25.480 Well.

00:25:25.880 I'm assuming they're saying like.

00:25:27.360 Men will be doing what women are doing. 1.00

00:25:29.420 And blah blah blah blah blah.

00:25:30.520 You know like the history about how women ended up in the kitchen? 0.98

00:25:33.780 I think I do.

00:25:34.800 But I don't know.

00:25:35.140 During like the agricultural revolution.

00:25:37.060 Mm-hmm.

00:25:37.320 And then like basically women were working like men. 0.92

00:25:39.720 Yeah. 0.98

00:25:39.820 Like we were doing the same damn thing. 0.99

00:25:41.040 Yeah. 0.97

00:25:41.240 And then all of a sudden these girlies were like. 1.00

00:25:43.980 Okay.

00:25:44.560 Well.

00:25:44.980 I'm pregnant.

00:25:45.900 Mm-hmm.

00:25:46.100 So I guess I'm working.

00:25:47.340 And I guess I'm going to do other things too.

00:25:49.900 Yeah.

00:25:50.140 And then eventually they were like.

00:25:51.740 Okay.

00:25:52.060 Well.

00:25:52.760 I guess I'll be home.

00:25:54.060 Yeah.

00:25:54.100 It was kind of like their own decision sort of.

00:25:57.860 Yeah.

00:25:57.960 Yeah.

00:25:58.040 To be like.

00:25:58.420 Oh well.

00:25:58.660 I'm just going to do this.

00:25:59.660 Yeah.

00:25:59.760 Because this is like.

00:26:00.400 This makes sense.

00:26:01.120 Yeah.

00:26:01.500 And then that became.

00:26:02.500 Now women are inside. 1.00

00:26:03.600 And it's like.

00:26:04.240 And it's like.

00:26:04.740 Women chose to do that. 1.00

00:26:06.720 For the better.

00:26:07.820 Of the family.

00:26:08.380 Of the family.

00:26:09.760 And then all of a sudden they're like.

00:26:11.320 That's what they intended.

00:26:13.400 That's what they're born to do.

00:26:14.840 And I always think when they're like.

00:26:16.200 That's what they wanted to happen.

00:26:18.060 Or that's what they intended.

00:26:19.000 I'm always like.

00:26:19.660 Who's they?

00:26:20.300 Who's they?

00:26:21.160 Who is this fictional person that you're talking about?

00:26:23.280 Who's that they them in question? 0.93

00:26:24.400 Because I want to know.

00:26:26.120 Yeah.

00:26:26.380 And I always ask.

00:26:27.340 If that's the case.

00:26:28.760 Like.

00:26:29.620 Who are you getting this from?

00:26:31.120 Who's is it?

00:26:31.540 Who's your.

00:26:32.060 Who's your like.

00:26:32.960 Intel source.

00:26:33.520 That's what I'm saying.

00:26:34.340 Right.

00:26:34.480 Source.

00:26:35.140 Source.

00:26:35.780 Yeah.

00:26:36.860 I'm only format please.

00:26:38.120 Yeah.

00:26:38.920 Like.

00:26:39.540 I think it's. 0.91

00:26:41.180 Kind of ridiculous too. 0.92

00:26:42.620 Because. 0.87

00:26:43.500 If you think about.

00:26:44.380 Just the very basic concept.

00:26:46.060 Of like.

00:26:46.760 Female roles in the house. 0.86

00:26:48.280 Right.

00:26:48.580 Which is like.

00:26:49.120 Cooking and cleaning.

00:26:49.940 Nine times out of ten.

00:26:51.760 You don't eat.

00:26:53.280 That's what I'm saying.

00:26:53.980 What did you do before you met her?

00:26:55.740 That's on.

00:26:56.080 What do you do when you're single?

00:26:57.560 You never cooked before?

00:26:59.200 Or if you did.

00:26:59.700 Cleaning I believe.

00:27:00.660 Yeah.

00:27:00.940 Cooking.

00:27:01.280 How'd you eat?

00:27:02.080 Exactly.

00:27:02.560 That's what I'm saying.

00:27:03.220 And if.

00:27:03.560 And if she's also working.

00:27:06.000 Then like.

00:27:07.280 You know.

00:27:07.840 Wouldn't it make sense to be like whoever's home and willing?

00:27:10.880 Right.

00:27:11.700 So what?

00:27:12.340 Like you get home from your job.

00:27:13.500 She gets home from her job.

00:27:14.440 But she has to work another job. 0.99

00:27:15.900 Because.

00:27:16.960 You're treating your girlfriend like your mom. 0.91

00:27:18.200 Because you said this fictional person said so.

00:27:21.000 And like.

00:27:21.660 If you got used to being cooked for and cleaned after.

00:27:24.740 Yeah.

00:27:25.300 Who.

00:27:25.720 Who.

00:27:26.020 Who.

00:27:26.560 Put that behavior into you?

00:27:28.280 Your mother.

00:27:28.820 Your mom.

00:27:29.320 Your mommy.

00:27:30.740 You'd be nothing without your mommy. 0.99

00:27:32.060 Is that what you're saying?

00:27:32.780 So now you love women because you love your mom.

00:27:35.520 And how much do you love your mom?

00:27:36.480 And how much do you love your mom?

00:27:37.240 Do you love her enough to say that she belongs in the kitchen?

00:27:40.340 Try telling your mom that.

00:27:41.260 That's why.

00:27:41.700 And sometimes they're like.

00:27:43.020 When they say reference older generations.

00:27:45.360 They're like.

00:27:45.620 Well.

00:27:45.860 My grandma did that. 1.00

00:27:48.340 Blah, blah, blah.

00:27:48.780 I'm like.

00:27:49.160 You mean before it was legal for them to own their own car?

00:27:51.800 That's what I'm saying.

00:27:52.880 Interesting.

00:27:53.720 It's.

00:27:54.060 If you think about it.

00:27:54.820 Women are. 1.00

00:27:55.440 Have always been hunter gatherers.

00:27:57.400 Right.

00:27:57.920 Because they.

00:27:58.760 They gathered.

00:27:59.500 They resourced.

00:28:00.660 All we do is gather.

00:28:01.700 That's what I'm saying.

00:28:02.200 To this day.

00:28:02.740 I gather every day.

00:28:04.200 I stay gathering.

00:28:06.180 Right.

00:28:06.460 Gather anything.

00:28:07.180 Gather tea.

00:28:07.660 Vibes.

00:28:08.280 Vibe check.

00:28:09.320 Yeah.

00:28:10.180 The sleigh.

00:28:10.700 The sleigh.

00:28:11.340 I be.

00:28:11.860 I gather sleigh.

00:28:12.980 Like.

00:28:13.160 It's my full time job.

00:28:14.340 I do.

00:28:15.520 And.

00:28:16.320 If you think about it.

00:28:17.040 Women are the ultimate. 1.00

00:28:19.140 Manipulators in that sense. 0.98

00:28:20.300 Because.

00:28:20.680 Absolutely.

00:28:21.400 They've convinced you.

00:28:22.660 That you're.

00:28:23.300 You're so masculine.

00:28:24.580 That you need to go out and work and earn money for them.

00:28:27.380 You think that we didn't plan that out?

00:28:30.020 You think that girly pops out here weren't thinking like. 0.99

00:28:33.520 Oh.

00:28:33.940 I can get away with not working?

00:28:37.580 Are you serious?

00:28:38.620 Slay. 0.87

00:28:39.140 They said that.

00:28:39.520 Like.

00:28:39.800 In the 1920s.

00:28:40.760 In the 1920s.

00:28:41.460 They were like.

00:28:42.000 How about.

00:28:42.400 And they got all the girly pops together.

00:28:43.760 Yeah.

00:28:43.920 In a little prohibition.

00:28:44.720 In like little bar.

00:28:45.760 Yeah.

00:28:46.080 And they were like.

00:28:46.960 Girlies.

00:28:48.520 Let's just tell boys.

00:28:49.760 I figured it out. 0.99

00:28:49.800 We're silly. 0.98

00:28:50.880 And we can't do anything. 0.95

00:28:52.600 Except for be cute.

00:28:54.560 And.

00:28:55.180 They'll work.

00:28:55.840 Yeah.

00:28:56.160 Just watch.

00:28:56.760 And then we just hang out and slay.

00:28:58.380 Yeah.

00:28:59.040 By ourselves.

00:28:59.800 I.

00:29:00.020 I still have my 1920s behavior sometimes.

00:29:02.480 Like.

00:29:03.000 I'll be on like a set.

00:29:04.160 And there's like a man's.

00:29:05.540 I'll just ask him to do anything. 0.97

00:29:06.980 I'll just pretend I'm dumb. 0.96

00:29:07.980 I'm like. 0.80

00:29:08.340 Oh.

00:29:08.900 How do I open my water bottle?

00:29:10.740 Yeah.

00:29:10.920 And a man's like.

00:29:12.020 Oh my God.

00:29:12.300 I got it.

00:29:12.760 And I'm like. 1.00

00:29:13.140 You're so stupid. 1.00

00:29:14.320 I just didn't. 1.00

00:29:15.140 I just didn't want to do anything.

00:29:16.420 Gathering.

00:29:17.380 Gathered.

00:29:17.800 They stay gathered.

00:29:18.700 They stay.

00:29:19.100 Yeah.

00:29:19.320 Because actually.

00:29:20.600 All.

00:29:21.380 I don't want to do labor.

00:29:23.060 Like point blank period.

00:29:24.240 Yeah.

00:29:24.420 I don't believe in labor.

00:29:25.280 I don't believe that anyone should ever do it.

00:29:27.280 I don't adhere to it.

00:29:28.160 I don't adhere.

00:29:28.580 I don't even want to give birth.

00:29:29.380 That's how much labor I don't want to have.

00:29:30.960 Right.

00:29:31.200 So I'm like.

00:29:31.840 No labor for me.

00:29:32.860 Yeah.

00:29:33.100 So my purpose in life as a lesbian is to make anyone else do my labor. 1.00

00:29:36.960 And who does my labor? 0.99

00:29:38.160 Men.

00:29:38.700 And that's called reparations.

00:29:39.840 Exactly.

00:29:40.320 I would say.

00:29:40.760 And then they think that like.

00:29:41.820 And I get them to do it for free.

00:29:43.120 Because I'm just like.

00:29:44.060 I'm like.

00:29:44.340 Oh.

00:29:44.640 You're so mask.

00:29:46.280 And then they eat that up.

00:29:47.760 And they're like.

00:29:48.400 I just helped a helpless. 0.98

00:29:50.380 Helpless little lesbian do this. 1.00

00:29:52.500 And I'm like. 0.99

00:29:53.260 Yeah.

00:29:53.540 Whatever.

00:29:54.080 You just did that for free.

00:29:55.060 And I was going to pay somebody to do that anyway.

00:29:57.700 But you just did it for free.

00:29:58.760 Because you just couldn't wait to prove your masculinity.

00:30:00.580 The way I'm like so incredibly feminine.

00:30:04.240 And small brained.

00:30:04.940 I'm so feminine for you.

00:30:06.220 Especially when I have to do something like.

00:30:08.760 Get my oil changed.

00:30:10.740 Oh my god.

00:30:11.220 Yeah.

00:30:11.820 Like get my tires rotated.

00:30:13.880 Whatever you call it.

00:30:15.100 Whatever you call those things.

00:30:15.940 I tried going into like one of these situations.

00:30:18.160 Like I knew what I was talking about.

00:30:19.520 Because I did.

00:30:20.300 I'm not dumb.

00:30:21.560 But then like.

00:30:22.440 Then the men tried to charge me money for it.

00:30:24.320 Yeah.

00:30:24.960 If you just pretend you have no idea what's going on.

00:30:27.260 Yeah.

00:30:27.740 They love that.

00:30:28.720 It gives them a little something.

00:30:31.360 It gives them a little something.

00:30:32.420 And then they can explain something to me.

00:30:34.660 And then I just.

00:30:35.720 I'm like.

00:30:36.060 All right.

00:30:36.780 What's the coupon code?

00:30:37.900 You know.

00:30:38.620 Where's the Groupon?

00:30:39.580 Where's the Groupon?

00:30:40.040 You know what's so funny.

00:30:41.100 Is sometimes.

00:30:42.140 Because like.

00:30:43.760 The intersectional feminist inside me is so strong. 1.00

00:30:47.060 And I can only keep her at bay for so long.

00:30:49.560 Right.

00:30:50.240 Oh I blow up sometimes.

00:30:51.220 Sometimes with car stuff.

00:30:53.360 I like.

00:30:53.740 I purposely don't go.

00:30:55.800 Because I don't know the answers.

00:30:57.220 So I like.

00:30:58.700 Want to figure them out.

00:30:59.860 So no one can talk down to me.

00:31:01.880 Like.

00:31:02.560 I'll call my dad a million times.

00:31:04.440 Right.

00:31:04.600 And ask him questions.

00:31:05.300 I'm like.

00:31:05.520 Listen.

00:31:06.380 That's why sometimes when I have to do car stuff.

00:31:08.340 Right.

00:31:08.480 They'll ask me a bunch of questions.

00:31:09.420 And I'm like.

00:31:09.960 For all I know.

00:31:10.500 You could be making up words.

00:31:11.540 Right.

00:31:11.960 What language are you talking to me?

00:31:13.540 Yeah.

00:31:13.700 Because it sounds like singlish.

00:31:14.060 I speak seven languages.

00:31:14.720 And mechanics isn't one of them.

00:31:16.660 There you go.

00:31:17.160 I'll say that.

00:31:17.820 Facts is my second language.

00:31:18.960 That's what I'm saying.

00:31:19.740 So then sometimes they'll ask me like.

00:31:21.340 What do you know?

00:31:22.160 I'm like.

00:31:22.680 What I know about this car.

00:31:24.000 Is it's gray?

00:31:24.720 Yeah.

00:31:24.980 You could also say.

00:31:26.000 You could be like.

00:31:26.720 What do I not know?

00:31:28.760 And then they'll just start talking.

00:31:30.160 And then you could be like.

00:31:30.720 I already knew that.

00:31:31.640 And then you just gaslight.

00:31:32.700 Gaslight.

00:31:33.120 Gaslight.

00:31:33.220 Gaslight.

00:31:33.320 That was a test.

00:31:34.180 Yeah.

00:31:34.340 That was a test to see what actually you know.

00:31:35.840 Yeah.

00:31:36.240 Yeah.

00:31:36.580 My favorite thing to do is like.

00:31:37.660 When men like talk down to me.

00:31:38.940 I just like let them go for a little bit.

00:31:40.900 And then I just like stare at them pretty.

00:31:42.340 You know.

00:31:42.640 Just like this.

00:31:43.600 And I'm like. 1.00

00:31:44.460 Do you think I'm stupid or something? 1.00

00:31:46.060 And just like. 1.00

00:31:46.700 And then just like let that sit.

00:31:48.140 Yeah.

00:31:48.720 And then they start apologizing.

00:31:50.400 Because I don't say anything afterwards.

00:31:51.620 I just give them that space.

00:31:52.740 To really feel uncomfortable.

00:31:53.700 To sit in it.

00:31:54.480 And then yeah. 0.54

00:31:54.980 Marinate. 0.52

00:31:55.460 And then if they keep going.

00:31:56.360 I go.

00:31:56.740 I said. 1.00

00:31:57.120 Do you think I'm stupid? 0.99

00:31:58.800 And then they really sit there really uncomfy. 1.00

00:32:00.680 Yeah.

00:32:01.140 But.

00:32:01.820 Yeah.

00:32:02.000 One time.

00:32:02.880 I was like doing this like music video.

00:32:04.720 And I was like in the back.

00:32:06.080 And there's like this guy who was also there.

00:32:08.320 And I go.

00:32:09.200 Oh.

00:32:09.560 Like what do you do for a living?

00:32:10.720 And he thought it'd be quirky to say sleep.

00:32:13.800 And which like.

00:32:14.340 I don't really care.

00:32:15.460 I was just saying stuff.

00:32:17.020 Because I thought that's what people do.

00:32:18.700 You know.

00:32:18.880 When you meet somebody.

00:32:19.480 When you meet a conversation.

00:32:20.040 Yeah.

00:32:20.260 When you meet somebody.

00:32:20.860 You like want to have a conversation.

00:32:22.240 Yeah.

00:32:22.620 And then I didn't press.

00:32:24.840 And I was like.

00:32:25.300 Okay.

00:32:26.200 And I just turned my head.

00:32:27.560 And then he goes.

00:32:28.400 Oh.

00:32:28.640 That's not where I thought this conversation was going to go.

00:32:30.540 And I was like.

00:32:31.900 Okay.

00:32:32.200 What exactly did you want from me?

00:32:33.720 And then.

00:32:34.040 Yeah.

00:32:34.180 And then.

00:32:34.440 But he ate that up.

00:32:35.280 And he was like.

00:32:35.780 You're so funny.

00:32:36.520 And I'm like.

00:32:37.440 I'm just not interested.

00:32:38.740 The way that I hate that.

00:32:40.540 I hate that.

00:32:41.240 When you're like mean.

00:32:42.220 And they're like.

00:32:42.960 Oh.

00:32:43.320 Like you're so funny. 0.82

00:32:44.220 I was trying to be bitchy. 0.80

00:32:44.760 Yeah. 0.90

00:32:45.520 They're like.

00:32:49.480 No I like genuinely. 0.99

00:32:50.800 I wouldn't care if you drop dead. 1.00

00:32:52.040 Right. 0.98

00:32:52.400 And they're like.

00:32:53.660 She's so funny.

00:32:54.700 I love that.

00:32:54.980 She's hilarious. 0.95

00:32:56.060 She's so goofy. 0.93

00:32:56.980 Oh my God. 0.94

00:32:57.340 She's so funny.

00:32:58.260 Right.

00:32:58.440 The amount of men in high school.

00:32:59.900 That I was like.

00:33:00.700 You irritate the absolute.

00:33:02.360 Yeah. 1.00

00:33:02.640 Dog shit out of me. 1.00

00:33:03.360 I can't stand you. 1.00

00:33:04.300 Right.

00:33:04.620 And then they'd be like.

00:33:05.420 Ugh.

00:33:06.040 I love that.

00:33:06.940 I love.

00:33:07.580 I love a girl that speaks her mind.

00:33:09.360 Right.

00:33:09.880 Yeah.

00:33:10.580 Them.

00:33:10.980 Them indirectly beating the pick me out of me. 0.79

00:33:13.440 Literally.

00:33:13.940 I'm like.

00:33:14.420 Not you picking me.

00:33:15.680 When I'm trying not.

00:33:16.680 To be picked.

00:33:18.140 For once.

00:33:18.960 For once.

00:33:19.880 For once.

00:33:21.180 Yeah.

00:33:21.620 So some of the comments.

00:33:22.940 When you pick me too close to the sun.

00:33:24.600 Not this.

00:33:25.500 Yeah.

00:33:25.700 When you.

00:33:26.000 And you actually get picked.

00:33:27.080 And you're like.

00:33:27.500 You're like.

00:33:28.080 Oh this is what I wanted.

00:33:29.860 This one says.

00:33:30.920 Support moms for homes.

00:33:32.420 If possible.

00:33:34.040 Which is what you said.

00:33:34.980 Support moms for homes.

00:33:35.800 Like your mom is essentially who.

00:33:38.080 Yeah.

00:33:38.520 Did all those things for you.

00:33:39.560 It's true.

00:33:40.100 But I've said this too.

00:33:42.300 I've talked about this a lot.

00:33:43.360 In interviews and stuff.

00:33:44.420 But.

00:33:45.160 In Samoan culture.

00:33:46.240 It's really matriarchal. 1.00

00:33:48.080 Yeah.

00:33:48.260 So in.

00:33:49.420 In like traditional Samoan culture.

00:33:51.540 Men do all the cooking and cleaning. 1.00

00:33:53.960 Women. 0.81

00:33:54.840 Women do the. 1.00

00:33:56.140 They have children.

00:33:57.520 And they take care of them.

00:33:58.500 And they.

00:33:58.940 They take care of the elderly.

00:34:00.160 That's like.

00:34:00.720 Our gender roles.

00:34:01.860 And within my culture.

00:34:02.720 It sounds like.

00:34:03.320 Equality.

00:34:04.680 It sounds like.

00:34:06.000 Equal distribution of labor.

00:34:07.400 Yeah.

00:34:07.700 And it's like.

00:34:08.760 It's very.

00:34:10.780 Like.

00:34:11.280 That's why I said.

00:34:11.920 Like.

00:34:12.300 Long hair and stuff.

00:34:13.280 Like.

00:34:13.760 We have these things called.

00:34:14.520 E lava lavas.

00:34:15.280 Which like.

00:34:16.340 To the.

00:34:17.020 Regular person.

00:34:17.820 Would be like.

00:34:18.440 A skirt.

00:34:18.980 Or like.

00:34:19.400 A sarong.

00:34:20.600 It's like the Irish. 0.99

00:34:21.120 But men wear them all the time.

00:34:22.500 It's out of respect.

00:34:23.540 So they look like skirts.

00:34:25.480 And that's.

00:34:26.180 For girls.

00:34:27.580 Ugh.

00:34:28.000 But.

00:34:28.720 Grow up.

00:34:29.620 I know.

00:34:30.280 But they look.

00:34:30.720 It's a garment.

00:34:31.400 They look so manly to me.

00:34:32.720 Yeah.

00:34:32.960 No.

00:34:33.160 They probably look fire.

00:34:34.460 That's like.

00:34:35.000 The manliest thing to me.

00:34:35.860 I think like.

00:34:36.580 When men wear skirts. 0.84

00:34:37.900 And I'm not going to give them that.

00:34:39.400 That thing.

00:34:40.180 You know.

00:34:40.400 Because I feel like.

00:34:41.300 You know.

00:34:41.620 These like.

00:34:42.020 White boys on TikTok. 0.60

00:34:43.120 Will like.

00:34:43.360 Wear a skirt.

00:34:43.880 And they'll be like.

00:34:44.260 I'm doing everything to dismantle.

00:34:46.280 All the patriarchy.

00:34:47.540 You know what I mean.

00:34:47.900 I'm like.

00:34:48.200 You're literally wearing a skirt.

00:34:49.120 It's not that profound.

00:34:49.940 Yeah.

00:34:50.120 Like.

00:34:50.180 I don't have a gender.

00:34:50.940 Grow up.

00:34:51.400 You know what I mean.

00:34:51.780 Yeah.

00:34:51.900 Literally.

00:34:59.620 But I do feel like.

00:35:01.200 In a lot of like.

00:35:02.600 In a lot of non-white cultures. 0.95

00:35:04.340 Yeah.

00:35:04.440 There's a lot more fluidity.

00:35:05.900 In like these roles.

00:35:06.800 Absolutely.

00:35:07.300 You know what I mean.

00:35:07.800 Yeah.

00:35:07.940 And like in cultures that weren't like. 0.89

00:35:09.600 Colonized.

00:35:10.340 By.

00:35:11.680 By the West.

00:35:12.840 I feel like.

00:35:13.820 You see.

00:35:14.620 In their society.

00:35:15.280 And like the way that those people grow up.

00:35:16.920 Yeah.

00:35:17.060 Like that they still have these like.

00:35:18.420 Cultural sentiments of like.

00:35:19.400 Gender roles and things like that. 1.00

00:35:20.440 Yeah.

00:35:20.700 It's a lot more fluid and open.

00:35:22.680 And a lot of times.

00:35:23.900 Especially in indigenous cultures.

00:35:25.540 There's a third gender too. 0.85

00:35:27.080 So.

00:35:27.580 That's in my culture.

00:35:28.720 That's in a lot of indigenous.

00:35:29.620 Like native cultures.

00:35:31.200 It's very prominent.

00:35:32.340 And very prevalent.

00:35:33.220 So.

00:35:33.300 Right.

00:35:33.820 That's why when you have people like yourself.

00:35:35.540 Who are non-binary.

00:35:36.440 And people are like.

00:35:37.140 All these new things are coming up.

00:35:38.740 My girly poppy.

00:35:39.440 It's been around.

00:35:40.440 For hundreds of years.

00:35:41.280 Hundreds.

00:35:41.940 Hundreds.

00:35:42.240 You just were all the way over there.

00:35:43.780 Not brushing your teeth.

00:35:45.200 I know.

00:35:45.760 Yeah.

00:35:46.440 This is before anyone's time.

00:35:48.340 That's what I'm saying.

00:35:49.300 Yeah.

00:35:49.480 And so this last comment says.

00:35:51.060 That was how relationships worked before World War II.

00:35:54.780 Oh yeah.

00:35:55.140 Again.

00:35:55.540 And this is how it's going to be.

00:35:56.700 After World War III.

00:35:57.760 I think that.

00:35:58.560 I watched this video.

00:36:00.020 I actually got tagged in it.

00:36:01.140 And it was a man who was.

00:36:04.740 So you know sometimes they'll go live.

00:36:06.540 Right.

00:36:07.000 Because they're.

00:36:07.600 They're really confident.

00:36:08.840 One thing about a man like that is they know that people want to listen.

00:36:12.340 Right.

00:36:13.020 They are so entitled to everyone's listening ears.

00:36:15.840 So he was inviting other men to come on.

00:36:19.640 Not inviting other men.

00:36:20.820 And debate him. 0.97

00:36:21.520 Sounds homo. 1.00

00:36:22.160 On gender roles. 0.92

00:36:25.920 Right.

00:36:26.520 So this one.

00:36:27.260 This other guy comes on.

00:36:28.220 And I got tagged in the video.

00:36:29.500 Because it got saved.

00:36:30.640 But he was basically asking him like.

00:36:33.220 What is.

00:36:33.860 What's your role in the relationship?

00:36:35.100 And he was just going.

00:36:36.560 What do you mean by that?

00:36:37.960 Like what do you mean by role?

00:36:39.160 And the way they don't even know what to say.

00:36:41.260 Because their brain short circuits past that.

00:36:43.400 Yeah I mean a lot of people like if you ask anybody about any topic.

00:36:47.100 That they have like a really strong opinion about.

00:36:48.700 You can tell who's read.

00:36:49.760 And like who actually has an opinion.

00:36:51.240 Versus like who's just regurgitating information.

00:36:53.200 Yeah.

00:36:53.520 If you just ask what do you mean by that?

00:36:55.220 Yeah.

00:36:55.400 What do you mean by over and over again?

00:36:56.860 You're going to hit a wall eventually.

00:36:58.440 And like the distance between you and that wall.

00:37:01.020 Tells me how much you actually know about what you're talking about.

00:37:03.560 Exactly.

00:37:03.920 You know what I mean?

00:37:04.760 Exactly.

00:37:05.480 Because it's actually.

00:37:06.160 It's giving cult like behavior.

00:37:07.900 If like you don't even know why you believe the things that you believe.

00:37:10.540 It's giving sheep.

00:37:11.180 It's giving you've never.

00:37:12.120 It's giving sheep.

00:37:12.900 Sheep.

00:37:13.400 And you know these men hate to be called sheep.

00:37:16.580 Honestly sheep are really cute.

00:37:18.000 But you know.

00:37:18.860 Well we won't even give them that.

00:37:19.820 We don't even give them that.

00:37:20.920 Yeah.

00:37:21.460 Because.

00:37:21.740 I mean they don't even want to be called sheep.

00:37:24.620 Yeah.

00:37:25.100 The way that they'll just.

00:37:26.220 He kept asking him.

00:37:27.440 It's giving beta.

00:37:28.180 Yeah.

00:37:28.640 He was.

00:37:29.460 He.

00:37:29.740 The guy was saying.

00:37:31.300 There are no such thing as roles.

00:37:32.780 Like sometimes I cook.

00:37:34.480 Sometimes she cooks. 0.99

00:37:35.520 Sometimes neither of us do.

00:37:36.960 Right.

00:37:37.400 Sometimes she cleans. 0.57

00:37:38.260 Sometimes I clean.

00:37:38.900 It's really just.

00:37:39.380 He's losing his mind huh?

00:37:40.040 Yeah.

00:37:40.260 He's like.

00:37:40.860 It really just depends on like timing more than anything.

00:37:43.060 Right.

00:37:43.280 Because we both work.

00:37:44.180 Right.

00:37:44.420 And then the way he's just sitting there like stone face.

00:37:47.340 Like he has nothing to say.

00:37:49.180 Yeah.

00:37:49.440 If you say the most basic of logic to these people.

00:37:52.200 Right.

00:37:52.280 They're like.

00:37:52.900 Wait a second.

00:37:54.740 Right.

00:37:55.540 That is not what Jordan Peterson taught me.

00:37:58.100 Not Jordan Peterson.

00:37:59.160 That is not what he.

00:38:01.320 I didn't read far enough.

00:38:02.440 In the 12 rules for life.

00:38:04.920 And then the way that like.

00:38:06.820 After that he goes.

00:38:07.880 Do you.

00:38:08.140 He gets.

00:38:08.680 He started getting frustrated.

00:38:09.420 Because obviously like.

00:38:10.340 Right.

00:38:10.460 When you're a Neanderthal. 0.82

00:38:11.700 Right.

00:38:11.940 And you do no work as far as like growing yourself.

00:38:14.560 Right.

00:38:14.700 And evolving and becoming like.

00:38:15.780 I don't know.

00:38:16.040 A decent human being.

00:38:16.900 Right.

00:38:17.520 Your first reaction is to anger.

00:38:19.760 Right.

00:38:20.000 To get angry. 1.00

00:38:20.400 Because you get mad that you're stupid. 1.00

00:38:21.860 Yeah. 1.00

00:38:22.260 And that's like.

00:38:22.680 Not on me. 1.00

00:38:23.480 Dumb. 0.99

00:38:23.760 That's not my problem. 1.00

00:38:24.520 Yeah.

00:38:25.840 And so.

00:38:26.740 He got mad and was like.

00:38:27.780 Are you even in a relationship?

00:38:28.880 And he's like.

00:38:29.360 Yeah.

00:38:29.480 I've been with my wife now for.

00:38:31.360 Over 20 years.

00:38:32.420 Do you have a wife?

00:38:33.140 Yeah.

00:38:33.460 And then he was like.

00:38:34.260 What about you?

00:38:34.920 And he didn't even say.

00:38:35.860 He didn't answer.

00:38:36.940 And he was.

00:38:37.360 Because obviously he doesn't have a girlfriend.

00:38:38.200 Yeah.

00:38:38.800 And he goes.

00:38:39.440 Well.

00:38:40.000 I mean.

00:38:40.940 Well.

00:38:41.160 What does she do at home? 0.64

00:38:42.540 And he's like.

00:38:43.040 Again.

00:38:43.340 What are you talking about?

00:38:44.220 Like.

00:38:44.400 I don't understand.

00:38:45.360 The way that it's just such.

00:38:46.840 When you're so genuinely confused.

00:38:48.720 And they're like.

00:38:49.200 And he just hung up on him.

00:38:50.760 Get out of here.

00:38:51.820 I can't.

00:38:52.780 Simp.

00:38:53.080 Simp behavior.

00:38:53.980 The whole thing with simp behavior.

00:38:56.240 I love.

00:38:56.820 I.

00:38:57.380 I'm a huge proponent of simp behavior.

00:38:59.640 I think that it is what's making the earth go around right now.

00:39:03.200 Because every girly pop that's in a relationship with a man. 0.98

00:39:06.320 And he's simping over her.

00:39:07.980 She's happy.

00:39:09.220 She's thriving.

00:39:09.720 It's crazy how that works.

00:39:10.680 It's crazy how that works.

00:39:11.600 And he's happy too.

00:39:12.220 Isn't it crazy when you're obsessed with women.

00:39:14.120 And then you like make them feel like that.

00:39:16.240 Yeah.

00:39:16.520 And like how well you get treated.

00:39:18.260 Yeah.

00:39:18.440 And when you do that from a genuine place of like admiration and love for women.

00:39:21.440 Yeah.

00:39:21.780 Because one thing about a man's. 0.89

00:39:23.880 Here's a thing about a man's.

00:39:25.480 Okay.

00:39:26.060 And I don't even know men's.

00:39:27.560 But I'll tell you a thing about a man's.

00:39:29.060 Is that they will only seek validation and respect and admiration from other men.

00:39:34.800 There you go.

00:39:35.280 And likewise they'll only give respect, validation and admiration for other men.

00:39:39.560 Yep.

00:39:40.260 That is giving something that I'm not even going to say.

00:39:43.980 Because you guys can put two and two together.

00:39:45.500 Yeah.

00:39:45.820 I mean.

00:39:46.280 The only thing you like women for is like what they can give you physically. 1.00

00:39:51.560 Mm-hmm.

00:39:52.520 I don't think you like them very much.

00:39:53.820 I don't think you like them very much.

00:39:55.080 Not as people or as humans.

00:39:56.300 Yeah.

00:39:56.540 You like them more as objects and that's more of a.

00:39:59.620 That's a.

00:40:00.220 Problem that I think you take serious enough.

00:40:02.180 Yeah.

00:40:02.780 That's giving a whole other thing.

00:40:04.740 Yeah.

00:40:05.020 The way that like when they perpetuate this idea that simp behavior is like bad.

00:40:10.900 Right.

00:40:11.200 I always think you're alone.

00:40:13.780 Right.

00:40:14.380 It's so it's bad to be in love with your woman. 0.98

00:40:18.060 It's bad to like be loved and give love.

00:40:21.100 Right.

00:40:21.780 Ooh.

00:40:22.220 I don't really know.

00:40:23.100 Sounds like someone who's never had love.

00:40:24.220 Obviously we're doing things wrong.

00:40:25.480 Yeah.

00:40:26.020 By that logic.

00:40:26.740 I should be.

00:40:27.160 And I and I always say you know what exactly would he have to be sad about because sometimes

00:40:33.900 they're like I feel sorry for him when because they'll assume I don't have a boyfriend or

00:40:38.180 a man of any kind and then they'll say they feel yeah that's him.

00:40:43.300 There he is.

00:40:43.860 Eli.

00:40:44.460 So I was thinking as a lesbian right when I first stepped into the rainbow and I started

00:40:51.680 dating women I was like okay one of us boy one of us girl we are here you know because

00:40:58.640 I feel like for a lot of people like you have to unlearn yeah because like what you're taught

00:41:03.140 is hetero right and you're taught man do this woman do this and I feel like when I entered 0.81

00:41:07.520 a lesbian relationship if I was dating like a femme girl I was like okay obviously I'm 0.84

00:41:11.800 masked now and then I would pick up the pieces of what I thought a man would do in the relationship

00:41:17.360 but like that's not what I organically would do right and it's not saying I'd give her

00:41:22.080 the woman gender roles because I would do both but I'm like this is exhausting and I feel

00:41:26.180 like there's a lot of unlearning that we all need to do in order to like actually have a

00:41:29.940 healthy relationship because like even in like a lesbian dynamic like where we're obviously 1.00

00:41:34.520 both like equals a lot of people especially if you've never been in a relationship like

00:41:39.860 that or like say in the past you previously dated only men and now you're dating women

00:41:42.960 yeah like you're kind of used to a certain dynamic and it's actually crazy how pervasive

00:41:47.140 these gender roles are in most relationships like such a good point you know like because 1.00

00:41:51.220 even like as a lesbian I'm thinking like oh this is what you have to do in the relationship

00:41:55.400 you know what I mean and then it took like many relationships for me to realize like oh I

00:41:59.400 don't have to provide yeah I don't have to do that because we can both provide like oh we

00:42:04.060 can both cook we can both do this we could both do that and like now like the dynamic is

00:42:08.860 completely you know finally at equilibrium yeah and like I just asked I asked my girlfriend

00:42:13.820 I'm like what chores do you like she's like I like doing the laundry and doing the dishes 1.00

00:42:17.180 I'm like I hate those things do it I'll do the rest you know what I mean perfect yeah so literally

00:42:22.200 yeah I agree I think even in heterosexual relationships too there's a lot of like like you said imbalance

00:42:30.500 because you're taught a certain way especially raised within patriarchy right so you're led to

00:42:35.880 believe certain things and then when you enter a relationship with another person it's so

00:42:40.800 different like right being being by yourself and thinking what you think relationships will be like

00:42:45.580 right and then actually being in a relationship yeah it's whiplash it truly is it's yeah it's a jump

00:42:51.380 scare and at some points but I feel like certain aspects of like heteronormativity is that like

00:42:57.320 you don't talk about only the woman talks about her feelings the man never does like I was having

00:43:02.640 this conversation with this incel the other day I didn't know he was an incel I was just having a

00:43:06.120 conversation with this man because he was dressed cool I was like he's not an incel he was he was

00:43:10.440 like like you said they're blending yeah they're masking the way that society they're blending literally

00:43:16.500 and then basically like this man's was like yeah well you know like everyone withholds something in

00:43:22.220 relationship like the men withhold the emotional and the women withhold the physical so you know it's an

00:43:27.840 exchange so when she so basically when she gives up the physical then I have nothing to go for

00:43:32.560 anymore and I was like well if it's an exchange then wouldn't you give up the emotional when she

00:43:37.820 gives you the physical and he was like no and I was like no so by that logic how does that told me

00:43:43.680 so that's what I'm saying I was like that doesn't go with my evidence no that would make it equal and

00:43:49.680 that's not how it's supposed to be and I was like so against your own logic like it's not an exchange

00:43:53.900 then is it it's like you're bartering it sounds like a robbery it sounds like a robbery yeah I

00:43:59.440 I think that's so even when they say like it's the physical and she won't give it up

00:44:05.320 doesn't that sound like a problem if she doesn't want to partake in physical interaction with you 1.00

00:44:10.440 right at what point do you go maybe it's me right maybe it is me maybe but I also I'm repulsive and

00:44:17.100 that's why she doesn't want to do right but you know what's so nuts too in general like the psyche 0.95

00:44:21.740 for anyone like men women non-binary folks anyone yeah the psyche is a powerful thing because she 0.58

00:44:27.180 can convince you any damn thing that's she's like you know she's convinced me I'm perfect and I'm like

00:44:31.300 okay nice but like for a lot of people like it's hard to be put against your psyche to like ask yourself 0.91

00:44:38.000 to like be like well what's actually wrong with me because that's a really hurtful process for

00:44:42.300 yourself and we all want to love ourselves like let's be honest yeah so like if you could just ignore

00:44:46.920 that you could love yourself forever but like but then like what kind of sometimes you have to

00:44:51.820 hate yourself I'm sick of this love yourself mantra I'm like let me hate for a second sometimes because

00:44:57.340 I need to come back exactly it's a cycle because then when you hate yourself for a second you're

00:45:01.400 like I hate this about me yeah then you can fix it and then you go back to loving yourself yeah and

00:45:04.780 then you find something else it's like I say that too I'm like self-awareness self-confidence is

00:45:10.260 important but self-awareness is essential that's essential to exist within a society where you're

00:45:15.160 contributing member of it right you need to be self-aware to some extent right and there's some

00:45:19.780 things that you can just let go yeah like absolutely gender roles is one of them right free yourself

00:45:24.720 right is what I always say I think too like with men especially like specifically with my boyfriend

00:45:30.820 we talk about like when we have issues or we argue or we have any sort of conflict we always like

00:45:38.160 talk to each other about it after like we're like okay this is like he tells me how he felt and then

00:45:44.340 I tell him how he how I felt and then we kind of move on from there but like in the beginning he

00:45:49.340 healthy communication is essential but I I think too in the beginning he would think this is another

00:45:57.720 thing like this is a gender thing with heterosexual relationships where men will say things and they 0.91

00:46:06.340 don't understand tonality or how inflection and how that can bear weight on what you say right so it's

00:46:12.700 like you know men always make fun of women for saying things like it's not what you said it's how

00:46:16.000 you said it right but that's true that's what I'm saying I it's true like everything and I and I

00:46:21.760 explained it to him once I was like because he's never been rude to me he's never been mean to me

00:46:26.200 but the thing sometimes he'll say things and I'm like what was that supposed to mean right and so

00:46:31.340 I'll tell him it's like I learned this from my sister who's also a lesbian slay right she told 1.00

00:46:38.700 me about intention versus impact so I've taught him that the true gay agenda that is which I am

00:46:45.220 ever heard I am pushing we are buying if you want to buy into the gay agenda purchase now at 555 0.98

00:46:50.740 and I tell him like when you say things intent doesn't matter impact is what matters right how

00:46:57.120 it impacted me so true bestie even though I know and I told him too I'm like I'll just tell you this

00:47:01.740 I know you're never trying to hurt me right because sometimes they get upset because they're like

00:47:06.580 that's not even what I said right I'm not I never always leave with that too yeah I'm like I know

00:47:11.700 you're not mean I know that your intention wasn't to be hurtful yeah but in the way I felt when you

00:47:18.580 said that yeah made me feel as though yeah it's all about wording it is and then you you talk them

00:47:25.280 through it and then he understands now so well that he'll tell me he'll be like well you didn't hurt

00:47:31.580 it's not that it's like the way that it impacted me I'm well not him not him using the terminology

00:47:36.540 not him gaining too much information he has too much intel he's too far behind enemy lines yeah

00:47:42.280 he's grows stronger every day with the information but that makes him a wonderful partner right then

00:47:48.320 we're able to communicate when we have problems issues or anything and then at the end of any

00:47:53.380 altercation fight whatever we have we always say sorry to each other no matter who started it right

00:47:58.320 whose faults it is my partner and I always say yeah we always say sorry to each other because

00:48:01.840 you both did something bad right no matter what both people are hurt about something yeah and that's

00:48:06.540 like that's what I'm saying that's a beautiful thing right to have in any relationship no matter

00:48:11.300 what it is right communication is essential right and men try to say that like it's such a girl thing

00:48:16.900 to talk about and it's like terrible dudes and also I feel like the way that so like I had an era

00:48:23.960 where like I was having a really hard time finding lesbians and like basically everyone I did was bi 0.81

00:48:28.140 and I was like one of like their first like gay experiences and to which like they would be like 0.54

00:48:33.020 I would do the bare minimum I would just be like how was your day how are you feeling about that 0.89

00:48:38.200 and they'd be like wow you're a gent like you're crazy and like I'd be like I don't understand like 0.99

00:48:46.060 why this is a big deal or like you get them flowers and they're like oh my god yeah the way that the 0.99

00:48:50.660 bars in hell the bars in hell like lesbians have it like you know if we're dating from like the other 1.00

00:48:56.000 side it's like we have it really amazing over there no truly I I think we're just picking up 0.97

00:49:02.360 the pieces and they're never going back to that side and then you think to yourself I was just like

00:49:08.200 a decent I was a nice person right and I was I listened and they're like this is the best

00:49:13.860 relationship I've ever had sometimes nice guys do finish first I'll say that and that's and that's

00:49:19.260 sad yeah that is really sad so so sad for women that they feel so unheard and so invalidated that

00:49:27.460 the first relationship they have that's at one step outside of heteronormativity they're finally

00:49:33.380 being treated the way they deserve right and then they get that and I've had it where it's like people

00:49:37.660 are so uncomfortable with like that form of treatment that it almost like levels down the

00:49:42.780 romantic into something akin to friendship this has happened to me where it's like now it's bestie

00:49:47.280 vibes because I treat you so well and they're like oh my god we're friends and I'm like I'm trying

00:49:52.020 to court you but um no no no I want you to kiss me yeah I was like literally kiss me on the lips

00:49:56.960 right this second um but yeah I think it's really interesting too like I've had this um one girl that

00:50:03.000 I dated she like basically had a full-blown breakdown because like I asked her about like her boundaries 0.91

00:50:08.180 and like because we got into like a mini tiff yeah and then because of something that I did I didn't

00:50:13.140 know that it was hurtful to her and then I was basically like well do you want to communicate your

00:50:17.160 boundaries to me so that way I can respect them and I can like know how to move forward in a

00:50:20.340 relationship and she just started crying and she's like I thought you were gonna break up I was like 1.00

00:50:24.960 literally girly pop no like what just tell me what's the matter yeah you know that's so sad that's

00:50:31.920 so sad and that's why I think it's so important what's going on over there no truly that's why it's

00:50:36.660 important though in a in like a broader spectrum to have creators like you because then people can see

00:50:42.900 people like you and feel like okay that's what I want and that's like how I feel and then there

00:50:48.860 are other people like me out there who exist and I don't have to like settle for all this right 0.99

00:50:53.760 garbage garbage flaming hot garbage no truly garbage rat so this next video uh is a video of a lesbian 1.00

00:51:04.840 woman with text saying talking shit about how trash heterosexual relationships are only want a sprinkle 1.00

00:51:10.840 of heteronormative roles in my lesbian relationship so basically she says that they're trash heteronormative 1.00

00:51:21.060 relationships but she only wants a little bit sprinkled on her gay relationships what sprinkles 1.00

00:51:26.600 I don't think she I think she doesn't specify she doesn't specify um someone's like a sprinkle never

00:51:33.200 hurt anybody I hadn't pumped gas in so long that I almost forgot how to do it

00:51:37.360 I feel that I feel that it's not the same thing but my dad pumped my gas till I was like

00:51:43.660 going to college so there are some things that my father Larry is responsible for but that's just

00:51:49.140 that does not go into my homosexual relationship that in that sense I have I will have like a gay 0.80

00:51:54.720 man do it yeah and I'll be like go yeah and they're like oh my god there you go you know I feel like I

00:52:01.380 don't want a single sliver yeah unless it's like me a lesbian calling my lesbian partner my husband 0.99

00:52:06.860 that's the only thing because that you're willing to let him know yeah exactly because like I feel

00:52:11.920 like a homo relationship with sprinkles of hetero it's almost camp because it's like oh my god we're 0.84

00:52:18.760 so it's a performance like we're just we're just it's a bit you know what I mean yeah like this one 0.98

00:52:24.500 says because I'm not touching the trash boyfriend girlfriend I don't care who right I feel that I don't I 0.70

00:52:30.680 don't do the trash yeah this is for real let me pay your bills but cuddle me at night though 0.64

00:52:35.380 good deal I feel that that's I mean that's fair like yeah that's I think this is yeah I think they

00:52:42.940 want to be the little spoon yeah I'm a little spoon my boyfriend's been a little spoon yeah I'll come

00:52:48.260 out and I'll say it like I am a little spoon and like I feel like a lot of little spoons out there

00:52:52.040 are scared to say like who they are and like to come forward because I think people think little

00:52:57.440 little bad yeah big good big mask be a little guy sometimes okay and like I a self-identified

00:53:05.060 little guy I feel like sometimes like I feel shame about being so little but when I'm in that little

00:53:11.940 spoon and you feel the weight of that big spoon I'm like I've never felt safer in my life and I will

00:53:18.320 die on that hill and that's fair and I think if you guys are out there you're watching and you

00:53:22.540 are a little spoon just know like it's okay to be who you are little look at me little and spoon

00:53:29.220 I'm little and I'm spoon and I'm a little spoon I I'm the big spoon sometimes too and I think it's

00:53:36.320 important that people have someone to look up to I feel like spoon and you know what I think too

00:53:41.380 when you're whether you're little or big spoon as long as you end up on opposite sides that's all

00:53:46.580 that matters and sometimes you might be the little one and that's what's beautiful about humans is that

00:53:51.080 we're always changing if I'm big sometimes there's no rules yeah it's a surprise there's no rules and

00:53:56.340 I think that we need to apply the rules of spoons to the general relationship that's a beautiful now

00:54:01.320 to end on that is what do you want people to know about gender roles whether in relationship whether 0.87

00:54:07.760 they're homosexual or heterosexual or anything in between we just make up any damn thing truly and

00:54:14.400 like honestly if you just like let yourself exist outside just tell yourself you don't have a gender for 0.66

00:54:19.420 like five minutes and just go well what would I do now and go do that thing it's really that simple

00:54:24.200 it's really that simple and it's freeing it's freeing like I'm dressed like this I don't have

00:54:28.140 a gender you might think I'm a girl I'm not there you go release yourself package can we can we I'm

00:54:33.060 kidding release yourselves from the shackles of heteronormativity I promise it will be

00:54:38.780 so much more like your life will just open up and you'll read a book many things make bread

00:54:43.800 yeah yeah I want to see a man crocheting tag me in your video thank you so much for watching this

00:54:51.280 episode with us and thank you so much to heena for joining me today I adore you thank you drew I

00:54:56.880 would die for you and you know that oh api apis forever for life where can everybody find you

00:55:02.320 um you can find me online somewhere I'm kidding um so on tiktok it's at heena and then at kate

00:55:08.280 subs on all other platforms love probably somewhere here perfect thank you all so much

00:55:14.420 for joining me on this episode of the comment section show thank you to my wonderful guest

00:55:18.300 heena and for those of you who want to watch full episodes make sure you subscribe to the

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The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - September 07, 2022

WE JUST HANG OUT AND SLAY ｜ Drew Afualo ft. Hina ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION EP 30

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