The Golden One - Avoid This Mistake as a Father

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00:01:12.040 hand this is to fathers and fathers to be a heads up something you should absolutely

00:01:18.840 avoid something I've seen happen far too often and something that I know

00:01:23.340 malicious forces they are only too happy to see when it happens so first and

00:01:29.800 foremost we can look at the mainstream culture over the last few decades how a

00:01:36.940 father is being presented or rather how a dad is presented so if you look at so if

00:01:42.620 you look at the archetype of the dad over the last few decades in slop culture in pop culture 0.97

00:01:48.780 you see him as a bumbling fool the butt of any joke someone who doesn't have 0.96

00:01:54.120 anything really going for him someone who sits at the sofa drinking beer looking at 0.99

00:01:59.280 sports ball this is the archetype of the father today and then the mother is the

00:02:04.540 one who has everything under control she is the moral pillar of the family now if

00:02:10.200 you go back 50 years and backwards in previous centuries also the father was in

00:02:16.920 culture in literature etc he was a figure of authority of stoic calm someone you

00:02:23.980 came to for knowledge someone you always listen to someone who had things under

00:02:29.940 control so this tells us quite a bit of what we want to be now as well no this

00:02:36.060 isn't actually the main point of this video I just wanted to have that said so

00:02:39.900 you keep it in mind going forward as well as as a father that you can choose

00:02:45.480 yourself what sort of cultural example you're looking at so don't identify as a

00:02:50.940 dad don't ever identify as you know the the modern archetype of a dad I don't

00:02:56.520 think most of you do but I'm just saying it for good measure so I have it said as a

00:03:00.000 disclaimer now anyway something I've seen and this is the what you absolutely need

00:03:05.100 to avoid is to become complacent is to stop your own journey upwards and onwards

00:03:12.060 because as a man as a young man you have dreams ambitions you have goals you are

00:03:17.400 going upwards and onwards and this is something you must absolutely never stop

00:03:22.860 doing so you might think becoming a father that's the end of your journey as

00:03:27.960 a as a man as a person that when you become a husband and father your own

00:03:32.340 ambitions they are sort of put on hold they're taking the the backseat and now

00:03:38.060 you're only ever focusing on being a husband and a father and this is a bit

00:03:43.760 counterintuitive as well because if you want to be a good husband first and

00:03:47.060 foremost you have to think that your wife she didn't marry a castrated house cat

00:03:54.380 she married a tiger she wants to continue to be married to a tiger she does not

00:03:59.120 want the castrated house cat who is complacent in that regard she wants to be 1.00

00:04:03.980 taken on a journey on an adventure she wants to continue on your journey being

00:04:09.620 the first mate you are the captain of the ship and the ship goes upwards and

00:04:14.060 onwards you need to keep going on the ship otherwise yeah you will become not so

00:04:19.920 attractive to put it in that way same thing for your children they probably do

00:04:25.520 want a father who is you know high thumos still who still has an ambition a joy for

00:04:31.460 life so that is something you can keep in mind as well and now when we're talking

00:04:35.300 about in practical terms yes you will if you have you know children you will have

00:04:40.680 less time for your own endeavors absolutely you do need to take care of

00:04:44.480 your children I do spend a lot of time with my own children so this is more of a

00:04:48.680 mental attitude to life so the last thing you want to do is to have an attitude

00:04:54.080 that says that the journey ends you need to have an attitude that says the

00:04:58.960 journey continues it's just that now I have a family to to bring along on the

00:05:03.940 journey on the ship so you do take care of your children you spend a lot of time

00:05:08.220 with them everything like that you spend a lot of time with your wife but you

00:05:12.400 never forget your own ambitions and goals so this is not only for yourself it's

00:05:16.540 also for your family especially your wife because he doesn't want this

00:05:20.440 archetype of a dad and you know if we're talking about malicious forces behind you

00:05:26.220 know pushing these tropes yeah of course the woman will get sort of tired of that 1.00

00:05:31.440 type of man if he turns if if he transforms into a sloba no one wants to be 1.00

00:05:36.420 married to a sloba no one wants a father who's a sloba and I also know that there 1.00

00:05:41.240 is an excuse made to others but also more treacherously to oneself and I've seen this

00:05:48.540 before I saw it in my youth older guys saying oh you can train a lot now you can be in a

00:05:53.880 good shape now but wait until you have children and wait until you have more

00:05:57.640 job responsibilities so wait until you're married then you will not have this

00:06:01.680 time now I gave them the benefit of the doubt because yeah I didn't know better

00:06:07.020 I didn't know but now I do know with you know a quite hectic life overall two

00:06:12.120 children married I'm still in a good shape if I may be so bold as to say so

00:06:17.160 myself so this is the shape I mean now not the same demigod like shape I was in 1.00

00:06:22.760 back in the day but still a decent shape and I get by with four days a week in

00:06:27.760 the gym training for an hour so we're not talking about two hours in the gym

00:06:31.740 every day and spending no time with your children at all it's about still

00:06:36.320 continuing the journey but also recognizing the fact that you don't have

00:06:39.720 as much time but that should never be an excuse to you know not pursue your own

00:06:44.940 goals so especially if you're a younger guy sometimes I have younger guys they

00:06:49.580 they say to me you know what my girlfriend she got pregnant we aren't 1.00

00:06:53.600 really ready or anything like that there are many things I would still like to do

00:06:56.860 in life but this is especially for you guys that you life doesn't end just

00:07:02.920 because you have children you can still continue along your journey yes you will

00:07:06.360 not be as free as you were as a bachelor but still you can still continue the

00:07:11.560 along the path of enlightenment and glory especially if you're looking at this you

00:07:17.500 know adventurous normans in the middle ages or whatever they might have been

00:07:21.820 they all had children also they continued their path to glory well into

00:07:27.620 their you know later years and you can look at someone like Trump he is something

00:07:32.280 like 80 he's still pushing a really high pace he's setting the pace every single

00:07:36.480 day to pursue his goals so if you want you know some motivation look at a man like

00:07:41.820 that father husband maybe not the best you know family man in that sense but still

00:07:47.940 someone who has you know kept a high pace over all of these years and also

00:07:52.680 something to said if you are a father you also need to be a good role model to

00:07:57.500 younger guys because I can sort of understand these younger guys they're

00:08:00.820 looking at a 30s something man he has become a father and he starts to

00:08:06.920 deteriorate he stops going to the gym he stops being active in active in life

00:08:12.300 simply put he's only ever you know spending time with children all his life

00:08:16.580 is revolving around children it's not an appealing prospect for a younger man so

00:08:21.060 yes I sort of understand these younger guys they look at older guys who have

00:08:26.200 become fathers and they say I don't know if this is quite for me because after all

00:08:30.860 you don't want to be said the aforementioned castrated house cat you still

00:08:35.520 want to be a tiger so here I am to tell you that you can still be a tiger not

00:08:40.260 with as much time perhaps but as long as you still keep the mindset of being on a

00:08:45.780 journey all will be well so it's actually more of a mental thing than a practical

00:08:50.880 thing because again you will need to spend time and energy on on family life

00:08:54.960 but when you forget your own journey then you will suffer yourself you will let

00:09:01.720 your family suffer as well because they again you you want as a child you want a father who is

00:09:07.580 someone who's embracing life as a wife you want a high thumos man not a passive man

00:09:13.520 so again you can look at the the hollywood trope of a dad of a slobba dad that is the nightmare for a

00:09:21.620 wife she doesn't want that so you might think you're doing her a favor by you know skipping the gym or

00:09:27.080 skipping MMA training to be to relax on the sofa that might be nice to her in the short run but in 0.65

00:09:33.420 the long run it's actually to betray your wife to get out of shape it's to betray your wife because

00:09:39.000 she didn't sign up for that so anyway to conclude you can still be a sensitive young man you can still

00:09:44.200 pursue your ambitions it's just that you have additional responsibilities and you will simply have

00:09:51.600 to bring your family along on the adventure of your life which it can also still be so anyway

00:09:58.860 to conclude again it's a mental attitude your self-perception how you view yourself do you view

00:10:07.500 yourself as now you are a dad or do you view yourself still as a neo-norman high thumos sensitive young

00:10:16.680 man that is still you know on the make you're going upwards and onwards so it's all in your mind

00:10:22.140 it's all in your mind how you would like to define yourself define your life define your perspectives on

00:10:28.900 life so anyway i hope that was motivating and insightful so that said do head over to legiogloria.com

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The Golden One - November 06, 2025

Avoid This Mistake as a Father

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