The Golden One - I Was Called an Incel – Is It Over？

00:00:00.480 I was called an incel.

00:00:02.520 Is it over?

00:00:03.420 You might ask.

00:00:04.420 Well, we will figure it all out in this fine video.

00:00:08.560 So for those of you who don't know, perhaps you're new to the channel, if so, a warm welcome.

00:00:15.400 Now I am actually married and I do have children, so I found it quite funny indeed to be called

00:00:22.800 such a thing.

00:00:23.800 Now, at a first glance it might just be an insult, but it actually reveals something

00:00:29.320 quite interesting in regard to deep psychology.

00:00:32.860 So I thought to share a few thoughts in this video.

00:00:37.360 Now incel is a term used mainly by individuals who operate within a different value system.

00:00:48.840 So I will introduce the value system of a man of honor, so my own value system, which is

00:00:53.700 also the traditional value system that any sane society, so no matter where you are in

00:01:00.140 the world, men have operated with this value system.

00:01:04.380 And that value system determines a man's worth based on a few different criteria.

00:01:09.240 So for me, when I judge a man, I judge him upon his competence, his ability to keep his word,

00:01:16.920 that he never lies, that he takes responsibility.

00:01:20.020 So responsibility, that is manliness in one simple word, responsibility.

00:01:25.160 So that is a traditional way for men to judge each other.

00:01:29.080 So we can call that value system number one.

00:01:32.060 And this also goes into female attraction for men. 0.97

00:01:36.120 So if you have a well-adjusted woman who's grown up with a good, stable, respectable father, 0.69

00:01:41.200 she will also judge potential mates according to these criteria.

00:01:45.600 So she will look at a man, a potential mate, and she will see, okay, this is a beautiful man,

00:01:50.300 he is fit and has, you know, he displays good genetic quality, everything like that.

00:01:55.420 And then she also judges him upon his status among his peers.

00:02:00.260 So what do other men say about this potential mate?

00:02:04.240 What does my father say about this potential mate?

00:02:07.100 Is he a good man?

00:02:08.100 And of course, she should listen to her father because her father knows better, because he's

00:02:12.520 a man, so he knows men better, and he has lived for longer, so he has more experience

00:02:16.860 with judging men.

00:02:18.600 So she will ask him, is this a good man, is this a good match for me?

00:02:22.980 And he will either say, no, you know, this guy, he has been lying, he has been showing

00:02:29.700 up to work late.

00:02:31.580 Now of course, we're talking in a very traditional sense, so I'm painting with a very broad brush

00:02:35.860 here.

00:02:36.860 So take it for what it is, I'm just making an example to explain, to get to my point.

00:02:40.940 So he says either, you know, this is not a dependable man, he is, you know, often late,

00:02:46.060 he doesn't do his job well, and he has been caught lying in the past. 0.93

00:02:50.960 Maybe he is even a coward.

00:02:53.380 Or he says, this is a good man, because he always shows up on time, he always does what

00:02:58.220 he says he will do, he is brave, he is courageous.

00:03:02.320 So then she knows, aha, great, and then she can, you know, make up her mind after that.

00:03:06.980 So she sees one guy, maybe the two guys are equally handsome or whatever, but then she

00:03:11.860 also has to judge them according to their status in the group.

00:03:16.100 So that, we can say, is one value system, and on a personal note as well, when I judge

00:03:20.920 a man if he wants to come into my circle or whatever, I'm not going to judge him based

00:03:26.160 on how sexually attractive women find him.

00:03:30.020 I judge him based on his valour, his honour.

00:03:32.520 Is he a reliable guy?

00:03:34.520 Does he keep his word?

00:03:35.520 All of these things.

00:03:36.520 So that's value system number one.

00:03:38.520 Value system number two then is when we come into these individuals who use incel as an insult.

00:03:44.340 So that is when you base a man's value on how sexually attractive he is for women.

00:03:49.620 Now you can actually have this as a value system in a very chaotic mating environment, so to

00:03:57.680 speak, because we're talking about reproductive strategies here, that you can either get a 0.95

00:04:01.060 female via being a good man, having high status, being respected in your tribe, or you can simply

00:04:07.560 be attractive enough for females.

00:04:10.200 So what these men do when they say incel, they're signalling to women that they listen

00:04:15.220 to women, only the woman side of attraction.

00:04:19.380 So they forego this whole male judging of each other, they forego the good reputation of a

00:04:25.760 man in a male peer group, and only look at is this guy sexually attractive to women, and

00:04:31.600 they base his value on that.

00:04:33.180 So when they call someone an incel, essentially what they're saying is that you are a bad man. 0.74

00:04:38.480 You are a bad man, and they derive that morality from the female sexual selection bereft of 1.00

00:04:46.660 good male influence. 0.94

00:04:48.800 So that is why you have the recipe for chaos right there.

00:04:52.860 So to only let the primal instinct in a woman decide. 0.99

00:04:56.900 So it's not even a fully developed healthy woman's instinct, but it's a cut down instinct in 0.99

00:05:03.080 women who can decide then on the value of a man. 1.00

00:05:06.660 So this can explain why sometimes women who have grown up without a father, they can have

00:05:11.580 a hard time judging what a good man is.

00:05:14.360 So they might look at a bad boy saying he is so masculine and manly, he is so, he might

00:05:19.440 be good looking, he might have a fit physique, he is physically strong, so they only look at

00:05:23.640 that side.

00:05:24.640 They don't have that good male guidance from an older man who knows how men operate. 0.96

00:05:29.520 So then she falls in love with said bad guy, and she's left behind because he's not responsible.

00:05:35.800 He doesn't have any honor, so he leaves her.

00:05:39.240 And yeah, she's alone because he didn't have that good guidance of a man.

00:05:43.080 So when we're talking about the value system which uses incel as an insult, you have total

00:05:48.260 chaos and this is not something you can have in a civilized society.

00:05:52.900 Because if you have that, you will only end up with chaos.

00:05:55.280 So you need to have those metaphysical structures of romance in place, as it were.

00:06:00.800 So a man, he needs to be dependable.

00:06:03.600 So anyway, when a woman says, you know, incel to a man, it basically means, I don't find 0.87

00:06:09.100 you sexually attractive, and that's an insult to hurt someone.

00:06:12.720 It's, you know, it's not nice, and if you're a woman, it's not particularly classy to say 1.00

00:06:17.340 that to a man.

00:06:18.340 If a man says it, if a man calls another man an incel, it only shows that he himself

00:06:22.880 he is not in the value system of real men, he's in the value system of a woman who is 0.51

00:06:29.840 only thinking with the very most primal of her instincts.

00:06:34.420 So a man using incel as an insult, it's not even a full woman. 0.87

00:06:39.340 So it's quite low for a man to say incel to another man, if you think of it in this way.

00:06:44.260 Now, of course, someone might say, oh, you're overanalyzing the situation.

00:06:48.040 And yes, again, I'm painting with a broad brush, I'm not saying that if you've called

00:06:51.180 someone an incel, I'm not saying that you're a bad man.

00:06:54.240 But when you do a deep dive into the psychology behind the term, you will realize that, yes,

00:06:59.860 it's not an insult you should ever use against another man.

00:07:03.960 And especially since, when I'm looking at it, it's so absurd that being an incel would

00:07:09.080 be a cause for criticism.

00:07:12.680 So it only speaks of a very profoundly disturbed worldview.

00:07:17.200 So if you have a good worldview, a good value system, you will judge a man on, again, certain

00:07:23.120 criteria.

00:07:24.120 And an insult then, a true insult from a civilized perspective, from a manly perspective, would 0.94

00:07:29.600 be to call someone a liar or a coward.

00:07:32.480 So those, that is how you can truly insult someone.

00:07:35.640 And also, speaking of which, you shouldn't insult anyone, it's low-class behavior.

00:07:40.680 So for me, personally, I would never insult Andrew Tate.

00:07:43.820 I have said to him, I want to fight you, Andrew Tate.

00:07:46.040 So Andrew, if you watch this, perhaps we can set a date or something.

00:07:50.360 And also, of course, if you watch this again, I know you're in a bit of a, in a bit of trouble

00:07:54.520 now, so perhaps now is not the opportune time.

00:07:56.460 But we can all, we can both stay in shape, so maybe it can happen later on.

00:08:00.200 So anyway, I have no desire whatsoever to insult Andrew Tate, even if I think he has done bad

00:08:05.640 things or if he has said bad things.

00:08:07.380 I simply, I want to fight him.

00:08:09.700 Really simple stuff, really straightforward.

00:08:11.880 So anyway, think of that before you insult someone.

00:08:15.180 Because in a traditional society, insulting someone could get you into trouble.

00:08:18.900 And most of these guys who run their mouths online, they wouldn't be able to back it up

00:08:24.100 in such a scenario, so it speaks quite, doesn't speak well for anyone who uses insults.

00:08:31.080 Now anyway, back to the main topic at hand then.

00:08:33.800 You have two different value systems, and I'm recapping here.

00:08:37.300 One value system, it determines a man's worth and value on a set of criteria.

00:08:42.460 Is he dependable?

00:08:43.460 Is he respectable?

00:08:44.700 Does he keep his word?

00:08:45.700 Is he brave?

00:08:46.700 Does he have capacity, competence, all of these things?

00:08:50.600 And then you will have a good standing in a male group.

00:08:53.000 And then the women, the potential mates, they will see you and they will say, okay, this

00:08:58.340 man, he has a good standing, it means he's a good man.

00:09:01.640 And then of course also the biological factors must be in place.

00:09:04.480 It's perfectly normal for a woman to want a man with genetic qualities.

00:09:09.500 So if she finds him handsome or whatever, it's a good sign.

00:09:12.120 So I'm not saying that you should neglect these factors, you have two factors there.

00:09:17.180 So the social and the biological.

00:09:19.060 The problem more so arises when a woman only looks at the biological side and she sees 1.00

00:09:23.520 a fit guy with thumos, but perhaps he's not a good man because he's a thug or a petty criminal

00:09:29.740 or whatever it might be.

00:09:31.820 Now something else to say about these men, men who use the term incel, it's also a way

00:09:38.400 for them to signal their virtue to women.

00:09:41.920 So they always keep a look on the women, please think I'm good, I'm good because you find 0.87

00:09:47.560 me sexually attractive.

00:09:48.680 And they don't say it directly.

00:09:50.000 They don't say, oh, I'm so sexually attractive, but indirectly they say if they call another

00:09:55.080 man an incel, that automatically means then that they are so sexually attractive.

00:10:00.060 So they can actually gain female attraction and attention and thereby they try to raise their

00:10:04.780 own value for other women. 0.64

00:10:07.240 So it's a very passive, unmanly way to signal your supposed value, but usually it's not the

00:10:13.700 most handsome guys who use the term incel either.

00:10:16.560 It's not the most attractive guys who use this term. 0.76

00:10:18.940 So it becomes even more pathetic when they try to signal to women that, you know, I'm not 0.96

00:10:22.900 like these incels, I am so sexually attractive and popular. 0.98

00:10:26.940 So you can trust me, I'm a good match here because other women think this, but not like

00:10:31.960 these other guys, they're the incels.

00:10:34.360 So yeah, lastly on another personal note, I judge a man, is he a good husband and a father?

00:10:38.760 I don't care how much temporary attraction you will get from females. 1.00

00:10:44.500 It's not where the true gravitas lies, the true gravitas lies in being able to keep a woman 1.00

00:10:50.380 for a long time, especially in this, the current situation where it's quite hard to have a family,

00:10:55.180 it's quite hard to get married because of how many things are structured.

00:10:58.920 So that is the true respect, the true respect is not being able to have one night stands,

00:11:03.780 it doesn't tell you anything.

00:11:05.780 So good stuff, good stuff, hopefully that was informative, insightful, and if you have

00:11:10.540 ever used the term incel, I don't say that you're a bad individual, but I'm saying that

00:11:15.600 meditate on the matter and take these teachings to heart and then you will get a different

00:11:19.860 perspective.

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The Golden One - April 18, 2024

I Was Called an Incel – Is It Over？

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