The Golden One - January 22, 2022


＂INCELS＂

Topics
friendship
Hosted by
Marcus Follin
Mentioned
Mother Nature
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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

141.03

Word count

1,502

Sentence count

133

Harmful content

Misogyny

4

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Toxicity

3

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Hate speech

9

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Summary

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In this episode, I discuss the concept of incels and why you should stop worrying so much about what other people think of you. Instead, you should focus on yourself and your goals and stop worrying about what others think about you.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Greetings my esteemed subscribers. Today I thought to share some of my great wisdom.
00:00:07.000 I thought to chime in to the discussion regarding incels.
00:00:13.000 Now, I'm sure you've seen and heard many guys claiming to be experts on how to be popular among women or how to gain women or whatever it might be.
00:00:29.000 I'm not one of those guys. I will actually tell you to stop thinking about women. 1.00
00:00:35.000 So I'm not gonna talk about how you can be oh so popular with the ladies. I'm gonna talk to you about... 1.00
00:00:42.000 I'm going to recommend you. I'm going to recommend that you stop thinking so much about women.
00:00:49.000 Now, as I said, I'm no Casanova. I don't know the minds of all women. 1.00
00:00:53.000 But I can only suppose that it is supremely unattractive with a man or a young man or a guy who goes around worrying about what women will think of him.
00:01:07.000 Now, before I begin to elaborate on my thoughts, I will say though that you should think about...
00:01:17.000 You should care about what others think of you when it comes to how you present yourself.
00:01:23.000 So be as... Do look as good as possible. Be as well trained as possible. Be well dressed. Be well groomed. Take care of your hygiene.
00:01:32.000 And above all else, make sure to be socially pleasant. Socially skilled. So you have those things in place.
00:01:42.000 But beyond that, if you go around trying to appease women, having that as your goal, to be approved by women, that is a...
00:01:57.000 It's a faulty hierarchy. In a more reasonable and traditional society, you look to the other men of your tribe for approval. 0.92
00:02:08.000 Primarily the older men of the tribe. Those are the ones you want to impress and who you seek approval from.
00:02:18.000 Now, if you seek approval from some loose women, because the women who use the term incel, they aren't... 1.00
00:02:28.000 How shall we put this diplomatically? They aren't perhaps the best of women. They aren't perhaps the women who would make for good wives and mothers. 1.00
00:02:40.000 So, you know, if you get upset by some modern woman calling you an incel, yeah, it's not too much to worry about.
00:02:52.000 So if you go around viewing yourself in that way, that you base your identity upon the fact that you can't gain sexual access to loose women,
00:03:05.000 I mean, that's not a good way to view yourself or to view the world.
00:03:10.000 And I can only suppose that women will pick up on it as well, that they see, okay, this guy, he views me as an authority.
00:03:18.000 And, of course, that's not particularly attractive in terms of hierarchy either.
00:03:23.000 Instead, focus more on my teachings. Focus less on women and more on my teachings. 0.99
00:03:30.000 Some people might say that I'm arrogant, that I have a big ego. I don't have a big ego. I have a big heart.
00:03:37.000 And I care about you. That's why I say it. I want you to have a good and happy life. I don't want you to go around being sad for the fact that you, to use the terminology of the normies, that you aren't getting laid.
00:03:54.000 I try to meet the normies halfway by using their lingo. Anyway, point being, I don't want you to spend or waste time identifying as something that isn't really all too impressive.
00:04:09.000 Now, I've met many impressive men over all these years because of the various situations and contexts I've been in.
00:04:19.000 None of them have cared all too much if they are attractive to women.
00:04:27.000 They have been attractive to women precisely because they haven't thought about it, because they are pursuing their own goals.
00:04:34.000 Because they are concerned with other ideals than what a modern woman will think is sexy in them. 0.98
00:04:44.000 It's unworthy. It's cringe worthy.
00:04:47.000 All men, if you think this way, please stop. I implore you, please stop thinking in these terms.
00:04:54.000 No, in terms of your happiness, your quality of life. Imagine if you are a 23-year-old guy who isn't currently getting any access, sexual access.
00:05:07.000 You can either go around lamenting this fact, thinking about it. Oh, life is so bad. I can't get this.
00:05:16.000 And then if you constantly focus on the things you don't have, yeah, then you will not enjoy life as you should.
00:05:23.000 Instead, if you think this isn't really a concern for me. And yes, I understand it's easy to say that, oh, you shouldn't think about sex or women or whatever.
00:05:32.000 But the strong of you, at least, you can do this. And if you can turn that energy into something productive, then you will prosper.
00:05:42.000 It's ancient knowledge. Ancient esoteric knowledge right here.
00:05:47.000 So anyway, then a few years go by, the 23-year-old guy is suddenly, I don't know, a few years older at least.
00:05:53.000 And he finds someone who will become his wife. Then the problem has been solved. 0.92
00:06:01.000 And he has been happy that he didn't worry all too much about it, but instead that he pursued his own goals. 0.89
00:06:07.000 Now, related to this is a great lie of our modern era, and that is that you need to have sex. 0.87
00:06:16.000 Now, if you are in a loving relationship, it's all good, then of course you should have and enjoy it as a natural part of life.
00:06:24.000 Sex is good. It's something that God, Mother Nature, has given us to enjoy.
00:06:31.000 So this is not some religious life-denying attitude towards sex. This is not what I'm saying.
00:06:40.000 What I'm saying is that if you don't have, if you currently don't have access, sexual access, then don't think,
00:06:49.000 Oh, this is something I really, really need in my life. This is something I must have.
00:06:53.000 Because it's really not. Especially if you know that sooner or later you will have it.
00:06:58.000 So it's not something you worry about. The things you need is to be out in nature, to get some sun, to train, to eat well,
00:07:08.000 to have good friends, good friends, more important. This is perhaps a topic for another video.
00:07:14.000 That instead of focusing so much on women, focus more on how to find friends, how to be a good friend.
00:07:21.000 You need camaraderie. This is perhaps even more important in this day and age when many guys feel alone.
00:07:28.000 Find friends before you start worrying about women.
00:07:31.000 So if you think, oh, I'm missing sexual access in my life, but then you don't have any male friends.
00:07:37.000 Yeah, find friends first. Then you start worrying about things that are farther away in terms of importance.
00:07:45.000 Sex you can have later. You absolutely don't need to have sexual access at this particular moment.
00:07:52.000 Especially not if you're a younger guy. One thing if you get to the age of marriage and having children and stuff like that.
00:08:01.000 It's a different situation. But if someone says to you that if you don't have sexual access at all times, you are bad and you're doing it wrong.
00:08:12.000 It's not true at all. It's nothing impressive by living that sort of lifestyle and it won't make you more impressive.
00:08:20.000 It won't give you more opportunities later on. So keep that in mind.
00:08:25.000 Again, if you believe this lie that as a young man you need to follow your urges and you need to have sexual access. 0.97
00:08:33.000 If you don't, you're bad. If you choose to listen to those people, then it's not good.
00:08:39.000 Instead listen to me always. Listen to me when I say that. Don't worry about it.
00:08:44.000 I'm not saying don't worry about it as some sort of hippie nonsense.
00:08:49.000 I'm saying it because it's true. I'm saying it because I want you to focus on finding friends.
00:08:55.000 Creating yourself into a higher being. Focusing on your own goals.
00:09:01.000 If you want to find happiness as a man, then you have to find a purpose and a quest.
00:09:07.000 And then you spend every waking hour focusing on how to reach your goals.
00:09:11.000 That is your focus. Now to end this video, I will paraphrase a section from Bronze Age Mindset.
00:09:20.000 And that's basically a chimp in nature does not play with himself, so to speak. 1.00
00:09:29.000 Because there is no time. He is too occupied with mastering space, mastering himself.
00:09:37.000 Only a chimp in captivity will do these sort of things.
00:09:42.000 You can view it in the same sense. Both when it comes to touching yourself and to sexual access out of a loving relationship. 0.99
00:09:54.000 You can view it in the same way that those things, they aren't only a waste of time.
00:10:00.000 More importantly, they are a waste of vital energies within you that you can use for a higher purpose.
00:10:09.000 So anyway, something to keep in mind.
00:10:12.000 And yeah, those were my thoughts for today.
00:10:16.000 Thank you for watching. Do read Dauntless. Check out all links in the description box below.
00:10:22.000 Exact. So, BOOM!
00:10:24.000 We'll see you then.