The Golden One - Insights, Wishes, and Aims as a Father of Daughters

00:00:00.000 Greetings my esteemed audience. I'm checking in from a beautiful hyperborea, frozen hyperborea.

00:00:12.180 I'm checking in from the cold with a few insights that will perhaps be useful to you.

00:00:18.320 I don't know. I will say the following as a disclaimer that there are of course men who are

00:00:23.400 more knowledgeable about this topic than I am because my own two beloved girls,

00:00:29.040 my own two beloved cuddle princesses. They are still quite small so I approach this more

00:00:34.160 from the perspective of a humble philosopher. So anyway before I get into the topic at hand

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00:01:29.340 link in the description box below. Now on to the matter at hand. The first question we need to ask

00:01:36.280 ourselves as fathers of daughters is of course what do we want for our daughters? Happiness. Simply put

00:01:44.420 happiness security for them and their children. And in my humble view at least this is again I'm just

00:01:51.140 looking at the world around me and I draw conclusions. I recognize patterns and I see that

00:01:57.240 the women who are happy are the women who have found a good man and who have children. There are

00:02:04.840 women who can't have children. They can pursue a different path. That's a different topic. Now we're 1.00

00:02:09.280 talking about you know in most in most cases it's possible for a woman to to have children to find 1.00

00:02:15.340 a man and yeah create a family and I'd say that is the the heroic path for a woman to find a good man 1.00

00:02:22.180 with potential. The man doesn't need to be perfect when they find each other but she needs to see that

00:02:28.540 potential in the man and then bring out the best in him and then they create a family together grow

00:02:33.820 together as a loving couple. So for a man I will make a video on this later on for a man you have

00:02:41.080 your own path in front of you your own determination and that determination it's more of a metaphysical

00:02:47.540 quality in a man I've talked about it before that will make you attractive to women that you have

00:02:52.520 that firm goal at hand that you strive towards. So for a man the goal is something else but for the

00:02:59.220 woman the goal is to find a good man. Now then as a father your role my role as I view it at least

00:03:06.380 is to be a good point of reference a good point of reference as what a good man is because if I may

00:03:12.760 be so bold to flatter myself and say that I'm a good man I'm a good dependable decent man so what I do

00:03:20.500 is what my girls will look to okay this is how a man is supposed to behave think speak

00:03:27.140 treat others etc and they will most likely and this is something you can observe again pattern

00:03:34.520 recognition you can see that women usually tend to end up with men who resemble their father or you

00:03:44.240 know who who act the same or yeah who are similar in in certain ways and this also leads us to the

00:03:50.720 to the tragedy of many things and that is of course women who grew up without a father and they

00:03:57.680 if you look at bad life outcomes both for men and women it's usually often the case that single 1.00

00:04:04.740 motherhood is it's not good at all so if we know that a single motherhood child is more likely to be 0.76

00:04:12.540 for a man engaged in criminal activities you can look at studies showing this a boy growing up

00:04:19.060 without a father more likely to engage in criminal behavior a woman growing up without a father more

00:04:24.140 likely to engage in promiscuous behavior and criminality for a man and promiscuity for a woman

00:04:28.720 they're sort of the same thing might sound a bit strange but if you think about it it's about

00:04:34.000 not having these boundaries moral boundaries because they haven't grown up with a father who can act as

00:04:40.660 as a as an axis mundi as a as an entity that connects heaven and earth who provides a good

00:04:47.340 moral framework for them to operate within so if you don't have that rock to lean against so you the

00:04:53.180 father you are the rock they can lean against and see this is a correct moral path to take this is a

00:04:59.620 good decision they can lean on you as the the high priest of the household this is how they did it in

00:05:06.080 back in ancient rome by the way that the father of the house the patria familias he was the he was in

00:05:11.820 charge of the religion of the household and i think this is very appropriate for a man to have that 0.99

00:05:17.300 that moral guidance inside of him and that will also yield a nice shield a rock a security for the

00:05:25.820 children and the wife of course that they can lean on him so this leads into the question how to

00:05:32.220 how to act as a man then and for a man a father if you think about it what is an optimal father

00:05:38.280 yeah it's someone who is calm collected confident not someone who's prone to outbursts someone who's

00:05:47.280 knowledgeable someone who knows the correct way someone who knows the way simply put and someone

00:05:54.120 who does the right thing so if you think of yourself a lot that what you do how you act how you are

00:06:01.440 that will directly impact the the type of man your daughter will find because it's usually the 1.00

00:06:07.620 case again the the type of man you are is likely the type of man that you your daughter will be drawn

00:06:14.760 to so you can decide for yourself what kind of man do i want my daughter to be attracted to

00:06:20.280 yeah then you are that man yourself because if you look at again pattern recognition you see that

00:06:25.600 often i'm not saying always i'm not saying always in any of these situations there are also women 0.99

00:06:31.120 men and women who have grown up without a father but they turn out all right plenty of exceptions

00:06:36.700 but the the pattern of it the pattern of it is that a woman growing up without a father or a weak father

00:06:43.240 she will have a worse life outcome this is a pattern it's not every time i'm generalizing here

00:06:49.320 we need to do it when we talk about this matters same thing with a boy i'm not saying that all men

00:06:55.740 growing up without a father i'm saying that there is a pattern and i'm saying that single motherhood

00:07:00.160 is is bad so we can see that okay if the father isn't there it's bad if the father is weak or

00:07:06.320 unreliable or bad yeah it's also bad so then we know that we as fathers we need to be good men

00:07:11.920 because that will increase the likelihood of a good life outcome for our for daughters and sons of

00:07:18.340 course so that being said the importance of a father to take care of himself to be completely

00:07:24.860 in control of himself to not be prone to emotional outbursts anything like that easier said than done

00:07:31.700 but it gets easier the older you get and the more experience you have easier with a second child by

00:07:36.480 the way a lot of new learning experiences with the first child of course completely natural and you

00:07:41.540 shouldn't beat yourself up if you if you get frustrated um or irritated every once in a while

00:07:46.520 but do try to you know subdue that urge and do try to be calm at all times and uh yeah you will have

00:07:53.720 that calming presence so a patient parent is a calm child so now we have reached the point of the video

00:08:00.880 where i say the things i always say you can probably guess what i'm gonna say next and that is of course

00:08:07.480 that you need to hit the iron you need to get as well trained as possible because if you see if you

00:08:14.380 look at modern culture if you look at a hollywood production the father is basically always portrayed 1.00

00:08:20.960 as a slouch with a big belly and he is out of shape and he is foolish and stupid and only interested in 1.00

00:08:28.120 sitting at the sofa watching sports so then you also know that this is something this is the opposite 1.00

00:08:33.620 of what you want to be so if you are fit yourself again then your daughter will look at okay this is

00:08:40.820 a how a man is supposed to look like and you all know the holistic reasons if you go to the gym you

00:08:46.980 take care of yourself comes with a whole host of positive health benefits so it's not only about

00:08:53.360 looking jacked it's about everything basically you all know this is familiar to you because i've said

00:09:01.640 it so many times before the holistic nature of gym training or martial arts or similar matters 0.93

00:09:09.140 so anyway if you look at these weak fathers these foolish fathers then it might also be the case that 0.94

00:09:15.700 a young girl she's looking for approval someplace else because she doesn't respect the father because he's 0.98

00:09:22.900 a lazy slouch who doesn't have that drive but if you are a paterfamilias with some gravitas then she 1.00

00:09:31.100 can look at you and say okay this is what a good man is so very important for you as a father and this

00:09:37.780 is me speaking to myself by the way me speaking to myself saying what my own goals and ambitions as a

00:09:44.380 father of daughters might be and that is to be a good man myself first so i don't want to let myself go

00:09:50.760 in any way i want to be a the axis mundi the constant rock they can lean upon so they feel

00:09:59.260 comfortable and at least and they must of course always trust me and know that i'm a reliable man

00:10:04.540 so therefore you can never be drunk for example you shouldn't drink alcohol anyway of course but i'm

00:10:09.360 saying that you shouldn't be ever be seen as unreliable so to recap my thoughts on this fine day

00:10:17.320 your main mission is for your daughters for your daughter to become happy to find a good man she 1.00

00:10:26.960 can be happy with to create a family and of course if you have a daughter who finds herself a good man

00:10:33.360 that will also be good for their children in turn so she wants to find a man who will become a good

00:10:38.720 father that is the key and then you also need to show because i know there is a lot on the internet

00:10:45.780 discussions about women liking bad boys etc well if they only have two options a bad boy who is

00:10:54.520 irresponsible but he at least has some fumos if that is being presented as one alternative and then 0.98

00:11:01.780 you have a dork a dork who isn't capable of anything yeah then it's no wonder they will choose 0.97

00:11:07.060 the um the bad boy but then you have a third option and that is to be a stable paterfamilias someone who is 0.99

00:11:15.440 um a cultured thug you can say someone who is both stable and you know who possesses that

00:11:23.800 primordial force within him so you need to hit the gym hard that is what i want to say

00:11:30.340 and of course be responsible and as sharp and as good in as many ways as possible and that will

00:11:37.580 reflect upon you so if you're worried about the future which is normal to be by the way you should

00:11:42.500 know that you can influence the future by your actions here in the now now on a last note how to

00:11:48.980 behave with your girls i can only say how i behave with my girls at the moment and that is to be as

00:11:56.240 loving kind cuddly as possible and give them a lot of compliments saying that they are my beautiful

00:12:03.260 princesses and everything like that so you can be as loving as possible that's also very important

00:12:10.360 because after all you want your um you want your son-in-law to become loving as well to to their

00:12:18.220 children and of course you should be you should be loving to your children uh for your sons as well

00:12:23.480 of course uh simple stuff really and it's it comes quite natural to be loving and cuddly and kind

00:12:29.640 and now lastly as i've said before view it as a learning experience everything and uh yeah try to

00:12:35.600 just get better and more calm and confident for each passing day and you will prosper as a father

00:12:41.660 so good stuff good stuff thanks for watching do check out all the links in the description box below

00:12:47.520 and i will see you in the next video exact so boom

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The Golden One - February 10, 2024

Insights, Wishes, and Aims as a Father of Daughters

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