The Golden One - September 22, 2015


Paternal and Maternal Rolemodels. Why Fathers Are Needed


Episode Stats

Length

5 minutes

Words per Minute

181.25

Word Count

1,015

Sentence Count

100

Misogynist Sentences

3

Hate Speech Sentences

2


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Greetings, true friends. Today I want to elaborate a bit on something I've touched on on numerous occasions before, and that is regarding if you listen to others.
00:00:10.000 Now the first key is, do they want the best for you? And in the case of most mothers and fathers, the answer is yes.
00:00:18.000 And then the secondary question becomes, do they know what is up?
00:00:24.000 And now, this video, I also want to take a stab at feminism and the notion that a child could grow up without a modern father.
00:00:32.000 Now, I'm not taking any stab at anyone who has grown up without a father. It's not your fault.
00:00:37.000 But I also want to aware as many people as possible of the dangers of growing up without a father.
00:00:43.000 Because as a child, when you listen to, you know, voices of authority, like a maternal one and a paternal one, a masculine and feminine,
00:00:51.000 it's really important that you have the masculine voice as a countercurrent towards the feminine one.
00:00:58.000 Because if you only listen to your mother, if I had only a mother growing up, like, my mother is really protective, even to this day.
00:01:05.000 And I've said to her, like, don't you see how fucking massive and juicy I am?
00:01:09.000 And she's like, oh, you know, I can see it with my eyes and my brain understands it.
00:01:13.000 But in my heart, you're still just a little bear cub that I have to protect.
00:01:17.000 And that is, of course, very sweet of her.
00:01:19.000 And I think the maternal instinct is one of the most beautiful things in nature.
00:01:24.000 But realize that it can be detrimental to you as a man as well.
00:01:28.000 If you have that sort of overprotective feminine quality that hovers over you without a masculine voice saying, like, oh, you know, you need to be pushed out in the world to hurt yourself a bit to grow as a man.
00:01:41.000 Like, and to take my upbringing as an example, I had a glorious brother also, and we wrestled a lot.
00:01:47.000 We, you know, were adventurous as boys are.
00:01:50.000 I don't know nowadays with most guys, with most children are in by the computer all the time.
00:01:54.000 But either way, when I was small, out climbing trees, doing that sort of things.
00:01:59.000 And my mother also was protective back then.
00:02:03.000 And, you know, when we wrestled, she wasn't all too happy about it.
00:02:06.000 But her father said, like, you know, they're boys, let them be boys.
00:02:09.000 And he, as a man, knew this.
00:02:11.000 And she, as a woman, did not know this.
00:02:13.000 Because she's a woman, so she can't really understand when two boys are wrestling.
00:02:18.000 It doesn't matter if someone stands on the side and tells them to stop.
00:02:20.000 Because it's biological when two guys engage in a competition.
00:02:24.000 It is not something that can be controlled from the outside.
00:02:27.000 My father knew that and, you know, said, you know, this is cool.
00:02:30.000 It is natural.
00:02:31.000 And also to engage in, you know, dangerous activities.
00:02:34.000 I mean, you could fall down from a tree and break a limb.
00:02:37.000 But hey-ho, then you learn to be more careful next time.
00:02:41.000 Whereas a mother perhaps would say that in the beginning that you shouldn't climb the tree in the first place.
00:02:45.000 And then, you know, shelter them so much that they don't experience those sort of things at all.
00:02:50.000 Same thing when you grow up.
00:02:52.000 Like, if you want to participate in, you know, some sort of martial arts.
00:02:55.000 Take a few hits to the face.
00:02:57.000 And you have a mother that tries to protect you so much that you...
00:03:01.000 And she wants to protect you the entire life.
00:03:03.000 And then you don't go out of that comfort zone.
00:03:05.000 And this is also the case with a lot of guys growing up without a father.
00:03:10.000 That their mother becomes overprotective for so long that they become dependent on her.
00:03:16.000 And don't step out.
00:03:17.000 Like, a father would need to push you out and say, like, you know, be a man now.
00:03:21.000 And that is also because he cares about you.
00:03:24.000 Your mother cares about you with her maternal instincts.
00:03:27.000 And your father cares about you with his paternal instincts.
00:03:30.000 But he also realized that as a man you need to do certain things.
00:03:33.000 And you can't be sheltered and protected all the time.
00:03:35.000 So, the main point of the video is, even if you have people who care about you very much, you should listen to the voice which resonates the best with a certain situation.
00:03:47.000 And this obviously works both ways.
00:03:50.000 Sometimes it's more prudent to listen to the maternal role model.
00:03:54.000 Your mother.
00:03:55.000 In relationships, etc.
00:03:57.000 Because she has a unique insight of, you know, from the perspective of a woman.
00:04:01.000 Then it's very good to listen to that.
00:04:03.000 But when it comes to man stuff, listen to a man.
00:04:06.000 When it comes to woman stuff, listen to a woman.
00:04:08.000 Really easy, to be honest.
00:04:10.000 And also, additional note to this video.
00:04:14.000 I obviously love my mother very much.
00:04:17.000 And I would not have wanted to grow up without her, I think.
00:04:19.000 I mean, you need the maternal voice just as much as the paternal one.
00:04:23.000 But why I chose to focus on the paternal side was that that's more common than growing up without a mother.
00:04:29.000 But, like, if you grow up without a maternal role model, you will have a harder time to, you know, understand women and everything like that.
00:04:36.000 So, the maternal instinct is really fucking beautiful.
00:04:40.000 Obviously, love my mother.
00:04:42.000 Great respect for her.
00:04:43.000 And the paternal and maternal instinct works best together.
00:04:48.000 As usual, men and women work together towards enlightenment.
00:04:51.000 Men and women complement each other.
00:04:53.000 So, I just want to have that said also.
00:04:55.000 And who am I?
00:04:57.000 I'm the juicy one.
00:04:58.000 Exactly so.
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