The Golden One - August 06, 2018


Q&A. A Heartacheā§øFair Maiden Question From a Supporter


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

156.40079

Word Count

1,102

Sentence Count

65

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Hello lads, welcome back to the Wednesday Q&A. Today I will only answer one question, but the question is a rather important one because I think a lot of guys are in this particular situation.
00:00:14.460 So let's jump to the question at hand.
00:00:18.300 Hey Marcus, I don't know if you read your Patreon messages, but I'm gonna write anyway.
00:00:22.900 The Patreon messages are the only messages I regularly check because obviously if I have almost 80,000 subscribers and about 160 are contributing to the channel, they are definitely the priority.
00:00:39.680 So I definitely do and thank you for your support.
00:00:43.380 Moving on with the question. So my girlfriend is moving to the new world to work for 13 months while I'm going to stay in the old world.
00:00:55.400 I've omitted the countries so I don't dox the gallant young man at hand because I set myself a goal, which is to serve in an SOF unit.
00:01:07.060 But we have not been together for long and I can't help but feel some resentment towards myself for not making a move earlier.
00:01:16.460 Maybe the situation would have turned out differently.
00:01:19.900 On top of that, I am depressed due to her leaving and find it extremely hard to give 100% of myself in the gym or in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
00:01:28.340 So I can't even blow off steam and not think about this predicament as I'd like to.
00:01:33.240 What advice would you give to a young guy like me in this situation?
00:01:37.060 I really appreciate all that you do. Your content has helped me before during some rough times. Thanks.
00:01:43.920 We have a classic young man with heart issues.
00:01:49.780 First and foremost, if this video reaches 10,000 viewers, maybe a thousand of those lads will have been in this situation
00:02:01.980 and maybe a hundred guys are in this particular situation at the moment.
00:02:06.120 So first and foremost, you're absolutely not alone in this predicament.
00:02:11.480 Now, this might sound quite cliche, but this is just part of life.
00:02:16.840 You will run into these sort of issues sooner or later.
00:02:20.540 And if you run into them now, just write it out.
00:02:25.220 It is okay to feel down, it is okay to feel a bit depressed or not depressed, but yeah, a bit down.
00:02:33.060 What is not okay, however, is to slacken when it comes to your training because that will only make things worse.
00:02:39.640 So view this as an opportunity to, even though it perhaps doesn't feel the best to be bereft of thy fair maiden,
00:02:47.320 you can still focus a lot.
00:02:49.860 This is the time for you to focus 100% on your training or to, you know, be in the army because it's better to be,
00:02:58.120 if you're going to be one year in the army, it is definitely better to do that without a girlfriend
00:03:04.060 because then you can focus fully and then you don't have to spend your entire year missing her.
00:03:09.800 So it's better that you get over that heartache now, you can train, then go into the military, do that for a year,
00:03:17.260 and then when you come out, you can start looking again for some sort of fair maiden.
00:03:22.300 But yet again, it might sound cliche to just push through, but that is the way to go about this.
00:03:29.700 There is no single mind trick you can utilize to make it go away.
00:03:35.600 You just have to deal with the fact that life throws these sort of things at you every once in a while.
00:03:40.860 You have to deal with it and you have to accept that you don't always have to feel great with yourself.
00:03:46.120 It's absolutely fine to not feel great with yourself.
00:03:49.120 It's just, it comes and goes and then you will have some up times and then you will have some down times.
00:03:56.080 It is what it is.
00:03:58.220 So basically the advice I would give is to continue to train as hard as possible.
00:04:03.800 Even if you can't go 100% because you don't feel motivated, you can at least go 80% or 90%.
00:04:11.940 Then you have done something at least.
00:04:13.380 Going 100% in the gym or in martial arts, for example, that's a rare luxury that you can't afford to rely upon.
00:04:23.920 So you have certain times, certain periods over the year where you can focus 100%.
00:04:31.100 Then it comes times when, for whatever reason, it can be mental or physical.
00:04:36.720 For you, it's a heartache.
00:04:38.580 For some other guy, it might be he has injured himself so he can't go 100%.
00:04:43.040 But if you go 80% and then when the opportunity arises, you can go 100% again.
00:04:48.280 And when you look back upon this time in six months or even a year, then you might view it in the following way.
00:04:57.760 Either you can have two injuries.
00:04:59.960 The first one being the heartache and the second one being that you missed out on training.
00:05:03.840 Or you can say that it was only one injury and one positive thing.
00:05:10.280 And the positive thing was that you at least kept pushing in regards to the training.
00:05:14.700 And then you will be in a much better position to set the pace even higher when you feel 100%.
00:05:21.120 So if you view it in that sort of way, it perhaps will be a bit easier to motivate yourself to hit the temple and the temple of Ares.
00:05:30.980 Now, another note on the fair maiden question is that you should never put the fair maidens first.
00:05:39.300 Put your own quest first and then the fair maidens will come as a result of it.
00:05:44.900 So if you, at this moment in time, place your heartache at the center of things, you are taking things in a faulty priority, so to speak.
00:05:59.560 So your quest is the important thing and then you can focus on fair maidens and the heart, etc.
00:06:08.180 So I hope that at least gives you some motivation for the coming time and some relief.
00:06:17.020 But yet again, point is that it's okay to not always feel great.
00:06:21.960 Sometimes you feel down and that's acceptable.
00:06:25.080 That's okay.
00:06:25.840 But it's also about how you deal with these situations.
00:06:28.400 So if you crack under that pressure, that's obviously not a good thing.
00:06:31.380 But if you feel down, but you still go about your business, you try to make some gains on your particular quest, then that's absolutely fine.
00:06:41.600 Not much more you can do about it.
00:06:44.020 So some stoicism in this particular moment in time for you and that will serve you well in the army too.
00:06:50.860 So I hope that helps.
00:07:01.380 Amen.