The Golden One - August 06, 2018


Q&A. A Heartacheā§øFair Maiden Question From a Supporter

Topics
heartache and training
Hosted by
Marcus Follin
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Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

156.4

Word count

1,102

Sentence count

66

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

sentences flagged

Hate speech

1

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, I answer a question from a fellow martial arts martial artist, who is dealing with heart issues after his girlfriend left him and decided to join the army. He talks about how to deal with the situation and what to do about it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Hello lads, welcome back to the Wednesday Q&A. Today I will only answer one question, but the question is a rather important one because I think a lot of guys are in this particular situation.
00:00:14.460 So let's jump to the question at hand.
00:00:18.300 Hey Marcus, I don't know if you read your Patreon messages, but I'm gonna write anyway.
00:00:22.900 The Patreon messages are the only messages I regularly check because obviously if I have almost 80,000 subscribers and about 160 are contributing to the channel, they are definitely the priority.
00:00:39.680 So I definitely do and thank you for your support.
00:00:43.380 Moving on with the question. So my girlfriend is moving to the new world to work for 13 months while I'm going to stay in the old world.
00:00:55.400 I've omitted the countries so I don't dox the gallant young man at hand because I set myself a goal, which is to serve in an SOF unit.
00:01:07.060 But we have not been together for long and I can't help but feel some resentment towards myself for not making a move earlier.
00:01:16.460 Maybe the situation would have turned out differently.
00:01:19.900 On top of that, I am depressed due to her leaving and find it extremely hard to give 100% of myself in the gym or in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
00:01:28.340 So I can't even blow off steam and not think about this predicament as I'd like to.
00:01:33.240 What advice would you give to a young guy like me in this situation?
00:01:37.060 I really appreciate all that you do. Your content has helped me before during some rough times. Thanks.
00:01:43.920 We have a classic young man with heart issues.
00:01:49.780 First and foremost, if this video reaches 10,000 viewers, maybe a thousand of those lads will have been in this situation
00:02:01.980 and maybe a hundred guys are in this particular situation at the moment.
00:02:06.120 So first and foremost, you're absolutely not alone in this predicament.
00:02:11.480 Now, this might sound quite cliche, but this is just part of life.
00:02:16.840 You will run into these sort of issues sooner or later.
00:02:20.540 And if you run into them now, just write it out.
00:02:25.220 It is okay to feel down, it is okay to feel a bit depressed or not depressed, but yeah, a bit down.
00:02:33.060 What is not okay, however, is to slacken when it comes to your training because that will only make things worse.
00:02:39.640 So view this as an opportunity to, even though it perhaps doesn't feel the best to be bereft of thy fair maiden,
00:02:47.320 you can still focus a lot.
00:02:49.860 This is the time for you to focus 100% on your training or to, you know, be in the army because it's better to be,
00:02:58.120 if you're going to be one year in the army, it is definitely better to do that without a girlfriend 0.85
00:03:04.060 because then you can focus fully and then you don't have to spend your entire year missing her.
00:03:09.800 So it's better that you get over that heartache now, you can train, then go into the military, do that for a year,
00:03:17.260 and then when you come out, you can start looking again for some sort of fair maiden. 1.00
00:03:22.300 But yet again, it might sound cliche to just push through, but that is the way to go about this.
00:03:29.700 There is no single mind trick you can utilize to make it go away.
00:03:35.600 You just have to deal with the fact that life throws these sort of things at you every once in a while.
00:03:40.860 You have to deal with it and you have to accept that you don't always have to feel great with yourself.
00:03:46.120 It's absolutely fine to not feel great with yourself.
00:03:49.120 It's just, it comes and goes and then you will have some up times and then you will have some down times.
00:03:56.080 It is what it is.
00:03:58.220 So basically the advice I would give is to continue to train as hard as possible.
00:04:03.800 Even if you can't go 100% because you don't feel motivated, you can at least go 80% or 90%.
00:04:11.940 Then you have done something at least.
00:04:13.380 Going 100% in the gym or in martial arts, for example, that's a rare luxury that you can't afford to rely upon.
00:04:23.920 So you have certain times, certain periods over the year where you can focus 100%.
00:04:31.100 Then it comes times when, for whatever reason, it can be mental or physical.
00:04:36.720 For you, it's a heartache.
00:04:38.580 For some other guy, it might be he has injured himself so he can't go 100%.
00:04:43.040 But if you go 80% and then when the opportunity arises, you can go 100% again.
00:04:48.280 And when you look back upon this time in six months or even a year, then you might view it in the following way.
00:04:57.760 Either you can have two injuries.
00:04:59.960 The first one being the heartache and the second one being that you missed out on training.
00:05:03.840 Or you can say that it was only one injury and one positive thing.
00:05:10.280 And the positive thing was that you at least kept pushing in regards to the training.
00:05:14.700 And then you will be in a much better position to set the pace even higher when you feel 100%.
00:05:21.120 So if you view it in that sort of way, it perhaps will be a bit easier to motivate yourself to hit the temple and the temple of Ares.
00:05:30.980 Now, another note on the fair maiden question is that you should never put the fair maidens first.
00:05:39.300 Put your own quest first and then the fair maidens will come as a result of it. 1.00
00:05:44.900 So if you, at this moment in time, place your heartache at the center of things, you are taking things in a faulty priority, so to speak.
00:05:59.560 So your quest is the important thing and then you can focus on fair maidens and the heart, etc.
00:06:08.180 So I hope that at least gives you some motivation for the coming time and some relief.
00:06:17.020 But yet again, point is that it's okay to not always feel great.
00:06:21.960 Sometimes you feel down and that's acceptable.
00:06:25.080 That's okay.
00:06:25.840 But it's also about how you deal with these situations.
00:06:28.400 So if you crack under that pressure, that's obviously not a good thing.
00:06:31.380 But if you feel down, but you still go about your business, you try to make some gains on your particular quest, then that's absolutely fine.
00:06:41.600 Not much more you can do about it.
00:06:44.020 So some stoicism in this particular moment in time for you and that will serve you well in the army too.
00:06:50.860 So I hope that helps.
00:07:01.380 Amen.