The Joe Rogan Experience - April 18, 2024


Joe Rogan Experience #2137 - Michelle Dowd


Episode Stats

Length

2 hours and 52 minutes

Words per Minute

194.2102

Word Count

33,566

Sentence Count

3,132

Misogynist Sentences

49

Hate Speech Sentences

59


Summary

In this episode of the Joe Rogan Experience, I chat with a man who was born into a cult and grew up in it. He tells us about his early life growing up in the cult, and how he ended up in a group where he was raised by all men. It's a crazy story, and I think you'll agree that it's a good one to listen to with someone who was raised in a cult. I mean, who else would have the chance to grow up in such a group but a cult? It's crazy, and it's crazy bad, but it's real, and that's what makes it even crazier. Joe and I talk about it and talk about how crazy it is, and why it might not be so crazy after all. Joe and Michelle also talk about what it means to be a Mormon cult leader, and what it's like to be raised in one, and the weirdest thing that happens when you're raised in such an all male cult, you're not allowed to be in a relationship with a woman. And, of course, there's no sex. And there's a lot more to it than that! Listen to the full episode to find out more about the cult and the crazy things that went on in the group and how it was run by men. I hope you enjoy it, and have a great rest of your day :) Thanks for listening to this episode, Joe! XOXO! xoxo, Caitlyn & Sarah, Sarah, Sarah, Matt, and Joe, Michelle, Tim, Caitlyn, Joe, Joe, and Matt, Cheyenne, Mike, Michael, and Jon, Brian, and Ben, ( ) (Jon, Michelle, Jake, Ben, and Dan, etc., and Sarah, too! -Jon, Ben, Ben & Ben, too, and Brian, too? - Jon, Ben and Ben , Ben and Brian Chris, , Ben, Rachel, . Jake, Ben , Brian, and Rachel, Rachel , and Rachel & Brian, Ben? , etc., etc., Ben, etc, etc. , Jake, Brian, etc., and Ben & Rachel, etc! , Chris, etc.. Thank you so much for listening, Jon and Ben!


Transcript

00:00:01.000 Joe Rogan Podcast, check it out!
00:00:04.000 The Joe Rogan Experience.
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00:00:12.000 So thanks for coming in, Michelle.
00:00:14.000 Thanks, Joe, for having me.
00:00:15.000 My pleasure.
00:00:16.000 I love your man cave.
00:00:17.000 Oh, thank you.
00:00:18.000 I really do.
00:00:19.000 It's awesome.
00:00:20.000 Yeah, it's fun.
00:00:22.000 So when I heard your story, I was like, this sounds completely insane.
00:00:27.000 And just to fill people in, just explain what happened.
00:00:34.000 Well, I was born into a cult, a high-control group that I didn't know to call a cult because, you know, I was born there.
00:00:41.000 Because you were a child.
00:00:41.000 That was my whole experience.
00:00:43.000 My grandfather started in 1931, so my mother was also born into the cult in the 1940s.
00:00:49.000 My dad was...
00:00:53.000 Let's just say he was 12 when he first met my grandfather, who would later become his father-in-law, and my grandfather became his father figure.
00:01:01.000 So my mom was married off to this man who was a follower of her father, and I am the second child of their union.
00:01:11.000 Wow.
00:01:14.000 Where did all this take place?
00:01:16.000 So this took place, he originally started it near LA in Pasadena, which most people know because of the Rose Parade and other things like that.
00:01:24.000 When he first started it, it started, my understanding is he was a Boy Scout leader and he was an orphan.
00:01:32.000 He had come from Oklahoma when he was a young man and the Boy Scouts didn't allow him to have as much control as he wanted to have over the boys.
00:01:39.000 Oh boy.
00:01:40.000 Yeah, which is a lot of control.
00:01:41.000 So he left the Boy Scouts and he took the boys with him and some of the boys from his original troupe in 1931 stayed with him past his death.
00:01:50.000 One of the first boys took over after him in the late 1980s.
00:01:54.000 Wow.
00:01:55.000 Or the early 1980s, actually.
00:01:57.000 Yeah, so he was really good at getting followers.
00:02:00.000 What was his background?
00:02:02.000 Like, what did he do before he did all this?
00:02:06.000 Nothing.
00:02:07.000 Nothing?
00:02:08.000 He was completely...
00:02:09.000 I don't think he graduated from high school.
00:02:10.000 I don't know that for sure.
00:02:11.000 He lied about everything.
00:02:13.000 And he said he had a PhD from Stanford later when he got...
00:02:16.000 Yeah.
00:02:17.000 It wasn't until I got to college I said, no, this...
00:02:19.000 I'm not even 100% sure he knew how to read, to be quite honest.
00:02:22.000 Really?
00:02:22.000 Yeah.
00:02:22.000 He came from a family where he was the only child that lived out of his particular mother who was married to a man who was a second marriage and his first wife had died and then you know he had a bunch of kids or whatever so he had a bunch of half siblings but no full siblings and apparently now this could be lore too they kind of excommunicated him he compared himself to Joseph You know,
00:02:46.000 like, of the multicolored clothing and everything.
00:02:50.000 So he was, like, put down a well, he liked to say, and he escaped, and he came to L.A. in the height of, I don't know, the silent films, things like that.
00:02:59.000 He said he was in silent films.
00:03:00.000 There's no chance that is true, but he said he was, and he got some sort of probably church education when he got here, and he declared to everyone he was the prophet of God.
00:03:09.000 He was going to live 500 years, and he was going to lead the army of God in the Second Coming.
00:03:17.000 That's your grandpa.
00:03:18.000 That's my grandpa.
00:03:20.000 It certainly is.
00:03:23.000 Oh my god.
00:03:24.000 Wow.
00:03:26.000 Yeah.
00:03:28.000 You can't pick your grandpa.
00:03:29.000 No, you can't.
00:03:30.000 No.
00:03:31.000 But it was a male organization for a very long time.
00:03:33.000 It was all men and it wasn't until...
00:03:35.000 All men?
00:03:35.000 All men.
00:03:36.000 It was all men.
00:03:37.000 It was from 1931 to 1966 when my mom married my father.
00:03:41.000 No one was allowed to get married there.
00:03:44.000 And they were all presumably celibate and it was just men.
00:03:48.000 Oh my god.
00:03:49.000 Presumably.
00:03:49.000 Presumably.
00:03:50.000 It's like prison.
00:03:51.000 They're gay for this day.
00:03:53.000 Absolutely.
00:03:54.000 So I was raised by a bunch of older men who had never been with a woman.
00:03:59.000 You can see how well that ended.
00:04:02.000 But he didn't want his daughter to be an old maid, and she was getting older.
00:04:06.000 She was 24 by the time he married her off to my dad.
00:04:09.000 At that point, I think the women, like his wife said, you know, it was just their fourth child.
00:04:15.000 They had three boys first.
00:04:16.000 And so this was his first daughter.
00:04:17.000 And he decided that since the world had not yet ended, that maybe he should marry her off before she either became an old maid or maybe a loose woman.
00:04:26.000 Who knows?
00:04:27.000 When did he think the world was going to end?
00:04:29.000 Well, he used to prophesy in 1977. Want some more fire?
00:04:32.000 Sure.
00:04:33.000 I'd love some fire.
00:04:38.000 I'll keep this over here if you want.
00:04:40.000 It's easy to use.
00:04:40.000 Thank you.
00:04:40.000 Just push that thing down.
00:04:41.000 Where I come from, this is of grave sin, by the way.
00:04:43.000 Oh, a woman smoking a cigar or anyone?
00:04:45.000 Anyone smoking a cigar.
00:04:46.000 Anyone?
00:04:46.000 Are you allowed to drink coffee?
00:04:48.000 Yes.
00:04:49.000 What was the rules?
00:04:51.000 Well, coffee's interesting because I don't know that they said out loud you could drink coffee, but I don't remember it being forbidden.
00:04:58.000 That the body is the temple of God and that there's no marking your body with ink, no piercing your ear.
00:05:05.000 I know.
00:05:06.000 I have a lot of ink myself.
00:05:07.000 I wasn't sure if I should show it off.
00:05:09.000 No piercing in the ears.
00:05:11.000 Right, no piercing in the ears.
00:05:12.000 What about makeup?
00:05:12.000 No makeup when I was young.
00:05:14.000 They also unusually cut off women's hair, at least during the era that I was there.
00:05:19.000 Cut it off like a boy's hair?
00:05:21.000 Yes.
00:05:21.000 My mom had the exact same haircut since she got married until she died the exact same haircut.
00:05:27.000 She died in 2022. Yeah, so just a lot of the femininity was considered a temptation to the boys.
00:05:37.000 And since it was supposed to be, they thought it was better to, you know, burn in hell than to lust after a woman.
00:05:43.000 And they quoted some stuff from Paul, you know, in the apostles and the epistles and that basically you could get married as opposed to lust.
00:05:52.000 And so eventually in the 1960s, they allowed their first wedding.
00:05:56.000 Yeah.
00:05:57.000 Which is 35 years.
00:05:58.000 Think about that.
00:05:59.000 35 years of celibacy of all, yeah, just a bunch of dudes.
00:06:03.000 Wow.
00:06:04.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:05.000 It is just absolutely fascinating to me how some people develop these groups and how they do it and like what the characteristics of the leaders are.
00:06:17.000 It's so weird.
00:06:21.000 There's a place out here called the One World Theater and it used to be owned by a cult that there's a documentary on called Holy Hell.
00:06:31.000 And this guy had started a cult in Los Angeles.
00:06:35.000 He was a yoga teacher, but he was also a gay porn star and a hypnotist.
00:06:40.000 That's a nice combo.
00:06:41.000 It's a great combo for a documentary.
00:06:43.000 The documentary is incredible.
00:06:45.000 You watch the documentary, you're like, what the hell?
00:06:47.000 And he was running from the Cult Awareness Network, so he changed his name.
00:06:52.000 His original name was Jaime Gomez.
00:06:55.000 He changed his name.
00:06:57.000 I forget what it was.
00:06:58.000 He had like two different names.
00:06:59.000 So I think one was Michelle and there was another one.
00:07:03.000 So and then he came out here to Austin because right after Waco, they were kind of cracking down on cults and they were trying to find.
00:07:10.000 Yeah.
00:07:10.000 Yeah.
00:07:10.000 So they're like, we got to go.
00:07:11.000 So the Cult Awareness Network was on to him because also family members were calling in.
00:07:16.000 Hey, we lost our children.
00:07:17.000 They're with this guy.
00:07:19.000 And he's crazy and, you know, they got the people in the woods in L.A. And so he moved out to Austin and had his followers build him this theater where he could dance in front of them.
00:07:30.000 Is he a good dancer?
00:07:31.000 He was a very handsome guy.
00:07:34.000 And he was very charismatic.
00:07:36.000 And he was ripped.
00:07:37.000 He was a yoga instructor.
00:07:38.000 He had a six pack.
00:07:39.000 He was a beautiful man.
00:07:41.000 And he also was kind of exotic looking.
00:07:46.000 So he had this guru thing going on.
00:07:49.000 And then he was also a hypnotist.
00:07:51.000 So he's really good at manipulating people's consciousness.
00:07:55.000 That might be a criteria for being a cult leader, by the way.
00:07:58.000 Charismatic?
00:07:59.000 Maybe a form of hypnotist.
00:08:01.000 You have to be able to manipulate consciousness.
00:08:04.000 Because at least your top leaders have to be indoctrinated.
00:08:09.000 Some people call it brainwashing.
00:08:11.000 You can call it what you want.
00:08:11.000 But you have to have people who worship you.
00:08:15.000 It doesn't work unless you do.
00:08:17.000 Of course.
00:08:18.000 I think we have a very narrow idea of what hypnotism is because of the term.
00:08:24.000 I think the term – you lock on the term like, oh, I want to quit smoking.
00:08:27.000 I'll go to a hypnotist.
00:08:28.000 And they sit here and the clock tick-tock, tick-tock.
00:08:31.000 But I think there's like states of mind-melding that happen with people where you all get sort of locked into a state of consciousness.
00:08:39.000 And I think it happens in riots.
00:08:42.000 Definitely.
00:08:43.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:44.000 Like the madness of the crowds.
00:08:46.000 There's something real about that.
00:08:48.000 If you've ever been in a chaotic public environment where fights break out or something like that, there's a very strange feeling in the air that leads people to do things that they would never do before.
00:09:00.000 People that would never pick up a shopping cart and throw it through a Starbucks window will do that now.
00:09:04.000 It's like everybody just loses their fucking mind.
00:09:07.000 And I think it happens in concerts when people are jamming out together.
00:09:11.000 You all get in the same mind frequency.
00:09:14.000 And I think a really good cult leader does that too.
00:09:17.000 I think they get these people and they lock them into this way of thinking.
00:09:22.000 And we don't want to call it hypnotism, but I think there's a lot of states that are very similar to hypnotism in that context.
00:09:30.000 Something happens where you enter into an altered state of consciousness that's probably accessible somehow or another, but you don't know how to get there.
00:09:38.000 But then this song brings you there or this person brings you there with their talk about the impending apocalypse and we're all locked in, you know, and it gives people like a sense of belonging and purpose that you're locked into this frequency that everybody else in the room is locked into.
00:09:55.000 It's very comforting.
00:09:56.000 I mean, there are a lot of things about a cult that are very comforting.
00:09:58.000 Yeah.
00:09:59.000 I think that's the positive benefit of religion.
00:10:04.000 Absolutely.
00:10:04.000 You know, it's like this thing comforts you.
00:10:08.000 Some of them's got to be wrong.
00:10:10.000 Some of them's got to be wrong.
00:10:11.000 Or if you have a hundred different ones and they're all different gods and different people, somebody's got to be wrong.
00:10:17.000 But the one common denominator that they share is that if you do believe in these things, it seems to aid you in life.
00:10:24.000 People seem to be happier.
00:10:26.000 They seem to have more of a sense of purpose.
00:10:28.000 They don't feel lost.
00:10:30.000 Some of the least happy people I know are atheists.
00:10:34.000 I have a joke about it where I say, you're really dumb for not believing in stupid shit.
00:10:40.000 Because if you believed in stupid shit, if you believed in dumb shit, you'd be happier.
00:10:44.000 That would be a smarter move.
00:10:46.000 Because it's kind of true.
00:10:47.000 And I think that's what's so fascinating to me about these cults is how they do it, how they lock people in.
00:10:54.000 I mean, I'm sure because of your experience, you've probably seen a few of these documentaries, right?
00:10:59.000 You've probably seen I definitely have.
00:11:00.000 And, you know, when I watched the reenactment of the Waco one, which is not the documentary, but did you watch the one that came out maybe five years ago?
00:11:08.000 No, no.
00:11:09.000 But they showed, you know, the children and how they didn't want to leave, you know, and just how difficult.
00:11:16.000 There was a child psychologist who worked with them afterwards, and I was very interested in that.
00:11:21.000 It takes a long time to undo the level of...
00:11:25.000 I mean, it's one thing to have a faith, right?
00:11:27.000 Like believing in...
00:11:28.000 You can call it stupid shit, but whatever you believe in, it's one thing to have a faith.
00:11:31.000 But to not have the ability to think for yourself and that to be trained out of you.
00:11:36.000 So I went to lunch a couple days ago with someone I hadn't seen since I was three.
00:11:41.000 So a lot of fellow former Field members have come out of the woodwork since this book came out.
00:11:46.000 We should tell you, Field is the name of the group.
00:11:49.000 Yes, we call ourselves The Fields.
00:11:50.000 And one of these former members who I won't name, I hadn't seen, I didn't recognize him at all.
00:11:58.000 I just hadn't seen him since I was a little kid.
00:12:00.000 But several of them have come out who knew my parents and of course knew my grandfather before I was born and then maybe knew me when I was a little teeny girl and they have lots of stories.
00:12:09.000 Anyway, he was on one of these things we called the TRIP with a capital T. And what we did on the trip, I mean, there were different things in different years, but this one was in the early 1970s.
00:12:18.000 And he was, you know, doing all the things you do on the trip.
00:12:22.000 But one thing they required, which my father required of us at home too, is to run every morning.
00:12:26.000 First thing in the morning, which you can say there's some good things about this, but you slept together in tents and then you'd get up and you'd run and you'd have to beat your time.
00:12:34.000 And my father used to time us as a kid, so I had to beat my time every day, which is really hard to do, of course, because at some point you're not going to be able to beat your time, right?
00:12:41.000 You can't always get better.
00:12:43.000 But at this point, he was 19, and he was beating the time he said in that time was in relation to the fastest runner.
00:12:51.000 And so if the fastest guy was going really fast, you had to keep the same ratio of distance.
00:12:57.000 So anyway, he didn't make his time.
00:12:59.000 There were three guys who didn't make their time, and they had to go through the SWAT machine.
00:13:02.000 So my grandpa often made boys go through the SWAT machine.
00:13:05.000 And the simple version, which was done at the actual location of the field, was you'd crawl through the other boys' or men's legs, and every boy would spank you.
00:13:14.000 I know.
00:13:14.000 I know.
00:13:15.000 Oh, my God.
00:13:17.000 I know.
00:13:17.000 They're little – well, we won't even get into all the things you can think about that.
00:13:21.000 But there was a different version that was only done when the boys were separated from their parents.
00:13:25.000 And so when they would go on these trips – and my dad was the original driver.
00:13:28.000 He started driving – by the time he was 18, he was driving all around the country taking my grandfather's boys.
00:13:34.000 So, again, my father was not his son.
00:13:36.000 He was just some dude who, like, you know, joined this cult.
00:13:40.000 I think?
00:13:47.000 I think?
00:14:10.000 Potentially someone might think, why didn't you fight back?
00:14:12.000 And of course I said, but you were trained.
00:14:15.000 You were trained that you deserved this.
00:14:17.000 And then apparently one of my uncles was really worried, wanted to take him to the hospital, but couldn't or didn't because they had no insurance.
00:14:27.000 And this young man, who's no longer a young man, said that he could never tell his parents.
00:14:33.000 And he never to this day ever told his parents or anyone.
00:14:36.000 He and his brother have never spoken of their time in the fields.
00:14:40.000 It is like this big taboo.
00:14:43.000 He got out maybe a year later, but he was...
00:14:46.000 I mean, that was only one of many, many, many stories he told me, but that one just really struck me to feel ashamed of that, you know?
00:14:51.000 Like, I... I guess for many years I too did not tell people where I came from because you feel like you must have done something weak to be a follower.
00:15:01.000 And that's just not true.
00:15:03.000 I mean if someone gets a hold of you as a child, they can program you to think almost anything, especially if they're good at it.
00:15:10.000 Yeah, unquestionably.
00:15:11.000 I mean that's why they have child suicide bombers.
00:15:13.000 Yes.
00:15:14.000 Yeah.
00:15:15.000 I mean, you can trick children.
00:15:17.000 Yeah.
00:15:19.000 It's understandable, though, that you would think somehow or another that other people would think that it's your fault.
00:15:24.000 Or ignorant people would think, why didn't you know?
00:15:26.000 Why didn't you leave?
00:15:27.000 Or people that never really thought about it, never thought it through because they haven't had to.
00:15:33.000 Right.
00:15:33.000 The friends I went out with, I mean, I'm calling them friends now, but I haven't seen them since I was a little girl.
00:15:39.000 They were saying, of course you would drink the Kool-Aid when people use that expression.
00:15:43.000 I would have been first in line.
00:15:44.000 I would have signed up for that.
00:15:45.000 I mean, we all would have, and I mean that, and I was born there and indoctrinated, and I would have completely taken anything that my grandfather or my parents told me was going to kill me.
00:15:57.000 I would have felt that that was going to take me to heaven quicker, and everyone I knew would have done that.
00:16:03.000 And the reason you don't hear about a lot of cults, by the way, is because they didn't end up in flames or mass suicide.
00:16:09.000 But that doesn't mean that they didn't prey on, you know, dozens, sometimes hundreds or even thousands of people, depending on the cult.
00:16:18.000 I was talking to Mark Andreessen, and he was explaining to me that there's still many, many active cults in California.
00:16:24.000 Absolutely.
00:16:25.000 And I was like, what?
00:16:26.000 Like, right now?
00:16:27.000 Like, people know about them?
00:16:28.000 Oh, yeah, they're successful.
00:16:29.000 Like, there's some successful cults.
00:16:33.000 Is the field still around?
00:16:35.000 The field's still around.
00:16:36.000 I've been told it is a completely different organization, and I'm not going to vouch one way or the other.
00:16:41.000 They certainly don't have a charismatic leader like my grandfather once he died, and his replacement was there.
00:16:47.000 And then once he died, I think it's become...
00:16:50.000 It has not become secular.
00:16:51.000 It's a very strong religious organization, but they don't have the control they used to.
00:16:55.000 Because when we were young, we didn't have a social security number.
00:16:57.000 There was no way to track things.
00:16:58.000 And now, you know...
00:17:00.000 It's hard to get away with...
00:17:02.000 You have to pay taxes.
00:17:03.000 Yes, they do pay taxes.
00:17:05.000 And there was a sexual abuse case that was actually prosecuted.
00:17:09.000 And I think after that, which I think was 2006, I think that they had to really clean up a lot of their practices.
00:17:15.000 When I'm hearing these stories about these boys and the abuse, that's what I'm thinking about.
00:17:21.000 If there's a bunch of boys and no one's allowed to get married, that's not a good recipe.
00:17:26.000 No, it's not.
00:17:27.000 And the particular one that got prosecuted was a young leader who was abusing 11 and 12-year-old boys sexually.
00:17:34.000 I say out loud, I said this to my mom, I said, Mom, isn't it curious that no one's ever prosecuted anyone for what they did to girls?
00:17:42.000 And I was a sexual abuse victim there, and it was something I was so ashamed of for so long.
00:17:47.000 And anyway...
00:17:49.000 But there's other forms of abuse that go on.
00:17:51.000 I mean, there's obviously physical abuse, but there's a lot of psychological abuse.
00:17:54.000 There's a lot of ways that it gets inside of you that you're worthless and that you can't trust yourself.
00:17:59.000 And you can't even trust yourself with your own stories.
00:18:02.000 And I have a slightly younger brother who adores you, by the way.
00:18:05.000 Thomas, what's up?
00:18:07.000 What's his name?
00:18:08.000 His name's Michael.
00:18:09.000 What's up, Michael?
00:18:09.000 Yeah.
00:18:11.000 I love him to death.
00:18:12.000 And he was raised, you know, we were all raised collectively, but we were also raised separate from each other.
00:18:17.000 And my biological siblings, we all had different experiences because they don't let you bond.
00:18:22.000 They don't want my sister, who's just a little bit younger, she and I, we loved each other deeply, but we weren't allowed to speak to each other sometimes for weeks or months at a time.
00:18:31.000 And they were just strongly against you forming what they would call allies.
00:18:36.000 They didn't want friendships that could turn into anything that would be a little bit...
00:18:41.000 Probably culty, but no.
00:18:43.000 Like anything that would form a clique, they used to call it.
00:18:47.000 Right.
00:18:47.000 Any other groups where another person could be in control.
00:18:50.000 Right.
00:18:51.000 Or they could discuss who's in control.
00:18:53.000 Yes.
00:18:54.000 Or any loyalty to anyone else other than the primary leader.
00:18:58.000 There's a lot of ways that you can indoctrinate people and make them police themselves.
00:19:04.000 Oh, yeah.
00:19:05.000 That's what North Korea does.
00:19:07.000 North Korea gets everybody to rat on everybody else.
00:19:09.000 Oh, yeah.
00:19:09.000 That was huge where I come from.
00:19:13.000 I felt like it was a huge compliment.
00:19:14.000 One of the former members came out of the woodworks after this and he said, you know, I knew that you would never rat us out.
00:19:19.000 And I was like, man, that's so great.
00:19:21.000 But, I mean, it was something we were all taught so, so, so deeply.
00:19:24.000 That, yeah, you have to, no matter if this is your brother or your sister or your mom, you have to tell on them.
00:19:31.000 You have to.
00:19:32.000 Because you're worse.
00:19:33.000 And that just keeps everybody scared all the time.
00:19:35.000 You never trust anyone.
00:19:37.000 God, that's so...
00:19:38.000 It's so insidious and yet also brilliant.
00:19:42.000 Like, it's evil.
00:19:43.000 It's evil.
00:19:44.000 But it's...
00:19:44.000 How did he figure out how to do it?
00:19:46.000 That's what's crazy.
00:19:48.000 And how is he able to pull it off?
00:19:49.000 That's what's always so fascinating to me.
00:19:51.000 That...
00:19:52.000 It's not like children.
00:19:54.000 With children, it just makes 100% sense.
00:19:56.000 You're raised there, you think this is reality, and you think that the world outside reality is all a bunch of evil demons or whatever it is.
00:20:04.000 But if you're an adult, like you're a grown adult, 34-year-old man, and you meet this dude at the auto repair shop, and he hands you a pamphlet, and the next thing you know, you're on a farm somewhere.
00:20:14.000 Like, how do those people...
00:20:17.000 So I can't vouch to that.
00:20:18.000 I will say that the unusual thing about the field is you have to join as a child.
00:20:22.000 There are no adults who join.
00:20:24.000 Really?
00:20:25.000 It's kind of like a pyramid scheme.
00:20:27.000 Most people join when they're five or six, and they are indoctrinated, and then they play sports.
00:20:33.000 So, for example, they play tackle football at age five, and so they teach everyone how to...
00:20:39.000 Play a game, but it's only the people who are really good at the game that they continue to court, I would say.
00:20:45.000 You could call them groom, whatever.
00:20:47.000 But there's a lot more kids there than will ever get into the inner circles.
00:20:53.000 And it's a little like the mob or something.
00:20:54.000 Like, I was born in the inner circle, but there are plenty of people who came out of that cult who honestly weren't harmed by it because they got out young.
00:21:02.000 So as long as you get out by the age of 12, you're probably okay.
00:21:06.000 But they don't keep you unless you're really fully indoctrinated.
00:21:09.000 And most of the people who stay really don't have a family to go back to.
00:21:12.000 And they separate you from your family.
00:21:13.000 And so they do more and more separation as you become a teenager.
00:21:16.000 By the time you're 18, you're signing a commitment for life form.
00:21:19.000 Jesus.
00:21:20.000 And I'm not saying that's happening now, but that was 100% happened not just during my era, but all the decades prior to me.
00:21:27.000 So it's not just a cult, but it's got sort of a meritocracy built into it.
00:21:32.000 Yeah, but I think a lot of cults have that.
00:21:34.000 Really?
00:21:35.000 I think so.
00:21:35.000 Yeah?
00:21:36.000 Yeah.
00:21:36.000 I mean, you have to have something to strive for.
00:21:38.000 But they kick people out that don't line up enough?
00:21:40.000 Yeah.
00:21:41.000 So cults in general kick people out.
00:21:43.000 In fact, they want you to believe that staying is hard and that you have to work hard to stay.
00:21:48.000 I think the misconception is that they're trying to get you in.
00:21:51.000 Sure, they're seducing you in some way.
00:21:53.000 There's some sort of calling card, whether it's a pamphlet or something else.
00:21:56.000 But once you're there, do I have what?
00:21:58.000 I know I said yoga class.
00:21:59.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:21:59.000 That's what that guy did.
00:22:00.000 Yeah.
00:22:01.000 Dancing, you know.
00:22:02.000 But whatever brings you in.
00:22:03.000 But then after that, it's like you're the strong one.
00:22:06.000 You're the special one for choosing to stay.
00:22:09.000 In this particular cult, they always would say, there's 20 of you in this room.
00:22:12.000 19 of you will fall away.
00:22:14.000 There's only one of you.
00:22:15.000 Oh, boy.
00:22:16.000 You know, will make it into the army of God.
00:22:18.000 Geez.
00:22:19.000 It's like the Navy Seals of cults.
00:22:21.000 It kind of is.
00:22:22.000 And there is a lot of physical...
00:22:24.000 Yeah.
00:22:26.000 The only one, the best of the best.
00:22:29.000 So if you're a child and you're in...
00:22:32.000 I mean, how...
00:22:33.000 First of all...
00:22:34.000 How could anybody ever expect a child who gets indoctrinated into that to know the difference?
00:22:41.000 If that's your reality and that's what you grow up with, how could you possibly know?
00:22:46.000 What year are we talking about when you were like eight years old?
00:22:51.000 That would have been the late 70s.
00:22:54.000 Yeah, so nobody knows what the hell's going on.
00:22:56.000 Oh, absolutely not.
00:22:57.000 Even in the world.
00:22:58.000 Exactly.
00:22:59.000 The whole thing's a big foggy haze.
00:23:01.000 There's no internet.
00:23:02.000 We have like one-tenth of access to information that we do today.
00:23:07.000 And you're also a child and you think that this is reality.
00:23:10.000 And parents were used to their kids being gone all the time.
00:23:13.000 And I think that that was not something unusual.
00:23:15.000 Because one thing I hear for kids who went there, people say, well, how did your parents allow that?
00:23:20.000 And I mean, parents, like, they sent them off to the sports place, and then their kid got really into it.
00:23:23.000 And then at some point, their kid became a teenager and didn't want to come home anymore.
00:23:26.000 And I mean, they're like, well, I don't think my kid's doing drugs, or I don't think that they're, like, in prison, so it seems like they're doing pretty well.
00:23:32.000 But it also seems like, societally, there was a shift at some point in time where, what was the year where more women entered the workforce, and more women started getting jobs?
00:23:45.000 So that happened in the 70s.
00:23:48.000 I think 1973 might have been like one of those.
00:23:51.000 I mean, it obviously was starting to happen in the 60s, but there was a lot of women at home in the 60s.
00:23:55.000 Around 1973 to 1979, you had a huge exodus of women out of the home.
00:24:02.000 The women I come from, I mean, like my grandmother who had my father who joined this cult, she was always a working woman, minimum wage working woman.
00:24:11.000 She didn't have more than eighth grade education.
00:24:13.000 She worked because her father, excuse me, my dad's father, her husband, had been in World War II and got pretty severe PTSD or whatever, was an alcoholic and beat her.
00:24:24.000 And so she ran away from him.
00:24:25.000 She just had one child, which was my father.
00:24:28.000 She was living in a chicken coop near LA just with this one son, and she was the first woman to get hired in a factory.
00:24:33.000 But this was in the 1940s.
00:24:35.000 So there were always women, of course, and lots of women of color who were working, but it wasn't the middle class women who were working.
00:24:41.000 But the poor women were always working.
00:24:42.000 Right.
00:24:44.000 I'm just thinking like latchkey kids at that point back then.
00:24:48.000 70s and even 80s.
00:24:49.000 Yeah, it was totally common.
00:24:51.000 All my friends, we just got let out of the house when we were kids.
00:24:54.000 Right.
00:24:54.000 You just got on the bus, went to school, walked home from school, rode the bus, hung out with your friends.
00:24:59.000 Nobody knew where you were.
00:25:01.000 Right.
00:25:01.000 So you could have been in a cult and your parents would have not necessarily known.
00:25:04.000 I think I would have told them.
00:25:06.000 But I could have got sucked into one.
00:25:08.000 That's the point.
00:25:09.000 It's like everybody looks at themselves as who they are today.
00:25:12.000 So if you're a 35-year-old man and you're listening to this today, you're like, I wouldn't get sucked into that.
00:25:19.000 You can't say that because you're not a five-year-old boy.
00:25:22.000 If you're a five-year-old boy, you don't know what the fuck is going on.
00:25:25.000 You're a child.
00:25:26.000 By the time you're 18, you sort of get a, especially if you're a little streetwise, like, all right, some people are shady.
00:25:32.000 I know what the fuck's going on.
00:25:33.000 Listen to this guy.
00:25:34.000 He's trying to rope me in.
00:25:36.000 I remember there was this Christian group when I was in college that was trying to indoctrinate people, and they were like young, good-looking people And there was this beautiful Puerto Rican girl, and she was always trying to get me to go to parties with her.
00:25:55.000 And I was like, wow, did I hit that jackpot?
00:25:58.000 Like, eventually, I'm going to get a date with this girl.
00:26:01.000 Like, this is amazing.
00:26:02.000 You know, I was probably 19, 20, I guess.
00:26:05.000 20, 21, maybe.
00:26:06.000 And...
00:26:08.000 One day, she invites me to go to this retreat on the weekend.
00:26:13.000 Like, they have some crazy Christian retreat.
00:26:16.000 And I'm like, oh my god, a retreat?
00:26:19.000 Like, she's not telling me it's a Christian retreat.
00:26:21.000 She's telling me it's like this fun party and this whole thing.
00:26:25.000 And I said, I can't.
00:26:26.000 I have plans this weekend.
00:26:28.000 I go, but if you guys ever do another one of those things, that sounds like fun.
00:26:31.000 So Monday morning or whatever the day was, I'm in school and we're all in the cafeteria.
00:26:36.000 And it was the day that Trump's airplane, the landing gear, failed to open.
00:26:44.000 And so we all sit down at the lunch table, and I had just seen it on the news.
00:26:50.000 I said, did you see this thing on the news about the plane?
00:26:52.000 It's crazy.
00:26:53.000 The landing gear didn't go out, and so the plane, just on the belly of the plane, skid across the runway, and there's all these crazy sparks.
00:27:02.000 And I go, but nobody died.
00:27:04.000 And they go, oh, praise God.
00:27:06.000 Praise God.
00:27:06.000 And I was like, what?
00:27:07.000 Yeah.
00:27:08.000 Like, what's going on here?
00:27:09.000 This super hot Puerto Rican girl is like, oh, praise God.
00:27:12.000 They're all, praise God, praise God.
00:27:15.000 And I'm like, oh.
00:27:17.000 And then it just immediately clicked.
00:27:18.000 You dummy.
00:27:19.000 They were trying to get you to go to their church thing.
00:27:22.000 You thought she liked you.
00:27:24.000 And then they started talking to me more about God.
00:27:26.000 And then I was like, oh, I got to go.
00:27:28.000 I got a class.
00:27:29.000 I got to get out of here.
00:27:30.000 Fuck!
00:27:30.000 So you didn't get that date?
00:27:31.000 No, no, I avoided them.
00:27:33.000 They were in my Italian class.
00:27:35.000 And they were learning how to speak Italian.
00:27:37.000 And I avoided them.
00:27:39.000 I was like, I can't.
00:27:40.000 I can't be involved in this.
00:27:43.000 Because they were all glossy.
00:27:44.000 They were all believers.
00:27:47.000 This is not saying that God's not real.
00:27:49.000 This is not saying that Christianity's not true.
00:27:51.000 That's not what I'm saying.
00:27:51.000 What I'm saying is you could have got those people with Scientology.
00:27:55.000 You could have got those people with Mormonism.
00:27:57.000 You could have got those people with the Moonies.
00:28:00.000 Whatever.
00:28:00.000 They were just looking for a thing that they could attach themselves to and then formulate their identity based around this thing.
00:28:07.000 And for them, it was...
00:28:10.000 Christianity.
00:28:11.000 And it was this like youthful form of Christianity where they're trying to get young people.
00:28:15.000 They're making it like retreats.
00:28:17.000 We're going to have, we're going to party.
00:28:18.000 And they were all socially odd.
00:28:20.000 They were all real awkward people.
00:28:22.000 It was really, it was very interesting though to me.
00:28:25.000 The person is always curious about human beings.
00:28:27.000 I was like, this is wild.
00:28:28.000 Like I'm hanging around.
00:28:29.000 Well, I think in high control groups, they do tend to obviously cater to the young.
00:28:34.000 I mean, they're soliciting the young.
00:28:36.000 And I want to be clear, too.
00:28:38.000 I'm not anti-religion.
00:28:39.000 I think high control groups slash cults are a whole different experience.
00:28:44.000 And yes, they use religion, but they don't teach you to have faith and to trust yourself in your faith.
00:28:48.000 They teach you to follow someone else's faith.
00:28:50.000 I used to have a joke about what's the difference between a cult and a religion, where a cult is created by one guy and he knows it's bullshit.
00:28:57.000 In a religion, that guy's dead.
00:29:00.000 Yeah.
00:29:02.000 And all the other people, all the other people that this fucking dude 2,000 years ago convinced.
00:29:09.000 But some religions are really beneficial and they might in fact be based on some kind of true story.
00:29:15.000 I think it's a game of telephone.
00:29:17.000 That's what I think.
00:29:18.000 I think if you tell me a story and I tell Jamie the story and then Jamie tells someone out in the lobby a story, by the time it gets to me all the way again, it's gonna be screwed up, right?
00:29:28.000 Sure.
00:29:28.000 Now imagine this over thousands of years of just oral tradition and then writing in lost languages.
00:29:36.000 Ancient Hebrew, they wrote them in Aramaic on animal skins, some of these stories like the Dead Sea Scrolls.
00:29:42.000 And then they eventually translate them to Latin and to Greek and to Roman and to English and to German.
00:29:50.000 What?
00:29:50.000 Lost in translation.
00:29:52.000 Also, what did they know?
00:29:54.000 How much did they know?
00:29:56.000 They had some ideas of the formation of the universe.
00:30:00.000 In the beginning, there was light.
00:30:01.000 It sounds a lot like the Big Bang.
00:30:03.000 Yeah.
00:30:03.000 It sounds a lot like if you would tell the Big Bang to your kids and your kids would tell it to their kids, and you're going to do this for a thousand years.
00:30:10.000 At the end of it, you're going to get some real...
00:30:12.000 People are gross.
00:30:13.000 They always like to, like, twist things around and make things...
00:30:17.000 You know, they add their own little spice to a story.
00:30:20.000 Like, if you ever have a friend that tells a story, you're like, hey, bro, that didn't happen that way.
00:30:24.000 Like, you didn't say that!
00:30:25.000 You fucking ran for cover.
00:30:27.000 Like, everybody's got their own version of a story.
00:30:29.000 Yeah, we all embellish.
00:30:30.000 If you've got oral traditions, 100% for sure, you're going to have a lot of that.
00:30:35.000 Especially when you have high control groups, like your grandfather.
00:30:40.000 And you think about the translations, too.
00:30:42.000 Like, even when the monks were translating all that and, like, they were scribes and they were inscribing it.
00:30:48.000 Yeah.
00:30:48.000 Like, all of that, too.
00:30:49.000 There was an agenda on a lot of that.
00:30:51.000 100%.
00:30:51.000 Yeah.
00:30:52.000 And then when we read the King James Version of the Bible, I mean, you know, the king pronounced it to be so.
00:30:57.000 And so anything that was left out, I mean, there was a lot left out, right, in what was canonized because it was perhaps dangerous to the particular regime that he was running.
00:31:09.000 Yeah.
00:31:09.000 Yeah, imagine you get to decide.
00:31:12.000 Yes, I know.
00:31:13.000 You get to decide what God meant.
00:31:14.000 I think God didn't mean any of that.
00:31:18.000 Take that stuff out!
00:31:20.000 My problem is never with religion.
00:31:24.000 My problem is purely with human nature and what we know about humans.
00:31:28.000 If there was a way that you got religion through some sort of non-human source, Like if you achieved your experience through a non-human source, I would go, okay, well maybe there's a place that you can go and you could actually go meet God.
00:31:42.000 There's like a portal you walk through and you meet God.
00:31:44.000 But as soon as you're doing, you're letting people tell you a story.
00:31:49.000 People are full of shit.
00:31:51.000 They're just generally at least a certain percentage are full of shit.
00:31:57.000 And the people that want to control people have a much higher likelihood of being full of shit.
00:32:03.000 Because to really do that correctly, if you want to be a president, you've got to lie.
00:32:07.000 You've got to lie.
00:32:08.000 It's really important.
00:32:09.000 So the people that are good at that job are generally full of shit.
00:32:14.000 And so then you have a problem with the interpretation of the past, right?
00:32:18.000 And you're seeing that right now in universities, like people are trying to reinterpret certain events because of the way people feel about sociopolitical issues today.
00:32:27.000 So they're trying to reinterpret history, take down statues.
00:32:30.000 There's a lot of like craziness that's going on today.
00:32:33.000 Well, that's like a microcosm of the ancient history of human beings.
00:32:37.000 It's not that God's not real.
00:32:40.000 It's that people are full of shit.
00:32:42.000 And so there's a lot of wisdom in a lot of these ancient religious texts in particular, which is really fascinating.
00:32:50.000 Like, how much did they know about the human experience?
00:32:53.000 How much did they know about how you need to live your life in order to be harmonious with the universe?
00:32:59.000 How do you accentuate positive experiences?
00:33:03.000 How do you leave the world a little bit better than it was before you got here?
00:33:07.000 Have you read the whole Bible, by the way?
00:33:09.000 I did when I was a kid.
00:33:10.000 I actually had Bible class in Florida.
00:33:16.000 When I moved from San Francisco to Florida, I was 11 years old.
00:33:21.000 And it was a complete polar opposite experience of the country.
00:33:26.000 I lived in San Francisco with two parents who were hippies in Haight-Ashbury.
00:33:33.000 So we were in the middle of like, we lived near Lombard Street.
00:33:36.000 We were in the middle of like the hippie anti-war revolution of the 1960s.
00:33:43.000 And then I moved to Gainesville, Florida.
00:33:46.000 My stepdad was becoming an architect.
00:33:49.000 He was a computer programmer and then he switched careers and became an architect.
00:33:52.000 And so he was going to the University of Florida at Gainesville.
00:33:57.000 So now all of a sudden I'm around alligators.
00:33:59.000 There's fucking alligators everywhere.
00:34:01.000 It was like, are you people retarded?
00:34:04.000 Why do you have giant monsters everywhere?
00:34:06.000 This is so ridiculous.
00:34:08.000 So we had alligators, super weird, swampy weather, and religion.
00:34:14.000 Religion was in the schools.
00:34:16.000 Like in public school, you had Bible class.
00:34:19.000 And they also paddled you.
00:34:21.000 It was the first time I'd ever been hit by a teacher.
00:34:24.000 In Florida.
00:34:25.000 I got in this fist fight with this kid and they whacked us with a paddle.
00:34:28.000 Can I ask you an alligator question real quick?
00:34:30.000 Yeah.
00:34:30.000 So when you were in Florida in the 1970s, were you there in the late 1970s?
00:34:34.000 It was, let me see.
00:34:35.000 So I was in 67. I was born.
00:34:39.000 So I, in 73, I was in San Francisco.
00:34:43.000 So 75, 76?
00:34:45.000 Okay.
00:34:45.000 Did you know of someone whose name is Ross Allen in Florida?
00:34:49.000 I have no idea.
00:34:50.000 I was 11. Well, he was older.
00:34:52.000 He was an alligator.
00:34:54.000 Yeah, he's an alligator wrestler.
00:34:56.000 He had an alligator farm.
00:34:57.000 Alligator wrestlers?
00:35:00.000 What's the lifespan of those fellas?
00:35:03.000 Well, I don't know when he died.
00:35:05.000 That doesn't seem like that would work out so well.
00:35:09.000 Well, they probably fanged him.
00:35:11.000 I don't know.
00:35:12.000 Even that, they're just going to break your arms off.
00:35:14.000 Speaking of which, I need more fire.
00:35:15.000 Oh, sorry.
00:35:16.000 Yeah, just grab that sucker right there and pull the top back, flip it around the other side.
00:35:20.000 Like this?
00:35:21.000 This way?
00:35:21.000 This way?
00:35:22.000 This way.
00:35:22.000 The other way.
00:35:23.000 This way.
00:35:24.000 No, the other way.
00:35:24.000 It's upside down.
00:35:25.000 Oh!
00:35:26.000 See this?
00:35:26.000 There you go.
00:35:27.000 Now see the top?
00:35:27.000 Uh-huh.
00:35:28.000 Pull it sucker back like that, like there.
00:35:30.000 Yeah, and then just pull it down.
00:35:33.000 I can't believe how bad I am at that.
00:35:35.000 Is it open?
00:35:35.000 No, it's not open.
00:35:36.000 You've got to open the top.
00:35:37.000 Flip that top.
00:35:38.000 No, no, no.
00:35:39.000 See this?
00:35:39.000 Oh, with my hand!
00:35:40.000 Oh, my God.
00:35:41.000 I know.
00:35:41.000 There you go.
00:35:42.000 You got it!
00:35:43.000 Thank you.
00:35:43.000 See, I feel like I came here to learn this.
00:35:45.000 Perfect.
00:35:46.000 Thank you.
00:35:47.000 Yeah, it's a little weird because it's all black, and so it kind of blends in, especially if you're like us and your eyes are probably going as time goes on.
00:35:57.000 And now I can do it myself.
00:35:58.000 There's not a chance in hell I could ever do one of those clasps on a, like a bracelet.
00:36:05.000 Those little tiny bracelets, like them little clasps.
00:36:07.000 Like if my wife tried to get me to do one of those, I'm like, I don't even know what I'm saying.
00:36:11.000 I have no idea what that is.
00:36:13.000 I see blur.
00:36:14.000 I see golden blur.
00:36:15.000 I don't know what the fuck that is.
00:36:19.000 What were we just talking about?
00:36:20.000 Well, you were talking about learning the Bible in school.
00:36:22.000 So one of the things that a lot of people who have read the Bible or they have read a portion of the Bible is...
00:36:28.000 I definitely don't think I read the whole thing.
00:36:29.000 Well, yeah, that's the thing.
00:36:30.000 It's not very many people do.
00:36:31.000 And that's why I asked because a lot of it is kind of tedious history.
00:36:35.000 And there's a lot of he begats and there's the whole line, you know, of Christ, all the ancestors and the whole delineation of all that.
00:36:42.000 And Where I come from, we were encouraged to read a verse of the Bible, but they would always tell you what it meant.
00:36:49.000 And so I kind of went against, I used this little pin light and did it late at night, but I read the whole thing cover to cover when I was eight.
00:36:57.000 And if you read every single book in order, you start to find that there's a lot of really beautiful, beautiful, beautiful Like what stuff?
00:37:22.000 Well, there's, for example, I mean, this one's taught a little bit, but David, King David, I'm sure you've heard of him like as of David and Goliath, but then he became a powerful king.
00:37:32.000 And he saw this woman who this woman is often talked about Bathsheba.
00:37:36.000 He sees her bathing on a roof.
00:37:38.000 And where we came from, we were taught like she shouldn't have been bathing on the roof.
00:37:41.000 No, I don't know.
00:37:44.000 Right?
00:37:44.000 Anyway, he demands that she come to him, and she is the wife of a soldier of his named Uriah, a top soldier.
00:37:52.000 And he commands her to lie with him, and she becomes pregnant.
00:37:56.000 And then King David, who is the same guy who had the slingshot of David and Goliath...
00:38:02.000 She decides that he's got to figure out how to get her husband back so that her husband can go sleep with her.
00:38:07.000 And her husband won't do it because he's loyal to the army.
00:38:10.000 And he comes back, but he sleeps like at the floor of the castle, you know, trying to...
00:38:13.000 Wait a minute.
00:38:14.000 He's trying to get the husband to go back with the wife?
00:38:16.000 So that the pregnancy will seem like it's his.
00:38:19.000 Oh, boy.
00:38:20.000 Yeah.
00:38:21.000 In the Bible.
00:38:21.000 In the Bible.
00:38:22.000 Dirty David.
00:38:23.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:38:25.000 And it doesn't even end there.
00:38:26.000 So Uriah won't do it because Uriah is loyal to David.
00:38:29.000 Oh boy.
00:38:29.000 And so then David sends him to the front lines to have him be killed so that he can marry his wife and get away with that child not being a bastard child.
00:38:40.000 Illegitimate.
00:38:40.000 Illegitimate.
00:38:41.000 Oh boy.
00:38:41.000 And then God kills the child because, you know, needs to make the point that David was And think about poor Bathsheba.
00:38:48.000 I mean, she's just been, like, wrung around.
00:38:51.000 Her husband gets killed, all these things.
00:38:52.000 Her kid dies because God is punishing David.
00:38:54.000 And her husband got killed because he was loyal to the guy who got her pregnant.
00:38:57.000 Absolutely.
00:38:58.000 That's not a story a lot of people hear.
00:39:01.000 Oh, my God.
00:39:01.000 But you can fact check that one if you'd like.
00:39:03.000 Oh, no, I believe you.
00:39:04.000 I'm good at that.
00:39:05.000 I'm good at just, okay, now I'll go argue it.
00:39:08.000 I mean, there's something I talk a little bit about in the book Forager, which I encourage everyone to read.
00:39:13.000 But in that book I talk about as a kid that I looked up this whole long, you know, he begat, he begat.
00:39:19.000 And there's only four times that it mentions a woman who a child came out of.
00:39:23.000 Like, it's all the male line.
00:39:24.000 But occasionally they'll say, so-and-so, you know, Boaz through Ruth, or David's the father through Bathsheba.
00:39:30.000 So Bathsheba ended up having a child who became Solomon, who we know, a lot of people know at least, of being the wisest man who ever lived, and he wrote Ecclesiastes and...
00:39:41.000 And so there's four women who are named.
00:39:44.000 And as a child, that was really interesting to me.
00:39:46.000 And I would ask, you know, why are these four women in the line of Christ?
00:39:48.000 And no one would tell me.
00:39:50.000 And so I started doing the research about that.
00:39:51.000 And one was a prostitute.
00:39:53.000 Oh, here's a story you don't hear a lot.
00:39:55.000 Want to hear another Bible story?
00:39:56.000 Sure.
00:39:57.000 Thank you.
00:40:04.000 Thank you.
00:40:20.000 We're good to go.
00:40:45.000 So he just banishes her and she has nothing because what does a woman have at the time?
00:40:50.000 She doesn't have a husband or a child.
00:40:52.000 She has no ability to make a living in the world.
00:40:55.000 And so this man, the father-in-law, is really unkind to her in a way that she decides she needs to take something into her own hands.
00:41:05.000 And so she dresses up like a prostitute and goes to the side of the road.
00:41:07.000 And as he's traveling on the road, she...
00:41:22.000 Oh my god.
00:41:34.000 And she said, okay, but let me just return this staff to you that I got from the father of the baby.
00:41:40.000 And so then he ends up protecting her and she gets to have the child and that child is in the line of Christ.
00:41:46.000 Whoa.
00:41:47.000 Yeah.
00:41:47.000 So, really interesting things.
00:41:49.000 I don't know what you're supposed to learn from that story.
00:41:52.000 When I was a kid reading this, I would ask, and of course, no one really wanted to tell me.
00:41:56.000 Because she was rewarded for that.
00:41:57.000 That's the interesting thing.
00:41:59.000 Those stories are crazy.
00:42:01.000 It's just, if you're being honest, and if you believe in God, but you also know that people are full of shit, you have to put all this stuff through a filter.
00:42:11.000 You just have to.
00:42:12.000 And it doesn't mean that there's no God.
00:42:16.000 Of course.
00:42:17.000 It doesn't mean that.
00:42:17.000 It means there's probably something in these stories, but we have to be real careful with what that something is.
00:42:25.000 And I don't profess to know.
00:42:26.000 I don't know why.
00:42:28.000 They condone slavery.
00:42:29.000 The Bible condones slavery, like flat out.
00:42:32.000 It's in there all the time.
00:42:34.000 Yes.
00:42:35.000 Women are essentially second-class citizens.
00:42:38.000 And you know what I found out recently?
00:42:39.000 That there was a woman before Eve.
00:42:42.000 Depending on who you ask.
00:42:44.000 Yeah.
00:42:45.000 So what was that one?
00:42:47.000 Well, that's not in the 66 books of the Bible that most people are taught in the Protestant tradition or the 69 or whatever in the Catholic tradition.
00:42:53.000 That's part of the Apocrypha.
00:42:55.000 So these are books of the Bible that didn't make it into, you know, Christianity as such that we- The editor's cut.
00:43:03.000 Yeah, it was an editor's cut.
00:43:04.000 Exactly.
00:43:05.000 So that's not considered the word of God, what you're reading that is considered, or what you heard.
00:43:10.000 It's like word on the street.
00:43:11.000 Word on the street.
00:43:12.000 I heard it on the internet, but yeah.
00:43:14.000 Okay.
00:43:15.000 That's the street these days.
00:43:16.000 Yeah, it is.
00:43:16.000 It's the best street.
00:43:18.000 Yeah, which is not to say it's not true.
00:43:19.000 I don't know the truth.
00:43:21.000 So I'm a yoga teacher, among other things.
00:43:23.000 And one thing that I say all the time when I'm teaching, which is a really common thing as a yoga teacher to say, is...
00:43:28.000 Whatever I am giving you right now is a suggestion.
00:43:32.000 So listen to your body, do what's great for you.
00:43:34.000 If this doesn't feel right to you, please don't do it.
00:43:37.000 And then you offer modifications, etc.
00:43:39.000 And what high control religion does, and I'm not saying all religion, I'm saying the culture religion, doesn't give you the option of listening to your body or opting out of anything.
00:43:48.000 This is the interpretation of the Word of God.
00:43:51.000 And the one thing I will say is I don't know why Tamar did what she did or why Onan did what he did.
00:43:57.000 You know, I don't know whether or not the stories were transcribed accurately or not, even if they were.
00:44:02.000 That is a different culture, right?
00:44:04.000 And I wasn't there.
00:44:05.000 We don't even know if OJ did it.
00:44:08.000 Right.
00:44:08.000 So how are you going to know what happened to David and Bathsheba?
00:44:11.000 I mean, we're pretty sure he did it.
00:44:14.000 But I was just reading some story that O.J. hired thugs.
00:44:18.000 There was another thing.
00:44:19.000 There was some thing that he said that he hired thugs to kill his wife and Ron Goldman.
00:44:24.000 So, this is really recent, is my point.
00:44:26.000 And there's a bunch of versions of it.
00:44:28.000 And it depends on who gets into power.
00:44:30.000 Whatever version gets propagated.
00:44:32.000 Right.
00:44:32.000 Like, if there was no internet and no independent journalism, and they never had to account for the fact that Iraq never really had weapons of mass destruction, if the people in charge, if we're living in 1963, how long does it take before people figure out that Iraq didn't have those weapons?
00:44:51.000 How long?
00:44:52.000 Do we ever find out?
00:44:53.000 I don't know.
00:44:54.000 I was going to say, you might not ever find out.
00:44:55.000 You might not ever find out.
00:44:56.000 It took forever to just figure out that the Gulf of Tonkin was a false flag that got us into Vietnam.
00:45:01.000 I mean, it took decades for that to come out.
00:45:04.000 And now that's widely accepted.
00:45:06.000 So our own history is sketchy as fuck.
00:45:10.000 Our own history, our real absolute history is sketchy as fuck.
00:45:16.000 And that's why conspiracy theories are so fun.
00:45:18.000 Yeah, of course.
00:45:19.000 And in a sense, a cult is just a whole conspiracy theory.
00:45:22.000 I mean, but they control the narrative.
00:45:24.000 Right.
00:45:24.000 Completely control the narrative.
00:45:26.000 And no one's allowed to question it.
00:45:27.000 And if they do, they're excommunicated.
00:45:29.000 And one of the ways you know something as a cult is that they will always tell you that anyone who left, it's different than outsiders.
00:45:36.000 I mean, outsiders are people who maybe never had access to the truth.
00:45:39.000 But people who are quitters, they literally call them quitters where I come from.
00:45:43.000 Quitters.
00:45:43.000 Quitters.
00:45:43.000 It's a good name.
00:45:44.000 I know.
00:45:44.000 It really is.
00:45:45.000 Nobody likes quitters.
00:45:46.000 Right?
00:45:46.000 Right.
00:45:47.000 And so quitters were just anything they said was of the devil.
00:45:50.000 And so you were not allowed to talk to anyone who left.
00:45:52.000 And that's really common in cults.
00:45:53.000 You couldn't even talk to them.
00:45:55.000 No, no.
00:45:55.000 That's a Scientology thing too, I believe, right?
00:45:58.000 Yeah, I think it's really common in any high control group, I'm sure.
00:46:01.000 Yeah, because you can't, you really do need to control the narrative.
00:46:05.000 And you can't let other stories get in there.
00:46:07.000 Yeah.
00:46:08.000 Wow.
00:46:11.000 Goddamn.
00:46:12.000 It's so interesting how these patterns reoccur.
00:46:16.000 All over the world.
00:46:17.000 You know, there's a guy in Australia that says he's Jesus, and he runs this whole cult in Australia, and he has this woman who he says is Mary.
00:46:25.000 But the problem is there was another woman who was Mary before, and it didn't work out with the original Mary.
00:46:32.000 So he tells this new lady, I was wrong about that other lady.
00:46:35.000 You're Mary.
00:46:37.000 Wow.
00:46:38.000 Do you know that they say that the translation for Mary actually was woman?
00:46:42.000 Oh, wow.
00:46:42.000 And so that the word possibly just means...
00:46:44.000 I mean, you think about it.
00:46:45.000 There's so many Marys in the Bible, like when people talk about Mary Magdalene or Mary and the other Jesus, or, you know, that it perhaps is just the translation for woman.
00:46:54.000 Jesus as a historical figure is controversial.
00:46:58.000 There's people that say that there's absolute evidence for Jesus, but then there's people that say, do you know, like, how much historical record we have on people that lived thousands of years before Jesus?
00:47:08.000 You know, there's people that lived that they know what they said.
00:47:14.000 They know where they ate.
00:47:15.000 They know where they went.
00:47:15.000 They know so much about them.
00:47:17.000 But the Jesus one is kind of – there's people that say yes.
00:47:21.000 There's historical documents that show he existed.
00:47:25.000 And then there's a bunch of documentaries that you can watch.
00:47:28.000 They're like, boy, the evidence is kind of sketchy.
00:47:31.000 It seems to be a thought, like a reoccurring thing in many religions.
00:47:37.000 It seems to be like Hercules, right?
00:47:39.000 There's a bunch of these that are like real similar to that, like the child of a god that comes down to fix everything.
00:47:47.000 There's a lot of traditions where you have a virgin birth.
00:47:50.000 That is true.
00:47:51.000 And I am certainly not here to tell anybody what is true or not true, but the Gospels that are written about Jesus were written after, right?
00:47:58.000 Not during.
00:47:58.000 And that was, you know, common.
00:48:00.000 I mean, Socrates never wrote anything down.
00:48:02.000 He told the stories to Plato.
00:48:03.000 And how long after his death?
00:48:04.000 Well, I think the first one, now I feel like I am not a historian here, but I think the first one was like 100 years.
00:48:14.000 And so you have Apostle Paul who wrote, but he only saw Jesus after, like he was on the road to Damascus.
00:48:20.000 And so he saw Jesus after Jesus had been crucified and risen.
00:48:24.000 So what he saw was a ghost of Jesus.
00:48:26.000 But the other, you know, Gospels were not written by anyone who had seen Jesus in that way, even though they were the versions like of when you have Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, these are the versions that they were told.
00:48:38.000 So I don't know, maybe 100 years?
00:48:40.000 Yeah, so this is where belief hits for people that are listening to this right now.
00:48:46.000 Because there's going to be a certain percentage of people right now that have their hackles up because someone might be insinuating that maybe all this Jesus stuff is not legit.
00:48:57.000 And that's not what anybody's saying.
00:48:58.000 What we're saying is these stories were written down a hundred years after he was alive.
00:49:07.000 And people are full of shit.
00:49:10.000 That's it.
00:49:11.000 It doesn't mean that he didn't exist.
00:49:13.000 Because if someone did exist...
00:49:15.000 Like, if the early emergence of humans in the world...
00:49:22.000 Let's imagine what they mean by this story.
00:49:24.000 If the early emergence of humans in this world...
00:49:28.000 We're put down here to figure it out on their own like a bunch of lock key kids, like latchkey kids from the 1970s.
00:49:35.000 Figure it out on your own.
00:49:37.000 I'm gonna give you ways to live your life.
00:49:40.000 Tell everybody.
00:49:41.000 But I'm hands off.
00:49:42.000 I'm hands off.
00:49:44.000 I'm an afterlife type of guy.
00:49:46.000 I'm not going to come down and explain it again, pop out of the clouds and freak everybody out.
00:49:51.000 I did that once.
00:49:52.000 I did it once.
00:49:54.000 I'm done.
00:49:55.000 You guys killed me.
00:49:55.000 So I'm just saying, live your life this way.
00:49:58.000 If that was a real thing, what would be any different than the Bible?
00:50:06.000 What would be any different if a real event like that actually happened, where the Son of God came down and explained to mankind what they're doing wrong and lived this amazing life and taught so many people and they spread his wisdom and they spread his information,
00:50:23.000 it wouldn't be any different than the Bible.
00:50:26.000 Because even if it was very clear what he was saying and very clear what he had done and the impact and how they all knew he was the Son of God, By the time a hundred years go by, people talking about it, who the fuck knows?
00:50:40.000 Who knows?
00:50:42.000 Yeah, but you know what Jesus did really well?
00:50:44.000 So Jesus didn't write anything down, right?
00:50:46.000 Like, he was a storyteller.
00:50:47.000 Jesus told a lot of parables, and those are easier to remember.
00:50:51.000 So if you listen to, like, his Sermon on the Mount or, you know, these various things, it's possible that some of these stories, which they can be interpreted more than one way, but, like, you know, to say that, have you heard the expression, casting pearls to swine?
00:51:05.000 Yes.
00:51:06.000 What does that mean?
00:51:07.000 Well, in the story of the prodigal son, there was this, and Jesus tells this story, right?
00:51:13.000 So there's these two brothers, and one brother stays and does everything that his father wants him to do.
00:51:17.000 And the other brother says, give me, you know, the son, he says, the younger son says, give me my inheritance now.
00:51:22.000 I don't want to wait till your dad.
00:51:23.000 Just give me my inheritance now.
00:51:24.000 I want to go experience life.
00:51:25.000 And the father gives his younger son his inheritance.
00:51:28.000 And this young man who is raised well goes out and Hires prostitutes, does all the things, right?
00:51:35.000 And lives this loose life and he finds that he runs out of money.
00:51:39.000 And he is in a pen of pigs and he is willing to eat what even the pigs won't eat, like the leftovers.
00:51:47.000 And he is face down in the mud, according to the story, in the pig pen and says, even if I was a servant from my father, I'd be treated better than this.
00:51:56.000 And so he goes back, etc.
00:51:58.000 And his older brother is really upset because the father brings the son back and treats him, you know, he's just so grateful his son's returning to him.
00:52:07.000 And his brother says, you know, or an expression like, you're casting pearls to swine.
00:52:13.000 I mean, like, my brother is a pig.
00:52:14.000 My brother is like, you know, from the pig pen, and you're giving him something that he doesn't deserve.
00:52:19.000 And that whole story, I mean, you can interpret it any way you want, but this idea that you tell stories like this and someone could say God is willing to take you back, and perhaps even better if you have experienced life and that just being obedient isn't the only way to live a life.
00:52:37.000 Maybe that's the—I don't know what the real interpretation is, right?
00:52:39.000 But, like, when you read a story like that or you hear the story, Jesus didn't write it down, but if he told that story, then now people come to that and they think— What does that mean?
00:52:50.000 Does that mean when I find myself in a pig pen that I can repent and go back?
00:52:55.000 What does it mean?
00:52:55.000 Isn't it funny that Jesus is a storyteller?
00:52:57.000 Yeah, I love that.
00:52:58.000 Because a storyteller is a person who stands in front of people and commands attention.
00:53:02.000 And we know how that goes.
00:53:04.000 Right?
00:53:05.000 Yeah.
00:53:06.000 Well, you're a storyteller.
00:53:07.000 Well, sort of.
00:53:08.000 You don't think you're a storyteller?
00:53:10.000 I talk shit on stage, so it's just jokes.
00:53:13.000 But those are stories?
00:53:15.000 Some of them are stories, yeah.
00:53:16.000 Some of them are just making fun of things.
00:53:19.000 Yeah.
00:53:20.000 It's different than someone who like tells you stories and imparts wisdom.
00:53:26.000 Like if someone's standing in front of a group of people imparting wisdom, that's a very bizarre relationship.
00:53:31.000 It's a very slippery position for the person that has the podium.
00:53:37.000 Very slippery.
00:53:39.000 Because you could start believing all this nonsense.
00:53:41.000 You could start believing that you're different than everybody else.
00:53:44.000 You could start believing that you are the son of God.
00:53:48.000 I'm not even talking about Jesus.
00:53:49.000 I'm talking about someone today.
00:53:50.000 Someone today.
00:53:51.000 Even today, in this day and age with the internet, if you started doing something like that and you're schizophrenic, you could believe it.
00:53:57.000 Lots of people.
00:53:58.000 Lots of people believe they're the son of God right now.
00:54:00.000 Yeah, 100% legit.
00:54:02.000 And then lots of people believe that other people are demons.
00:54:05.000 There's a lot of like real funky beliefs that people hold on to.
00:54:09.000 And if someone Like I said, if someone was a charismatic leader and they pretended to be the son of God versus someone who is actually the son of God, a hundred years later, it's going to be very difficult to parse out what's what.
00:54:23.000 Right.
00:54:23.000 Which is a problem, which is a real problem.
00:54:25.000 If you want to like put all your eggs in one basket, you got to pick a religion.
00:54:29.000 You're like, boy, if you're agnostic, like which one of you guys is right?
00:54:33.000 Are the Hindus right?
00:54:35.000 Maybe.
00:54:35.000 Are the Buddhas right?
00:54:36.000 I don't know.
00:54:37.000 You know, some people would say that the Buddha and Jesus have an awful lot in common.
00:54:41.000 And if there is a right, that a lot of those beliefs are going to overlap.
00:54:45.000 And it is right to live a good life is to treat other people the way that you would want to be treated.
00:54:51.000 Yeah.
00:54:51.000 You know, and to love your neighbor.
00:54:53.000 Love your neighbor.
00:54:54.000 Yeah.
00:54:55.000 Yeah.
00:54:55.000 I think there's universal truth in all that stuff.
00:54:59.000 I think the source of it is fascinating.
00:55:02.000 Like, what are the universal truths?
00:55:04.000 But we have to look at things through a filter of reality.
00:55:10.000 And the filter of reality, we know human beings are full of shit.
00:55:14.000 So you have to put that in there.
00:55:15.000 You have to put that with everything.
00:55:17.000 You can't just say they wouldn't lie about religion.
00:55:18.000 Stop!
00:55:19.000 That's nonsense.
00:55:20.000 It doesn't mean that God's not real.
00:55:22.000 It doesn't mean that Jesus didn't exist.
00:55:24.000 Look, maybe Jesus is the ultimate...
00:55:28.000 It's like, this is the last word, and then we're gonna let you guys figure it out on your own.
00:55:34.000 And maybe if God exists, okay?
00:55:37.000 Let's just as a thought experiment.
00:55:38.000 If God exists, why would God engineer an animal to be at the top of the food chain That is so filled with greed and wants so much power that it's willing to take over enormous swaths of land with giant machines and murder anybody who gets in their way and it's all justified in the name of nationalism.
00:56:01.000 Why would God universally impart that kind of sensibility on a species.
00:56:07.000 Why would God tolerate it?
00:56:08.000 Why would God tolerate crime and murder and all the horrible things that we see today?
00:56:13.000 Why would God want any of this stuff to go on?
00:56:17.000 If God is so all-powerful that he created the universe, is this just a first draft?
00:56:25.000 The idea is free will, right?
00:56:27.000 That's the answer to it, is that in the garden, when Adam and Eve didn't know the difference, and then they partake of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, that by the choice to do that brought sin into the world.
00:56:38.000 And once there's sin into the world, then humans always have the choice to follow the light or follow the darkness.
00:56:45.000 I mean, that's the party line, right?
00:56:46.000 That it is human choice.
00:56:48.000 Right.
00:56:49.000 My point was that maybe God's ultimate plan is to make things as fucked up as possible so that it forces people to figure it out.
00:56:59.000 It forces an evolution of consciousness.
00:57:02.000 It forces us to go to the light.
00:57:04.000 It forces us, because it's the only way we survive.
00:57:07.000 Like that could, it could be like a test.
00:57:10.000 Like the entire human species, the entire civilization, the whole thing is just some gigantic test to see if you get it right.
00:57:17.000 Did you ever read A Wrinkle in Time when you were a kid?
00:57:20.000 Whose book is that?
00:57:21.000 Madeline L'Engle.
00:57:22.000 I've heard of it.
00:57:23.000 I don't think I read it.
00:57:24.000 Okay.
00:57:24.000 I don't know if it was taught in schools, but kids read it for a year.
00:57:27.000 I don't know when it came out in the 70s probably.
00:57:29.000 But she says in an interview later that she thinks that in the end that God is waiting for every single person to choose to believe.
00:57:40.000 And to choose to follow.
00:57:42.000 And that the light, so in A Wrinkle in Time is a story, there's science in it and a lot of things, but that when you see the light and you're drawn to the light, that you might be tempted by the darkness, but when you really know what light is, that you'll always choose that.
00:57:56.000 And so at the end of the day, that we're all going to see the light.
00:58:00.000 But even if you don't believe in religion, if you know, like, good experiences and bad experiences in your life, and when you're happy with yourself and when you're upset with yourself in your life, you generally know, like, there's a direction that you really want to be moving in.
00:58:16.000 And the more life experience you have, the more stupid things you do, the more you learn.
00:58:20.000 And so the more you get a better database to draw from to understand what each and individual choice means in the greater The greater picture of your existence.
00:58:29.000 And as you go further and further, you go, if you're living a harmonious life, you go almost naturally towards that direction.
00:58:38.000 Trying to be nicer to people, love your neighbor, have more peace in the world, don't be murdering people.
00:58:44.000 You know, and that's generally like how most religions want you to believe.
00:58:49.000 It's like the origin of it, there's some sort of a guidebook for being a human.
00:58:56.000 Yeah.
00:59:19.000 Maybe that's what the prodigal son is about.
00:59:21.000 Yeah, maybe.
00:59:22.000 You know, he goes and has all these experiences, find himself, like, making every mistake possible, and then sees the light and goes back to his father.
00:59:28.000 Yeah.
00:59:29.000 He goes back to the kingdom of righteousness.
00:59:31.000 Yeah.
00:59:31.000 There's wisdom in all these things.
00:59:32.000 And these people that lived and were writing things down on animal skins while they were engaging in wars with spears, you know, like, these are fucking wild-ass times.
00:59:41.000 And they were trying to sort it all out.
00:59:43.000 Have you read Meditations, Marcus Aurelius?
00:59:46.000 Yes.
00:59:46.000 Isn't that wild stuff?
00:59:48.000 Yeah.
00:59:48.000 It's wild how brilliant this guy was 2,000 years ago.
00:59:53.000 His understanding of how to live a life It's so valuable.
00:59:59.000 And his concept of forgiveness.
01:00:01.000 Like, forgiveness.
01:00:02.000 He's a fucking Roman.
01:00:04.000 I mean, this dude is like this badass soldier.
01:00:08.000 And he's like, it's very important to forgive everybody.
01:00:12.000 Even forgive your enemies.
01:00:14.000 Like, he had this incredible wisdom about maintaining your objective perspective of the world.
01:00:24.000 It was really interesting.
01:00:26.000 So, we know people were smart as shit back then.
01:00:29.000 Yeah.
01:00:30.000 Yeah.
01:00:31.000 And if you go back 2,000 years before him, when people started writing all this stuff down, Well, people had a lot stronger ability to concentrate, obviously.
01:00:41.000 Right.
01:00:41.000 They weren't distracted.
01:00:42.000 Right.
01:00:42.000 No TikTok.
01:00:44.000 Right.
01:00:44.000 But even before things were written, people really had a command over language and oral traditions.
01:00:49.000 And their memory, they had to remember.
01:00:51.000 Like, you think about, you know, where to find whatever it is when you're a forager, where to find the hunt.
01:00:56.000 You know, all of these traditions have to be passed down for humans to stay alive.
01:00:59.000 I mean, we're really fragile creatures.
01:01:01.000 Right.
01:01:01.000 Right.
01:01:02.000 And to think that when before there was anything except for spheres, you know, like how did how did humans stay alive?
01:01:08.000 They stayed alive because they could remember.
01:01:10.000 They could remember what could kill them.
01:01:11.000 Yeah.
01:01:12.000 Well, just like we used to be able to remember phone numbers.
01:01:15.000 You remember?
01:01:16.000 Yeah, even back then.
01:01:16.000 I know.
01:01:17.000 I had so many phone numbers in my head.
01:01:19.000 I still remember the phone number of the field.
01:01:21.000 Wow.
01:01:22.000 I do.
01:01:23.000 I do.
01:01:23.000 Because, you know, it was the one place, right?
01:01:25.000 Wow.
01:01:25.000 That was my home.
01:01:27.000 Wow.
01:01:28.000 Yeah.
01:01:28.000 That's wild.
01:01:29.000 Yeah.
01:01:30.000 My mom was a survival trainer.
01:01:32.000 She trained people to survive.
01:01:33.000 And she trained us to survive.
01:01:35.000 And one of the big things was surviving the apocalypse.
01:01:37.000 But some of the survival techniques are actually really valuable.
01:01:40.000 And that's the thing about forgiveness or anything else.
01:01:43.000 Like...
01:01:44.000 You know, even if somebody is telling you something that is in their own best interest doesn't mean it's not true, right?
01:01:50.000 Right.
01:01:51.000 And that there's so many truths in anything.
01:01:54.000 And so learning to survive, like, literally off the land or in the desert or things like that was a really harsh training that I had as a kid.
01:02:00.000 But it taught me to look around everywhere that I've been ever since and to pay attention.
01:02:06.000 And, I mean, that's a gift.
01:02:08.000 And I think about that when I think about forgiveness, too.
01:02:10.000 Like, part of forgiving people is because on some level they taught you a lesson.
01:02:13.000 Right.
01:02:13.000 Well, even in cults, they can give you valuable skills.
01:02:15.000 Sure.
01:02:16.000 I mean, if someone could teach you survival techniques, how to survive...
01:02:20.000 I mean, if you're really worried about the apocalypse, you need to learn how to survive the apocalypse.
01:02:24.000 Sure.
01:02:24.000 So, you know, they do it for good intentions.
01:02:27.000 Yeah.
01:02:27.000 And some of it pays off a little bit.
01:02:29.000 Well, do you remember the one in Los Angeles that had billboards up and with a very specific date?
01:02:37.000 Oh.
01:02:38.000 What was the date?
01:02:39.000 I don't remember, but I remember there was this Thai restaurant I used to go to on Ventura, this great Thai spot, and right above it was this fucking billboard that was giving you a very specific date, like, repent, the end is here,
01:02:55.000 and it's going to be this time.
01:02:56.000 I'm like, is this the most brilliant album release?
01:03:00.000 You know what I'm saying?
01:03:02.000 Some rock band has figured out a way to make something go viral before the internet.
01:03:06.000 I guess the internet was around then.
01:03:09.000 It was not that long ago.
01:03:11.000 I want to say like maybe eight years ago, ten years ago.
01:03:15.000 Was it?
01:03:15.000 Wow, that's pretty recent.
01:03:17.000 Here it is.
01:03:17.000 2011. Judgment Day, May 21st, 2011. Cry Mighty Unto God.
01:03:24.000 Monday through Friday, live open forum on FamilyRadio.com.
01:03:29.000 And what happened on May 11th?
01:03:30.000 So yeah, that was only 13 years ago.
01:03:31.000 Jamie, what happened on May 11th?
01:03:33.000 Nothing.
01:03:34.000 Fucking zero.
01:03:36.000 These people were out of their mind.
01:03:37.000 Like Y2K was a little like that, too.
01:03:39.000 Well, also December 21st, 2012. That was the end of the Mayan calendar.
01:03:44.000 Oh, right.
01:03:44.000 My license plate used to be December 2012. DEC 12. Whatever it was.
01:03:51.000 But that was the end of the long count of the Mayan calendar.
01:03:55.000 And all the coups thought that was the end of the world.
01:03:56.000 So we actually did an end of the world show.
01:03:59.000 In Los Angeles with my friends from Honey Honey Band, my friend Suzanne, Joey Diaz, Doug Stanhope.
01:04:06.000 It was wild.
01:04:07.000 And what did you do?
01:04:08.000 Nothing happened.
01:04:08.000 Nobody died.
01:04:09.000 We had a good time.
01:04:11.000 We had a good time and the world keeps going.
01:04:13.000 But there's, you know, it's just a long calendar.
01:04:16.000 It's a very bizarre, ancient calendar that they don't really fully understand.
01:04:20.000 So to say that was the end of the world seems a little silly.
01:04:23.000 Well, you know, when they give these dates, like when my grandfather gave the date of 1977, they can also say anytime it doesn't happen that the calendars are wrong.
01:04:32.000 Ah!
01:04:33.000 How convenient.
01:04:34.000 Do they have a good calendar?
01:04:36.000 Can I see that calendar?
01:04:38.000 Well, you know.
01:04:39.000 But the point is, like, oh, well, you know, with the Star of Bethlehem and all this, like, maybe that was redated because Herod didn't want us to know, like, when Jesus was really born because he was killing all the babies and he didn't really know the date of Jesus' birth.
01:04:50.000 That's why he was killing, you know, all the young boys as opposed to just that one and et cetera, et cetera.
01:04:55.000 Yeah.
01:04:56.000 Back to the lady who was around with Eve.
01:04:58.000 Who's that lady?
01:04:59.000 I assume you're talking about Lilith, but that's not in the tradition that I read.
01:05:03.000 But Lilith was supposedly...
01:05:06.000 I didn't even know Lilith existed until like two years ago, I think.
01:05:09.000 Oh, wow.
01:05:09.000 I was like, what?
01:05:10.000 Has that changed your life in some way?
01:05:12.000 Who the fuck's Lilith?
01:05:13.000 Yes.
01:05:14.000 Okay.
01:05:14.000 It was an eye-opener.
01:05:16.000 I questioned everything after that.
01:05:18.000 Okay.
01:05:20.000 What is the Lilith story exactly?
01:05:22.000 Okay.
01:05:22.000 So again, I was not raised on the Lilith story at all.
01:05:26.000 I don't know, Jamie, do you know the Lilith story?
01:05:28.000 I've heard some, but I feel like I'd misquote it.
01:05:30.000 So the Lilith story, they decided, was BS. So they left it out of the big book.
01:05:35.000 She's been interpreted as Satan?
01:05:39.000 Oh, Satan!
01:05:40.000 Well, sure.
01:05:41.000 Of course.
01:05:41.000 She's a lady.
01:05:42.000 She made me do terrible things.
01:05:44.000 Yeah.
01:05:44.000 Well, Eve did that too.
01:05:45.000 The original Hebrew word from which the name Lilith is taken is in the biblical Hebrew, the book of Isaiah, though Lilith herself is not mentioned in any biblical text.
01:05:55.000 In late antiquity, and how do you say that word?
01:05:58.000 Mandean?
01:05:59.000 How do you say that word?
01:06:00.000 Do you know?
01:06:01.000 Mandean?
01:06:02.000 Medellin and Jewish sources from 500 A.D. onward, Lilith appears in Historalist, incantations incorporating a short mythic story in various concepts and localities that give partial descriptions of her.
01:06:19.000 She is mentioned in the Babylonian Talmud, Nadah, Shabbat, Bava Batra, and the conflict of Adam and Eve with Satan as Adam's first wife.
01:06:31.000 And in the Zohar Leviticus 19a as a hot, fiery female who first cohabitated with man.
01:06:39.000 Wow!
01:06:40.000 Many rabbinic authorities, including, boy, there's another word, Maimonides and Menashem Mary reject the existence of Lilith.
01:06:53.000 Interesting.
01:06:54.000 So Lilith is controversial.
01:06:56.000 Very controversial.
01:06:57.000 Like all hot ladies.
01:06:58.000 Ha ha ha!
01:07:01.000 Exactly.
01:07:01.000 But the fact that she was the first?
01:07:03.000 Yeah.
01:07:04.000 I mean, again, that's not the tradition that most Christians are taught.
01:07:08.000 I mean, it's considered part of the Apocrypha.
01:07:11.000 So, I mean, I don't have any idea what the truth is, but she has been vilified even more than Eve.
01:07:17.000 Although, if you think about it, Eve's pretty vilified, too.
01:07:18.000 I mean, she caused the downfall of humankind.
01:07:20.000 She's the reason why we're all here!
01:07:22.000 That's right.
01:07:23.000 Yeah.
01:07:24.000 I mean, what's the root of that story?
01:07:27.000 That's the real question.
01:07:28.000 Like, what was the original thing they were trying to convey?
01:07:33.000 I will not take a stab on that.
01:07:36.000 But at least Christianity has, like, an origin story.
01:07:43.000 You know, an origin story for everything, for the universe, for people.
01:07:47.000 And when you didn't have science and you didn't have any understanding of cosmology, you need something.
01:07:56.000 Thousands of years just staring at the stars.
01:07:58.000 Anybody know what the fuck's going on up there?
01:07:59.000 I know.
01:08:02.000 There's Thor.
01:08:03.000 He lives up there.
01:08:05.000 And then there's Zeus.
01:08:06.000 He's running shit.
01:08:07.000 Yeah.
01:08:08.000 Well, looking at the stars is storytelling, too.
01:08:12.000 In the beginning, there was the word.
01:08:14.000 Well, I think that's one of the things that's really screwed up human beings.
01:08:18.000 And I don't think in any small way is light pollution.
01:08:21.000 I think our inability to see that we are in this celestial, majestic cosmos, this thing.
01:08:31.000 It's not just black with a few bright lights.
01:08:34.000 The whole thing is lit up.
01:08:36.000 And it's the most magnificent thing you could ever see.
01:08:40.000 But we sacrifice it almost for everyone that lives in cities.
01:08:45.000 If you live in cities, you don't go anywhere and see it.
01:08:48.000 You sacrifice a humbling spiritual experience of just staring at the stars.
01:08:56.000 And I think it's spiritual poisoning.
01:09:01.000 It's just like if you have vitamin deficiencies.
01:09:06.000 I think you have a spiritual deficiency, just a natural universal spiritual deficiency from not seeing the stars.
01:09:14.000 I think it puts our place in the universe in perspective like nothing else can.
01:09:21.000 Because it's there.
01:09:22.000 It's real.
01:09:23.000 It's not a concept.
01:09:24.000 It's not something that you have to use a microscope or a telescope to see.
01:09:28.000 It's right in front of you.
01:09:29.000 And it's absolutely spectacular.
01:09:33.000 On a clear night in the mountains where there's no light pollution and you see the stars, you're just like...
01:09:40.000 Is that up there every night?
01:09:42.000 Did you used to go to Joshua Tree when you lived around LA? No, I didn't.
01:09:46.000 So Joshua Tree is still so magical for that reason because there's no lights.
01:09:50.000 I've heard.
01:09:51.000 I've heard it's incredible out there.
01:09:52.000 Yeah, it's not too far from where I am.
01:09:54.000 And when I feel that I need to commune with something greater than myself, you just go there and you just lay down and look at those stars.
01:10:00.000 Light pollution is spiritual poisoning.
01:10:02.000 Agreed.
01:10:03.000 It really is.
01:10:04.000 And it's a big factor, I think, in how lost we are.
01:10:10.000 We're not consistently humbled every night by the majesty of the stars.
01:10:15.000 If we were consistently humbled every night, I think we'd generally tone people down a little bit.
01:10:23.000 There is something really healing about looking at the stars, and there's also the ability to literally not be lost if you know how to read the stars, right?
01:10:30.000 So that is something I was trained by my uncle, who was, you know, somewhat of an astronomer.
01:10:34.000 But to look at the stars and to always know where you are.
01:10:37.000 And if you know how to read the stars, you can never be lost.
01:10:40.000 So you could like navigate with the stars?
01:10:43.000 Like if you're in a boat, could you do it?
01:10:45.000 I don't know if I could do it very well from a boat.
01:10:47.000 But I could do it because I know how to put like a stick in the ground and to see the difference in the way that the sun goes so that you can see where you are.
01:10:55.000 Because you've got to know where the North Star is, obviously.
01:10:57.000 Mm-hmm.
01:11:20.000 Well, sure.
01:11:21.000 Although you don't have to do that.
01:11:24.000 You might just never know.
01:11:25.000 So you guys were getting prepared to be lost for years.
01:11:27.000 Yeah, yeah.
01:11:28.000 My mom used to have this phrase, I think she made it up, but it's survive fear, survive with faith.
01:11:32.000 And so she taught everyone that those five letters stand for what you should do first.
01:11:36.000 You know, so the first thing, what do you think the first thing you should do if you're lost?
01:11:39.000 Or you think you're lost?
01:11:41.000 Get to a high space to look around.
01:11:44.000 Well, the first thing you should do is shelter.
01:11:47.000 First thing?
01:11:48.000 The first thing you should do is shelter.
01:11:49.000 If you don't have shelter, you're going to lose your body heat.
01:11:51.000 Depends on where you are, of course, but if you're anywhere that gets cold, and sometimes you don't know it's going to get cold.
01:11:55.000 Desert doesn't seem like it gets cold.
01:11:57.000 Have you been on a desert night?
01:11:58.000 Yeah, they get cold.
01:11:59.000 It's very freezing.
01:12:00.000 So shelter's the first thing.
01:12:02.000 And then fire, because the warmth is really important.
01:12:04.000 So survive fear, so it's shelter, and then fire.
01:12:08.000 And then the thing is signaling.
01:12:09.000 So if you want to be found, you put up a signal.
01:12:11.000 If you don't want to be found, you need to know what creates a signal for people who are looking.
01:12:16.000 So, for example, if you are in the desert, you try to find dark rocks to put SOS. But if you don't want to be found, you try to never put a contrast.
01:12:23.000 So you try not to have anything that would contrast with the color of the land that a plane would see as contrast.
01:12:29.000 Jesus.
01:12:30.000 There's a lot of fun stuff like that.
01:12:31.000 So they were preparing you for hiding and for surviving.
01:12:36.000 Yeah.
01:12:36.000 And who are you going to be hiding from?
01:12:38.000 Well, so after the second coming, when everybody goes up to heaven who's good, all that's left is the demons in the world.
01:12:46.000 And there's a thousand years of terror that will rain upon the earth till the blood rises to the horse's bridles.
01:12:52.000 Wow.
01:12:53.000 And you guys were preparing for this when you were little kids.
01:12:56.000 Yeah.
01:12:57.000 Ooh!
01:12:59.000 Demons.
01:13:00.000 Yeah.
01:13:01.000 But if you're a good person, you're going to heaven.
01:13:03.000 So you don't have to fuck with these demons.
01:13:04.000 Yeah.
01:13:05.000 So you've probably heard some of those stories, right?
01:13:07.000 There's whole books on these left behind series.
01:13:10.000 Yes.
01:13:10.000 So like who gets left behind.
01:13:11.000 Yeah.
01:13:12.000 Didn't they do a bunch of movies?
01:13:13.000 I think so.
01:13:14.000 I did not see that.
01:13:14.000 I think Kurt Cameron did it.
01:13:15.000 Maybe.
01:13:16.000 I heard they're amazing.
01:13:18.000 Okay.
01:13:18.000 I don't know.
01:13:19.000 So I can't speak to that.
01:13:20.000 But yes, there's a lot of that.
01:13:22.000 Because it's part of a lot of traditions.
01:13:23.000 Yeah.
01:13:24.000 And the idea, though, is that some people are left behind in order to try to win the last people, like all the evil people, sort of like Noah's Ark, right?
01:13:34.000 Like Noah's left and he gets on this ark and like it's his job to, I mean, why didn't God just take Noah to heaven, right?
01:13:40.000 But like he gets this boat and he has his family and all the animals and he gets to like stay clear from the flood.
01:13:44.000 Or you have Sodom and Gomorrah, you have Lot, the only good person left, and he wants to like help the people.
01:13:49.000 In the town or Jonah and Nineveh where he's told to go tell the people they're bad and then God saves the people anyway.
01:13:55.000 So there's a lot of stories of God changing his mind.
01:13:58.000 And yes, I know a lot of Bible stories.
01:13:59.000 Yeah.
01:14:00.000 There's definitely a lot of stories of God changing his mind.
01:14:03.000 Yeah.
01:14:03.000 So if you leave some people behind who know how to lead the army of God, you can then proselytize and bring people into true faith and righteousness.
01:14:13.000 It's also kind of like, I don't know, a way to keep people a little bit isolated if you're trying to teach them to do something that other people don't know how to do.
01:14:20.000 And I was very ashamed of knowing like that kind of thing.
01:14:23.000 So it's the kind of thing I talk about in Forager is like I spent a lot of time really feeling like I couldn't acclimate to the regular world like later because I, you know, it's like if you're always looking at, I'm sure Navy SEALs feel this way, but you know, like you're always waiting for disaster.
01:14:40.000 Right.
01:14:40.000 Yeah.
01:14:42.000 And you're always thinking preemptively, like, what can I do to avert this disaster?
01:14:46.000 How did you get that out of your head?
01:14:48.000 It's still in my head, Jo.
01:14:49.000 For real?
01:14:50.000 Yeah.
01:14:50.000 Really?
01:14:51.000 Yeah.
01:14:51.000 So right now you're preparing for the end of the world.
01:14:54.000 Well, you know, I walked in your lair and I'm like, okay, there's all dudes here.
01:14:57.000 Where's the exits?
01:14:58.000 Like, no.
01:14:59.000 No, but I mean, to some degree, I mean, I'm not actively preparing, but I feel like I, yeah, I mean, it makes it really hard to trust people when you've been trained that the people that you think you can trust are going to betray you.
01:15:10.000 Right.
01:15:10.000 Right.
01:15:11.000 Yeah.
01:15:12.000 Really hard to get that out of your head.
01:15:14.000 I had a friend who was a Mormon and when they left she was like in her 40s and she said she became really susceptible to any kind of like spiritual people, spirituality, like con people.
01:15:27.000 She just had this trusting nature from being like a strict Mormon her whole life.
01:15:32.000 And then all of a sudden, cut loose.
01:15:34.000 Yeah.
01:15:35.000 And didn't, you know, didn't know to distrust people.
01:15:38.000 Absolutely.
01:15:39.000 It wasn't programmed in.
01:15:40.000 Because if you're only around people who are homogenous and that, like, you're taught, which I was, that, like, everybody in your group is trustworthy, you don't see the signs.
01:15:48.000 You don't know, I mean, you don't know the red flags, as people would say.
01:15:51.000 She also said she found herself to be susceptible to people telling her things.
01:15:57.000 She just had this automatic inclination to not question and believe things that came from being strict religion.
01:16:05.000 Right.
01:16:05.000 Why did she leave in her 40s?
01:16:07.000 I don't know.
01:16:09.000 That's a tough time to leave.
01:16:11.000 Yeah.
01:16:11.000 Yeah.
01:16:12.000 I don't know what the story behind it was exactly.
01:16:16.000 I never got into it.
01:16:17.000 Well, that's the thing about cults is it does make it really difficult to survive on the outside.
01:16:22.000 And I certainly know a lot of people have taken their lives after being excommunicated from the field.
01:16:28.000 I had a dear friend, the first person who ever told me that, used that word that is a cult, and I had been out for years.
01:16:35.000 And I didn't, I mean, it's not like I'd never heard the word, but I didn't apply it to the way we were raised.
01:16:39.000 And he had written, you know, newspaper articles, he was a professor, etc.
01:16:45.000 He took his life because it was really, really, really hard to live on the outside.
01:16:51.000 Yeah.
01:16:51.000 And there's been many others who have done that as well.
01:16:52.000 And there's also people who are shamed once they reintegrate into society.
01:16:56.000 They were part of that.
01:16:57.000 They got duped into this nonsense.
01:16:59.000 And so you hide it.
01:17:00.000 Most people, it's not like you're telling people and they're laughing at you.
01:17:03.000 You're not telling anyone because you're scared they're going to laugh at you or judge you.
01:17:06.000 And so you spend your life in shame, hiding this truth that honestly doesn't make you a bad person at all and probably many people would understand.
01:17:14.000 You don't talk about it.
01:17:15.000 I didn't talk about it forever.
01:17:17.000 Not just that, but everybody's susceptible to it, whether you believe it or not, especially if you were a child.
01:17:22.000 Yes.
01:17:22.000 Everybody's susceptible.
01:17:24.000 This ridiculous idea people have that, oh, I would have known better.
01:17:28.000 Like, I don't think you would.
01:17:30.000 I really don't.
01:17:31.000 I think you would now, but you're you now.
01:17:34.000 You're a 35-year-old you.
01:17:36.000 You're not that you that was five years old.
01:17:39.000 And if that had been consistently perpetuated onto you, you wouldn't know.
01:17:43.000 So there's a story we were raised with, which is a really common biblical story of Abraham and Isaac, and Abraham is told to kill his son, his only son, and he's told to, like, take him up on an altar and slaughter him, and the way that you would slaughter an animal.
01:17:55.000 And Abraham, like, makes Isaac do this hike up to this mountain where he's going to kill him.
01:18:00.000 And he, God has told him he must do this.
01:18:03.000 And so he, like, ties his own son on this altar and brings up the knife to kill him.
01:18:08.000 And like, very dramatically, you know, the story.
01:18:11.000 And as he's plunging down the knife, an angel comes and grabs his wrist and stops.
01:18:15.000 And God said, I just wanted to make sure you'd really do it.
01:18:18.000 And this is the story I was raised on, and both my parents and my grandfather were very big on, like, you will kill your child if God asks you to.
01:18:24.000 That's what you're supposed to do.
01:18:25.000 And I said this in the book, and my brother, who, you know, we really haven't talked about this, or we have now, but at the time we hadn't really talked about this.
01:18:32.000 This was like all of a year ago.
01:18:34.000 And he said when he read it, he thought, no, it's not that our parents would have sacrificed us.
01:18:39.000 They did sacrifice us because they believed that...
01:18:42.000 Somebody else would take care of us.
01:18:44.000 And we were raised very, you know, I don't know if community is exactly the truth because there wasn't necessarily anyone who was checking.
01:18:51.000 But there was random people who, in my case a lot of men, who just raised us because our parents had more important things that God told them to do.
01:19:00.000 And so there's a lot of ways to sacrifice kids.
01:19:02.000 There's a lot of ways to think that, you know, God is talking to you.
01:19:06.000 Yeah.
01:19:07.000 Yeah, you could apply that to other aspects of culture.
01:19:10.000 Absolutely.
01:19:12.000 Is there groups of people that get together that have survived cults that have an ability to help each other through this?
01:19:25.000 So apparently there are, and I didn't know about this until the last year.
01:19:29.000 There's a whole huge group of people who have come out of like Hasidic Jews, like Orthodox Hasidic Jews.
01:19:34.000 But there's also Steve Hassan.
01:19:36.000 He's a doctor who spoke on Megyn Kelly when I was on that show too.
01:19:41.000 And he has something called the Bite Method, which is just basically says that there's like these really four major ways of control that cults do.
01:19:50.000 They control your behavior, your information, your thoughts, and your emotions.
01:19:53.000 And so he has these deprogramming systems and counselors and people who can help you if you've been in that kind of high control group, even if it wasn't religious in nature.
01:20:03.000 Yeah, I've talked to that dude before.
01:20:05.000 Have you talked to him?
01:20:05.000 Yeah.
01:20:07.000 I think he's a Mooney, right?
01:20:11.000 Yeah, the whole thing of his excommunication and how he got free of it.
01:20:17.000 When you were breaking free, what age were you?
01:20:22.000 17. You're 17. And what was it like trying to integrate with regular people out there in the world when you were 17?
01:20:30.000 I don't think I did that very effectively at all.
01:20:34.000 How could you have?
01:20:35.000 Yeah, I just couldn't.
01:20:36.000 So I got married.
01:20:37.000 What was the experience like of like all of a sudden you go from being this incredibly controlling religious cult that thinks the end of the world is coming to regular world?
01:20:47.000 So it wasn't entirely all of a sudden.
01:20:49.000 I had a childhood illness, an autoimmune disease, which was probably, I mean, there's no genetic nature to these diseases, but where your body attacks itself.
01:20:58.000 So it's quite probable that my body was just like, I can't take this anymore.
01:21:01.000 Stress.
01:21:02.000 Yes.
01:21:03.000 And also there's a lot of deprivation, sleep deprivation, food, you know, when you're in survival training, a lot of extreme deprivation.
01:21:09.000 How long does survival training go for?
01:21:11.000 Well, because I was born there and also because I was sick and because of other things.
01:21:16.000 I was trained for a very long time.
01:21:19.000 We moved up there full-time up to the mountain, which I talk about in the book Forager.
01:21:24.000 We moved up there when I was almost eight.
01:21:27.000 And so I was up there until I left.
01:21:29.000 And you were foraging?
01:21:30.000 Yeah.
01:21:31.000 Yeah.
01:21:31.000 I mean, there was other things going on, too.
01:21:33.000 But so I got sick and then I was hungry and there was a lot of other things happening.
01:21:37.000 And so I found a way to start housecleaning for people.
01:21:40.000 And that's how I got an application to college and stuff like that.
01:21:42.000 But I was a house cleaner.
01:21:43.000 And so that was kind of a foray into learning about how other people lived, even though it wasn't like I was invited into their family.
01:21:52.000 I was invited into their things.
01:21:53.000 But you can learn a lot when you see a refrigerator that has food in it.
01:21:57.000 What was it like just cleaning people's houses, just seeing how these weird people lived in the outside world?
01:22:05.000 Did you ever see the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt?
01:22:07.000 I did, yeah.
01:22:08.000 Hilarious!
01:22:08.000 So many people were like, hey, they made a show about you!
01:22:11.000 It's kind of you.
01:22:12.000 It is.
01:22:13.000 And you know what?
01:22:13.000 That is very much the way that she's just confused by the smallest things.
01:22:17.000 I mean, it's funny the way that they depict it, but it's also kind of dark.
01:22:21.000 I mean, I actually liked the dark humor in that.
01:22:23.000 It's a great show.
01:22:25.000 And Handmaid's Tale, too.
01:22:26.000 I got a lot of calls about that one.
01:22:28.000 They made another show about you.
01:22:30.000 But I think that there's real truth to the things that confuse you.
01:22:35.000 And I didn't have any friends.
01:22:36.000 I went to college.
01:22:37.000 I didn't know how...
01:22:50.000 Wow.
01:22:51.000 Wow.
01:22:56.000 What a crazy crash course.
01:22:58.000 Were you open about your past to these people?
01:23:01.000 No.
01:23:01.000 No, absolutely not.
01:23:02.000 I wasn't open.
01:23:03.000 They just thought you were weird.
01:23:04.000 Yeah.
01:23:06.000 One, two called me an ice queen.
01:23:08.000 Oh, boy.
01:23:09.000 Because I was just really separate.
01:23:10.000 You know, I didn't know how to...
01:23:11.000 And I didn't drink or smoke or do any of those things because I was so afraid of losing control.
01:23:16.000 I was so afraid that if I... I also felt like I was in a huge hole that I had to dig my way out of in order to find a way to live in the outside world.
01:23:23.000 And so I couldn't afford to, like, I didn't know who to trust and who not to trust.
01:23:27.000 Wow.
01:23:28.000 I mean, some of my friends now, even, and my friends have become my family, and my brother's like that, too.
01:23:32.000 He has just the most amazing friends who are his family, and they will still call me feral.
01:23:38.000 They're like, you still don't know how to, like, I mean, like, I still don't understand the point of utensils.
01:23:43.000 I mean, like, I can do it, and I know which fork to eat from, but, like, I don't want to, you know?
01:23:47.000 You want to eat with your fingers?
01:23:48.000 Yeah.
01:23:49.000 I mean, I can eat with utensils, but if I'm not in polite company, I'm eating with my hands.
01:23:56.000 Isn't it interesting that eating with your hands is thought to be gross?
01:24:01.000 But some things you have to eat with your hands.
01:24:03.000 Like if you're eating ribs, how are you going to eat ribs?
01:24:06.000 If you eat ribs with a fork and knife, you're a fucking asshole.
01:24:11.000 If you got a big old Texas beef rib, you have to eat that thing with your face.
01:24:16.000 You have to get in there.
01:24:17.000 You have to use your hands.
01:24:19.000 Isn't it weird?
01:24:20.000 Yeah, it's interesting.
01:24:21.000 And it's just cultural.
01:24:23.000 But there's something we do in Western culture because we're so in our minds instead of our bodies.
01:24:26.000 We're always separating ourselves.
01:24:27.000 So we need this piece of metal that keeps us from the reality that we're fucking eating an animal or whatever it is we're devouring.
01:24:35.000 And somehow it's more polite if you have this piece of metal between you and it.
01:24:38.000 Bizarre.
01:24:39.000 It is.
01:24:39.000 But it definitely keeps your hands cleaner, you know, and it's easier to pick the food up.
01:24:44.000 And you feel like, you know, look at me.
01:24:46.000 I'm in a restaurant.
01:24:47.000 I got a napkin tucked in here.
01:24:48.000 Yeah.
01:24:49.000 A lot of rules.
01:24:50.000 You have to have that on your lap and, you know.
01:24:51.000 Right.
01:24:51.000 And which side is the salad fork?
01:24:53.000 Which one's the regular fork?
01:24:55.000 Yeah.
01:24:56.000 Start in the outside in.
01:24:57.000 Yeah.
01:24:57.000 Yeah.
01:24:58.000 Bizarre.
01:24:58.000 Yeah.
01:24:59.000 So when you are learning these things, you have to, like, actually memorize them.
01:25:02.000 You know, like, when you don't come from it because you're like, there's a lot of rules and all of them have systems, right?
01:25:09.000 So I'm very actually fascinated by microcosms, you know, like the microcosm cultures of, like, Any sort of culture has a lot of rules attached to it.
01:25:17.000 Sure.
01:25:18.000 Well, you must be hyper-aware of that.
01:25:20.000 I feel like I am, yeah.
01:25:20.000 Yeah, you have to be.
01:25:23.000 Yeah.
01:25:24.000 Patterns that people just take for granted.
01:25:26.000 You're like, oh, interesting.
01:25:27.000 Yeah, I'm always watching.
01:25:29.000 The thing about not knowing where the forks and knives go to me is one of the dumbest ones of all time.
01:25:35.000 Because it's like a sign that you're a cultured person if you know where the forks.
01:25:40.000 It has to be proper.
01:25:41.000 Like, what are we doing?
01:25:43.000 It's class.
01:25:43.000 Do you want to have a boring ass conversation with a bunch of people?
01:25:46.000 Or do you want to sit down and have a meal and talk?
01:25:50.000 Like, that's the fun kind of, like, what the fuck are we doing?
01:25:52.000 Like, who's, who are we impressing?
01:25:55.000 Is the queen coming by?
01:25:56.000 Like, what is this?
01:25:58.000 Why would you want this?
01:25:59.000 Well, haven't you experienced, though, that sometimes when you get rid of all that, you just have a much more intimate conversation?
01:26:04.000 Oh, yeah.
01:26:04.000 I like to eat on the floor.
01:26:05.000 I like to sit on the floor.
01:26:06.000 And I have this beautiful rug in my house.
01:26:08.000 And I'm like, if people will do it, I invite them to sit on the floor.
01:26:12.000 Because it just feels more organic to me.
01:26:14.000 And it feels earthier.
01:26:15.000 And it feels just like, I don't know, it just removes all the hierarchies.
01:26:18.000 And I Have you ever seen those Middle Eastern guys all sitting around an enormous plate of food, and they're all just sitting, cross-legged, just digging in with their hands and eating with their hands?
01:26:29.000 Yeah.
01:26:30.000 Yeah.
01:26:30.000 Well, if your hands are clean.
01:26:31.000 Yeah, well, the whole idea is you never shake someone's hand with your left hand.
01:26:34.000 Right.
01:26:34.000 Because that's the hand you use to wipe your ass.
01:26:36.000 Right.
01:26:36.000 So they think we're gross because we use paper and we just smudge it all over the place.
01:26:40.000 Well...
01:26:40.000 And they got a point.
01:26:41.000 They almost did.
01:26:42.000 They got a really good point.
01:26:43.000 Like, it is one of the grossest things.
01:26:45.000 If you get one of those bidet toilets, you will never go back.
01:26:48.000 You'll never go back.
01:26:50.000 How gross is it to just smear it all over the place?
01:26:53.000 So you're allowed to eat with your hands.
01:26:56.000 You're supposed to eat with your hands.
01:26:58.000 It's just a normal thing.
01:26:59.000 Most of the time, it's normal.
01:27:01.000 How do you eat popcorn?
01:27:02.000 Do you use a spoon?
01:27:02.000 I feel so validated right now.
01:27:04.000 Yeah.
01:27:05.000 How do you eat popcorn?
01:27:06.000 Do you eat popcorn?
01:27:07.000 Okay.
01:27:08.000 Well, do you eat with your fucking hands?
01:27:09.000 Yeah.
01:27:10.000 I'm bread.
01:27:11.000 Yeah, bread.
01:27:11.000 I'm bread.
01:27:12.000 Exactly.
01:27:12.000 Yeah.
01:27:13.000 Exactly bread.
01:27:14.000 Who's cutting bread with a fork and knife?
01:27:16.000 That's ridiculous.
01:27:17.000 You eat with your hands.
01:27:18.000 Yeah.
01:27:19.000 I guess it's just the messiness of it.
01:27:21.000 But I think if you can get people to act proper, like the conversations, they can stay within the lines.
01:27:26.000 Yeah.
01:27:26.000 You know, maybe that's it.
01:27:27.000 Maybe, you know, if you go to an inn and everybody's eating chicken legs and drinking beer, they're going to have crazy stories.
01:27:34.000 It's going to get uncomfortable.
01:27:35.000 Just keep people, make them where they're nice as clothes so they don't want to get messy and give them a fork and a knife and keep everybody proper and everyone's trying to impress everybody else with how proper they are and how much they know about fine dining.
01:27:48.000 May I see this sommelier to make a wine selection?
01:27:51.000 You know, all of it.
01:27:53.000 I remember the first time, you know, someone came to pour this last wine or whatever, and then the guy is supposed to, like, take a sip of it to tell the guy if it's okay.
01:28:01.000 And I'm like, what kind of culture is this?
01:28:03.000 Like, I mean, also, and what are you going to say if it's not?
01:28:05.000 Like, what kind of...
01:28:06.000 By the way, that is the most bullshitty, bullshitty moment you ever have in a restaurant.
01:28:13.000 You swirl that thing around, take a sniff and sip.
01:28:15.000 Unless you really know what you're doing, 99.9% of the people doing that have no fucking idea what they're doing.
01:28:21.000 Absolutely.
01:28:21.000 And I don't know if this is a fact, but I have never had anyone offer it to me.
01:28:26.000 They always offer it to the man, and the man decides whether or not it's a wine good enough for the lady.
01:28:30.000 Oh, that's interesting.
01:28:31.000 No, I've definitely seen women get it.
01:28:32.000 Really?
01:28:33.000 Yeah, if a woman orders a bottle of wine.
01:28:35.000 It's generally like whoever orders it.
01:28:38.000 I've seen that.
01:28:39.000 Okay, I'm going to watch it.
01:28:40.000 Yeah, but I think maybe that's just modern today.
01:28:42.000 Maybe that's like a new thing, you know, women's liberation stuff.
01:28:47.000 Like people don't want to be presumptuous, so they'll offer the woman a taste.
01:28:50.000 No one has ever offered me a taste.
01:28:51.000 Interesting.
01:28:52.000 Even if you've ordered the bottle...
01:28:54.000 Maybe I've never ordered a bottle.
01:28:55.000 Maybe that's what it is.
01:28:56.000 I think it's generally the person who orders it.
01:28:58.000 That may be.
01:28:59.000 Yeah.
01:29:00.000 But I also wouldn't have any idea if that was...
01:29:02.000 Because if I'm around a group of my friends and we order a bottle of wine, if I ask, they always bring it to me.
01:29:08.000 But if one of my friends asks, they always bring it to them.
01:29:10.000 I think it's generally the person who orders it.
01:29:13.000 But I don't know.
01:29:14.000 I think it's probably just rules.
01:29:16.000 But I would imagine that women get offered less.
01:29:21.000 I would imagine if I was an old school sommelier, I would assume the lady would not be making the choice.
01:29:26.000 Do you know anything about Sikhs?
01:29:28.000 Seeks the religion?
01:29:29.000 Not too much.
01:29:30.000 Which is really more culture than a religion.
01:29:32.000 But this is about wine.
01:29:33.000 I didn't just change the subject.
01:29:35.000 So they have this, they do not drink unless the person they are with is drinking and they don't want to be rude or whatever.
01:29:42.000 So they're not allowed to order wine.
01:29:44.000 But if you order wine and you pour it for them, they can drink.
01:29:47.000 And that's the same thing about smoking.
01:29:48.000 They also never cut their hair.
01:29:49.000 There's a lot of things.
01:29:50.000 But I have a Sikh friend, and he taught me.
01:29:53.000 I couldn't figure it out at the beginning because I'd be like, why does he keep asking me to order?
01:29:56.000 He'd be like, you order.
01:29:57.000 I was like, no, no, you order.
01:29:58.000 I don't know what I want.
01:29:59.000 You know, like, whatever.
01:29:59.000 And he'd be like, no, no, you need to order the bottle of wine.
01:30:02.000 And if I ordered it, even though he told me to order it and he was paying for it, Then he could drink it.
01:30:09.000 What a goofy rule.
01:30:11.000 No.
01:30:11.000 What a workaround.
01:30:12.000 That's the thing.
01:30:13.000 I mean, there's just all these cultures have different traditions.
01:30:16.000 Yeah.
01:30:17.000 Yeah.
01:30:17.000 Do you know what Sikhs do have?
01:30:19.000 They have this crazy yogurt cannabis mixture.
01:30:23.000 I did not know that.
01:30:24.000 That's supposed to be bomb diggity.
01:30:26.000 What is that stuff called, Jamie?
01:30:28.000 I don't know.
01:30:28.000 Yeah, Duncan taught me about it.
01:30:31.000 Have you had it?
01:30:33.000 No.
01:30:34.000 They have some like edible THC yogurt thing that's supposed to be insane.
01:30:39.000 Well, he's giving it to you.
01:30:40.000 Okay.
01:30:41.000 Many different ways of making bong lassi.
01:30:44.000 The traditional method is to blend fresh cannabis leaves, plain yogurt, a pinch of sugar, and nuts like almonds and pistachios, along with spices and ginger powder, fennel seeds, cardamom, and peppercorn, and water.
01:30:59.000 Wow.
01:30:59.000 Yeah.
01:31:00.000 That's a concoction.
01:31:01.000 Click on that.
01:31:02.000 What does it say at the top?
01:31:04.000 Why have you not tried this?
01:31:05.000 The world's oldest cannabis treat.
01:31:07.000 Yeah, I probably should try it.
01:31:08.000 I think you should.
01:31:09.000 Yeah, but I guess these guys take that stuff and get blasted.
01:31:14.000 Yeah, so it's a really old and rich tradition, and they are very humble and kind people, the culture, very pacifist, and et cetera, et cetera.
01:31:23.000 But probably that's what they've been doing for this year.
01:31:25.000 Yeah, they're chilling.
01:31:26.000 Yeah.
01:31:27.000 They're in a good headspace.
01:31:29.000 So that's an example of a group of humans following a pattern that seems to be beneficial.
01:31:37.000 It seems like they've got a harmonious relationship with each other.
01:31:40.000 They do, but their workaround, you know, we can joke about their workaround, but the thing their workaround does means that when they associate with outsiders, they don't stick to their own custom.
01:31:47.000 They accept the customs of the outsider.
01:31:50.000 Right, and they work around it by the other person having the order.
01:31:53.000 Right, but they participate in it, and because they participate in it, they don't keep themselves as narrow-minded.
01:31:58.000 I mean, cult people, they're definitely, no matter who pours you that glass of wine, you're not allowed to drink it.
01:32:02.000 My dad was in the military, and he was drafted, but he was like, no one could get me to drink a sip of alcohol, etc., etc.
01:32:09.000 We're good to go.
01:32:25.000 Anybody would report on anybody.
01:32:27.000 There's no loyalty.
01:32:28.000 You can't tell a joke.
01:32:29.000 You can't laugh at a joke.
01:32:30.000 There's really a lot of things that are forbidden that are, I think, required for friendship.
01:32:35.000 And so I had to learn that when I got on the outside.
01:32:37.000 And I look back and I think, I was really impoverished by knowing people and moving in unison and having comfort, but not really having the experience of trust.
01:32:48.000 And so how long did it take?
01:32:51.000 And what steps did you go about to sort of like...
01:32:55.000 Create your own version of the world.
01:32:59.000 I feel like there's really good ways to do this, and I did not do any of them.
01:33:06.000 I mean, I was in college, so I, you know, whatever.
01:33:10.000 I learned things academically, but what I didn't learn is, like, in my body.
01:33:14.000 I feel like I had four children really quickly, really young, and then I think I raised myself with them, you know?
01:33:32.000 Oh, wow.
01:33:39.000 So anyway, I had these index cards, and I put them all over my house, and they said that they had the values that I wanted for my kids, like resiliency, humor, agency, whatever.
01:33:50.000 And then on the back, I would put the techniques.
01:33:52.000 So for example, I didn't put restraints.
01:33:55.000 Like I didn't use playpins or whatever.
01:33:58.000 I just tried to create a safe environment, and then I did these things like they should be able to find me, but I shouldn't always be present.
01:34:03.000 So I would say, hi, I'm going to be working right here in this room, like to a one-year-old, right?
01:34:07.000 Right.
01:34:08.000 Anytime you want me, I'm right here.
01:34:09.000 But then, like, remove myself in sight so they felt that they were in control of the relationship and just all this stuff.
01:34:14.000 But I did it so cerebrally, you know?
01:34:17.000 And so I think by raising them, I raised myself.
01:34:20.000 Wow.
01:34:22.000 But it did take me a long time to have friends, though.
01:34:24.000 I don't think I had friends until my 30s, because, like, any genuine friends.
01:34:27.000 Because I didn't know how to be vulnerable.
01:34:29.000 And I didn't trust anyone.
01:34:30.000 Like, I would be friends with somebody for, like, six, seven years before I'd mention anything about where I came from.
01:34:36.000 So how did you figure out how to open up?
01:34:40.000 I'm still working on it.
01:34:42.000 Still working on it?
01:34:42.000 I think you're doing great.
01:34:44.000 I'm trying it with you, Joe.
01:34:46.000 Well, just the fact that the way you communicate about it, you're so open about it.
01:34:49.000 And I mean, I can't imagine what that's like.
01:34:54.000 I can't imagine what that life is like, what your childhood was like with being 17 and just being out in the world on your own trying to decipher what the fuck the outside world does.
01:35:06.000 Yeah.
01:35:07.000 And I didn't understand parents either, like people's relationships with their parents.
01:35:11.000 Like I didn't ever have, like my dad never bought me a meal in my life.
01:35:14.000 Like he never, even later in life when I reconnected or whatever, it's like I would always have to pay.
01:35:19.000 There was never this sense that my parents were giving us, you know, like it was always us giving to them.
01:35:26.000 Yeah.
01:35:27.000 I felt like I didn't understand.
01:35:28.000 I feel like I still have a little struggle with, like, why are they taking such good care of you, you know?
01:35:33.000 It's like this, I don't know, a disconnect as far as what it looks like to be a family.
01:35:38.000 And my definition of family is wider than biology, of course.
01:35:42.000 Right.
01:35:42.000 Because your grandfather wasn't really your grandfather, right?
01:35:45.000 He was.
01:35:45.000 He was your grandfather.
01:35:46.000 He actually was my biological grandfather.
01:35:47.000 But the other kids that we were raised with all called him grandpa.
01:35:51.000 Right.
01:35:51.000 And so I didn't know the difference.
01:35:52.000 But he was my actual.
01:35:53.000 So there was a lot of people that were family, but they weren't related.
01:35:58.000 Right.
01:35:58.000 Yeah.
01:35:59.000 And then, of course, once I left, I had to make new family as well and my friendships for my family.
01:36:04.000 What makes sense that it would take you into your 30s, because you have to relearn life.
01:36:08.000 So you're going through 1 through 17 again.
01:36:11.000 Yeah.
01:36:12.000 Yeah.
01:36:12.000 It takes you that much more time.
01:36:14.000 Did you see the movie Poor Things?
01:36:16.000 No.
01:36:17.000 Okay.
01:36:17.000 Well, just this idea that if you put a child's brain in an adult body, that's what that story's about.
01:36:25.000 It's kind of like a Frankenstein sort of thing.
01:36:27.000 Who's in that movie?
01:36:28.000 Emma Stone.
01:36:30.000 Emma Stone.
01:36:30.000 Is that a recent movie?
01:36:31.000 Yeah.
01:36:33.000 There's a bunch of those.
01:36:34.000 She did win an Oscar.
01:36:35.000 Like, I pay attention.
01:36:36.000 But it's not about religion.
01:36:37.000 Well, she does call, she calls the guy God who created her because his name's Godwin.
01:36:42.000 I think it's Godwin, right, Jamie?
01:36:44.000 But it's, she calls him God.
01:36:45.000 So there's like a religious parable, but it's not specifically about religion.
01:36:49.000 But I think that's what I was like.
01:36:51.000 I was like a, which I feel like I'm still recovering from.
01:36:54.000 What year is this supposed to be taking place in?
01:36:58.000 It's surrealistic.
01:36:59.000 So it's kind of Victorian, but it's sensationalized.
01:37:03.000 It's almost like Diego Rivera crossed with...
01:37:07.000 Part of it's in black and white, and then she starts singing in color.
01:37:12.000 How do I not know about this?
01:37:13.000 Yeah, I don't know how you don't know about this.
01:37:15.000 I'm so out of the loop.
01:37:16.000 There's just too many things to pay attention to.
01:37:18.000 I feel like I just taught you something.
01:37:19.000 You definitely did.
01:37:20.000 But there's just too many things to pay attention to today.
01:37:23.000 Yeah, there are.
01:37:23.000 There are too many.
01:37:24.000 Too many movies, too many things.
01:37:25.000 But in any case, it's an adult brain put in, I mean, sorry, a child's brain.
01:37:29.000 It's actually her unborn fetus that gets put into this body.
01:37:32.000 She dies, and so the baby dies, or the baby doesn't quite die, so that brain gets put into this adult woman.
01:37:39.000 But in any case, that's what I felt like.
01:37:41.000 Wow.
01:37:42.000 I felt like I was this adult body who just had an infant brain and I think it just took me so long.
01:37:49.000 So I feel like I don't come from an era too, kind of like the way that the movie is depicted.
01:37:55.000 It felt like there was no music.
01:37:57.000 I don't relate to the music of my generation because I never heard it.
01:38:00.000 And so people, you know, like people our age is sort of like everyone should sort of like the same kind of thing and I don't have, it never, I didn't go to concerts when I was a teenager ever, I never.
01:38:09.000 So I didn't have any idea what that felt like and so I don't associate with that with youth, for example.
01:38:14.000 Did you guys listen to any music?
01:38:17.000 I sang a lot of hymns.
01:38:18.000 Hymns.
01:38:19.000 A lot of hymns.
01:38:20.000 Mostly just Christian hymns, right?
01:38:22.000 All Christian hymns.
01:38:23.000 But John Wesley, there was a lot of...
01:38:24.000 I don't know if you know who John Wesley is, but he wrote a lot of hymns.
01:38:28.000 And, you know, like in the, I think, 1600s.
01:38:30.000 Could you fact check that, Jamie?
01:38:31.000 But it was...
01:38:32.000 He wrote so many songs, and I knew all the lyrics to those.
01:38:36.000 I knew how to sing in harmony and...
01:38:39.000 So when you were kids, you guys would rock out?
01:38:42.000 You'd just rock out and sing hymns?
01:38:43.000 Yeah, pretty much.
01:38:45.000 But it wasn't really rocking out.
01:38:46.000 When was the first time you heard another song?
01:38:49.000 You know, the thing that I got ultimately kicked out for was going to a movie with a boy who was raised with me.
01:38:57.000 He was a young man.
01:38:58.000 He had left, and he was a college kid.
01:39:00.000 And I was 17. And I went to The Color Purple, and there was music in that.
01:39:07.000 And...
01:39:09.000 Were you allowed to see movies?
01:39:10.000 No.
01:39:11.000 Had you seen one before?
01:39:13.000 No.
01:39:14.000 Color Purple was the first movie you ever saw?
01:39:16.000 To my knowledge, yes.
01:39:17.000 Wow.
01:39:18.000 So that really changed my life.
01:39:19.000 And then I started watching movies when I got to college.
01:39:21.000 What was it like going to a movie at 17 for the first time?
01:39:25.000 Magic.
01:39:26.000 Like the most beautiful church.
01:39:30.000 It was so beautiful.
01:39:32.000 It was like, it was, I mean, just the darkness and then the way that the screen lit up and I just, it was so beautiful.
01:39:40.000 I think we take it for granted, right?
01:39:43.000 Yeah, it just made me cry.
01:39:45.000 Ew.
01:39:46.000 Wild.
01:39:48.000 And that was the first time you heard other music, too.
01:39:51.000 Yeah.
01:39:51.000 And so I didn't start listening to popular music, though.
01:39:54.000 It took me a while to acclimate even once I got out.
01:39:56.000 I knew that other people were doing it, but the first time I maybe bought a CD, for example, I think I was 30. Wow.
01:40:04.000 Like, I just didn't.
01:40:05.000 Because I had babies young, I just didn't.
01:40:07.000 I did all that.
01:40:08.000 In my early 20s, I had all these little kids, and I was doing, you know, the mom thing and trying to get myself educated so I could, you know, make good money and take care of everybody.
01:40:19.000 It just felt like there wasn't time for that.
01:40:21.000 So I didn't have a youth.
01:40:22.000 And so I met a music critic when I was in my 30s.
01:40:25.000 I'm actually putting this in my next book, which is actually called Prodigal Daughter.
01:40:29.000 And he introduced me to the songs of, it was in the early 2000s, and he introduced me to the songs of the 90s and taught me the derivations of the beats and the lyrics.
01:40:41.000 And he had come from a pastor father, so he understood religion in relation to music.
01:40:46.000 And it was just this wonderful music education.
01:40:47.000 So I did all that.
01:40:49.000 I mean, I really think I came into understanding music in my 30s.
01:40:52.000 You were almost like an alien.
01:40:54.000 Yes, very much.
01:40:56.000 Like an alien version of a human being that they dropped off at 17 years old.
01:41:01.000 Like, what?
01:41:02.000 What am I doing here?
01:41:03.000 It's shocking to me how long it takes to figure it out.
01:41:08.000 You know what it is.
01:41:10.000 I could learn to code switch and I could learn to be presentable on the outside.
01:41:15.000 I could learn which fork to use really quickly.
01:41:17.000 That you can learn.
01:41:18.000 But you can't learn to feel the other things that other people feel.
01:41:21.000 And so you're always just a little bit disconnected.
01:41:23.000 It's like being kind of in a bell jar or something.
01:41:25.000 There's always a distance between or there was for just a long time between me and someone else.
01:41:30.000 So, for example, my brother, who loves you, as I told you, I went to his birthday party recently, and they're like, you have a sister?
01:41:36.000 Like, he never even talked about his family.
01:41:38.000 They didn't even know.
01:41:39.000 And he's like, yeah, she just wrote a book.
01:41:40.000 You should, like, read it so you can figure out where I come from, you know, because he never told his very best friends, who he had been, like, friends with for over 20 years.
01:41:47.000 Like, he never told them.
01:41:48.000 And I think that, you know, and he looks really normal, you know, like he has, but he didn't have the ability, I think, to really maybe gauge the way that it affected him.
01:42:01.000 Yeah.
01:42:01.000 And we, as a family, you know, the siblings all kind of went different directions because, like, it's painful to go back and relive it.
01:42:09.000 And you don't, it just feels like you're always going backwards if you try to be around where you come from.
01:42:14.000 And you just want to, like, live in the world and, you know, find a new identity.
01:42:20.000 Wow.
01:42:21.000 So there's long-term consequences for coming out of something like this.
01:42:25.000 Oh, for sure.
01:42:26.000 How could there not be?
01:42:27.000 Yeah.
01:42:28.000 I mean, just, there's so many things that can happen to a child when they're young that will screw them up forever.
01:42:34.000 But the fact that you had no understanding of the outside world, and you fully believed all this stuff that you were being told, you learned how to forage and survive in the woods, and then you get released.
01:42:49.000 And then you're out in the world because you went to see the color purple.
01:42:53.000 It's pretty crazy!
01:42:56.000 It's such a crazy story.
01:42:59.000 But the outside world is really complicated because there's so many different belief systems out here.
01:43:05.000 Yeah.
01:43:06.000 Yeah.
01:43:07.000 Were you at a rush to try to find a new one?
01:43:11.000 I was in a rush for everything because I didn't think I was going to live very long because it was still inside my head that I was A, breaking.
01:43:17.000 I mean, even now, like, to be honest, writing about this, this is what the former field people have to say to me all the time, is like, nobody's ever talked about this publicly.
01:43:25.000 We were trained, you know, like, once you're in the field, you're always in the field.
01:43:29.000 Like, it's like being a Marine or something.
01:43:30.000 Like, these are our brothers and sisters in arms, and you...
01:43:45.000 Wow.
01:43:56.000 I mean, I'm kind of going around a circle to answer that question, but it felt like it's been very recent that I can own that as being an essential part of my identity.
01:44:07.000 Wow.
01:44:09.000 How did you, do you attribute it any specific, like, is it meditation?
01:44:14.000 Is it yoga?
01:44:16.000 Like, what is it that sort of has allowed you to kind of regain your life?
01:44:23.000 Have you heard the expression or the word biophilia?
01:44:26.000 No.
01:44:27.000 So biophilia is the love of living things, and it's not specifically environmental.
01:44:31.000 It was coined in 1973, I think, by Eric Fromm.
01:44:34.000 And it is the love of living things.
01:44:37.000 So it's not just humans, but it's animals, plants, whatever.
01:44:40.000 And so I think that because I was raised understanding the natural environment, I really feel like when I've been lost in the world, or you think you're lost, I don't know if we can ever truly be lost.
01:44:52.000 I think that we're just learning what's around us that isn't working.
01:44:56.000 That's always information that can...
01:44:58.000 If you know what to look for, there's always information that can get you where you want to go.
01:45:02.000 You just need to know where you want to go, right?
01:45:04.000 So I feel like putting my feet in the dirt So, you know, kind of like, you know, but like being in my body and being on the earth.
01:45:11.000 And I think yoga helps with that, even if you're not doing it on the grass, although I do teach outside sometimes.
01:45:15.000 But like if you can find yourself like what you're connected to, that feels solid.
01:45:20.000 That feels like something you can believe in.
01:45:21.000 Right?
01:45:22.000 Because it's not about an idea.
01:45:23.000 It's like I am held by gravity right now.
01:45:26.000 Like this gravity is holding me into the earth.
01:45:28.000 Right.
01:45:28.000 And this earth, it is capable of nurturing seeds.
01:45:32.000 Things grow out of this earth.
01:45:34.000 We forget that, I think, sometimes in our contemporary culture, that everything comes out of the earth.
01:45:39.000 And so I think that one of the practices, I do meditate, but I meditate before I came here today, but I think that if I can be under a tree and on the earth in some way, then I feel like...
01:45:53.000 I guess it's that neuroplasticity thing.
01:45:55.000 I can always grow.
01:45:57.000 There's no point at which I'm separate.
01:46:00.000 And I think there's that part of practice of being like, no, I'm truly connected.
01:46:04.000 And all the things they taught me was a way of keeping me separate.
01:46:07.000 But I can always go back to the source itself.
01:46:10.000 Yeah, I think when we're talking about the sky and the light pollution being a spiritual deficiency, I think we have that also from the forests.
01:46:20.000 I think there's something that connects us when we're in the wilderness.
01:46:23.000 There's a feeling that you get.
01:46:25.000 There's a humbleness that comes about you, a humility that you have to accept, that the wilderness is so vast and powerful and amazing that It puts you in check.
01:46:37.000 It gives you like this feeling of connectedness to everything.
01:46:41.000 We think when we're living in cities and we're getting Ubers and we're going to restaurants, we think we're disconnected from nature because we've kind of set it up that way.
01:46:49.000 We set our own little hamster wheel up over nature.
01:46:53.000 But we're missing something by doing that.
01:46:56.000 We're missing something.
01:46:57.000 Because we are nature.
01:46:57.000 Yeah, we are nature.
01:46:58.000 We really are.
01:46:58.000 We are nature.
01:46:59.000 We just create our forks.
01:47:01.000 Let's go back to that metaphor and that literal thing.
01:47:03.000 But we separate ourselves from the reality that we eat straight from the earth.
01:47:08.000 And most people, they eat animals that are alive on the earth.
01:47:11.000 And that thing was a living creature.
01:47:13.000 And you are devouring it.
01:47:14.000 And that is so primal.
01:47:15.000 Yeah, life eats life.
01:47:17.000 Yeah.
01:47:17.000 And we all come from the wilderness.
01:47:19.000 We really do.
01:47:20.000 For hundreds of thousands of years, we were way, way...
01:47:23.000 I mean, it's astronomically longer that we spent foraging than we did...
01:47:29.000 With civilization.
01:47:30.000 Yeah, within agriculture.
01:47:31.000 I mean, agriculture is relatively new.
01:47:33.000 Yep.
01:47:33.000 And so we all come from that.
01:47:35.000 So when we get there, I think it is something that is inside of us.
01:47:38.000 And I think we would all benefit.
01:47:41.000 At least I benefit.
01:47:42.000 I shouldn't preach this to anyone else, but I think we benefit when we connect to it.
01:47:46.000 I think all human beings share that.
01:47:48.000 The only people that – you have to be like really, really neurotic and like a crazy city dweller like, get me out of the woods.
01:47:54.000 I hate it out here.
01:47:56.000 It's so quiet.
01:47:57.000 There are a lot of people who are like that.
01:47:58.000 They're out there smoking cigarettes.
01:48:00.000 Bobby, when we fucking going home?
01:48:02.000 This is terrible.
01:48:03.000 There's got to be people like that.
01:48:05.000 There are people that are just like – well, there's people that get acclimated to those particular cultures too, right?
01:48:10.000 There's people that maybe there's a thing that they do in their city that they can't be without.
01:48:14.000 They need that thing.
01:48:16.000 They think they need it.
01:48:17.000 Yeah.
01:48:18.000 Oh yeah, for sure.
01:48:19.000 But like gambling addicts.
01:48:20.000 I have a friend who's a gambling addict who lives in Vegas.
01:48:22.000 I'm never leaving Vegas.
01:48:23.000 Because he wants to gamble all the time.
01:48:27.000 If that's the place, you know, that's the place for you.
01:48:30.000 You can't get that guy to live in the woods.
01:48:31.000 You know, there's no card games out there.
01:48:34.000 No, but there's a lot of adrenaline if you're looking for it.
01:48:36.000 Oh, yeah.
01:48:37.000 It's a different kind of adrenaline.
01:48:38.000 Yeah.
01:48:38.000 But it's also, there's a lot, like I said, the humility that the woods give you.
01:48:43.000 First of all, it's so hard to just get around.
01:48:46.000 It's fucking hard to get around where there's no roads and shit and everything's up and down.
01:48:51.000 Your GPS doesn't work.
01:48:52.000 Yeah.
01:48:52.000 But you actually can get GPS out there.
01:48:55.000 Not everywhere.
01:48:55.000 Handheld.
01:48:56.000 Not everywhere.
01:48:57.000 What do you mean?
01:48:57.000 Well, I suppose if you have a specific device, but your phone is not going to work in plenty of places.
01:49:02.000 I wonder.
01:49:03.000 Oh, I know.
01:49:03.000 I know there's places phones don't work.
01:49:05.000 But the new phones, don't new phones use actual global positioning satellites so that it works even without a cell phone signal?
01:49:12.000 I think iPhones do that.
01:49:14.000 I think Samsung phones do that, too.
01:49:16.000 Not everywhere, do they?
01:49:17.000 I think they do.
01:49:19.000 It's very limited.
01:49:20.000 Is it limited?
01:49:21.000 Like you can send one, not like one, but like if you're stuck.
01:49:24.000 No, no, no, no.
01:49:25.000 You misunderstand what I'm saying.
01:49:26.000 No, you misunderstand what I'm saying.
01:49:28.000 Yeah, there is satellite messaging.
01:49:30.000 But what I'm saying is GPS coordinates that your maps work.
01:49:35.000 I think your maps still work even if you don't have cell phone signal.
01:49:40.000 You can't put in, I can tell you this, if you're in a forest, it's not going to tell you which way to go because it hasn't been mapped in that way.
01:49:48.000 Like, it's not going to tell you turn left in 50 yards.
01:49:51.000 Right, right, right.
01:49:52.000 Yeah, you get GPS, but you don't get directions.
01:49:55.000 You won't get directions.
01:49:56.000 You're going to have to trust something else.
01:49:57.000 Siri, tell me how to get home.
01:50:00.000 Right.
01:50:01.000 You're going to have to find some other ways to identify.
01:50:03.000 Yeah, you'll have to actually look at the terrain on your GPS unit and figure out which way to go.
01:50:09.000 Yes.
01:50:10.000 You can do that.
01:50:10.000 But you can pick a waypoint and it'll actually steer you towards a waypoint.
01:50:15.000 And what if you don't have your device on you?
01:50:17.000 You're fucked.
01:50:17.000 You're fucked.
01:50:18.000 No, you can actually learn this.
01:50:21.000 Oh, no, no, no.
01:50:21.000 I mean, you're fucked.
01:50:23.000 I'm fucked.
01:50:24.000 You're not fucked.
01:50:25.000 An iPhone's GPS will work fine without cell phone coverage.
01:50:28.000 Your phone will know where it is, but you will not be able to see your location displayed on Apple Maps without a data connection to download the map.
01:50:38.000 What does that mean?
01:50:39.000 That makes it a little bit tough to get a phone.
01:50:41.000 So it knows where you are.
01:50:43.000 The GPS will work fine.
01:50:45.000 So could you just download the map of the entire country and leave it on your phone?
01:50:49.000 I know you can do that with certain apps.
01:50:53.000 Like there's Onyx Hunt.
01:50:56.000 It's a map application for wilderness hunters.
01:51:01.000 And you can use that and you download areas and you have them regardless of cell phone service.
01:51:06.000 So you can tell where you're at.
01:51:08.000 That may work, but most people on this planet have not done that, so they would be screwed.
01:51:12.000 Yeah, you're fucked.
01:51:13.000 Yeah, you're fucked.
01:51:13.000 If you don't know where the North Star is, you don't know how to figure out north, south, east, and west, yeah, you're in trouble.
01:51:18.000 You don't know where the sun rises and sets.
01:51:20.000 Some people don't even know.
01:51:21.000 No, you're right.
01:51:22.000 They don't.
01:51:22.000 They don't even know.
01:51:23.000 They have no idea.
01:51:23.000 A lot of people live in the city.
01:51:26.000 Which way does the sun set?
01:51:27.000 North?
01:51:27.000 I don't fucking know.
01:51:29.000 They don't know.
01:51:29.000 Probably north.
01:51:30.000 And they just start going there.
01:51:31.000 They think they're going north, and they're going deeper into the woods.
01:51:33.000 And another thing about going deeper in the woods, humans are prone to circular movement.
01:51:37.000 So if you don't know that, you will just keep walking in circles.
01:51:41.000 And so you could see the north and you could keep walking kind of towards it, but you're going to veer slightly and you're going to find yourself right back where you came from.
01:51:48.000 Not good.
01:51:49.000 It's not good.
01:51:50.000 And you have to figure out a strategy to keep yourself from doing that because you will naturally...
01:51:54.000 They've done all sorts of studies on this and humans walk in circles.
01:51:57.000 Why do they do that?
01:51:58.000 That's what we do.
01:51:59.000 I don't know.
01:52:00.000 Why do we do that?
01:52:01.000 It's something in our brain.
01:52:02.000 We don't really understand what it is to walk in a straight line.
01:52:05.000 You could get a real prodigal son about that too, I think.
01:52:10.000 Getting lost in the woods has to be one of the most terrifying experiences.
01:52:14.000 You know what you should do if you get lost in the woods?
01:52:16.000 What?
01:52:16.000 The first thing you should do is stop moving.
01:52:19.000 Stop moving.
01:52:20.000 Stay put.
01:52:20.000 Yeah, stay put.
01:52:21.000 You really need to create a shelter and come up with a plan.
01:52:24.000 Just walking around, you're not going to get out.
01:52:27.000 Yeah, people have died.
01:52:28.000 I mean, you've probably heard this, but on the Appalachian Trail and stuff, they'll go off the trail for 10 feet or something to pee.
01:52:33.000 But it's like in a bush or whatever.
01:52:35.000 And then they lose track of where the trail is.
01:52:38.000 And they will die 20 feet away from the trail because they moved around and they exerted all their energy and whatever.
01:52:44.000 If they had just stayed put and waited for the sunrise and didn't, you know, whatever.
01:52:48.000 And then they figured out a system like by watching the sky or if they had your...
01:52:52.000 We should all download all the maps.
01:52:54.000 Make sure we have GPS on our phones.
01:52:56.000 But, you know, people just...
01:52:58.000 I mean, there's all these stories...
01:53:11.000 Wow.
01:53:12.000 Wow.
01:53:25.000 Actually, the teenager lived because the mother and the aunt gave her all their clothes and they covered her and everything and she survived and they both died.
01:53:31.000 Yeah, horrible stories.
01:53:32.000 Oh my God.
01:53:32.000 The things that people don't know about the wilderness.
01:53:34.000 So stay put if you're not good at this.
01:53:38.000 Yeah, there's a lot of tragic stories.
01:53:39.000 Jesus.
01:53:40.000 It's so unforgiving out there.
01:53:44.000 Yeah.
01:53:46.000 And so many people have no idea how to even navigate.
01:53:48.000 And you can't, most people are out of shape.
01:53:50.000 You can't even walk up hills.
01:53:52.000 There's that too.
01:53:53.000 You get stuck out there, you're fucked.
01:53:55.000 But we survived as a species out there.
01:53:57.000 So the thing is, it really is about knowledge.
01:53:59.000 And I mean, living in a city would be impossible for prehistoric people too.
01:54:03.000 Like just, I mean, cars are so fast.
01:54:05.000 Like how do we avoid getting hit?
01:54:06.000 They would get mugged so quick.
01:54:07.000 Yeah, they would definitely get mugged.
01:54:10.000 If they had a car, they wouldn't lock it.
01:54:13.000 They would never figure out how to drive a car.
01:54:15.000 No one's going to teach them.
01:54:16.000 Oh yeah.
01:54:17.000 Can you imagine moving at those speeds?
01:54:19.000 But the point is, you can understand the wilderness, but people don't.
01:54:22.000 And in a sense, they're not humble enough, right?
01:54:24.000 They don't understand that there's something terrifying if you don't know what you're facing.
01:54:29.000 And it's interesting that the disconnect from nature that we get with cities enables people to create things where you don't need nature anymore.
01:54:40.000 Supermarkets, trucks, all those inventions, everything's coming out of cities, and it's all getting constructed, built, put together by a group of people living in cities.
01:54:47.000 And it all comes from nature, but nobody sees that because it's so many steps removed.
01:54:52.000 Right.
01:54:53.000 But whatever it does, it removes you further and further from nature.
01:54:57.000 Yeah.
01:54:57.000 All the things that we make remove us further and further from nature, shield us from nature.
01:55:03.000 I feel like a lot of the high control group culty things is as far removed from nature as possible, too.
01:55:08.000 I mean, my mom was really an exception in this way.
01:55:10.000 My dad didn't learn the survival stuff.
01:55:11.000 It was just my mom.
01:55:12.000 But there's this idea, I think, that if we could understand our true nature, we'd be a lot less susceptible to all sorts of control, right?
01:55:22.000 Because we would understand that we don't have control and that no human...
01:55:25.000 Right.
01:55:26.000 You know, who professes to have the ultimate wisdom could possibly have it because we would be so attached to—I mean, the cycles of nature, like, everything is prey and predator and, like, everything's part of a much larger system.
01:55:37.000 And if you saw yourself as part of that, it would be really hard to fully believe any one person could be the son of God in today's age, you know?
01:55:46.000 Like, if they profess to be the prophet or whatever, you would have a lot more cynicism, I think, if you understood nature.
01:55:52.000 Yeah, no doubt.
01:55:52.000 We're just so removed from it.
01:55:54.000 We're very removed from it.
01:55:55.000 And, you know, that's also a problem of protecting your kids, right?
01:55:59.000 Then your kids aren't going to meet a bunch of creepy people where they can recognize creepy people in the future.
01:56:04.000 You know?
01:56:05.000 I met a lot of fucking psychos.
01:56:07.000 I see them coming.
01:56:10.000 You know what they look like.
01:56:10.000 I go, I know what you look like.
01:56:11.000 I've seen one of you before.
01:56:12.000 You're out of your fucking mind.
01:56:14.000 And if you don't know that and you're a 17-year-old kid who just gets released from a cult because you went to Color Purple...
01:56:21.000 All of a sudden, you're out there in the world.
01:56:23.000 How'd you figure out who to trust?
01:56:25.000 Oh, it took me a long time.
01:56:26.000 In fact, I've been physically assaulted.
01:56:29.000 I mean, I've been physically assaulted by people I had no idea were dangerous.
01:56:33.000 You were some guy, and he's like, oh, I'm having this backyard barbecue or whatever, and then there's nobody else there, and you don't know to leave.
01:56:39.000 You're just in the backyard, and he grabs you.
01:56:41.000 I mean, my bones have been broken.
01:56:43.000 Oh, my God.
01:56:44.000 Because I didn't understand.
01:56:45.000 I mean, I could fight back to whatever degree, but I also—you can't fight again.
01:56:51.000 It's just really difficult.
01:56:53.000 But I didn't know...
01:56:54.000 That people were dangerous.
01:56:55.000 Right.
01:56:55.000 That people were dangerous in that way.
01:56:57.000 Right.
01:56:57.000 Whew.
01:56:58.000 Wow.
01:57:00.000 God, what a wild experience.
01:57:03.000 That would make a hell of a movie.
01:57:06.000 You know, because The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt is really funny.
01:57:09.000 Yeah.
01:57:09.000 It's more fun when it's funny.
01:57:11.000 Yeah.
01:57:12.000 Well, she's hilarious.
01:57:13.000 That show's hilarious.
01:57:14.000 It is.
01:57:15.000 I really love that show.
01:57:16.000 The gay guy, the roommate.
01:57:17.000 Oh, my God.
01:57:18.000 What's his name again?
01:57:19.000 I don't remember.
01:57:20.000 It's been a while since I saw it.
01:57:21.000 The show is excellent.
01:57:22.000 It's such a funny show.
01:57:24.000 Well, I did.
01:57:24.000 So after Forager came out, I was approached to do a creative shopping agreement, whatever.
01:57:28.000 So I did write a screenplay for Forager that is different than the book, but it is about all of this.
01:57:34.000 So we'll see what comes of it.
01:57:36.000 Well, I hope they make a movie out of it because it's such an insane story.
01:57:40.000 It's just kudos to you for getting through it and becoming the person sitting in front of me today.
01:57:47.000 It's a wild ride.
01:57:49.000 Yeah, it's been a long journey.
01:57:51.000 But it's nice to be on this side of it, I'll tell you.
01:57:55.000 How many cults are active right now in the country?
01:57:59.000 Do we know?
01:58:00.000 No, we certainly don't know.
01:58:01.000 But there is such a thing as a cult directory, which you had mentioned, too.
01:58:04.000 So when I was on, I did a local television right at the beginning when the book came out, Frank Buckley, and the woman who was his producer, he was asking at the end, it's like, oh, you know, I didn't know this cult existed.
01:58:15.000 How did I not know, etc.
01:58:16.000 And she said, well, I did my fact checking before we booked her, and it's in the cult directory.
01:58:20.000 And he's like, what?
01:58:21.000 There's a cult directory?
01:58:22.000 And the field is actually in the cult directory.
01:58:25.000 And I didn't even know that.
01:58:26.000 I was like, Whoa.
01:58:27.000 So it's been reported.
01:58:29.000 So I think a more interesting question actually is why are these cults not shut down?
01:58:34.000 I mean, there's a bunch of them.
01:58:35.000 Like you said, someone told you there's just tons of them.
01:58:37.000 They're active in California.
01:58:38.000 And I don't know if it's like freedom of speech that we have going on.
01:58:42.000 Isn't the real question like how do you define a cult?
01:58:44.000 Yeah.
01:58:45.000 Because Scientology has tax-exempt status in the United States, which indicates that it's a legitimate religion.
01:58:51.000 Because they sued the IRS. And they won.
01:58:54.000 They swore.
01:58:55.000 Thousands of dudes threatened to sue the IRS and they filed lawsuits and I guess the IRS caved and said, all right, we don't want to deal with all this.
01:59:02.000 Which is really powerful of them.
01:59:04.000 It really is.
01:59:04.000 But also if you declare yourself a religion, then you do get tax exempt status.
01:59:09.000 But I think what makes a cult is, yeah, I mean, there's like the Steve Hassan thing that we talked about, but you know, this is really, really high control.
01:59:18.000 But the question is, unless the abuse is reported in real time, it's really hard to find.
01:59:23.000 And the people who are in the cult, A, don't recognize it's a cult because nobody's in a cult calls it a cult.
01:59:27.000 And then B, are loyal to the cult.
01:59:30.000 So they're not talking.
01:59:31.000 You can't just go in and ask people.
01:59:32.000 They're not going to tell you.
01:59:33.000 Right.
01:59:34.000 I would not have told you.
01:59:35.000 There's no way.
01:59:36.000 When I was there, when I was 16, I would never have this conversation.
01:59:40.000 Right.
01:59:40.000 Not just not publicly.
01:59:41.000 I wouldn't have had it privately either.
01:59:43.000 Yeah, I mean, you don't think it's a cult if it's the truth.
01:59:45.000 If you think it's the truth, you think, this isn't a cult.
01:59:48.000 We're just the people living the right way.
01:59:49.000 Right.
01:59:50.000 Yeah.
01:59:51.000 And there's a lot of people who believe that, I think.
01:59:52.000 Yeah.
01:59:53.000 About themselves.
01:59:54.000 They believe that about religions, too.
01:59:56.000 I mean, the fact that people want to say that there's...
01:59:59.000 There's certain people that talk historically about the Christian religion, and they refer to it as a cult, like, just historically.
02:00:07.000 Like, this is the Christian cult, and this is what they did.
02:00:10.000 Like, as you would say, this is the Hindu cult, this is this cult, that cult.
02:00:16.000 They don't think of it as—we have this problem like religion, cult, different things.
02:00:21.000 But it's groups of people that have very specific rules that you need to live by that's mandated by a higher power.
02:00:28.000 Yes.
02:00:29.000 Like, if you just break it down to what the ingredients are, like, you could tell me it's a steak, but it has all the ingredients of a carrot cake.
02:00:36.000 I think this might be a carrot cake.
02:00:38.000 No, no, no.
02:00:38.000 We call it a steak.
02:00:40.000 But it seems like it's got carrots.
02:00:42.000 It seems like a carrot cake.
02:00:44.000 And that's religion and cult.
02:00:46.000 There's this very blurry line.
02:00:48.000 So Scientology should win that lawsuit.
02:00:50.000 So who's to say?
02:00:53.000 Mormons aren't legit or they are legit?
02:00:56.000 Okay, so they get tax exempt status, but Scientology doesn't?
02:00:59.000 Why?
02:01:00.000 Yeah.
02:01:00.000 I don't think you can come up with a legitimate reason why.
02:01:03.000 And in all these groups, Scientology and Mormonism too, there's these inner circles that are much, much more devout.
02:01:08.000 So there's plenty of people who define themselves as Mormon or Scientologists who aren't living this really narrow life, but the people at the center are.
02:01:16.000 But that's the question.
02:01:17.000 It's like, how hard is it to form a religion?
02:01:19.000 Is it really easy?
02:01:20.000 Like, how easy is it to get that tax exempt status?
02:01:23.000 How many people do you need?
02:01:24.000 I feel like I could do it.
02:01:24.000 I bet you could do it.
02:01:25.000 I feel like I could do it.
02:01:26.000 I bet you could do it, for sure.
02:01:28.000 But it's one of those things.
02:01:30.000 It's like, how many...
02:01:31.000 You would imagine that everybody would be doing it.
02:01:34.000 It's a great way to just trick the government.
02:01:36.000 Sure.
02:01:37.000 You don't have to give them any money.
02:01:38.000 Yeah.
02:01:38.000 I think someone did that, right?
02:01:40.000 Jamie, like a spaghetti monster or something, and actually created the church of that.
02:01:44.000 And they got tax exempt status for that?
02:01:48.000 The flying spaghetti monster?
02:01:50.000 Well, it would be really hard to argue, especially when you're dealing with something like Scientology, when you have a science fiction writer who is, you know, he's the most prolific fiction writer of all time.
02:02:03.000 L. Ron Hubbard, he wrote more words down and had them published than any human being that's ever lived.
02:02:11.000 I think he was a Boy Scout, too, actually.
02:02:12.000 Was he?
02:02:13.000 Yeah, we should check that one, but I think he was.
02:02:14.000 My favorite is when he's in the Sea Org and he's got this military jacket on and just gave himself a bunch of medals.
02:02:20.000 He's got these stacks of medals.
02:02:22.000 Have you gone to the museum?
02:02:24.000 Which one?
02:02:24.000 I think there's more than one, but there's the one in Hollywood?
02:02:26.000 No, no, I didn't.
02:02:28.000 I've met with them before.
02:02:29.000 I got audited while you hold on to the cans and they did the thing.
02:02:34.000 Yeah, yeah, I did that and I could feel the energy.
02:02:36.000 I was filming a television show in San Diego and we were near a park.
02:02:40.000 I wasn't as famous back then.
02:02:42.000 I could get away with it.
02:02:42.000 They didn't know how it was.
02:02:43.000 And I sat down with this dude and he went through the whole thing with me with the e-meter.
02:02:47.000 And I realized somewhere along the line that he's just a dude who joined Scientology.
02:02:53.000 And now part of his job is to go out and convert, but he's not very good at it.
02:02:57.000 He didn't convert you?
02:02:58.000 No, no.
02:02:59.000 Well, not only that, he's not good at selling it.
02:03:01.000 He was very non-enthusiastic about it.
02:03:03.000 Because I would have thought that all the cult members were super pumped to get you to join.
02:03:07.000 But this guy was just lost.
02:03:09.000 Like, I guess this is my people now.
02:03:11.000 Yeah, hold on.
02:03:12.000 The E-meter.
02:03:13.000 So it was interesting.
02:03:14.000 In my mind, it was like, every person trying to indoctrinate you into this cult is going to be really charismatic and really locked in.
02:03:22.000 No, those are the leaders.
02:03:24.000 They get the regular folks to go out to the park and annoy people and get yelled at.
02:03:28.000 You fucking wackadoo.
02:03:31.000 So that's the guy that I met.
02:03:32.000 The people at the top don't want to do that.
02:03:33.000 It was very weird.
02:03:34.000 I feel like you could be a cult leader, Joe, if you wanted to be.
02:03:38.000 I don't think it's that hard.
02:03:40.000 I feel like you could.
02:03:41.000 I don't think it's that hard.
02:03:42.000 If you decided it was one of your life goals, hit me up and I'll give you some tips and you'll be there in another week or two.
02:03:49.000 I'm not interested.
02:03:49.000 If it's a cult, it's a cult.
02:03:51.000 You could leave anytime.
02:03:52.000 There's no requirements.
02:03:53.000 Just say you're in.
02:03:54.000 Okay, you're not?
02:03:55.000 I don't care.
02:03:56.000 I don't think the Pastafarians have tax-exempt status.
02:04:00.000 But the Scientologists do.
02:04:03.000 If you read the fucking story, anybody that reads that story, the story of the Thetans and the volcano and the aliens and the spirits.
02:04:10.000 It's really interesting.
02:04:11.000 It's crazy!
02:04:13.000 It's crazy.
02:04:14.000 If you read Lawrence Wright's Going Clear, it's a very fascinating book that sort of details the whole history of L. Ron Hubbard creating it.
02:04:23.000 He was basically a crazy person who was self-diagnosing.
02:04:26.000 And so he was like self-counseling.
02:04:29.000 He was using all these self-help books and psychology books trying to figure out how to live a life.
02:04:33.000 And that was Dianetics.
02:04:35.000 Yeah.
02:04:36.000 You've read some of that, right?
02:04:37.000 Yeah, well, I bought it.
02:04:39.000 In the 1990s, they had those infomercials where it was the volcano and the books were flying out of the volcano.
02:04:45.000 It's funny.
02:04:46.000 And I didn't know that it meant, like, I didn't know the whole story behind the volcano where, like, the aliens throw the fucking frozen souls at the volcano, all that crazy shit.
02:04:55.000 So I just thought it was a self-help book.
02:04:58.000 And back then, I was really into self-help books.
02:04:59.000 I bought, like, Anthony Robbins audio cassettes and all that shit.
02:05:03.000 I was into things like that.
02:05:04.000 Sure.
02:05:05.000 And so I was like, oh, that seemed like how to maximize your life in this commercial.
02:05:09.000 I'm like, oh, interesting.
02:05:09.000 So I bought it online or on the phone.
02:05:13.000 I think back then you called.
02:05:15.000 It wasn't online.
02:05:15.000 And they never stopped sending me shit.
02:05:17.000 They sent me shit for years, for years.
02:05:20.000 It was invitations to this and invitations to that and, you know, half off of this and free that and come here and meet with us.
02:05:29.000 And they just wouldn't stop.
02:05:30.000 They just bombarded me with stuff.
02:05:32.000 Well, you would be a good get if they could get you.
02:05:35.000 So you had all these iterations of like these self-help, you know, stages of all these things through all of it, right?
02:05:41.000 All the ways that you have self-helped in a sense.
02:05:45.000 So what has been the most useful to you in being the kind of person you want to be?
02:05:52.000 Time.
02:05:54.000 Time's a big one.
02:05:55.000 Learning over time.
02:05:58.000 Experiences.
02:06:00.000 Introspective thought.
02:06:01.000 Making decisions based on truth rather than based on what you want to believe.
02:06:08.000 And just the accumulation of life experiences.
02:06:14.000 Like a life well lived and then psychedelic drugs.
02:06:19.000 Those have been very effective.
02:06:21.000 Those are the big ones.
02:06:22.000 The psychedelic drug breakthroughs are the ones where you...
02:06:25.000 I always say that it's like Control-Alt-Delete for your brain.
02:06:30.000 And then your brain reboots with a fresh desktop.
02:06:34.000 But now there's only one folder in that desktop, and that folder says, My Old Bullshit.
02:06:39.000 And you have a decision.
02:06:40.000 Either you open up that folder and start behaving exactly how you used to because you have a pattern that you're accustomed to.
02:06:46.000 Or you try to re-engage with the world, re-interface with the world with this newfound experience as a guide.
02:07:00.000 I think that's what the heart of all religious experiences are.
02:07:02.000 I think there was people back then that experimented with psychedelic drugs and they had profound experiences and they might have even experienced entities.
02:07:10.000 They might have even had interaction with God.
02:07:13.000 It might be a real thing that you could do with the right stuff.
02:07:17.000 And I think people have been talking about it and writing it on cave walls and depicting it in many religious texts and drawing images of it on the fucking ruins of Egypt.
02:07:29.000 I mean it's everywhere.
02:07:30.000 It was in the Eleusinian Mysteries in Greece.
02:07:33.000 It's everywhere.
02:07:34.000 Psychedelic drugs have been everywhere throughout human history.
02:07:37.000 I think they probably shaped a lot of the way people formulated their ideas about religion.
02:07:44.000 Absolutely.
02:07:45.000 And I think that a lot of people believe that it was the foraging of those mushrooms that led to psychedelic drugs that led the cultivation of communities that were religiously based.
02:07:56.000 But that they really came from just looking for food initially.
02:07:59.000 And then they'd have these experiences and they could see something bigger than the life they were living.
02:08:04.000 I always wondered why the Hindus don't eat cows.
02:08:08.000 How did that become religious?
02:08:10.000 Specifically cows.
02:08:10.000 Right.
02:08:11.000 And does it have anything to do with the fact that they make mushrooms?
02:08:15.000 Because mushrooms grow on cow shit.
02:08:17.000 And if you had cows that were connecting you to God, you wouldn't want to eat them.
02:08:22.000 No, they would be a form of a God.
02:08:24.000 Yeah, don't eat Betsy.
02:08:25.000 Betsy's cool.
02:08:26.000 She brings us the mushrooms.
02:08:28.000 Because that's where the mushrooms grow.
02:08:29.000 I mean, is it a coincidence that mushrooms grow on cow shit?
02:08:32.000 I don't know.
02:08:33.000 I mean, what is the original origin of why Hindus don't eat cows?
02:08:37.000 Because I really don't know.
02:08:39.000 But I know that there have been cultures that were cattle-worshipping cultures that also had mushroom iconography.
02:08:46.000 There's some...
02:08:48.000 God, I forget the name of the culture.
02:08:52.000 It's a weird, like, Choctaw Hiyuk or something like that.
02:08:56.000 But it's a culture that had all their iconography was like cattle and mushrooms.
02:09:03.000 Yeah.
02:09:04.000 Or some of their iconography, I shouldn't say that.
02:09:07.000 Like some of their writings, what's left.
02:09:09.000 It's like so many cultures that show evidence that they've been doing stuff with psychedelic drugs forever.
02:09:15.000 They probably formulated so many of their...
02:09:18.000 You know, like their shamanistic practices and how they organize their culture and their communities.
02:09:26.000 They'll probably all do rituals together to connect to each other, you know, and stare at the stars.
02:09:31.000 But the thing about psychedelics, though, that is so beautiful compared to cults, and cults don't do these because they tap you into yourself and you have your own unique, or someone unique, but, you know, you have your own individual experience of what it means to you.
02:09:43.000 Yeah.
02:09:44.000 And cults can't allow you to have that.
02:09:46.000 That's true, but there are a lot of instances of guys who are shaman, even in the rainforest, that do creepy shit.
02:09:54.000 Oh, well, they're human.
02:09:55.000 Yeah, but they're not just human.
02:09:57.000 It's like they do start running things like a cult, even though they're shamans and they're giving people ayahuasca.
02:10:03.000 Oh, that's depressing.
02:10:05.000 Yeah.
02:10:06.000 Well, some of them might have gravitated towards that with that intention in mind, right?
02:10:14.000 Like they might not have been born true of the shamanistic spirit.
02:10:18.000 They might have entered into it at a point in life like as a con artist, you know, which does happen.
02:10:25.000 It does happen.
02:10:26.000 Like people infiltrate certain kind of groups of people if they feel like, It's a bunch of vulnerable people in those groups and a bunch of easily influenced and open to interpretation.
02:10:37.000 You can just tell them that you're connected to God in a very unique way and also you're a guru.
02:10:44.000 Yeah.
02:10:44.000 There's a lot of those guys, too.
02:10:46.000 I mean, that was the wild, wild country guy.
02:10:49.000 You know?
02:10:50.000 He was like a legit guru.
02:10:53.000 Said some, Osho, said some brilliant things, but also was fucking crazy.
02:10:57.000 Out of his mind.
02:10:58.000 He's a freak.
02:10:59.000 I feel like we need to be skeptical of anyone who tells us that they know the word of God, that they are connected to God and you are not.
02:11:06.000 Yes.
02:11:07.000 So if you tell me this is my experience and I ask you questions, I can choose to follow you or not follow you, right?
02:11:12.000 Based on whether or not I like the results of your experience, etc.
02:11:15.000 But somebody who says, no, God told me this and this is the only way.
02:11:19.000 But imagine if God really did tell you and nobody wanted to believe you.
02:11:23.000 Well, I'm sure a lot of people- Imagine like, I really am a prophet.
02:11:27.000 Yeah.
02:11:27.000 Well, that was my grandpa.
02:11:28.000 Guys, I know this is crazy.
02:11:29.000 I know this sounds crazy, but I just got back from the mountain and God gave me a series of rules and I got to give it to you.
02:11:35.000 Yeah.
02:11:36.000 Nobody would believe you, which is really ironic about today.
02:11:40.000 Like, Christians really want Jesus to return.
02:11:43.000 But, like, what amount of convincing would you have to do to get people to believe you were really Jesus?
02:11:49.000 You'd have to do so much work.
02:11:51.000 And how many people would be convinced that it's Satan pretending to be Jesus?
02:11:54.000 So then there'd be that battle.
02:11:56.000 The same people that think Michelle Obama has a dick.
02:11:58.000 There's going to be people that think, they're going to think the nuttiest of things.
02:12:03.000 And then Jesus is going to be like, guys, guys, guys, I am not Satan.
02:12:07.000 I'm actually Jesus.
02:12:09.000 Nobody believe him.
02:12:10.000 We would fucking crucify him again.
02:12:12.000 And then people realize, God damn it, we did it again.
02:12:14.000 We did it again.
02:12:16.000 We could have kept him around and learned from him.
02:12:17.000 And now they're going to have to rewrite Christianity.
02:12:20.000 Every few thousand years he comes back and they fucking kill him again.
02:12:25.000 Cycle of life.
02:12:26.000 Well, that's the really scary thing to think that if the Son of God really did return, if that is a real true thing, how the fuck would we ever believe that?
02:12:38.000 We don't believe anything anymore.
02:12:40.000 Yeah.
02:12:40.000 I mean, the tradition, right, is this trumpet is going to sound and you think the trumpet in the sky.
02:12:46.000 But we would be convinced that's the government.
02:12:48.000 That's air horns.
02:12:49.000 They're tricking us.
02:12:50.000 Yeah.
02:12:50.000 This is the ultimate false flag.
02:12:52.000 The Jesus returns false flag.
02:12:54.000 I mean, that's what a lot of people think is going on with the UFO reports.
02:12:57.000 Yeah.
02:12:58.000 Yeah.
02:12:59.000 They think it's bullshit.
02:13:00.000 They think it's the government.
02:13:01.000 And the government's lying to us about that they're from another planet, you know, which is, you know.
02:13:08.000 They lie about everything.
02:13:09.000 Like, if they're telling you something, these are off-world crafts, I'm like, oh, when did we make these?
02:13:14.000 Like, shut the fuck up.
02:13:15.000 When did we make these?
02:13:16.000 You're saying they're out from another planet?
02:13:18.000 For real?
02:13:19.000 I don't believe you.
02:13:20.000 I mean, it could be a case of crying wolf.
02:13:22.000 Like, maybe they're telling the truth, but boy, seems a little suspicious.
02:13:25.000 And that would be the same thing with the Jesus thing.
02:13:27.000 Like, if Jesus really did come back and there were some fundamentalist Christians that were in government That wanted the world to know.
02:13:35.000 So they had a press conference and we have definitive proof that Jesus has returned and we need to listen to him.
02:13:40.000 Everybody was like, get the fuck out of here.
02:13:42.000 No one would believe it.
02:13:44.000 That's what's crazy about today.
02:13:45.000 If Jesus came back today and the world was in the middle of chaos, if we're in the middle of World War III and Jesus returns, there's a real likelihood that they would crucify him again or something similar.
02:13:57.000 Real likelihood.
02:13:58.000 Can't disagree with you.
02:13:58.000 If he falls in the wrong group of people, the modern-day version of the Romans, right?
02:14:03.000 You could fall in the wrong group of people and, like, if Jesus, like, accidentally landed in ISIS country, Could you imagine?
02:14:12.000 I don't know if it would be an accident, but okay.
02:14:15.000 Right.
02:14:15.000 Probably not an accident.
02:14:17.000 But maybe, you know, Jesus is just like, let me just go down there.
02:14:20.000 And it wasn't specific enough.
02:14:22.000 And God didn't say, like, where do you want to go?
02:14:25.000 Like, send me to Manhattan.
02:14:26.000 No.
02:14:27.000 He said, just bring me to Earth.
02:14:28.000 And he just dropped him off right in an ISIS camp.
02:14:31.000 Oh, yeah.
02:14:31.000 That'd be very dangerous.
02:14:32.000 Yeah.
02:14:32.000 Yeah.
02:14:33.000 And then the whole thing starts all over again.
02:14:35.000 Yeah.
02:14:35.000 And then we have to tell the story about the guy who came from God.
02:14:38.000 He was God's son.
02:14:38.000 And ISIS killed him.
02:14:40.000 I don't think we've changed that much since the Pharisees and Sadducees and all that.
02:14:44.000 I mean, we've changed a little, but I think so much of our change is...
02:14:48.000 But none of human nature changes.
02:14:50.000 Right.
02:14:50.000 That's what's going to say.
02:14:51.000 So much of our change is technological.
02:14:52.000 So much of our change is society and wooden buildings and concrete structures and roads and...
02:14:58.000 Metal forks.
02:14:59.000 Bones and metal forks.
02:15:01.000 Yeah.
02:15:01.000 That's what's changed.
02:15:02.000 But the actual tissue is real similar.
02:15:05.000 It's real similar to people that lived 10,000 years ago.
02:15:11.000 We've got the human nature more suppressed now than it's ever been before.
02:15:16.000 But like we were talking about earlier, if you're in a crowd situation when things go chaos, then you go, oh, we're still this thing.
02:15:23.000 We're still programmed for war.
02:15:25.000 We're still programmed for chaos.
02:15:27.000 It's all in us.
02:15:27.000 Yeah.
02:15:29.000 Yeah, and mob mentality, all of that.
02:15:31.000 It's real.
02:15:32.000 People change.
02:15:33.000 They absolutely change when they're in a group.
02:15:34.000 The group dynamics are always different.
02:15:36.000 I think you see it online, too.
02:15:38.000 I think mob mentality exists not even just in a physical space, but I think it exists in a digital space, too.
02:15:45.000 I think when people gang up on people online, on Twitter, and those kind of things, I think that's the same thing.
02:15:50.000 I think it's the same kind of mob mentality.
02:15:52.000 It's the same sort of energy that Is in us.
02:15:56.000 It's very creepy.
02:15:57.000 It's very creepy and it's one of those things where you're like, how do we ever get that out?
02:16:03.000 How do we ever get these ancient primate inclinations out of the modern human organism?
02:16:11.000 I think if we had an answer for that, that we would be very, very, very wealthy.
02:16:17.000 Maybe, or the government would kill you.
02:16:21.000 It would be hard to control people if you had the answer to that.
02:16:24.000 Yeah.
02:16:25.000 I think for individuals, the most important thing is exercise.
02:16:28.000 It's one of the most important things, I should say, because you can induce enough stress voluntarily that the regular stress of the outside world is mitigated because you've already experienced a higher level of difficulty in your day by choice than the world can impose upon you.
02:16:45.000 So if you have rigorous workout schedules, if you like to run, if you want to lift weights, if you want to do yoga, like you want to do something like jiu-jitsu, do something that's physically taxing, that's what you should do.
02:16:56.000 Do something like that and the physical act of forcing yourself to do something extremely difficult that makes you uncomfortable for a short period of time but makes the rest of the day much easier.
02:17:08.000 Yeah.
02:17:08.000 That's what it is.
02:17:09.000 You've got to just feed the monkey inside of you.
02:17:12.000 Don't deny its existence.
02:17:14.000 Just do something to that thing to calm it down.
02:17:16.000 Give it food.
02:17:18.000 You know?
02:17:19.000 Yeah.
02:17:20.000 I wonder, statistically, those of us who exercise, if we are less inclined to get online and terrorize other people in mob mentality.
02:17:27.000 I would guess that may be true.
02:17:28.000 I would bet that's true.
02:17:29.000 A lot of the people that I know that terrorize people in mob mentality, they're extremely unhealthy.
02:17:33.000 They look terrible.
02:17:35.000 They get addicted to it.
02:17:37.000 They get addicted to interacting online, on Twitter all the time, and gauging...
02:17:42.000 You know, the temperature socially of how people think about them based on this like verbose bullshit they just typed on Facebook.
02:17:49.000 But it's like it becomes this integral part of the way they engage with other human beings and it's very non-human.
02:17:57.000 It's very recent.
02:17:58.000 It's very non-human.
02:18:00.000 It's too limited in the way you interact with it.
02:18:05.000 You can get good information online, and you can get interesting discussions on Twitter, but you could also get, like, you're dealing with legitimately mentally ill people.
02:18:15.000 And I don't use that term lightly, okay?
02:18:17.000 I'm not saying schizophrenic.
02:18:19.000 I'm not saying manic-depressive.
02:18:21.000 But if you are a person that has a gambling addict, Addiction.
02:18:26.000 If you're a person that has an addiction to betting on the horses, you're mentally ill.
02:18:32.000 You have this thing you're sick with.
02:18:33.000 If you can't stop smoking cigarettes, you're mentally ill.
02:18:36.000 You have this thing that you can't stop.
02:18:38.000 You're physically attracted to it, you're physically addicted to it, but you're also mentally ill because you don't recognize that you should stop before you get fucking lung cancer, right?
02:18:46.000 That's the same thing with everything, I think.
02:18:49.000 I think these are just like normal patterns and I think people that are addicted to arguing with people on Twitter, they're mentally ill.
02:18:56.000 This is serving the same thing as online poker.
02:19:00.000 This is serving the same thing as, fill in the blanks, whatever you like to do that you probably shouldn't be doing, scratch tickets, lottery, whatever it is that you just can't get out of your head because you got locked into it.
02:19:12.000 You're mentally ill.
02:19:13.000 You're mentally ill.
02:19:13.000 Just like when you have a cough, you're physically ill.
02:19:16.000 Yeah.
02:19:16.000 When you're online 12 hours a day arguing with people, you're mentally ill.
02:19:20.000 And maybe you're mentally ill and having good discussions.
02:19:24.000 Maybe you're mentally ill and engaging in sometimes productive conversations.
02:19:29.000 But you're also...
02:19:30.000 You're heightening your levels of anxiety and this bizarre, non-natural way of interfacing with other human beings.
02:19:38.000 And you're living in that most of the time.
02:19:40.000 So you're...
02:19:41.000 You're going to suffer in the way you interact with people on a regular basis.
02:19:46.000 And you see that bleed out, too, right?
02:19:48.000 You see people act like they're on Twitter into people in real life.
02:19:51.000 And people are like, what the fuck is wrong with you?
02:19:53.000 Why are you acting like this?
02:19:54.000 Because they're so used to communicating like that on Twitter and on Facebook and Instagram that they think it's normal to just be completely rude to people.
02:20:02.000 Yeah.
02:20:02.000 Can't do that in the wilderness.
02:20:04.000 Right.
02:20:04.000 There's not enough cell reception to do that in the wilderness.
02:20:07.000 Right.
02:20:08.000 And you can't do that face-to-face because it feels weird.
02:20:11.000 Yeah.
02:20:11.000 If you talk to people face-to-face the way people talk to people just constantly on Twitter, you'd have fistfights everywhere.
02:20:19.000 People would be just fighting.
02:20:20.000 They'd be pushing each other and hitting each other.
02:20:22.000 You'd have murders.
02:20:25.000 It's just a shitty way to talk.
02:20:28.000 So if you're doing that, you're mentally ill.
02:20:30.000 So if you have gangs of mentally ill people that are just constantly engaging with other gangs of mentally ill people online all day long, arguing over everything cultural, everything environmental, fill in the blanks.
02:20:46.000 Climate change, fill in the blank.
02:20:47.000 Ukraine, whatever it is.
02:20:49.000 The free palace time, fuck you.
02:20:51.000 It's all day long.
02:20:53.000 Mentally ill people.
02:20:56.000 Yeah.
02:20:58.000 And I think China's laughing at us.
02:21:00.000 Oh, they said that.
02:21:02.000 They, yes.
02:21:03.000 I mean, I don't know if they said it all up, but they have infiltrated it.
02:21:06.000 They have done a wonderful job.
02:21:09.000 China, I say.
02:21:11.000 Way to go.
02:21:12.000 That TikTok thing is fucking genius.
02:21:15.000 What you've done is genius.
02:21:17.000 Yeah, I mean, they've definitely infiltrated universities.
02:21:20.000 They definitely – grants and funds.
02:21:22.000 They put money into things.
02:21:24.000 They donate to things.
02:21:26.000 It's – what they've done is wild.
02:21:28.000 It's wild.
02:21:30.000 I would say that the same, I guess, impulsives that make people do everything you're describing are really the same things that keep people in cults.
02:21:38.000 Like there was a lot of the similar traits of people who become mentally ill because they are constantly only focusing on one person's definition of anything.
02:21:50.000 And so if cults were online doing that to each other, that's what they would sound like.
02:21:54.000 Well, most certainly.
02:21:56.000 Mark Andreessen again talked about that as well.
02:21:58.000 He said they have – if you look like the woke people online, they have all the characteristics of a cult.
02:22:03.000 They have excommunications.
02:22:04.000 They'll savagely attack former members.
02:22:08.000 They have rules and there's things that you – there's a suspension of disbelief that you have to use in order to adopt certain things.
02:22:18.000 You have to be willing to say things you know aren't really true and they all get you to do it.
02:22:25.000 Well, because it's part of the in-group, right?
02:22:27.000 Like, that's how you get status.
02:22:29.000 Yeah, but it's just fascinating to see how far that stuff goes up, you know?
02:22:34.000 Like, even with, like, people that run universities, like, they believe it.
02:22:38.000 People that are in Congress, they believe it.
02:22:40.000 It's like, Jesus.
02:22:41.000 Like, this is...
02:22:43.000 We're all in a cult!
02:22:46.000 Cult thinking is not like...
02:22:48.000 I think people have this thing in their head that cults are like small groups of people that are gullible.
02:22:52.000 No.
02:22:53.000 And I don't think that's true.
02:22:54.000 I think you could have a cult of 150 million people easy.
02:22:59.000 Easy.
02:23:00.000 If you have someone controlling your behavior, your information, your thoughts, and your emotions, then...
02:23:05.000 Yeah.
02:23:05.000 And if you have a good system set up where everybody polices everybody else, like woke people on Twitter, and then you have a good system of the person who's in charge and the underlings and all the other people, and people are benefiting from it in a good way, yeah.
02:23:20.000 You can get a bunch of businesses going.
02:23:22.000 You could infiltrate corporations with this nonsense.
02:23:26.000 You could get in the Supreme Court.
02:23:28.000 You could do wild things with it.
02:23:30.000 You just need to have a strong structure of support from the other members online.
02:23:35.000 You just need to get people to police each other and police themselves.
02:23:39.000 Yeah, that's the big one, right?
02:23:40.000 That's the North Korean model.
02:23:43.000 Get people to police themselves.
02:23:45.000 Get people to rat on each other.
02:23:49.000 Whoo!
02:23:49.000 Yeah.
02:23:50.000 I think we just came full circle on that.
02:23:52.000 Yeah.
02:23:52.000 I think your story is very important for people to hear, and I'm really happy that you had the courage to say it, because I would imagine it would be very, very hard to tell that story, very hard to explain the vulnerabilities that you experienced and what it was like to be this 17-year-old kid who's still a kid,
02:24:11.000 who's just becoming a woman out there in the world, And you just escaped from a cult where you couldn't even see movies and all you sung was hymns and you thought the end was near and then you're out there in the world just interacting with all these people that went to like normal schools and had normal childhood American experiences and you have to kind of relearn everything.
02:24:32.000 Yeah.
02:24:32.000 And there's a lot of excommunication that still goes on in terms of, it's my family of origin.
02:24:38.000 Every single cousin I had was raised there.
02:24:40.000 I did not have any cousins on the other side.
02:24:42.000 100% of my relatives were raised in there.
02:24:44.000 And so, yeah, you have to be willing to, in a sense, step away from the acceptance that you get, which I think could relate to many, many, many, many people who have nothing to do with religion.
02:24:56.000 But yeah, all the different types of cults in the world.
02:24:58.000 It's like being willing to stand back and say, wait, I don't believe this.
02:25:02.000 I think this story, your story is really important too for people that may be vulnerable.
02:25:08.000 Maybe they don't have the tools to discern.
02:25:11.000 Maybe they're being courted by a group.
02:25:13.000 They don't have the tools to discern.
02:25:17.000 Just fundamentally, if someone's telling you that they have secret information that only they have, and it comes from a mystical source, either it comes from aliens or it comes from God or...
02:25:29.000 Probably not.
02:25:30.000 It's probably not.
02:25:32.000 I mean, it might be Jesus.
02:25:34.000 Again, if Jesus came back, who's going to believe him?
02:25:37.000 But most likely, you're dealing with someone who's full of shit.
02:25:40.000 So, at least today, we know that.
02:25:44.000 You know, in 1930, when your grandpa first started, I mean, he was just...
02:25:49.000 Running wild.
02:25:50.000 Like there's no Wikipedia.
02:25:53.000 You can say anything.
02:25:55.000 You can just go.
02:25:55.000 Or Joseph Smith who created the Book of Mormon.
02:25:59.000 You know, like that fucking guy.
02:26:01.000 He was like 14 years old.
02:26:02.000 Wow.
02:26:03.000 Yeah.
02:26:04.000 Said he found golden tablets that contained the lost work of Jesus.
02:26:07.000 But only he could read it because he had a magic rock.
02:26:10.000 And everybody's like, okay.
02:26:13.000 Yeah, that's the kind of thing my grandfather said too.
02:26:15.000 And people believed it.
02:26:17.000 There was a lot of those guys back then.
02:26:19.000 Yeah, you get away with a lot back then.
02:26:21.000 What do you think is the motivation?
02:26:23.000 Like, what is it about human beings and almost always men?
02:26:27.000 There's only a few women that have been successful cult leaders.
02:26:30.000 Yes, but it's pretty rare.
02:26:31.000 Yeah, that one that was on the HBO documentary.
02:26:33.000 I haven't seen it yet, but everybody raves about it.
02:26:36.000 You know what I'm talking about?
02:26:37.000 I do, but I haven't seen it.
02:26:38.000 The lady who became anorexic.
02:26:40.000 What is it?
02:26:40.000 Love?
02:26:42.000 What was that one, Jamie?
02:26:43.000 What's it called?
02:26:45.000 It's supposed to be amazing, but I haven't seen it.
02:26:48.000 But what is it that that seems to be a recurring pattern?
02:26:55.000 So I've always found it really fascinating to say that anyone could be a cult member.
02:26:59.000 Anyone could fall for that, especially if you're young.
02:27:01.000 But who would become a cult leader?
02:27:04.000 That's the bigger question.
02:27:05.000 Who's Jim Jones?
02:27:06.000 Right.
02:27:07.000 I feel like there's no simple answer for that, but in my grandfather's case and in many other of these young men cases, they were outsiders in some way and they had some bone to pick and they wanted...
02:27:17.000 I think they maybe started out of wanting belonging, but then they got really drunk on the power so quickly.
02:27:23.000 Like Manson.
02:27:24.000 Yeah.
02:27:24.000 Yeah.
02:27:25.000 Yeah.
02:27:26.000 So I've been teaching in prisons, by the way, as part of my career.
02:27:30.000 And I worked with Lessa Van Houten, who was a...
02:27:33.000 I mean, she's been released now, but she was the tutor in the program I was working in.
02:27:37.000 And, you know, she was like, what, 19 when she committed these, participated in, but she followed Manson as if he was a cult leader.
02:27:45.000 It's very similar.
02:27:46.000 And I'm not like talking about the politics of all that or like, I'm just saying that, I mean, I'm very grateful that nobody asked me to kill anybody.
02:27:55.000 You know, I'm not, I would like to think I wouldn't, but I don't think any of us know.
02:27:58.000 Right.
02:27:58.000 If you were 12 years old and your whole life you'd lived in that cult and you were told to kill some man because he's a demon.
02:28:03.000 Right.
02:28:03.000 And if you killed them and they were like hugging you, you did it.
02:28:07.000 You saved us.
02:28:09.000 You saved us from the demon.
02:28:10.000 You'd be pumped.
02:28:11.000 Yeah.
02:28:12.000 I think you would be.
02:28:13.000 Of course.
02:28:13.000 Children like that, especially if you get them- They're trained in armies at that age.
02:28:17.000 Exactly.
02:28:18.000 Exactly.
02:28:18.000 Exactly.
02:28:19.000 And that's also why people like people joining the army when they're young.
02:28:22.000 Not just because they're strong.
02:28:23.000 Right.
02:28:23.000 But also because they're mentally unaware of the conflicts of the world.
02:28:27.000 It's really difficult to get a 60-year-old man to go to war based on, you know, we found weapons of mass destruction.
02:28:33.000 Okay, they'll put on his reading glasses like, let me see this shit.
02:28:37.000 What do you got?
02:28:38.000 Show me what the fuck you got.
02:28:39.000 I'm going to fly to Afghanistan.
02:28:41.000 Show me what you have.
02:28:43.000 Yeah.
02:28:43.000 Yes, you need him.
02:28:44.000 Yes, sir!
02:28:45.000 We're going to go kill the bad guy, sir!
02:28:47.000 That's what you need.
02:28:48.000 But the cult leaders have something that they really feel like they need.
02:28:54.000 Like they need people's respect because I don't think they could get it in other ways.
02:28:58.000 And so they create this whole world.
02:28:59.000 And honestly, once people start believing you, it's probably a pretty big high.
02:29:03.000 Yeah, I had David Holthouse on the podcast the other day and he did that documentary series that's on Peacock about the Hare Krishnas and about this one guy that created this sect of the Hare Krishnas and it was all child molestation and murder.
02:29:19.000 They're killing people and it's just, it's a crazy, it's a really good doc, he's a really good director.
02:29:25.000 And the documentary series is really interesting, but it's just like, goddamn, that pattern just repeats itself over and over.
02:29:32.000 Waco, holy hell, up there, wild, wild country.
02:29:36.000 It's like everywhere.
02:29:37.000 The same sort of pattern repeats itself, and it always, almost always at least, falls apart.
02:29:45.000 It's hard to keep that stuff going because...
02:29:47.000 But you're a crazy person.
02:29:48.000 Yeah, and you have to keep upping the ante.
02:29:50.000 Right.
02:29:50.000 It's not like Warren Buffett.
02:29:51.000 He's not out there starting cults.
02:29:52.000 It's not like people are good at organizing businesses.
02:29:55.000 It's like crazy people.
02:29:57.000 Like wild, crazy people.
02:29:58.000 But there's this inclination to get people to follow you and to tell them what to do and to tell them how to live life and to make them worship you.
02:30:08.000 It's fucking strange that that's...
02:30:11.000 Just some sort of weird evolutionary response.
02:30:15.000 Because in tribal cultures, there was always a leader, and that leader was generally the wisest person who had the most life experience, who could tell you, hey, this is the plant you can't eat.
02:30:25.000 Don't go over there, they'll kill you.
02:30:28.000 This thing runs faster than you.
02:30:30.000 Get away from it.
02:30:31.000 That snake's poisonous.
02:30:32.000 You had to know how to make an arrow.
02:30:34.000 This guy knew.
02:30:36.000 So that was your leader.
02:30:37.000 And if you listen to him, you're going to stay alive.
02:30:39.000 And if you don't listen to him, you're going to watch people die right next to you, and you go, oh, they didn't listen.
02:30:43.000 And you're going to experience that at a young age where people die, because they used to die all the fucking time.
02:30:48.000 Of course.
02:30:49.000 Yeah, just infant mortality was like 50% back then.
02:30:51.000 And then you're like, what are the odds you're going to live to 30?
02:30:54.000 Not so good, bro.
02:30:56.000 There's jaguars in the fucking trees.
02:30:59.000 Like, you're fucked.
02:31:00.000 You're in trouble.
02:31:01.000 And that's why we had tribal leaders.
02:31:03.000 And then as we expanded...
02:31:04.000 Into these societies and cities and large groups of human beings, we still have the desire to have one individual leader because we have this primate genetic imprint in us of the alpha who runs the people.
02:31:20.000 To the point where we'll pretend that someone's alpha.
02:31:22.000 Like, we'll pretend Joe Biden is really running the country.
02:31:24.000 We'll pretend.
02:31:24.000 And so many Democrats are all in on it.
02:31:26.000 Like, the most culty of cult members, the wokest of woke, are the ones who are the most likely to try to fucking gaslight you that he's fine, and he's doing great, and he's the best president ever, and just look at the economics, and look at the economy's doing better, and look at the...
02:31:41.000 You know, he's on top.
02:31:42.000 He's never been sharper.
02:31:43.000 Like, what are you...
02:31:43.000 Shut up!
02:31:44.000 You're in a cult!
02:31:45.000 You're in a cult, just like if you were in the Moonies, just like if you were in the Holy Hell cult.
02:31:51.000 It's the same thing.
02:31:53.000 It's just patterns of belief, and we all have them, and we're susceptible to them because life is a massive mystery.
02:31:59.000 It's a massive, scary, weird mystery with a lifespan.
02:32:02.000 It's got a finite lifespan.
02:32:04.000 You have a certain amount of time here, and you never think like you have enough time, and you never think you did enough, and it always feels weird, and you never even know what the fuck is going on while you're driving your car or sitting on the bus.
02:32:15.000 The whole time, you're like, what is this?
02:32:17.000 What is this all about?
02:32:19.000 So anytime you can get some relief from that, someone comes along and they go, I've got the answers.
02:32:24.000 Right.
02:32:24.000 Come with me, Michelle.
02:32:26.000 Okay, so that's not happening anymore.
02:32:28.000 No, of course not.
02:32:29.000 But, you know, when you said that too, I was thinking, like, it is.
02:32:31.000 It's the belief that there's answers instead of what I think you and I believe is that it's always more questions.
02:32:37.000 Like, we don't have the answers.
02:32:39.000 And there will be questions that we never answer in our lifetime.
02:32:45.000 Well, also we exist in a certain frequency in reality.
02:32:52.000 But there's subatomic reality that's so damn confusing that somehow or another a part of us that we can study What's all that magic?
02:33:04.000 What's all that magic going on?
02:33:06.000 Where you got particles that are both moving and still.
02:33:09.000 They exist and reappear.
02:33:11.000 They disappear.
02:33:12.000 We don't know where the fuck they're going.
02:33:14.000 What's happening there?
02:33:15.000 What is that stuff?
02:33:17.000 What is all that stuff?
02:33:19.000 There's so much that we don't know.
02:33:21.000 There's so much weirdness just in the observable universe that the whole thing is a crazy mystery.
02:33:30.000 And to not approach it that way and to approach it with some bizarre confidence that you have the answers, you're not doing anybody any good because you're full of shit.
02:33:38.000 You're full of shit with yourself.
02:33:40.000 You're full of shit if you believe it.
02:33:41.000 You're full of shit with yourself.
02:33:42.000 You're definitely full of shit with other people if you're telling them you believe it.
02:33:46.000 You can't know.
02:33:47.000 We have guidelines, and there's ways that we can live that are going to be better for everybody, and we should definitely go that way.
02:33:54.000 Definitely don't try to harm people.
02:33:55.000 Definitely try to be nice as much as possible.
02:33:58.000 Try to be cool to your friends.
02:33:59.000 Try to enjoy your time here.
02:34:01.000 Try to leave people with a smile.
02:34:02.000 Try to do your best.
02:34:04.000 Do all that stuff.
02:34:05.000 Like, if we do all that stuff, we're good.
02:34:07.000 But as soon as someone comes along and tells you, no, you have to do this because this is the Word of God, like, Be suspicious.
02:34:17.000 Because it's been around before.
02:34:19.000 It's not like this is a unique thing.
02:34:22.000 I feel like be suspicious is some good advice.
02:34:24.000 Be suspicious.
02:34:26.000 Yeah.
02:34:26.000 Be suspicious of anybody that's trying to get you to do things.
02:34:31.000 Like, they're trying to tell you to do a thing.
02:34:34.000 And that if you don't do a thing, you're a bad person.
02:34:36.000 And the people that are engaging in other things other than what they're telling you are all going to hell.
02:34:42.000 Like, okay.
02:34:44.000 Okay.
02:34:44.000 Let me put my reading glass on.
02:34:46.000 Let me see this hell.
02:34:47.000 You got a fucking YouTube video I can watch?
02:34:49.000 Like, how much do you know?
02:34:52.000 Are you sure?
02:34:53.000 Do you have the GPS coordinates of that?
02:34:55.000 Do you have the Onyx maps of hell?
02:34:58.000 I don't think you know what you're talking about.
02:35:00.000 And if you don't say that, if you don't have the humility to say that this is, at the very least, a massive mystery, We know so much.
02:35:08.000 I mean, we know so much more than we've ever known before, and thank God there's people out there that are trying to figure the world out.
02:35:13.000 Thank God there's people out there that are doing the work and doing the fucking theoretical physicists and all the quantum mechanics people and all the people that are trying to make rocket ships.
02:35:25.000 Thank God you're out there.
02:35:27.000 At the end of the day, this is a crazy mystery.
02:35:30.000 That you go to bed every night, you close your eyes, and you disappear.
02:35:35.000 Hopefully for eight hours, if you get in your eight hours, Michelle.
02:35:38.000 And then that alarm clock goes off, and then you re-engage with reality and assume that this is the exact same world that you went to bed eight hours ago for.
02:35:48.000 You assume.
02:35:49.000 But you just re-engage with reality.
02:35:53.000 We look forward to it.
02:35:55.000 Everyone's scared to die, but no one's scared to sleep.
02:36:00.000 And we do it every night.
02:36:01.000 No one's scared.
02:36:02.000 No, I don't want to shut the lights out.
02:36:03.000 I don't want to go to sleep.
02:36:04.000 No one's scared to go to sleep.
02:36:05.000 Everybody's like, oh my god, I can't wait to sleep.
02:36:08.000 Can't wait to sleep and be recovered.
02:36:09.000 And then you get up.
02:36:10.000 You have to do it.
02:36:11.000 It's a requirement.
02:36:12.000 You have to go out.
02:36:14.000 You have to stop.
02:36:15.000 If you don't, you'll die.
02:36:16.000 The universe requires you to stop interfacing with it for long stretches of time.
02:36:22.000 Yeah.
02:36:23.000 Ideally eight hours.
02:36:25.000 So I hear.
02:36:26.000 Yeah, a full 30 a day.
02:36:27.000 Yeah.
02:36:28.000 It's a wild thing.
02:36:29.000 Yeah.
02:36:30.000 A full 30 a day, you reboot.
02:36:32.000 Yeah.
02:36:32.000 We process in our dreams in ways that we don't understand.
02:36:35.000 It's very strange.
02:36:36.000 Yeah.
02:36:37.000 It's very strange.
02:36:37.000 Just that alone is very strange.
02:36:39.000 There's many, many strange things.
02:36:41.000 Yeah, but that alone is a strange, strange one that we've just accepted because if that didn't exist and all of a sudden everybody said, listen, we have found a new thing.
02:36:50.000 Instead of just being awake all the time, if you can just go to sleep.
02:36:55.000 You'll live longer and you'll be better.
02:36:57.000 Like, what are you talking about?
02:36:58.000 Like, you're just going to shut off for eight hours.
02:37:00.000 And then what happens to me?
02:37:01.000 Like, can I see?
02:37:02.000 No.
02:37:02.000 What if someone breaks into my house?
02:37:04.000 Well, you're asleep.
02:37:05.000 Fuck that.
02:37:06.000 No one would want to do that.
02:37:08.000 Yeah.
02:37:08.000 But it's normal.
02:37:09.000 So we just do it.
02:37:11.000 Yeah.
02:37:12.000 Yeah, it's a mystery.
02:37:13.000 This is a crazy ass mystery.
02:37:16.000 And what happens in your dreams?
02:37:17.000 Like, why are those damn things so realistic?
02:37:21.000 Depends on the night.
02:37:22.000 What the fuck is going on in dreams?
02:37:25.000 One thing happens if you smoke pot, your dreams kind of dull a little bit sometimes.
02:37:29.000 But if you take long breaks off, like we do Sober October, and during Sober October, we don't do anything.
02:37:35.000 And when you take long breaks off, you get wild dreams.
02:37:39.000 Wild.
02:37:40.000 And here's a little pro tip.
02:37:42.000 If you want to have the wildest dreams, take nootropics before you go to bed.
02:37:47.000 Take like alpha brain before you go to bed.
02:37:50.000 Because you want to have these dreams?
02:37:51.000 Yeah.
02:37:52.000 Let's go.
02:37:54.000 Okay.
02:37:54.000 Even when I was a little kid, I used to love nightmares.
02:37:58.000 When I was a little kid, I would look forward to a nightmare.
02:38:00.000 I would try to make me have one.
02:38:03.000 Wow.
02:38:04.000 Because I like horror movies.
02:38:05.000 So I was like, let's get some monsters in here.
02:38:09.000 I would literally go to bed.
02:38:10.000 I was like, God, I hope I get the fuck scared out of me.
02:38:12.000 I look forward to having a nightmare dream.
02:38:15.000 Wow.
02:38:16.000 I had a bunch of crazy ones too that I remember.
02:38:17.000 I even wrote a bunch of them down because they were so nuts.
02:38:19.000 Like plot of movies.
02:38:20.000 They were so crazy.
02:38:22.000 But it just was a thing where I thought of it as like an adventure ride.
02:38:30.000 I thought of nightmares as an adventure ride.
02:38:32.000 I knew I kept waking up.
02:38:34.000 After I was four or five, I'm waking up, so I know they're not real, but it is pretty fun if they're scary.
02:38:40.000 If I can just relax.
02:38:42.000 I remember thinking that as a little kid.
02:38:46.000 I think this is a way to just make yourself have nightmares and just do it for fun, just like watching a scary movie.
02:38:51.000 Wow.
02:38:52.000 Is any of that lucid dreaming?
02:38:54.000 I've only done lucid dreaming accidentally a couple of times and every time I've done it, I've recognized that I'm dreaming and then I wake up.
02:39:03.000 Because I recognize it.
02:39:05.000 That's the problem.
02:39:06.000 I don't know how to chill.
02:39:07.000 Do you remember most of your dreams?
02:39:09.000 No.
02:39:10.000 I remember a lot of them though.
02:39:12.000 I don't remember most of them.
02:39:14.000 I would say I remember a small fraction of them, but I remember them for a long time.
02:39:22.000 Yeah.
02:39:24.000 What about you?
02:39:25.000 I do.
02:39:25.000 I remember a lot of dreams.
02:39:27.000 I mean, nobody would know if you remember all of them, for one.
02:39:30.000 How would you know?
02:39:32.000 But yeah, I still dream about the field.
02:39:34.000 Really?
02:39:35.000 That makes sense.
02:39:36.000 Yeah, because it's in your subconscious and you're just like, I'm still processing.
02:39:40.000 I didn't have a bad time in high school.
02:39:42.000 It wasn't the worst.
02:39:43.000 I had a pretty good time in high school.
02:39:44.000 But I would have nightmares that I had to go back to high school.
02:39:47.000 Like, legitimate nightmares.
02:39:48.000 That, like, I didn't get enough credits, so I didn't graduate, so I had to go back.
02:39:52.000 Nightmares.
02:39:53.000 And high school was not that bad.
02:39:54.000 Now, I can't imagine How much that would be multiplied, leaving a cult.
02:40:01.000 They're very formative years, those years.
02:40:04.000 All of them.
02:40:05.000 Yeah, they're very formative.
02:40:06.000 And your prefrontal cortex is not completely formed.
02:40:08.000 And so we probably all go back to whatever degree to that part of us.
02:40:13.000 But those nightmares must be very vivid for you, though, and must be very extreme.
02:40:17.000 Because like I said, I would get nightmares from high school, which was nothing.
02:40:21.000 It was no big deal.
02:40:22.000 It wasn't bad at all.
02:40:23.000 I didn't have a bad time in high school.
02:40:25.000 But it was just the idea of being trapped in that fucking school another year was scary.
02:40:29.000 And that's nothing.
02:40:31.000 Yeah, it's the being trapped.
02:40:32.000 I have a lot of dreams like that.
02:40:37.000 Did they subside with time?
02:40:40.000 They've gotten better.
02:40:41.000 You know, so just two days ago, I met this guy who I hadn't seen since I was a kid.
02:40:46.000 So for me, I kind of met him for the first time, you know, in the sense of I don't remember him.
02:40:50.000 But he said that reading Forager, and he really said this, and he said he had nightmares.
02:40:55.000 He's always had nightmares.
02:40:56.000 This man is late 60s, probably, maybe even 70. I don't know.
02:40:59.000 And he said that reading it stopped his nightmares because he thinks because somebody validated it.
02:41:06.000 So he didn't feel like it was trapped in his head anymore.
02:41:07.000 Someone validated and named his experience because he wasn't talking about it.
02:41:10.000 Wow.
02:41:11.000 Not even to his own family.
02:41:12.000 Like his whole life he's never talked about it.
02:41:14.000 And so just seeing it in a book made him say, like, I'm not crazy.
02:41:18.000 Wow.
02:41:19.000 And so I just wonder sometimes if our nightmares are also things.
02:41:22.000 I mean, it's great that you were like causing ones on purpose, but the kinds that are like really deeply disturb us.
02:41:27.000 I just wonder if there are parts of us that we haven't fully come to terms with.
02:41:32.000 I don't know.
02:41:33.000 I wonder, but some of mine is like Godzilla chasing me when I'm on a skateboard.
02:41:36.000 Like, they don't make any sense.
02:41:38.000 I think...
02:41:38.000 That doesn't sound that scary.
02:41:39.000 I think there's certainly like...
02:41:41.000 I mean, I don't try to have nightmares now.
02:41:43.000 I really only did that a few times when I was a kid.
02:41:45.000 But the nightmares that I do have, almost all of them are like really primal ones.
02:41:51.000 Like, I've had a lot of nightmares about wolves.
02:41:54.000 Like, a lot over the years.
02:41:56.000 Like, running from wolves.
02:41:58.000 Hmm.
02:42:00.000 There's something about wolves because they're intelligent and they operate in packs and they have some sort of nonverbal communication where they understand each other in some very weird way.
02:42:09.000 They're similar to us in a lot of ways.
02:42:10.000 Yeah.
02:42:10.000 Yeah.
02:42:11.000 They freak me out.
02:42:15.000 They really do.
02:42:16.000 You know, they're not that different from dogs.
02:42:18.000 Yeah, they're a lot different from dogs.
02:42:20.000 They're a lot different from dogs.
02:42:21.000 Well, they are because they're wild, but...
02:42:23.000 I have a golden retriever.
02:42:25.000 Okay, they're way different than a golden retriever.
02:42:26.000 Way different.
02:42:27.000 I have a strange shepherds and they're not that different.
02:42:29.000 My dog is a love sponge.
02:42:31.000 He loves everybody.
02:42:33.000 If he came in here, he would be...
02:42:34.000 But you're part of his pack.
02:42:36.000 Oh yeah, no doubt, but he's not a wolf.
02:42:39.000 Okay.
02:42:40.000 There's a big difference.
02:42:41.000 I mean, he used to be a wolf if you go back 20,000 years ago or whatever it was when they started taking these bitch-ass wolves who were willing to come by the forest fire, or by the campfire rather.
02:42:50.000 But the wolves that live and operate in the wild are these ruthless, majestic creatures who are intelligent.
02:42:59.000 Right.
02:43:00.000 But the reason that you love your dog is the same reason that wolves love each other.
02:43:05.000 You know, I mean, there is this because they're part of a pack and because they understand relationships.
02:43:09.000 And I think the wolves with each other, you're just not in relationship with the wolf.
02:43:12.000 But I mean, of course they're scary.
02:43:16.000 But because they're so good at what they do.
02:43:19.000 Right, but that's why we're scared of deer.
02:43:21.000 Well, yeah.
02:43:22.000 Yeah.
02:43:22.000 If you're in the woods with a rifle, deer should be fucking scared.
02:43:25.000 Yeah, and that's why they jump and that's why they're running away real quick.
02:43:29.000 And that's the thing with wolves and human beings.
02:43:33.000 We've been food for them for a long time.
02:43:35.000 That's what Little Red Riding Hood's all about.
02:43:38.000 That's really what the big bad wolf is all about.
02:43:42.000 That's the whole story.
02:43:43.000 The story is about wolves that will eat your kids because that's what they did.
02:43:47.000 Yeah.
02:43:48.000 They eat people.
02:43:50.000 World War I had to be, they had a ceasefire between the Germans and the Russians because too many of them were getting eaten by wolves.
02:43:57.000 That's why they had a ceasefire?
02:43:59.000 Yeah, they had a ceasefire.
02:44:00.000 Wow.
02:44:00.000 And they killed the wolves and they went back to killing each other.
02:44:04.000 They couldn't have just like taken a break and said like, oh, well, maybe we should be on the same side.
02:44:08.000 No, they were losing so many people to wolves that they had these packs of wolves in Russia.
02:44:13.000 And this was trench warfare.
02:44:15.000 So they had horrific wounds.
02:44:17.000 These people would be lying in the trenches with a bullet hole and then you'd hear wolves tearing these people apart and they'd be screaming.
02:44:25.000 Yeah, they would send people out on patrol and just find a boot with a foot in it.
02:44:29.000 Oh my god.
02:44:30.000 Yeah.
02:44:30.000 You should be scared of wolves.
02:44:31.000 You should be scared of wolves.
02:44:33.000 Yeah, I mean they're reintroducing wolves now to Colorado.
02:44:36.000 They just did and they just had the first wolf depredation where a wolf killed a calf at a ranch.
02:44:43.000 And that's just the beginning.
02:44:44.000 There's a reason why they killed those things.
02:44:46.000 I don't think they should have.
02:44:47.000 I don't think they should have made wolves extinct in the western United States like they did.
02:44:53.000 I think it was horrible.
02:44:54.000 They put strychnine in horses and they left them out there and the wolves would eat it and die.
02:44:58.000 They did horrible, terrible things.
02:45:00.000 But you don't want wolves.
02:45:02.000 You don't want them around.
02:45:03.000 You don't want a lot of them, especially with these bitch-ass people today.
02:45:07.000 You're going to fucking lose a lot of folks if those things get to high numbers.
02:45:12.000 You're going to lose a lot of folks.
02:45:14.000 A lot of people are going to be camping.
02:45:15.000 They're going to get surrounded.
02:45:17.000 It just needs certain numbers.
02:45:18.000 It needs numbers where they think they can get away with stuff like that.
02:45:21.000 You know, numbers where there's not enough people with guns.
02:45:23.000 They find out that they think people are just hikers.
02:45:27.000 They don't seem to have any weapons.
02:45:28.000 They know what a weapon is.
02:45:29.000 They figure that out.
02:45:31.000 Over time, like wolves see enough rifles.
02:45:33.000 They know what a rifle is.
02:45:34.000 They're not stupid.
02:45:35.000 They're not stupid.
02:45:36.000 They're scary animals.
02:45:38.000 But they're also amazing.
02:45:40.000 But you gotta keep an eye on them.
02:45:43.000 People that live in cities don't think that.
02:45:45.000 It goes back to be suspicious.
02:45:46.000 Our theme for today, be suspicious.
02:45:48.000 Well, be suspicious of systems, right?
02:45:50.000 Because that is a system of predator and prey.
02:45:52.000 And if you're having a hard time walking up that hill, guess what?
02:45:57.000 Guess what side you're on?
02:45:58.000 Guess what side you're on?
02:46:00.000 You think you're a predator?
02:46:01.000 Well, you're not!
02:46:03.000 You're not.
02:46:03.000 You can't even get up the hill.
02:46:04.000 Wolves run up a hill like it's nothing.
02:46:06.000 Like, wee!
02:46:07.000 They just fucking go over that hill like it ain't shit.
02:46:10.000 They can run 45 miles an hour and chase you down and eat you, stupid.
02:46:15.000 Be suspicious.
02:46:16.000 Be suspicious.
02:46:17.000 Did they teach you guys when you were doing the survival training how to do everything, like get water, hunt for food?
02:46:25.000 Make your own fire.
02:46:26.000 I know how to distill water in a pit from plants and how to distill urine and all that great stuff.
02:46:35.000 Wow.
02:46:36.000 Yeah.
02:46:36.000 It's not really a very practical skill, though.
02:46:38.000 You don't really have to do that on a daily basis.
02:46:41.000 But if you know how to distill water, it's pretty wise.
02:46:45.000 Yeah, I mean, you can do a lot with dew.
02:46:47.000 But you do need a piece of plastic.
02:46:49.000 You can use a rain jacket or a windbreaker or whatever.
02:46:52.000 But you dig a pit and you put all the vegetation, whatever you can get, even in the desert.
02:46:57.000 You can get yucca or whatever.
02:46:59.000 And you put it in the pit and then the condensation, when it rises, you need to collect it.
02:47:03.000 And then you can collect the dew.
02:47:05.000 So you get it off the bottom surface of the plastic?
02:47:07.000 Yeah, but you make a little pool of it.
02:47:11.000 Yeah.
02:47:12.000 Damn.
02:47:12.000 Yeah, and you can survive off of that.
02:47:15.000 Wow.
02:47:16.000 How much water can you get out of dew?
02:47:18.000 Well, it depends on how.
02:47:20.000 Ideally, you have more than one pit of this, but you are going to, at some point, move on a little and forage where there's more plants.
02:47:25.000 But you can live.
02:47:27.000 And you also, of course, want to know what plants can give you water.
02:47:30.000 Right.
02:47:30.000 Until you can find a source of water.
02:47:31.000 What's the good ones?
02:47:33.000 Which good plants?
02:47:34.000 So what's the good ones that would give you water?
02:47:37.000 The darker green and the bigger the leaf.
02:47:40.000 But in the desert, I mean, generally if you have the things that give you a lot of water are already at water sources, right?
02:47:46.000 Because they're water rich.
02:47:48.000 So it's in the desert where you need it.
02:47:49.000 And anything that has, I mean, cactus can give you water, but you're not going to get as much dew as you do off of, let's say, sagebrush.
02:47:56.000 So sage bushes.
02:47:57.000 Yeah.
02:47:57.000 Yeah, you can get some dew off of that.
02:47:59.000 So what do you do?
02:48:00.000 You take them out of the dirt and you bury them?
02:48:02.000 Yeah.
02:48:02.000 You dig a pit.
02:48:03.000 You don't bury them like they would grow.
02:48:05.000 You leave them lush.
02:48:06.000 So you dig this pit so you can use it over and over.
02:48:08.000 And you take the brush and you put it in the pit.
02:48:11.000 And then you cover it with whatever plastic you have.
02:48:14.000 If you have a tarp, that's great.
02:48:15.000 I just don't know why you'd have a tarp.
02:48:16.000 Are you planting it or are you just leaving it there?
02:48:18.000 You're not planting it because you don't need the roots or whatever.
02:48:21.000 So it's just sucking the water out of that...
02:48:24.000 It's a plant as it dehydrates in the heat with the plastic over it and the water.
02:48:28.000 But it's overnight, so it's not really the heat.
02:48:32.000 You've seen condensation even on your car, right?
02:48:34.000 And so you're just collecting that.
02:48:36.000 It's just a source of collecting it.
02:48:37.000 And you put more of it in one place so you can collect more.
02:48:40.000 How much can you get?
02:48:42.000 I mean, if you get a quarter cup, you're pretty lucky.
02:48:44.000 Wow.
02:48:45.000 But, you know, you just can't move around a lot if you don't want to dehydrate.
02:48:49.000 But if you do that enough, you can live.
02:48:52.000 You'll survive for a while.
02:48:53.000 Water's really important.
02:48:54.000 Way more important than food.
02:48:55.000 Yeah.
02:48:55.000 Yeah.
02:48:56.000 I mean, you know that.
02:48:56.000 Yeah.
02:48:57.000 He could survive a long time without food.
02:49:00.000 Yeah.
02:49:00.000 We talked about this dude that was really fat, and he went on a fasting diet with IV vitamins, and he did it for 300 and something days.
02:49:09.000 He could do a whole year if you're heavy enough.
02:49:11.000 Yeah.
02:49:11.000 But most people could go a month pretty easily.
02:49:13.000 Yeah.
02:49:14.000 Like, even if you're not fat.
02:49:15.000 Yeah, you'd look like shit at the end.
02:49:16.000 Yeah, of course.
02:49:16.000 Of course.
02:49:17.000 But you could live.
02:49:18.000 You can't do that with water.
02:49:20.000 Yeah.
02:49:20.000 Yeah.
02:49:21.000 Wow.
02:49:22.000 Yeah.
02:49:23.000 I'm sure you hope you don't ever have to use those skills.
02:49:26.000 I do hope that.
02:49:27.000 And I am sure my skills are not as good as they used to be.
02:49:30.000 Yeah, but just what you've told so far, if the shit hits the fan, I'm calling you.
02:49:33.000 You should.
02:49:34.000 You should, Joe.
02:49:36.000 I bet I should.
02:49:38.000 I mean, how many years did you have to learn that stuff?
02:49:41.000 I mean, I learned them for a lot of years.
02:49:42.000 And it gets inside of you, and I think that's the thing about muscle memory, right?
02:49:45.000 And I believe in exercise, by the way, too.
02:49:47.000 I mean, I was trained like that, so I can't not exercise.
02:49:50.000 And I think that just like exercise, like I'm sure you feel like shit if you don't exercise, and as do I. But I also feel like when it gets inside of you, like what survival is, you feel, I think, without doing some of those things, that you're not really fully human.
02:50:03.000 At least I feel that way.
02:50:05.000 Wow.
02:50:06.000 Yeah, I like to eat off the earth even now.
02:50:09.000 Like when I can, you know, I still forage.
02:50:10.000 I mean, that's what picnics about.
02:50:13.000 Aren't they?
02:50:14.000 No, I mean like actually picking things out of the ground that I didn't plant.
02:50:17.000 I don't mean gardening.
02:50:18.000 I mean, you know, like foraging off the land.
02:50:20.000 If you know what to eat, it's still really great to have something that grew there naturally, like indigenous plants.
02:50:26.000 Yeah, it's rewarding.
02:50:27.000 If you can find a blueberry bush and pick blueberries, it's rewarding.
02:50:30.000 Yeah, elderberries.
02:50:31.000 Yeah, I think it's a part of our past too, like in our DNA. You get excited.
02:50:35.000 Yeah.
02:50:35.000 Every chapter of my book has like these descriptions of something you can eat in the Angeles National Forest.
02:50:42.000 Oh, really?
02:50:43.000 Yeah.
02:50:43.000 I mean, not to say that, you know, somebody would need a little bit of training.
02:50:46.000 Like I'm not advocating that you just go out there and like, you know, but I mean, if you know what you're doing, yeah.
02:50:51.000 Yeah, you always hear that with mushrooms.
02:50:53.000 Like people fuck up and they eat the wrong mushrooms and wind up dying.
02:50:56.000 Yeah.
02:50:57.000 Mushrooms are scary.
02:50:58.000 They are.
02:50:59.000 There's a lot of them that will kill you.
02:51:01.000 Yes, and then there's a lot of them that will keep you alive.
02:51:03.000 Yeah.
02:51:03.000 So if you're going to survive, you should know the difference.
02:51:05.000 Yeah.
02:51:05.000 See this Argaricon that Paul Stammeth gave me?
02:51:08.000 This is a giant mushroom.
02:51:09.000 Wow.
02:51:09.000 That's a real mushroom?
02:51:10.000 Yeah.
02:51:11.000 Oh my god.
02:51:11.000 It's huge.
02:51:13.000 Let me see.
02:51:13.000 Check it out.
02:51:14.000 Wow.
02:51:15.000 Came off old growth forest.
02:51:17.000 Wow.
02:51:17.000 That's a real mushroom.
02:51:19.000 That's incredible.
02:51:21.000 Isn't that nuts?
02:51:21.000 Don't eat it.
02:51:22.000 No, you don't eat that one.
02:51:23.000 That one's staying on the table.
02:51:24.000 I'm just giving you some advice.
02:51:25.000 No, no, but he sells them in pills.
02:51:27.000 Wow.
02:51:28.000 He actually, yeah, his company is called Host Defense.
02:51:32.000 You get it in pill form.
02:51:33.000 It's good for your immune system.
02:51:36.000 All right.
02:51:36.000 So it's foraging, I think.
02:51:38.000 I think so, too.
02:51:39.000 Yeah.
02:51:39.000 Yeah, I'm sure.
02:51:40.000 I'm sure even just getting dirt on you and being in the wild, that's what we're supposed to do, right?
02:51:44.000 Yeah.
02:51:45.000 Being in sterile environments is probably the worst thing for your immune system.
02:51:49.000 Yeah.
02:51:49.000 It's like atrophy.
02:51:50.000 That's actually been studied, yes.
02:51:51.000 Yeah.
02:51:52.000 Just sort of like exercise, right?
02:51:54.000 If you don't exercise, you're atrophy.
02:51:56.000 If you don't experience some other organisms, we're a host of organisms.
02:52:01.000 We're all interconnected.
02:52:03.000 Yes.
02:52:03.000 We're all interconnected.
02:52:04.000 Yeah.
02:52:05.000 Listen, I really enjoyed this conversation.
02:52:07.000 Thank you.
02:52:07.000 I've enjoyed it too.
02:52:08.000 I think your journey is remarkable.
02:52:10.000 It's very unusual.
02:52:11.000 And I think you came out of on the other end a very interesting person.
02:52:14.000 Thank you.
02:52:15.000 And I really appreciate you being here.
02:52:17.000 Thanks for having me on.
02:52:18.000 It's been wonderful hanging out with you.
02:52:19.000 I enjoyed it very much.
02:52:20.000 Thank you.
02:52:21.000 So tell everybody how to get your book.
02:52:23.000 Oh, right.
02:52:24.000 So Forager, Field Notes for Surviving a Family Cult.
02:52:27.000 It's available anywhere books are sold.
02:52:28.000 So you can get it online.
02:52:30.000 Do you have social media?
02:52:32.000 Do you have Instagram?
02:52:32.000 I do.
02:52:33.000 I have Instagram.
02:52:34.000 I'm on Substack.
02:52:35.000 I am on Twitter, but not a whole lot.
02:52:38.000 What is your Instagram?
02:52:40.000 MichelleDowdZ.
02:52:42.000 MichelleDowdZ?
02:52:42.000 Yeah, there's a D at the end.
02:52:43.000 Got it.
02:52:44.000 All right.
02:52:44.000 Beautiful.
02:52:44.000 I wasn't the first Michelle Dowd on Instagram, unfortunately.
02:52:47.000 Well, thank you very much.
02:52:47.000 I really enjoyed it.
02:52:48.000 Thank you.
02:52:49.000 All right.
02:52:49.000 Bye, everybody.
02:52:50.000 Bye.