Save James： Father risks arrest to save 9-year-old son from forced gender-transition
Summary
Jeff Younger is fighting for his twin boys, Jude and James, to be reunited with their mother, Ann Jorgulas, who he claims is the biological mother of the boys. Jeff is fighting to gain full custody of both boys, but at least partial medical decision-making with his ex-wife.
Transcript
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When James Younger was just three years old, he told his dad,
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When his mom enrolled James in kindergarten, she enrolled him as Luna.
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James has been attending school as a girl since kindergarten,
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despite telling his dad he is a boy, just like his twin brother Jude.
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When James was about seven, medical records indicated
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James had been referred to a gender therapist for medical chemical transition
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We are now going to speak with Jeff Younger, who is his dad,
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who has heroically fought, trying to gain full custody of both his twin boys,
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but at a minimum gain partial medical decision-making as Ann Jorgulas, his ex-wife.
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At the time, she had full medical decision-making authority for both boys,
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according to the court, and could have started James on chemical castration,
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Well, in 2019, this case caught national attention with Ted Cruz,
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Texas Governor Greg Abbott, and even Donald Trump Jr.,
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tweeting about the need for us to protect children like James
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from a life-altering decision like chemical transitioning.
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In October 2019, Judge Kim Cooks ruled that both Jeff and his ex-wife Ann
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could have joint medical decision-making and work toward joint conservatorship.
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Judge Cooks also put a complete gag order on Jeff prohibiting him from discussing any aspect
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of the case and or his son's sexuality with others.
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Jeff is actually now set to have a trial hearing this Friday in Dallas, where he could possibly go to jail for violating his gag order.
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Ann's lawyers are also fighting to give Ann any money Jeff has raised for his cause
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to shut down the Save James Facebook page, which is run by supporters of James.
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Since October 2019, a lot has happened, and we're going to talk to Jeff about it.
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Let's begin, as we always do, with the sign of the cross.
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In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost.
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And thank you for the heroic effort that you've taken in terms of defense of your own son,
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but also of all parents who find themselves in these crazy situations.
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If you could start off, Jeff, can you give us...
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I'm just a dad protecting his son, and I don't honestly think that warrants much praise.
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And I think it's what any father would do in my position who would love their children.
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Well, Jeff, can you give our viewers a quick update on what's been going on?
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And at that trial, the top experts in transgender medicine on both sides of this issue showed up
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And I had the men who founded the transgender medical field, men from the original John Hopkins
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Clinic, and had trained with some of the original people.
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And she had all of these new psychologists who are advocating this new gender ideology.
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And one of the things that they testified to there was after a mere four years, they shut
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down the clinic at Johns Hopkins because their data showed that these treatments harm patients.
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They relearned that lesson in the early 90s, and they're just relearning it again now on
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In my case, I trained up an expert named Dr. Levine.
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I paid a lot of money to bring him into court and train him how to deliver testimony in court.
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He's the expert that went to the UK and got this practice banned in the UK courts.
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But unfortunately, the way the judge left the order with me is I had 50-50 parental rights.
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So I was able to stop the chemical castration of my son.
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I was supposed to get 50-50 possession time of my son after a counselor reviewed nine points
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And these were just common sense things like unconditionally loving your children, recognizing
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The counselors have stretched this out now for a year and a half.
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They have used female pronouns, used his fake girl's name, and have taught him that he's
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They have refused to see my son when he comes from my house because the significant thing
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here is James only presents as a girl when he's with his mother.
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So they refuse to see him when he comes from my home.
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And that's going to allow them to have biased testimony in the court and say, well, James
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So they've been trying to set this up for a year and a half.
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So finally, when I found out they were affirming James as a girl, I revoked consent for the
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And then Ms. Georgilis filed a temporary orders suit to take away all of my parental rights
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and give her sole medical and psychological decision-making.
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And if she wins that, she will have my son in the Genesis Clinic, and he'll be on puberty
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blockers and chemical castration drugs within the month.
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They filed criminal contempt charges because I'm speaking to you right now.
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You know, in a democracy, we have to participate with and inform our fellow citizens of what
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the government is doing, and especially when we want to pass laws against.
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So I've been very active in the last six months trying to pass a law here in the state of Texas.
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We were not successful in getting Governor Abbott, Speaker of the House Dave Phelan, and Dan
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Patrick, the Lieutenant Governor, to pass a law in this state protecting children from
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The Republicans here blocked it, blocked that law, and intentionally allowed children to
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But in order for me to pursue my right to change the laws, my Democratic right to petition
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the government for redressing grievances, I have to be able to cooperate with my fellow
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And the judges have intentionally attempted to stop me from doing that by emplacing a hugely
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broad gag order, which prohibits me from speaking on all manner of political topics, and I'm not
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even allowed to tell you in that gag order whether my son's a boy or a girl.
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It's so unbelievable that it defies description.
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You know, you've become a veritable expert on the topic, going through this, living through
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You're a living testimony to parents to be extremely guarded with their children in what they're
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exposed to and what, you know, damage it can cause.
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A little bit for our listeners who might not know, the background on this process of chemical
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castration on children, this is in parts irreversible, is it not?
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The other side always says it's reversible, and then when you put them on their sworn testimony,
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What they do is, for example, in the medical records in my son, they intended at eight years
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Puberty blockers block the normal growth of the skeleton.
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In the Scandinavian countries where they've been doing this longer, they're getting 20-year-olds
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with a life-threatening osteoporosis because the skeletons didn't grow properly.
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But all you have to really do is use simple logic, right?
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Puberty is defined as a set of physical, psychological, and social changes that occur in a specific
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order at a specific time in a child's development.
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Once you've halted puberty, and then you start it up again 10 years later, by definition,
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you've altered the sequence of events, and it's not recoverable.
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And so there's physical damage that's done, there's psychological damage that's done, and
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they'll never socially adjust properly because of that.
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The other thing that they do is usually with boys around 10 to 11, they'll, after puberty
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blockers, they'll continue the puberty blockers, but then introduce cross-sex hormones.
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Now, cross-sex hormones, when they introduce them, permanently sterilize the child.
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They also induce permanent physiological changes.
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So the manner in which, for example, a boy will grow under the presence of a lot of estrogen is
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going to radically change, and that can't be fixed later on in life.
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You either get that in your adolescence or you don't get it.
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So it's life-threatening, irreversible changes.
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And I think if we just look at the sterilization issue alone, we should simply say, look, if you
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can't drink, you can't smoke, you can't get a tattoo until you're 18 years old, you should
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not be able to sterilize children until they're 18 years old.
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That should make sense to absolutely anyone on either side.
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But obviously, there is a massive, it's like a religion going on on the other side that
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allows them to allow for this insanity to children, to harm children in this way.
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I mean, these are people who are doing this, not only your former wife, but all sorts of
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Somehow they've convinced themselves that this is good for children.
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So look, we have to first kind of look, I think, globally at this.
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So let's think about how long it took them to convince America to go with gay marriage.
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They spent all of the 90s and into the early 2000s.
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And it took them 15 years to get America on board with this.
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And even then, you know, gay marriage was brought up for a vote in 48 out of 50 states and was
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voted down in every single state it was brought up for.
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It was voted down twice in California by a plurality of gay people.
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Well, even gay people did not want gay marriage.
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Eventually, they had to use the courts to impose it on us.
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So it was not given to us in any democratic way whatsoever.
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So when people talk to you about, well, we have to be better at arguments and win the
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We won the debate on gay marriage and we got it anyway.
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We won the democratic debate completely, hands down, with no failures, no defeats.
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If we look at transgenderism, it only took them six years to do transgenderism.
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So this is a rapidly increasing social power of the left.
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Let me tell you a couple of ways that this stuff happens.
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One of the early struggles in what I call the identity, transgender identity movement,
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they captured professional bodies, for example, the American Psychological Association, and
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they went to great lengths to reclassify it from gender identity disorder to gender dysphoria.
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And the difference is a disorder means there's something wrong with your thinking.
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A dysphoria means it's a problem caused by a lack of acceptance in your wider culture.
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So this shift in diagnostic criteria blamed the culture, traditional culture, for causing
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Now, this is very strange because how can there be a scientific process by which you can blame
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It basically says that everything that is normal is abnormal.
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So there are a number of these logical contradictions, and they've taken great care to propagandize
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Another mechanism they've used beyond the professional bodies is the left have figured
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It's a long process, but it basically goes like this.
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They'll start an open source journal, and they'll invite like-minded academics to begin
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And what they typically do is pick a metanarrative to attack, particularly one that involves traditional
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Let's say it's the transgender, the idea that men are men and women are women, and the idea
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So they'll get like-minded academics, and they'll write all kinds of articles that will be quote-unquote
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peer-reviewed by their friends in this open source journal.
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And they'll develop a body of work and create a theory which critiques the metanarrative about
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Later, they'll apply to one of the journals like Springer or Elsevier as a normal, respected
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peer-reviewed journal, because they have a large body of work that's been peer-reviewed
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by a collection of psychologists across the world.
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And all of that research then takes on the imprimatur of actual science.
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And what will happen then is that they go into the world, they go to the professional bodies,
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and they insinuate these false ideas and these manufactured facts.
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These experts will then go into courts and testify as experts.
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And what they're trying to do now is to go into family court and testify in case after
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case after case that children who are not affirmed as a gender different than their biological
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And once that's been accepted in court enough times, it actually becomes law, becomes case
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And they know that none, this may surprise you, but none of the right-wing foundations
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And so all of the left-wing money is going into family court these days.
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That's exactly how the gay marriage case got up to the Supreme Court, out of family court.
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So they're going into family court and they're making law.
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I think overall, if I give you a global eye view of it, it's that long ago, the left
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figured out that democratic processes are not how power is exerted in our democracy anymore.
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That actually it's the agencies, the unaccountable agencies in the governments, and it's professional
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societies and non-governmental organizations that exert all the power in our society.
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If you can tell us what needs to happen right now for basically sanity to reassert itself
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I mean, if you think about what Aristotle talked about, you know, that logical demonstrations
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for some unknown reason seem to provoke skepticism in many people, whereas like the well-chosen
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Our opponents are experts of the well-chosen example, and they are the absolute epitome
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They are making the weaker argument the stronger, and they are presenting falsehood as truth.
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So first thing I think that we need to equip people with thinking tools to approach this
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I mean, there are just some basic logical contradictions that are obvious to everyone.
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If gender is a social construction, then how can it be also innate and immutable?
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If biological sex is irrelevant to gender, then why is it imperative to chemically castrate
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If science is the basis of transgender ideology, then why are scientists who espouse a gender
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critical view of transgenderism, why are they excluded from journals and government
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If clinical medical practice is the basis of this ideology, then why are normal medical
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safeguards to protect children from the experimental use of medications not being used on drugs like
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They've never been applied to kids for these durations.
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We don't know what's going to happen to these kids.
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It's actually classed as an experimental use, and the FDA has specifically chosen not to regulate
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it like they do every other experimental application of drugs to children.
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If clinical experience is the basis of this, why aren't they following normal clinical protocols?
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It seems like it inverts our normal ideas about biology, right?
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So how can it be that gender being an idea that you have about yourself, how can that be something
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But their physical bodies and their chromosomes, we're going to tell them you can change.
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You can morph your body into a woman and all these things.
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So we just need to like, first thing I need to just equip people with these basic thinking
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But we also need to help people understand how it gets insinuated.
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So I have a friend in Canada whose daughter was transitioned secretly without telling him
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Now, I've had the same experience in Coppell, Texas.
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The school counselor has taught my son that he's a girl and secretly tried to transition him.
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When I took my son to school in boys' clothes, the teacher gave him a dress.
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So people need to know that the schools are actively pushing this.
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And if you have a tomboy, for example, a girl who's a tomboy, you have to be seriously,
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seriously worried about sending your child to public school.
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If you have a boy who's interested in music or art, you have to be seriously scared these
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days, because if you look at the diagnostic criteria in the DSM-5, it uses all of the
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stereotypes that the left has been telling us we're not allowed to use for male and female.
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So if you've got a boy who likes to have tea parties and play with dolls, they're going
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In case of my son, a one-hour appointment with a pediatrician diagnosed with gender dysphoria,
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a 30-minute appointment with a psychologist diagnosed with gender dysphoria and referred
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for, quote, unquote, the medical side of treatment to the Genesis Clinic in Dallas, Texas.
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So a total of an hour and a half of professionals will give you on the road to chemical castration.
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If you look at the recent 60 Minutes interview, you had girls that were having total mastectomies
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four months after they met with a psychologist.
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So you have to, first of all, realize that all of the institutions that you trust are
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probably against you at this point, and you need to safeguard your children.
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And third, we need to make this a political issue.
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This is an issue that we ought to all be able to agree on.
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We need to wait until children have developed a rational faculty before we allow parents or
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the child to permanently sterilize themselves or remove healthy body parts.
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You'd think that would be just normal common sense, but today it's not.
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Let's get into, if we could, if you're allowed to, or willing to, talk about your son and
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I know many of our viewers are going to be praying for you, for your court case, but also
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for your son, for James, and for his brother as well.
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I mean, both of my boys are very happy, well-adjusted boys with me.
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He's so good that his boxing coach wants to get him in front of an Olympic talent scout
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and wants to start his training now for the Olympics, but they're hesitant to do that because they
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don't know what his mom's going to do and whether it could take him out, you know, take
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James is also an artist and he has an interesting visual sensibility about him.
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You know, I always tell this story, um, you know, when, when, when I boys, but my boys were
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Um, I, I just could not understand the modern cartoons and the, and the ones I could understand
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So I went back and got cartoons from the 1960s.
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And so I got like the Johnny quest cartoons that I loved when I was a kid.
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We were watching at one time, we're watching this one called the invisible monster.
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And this creature was chasing bandit, the Johnny quest dog.
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And, uh, James was saying, look, the monster is going after bandit bandits running quick.
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He's dodging and Jude was saying, bandit's scared and Johnny quest is worried.
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So we had, I had one boy living the inner life of the characters and one boy living the
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Uh, James is very outward focused and, and outcome focused.
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Um, this crisis in their life though, has created all kinds of
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Um, for example, with Jude, we had been out rabbit hunting, uh, and we came back in,
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So we all got in the shower and we were all washing up, joking with each other.
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And Jude just points down at James's groin and says, I mean, he's not a girl dad.
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Um, and she's, he said, well, why, why does everybody say he's a girl?
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And I said, well, you know, all I can tell you is we read the Bible every night to the
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You know, these people are just wrong about this.
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Um, so he's struggling with when he should lie.
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He knows the commandments tell him he's not supposed to lie.
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But when he goes to his mother's house, he has to use female pronouns for his brother.
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So he's struggling with when is he supposed to break the commandments?
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And he, because of his personality, he, you know, he lives the inner life of people.
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He, he thinks of, of Christ as a person with an inner life that cares about him.
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And he, um, he wonders if, you know, how Jesus will think of them.
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And, um, if he will lose respect for him for lying when he's at his mother's home, it's
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Um, James is, is flat out scared of his mom and, uh, will not tell her the truth because
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Um, and, uh, but when he comes to my house after a couple of days, he loosens up.
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Um, we've also noticed some physical symptoms that are strange.
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Um, we're going to have him drug tested and other things, but, um, uh, they are, they're
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really having the full court pressed on it then by saying.
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We will be praying for, for you, Jeff, and, and for your two sons, uh, pray that, uh, things
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Um, you might be heading off into, uh, something where you might be arrested.
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You know that, um, you're doing this nonetheless.
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What's, what's your motivation there in terms of, uh, you know, your, your love for your
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boys, uh, as well as, uh, what you're doing right now.
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So I have decided that I am not going to follow any illegal order mandate or law that, uh, especially
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if it endangers my sons, I have the right and duty.
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I don't believe in the enlightenment concept of rights that are divorced from duties.
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I prefer the, the scholastic and medieval idea of, uh, rights that are concomitant with
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So when I have, when, when I talk about a right to free speech, I also have a duty to exercise
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my free speech in a democracy and to participate in government to inform my citizens of what the
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government is doing to children, what the courts are doing to children and to press the government
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And there's no way I am ever going to stop doing that.
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And there is no legitimate government that can stop me from doing that.
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The second thing is I have a right to free speech as a parent in order to exercise my parental
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rights prudently, I have to be able to exercise, uh, uh, speech rights and rights of action over
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So it's not possible for me to set an example of a moral father and to, to handle their moral
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education, uh, without, uh, without me, uh, following the moral law, which is higher than
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the statutory law or the order of any, any illegal order from a judge.
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Um, you know, I don't believe in leadership styles.
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When my son wanted to box, I said I would box with him.
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When my, when my son Jude said he wanted to wrestle, we joined jujitsu together, but we
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So if I don't stand up and do the right thing now, my sons will learn to be cowards.
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And so there is no possible way in which I can follow this gag order, uh, and let other
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I'm going to use all of my powers to make these illegal, not only illegal, but socially
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unacceptable, the morally reprehensible, and to cast this out of our culture altogether.
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We're that we had more fathers like yourself, Jeff.
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Well, I just, I want to thank everyone who's prayed for my sons.
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Um, I named them after the brothers of Jesus and, uh, their saints are Cosmos and Damianos,
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the unmercenary physicians from Syria and the prophet Daniel.
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And if you would, uh, you know, ask those saints to intercede for my sons and to, and to pray
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for them and protect them, that would be the greatest thing that you could possibly do for
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If you want to keep up to date on happenings in the case, you can go to the Save James,
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Um, you just go on to Facebook and search for Save James and, um, they follow this issue
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Um, it's probably the best place on the internet to keep up to date on all the resources and
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Jeff, thank you so much for being with us on this episode of the John Henry Weston show.
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