The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast


269. The Biology of Good and Evil | Frans de Waal


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In this episode, Jordan speaks with Dr. Frans de Waal, a Dutch primatologist and ethologist. Throughout his career, Dr. De Waal has published numerous books about the complexity of animal behavior. His latest book, Different, published in 2022, looks at sex differences in humans, chimpanzees, and bonobos. Together, the two of them discuss the instinct for reciprocal cooperation, the necessity of play, and how we mismeasure animals, and more. Jordan was really excited to chat with Frans, because he's had a great influence on his thought. His work is revolutionary not only biologically, but philosophically, and that's something he has delved into in his work on play, gender, and the structure of hierarchies in primates. Dr. deWaal is a scientist who's, in many ways, in a league of his own. He's been elected to the U.S. National Academy of Sciences, as well as the Royal Netherlands Academy of Arts and Sciences, and in 2007, Time declared him one of the world s most influential people today. He is also a signally important, in my estimation, among peacemaking among primates. I've read about 7 of his books, including "Chimpanzee Cultures," which he edited with Richard Wranzee, who was another guest on my show Another Great Idea: Another Great Nature, The Origins of Right and Wrong in Humans and Other Animals. I hope you enjoy this episode. Have you heard of anything more chilling than frozen beef? Until November 3rd, get an always fresh, never frozen Dave s single from Wendy's for only $4.99.99 at participating Wendy's until November 3, until then, $4, with no taxes or fees. Terms and conditions apply apply. Thanks, Jordan B. Peterson I'm Michaela P. Peterson, PhD, J. B. (Jordan B. P. (PhD, M.A., M.D., PhD, C.E., C.A.E. ) . Thank you for listening to this episode of The Jordan B Peterson Podcast! Subscribe to my show on the podcast on iTunes, Podchronicity and subscribe to my podcast on PodChronicle. . . . Subscribe in Apple Podcasts! Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices? Become a supporter of the show on iTunes and other podcast directories


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00:00:15.280 Welcome to episode 269 of the Jordan B. Peterson podcast. I'm Michaela Peterson.
00:00:21.180 In this episode, Dad spoke with Frans de Waal, a Dutch primatologist and ethologist.
00:00:26.640 Throughout his career, de Waal has published numerous books about the complexity of animal behavior.
00:00:32.940 His latest book, Different, published in 2022, looks at sex differences in humans, chimpanzees, and bonobos.
00:00:40.220 Dad was really excited to chat with Frans de Waal because he's had a great influence on his thought.
00:00:45.280 Together, the two of them discussed the instinct for reciprocal cooperation, the necessity of play, reconciliation, how we mismeasure animals, and more.
00:00:54.220 Thank you for listening. I hope you enjoy this episode.
00:01:10.060 Hello, everyone. I am really thrilled, even more than usual, because I'm usually thrilled with my guests,
00:01:16.400 to be talking to Dr. Frans de Waal.
00:01:22.160 Dr. de Waal is a Dutch-American biologist and primatologist known for his work on the behavior and social intelligence of our closest biological relatives.
00:01:32.960 He is C.H. Candler Professor Emeritus at Emory University and Distinguished Professor Emeritus at Utrecht University.
00:01:40.400 His scientific work has been published in hundreds of technical articles in journals such as Science, Nature, Scientific American, and Outlets Specialized in Animal Behavior.
00:01:52.520 And I should point out that, generally speaking, in a scientist's career, even a single publication in a journal such as Science or Nature can be the pinnacle of a career.
00:02:02.820 And to do that multiple times is pretty rare.
00:02:06.960 And so Dr. de Waal is a scientist who's, in many ways, in a league of his own.
00:02:12.380 His popular books, translated into more than 20 languages, have made him one of the world's most visible primatologists and scientists, I would say.
00:02:19.780 His latest two books of many, and I'll mention some others, are Mama's Last Hug, Norton 2019, and Different, Gender Through the Eyes of a Primatologist,
00:02:30.040 which was published by Norton in 2022.
00:02:32.700 He's been elected to the U.S. National Academy of Sciences, as well as the Royal Netherlands Academy of Arts and Sciences.
00:02:40.080 In 2007, Time declared him one of the world's 100 most influential people today.
00:02:45.960 Now, I would also say that I'm particularly thrilled to be talking to Dr. de Waal because his work has had a real influence on my thought.
00:02:55.100 Now, I'm not so sure how happy he might be about that, but he is one of the world's deepest thinkers on a variety of important issues,
00:03:04.260 perhaps most importantly on the biological basis of morality, the development of morality,
00:03:11.140 and his work on the development of the moral sentiments, you might say, in chimpanzees and moral behavior.
00:03:17.660 And his analysis of hierarchical behavior in chimpanzees and bonobos is, I think, revolutionary, not only biologically, but also philosophically.
00:03:26.680 And that's something he has delved into.
00:03:28.920 I would say, equally, that's the case for his work on play and his work on gender.
00:03:36.060 However, de Waal is one of the few people who have made a really solid case for a specifically sophisticated view of the construction,
00:03:47.380 let's say, of hierarchies in primates, which are often pilloried, say, with regards to chimpanzees,
00:03:53.440 as predicated on something like brute force and power.
00:03:56.420 And the fact that de Waal has indicated quite clearly that that is an insufficient, to say the least, view of the complexity of such hierarchical organization is work of tremendous importance,
00:04:09.020 partly because it allows for the union, in some real sense, of is and ought, because that's an old philosophical conundrum.
00:04:17.560 Can we derive an ought from an is?
00:04:19.460 And the answer to that is not in any simple way, but the fact does remain that there are elements of social organization in our closest primate relatives
00:04:29.020 that do shine some light on the biological foundations of ethics itself.
00:04:35.460 His work on peacemaking among primates is also signally important, in my estimation.
00:04:41.020 I've read about seven of his books, Peacemaking Among Primates.
00:04:45.120 I thought that was a great book.
00:04:46.160 That was 1989.
00:04:47.580 Chimpanzee Cultures, which he edited with Richard Wrangham, who was another guest on my show.
00:04:52.720 Another great primatologist.
00:04:54.300 Good Nature, The Origins of Right and Wrong in Humans and Other Animals.
00:04:58.460 Another great book.
00:04:59.800 Bonobo, The Forgotten Ape, an analysis of another very close relative of ours, biologically speaking, genetically speaking,
00:05:08.320 who but a chimp subtype in some sense or an ape subtype that organizes its social community quite differently than chimpanzees.
00:05:18.840 He wrote Mama's Last Hug, as I mentioned before, animal emotions and what they tell us about ourselves.
00:05:23.920 Are we smart enough to know how smart animals are?
00:05:26.640 Which is another great book, and most recently, different gender through the eyes of a primatologist.
00:05:32.100 I would highly recommend to all of those who are watching and listening that you pick up any or all of Dr. DeWall's books.
00:05:40.620 They're extremely, they're very straightforward.
00:05:44.380 They're easy to read.
00:05:45.380 They're deep.
00:05:46.500 They're well-grounded in a multidimensional, in the scientific literature, in a multidimensional manner.
00:05:52.660 I think he's one of the world's most important psychologists, even though that's not his primary field.
00:05:58.300 His books are a delight to read, and he certainly influenced my thinking more than anyone else,
00:06:05.660 with the exception of a handful of people like Jock Panksepp, who's done great work on similar grounds with rats in the realm of biology.
00:06:15.040 So, I'm so thrilled to have you on today.
00:06:17.680 So, thanks for a quick gushing, and we'll get to it.
00:06:21.380 You're welcome.
00:06:22.560 Thanks for all the praise.
00:06:24.440 Yeah, well, I mean, it wasn't praise, man.
00:06:28.060 It's the truth.
00:06:30.140 Your work has been of unbelievable interest to me, especially on the, as I said, especially on the front of the development of morality.
00:06:38.520 So, maybe we could, do you want to start with just maybe a little bit of bio and just tell everyone what you do and how you developed what you do?
00:06:48.480 You said, for example, that you were influenced by Nico Tinbergen, and maybe we could just go through the whole ethology background and make it personal,
00:06:56.720 and then we'll get down to brass tacks after that.
00:06:59.740 Well, Nico Tinbergen was a Dutch ethologist.
00:07:02.840 Ethologists are biologists who study behavior of animals, mostly naturalistic behavior.
00:07:09.320 So, that was a big difference with Skinner, let's say, and the psychology who put rats in a box and let them press levers.
00:07:16.100 The ethologists wanted to have natural behavior that they looked at.
00:07:20.120 And Tinbergen was a Dutchman.
00:07:21.880 I'm a Dutchman.
00:07:22.580 I'm from the same school, basically, even though I'm not a direct student of his.
00:07:28.220 And I was trained to observe animals.
00:07:32.000 That's mostly in the beginning of my career.
00:07:34.300 That's what I did.
00:07:34.920 I observed animals, observed chimpanzees, bonobos, other animals.
00:07:39.740 And then later, when I moved to the U.S.
00:07:43.480 in the 1980s, I moved first to Wisconsin and worked with monkeys there.
00:07:48.680 And then I moved to Emory 10 years later.
00:07:52.580 I started to do experiments, behavioral experiments, not invasive studies.
00:07:57.560 Just a chimp would come out of a group into a room and do something on a touchscreen or with a tool or whatever the experiment was.
00:08:06.240 And so, later, I started to do more experimental approaches and got interested in very different behaviors,
00:08:12.420 such as reconciliation after fights or empathy, how they respond to the distress of others.
00:08:18.220 And so, I developed ideas about cooperation and empathy in a time that people were still quite a bit focused on competition and aggression and violence,
00:08:30.420 which was the early focus of ethology, really.
00:08:33.180 Right.
00:08:34.260 So, there was this assumption that was held long, I would say, across animal species that who organized themselves into a social community,
00:08:44.420 that the social hierarchy, which is almost an inevitable consequence of a community, was predicated on something like dominance.
00:08:52.140 Hence, hence the word dominance hierarchy.
00:08:54.380 And I had a graduate student, or he's a colleague of mine now, but about seven years ago, he told me that I should stop using the word dominance hierarchy.
00:09:03.000 And I asked him why, because I used that phrase a lot.
00:09:05.860 And he said, well, dominance is when you put a chain around someone's neck and they're naked and you can lead them around and you can get them to do anything you want.
00:09:13.440 And our hierarchies, our functional hierarchies, are not based on dominance.
00:09:19.660 And then he said, and I think that that idea is a consequence of the invasion of Marxist-derived ideas implicitly into the biological domain.
00:09:31.720 And, like, it really took me aback, because I had used that term a lot.
00:09:34.800 And I thought, oh, he's really on to something there, because I think our hierarchies, when they're functional, are predicated on competence and reciprocity.
00:09:44.700 And it's only when they become pathological that they're based on power.
00:09:47.940 And then I came across your work, which, well, it was before that, too.
00:09:51.640 And you, well, and I would like you to talk about that.
00:09:54.240 So let's talk about the hierarchical, the social organization of chimpanzees on the male and female side and what you've observed.
00:10:01.460 Yeah, so the dominance relationship is a two-way street, you know.
00:10:05.600 So it's very hard to dominate a bunch of people who don't want to be dominated or don't want to be led.
00:10:12.900 So it's always you have the followers and the ones who are dominant.
00:10:18.480 But the idea that dominance is purely based on coercion and power is, I think, simplistic.
00:10:25.120 You need a party who wants to be dominated.
00:10:27.720 And in order to be dominated, you need to give them certain things also.
00:10:33.520 So the dominant is not purely coercive.
00:10:39.320 It does happen.
00:10:40.700 I call them usually bullies, and we have them in human society, too.
00:10:44.380 It does happen also in chimpanzee society that a male is just big and strong and orders others around.
00:10:52.340 That kind of males are not very popular, and the group is basically waiting for a challenger.
00:10:59.820 And if a challenger comes up, then they're going to support the challenger.
00:11:02.840 They want to get rid of a male like that.
00:11:04.820 Yeah, well, one of the things that's so revolutionary about that, I believe, on the philosophical front,
00:11:10.320 is that I think your work, as well as Pankseps with rats, has shown that that kind of coercion and power
00:11:17.380 actually constitutes a very unstable basis for social organization.
00:11:22.140 And that if you engage in that, as you said, you'll gain enemies.
00:11:25.980 And that even happens at the animal level in some real sophisticated sense.
00:11:29.900 And the probability that, as you've also described, when you're a bully and you have an off day,
00:11:39.180 two of your subordinates that you've bullied can do a pretty good job of tearing you into pieces.
00:11:46.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:11:47.260 So the stable alpha male and most alpha males that I've known in chimpanzees, they break up fights.
00:11:56.140 They keep the peace.
00:11:57.120 They defend the underdog.
00:11:59.440 So they defend a juvenile against an adult or a female against a male.
00:12:04.100 They are empathic, actually.
00:12:06.440 They reassure individuals who are distressed.
00:12:10.940 And they can become extremely popular.
00:12:13.240 So people always imagine that the alpha male must be frightening and that everyone is scared of them.
00:12:18.520 There is a certain respect for them.
00:12:20.180 So there is a certain fear involved.
00:12:22.840 But they can be extremely popular.
00:12:24.680 And so, yes, and that's that indication of stability, you know, because so this is one of the things that's so key.
00:12:32.820 Do you know about Jock Panksepp's work on play with rats?
00:12:36.700 I know Panksepp.
00:12:37.600 Yeah.
00:12:37.820 Okay.
00:12:38.240 I knew him.
00:12:38.940 Yeah.
00:12:39.080 He died a couple of years ago, but I knew him.
00:12:41.980 Yeah, sure.
00:12:42.480 So you know that he showed that if you repeatedly put juvenile males together to play, that the larger rat can dominate the smaller rat with no problem.
00:12:52.560 But if the larger rat doesn't let the little rat win 30% of the time across repeated play bouts, then the little rat will stop playing.
00:13:01.360 Yeah.
00:13:01.760 It doesn't surprise me.
00:13:02.860 Yeah.
00:13:02.960 Well, it's so cool, you know, to see that alongside your work because it's one of these indications, as far as I'm concerned, that the rules that govern a single interaction, which might be that I can win by dominance, are not the same rules that govern repeated interactions within a social context.
00:13:21.260 And your work has done a lovely job of fleshing out the sophisticated complexity of behavior and attitude necessary even at the chimpanzee level so that the troop remains stable.
00:13:33.280 Because you also described how when there's violence between two males, say, vying for status shift and a better position, that the entire troop gets agitated and that part of the regulation of that male violence that can spiral out of control is actually distributed into the social community.
00:13:56.300 Yes.
00:13:56.560 So what happens is that it's also in the way you become dominant.
00:14:00.380 How do you reach the top position?
00:14:02.480 And often in a chimp society, that is with the support of others.
00:14:08.180 And so I can become the alpha male, but I may need one or two male supporters.
00:14:14.560 I may need female support.
00:14:16.360 And as a result, also, I need to be nice to my supporters because if I'm not nice to them, they will stop supporting me and my position is based on them.
00:14:24.780 As a result, you can also get the smallest male can be the alpha male.
00:14:29.140 That happens sometimes in a chimpanzee group is the smallest male, is the dominant male.
00:14:34.100 And you wonder how that happens, but that's because he has supporters.
00:14:37.940 It also means that a female can be very powerful.
00:14:42.140 Like I described in my previous book, Mama's Last Hug, Mama, the alpha female who was alpha for 40 years.
00:14:49.560 And so she saw a lot of males come and go.
00:14:52.400 And she was crucial in the alpha male business.
00:14:55.480 And so if a male wanted to be the dominant male, he needed her support because he had the support of all the females.
00:15:01.420 And so it's almost like a democratic system in that sense, is that you need the support of others and you need to keep your supporters happy.
00:15:09.260 So it's a very different.
00:15:10.940 People have this one-sided view, which comes from the early baboon studies, I think.
00:15:16.320 They have this view of the male who dominates everyone and orders everyone around.
00:15:21.440 But that's really a simplistic view.
00:15:23.120 And it applies maybe to these baboons, but certainly not to chimps and bonobos.
00:15:26.820 Yeah, well, your work also highlights the crucial importance and multi-species importance of something like the principle of reciprocity, right?
00:15:37.820 And you use words like nice and empathic, and then you justify that.
00:15:43.140 We can talk about that so-called anthropomorphism as we go along.
00:15:47.140 But the idea that a stable society and also the idea that the individuals that make up that society are psychologically stable, and that would be not too stressed, let's say, that that depends intrinsically on a degree of mutuality and reciprocity.
00:16:08.300 That's really a revolutionary idea to ground that in biology.
00:16:11.620 Yeah, reciprocity is very important because the alpha male, if he has a supporter who keeps him in that position, then he needs to give that supporter a lot of things.
00:16:22.240 Otherwise, what would be in it for the supporter, you know?
00:16:25.460 Well, what kind of things do you see the alpha doing in this more reciprocal sense?
00:16:30.680 Well, the typical situation is that the alpha male is dependent on another male.
00:16:34.400 He will let the other male mate with females, which is what dominance is really all about among the males, is that access to females.
00:16:43.280 And so he may be intolerant to every other male and keep them away from females, but his buddy who made him alpha, he let them mate with females.
00:16:53.280 Because if he doesn't, and I've seen this happen, if he doesn't, then his buddy will revolt and will stop supporting him.
00:17:00.020 Right, so that also indicates, so, you know, you might ask yourself why the instinct to allow for reciprocal dominance exists in human beings,
00:17:12.340 given that access to mating privilege is such a crucial element of reproduction.
00:17:20.180 But if part of that is, is that if we can make coalitions with our superordinates, say, make coalitions, even though we're not dominant,
00:17:29.600 and that ability to form coalitions upward is associated with sexual access,
00:17:36.520 because the dominant male chimps, they chase other males away from the females, right?
00:17:40.700 The females will mate.
00:17:41.720 This is something that makes them different than human females.
00:17:44.520 The female chimps will mate with pretty much any male when they're nestrous, if I understand it properly.
00:17:49.480 But the more dominant males will, no, is that wrong?
00:17:52.700 Yeah, the females, there's a big issue with female choice, as we call it.
00:17:56.760 Females have preferences for certain males, and these preferences don't need to correspond with the male hierarchy.
00:18:03.320 And so we used to think that the dominant male would sire most offspring because we saw them,
00:18:10.260 the dominant males mate more often than other males.
00:18:12.780 But females do all sorts of things behind the bushes and at night.
00:18:17.820 And so we now know from paternity testing that the dominant male is not always the one who has the most offspring.
00:18:25.120 And that is because females have preferences, different preferences.
00:18:29.480 Right.
00:18:30.100 Would you say, okay, so let me update myself in relationship to that.
00:18:35.140 I understood, my understanding of the primatology literature,
00:18:38.460 and insofar as it extended to humans, was that human females were in some sense unique in the degree to which they exercised sexual choice with concealed ovulation and so forth.
00:18:52.020 And that that was part of perhaps what drove our rapid departure away from chimpanzees, let's say, on the cognitive front.
00:18:58.020 But you're saying as well that choice in chimpanzee females, female choices, plays a more important role than might have originally been predicted.
00:19:08.540 I think it started with the birds, you know, we have monogamous birds, songbirds, male, female, and they have a nest with eggs.
00:19:17.160 And we've always assumed that the male was the father of all these fertilized older eggs.
00:19:22.580 But now since paternity testing, this started in the 1970s, we know that if you look at the eggs, you very often find extra pair males in there.
00:19:34.720 So different males who have met it with the female.
00:19:37.900 Initially, the biologists assumed very Victorian type of assumption.
00:19:42.260 They assumed that, of course, the female was probably raped by other males or something like that.
00:19:48.160 But now we know that the females actively look for sex with other males.
00:19:54.100 And so in the birth literature, it's very well known.
00:19:56.460 And we distinguish social monogamy from genetic monogamy.
00:20:02.040 And most of the monogamy that we see is social.
00:20:04.740 It's not necessarily genetic in the sense that the male is the father of all the offspring.
00:20:09.820 And since then, we have now lots of studies on other animals, including the primates that we know.
00:20:15.080 For example, a female chimpanzee, she mates with many more males than would be necessary to be fertilized.
00:20:23.240 She mates with lots of males.
00:20:25.880 And she has certain preferences that we now learn about.
00:20:29.620 It's called female choice, and that's a big literature on female behavior.
00:20:35.280 So females have very often preferences that deviate from the male hierarchy.
00:20:40.020 Yeah.
00:20:40.320 So let me push you on that a bit.
00:20:43.060 So I looked at human studies and the correlation between sexual success and socioeconomic status for men in relationship to sexual success with women is about somewhere between 0.6 and 0.7, which is an unbelievably, stunningly high correlation.
00:20:59.020 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:20:59.900 It's like it's higher than the correlation between intelligence and academic performance, for example, which is maybe the second highest correlation of that sort we know.
00:21:07.180 And so, but that shows in human beings that the female preference and the male hierarchy are pretty tightly aligned.
00:21:15.960 How close are they aligned in chimps?
00:21:18.420 And if they're not aligned, what are the females looking for that isn't signaled by the hierarchical structure of the males?
00:21:25.560 In humans, of course, the female preference has also to do with status and income in the sense of resources, which is not so much the case in chimpanzees, I would say, because they don't have a nuclear family structure.
00:21:43.340 Well, and they don't obviously gather resources to say, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:21:47.820 So we humans, we humans have a nuclear family structure.
00:21:51.400 So the males are involved in the family and in caring for offspring, which is not really the case in bonobos and chimpanzees.
00:21:58.540 And so the human female has a more complex picture in front of her, which includes maybe sexual preference, which may be based on the body or the appearance and so on.
00:22:11.120 But it also is based on she also looks for resources.
00:22:15.360 So I think it's a more complex picture, probably.
00:22:17.700 So I'm curious about that, too, because tell me what you think of this.
00:22:21.220 It seems to me that although socioeconomic status and mating success in human males is very tightly associated, that human females aren't looking so much for status or even socioeconomic position.
00:22:34.860 They're using those as markers for the ability to generate resources and social status.
00:22:41.140 And so because really what they want, and I think this is tied with your work on reciprocity and social skill in chimpanzees, what the human females really want is competence and generosity.
00:22:55.820 And they use social status and resource acquisition as a marker for that.
00:23:01.600 Yeah, that's very well possible.
00:23:03.360 I'm not so familiar with that human literature, but there is a big field now of female initiative, female choice, female sexuality.
00:23:16.220 You know, biology started out pretty Victorian in the sense that female sexuality didn't exist.
00:23:22.480 Females were passive sexually.
00:23:24.720 Males were active and had a sex drive, but females basically didn't need it.
00:23:28.880 That's how the biologists thought about it.
00:23:31.440 And all that thinking has changed.
00:23:33.520 And in my book on gender, I talk quite a bit about female sexuality and the size of the clitoris and so on, which is related to that, seeking pleasure and so on.
00:23:42.720 And I think it's highly significant that we see that female chimpanzees and certainly female bonobos, they have quite a bit more sex than is necessary strictly for reproduction.
00:23:54.740 So they are very adventurous and the female bonobos has a big clitoris, bigger than the human female.
00:24:02.480 And the biggest one is in the dolphin, which is also a sexually adventurous species.
00:24:07.020 So people are not paying attention to that.
00:24:09.760 Whereas we went through a long period where female sexuality was basically ignored, was irrelevant.
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00:25:52.060 So in the Bonobos, particularly, the social organization differs from that of the chimp quite markedly, despite the close genetic association between the species.
00:26:06.140 And the Bonobos have often been portrayed as, well, let's say, hippie chimps, because it's free love, sex, and in some sense, a more matriarchal social structure.
00:26:17.000 So why do you think those differences emerged between those two subspecies?
00:26:23.000 And I know you've drawn lessons from both.
00:26:26.780 Are they species or subspecies?
00:26:28.980 They can mate.
00:26:29.840 So how are they technically defined?
00:26:31.560 Well, we do call them species.
00:26:34.120 They belong to the same genus.
00:26:36.300 The Bonobos are female-dominated, and the female dominance is a collective dominance.
00:26:41.300 A single female cannot dominate a single male.
00:26:44.400 If you see at zoos that happens sometimes, that you see one male and one female Bonobo, which is, of course, very atypical, but then the male is dominant.
00:26:55.560 As soon as you add a second female, the females become dominant.
00:26:59.000 It's a collective dominance that they have, high level of female solidarity, serviced by a lot of sex and grooming between the females.
00:27:07.700 And why they have this different society, I think it's made possible by the fact that the females can travel together.
00:27:15.000 There is enough food in their forest, and they don't have competition from gorillas.
00:27:20.060 They don't live together with gorillas in the forest, that they have more food available that allows the females to travel together.
00:27:27.240 Actually, you mentioned Richard Wrangham.
00:27:29.380 Some of these ideas, ecological ideas, come from Richard Wrangham.
00:27:32.760 It's that the female Bonobo, they can stay together as a group, and that allows them to have this very powerful sisterhood.
00:27:39.860 Whereas the female chimpanzees, in their forest, they need to spread out in order to find enough food.
00:27:46.460 And so that kind of bonding that happens in the Bonobo is not really possible for them.
00:27:51.640 Okay.
00:27:52.420 So this is, sorry, go ahead.
00:27:54.580 Yeah.
00:27:54.780 And in captivity, because I've worked, of course, mostly in captivity, in large chimpanzee colonies in zoo settings, then the female chimps, they are actually very powerful.
00:28:06.900 Because then they're all together, they're forced to live together, of course, and then they develop some sort of sisterhood.
00:28:13.380 It's not as well developed as in the Bonobo, but the power difference between males and females becomes very different in captivity.
00:28:21.020 Okay.
00:28:21.620 Well, this is a good segue into the sex and gender discussion.
00:28:24.940 So in your book, The Difference, your new book, you distinguish, as do the more radical political types now, sex and gender.
00:28:35.860 And I was interested in that for a variety of reasons.
00:28:38.280 So when I look at that issue, I look at it from the perspective of a personality psychologist.
00:28:43.240 So the notion that sex itself is binary is fine with me, but the notion that there is something that might be conceptualized as gender, although I think that's a bad term, is also, I think, reasonable.
00:28:57.240 Because human beings vary substantially from individual to individual in terms of personality on the five cardinal dimensions of personality.
00:29:06.560 And there are plenty of men who have a typical female personality structure, and plenty of females that have a typical male personality structure.
00:29:17.120 And then if you add to that variation in creativity, which gives you a kind of fluidity of identity, it's sort of a hallmark of creativity, then the notion that there's a gender that's separate from sex starts to take on some validity.
00:29:30.780 But I like to approach it from the personality dimension.
00:29:33.980 I mean, men and women overlap quite a lot in their personality.
00:29:37.500 So that's why.
00:29:38.260 Yeah, I think that's entirely correct.
00:29:40.200 I would say sex is divided, biological sex is divided in mostly male and female.
00:29:46.960 And there is an in-between category.
00:29:50.960 But sex is based on genetics, on chromosomes, on genitals, on hormones.
00:29:59.580 That's what sex is.
00:30:00.780 Gender is divided, better divided in masculine and feminine than in male and female.
00:30:10.520 So I would say gender is masculine and feminine.
00:30:13.580 And everything in between, all sorts of combinations are possible.
00:30:18.020 And gender is a much more flexible concept that was introduced.
00:30:21.980 The origin of gender is John Monty, the sexologist, who introduced the term because he had noticed that there were people who were born with one sex, but in the course of their life felt they belonged to another sex.
00:30:38.960 And so he felt he needed to have a term for that.
00:30:41.780 And at the time, they only had negative labels for these people, like weird and queer and abnormal and whatever.
00:30:48.660 And he wanted to have a more scientific and a friendly label for them.
00:30:52.840 And that's why he came up with the word gender.
00:30:55.160 He was also the first one to to set up a gender clinic.
00:30:58.480 So the word gender relates more to the cultural side, how we expect men and women to behave, the social norms that we have, the education that we give them.
00:31:10.360 And so that's the gender side.
00:31:12.480 And the gender side is obviously much more flexible and much more fluid.
00:31:16.660 So I want to I want to ask you about that, too, because you said that the gender side is more socialized.
00:31:21.240 And, you know, I'm not I'm not so sure about that.
00:31:24.340 I think this separation.
00:31:26.160 I mean, I'm not unsure about it either, because culture obviously matters.
00:31:29.420 But, you know, a lot of the differences that you see from individual to individual are at least 60 percent biologically determined.
00:31:39.040 So variation. So if you're born, let's say, as a male with a female temperament, so you're high in agreeableness, empathy, and you're low in negative emotion, because that's the typical female pattern.
00:31:50.080 About 60 percent of the variance in that is attributable to genetic factors.
00:31:53.820 So we could have a sex and gender split as as the as the political types insist.
00:32:00.400 That's also grounded in biological differences without making a categorical distinction.
00:32:05.880 You know, say, yeah, so absolutely.
00:32:08.140 They always remain connected.
00:32:10.880 The reason that we have genders and to have a duality of gender is because we have sexes.
00:32:17.880 So people who say that gender is purely in our heads is purely a society product.
00:32:26.100 That's an impossibility.
00:32:27.420 I think if we were a cloning species, so we have no sexual reproduction where we would all be identical, no one would have come up with the concept of gender.
00:32:38.080 So the concept of gender is related to sex.
00:32:40.200 There is a certain independence between them, but they also remain joined at some point.
00:32:47.360 And you're right.
00:32:48.360 It is never purely cultural.
00:32:51.440 Well, and you show that you show that in your book, because and I want to go into it in quite a bit of detail.
00:32:56.720 So, for example, let's start with this toy preference and differences in nurturance behavior.
00:33:02.760 And and so I'd like you to lay that out and then we could talk about that psychologically for a bit.
00:33:08.120 Yes, it's interesting.
00:33:09.660 If you look at the behavior of the young primates and children, human children, you see a lot of similarity there.
00:33:18.800 And often people, of course, think that the toy preferences are socialized that we see.
00:33:25.900 But I think there's too much similarity with what we see in other primates.
00:33:30.380 So young female primates, they they are very fond of infants.
00:33:35.240 They want to hold infants as soon as there's a newborn baby and the mother arrives with it.
00:33:40.400 They want to they surround her.
00:33:42.240 There's very few males who are interested in that.
00:33:44.160 But the young females want to get their hands on the on the on the infant.
00:33:48.380 And in in nature, we also know that they pick up logs and rocks and chimpanzees do.
00:33:55.240 And the young females, they carry them around on their back, on their belly as if they have a doll.
00:34:00.320 If in captivity, you give them a doll like a teddy bear, they will walk around with it and take care of it and be friendly with it.
00:34:08.180 Whereas young males, they have a tendency to to take them apart, basically.
00:34:13.300 And look what's inside.
00:34:15.280 And so the females have this very strong urge to hold infants.
00:34:19.860 And the same thing has been found in human children, that girls are more interested in infants than boys are.
00:34:26.580 And if you look at the young males, the young males have a higher energy level.
00:34:32.140 This is also true for boys versus girls.
00:34:35.260 They have a higher energy level.
00:34:37.280 And what they love to do is roughhousing, mock fighting.
00:34:40.120 That's what they do the whole day, basically.
00:34:41.960 They like to mock fight with each other, sometimes with adolescent males to just to test their strengths on them.
00:34:49.020 And so rough and tumble play also in human children, much more typical of boys and of girls.
00:34:56.140 And the segregation that we see in the playground between boys playing together and girls playing together probably comes to a large degree from the fact that the girls don't like all this roughhousing that the boys are doing.
00:35:09.720 That's not their type of play.
00:35:11.800 And so they stay away from them because it's too rough for them.
00:35:14.400 And so I spent a lot of time looking at the play literature in children.
00:35:20.600 So partly I worked with a team of investigators at Montreal who were interested in the origin of antisocial behavior.
00:35:27.760 And this is partly what gave me a foray into your work, by the way.
00:35:32.600 So the lead researcher there was Richard Tremblay, who's done a lot of great work on.
00:35:37.100 Oh, I know his work.
00:35:38.100 You know his work.
00:35:39.020 Yeah, Tremblay is great, man.
00:35:40.360 And he was on this podcast, by the way.
00:35:42.160 And I worked with him for.
00:35:44.400 15 years, something like that.
00:35:46.040 Didn't he work with Fred Sprayer, who was also there?
00:35:49.240 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:35:50.760 So he was interested in the origins of antisocial behavior and criminality, mostly.
00:35:57.600 And while we worked together, we kept pushing back the origin time in some sense of antisocial behavior until the age of two.
00:36:06.180 And he had put a bunch of interventions in place to try to modulate antisocial behavior.
00:36:10.520 But it's very, very persistent once it's established.
00:36:13.040 Very difficult to ameliorate.
00:36:15.300 And so there's a subset of two-year-olds, about 5% of the males, almost all male, who bite, hit, kick, and steal at the age of two.
00:36:28.640 Now, most two-year-olds don't, but a percentage do.
00:36:31.920 And most of them are socialized by the age of four.
00:36:37.340 And so that becomes either probably integrated into their personality rather than repressed.
00:36:42.380 So maybe they're more disagreeable from a personality perspective, highly probable.
00:36:47.480 They're more competitive.
00:36:48.440 They're blunter.
00:36:49.500 But they get socialized.
00:36:51.320 And one of the key questions is, you know, who socializes them?
00:36:55.460 And my suspicions are, in many cases, it's a father or a father equivalent.
00:37:00.240 In any case, the ones who don't get socialized, they aren't popular with their peers.
00:37:07.520 And humans get socialized primarily by their peers after age four.
00:37:11.580 So they get to be little outcasts.
00:37:13.180 And then there are bullies.
00:37:14.240 And then there are juvenile delinquents.
00:37:16.080 And then there are criminals.
00:37:17.720 That's where the life course persistent criminals, that's the population from which they're derived.
00:37:22.240 And so then we looked at what was socializing them.
00:37:26.360 And the answer to that, which I thought was so cool and so great, was play.
00:37:31.400 Both pretend play and rough and tumble play.
00:37:34.660 And Pegsep has done lovely work on rats with rough and tumble play.
00:37:38.440 Yeah, that's a point that I make in my book, is that the play behavior of the boys and of young male primates,
00:37:44.820 it's partly developing fighting skills.
00:37:48.380 So it's partly just like in the females, their interest in infants is a preparation for adult life when they will have offspring.
00:37:56.060 And for the males, the play fighting is in the preparation for adult life in which they will have a lot of competition going.
00:38:03.000 But another aspect, very important, is that they learn how to control their strengths.
00:38:08.940 They learn how to be nice to others.
00:38:11.220 They learn to release pressure once the other cannot stand it.
00:38:14.680 And so if you look at an adult male gorilla, for example, with his big fist on a baby gorilla,
00:38:22.140 he could just, with a little pressure, he could kill it because he's incredibly strong.
00:38:26.900 But, you know, adult male gorillas, they play with infants and they do very well with them.
00:38:31.960 And that is because he has learned over a lifetime to control his physical strengths.
00:38:36.860 Right, and that rough and tumble play is so important for that because it's embodied, right?
00:38:41.720 So one of the things, because I really got interested in rough and tumble play as a primary source of,
00:38:47.120 well, socialization of aggression is that, and also more than that, right?
00:38:52.020 Because it also underlies the spirit of reciprocity, I think, which is manifested in its purest sense in the spirit of play.
00:38:58.980 Because play is something that the participants have to engage in voluntarily.
00:39:04.300 Yeah, and they have to enjoy it.
00:39:07.540 Right, exactly.
00:39:08.380 And so this also relates very much to the gender relationship, is that because we have a lot of trouble, of course, with men abusing women,
00:39:16.900 men need to learn about their strengths, need to learn how to control it, need to learn when to hold back and when to use it.
00:39:24.220 And play is an important factor in that.
00:39:27.960 And so when I now hear, I hear sometimes from people who have children that at schools there is less recess time
00:39:35.900 and there is less opportunity for physical contact because the teachers say that you shouldn't be touching each other.
00:39:41.860 But they forbid it.
00:39:42.300 They forbid it entirely.
00:39:43.480 At my school, my kids' school, the boys and the girls were forbidden to even pick up snow on the off chance that they would make a snowball.
00:39:53.400 And so they just stopped the rough and tumble play of the males 100%.
00:39:58.640 And Panksep showed if you deprive male rats of play, juveniles, they would play hyperactively when you gave them the chance
00:40:07.460 and that you could use methylphenidate to suppress that.
00:40:10.980 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:40:11.780 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:40:13.380 But the rough and tumble play is absolutely essential.
00:40:18.420 It's not just for developing fighting skills, which is part of it, but it's also how males control themselves, how they,
00:40:25.780 because they become physically stronger than females, they need to have full control over their body.
00:40:31.040 Right.
00:40:31.220 And they, well, I think they also learn, I think through rough and tumble play, kids also learn what hurts and what is, what hurts them really.
00:40:40.320 And so, because when you rough and tumble, I've rough and tumble played with my kids a lot.
00:40:44.340 I set up kind of a little wrestling ring made out of two couches pushed together.
00:40:47.900 And one of the, and they love it, right?
00:40:49.900 They're so excited by it.
00:40:51.200 But you tend to push the kids to their physical limits, right?
00:40:54.220 Because you twist their arms and you sort of toss them in the air.
00:40:57.020 And you're engaged in this dance that's an exploration of physical limitation.
00:41:02.900 And so, I think one of the things that play does, and Panksepp showed, there was a student of his, Tiffany Fields, who massaged premature infants in the incubator.
00:41:14.320 It showed that she could rapidly, radically facilitate their development.
00:41:17.560 I think play also regulates emotion because it's soothing and it shows you, it allows you to make a clear distinction between real threats and false threats and between physical situations that actually hurt and those that don't.
00:41:33.260 And that has to be done in an embodied sense.
00:41:35.900 So, the sort of funny thing that happened to me is that I, when I was a student, I worked with two young chimpanzees who loved to play with me.
00:41:45.120 So, they were only five years old, but they were already much stronger than I was.
00:41:51.220 You know, a chimps develops much, physically much stronger than, even though they're smaller, they're physically stronger than I.
00:41:57.840 And so, I would rough and tumble play with them.
00:42:01.300 And it was, you know, I would always lose because they have four hands and they can put you in a knot in a way that is impossible for me to get out of.
00:42:10.100 And each time I would protest, I would say, oh, oh, oh, and let them know that this was, they were going too far with me.
00:42:18.940 They would be very worried.
00:42:20.440 They would come around and they would look at my face and they would be looking very worried and a sort of like surprised that this big fellow was so weak in their opinion, you know.
00:42:31.620 So, and then they would slow down their play and it would be very gentle for 10 minutes or so.
00:42:37.200 It would be very gentle with me.
00:42:38.900 So, they can calibrate it.
00:42:40.440 Yeah.
00:42:40.680 And that's how play goes.
00:42:42.260 Also, in dogs, play is constantly measuring what is painful, what is not painful.
00:42:49.360 And of course, the goal is to have fun.
00:42:51.600 That's the main goal.
00:42:52.840 So, that calibration is going on the whole time, yeah.
00:42:57.200 Right, right, right.
00:42:58.280 Well, and that's, well, so, you know, Piaget, who wrote a great, Jean Piaget wrote an absolutely stellar book on the development of morality out of the spirit of play.
00:43:09.140 It's a great book.
00:43:09.860 And, you know, he showed, so he also, and this is germane to your work, he made a technical case that any organization that's based on the spirit of voluntary reciprocity will, over a reasonable period of time, outcompete any organization based on the spirit of compulsion.
00:43:29.560 Because if you use force and compulsion, you have to waste energy and resources on the compulsion, plus you don't optimally motivate.
00:43:38.340 And so, that's another pointer to an intrinsic ethic of reciprocal cooperation.
00:43:43.380 And I think that best, so one of the things I've been thinking about lately is the best rejoinder to the sort of postmodern and neo-Marxist insistence that it's power and dominance above all is that, no, it's not.
00:43:55.660 Is that's an aberration from the spirit of play.
00:43:58.080 Because if a society and any social interaction is optimally structured, then it moves out of, it moves into the domain of voluntary play.
00:44:08.340 This is mutually enjoyable, stays on the side of positive emotion, and it also involves this continual mutual collaboration, which children start to seriously negotiate between the ages of two and four.
00:44:22.160 Yeah, yeah.
00:44:22.640 And so, what you mentioned is that socialization is mostly done by children, by the peers.
00:44:28.080 You know, that's a very interesting thought, because in my discussion of gender, I noticed that many people think that socialization is a one-way street.
00:44:38.460 The parents socialize their children.
00:44:41.660 And I think parents overestimate their influence on children.
00:44:46.000 I think children socialize themselves to a large degree.
00:44:48.980 I call it self-socialization.
00:44:50.260 They look for adult models.
00:44:53.840 It can be the mother, it can be the father, it can be somebody else.
00:44:57.240 They look for adult models, it can also be imaginary models that they see on TV, basically.
00:45:02.680 Well, that's the purpose of fiction, as far as I can tell.
00:45:05.280 Yeah.
00:45:05.560 Fiction puts up ritual models for emulation.
00:45:08.500 Yeah.
00:45:08.780 And so, the children socialize themselves.
00:45:11.300 And then, in addition, they have all the peer influences on them.
00:45:14.720 And so, I think parents totally overestimate their effect on the children.
00:45:18.080 Yeah, our research at Montreal basically indicated that the proper...
00:45:23.080 So, imagine that the averaged parent, which would be sort of the consequence of a monogamous relationship, right?
00:45:31.600 So, two half-insane people unite and produce one moderately sane person.
00:45:36.360 And then, that sane person is an analog of the general social environment.
00:45:42.260 And then, the purpose of that sane person on the socialization front is to help the child manage his or her behavior so that they become optimally socially acceptable by the age of four when their peers take over.
00:45:55.920 Mm-hmm.
00:45:56.400 And so, that's how it seems to be.
00:45:59.120 And then, you know, you talked about this self-socialization.
00:46:01.260 You say, well, how can kids self-socialize?
00:46:04.460 And part of the answer to that is, if you don't socialize your children in a manner they find enjoyable, let's say, in the spirit of play.
00:46:12.740 I know some discipline is necessary.
00:46:14.280 But in the spirit of play, the children will vociferously and continually object, right?
00:46:20.620 They'll cry.
00:46:21.480 They'll be uncooperative.
00:46:23.300 They certainly won't be enthusiastic.
00:46:24.760 And so, there is a dynamic dance there right from the beginning that the child and the – I think this is also why, by the way, you know, there's all these studies showing that there's a fair genetic influence on temperament and there's a pretty decent influence of non-shared environment.
00:46:41.700 But there's hardly any influence of shared environment.
00:46:43.960 And I think the reason for that isn't so much that parents are irrelevant, but that good parents particularize the environment so much in response to their child's temperament that there isn't a lot of overlap.
00:46:56.720 Yeah, yeah.
00:46:57.600 So, in the other primates, we see the same thing.
00:47:00.520 We see that young females, they imitate their mother more than young males.
00:47:06.480 So, for example, a recent study on orangutans in the forest found that daughters eat exactly the same foods as their moms.
00:47:17.900 Sons, they have a more variety in their diet.
00:47:22.120 You know, there's hundreds and hundreds of plants around and fruits around.
00:47:25.360 So, they learn their diet from others.
00:47:28.000 And so, the sons, they learn it mostly from males and other individuals that they see around.
00:47:33.180 There's other studies on tool use, for example, that daughters copy exactly the tool technology that their mom uses.
00:47:41.460 Sons, they're on their own with that and they develop their own tool technologies.
00:47:46.540 And so, in the primates, we see because they, you know, a chimp is adult when he's 16.
00:47:51.520 So, there's a very long learning period.
00:47:54.240 We see that they self-socialize by emulating individuals of their sex.
00:47:59.040 And that means also that the concept of gender is applicable to them because they are also culturally influenced.
00:48:06.840 They're influenced by the behavior of adults around them.
00:48:10.200 And that's why I use the word gender also for the other primates.
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00:49:21.220 Okay, so I want to read something to you from your book.
00:49:26.480 And then I want to discuss that for a second.
00:49:29.060 This is from Deborah Bloom.
00:49:30.700 You cite her.
00:49:32.720 My son Marcus passionately covets toy weaponry.
00:49:38.000 Denied even so much as one lousy plastic pistol by his gun intolerant mother.
00:49:44.120 He is compensated by building armaments out of everything from clay to kitchen utensils.
00:49:49.740 I watched him charge after the cat, shooting, shouting, shoot him with a toothbrush.
00:49:55.260 And I found myself mentally throwing up my hands.
00:49:58.800 Now, to me, that's kind of amusing, but I didn't really find it amusing.
00:50:03.160 I actually found it really dark.
00:50:04.740 Because the line of work that you're pursuing, which shows quite clearly, as does the personality
00:50:11.740 literature on these topics, that these toy preferences and behavioral differences are deeply grounded
00:50:16.960 in biology.
00:50:18.380 And they may also be fostered culturally.
00:50:20.460 But fundamentally, it's the manifestation of an intrinsic mode of being, an instinctual pattern.
00:50:26.300 And this woman, this author, says, you know, she's throwing up her hands because she can't
00:50:34.300 stop her son from being a boy.
00:50:37.200 I don't find that amusing.
00:50:38.680 I find that actually quite horrifying.
00:50:40.540 And, you know, the idea that...
00:50:42.520 Yeah.
00:50:43.000 That has to do with the desire of many parents to influence their children and to make them
00:50:49.160 sort of gender neutral and to have boys play with dolls and girls play with trucks.
00:50:54.560 And, of course, there are a few who will do that.
00:50:58.080 But they're trying to go against whatever the tendencies are.
00:51:03.920 And they punish those tendencies, at least implicitly.
00:51:07.640 And now, you know, if male ambition serves power and oppression, then you can understand
00:51:13.180 why early manifestations of that might be worth punishing, especially if that was culturally
00:51:17.740 a cultural consequence.
00:51:19.760 But if the fundamental male drive is something like reciprocity and competence and, say, aim,
00:51:27.360 because I think that's relevant to the use of weapons, then the punishing of that, the
00:51:32.200 viewing it as only serving power and oppression instead of competence and reciprocity, that's
00:51:37.960 an awful thing.
00:51:38.820 And I think I'd like to know what you think about this.
00:51:41.580 But, you know, boys are not doing that well in school.
00:51:44.680 And they're all the way through kindergarten through university.
00:51:48.020 They're dropping out.
00:51:49.680 And they're also increasingly and interesting, less interested in sexual activity of all sorts,
00:51:55.020 even masturbation.
00:51:56.460 And I think that it's a consequence of this attitude.
00:52:01.260 It's like they're punished for a male typical pattern of behavior that's improperly associated
00:52:06.900 with dominance right from day one.
00:52:09.100 So, yeah, boys are more often kicked out of school.
00:52:15.260 That's a big problem.
00:52:17.040 And that has probably to do with the tendency of roughhousing and mock fighting, which they
00:52:21.880 do all the time.
00:52:24.060 And yeah, the way I look at that is that that's a primate pattern.
00:52:27.860 All the male primates like to do that, mock fighting.
00:52:30.920 And we at our schools in the West, we have decided to stop that and to say you shouldn't
00:52:36.900 be touching each other.
00:52:37.480 Yeah, you know, I worked with this guy named Dan Olwes, and he wrote a great book called
00:52:43.980 Bullying, What It Is and What We Can Do About It.
00:52:46.000 Very straightforward guy, kind of like a 50s engineer.
00:52:48.700 And he reduced the bullying incidents and associated alcoholism and criminality in Scandinavia, in a
00:52:55.200 number of countries, by 50%.
00:52:57.260 And he went into schools, he was really careful because he defined bullying very particularly.
00:53:03.020 He said he didn't associate it with rough and tumble play, for example, because he actually
00:53:08.760 had a clue.
00:53:10.040 He said, you know, you mentioned earlier that the reciprocal male alpha who's competent breaks
00:53:16.980 up unfair fights.
00:53:19.300 OK, so that's what Olwes did.
00:53:20.640 He went into schools and he said, look, you can intervene in an incident of aggression when
00:53:26.120 there's a clear and inequitable power balance.
00:53:29.820 So if a 12 year old is beating up an eight year old or if two 10 year olds are picking
00:53:33.320 on a 10 year old.
00:53:34.640 And then he taught the kids, you can go tattle to a teacher, which is otherwise forbidden,
00:53:39.860 as all children know, and most adults should remember.
00:53:44.340 You can it's your ethical responsibility to inform a person in authority if you see violence
00:53:50.760 with power imbalance.
00:53:51.820 And then he taught the teachers and the parents the same thing, this very narrow, narrow focus
00:53:56.640 on a very specific form of aggressive behavior that wasn't play.
00:54:01.600 And no one's paying any attention to it in North America, like even though it's a stunning
00:54:05.840 body of research and the only body of research I know that shows a positive effect of the
00:54:10.760 attempts to socially ameliorate antisocial behavior.
00:54:13.680 But instead, we get this overreaction that includes all elements of play, rough and tumble
00:54:19.400 play in particular.
00:54:20.360 And it's also why boys are medicated.
00:54:22.500 If Panksep is right, they manifest this boisterous rough and tumble play desire, and it's disruptive
00:54:30.140 in classrooms.
00:54:31.740 And the best quick trip out of that is an amphetamine, which suppresses play behavior.
00:54:37.460 That's what it does technically and biochemically.
00:54:39.400 Yeah, it makes me think of, I did a lot of studies of reconciliation behavior.
00:54:44.000 So what happens after a fight?
00:54:45.820 Who reconciles with whom?
00:54:47.180 And so on.
00:54:48.320 And actually, males are quite good.
00:54:50.720 Males are good at fighting, but also good at reconciling after fights.
00:54:55.160 And in those studies of reconciliation behavior, there were some developmental psychologists who
00:55:01.420 started looking at children.
00:55:03.580 We did the studies on the primates who kiss and embrace after a fight, or sometimes have sex
00:55:08.200 after a fight, things like that.
00:55:10.160 But they did studies in human cultures.
00:55:13.360 And what they found is that Japanese children reconcile a lot more than Western children
00:55:19.640 after fights and are much better at conflict resolution.
00:55:23.780 And the reason they gave, this is not my study, but the reason they gave is that in Japan, the
00:55:29.760 teachers don't break up fights.
00:55:31.300 Well, of course, except if they're killing each other, but they usually don't break up
00:55:37.220 fights.
00:55:38.000 They let the kids fight.
00:55:40.040 And if they think it needs to be interrupted or calmed down, they sent another child, an
00:55:46.160 older child.
00:55:47.100 They sent another child to mediate between them.
00:55:50.880 So that's so smart, because otherwise, too, you know, the kid that's getting beat up is
00:55:56.140 now vilified because a teacher had to intervene on his behalf.
00:56:01.860 So now he was a bully victim to begin with, let's say.
00:56:04.660 And now he can't even stand up for himself.
00:56:06.880 And a teacher has to come to his aid.
00:56:08.880 It's a terrible status defeat for him.
00:56:11.420 So in the primates, of course, there is a lot of reconciliation.
00:56:14.940 There's also mediation and reconciliation, so older females who bring parties together
00:56:19.840 sometimes.
00:56:21.380 But they all learn in their lifetime how to fight and how to reconcile after fights.
00:56:27.280 And I'm from a family of six boys.
00:56:30.220 Maybe my interest in conflict resolution was partly because as a boy in a boy family, you
00:56:35.740 learn how to do these things.
00:56:36.900 Yeah, well, you know, OK, so one of the things that psychologists like Jonathan Haidt have commented
00:56:42.680 on is this culture of fragility that we've produced and emotional overreaction.
00:56:48.540 And I think the comment you just made, all those are germane to that, because we don't
00:56:53.040 know how many siblings or peers a child needs to be exposed to in order to become resilient
00:56:59.400 and learn to engage in reconciliation.
00:57:02.500 So you imagine the typical human family wouldn't have had one child, would have had multiple.
00:57:08.260 So they'd have to be strategizing and jockeying for attention in a way that didn't cause undue
00:57:14.280 tyranny and aggression.
00:57:15.960 So first of all, we have lots of single child families or two child families, but single
00:57:21.200 often.
00:57:21.640 And then also to much older parents.
00:57:25.620 And so if the children are actually being socialized in large part, let's say, by their
00:57:30.360 siblings in a more naturalistic human community, part of the reason for this emergent fragility
00:57:37.260 could well be that they haven't had to engage in, say, that Japanese style of conflict that
00:57:42.520 isn't mediated by parents.
00:57:43.960 And they haven't learned to reconcile.
00:57:46.920 I want to point out to the viewers and listeners, too, that Dr. DeWall's work on reconciliation
00:57:51.160 is also of groundbreaking importance, as far as I'm concerned, because he put the other
00:57:56.240 shoe drop with the work on reconciliation.
00:58:00.060 Because you can think, well, conflict is a terrible thing.
00:58:02.180 Aggression is a terrible thing.
00:58:03.780 And the aggressive males are power hungry and demonic and dominant.
00:58:07.860 But you showed very clearly that the sophisticated males are experts at reconciliation.
00:58:12.080 And sometimes that that expertise even exceeds that of the females.
00:58:15.860 And all of that needs to be learned.
00:58:18.140 So you need to provide learning opportunities.
00:58:21.080 And if it's not in a family, if the family has just one or two children, then you need to
00:58:26.840 bring children together somehow in your neighborhood or in a school, or you need to give them the
00:58:32.600 opportunity to learn these things.
00:58:34.340 And I think we are very good at removing these opportunities.
00:58:37.900 And that's partly...
00:58:38.920 Or forbidding them, even.
00:58:40.380 Yeah.
00:58:40.680 That's partly a fear of competition.
00:58:43.900 So, for example, I've read in the psychology literature that they say that women have very
00:58:52.860 good friendships, wonderful friendships, deep friendships, and so on.
00:58:56.300 But men are too competitive.
00:58:58.480 Men are hierarchical and competitive.
00:59:00.000 That's garbage.
00:59:01.280 Yeah.
00:59:01.540 And that's what they say, even though many men have friends and enjoy the company of other
00:59:07.220 men.
00:59:07.560 But I think the confusing competition between men with friendship.
00:59:13.100 It's like you can only have...
00:59:15.520 Yeah, they don't know how to integrate.
00:59:16.880 I mean, male friendships that are optimized are competitive in the extreme often, often
00:59:24.340 on the basis of humor.
00:59:27.040 Yeah.
00:59:27.540 So they confuse...
00:59:30.320 They think it's either competitive or friends, and the combination of the two they cannot see.
00:59:37.020 And I think for men, for sure, that combination exists.
00:59:41.120 And men can be rivals and competitors.
00:59:44.020 But half an hour later, they're laughing with each other.
00:59:46.980 Let me tell you a funny story.
00:59:49.300 There was once a swimming trainer in the Netherlands who trained girls for swimming, swimming competition.
00:59:58.580 And she switched to boys.
01:00:00.180 And then I saw this interview with her in the newspaper.
01:00:02.580 Why did you switch to boys?
01:00:03.780 And she said, well, if the girls on the team have a fight that starts in the early season,
01:00:09.500 they will have that fight going for the whole season.
01:00:12.720 It will not stop.
01:00:14.260 If the boys have a fight, they drink in the evening, they drink a beer.
01:00:18.960 And the next day, they don't even remember the fight anymore, she says.
01:00:22.140 Yeah, or they have a fight.
01:00:26.720 And then they reconcile, and the fight is over.
01:00:29.880 So I want to use that as a segue into something else you wrote so we can talk about it.
01:00:34.360 So I want to read something again from different from the introduction.
01:00:38.580 And I don't know if you agreed with this, or if you were saying it as a summary of someone else's thought.
01:00:44.800 But you said, it's easy to see why male and female patterns of aggression are valued so differently.
01:00:52.040 Only the first creates trouble in societies.
01:00:56.220 And so let me riff on that for a sec and then turn it over to you.
01:01:00.400 So I think this observation you made about the swim teams is extremely interesting.
01:01:04.560 Because we studied male pattern aggressive behavior, which tends to involve physical violence,
01:01:10.500 and female pattern aggressive behavior in humans.
01:01:12.980 And what the females do is gossip, backbite, and destroy reputations.
01:01:18.260 And the female antisocial types are really, really good at that.
01:01:21.500 And they're vicious.
01:01:22.720 And the thing that differentiates those right now, so in such a cardinal manner, in my estimation,
01:01:28.020 is that female aggression scales on the internet, and male aggression does not.
01:01:34.360 And so we know that the online world is vicious in a very particular way.
01:01:39.740 And I think a big part of it is that it actually can't be settled.
01:01:43.480 So part of the reason that women have difficulty in conflict is because men can resort to fighting.
01:01:53.840 And that will produce an alteration in the, it'll produce a cessation of the conflict in a very real sense.
01:02:00.800 One way or another, right?
01:02:02.160 But when women are embroiled in a conflict, well, they can't fight physically.
01:02:07.400 And so they do get caught in this conundrum.
01:02:10.880 So one of the problems that our society really wrestles with at the moment is that it's very difficult to control untrammeled female pattern aggression.
01:02:22.300 And so I think it is causing a tremendous amount of trouble.
01:02:26.300 And that reputation damaging, that a huge, you just see that constantly on social media platforms.
01:02:34.800 And so I don't know if that was your thought, or if it was a thought that you were summarizing.
01:02:38.840 But I'm kind of curious about your thoughts about that.
01:02:41.760 Yeah.
01:02:41.980 So I make a distinction in my book between two ways of keeping the peace.
01:02:48.260 One is peacemaking, the other one is peacekeeping.
01:02:52.720 The males in chimpanzees, the males are very good at peacemaking.
01:02:56.320 They have a fight and then they get together and they kiss and embrace and then they groom each other.
01:03:01.360 And they cycle through this all the time.
01:03:04.160 It's a very, very easy process for them.
01:03:08.360 And they have more fights than females.
01:03:10.340 And I think what the females do, the females reconcile less when they have a fight, less often than the males, because they have more trouble with that, I think.
01:03:20.660 And what the females do is stay away from your rivals, stay away from fights, stay away from individuals that you're likely to will have a fight.
01:03:27.780 I call that peacekeeping is that they suppress aggression and they stay away from those.
01:03:33.320 All right.
01:03:33.680 So let's look at that in the human case.
01:03:35.900 So the one of the biological temperamental differences that you see between men and women is that women are higher in negative emotion.
01:03:43.160 That starts in puberty because boys and girls are the same and it doesn't change throughout the life course.
01:03:48.540 And women are more agreeable.
01:03:50.860 And so that combination.
01:03:53.160 So agreeable people are conflict avoidant.
01:03:56.900 Now, agreeableness is empathy and that's supposed to be a cardinal virtue.
01:04:00.900 But the downside of agreeableness and empathy is conflict avoidance.
01:04:06.300 And so and you if you add that conflict avoidance is emotionally taxing.
01:04:11.320 So so I think it's also practically a problem because it means that if someone pushes on you that you have to negotiate with, you have to avoid and or you won't push back.
01:04:20.560 And what the hell are you going to do on the negotiating front?
01:04:23.060 If that's the case, say at your workplace, you can't avoid your boss.
01:04:26.580 But the interesting thing is that both strategies are actually quite successful.
01:04:32.240 We did a study of human behavior in the hospitals.
01:04:35.180 We looked at operating rooms and we looked at how how well men and women work together.
01:04:41.080 And female cooperation is really highly developed.
01:04:44.220 So female teams and not all female teams, but but females on the team works very well.
01:04:50.760 And so I think both sexes have a good strategy.
01:04:54.900 One is to suppress conflict.
01:04:57.180 The other one is to reconcile very easily.
01:04:59.660 So they're both good strategies and they're both quite effective, but they're totally different.
01:05:04.460 So let me let me push you on that just for a sec then.
01:05:07.160 So let's take an optimal female cooperating group.
01:05:11.040 See, the conundrum I think they run into.
01:05:13.680 And I think this is the conundrum of compassion in general is that that's just fine until you throw a predator in.
01:05:19.420 And so a group like that that's actually made out of pure cooperators can work just fine.
01:05:24.800 But if you throw in a woman who has antisocial personality, which would be manifested, say, as borderline personality disorder, which looks like the clinical equivalent of ASP in females.
01:05:34.580 Or if you throw in a real predator, like what if the cooperators can't avoid and they can't oppose, all they have left is to fall victim to the predator.
01:05:45.240 And that's why I think that women are in this weird evolutionary conundrum because they have to find men who are disagreeable enough to stave off the real predators, but agreeable enough to be generous with their productive competence.
01:06:02.900 Right.
01:06:03.000 And so it's this knife edge, you know, because a little too far in either direction is not good.
01:06:08.240 So is there a flaw in my reasoning there is with regards to the to the to the Achilles heel, let's say, of female cooperative groups?
01:06:18.780 No, I think it is true that that we have always underestimated female competitiveness.
01:06:24.580 So, so, so, you know, in the psychological literature, males were always called hierarchical and competitive and not females.
01:06:35.860 And now we know that that, you know, there's plenty of female competition and there's plenty of female hierarchies.
01:06:42.440 Actually, the word pecking order comes from hens, not from roosters.
01:06:46.220 And in the animal kingdom, lots of females have hierarchies, have also females and so on.
01:06:51.760 So I think it's important to point out always that female competition is maybe less physical, but it's not, it's not absent.
01:06:59.620 Well, it's probably also not competition about exactly the same things.
01:07:03.740 In your work on animal cognition, you use this term umwelt, which is like the implicit motivational environment in some sense that an animal might inhabit.
01:07:14.920 And I'd like to talk about that in a bit, but men and women don't compete within their own sexes for status in the same way.
01:07:24.940 And so it's easy for men to look at women and think, well, they're not that competitive.
01:07:28.960 It's well, they're not engaged in rough and tumble play or violent confrontation.
01:07:33.380 But that doesn't mean that the competition isn't there.
01:07:36.320 It's just that.
01:07:37.200 And it also may be that men aren't subtle enough in some sense to see it.
01:07:41.080 Now, let me, let me tell you a funny story on that.
01:07:43.460 This, this was a scientist, a woman scientist in Finland who studied children at play and in the, in the playground.
01:07:50.920 And she said, if you watch these children at the end of the day, you say that the boys had five times as many or six times as many fights as the girls.
01:08:00.080 And that's just from watching them.
01:08:02.600 If she asked the kids at the end of the day, did you have a fight today?
01:08:07.420 The boys and the girls had equal numbers, which means that the girl fights are just not visible.
01:08:12.840 And she said, if a girl walks up to another girl and that girl turns around and walks away, they consider that a fight.
01:08:20.980 Right.
01:08:21.340 Well, that's, but that, that's very interesting.
01:08:23.380 But of course, boys will, boys will not consider that a fight.
01:08:26.500 More needs to happen.
01:08:27.940 Yeah.
01:08:28.340 No, the boys are not, boys are not maybe even astute enough in some sense to notice that.
01:08:33.420 You know, the, the, the thing that the thing an antisocial girl will do is she'll like a, an unfamiliar girl or even a familiar girl will approach a play group.
01:08:44.020 That's already in formation, say, and the, the alpha female of the play group will say, we don't have to play with you.
01:08:51.400 And then, and that's devastating, right?
01:08:53.700 Because it's a real like cardinal inclusion, but there's no physical aggression associated with it.
01:08:58.760 And the girl who's rejected will walk away crushed because she's been put down as unacceptable socially.
01:09:05.780 And that all can happen, especially if the girl bully is sophisticated, you know, because then an adult can come in there and, and call her on it.
01:09:14.480 And she'll say, oh, well, she's just oversensitive.
01:09:17.380 I didn't really mean that at all.
01:09:19.060 And, and with a perfect facade of angelic innocence as well, which the antisocial female types are very good at mimicking.
01:09:27.180 The, these differences are so interesting.
01:09:29.380 These, these sex differences that we see in human behavior, but they're not well documented.
01:09:34.360 So recently I received a handbook on, I think it's developmental psychology or something like that.
01:09:39.560 And I looked for gender in there because I was writing on gender and there was almost nothing on gender.
01:09:45.660 So the, the play differences between boys and girls were not mentioned, but also the, the conflict differences that you now mentioned were not mentioned.
01:09:53.980 And it's as if the psychologists have decided that that's a too, too sensitive as a topic to get into the sex differences of.
01:10:01.840 I think part of it is, is that they actually don't like the facts.
01:10:07.540 So for example, when I've been looking at personality differences between men and women, and we did some of the cardinal work on that with the big five aspect scale.
01:10:16.000 So the truth of the matter is, is that temperamental differences between men and women as, so gender differences as measured by personality scales, which is the right way to measure it.
01:10:27.940 They maximize in Scandinavia.
01:10:30.640 So the more egalitarian in the country, the bigger the gender differences, which is exactly the opposite of what the social constructionists would have predicted.
01:10:38.460 Now, some gender differences decrease, so men and women are more likely to be in the workplace now than 40 years ago.
01:10:45.220 But if you make an egalitarian society, you actually maximize gender differences, which is, no one expected that.
01:10:51.840 And it just flies in the face of this sort of Margaret Mead, early Margaret Mead-like social constructionism.
01:10:58.320 And then you add to that a couple, so that accounts, that plus the difference in interest, which is relevant to your work.
01:11:04.920 So girls are reliably more interested in people, and boys reliably more interested in things.
01:11:10.980 So that's, say, dolls and cars, or toy cars.
01:11:14.500 And that also maximizes in the Scandinavian countries.
01:11:17.920 It's one standard deviation, the difference.
01:11:20.880 It's the biggest personality difference between men and women that we know.
01:11:24.600 And it accounts for a huge amount of the variance in occupational choice, like between, say, engineering and nursing, which would be the cardinal examples.
01:11:33.140 And so the psychologists look at that, and they think, oh, my God, that isn't how we want it to be.
01:11:38.240 And so they don't talk about your work, and they don't talk about toy preference differences, and they don't talk about temperamental differences.
01:11:45.020 It's all, like, shunted under the carpet.
01:11:47.420 So you mentioned Margaret Mead, who is often mentioned in the context of cultural construction of gender differences.
01:11:55.580 But I reread her book, her book, Male and Female.
01:11:59.560 And she has a whole section in there about what she calls universal differences between men and women.
01:12:06.260 So she, and in a later edition of her book, she said, if she had to write it today, this was in the 1960s.
01:12:13.460 Her book was, I think, published in the 50s.
01:12:15.800 She said, if I would write it today, I would bring in more biology, the biology of the differences between men and women.
01:12:22.580 And so one of the differences that she mentions is that men always want to accomplish something.
01:12:29.720 They want to be better at something than other men or women.
01:12:33.780 They feel that's their goal in life, so to speak.
01:12:37.400 And she mentioned that as a universal thing in men.
01:12:40.760 She mentions also, of course, the childbearing capacities of women and the interest in children of women and the interest of women in the well-being of others and of themselves and their family.
01:12:55.060 And so she mentions in that chapter quite a few things that I think are universal sex differences.
01:13:01.300 So she was more open-minded, I would say, than her followers in that regard.
01:13:09.000 Well, so this desire to be better at something.
01:13:12.220 So let's take that apart a bit in light of our discussion.
01:13:15.440 If you're cynical about that, you can say, well, that desire to be better at something is nothing but a manifestation of that power and dominance drive, right?
01:13:24.360 And so it's competitive urges to be discouraged because it's a zero-sum game and one person always gains at the expense of another.
01:13:31.740 But if you look at even the animal literature in a sophisticated way, you think, wait a minute, competence is associated with hierarchical status.
01:13:40.060 It's very sophisticated.
01:13:41.440 It's a competition for competence, even among animals and even more so among human beings.
01:13:46.780 And so that ambition that young boys manifest can easily be manifested in the service of social goods.
01:13:56.540 And furthermore, and this is the thing that's so awful about it for me, is that that's actually the primary thing that male humans have to offer females, which is, well, look, of course I want to be better at something because I want to be differentiated economically.
01:14:09.540 And to be paid for something, you have to be better at it than others.
01:14:14.560 Otherwise, no one will pay you.
01:14:15.860 They'll pay someone else.
01:14:17.440 And so what I see happening to boys in our culture, and I've seen this with thousands of people, is that their ambition is being quelled because it's associated unthinkingly with power.
01:14:27.880 And that undermines their entire commitment to the social and the sexual and interpersonal enterprise.
01:14:34.660 Mm-hmm.
01:14:35.100 Mm-hmm.
01:14:35.920 Yeah.
01:14:36.280 Yeah, I think there is a bit of suppression of those tendencies, yeah.
01:14:42.380 So, okay, so maybe we could move to, if you don't mind, to the animal cognitive front.
01:14:49.800 You talked about cognitive ethology, and I'd like to get your thoughts on that, too.
01:14:56.860 You wrote a book whose title I don't remember precisely, but it's something like, Are We Smart Enough to Know How Smart Animals Are?
01:15:03.700 Yes, exactly.
01:15:04.960 Oh, good, oh, good, oh, good, I got it right.
01:15:07.380 So let's walk through that a bit.
01:15:09.500 And I would like, if you would as well, this point that our perceptions and our thoughts are shaped by our morphology in some fundamental way.
01:15:21.820 You make a nice example of gibbons, for example, and the fact that octopi and elephants and primates can be intelligent in a particular way because they have manipulable appendages, unlike, say, dolphins.
01:15:33.060 Yeah, so let me give an example of how we mismeasured the animals.
01:15:40.920 So elephants, there was the question, do elephants use tools?
01:15:44.920 So what people did is they take an elephant at the zoo, they put some food outside of the cage, they give the elephant sticks, and the elephant doesn't do anything with the sticks.
01:15:56.960 If you do the same experiment with a chimp, of course, he takes the stick and reaches the food and brings it close to him and then eats the food.
01:16:03.480 So the chimp will use the stick to get the food.
01:16:07.340 The elephant didn't do that.
01:16:08.800 And the conclusion of that study was that elephants are not tool users.
01:16:13.420 Then a couple of years later, another research team, they did a smart thing.
01:16:17.760 They hung some food very high so that the elephant couldn't reach it.
01:16:23.740 And they put in his enclosure a bunch of boxes, wooden boxes.
01:16:29.000 And what the elephant did is he would grab a box, bring it close to under the food, put it under the food, and then stand on top of the box and reach the food.
01:16:37.000 So he was using a tool, clearly.
01:16:38.740 The conclusion of that research team was that an elephant, the trunk, we think it's like a hand, but the trunk is also a nose, of course.
01:16:48.680 And if the trunk reaches for food, it needs to close itself when it grabs the food, and the elephant was not ready to close his nose while he was grabbing food.
01:16:59.180 But if he could stand on boxes, that would work for him.
01:17:02.920 And so we need to think in terms of the animal and its physical features, and that a trunk is not an arm, it's not the same thing.
01:17:13.340 We need to start thinking like the animals, and then we can solve a lot of these problems of their intelligence.
01:17:19.000 Our appendages, in some sense, are primary tools.
01:17:22.700 And so if you don't give an animal a problem that it can solve with its primary set of tools, it's obviously not going to be able to solve it.
01:17:30.940 And so that also brings us into the issue of embodied perception, you know, because I read a great book called Ecological Approach to Visual Perception, which J.J. Gibson, which is, man, that's a classic book, something brilliant.
01:17:45.260 And, you know, his premise, fundamentally, is that we see with our hands, in some real sense, is that when we look at the world, we basically construe it as a set of grippable objects.
01:18:00.800 Now, it's more complex, because we see walkable surfaces and climbable, you know, what would you call, climbable slopes and so forth.
01:18:09.060 So it's not just hands, but that our eyes function to map our hands onto the world.
01:18:15.120 Yeah.
01:18:15.700 I think it's a brilliant book.
01:18:18.060 And that's why we understand a chimpanzee much better than an elephant.
01:18:22.420 Or a dolphin.
01:18:23.100 Yeah, a chimpanzee has hands and has binocular vision.
01:18:27.200 So we are completely in tune with the chimpanzee and not in tune with an elephant or a giraffe or whatever it is.
01:18:34.000 Right.
01:18:34.620 And that understanding is a consequence, not so much of mutual misunderstanding, so to speak.
01:18:40.600 It's much more profound than that.
01:18:42.000 It's because our cognitive and perceptual architecture is actually scaffolded off our morphology.
01:18:47.960 If the morphology is different enough, we wouldn't be able to understand the animal even if we could communicate,
01:18:53.240 because none of the presuppositions would be the same.
01:18:55.400 I think E.O. Wilson, was it Wilson who said, if we could speak with a lion, we'd have nothing to say to him?
01:19:04.800 Something like that.
01:19:05.580 Or he might have said it about ants.
01:19:07.040 I think it was Wittgenstein.
01:19:08.700 Oh, okay.
01:19:09.840 I know a number of people have made similar comments.
01:19:12.660 But, well, you also detail out the developing understanding of the gibbon hand and species-specific face identification.
01:19:20.400 Yeah, so the gibbon hand is interesting because the gibbon has almost no thumb.
01:19:27.560 So it's more like a hook.
01:19:29.040 He hangs by the hand.
01:19:30.840 And so when they tested tool use on the gibbon, the gibbons were not using tools at all.
01:19:36.040 They never did anything until a smart investigator lifted the tools up a little because the gibbon cannot pick up something from the ground.
01:19:44.180 And since the gibbon doesn't live on the ground, he lives up in the trees, it doesn't matter for the gibbon that he cannot do that.
01:19:51.600 But in the experimental situations, they couldn't pick up the tools.
01:19:55.860 So, yeah, you always have to test animals and that becomes ever more complex.
01:20:00.480 For example, the elephant has 100 times better smell, olfaction, than the dog.
01:20:06.580 Wow.
01:20:07.260 And the dog probably 100 times better than us.
01:20:10.960 So you can imagine the elephant, you need to test them probably on olfaction.
01:20:15.300 So recently, Josh Plotnick, a former student of mine, he did an experiment with elephants in Thailand where he would give them two buckets.
01:20:24.780 In one bucket, he would feed sunflower seeds and the other one was empty.
01:20:28.700 And then the elephant, of course, with his trunk would, he could not look into it, but with the trunk would smell and would pick the bucket with the sunflower seeds.
01:20:39.320 Then he started to vary the quantities and he found that elephants can distinguish a bucket with 120 seeds from a bucket with 100 seeds.
01:20:49.920 So they can count with their nose, so to speak.
01:20:52.740 They're so sensitive, no animal can do that, I think, but the elephant can do that.
01:20:57.260 So they can estimate quantity olfactorily.
01:21:01.020 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:21:02.120 Wow, wow.
01:21:03.240 And has the limits of that discrimination been tested?
01:21:06.500 Yeah, well, I think if you look at that paper, he has been testing by making the differences smaller and smaller, yeah.
01:21:13.600 Oh, that's really something.
01:21:14.960 Well, yeah, we have no idea how an animal, most animals' brains are arranged around olfaction, not vision.
01:21:21.760 We're really weird in that regard.
01:21:23.020 It's like us and birds of prey, you know, and maybe some close primate relatives.
01:21:27.600 That's it.
01:21:28.320 The rest of the animal kingdom, it's almost all smell.
01:21:31.380 And we can hardly even imagine what a world like that is like.
01:21:34.520 So the brain business is interesting because at some point, five years, six years ago, people said, we should not look at brain size, not even a brain size relative to the body.
01:21:44.420 We should just count the number of neurons, and that will give us an index of the intelligence of an animal.
01:21:51.760 And, of course, everyone was convinced at that time that humans have the most neurons.
01:21:56.480 We have 85 billion neurons or something like that.
01:22:00.420 Until a couple of years later, it was found that the elephant has three times more neurons than the human.
01:22:06.560 And then that theory was abandoned because humans need to stay on top.
01:22:12.500 Yeah, well, you know, we radically underestimate the relationship between intelligence and morphology.
01:22:19.400 You know, I thought about this in particular with regards to dolphins who have quite a remarkably large brain and a large brain in relation to their body size.
01:22:27.320 And they, well, dolphins are intelligent.
01:22:29.300 It's like, well, it's possible that they're intelligent in some way we don't really understand, but they don't have hands.
01:22:36.660 And so they can't build anything.
01:22:38.660 And I would, our prefrontal cortex emerged in large part out of the motor cortex across the course of evolution.
01:22:45.600 And it looks like what we do with our prefrontal cortex is primarily map out action and manipulation before implementing it.
01:22:54.320 And so, again, we think of the world as a place we can grip and move.
01:22:58.160 And when we think about problem solving cognitively, we're really looking at elaborations of what we do with our hands.
01:23:04.980 So it's not obvious at all what dolphins do if they think, because what can they do with it?
01:23:10.260 That's even reflected in our language.
01:23:12.420 Can you grasp the problem?
01:23:14.000 Right, exactly.
01:23:15.200 Exactly that.
01:23:16.160 Yeah.
01:23:16.340 Can you get a grip on it?
01:23:17.600 You know, can you get a handle on it?
01:23:19.880 Absolutely.
01:23:20.460 Can you handle that?
01:23:21.320 That's all.
01:23:21.980 That's all questions about competence.
01:23:24.640 And so, yeah, well.
01:23:26.200 So if you look at the animal kingdom, we judge animals by our standards.
01:23:31.540 We are good at language and we're good at tool use.
01:23:35.100 And that's our standards.
01:23:37.000 But if you look at, for example, echolocation by bats, it's a very complex cognitive skill.
01:23:43.360 Ask any engineer who designs radar system for airplanes how complex that is.
01:23:49.400 You're a moving object and you need to calculate and recalculate and so on.
01:23:54.480 And so echolocation is a very complex skill.
01:23:57.260 And you can dark this room, make it completely dark and release an insect and the bat can catch the insect.
01:24:03.960 It's just incredible that they can do that.
01:24:06.780 But we're not impressed by it.
01:24:08.340 We're not impressed by the bat because we don't do these things.
01:24:10.960 We're not echolocators.
01:24:12.100 And so bat intelligence is not on our radar, so to speak.
01:24:18.120 We always go for language and tool use.
01:24:20.700 Well, and dolphins echolocate too.
01:24:22.760 So that could be a huge part of what their cognitive processes is devoted towards.
01:24:27.620 And you not only know what they're doing linguistically.
01:24:29.760 So let's locate, let's talk about, um, one of the things I liked about the, your book on animal, uh, cognition was because I've thought this for a long time, especially in relationship to rat studies.
01:24:42.880 So there's this idea that was drummed into my head as an undergraduate is that you shouldn't anthropomorphize animals.
01:24:48.760 And then as I got to be a more sophisticated viewer of the animal literature, I thought, no, no, no, that's exactly backwards.
01:24:56.860 What you should do is presume continuity of all function unless there's compelling reason to not.
01:25:03.220 And so that made me interested in the issue of animal consciousness because conscious.
01:25:09.280 And so you touch on consciousness in that book.
01:25:12.540 And so when, when first, so I'd like to ask you, what do you make of consciousness?
01:25:19.320 Like, how would you define it?
01:25:20.900 And how far down the animal chain?
01:25:23.660 I'll tell you a story about a wasp because I've watched wasps and those bloody things, man.
01:25:28.840 Those things are sophisticated.
01:25:30.900 Let me say one thing about anthropomorphism.
01:25:33.700 Okay.
01:25:34.120 Okay.
01:25:34.500 We need to respect homologies.
01:25:37.580 Homologies are similarities between species that come from a common ancestor.
01:25:42.040 So my hand is homologous with the hand of a chimpanzee.
01:25:47.160 And so what the chimpanzee has, we don't call a paw or a claw, or no, we call it a hand because we use the same terminology for homologous traits.
01:25:57.940 The same is true for behavior.
01:25:59.560 If I laugh, my laughing expression is very similar to that of a chimpanzee who is being tickled.
01:26:05.500 We need to both call it laugh.
01:26:07.340 When I was younger, people would say, why don't you call it vocalized panting?
01:26:11.720 They wanted us to get away from the anthropomorphism, but I think anthropomorphism is useful, especially for species that have homologous traits.
01:26:21.480 Yeah, yeah, right.
01:26:22.080 Well, that's where it should be the assumption rather than the exception.
01:26:25.220 Yeah, yeah.
01:26:25.620 So, and Panksep showed that rats laugh, too, when you tickle them.
01:26:28.580 They just do it also sonically.
01:26:30.280 So that homology is extremely deep.
01:26:33.520 Okay, so this wasp, it was buzzing around my head.
01:26:37.300 And I nailed it with my hand and hard.
01:26:39.820 You know, I kind of snapped at it.
01:26:41.380 And so that's a hell of a fast gesture, that forward movement back.
01:26:45.660 And so I nailed the wasp with my finger and I knocked it probably 15 feet, which is a hell of a G-force blow for an insect.
01:26:53.920 And that bloody thing righted itself an inch from the ground and dove directly at my face.
01:27:00.480 And I thought, oh my God, like I don't.
01:27:03.560 And then, so I watched that and I thought, wow, that's something, man, that to do that is something.
01:27:07.980 Then I read also about these wolf spiders who are predatory.
01:27:12.060 And if they're on a plant here and they see a prey animal or insect over here, they will walk down the plant across the ground and jump on it from behind.
01:27:22.100 It's like, okay, okay, that's a spider and it has like no brain.
01:27:27.440 And yet that is so unbelievably complicated.
01:27:30.940 Navigation of unfamiliar territory.
01:27:33.100 It has a brain.
01:27:34.360 Yes, it certainly does.
01:27:35.620 But I mean, neuronal numbers are very low.
01:27:41.240 But I think, are wasps conscious?
01:27:44.380 Are spiders conscious?
01:27:45.980 It's like, and you can take, you know, if you take the whole cortex, the cortex and the limbic system off a cat and you leave it with nothing but its hypothalamus and its spinal cord, that cat is hyper exploratory.
01:28:01.040 And that's bloody weird, right?
01:28:02.600 You take the whole brain off a cat except for like 2%.
01:28:05.500 And it doesn't just lay there and do nothing.
01:28:07.660 What it does instead is engage in almost all its normal activities, but it can't remember anything.
01:28:13.360 So it's hyper curious.
01:28:14.580 So let me give you my take on consciousness because no one has a good definition of it.
01:28:21.140 And if we have no definition, how am I going to measure it?
01:28:24.220 But there are certain things that we humans cannot do without being conscious.
01:28:32.600 So, for example, you cannot plan a party for tomorrow without thinking about what you should buy, what kind of music you're going to have, which friends you're going to invite, what time it's going to start.
01:28:44.080 But you have to be conscious of the process before you organize your party.
01:28:49.700 Now, we have evidence.
01:28:52.600 We have very good evidence nowadays of planning in animals.
01:28:56.080 So, for example, chimpanzees in the wild, they will pick up tools and they're going to walk two miles with these tools and then they're going to use them on a termite hill or whatever, which means that 20 minutes before they started the activity, they were already planning the activity.
01:29:14.600 And so we also have experiments now, they have all sorts of experiments where you can give tools to animals that they can use only the next day, so to speak.
01:29:23.120 So we have good evidence for planning now in animals.
01:29:27.660 Now, if we cannot plan, if we cannot plan without being conscious, it would be unlikely that these animals can plan without being conscious.
01:29:38.340 Because, of course, the process is going to be very similar to what we do.
01:29:41.860 Okay, so I talked to Dr. Roger Penrose about consciousness, and he believes it's non-computational and non-algorithmic.
01:29:49.180 And the reason he believes that in part is because the horizon of the future differs unpredictably from the past.
01:29:55.800 That's the problem of induction.
01:29:57.460 And so he thinks that consciousness is a tool that we use to solve the problem of true unpredictability.
01:30:02.540 And so your association of consciousness with future planning seems to me both dead on and in keeping with that idea.
01:30:10.520 And so then, okay, how far down the chain of animal existence do you think that consciousness extends?
01:30:22.480 So consciousness is, I think, a subcategory.
01:30:26.360 The bigger category that we use usually is sentience.
01:30:30.300 You must have heard about sentience is the ability to experience positive or negative experiences.
01:30:38.960 And sentience probably goes back all the way to insects.
01:30:42.140 And that emotional sentience as well, because it's associated with approach and avoidance, right?
01:30:48.460 So it's really old.
01:30:49.880 Yeah, yeah.
01:30:50.440 So maybe as soon as you get a nervous system that can represent embodied movement, you get something akin to the emotions of approach and avoidance, and then maybe something akin to sentience at that point?
01:31:02.080 Yeah, sentience.
01:31:03.180 For the longest time, people debated, do fish feel pain?
01:31:06.940 Which was a sentience question.
01:31:08.680 Do fish feel pain?
01:31:09.640 And then experimenters, they found that if you shock fish or crabs, you know, in a laboratory, you bring them in a situation where they can hide themselves in crevices, and you shock them in these places, they're going to avoid the places where they were shocked.
01:31:26.700 Right.
01:31:26.880 So they have anxiety, too, then, because that avoidance is anxiety.
01:31:30.800 So they have pain, and they can abstract from that.
01:31:33.560 So they have pain, and they remember the pain, and they change their behavior as a result of that.
01:31:38.440 And so that was used as a conclusion to conclude that these animals have sentience because they have experiences.
01:31:46.920 So sentience is the bigger issue, also morally a very important issue, of course.
01:31:52.040 Do animals have sentience?
01:31:54.140 And consciousness, I never know exactly what it is because philosophers talk a lot about consciousness, but they never tell me how to measure it.
01:32:04.060 Well, you said that, you know, you associated sentience with the capacity to experience.
01:32:09.660 And then I think, well, there's no difference between the capacity to experience and experience.
01:32:15.780 And there's actually no difference between experience and being, because it's very, very difficult to understand being itself in the absence of any experience of being.
01:32:26.800 I mean, what is it that, there's not even nothing, right?
01:32:30.740 Because nothing is only a concept that something that's capable of apprehending something could ever come up with.
01:32:37.080 So I don't see consciousness and being as being separable concepts in some sense.
01:32:42.000 Okay.
01:32:42.420 Okay, so you chase that all the way down to insects.
01:32:46.540 Yeah, so sentience now is recognized also in vertebrates.
01:32:52.040 And there used to be a debate about fish, but I think that debate has been settled.
01:32:55.720 Well, it certainly seems to be the case for octopi.
01:32:58.660 Those guys are so smart and so flexible in their behavior that it's just, it's beyond common.
01:33:04.080 Did you see my octopus teacher?
01:33:05.980 Their capacity to mimic and camouflage is just, to see that octopus aggregate all those shells and turn itself into a rock.
01:33:16.400 I mean, especially given they have, what, about a three-year lifespan?
01:33:20.400 So the octopus is interesting.
01:33:22.420 That movie, The Octopus Teacher, many people were very moved by the octopus embracing the person, you know, who approached.
01:33:30.840 Octopi are not particularly social.
01:33:32.660 As you say, they live maybe one year, maybe two years.
01:33:37.080 They're very solitary creatures.
01:33:38.880 I don't think they have love for each other or the capacity to love a human.
01:33:44.340 But maybe that octopus was very curious.
01:33:46.840 And maybe the octopus also felt safe in the presence of a human because this human kept predators away, I'm sure.
01:33:54.020 So it was maybe a good situation for the octopus to be in.
01:33:58.180 Yeah.
01:33:58.360 And curiosity could easily be the reason because the octopus is so damn smart.
01:34:03.160 It probably has some excess cognitive capacity like a razor.
01:34:05.700 Yeah, but people then often project what they would feel.
01:34:09.500 They think the octopus is loving the human.
01:34:12.060 I'm not sure about the loving part.
01:34:13.680 I think anything that isn't cuddly is probably a little low on the love end of things, you know?
01:34:21.140 So, okay, so let's talk about self-consciousness then because that's the consciousness.
01:34:27.740 That's a sentience that involves at least a reflexive distinction between self and other, broadly speaking.
01:34:34.900 And I've been interested in but also skeptical of the animal self-conscious experiments because mirror recognition isn't nothing, but humans have an unbelievably elaborated self-consciousness.
01:34:48.160 I mean, we're fully aware of our span of life.
01:34:50.520 We know we're going to die.
01:34:52.000 We can really distinctly apprehend the future.
01:34:56.100 And we have a really complex, explicit model of ourselves.
01:35:00.900 And animals, well, many animals can recognize themselves in the mirror.
01:35:04.740 And that's not nothing, but it's certainly.
01:35:07.100 No, there's not many animals.
01:35:09.520 There's a few.
01:35:10.880 There's only a few who do that.
01:35:13.240 But we do have evidence in chimpanzees and in orangutans that they embellish themselves in front of the mirror.
01:35:21.160 So the observations, they're mostly anecdotal of apes in captivity who put something on their head and then look in the mirror.
01:35:29.660 Or in human context, they may put lipstick and look at themselves in the mirror.
01:35:35.780 So if you embellish yourself and then look in the mirror, that's sort of interesting addition to the test.
01:35:42.120 Definitely.
01:35:43.140 Because, yeah, well, it also sees that you view yourself as a modifiable entity in the eyes of others, in all likelihood.
01:35:51.440 Yeah, so we also have evidence from behavior that female apes, female chimpanzees and female bonobos, they do more self-adornment and self-embellishment than the males.
01:36:04.440 So the females, they will hang things around themselves, put things on their head, walk around with them, much more so than the males.
01:36:11.800 The males also use tools to enhance themselves, but that's more to be more intimidating.
01:36:18.220 Right, right, like beating on a garbage man or something.
01:36:21.900 Yeah, banging things or whatever.
01:36:23.480 Well, when my daughter was young, I watched my kids quite closely when they were little.
01:36:27.180 And there was a variety of differences in them on the sex difference front.
01:36:31.200 My son was much more disagreeable and tough-minded than my daughter, for example.
01:36:35.280 But I also saw remarkably early in my daughter this instinct for self-adornment.
01:36:40.840 Now, my wife doesn't wear much jewelry or much makeup.
01:36:43.940 She's kind of a minimalist in both regards.
01:36:46.360 And so she didn't even have much of a jewelry collection.
01:36:49.380 But my daughter was really entranced by jewelry and makeup from as long, far back as I could remember.
01:36:57.260 And I thought, well, maybe that's a socialized difference.
01:37:00.520 But I can't see how, because she didn't have makeup dolls and it wasn't part of what she was being fed.
01:37:06.360 She didn't watch TV.
01:37:07.660 And so, but she was really, really interested in jewelry and adornment.
01:37:13.520 And I think that's actually been a stable part of her character.
01:37:16.880 Because as an adult, she's been much more interested in self-adornment than my wife was.
01:37:22.960 And it wasn't obvious to me at all that she learned that.
01:37:25.360 And I thought, well, that, that, so.
01:37:28.840 So in the apes, that's also.
01:37:30.960 Is that a super stimulus thing?
01:37:32.140 Like the sticklebacks?
01:37:34.060 That adornment?
01:37:35.140 It's more a female thing.
01:37:36.660 And I think in the apes, of course, the females have a genital swelling.
01:37:40.540 Which, fortunately, I think humans should be happy that we don't have that.
01:37:46.180 But they have this, when they're fertile, their genitals swell up.
01:37:51.140 And I think the female apes, that's an adornment for sure.
01:37:54.480 And they add to it.
01:37:55.500 They may add to it.
01:37:56.560 Now, we know from human women that in the time of ovulation, they adorn themselves more.
01:38:03.300 So there are studies on that is that women dress differently at the time of ovulation and they expose more skin and they have fancier clothes on usually at that time.
01:38:15.400 That's also when they prefer the same photos of men with a square jaw than a narrower jaw at the peak of ovulation.
01:38:23.580 All of this is unconsciously.
01:38:25.200 Because in that study, what they did is they photographed women in their regular clothes and then they asked them about their menstrual cycle.
01:38:34.280 And that's how they figured out how they were dressed relative to their cycle.
01:38:38.060 Right.
01:38:38.320 And that would manifest itself in that umwelt, which would be something like, I really feel like dressing up today.
01:38:43.880 And that's a spontaneous motivation that's drifting up from hormonal influence and unconscious in that sense.
01:38:52.580 And tuning by hormones, tuning of perception and emotion by hormonal influence.
01:38:58.360 To me, it's always very interesting, the things that we do unconsciously and that we're not really aware of.
01:39:04.140 So there was a study, for example, looking at handshakes.
01:39:08.260 And I think it was an Israeli study.
01:39:10.760 Men shaking hands of men, men shaking hands of women, and the other way around.
01:39:14.860 And what they found is that people bring their hand to their nose, so they touch their face, they bring their hand close to their nose, when they have shaken hands with same-sex partners.
01:39:28.800 Is that right, eh?
01:39:30.240 Not with the opposite sex.
01:39:31.940 And they think it has to do with testing anxiety or testing dominance or testing rivalry.
01:39:38.500 Well, God only knows what sort of information we're picking up on the olfactory front.
01:39:43.580 Like, a lot of that could be unconscious.
01:39:45.620 I mean, I know, for example, that if you give women t-shirts, laundered t-shirts have been worn one day by men, and you ask them to rate the odor preference, the women prefer symmetrical, the t-shirts that's symmetrical, men wore.
01:40:01.300 Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
01:40:02.660 So, and that's obviously not, in any sense, a conscious olfactory preference for, like, the concept of symmetry.
01:40:10.500 It's just built right into the olfaction.
01:40:12.940 So we have seen now, during the COVID crisis, that now that we're coming out of the crisis, everyone is very happy that we have physical interaction with others.
01:40:21.780 And I think one of the things we have missed is probably smell.
01:40:26.240 So you can talk with your grandparents over Zoom, but that's not the same as visiting them and seeing them and smelling them.
01:40:34.960 I once...
01:40:36.580 Yeah, there's a deep sense of familiarity and memory that's associated with that.
01:40:40.760 You know, my wife, when my wife's mother died, my wife took one of her scarves, and she kept it in a little jar.
01:40:48.920 And she, now and then, she'd take it out, and she could detect the smell of her mother on that.
01:40:55.040 And then about five years later, she said, I can't smell my mother on this anymore, and she just got rid of it.
01:41:01.300 But that was a...
01:41:02.920 You know, that smell is so evocative, right?
01:41:05.680 And it can produce a kind of a longing and also a sense of deep comfort.
01:41:12.080 Yeah, yeah.
01:41:12.740 But it is also...
01:41:13.960 You know, I was once on a flight before COVID, on a flight to Tokyo.
01:41:18.520 I was sitting next to a businessman, and he was going to Tokyo for a meeting of a couple of hours, and then he would fly back.
01:41:25.280 And I said, you really feel that you need to fly to Tokyo for that?
01:41:29.080 You could do this virtually?
01:41:31.300 He said, no, no.
01:41:33.000 It's a multimillion-dollar deal, and I want to see these people.
01:41:37.080 I want to smell these people.
01:41:38.480 I want to see them up close.
01:41:40.300 He felt that all this bodily interaction was awfully important to him.
01:41:45.380 And that is how we are.
01:41:46.860 We have remained primates in that regard.
01:41:50.100 And olfaction is largely unconscious.
01:41:53.480 We don't even have words for it.
01:41:55.860 We cannot even express what's happening.
01:41:57.840 But it's largely unconscious, but it's extremely important to us.
01:42:01.300 Yeah, well, that's the problem with virtualizing the world, to some degree, is we don't know.
01:42:06.800 Well, like we talked about earlier, does female pattern antisocial behavior scale on social media?
01:42:14.100 And if the answer to that is yes, it's like, well, that's revolutionary, because it's never scaled before.
01:42:18.780 And so we have no idea what these virtual environments are doing to us by interfering in unexpected ways with our embodiment.
01:42:28.820 Yeah, yeah.
01:42:29.400 But, you know, I just recently saw that on Twitter, there's far fewer women than men.
01:42:34.860 It's mostly men who do this Twittering and Facebook and so on.
01:42:38.840 Yeah, well, I think that what's happened on Twitter, you know, I might be accused of tormenting my theory past its justification.
01:42:46.480 I think that the fact that there is no direct face-to-face confrontation between men on social media platforms facilitates a female style of antisocial behavior between men on social media platforms.
01:43:01.300 Yeah, yeah, because you see this reputation savaging, and it's like, well, you don't do that in face-to-face contact with a man, because if I've seen people repeatedly, hundreds of times, not the same person, but say something on Twitter, that no one would ever say face-to-face to another adult male, even once in their life.
01:43:22.720 Because it would immediately cause, well, a movement towards physical aggression, if not an immediate punch, but that's not there.
01:43:31.600 And so then you think, well, the fact that that's not there, what does that do to the communication pattern?
01:43:37.120 And the answer is, we have no idea.
01:43:39.940 God only knows what it does.
01:43:41.920 So maybe I could close with a couple of general questions, unless there's something else that you would like to...
01:43:47.720 Okay, okay, so I'm always curious about people's intellectual heroes.
01:43:53.300 Like, I mentioned some of the people who've been really influential to me, my viewers know Freud, Jung, Piaget, Panksepp, Jeffrey Gray, like a handful of, well, you, a handful of animal experimentalists, some philosophers like Nietzsche, Solzhenitsyn.
01:44:12.500 And for you, like, who's been signal in your intellectual development and really shaped your thinking?
01:44:18.420 Well, the founders of Itology, which were Nico Tinberger and Conrad Lorenz, they were very important.
01:44:24.680 I think they're very different characters, but they were very important for my intellectual development.
01:44:32.060 Ed Wilson, I think, was very important.
01:44:34.340 Yeah, I think Wilson, and, you know, I was also influenced in the beginning by Desmond Morris' book, The Naked Ape.
01:44:46.260 Naked Ape, yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:44:47.940 Even though now, if I can easily mention quite a few things that are not correct in that book in terms of theories, but the way he wrote it and sort of irreverent way of writing about the human species and sort of also making fun.
01:45:04.960 Just the idea that this comparison between species was interesting ethically and morally and emotionally, that was kind of revolutionary.
01:45:12.960 He did a good job of that.
01:45:14.100 Yeah, his book was extremely successful, and partly because he had this tone of mocking humans a little bit, you know, and I think he did a real good job at that.
01:45:25.100 So, yeah, those were my early influences, I think, you know.
01:45:28.760 Yeah, one of the things that's so interesting about your writing, I think, is, apart from its remarkable approachability, which I really think is a gift,
01:45:36.640 is that it's also non-naively positive and optimistic, which is so cool to see, because that combination doesn't occur that often.
01:45:50.220 Often people who are optimistic are kind of naive, but you're a hardcore biologist, sort of in the scientific trenches in a real sense,
01:45:57.920 and yet I always come away from your books with a positive, with a fundamentally positive, they have positive consequences on me.
01:46:07.200 And, you know, the fact that you, I think your work on the biological basis of moral development is, I think it's an, of what would you say,
01:46:17.180 it's kind of epoch-level philosophical significance.
01:46:20.960 Yeah, well, I'm an optimist by nature, and even though I started studying violence and aggression,
01:46:28.920 because that was the topic at the time, everyone was studying aggressive behavior,
01:46:33.280 I very soon switched to conflict resolution, because I found it actually more interesting than the aggression itself.
01:46:40.940 Well, that's also extremely cool, you know, that you got in through the darkness, so to speak,
01:46:45.700 but the consequence of that was that you actually learned that aggression and violence weren't the fundamental basis of social interaction,
01:46:53.200 and that reconciliation and competence and empathy and long-term planning,
01:46:58.220 all of that actually turns out to be more fundamental and important.
01:47:02.020 Yeah, that's so optimistic that that could possibly be true.
01:47:05.720 And I must say, I don't enjoy violence.
01:47:08.200 So I have colleagues who will tell you a horrible story about two chimps killing each other,
01:47:15.060 or people who watch sports games where there's a lot of violence, and I, you know,
01:47:21.300 I've seen a lot of violence among the primates, I can tell you.
01:47:24.040 I know, I've read about it.
01:47:25.820 But I don't enjoy it.
01:47:28.100 I prefer when they get together afterwards and groom each other.
01:47:32.100 Right, right.
01:47:32.760 Well, that's interesting, too, because that actually made you capable of seeing that when you did see it.
01:47:40.560 You know, and that's really something.
01:47:43.000 Yeah, well, your work, man, your work has really been a cardinal influence on me,
01:47:46.400 and I've been able to talk about it with all these people.
01:47:49.840 I've talked to, you know, 150,000 people publicly in the last three or four months,
01:47:54.800 and making this case that the fundamental basis of human social organization is much better construed as reciprocity
01:48:03.560 and the spirit of play and the ability to reconcile and that's such a – people just don't hear that.
01:48:11.440 And to know that that's grounded in a solid scientific literature as well as, you know,
01:48:16.600 being the target of ethical conceptualization, it's so helpful to put that other foundation underneath the claims
01:48:25.420 that, you know, there's real reasons to be optimistic about the nature of social organization
01:48:30.480 and individual motivation.
01:48:31.740 And your work on gender differences and your support, in some sense, for male ambition in that regard,
01:48:38.280 it's also, I think, unbelievably important.
01:48:41.200 So I really appreciated you talking to me today.
01:48:44.820 It's a pleasure to meet you.
01:48:47.640 Yeah, well, it's nice talking to you soon.
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