517. Beyond Mere Survival | Tony Robbins
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Summary
Tony Robbins is one of the most popular and impactful motivational speakers in the world. He is also the author of the bestselling book, "The Why" and has been featured on Oprah Winfrey's Good Morning America. In this episode, we discuss the similarities and differences between his approach to life improvement and that of his work as a public speaker.
Transcript
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The first thing to understand is that people see the world through their aim.
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Anyone can deal with a difficult today if they have a compelling tomorrow.
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If you leave your zone of comfort, if you move away from your father's tent,
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if you move away from what's familiar to you, and you do that voluntarily,
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and you make the sacrifices necessary as a consequence, this is what will happen.
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I look at it this way. We don't experience life. We experience the life we focus on.
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Much of what we think we're doing ourselves is being shifted by the outside world.
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That's what religious practice is supposed to do.
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The aim for me is always a quest. It's like I have a question, and it's a real question,
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Hello, everybody. I had the opportunity today to sit down with Tony Robbins
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and in the remarkable basement of his house as well, and so that's the setting.
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Tony and I have got to know each other over the last couple of years
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and have had a number of discussions, and partly what we've been trying to puzzle out is
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our, what would you say, the similarities between our parallel endeavors.
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I mean, Tony's, I suspect he's probably the most popular and impactful speaker,
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personal development speaker the world's ever seen.
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Oh, no, I'm very fascinated by what he does, and I've seen his events,
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and I've reviewed some of the scientific literature pertaining to his achievements.
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That's actually what we started our conversation with, because Tony's program
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has been subject to scientific scrutiny, and it seems to have remarkable
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antidepressant properties, and so I'm very interested, like Tony is, in how people chart
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their life course and how they establish their aim and how they determine their strategies
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and how they describe their conditions for fulfillment and what fulfillment is
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and how it can be sustained and how it can be self-improving and how it can be brought
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And so that's really what we spent our time discussing.
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I wanted to hear his thoughts on the matter and how he construed and conceptualized his approach
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and also what makes him such a compelling public speaker, how he prepares for that,
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how he relates to the audience, how he can sustain his energy for really remarkable periods of time,
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because I found myself quite exhausted generally after about three hours of full-out public speaking,
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let's say, because that's a performance, and you've got to be all in if you're going to do it right.
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But Tony does that for like 12 hours a day for four days in a row, many, many times a month.
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And so I was curious about, well, his technique and how that was similar to mine and how it differed.
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Well, I think the core of it, at least in part, is something akin to the old Nietzschean dictum
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And so Tony helps people discover the why, well, and the how for that matter.
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And that is definitely akin to what I'm attempting to do when I'm lecturing and writing.
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And so, well, our discussion helped clarify that and flesh it out and make it more concrete
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Okay. So, Mr. Robbins, I'm going to start by reading something.
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You submitted your process, your life improvement process, your public life improvement process
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And so I'm going to read some pieces from the abstract of the paper that was published
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So the paper is called Effects of an Immersive Psychosocial Training Program on Depression
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The first thing I would say is clinical trials are extremely difficult to do.
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I've always been highly impressed by any scientist, physician, psychiatrist, psychologist who will
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do a clinical trial because there are innumerable impediments.
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It's hard to get subjects, it's hard to specify the control group, it's hard to get ethical
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clearance, it takes forever, people drop out, it's very difficult to publish.
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And you did it along with the authors of this paper.
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So for everybody watching and listening, every scientific paper has an abstract that essentially
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summarizes the findings so that if you're doing a, say, a detailed overview of a given
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And so the abstract summarizes the most important elements of the study.
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Well, you want things to be efficient, non-pharmacological treatments that effectively reduce depressive
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To address this need, we conducted a single-blind randomized clinical trial.
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So people were assigned randomly to group, which is a marker for a well-designed study, assessing
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how a six-day immersive psychosocial training program, and that's Tony Robbins' program,
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followed by 10-minute daily psychosocial exercises for 30 days.
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Well, Tony will walk us through that, but it's an exercise that's designed to optimize psychological
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functioning, but also social functioning simultaneously because it's very difficult to be healthy by
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And so you could think of mental health in particular, although also physical health,
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Followed by 10-minute daily psychosocial exercises for 30 days improves depressive symptoms.
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45 adults were block-randomized by depression score to two arms.
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The Immersive Psychosocial Training Program and 10-minute daily exercise group.
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A gratitude journaling group, or a gratitude journaling group.
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So now the idea there was to not only assess whether Mr. Robbins' program was an effective
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treatment for depression, but whether or not it was equally or more effective than another
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treatment that wasn't pharmacological that had already been shown to be of demonstrated
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And a gratitude journal helps people focus on what's positive in their life instead of
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And people who are depressed tend to be preoccupied with what's negative.
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Depression severity improved over time with a significantly greater reduction in the psychosocial
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So that meant that Mr. Robbins' intervention worked, about an 83% reduction in depression
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And by six weeks, virtually everybody in the intervention group showed remission in their
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And six weeks is a pretty decent length of trial because one of the complications with
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clinical trials is how long do you follow people?
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You know, the best studies would attempt to do all of those, but that's virtually impossible.
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So this was, well, so I think we should talk about, we should start by talking about this
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because I'd like to know, and everybody listening would like to know, I suppose, first of all,
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And then why did you submit it to a clinical trial?
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And how did you get scientists to participate in that?
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Well, you took that complexity and made it equally complex.
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You know, I've been working with people, this has got to be my 48th year beginning now
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I have the privilege of recognizing there's only so many patterns.
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While the brain has infinite complexity, it's not completely complex in terms of the mind.
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And so over the years, I've developed a series of processes to help people kind of develop
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what is their true north for them, not for me, and shift their values so that they're naturally
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pulled in the direction of what they really want at this stage, as opposed to what their
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And so, as you well know, we don't experience life.
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In every moment, what's wrong is always available, so is what's right.
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And it's not positive thinking, it's about intelligence.
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If you're in a lousy state, you don't treat people better.
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So what we teach people is how to shift their focus, how to determine what values at this
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stage of your life are the ones that are most important to you that will pull you towards
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I always look at motivation, and I don't like the word motivation, but people overuse it,
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so I might as well use it because I'm not a motivator.
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I'm a strategist, but I also believe in the power of inspiring people, obviously, and having
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But, you know, there's two types of motivation.
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That's where you're using willpower and making yourself do it.
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And, you know, Jordan, you have an enormous amount of willpower.
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My respect for you is through the roof, all that you've dealt with and all that you've
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And it's shaped who you are because you haven't given up and moved forward.
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Pull motivation is where it's something that you care about more than yourself, something
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that's a magnificent obsession, something where you're contributing.
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It could be your kids, it could be your family, but all that ties to the aim of your values
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And so we have a six-day process I do called Date With Destiny.
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And by the way, if your viewers ever want to get a feel for it, there's a documentary
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on Netflix called Tony Robbins' I'm Not Your Guru, because I'm not here to be your guru.
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But it'll give you like an hour and 45-minute walkthrough, and it's pretty dramatic.
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And you see me deal with people that are suicidal and turning them around, and then you see
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us follow up four years later, so you see it last, because most people wouldn't think
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it lasts if you could make a change that quickly.
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Well, two professors, as I understand it, we were approached by Stanford, and they said
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They were clinically depressed, and they're off medication, and all they did was go to this
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And I said, sure, I've got millions of testimonials, and so they said, no, no, no, scientific data.
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My focus is just get results for people, but if you want to do one, I'm open to it.
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And they said, well, right now is the middle of COVID.
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And they said, you know, depression is through the roof, suicides through the roof, overdoses
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And they said, we'd love to test this non-pharmalogical approach to it that you have and see what it
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really produces, because this seems miraculous.
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It's just rewiring the way in which people perceive their world.
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If I'm going to go do the Dakar race, where I'm going to go, you know, 9,000 miles to
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the Sahara Desert, you can't take the car you're currently running and expect it, and
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So, for example, the exhaust can get above the sand.
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Well, we help people re-engineer, and we don't tell them what to do.
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We show them how to re-engineer themselves, so they have their own autonomy and ownership.
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If we're going to study this, what do the meta studies show?
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And the meta studies show that they said that 60% of the people who come for treatment,
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whether it's drugs or therapy or both, 60% make no improvement.
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So I said, so they're half as depressed as they were.
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They said, yeah, some people get well, but most people are on drugs for the rest of their
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And I said, you can almost do that with a placebo.
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And the guy had a nervous laugh, and he said, well, yeah, maybe.
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I said, well, I'm sure it sounds like hubris, but I said, just based on history, I'm sure
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I said, what's the best study of all psychiatry you've ever seen in terms of wiping out these
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And at the time, they said there was a study done at Johns Hopkins, you're probably familiar
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with it five years ago, where for a month, they gave people psilocybin, magic mushrooms,
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And they said the results were the greatest in the history of psychiatry.
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At the end of six weeks, it was their evaluation, that group had 54% of the people had no symptoms
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I said, again, it doesn't sound, sounds like hubris.
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I just think our numbers will be significantly higher, but we'll see.
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And as you said, they had a separate group that was just like they did for Johns Hopkins,
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At the end of six weeks, after just going through a seminar, no drugs, no one-on-one therapy,
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just the rewiring for themselves, 93% of them had no symptoms whatsoever.
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And they published it in the Journal of Psychiatry.
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And 7% of the people still improved, but they didn't completely eliminate their symptoms.
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19% came in with suicidal ideation, zero suicidal ideation afterwards, which is what I've seen
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So they followed up a year later, and they found 52% increase in positive emotions, 71% decrease
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Since COVID, the drop in engagement is the biggest drop in the history of any form of
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In addition, the largest increase is in active disengagement.
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And so they did a group and they haven't published it.
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It'll come out shortly, but I can give you the broad strokes of what I'm so excited about
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is they eliminated all of the disengagement that had been driven by four years of isolation
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And then the best part was without any more interaction with me every month, they measure
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Because what's happened is now the hunger is awakened in them.
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They now have a sense of control over their own life and identity.
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Because one of the criticisms of the study, obviously, was that there was a small number
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But not small by most averages, as you know, right?
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Well, clinical studies are very, very difficult to do.
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So it's very easy to criticize a study for having a small number, but it's very difficult
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And they've also done a study where a separate one that they published in a different journal
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that I can get to you, which was about the teaching style, because what they wanted
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There's a separate group that had been working with them and had worked on measuring my body on
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I think, you know, four days, 15,000, 20,000 people in a stadium, 12,000, 13 hours a day.
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And when COVID happened and they shut everything down, I wanted to still help people.
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So I built a studio, because every stadium in the world was shut down.
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And I started doing it with people in their homes.
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So the first thing I did was during those first three and a half years before COVID,
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So they had me wear this $75,000 device that measures everything.
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They take my saliva and my blood at every break.
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And they found a whole crazy set of statistics.
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Like, you know, I burn 11,300 calories on stage in a day.
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Chess masters, Jordan, I guess, burn about 3,500 to 4,000 not moving.
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And so before I even get on stage, I burn about 3,500.
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Because as you think about it, people spend $300 million on a movie and go past three hours
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And we have people from 193 countries, every country in the world.
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They go from midnight to 1 in the afternoon for four straight days and nights and we lose
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So it's compelling and it's long-lasting in the events themselves.
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So they measure all these things in my body and then they discovered something else.
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If you know Tom Brady or the Tampa Bay Lightning that's won multiple championships in the NHL,
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They found something called what they call the championship biochemistry.
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Every time I get on stage and the same thing, if Tom Brady's down by 10 points, as I'm sure
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you've seen in the Super Bowl, and he's got two minutes to finish and somehow he comes
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He, all these people that, including myself, have this explosion of testosterone.
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I mean, it looks literally like jumping up a hill.
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And normally with testosterone, as I'm sure you know, cortisol comes, the stress hormone
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So all you get is this incredible focus and drive.
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Plus you remember things, which is why they think it has such cognition that's lasts a
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Because if I asked you where were you at 9-11, every person, you're not even American,
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can tell you where they were sitting, what was around them, what was going on.
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Because information without the emotion doesn't have any lasting impact.
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So that's sort of like the biochemistry of a very enhanced flow state that's lasting a
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So first they did this with me, and they said, this is incredible.
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And the level I could sustain it was what blew them away for the amount of time.
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Because normally it's something somebody does for 20 minutes or 30 minutes or an hour.
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But the best part is then they started measuring my live audiences.
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And then when COVID happened, they put people in 10 different countries and measured people
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Because as you know, with mirror neurons, if you saw some people rowing and you're empathetic
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or connected, you actually feel that to some extent in your body.
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Well, these people, their energy, their explosion of testosterone, the drop off of cortisol.
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And that is why they believe it has that lasting impact.
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But they did a study with one of the top professors at Stanford, teaching my exact content.
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And saw what the measurements were afterwards versus mine.
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And the difference was, for the first, I think it was three weeks on that one, almost a month,
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there was a nice increase, like 30% increase, more than you would expect.
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But mine was 350%, and it lasted six months and then 12 months.
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I model that with my body, my voice, and everything else.
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And when you do a, the other thing of it is we're using immersion.
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So I don't, I could have a lot easier job by going there for four or five hours and doing it, right?
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But the immersion is, when you go 13 hours, there is a different change in your body and your biochemistry.
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Well, the beautiful thing is you get to see that lasting impact because people know how to ignite it themselves.
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A belief is a poor substitute for an experience.
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So I give them the experience of it over and over again, and they get wired.
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I want to do more of this in my life, and that's why it has such lasting impact.
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And I knew we would, but I didn't go out for the study.
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However, that was published in the Journal of Psychiatry two years ago.
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Not one phone call from anyone about how to implement that with themselves.
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But if you look at the cover, if you cover the cover of Newsweek, right, two years ago,
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And it talks about the meta studies now show that no SSRIs, they don't work.
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And they're no better than sugar pills, but we still give them the 43 million Americans
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over and over again with all the side effects they have.
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So it's part of the culture that we're in, unfortunately.
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But we're just working to the people that are hungry and want to shift, we provide them
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I don't pretend to be the end all and be all for everybody, but it works.
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And people who've been through it know it works.
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It's been them telling their friends for decades, but now we have the science to back
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So I've got a story to tell you and then a bunch of questions.
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So I know this biologist, Derek Cooper, and we did a podcast together.
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And he's spent a fair bit of time looking at dopaminergic functioning and relating that
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in part to insect behavior, bees in particular.
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So I want to tell you something funny about bees.
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And the reason I'm outlining this is because the biochemical principles that you describe
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They're echoed throughout the living kingdom, all the way down to the insect level.
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Well, I did a lot of studies of animal behavior when I was trying to figure out human motivation.
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And if you can find extremely distal connections, it means you've found something very profound
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because it's been conserved over evolutionary history for maybe hundreds of millions of years.
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So you know you're onto something that's extremely fundamental.
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And you can tell that in the story that you described because it's reflected in hormonal
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So bees go out and they forage kind of randomly.
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And then if they find a good storehouse of value, which is like a flower bed that's not too far
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away and that's rich, then they go back and they dance and they indicate by the quality
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of their dance where the flowers are, but also how much energy needs to be expended to get
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there, but how much energy they will be acquired in consequence of the voyage.
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And they do that in part by intensity and duration of dance.
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So if another bee watches the bee that's communicating, expending energy, the lesson is something like
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this bee is so convinced that that energy source is worthy of investigation that it's willing
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to risk expending energy to communicate about it.
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So, so, and it's starting to feel like a bee right now.
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That gets the other bees excited, but, but it's a, but it's, it's not, as you said, it's
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an experience and not a, it's not a, it's not an argument.
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It's like the bee is demonstrating by it's willing to sacrifice its energy that the end
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So that's, that's very much analogous to what you're doing on stage because you're expending,
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you said right at the beginning, you're expending 11,000 calories in an 11 hour period and you're
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So people watch that and they think, well, they think they see, and this is at this, at a level
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that's so primordial that even insects can do it.
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They see that you're willing to risk a tremendous expenditure of energy over a very long time
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to communicate a particular pattern of perception.
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And so that's convincing because it's an, it's, what would you say?
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Now you said some other things that are extremely interesting that I think are worth delving
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It's the manifestation of the same dopaminergically mediated positive emotion that indicates the existence
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It's like, so we're wired so that we feel enthusiasm when we see ourselves moving towards
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Now you're, you, and then you said some other things very carefully.
00:27:59.300
And what that means in, in part is that you're encouraging people to believe that there is a
00:28:05.800
goal and that goals are worthwhile, but they have to come up with the goals themselves.
00:28:13.960
Well, it's partly because they need to establish their own conditions for satisfaction and
00:28:19.080
they have to do that in consequence of their own contemplation.
00:28:23.060
You know, and by the way, I mean, you have a copy of my book here, We Arrest with God.
00:28:28.000
One of the ways that God is characterized, and I describe this in the book, is as the spirit
00:28:36.040
So there's two primary characterizations of God in the biblical writings.
00:28:41.080
There's more than two, but there's two primary characterizations.
00:28:46.560
So that's exemplified in the story of Abraham, for example.
00:28:52.140
And that spirit of adventure, that's associated with this pull motivation.
00:29:01.360
Although the hero's journey also incorporates elements of conscience.
00:29:05.440
And there's a push element to that that's probably worth discussing as well.
00:29:10.120
It's like calling says, here's the path, and conscience warns you when you're deviating
00:29:19.080
No one on earth can do what you do and do the depth of analysis you do to take a Pinocchio
00:29:24.080
story and turn that into our typical study of personal evolution in an archetype.
00:29:28.160
I mean, I'm thinking about when you said consciousness, the bug bugging you and your
00:29:40.500
But I just love the way your brain goes into these areas.
00:29:42.760
Well, it's really worth, given the framework that you're using, it's really worthwhile understanding
00:29:49.040
So here's a way of thinking structurally about the process that you outlined.
00:29:56.940
So the first thing to understand is that people see the world through their aim.
00:30:06.100
And then when you hear the story of someone's life, you actually hear a description of their
00:30:14.460
Now, the first thing that happens perceptually, and you talked about perception.
00:30:18.200
The first thing that happens is that once you specify the aim, the pathway appears.
00:30:26.120
And the reason for that is, well, if you can't see your way to get where you're going, then
00:30:38.820
Now, the next thing that happens, so the pathway occurs, the next thing that happens is that
00:30:47.020
So now, everything that you encounter as an obstacle on that pathway elicits negative emotion.
00:30:53.520
And everything that you encounter that facilitates movement forward evokes positive emotion.
00:30:59.400
So one of the corollaries of that is no aim, no positive emotion.
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I call it that when you look at people that are pressed, or even people just not where they
00:32:24.200
Anyone can deal with a difficult today if they have a compelling tomorrow.
00:32:28.260
And so when people think about our country, our country has just gone through a period,
00:32:34.240
I'm not, I voted on both sides of the aisle, so this is not a political statement.
00:32:37.340
But if I asked you, what has been the vision for this country in the last four years, last eight years even, to somehow pay off our debt, to make it through these times, to, no one has got a clear vision.
00:32:49.400
And as opposed to, look at a Democrat and a Republican, Kennedy got up and talked about, in this decade, we're going to put a man on the earth and return him safely.
00:32:57.640
The city on the hill with Reagan, you could pick, it doesn't matter which person, but they both had a vision that unified America for a period of time, created an optimism.
00:33:05.880
Now you're starting to feel, not everybody, obviously, because there's left and right, but a lot of people are now, I don't care if it's Republican or Democrat, give me somebody competent, give me somebody to get results.
00:33:16.060
And there's an excitement about change because things have not happened.
00:33:19.760
There seems to be more of a compelling future, especially in the health area you and I are both passionate about, right, with Bobby Kennedy and the army of people that were attacked during COVID who were telling the truth, and now they're going to be in charge.
00:33:32.080
But I really think it's important for your listeners or viewers to understand, because I think you and I couldn't be more aligned, a compelling future is everything.
00:33:40.460
Because without that, you can have an aim, by the way, but if it's not compelling, it's not going to do much.
00:33:45.240
Well, and you demonstrate in the physiology of your lectures, the fact that that compelling aspect is possible and real, right?
00:33:57.540
But I also get them to experience it once again.
00:33:59.940
If they just watch me, you know, like, I'm not here to be their role model examples.
00:34:08.880
But the idea of getting in a state of mind where you're in a heightened state of consciousness because your energy increases.
00:34:15.900
When your energy drops, usually negative thoughts grow with that pretty massively, right?
00:34:20.660
Self-negative thoughts, thoughts about society.
00:34:22.820
As you raise the energy level, it's like plugging into a computer.
00:34:26.480
You know, the greatest computer, but enough electricity.
00:34:28.140
But if there's full electricity, there's power there.
00:34:30.440
And most of us have gotten adjusted to a level of energy, especially post-COVID, that we don't even realize because we're like fish in water.
00:34:39.620
When I walk around into companies, that's why engagement became so important to me.
00:34:47.360
They were conditioned for four years to sit still in front of a computer and do anything.
00:34:51.140
And many people before that weren't doing anything.
00:34:54.580
But when the energy increases, that's my first job, your consciousness increases with that frequency of intensity.
00:35:00.940
When you said memory, okay, well, there's a physiological explanation for that.
00:35:10.600
That's why people take cocaine, for example, or most of the drugs of abuse that are stimulants.
00:35:15.980
Okay, so it produces that feeling of reward, but that's not all it does.
00:35:19.220
So imagine that there's a positive outcome, and that produces some enthusiasm.
00:35:25.340
Okay, now imagine that there's a chain of neurological events that led up to that positive outcome.
00:35:31.660
Okay, what dopamine does is encourage the neural systems that were active just before that positive event occurred to grow.
00:35:41.560
And you're strengthening whatever connections we're used to have.
00:35:47.700
If you're increasing the energy, and you're simultaneously getting people to configure their goals,
00:35:55.840
and those two things are happening at the same time, that should increase the probability that the goals that they adopt
00:36:04.800
And then it's also not exactly the kind of memory that you would call to mind to talk about.
00:36:11.600
It's the kind of memory that you see the world through.
00:36:20.420
So let's say you practice applying a certain framework of interpretation to your circumstances.
00:36:26.180
Okay, that practice reconfigures procedural memory, and that's literally the rewiring of the system through which you view the world.
00:36:41.460
And meanings, as you know, we both know, you do maps of meaning.
00:36:44.280
My entire life has been, you know, I remember reading Man's Search for Meaning.
00:36:49.080
And it was one of the books that influenced me the most because the ability to find meaning, even in the most difficult time.
00:36:55.720
And Viktor Frankl, to me, is just a godsend to this planet.
00:37:01.000
If you haven't read it, please, whoever you're listening, read it.
00:37:11.000
Your focus and your meanings change when your energy shifts.
00:37:14.240
And so it's so fundamental to bring that energy up.
00:37:17.440
And most people have no reference for it in their body.
00:37:20.240
You know, if you go to a concert, I remember Pat Riley came to one of our...
00:37:25.120
He was an amazing coach, if you're not familiar with the NBA basketball.
00:37:31.380
And he came to one of our programs and he said,
00:37:32.880
Tony, this is like the seventh game of the NBA championship, but it goes on for four days and it's 13 hours a day.
00:37:40.440
So that vibrancy, and most people at the game are cheering at times and not.
00:37:49.660
That's why it's multiple days, four days or six days.
00:38:02.220
So if you look at a great athlete, you know, like, you know, people look at somebody like,
00:38:06.800
you know, I'm fortunate enough to own a piece of several sporting teams
00:38:11.760
And you look at Steph Curry, the greatest 33-point shooter in the world.
00:38:15.320
And people look at him and he goes and he shoots the ball from like almost half court
00:38:19.740
and he's chomping on the side of his mouthpiece and he doesn't even wait to go.
00:38:26.380
And then all of a sudden the crowd goes wild and it goes through.
00:38:32.560
He built the myelin over and over and over again.
00:38:36.920
He knows exactly what did and how did he do that?
00:38:41.040
I always tell people, when you see people who are amazing in public,
00:38:44.680
they're being rewarded in public for what they've practiced massively in private.
00:38:54.540
Nobody even close if you're not familiar with the NBA.
00:38:56.320
He practices 500 shots a day, every day, seven days a week, bar none.
00:39:09.420
Not forget his college career, just in his professional career,
00:39:12.160
so that he can make 3,300 three-point shots and be the greatest in history.
00:39:17.380
That's less than one-tenth of one percent of the time compared to his practice.
00:39:23.060
The wiring in him is so powerful, but it doesn't just show up.
00:39:27.600
Hope and excitement are wonderful things, but you need competency as well.
00:39:31.920
And in order to have that, the hope can get you started,
00:39:37.360
You have both the strategy and you've got to have the execution
00:39:42.280
Okay, so let's talk about that because you talked about eliciting motivation
00:39:53.340
Because motivation is—the reason I use it, it's like a warm bath.
00:39:56.080
You should probably take a bath, but it doesn't last, right?
00:40:02.940
If you're overweight, you're motivated to eat, right?
00:40:05.960
I want to find out what drives you because if we unleash your drive,
00:40:16.180
Okay, so let's walk—okay, so I have an exercise that people can do online
00:40:22.540
And one of its steps—and I'd like you to tell me how this compares
00:40:27.380
to what you're doing in your seminars, in your events.
00:40:30.500
So it's a conditions of satisfaction exercise, or it's a meditation and contemplation exercise,
00:40:40.720
You could think of all the—or a request for revelation.
00:40:44.920
So it's—you can—imagine for a moment that you could have what you wanted and needed in five years.
00:40:56.360
You have to know what it is, and you have to specify it.
00:40:58.740
Okay, now then the question would be, well, how are you going to discover that?
00:41:04.080
It's like, okay, like, what would—it's like the Viktor Frankl scenario.
00:41:09.420
Even hypothetically, what would get me out of bed in the morning on a very, very difficult day?
00:41:14.400
Like, what could I imagine could come to me in my life?
00:41:21.580
Yeah, well, and what would make you persevere in times of trouble?
00:41:27.200
And by the way, I find—tell me it's the same for you.
00:41:29.660
It's not just the aim or objective, it's strong enough reasons.
00:41:33.460
In other words, somebody say, I want to make a billion dollars, but they don't do it.
00:41:36.840
And they envision to get excited about it, a million dollars, whatever it is.
00:41:42.460
The secret is reasons come first, answers come second.
00:41:45.620
Once I know what I want, I've got to figure out why.
00:41:50.820
So the object may inspire you, but what's going to keep you going is strong enough reasons when it's tough.
00:41:55.900
What are the reasons—okay, I want this money.
00:41:59.460
Well, that's very different than I just want to have this picture—
00:42:02.080
—pieces of paper with pictures of dead people on it, right?
00:42:09.180
They want security, or they want freedom, or they want to be able to contribute, or they want to do something they think money will give them more choices on, right?
00:42:16.520
So I'm always trying to dig underneath to figure out what is the—
00:42:22.900
And many people focus on the surface desire, not knowing enough reasons to follow through.
00:42:28.680
Ninety-one percent of them—I don't know what the latest statistic is.
00:42:33.120
By the time they're hearing us speak, if they have New Year's resolutions, they're gone, because they don't have the reasons to push through, and they don't have the strategy.
00:42:40.060
It's wonderful if you say, I want to see a sunset, but if your strategy is to start running east as fast as you can, I don't give a damn how positive you are.
00:42:49.200
So it's a combination of that aim, those values, that drive you and I are talking about, that ignite enough reasons for it, and then the strategies to execute, because you'll eventually find your way there.
00:43:00.540
But the speed at which you do it is if—I believe in modeling.
00:43:07.100
He said, if someone is successful at anything, they've got a great relationship, and it's 20 years down the line, and they still do it.
00:43:12.840
Or they lost weight and kept off for 10 years, or they went from nothing to not just making money but sustaining financial security and freedom for their family.
00:43:22.580
They're doing something different than you are.
00:43:24.560
So instead of you trial and error, which is the standard way in which we learn, you find the pathway to power by finding someone who's done it consistently and produced results.
00:43:33.580
That obsession within me has launched most of the books I've written, most things I've done.
00:43:38.600
It's like, I want to know what—this book was, how do I help people with the best breakthroughs in health, for example, in life force and energy?
00:43:47.440
They take 17 years to go from the breakthrough time to your clinician.
00:43:52.980
I'm going to interview 150 of the most brilliant regenerative doctors in the world, Nobel Prize winners, and find out what they're doing and give it to you right now.
00:44:02.360
Well, I can talk to your finance about what I think, or I can interview 50 of the smartest financial people in the history of the world that are alive today and find out what do they do.
00:44:12.100
And while they're different, I look for what are the common strategies, elements, what is guiding this?
00:44:17.640
And then I can teach that my billionaire client goes, this is incredible, and the average person goes, this is incredible.
00:44:28.720
It's finding the codex of how to go from where you are to where you want to be.
00:44:35.820
You've got to have the purpose or the reasons or your purpose.
00:44:39.360
If it's somebody else's purpose or reasons, it won't last.
00:44:42.080
And then you need the strategies, too, because that'll give you the driving.
00:44:46.220
If you can discipline your disappointment, if you can push yourself beyond what most people give up on, you're going to get there eventually.
00:44:54.500
But you'll get there 10 times faster if you can say, wow, there's already a pathway that's been proven.
00:45:02.360
I'll still bring myself to it, my own uniqueness to it.
00:45:04.980
But there's certain fundamentals that if you do them, you're going to have economic abundance.
00:45:10.300
There are certain ones that are going to be in great relationships.
00:45:15.240
Okay, so you said something that I think we could delve into technically, too.
00:45:23.200
Okay, and then you said you have to have reasons.
00:45:25.200
Okay, so let's think that through for a minute.
00:45:26.980
So one of the things we do in this program that helps people rewire their aim is do a multidimensional analysis.
00:45:35.580
It's like, okay, now you've sort of figured out what you would want and need if you could have it.
00:45:42.200
But let's flesh that out so you could say, well, how would that positively affect your intimate relationship, your marriage, right?
00:45:55.440
So you're making them come up with the reasons.
00:45:57.300
Yeah, well, and the reasons, well, then you could imagine this, too.
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00:47:08.920
In some ways, we're loose constellations of multiple motivations, and you want to meld those all together so you're serving the same name.
00:47:19.700
If it's supposed to be pulled apart, I want to be totally successful and never be rejected.
00:47:27.620
If you're going to be successful on a social scale, that's not possible.
00:47:32.300
And so if you have those two conflicts, you're going to take two steps forward and three back.
00:47:36.380
We have them re-engineer the values so they pull you forward as opposed to pull you apart.
00:47:50.820
But ultimately, what really stops people and what I do with people and events is I find the inner conflict.
00:47:55.940
The inner conflict is what's keeping them from executing.
00:47:58.520
It means they're actually living out multiple stories simultaneously and they don't have the same aim.
00:48:05.380
It doesn't have to all be the same story, but there has to be some unifying element to what matters most to you for you to live an extraordinary quality of life.
00:48:21.400
So one of the things I discovered when I was walking through the biblical stories is the book itself is structured in a manner that's analogous to the pattern that you just described.
00:48:31.240
So what happens in the biblical stories is that a sequence of stories are put forward that each circulate around a form of high order goal.
00:48:45.260
So in the story of Noah, for example, the voice of the divine in the story of Noah is characterized as the intuition that calls the wise to prepare when trouble is brewing.
00:48:57.180
So that's God for Noah, because Noah is described as a man who's wise in his generation.
00:49:03.200
So he's the sort of person you'd go to for advice, and his ability to intuit is well-developed in consequence of his practice of wisdom, and everyone recognizes that.
00:49:14.140
And now he has a powerful revelation or intuition that all hell's about to break loose, and he should take appropriate steps.
00:49:23.460
But God in that, the highest goal, you might say, in that story is this intuition of the wise to prepare in the face of disaster.
00:49:32.120
Okay, that's very different than the God that makes himself manifest to Abraham.
00:49:36.900
So Abraham is someone who's resting on his laurels and who's privileged at the beginning of the story.
00:49:42.880
His parents are wealthy, and there's no reason for him to lift a finger, and God comes to him as the voice of adventure.
00:49:55.340
This is the covenant, by the way, and I'm sure you'll see the relationship between this and what you're doing in your seminars.
00:50:02.820
God comes to Moses as a spirit of adventure, and he offers him a bargain, which is the covenant.
00:50:08.660
He says, if you leave your zone of comfort, if you move away from your father's tent, if you move away from what's familiar to you, and you do that voluntarily, and you make the sacrifices necessary as a consequence, this is what will happen.
00:50:24.220
If you persist long enough, because it took you like 98 to have this for a skin, right?
00:50:30.320
But he didn't give up, he just kept moving forward.
00:50:32.500
It didn't matter if he made mistakes, he kept moving in the right direction.
00:50:34.880
Yes, and that's partly the element of his faith.
00:50:37.020
Okay, so the deal is, your life will become a blessing to you.
00:50:41.460
So that's that antidepressant phenomenon that we're describing.
00:50:45.400
So instead of living in misery, you'll live in something approximating hope and security, right?
00:50:52.180
The second part is, your name will become renowned among other people, and you'll deserve it.
00:50:57.540
So that's a good deal, because people want social status, and they want the security and the capacity to cooperate and compete peacefully that goes along with that.
00:51:06.260
It's a fundamental, it might even be the fundamental human aim, but it's at least a fundamental human aim.
00:51:13.780
Number three is, it'll give you your best shot at establishing something of multi-generational permanence.
00:51:20.220
Right, so that's a good deal, because, you know, one of the things that people want when they search for what's meaningful is that they say,
00:51:26.260
well, I'd like to do something that lasts or matters.
00:51:30.880
And the fourth thing is, you'll do it in a way that'll be of a benefit to everyone else.
00:51:37.660
And so what, it's so cool, this story, because what it does is align the calling of adventure, so that would be that calling or pull, with those four outcomes.
00:51:49.700
Which gives you more reasons, because we'll always do more for those we love than we will for ourselves.
00:51:58.820
Yes, that's why you want to think through, if you do have an aim, what the benefit would be to the people that you love and to your community.
00:52:05.780
Because it anchors that, okay, the meta claim in the juxtaposition of these narratives, this is so cool, is that the voice that tells the wise to prepare in the time of crisis and the call to adventure are manifestations of the same distal goal.
00:52:24.060
So you could imagine that the ultimate uniting goal brings all the underlying potential stories together.
00:52:30.940
And then that's developed through the biblical corpus.
00:52:33.300
And in the New Testament, that's fleshed out completely, because the claim in the New Testament is something like the embodiment of the spirit that's characterized in multiple ways in the Old Testament is made manifest as the willingness for voluntary self-sacrifice in service of the highest goal.
00:52:53.500
And that's what's acted out in the passion story.
00:52:56.020
And that seems to me to be precisely accurate, is that there's that, because you said yourself earlier, you know, that a goal that is only serving your own, so to speak, narrow and proximal motives isn't one that's going to last.
00:53:11.280
It has to be anchored in multiple ways, and it has to be worthwhile.
00:53:14.980
But there is this insistence that's, I think this is the monotheistic hypothesis, actually, is that there is a distal aim that unites all subordinate aims, and if you can ally yourself with that, you become something approximating an unstoppable force.
00:53:30.820
That's where all the energy comes from, because there's so much, I look at it this way, you can call it God or you can call it life, whatever, I prefer God, but still, life supports whatever supports more life.
00:53:42.220
So as an individual with my own goals, take your bees, the bumblebee could be selfishly going after just the nectar for itself, if you want to call that selfish, but then what attaches to its legs is pollen, and that's why I have more flowers, right?
00:53:55.800
So there's a certain amount of benefit by anyone's individual desires, desire, of the father, right?
00:54:01.000
You know, it's like with that desire is the ability to fulfill it if you can persist and discover.
00:54:05.860
But I found that I believe that when your desire is to serve something more than yourself, first of all, you get out of yourself, so there's no more of the internal anxieties.
00:54:15.880
You know, that concern, thoughts of yourself and neurotic suffering are so closely allied statistically that you can't separate them.
00:54:25.460
So if you're thinking about your narrow self, that's the definition of misery.
00:54:33.160
The mind is, it's distorting, deleting, and generalized.
00:54:36.220
It's a reduction system so that all this input doesn't overwhelm us.
00:54:40.180
So what happens, that reduction system makes us not see, not experience some aspects of life.
00:54:45.660
So I said, we don't experience life, we experience the life we focus on.
00:54:48.880
So it's our job to direct the focus, but then have enough reasons to follow through on that focus,
00:54:57.260
It's the difference between knowing something intellectually and having it in your nervous system.
00:55:05.340
Cognitive understanding is like $3, $3 will almost get you a Starbucks.
00:55:12.640
But if you go from that to emotional understanding, which is consequence you're describing, where I start to learn that if I do this, it gives me this pain, or if I do this, it gives me this pleasure, now I'm going to apply more of what I've learned.
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Well, my goal is to get down to physical mastery, where it's so in your body.
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And that's what you're able to do with immersion after day after day, because you don't have to think about it anymore.
00:55:33.440
When I went to drive a stick shift car the first time, I don't know your experience, but mine was overwhelming.
00:55:38.100
That guy teased me because I'm like, I'm supposed to do this and this and this and watch the road, too.
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But sure enough, you get in your nervous system with enough repetition, enough emotional reward, and then all of a sudden it's in your body, and now you can do 12 other things.
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Hopefully you're not texting, but you can do it all.
00:55:54.100
That's what people meant by character development.
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A character development is the development of those procedural habits that shape perception itself.
00:56:03.020
Right, and it's not the same as propositional knowledge, which is the knowledge that you can discuss.
00:56:08.320
Yeah, yeah, and it does require, and so you're, now, so let me ask you about.
00:56:12.320
But I want to finish something you said, because I want to, I haven't done your process, I want to do this.
00:56:21.340
So the only thing I would add to that if I could, if I was able to add my two cents, which is all it's probably worth.
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I would alter their state while they're doing it to a higher level of energy.
00:56:32.220
I suppose you could, so the advantage to the system that we have is it's distributable online, it's highly inexpensive, it doesn't take very much time, and it's scalable.
00:56:41.600
But it doesn't have that participatory element, right?
00:56:45.060
You could still generate choices of music, or you could generate some element of exercise for them to do physically, a breathing process.
00:56:51.920
Like, for example, in the study you saw, they mentioned 10 minutes of practice.
00:56:56.280
Well, not everybody did it, but the 10-minute practice comes from something I do.
00:57:01.300
So for your audience, just remind people, priming is when you think it's your thoughts, very often those thoughts have been primed by the environment.
00:57:08.060
So one quick example, so they know what we're following, you and I are following, is they took a group of actors, four of them, two men, two women, had them go out and approach people in the park and the mall and all these things.
00:57:20.600
And they walk up to them and they have a cup of coffee, I mentioned this the other night when we were together, and they hand you the coffee and they look down.
00:57:30.460
Well, 98% of people take the coffee because it looks like it's going to fall otherwise.
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They reach in their pocket, they take out their phone, they put it back, they say thank you very much.
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They practice doing the exact same way, the same facial expression, men and women, they do 100 people each, 400.
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The only difference is half of them they gave iced coffee to, half of them they gave hot coffee to.
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Now, 15 to 20 minutes later, somebody comes by with a clipboard and they come up and say, excuse me, here's $20.
00:57:57.160
We're just under a tight timeline for our research.
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If you read these four paragraphs of this story and answer these two questions, we'll give you $20.
00:58:10.680
The primary question is, describe the main character of this story.
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81% of the people given iced coffee said the person was cold and uncaring.
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79% basic variability of the people that got the hot coffee said the person was warm and genuine.
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The same thing happens with creativity tests showing you IBM and Apple seeing those.
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The ones that see the Apple commercial or even the logo, because Apple commercial was think differently, scored 22% higher in the creativity test.
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So much of what we think we're doing ourselves is being shifted by the outside world.
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That's what religious practice is supposed to do.
00:58:57.300
Okay, so the story is a sequence of micro-adventures that Abraham has.
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And they expand in scope as he progresses, which is the story of life, right?
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But at the beginning of each adventure, he aims upward, and that's the rekindling of that covenant.
00:59:18.240
So that's an indication of that, what would you say, humble willingness to change.
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So, for example, and I'd like to know how you do this, technically, when you go on stage.
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So before I take the stage, my wife and I do this.
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He helps us focus and everybody in the audience focus.
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And there is something about music that does that entrainment, that physiological entrainment
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You wouldn't last those 12 hours if you're just sitting still.
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There are different emotional states that I want to produce.
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Yeah, yeah, I could see that in your events, that there's a party atmosphere to them.
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And there's a reason that people use music while in religious ceremonies, for example.
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Okay, so the next thing that I try to get the aim in mind, and my wife does too, because
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And it's a real question, and I want to get farther in answering it, right?
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And so I don't know what I'm going to say, but I know the tools I'm going to use.
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If I don't have that, the talk wanders, and it's opaque, okay?
01:00:34.960
There's a clear outcome that unifies you moving towards it, and you're unconscious.
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Because I can even have the plan, but because I know the outcome, when I go out, I feel
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So that's one of the things I was curious about.
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Okay, so the other thing we do is take a moment, and this is a very serious moment, to remember
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that 3,000 people took a lot of their time and energy and money to come and do this, and
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they're very happy to be here, and we should be very happy that they're here also, because
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it's highly unlikely, and that we should do everything we can to eradicate anything that
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isn't entirely grateful for the opportunity, right?
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So now we've got AIM and the appropriate mindset, and that's a prime.
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And then it is so interesting, AIM, because I learned over time that I had to do a lot
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Now, I can do it with less now, but I do a lot, but...
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Once on stage, I had to pursue that aim, and I had to let the preparation go.
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Okay, so I'm very curious about the way that you manage this, because you're a very high-intensity
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speaker, and you're very charismatic and compelling, and you maintain it for much longer than I
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I had lectures at the university that were three hours long.
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I was pretty much done at the end of that, but tell me how you prepare for one of these
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And then you also said when you go on stage, you read the room, and I want to know what
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It was one of the things I taught my wife when she was learning to speak publicly.
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I said, well, first of all, don't look at the crowd.
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You're talking to a person, and you can do that, right?
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I told her, look everywhere in the audience, because everywhere you don't look, you're
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And so you want to go on stage, and you want to position yourself.
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You look at these people, and you look at these people, and these people, and these
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people, and you see where you are, then you're not self-conscious.
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And then if you're pursuing your aim, so the aim is, I'm going to answer this question,
01:03:14.700
and I'm going to be pleased that these people are here.
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You're not self-conscious, because it's not about you.
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So first, I'll mention just about public speaking as a whole.
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It's one of the largest fears that people have in a public place.
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But the real reason is, I wasn't scared in the beginning.
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And the reason I wasn't scared is because I was obsessed on the audience, and what do
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they need, and what I believe passionately I can serve them with.
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When you're in uptime, I'm out here feeling you.
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If you see a speaker that loses the audience for a moment, or completely, they go in their
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head, and they're trying to think of what to do.
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That's different than, am I getting through to them?
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Well, how far along are we in getting them to where we're committed to here?
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Like, what are they really experiencing, right?
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But my preparation starts with physical, for the same reasons.
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You wrote in your first book, and I've been teaching it since I was 19 years old, I guess.
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It's like, the physiology has to be created first in me, or I can't take you there.
01:04:30.320
How am I going to, if I want to touch you, I got to be touched.
01:04:37.120
So first, there's the endurance aspect, which is, you know, I do oxygen deprivation.
01:04:43.180
You dream of, of exercise, so that I can get up there and sustain for 12 or 13 hours for
01:04:50.920
Then, people ask my wife, what's something about Tony that no one realizes?
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I could do nothing and get up to do with this stage of my life.
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But I believe that loading my commitment to be the best I can be to deliver for these
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souls is, I got to be clear on the outcomes, and I have multiple outcomes in multiple days
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and pieces, and I have primary outcomes for each day, and even segments of the day.
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It's like, okay, these are my primary outcomes.
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And then I close my eyes, and I focus on who's there and why they're there.
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And then I think about what makes everybody unique.
01:05:33.460
If I'm going to a, you know, let's say, stock brokerage company, or I'm going to a general
01:05:41.080
And there, obviously, it's not about, or let's say Japan's an even better example.
01:05:44.600
It's not individualism and the need that people have to save face.
01:05:50.340
So I think in depth about who these people are.
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Even though there's a huge audience, there are patterns.
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Some are general, but they're wide enough and important enough.
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And then I also have interviewed people in advance.
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And I read why they're there, what they're interested in, what the hooks are, just as triggers.
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In my Date with Destiny seminar, everybody has like a, you know, 12 to 22-page questionnaire
01:06:14.760
I will not remember everybody's name, but I will remember those patterns when somebody
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stands up and brain takes off and knows where to go with it, right?
01:06:21.200
What do you watch and listen for when you're on stage?
01:06:27.540
Before I get there, though, one more piece before I get there.
01:06:32.200
So I tell people in business, fall in love with your customer.
01:06:38.380
Like, if you fall in love with your customer or your client, they'll become your client.
01:06:42.800
You're going to have yourself a friendship, a relationship, you know?
01:06:45.260
And so I do that before I create that relationship with them before they've ever had a relationship
01:06:55.800
I'm so grateful for the presence and grateful that I have the privilege to serve them and
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Because I don't have the delusion when I get up there that I'm just here to deliver
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I'm going to learn from these interactions as well.
01:07:09.540
You see people who are intimidated or arrogant.
01:07:12.320
And I don't experience either one of those in my life.
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And I think it's because early on, I made a decision.
01:07:19.100
I don't have to worry about trying to be enough because I know every person I meet is superior
01:07:25.240
Not because I'm inferior, because they have a different life experience.
01:07:29.220
Like with you, your capacity with language, your capacity, like I know how to deal with
01:07:36.820
But your ability to take any mythological, religious element, you just blow me away.
01:07:42.320
I mean, that's very sincerely, it's like you have a gift in that area.
01:07:50.980
So I look at you and I hold you with such respect.
01:07:53.980
And so I develop strong relationships because people feel the love and respect.
01:08:04.520
But I respect because I know it's going to be there.
01:08:06.780
Now, I'm not worried about losing something because I also know.
01:08:09.600
That's a great way to establish a relationship with someone.
01:08:13.120
But I also know, and this is not ego-driven, I'm superior to every person I meet in some
01:08:17.040
context because I have a different life experience.
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This will be my 48th year doing this of understanding what makes people do what they do.
01:08:32.520
And someone else, life just smashes the hell out of psychologically, spiritually, emotionally,
01:08:36.680
go through abuse, and they become Oprah Winfrey.
01:08:40.640
And when I began to realize, it's biography is not destiny.
01:08:43.780
And so then I started to see what are the core principles that shape all of that.
01:08:49.900
So then what I do is right before I go on stage, I have a last set of physical things
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I do a set of movements I do in my body, like wake up my whole nervousness.
01:08:59.360
Imagine, I want to take my energy to level zero to 10, level 20.
01:09:09.280
So now when I relax, relaxing is a nine or a 10, as opposed to a four or five.
01:09:14.280
My energy has to capture a stadium and sustain it.
01:09:18.920
Then the last piece that I do personally is, it's a prayer.
01:09:22.320
And it's just, I wear these baseball caps a lot of times and on the side of it, it says
01:09:37.680
Use me to bless them in whatever way they need to be blessed.
01:09:40.460
And I make that move my body and music hits and I go outside there and then it takes over.
01:09:47.860
It takes over when I had mercury poisoning and I was throwing up as renouncing my name.
01:09:54.100
The other day, I went to Mexico and I won't give you the gory details, but I discovered
01:10:02.460
And I'm getting on stage with 19,000 people and 30, and I've gone for five days with E. coli
01:10:11.760
And I'm trying to think, how am I going to hang on?
01:10:14.060
And I walk out there and I'm walking out nimbly instead of running.
01:10:17.460
I had to tell the audience, if I disappear, please don't leave.
01:10:23.400
And in 15 minutes, I go from my body's hanging off a dear life to something takes over.
01:10:29.140
I don't know if it's the sympathetic that takes over, but then 13 hours without a break
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But I really believe that's that part when I said life supports what supports more life.
01:10:40.360
If I now, when I suddenly had, I was 25, I married a woman that was 11 years my senior.
01:10:46.060
She'd been married twice before and she was unhappy without her kids.
01:10:50.820
So I'm 25 and have a 17-year-old son, an 11-year-old, a five-year-old, my level of growth by that
01:11:00.140
responsibility that I took very seriously while I still want to change the world was explosive.
01:11:05.760
Well, if your goal is to support your family, that's a different level of insight than just
01:11:11.880
If you're looking to serve a community, if you're looking to serve humanity, I'm not
01:11:16.480
I'm talking about in your soul, you know what is real, what your deepest purpose and
01:11:22.800
Well, when that happens, there's an aliveness and a strength that seems to overcome.
01:11:35.720
But I also just want to mention, I just mentioned the 10-minute pieces, that priming I was telling
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about, I start every morning by priming myself, including the days I'm on stage.
01:11:49.820
God kind of comes through or somebody stands up and they're going to commit suicide.
01:11:56.460
That's my version of meditation, more active movement.
01:11:59.340
But I realized there was value in the stillness at that stage and the peace.
01:12:04.040
And so I developed this little 10-minute process.
01:12:07.560
Because if I told you 20, you'd tell me you don't have the time, right?
01:12:09.740
If you don't have 10 minutes for your life, you don't have a life, right?
01:12:13.200
So I said, I want to do three things in that 10 minutes.
01:12:16.340
What is the emotion that keeps most people, what messes up their relationships, messes up
01:12:31.940
So if I ask you what it was like driving on a roller coaster and you remember the roller
01:12:37.080
coaster over there and tell me about it, there's no change in your biochemistry.
01:12:40.380
But if I get you to be in the front seat going over the edge, that's fully associated.
01:12:49.000
It takes less than a minute of this kind of breath of fire, if you know yoga, breath
01:12:53.160
of fire, explosive breath, which changes the biochemistry.
01:12:56.040
And now I take 10 minutes and I do three things.
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One, I take three minutes, a minute each, and I think of something in my life that I'm
01:13:03.840
incredibly grateful for, but I'm in the front seat feeling it, being there, experiencing
01:13:08.380
So it has a biochemical change, not an intellectual change.
01:13:15.780
It could be the wind on my face from the ocean here.
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It could be the smile of my daughter, you know, the morning.
01:13:21.900
And so I don't make it just like everything's going to the moon, right?
01:13:35.580
So I do, you know, people, now it's very popular, but I've been doing it for, what,
01:13:40.640
I've been doing, jumping in the cold and doing it.
01:13:42.600
So I have cold plunges ever in my home in Sun Valley.
01:13:46.540
It not only wakes you up, it's also a mental discipline.
01:13:52.360
But there's never a day that I can remember where I was like, I can't wait to jump in
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Or if I'm going to the river in Sun Valley, walking through the snow, and it's like 42
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But when I get to it, there is never hesitancy because I am training my brain besides my
01:14:08.540
body that, like people say, oh, I don't feel like it.
01:14:19.320
It's like the minute I get there, I don't go, okay, let me get ready or let me get one
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So now when I say go, we go with anything else.
01:14:34.840
So I get that, and then I sit and I do this breathing, and I do three minutes, fully connected
01:14:40.860
what I'm grateful for, a huge biochemical change.
01:14:43.200
Three minutes on what would be a prayer or a blessing, where I ask for guidance to cleanse
01:14:48.540
my system of anything that's no longer needed, to strengthen my greatest strengths, my love,
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And then I see sending that energy out like in a circle to those closest to my family, my
01:14:59.200
closest friends, my associates, my clients, my customers, anybody they want to meet.
01:15:05.360
And then also, I'm sure you've seen, you know, Dalai Lama, they did those studies where
01:15:08.660
people focus on compassion for people they don't even know, and there's a change in the
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So there's a science-based everything I do as well.
01:15:18.960
Well, if you practiced universal love, you'd probably get better at it.
01:15:25.120
If you practice gratitude, you're going to get better at it.
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And when I'm doing all this, I'm wiring myself every day to do this, right?
01:15:31.120
So it becomes like when I wake up, it starts to happen.
01:15:34.020
And then the third one I call three to thrive, where I think of three things, a minute each,
01:15:38.660
that I want to accomplish or achieve, and I see them as already done.
01:15:45.160
So my reticular activating system, which I can talk in shorthand for you, you understand,
01:15:48.860
if I go and I buy a car and outfit, suddenly you see the car and outfit everywhere.
01:15:57.060
So I wire my RAS for the final victory with the emotion and the impact on my family, my
01:16:10.860
So are like, when you're running these simulations...
01:16:14.960
...you're making the case that you're not only thinking about it in words.
01:16:27.420
Everyone has different synesthesia patterns, as I'm sure you know.
01:16:36.660
Some people stay on one modality, as you know, and that limits you.
01:16:54.640
Because look, there's two worlds you've got to master.
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But I can certainly control what I focus on, what it means to me, what I'm going to do.
01:17:05.360
And so now, when things come in, they bounce off.
01:17:07.780
Now, I might do 60 seconds of grace later in the day.
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Like, take a minute and kind of reignite it if I feel like I need a little boost for it.
01:17:18.220
It's like Venus Williams and her sister, right?
01:17:21.040
They wire themselves by playing since they're so small and doing it.
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You do, again, what you're rewarded for in public is what you practice in private.
01:17:39.900
So I do all that before I get on stage, then I get on stage, and then it flows, and then I feel.
01:17:45.160
And I will work sometimes till two or three or four in the morning, and I have a team around me that are amazing, and they work crazy hours with me, and I'm creating something new, and I lay out.
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And we all laugh about it because we work hard.
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And then I get up that morning and get up on stage, and within five minutes, all that crap's out the window.
01:18:11.460
But like you said, this is the part you understand that most people don't.
01:18:18.080
It's like there's a difference between what people call emotional intelligence and what I would call emotional fitness.
01:18:27.840
You can be capable of being smart and not use your intelligence.
01:18:35.500
And anybody's honest, let's say, yes, I've lied, right?
01:18:38.020
So let's say, you know, whether you show up or not, I look at emotional fitness.
01:18:46.140
So now when I walk out there, my nervous system is wired to serve you in any way that could possibly show up.
01:18:52.600
So you're ready to contend when you go on stage.
01:18:57.020
And you manifested faith in yourself by showing the commitment to the preparation.
01:19:00.960
Plus, you've primed all those stories because one of the things preparation does for me, you know, so I'll have the question in mind.
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And then I think of analytic tools that I can use to interrogate that question.
01:19:13.540
And then I think through the stories, and they're stories I know.
01:19:17.420
And I think through way more stories than I'll use.
01:19:27.960
You may have been raised, look before you leap.
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Someone else taught you, he who hesitates is lost.
01:19:41.220
So many people have great philosophical understanding, but they don't execute.
01:19:46.300
And I'm a big believer that knowledge is not power.
01:19:50.440
Execution dwarfs and trumps knowledge every day of the week.
01:19:54.100
So I am an accelerant for the activation of moving forward, not just the understanding.
01:20:01.200
So that's partly why you put so much stress on the physiological element.
01:20:04.960
But also then it resides in you, not as a thought.
01:20:11.960
When I, after we walk through people through these stages of the process, we do then focus
01:20:21.880
And the strategy is pretty, it's very concretized.
01:20:28.760
I want to lay out the structure of the question and the answer conceptually, but then I want
01:20:33.280
to nail it down to transformations in perception and action.
01:20:39.500
Okay, so tell me how you link the motivational element, the drive element, let's say, to
01:20:46.040
the, so motivation and drive are personalities, by the way.
01:20:50.040
That's a very good way of conceptualizing it because they have a viewpoint.
01:20:56.140
They're not just, they're not just like cause and effect physical sequences.
01:21:04.140
And by the way, this is a really important distinction.
01:21:13.720
And I believe when someone stands up and they've got a problem, what that really is, is an unanswered
01:21:22.200
Because if we solve the question, your problem disappears.
01:21:25.360
But what I also notice is I believe that answer is already inside them.
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01:22:07.520
Men have been the thing that could screw things up.
01:22:11.240
But what it means is that they're more sensitive to environmental disruptions on average.
01:22:19.660
But it isn't necessarily the case that their alarm system, which indicates a problem, is
01:22:28.700
So partly what you're trying to do when you're talking to your wife and she brings you a concern
01:22:33.920
is to find out the question, which is what you just said.
01:22:36.720
There's a problem, but there's a question in that, right?
01:22:38.940
And one of the errors that men make when they're listening to women is that they jump from,
01:22:44.780
they presume the question too rapidly and jump to the solution without allowing the-
01:22:49.440
Or another consideration is they don't want you to solve the problem right now and men
01:23:01.640
And so if you're busy giving the solution, I've made this mistake so many times, Jordan,
01:23:04.960
in the beginning, because I'm wired to give people solutions, as my whole life has been.
01:23:09.960
But for my wife or for any woman, even my daughter, my mother came in earlier and it wasn't about
01:23:19.140
It's about me feeling her and her feeling that I feel her.
01:23:21.920
And that solves it by itself because women get together and oftentimes they don't solve
01:23:26.240
They just say, I can't believe you're going through this.
01:23:29.880
And that nurtures them so they can return to their natural self where they're able to
01:23:37.840
Men are, you know, tend to be single focus, as you well know.
01:23:41.380
They can be here and hearing what's going on with a kid and what's happening to you and
01:23:50.760
And what we need to understand as men is we don't carry that same burden.
01:23:55.920
Women tell us how to be alive because men can go for the target and get there, celebrate
01:24:03.660
So we miss out on that when we make the illusion that we're just going to solve this.
01:24:07.540
It's why not just men and women, all of us have different models of the world, as you
01:24:12.620
And so the more I can understand your model of the world, the more I can support you,
01:24:16.280
love you, influence you in a positive way towards what you want.
01:24:20.300
So to me, to influence another person, you have to know it already influences them.
01:24:33.660
And influence is the ability to shape the thoughts, feelings, and emotions in a positive
01:24:38.080
You can influence in a negative way the quality of someone's life, whether it be your kid,
01:24:42.300
whether it be your friend, whether it has to start with you.
01:24:46.760
So if influence is that, you got to know it influences people.
01:24:57.420
If you're, you know, most people have not a favorite child, but they have an easier child.
01:25:04.680
Well, Michaela was more difficult, but she was ill.
01:25:12.640
Most people tell me, well, I had an easier child.
01:25:15.520
And I said, now, was that child more like you or more like someone else?
01:25:19.260
And they all laugh because the one that had great influence is the one that's more like
01:25:23.880
So, but the real secret to influence is being able to influence anyone by understanding what's
01:25:29.760
Of course, when you tell the child that's like you to clean the room the way that worked for
01:25:33.880
The other one goes read between the lines, right?
01:25:35.940
Because they have a different personality, different way of being.
01:25:38.440
So, my whole focus is enter people's worlds where they are by understanding their model
01:25:44.200
of the world, as opposed to trying to impose yours and wondering why it doesn't go anywhere.
01:25:48.840
If I can align your needs, your desires, your outcomes with what we're doing together in
01:25:54.580
a company, in a family, in anything, then we're going to have enormous harmony and there's
01:26:00.840
So, you're going to go from where you are to where you want to be 10 times faster.
01:26:04.380
You want everybody to be rowing in the same direction.
01:26:11.840
So, I want to talk about, if you would, I want to talk about how you help people translate
01:26:16.800
this aim and energy now that you've established into strategy.
01:26:25.060
So, like, how do you guide people through that process?
01:26:28.260
Because that's, well, that's where the rubber hits the road.
01:26:31.380
Because you've got to get the experience in them.
01:26:33.540
So, I may start, I'm going to raise the energy.
01:26:36.540
I'm going to start to introduce questions and they're rhetorical questions, but you
01:26:42.580
If I say to you, don't think of the color blue, don't think of the color blue, don't
01:26:45.220
think of the blue, we know what color you're going to be thinking about, right?
01:26:47.380
If I want you to think about your mother, I start talking about mine.
01:26:50.740
If I want you to think about your high school years, talk about mine.
01:26:52.740
You'll go in a trance and you'll go to your place.
01:26:54.480
Most change, I find, lasting change always happens in an altered state, an altered state
01:27:03.880
Have you ever seen people go to an elevator and push the button that's already lit up?
01:27:06.760
If you got a dollar for everyone, you'd be rich.
01:27:08.540
Or you're even driving your car and then all of a sudden something gets you fixated and
01:27:12.360
then you wake up and go, who the hell's been driving the car, right?
01:27:16.860
Trance just means you're more internal than external.
01:27:21.240
I let them go to their internal world and enrich their maps.
01:27:24.420
And then once they have an understanding, the cognitive, and they start seeing the emotional
01:27:28.820
consequences, now we have them do something while they're there.
01:27:33.440
I'm able to hold people that length because I believe people want to be entertained first
01:27:42.040
We're drowning in information, starving for wisdom.
01:27:46.420
So I earn the right by entertaining, by making them laugh, cry, move them so much.
01:27:51.740
The people who didn't think they're going to be, the people who came there like this,
01:27:54.280
In a matter of 15 minutes, that's all changed so radically.
01:28:00.760
And now I want to bring them the best insights.
01:28:08.540
Because you just described it as entertainment.
01:28:10.280
Because it produces an emotional change, not just an intellectual one.
01:28:12.700
But why does that make them open to the difficulty of change?
01:28:18.720
Because they get comfortable when you're laughing or trying or moved emotionally.
01:28:24.440
Things are not, you're not hanging, you can't hang on.
01:28:26.280
Is that a matter of establishing something approximating trust?
01:28:31.120
I remember one time, a good friend of mine is now, I've known him for 25 years.
01:28:35.080
Yeah, I was on stage and I go out, there's what you said.
01:28:38.000
And I'm working, in those days, it was the 80s, you wore suit and tie and three-piece suit,
01:28:45.300
And my friend, who was not, wasn't my friend then, he came in and he was, somebody dragged
01:28:49.480
And he goes, I remember looking at you and watching you.
01:28:51.380
And the sweat on your tie was gradually going through, the entire state was soaked.
01:28:59.680
He goes, anyone could think that for an hour or two, but 12 days, he said, that son of
01:29:05.560
a bitch can jump, I can jump and make this thing happen too.
01:29:08.300
And so there is a trust factor that happens there.
01:29:11.480
Right, and that's an indicator, that's, you said, you just said that's a, that's a consequence
01:29:15.200
of the commitment that you're indicating by your, what would you say, your, well, your
01:29:24.060
So it's like they have to do whatever it takes, right?
01:29:25.580
And they get it, they get that I'm there in service of them, that I could do all this
01:29:34.440
And then the answer to your question is, I have them do exercises where they take that
01:29:40.860
Let's say it's matching a mirror and learning how to create rapport unconsciously.
01:29:45.200
I'm sitting next to a stranger they've never met and mirror their body perfectly, have
01:29:49.420
a third person adjust them till they're there and then say, tell me what you're experiencing.
01:29:53.040
And the other person writes down what they're experiencing.
01:29:55.220
And somewhere between 80 and 90% of the time, they will say the same feeling, but about 30%
01:30:02.160
of the time, they'll see what this person is seeing.
01:30:08.520
Because they're tapping into the exact same thing that's happening in the nervous system
01:30:12.460
Now, once you have that experience, you don't forget it.
01:30:15.560
When I do a Q&A with people, because I've met, I don't know how many thousands of people
01:30:21.720
And then I also learned this in my clinical practice.
01:30:24.380
If you watch, first of all, I kind of think of those Q&A lines like a wedding reception,
01:30:34.000
It's a privilege to have anybody to show up to hear what you want to say.
01:30:37.200
And then, well, then they want to stick around and meet you.
01:30:42.760
But, you know, if you watch people carefully, and this is also a way of not being self-conscious
01:30:47.320
or nervous, you see that everybody has a tempo, you know, and I found that if I reach my hand
01:30:53.080
out to shake their hand at their tempo, I immediately establish rapport.
01:30:59.140
And I think it's because I've indicated by something that subtle that I've watched them
01:31:04.080
and I know them as well as I could know them, given that I've only met them five seconds
01:31:12.840
And for your viewers or listeners, you know, there are different modes of the brain.
01:31:16.740
So when you're in a visual state, imagery state, you tend to talk more rapidly, use words
01:31:21.020
like, I see that, I picture that, I imagine that, right?
01:31:23.520
Visual words and this rapid because the picture's with a thousand words.
01:31:27.300
When someone's more in an auditory state, they have a different tempo, a different approach,
01:31:37.060
And for somebody who's in that state, it's great.
01:31:39.260
And then there are people that we get into the kinesthetics of their body.
01:31:42.760
And they're more like, you know, I just don't feel it.
01:31:56.020
I don't, it just, I'm listening, but I just, I'm not hearing it.
01:32:00.060
So by the way, visual people, driven crazy sometimes, like kinesthetic people, we're all
01:32:12.140
But if I don't slow it down for 12 hours, I'll lose a part of the audience.
01:32:16.760
So the same thing, shaking hands, you shake and reach out to shake hands.
01:32:25.120
Somebody is more hesitant and they kind of reach out.
01:32:28.960
I can even know by the way they're approaching me, what language to use that will pull them
01:32:33.840
And we're going to use visual language, auditory, kinesthetic language.
01:32:39.600
You can see if someone's more kinesthetic, what their movements are like versus visual,
01:32:45.200
And when you mirror it, they feel an unconscious connection.
01:32:54.800
When you asked about the audience, when I look at the audience, I'm looking at the audience,
01:32:58.240
I'm looking at people and I'm seeing individuals and I'm talking, people say, it sounds like
01:33:01.540
you're talking directly to me and there are 20,000 people.
01:33:05.060
Well, it's because there's only so many patterns, but I care so deeply.
01:33:07.880
I'm looking, I'm feeling, I'm talking directly to people, but I'm also watching.
01:33:11.740
Because if you watch your audience, there's waves.
01:33:14.940
There's a person there that when they change the leg and flip over, four other people do.
01:33:19.820
And I start seeing the movements in the audience like, okay, boom, I'm going after this guy.
01:33:26.780
So you can identify the people who trigger that, can't you?
01:33:31.640
Like there might be some strapping, you know, guy, like, you know, an athlete, a guy that
01:33:35.200
comes in that's an NFL player and people might be looking at everything else, but they're
01:33:40.420
And then there's this young lady right here and she moves, or this mom, and she moves
01:33:48.340
It just, it also makes you, makes me stay so awake because I have to be right here, not
01:33:55.740
And that's why you can sustain engagement and sustain joy and excitement and everything
01:34:04.600
They're altering their own physiology and biochemistry, and they're focusing on what
01:34:10.320
And they're learning tools there's consequence to, and they get to feel the consequence in
01:34:20.620
So I don't just say, oh, here's how you're going to do financially.
01:34:23.180
I go out and I interview 50 of the smartest financial people on earth, and I teach them their
01:34:29.480
Or like, you know, everybody wants to do well financially and they have more freedom.
01:34:36.540
You can take a child, 19 year old, and say, put $300 aside.
01:34:41.840
Put that $300 aside, put it in the market and the S&P.
01:34:55.460
Their friend starts at 27 when they stop and has to go to 65.
01:35:01.640
The first guy's got $1.8 million in retirement.
01:35:04.220
The second guy who's putting more money in, he's only got $1.2 million in that experience,
01:35:10.040
So today, one of my last books was The Holy Grail of Investing.
01:35:14.420
It's like, I don't just teach you the philosophy.
01:35:20.160
I interviewed Ray Dalio, the greatest hedge fund investor in history.
01:35:26.260
I'm always digging for the strategy too, right?
01:35:28.080
Besides the philosophy, I said, what's the single most important investment principle
01:35:38.620
They went three hours because I got so engaged.
01:35:42.960
But he said, Tony, I'll tell you, there's a holy grail.
01:35:49.100
Anytime you can find eight to 12 uncorrelated investments.
01:35:52.500
In other words, stocks and bonds usually are uncorrelated.
01:35:56.540
If stocks are going up, bonds are less, vice versa, right?
01:35:59.300
If you can find eight to 12 of those, you reduce your risk by 80% and you increase your
01:36:09.680
They do this alternative investment conference.
01:36:16.280
And somebody asked him a very similar question.
01:36:18.400
At least he ended up going back to it and giving the same answer.
01:36:20.740
And I watched all these billionaires who had not taken an ounce of notes, dropping their
01:36:36.660
Now, you and I are lucky enough and blessed enough that we've done well financially and
01:36:43.700
But it's like, where do the wealthiest people put their money?
01:36:46.460
Where they're going to get the most return with the least risk, right?
01:36:49.400
The average person doesn't have access to what they have.
01:36:53.660
If you look at the last 37 years, 37 years of stock markets all over the world, basic
01:37:00.380
private equity has outstripped every stock market in the world for 37 straight years.
01:37:05.220
Private equity means they buy private companies, they build them up, they add value, and then
01:37:10.600
they sell the company for a multiple or they take it public for people who don't understand.
01:37:14.100
That's what I mean by private as opposed to the stock market.
01:37:19.180
If you want to see what wealthy people do, 46% of their assets are on private assets,
01:37:26.780
Because if you look at the Fortune 400, the wealthiest people in the world, here's the
01:37:33.880
It's not tech, which is what a lot of people think.
01:37:38.540
And it's not hedge funds because they go up and down.
01:37:43.640
You put invest your money in the S&P 500, and over the last 37 years, average compounding
01:37:53.460
Basic private equity, not the guys I interviewed for this book.
01:37:57.980
I interviewed the 10, 12 top people in the world, the best guys that have produced returns
01:38:13.520
Basic private equity, not these guys, have averaged 15.7.
01:38:20.440
If you put a million dollars in 30 years ago on the S&P, it's worth $42 million today.
01:38:24.840
If you put a million dollars at the same time, same amount of money in private equity, it's
01:38:28.160
worth $223 million if you did basic private equity.
01:38:32.080
So then I go a step further and go, how do I get people in there?
01:38:35.120
And then I fortunately saw that, right, you probably know there's something called an
01:38:41.500
These levels that the government has where you don't get access to the best investments
01:38:45.060
unless you have a certain amount of money, a million dollars, a certain level of income.
01:38:49.040
Well, it doesn't make sense because how many business people you know are good business
01:38:54.160
people but not great investors or if someone inherited their money?
01:38:57.440
So they don't have these skills, but they get to do this.
01:39:07.260
Congress last year decided, why don't we give people a test they can study for?
01:39:11.960
And if they pass the test, they got the education.
01:39:15.760
Now they can have investments that can grow 50% faster.
01:39:25.940
But the very best of the best, I'm sure you know, they're very hard to get in because
01:39:31.000
The very top people, the people that produce the greatest returns.
01:39:33.900
So I was ruminating about this with a friend of mine who I'd helped, who was a friend of Paul
01:39:38.760
Tudor Jones, I've coached, he's one of the top 10 traders in history, and I've coached
01:39:45.120
But one of his partners broke off and I'd helped him out.
01:39:47.880
He says, Tony, I was saying, you know, I get pieces of these things, but not big enough
01:39:52.980
And I said, I want to help people because there's new rules changing.
01:39:55.420
And I was like, but I don't even want to talk about it because what little slice are
01:40:01.220
And he says, Tony, he goes, you've done so much of my life.
01:40:04.980
I got to tell you where I put most of my money.
01:40:10.360
He goes, there's this place in Houston, Texas, this company.
01:40:13.120
And I'm like, Houston, Texas, not Singapore, not New York, not Connecticut, not London.
01:40:19.540
He said, they've discovered a way where you don't invest in these private equity and try
01:40:24.080
to get a little piece of it, where you literally buy a piece of the company and you own all
01:40:30.260
of those and you get the 2% they charge and 20.
01:40:32.960
So you not only get the compounding I told you about, but you're doing what the wealthiest
01:40:42.860
Imagine the difference between betting on a horse or owning the racetrack.
01:40:48.820
Well, now you take that strategy that you instituted and the compounding of what it does, you end
01:40:58.620
Everything I do has got to be philosophy and strategy.
01:41:02.300
A lot of people teach philosophy and then you understand it.
01:41:04.740
And philosophy helps you to understand the why and have meaning.
01:41:08.920
But if you don't have the strategy, you're not going to execute.
01:41:11.560
And some people teach strategy without philosophy.
01:41:19.120
And so my world is constantly modeling the best.
01:41:24.940
I know most people in the world are not really physically fit.
01:41:32.520
They're not earning what they think they should earn.
01:41:37.860
And I mentioned the few who do versus the many who talk.
01:41:40.380
So I can take their models and bring it to the person who can now be one of the few
01:41:47.260
But then it requires all the things you and I teach.
01:41:49.380
The aim, the peace, the persistence to make that happen.
01:42:00.000
I'm used to doing, for most of my lifetime, these big stadium events.
01:42:17.260
One of our passions is helping kids that have been trafficked.
01:42:21.920
We put in $5 million, but $14 million for the audience.
01:42:29.120
Three days later, I'm on this high and I get the call from Newsom's office saying, by the
01:42:33.860
way, this thing has come about, you can put 100 people in the stadium up here where 14,000
01:42:52.720
So sure enough, we moved 14,000 people, Jordan, to go to Vegas.
01:42:57.140
And about 10 days out, I think it was 11 days out, they shut down Vegas.
01:43:06.980
And a friend of mine has a big church there in Houston.
01:43:11.180
They shut it down nine days before we got there.
01:43:13.940
So then they said, movie theaters, you can put 10 people in the movie theater.
01:43:30.360
And this relates to the event I'm doing is, I would never have done this, Jordan, except
01:43:35.640
That's why I say crisis is one of the greatest gifts in our life, because it produces a necessity
01:43:41.680
If you're going to succeed, if you're going to find a way.
01:43:44.180
And so if you said to me, I'm going to take the energy I have in a stadium and have people
01:43:48.400
do this in their home and their living room, their garage or whoever it is, there's no
01:43:54.640
So I built a studio, 50 foot high ceilings, 20 foot high LED screens, 50 feet around me.
01:44:00.120
I went to the founder of Zoom and I said, I can't have a thousand people.
01:44:06.660
I made it so that we built some software so that people, instead of clapping, could shake
01:44:13.920
Well, if one person doesn't, you don't hear anything.
01:44:15.760
But when 25,000 people do it, it's just like the stadium.
01:44:22.720
And then I can bring people up on the screen bigger than life.
01:44:28.080
People are sitting and I can see them throughout the day as the sun rises and sets because
01:44:33.680
And I can see somebody there in Australia and I can see what's going on.
01:44:37.960
I can say, John Smith, what the hell are you doing?
01:44:39.620
They're sitting on that bed and they jump up because I got their name.
01:44:45.160
And women, some women, the idea of being in a giant audience doesn't feel safe.
01:44:50.100
So for some women, some men, it's actually a better experience for them.
01:44:53.900
So then I was like, okay, I want to help people with this, but they're not going to do this.
01:45:05.600
So I said, let's do a seminar where there's no cost.
01:45:09.380
Let's do a seminar where there's no travel because usually people fly to another country
01:45:14.140
There's no expense for a hotel, none of that stuff.
01:45:17.500
And still immersion, but not enough that freaks them out.
01:45:20.340
We'll do like three hours a day for three days or four days in a row.
01:45:34.060
This last year, it was 1.2 million people attended from every country in the world.
01:45:41.440
My only request is, since you got it for nothing, I need you vested.
01:45:46.080
I want you to do an assignment each night that shows you're acting on this and put a little
01:45:50.880
video or description here on YouTube or on, what do you call it, on social media, on Facebook.
01:45:56.460
And then I'm up all night, Jordan, because I get so inspired by all these different people
01:46:00.840
But then I get to see someone and call them the next day.
01:46:09.040
He would never make it to a seminar because he's in bed for six years with oxygen mask
01:46:13.880
He's told he'll never live without the oxygen mask.
01:46:22.680
He gets so inspired and he did some of the exercise I asked.
01:46:27.640
So I call on him, bring him up to interact with him.
01:46:34.300
You know the hero's journey better than anybody, right?
01:46:36.140
You have this ordinary life and you get that call to adventure.
01:46:41.160
It could sound like your business is shut down by COVID.
01:46:45.160
Doesn't sound like a call to adventure, but that's what it is.
01:46:48.880
And as you know, most people don't take the calls.
01:46:54.240
And then you go on the journey and you meet new people, new friends, and you meet new mentors.
01:46:59.340
And you get past the point of no return where you have to go forward.
01:47:06.960
And you have something real to give people because you've lived it.
01:47:11.180
And then as soon as you're done, it happens again.
01:47:15.920
Instead of waiting for life to show up, I say, have a way to measure are you on the path?
01:47:42.000
Then the second step that we take you through is face the truth, which is what has stopped you in the past?
01:47:48.480
And Jordan, I found relatively there's only a few things, maybe five.
01:48:03.560
It could be an emotion like, you know, overwhelm, stress, something of that nature that keeps you moving forward.
01:48:09.840
You want to lose 30 pounds, but you go to Starbucks and get a smoke and mocha, whatever, every morning.
01:48:18.860
No one taught you what to do in those areas, right?
01:48:22.320
So once you have enough driving desire and reasons and you take on the path, you're on the path now.
01:48:29.360
Second step to keep on the path is knowing what's prevented you.
01:48:32.860
Next step is build a map, a massive action plan.
01:48:36.940
Just what are the two or three things that will get you momentum?
01:48:45.200
I personally like to go with the difficult one first.
01:48:48.660
You go with the most difficult one you're likely to manage.
01:48:53.440
It's your most certainty that you can still find the way.
01:48:55.240
And then step four is you've got to do the hard work.
01:49:01.720
You've got to push through whatever that limiting belief or fear is.
01:49:06.160
Now all you need is a daily practice like priming.
01:49:08.780
And by the way, the priming thing I mentioned, if your audience wants to go there, there's no charge for it.
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You go to TonyRobbins.com forward slash priming, and there's a video that shows you how to do it if you want to do that little 10-minute practice.
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But regardless, you now have some daily practices that keep you on the target.
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Then you measure ruthlessly because you can't manage something you don't measure.
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That's the biggest problem in most businesses, right?
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You know, it's like I'm fortunate now I have literally 114 companies who do $9 billion in business, and I have no business background, only self-educated by studying the best.
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And then just like another one, you start over again.
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So while they're with us, we show them how to increase their energy, what to do to shape their relationship, what to do to shape their career.
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Three hours a day, it's like going to a movie, but the movie's your life.
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They can go to, it's called the Time to Rise Summit.
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It's coming up January 30th, 31st, and February 1st.
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Right, and so that they can see in real time all the things that we discussed today.
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And they only see it, but they can experience it, they can do it, and they can put a plan together for this year instead of some enthusiasm.
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And so we'll put those links in the description as well.
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I think what we'll do, for those of you who are listening, on the Daily Wire side,
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there's been a sea change in the political scene.
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Well, it's not just the political scene, right?
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I'd like to see what you think about it and what you've observed.
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Yeah, so for everybody who's watching and listening who's inclined to join us on the Daily Wire side,
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and for those of you who are already Daily Wire subscribers, join Tony and I there,
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and we'll continue this for, well, the typical half an hour.
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And in the meantime, thank you very much for your time and attention.
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Yeah, we're in your basement tonight, today, which is really quite fun.
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We have ocean on this side, intercoastal on this side.
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And my friends, you know, I had to go drive 20 minutes.
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And if you're nice, it's 20 minutes of pictures.
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And they said, well, you got 25,000 square feet, several acres, but there's no place to put it.
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So we literally are underwater with a submarine surface around us.
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And we've got bowling alleys and all the things for kids and grandkids.
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And in the garage, there's a trap door, which is stainless steel.
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And if you open up the stainless steel trap door, there's a stainless steel slide.
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It's kind of lit up with purple lights, which is very disco-y and comical.
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And it slows you down nicely so you don't land on your tea kettle at the bottom.
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And then you're in this weird, evil supervillain lair, which is extremely comical.
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But I created a structure that creates fun as well.
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This ARC conference that we run, this Alliance for Responsible Citizenship, that's February 17th to 19th, by the way, for those of you who are watching and listening.
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It's the first time we've done this at ARCforum.com.
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One of our rules is that we want to do it with a sense of play.
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You know, one of the things I figured out, I think this is right, is that the antithesis of power, like compulsion and force, is play.
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Yeah, well, it's the kind of power that sustains and improves and requires no compulsion.
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So, everybody can join us on the Daily Wire side for the 30-minute conclusion of this discussion.
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We'll turn our attention to cultural issues and, well, into the current political scene.
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Thanks to all your viewers and listeners for watching and taking the time.
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And to the crew here, thank you very much for setting this up.
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It's very helpful to me and to all the viewers and listeners to have these podcasts made accessible wherever I'm traveling.
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We've got an army of beautiful people here that made this happen.
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They're very enthusiastic and hardworking and that's a precondition for making this successful.