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00:03:46.840Could you please discuss free will and Sam Harris' and others' ideas of its non-existence?
00:03:53.080Well, that's a good complicated question to kick things off.
00:03:55.520So, I want to tell you a little bit about how to conceptualize free will, I think, first.
00:04:00.620Because it's obvious that we don't have infinite free will.
00:04:04.520Our choices are constrained in all sorts of ways.
00:04:08.540And I think part of the reason that there's a continual discussion about free will in the philosophical literature is because
00:04:17.640just conceptualizing the issue properly is extraordinarily difficult.
00:04:23.280So, I like to think about it, at least in part, the way that you think about a game.
00:04:29.000You know, if you're playing a game, obviously the game has rules.
00:04:32.420So, if it's a chess game or a basketball game, then there are things that you can do and things that you can't do.
00:04:38.420And so, it's a closed world in some sense.
00:04:44.520But the fact that there are things you can't do when you play a game also seem to open up a universe of possibilities for things that you can do.
00:04:53.220So, chess obviously constrains you to a board and to a certain number of men and to a certain pattern of rules.
00:04:59.840But the strange thing is, is that when you put in those rules, because rules sound like limits.
00:05:04.820They sound always like things you can't do.
00:05:07.120But when you set up a constrained world like that and you lay out a system of rules, what you do is open up an infinity of, a near infinity of possibilities.
00:05:20.380And if you follow the rules, then you can make an infinite variety of music.
00:05:24.600And so, there's a very interesting dynamic that's hard to understand between constraint and possibility.
00:05:33.560And there's a deep idea that's associated with that that I read in some Jewish commentary on the biblical stories that I read a long time ago.
00:05:43.220Talking about the relationship between God and man.
00:05:45.800And the idea was that God, imagine a being with the classical attributes of God, omniscience, omnipotence, and omnipresence, all-seeing, all-knowing, and all-powerful.
00:06:00.080And obviously, the answer is nothing, right?
00:06:02.200Because, by definition, those three traits provide for absence of limitation.
00:06:08.980But then that's exactly what's lacking, is limitation.
00:06:11.260And there's some strange connection between limitation, and I was saying, say, limitation, that's rule-governed, as I mentioned before, and the opening up of possibility.
00:06:23.400So, that isn't necessarily the case that, now, determinism and limitation aren't exactly the same thing, but they're analogous, and they need to be discussed together.
00:06:32.180Okay, so now, so that's the first thing, is that whatever our free choice is, it isn't limited.
00:06:47.860Now, you see, there's a movement like that, and then my hands stop just before my other hand.
00:06:53.880Now, it takes a certain amount of time for the neural messages to go from my brain to my arm and back, and the time it takes my hand to go like this and stop is actually shorter than the time it takes a message to get to my brain and back.
00:07:09.120So, what that means is that when I plan this movement, which is called a ballistic movement, it's called a ballistic movement because it's like a bullet.
00:07:42.680It looks like there's a temporal gradient with regards to free will is that as you look out into the future, perhaps the farther out you look into the future, the farther down the road, let's say, the more free your choices are.
00:07:56.960But the closer they get to implementation, the more they become deterministic, governed by standard causal processes.
00:08:03.860And there's some transition point where they change from being what we would describe as choice, that we haven't got to free choice yet, but at least to choice.
00:08:13.040There's some transition point between that and ballistic movement.
00:08:16.200Here's another way of thinking about it.
00:08:17.540Like we know, for example, that people who are expert at playing the piano look ahead of where they're playing, and they're doing the same thing.
00:08:27.800They're seeing where they're going, and then they're disinhibiting the automated structures that enable them to play what they've practiced so thoroughly.
00:08:36.720They're disinhibiting those structures, and then they go automatically.
00:08:40.440And then what happens if you make a mistake is that consciousness notes the error and then unpacks the motor sequences that have been practiced.
00:08:48.820And then you repractice them and sequence them again until they become automatic and deterministic.
00:08:54.020So there's choice in that you're reading ahead, but there's no choice in that once you've read ahead and disinhibited the actions, then they run ballistically.
00:09:02.700And then you can think about the same thing that's happening when you're driving in a car.
00:09:06.120You don't look right in front of you when you're driving a car because whatever is right in front of you, if you're going 40 miles an hour or whatever, you've already run over.
00:09:15.040You look a quarter of a mile down the road, and that gives you the opportunity to see what's coming and to set up a sequence of increasingly automated movements that culminate in whatever it is that you're doing while you're driving.
00:09:28.660And so there's a gradation from choice to determinism, a temporal gradation.
00:09:33.320And I don't often see that addressed when people talk about free will.
00:09:39.040Now, Sam's issue with free will is that if you get someone to do something like lift their finger and you scan their brains using a variety of techniques while they're doing that,
00:09:51.300what you'll see is that there's an action potential that emerge.
00:09:55.240And you ask them to voluntarily move their fingers.
00:09:57.140So they're doing it, let's say, by free choice.
00:10:00.220There's an action potential that you can read off the brain that occurs before the person either moves their finger or, let's say, decides to move their finger.
00:10:09.900And that occurs quite a bit before the feeling of voluntarism or that voluntary act.
00:10:15.540And so that's been read by Benjamin Libet, who did the experiments, as indication that even the feeling of voluntary choice is determined.
00:10:24.800But I don't think that that's a very useful way of addressing the issue because the issue of when you lift your finger up, again, is it requires pre-programming to disinhibit.
00:10:41.700So you have a little automated circuit that does this sort of thing.
00:10:44.280All these finger movements and everything, you can see babies practicing them.
00:10:47.880And they develop automated circuitry that tends to be posterior left hemisphere in order to run those automated processes out.
00:10:56.200And what you're basically doing when you decide to do something that's a routine that you've already practiced or made out of subroutines that you've already practiced is disinhibiting them.
00:11:05.920And the degree to which you might regard that as free exactly is unclear, as are the temporal limitations.
00:11:12.840So I don't think that Libet's experiments demonstrate conclusively that there's no such thing as free will, even though there are action potentials that indicate that there is brain activity signaling even the onset of a voluntary choice early.
00:11:30.440Now, another thing that we might look at in relationship to that is, yeah, so we can look at it phenomenologically.
00:11:39.520And we could also look at it in relationship to how people treat one another.
00:11:44.560So phenomenologically, it seems clear that we have free choice.
00:11:48.940And it isn't obvious to me why we have consciousness if free choice isn't real.
00:11:53.220Because consciousness looks to me like a mechanism that deals with potential before it's transformed into actuality, let's say.
00:12:00.380And I think consciousness is also the faculty, so to speak, or a manifestation of the faculty that enables us to pre-program deterministic actions.
00:12:11.440So again, let's think about someone playing the piano.
00:12:14.900You know, after you repeat and you repeat your finger movements if you're playing the piano, any complex motor skill is like that.
00:12:21.140You have to repeat it, repeat it, repeat it, repeat it, and you're using consciousness to program it, to sequence the motor movements, and to pay attention to them.
00:12:29.520That all seems voluntary, and it involves the activation of a tremendous amount of your brain.
00:12:34.520Because if you're doing something new, a lot of your brain is activated.
00:12:37.680And then as you practice it, the amount of brain that's activated decreases.
00:12:43.460It shifts from right to left, and then it shifts from frontal to posterior, and a smaller and smaller area.
00:12:50.620So what's happening is that consciousness is creating little machines in the back of your head that do things in an automated manner.
00:12:58.360And the consciousness looks like consciousness appears and feels, that would be the phenomenological end, as if it's doing that voluntarily.
00:13:11.680And it is associated with a different pattern of brain activity.
00:13:17.580There's the phenomenological reality of voluntary choice and effort as well, because conscious programming of that sort is also effortful.
00:13:25.620It doesn't seem to run deterministically like a clock does.
00:13:28.300And then, finally, there's also, and I don't know what you think about this with regards to evidence, but what constitutes evidence is not always that easy to determine, even in the scientific domain.
00:13:41.560So, think about how we think about ourselves and other people, and how we treat ourselves and other people.
00:13:48.120So, you can imagine that you're like a clock running down, and that's like a deterministic model.
00:13:56.460A clock is something that runs downhill.
00:13:59.160But human beings, you can look up dissipative structure.
00:14:02.780I think that was an idea that was first formulated by the physicist Schrodinger.
00:14:06.840We're not clocks by any stretch of the imagination, and we take energy in, and we disperse energy, and we're anti-entropic in a temporary sense.
00:14:22.200So, that makes us, and life is as well.
00:14:24.800Schrodinger wrote about that in a book called What is Life?
00:14:26.860And we don't, what we seem to do, this is how it looks to me, we don't contend with the present, and we're not driven by the past.
00:14:38.440Instead, what we see in front of us is a landscape of possibility.
00:14:43.340And in my wilder moments, I think that's associated with the physical idea of multiple universes.
00:15:21.940We confront chaotic potential with our consciousness, and we cast that into reality.
00:15:27.240And that, now then you think, well, is that really the case?
00:15:31.880Well, that's hard to say, because there are limits to our knowledge about consciousness and about reality.
00:15:37.240But if you treat yourself like you're a free moral agent with choice and that you can determine the course of your life,
00:15:44.420then you seem to get along better with yourself and to be less anxious and to be more productive.
00:15:49.540And if you treat other people like that, that they're free agents that are making voluntary choices about how reality is going to come into being,
00:15:56.440and you reward them when they do it properly, and you punish them or otherwise discipline them when they don't, when they do it badly,
00:16:04.500then your relationships with them seem to work.
00:16:07.660And then if we predicate our society on the presupposition that each individual human being is capable of doing just that,
00:16:15.880then we seem to have extremely functional societies.
00:16:18.480And so, and this is something that Sam Harris has been taken to task for many times,
00:16:23.400is if you dispense with the idea of free will, how is it you organize your relationship to yourself,
00:16:30.060your interactions with your family, and your relationships with the broader social community?
00:19:15.680And maybe, sometimes, that might even be positive.
00:19:18.020And that's because the chaos within you has manifested itself.
00:19:21.120And you've done something that exceeds the bounds of your understanding.
00:19:24.480And, you know, that can happen to people so badly that they develop post-traumatic stress disorder.
00:19:31.340Sometimes, soldiers, especially naive young soldiers, will go on a battlefield and watch themselves do something they can't imagine they're capable of doing.
00:19:38.800And then, they have permanent post-traumatic stress disorder.
00:19:41.160So, there's a chaos within that can manifest itself, that can disrupt whatever order you are.
00:19:47.640And you know that in minor ways, because everybody's always running around doing things that aren't good for them, that they know they shouldn't do, and that they can't control.
00:19:55.680And so, there's a chaotic and an orderly aspect to everything.
00:19:59.300To the individual, to the family, to the social world, to the natural world.
00:20:03.560It's chaos and order at every level of analysis simultaneously, which is why the Taoists think of the world as made out of yin and yang, which is essentially analogous to the idea of order and chaos.
00:20:15.640And now, but then there's another element, too.
00:21:21.560That's part of what it is, although it's way more complicated than that.
00:21:24.260And you're also the force that confronts order when it becomes too tyrannical and restructures it back to chaos and then restructures the chaos back into more beneficial order, which is what you do, for example, if you have an argument with someone that you settle, right?
00:21:40.540Because the argument takes the orderly relation that you have with that person and then produces a chaotic interlude, which is all the pain that's associated with the argument.
00:21:51.060And that's a dissolution into what Mircea Eliade called pre-cosmogonic chaos.
00:21:56.320And out of that, a new order can emerge.
00:21:58.320And so, the best way to construe yourself is not as chaos or as order, but as the process that mediates between them.
00:22:07.060And that's the basis for the ethos of the West, is that the human being is best represented as the individual.
00:22:14.440And the individual is that attentive and communicative entity that is continually capable of mediating properly between chaos and order.
00:22:39.140You should construe yourself as the process that mediates between chaos and order.
00:22:43.580And you should aim to be the process that does that properly, using truthful communication, because that's how you keep the elements of existence properly balanced.
00:22:53.740And you might say, yeah, but is that real?
00:22:56.380Well, if you read Maps of Meaning, there's a section on neuropsychology that's also buttressed by a book written by Ian McGilchrist called The Master and His Emissary,
00:23:05.920that lays out the relationship between the right and left hemisphere.
00:23:09.980Now, it's quite strange that we have a right and left hemisphere.
00:23:13.200It's almost as if we have two consciousnesses dwelling in our being.
00:23:21.200If you cut the corpus callosum that unites the two, then the two hemispheres will act independently to some degree.
00:23:26.520You can communicate with each of them somewhat independently.
00:23:29.000So they actually view the world quite differently.
00:23:31.440And that hemispheric distinction is not only there in human beings, but also in animals, a long way down the phylogenetic chain.
00:23:37.460Now, I made the claim, partly because I was reading a man named L. Conan Goldberg,
00:23:43.420who was a student of Alexander Luria, the most brilliant neuropsychologist of the 20th century.
00:23:48.060And Goldberg made the case that the left hemisphere is specialized for what's known, and the right hemisphere is specialized for anomaly.
00:24:00.060And F.S. Ramachandran, who's a famous neurologist and MD in California, has also made a very similar claim based on his analysis of brain-damaged individuals.
00:24:10.360But Goldberg's case was the left hemisphere is specialized for what you know how to do, and the right hemisphere is specialized for response to what's unknown.
00:24:18.440And that maps on to this order-chaos dimension, right?
00:24:24.620Now, McGilchrist, in his book, The Master and His Emissary, has pointed out quite clearly that the left hemisphere has a tyrannical tendency,
00:24:32.720which Ramachandran also viewed in his brain-damaged patients, by the way,
00:24:37.280and that the left hemisphere is always trying to impose its logical and restricted order on the world and to make the world fit into that.
00:24:45.500Now, it has to do that. There's reasons for that.
00:24:48.320Part of the reason is that if your theory you've worked on for 10 years makes one prediction error, you shouldn't throw the whole damn thing out.
00:24:55.000You should doubt the prediction error, right?
00:24:57.420Because you never know when your data is actually data or is just another kind of theory.
00:37:19.480Look, when you look at the world, you look at the world with a set of presuppositions.
00:37:23.620I outlined that in Chapter 10 in 12 Rules for Life called Be Precise in Your Speech.
00:37:29.780It indicates that when you look at the world, you look at it through a value structure.
00:37:34.780You can't help that because you're always aiming at something in the world and you're always aiming at something you want and you're trying to get it.
00:37:40.360And so that means that you look at the world through a value structure.
00:37:43.460Now, the question is whether or not that value structure is valid.
00:37:46.380And that's a very complicated question.
00:37:48.880Okay, so how do you know if it's valid?
00:37:50.820Number one, you lay it out and you act it out.
00:37:54.140You implement it perceptually and then you act it out.
00:37:56.800And if you get what you wanted, what the theory predicted, that's another way of thinking about it.
00:38:01.560But wanted is a better way of thinking about it.
00:38:03.440Then the fact that that behavioral routine and perceptual structure produced the intended result validates it as a tool for obtaining that result.
00:38:28.280Pain tells you, pragmatically, your theory was wrong.
00:38:32.040So that's why you should pay attention to your own pain because your suffering is indication that you still have things to learn.
00:38:37.600And maybe the suffering of other people is also that.
00:38:40.060Maybe something unexpected or unpredictable happens when you're laying out your plan and then the anomalous manifests itself, the unexpected or chaos, and then you get anxious.
00:38:50.760Well, anxiety is an indication that your plan, your arrow didn't fly to its mark, so you aimed wrong.
00:38:57.040And that might mean a small error, you know, maybe a tiny adjustment of your bow, or it might mean you just don't know what the hell you're doing at all and everything is lost.
00:39:05.400And so anxiety tells you if your theory is wrong.
00:39:08.980And then other people tell you that, and that's why you want to surround yourself with other people.
00:39:15.280Because you distribute your cognitive resource, you distribute your problems to the cognitive resources of the social group.
00:39:26.400That's what we do when we price things, right?
00:39:28.340Everyone votes on the price of something because it's so difficult, because the price of something has to be established in relationship to the price of everything else, and that's always in flux.
00:39:37.020And so it's a computationally impossible problem.
00:39:40.820And so we outsource it to the market, which is the free cognitive decision of millions of people, and that's how we determine price.
00:39:48.760And so one of the things you do to make sure that you're not any stupider than you have to be, blind, ignorant, biased, and all of that, is you surround yourself with other people.
00:39:57.420And you try to treat them well enough so that they can tolerate you, and then every time that you do something stupid, because one of your theories is vague or incomplete or wrong or biased or you're willfully blind, then they slap you on the side of the head.
00:40:10.320They ignore you because you're boring.
00:40:12.280They don't laugh at your jokes because they're stupid.
00:40:14.260They are irritated at your actions because you're not taking your own long-term interests or the interests of other people into account.
00:40:23.360And so you have pain, you have anxiety, you have the reward of success, that's a positive indicator that your theory is okay, and then you have the reactions of everyone else.
00:40:33.780And if you're clued in, you pay attention to all of those things, and you try to update your order, which is your perceptions, you try to update your order constantly as a consequence of being humble in the face of your errors,
00:40:47.780which is why humility is the precondition for learning and why it's one of the highest moral virtues.
00:40:53.300So, and perceiving reality accurately.
00:40:57.380You don't really perceive reality, and you don't really perceive accurately.
00:41:01.860You perceive small portions of reality, extraordinarily limited in space and time, and accurately means well enough so that when you do what you're doing, it works.
00:41:15.280I mean, you know, I mean, there's lots of other philosophical streams that have influenced my thought.
00:41:20.680Existentialism, phenomenology, to mention two others.
00:41:24.320But the thing is, you can't perceive reality accurately because you don't know everything.
00:41:30.100And you're full of biases, and you're ignorant as hell.
00:41:33.580And so the best you can do is perceive small bits of reality well enough so that you can more or less get what you need in a relatively short period of time without screwing yourself up too badly in the medium to long term.
00:41:58.040Because obviously, because your knowledge is limited and you don't know everything, in some fundamental way, you're ignorant or wrong about everything.
00:42:06.220But that doesn't help because you still have to act in the world.
00:42:14.080If past experiences shape us, oh, no, I missed one, you cite a tired brain, foggy thinking, as the reason to stop answering questions or giving a talk.
00:42:25.700How do you combat this while working or writing daily?
00:42:29.640Well, I eat a big breakfast relatively soon on waking.
00:42:35.360If any of you out there are anxious, and many of you no doubt are, there'll be a large number of you who are anxious and don't eat breakfast.
00:42:42.680And there'll be a whole bunch of you out there who think, well, I don't eat breakfast.
00:42:49.720If you load yourself cognitively or physiologically in the morning, your brain, stressed, will produce, will encourage your body to produce insulin.
00:42:58.980It will take all the blood sugar out of your blood.
00:43:38.120Every time you get anxious, eat something.
00:43:39.640Because then you can find out if your anxiousness, if your anxiety is linked to low blood sugar.
00:43:44.860And it's very likely that it is, especially if you also get irritable and foggy in your thinking.
00:43:50.320And so, and the best way to treat that, as far as I've been able to tell, and there's a decent literature on this, is to make sure that you eat a big breakfast.
00:43:58.200And you might say, well, I'm not hungry in the morning.
00:44:00.360It's like, who the hell cares if you're hungry?
00:45:23.200And make sure you eat protein and fat and not carbohydrates, because carbohydrates are basically poisonous.
00:45:33.020That's about, that's about, and make sure that you get enough sleep.
00:45:35.780So that's how I combat it and try to make myself hyper-efficient, which is also a really interesting thing to try.
00:45:43.020You know, I was talking to my agents at CAA, Creative Artist Agency in LA, and I just hired a publicist, too, to help me manage media in a more intelligent manner.
00:45:52.160And we're trying to think about our overarching philosophy, you know, and I first proposed to the CAA guys that our overarching philosophy would be something like, because you need an overarching philosophy under which you nest all your specific actions.
00:46:05.900It was something like to educate as many people as possible in the shortest period of time, which seems like a really good goal.
00:46:54.640How hard can I work until I exhaust myself?
00:46:57.800And then you back off, obviously, because the optimal amount of working, productive engagement, let's say, is that which is sustainable across decades.
00:47:06.700So you have to learn that, but you don't learn that without stretching yourself to your limits to begin with.
00:47:11.740And, you know, if your life isn't everything it could be, and if you're suffering from an excess of meaninglessness,
00:47:17.080well, it means you're not oriented in the world of chaos and order properly.
00:47:20.780It's like you could learn to discipline yourself.
00:47:23.640Look, figure out what it is that you need to do and that you want to do, and then see how efficient you can get.
00:47:29.080Because one of the things that's quite fun is to figure out, if you have a task, I always tell my graduate students this, if they're doing an experiment, too.
00:47:36.620If you have a task that you have to do, it's really interesting to spend a few minutes, sometimes hours, depending on how long the task is,
00:47:44.200see if you can figure out how to do it from five to ten times faster.
00:47:47.800It means you'll have to rearrange the way you think about it, but you can often do it, and that's how extremely productive people get so hyper-efficient.
00:47:55.180You know, sometimes it means you have to delegate, sometimes it means you have to bring other people aboard.
00:48:01.060But there's a lot of preconceptions that you hold about who you are and who the world is that you could dispense with that would make you a way more efficient actor in the world.
00:48:14.820If past experiences shape us from the moment of birth, how can an action be ever said to be the result of free will, rather than the accumulation of past influences?
00:48:23.000Well, it is in large part the accumulation of past influences, because that's knowledge.
00:48:26.820But I addressed that, I would say, already pretty thoroughly in my discussion of free will.
00:55:08.440What things make you afraid to go back to school?
00:55:11.360Which of those things are stopping you?
00:55:12.900How are you going to overcome those fears?
00:55:14.520So, you take the large-scale vision, which is the place you're headed to in the future, that's the cure, and then you break it down into the strategic elements that are necessary to be implemented on a day-to-day basis.
00:55:26.060And you do that so that they're difficult, but attainable.
00:55:30.200And then the person, if they're not difficult, then they're not worth attaining, obviously.
00:55:35.420Obviously, you're not pushing yourself, and you want the person not only to develop in the direction they're supposed to develop, but you want to get them better at developing.
00:55:42.280So, you want to push them, just like you do with kids or yourself, if you have any sense.
00:55:46.700And so, you break it down into small, implementable, daily processes, and then you review those with your client.
00:55:56.940None of that's wallowing in self-pity, man.
00:56:10.620How are you going to learn to overcome the frightening and unexpected things that are going to pop up at you when you implement that strategy?
00:56:17.840So, and those can be, some of those things can be the natural world.
00:56:49.800They're not there to make, to feel sorry for you.
00:56:52.120They are there to be on the side of the part of you that's aiming up and to encourage you and to allow you to have a space where you can lay out your thoughts using your free speech.
00:57:03.680To think where you can lay out your thoughts about what's wrong with you and how that might be set right.
00:57:09.340It's nothing to do with wallowing in self-pity.
00:57:11.300I don't want to calculate high-resolution utopia for myself only to have it squandered by fortune.
00:57:18.580How do I ensure the meaning I experience is self-determined?
00:57:22.100Well, you can't because there's an arbitrary element to existence.
00:57:26.520So, it is going to be squandered to some degree by fortune.
00:57:32.460Just sit back on your laurels and wait for things to roll over you?
00:57:35.280So, what you do, look, the hero myth basically says, go out there, confront the dragon, get the gold, share it with the community, and live properly.
00:57:47.420Or it says, the alternative is, face the tyrant, enter the desert as a consequence because everything falls apart, recast structure, find the promised land.
00:57:59.100Those are the two elements to the hero myth.
00:58:31.600And this is something I found so useful about the biblical stories, especially about the Abrahamic stories, which I didn't know that well until I lectured about them last year.
00:58:39.200You know, God calls people to the adventure of their lives.
00:58:42.500And so, you could say, in part, God is that force within you which calls you to the adventure of your life.
00:58:48.120And it says, get away from your family, get away from your blind and unconscious comfort, and get the hell out there in the world.
00:58:54.760Well, God calls Abraham out from his fathers, where he stayed far too long, and from his kin, where it's secure.
00:59:00.240And, like, the first thing he encounters is a famine, and then he encounters a tyranny inhabited by people who want to steal his wife.
00:59:07.000It's like, you think, well, Abraham should have just stayed in bed and ignored God, obviously.
02:34:53.800well you know there are other avenues to meaning right I mean that's that's the
02:35:01.800first thing to realize is that there are there's intimate relationship there's
02:35:06.800familial relationships that aren't in accordance with children there's other
02:35:11.800people that you can serve there are other children that you can serve so what
02:35:15.800you have to do because intimate relationships are so important and I'm
02:35:20.800including that close familial I'm not talking about sexual relationships I'm
02:35:24.800talking about very close social relationships the thing about having
02:35:27.800children if you're lucky is that you have a relationship there of a depth that
02:35:32.800you don't get anywhere else with the possible exception of your parents and
02:35:36.800siblings and your partner but there's something about the child relationship
02:35:40.800that's even more fundamental because the thing about having a child is that if
02:35:45.800you have any sense as soon as you have a child you are no longer the most
02:35:48.800important person right you're no longer the person that you have primary
02:35:52.800responsibility for it's now your child and that produces a psychological
02:35:55.800transformation and it produces a relationship of a depth that can't be
02:35:59.800easily duplicated elsewhere but it's not like that's the only thing that there
02:36:02.800is to do in life you know there there are other relationships and I would say
02:36:08.800what you do is you foster them to the degree that that's possible and maybe you
02:36:12.800can find other kids to serve you know there's always the possibility of
02:36:15.800volunteering for hospitals or or or or working in places where children need
02:36:20.800service so that's a possibility as well and so you've you know there are there
02:36:26.800are a variety of sources of meaning in people's lives and they're not unlimited
02:36:31.800you know there's career there's education there's what you do that's
02:36:34.800meaningful meaningfully engages you outside of work there's your social
02:36:37.800relations your friends and so forth and so maybe you have five legs to stand on and
02:36:42.800you missed one because you didn't have kids or maybe you missed two because kids
02:36:46.800are a big deal but that doesn't mean the rest of them aren't accessible to you and
02:36:50.800so you optimize your functioning along the dimensions that are left to you and
02:36:54.800then I would also say maybe you try to forgive yourself a little bit you know
02:36:59.800like it's very difficult to go through life without without regrets without making
02:37:05.800mistakes you know and you can't beat yourself to death for it because then
02:37:08.800everyone would beat themselves to death all the time and so you think well
02:37:13.800that's that's I'm I'm too soon old and too late wise to use an old cliche and
02:37:21.800you think well that's the lot of mankind we learn things too late often and
02:37:25.800that's too bad and you forgive yourself because you're stupid and you don't know
02:37:29.800what you're doing and you're unwise just like everyone else and maybe you're
02:37:32.800somewhat capable of learning if you're careful and then you go out and you try to
02:37:36.800foster relations and do good in the world to the degree that you can outside of the
02:37:41.800necessity of of children and maybe you have nephews nieces and you can lavish
02:37:46.800some attention on them and and find your substitute where you can but I would say
02:37:51.800to forgive yourself is a big part of that it's like people make mistakes man big
02:37:55.800mistakes and the people that I've watched through life that have been successful
02:37:59.800it's not like they didn't make mistakes because everyone makes mistakes and they do
02:38:03.800things they regret and they miss opportunities and it's a bloody catastrophe
02:38:07.800but they treat themselves with some degree of mercy along with the justice it's
02:38:12.800like yeah well I screwed up there and I'm gonna try to learn and I'm not gonna do it
02:38:16.800again but I'm not gonna beat myself to death so that I can't get up again and so
02:38:21.800you do what you can to forgive yourself you know it's a confusing time to live in in
02:38:25.800many ways because we have the birth control pill now and that means
02:38:29.800reproduction has now become voluntary well when's a good time to reproduce well
02:38:34.800never because who would ever think about doing that it's so ridiculously
02:38:40.800irrational and complicated and the burden of responsibility is so insanely high
02:38:44.800and you're never secure enough to to have the proper place to bring children
02:38:48.800into the world and you have to get your career going in your and your intimate relationship
02:38:54.800and maybe you have some struggle doing that and one day you wake up and it's a
02:38:57.800bit late it's like yeah well you're a product of your time and one of the prices
02:39:04.800that we're going to pay for having birth control for having reliable
02:39:09.800contraception is that some people are going to make the wrong decision with regards
02:39:14.800to having children and then you view yourself as a product of your time and
02:39:18.800that's a catastrophe you know because to be a product of your time is in some ways a
02:39:22.800catastrophe so but there's other things to do in life and and auguring yourself
02:39:29.800into the ground with regret and and and and self recrimination is not useful
02:39:36.800right I mean you have to learn your lesson you have to take your lumps all of that
02:39:40.800um but have some mercy you know that's it
02:39:49.800you have said that the only moral absolute is always to tell the truth
02:39:52.800what if you have Anne Frank in the attic and the Gestapo at your on your doorstep
02:39:56.800then I would say that there has been a lot of lies that have got you to that point
02:40:00.800so you may be in a situation where you're damned if you turn right and you're damned if you turn left
02:40:06.800and what that means is you made a lot of mistakes along the way
02:40:10.800you know so if the totalitarians are knocking at your door if the totalitarians are knocking on everyone's door
02:40:15.800that means everyone should have spoke up a lot sooner
02:40:18.800and then they wouldn't end up in a situation where the Gestapo was at the door
02:40:22.800and Anne Frank was in the out is it was in the attic
02:40:26.800so you're now and then you end up in a situation where you've made so many mistakes that all you've got is hell around you
02:40:32.800and that was certainly the case in Amsterdam Sayre and in in when the Nazis came in
02:40:38.800I mean the Dutch are an admirable people and I know they were invaded by the Nazis and that was a terrible thing
02:40:43.800but many many many many many people made many terrible moral errors for all of that to occur
02:40:49.800and you have to be awake and do everything you can to make sure your society doesn't this is the answer
02:40:54.800you be awake and you make sure everything your society does doesn't lead to the point where the Gestapo is at your doorstep
02:41:01.800and you have Anne Frank in the attic it's a little late to be thinking then I would say
02:41:06.800why have confidence in an opinion when it could be wrong well partly because it could be right you know and that's why it's better to think about opinions as tools
02:41:23.800you know or maybe just dispense with opinions altogether because who cares about your stupid opinion
02:41:29.800but what you want is tools to work in the world and you think well I have a tool and it might work
02:41:34.800so like let's say that you're going in to negotiate with someone while your your toolkit is your conceptual
02:41:39.800the conceptual structure and the habits that you have that enable you to construe the situation and to conduct the negotiation
02:41:45.800well you have to have confidence that your that your toolkit is appropriate or you wouldn't go out there and test it
02:41:52.800and you say well I might be wrong it's like yeah but you're not going to learn if you're wrong
02:41:55.800unless you go out there and test it so you have to have provisional