The Matt Walsh Show - December 14, 2023


Ep. 1278 - It's Time To Hold The Biden Crime Family Accountable


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1 hour and 4 minutes

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168.00618

Word Count

10,877

Sentence Count

758

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

27


Summary

In 2018, Jerry Nadler was about to become the chairman of the House Judiciary Committee when a conservative journalist overheard him on a phone call with someone who remains unknown to this day. The conversation he had with someone named Molly Hemingway would change the trajectory of the investigation into Joe Biden.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Hey, the Matt Walsh Show. Democrats are crying foul as Republicans open an impeachment inquiry
00:00:04.140 into Joe Biden, but they're really just complaining about finally getting a taste of their own
00:00:07.520 medicine. Also, the mayor of Boston throws a Christmas party where no whites are allowed.
00:00:11.820 The White House confuses and disturbs the nation with its bizarre holiday video.
00:00:15.720 Jada Pinkett Smith is back at it, publicly embarrassing her husband once again.
00:00:19.020 And a popular YouTuber discovers why open marriages are a terrible idea. All of that
00:00:23.260 and more today on The Matt Walsh Show.
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00:01:50.220 Shortly after the 2018 midterms, Jerry Nadler, who was about to become the chairman of the House
00:01:56.140 Judiciary Committee, boarded in a Sella train from New York to Washington. And when he got to his seat,
00:02:00.820 he began loudly speaking on the phone with someone who remains unknown to this day. Unfortunately for
00:02:05.660 Nadler, though, the editor-in-chief of the conservative website, The Federalist, Molly Hemingway,
00:02:10.000 was seated nearby, jotting down notes about the whole conversation. And Hemingway overheard Nadler
00:02:15.800 outline, in no uncertain terms, Democrats' plans for going, quote, all in on investigating and
00:02:21.420 ultimately impeaching Donald Trump. It was much more important for Democrats to impeach Donald
00:02:25.460 Trump than Brett Kavanaugh, Nadler said at the time, because going after Kavanaugh might remind voters
00:02:30.500 of Joe Biden's disastrous handling of Anita Hill's sexual harassment allegations against Clarence Thomas,
00:02:35.820 and that could harm Joe Biden's chances of becoming president. So Nadler said the safe play was to
00:02:40.820 impeach Donald Trump for colluding with Russia, which is an accusation that Jerry Nadler has never had
00:02:45.280 any evidence to support, because it's totally made up. Now, if Democrats went with that strategy,
00:02:50.580 Nadler said on the phone at the time, it would clear the way for a Joe Biden presidency.
00:02:54.940 Now, in one sense, what Molly Hemingway overheard wasn't surprising. More than a year earlier,
00:03:00.420 just minutes after Donald Trump was inaugurated, the Washington Post announced that, quote,
00:03:03.760 the campaign to impeach President Trump has begun. But in retrospect, Jerry Nadler's remarks on the
00:03:09.660 train back in 2018 didn't just foreshadow Donald Trump's two impeachments or the presidency of Joe
00:03:14.800 Biden. They also established the blueprint for how leftists would treat all political investigations
00:03:20.440 moving forward. They have no interest in the evidence. They don't care about the law. Their
00:03:25.700 goal instead is to use the force of the legal system to punish their enemies. This was a shift
00:03:31.300 that was much bigger than Jerry Nadler. The same year that Nadler made those remarks on the Acela,
00:03:36.080 Letitia James was campaigning to become New York's attorney general, and she said pretty much the same
00:03:40.720 thing. She promised to find some way to take Donald Trump to court, however implausible it may be.
00:03:46.980 And, well, she found a way. Now, one of the many problems with this strategy is that it's
00:03:51.720 short-sighted. Democrats failed to ensure that they would hold on to political power forever.
00:03:57.360 That's certainly their goal. It's the entire justification for their immigration policy.
00:04:02.460 They haven't achieved it yet. So right now, Republicans are in control of the House of
00:04:06.740 Representatives. And yesterday, they announced their own impeachment inquiry, and they're looking
00:04:11.340 primarily at whether Joe Biden sold favors to overseas interests, particularly in Ukraine and
00:04:16.300 China. Now, in a moment, I'll go into some of the evidence that justifies this inquiry, and there's
00:04:20.900 plenty of it. But really, we don't have to go into all that, because once Jerry Nadler adopted the
00:04:27.040 Stalinist standard for impeachment, basically show me a man and I'll show you the crime, evidence
00:04:32.500 became moot. Impeachment is all about raw political power now. It's not about evidence.
00:04:38.700 Certainly not about fairness or rule of law or any of that. The White House and the Biden family
00:04:43.520 know all of this. That's why they're not even pretending to defend themselves. Hunter Biden went
00:04:49.140 in front of the cameras and announced that he's not going to comply with the congressional subpoena
00:04:53.200 that he was served. He's just not going to do it. Watch.
00:04:56.300 It's already been a five-year investigation of me. Yet, here I am, Mr. Chairman, taking up your offer
00:05:07.660 when you said we can bring these people in for depositions or committee hearings, whichever they
00:05:14.320 choose. Well, I've chosen. I am here to testify at a public hearing today to answer any of the
00:05:22.920 committees legitimate questions. Republicans do not want an open process where Americans can see
00:05:33.060 their tactics, expose their baseless inquiry, or hear what I have to say. What are they afraid of?
00:05:44.100 I'm here. I'm ready.
00:05:51.700 Hunter, are you willing to go across the street?
00:05:53.160 Why not testify now, sir? Why not testify now?
00:05:58.140 So Hunter Biden received a lawful subpoena for closed-door testimony, same kind of subpoena that
00:06:03.440 Donald Trump Jr. and many other Trump aides were forced to comply with for hours on end. But he just
00:06:08.880 doesn't want to do it, so he refuses. And his justification for refusing is completely absurd.
00:06:14.100 There's no legal basis for it. Hunter Biden isn't even pretending there is one.
00:06:19.280 Instead, he's saying that he wants to testify in front of the news media instead of a closed-door
00:06:23.600 session. It's just his preference. And he seems to think that his preference is somehow Biden-ing
00:06:29.480 on Congress. It was just a couple years ago that former Trump advisor Steve Bannon
00:06:33.700 defied a congressional subpoena. And unlike Hunter Biden, he had reason for doing so. He argued that it
00:06:39.080 was unlawful for Congress to compel him to testify about his work in the White House, citing
00:06:43.700 executive privilege. Now, whatever you make of that defense, it's clearly rooted in the law. There
00:06:49.560 is a legal reason for it. And it's working its way through the federal appellate process as we
00:06:54.100 speak. But what happened to Steve Bannon because he asserted that defense? Well, he was sentenced to
00:06:59.860 four months in prison. Watch.
00:07:01.860 Good morning. And thank you so much for being here with us on Live Now from Fox. My name is Christy
00:07:07.200 Larson. And we have some big news to report here to you today. Steve Bannon, a longtime ally of
00:07:13.400 former President Donald Trump. He's been sentenced to serve four months behind bars after defying a
00:07:20.040 subpoena that was from the House Committee investigating the January 6th insurrection at the U.S.
00:07:25.900 Capitol. A judge allowed Bannon to stay free pending appeal and also imposed a fine of $6,500
00:07:32.660 as part of the sentence. Now, Bannon was convicted in July for two counts of contempt of Congress for
00:07:40.380 refusing to sit for a deposition and the other for refusing to provide documents. U.S. District
00:07:47.820 Judge Carl Nichols handed down the sentence after saying the law was clear that contempt of Congress
00:07:53.300 is subject to a mandatory minimum sentence of at least one month behind.
00:07:58.320 Okay, so the question is, is that going to happen to Hunter Biden? As of now, congressional
00:08:01.500 Republicans are threatening to hold him in contempt of Congress, which they obviously should.
00:08:06.380 But then there's the question of whether Joe Biden's DOJ will pursue criminal charges. Will they
00:08:10.280 throw Hunter Biden in prison for this? Will they demand that he testify under oath about his father's
00:08:16.160 involvement in his business? That's an open question. Right now, the DOJ is pursuing charges
00:08:21.840 against Hunter Biden about his fraudulent gun form and his tax evasion. But those charges don't
00:08:26.780 directly relate to the main issue in this impeachment inquiry, which is where Hunter Biden got all of
00:08:30.940 his money from. And more importantly, Joe Biden's involvement in procuring that money. Now, yesterday,
00:08:37.640 a reporter at Fox asked the White House press secretary about all of this, and she proceeded to
00:08:42.580 make it clear that Joe Biden knew that Hunter would defy the congressional subpoena. And beyond that,
00:08:47.960 you know, she just made light of the whole situation. It's all a big joke. Watch.
00:08:52.900 He said that President Biden was familiar with what his son was going to say on Capitol Hill.
00:08:59.200 If I called my dad and said, I am about to violate a congressional subpoena, he'd probably say,
00:09:05.720 son, you shouldn't do that. Was there any attempt by President Biden to talk Hunter out of it today?
00:09:11.460 You're going to call your dad Steve?
00:09:13.360 I'm dad, usually.
00:09:14.340 Look, I don't have anything else to add. The president was familiar with what Hunter was
00:09:24.320 going to say today. And, you know, look, he's proud of his son. He and the First Lady are proud
00:09:32.180 of his son, how he's rebuilding his life back. He's going to focus on what is needed on the American
00:09:37.480 people. Hunter, and I've said this many times, is a private citizen. And so certainly I would have
00:09:42.720 to refer you to his representatives. I'm just not going to get into private conversations because
00:09:48.920 what you're asking me is actually a private conversation. I'm just not going to.
00:09:53.120 Now, this is the kind of question that should be extremely easy to answer. If you're asked
00:09:56.600 whether the president told his son to defy a congressional subpoena, you should be able
00:10:00.980 to respond and explain yourself. Instead, the White House press secretary cracks a joke and starts
00:10:06.040 talking about how much Joe Biden loves his son and is proud of his crackhead son.
00:10:09.560 What this means almost certainly is that Joe Biden did advise his son to defy the congressional
00:10:14.460 subpoena without any legal basis whatsoever, because if he didn't, then you would just say
00:10:17.960 that. Under the standards Democrats established with Steve Bannon and several other Trump aides,
00:10:23.320 that's a crime. You should go to prison for it. And there's an obvious motive for why Joe Biden
00:10:27.760 would want his son to commit this crime. Hunter Biden himself made that motive very clear during
00:10:33.400 his remarks to reporters yesterday. Watch. Let me state as clearly as I can, my father was not
00:10:40.800 financially involved in my business, not as a practicing lawyer, not as a board member of
00:10:46.800 Burisma, not in my partnership with a Chinese private businessman, not in my investments at
00:10:53.000 home nor abroad, and certainly not as an artist. So did you catch the qualifier there? Hunter wants
00:10:59.540 you to know that his father was not financially involved in his business dealings with corrupt
00:11:03.740 oligarchs in Ukraine and China. So this is not a denial that Joe Biden was involved in Hunter
00:11:08.520 Biden's business dealings in general. It's a denial that Joe Biden was financially involved.
00:11:14.440 This is a very different claim from the one that Joe Biden has been making for years. Let's remember
00:11:19.340 that again. Watch. How many times have you ever spoken to your son about his overseas business
00:11:25.680 dealings? I've never spoken to my son about his overseas business dealings. I have never discussed
00:11:30.360 with my son or my brother or anyone else anything having to do with their businesses, period. And what I
00:11:38.060 will do is the same thing we did in our administration. There will be an absolute wall between personal and
00:11:44.520 private and the government. Do you stand by your statement that you did not discuss any of your
00:11:50.920 son's overseas business dealings? Yes, I stand by that. Okay, so we went from I didn't talk to my son at
00:11:56.800 all about this. There was no conversation to well, I wasn't financially involved. And the reason for this
00:12:03.100 change is that the Biden family knows that they can't deny a direct link between Joe Biden's between Joe
00:12:07.740 Biden and Hunter Biden's influence peddling operation. Devin Archer, one of Hunter Biden's business
00:12:12.820 associates, has already testified in front of the House of Representatives saying that Joe Biden
00:12:16.640 spoke with Hunter Biden's business partners roughly 20 times. Now, those conversations, according to
00:12:21.660 Archer, took place while Joe Biden was the sitting vice president of the United States. The Wall Street
00:12:27.920 Journal also reported that Archer testified that, quote, Burisma would have gone out of business if it
00:12:32.220 didn't have the Biden brand attached to it. Burisma is the Ukraine oil company that paid Hunter Biden
00:12:36.340 tens of thousands of dollars a month for a no-show job, despite Hunter Biden having no oil expertise
00:12:41.420 whatsoever. Burisma was being investigated by Ukraine's attorney general up until Joe Biden
00:12:45.960 threatened to withhold money to Ukraine's government until they fired him. And then there's the fact
00:12:50.700 that Joe Biden used a fake name to email with Hunter Biden's business partners. There's also the many
00:12:57.340 public comments of Tony Bobulinski, the Hunter Biden business partner who has repeatedly said that Joe
00:13:02.180 Biden personally profited from Hunter Biden's influence peddling. Bobulinski, who had no reason to lie
00:13:08.300 whatsoever, told Tucker Carlson that Joe Biden was the, quote, big guy referenced repeatedly in emails
00:13:13.280 on Hunter Biden's laptop. The big guy, according to the emails, was slated to receive 10 percent of
00:13:18.540 the profits from one business venture in China. Now, it's important to recount all this because even
00:13:24.540 now, Democrats are claiming that there are no witnesses to support the idea that Joe Biden could
00:13:29.860 possibly be corrupt. Here's AOC, for example. That not only is the committee not allowing Hunter
00:13:36.020 Biden to testify publicly, but they have not called a single witness, a single first-hand witness
00:13:45.000 to any of their allegations. They haven't allowed anybody to testify publicly because they do not
00:13:52.360 have a single witness to any of their alleged allegations. They don't.
00:14:00.320 So there are no witnesses except for the witnesses. This is how the left plans to respond to the
00:14:04.960 congressional investigation into Joe Biden. They'll deny reality. They'll pretend that witnesses don't
00:14:09.020 exist, even when those witnesses have appeared before Congress and on primetime television.
00:14:14.940 They'll make fun of you, as Karen Jean-Pierre did yesterday. All this was foreseeable when Jerry
00:14:20.220 Nadler, Letitia James, and other top Democrats decided to use the legal system and the impeachment
00:14:25.500 process to punish their political opponents. It was inevitable that soon enough, they'd be forced
00:14:30.560 to admit that they can't possibly live up to their own non-existent standards. Just five years after
00:14:35.260 Jerry Nadler's conversation on that Acela, that moment is here now. Conservatives can either take
00:14:41.800 advantage of it, or they can do what they usually do. They can make a big show for the cameras and
00:14:46.880 completely fail to follow through. It's clear that Karen Jean-Pierre and Hunter Biden, that's what they
00:14:53.560 think is going to happen. Total lack of follow-through. They don't believe that their political enemies are
00:14:58.220 anywhere near as ruthless and cynical as they are. And I think for once, it's time for conservatives to
00:15:04.520 prove them wrong on that point. Now let's get to our five headlines.
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00:16:10.420 topic of Joe Biden's White House, I think now's an appropriate time. It's our top headline of the day,
00:16:16.760 so the White House just released whatever this is. Jill Biden posted it, and it's some kind of
00:16:25.520 Christmas dance thing that was performed at the White House. And if you're just listening to the
00:16:32.080 audio podcast, you will be deprived or be spared anyway, however you look at it, from the visuals
00:16:38.680 here. But let's just watch a little bit of this Christmas performance thing that Jill Biden
00:16:44.700 apparently put together at the White House, and here it is.
00:17:14.700 Okay. That's probably enough of that.
00:17:44.700 It goes on for like 14 hours. It doesn't stop. And it's the worst thing I've ever seen in my life.
00:17:52.180 So thank you for that, Joe Biden. I mean, Biden should be impeached just for that. Like that's,
00:17:57.200 there should be impeachment proceedings just based on what you saw there. And I don't even know,
00:18:01.860 what's the idea? Like, what's the inspiration? Are you trying to combine like the nutcracker
00:18:07.860 and eyes wide shut? Is this what like Christmas looks like on Epstein Island?
00:18:14.820 You know what? Watching that, I felt like I had just been selected for the Hunger Games,
00:18:20.780 and they were being held this year by the Who's down in Whoville.
00:18:24.600 It's like that. If Santa was having a bad acid trip, it would look like that, is what I'm trying
00:18:31.960 to say. I felt like I was being haunted by the ghost of gay Christmas. And this is why I prefer
00:18:39.500 tradition. Okay, this is the point. I'm a traditional man. I prefer traditional things.
00:18:44.780 And that's not a simple closed-mindedness. It's that traditions are traditions for a reason.
00:18:51.860 Like they're time-tested. People have enjoyed them for generations. And so there's, you have
00:18:58.880 like the testimony of your ancestors supporting traditions. I think, who is it that traditions are,
00:19:06.840 it's like the, it's the democracy of the dead. C.S. Lewis, I think, or G.K. Chester.
00:19:11.300 Um, so, Christmas time, I don't need some dystopian jazz fusion Christmas thing. How about
00:19:24.960 you get a choir together, and they stand outside the White House, and they sing Christmas carols?
00:19:33.040 That would be nice. I would like that. I would actually watch that. That would be the only,
00:19:37.760 like, Jill Biden tweet that I'd be, I would, I would, I'd watch it. Who doesn't like a good
00:19:41.760 Christmas carol? Have them sing, um, Silent Night, Hark the Herald, Angels Sing, um, you know,
00:19:49.500 Away in the Manger. O Come, O Come, Emmanuel, really, because that's an Advent. I mean, we are still
00:19:55.980 in Advent. So, if you want to be a stickler, you say there shouldn't be any Christmas, I'm not a
00:20:00.880 stickler like that, but that's what you could do. Um, you can't get any, you can't get better than
00:20:08.980 that. That's the thing. You can't improve on that. This is, it's the same thing at churches around
00:20:14.840 Christmas time. Like, I've never seen anything that bad at a church on, you know, you go to
00:20:19.280 Christmas Mass. I've, I've never seen that. Um, but you go to a lot of churches now, and they try to
00:20:25.920 do modern interpretations on old Christmas hymns, and it's just never, it never works. The most you
00:20:33.840 could hope for is a, is a pale imitation. Uh, but usually you end up with something like that, which
00:20:40.500 is just bizarre and horrifying. And, uh, and, uh, it, it, but it could, you know, it could have been
00:20:48.260 delightful. Just a Christmas carol is delightful. Even an old Grinch like myself would appreciate
00:20:54.140 that. All right. Um, Fox News has this report. Boston's Democratic mayor has come under fire after
00:21:01.740 she sent out invitations for a holiday party intended only for minority city councillors. Michelle Wu,
00:21:09.180 the city's first Asian American mayor, recently had her aide, Denise DeSantos, send out an email
00:21:14.760 for the event. Email said, honorable members, on behalf of Mayor Michelle Wu, I accordingly invite
00:21:20.240 you, you and a guest to the Electeds of Color Holiday Party. That's what the email said. The city
00:21:27.880 leader quickly drew criticism after it became apparent, apparent that the email was sent to all
00:21:31.660 city councillors, seven of whom are white. The invitation was meant only for the city's six
00:21:36.920 councillors of color. Fifteen minutes after the email was sent out, DeSantos apologized and clarified
00:21:42.420 that the invitation was only meant for minority city councillors. So just to be clear, she was not
00:21:48.480 apologizing for having a racially segregated holiday party where whites were not invited. She was only
00:21:53.960 apologizing for sending them the invitation. The apology was, oh, sorry, you, you white devils
00:22:00.280 weren't supposed to get that. Apologies. DeSantos said, I wanted to apologize for my previous email
00:22:06.940 regarding a holiday party for tomorrow. I did send that to everyone by accident. I apologize if my
00:22:11.520 email may have offended or came across as so. Sorry for any confusion this may have caused.
00:22:18.360 Now, it's not that the invitation that's offensive, it is the party itself that is racially segregated.
00:22:24.640 The revelation about the holiday party quickly received responses from Boston City Council.
00:22:31.480 Outgoing City Councilor Frank Baker, a white man, called the mayor's exclusion of certain members
00:22:35.860 unfortunate and divisive. Citing recent tensions on the city council, Baker did not speculate about
00:22:41.660 the reasoning behind the mayor's decision to host the party, but said he did not think it was a good
00:22:45.700 move. Black City Councilor Brian Worrell held a different opinion and defended the invitation,
00:22:52.360 suggesting the holiday party was merely a way to represent all kinds of special groups.
00:22:57.760 Oh, like that makes it better. No, no, no, this is just for special groups.
00:23:01.620 Now, you don't understand. We get to be at this holiday party because we're special,
00:23:04.700 because we're black, and you're not. So that's all. Nothing to be upset about.
00:23:10.760 Five-term Boston City Councilor Michael McCormick said the party was not typical of the mayor's office
00:23:16.760 and said former city leaders would have invited the entire chamber, not just the black ones.
00:23:24.880 That was me. That last part was my own editorial. Okay, so first of all,
00:23:31.180 this is not the most outrageous aspect here, obviously, but I can't quite move past the phrase
00:23:36.520 electeds of color. You know, that's the most offensive thing about this to me,
00:23:41.700 even more than the racism. Electeds of color. Like, what is, nobody speaks like that. Okay,
00:23:49.760 nobody, nobody, and this is actually a good thing about leftists, good for us, I mean, bad for them,
00:23:54.540 but it's an advantage that we have in fighting against these people is that they're hamstrung
00:24:01.080 by the fact that they insist on speaking in ways that no human being actually speaks.
00:24:05.760 Like, I was just reading an article on the Daily Wire about a new book about Hillary's failed
00:24:11.000 campaign in 2016, and some of the Democrat insiders interviewed for the book complained
00:24:17.620 about this fact. They said that, you know, Democrat politicians like Hillary, they use phrases and
00:24:23.600 words that normal people never use, and that's not because the Democrats are so smart, and they have
00:24:29.120 such a big vocabulary, and they're using big words that us normal dumb people don't know.
00:24:33.600 No, it's that they make up, they invent their own language, essentially, and it's intentionally
00:24:42.480 exclusionary, which makes them sound out of touch. It's like, it's intended to make them sound out of
00:24:51.100 touch, which is fine. I'm glad they're doing that to themselves. Again, it gives us an advantage.
00:24:56.460 Electeds of color. I mean, can you imagine how bizarre that would sound if some normal person
00:25:01.580 in conversation actually used that phrase? Like, if you were talking to a normal person,
00:25:06.360 and they said, yeah, I was out at the state capitol yesterday, and I saw some electeds of
00:25:09.540 color walk by. You'd say, what? You saw what? What? And by the way, this is something that,
00:25:18.640 for all of their flaws, Republicans don't actually really do this. You know, they don't speak like,
00:25:24.660 Republicans will speak like normal. Now, a Republican will use maybe a tone and a cadence
00:25:31.680 that sounds artificial and, you know, politician-y, but they don't use words that nobody
00:25:39.480 uses in real life. They use simple, normal, everyday words. Like, there is no latinx equivalent on the
00:25:49.560 right. Okay? Like, we're not making up buzzwords and phrases like that that would never be uttered
00:25:55.260 by a real human in actual conversation. That's something that only the left does. Much to their
00:26:02.360 detriment. But anyway, and this is also something that only the left does, which is racial segregation.
00:26:11.000 And that's the real point about this is the segregated holiday party, the no whites allowed party.
00:26:15.840 And the real point with that, I think, is the near total lack of justified outrage by the people
00:26:24.500 who have been discriminated against. Like, you've got one white guy who calls it unfortunate and
00:26:30.760 divisive, basically condemning it in the weakest possible terms that he can. This is a government
00:26:38.260 office holding a holiday party where you are excluded because of your race. And your only
00:26:46.520 response is, oh, that's unfortunate. Oh, that's unfortunate. I don't know about that. Oh, gee,
00:26:52.340 gee willikers. I don't know. And, you know, yeah, that's better than the other sycophants who
00:26:58.880 apparently have no problem with it or are pretending to have no problem with it.
00:27:01.880 But you should be a lot more upset about it than that. It's divisive.
00:27:10.200 You know, in these situations, we always say, imagine if the roles were reversed. Imagine,
00:27:14.940 imagine, just imagine if the situation was reversed. And it's true that if the situation was reversed,
00:27:22.340 there would be a volcanic explosion of outrage. Like, you can't imagine if anyone, especially if any
00:27:29.740 government office or politician had a holiday party for whites only. Okay? Like, if there was
00:27:37.640 some white mayor who sent out a holiday party invitation to the city council and said, no,
00:27:42.520 it's just for the white ones. Then send a follow-up apology. Sorry, I only meant to send it to the
00:27:46.820 white guys. Didn't mean for you blacks to get that invitation. This party's not for you.
00:27:53.720 I don't know. It's okay. No, it's because we're a special group. That's why.
00:27:56.840 Don't you understand? We're special because we're white. Okay, there would be a nuclear detonation
00:28:04.780 of anger. We cannot fathom the level of indignation. There would be people self-immolating in the street
00:28:15.640 over this. There would be congressional hearings and FBI investigations. MSNBC anchors would be
00:28:25.800 weeping on air. They'd be like committing ritualistic Harry Carey or something on air
00:28:33.900 in protest of this. I mean, you can't even, you really, you cannot, whatever you imagine
00:28:40.000 would be the reaction, it'd be a thousand times that. And then compare that to the reaction in
00:28:47.180 the reverse. And the most you get is one guy going, that's unfortunate. That's unfortunate.
00:28:54.520 But we can complain about the double standards all day. It doesn't matter.
00:28:59.760 The left isn't going to suddenly decide to be consistent. They aren't going to hear what I'm
00:29:04.320 saying right now and say, oh, wow, you know, we are being hypocritical. I didn't realize that.
00:29:09.500 Good point. Thanks for calling us out on that. That's not going to happen. So we need to be the
00:29:17.740 ones who respond appropriately to things like this. We don't need to weep and set things on fire
00:29:23.840 the way the left does. We don't need to go and loot some random business that has nothing to do with
00:29:29.620 it the way that they do. But we need to be the ones who are actually as angry and outraged as we
00:29:36.500 should be. The mayor's office saying no white people can come to my holiday party is the kind
00:29:43.260 of thing that deserves outrage. There's a lot of fake outrage out there. There's a lot of faux
00:29:46.740 outrage. There's a lot of outrage over silly, ridiculous things. But this is not a silly or
00:29:51.880 ridiculous thing. Like the mayor of a major American city saying this is not for whites is outrageous
00:30:04.240 and infuriating. And that's how we should respond to it. You can't wait for the left to respond to
00:30:10.920 it that way. They're not going to. It needs to come from us. And we need to use terms not like
00:30:17.840 it's divisive or, you know, politics as usual being divisive. No, that's not. We need to call it what
00:30:24.600 this is anti-white racism. This is bigotry. And this is not reverse racism either. This is just racism,
00:30:30.900 just straight up racism against white people. And it is unacceptable and outrageous. And this
00:30:38.700 person, you know, there should be an investigation into this person. How is this even legal?
00:30:46.680 So we need to be the ones who react that way. We can't wait around for the left to do it.
00:30:50.940 All right. There was a rather harrowing local news report in Oakland a few days ago
00:30:55.240 that I wanted to play for you. Well, let's just go ahead and watch. Emotional and gut-wrenching
00:31:02.540 scene in front of 7-Eleven, a young woman devastated over the killing of her father.
00:31:07.480 Oh, my father.
00:31:11.720 My mom's dead, dude.
00:31:14.000 She goes by the name Snow and says the security guard was 59-year-old James Johnson. I was
00:31:19.940 interviewing a longtime customer when we heard screams in the background.
00:31:23.440 I am talking to James all the time, you know. It's a good person. I'm very sad because I don't
00:31:29.080 see any more James. People were walking past her, so I went up to check on her to make sure
00:31:34.920 she was okay. Police say just after 10 o'clock on Friday night, someone shot the guard inside
00:31:40.400 the store as he tried to stop a person from taking merchandise. Police say James died at the scene.
00:31:46.620 Snow says her father worked at the store for roughly two years. He lived in a building right behind
00:31:51.760 7-Eleven. He was protecting the family of 7-Eleven because I know how my father is. He would do
00:32:00.520 that for anyone he cared and loved. She and longtime customers described James as a protector
00:32:07.040 and a kind man. He was a great man. He was a very great man. James is the good person, good
00:32:14.300 for the community, and this guy, you know, helped to everybody and take care of everybody here.
00:32:19.580 He was a nice man, giant man, pretty tall, and he would talk to everyone that came in.
00:32:26.800 Criminals have repeatedly targeted 7-Eleven stores in Oakland. On Monday, investigators say someone
00:32:32.340 killed a man pumping gas at the International Boulevard store. Two weekends ago, witnesses say
00:32:38.180 eight gunmen robbed a cigarette delivery driver and a security guard in front of the Grand Avenue 7-Eleven.
00:32:43.820 Well, obviously, tragic, gut-wrenching. You know, you feel uncomfortable with putting a woman on camera
00:32:54.100 like that when she's obviously distraught, doesn't even quite capture it. But at the same time,
00:33:02.380 it's important for people to see things like that because these are the consequences.
00:33:06.600 These are the consequences of not enforcing the law. These are the consequences of letting
00:33:13.600 criminal scumbags roam the streets. And, you know, I hate to be constantly harping on this.
00:33:21.720 It's hard not to harp on it when we're watching the destruction and decay of civilized society in real
00:33:28.500 time. But, um, this is what, this is what mercy for criminals gets you. This is your mercy.
00:33:36.660 So all of you merciful people, you know, who want to give, um, criminals second chances and third
00:33:43.280 chances and fourth chances and makes you very uncomfortable when, you know, I talk about
00:33:49.680 putting criminals away for life and saying that they need to be locked in a cage for life or,
00:33:55.440 or we need to start executing people. You know, it makes you very uncomfortable,
00:33:58.860 um, because you want to be compassionate and merciful. Well, that, well, that's your compassion
00:34:03.920 and your mercy. That's, that's what it looks like. It looks like, uh, a woman collapsed on the ground
00:34:09.580 mourning the death of her father, who was an actual contributing member of society, a good man by,
00:34:15.300 by all accounts, someone, and someone who was doing something worthwhile and productive.
00:34:22.400 Um, and, and, and once again, we are just trading that people in, we're making this trade one trade
00:34:32.120 after another, taking someone who is good and law abiding and productive, and we are trading them in,
00:34:41.820 trading their life in, in exchange for the worst people in the world.
00:34:47.600 The kinds of people who, if they all died tomorrow, we'd all be better off. Okay. The kinds of people
00:34:57.260 that get together with their friends to rob a cigarette truck, like we just saw there. The kind
00:35:04.080 of person who shoots a security guard. The kinds of people that are, they're, uh, you know, terrorizing
00:35:09.480 business, small business owners, the criminal degenerate scumbags.
00:35:18.420 If they all just were vaporized tomorrow, it's everything, everything, everyone's better off.
00:35:24.600 Contribute nothing of value to society. Uh, and, but we're taking them and we're saying,
00:35:30.980 let's have more and more of them and let's have less and less of the good people. That's the choice
00:35:36.060 that we're making. And, uh, it isn't, it is an active and deliberate choice. That's what we have
00:35:42.440 to understand. Okay. One other thing to hit to mention briefly, a daily mail has this. When a
00:35:46.300 marriage hits a rocky patch, couples find different ways of bringing back the magic date night or
00:35:51.140 perhaps counseling for Jada Pinkett Smith and her husband, Will, it took a public scandal to reset the
00:35:57.020 relationship. Pinkett now says in an interview, quote, I nearly didn't even attend the Oscars that year,
00:36:03.160 but I'm glad I did. I call it the holy slap now because so many positive things came from it.
00:36:09.840 She is of course referring to the 2022 Oscars at which her husband had been nominated and he slapped
00:36:14.420 because we know about that. She says, quote, that moment of the S hitting the fan is when you see
00:36:19.420 where you really are. After all those years of trying to figure out if I would leave Will's side,
00:36:23.800 it took that slap for me to see that I will never leave him. Who knows where our relationship would
00:36:28.740 be if that hadn't happened? So it's another interview that Jada Pinkett Smith is doing.
00:36:33.820 And in this interview, she says that she's glad that the slap happened because that's when she
00:36:38.160 decided that she's not going to leave Will Smith because it was strengthening of their relationship
00:36:44.660 or something like that. So first of all, Jada Pinkett Smith just will not stop talking.
00:36:49.100 She won't stop. She apparently subscribes to the school of PR crisis management that says,
00:36:55.360 when you're in a PR crisis, just keep talking, which is the exact opposite of what you're supposed
00:37:00.620 to do in these situations. But her idea is like, just say more and more things.
00:37:05.960 And I guess the hope is that you'll win the public relations war by attrition. Maybe the idea is to
00:37:13.000 say so many insane and disgusting and repellent things that nobody can keep track anymore.
00:37:18.820 So I'm not sure what the strategy is, but this woman will not stop. And now she says the slap was a
00:37:23.420 great thing for their marriage. And it's when she decided not to leave Will Smith, except that she
00:37:27.820 did leave him. So she did leave him. So she decided not to leave him, except in the sense that she
00:37:33.400 actually did leave. Like she left the house and moved in somewhere else and announced to the world
00:37:40.680 that they're not together anymore. So in that sense, she left him. But in some other sense,
00:37:47.760 some mystical ephemeral sense, she didn't leave him. I don't, you know, if that makes sense,
00:37:53.540 which it doesn't. But the real takeaway here is that, is that she sees the slap as a positive,
00:37:59.440 as holy. It destroyed her, her husband's life and career. Like his career is over because it's
00:38:04.840 probably never really going to, at least it's never going to come, it's never going to get back to
00:38:07.760 what it was. It made him into a disgrace, a punchline. Like that is the thing that people will
00:38:15.540 remember Will Smith for forever. That is his legacy now. And she sees it as a positive.
00:38:24.520 And why is that? Because she obviously enjoys watching this man debase himself.
00:38:29.120 As we know, she takes a great deal of pleasure in Will Smith's public humiliation.
00:38:34.840 Like it really is amazing how evil this woman is. She's like a cartoon. She's the kind of person who,
00:38:40.460 if she was a character in a movie, like it would take you out of the story because she's too evil.
00:38:47.880 You would say like, it's not even believable. But she continues to be at least a great cautionary
00:38:53.480 tale for young men. And that's why I always say anytime that there's a story about Jada Pinkett Smith,
00:38:59.460 now she, she is, she's a, she's a quite an extreme case to, to a somewhat, maybe a lesser degree.
00:39:10.660 This is not uncommon in relationships where you have one member of the relationship who, who like
00:39:16.500 enjoys the other person being embarrassed.
00:39:20.820 And you, there are plenty of men who find themselves in relationship with, relationships with women who are like this.
00:39:29.540 And yeah, it happens in the reverse too.
00:39:32.660 But just talking about the Jada Pinkett Smith, like there, there are many Jada Pinkett Smiths,
00:39:36.740 maybe not quite. She's the, you know, she's the ultimate supervillain, but, uh, but there are many who are kind of in her,
00:39:43.600 you know, sort of in that vein. And you can see, you know, you see, uh, examples of it all the time.
00:39:53.100 Like we've all been around, you know, you're around a couple and maybe the wife or the girlfriend
00:39:58.720 brings something up supposedly in a joking way, but that's actually embarrassing for the man.
00:40:07.120 And you could tell that he's really embarrassed by it. You know, and, and yeah, you could do that in a way
00:40:14.180 that's actually joking, you know, and, uh, and you can't take yourself too seriously in a relationship.
00:40:19.680 And so you tease each other or whatever that, you know, and that can happen even, even in a publicly
00:40:24.320 in a way that's obviously well-meaning.
00:40:29.800 But, um, there are plenty of times where we've all seen this and it's very awkward to be around it.
00:40:34.180 When you see a man get kind of like cut down and embarrassed by his wife or his girlfriend.
00:40:43.360 And, uh, you could tell, you know, Jada Pinkett Smith loves doing it. She loves to just embarrass
00:40:47.400 this man. And this is, it's red flag. You know, if you're with a, you know, men are always,
00:40:53.820 I get questions from young men all the time. What should you be looking for in a woman? What should,
00:40:57.840 you know, and there's a lot to be looking for, but when you talk about red flags,
00:41:00.520 you're dating a woman, if there's like one time, even once, when she does or says anything
00:41:11.040 that is intended to legitimately embarrass you, even in a small way, then get the hell out.
00:41:19.660 Just, just get out immediately. You got a Jada Pinkett Smith on your hands and it's not going
00:41:24.480 to get better as Will Smith, uh, unfortunately for him has discovered. All right, let's get to
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00:42:25.860 Sandy says, continuing to punish Bud Light for a marketing campaign which failed to recognize
00:42:29.980 and identify their target audience seems excessively punitive to me. Time to move on. Well, I'll
00:42:34.540 happily move on, Sandy. They just need to apologize. You know, that's all. Pretty simple.
00:42:41.780 And that's all they have to do. Acknowledge what they did and apologize for it. That's how you move on
00:42:47.880 from when someone does something wrong. That's how you move on. You can't really move on until
00:42:51.620 that. There has to be an acknowledgement. There has to be an acknowledgement and an apology.
00:42:56.480 In any relationship, that's the case. If you want to repair the relationship, the person who did
00:43:02.100 something wrong has to acknowledge and apologize. If they don't, you can't move on. And even in the
00:43:06.960 relationship, if you want to call it that, between a company and consumers, this still holds true.
00:43:12.440 So, and if we get bored and move on without that concession, without that acknowledgement and
00:43:18.360 apology, then what was the point? So that's all they got to do. And look, if they did that,
00:43:25.160 I'm not going to start drinking Bud Light because I, that's, I, as I said, I have functioning
00:43:31.100 taste buds, so I'm not going to start. But, but yeah, I would say, okay, like I'm not going to go out
00:43:36.460 of my way to rehabilitate the brand. I'm not going to try to help them. But then I would say, okay,
00:43:40.640 as far as I'm concerned, boycott's over. Like, well, I'll go our separate ways now.
00:43:46.000 Okay. The Bud Light chapter has closed. Um, but that hasn't happened yet.
00:43:53.260 Devin says, I thought free speech was to protect the speech you don't agree with. If putting a
00:43:57.040 display at a state house isn't speech, then shouldn't refrain from any, any display. I think
00:44:01.620 displays of any kind should be limited to local governments at most.
00:44:05.120 Well, nobody is saying that Satanists don't have free speech, uh, Devin. If they want to run around
00:44:12.180 like talking about Satan and how great Satan is, uh, they're allowed to do that, you know? But the
00:44:18.920 displays at the state house are for legitimate religious holiday displays. Satanism is not a
00:44:24.000 legitimate religion. It is a troll of religion. Okay. It is an anti-religion. And again, even the
00:44:30.080 Satanists themselves will tell you that they themselves will be the first to claim that they
00:44:35.480 don't actually worship Satan. They don't actually believe in him. Now they do worship Satan, but they
00:44:43.200 don't think they do. Okay. Their conscious intent is to troll religion is to make a mockery of religion,
00:44:50.320 not practice it. That's why this, this whole thing was, was, uh, uh, funded and facilitated by
00:44:59.700 atheists. What interest do atheists have in religious freedom? You think they care about that?
00:45:06.200 No, it's because these people, this, they don't consider it to be a religion.
00:45:12.700 And also, by the way, how many practicing Satanists are in Iowa? Okay. Iowa is like 80% Christian.
00:45:20.320 Less than 1% Jewish, 1% Muslim, Hindu, right? And the rest are non-religious.
00:45:26.700 It is a predominantly Christian state far and away. It has a Christian display around the holidays in
00:45:32.180 the state house that represents like the, the, the predominant, uh, faith and, and, and viewpoint of
00:45:40.340 the citizens of the state. It makes sense.
00:45:42.940 How many practicing Satanists are in Iowa? Are there any, like, are there any, maybe there's one
00:45:52.040 or two. So again, the punish, the, the display was pushed and funded by national atheist groups.
00:46:00.120 So you have a national atheist group who rejects religion funding a supposedly religious display
00:46:08.540 in a state house to represent a community that doesn't exist in that state.
00:46:13.220 And the idea that we have to be accepting of that, of that total absurdity of this, of this, you know,
00:46:21.560 no pun intended, but this bad faith argument, we have to accept that if we want to have a manger
00:46:28.180 or whatever in a state house, which represents almost, you know, the belief system of almost
00:46:33.600 the entire state. Um, I just, I just find that to be absurd.
00:46:41.220 No, you know, this is a, this is, uh, predominantly a Christian state. We have a Christian display
00:46:47.140 and, uh, you know, the, the, the, the two eighth, the, the two Satanists in Iowa who then complain
00:46:55.420 about it and say, well, I want to have a display that makes fun of you guys. Cause it makes me feel
00:46:59.160 I don't give a, I don't give a damn what you want. And also, and let me also say if there was a state
00:47:06.720 or a community, um, where it was like almost entirely some other religion in that community,
00:47:16.580 and there was one Christian in the community and he wanted to put a, you know, a manger up on display
00:47:24.320 somewhere in a public place and they had a display for the religion that represents almost the entire
00:47:31.580 community. Then like, I would understand why they had that religious display, not the manger. Cause
00:47:37.600 there's, there's almost no, there's like this one guy here and this community is almost entirely
00:47:42.460 this, whatever other religion. Now, in that case, I would say that the one Christian in the community
00:47:49.140 has a much, a much stronger case than the Satanists do because Christianity is still number one, a
00:47:56.800 legitimate real religion. And number two, it's also happens to be the, the, the, uh, religion that,
00:48:03.440 you know, helped form this country. Um, there's a historical, I mean, that, that, that very much
00:48:11.060 lays foundationally and philosophically at the foundations of this country.
00:48:14.720 So even if you reversed kind of the, um, the population, you know, percentages, Christian
00:48:24.440 would still have a much stronger case. But my point is simply that, you know, somehow that is
00:48:28.460 getting overlooked in all of this. But on top of the, the absurdity and how objectionable Satanism
00:48:34.260 is and the fact that even the Satanists themselves will tell you it's not a religion. Um, aside from
00:48:41.020 that, there's like, there's like none of them anyway. So why should they be represented in the
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00:50:20.100 to our daily cancellation. News broke last week that a popular YouTuber who goes by the name Destiny is
00:50:31.380 getting divorced. Now, to be perfectly honest, I don't know anything about Destiny. The name sounds
00:50:36.640 familiar, like someone's probably come up during this segment in the past, but I couldn't tell you
00:50:40.540 much about him. What I do know is that apparently his wife is leaving him, and I also know that
00:50:46.340 by his own admission, he had been in an open marriage, quote unquote. Here's the daily caller
00:50:53.300 with the details. The wife of popular streamer and YouTuber Destiny, who previously bragged about the
00:50:57.060 pair's open marriage, is reportedly leaving him for a man she met in Sweden, according to
00:51:01.120 online reports. Screenshots from what appears to be messages from Destiny in a Discord channel
00:51:05.920 show him complaining about his wife, Swedish internet personality Melina Gorenson, and her
00:51:11.420 alleged new lover. In the leaked Discord chat, Destiny appeared to lament his wife's choice to
00:51:16.100 leave him for a toxic, abusive guy. Quote, the last two months and two weeks have been a massive mind
00:51:21.200 eff for me, watching her become obsessed with a toxic, abusive guy. When I visited Sweden last,
00:51:26.560 he gave Mel an ultimatum to divorce me and then threatened to kill himself when she didn't do it,
00:51:30.960 among 20 other abusive, manipulative things he's done, and endlessly makes excuses for him. So I'm
00:51:36.300 out. The political YouTuber appeared to write according to the Twitter post. Now, in the past,
00:51:44.260 Destiny had been very open about his open relationship, appearing on different podcasts
00:51:48.060 to talk about it. So here he is with Lex Friedman a year or two ago, along with his wife, explaining
00:51:54.000 their open arrangement. Watch.
00:51:57.340 One interesting aspect of your relationship is you're in an open relationship. What's that like?
00:52:03.420 From a game theoretic simulation perspective, what went into that calculation? And like, how does that...
00:52:08.840 Like how that started or...
00:52:10.020 Yeah, how did that start, sure.
00:52:11.000 Um, the only relationships I've ever done has been open relationships, since I was like
00:52:15.000 in high school, because I didn't really understand like, why wouldn't you be able to like, do other
00:52:20.140 things with other people, but then just like have your main partner, basically.
00:52:23.260 So what, what is an open relationship, generally speaking? That means you have one main partner?
00:52:27.840 Like a non-monogamous relationship. Like you're somehow allowed, like in different ways. Um, you
00:52:32.980 can see other people sexually.
00:52:34.760 Sexually. But like, there's one main station.
00:52:37.700 Yeah, or it doesn't have to be there for some people, but like, I think it's probably easier
00:52:41.820 and we probably don't really have time or the energy for like more than like one person
00:52:46.860 to like really, like...
00:52:49.460 Well, I said that Destiny explains the arrangement, but actually, as you heard, his wife does most
00:52:53.360 of the talking. And that's interesting because though I don't know who first decided to open
00:52:57.680 the marriage in his case, I do know that most of the time one participant will seem to be
00:53:02.920 much more into the idea than the other. That's because an open relationship is rarely a mutual
00:53:07.640 decision, no matter what they might claim. Both spouses are not usually going to simultaneously
00:53:12.460 come up with the idea that they should have sex with other people and then in unison blurt
00:53:16.940 it out. In reality, one or the other is going to make this proposal. And the one who makes
00:53:23.120 it, in doing so, is already announced that they want to have an affair. So if the other
00:53:28.480 supposedly agrees to the open marriage, they'll agree as someone who is shell-shocked and blindsided
00:53:34.480 and devastated, whether they fully reveal those feelings or not. Now, speaking of feelings,
00:53:40.720 in that same interview, they talk about the complicated, quote unquote, problem of emotional
00:53:46.220 attachments in an open marriage. Listen.
00:53:48.280 What about like emotional?
00:53:51.800 It's really complicated. There's a lot of complicated stuff going on under the hood there.
00:53:55.420 Yeah.
00:53:56.820 I think broadly speaking, you've got like polyamorous relationships and you've got like open
00:54:00.880 relationships where polyamorous is like, oh, I've got like three different girlfriends and
00:54:05.120 we all hang out or sometimes even live together or three boyfriends or whatever. And then you've
00:54:08.400 got like open relationships, which is like, oh, you know, like you can basically hook up with
00:54:11.400 other people and then you've got like your main relationship and that's it. I think ours is probably
00:54:15.120 somewhere in the middle of that to where like we've got like long-term friends, some of them
00:54:19.120 we hook up with and that's kind of how we, yeah, it's a delicate dance that explodes every six
00:54:24.840 months on itself.
00:54:25.660 So it does explode. You guys fight over it?
00:54:27.420 We fight over some things, yeah.
00:54:29.440 Things happen, yeah.
00:54:30.300 I think it's mostly because a lot of people can't handle it and they agree to something
00:54:34.580 and then they realize that we're way too cool and then they get really obsessed and they
00:54:38.260 think that they can like get in there and then it gets really dramatic.
00:54:41.220 Do you guys experience jealousy?
00:54:42.700 Usually like whenever I feel like he's not spending the, like the amount of time that
00:54:47.720 I'm asking for and he spends it on his video games or his stream or like he sees someone
00:54:53.200 else like more than he sees me or something like that, that would like not be good because
00:54:56.900 then it affects like our relationship.
00:55:00.080 Now, obviously the whole idea of an open marriage is absurd. Not just absurd, it's an, it's a
00:55:07.200 contradiction in terms. Marriage cannot be open like a square cannot be circular.
00:55:11.680 It's not because we've come up with arbitrary rules to stifle a square's creativity and
00:55:16.660 individuality. It's just because a square is a certain thing and by definition, if it's
00:55:20.880 circular, it's not the thing that a square is. The same is true of marriage. A marriage
00:55:25.660 that is open is no longer the thing that a marriage is. So I've explained before that
00:55:31.860 a marriage can't be open for the same reason that you can't build a house without walls or
00:55:35.540 a roof. The walls and the roof are the whole point of the house. So get rid of those
00:55:40.160 and now you're homeless. A blanket laid out on the pavement is not an open house or a
00:55:45.480 new house or a consensually non-walled house. It's just not a house. It's a non-house. A
00:55:50.780 marriage cannot be open. The whole point of the union is that it is closed. It is exclusive.
00:55:55.880 It has walls around it. Tear down the walls and you have obliterated the entire structure
00:55:59.820 of the thing. But I don't need to harp anymore on that point, that marriages are an oxymoron,
00:56:08.280 a self-contradiction. I probably also don't need to explain that infidelity doesn't become
00:56:11.980 something other than infidelity just because it's mutual and consensual, supposedly, and
00:56:17.500 happening out in the open. Unfaithfulness is unfaithfulness. Cheating is cheating. You
00:56:23.080 haven't found some ingenious way of gaming the system simply by announcing that you're going
00:56:26.760 to cheat. Rather than doing it in secret as adulterers have traditionally done, infidelity
00:56:31.800 is a cancer in your marriage that will eventually kill it. The fact that you have embraced the cancer
00:56:38.580 and welcomed it doesn't make your situation any less terminal. Now, there's a reason why you never
00:56:45.120 hear about couples celebrating their 50th anniversary of an open marriage. Because open marriages burn
00:56:51.720 quickly and then burn out. They can't be sustained, as destiny is apparently finding out.
00:56:58.640 I mean, he says himself in that interview that it explodes every six months. Well, that's not normal.
00:57:04.680 Your marriage should not explode every six months. And that cannot be sustained.
00:57:11.380 Like, one day it's going to explode and you're not going to be able to put it back together again.
00:57:15.040 That's going to happen pretty quickly.
00:57:15.940 Now, however, as I said, these are points that probably don't need to be dwelled on.
00:57:21.280 Instead, I'd like to briefly consider one other, perhaps slightly more interesting or surprising
00:57:25.400 point. You heard in the last clip, as destiny and his wife talk about how they deal with emotions.
00:57:31.380 And destiny says, well, it's really complicated. His wife talked about the problems of jealousy.
00:57:37.080 And this is something you hear pretty often from open marriage advocates. In fact,
00:57:40.600 any discussion about open marriages will always ultimately center around the problem of feelings
00:57:46.520 and emotions. That's why if you go to Google, you'll find hundreds of articles about how to
00:57:51.920 deal with emotions in an open relationship. Articles like this one from Elite Daily titled,
00:57:57.920 Five Ways to Handle Jealousy in Open and Poly Relationships According to Experts.
00:58:03.480 Now, we're not going to go through all five coping mechanisms as outlined by experts,
00:58:07.520 but here's the first one. Quote, communication is the foundation of any relationship, and it's even
00:58:11.720 more important when there's more than two in a relationship. So if there's an issue, particularly
00:58:16.100 jealousy, you need to talk about it. Courtney Watson, a poly-inclusive sex therapist, breaks the
00:58:21.640 process down to Elite Daily in four steps. Clarify your feelings of jealousy and explore where they're
00:58:26.380 coming from. Arrange a time to sit down with your partner. Pick a neutral setting, especially outside
00:58:31.480 the bedroom, where you have enough time and privacy to discuss your feelings. Tell your partner and
00:58:35.460 negotiate a solution that addresses your feelings and takes into consideration their feelings and needs.
00:58:40.060 See if the solution works and reconvene as needed.
00:58:44.000 Now, if that sounds like useless nonsense, then wait until you hear the next recommendation,
00:58:48.900 which says this.
00:58:51.440 Rewrite your jealousy narrative.
00:58:54.080 Another way to get to the bottom of this is to outline your jealousy, literally.
00:58:57.320 With your partner or alone, make a little guidebook to your jealous feelings, and then rewrite it.
00:59:04.720 Quote, draw a picture or describe in detail a personified version of jealousy to clarify how you
00:59:11.100 experience and relate to the feeling, they said.
00:59:13.860 What does your depiction of jealousy look like and sound like? Is jealousy bigger or smaller than you?
00:59:19.520 Do you get along well or hate each other?
00:59:21.320 Are they angry, mean, scared?
00:59:24.500 What do they tend to say to you?
00:59:26.480 What are your physical cues that jealousy is present?
00:59:29.760 Once you have a good sketch of your jealousy narrative, as Skechinger calls it,
00:59:34.720 work on reframing it in a less threatening way.
00:59:38.120 Confront what you've laid out and re-evaluate what about these attributes or behaviors makes you less jealous.
00:59:43.340 Quote, when met with support and non-judgment,
00:59:45.320 the discomfort generated by envy and jealousy can increase self-awareness and highlight a need that may not be being met.
00:59:53.620 So just to make sure we're all on the same page here,
00:59:55.900 what this expert is suggesting is that you draw a picture for your spouse to help explain why you're sad when she has sex with other men.
01:00:04.460 So grab some colored pencils and draw a picture of like a big scary monster and hand it to your wife and say,
01:00:11.000 this is how I feel when you commit adultery.
01:00:13.500 It makes me scared and sad.
01:00:16.640 This is how the relationship experts think that adults should communicate with one another.
01:00:22.280 Now, this advice obviously is terrible,
01:00:24.560 but there's something to be learned from the fact that this advice is given in the first place
01:00:28.780 and that there's so much of this kind of advice for those looking to open their relationships.
01:00:33.920 A recent post on Medium has this headline,
01:00:36.220 How to work through difficult emotions in open relationships,
01:00:38.860 using a Buddhist practice as a tool to explore feelings.
01:00:43.500 Well, yes, you can use Buddhist practices.
01:00:46.300 You can draw pictures.
01:00:47.840 You can climb to the top of a mountain and consult with a polyamorous guru.
01:00:53.380 Or you can just stop trying to force yourself to be okay with something that you know is not okay.
01:01:01.440 Okay, that's the point.
01:01:03.540 We often say, and I've certainly said this,
01:01:05.020 that people these days are always chasing their feelings,
01:01:08.140 doing whatever makes them feel good.
01:01:10.940 Well, what we find is that in so many cases,
01:01:12.900 something closer to the opposite is actually happening.
01:01:16.420 Oftentimes, especially when it comes to sex and relationships,
01:01:18.860 people are running away from their feelings.
01:01:21.300 They're running away from what would actually make them feel good.
01:01:24.300 They're trying to close themselves off from their natural emotions.
01:01:29.100 This is necessary in order to maintain a promiscuous lifestyle.
01:01:32.260 Whether you're in a so-called open relationship,
01:01:34.240 so you're just participating in a hookup culture
01:01:35.980 without pretending to be in any relationship at all,
01:01:38.560 in either case, you are going to be constantly at war with your own emotions.
01:01:41.900 You're not really following your feelings.
01:01:45.380 You're following pleasure, temporary physical pleasure,
01:01:48.520 but not emotions.
01:01:50.980 Emotions are an obstacle.
01:01:52.880 You have to close yourself off from developing connections to anyone.
01:01:56.720 You have to be emotionless.
01:02:00.220 And that's because as human beings,
01:02:02.820 we naturally desire a committed, loving, faithful relationship
01:02:07.100 with one person who is devoted to us and loves us in return.
01:02:10.500 That's what we all want.
01:02:12.600 It's what our hearts long for.
01:02:14.900 If you're actually following your feelings,
01:02:16.960 that's where it would lead you.
01:02:19.360 Now, you can't be guided entirely by your emotions in a relationship,
01:02:22.220 but you shouldn't see them as an impediment either
01:02:24.060 or as some kind of enemy.
01:02:27.800 The emotional attachment that naturally forms with another person,
01:02:31.460 you know, who you're in a sexual relationship with,
01:02:33.820 that's a good thing.
01:02:35.180 It's natural.
01:02:36.260 It's human.
01:02:36.820 And that's why, unlike destiny,
01:02:39.780 I would never say that my emotions for my wife are complicated.
01:02:44.560 Like, if I was talking to Lex Friedman and he said,
01:02:47.380 you know, what about emotions in your marriage?
01:02:49.840 Oh, it's complicated.
01:02:51.940 Man, there's a lot going on there.
01:02:53.980 It's really complicated.
01:02:56.740 It's actually not complicated at all.
01:02:58.000 Sure, you know, we have tension and disagreement sometimes,
01:03:00.020 like any married couple,
01:03:00.920 but there's nothing very complicated about our emotional situation.
01:03:04.020 I love my wife.
01:03:05.000 I like being around her.
01:03:07.340 It's actually pretty simple.
01:03:08.920 Our emotions aren't complicated,
01:03:10.320 which isn't to say that they're superficial or insignificant.
01:03:13.380 No, your emotional attachment to your spouse is a simple thing,
01:03:17.040 but it's also deep and profound.
01:03:19.420 It's something that you nurture, something to be cherished.
01:03:23.480 You know, feelings are not a problem
01:03:24.800 if you're in a monogamous, committed, loving relationship.
01:03:28.560 You don't need experts to tell you how to navigate them.
01:03:31.120 And you don't need to draw pictures to explain them.
01:03:34.740 That only becomes necessary when you've decided to do something
01:03:37.900 that you know in your heart you shouldn't be doing.
01:03:41.660 Feelings are a problem once you've decided to sever love from sex
01:03:45.860 and commitment from relationship
01:03:47.880 and attempt to experience these things separate from each other.
01:03:51.780 It can never work.
01:03:53.920 And if you listen to your common sense, you would know that.
01:03:57.020 And if you listen to your feelings, you would know that too.
01:04:02.740 Which is why, in the end, open marriages are, once again, today canceled.
01:04:09.820 That'll do it for the show today.
01:04:10.840 Thanks for watching. Thanks for listening.
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