Ep. 1308 - An Outrageous Betrayal On The Border
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Nayib Bukele appears to have just won re-election by the largest margin in modern democratic history. Plus, Nikki Haley makes an appearance on SNL, and Shaquille O'Neal says that men should never open up and be emotionally vulnerable in front of women.
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Today on the Matt Wall Show, Republicans in the Senate agreed on a compromise border bill that
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spends four times as much on foreign aid as it does on border security, and much of the border
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security money will be used to make the border less secure. Another outrageous betrayal to add
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to the list. Also, more high school kids are arrested after a vicious 10 against one assault
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on another student. Why are these brutal attacks becoming so common? Plus, Nikki Haley makes an
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appearance on SNL, and Shaquille O'Neal says that men should never open up and be emotionally
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vulnerable in front of a woman. People are upset at this claim, but he has a point. I'll explain
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why. We'll talk about all that and more today on the Matt Wall Show.
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So the president of El Salvador, Nayib Bukele, appears to have just won re-election by the single
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largest margin in modern democratic history. The official results are not final yet, but he
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reportedly captured nearly 90% of the vote, which is a massive jump from five years ago when he
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received just a little over 50%. Now, outside of North Korea, you don't see numbers like this very
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often. They sound way too high to be real. But in El Salvador, they're not that surprising. All the
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polls predicted precisely this outcome. There were massive parties in the streets celebrating
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Bukele's re-election before it even happened. So when Bukele was named the winner, everybody saw
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it coming. It made sense. There were no angry mobs storming parliament, alleging fraud, or putting
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their feet up on some politician's desk. Instead, this weekend, here's what El Salvador looked like.
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Detail about why Nayib Bukele is so popular, but I can restate it here very quickly because it's not
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that complicated. Bukele is historically popular and was just re-elected by a vast margin because he
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puts his own country first. He protects his own people. He looks out for their security and their
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well-being, and he makes his community safer and more livable. That's it. It's that simple. That's the
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whole equation. And any politician who does that is going to be very popular. When Bukele took office,
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gangs controlled roughly 80% of the country. These gangs had killed more than 100,000 citizens over
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the past three decades, making El Salvador one of the most dangerous countries on the planet. But
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shortly after he took office, Bukele started rounding up everybody affiliated with these
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criminal gangs, who usually are not that hard to spot because they have tattoos on their face
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announcing what gang they're with. Now, this has infuriated civil liberties groups, but it worked.
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Homicides in El Salvador are down 92% compared to 2015. 90% of the country now views Bukele favorably
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as a result. And again, it's not hard to see why. They can go out at night without getting shot. They
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can operate businesses without getting extorted. Their families are much safer. Pretty simple.
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Of course, that won't stop civil liberties groups from complaining, claiming that some people in El
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Salvador are now falsely accused of gang involvement. They want us to believe that El Salvador's
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government should air on the side of protecting civil liberties at all costs, rather than on the
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side of preserving the safety and well-being of their communities. It's better for 100 guilty people
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to go free than for one innocent person to go to prison, as the common refrain goes. The problem with
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that argument, which is now obvious to everybody in El Salvador, is that you cannot enjoy civil liberties
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when there's a total breakdown of law and order. You don't have any constitutional rights whatsoever
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when you're dead. The civil libertarians had their chance in El Salvador, and they failed to safeguard
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civil liberties. And it all broke down. It failed. History is very clear on this. In 2012, El Salvador's
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president at the time brokered a truce with the country's most powerful gangs, MS-13 and the 18th
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Street Gang. The idea was that showing leniency might lower the murder rate. To that end, many gang
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leaders were transferred from maximum security prisons to low security prisons. Gangs also had
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free reign to expand their territory and communicate with their leaders in prison. What was the result
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of that? Well, within two years, the truce broke down. The violence resumed, and El Salvador became
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one of the most dangerous countries in the world, averaging 105 homicides per 100,000 people, which is
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a lot. Let's just put it that way. El Salvador learned from that mistake. In fact, El Salvador's
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government went on to pursue criminal charges against the former president who brokered that
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truce. And there's not a single reasonable person in El Salvador who believes in this kind of compromise
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anymore because they know where it leads. The country is now overwhelmingly in favor of enforcing the rule
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of law without regard for the concerns of humanitarians or civil liberties organizations. Whether you think
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that's a good outcome or not, and again, almost everybody in El Salvador thinks that it's good,
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it really doesn't matter. What happened in El Salvador will happen eventually in any country that disregards
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its duty to protect its citizens. At a certain point, people can't take it anymore. They restore order one way
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or another. When you're not, when you don't feel safe to walk outside of your house, you could only endure that
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for so long. I wanted to begin with El Salvador because the situation there is such an obvious and important
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contrast with what just happened in Washington, D.C. this weekend. Unlike the leaders of El Salvador,
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politicians in this country are still committed to some sort of platonic ideal of compromise rather
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than upholding their constitutional duty to protect this country and the American citizens who live here.
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To that end, even as hundreds of thousands of illegal aliens stream across the border every month,
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including criminals from places like El Salvador looking for a friendlier place to commit crimes,
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a bipartisan group of U.S. senators just agreed on a border deal that would do absolutely nothing to
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secure the southern border. I'm going to elaborate on what this bill would do because it's such an
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unbelievable betrayal that it's actually hard to believe that it's real. But before I do that,
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it's important to emphasize that no border bill or compromise is necessary at all. Under existing laws,
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including the Immigration Nationality Act of 1952, the president of the United States can turn every
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single illegal alien away at the border if he determines that it's necessary to safeguard the
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country. There is no requirement that we entertain fraudulent asylum claims or even legitimate
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asylum claims, as rare as those may be. There is no requirement that we allow a single non-citizen
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into this country, period. All that's necessary to secure the border is for the president of the United
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States to start enforcing the law, to start using the power that he already has legitimately and
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constitutionally. It doesn't need to be complicated. We don't even need an El Salvador style crackdown to
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accomplish this. We just need to enforce existing laws as they stand. But if the White House actually
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adopted a simple, straightforward solution to the border crisis, then two things would happen. One,
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the Democratic Party would lose out on hundreds of thousands of future loyal voters because their
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longstanding plans for demographic replacement would be stymied in that case. And two, Congress would
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miss out on a great chance to launder millions of dollars. And Congress never misses out on any
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opportunity like that. So here we are. And here are the details. The border proposal that the Senate is
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advancing would allocate another $60 billion in military aid to Ukraine. It would send $14 billion in
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military aid to Israel. That's a grand total of $74 billion that's going to other countries.
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By comparison, the bill would allocate $20 billion for border security. So to restate, in case of
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keeping track at home, our leaders just agreed to a plan that would spend roughly 400% more tax money
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on foreign countries than on securing our own country. And it gets worse because even the money
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that's supposedly going to be used at the border, supposedly to secure our country, will actually
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just facilitate the illegal entry of millions of illegal aliens into this country. Specifically,
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the legislation will provide another $2.3 billion to, quote, refugee and entrant assistance activities,
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including, quote, grants or contracts with qualified organizations, including nonprofit entities,
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to provide culturally and linguistically appropriate services, including housing assistance,
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medical assistance, legal assistance, and ease management assistance. So that's more than $2
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billion to support the left-wing nonprofits that exist simply to find creative ways to sneak as many
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illegal immigrants into this country as possible. We're even throwing in free legal services for
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illegals just to sweeten the pot for them. This bill is actually creating more incentives
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for illegals to come here in the first place. You may have seen reporting that the bill states that
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the executive branch must close the border on an emergency basis if, quote, during a period of
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seven consecutive calendar days, there's an average of 5,000 or more aliens who are encountered each
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day. Or if, quote, on any one calendar day, a combined total of 8,500 or more aliens are encountered.
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That's how various outlets, including NBC News, have reported on this bill. It's also how Oklahoma
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Senator James Lankford, who's supposedly a Republican, has pitched this legislation. They all say that
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once 5,000 people come in every day for a week, then the border is shut down. And here's what Lankford
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wrote last night. Quote, the emergency authority is not designed to let 5,000 people in. It is designed
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to close the border and turn 5,000 people around. But that's just simply not true for three reasons.
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First of all, the bill gives Joe Biden the authority to waive this border emergency authority
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at any time. He can simply ignore the bill effectively. And so can DHS Secretary Alejandro
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Mayorkas. So, I mean, that alone means that it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't do anything
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because you're writing into the legislation that, oh, by the way, Biden, you could just ignore this.
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And so he will. Secondly, the bill doesn't even count unaccompanied minors from countries other
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than Canada or Mexico in the number of encounters. In other words, many illegal migrants from
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Guatemala, Haiti, El Salvador, India, Honduras, the Philippines, China, et cetera, just flat out
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don't count towards the 5,000 total. Like we could have 20,000 of those show up and it wouldn't count.
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They are illegal migrants, but they're not relevant to this part of the bill for whatever reason.
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And then on top of all that, the bill doesn't actually close the border, even if this fraudulent
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5,000 migrant threshold is reached. This is a direct quote from Senator Chris Murphy,
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one of the authors of the bill. This is what he said last night, quote,
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the bill contains a requirement that the president funnel asylum claims to the land ports of entry
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when more than 5,000 people cross a day. The border never closes, but claims must be processed at the
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ports. So maybe you catch the contradiction there. Chris Murphy, one of the bill's authors, says
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the border never closes. At the same time, James Lankford, another of the bill's authors,
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says, quote, it is designed to close the border. So two authors of the bill, one is saying it closes
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the border. The other one says it doesn't. So our leaders are either liars or they're bumbling
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idiots who can't keep their story straight or both, probably both really. But if you read the bill,
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the implications of the text are pretty obvious. It says that once we hit 5,000 illegals per day,
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we don't actually close the border. Instead, we direct them to ports of entry where they can make
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their asylum claims and then enter the country from there. So this is a complete scam, essentially.
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And it's intended to be a scam that runs for a very long time. The bill has a sunset provision
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three years into the future. The idea is to bind a future Trump administration to the terms of this
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deal. Now, you might say, wait a minute, let's say that 5,000 person threshold is reached. And then
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these migrants have to report to a port of entry and make an asylum claim. Surely you might think,
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well, we wouldn't simply allow all of these migrants into the country, right? Because that
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would be insane. But if you thought that, you would be wrong. In one key respect, this border
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compromise would actually lessen the already minimal standards for allowing asylum applicants
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into this country. Because right now, migrants who arrive at a port of entry supposedly need to show
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a significant possibility, quote unquote, that they can establish a, quote, credible fear of persecution
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on the basis of race, national origin, political beliefs, etc. Now, that's what it requires to be to get
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asylum. Not a very high standard. Like, it doesn't require migrants to present any evidence for anything
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they say. They can just make a claim, which they've rehearsed, and then get into the country. That's the
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status quo. But this border bill would lower that standard even further, somehow, from requiring a
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significant possibility of persecution to a reasonable possibility of persecution. So from
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significant to reasonable. And reasonable is just another way of saying plausible. It's like, it's
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possible, plausibly possible that I can be persecuted. In other words, it's a bar that anyone from any
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country can get over. So in practice, we can assume there's basically no way that anyone claiming
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asylum will ever get turned away, if that's the standard. And then once these fake asylum applicants
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are here, this bill will shower them with new benefits, including guaranteed work permits and
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free lawyers. And there are other giveaways in there as well. For example, family units and
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unaccompanied minors will be released into the country when they're caught. Like, they're not going to
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be detained. They're just going to be released right away. And I could go on, but suffice to say,
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this proposed bill is just an abomination. It's not simply inadequate or ineffective at securing
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the border. It makes the border even less secure than it already is, which is a remarkable feat
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that few, if any, people imagined was even possible. Fortunately, it does appear as of today that the
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House will not consider this Senate bill. The Speaker, Mike Johnson, and Majority Leader Steve
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Scalise have said that it's dead on arrival. They're not going to even do a vote on it, which is good news.
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It doesn't begin, though, to explain why Senate Republicans thought this bill was reasonable
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in the first place. And it doesn't get us any closer to securing the southern border, which is
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a necessity. We are in this position for one reason, which is that we have assembled a government
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composed almost entirely of anti-Bukeleys, we might call them, people who despise their own citizens
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and whose top priority is the safety and security of countries thousands of miles from their own
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shores. And they know it. Because when you point out their complete, their election of duty,
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they don't even defend their record. They don't offer any explanation for how they're keeping
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illegal immigrants out of the country. Instead, they call you a racist, say you're a bad person
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for asking them questions. In fact, that's what happened just a few months ago at a hearing in
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the Senate. Watch as the DHS Secretary, Alejandro Mayorkas, responds to questioning from Josh Hawley
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about the border crisis. And listen to what he says. Mr. Secretary, I think that your performance
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is despicable. And I think the fact that you are not willing to provide answers to this committee
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is absolutely atrocious. Mr. Chairman, may I? Like if you'd like to have a minute to respond,
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I would. And I'm not sure I'll limit it to 60 seconds. That's fine. Number one, what I found
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despicable is the implication that this language, tremendously odious, actually could be emblematic
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of the sentiments of the 260,000 men and women of the Department of Homeland Security.
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Number one. Number two, Senator Hawley takes an adversarial approach to me in this question.
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And perhaps he doesn't know my own background. Perhaps he does not know that I am the child
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of a Holocaust survivor. Perhaps he does not know that my mother lost almost all her family
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at the hands of the Nazis. And so I find his adversarial tone to be entirely misplaced.
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I find it to be disrespectful of me and my heritage. And I do not expect an apology.
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But I did want to say what I just articulated. Thank you, Mr. Chairman. Can I just respond since
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he has referenced me personally? Senator Hawley, we need to move on. Senator Romney.
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Oh, Senator, you want to know why I'm not doing my job? But do you realize that my mother
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was in the Holocaust? What? What does that have to do with anything? Like, what relevance does that
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have? This is a guy who, under this new border bill, has total discretion over whether to turn
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people away at the border or not. And Mayorkas justifies his failures on the border by commenting
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that his mother is a Holocaust survivor. It makes no sense. It has no relevance to anything.
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But it does show you how little respect these people have for our intelligence.
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And I think we'll hear that and say, well, OK, well, never mind. We can't criticize. His mother
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was in the Holocaust, so we can't criticize him for what he's doing on the border. All right,
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I'll buy that, he expects us to say. And it's not just the Biden administration that thinks like
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this. Republicans in the Senate just agreed to this bill. And keep in mind, Democrats are getting
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decimated in the polls. Most Americans do not support this administration. There is no political
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calculation that justifies any Republican Party support for this proposal. But Republicans in the
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Senate backed it anyway. Whatever the reason for that, maybe they wanted to reward their donors or
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interest groups, or maybe they're completely incompetent, or maybe, again, both. It's irrelevant.
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These people simply cannot lead us any longer. Nobody is buying the idea that we need a lengthy
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multi-billion dollar giveaway to Ukraine and Israel in order to enforce the law and defend this
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country from invasion. And most Americans want our leaders to prioritize our country before any other
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country. That is not an unreasonable thing for us to want. Nobody seriously thinks that it's appropriate
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to pay foreign countries vast sums of money to secure their borders while we allocate
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a fraction of that money to open up our borders even more. It's just, it's too much. These people
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have looted the treasury for too long. Because of what they've done, America is careening at high speed
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conditions apply. So there's a very revealing moment on CNN over the weekend related to what we talked
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about in the opening. I want you to watch as one of CNN's law enforcement analysts explains to CNN hosts
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why illegal immigrants are more likely to commit crime in New York than in Florida.
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It's a very simple and rather obvious reason that is stunning to the CNN anchors that hear this.
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I mean, we're hearing a change when it comes to immigration in general from President Biden
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on down to hear her talk about that. It is also directly related to the fact that these were
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police officers. Does that have any impact? Does that change anything?
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Well, it's so complicated because, you know, you're a New Yorker. You move through the city every day
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as I do. We see these people. We touch these people. They're out looking for work. They're
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delivering our food. They're at the gas stations and the car wash. I mean, these are people who came
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in waves, you know, 170,000 probably to New York City. But within that group, this hardworking,
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you know, wrongs of people in search of hope and a better life, there is this one percenter,
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you know, criminal element that looks at a different opportunity here. These individuals,
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I went over their rap sheets yesterday, multiple charges, grand larceny, robbery, attempted robbery,
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grand larceny, grand larceny. This particular crew operated on mopeds and scooters. They were
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doing organized retail theft. They were doing snatches on the street, iPhones, iPads, clothing,
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so on and so forth. One of them that they are still seeking has 10 charges on one day because
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he's part of a pattern that's been going on. And I'm looking at the dates that their arrest started,
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which is probably close to when they got here. They've only been here a couple of months.
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So what the detectives are telling me is they have crews here that operate in New York,
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do all their stealing, then go to Florida to spend the money and then come back. And I'm like,
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well, why don't they just stay and steal in Florida? And they said, because there you go to jail.
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Oh, fair point. Wow. Yeah. Speechless. So criminals are less likely to commit crimes in places where
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they will actually be punished? Is that what you're telling us? I'm astounded. I can't believe it.
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And they were. They were both astounded. They were astonished by this revelation.
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They didn't know what to say. They had to stop and process it for a second.
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Criminals travel from Florida to New York specifically to commit crimes because they'll
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go to jail in Florida and they don't want to go to jail. Just like anybody else. In fact,
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maybe, again, if you work for CNN, it surprises you to learn this. But
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even criminals don't want to go to jail. They very much prefer not to, most of them. Okay. And
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you have to commit crimes anyway. So they prefer to commit them in a place where jail is less likely.
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So there's a lot going on here, obviously, a lot we can say about it. Most of it related to the issue
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of illegal immigration, which we've been talking about. But what the guy on CNN is describing here
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is the simple concept. I mean, putting the illegal immigration aspect of it to the side,
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what he's describing is the simple concept of deterrence. Florida has deterrence and New York
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doesn't. Florida puts you in prison for crimes, which deters criminals from committing them in Florida.
00:24:59.260
Florida. And they go to New York, where there's basically no deterrence. Where, as we've seen,
00:25:05.160
you could be a non-citizen who commits a vicious assault and you walk out of jail, like flipping off
00:25:12.780
the cameras and you just waltz out and then go wherever you want. Get on a bus and go to California
00:25:18.560
or wherever they went. And that's because, so why does it work this way? Because punishing crime
00:25:25.940
is a deterrence against crime. If you punish crime, you get less of it. And in this case,
00:25:33.000
if there's a place that punishes crime and a place that doesn't punish it, the place that doesn't
00:25:38.020
will get even more crime because they're going to get the criminals who live in the places where
00:25:43.280
they do punish it. So they're going to get a kind of like crime tourism thing, which is what New York
00:25:48.140
is experiencing. And all this seems very obvious, but it was not obvious to the CNN anchors.
00:25:53.840
It's not obvious to anybody on the left these days. And that's because in recent years, the left
00:25:58.140
has bought into this absurd myth that deterrence itself is a myth. They have decided that you cannot
00:26:07.380
deter crime by punishing it. This is what they actually believe. This is what is taught in schools.
00:26:14.260
And it's a movement on the left that goes deeper than you probably realize. In fact, I'll elaborate
00:26:22.120
on it a little bit more this week later on. But this idea that there's no point in trying to deter
00:26:29.200
crime because you can't by punishing it. This is an idea. It's an idea that one of these insane
00:26:40.820
notions that has filtered its way down from academia and then it starts in academia, like so many other
00:26:47.680
crazy ideas that we can think of, especially in recent history. It starts in academia and it filters
00:26:53.240
its way down through all of our other institutions. And then from there, it makes its way into our
00:26:57.040
communities and destroys them. And this is one of those kinds of ideas. In fact, it's one of the most
00:27:01.920
insane ideas. The idea that you cannot deter crime by punishing it. But it's one that those CNN anchors
00:27:09.740
obviously believed, which is why they were so stunned to learn that Florida has successfully
00:27:15.820
done the thing that's supposed to be impossible. So we'll have more on that later, as I said.
00:27:22.580
A little more crime here. This is from the New York Post. Ten middle schoolers were arrested for
00:27:29.760
allegedly assaulting a Coney Island classmate in a brutal caught-on video bus beatdown.
00:27:35.220
The victim, who one fellow student later callously declared deserved it and should have died,
00:27:42.480
could be heard shrieking in pain as a pack of kids collectively rained punches on him
00:27:46.000
in the January 26th incident, according to footage shared with the Post and posted on social media.
00:27:51.480
The boy can be seen trying to protect his head from the relentless fists while he's
00:27:55.940
passed down the aisle by his attackers on an MTA shuttle bus, which brings kids to Mark Twain IS-239
00:28:02.980
for the gifted and talented. It brings them from there to the Stilwell Avenue subway station.
00:28:09.640
The beating continues for several minutes, moving from the back of the cram bus to the front as the
00:28:13.780
boy is punched, slapped, kicked, and even hit with a sneaker. In all, so that ten kids were
00:28:20.300
assaulting this one kid. And these are kids apparently from a gifted and talented school
00:28:26.620
because this is what passes for gifted and talented these days. You know, I would prefer
00:28:31.800
if they just got rid of the gifted and talented programs in schools than lower the standard to
00:28:36.560
the point where, you know, people like this get into it. You might as well just get rid of it.
00:28:41.140
I can remember gifted and talented programs when I went to school when I was a kid. They had
00:28:44.480
gifted and talented. And I remember them from the outside. I remember looking in on them. I was
00:28:49.460
never invited. They never labeled me gifted and talented. And for good reason. There's a very
00:28:54.800
specific kind of kid that would qualify. And these were the kids who were very academically rigorous
00:29:01.120
and responsible, kind of nerdy, disciplined, hardworking, you know, all the things that I was
00:29:08.500
not. And, uh, and these kids certainly aren't. And yet they've made it into the gifted and talented
00:29:14.480
program. And since we're going down memory lane here, here's something else. And every time I see
00:29:20.080
one of these videos, I think about this. And if you're my age or older, you probably have the same
00:29:24.380
thought. Something else I don't remember as a kid is, um, I don't remember fights, quote unquote,
00:29:31.220
like this, you know. Um, and we're not even going to show you the video because it's, you could go
00:29:37.660
find it if you want, but you've seen enough videos like this. You know, you know what it is. And 10
00:29:41.600
kids like stomping the hell out of one kid. We've seen a million of these fights now. I don't remember
00:29:45.880
that, you know, a gang of kids stomping the hell out of one other kid, kicking him in the head. You
00:29:51.340
know, as we so often see in these videos, if the kid falls down, he starts getting kicked in the head,
00:29:55.380
that sort of thing. I don't remember that. Um, I, I, I, I, and, you know, I, I went to a very,
00:30:00.760
shall we say, as they say now, diverse school all through my public school career. It was,
00:30:06.400
they're very diverse schools. I wasn't going to prep schools for trust fund babies. Um,
00:30:11.660
and, uh, and there were fights all the time. I'm only aware of maybe that I can remember maybe
00:30:17.160
two examples in 13 years of public school where a gang of kids beat the hell out of one other kid.
00:30:25.860
Maybe two examples, the stomping on the head thing that again is so common now.
00:30:30.760
Never saw that. Never saw it. Never heard of it. Most of the time it's because a fight was a fight,
00:30:37.200
right? And it can be brutal sometimes, but there was at least some sense of honor in it. It was
00:30:43.360
usually one-on-one and, um, you get into a fight, you go until someone breaks it up, which most of
00:30:49.640
the time is how it ends. Or if there's no one around to break it up, then you go until someone
00:30:53.660
is on the ground and they're clearly defeated. But now there's no honor or dignity in the way that
00:30:58.740
these kids just brutalize each other. It's a very unmanly, cowardly, even sort of effeminate way of
00:31:05.680
fighting. And, um, and I think the difference is that historically when two men or two boys
00:31:14.580
squared off to fight, whether it was like at the playground, a playground fight, or it was a duel
00:31:20.620
in the 1800s. Historically, the point, it was less to harm the other person, even if you did end up
00:31:28.120
harming them. In the case of a duel, you might kill them. But it was less, that was not really the point.
00:31:33.020
The point was to prove your own courage and toughness and masculinity to everybody else.
00:31:38.920
Um, that's what the fight was about. And you wanted to win, not simply because you wanted to
00:31:45.080
hurt the other person, but because you wanted to prove yourself. And that's why, you know, that's
00:31:49.440
why a lot of times these fights would happen in school. Because for one thing, you're doing it
00:31:53.160
for the sake of everybody watching. You want people to see because you want to win and you want to be
00:31:56.620
the tough guy. And also, you know that someone's going to break it up. At least they used to break
00:32:00.440
these fights up. Now they just let the kids go until someone's dead, I guess. But at the time,
00:32:04.120
like they break it up. And so, and you knew that you knew that someone was going to break it up.
00:32:07.360
So it was, and so it was really, it was more of like a performance. Um, and you might say that
00:32:14.760
that's, that's wrong. You know, it's, it's, we shouldn't encourage boys to behave that way. Um,
00:32:20.340
okay, well now we don't encourage it. Uh, you know, we say that boys shouldn't worry about proving
00:32:25.160
their toughness and certainly using violence to do that. We don't want that. Well, this is what we
00:32:30.700
get instead. We still get the violence. In fact, we get more of it, but now the
00:32:37.340
point of the violence is actually just to inflict as much harm on the other person as you possibly
00:32:43.320
can just for the sake of it. Um, if you jump some other kid and it's five on one and you're
00:32:51.600
stomping on his head while he's on the ground, you obviously have not proven your toughness,
00:32:55.060
but you haven't proven anything. You know, you've only proven that you're a cowardly sucker punching
00:33:00.660
little frankly is what you've proven, but you have inflicted maximum harm on the other
00:33:07.340
person, which is the point now. That's the point. That's, that's the goal is just to let
00:33:13.920
me harm. And you heard one as they quoted one of the kids, he should be dead. Like that's
00:33:17.980
the way they look at it. Let's just kill him. You stop on a kid when he's on the ground.
00:33:22.880
That's attempted murder. You might kill him. And that's what you're trying to do. Why are you
00:33:27.620
even trying to do it? I mean, most of the time, if you were to pull these kids or talk to them
00:33:30.540
afterwards, like what, what did that other kid do that was so wrong? Why were you, it wouldn't
00:33:34.720
even be able to explain it. They're not even like mad. It's just inflicting maximum harm
00:33:41.220
on another person for the fun of it, just for the sake of it. Um, and that's, what's become
00:33:49.060
so common and it's, uh, it's, it's not good. I'll put it that way. There was some backlash
00:33:55.420
against SNL over the weekend after they featured Nikki Haley in a skit. Um, I'll play some of
00:34:01.280
this for you. I don't have to give you a cringe warnings ahead of time, but it's, it's cringe.
00:34:06.500
The cringe level is up to a hundred on this thing, but we'll watch a little bit of it. Anyway,
00:34:09.980
here it is. My question is, why won't you debate Nikki Haley? Oh my God, it's her. The woman who
00:34:18.000
was in charge of security on January 6th. It's Nancy Pelosi for the 100th time. That is not
00:34:26.680
Nancy Pelosi. It is Nikki Haley. Are you doing okay, Donald? You might need a mental competency
00:34:33.140
test. You know what I did? I took the test and I aced it. Okay. Perfect score. They said,
00:34:37.500
I'm a hundred percent mental and you know, I'm confident because I'm a man. That's why
00:34:41.980
a woman should never run our economy. Women are terrible with money. In fact, a woman I
00:34:46.800
know recently asked me for $83.3 million. And you've spent $50 million in your own legal
00:34:54.500
fees. Do you need to borrow some money? Oh, Nikki, don't do this. Nikki, Nikki, Nikki,
00:35:00.300
don't lose that number. Nikki Haley, Joel Osment, Nikki Haley, Joel Osment. We call her
00:35:07.180
six cents. Remember that one? I see dead people.
00:35:11.400
Yeah. That's what voters will say if they see you and Joe on the ballot.
00:35:14.960
Oh, that's not very nice, Nikki. It's not nice. And I'm always very nice to you, except
00:35:21.800
when I'm implying you weren't born in this country, even though you're from South Carolina
00:35:28.180
So the left was very upset about that because they allowed Nikki Haley on set and that was
00:35:35.600
an upsetting thing. In fact, there was one left-wing activist who said that this is comedy
00:35:39.540
washing. So, you know, you've heard of whitewashing. Well, this is comedy washing and they're accusing
00:35:45.040
SNL of comedy washing. That's another conservative. Yes, comedy washing. It's more like cringe washing,
00:35:54.020
if anything, based on what we just saw. Not the finest acting performance from Haley. Although I
00:35:58.160
have to say the Trump impersonator is very good. That's a really good Trump impersonation.
00:36:05.340
It's, I don't know how it took SNL like six years to find a guy who can do a good Trump
00:36:12.100
impersonation. Even though there are, you can go on YouTube and find a million people who do at least
00:36:17.560
a passable Trump. And yet it took SNL the entire Trump's entire first term. They couldn't find a
00:36:25.920
good one. They were going with Alec Baldwin for most of the time. Um, and they finally found a good
00:36:29.580
one. So that's at least one thing. But the real point is that people on the left were mad about
00:36:36.640
Nikki Haley's appearance, which, which shows two things. First is it's that the idea, you know,
00:36:46.420
that the idea that shows like SNL are left-wing, uh, this is not a conservative invention. We didn't,
00:36:53.560
we didn't come up with the idea that these are left-wing shows. We didn't make that up.
00:36:57.180
The left itself believes that it owns SNL. It owns every other mainstream TV show,
00:37:02.160
which is why they feel so betrayed. You know, there's this sense of betrayal when someone who is
00:37:08.260
nominally supposedly not left-wing appears in a show like this. They see it as a betrayal against them
00:37:14.860
because they, whether they will normally acknowledge it or not out loud, that they know
00:37:19.380
that they sort of own all of these entertainment properties. That's the way they see it. But the
00:37:25.860
second point is that they, they have demonized Nikki Haley of all people. Um, as a, according to some of
00:37:32.200
these activists, even she is so radically right-wing and offensive that she should not be allowed to
00:37:39.940
appear in a main, on a mainstream forum at all. And this is a, this is someone who has, is as milquetoast
00:37:48.800
and liberal leaning as a Republican can possibly get. And they can get really milquetoast and liberal
00:37:56.740
leaning as we've seen. And yet even she, as far as they're concerned, is like persona non grata.
00:38:02.400
Even she should be banned, banned from a mainstream society, according to many on the left.
00:38:10.200
if, if you are disagreeing with them, it doesn't matter to what degree you're disagreeing with
00:38:16.560
them. It doesn't matter how agreeable you try to be as you disagree with them. Doesn't matter how
00:38:22.160
nice you are about it. Doesn't matter how much you try to compromise. It makes no difference.
00:38:26.160
You know, you're still a, an enemy. You're still a bigot and a, and whatever, all the labels somebody
00:38:33.520
would put on, they'd put on someone like me, you know, as a, as an actual radical right winger,
00:38:41.420
you know, militant right winger, uh, stochastic terrorist, whatever they want to say about me,
00:38:45.880
all those labels that they put on me, even someone who's much further left on the spectrum,
00:38:49.740
as long as you're on the right side of the spectrum in their view, they're going to put the
00:38:54.420
same labels on you. They don't, they don't draw any distinction. That's the crazy thing about it.
00:38:59.080
That from the left's perspective, they really don't see any, uh, relevant distinction between
00:39:07.980
Nikki Haley and like me, they, they, they see it's, we're all the same as far as they're concerned.
00:39:15.400
Uh, and what's the lesson from there? The lesson is what's the point of trying to compromise? What's
00:39:21.520
the point of trying to be nice? It won't make a difference anyway, whatever you're trying to
00:39:25.760
accomplish with it, it won't matter. So you might as well go all the way
00:39:29.680
and stop all the niceties. All right. Finally, this is from the daily wire. Utah lawmakers advanced
00:39:36.360
a bill this week to prevent the granting of inherent rights to nature, a movement gaining momentum among
00:39:41.140
environmental activists. House bill 249, the Utah legal personhood amendments declares that only
00:39:46.860
mankind may enjoy the legal rights and obligations of personhood. The Utah house bill, uh, passed on
00:39:53.240
Tuesday and now faces consideration by the Senate. The bill expressly prohibits the granting of legal
00:39:58.000
personhood to any artificial intelligence, inanimate object, body of water, land, property, atmospheric
00:40:03.520
gas, astronomical object, weather, plant, non-human animal, and any other member of a taxonomic
00:40:10.320
domain that is not a human being. Republican state Senator Walter Brooks brought forth the bill amid
00:40:16.760
efforts by environmental activists to leverage current U.S. law to grant legal personhood to the
00:40:21.060
Great Salt Lake. Brooks explained during the house floor vote on Tuesday that a constituent brought the
00:40:26.620
movement to his attention, request he believed was in jest until he did his own research. Brooks said
00:40:31.400
the bill was common sense. Um, so this is not a movement that's getting very much attention except
00:40:37.900
in Utah, I guess, but this is something that is, um, being pushed by environmental activists in
00:40:45.360
particular at this point. And it's happening more and more recently where, as it said, they want to grant
00:40:50.840
personhood rights to non-persons. And just to look into the crystal ball here for a minute, I would
00:40:58.420
predict that in 10 years, this will be maybe not in the next 10 years, might not even take 10 years.
00:41:06.800
This will be a major issue because it's the next logical step. Once you've broken down all of the
00:41:13.700
definitional lines as they have, like they've broken down the lines between man and woman. Um,
00:41:20.640
they've also broken down the lines that define personhood already. They've already done that.
00:41:24.720
They've blurted into obscurity by the, by the abortion movement. So the stage is set. Um, it's set
00:41:30.840
for a world where, uh, when someone says the word person, you have no idea what they're talking about.
00:41:36.620
Like, you know, they could, I mean, you know what a person is, hopefully if you still have your wits
00:41:42.040
about you, but when someone else says it, because of how confused society is, you won't know what
00:41:47.220
they're talking about because they could be talking about a person or they could be talking about a
00:41:50.940
cow or a lake, a rock, a computer. You know, you hear this term, uh, transhumanism, which is,
00:41:58.620
is generally understood as the sort of melding of human and machine. And the transhumanist
00:42:05.200
dystopia is one where a person is half person and half computer basically.
00:42:10.660
But this is, I think, uh, another element of transhumanism, another way that it will manifest
00:42:16.800
itself when personhood or human being, when, when, when that status is granted and also denied in this
00:42:25.580
utterly arbitrary way, according to the whims of the elite, which as we know, is already happening.
00:42:30.680
And, uh, it will only continue from here. Let's get to was Walsh wrong.
00:42:39.720
Referencing Richard Dawkins, he did a podcast with Helen Joyce about the trans issue and he
00:42:44.040
apologized for not coming along sooner. He just wasn't aware of a, how serious it was in scale
00:42:48.840
and be the damage it was doing to women's sports and private spaces, et cetera.
00:42:54.120
Another comment says, I don't think it's a smart idea to attack people for being late to an issue.
00:42:57.580
Dawkins may not have spoken up earlier, but he is now. That's all that matters.
00:43:02.200
Well, it's not all that matters. Um, all that matters isn't that you speak up at some point
00:43:07.100
eventually, but timing does matter. And I'm glad that he's, uh, apparently acknowledged and apologized
00:43:14.800
for being so late to it. And I do, as I, as I think I said last week, I generally find it annoying
00:43:21.120
when conservatives do this thing where they yell at people for not talking about a certain issue or
00:43:27.120
not talking about it sooner or not talking about it enough or in the right way or whatever, this
00:43:32.320
endless kind of purity spiral that you see on the right, uh, I'm the target of it all the time
00:43:37.080
because whatever I'm talking about, I'll, I'll hear from a hundred people mad at me for not talking
00:43:42.960
about something else. And, uh, and even the people who are happy that I'm talking about the thing are
00:43:47.880
going to say that I should have talked about it differently or, or, you know, it's, it's all,
00:43:52.040
it's always something. Okay. No matter what you're focusing on, there's always a million other things
00:43:57.680
that people tell you, well, what, what you're ignoring this, what's going on? Have you been
00:44:00.700
bought out? You grifter, are you getting paid to ignore this one other random arbitrary issue that
00:44:06.200
I've selected that I think you should talk about? So, um, I find that highly irritating and I get it,
00:44:12.900
but, but, but this issue is different. It just is. Trans ideology is simply the craziest thing
00:44:22.140
that human beings have ever come up with. And it's one of the most destructive ideologies in human
00:44:27.980
history. Um, so it's a unique kind of insane evil. Uh, we are not omniscient or omnipresent. We can't be
00:44:36.600
everywhere talking about everything all the time, but some issues just cry out for special attention.
00:44:42.540
Some issues you, you just have to pay attention to and speak out about. Um, and this is one of them.
00:44:50.820
And lots of people who knew better did not speak out about it, including people. And it's not just
00:44:54.680
talk about someone like Richard Dawkins. He's not, he's not just some random person. He's a biologist.
00:45:00.180
So it's in particular people who are in, who were in professions that are very relevant to that issue
00:45:08.000
had a special obligation to speak up and he did. Um, and on top of that, he's not only a biologist,
00:45:17.060
but he's a biologist who has, he was, uh, positioned himself as a defender of science, uh, against,
00:45:23.200
you know, attacks with what he perceives to be attacks on science, which is all the stuff,
00:45:27.420
the outspoken atheism going after religious people and all that for many years as he has.
00:45:34.300
Well, okay. Here's an attack on science, like an actual attack on science because belief in God is
00:45:41.100
not, but here's a real attack on science coming from the left. Where are you? Uh, really nowhere to
00:45:48.160
be found until recently. And that's, that's the problem. Uh, you're wrong on the tampon story. If it
00:45:53.740
was you in high school, that tampon dispenser in the boys' restroom would stay up for at least two
00:45:57.400
hours because in a sane world, you'd have to prove it was there before tearing it down.
00:46:01.500
I'd run through the halls telling my friends to see it and laugh and then destroy it.
00:46:06.780
That's, that's actually a good point. Um, if they had a tamp, put a tampon dispenser in the men's
00:46:10.920
room when I was in high school, yeah, originally I said it would be gone within seconds, but, but no,
00:46:15.500
I guess it wouldn't. You're right. Because you would be so stunned to find it there that you would,
00:46:21.160
yeah, you'd have to let everybody know. It's like everyone would have to come see it first.
00:46:25.040
And so they could believe that they actually put a tampon in the, in the men's room. And then once
00:46:31.160
everyone has seen it, once, once they have, once they, uh, their eyes, they've laid their eyes on
00:46:36.300
this hilarious site, then you tear it down. Uh, finally, I don't agree with encouraging children
00:46:45.060
to be bullies. It's good to teach our kids not to go along with the gender craziness, but they also
00:46:49.320
have to learn respect for others. Respect for others is you have to quantify, you have to qualify
00:46:55.580
that a little bit because I don't teach my kids to, now I don't teach them to be, to be bullies.
00:47:02.720
Like, yes, we should teach our kids not to be bullies. My point is that the anti-bullying crusade
00:47:07.420
went way too far to the point where we were telling kids to, uh, we went way beyond bullying,
00:47:14.340
right? Uh, in an effort to not be a bully, we've encouraged our kids to be pushovers and to just
00:47:20.460
accept things that are unacceptable all in an effort to not be a bully. And that's what I have
00:47:24.580
a problem with. As far as respect, respect goes, uh, I don't teach my kids to respect everybody
00:47:30.760
universally, regardless of that person's conduct. I teach them to be respectful, sure, but they should
00:47:37.600
be respectful in the same way that they should be peaceful. That's the ideal. That's kind of the
00:47:43.380
default position. Um, you, you never want to be the person who, who, uh, introduces like non-peaceful
00:47:53.700
behavior, introduces violence into a situation, but I don't tell them to be peaceful towards
00:47:59.600
everybody, regardless of how that person is, is, is towards them. Obviously you have to be able to
00:48:04.580
defend yourself, defend your loved ones. Um, and that might require being non-peaceful in some
00:48:10.640
circumstances. And the same goes for respect. I want my kids to go into any interaction with
00:48:16.380
another person ready to respect them, ready to show respect, uh, going in with a respectful
00:48:22.560
attitude. But if that person carries themselves, conducts themselves in a way that is not deserving
00:48:29.000
of respect, then they shouldn't receive respect. And this is even more the case when it comes to
00:48:34.640
ideas and concepts and claims about the world. No, we should not be automatically respectful of any of
00:48:42.080
that. You know, if it's an idea that is, that is ridiculous, such as the idea that boys are girls
00:48:51.240
and girls are boys, it's a ridiculous idea and you should treat it as ridiculous. You should show
00:48:57.220
that idea, no respect whatsoever. That's, um, I think how we should be teaching our kids.
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We're going to talk about male female relationship dynamics again, as we often do during this segment
00:49:51.600
of the show, but this time it will be the first time that the conversation begins with Shaquille O'Neal.
00:49:56.860
Recently, Shaq made some comments on his podcast that he apparently has a podcast and the comments
00:50:03.240
went viral, led to a fair amount of blowback. During the course of the conversation, the NBA legend
00:50:07.400
cautioned men that they should never be emotionally vulnerable in front of a woman ever under any
00:50:12.520
circumstance, according to him. And here's his reasoning. Watch.
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The day you fall off, that woman ain't interested as you think.
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Yeah. Once you start complaining and dragging your feet.
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She don't want to hear no complaints. The day you come home and think you could be like,
00:50:28.260
baby, I was down. I lost it. She's going to be stroking your ego, but she's going to remember
00:50:32.700
that time. You cannot let them see you one time down. The world can't see your head down
00:50:40.360
So I'd tell people to stay up. I want you both to know that you can.
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Cannot. I don't want to get to like Dr. Phil right now.
00:50:50.740
No, but I don't think you've ever had someone that you really could trust and really open
00:50:55.000
up. Now, if you want to keep an eye, if you want to give somebody else some coochie all
00:50:57.920
the time, you know what I'm saying? I'm saying, if you want to, if you want to bow, I'm just
00:51:00.980
being real. No, I guess. You open up to a woman?
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When's the last time you think you've opened up to a woman?
00:51:12.220
Man, I've got players like, like, I can, me and him related.
00:51:17.520
Yeah, I can tell you guys. There's some connection here.
00:51:19.440
Oh, no. And they're going to tell you, you can't.
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Because once you do, whenever something go down, they're going to throw it back in your
00:51:39.000
So you should never open up to a woman because if you do, the woman will store that moment away
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in her brain and throw it back in your face at some point in the future.
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That's the argument Shaq is making. Interestingly, there's one guy of the three who initially
00:51:51.040
takes the position that you can and should be emotionally vulnerable with women. But even
00:51:55.200
he, by the end, admits that he has personally had the experience of having his vulnerability
00:51:59.320
used against him by a woman that he had opened up to. So just kind of interesting. Now, we
00:52:05.060
should note that Shaq is divorced and therefore not necessarily the sort of man that you should
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consult for relationship advice. Even if he wasn't divorced, I'm not sure why you would
00:52:13.740
consult him for relationship advice. He's also making a general statement that seems
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to be informed more by his own personal experience than by any broader insight into male-female
00:52:21.700
dynamics. And his experience is not universal. You know, he's describing a kind of cynicism
00:52:25.880
and manipulativeness that is obviously not anywhere close to universal among women. It's
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certainly not how my own wife operates. So I know that not every woman is like that. But
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with those caveats, there is still some truth to what he's saying. And the truth is very
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important to understand. So let's work through it. First of all, I think some of the sort
00:52:44.160
of angry reactions to Shaq's comments, the sort of reaction you see any time a man says
00:52:47.860
something like this publicly, ironically lends validity to the very point that the angry people
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are arguing against. Like, by Shaq saying that you can't open up to women because they'll throw
00:53:01.000
it in your face, he is himself opening up. He's obviously talking about his own experiences.
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And it's an experience that many men, as you can also see in the comments about this
00:53:10.040
clip, have had. So once again, we see how society says men should open up. And then a
00:53:14.820
man does open up. And society responds, not like that. It's apparently Shaq's experience
00:53:20.760
that his emotions are used against him by the women in his life. To yell at him for sharing
00:53:25.920
that experience is to say that he should not have shared it. So which is it? Do you want
00:53:29.840
men to share or not? And the fact is that even if his experience isn't universal, it is common
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enough that it resonates with a great many men. If a bunch of men are saying that they
00:53:40.560
have revealed vulnerabilities to their girlfriends or wives only to have those vulnerabilities
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cynically exploited or used as ammunition in arguments weeks or months or years down
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the line, the appropriate response, especially if you do in fact want men to open up, is to
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ask why this is happening and why some women behave that way. It's not to get angry at the
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men for sharing those experiences, experiences that they are not all making up in some sort
00:54:04.640
of patriarchal conspiracy, right? Some men have this view of women because these are the
00:54:10.100
kinds of women that they have encountered. The red pill and MGTOW movements, which I've
00:54:15.680
criticized plenty of times for plenty of reasons, are driven at least in part by the fact that
00:54:19.500
a lot of these men are resentful and broken down after having been abused in this way by these
00:54:24.240
sorts of women. To assume that they're all exaggerating, that they're simply a bunch of
00:54:28.700
sexists, is to again validate the claim that men shouldn't be emotionally honest. But this
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is not just a matter of spurned men who have closed themselves off because of their experiences
00:54:42.460
with manipulative scheming women. There's a seed of truth here that is in fact universal.
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The problem with Shaq's point is that it's too absolute. He says, well, it never opened up,
00:54:53.240
never, ever. Well, if you never open up to a woman at all, then you'll be entirely emotionally
00:54:58.240
closed off. This is an extreme level of stoicism that even I find excessive because your wife
00:55:04.600
married a human being, not a tree stump. You need to have some emotion or there will be
00:55:08.140
no connection, no understanding between the two of you, and then there can't be a real relationship.
00:55:13.540
But these days we've gone way too far in the other direction, right? We've massively overcorrected
00:55:17.300
as we have with pretty much everything else. And men are encouraged in theory, in theory,
00:55:22.280
to be completely vulnerable, to air all of their fears and anxieties, to be sensitive,
00:55:27.820
to cry, and so on. Society bids a man to be as emotional as a woman because society denies
00:55:35.140
that there's any essential difference between the two. And then when a man accepts this invitation,
00:55:41.280
he quickly discovers that it doesn't work in practice the way it works in theory.
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And that's because men are supposed to be strong, resilient, self-contained, and to a large degree,
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though not absolutely, more stoic. No matter what the culture says, this is how a man is meant to be.
00:56:02.080
And it's also how his wife and his family need him to be. And it's how his wife and family want him
00:56:07.900
to be, even if they don't say it or even know it. Even if they say the opposite. They say they don't want
00:56:15.260
that. Actually, they do want it. And the truth of this point is indisputable if you stop and think
00:56:20.760
about it for two seconds. So consider this hypothetical. Husband and wife are driving on
00:56:27.260
a back road at night. Car breaks down. Maybe we'll throw in that you don't have cell reception. It's
00:56:34.480
a back road, so you're not able to call anybody. Now, the woman is frustrated, nervous, scared,
00:56:40.860
maybe starts to cry. And situations like this have played out a billion times. There's nothing
00:56:46.140
unusual about it. Women often cry when they're frustrated, nervous, and scared. And they do.
00:56:51.320
Like, we're not going to deny that. And the man, if he's a responsible and manly sort of man,
00:56:58.640
he'll try to calm the woman. And he'll remain calm himself. He won't think any less of her for being
00:57:04.960
emotional. He probably won't even remember it a day later. Like, when he thinks about breaking down,
00:57:09.120
he's not going to think about the fact that his wife got emotional and started to cry,
00:57:12.300
because there's nothing particularly notable or disturbing about that, you know, seeing his wife
00:57:16.360
get emotional in situations like that. Now, on the other hand, imagine that they're driving down
00:57:22.380
that same back road at night. Car breaks down. And the man starts to cry, okay? The woman in the seat
00:57:30.400
next to him could be the most dedicated feminist in the world. She could be as progressive and supposedly
00:57:36.700
enlightened as they come. She could have told her husband many times in the past that she wants him
00:57:42.320
to show more emotion. In fact, she could have been in the process of giving him that speech
00:57:45.600
when the car broke down. But if he cries in that situation, she will be extremely disturbed and
00:57:53.260
frustrated and frankly disgusted. She'll be disgusted by the sight. And no matter what she says,
00:57:58.940
no matter what she might proclaim publicly, she will think less of him after that. Any woman would.
00:58:04.320
We all know that. So there are a great many situations like this where a woman's expression
00:58:09.680
of raw emotion would be totally unremarkable and unproblematic, but a man's expression of the
00:58:15.240
same emotion in the same way in the same situation would make you lose all respect for him. And that's
00:58:21.720
because regardless of what anyone claims, men are men. They are not women. And when push comes to
00:58:28.280
shove, we expect men to act like men and not women. Now, there are millions of people in this country
00:58:34.920
who will bristle at a statement like men shouldn't act like women, right? They will reject that
00:58:42.060
statement. They'll think it's old fashioned. It's, you know, it's backwards. It's sexist and everything
00:58:48.400
else. And yet, and yet every single one of them without exception would be repulsed by a man crying
00:58:56.220
because his car broke down. And a woman who cries in the same situation, they'd feel sympathetic for.
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And we all know that. And there are many situations just like this. Now, wives may think that they want
00:59:09.660
to see more emotional vulnerability from their husbands, but they don't want that much of it.
00:59:14.340
Like they only want a certain amount. And oftentimes when they get a little more of it,
00:59:18.720
then they realize, you know, they get a little more emotional vulnerability. Then they start to
00:59:22.960
realize that they kind of preferred how it was before. Generally speaking, a man should control
00:59:28.520
his emotions, keep many of his fears and anxieties to himself and be a source of consistency and
00:59:34.500
stability for his family. Does that mean that a husband can't tell his wife if he had a bad day at
00:59:39.440
work or something? No, of course not. Yeah, you could share that. But if he's complaining about
00:59:45.000
his bad day at work every day and he's whiny about it, or if he comes home in tears, he's had a really
00:59:52.900
bad day and he's crying about it the way that women will sometimes. If he does that, well, then she's
00:59:59.340
going to get annoyed and she's going to lose respect for him. And, you know, on top of that, if he has
01:00:04.880
some bigger, deeper, but still sort of ambiguous and amorphous anxiety, most of the time it's going
01:00:10.500
to be better if he doesn't share it with anybody, including his wife. So for example, think about
01:00:15.800
a man who has a nonspecific general worry that he might lose his job. And I don't mean that he's
01:00:21.580
told he's going to be laid off or that some specific thing happened that makes it highly
01:00:25.200
likely that he's going to get fired. Like in that case, of course, you should tell his wife.
01:00:28.580
I mean, just a generalized fear that he wrestles with and that causes him psychological pain that
01:00:35.960
he's just kind of worried about. Not any specific reason, he's just kind of worried that he's going
01:00:38.940
to lose his job. Well, it's probably best in most situations if he doesn't share that with his wife,
01:00:44.660
because all he will have done in that case is spread the anxiety around, offloaded it onto his
01:00:51.220
wife's shoulders while not even succeeding in alleviating any of his own burden. He still feels all
01:00:56.020
the same burden, and now he's kind of given some of it to her. And now his wife feels anxious and
01:01:00.100
insecure and vulnerable, all due to this information that she can't do anything with or about.
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And that's why the manly thing to do, in many cases but not all, is hold on to that worry,
01:01:11.060
work hard to make sure that his fear is not realized, while he allows his family to live
01:01:15.360
with a sense of security that he himself doesn't feel. This is heroic masculinity. It's the kind of
01:01:21.320
thing that the whole world depends on to keep functioning. Now, it's a man's job to shoulder
01:01:29.700
emotional as well as physical burdens, I guess is the point. So when we say that a man is a protector
01:01:35.380
and provider, it includes in this psychological and emotional sense as well. Like most men will never
01:01:42.060
have, so we say men are protectors, well, you know, if we only mean in the physical sense, it's kind of
01:01:47.920
like we're letting ourselves off the hook because most of us will never have the opportunity to
01:01:51.280
protect our families from physical armed invaders in the home or something like that. Most men these
01:01:56.200
days, in the Western world anyway, will never have that chance, thankfully. But they do have the
01:02:03.880
opportunity to protect their families from instability, anxiety, and emotional chaos, which
01:02:09.620
means that the man stands in the way, taking the brunt because he's strong enough to endure it on his
01:02:15.300
own. Like go back to the husband and wife in the broken down car, just for the example.
01:02:21.300
There's no doubt that the husband will have all kinds of worries going through his mind in this
01:02:25.300
situation. Like what if the car has a serious mechanical issue that will cost more money to
01:02:29.520
repair than they have in savings? What if some murderous drifter comes along while they're stranded
01:02:34.060
on the side of the road? You know, he's going to think about that too. What if a million other bad
01:02:37.560
things happen as a result of this circumstance they find themselves in? But he shouldn't say any of that
01:02:42.040
out loud. He shouldn't share it. No, he should not open up in that situation. His wife can and most
01:02:48.520
likely will. But his job is to be a calming and competent presence. It's what his wife wants him to
01:02:55.840
be, no matter what she says in theory. It's what she wants. And if he unburdens himself of all of his
01:03:03.040
fears and worries, it will make the situation worse. And she'll resent him for it. Now, why is this the
01:03:11.580
case? Most fundamentally, because again, men are men and they're expected to act like it. Even a
01:03:17.560
society that pretends it doesn't expect men to act like men, or even that there's no such thing as men
01:03:22.040
acting like men, still actually does expect it, which is extremely unfair to men. But like we have
01:03:29.040
this expectation that society has expectation for us that society denies it has. So like we're
01:03:34.200
getting gaslit all the time, but it is what it is. Also in the context of a marriage, the family relies
01:03:41.680
on the man for its own sense of safety and security. And the man is really the only person in the family
01:03:48.260
who can provide that. This is a calling that only the man can fulfill. The wife looks to her husband to
01:03:54.680
feel safe. The husband does not look to his wife to feel safe. Doesn't look to his children. Everybody
01:03:59.980
looks to him and he looks to no one. Like this is the burden of leadership. Eventually it ends with
01:04:05.960
you. Like eventually the buck stops with you. Everybody turns to you and you better have answers
01:04:12.800
because you can't turn to anybody. So to illustrate my point, when I travel for work, my wife and my kids,
01:04:19.780
they feel less safe in the house without me. And when I'm home, everybody sleeps easier. So my
01:04:25.040
presence in the house gives everybody this sense of security. But when I'm home alone on a few
01:04:29.780
occasions when it's happened and my wife and kids are gone, I don't feel any less safe. I do tend to
01:04:36.320
be racked with worry, but it's because I'm worried about them. And when they come home, I rest easy
01:04:41.020
knowing they are safe. Not because I feel safer with them around. That's because that sense of safety is
01:04:47.400
something that only I can give as the man of the house. I can't receive it from any of them, really.
01:04:53.460
And this is true of physical security and security in pretty much every other sense.
01:04:57.560
My family turns to me knowing that to know that they are secure and I don't turn back to them
01:05:03.660
looking for the same reassurance. Now, emotionally, a man looks to his wife for many things. He looks to
01:05:08.940
her for her kindness, affection, love, warmth, humor, companionship, many, many things. But he doesn't
01:05:15.400
or shouldn't look to her for a sense of security and safety. Like, he has to bring that to the table.
01:05:23.240
And if he doesn't, his family and his marriage will suffer. So does that mean that he can't open up?
01:05:30.680
No, that doesn't always mean that. He can open up sometimes to some extent. But if he opens up so much
01:05:36.380
and so often that he begins to project a sense of weakness and instability, then he will have gone too far
01:05:42.100
and said too much. You cannot be so vulnerable as a man that those who depend on you now also feel
01:05:49.440
vulnerable. Which means that you keep some things to yourself. You contain some emotions and you just
01:05:56.600
don't reveal them. It's tough, but that's what it means to be a man. It's the gift we give to our
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families. And it's the most generous kind of gift because it's the kind that they don't even know
01:06:10.500
they're receiving most of the time. But there's a lot of honor and dignity in that.
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And anyway, that's why the people yelling at Shaquille O'Neal are today canceled. We had to
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bring it back around and we finally did. And that'll do it for us today. Thanks for watching.
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Thanks for listening. Have a great day. Talk to you tomorrow. Godspeed.