The Matt Walsh Show - Ep. 176 - Gillette Insults Its Own Customers, Lectures Men

00:00:00.000 Today on the Matt Walsh Show, Gillette decides to lecture men degrading and insulting their

00:00:05.820 own customer base in the process. We'll discuss that. Also, a Hollywood director insults his own

00:00:10.900 small children on Twitter. A lot of other parents applaud him for it. I am not applauding, and I'll

00:00:15.700 explain why. And finally, yesterday, Trump did the most down-to-earth and endearing thing that

00:00:22.580 I think he's ever done. Of course, the left is insulting him for it, but we'll talk about why.

00:00:27.980 I think it was a great move on his part. All that coming up on the Matt Walsh Show.

00:00:36.360 Just a quick FYI, I was introduced to a new phrase just now, hot off the presses. I think this is

00:00:42.880 the newest, trendiest phrase on the left. Here it is, okay, non-consensual puberty. Yes, yes,

00:00:53.660 non-consensual puberty. This apparently refers to when a trans boy is forced to go through puberty

00:01:03.080 against his will, which makes him even more apparently male, which he doesn't want to be.

00:01:08.320 So that's non-consensual puberty, which honestly, I can relate to that. I mean, I am experiencing right 1.00

00:01:16.100 now, non-consensual aging, and eventually I will non-consensually die. So it can be a very,

00:01:23.720 very tough thing. So look out for that. You're going to be hearing that more and more,

00:01:28.640 especially if you happen to go to college, which I don't recommend. Anyway, this is kind of related,

00:01:33.900 actually. Let's talk about Gillette, the best a man can get, supposedly, which was always a

00:01:41.340 questionable slogan because men really shouldn't be shaving at all. I don't know a lot about Gillette,

00:01:48.120 as you can tell. And as if to drive that point home, as if Gillette wanted to drive home the point

00:01:55.260 that, you know what, don't use our product, don't shave, they came out with an ad, if you can call it

00:02:01.720 an ad, which encourages men to shave off their toxic masculinity and to, you know, to stop being

00:02:11.900 generally so horrible. You see men, men really haven't been lectured and scolded and sermonized

00:02:21.100 to enough. So Gillette decided they were going to get in on the ad. I think the people at Gillette,

00:02:26.240 the advertising, you know, folks there, they sat around and they said, okay, we're trying to sell

00:02:32.980 razors. We're trying to sell shaving cream. How can we get more men to buy this stuff? And then they 1.00

00:02:41.220 all kind of looked at each other and they said, we need to tell them that they're awful. And yeah,

00:02:47.520 you know what they need? A homily. That's what they need. They need a homily. And everyone,

00:02:51.580 they all nodded in agreement and they said, let's do it. Brilliant. I should mention, by the way,

00:02:57.260 that all of the, in this, in this scenario, all of the advertising people at Gillette,

00:03:01.040 they are all college-aged feminists, apparently. And so this is the ad they came up with. 0.97

00:03:09.400 And it is, it's being hailed as wonderful and inspiring, mostly by liberals. Feminists, 0.88

00:03:15.920 of course, love it. As I said, I think feminists probably are the ones who came up with this. 1.00

00:03:19.220 And when feminists love an ad that's supposedly made for men, you know that something's wrong. 1.00

00:03:24.600 So let's, um, let's take a look here. Here's the ad right now.

00:03:30.020 Bullying. The Me Too movement against sexual harassment. Toxic masculinity.

00:03:34.120 Is this the best a man can get? 0.77

00:03:35.900 The best a man can get.

00:03:39.860 Is it?

00:03:42.900 Bullying. A problem.

00:03:44.420 We can't hide from it.

00:03:45.560 Sexual harassment is taking over.

00:03:47.480 It's been going on far too long.

00:03:52.360 We can't laugh it off.

00:03:54.980 Who's the daddy?

00:03:57.320 What I actually think she's trying to say.

00:03:59.880 Making the same old excuses.

00:04:01.860 Boys will be boys.

00:04:03.220 Boys will be boys.

00:04:04.240 Boys will be boys.

00:04:05.260 But something finally changed.

00:04:07.500 Allegations regarding sexual assault and sexual harassment.

00:04:10.720 But she says we've been talking to the line.

00:04:13.080 And there will be no going back.

00:04:16.020 Because we, we believe in the best in men.

00:04:21.260 Men need to hold other men accountable.

00:04:24.640 Smile, sweetie.

00:04:25.940 Come on.

00:04:27.220 To say the right thing.

00:04:29.340 To act the right way.

00:04:31.700 Bro, not cool? Not cool?

00:04:33.500 Some already are.

00:04:34.900 In ways big.

00:04:38.080 Young men.

00:04:39.820 Forever.

00:04:40.720 And small.

00:04:42.120 I am strong.

00:04:43.440 I am strong.

00:04:46.300 But some is not enough.

00:04:51.140 It's not how we treat each other, okay?

00:04:53.240 Okay.

00:04:54.740 Because the boys watching today

00:04:56.920 will be the men of tomorrow.

00:05:00.580 Okay.

00:05:06.660 So, a few things here.

00:05:08.300 First of all,

00:05:10.060 the ad says,

00:05:12.460 and I know there, you know,

00:05:13.740 there are a lot of,

00:05:14.220 as I said, a lot of feminists, 1.00

00:05:15.400 and I've seen plenty of women, 1.00

00:05:17.180 not just women,

00:05:17.740 but also liberal men,

00:05:19.340 on social media who are saying,

00:05:21.160 well, what's the problem with this thing?

00:05:22.540 You know, it seems fine to me.

00:05:23.960 What's, it's inspiring, right?

00:05:25.980 What's, what's wrong with inspiring men?

00:05:29.200 Well, there's a lot wrong with it,

00:05:30.500 and I'm going to try to explain it to you now.

00:05:33.240 First, the ad says that something changed, okay?

00:05:38.960 And there's no going back.

00:05:41.260 And then as soon as it says that,

00:05:43.220 then we see all these scenes of men

00:05:45.520 doing normal, decent things,

00:05:47.220 like breaking up fights between kids,

00:05:50.980 refraining from sexually harassing women,

00:05:54.600 and the thing that's supposed to be the catalyst,

00:06:01.160 the thing that supposedly changed everything

00:06:03.800 and made men see the error in their ways

00:06:06.460 is the Me Too movement, right?

00:06:08.340 The Me Too movement.

00:06:09.320 And you hear this all the time,

00:06:11.820 that the Me Too movement came along

00:06:14.720 and made men look at themselves

00:06:16.520 and rethink things

00:06:17.860 and come to realizations

00:06:19.360 and have epiphanies.

00:06:21.160 This is also,

00:06:22.080 a lot of the men who are caught up

00:06:23.620 in the Me Too movement,

00:06:24.700 a lot of the Hollywood celebrities

00:06:26.320 who were exposed as perverts,

00:06:30.680 when they came out

00:06:31.620 with their inevitable apologies,

00:06:33.100 they would always have a line like this.

00:06:34.920 They would say,

00:06:35.520 well, you know,

00:06:36.020 the Me Too movement,

00:06:36.920 I think it's made all men 1.00

00:06:38.220 think of things differently now,

00:06:40.920 you know?

00:06:42.420 So you see these guys,

00:06:43.680 they're trying to make it

00:06:44.340 not just about them,

00:06:45.220 it's really all men.

00:06:46.220 This is insulting and degrading.

00:06:49.980 And if you can't see

00:06:51.160 why it's insulting and degrading,

00:06:53.080 then I don't even know

00:06:54.280 if there's any way for me

00:06:55.000 to explain it to you.

00:06:56.000 It should be self-evident

00:06:57.400 why this is insulting and degrading.

00:06:59.380 The vast majority of men

00:07:01.360 do not need

00:07:03.160 and did not ever need

00:07:04.840 the Me Too movement

00:07:06.260 to tell them not to rape women 1.00

00:07:08.440 or to harass women.

00:07:09.560 Listen, okay?

00:07:12.440 The Me Too movement

00:07:13.740 came about

00:07:14.500 because perverts in Hollywood 0.99

00:07:16.240 were being perverts,

00:07:18.900 were being jerks, 0.88

00:07:21.220 or worse.

00:07:24.760 Most of us didn't learn

00:07:26.100 anything from that

00:07:27.100 because we already knew it.

00:07:30.360 So, no, I'll tell you right now,

00:07:32.200 I did not learn a single thing

00:07:34.280 from the Me Too movement.

00:07:35.340 I learned nothing from it.

00:07:36.920 Harvey Weinstein,

00:07:38.300 Kevin Spacey,

00:07:39.200 all these guys.

00:07:40.240 Bill Cosby,

00:07:41.220 I didn't learn anything from that.

00:07:42.300 I learned absolutely nothing

00:07:43.280 because I already knew

00:07:45.840 all of that.

00:07:47.260 So, there wasn't any point

00:07:48.740 where I was sitting down

00:07:49.780 and watching a news report

00:07:51.060 about Harvey Weinstein

00:07:52.260 and I went,

00:07:54.140 oh, man.

00:07:55.140 Oh, so we're not supposed

00:07:56.480 to do that?

00:07:57.360 Oh, okay.

00:07:59.800 Whew, all right.

00:08:01.700 No, that never happened for me.

00:08:03.140 I never had that moment.

00:08:04.860 Probably 95% of all the men

00:08:06.960 in the world

00:08:08.640 never had that moment

00:08:09.560 because we already knew that.

00:08:11.480 And in fact,

00:08:11.920 the thing is,

00:08:12.620 I would say actually

00:08:13.860 100% of men in the world

00:08:15.740 never had that moment

00:08:17.100 because even the men

00:08:18.280 who do those things

00:08:19.680 already knew

00:08:21.800 that they weren't

00:08:22.360 supposed to do it.

00:08:23.240 It's not like

00:08:23.540 they were confused about it.

00:08:25.700 That's one of the problems

00:08:26.500 with this ridiculous thing

00:08:27.500 you hear from feminists 1.00

00:08:28.320 about,

00:08:29.000 well, we need to teach

00:08:30.100 boys not to rape.

00:08:31.600 Let's teach boys

00:08:32.420 not to rape.

00:08:33.180 Teach them not to rape?

00:08:35.380 What?

00:08:36.380 Do you really think

00:08:37.740 that you need to sit down

00:08:39.380 and say to boys,

00:08:41.300 hey, listen,

00:08:41.820 don't rape people? 1.00

00:08:43.100 I mean,

00:08:43.640 are you going to sit them down

00:08:44.720 and say,

00:08:45.140 hey, listen,

00:08:45.780 don't be serial killers, okay?

00:08:47.980 I want you to listen

00:08:48.780 very closely to me right now.

00:08:49.940 Listen to what I'm saying.

00:08:51.780 Do not rob banks.

00:08:53.600 Don't do it.

00:08:55.360 No, you don't need

00:08:56.540 to ever say that

00:08:57.340 to really anyone explicitly.

00:08:59.920 And I know you'll say,

00:09:00.860 well, people do those things.

00:09:02.000 Yeah, they do them,

00:09:03.140 but they know

00:09:03.900 they're not supposed

00:09:04.640 to do them.

00:09:06.040 Yet they do them anyway.

00:09:07.300 You know why?

00:09:07.620 Because there are evil people

00:09:08.880 in the world

00:09:09.480 who know that things are evil

00:09:11.560 and yet do those evil things anyway

00:09:13.520 because there's something else

00:09:15.180 that they want, okay?

00:09:16.340 So an evil person will say,

00:09:17.580 I'm going to rob the bank anyway

00:09:18.900 because I know

00:09:20.000 I'm not supposed to do it.

00:09:20.880 Yes, but I really want the money.

00:09:22.680 Or a very evil person will say,

00:09:24.120 I know I'm not supposed to rape,

00:09:25.540 but I'm going to do it anyway

00:09:27.080 because I'm going to fulfill

00:09:30.300 this dark and depraved desire.

00:09:32.400 So it was never a matter of confusion.

00:09:35.120 All right?

00:09:35.300 That's a very important point here.

00:09:39.140 Second, again,

00:09:42.060 the majority of men

00:09:43.520 will already do this.

00:09:47.760 So think of in that ad

00:09:50.940 the sort of virtuous, courageous things

00:09:55.080 that they show men doing.

00:09:57.540 Breaking up fights,

00:09:59.080 stopping bullying,

00:10:01.640 refraining from sexually harassing.

00:10:04.300 The majority of men

00:10:05.620 will already do that.

00:10:07.180 That's how the majority of men 0.98

00:10:08.100 already act.

00:10:10.080 Now the ad says

00:10:11.480 some men do these things.

00:10:16.480 Which, think of how insulting that is.

00:10:19.520 So they're showing these really basic,

00:10:22.020 decent things,

00:10:22.940 and they're showing human beings

00:10:25.120 just acting like human beings.

00:10:26.860 And then the ad says,

00:10:28.360 well, sure,

00:10:29.400 some men already do these things. 0.95

00:10:31.280 Some?

00:10:34.220 In fact, the ad twice gives this example

00:10:36.780 of a grown man

00:10:38.300 breaking up a fight between kids.

00:10:40.160 And it portrays this

00:10:41.360 as some sort of,

00:10:42.380 in fact, I think it gives that example

00:10:43.620 three times, actually.

00:10:45.240 And it portrays this

00:10:46.300 as some sort of rare example

00:10:47.920 of manly courage.

00:10:50.040 Except almost every adult man

00:10:51.740 I've ever met in my life

00:10:52.680 would do that.

00:10:54.420 And if you're walking

00:10:55.060 down the street

00:10:55.720 and you see some kid

00:10:57.420 getting beat up

00:10:58.180 by a bunch of other kids

00:10:59.120 and getting picked on,

00:11:00.000 of course you're going to step in.

00:11:02.440 What?

00:11:03.400 The people who made Gillette,

00:11:04.660 do they think that most men

00:11:05.840 are really going to stand by

00:11:06.940 and watch it happen

00:11:07.760 and say, yeah, get him!

00:11:08.880 Bully him!

00:11:09.660 Do some more bullying!

00:11:10.840 Yes, we love bullying!

00:11:13.480 Really, the people who made this ad,

00:11:14.980 I'm not sure if they've ever

00:11:16.120 met a man in their life.

00:11:18.420 Which is kind of concerning

00:11:19.520 considering they make razor blades

00:11:20.840 for a living.

00:11:22.560 Now, unless the fight

00:11:24.020 is actually just a couple of kids

00:11:25.860 roughhousing

00:11:26.660 and playing around

00:11:28.400 and having a good time,

00:11:29.980 which, yes,

00:11:30.680 boys ought to be able to do that. 0.65

00:11:32.720 Because, yes,

00:11:33.600 boys will be boys.

00:11:35.660 In one of the scenes of the ad,

00:11:37.620 we see a man,

00:11:39.520 and this is supposed to be

00:11:40.360 an inspiring moment,

00:11:41.560 a man runs in,

00:11:42.720 he's at a barbecue,

00:11:43.460 he runs in,

00:11:43.940 he swoops in

00:11:44.700 because two little boys

00:11:46.740 are kind of like rolling around

00:11:47.720 in the grass

00:11:48.380 and they appear to both

00:11:49.080 be sort of smiling.

00:11:51.360 And so this man,

00:11:52.420 he runs,

00:11:54.020 you know,

00:11:54.260 he's at the grill

00:11:55.140 and he drops,

00:11:55.900 he runs over

00:11:57.020 and stops them

00:11:58.000 and separates them

00:11:58.680 and says,

00:11:59.200 oh, that's not how

00:12:00.140 we treat each other, okay?

00:12:03.440 No, see, yeah,

00:12:04.160 there,

00:12:04.600 that's where most men, 0.95

00:12:06.080 or I would hope anyway,

00:12:07.220 if they see a couple kids

00:12:08.100 roughhousing out in the grass,

00:12:09.300 they're outside,

00:12:10.600 yeah, you're going to let them

00:12:11.260 do that.

00:12:11.940 Because it's not a big deal.

00:12:13.000 That's how boys like to play.

00:12:15.300 When my son gets together

00:12:16.820 with his little cousin,

00:12:18.260 who's,

00:12:18.580 they're about the same age,

00:12:20.020 I mean,

00:12:20.320 they just beat the crap

00:12:21.900 out of each other.

00:12:22.520 I mean,

00:12:22.780 they're like a couple of,

00:12:24.820 they're like a couple of,

00:12:26.560 like,

00:12:26.900 rabid raccoons

00:12:28.120 going at each other,

00:12:29.700 but it's,

00:12:30.320 they're having fun.

00:12:31.640 That's just how boys play,

00:12:33.720 right?

00:12:34.740 If it gets really dangerous

00:12:35.780 or something,

00:12:36.420 or if they're about

00:12:36.800 to break something,

00:12:37.900 then we'll stop them.

00:12:39.080 But otherwise,

00:12:40.080 you let boys do that. 0.94

00:12:41.920 Because actually,

00:12:44.920 boys will be boys

00:12:46.300 is in fact

00:12:48.240 a really important

00:12:50.720 piece of wisdom.

00:12:54.620 Boys will be boys 0.85

00:12:56.080 is not a slogan

00:12:58.320 of toxic masculinity.

00:13:00.320 It may be a cliche,

00:13:01.900 but like many cliches,

00:13:03.500 it contains

00:13:04.220 some very crucial insights.

00:13:08.760 You know what?

00:13:10.160 I'm not sure,

00:13:11.040 aside from in ads like this

00:13:13.140 or in movies or TV shows,

00:13:15.000 I'm not sure

00:13:15.520 if I've ever heard anyone

00:13:17.060 sincerely offer

00:13:19.060 boys will be boys

00:13:20.400 as an excuse

00:13:21.680 for actually bad behavior.

00:13:23.880 Like,

00:13:24.200 I've never heard anyone say

00:13:26.580 when we're talking about rape

00:13:28.460 or actual bullying

00:13:30.420 or anything like that.

00:13:31.800 I've never heard someone say,

00:13:32.680 well,

00:13:32.940 you know,

00:13:33.220 boys will be boys.

00:13:35.320 That's not real.

00:13:36.840 It's not a thing.

00:13:37.480 Nobody says that.

00:13:38.380 In any situation

00:13:40.800 I've been in

00:13:41.320 where this phrase

00:13:42.360 boys will be boys

00:13:43.340 or something like it

00:13:44.180 comes up,

00:13:45.140 it's when we're talking

00:13:46.040 about things

00:13:46.660 that boys should be able

00:13:48.160 to do.

00:13:48.800 Boys do have aggression.

00:13:50.840 They have energy.

00:13:52.120 They, you know,

00:13:52.600 they have creativity.

00:13:54.760 They need to be able,

00:13:56.020 they need an outlet

00:13:56.780 for these things.

00:13:57.740 And you can't

00:13:58.720 constantly be stifling

00:14:00.040 and suppressing

00:14:01.080 all of that.

00:14:02.800 Because you do need

00:14:03.960 boys to be boys.

00:14:05.380 And this is something

00:14:06.760 that parents of boys

00:14:08.040 need to understand.

00:14:10.480 And I feel really,

00:14:11.440 I feel very sorry

00:14:12.720 for boys

00:14:13.340 who have parents

00:14:14.800 who think that

00:14:15.740 boys will be boys

00:14:16.780 is some sort of

00:14:17.520 horrible phrase

00:14:19.160 that excuses

00:14:20.480 terrible evil.

00:14:22.180 I feel very sorry

00:14:23.360 for boys

00:14:23.940 with parents like that.

00:14:25.900 Because those are boys

00:14:27.280 who are not going

00:14:28.080 to be allowed

00:14:28.640 to be boys.

00:14:29.280 And if you're not

00:14:30.980 allowing your boy

00:14:31.720 to be a boy,

00:14:32.540 then what are you doing?

00:14:33.300 You're forcing your boy

00:14:34.360 to act like a girl.

00:14:36.440 And that is not fair.

00:14:39.940 You let your girl 0.51

00:14:40.900 act like a girl,

00:14:41.620 don't you?

00:14:45.280 Third thing,

00:14:48.080 can just imagine

00:14:51.080 for a moment

00:14:51.860 a similar ad

00:14:54.100 but for women. 1.00

00:14:56.480 Well, you can't imagine it

00:14:57.660 because no such ad

00:14:58.980 would ever be made.

00:15:00.800 No such ad

00:15:01.780 could ever possibly exist.

00:15:05.440 Can you imagine

00:15:06.440 an ad

00:15:07.100 that said

00:15:07.820 some women 1.00

00:15:10.180 act right?

00:15:12.140 You know,

00:15:12.460 some women 1.00

00:15:13.680 act the right way.

00:15:15.580 Can you imagine

00:15:16.460 an ad like that?

00:15:17.660 Can you imagine

00:15:18.240 an ad that showed

00:15:19.040 various scenes

00:15:20.620 of women

00:15:21.140 acting horribly

00:15:22.180 and then

00:15:23.700 it allows

00:15:24.500 at the end

00:15:24.940 a concession

00:15:25.380 some women 1.00

00:15:26.220 act the right way.

00:15:28.480 And this is an ad

00:15:29.440 for like Dove

00:15:30.500 Body Wash

00:15:31.640 or something like that.

00:15:34.220 Or it's,

00:15:34.980 I don't know,

00:15:35.580 you know,

00:15:35.840 a tampine commercial.

00:15:36.800 I mean,

00:15:37.120 can you imagine

00:15:38.840 an ad like that?

00:15:39.580 It couldn't,

00:15:40.500 because you know

00:15:40.980 what would happen?

00:15:42.080 Feminists would literally 1.00

00:15:43.100 be rioting

00:15:43.940 in the streets.

00:15:44.720 They would be burning

00:15:45.720 the product

00:15:46.400 in the street.

00:15:48.500 They'd be making

00:15:49.300 like Molotov cocktails

00:15:50.440 out of it

00:15:51.520 and tossing it

00:15:52.400 in people's windows.

00:15:53.400 I mean,

00:15:53.800 that's how upset

00:15:54.940 they would be

00:15:55.460 at an ad like that.

00:15:56.800 At an ad

00:15:57.300 that degraded

00:15:58.140 and demeaned

00:15:58.860 and insulted

00:15:59.560 women like that 1.00

00:16:00.320 and talked down

00:16:01.160 to them

00:16:01.640 and insinuated

00:16:03.840 that most women 1.00

00:16:05.300 don't know

00:16:06.760 how to behave

00:16:07.380 like decent

00:16:08.000 human beings.

00:16:10.120 Can you imagine

00:16:11.060 an ad that used

00:16:11.900 the phrase

00:16:12.400 toxic femininity? 1.00

00:16:14.380 Can you imagine

00:16:14.900 anyone using

00:16:15.660 that phrase?

00:16:16.700 Toxic femininity? 1.00

00:16:18.880 What if I were

00:16:19.680 to start using,

00:16:20.240 what if I were

00:16:20.700 to start talking

00:16:21.720 about toxic femininity? 1.00

00:16:23.560 Toxic femininity, 0.58

00:16:24.580 that's when women 1.00

00:16:25.960 gossip maliciously

00:16:27.720 about each other

00:16:28.460 or when women 1.00

00:16:30.140 shop,

00:16:31.580 spend too much money,

00:16:32.700 too much of their money

00:16:33.420 on clothing

00:16:34.000 or when a woman

00:16:36.800 acts just mean

00:16:39.420 and nasty

00:16:40.120 to a man

00:16:40.900 that's just trying

00:16:41.760 to talk to her

00:16:42.480 and make conversation.

00:16:44.440 These kinds of things

00:16:45.480 happen all the time

00:16:46.140 in society.

00:16:47.380 Women act like that 1.00

00:16:48.240 all the time.

00:16:49.740 I'm not going to say

00:16:50.200 most women do, 1.00

00:16:51.160 but that certainly happens.

00:16:52.860 We've all encountered

00:16:53.420 women like that, 1.00

00:16:54.100 haven't we?

00:16:54.380 Just like we've encountered

00:16:55.100 men who are jerks. 0.87

00:16:57.580 Yet you're not allowed

00:16:58.420 to call that

00:16:59.160 toxic femininity,

00:17:00.240 are you?

00:17:02.420 And I would never

00:17:03.200 actually use that phrase

00:17:04.140 because that's not femininity. 1.00

00:17:06.480 Femininity is a good thing. 1.00

00:17:08.740 There is no toxic femininity. 0.87

00:17:10.120 It's like there's

00:17:10.480 no toxic masculinity.

00:17:12.440 There are men

00:17:13.320 who act the wrong way.

00:17:14.220 There are women 0.98

00:17:14.520 who act the wrong way.

00:17:16.220 But the women 1.00

00:17:16.820 who act the wrong way,

00:17:17.620 it's not because

00:17:18.100 they're being too feminine. 0.99

00:17:20.200 Most of the time,

00:17:20.980 it's precisely the opposite.

00:17:22.120 Just like with the men.

00:17:22.980 It's not that they're

00:17:23.380 being too masculine.

00:17:24.500 Most of the time,

00:17:25.240 the problem is exactly

00:17:26.180 the opposite of that.

00:17:31.220 But this,

00:17:33.460 and by the way,

00:17:35.740 when it comes to

00:17:36.620 fights and things,

00:17:37.620 when there's a fight

00:17:39.000 going on and there are

00:17:39.800 people standing around

00:17:40.640 cheering it on,

00:17:41.820 listen, I saw plenty

00:17:42.680 of fights in high school

00:17:43.500 like many of us did.

00:17:44.320 And I can tell you

00:17:46.240 that girls are just 1.00

00:17:48.040 as likely to stand around

00:17:49.880 and watch a fight

00:17:50.780 and cheer it on

00:17:51.740 and laugh

00:17:52.360 and record it on their phone

00:17:53.740 so they can put it

00:17:54.280 on the internet later.

00:17:55.020 I mean,

00:17:55.420 they're just as likely

00:17:56.660 to egg it on.

00:17:57.420 I mean,

00:17:57.540 this is something

00:17:58.080 girls do too.

00:17:59.760 Just like many

00:18:00.640 of the things

00:18:01.340 that you saw in the ad

00:18:02.520 and that feminists 1.00

00:18:03.180 blame men for,

00:18:04.480 this is something

00:18:05.060 that girls also do, 1.00

00:18:06.640 women also do 0.99

00:18:07.380 all the time.

00:18:08.880 You know,

00:18:09.100 feminists like to 1.00

00:18:09.860 complain about how men 0.90

00:18:10.900 talk over women 0.98

00:18:11.900 and won't let them

00:18:12.800 speak or won't let them 0.94

00:18:16.740 voice their own opinion,

00:18:18.560 their own perspective.

00:18:19.440 Well,

00:18:19.620 you think women 0.97

00:18:20.120 don't do that

00:18:20.700 all the time?

00:18:21.540 You think women 1.00

00:18:21.960 don't talk over men 0.97

00:18:23.060 constantly?

00:18:25.560 As I've said before,

00:18:26.640 in situations where I,

00:18:28.540 you know,

00:18:29.620 in most situations

00:18:30.780 I've been in,

00:18:31.440 when there is a group

00:18:32.420 of people,

00:18:33.700 men and women,

00:18:34.560 standing around

00:18:35.160 or sitting around

00:18:35.680 and having a conversation,

00:18:36.760 it's usually the women 1.00

00:18:37.960 who do most of the talking.

00:18:40.460 And if there's anyone

00:18:41.400 involved who's not

00:18:42.320 allowed to get a word

00:18:44.000 in edgewise,

00:18:44.660 it's usually going

00:18:45.300 to be the man

00:18:45.980 who can't,

00:18:46.580 not the women. 0.90

00:18:47.500 So I just don't,

00:18:49.000 it just doesn't

00:18:49.440 make any sense.

00:18:51.020 All right.

00:18:52.460 Now that we've talked

00:18:53.420 about masculinity,

00:18:55.560 let's look at why

00:18:58.500 a lack of masculinity

00:19:00.740 can be harmful.

00:19:04.680 As I said,

00:19:06.080 the problem with men, 0.86

00:19:08.060 it's not when they

00:19:08.880 have too much masculinity,

00:19:10.000 it's when they lack it.

00:19:12.900 So let's look at an example.

00:19:14.400 For that,

00:19:14.840 we turn to a man

00:19:16.560 named Duncan Jones,

00:19:18.100 director of various

00:19:20.260 sci-fi films,

00:19:21.560 Hollywood sci-fi films.

00:19:23.180 Some good ones

00:19:24.120 like the movie Moon,

00:19:25.880 which I think

00:19:26.700 is one of the best

00:19:27.240 sci-fi movies

00:19:27.880 in the last 10 or 15 years.

00:19:29.060 And also some bad ones.

00:19:30.280 He apparently directed

00:19:31.040 Warcraft.

00:19:33.680 Anyway,

00:19:34.200 he decided that Twitter

00:19:35.360 was the right forum

00:19:36.540 to vent his deepest

00:19:38.860 parental frustrations.

00:19:41.320 And so in a couple of tweets,

00:19:43.520 which have now gone viral,

00:19:45.280 he had this to say.

00:19:47.320 I'll read what he said.

00:19:48.060 He said,

00:19:48.440 I have two kids,

00:19:50.100 two and a half,

00:19:50.960 two and a half years

00:19:52.600 and nine months old,

00:19:53.400 respectively.

00:19:54.360 I'll tell you something

00:19:55.240 I never see anyone admit.

00:19:57.380 They are exhausting,

00:19:58.760 frustrating,

00:19:59.180 and life destabilizing.

00:20:00.180 They are rarely fun.

00:20:03.600 Sure,

00:20:04.020 smiles are great,

00:20:04.960 hugs are lovely,

00:20:05.800 but it's hard

00:20:06.560 and not obviously

00:20:07.640 a good choice in life.

00:20:09.780 And then he followed it up

00:20:10.780 with another tweet.

00:20:11.300 He said,

00:20:11.520 this is where people

00:20:12.180 feel compelled to say,

00:20:13.300 I wouldn't change it

00:20:14.100 for the world,

00:20:14.860 but you know,

00:20:15.620 of course I'd reconsider.

00:20:17.480 It's exhausting.

00:20:18.500 It's banal.

00:20:19.620 It's like looking after a dog

00:20:21.260 you can't house train.

00:20:23.000 What it is,

00:20:23.860 is that it is.

00:20:25.100 And they are mine.

00:20:26.360 Hopefully they turn out okay.

00:20:27.640 Well,

00:20:28.200 I hope so too,

00:20:31.400 Duncan,

00:20:31.860 but unfortunately,

00:20:33.300 the odds are against them,

00:20:35.360 it seems,

00:20:35.880 if this is your attitude

00:20:36.720 about parenting.

00:20:39.180 What's most concerning

00:20:40.280 about these tweets is,

00:20:41.640 because if you see a tweet

00:20:42.400 like that

00:20:42.900 and it's just kind of

00:20:43.920 lingering out there

00:20:45.900 on its own

00:20:46.520 and nobody's reacting to it,

00:20:47.820 then it's just whatever.

00:20:49.660 But,

00:20:50.280 these tweets provoked

00:20:52.320 a lot of reaction

00:20:53.120 and in the first day or so

00:20:54.960 after they were published,

00:20:56.200 a sizable portion

00:20:57.820 of the responses

00:20:58.600 were entirely supportive

00:21:00.300 and sympathetic

00:21:01.140 to what he was saying.

00:21:05.120 Now,

00:21:05.620 it's not like this now.

00:21:07.440 If you go look

00:21:07.880 at the tweets now,

00:21:08.700 because sane voices

00:21:10.960 have entered the discussion,

00:21:12.360 so it's not the same now.

00:21:13.640 But,

00:21:14.140 originally,

00:21:15.720 if you looked at these tweets

00:21:16.760 and then you were

00:21:17.280 to read the thread,

00:21:19.540 I mean,

00:21:19.920 almost all of the top

00:21:21.180 like 20 or 30 tweets

00:21:22.500 were agreeing

00:21:23.440 with what he was saying.

00:21:25.480 people were,

00:21:28.580 parents decided

00:21:29.320 that this was an opportunity

00:21:30.440 for them to come

00:21:32.460 and join the fray

00:21:34.360 and kind of register

00:21:35.400 their own public complaints

00:21:36.900 about their children.

00:21:38.660 And their complaints

00:21:39.560 were not just

00:21:40.640 the standard sort of

00:21:42.440 parenting can be tough

00:21:44.280 type complaints,

00:21:45.760 but much more specific

00:21:47.240 and personal,

00:21:48.860 my life is miserable

00:21:50.000 and my kids are awful

00:21:51.240 kinds of complaints.

00:21:52.180 And then you had

00:21:54.080 some of the people

00:21:55.600 in the media

00:21:56.160 wrote articles about this.

00:21:58.940 There was an article

00:21:59.840 in Harper's Bazaar

00:22:00.720 about it.

00:22:02.160 And the person

00:22:03.160 who wrote that article

00:22:04.160 said that

00:22:05.100 Duncan Jones'

00:22:06.240 comments were

00:22:08.320 very important,

00:22:10.840 accurate,

00:22:11.600 and he should be

00:22:13.040 applauded

00:22:13.700 for offering them.

00:22:15.940 Well,

00:22:16.420 I'm not sure

00:22:16.760 that I can applaud.

00:22:18.100 I'm not sure

00:22:18.400 I can join

00:22:19.180 the standing ovation here.

00:22:20.220 And I say this

00:22:21.780 as a parent

00:22:22.280 of three kids,

00:22:23.620 two five-year-olds,

00:22:25.140 one two-year-old.

00:22:26.440 So I'm in the same

00:22:27.820 basic phase

00:22:29.340 of parenting

00:22:29.900 as Duncan Jones is.

00:22:32.460 And look,

00:22:33.720 yes,

00:22:34.220 I will agree

00:22:35.240 that,

00:22:36.640 sure,

00:22:37.000 parenting is a challenge.

00:22:38.860 You don't get

00:22:39.620 a ton of sleep,

00:22:40.800 especially in the beginning.

00:22:42.400 And that really,

00:22:43.160 that can take a toll on you.

00:22:44.440 I mean,

00:22:44.660 the sleep thing

00:22:45.920 really does wear you out.

00:22:46.820 That's a tough one

00:22:48.080 when you're not

00:22:48.460 getting a lot of sleep.

00:22:49.080 And there's a lot

00:22:51.140 of crying

00:22:51.600 and there's a lot

00:22:52.180 of noise

00:22:52.700 and there's a lot

00:22:53.440 of movement

00:22:54.160 and somebody's always

00:22:55.580 asking for a snack

00:22:57.720 and when they get

00:22:58.300 to be four or five,

00:22:59.580 there are a million

00:23:00.460 questions a day.

00:23:01.960 I mean,

00:23:02.440 there are always

00:23:03.800 questions.

00:23:05.780 And parenting

00:23:06.700 is generally expensive

00:23:08.120 and it can be exhausting

00:23:09.780 and it can be

00:23:10.680 anxiety-inducing.

00:23:14.080 Nobody thinks

00:23:15.160 and nobody

00:23:15.900 would ever claim

00:23:16.740 that parenting

00:23:17.500 is just this

00:23:18.380 non-stop thrill ride

00:23:20.020 or it's luxurious

00:23:21.400 and relaxing

00:23:22.240 and all that.

00:23:23.100 You know,

00:23:23.420 nobody would ever

00:23:24.140 say that.

00:23:26.660 But worthwhile

00:23:27.720 things are never

00:23:28.960 that way.

00:23:29.480 I can't think

00:23:29.900 of a single

00:23:30.360 worthwhile thing

00:23:31.500 that is completely

00:23:32.940 easy and relaxing

00:23:34.580 and nothing but fun

00:23:35.720 the whole time.

00:23:36.240 There's not a single

00:23:37.200 worthwhile thing

00:23:37.860 that is like that.

00:23:40.800 So fine,

00:23:41.680 I'll give you

00:23:42.540 all that,

00:23:43.140 right?

00:23:43.400 But to say

00:23:45.360 that parenting

00:23:45.900 is rarely fun,

00:23:48.260 like looking

00:23:48.860 after a dog,

00:23:50.520 not obviously

00:23:51.680 a good choice,

00:23:53.420 if you see

00:23:54.940 parenting in those

00:23:55.800 terms,

00:23:56.780 there is something

00:23:57.780 wrong with you.

00:23:59.340 So this is not

00:24:00.380 a thing of,

00:24:01.320 well,

00:24:01.800 he's just voicing

00:24:02.640 his opinion

00:24:03.200 and, you know,

00:24:03.880 that's his opinion

00:24:04.620 and he's being honest

00:24:06.280 and we should applaud him.

00:24:07.140 No,

00:24:07.620 there's something

00:24:08.200 wrong with it.

00:24:08.840 It's actually not

00:24:09.800 okay to feel that way.

00:24:10.780 if you do feel

00:24:12.620 that way,

00:24:12.960 then you do,

00:24:13.640 right?

00:24:14.000 I mean,

00:24:15.080 but what I'm saying

00:24:15.880 is you shouldn't

00:24:16.400 accept those feelings

00:24:17.560 and this is one

00:24:19.240 of the problems

00:24:19.940 with people

00:24:21.820 sharing

00:24:23.800 their deepest,

00:24:25.240 most intimate

00:24:25.880 emotions

00:24:27.680 on the internet

00:24:28.540 is that sometimes

00:24:30.060 those feelings

00:24:30.720 and those perspectives

00:24:31.540 and those opinions

00:24:32.200 are not actually okay

00:24:33.480 and so you shouldn't,

00:24:35.240 number one,

00:24:35.580 you shouldn't be sharing them

00:24:36.420 because it's not

00:24:37.160 anyone's business.

00:24:38.660 This is not the forum

00:24:40.040 for that

00:24:40.580 so before we even

00:24:41.640 get into the specifics

00:24:43.040 of the comment,

00:24:43.700 this is not the forum

00:24:44.620 for that.

00:24:45.040 Go talk to your therapist,

00:24:46.100 talk to your spouse,

00:24:46.920 talk to your priest,

00:24:47.620 I mean,

00:24:47.780 talk to somebody personally.

00:24:49.220 You don't need to put it

00:24:49.900 on the internet

00:24:50.380 and the problem is

00:24:52.040 when people have thoughts

00:24:52.920 and feelings like this

00:24:53.680 and they put it on the,

00:24:54.720 the reason why they put it

00:24:55.940 on the internet

00:24:56.540 is because they're looking

00:24:58.120 for other people

00:24:59.060 to chime in

00:24:59.900 and say,

00:25:00.660 oh yeah,

00:25:00.900 I feel that way too

00:25:01.660 and then all of a sudden

00:25:02.720 this feeling

00:25:03.560 that originally

00:25:04.860 seemed to you

00:25:05.820 to be kind of shameful,

00:25:07.200 now you feel okay with it.

00:25:08.620 Now you're going

00:25:09.440 to sort of accept it.

00:25:11.580 Because you see that,

00:25:12.840 oh,

00:25:12.880 other people feel the same way

00:25:13.880 so it must not be that bad.

00:25:16.700 If you're sitting around

00:25:17.980 wallowing in misery

00:25:19.100 that parenting is

00:25:20.400 destabling your life

00:25:22.700 and you would like

00:25:25.340 to reconsider,

00:25:27.640 those are not feelings

00:25:29.180 that you should just accept

00:25:30.400 and embrace.

00:25:31.520 Those are not good feelings.

00:25:32.640 they come from a character

00:25:35.460 defect in you

00:25:36.600 and that defect

00:25:37.300 is pretty easy to identify.

00:25:39.340 Selfishness,

00:25:40.380 immaturity,

00:25:41.000 that's where it comes from.

00:25:43.080 I mean,

00:25:43.300 if you rarely have fun,

00:25:44.740 I cannot,

00:25:46.700 how can a person manage

00:25:48.280 to rarely have fun

00:25:49.900 with like a two-year-old?

00:25:52.200 Two-year-olds

00:25:52.920 are a blast.

00:25:53.940 And if you haven't learned

00:25:57.320 how to have fun with them,

00:25:59.240 it's only because

00:26:00.520 you haven't learned

00:26:01.800 how to have fun

00:26:02.600 or to take joy

00:26:04.760 in things

00:26:05.560 that don't revolve

00:26:07.020 completely around you.

00:26:09.420 That's why.

00:26:11.420 But once you've developed

00:26:12.900 the ability

00:26:13.480 to actually look

00:26:14.360 beyond yourself

00:26:15.220 just a little bit

00:26:16.160 and to kind of like

00:26:17.100 push your own needs

00:26:18.240 and desires

00:26:18.880 just slightly

00:26:20.200 towards the back burner,

00:26:21.980 even for a few moments,

00:26:24.360 it becomes extremely easy

00:26:26.720 to have fun with kids,

00:26:28.460 especially young kids.

00:26:31.260 Like I said,

00:26:31.940 my son is two years old

00:26:32.960 and the kid is hilarious.

00:26:33.900 He's also a challenge.

00:26:35.020 He's going through

00:26:35.380 his phase right now

00:26:36.100 where he breaks

00:26:37.440 into these temper tantrums

00:26:38.600 randomly

00:26:39.060 and for no apparent reason.

00:26:40.840 So yeah,

00:26:41.260 that's tough.

00:26:41.900 That's not fun.

00:26:43.460 But most of the time,

00:26:44.860 the kid is hilarious.

00:26:46.460 We took him out

00:26:47.040 in the snow yesterday

00:26:47.800 to go sledding

00:26:48.520 and he loved it.

00:26:49.060 I mean,

00:26:49.360 it's just,

00:26:49.980 how can you not have fun

00:26:51.940 in that situation?

00:26:54.580 Unless, again,

00:26:55.760 you demand

00:26:56.500 that every moment

00:26:57.500 of your life

00:26:58.120 center around you.

00:26:59.340 Because yeah,

00:27:00.220 with a two-year-old,

00:27:00.920 it's not going to be like that.

00:27:02.760 These moments

00:27:03.820 with your kid

00:27:04.560 when you're having fun

00:27:05.120 with a two-year-old,

00:27:05.740 they're not going to be

00:27:06.220 moments about you.

00:27:06.860 They're going to be

00:27:07.120 moments about the two-year-old.

00:27:08.600 All of these moments

00:27:09.740 when you're taking

00:27:10.540 the two-year-old

00:27:11.260 out to have fun,

00:27:12.620 you're going to be

00:27:13.000 caring for the two-year-old,

00:27:14.300 watching after them,

00:27:15.320 doing things that interest them.

00:27:17.060 And so it's not going

00:27:17.780 to be about you.

00:27:18.320 That's true.

00:27:19.060 But that doesn't mean

00:27:20.100 that you can't have fun

00:27:20.880 doing it.

00:27:24.520 Here's my experience.

00:27:27.940 Kids are the most difficult

00:27:29.580 when you try to relegate them

00:27:32.220 to the background

00:27:33.080 because kids don't like

00:27:35.600 being put in the background.

00:27:39.540 This is one of the reasons

00:27:40.460 why time out

00:27:41.340 or sending a kid

00:27:42.000 to a corner

00:27:42.560 can sometimes be

00:27:43.920 an effective form

00:27:44.660 of discipline.

00:27:45.380 Now, for you and me,

00:27:46.400 that would not be

00:27:47.200 an effective punishment

00:27:48.000 because we would say,

00:27:48.780 oh, you want me to just go

00:27:49.420 chill in a corner for an hour?

00:27:50.800 Great.

00:27:51.580 Awesome.

00:27:52.460 But kids don't like it

00:27:53.920 because kids don't like

00:27:54.760 to be put.

00:27:55.380 They don't like to be put

00:27:56.360 in the background

00:27:56.920 and to have things going on

00:27:58.420 without them.

00:27:58.920 They don't want,

00:28:00.140 they can't handle that.

00:28:01.120 So that's why.

00:28:03.480 And so when you're trying

00:28:04.580 to do that,

00:28:05.180 that's when it becomes

00:28:05.820 the most challenging.

00:28:06.960 And of course,

00:28:07.700 there are times as parents

00:28:08.900 when you need to be able

00:28:10.020 to put your kids

00:28:10.640 sort of in the background

00:28:11.860 and do things

00:28:13.000 that aren't about them.

00:28:14.040 Like you need to sleep.

00:28:16.000 You need to work.

00:28:17.560 You need to sometimes

00:28:18.480 have adult conversations.

00:28:19.740 You need to spend time

00:28:21.060 with your spouse.

00:28:22.120 You need sometimes

00:28:22.780 to watch a movie

00:28:23.840 that isn't about

00:28:24.540 talking animals

00:28:25.300 or princesses.

00:28:26.660 You need all of that,

00:28:27.880 right?

00:28:28.060 You can't structure

00:28:29.940 literally every single moment

00:28:31.380 of your life

00:28:32.080 around a kid.

00:28:34.580 And when you're trying

00:28:35.620 to have those moments

00:28:36.520 that aren't about them,

00:28:37.620 that's when they can feel

00:28:38.540 especially frustrating,

00:28:39.700 especially burdensome.

00:28:41.380 But I think if you find

00:28:42.780 that your kids

00:28:43.360 are always frustrating

00:28:44.800 and always a burden

00:28:46.260 and rarely fun

00:28:48.180 and generally life destabilizing,

00:28:50.980 that's probably because

00:28:52.300 you're trying to keep them

00:28:53.780 in the background

00:28:54.720 and out of the way

00:28:55.920 pretty much all the time.

00:28:59.060 If you find no joy

00:29:00.740 in parenting at all,

00:29:01.660 it's almost certainly

00:29:02.440 because you've made

00:29:03.800 no effort

00:29:04.700 to actually focus

00:29:06.120 on your kids

00:29:06.920 and invest yourself

00:29:07.920 in them.

00:29:08.560 You're trying to live

00:29:09.760 your life

00:29:10.200 as if they don't exist.

00:29:11.780 And if you try

00:29:12.140 to live a life like that,

00:29:13.420 yes, kids will absolutely

00:29:14.840 destabilize

00:29:15.940 that kind of lifestyle.

00:29:17.180 There's no question

00:29:17.860 about it.

00:29:18.860 So,

00:29:20.100 one quick example

00:29:21.080 of this.

00:29:21.500 Right now,

00:29:22.120 one of our parenting

00:29:23.200 challenges in my house

00:29:24.160 is that my daughter,

00:29:25.800 five years old,

00:29:27.260 refuses to go to bed

00:29:28.200 at night.

00:29:28.680 Okay,

00:29:28.840 this is a very common problem.

00:29:29.980 Many parents have gone through it.

00:29:31.320 And so,

00:29:31.840 we'll put her down for bed 0.74

00:29:32.800 and then she'll find a reason

00:29:33.860 to come out of her room

00:29:34.740 and come talk to us

00:29:35.660 like nine or ten times.

00:29:36.540 She keeps coming out

00:29:37.060 of her room,

00:29:37.840 finding a reason.

00:29:38.560 She wants to tell us something.

00:29:39.680 She wants a drink of water.

00:29:40.880 She's got to go to the potty. 1.00

00:29:42.180 She's,

00:29:42.560 you know,

00:29:42.760 there are monsters under the bed.

00:29:44.200 There's this and that and this.

00:29:46.420 And so,

00:29:46.960 this gets annoying

00:29:47.640 because as a parent,

00:29:49.160 you know,

00:29:49.560 when you put your kids

00:29:50.500 down to bed,

00:29:51.640 you want to kind of

00:29:52.860 clock out,

00:29:53.760 right?

00:29:53.960 You want to punch the time card,

00:29:55.940 clock out,

00:29:56.920 parenting is done for the day.

00:29:58.340 Now you're going to relax,

00:29:59.300 read a book,

00:29:59.780 watch a TV show,

00:30:00.920 spend time with your spouse.

00:30:02.840 You don't want to parent anymore.

00:30:04.240 You want to be done

00:30:04.720 with the parenting for the day,

00:30:05.860 right?

00:30:06.100 When you put the kid down.

00:30:07.220 And when they keep coming out

00:30:08.600 and talking to you

00:30:09.440 and asking questions

00:30:10.240 and wanting things,

00:30:11.580 it just,

00:30:12.680 it's way more annoying

00:30:14.880 than it would be

00:30:15.840 at any other time of the day

00:30:17.160 because in your mind,

00:30:18.780 you're saying,

00:30:19.060 no,

00:30:19.260 this is supposed to be me time.

00:30:20.500 This is not you time.

00:30:21.300 This is me time.

00:30:22.060 And now you're intruding

00:30:22.980 on me time.

00:30:24.180 And so,

00:30:24.800 even a really basic question

00:30:27.080 or need that you have

00:30:28.560 is going to be

00:30:29.120 10 times more annoying

00:30:30.180 because this is me time.

00:30:33.040 So,

00:30:33.480 here's what I found.

00:30:37.460 I found that just

00:30:38.440 a little bit of patience

00:30:39.340 and I'm not saying

00:30:39.940 that I'm great with patience.

00:30:41.140 Okay?

00:30:41.340 I'm not a very patient person.

00:30:42.740 I've had to work on this.

00:30:43.940 I've been forced to work on it

00:30:45.100 and I've not mastered it at all.

00:30:46.680 But,

00:30:47.760 a little bit of patience

00:30:49.040 just a little patience

00:30:50.300 with kids

00:30:51.940 and suddenly

00:30:52.500 this challenge

00:30:53.440 really becomes

00:30:54.200 not a big deal.

00:30:55.000 If you can just man it,

00:30:55.840 a little patience.

00:30:57.540 I'd say like 90%

00:30:58.740 of the problems

00:30:59.660 that parents whine about

00:31:00.880 and that I whine about too sometimes,

00:31:02.720 just a little patience

00:31:03.880 would solve that problem

00:31:05.880 or at least make it

00:31:06.980 so it doesn't seem

00:31:07.960 like as big of a problem.

00:31:09.560 A little bit of patience.

00:31:11.320 So,

00:31:11.580 first of all,

00:31:12.020 I realized that honestly

00:31:12.960 it's not that big of a deal

00:31:14.600 if she comes out of a room

00:31:15.660 and says something

00:31:16.220 and then goes back

00:31:16.720 into a room.

00:31:17.160 It's really not

00:31:17.960 that huge of a deal.

00:31:19.860 Also,

00:31:20.440 again,

00:31:20.760 with a little bit of patience,

00:31:21.760 I discovered that,

00:31:23.060 okay,

00:31:23.920 part of the reason

00:31:24.840 why this is happening

00:31:25.900 is because she has trouble

00:31:26.640 sleeping at night,

00:31:27.940 which means she's a lot like me.

00:31:29.260 I'm kind of a night owl as well

00:31:30.500 and she has very specific needs

00:31:32.880 for sleeping.

00:31:33.540 We discovered

00:31:34.060 she needs it to be very dark.

00:31:35.720 She needs it to be cold.

00:31:36.700 She needs to be wearing 0.94

00:31:37.340 certain pajamas.

00:31:38.180 She needs a fan on

00:31:38.940 for the noise.

00:31:40.400 You know,

00:31:40.600 all these.

00:31:41.000 So we just,

00:31:41.600 you know,

00:31:41.880 over time we discovered

00:31:43.080 and now we do that

00:31:44.900 and we put her down for bed

00:31:46.420 and so it's less of a problem.

00:31:47.720 Now,

00:31:47.780 she still comes out

00:31:48.480 but it's less of a problem.

00:31:50.500 And how much of a problem

00:31:51.520 was it really

00:31:52.280 in the first place

00:31:53.080 is the question.

00:31:54.020 And that's the thing

00:31:54.640 about having young kids

00:31:55.720 is that I realize

00:31:56.620 that even the things

00:31:57.540 that are super annoying

00:31:58.580 and frustrating now,

00:32:01.240 I realize,

00:32:02.500 and parents with older kids,

00:32:04.180 they say this all the time

00:32:05.100 and I know that

00:32:06.140 even though I haven't

00:32:07.020 experienced it,

00:32:07.720 I know that what they're

00:32:08.500 saying is true. 0.83

00:32:10.140 That even these things

00:32:11.060 that are annoying

00:32:11.680 and frustrating now,

00:32:13.020 when my kids are older,

00:32:14.100 I will miss almost all of it.

00:32:15.760 I know that I will.

00:32:16.940 I'll probably miss it terribly.

00:32:18.380 I mean,

00:32:18.940 there will come a time

00:32:19.880 when my daughter

00:32:20.500 is not going to come

00:32:21.400 out of her room

00:32:22.060 and ask me to carry her

00:32:23.640 back down to her room 0.99

00:32:24.760 and tuck her in.

00:32:25.700 Like,

00:32:25.840 that's going to,

00:32:26.360 the time's going to come

00:32:27.240 when she has no interest

00:32:28.640 in that.

00:32:29.740 And that's going to be,

00:32:31.700 it's going to be sad

00:32:32.500 when that phase is gone

00:32:33.640 and over.

00:32:35.240 So part of this

00:32:36.180 with parenting,

00:32:36.780 I think,

00:32:37.200 is just,

00:32:37.880 you know,

00:32:40.240 it's just choosing

00:32:41.120 how to think

00:32:43.420 about these sorts

00:32:45.480 of things.

00:32:47.360 There are some

00:32:48.160 parenting challenges

00:32:49.020 which are really

00:32:49.780 just difficulties

00:32:50.720 and hardships

00:32:51.680 and so all you can do

00:32:52.800 is get through them.

00:32:53.600 There's no,

00:32:54.160 you know,

00:32:54.840 there's no way around it.

00:32:55.960 There's no rethinking it.

00:32:56.960 There's no thinking

00:32:57.480 of it differently.

00:32:58.780 There are some things

00:32:59.600 you go through as a parent

00:33:00.300 that you definitely

00:33:00.820 will not miss,

00:33:01.660 right?

00:33:01.940 But,

00:33:02.740 like,

00:33:05.340 not getting any sleep

00:33:06.340 when you have a newborn.

00:33:07.120 That's one of the,

00:33:07.580 you're never going to miss that.

00:33:09.000 That's just,

00:33:09.500 that's just a hard thing.

00:33:11.120 But a lot of the stuff,

00:33:13.260 if we just thought

00:33:14.700 of it differently,

00:33:15.360 we would see it

00:33:16.120 as a blessing,

00:33:17.580 as an opportunity

00:33:19.300 for joy

00:33:20.740 and for fun.

00:33:23.200 G.K. Chesterton

00:33:23.920 said that

00:33:24.660 an inconvenience

00:33:26.720 is just

00:33:27.360 an adventure

00:33:28.240 wrongly considered.

00:33:29.400 And I think that

00:33:29.900 that's true

00:33:30.600 for a lot of parenting.

00:33:32.660 Parenting,

00:33:33.140 that kind of sums up

00:33:33.860 a lot of what parenting is.

00:33:35.720 David Foster Wallace,

00:33:37.260 in a famous

00:33:37.860 commencement speech,

00:33:38.640 he gave

00:33:39.160 talks about

00:33:42.100 how many

00:33:43.160 of the situations

00:33:43.780 that we find

00:33:44.340 annoying

00:33:44.740 and difficult

00:33:46.180 in life,

00:33:47.380 he wasn't talking

00:33:48.080 about parenting,

00:33:48.720 but it goes for parenting too,

00:33:49.940 that many of those situations,

00:33:51.280 if we just thought

00:33:52.120 about them differently,

00:33:53.580 had a different

00:33:54.360 attitude about them,

00:33:55.960 we would suddenly

00:33:56.960 see the,

00:33:57.600 and this is the,

00:33:58.100 these are the words

00:33:58.580 he used,

00:33:59.400 we would see these

00:34:00.100 moments as not only

00:34:01.520 meaningful but sacred.

00:34:02.820 And I think he's

00:34:04.600 right about that.

00:34:05.880 So I'm not saying

00:34:06.840 that we should be

00:34:07.240 focused 100%

00:34:08.020 on our kids

00:34:08.540 all the time,

00:34:09.420 you know,

00:34:09.700 they need to know

00:34:10.360 the world doesn't

00:34:11.100 revolve around them too,

00:34:12.100 but it also doesn't

00:34:13.660 revolve around us

00:34:14.420 as parents.

00:34:15.640 And when I hear

00:34:16.420 from guys like

00:34:17.220 Duncan Jones,

00:34:18.180 what it sounds like

00:34:19.460 is he wants the world

00:34:21.600 to revolve around him.

00:34:23.700 And kids,

00:34:24.580 they really do think

00:34:25.680 the world revolves

00:34:26.460 around them,

00:34:27.080 but they have an excuse

00:34:27.940 to feel that.

00:34:28.640 A two-year-old thinks that,

00:34:30.020 there's no way

00:34:30.540 a two-year-old isn't

00:34:31.360 going to think that

00:34:32.000 because they have no

00:34:32.620 concept of the world

00:34:34.280 outside of themselves.

00:34:35.840 So they're allowed

00:34:36.800 to think that way.

00:34:38.980 You're not,

00:34:39.680 you're an adult,

00:34:40.120 you should know better.

00:34:43.120 And here's the thing,

00:34:44.500 there's not enough

00:34:45.960 room in the house

00:34:46.820 for all of us

00:34:48.600 to be kids.

00:34:50.360 Like,

00:34:50.660 someone's got to be

00:34:51.400 the adult

00:34:51.960 in the situation.

00:34:54.660 Sometimes as an adult,

00:34:55.700 we have to,

00:34:56.040 you know,

00:34:56.400 that doesn't mean,

00:34:57.860 we can have fun

00:34:59.160 acting like kids

00:34:59.940 with our kids sometimes,

00:35:00.920 having fun with them,

00:35:01.540 but what I mean is,

00:35:02.480 we can't have the attitude

00:35:03.540 and the maturity

00:35:04.320 of children.

00:35:06.580 Someone's got to be

00:35:07.240 an adult.

00:35:12.800 Finally,

00:35:13.880 let's see,

00:35:14.200 do we have time for this?

00:35:14.860 I guess so.

00:35:16.480 Yeah,

00:35:16.860 I just wanted to mention this.

00:35:18.420 Yesterday,

00:35:18.900 Donald Trump

00:35:19.540 had the Clemson

00:35:21.340 football team

00:35:21.980 over to the White House,

00:35:23.420 but he couldn't get

00:35:26.240 the normal catering service

00:35:27.560 because of the shutdown.

00:35:28.500 So he provided

00:35:29.520 this gorgeous,

00:35:30.720 classy spread

00:35:32.560 of McDonald's food.

00:35:33.740 I don't know

00:35:33.900 if you saw this picture.

00:35:34.760 Take a look at the picture

00:35:35.600 of the feast right now.

00:35:37.780 Now,

00:35:38.400 of course,

00:35:39.480 people found a reason

00:35:40.180 to be upset about this.

00:35:41.220 I mean,

00:35:41.340 he's got these silver platters

00:35:42.720 filled with Big Macs

00:35:44.420 and fish fillets

00:35:46.400 and french fries

00:35:47.280 and chicken nuggets.

00:35:48.140 Apparently,

00:35:48.560 there was pizza too.

00:35:50.040 He provided Burger King

00:35:51.420 as well,

00:35:51.820 in case you were

00:35:52.220 a Burger King guy,

00:35:52.940 not a McDonald's guy.

00:35:53.740 People found a reason

00:35:55.660 to be upset about it

00:35:56.420 because they always

00:35:58.020 find a reason,

00:35:58.580 especially as it pertains

00:35:59.340 to Donald Trump.

00:36:00.360 But really,

00:36:00.840 I mean,

00:36:02.020 first of all,

00:36:02.940 I have long suggested

00:36:04.500 that McDonald's

00:36:06.300 should have a buffet restaurant. 0.78

00:36:07.820 There should be

00:36:08.620 McBuffets

00:36:09.500 and they should look

00:36:11.080 exactly like this feast.

00:36:13.940 So people have always

00:36:14.800 called me crazy,

00:36:15.620 but now you can look at this

00:36:16.920 and now you see

00:36:17.440 what I'm saying, right?

00:36:18.200 I mean,

00:36:18.420 that would be great.

00:36:19.700 It'd be a great,

00:36:20.600 and I'm talking about

00:36:21.240 a fancy,

00:36:21.780 like what Donald Trump did,

00:36:22.860 a fancy McBuffet

00:36:25.380 so that you could go there

00:36:27.300 for your wedding anniversary

00:36:28.240 or, you know,

00:36:29.380 a first date.

00:36:30.020 You really want to impress a girl, 0.98

00:36:31.400 bring her to the McDonald's buffet 1.00

00:36:32.600 and you could say to her,

00:36:34.020 hey,

00:36:34.140 have two Big Macs if you want.

00:36:37.900 But secondly,

00:36:39.940 what man,

00:36:41.880 what football player,

00:36:42.760 what American

00:36:43.780 wouldn't love

00:36:45.320 to be presented

00:36:45.960 with a silver platter

00:36:47.220 filled with Big Mac

00:36:48.380 and fish fillets?

00:36:50.560 I mean,

00:36:50.840 anyone would love that.

00:36:52.860 I have,

00:36:54.200 in my time,

00:36:55.020 been to many

00:36:55.920 fancy banquet

00:36:57.300 type things,

00:36:59.380 and I've had a lot

00:37:00.440 of fancy banquet food,

00:37:02.960 and I can't think

00:37:04.680 of a single one

00:37:05.480 of those events

00:37:06.180 that would not have been

00:37:07.600 vastly improved

00:37:08.820 by Big Macs.

00:37:11.600 I actually think that

00:37:12.980 the typical fancy banquet food

00:37:14.740 is usually

00:37:15.900 really disappointing.

00:37:17.360 The chicken tastes like rubber,

00:37:19.240 the beef is always overcooked,

00:37:20.620 they get way too fancy,

00:37:22.860 they try way too hard,

00:37:24.240 portions aren't big enough,

00:37:25.860 I would just take a Big Mac.

00:37:27.140 So,

00:37:27.840 I actually think,

00:37:29.220 in all seriousness,

00:37:30.840 this is,

00:37:31.580 although the left

00:37:32.100 is making fun of him for it,

00:37:33.020 of course,

00:37:33.640 I think this is probably

00:37:34.340 the most endearing thing

00:37:35.480 that Trump has ever done.

00:37:37.400 And if

00:37:38.140 I ever went to visit

00:37:39.660 Donald Trump

00:37:41.200 for some sort of

00:37:43.140 fancy lunch

00:37:43.780 and McDonald's

00:37:45.480 was not served,

00:37:46.280 I would be

00:37:46.840 thoroughly disappointed.

00:37:47.820 This is exactly

00:37:48.660 what I would expect

00:37:49.320 and I would be thrilled

00:37:50.060 by it.

00:37:51.680 All right,

00:37:52.120 we'll leave it there.

00:37:52.800 Have a great day,

00:37:54.180 everybody.

00:37:54.460 We'll talk to you tomorrow.

00:37:55.320 Godspeed.

00:37:55.680 Hey, everybody.

00:38:02.880 It's Andrew Klavan,

00:38:03.600 host of

00:38:04.160 The Andrew Klavan Show.

00:38:05.580 Republican Congressman

00:38:06.400 Steve King

00:38:07.360 has been stripped

00:38:08.240 of all his

00:38:09.320 committee assignments

00:38:10.380 for comments he made

00:38:11.840 about white supremacy.

00:38:13.000 If he meant it,

00:38:14.120 he deserves

00:38:14.740 every bit of it.

00:38:15.820 But that doesn't

00:38:16.480 stop the left

00:38:17.300 from using

00:38:18.160 the charge of racism

00:38:19.200 to condemn

00:38:20.280 all conservatives

00:38:21.300 and all Republicans.

00:38:23.020 They're at it again.

00:38:24.480 I'm Andrew Klavan.

00:38:25.240 It's The Andrew Klavan Show.

The Matt Walsh Show - January 15, 2019

Ep. 176 - Gillette Insults Its Own Customers, Lectures Men

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