We hear so much about toxic masculinity, but what about toxic femininity? Also, we're told that the NFL has a scandal on its hands because it doesn't have enough minority head coaches, and I want to discuss why it's insane to introduce racial quotas into sports, of all things. We'll discuss that today on the Matt Walsh Show.
00:00:00.000Today on the Matt Walsh Show, we hear so much about toxic masculinity, but what about toxic femininity?
00:00:06.740Why don't we ever hear that phrase used?
00:00:08.580Also, we're told that the NFL has a scandal on its hands because it doesn't have enough minority head coaches at the moment.
00:00:15.060And I want to discuss why it's insane to introduce racial quotas into sports, of all things.
00:00:21.500We'll discuss that today on the Matt Walsh Show.
00:00:23.400So I got to tell you something, something really strange happened.
00:00:32.260You see, today I was I was walking down the street and I happened to cross some kids bullying another kid.
00:00:39.720And so naturally I stopped and I started cheering and and I was going, yeah, bully that kid.
00:00:47.480Bullying is awesome. Go bullying. Go bullying. Boys will be boys.
00:00:52.160And then some other men also joined me and we were all just go.
00:00:56.220We were all going, look at this bully. This is some great bullying.
00:00:59.440I've seen some good bullying in my day. This is maybe the best bullying I've ever seen.
00:01:03.460We were all having that conversation. But but just then, just then someone came up and they showed me that Gillette ad.
00:01:11.000And I realized that that actually bullying is wrong.
00:01:14.900And my whole life has been changed from the moment. In fact, I had I had it on my schedule to to go after cheering on the bullying.
00:01:23.280I had it written down on my schedule. I was going to go stand on a street corner and yell cat calls at women.
00:01:27.780But I swear, after seeing this video, I went and I crossed cat calls off my schedule, just crossed it right off.
00:01:35.320And then I penciled in ask women permission to compliment them.
00:01:40.400And so that's what I did. And nobody gave me permission to compliment them.
00:01:44.160So now I have all these compliments stored up and I've got and I've got so that I just went to a tree and I started complimenting the tree because I just I had to compliment someone.
00:01:51.420And this is this is what it means to be a real man. OK.
00:01:57.860Anyway, but seriously, folks, seriously, I did want to kind of follow up on that on the conversation about the Gillette ad.
00:02:07.180You know, we talked about yesterday. I'm not going to I'm not going to rehash all my points.
00:02:11.700I wanted to really revisit one specific point and expand on something that I mentioned yesterday, which is.
00:02:18.980As we're talking about toxic masculinity.
00:02:26.280What about toxic femininity? OK, we hear so much about toxic masculinity.
00:02:32.820Well, we don't hear about toxic femininity. And why is that?
00:02:36.620Now, as I said, that's not a phrase that I would really ever use because femininity, I know, is not toxic.
00:02:45.020In fact, what is what is often toxic is when women reject their femininity, reject their womanhood, just as the toxic thing is when men reject their masculinity and reject their manhood.
00:02:59.260So femininity can no more be toxic than can masculinity be toxic.
00:03:04.820But in the interest of fairness, in the interest of equality, it seems to me that toxic femininity should be a term in usage.
00:03:15.540It should be a term, in fact, that feminists insist upon because they want everything to be equal.
00:03:24.100Now, I made this point yesterday and some people said, well, no, see, that doesn't make sense.
00:03:32.580We can't talk about toxic femininity because women don't do all of the kinds of harmful things that men do.
00:03:40.640And and so women don't have I even heard I heard many times, in fact, worse, the effect of women don't have the capacity really to to to hurt people and and to harm society and others the way that men do.
00:04:00.360Well, let's think about this for a moment, shall we?
00:04:03.120According to Gillette and to feminists, generally, toxic masculinity is when men are bullies, when they harass assault, when they are pushy and presumptuous, not allowing women to speak.
00:04:21.040And then, of course, when they rape or when they condone rape.
00:04:24.580Now, I admit that as far as rape goes, that is more common, certainly more common among men than it is among women.
00:04:36.280Men are certainly more often the culprits in rape cases, though women do commit sexual assaults.
00:04:44.920And it's not it's not like they they they never do it or it's so statistically rare that it hardly even counts.
00:04:51.280That's not the case at all, especially these days.
00:04:54.240All you have to do is look at public schools, public school teachers, often females, are assaulting their students all the time.
00:05:01.360Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of cases in recent years of of school children being sexually assaulted by their teachers.
00:05:24.900OK, women have other ways of of of hurting people, especially when we're talking about bullying.
00:05:32.020And that was probably the most absurd thing about the Gillette ad.
00:05:36.200And it's just the most absurd thing in general when we're talking about bullying and toxic masculinity and all we're lumping all these things together.
00:05:43.060This this this this this kind of like painting of bullying as a uniquely male caused problem, which is absolutely ludicrous.
00:05:56.360Girls and women bully people all the time and often female bullying takes a much more insidious, much more harmful form.
00:06:07.560And just look at how girls in school treat other girls.
00:06:13.520Listen, when you hear about these these terrible cases of girls killing themselves.
00:06:19.940Because of bullying and you hear about these cases all the time, it's a terrible thing.
00:06:23.540But it's not usually boys who were doing the bullying in those cases.
00:07:39.340I mean, they're really going to seek to destroy the life of their victim.
00:07:45.180Just talk to some women sometime who went through this in, in, uh, in school.
00:07:51.740There are plenty of women who their school careers were ruined because of other girls and what other girls said about them, the rumors and lies and all that kind of stuff.
00:08:01.460Um, a punch in the face hurts for a few minutes, but a destroyed reputation can ruin your life.
00:08:10.740Now, it's just, it seems odd to me that somehow we miss this, right?
00:08:14.780Somehow, when we're talking about the challenges that women and girls face, we never point out that women and girls are the primary bullies and tormentors of women and girls.
00:08:26.940Somehow, we just leave that out of the discussion.
00:08:32.060And by the way, women can bully men also.
00:08:39.460Not physically, uh, most of the time, but, um, but it does happen in other ways, emotional and psychological ways.
00:08:46.940A girl who is higher on the social ladder than a boy definitely has the ability to ridicule, mock, embarrass him, hurt him in many ways.
00:08:57.180There are plenty of boys who dread going to school, in part at least because of how they're treated by girls in the school.
00:09:06.100And, um, it's harder for them too, in a way, because they can't really complain about it, because nobody will take the complaint seriously.
00:09:13.900And they can't really do anything about it.
00:09:17.240You know, when you're a boy and you're being treated, um, viciously by a bunch of girls in school or something, you know, there's not a lot you can really do.
00:09:27.540If you start shouting at them and screaming at them, then, uh, you're going to look like the insane person.
00:09:33.280You're going to seem like the bad guy, right?
00:09:35.880Um, and you know, if it was, if you're a boy and there's another boy in the school treating you that way, then for some boys, the way you might handle it is go up and punch him in the face.
00:09:45.380Right. But, um, you're not going to do that with a girl.
00:09:48.760So you just, most of the time, endure it.
00:10:45.520Um, that was one of the things that was kind of lost in the, in the whole me too hysteria, because in some of the case, in plenty, you know, in some of the cases we heard about, it was, it was pretty straightforward.
00:10:56.060Guy was being, um, the guy was being a pig, being a jerk, being a predator, victimizing women, you know, um, or victimizing young boys in the case of, uh, Kevin Spacey.
00:11:07.300So there were, there were some cases like that, but there were also plenty of cases, um, where you looked at it and it was pretty apparent that the women were also culpable in that they were using their sexuality to obtain career advancements.
00:11:20.840Not just that either, but if a man approaches a woman, tries to talk to her, tries to initiate something and he does it respectfully.
00:11:30.320Well, the woman, if she's a jerk, if she's a pig, if she's a bad person, she has the ability in that moment, now that the man has made himself vulnerable to her, um, he has the ability to, she has the ability to completely embarrass and humiliate him.
00:11:46.400And there are some women who will do that, that they will take that vulnerability and they'll just crush you with it.
00:11:53.720And this is the kind of thing that single men have to deal with.
00:11:56.040Um, which is one of the many reasons why I'm, I'm very happy that I'm not single, but there's something single men, this is one of the things single men worry about.
00:12:04.740You know, they worry about if you're, if you're, you know, if they sit back and they never initiate, they never go try to talk to a woman.
00:12:10.440Well, then they're just going to be single for the rest of their lives and they're going to die alone.
00:12:12.940So they know that because even with all of the changes in society and everything, it's still expected that the man is going to initiate and women expect it.
00:12:20.500Even if they complain when some guy they don't like initiates, they still expect the initiation to happen on the part of men.
00:12:27.380Men know that, but they also know that if they try to initiate, they try to strike up a conversation, they try to get something going, uh, again, respectfully, you know, consensually.
00:12:36.160They know that they, they just made themselves vulnerable. And if the woman wants to, if she's a bad person, she could destroy you or maybe not destroy you permanently, but she could crush you in that moment and embarrass you.
00:12:47.820Um, or as, as, as we've seen other cases, she could actually destroy you if she decides to make up a lie, make up a rape claim.
00:12:57.660Things, these things also happen. The point here is that all of these issues, um, bullying, harassing, abusing, all these, all these issues, they are much bigger, much more complex than how they're painted.
00:13:12.020And when we are determined to make men, the bad guys and women, the good guys, and to, and to kind of position the issue in that black and white way.
00:13:25.060And then when we never talk about the reverse scenarios where the woman's the bad guy, then a lot of victims, including female victims are ignored because their bully, their harasser, their predator, their abuser was a female.
00:13:44.120And that doesn't count apparently because nobody wants to talk about that.
00:13:50.400Nobody wants to talk about the times when women act terribly.
00:13:55.060Just look, talk to a, talk to a teacher sometime, talk to like a middle school teacher, a high school teacher.
00:14:03.920And they'll tell you about, they'll tell you about the just evil behavior on a part of some, not all of course, but some girls just, just evil to each other in a way that far surpasses what, what guys will do.
00:14:18.400This is not, um, I know anytime, you know, you, you, you, you try to bring this up, someone's going to say, well, that's what about ism.