The Matt Walsh Show - Ep. 255 - If An Unborn Baby Isn't Human, What Is It？

00:00:00.000 Today on the Matt Wall Show, a bill in Georgia that just became law now makes it illegal to

00:00:05.460 abort a baby after the heartbeat can be detected. The left is reacting to this wonderful law

00:00:11.240 about as calmly as you might expect, including a leftist on CNN yesterday who claimed that an

00:00:18.360 unborn baby is not a human being. So we will analyze that rather insane claim today. Also,

00:00:26.420 what is soligamy? I will explain. And I want to talk about an important lesson that I

00:00:32.380 recently learned about fatherhood. We'll talk about that and other things today on the Matt Wall Show.

00:00:41.180 Well, we begin with great news. The governor of Georgia, Brian Kemp, courageously signed a bill

00:00:47.600 into law yesterday that outlaws all abortion after the heartbeat can be detected. So that

00:00:54.440 that takes care of a great number of abortions, not all of them, but many of them. And there have

00:01:00.120 been boycott threats and things from Hollywood and other organizations and industries saying that

00:01:06.720 they're going to boycott the state if this bill is signed into law. But Kemp made it clear that he's

00:01:11.140 not going to be intimidated and that he's going to follow through on his pro-life convictions

00:01:16.320 anyway. So he deserves to be commended for that. And all of the pro-life legislators down there in

00:01:23.580 Georgia deserve to be commended. Now, of course, the left is having conniption fits over this,

00:01:28.320 as you would expect. I'm not going to bother going through and giving you examples of the things that

00:01:33.220 they're saying. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, of course, is having a tantrum about it and all the usual 1.00

00:01:39.300 suspects. I'm not going to go through that because it doesn't really matter. And pro-aborts,

00:01:44.660 they have two or three arguments at their disposal and a whole bunch of straw men. And they just shout

00:01:52.440 them incessantly. It's the same thing over and over and over again. And they keep shouting them.

00:01:58.060 No matter how often you engage with their points and debunk the points, it doesn't matter. They'll

00:02:02.360 just keep going back to the well over and over and over again. So at a certain point, it's like,

00:02:07.460 what's, what's, what reason is there even to get into the specifics of what their arguments are?

00:02:14.380 You already know what their arguments are. It's a bunch of men that are trying to control women's 1.00

00:02:18.220 bodies and blah, blah, blah. I will just say one thing though. There will, you know, and backing up

00:02:28.360 for a second. The thing is that with the pro-aborts who use these straw men arguments of, oh, it's men

00:02:33.360 trying to control women. You're trying to control women's bodies. You know, all the different 1.00

00:02:38.480 straw men. If you, you can't be against, you can't be against abortion if you're not willing to adopt 1.00

00:02:44.920 all of the unwanted babies. We talked about that a few days ago. So basically you're not allowed to

00:02:50.340 be opposed to somebody's murder unless you are able to personally feed and clothe those people. So,

00:02:57.000 which means that you're not allowed to be opposed to almost everyone's murder because you personally

00:03:01.860 probably don't have the ability to clothe and feed 7 billion people. Right. Uh, but all these,

00:03:08.080 all these straw men, the thing is, if the person who makes the straw men arguments, the reason why

00:03:15.640 they're using straw men is that they are intellectually lazy non thinkers. And if you're an intellectually lazy

00:03:23.340 non thinker, it's, you really can't be engaged with, uh, because if you're not willing to think,

00:03:30.180 if you're not willing to think beyond claiming that the pro-life movement is a patriarchal conspiracy,

00:03:38.560 if that's the most you're willing to think, if you're not willing to engage your mind and really

00:03:43.240 try to understand, okay, why is it? Maybe it's not just that these are a bunch of men who are trying

00:03:49.820 to control women. Could there be some other reason possibly why someone might be against abortion?

00:03:57.020 If you're not willing to think like that or to think at all, then there's, there's no conversation

00:04:02.520 can be had. You have to be willing to turn on your brain first. Um, but there's, there's one thing,

00:04:10.500 one thought I want to share. There will now, it's very, very simple concept here. There will,

00:04:16.540 there will now be children born in Georgia who otherwise would not have been born.

00:04:23.440 Right. Uh, this law will indeed prevent many women from getting abortions. If, if it, if it was not

00:04:29.340 going to prevent many women from getting abortions, then pro-abortion people wouldn't be freaking out 0.69

00:04:33.580 about it. They try to have it both ways here. They'll say on one hand, the law is terrible because

00:04:39.260 it's going to prevent all these women from getting abortions. And then on the other hand, they'll say 1.00

00:04:43.100 it's not going to prevent anyone because now they'll go to the back alley and they'll get back

00:04:46.260 alley abortion. So they try to have it both ways, but they know that, yes, it will prevent,

00:04:49.760 not every woman, but it will prevent a significant number of women from getting abortions. 1.00

00:04:56.080 All right. So what does that mean? Well, it means that in say a year's time or two years time,

00:05:02.300 there will be a number of, I think the law goes into effect in 2020 actually. So in let's say

00:05:08.040 three years time or four years time, there will be a number of babies in Georgia,

00:05:12.980 living born babies who would not be there, would not exist if not for this law. So if you're against

00:05:24.800 this law, are you willing to look at a baby born in Georgia in the year 2021 and say he shouldn't

00:05:34.660 exist? It would be better if he did not exist. Are you willing to do that? I'm not.

00:05:43.800 And that's, that's the point here. The, the terrible dystopian handmaid's tale result of this

00:05:51.780 Georgia law is that there will be more babies. That's it. That's the result. Okay. That's the

00:05:58.380 dystopia that we are heading into. It's a world where there are a few more babies, babies that are

00:06:04.900 allowed to live rather than being killed. Now the left can mourn over that if they want, they can treat

00:06:11.240 it like some sort of catastrophe, but you know, I, I'm not going to because I love babies. I think

00:06:19.120 babies are awesome. I love life. I think life is awesome. Uh, and that's how I live. I can't

00:06:26.100 imagine living other way, any other way. I can't imagine being the sort of person

00:06:31.280 who would get upset at the idea of more babies being born.

00:06:40.180 I mean, imagine being that kind of person. It's incredible. All right. I said, I wasn't going to

00:06:45.760 bother going over the left's reaction to this law, but I do have to play one clip for you.

00:06:50.560 Just one clip. Uh, here is a debate between Christine Quinn and Rick Santorum on CNN last

00:06:59.660 night. Horrible tales. I answered it numerous times when, when a woman gets pregnant, that is not 1.00

00:07:07.520 a human being inside of her. It's part of her body. And this is about a woman having full agency and 0.97

00:07:14.500 control of her body and making decisions about her body and what is part of her body with medical

00:07:21.480 professionals. Those are the facts. And that is the law of the land. Listen, and they can do

00:07:26.600 whatever they want. This is about a woman's body. Listen, you can, they can do whatever they want. 1.00

00:07:32.220 They can torture the debate. You're so desperate here. You're so desperate. No, no, no. Listen,

00:07:38.940 I'm just, I'm just asking questions. No, you're not. You're not. You're asking provocative things

00:07:43.880 that are trying to make people angry about what's done. And that's okay. All I'm saying is you guys

00:07:48.680 go too far when you pervert the facts. And we have the president of the United States saying that a

00:07:52.300 baby is born at the end of full term, swaddled in a blanket, and then to decide whether or not to

00:07:58.400 execute it. So Chris Cuomo says, uh, you guys pervert the facts and, and who is he referring to?

00:08:05.180 Well, he's referring to pro-lifers. Of course, you, you guys are pervert. You guys are perverting

00:08:09.840 the fact of course. Meanwhile, a guest on his show just said seconds earlier that an unborn baby is

00:08:16.920 not a human being, isn't a human being. Well, if that's the case, then I mean, my God, my, my wife

00:08:23.460 is pregnant. Um, and I, I thought she was pregnant with a baby this whole time. I thought she had a baby 1.00

00:08:28.420 in her womb this whole time. Apparently it's a space alien. I, you know, I had, I had no idea. I mean,

00:08:33.580 I'm not mad that it's a space alien. I, I, it could be kind of cool to have a space alien around

00:08:38.600 the house, but I think the doctor should have mentioned that at the ultrasound. That's all

00:08:42.040 I'm saying. You know, the doctor should have said, Hey, by the way, this is a parasitic alien

00:08:46.340 infestation, not a pregnancy. Um, I feel like that's the kind of disclosure that doctors should

00:08:52.880 make. Or the other possibility is of course that my wife is, is actually pregnant with a human

00:08:58.320 and that every pregnant woman in history has been pregnant with a human. Yeah. Yeah. I think

00:09:08.020 that's probably it. I think, yeah, I think that's, I think that's gotta be it. Um, this is such a

00:09:15.400 speaking of bad arguments. Okay. It's one thing to claim that the unborn human, the unborn baby,

00:09:24.860 uh, is human, but is not a person. Okay. That's a stupid argument too. And we've talked about that.

00:09:31.540 We've talked about how to address that, but at least with that argument, you're pretending

00:09:38.980 to have some kind of respect for the basic biological facts here. And you realize that you

00:09:45.780 can't deny that it's a human. So instead you're trying to parse, make some distinction between human

00:09:52.220 and person. You're playing kind of a grammatical game, a word game. Uh, that's a bad argument,

00:09:58.460 but to just go full gusto here and say, it's not, it's not even a human. Well, that's, I mean,

00:10:06.080 there is no credible scientist in the world who will endorse that idea. I don't care how liberal they

00:10:15.380 are, how pro abortion they are. You will not find a single credible, sane, uh, scientist who will say,

00:10:23.500 yeah, you're right. Not a human being. There are two ways to know that it's a human being. Okay.

00:10:29.060 Here's, here's the spoiler alert. Number one, DNA. It has human DNA that makes it a human. Number two,

00:10:38.020 you don't even need to do a DNA test here because, um, we know it's a human because, um,

00:10:45.380 it was created by two humans. So I guess to give Christine Quinn a little bit of a birds and bees 1.00

00:10:53.200 lecture here, you know, okay, because I guess her parents never did. You see when, uh, when a man

00:11:00.480 and a woman love each other and, uh, they get together, they, they have sexual relations. Um, 0.85

00:11:07.980 and then, uh, a, uh, a pregnancy occurs. Well, that pregnancy is going to be another human. It's not

00:11:19.100 going to be a carrot or a moose or a chair or the color blue. You know, it, it's going to be a human

00:11:29.700 because that's two humans in the midst of the sexual act and the procreative act can only create

00:11:37.960 another human. You know, so I, I don't know how else to explain this. Um, I don't know. Are you

00:11:44.320 still confused, Christine Quinn? I mean, I don't know how else to, it's just two, that's all that

00:11:48.240 two people can do. They can only create other people. They can't create any other kind of thing.

00:11:53.340 Um, I know that that's, that's as, that's as basic as I can get. It's pretty remedial here.

00:12:00.660 You say, oh, it's a part of the woman's body. Yeah, but it's not though. You see, except the,

00:12:05.700 the problem with that argument is that it's completely stupid. Uh, it's, it's, it's just

00:12:09.880 not part of the woman's body. I mean, it's not. It's, it's, it is entirely different bodies. 0.99

00:12:19.520 A part, uh, let's, my arm is a part of my body. Okay. So you see, look at my arm here. This is my arm.

00:12:26.220 Um, uh, it's called an arm. Uh, it's my left arm to be specific and it's a part of my body.

00:12:35.020 Now, here's one of the ways that, you know, it's a part of my body. It's that, um, this arm

00:12:43.820 will never be anything but an arm. You see, uh, it, it, you could cut it off and then I just won't

00:12:52.440 have an arm anymore. But if you were to cut off my arm and please don't, but if you did and my arm

00:12:58.220 was just laying there on the floor, it's not going to turn into a camel, uh, or a cat. It won't,

00:13:06.520 it won't turn into anything. It just, it's just going to be, it just, it will decay. It's just an

00:13:10.200 arm, right? And when it's connected to my body, it will, it will remain an arm forever. It will

00:13:14.860 never become anything else. So if there is a part of your body that magically after nine months

00:13:24.160 turns into a whole new person, well, that's a pretty good indication that that part of your body

00:13:31.820 was never a part of your body. You see, uh, just a little, little basic science for, for you guys

00:13:39.740 today. Um, hopefully I was able to clear that up for Christine Quinn. All right, let's stay in the

00:13:45.400 realm, uh, the pro-life realm here for a moment. Uh, Brian Sims, the democratic rep in Pennsylvania,

00:13:50.980 who's been harassing and bullying pro-lifers and who sparked our big rally that we're going to have

00:13:55.760 down there, uh, up there for me in Pennsylvania on Friday, 1144 Locust street at 11 AM. That's where

00:14:02.840 we're all going to be. Um, but Brian Sims yesterday, he recorded what has been described as an

00:14:09.440 apology, but it's an interesting apology because it's missing something. And I want you to watch

00:14:15.020 this and watch very closely. See if you can spot what's missing. Hi everyone. Representative Brian

00:14:24.200 Sims here, and I'm actually up in our Capitol for this week's legislative session, but I stepped off

00:14:29.040 the floor for a moment because I've received a lot of feedback about a video I posted last week. And I

00:14:33.520 want to provide some background. You see, I've lived across the street or next door to this particular

00:14:38.440 Planned Parenthood, one of the most heavily protested Planned Parenthoods in America for the last 15

00:14:43.400 years. I've seen men and women and teens try to go there for routine health care, for checkups, for

00:14:48.920 pap smears, for breast exams, for STD screenings, and yes, for abortions. In fact, it's where I even treat

00:14:55.080 for my own life-saving prep medication, and I'm grateful for the services that they provide. I've also spent the

00:15:01.320 last seven years serving as a volunteer patient escort at this Planned Parenthood, and I have seen

00:15:06.680 first-hand the insults, the slurs, the attacks, and the racism that those protesters aim at mostly

00:15:12.840 young girls going there for clinical care. Care that those of us on the outside can never understand,

00:15:18.520 and last week was no different. What I should have shown you in that video was protesters gathered

00:15:23.800 together to pray at, not to silently pray for, people coming in and out of Planned Parenthood as

00:15:29.560 they intercepted them and harassed them. In my years with Planned Parenthood, I've seen women and girls 1.00

00:15:35.400 circle that block two, three, four times before finally driving away because they know that they

00:15:41.160 weren't going to get in because of those protesters. But as a Planned Parenthood volunteer and as a supporter,

00:15:48.840 I fully understand, respect, and appreciate the non-engagement policy that they have, and I would

00:15:53.800 never want to do anything that interfered with the care that they're providing to their patients.

00:15:58.760 As an activist and an advocate, I know why pushing back against harassment and discrimination are a must,

00:16:05.640 even when they're uncomfortable. But last week, I wasn't a patient escort. I was a neighbor and a

00:16:11.480 concerned citizen, and I was aggressive. I know that two wrongs don't make a right, and I can do better,

00:16:17.880 and I will do better for the women of Pennsylvania.

00:16:21.880 Yeah, the missing thing, the thing that's missing from this apology is an apology. That's what's

00:16:28.920 missing. He never once apologizes. I don't know how it is that this has been described as an apology.

00:16:34.040 He never says, I'm sorry, or I apologize. Never says those words. He never expresses

00:16:39.800 anything that even comes close to resembling an apology. In fact, he doubles down. He continues

00:16:49.560 to smear pro-lifers, or smear them, as he might say. And so this is not just a classic non-apology

00:16:57.320 apology. See, a non-apology apology is when you say something like, I'm sorry if you were offended,

00:17:05.480 or something like that. But this is not even that. This is just another attack on pro-lifers.

00:17:15.000 This is him continuing the smear campaign. This is him doubling down on what he initially did.

00:17:25.960 He's justifying it. The only little bit of regret he expresses is for the inconvenience he's caused

00:17:35.440 Planned Parenthood. There's a little tinge of regret, and it's for that. But that's it.

00:17:40.440 So, Brian, we're still coming. 11 a.m. on Friday, 1144 Locust Street. We'll be there. And I really hope

00:17:51.800 to see you there, though I tend to doubt that I will. All right. So Meghan McCain was on Seth

00:17:58.620 Myers last night. Things got a little bit testy. Watch a little bit of this clip.

00:18:03.080 I want to ask about Ilhan Omar, congresswoman from Minnesota. You know, she was in a situation,

00:18:08.920 you were very vocal about some of her tweets. People were upset, thought it was anti-Semitic

00:18:15.120 language. She has since unequivocally apologized for them. And then after that, there was this

00:18:21.120 tragic synagogue shooting in California. And you once again, sort of on a Sunday show, a Sunday news

00:18:26.400 show, brought up her tweets again in the context of that shooting. On George Stephanopoulos.

00:18:31.340 On George Stephanopoulos. Yeah. And I just wonder, because I do think it's fairly dangerous.

00:18:36.240 And you brought it up after Congresswoman Omar had also had some death threats against her.

00:18:42.080 Do you think, you know, she's obviously now stated she needs to be more careful with her

00:18:46.220 language. Don't you think other people who talk about her need to be a little bit more

00:18:48.960 thoughtful as well? Or do you stand by those comments of tying her to this, her rhetoric to

00:18:53.640 the synagogue shooting? I don't think I tied her to it in particular. I think that I'm calling

00:18:58.820 out what I see as anti-Semitic language. And when you're talking about...

00:19:01.860 But even after, you called it out after she apologized for it. I do want to establish

00:19:05.700 the timeline. I don't... I think that Democrats are hedging on this. And I think it's very

00:19:10.960 dangerous. And I think Chuck Schumer and I are in alignment about Israel's stance in geopolitical

00:19:15.800 politics. I think it's of the utmost importance. And I think she is bringing her party to the

00:19:20.720 extreme... extremism on this. And I think we have to look to Europe and what's happening over

00:19:24.500 there. And that they're, you know, in the British politics, anti-Semitism is very common. And I see

00:19:29.820 it happening over there. And I worry about it happening over here. I stand by every single

00:19:33.220 thing I've said. And if that makes me unpopular in this room or in front of you, so be it.

00:19:38.440 Um, well, I don't...

00:19:39.760 See, that's a weird thing when you take the position of trying to be unpopular. Here I am trying to,

00:19:45.660 you know, find the common ground on this. Because I do think one of the... I think we could both agree...

00:19:49.680 Was she bothered by her language about 9-11? Um, I thought it was taken out of context. And I

00:19:54.340 think if you watch that whole speech... Would you give President Trump the same,

00:19:56.800 same leverage if he had said the same thing? Well, I would say that Donald Trump is certainly

00:20:02.840 in no position to criticize her language on 9-11 based on the things that he said about 9-11,

00:20:07.720 right? So this is a comedy show, folks. This is, this is comedy. Now, conservatives are making a

00:20:14.860 thing out of this exchange between Seth Meyers and Meghan McCain because of Meyers' political bias.

00:20:22.980 And it's like, oh, you know, he's a left-wing bias and all that. And that's true. But I'm a lot

00:20:28.440 more concerned about the fact that this is late night comedy, but it isn't funny. You know, I'm okay

00:20:37.560 with a comedian being a left-winger. So maybe that's where I depart from some other conservatives out

00:20:43.360 there where, you know, it doesn't upset me that these comedians are all liberal. I'm fine with that.

00:20:49.980 A liberal person, theoretically, can still be funny. And if they're funny, they're funny. That's fine.

00:20:55.480 As long as they're funny. The trouble, though, with these partisan hacks on late night is that they

00:21:00.680 aren't funny. They're not even trying to be funny. And that's the unforgivable sin for a comedian,

00:21:05.600 isn't it? To not be funny? It's like, you know, I don't care if my plumber is a liberal,

00:21:12.600 so long as he's good at fixing my plumbing. If he can't do that, then he's sort of worthless as a

00:21:17.880 plumber. And if he can't fix my plumbing and he delivers left-wing lectures to me, then that's

00:21:23.760 insult to injury. Why is it that comedy has died in the Trump era? Why is it that all these, you know,

00:21:32.840 these late night shows were never great, but they did used to be at least entertaining, you know,

00:21:38.680 amusing. Um, and they're not even that anymore. And why is that? I think a lot of it goes into,

00:21:47.000 um, well, there's, there's a lot that goes into it, but one answer certainly is that these guys

00:21:54.480 really, really hate Donald Trump, as I'm sure you've noticed. And you can't really be funny about

00:22:02.240 something. If you hate it in order to make funny jokes about something or someone, you have to have

00:22:10.700 some kind of affection for the target of your humor, because if you have some kind of affection for it,

00:22:18.600 then, then you can relate to it. And if you're going to relate to it, then you can understand it.

00:22:23.380 And, and, and, and in order to be funny, you need to understand what you're making jokes about

00:22:29.740 because that's a fundamental part of wit. Um, and so there's, that's the problem is that they,

00:22:39.600 they, they absolutely hate Donald Trump, um, with a blind hatred. And by extension,

00:22:46.960 they hate his supporters. They hate conservatives. They hate all these people. And so they,

00:22:52.240 they just can't be funny. I mean, they can, they can, uh, sneer and they can mock,

00:22:58.360 but they can't go beyond that because of their hatred. Um, as it turns out, you know, hatred and

00:23:06.700 hatred and comedy really don't mix as it turns out. Speaking of comedy, I've been wanting to talk

00:23:14.360 about this for a few days. Um, there's a, an article in the daily wire about a woman

00:23:21.940 who married herself. And this is a, goes back to an article originally in the telegraph about a

00:23:30.280 42 year old woman who was talking about the best, the best day of her life is when she married 0.82

00:23:34.860 herself. Um, it says in a reading from the daily wire, it says, Melissa Denton, a two-time divorcee 0.81

00:23:40.100 was, uh, with two children rights. The idea to marry myself came to me in January last year,

00:23:45.180 when I was at work one day, three weeks before on Christmas Eve, uh, I had received a text message

00:23:51.840 from my boyfriend of five and a half years. I can't do this anymore. It's over. It said it was

00:23:55.860 devastating and left me in a funk, unable to eat, smile or sleep. Seizing upon the idea of marrying

00:24:01.220 herself. Denton recalls a TV interview with set Sophie Tanner, who had married herself in May 15 on

00:24:06.420 in May, 2015 Denton writes, I was so down and knew that I needed to learn to love myself before I'd be

00:24:12.940 able to attract the right people into my life. For years, I had poured myself into relationships

00:24:17.900 after relationship, losing myself in the process, blah, blah, blah. Um, so there was a, she got a ring

00:24:23.660 for herself. She, uh, there was a wedding date and she invited her friends and family. They had a,

00:24:32.840 they had a DJ, a lot, a live band, karaoke, get a huge vegan fest. I know you're shocked by that.

00:24:40.460 This woman's a vegan. I know that surprises you. Um, and people actually came out

00:24:46.380 to celebrate this woman's marriage, including some ex-boyfriends also came apparently now. I mean,

00:24:56.820 obviously this is crazy and it does show again that, you know, this is someone who is completely

00:25:03.260 self-absorbed, um, literally in love with themselves and her marriages and relationships

00:25:10.460 aren't working out. So this goes back to that thing of if you find that your relationships never work

00:25:17.520 and that you've got a whole string of ex-boyfriends and then a whole string of ex-husbands

00:25:22.680 at a certain point, you probably need to ask yourself, what is the common denominator? Like

00:25:30.080 in every one of these failed relationships, there's one common thread that binds them all

00:25:39.120 together. What is that? Oh yeah, it's me. I'm the thing that I am the, the, the common ingredient

00:25:47.680 in all of these failed relationships. Maybe there's something wrong with me. And maybe that thing is

00:25:54.920 among probably other things, self-absorption. That could be it. You know, she mentions there,

00:26:03.660 uh, you have to learn to love yourself before you can love other people. That is such

00:26:08.180 utter BS of all the modernist cliches that might, that might actually be the worst because it's not

00:26:18.520 only stupid, but it's harmful. I mean, this idea that you have to, you have to work, work on loving

00:26:23.960 yourself before you can love other people. First of all, what does it mean to work on loving

00:26:28.580 yourself? Do you, what do you, so you just sit, can I just sit here at the table and just work on

00:26:34.560 loving myself? What do I do? Just think, try to think happy thoughts. Okay. I'm going to love

00:26:38.800 myself. Let me think about it. Hmm. Let me see if I can generate some love for myself. What does that

00:26:45.500 even mean? How do you do that? Or do you have to go and have a, and marry yourself and have this whole 0.51

00:26:51.060 big pageant? Um, the whole idea of me, the whole concept is meaningless. And aside from that,

00:26:59.280 you've got to see the problem with tying your, your feelings about yourself to your ability to love

00:27:09.040 other people. Because then what, what, what if you manage somehow to love yourself at least

00:27:15.520 for the, for the time being? Um, and then you go out and you get married and you have kids.

00:27:24.460 Well, what happens on the days when you wake up and these days will come where you'll wake up

00:27:29.060 feeling, uh, not so great about yourself. There are going to be days where you're a little bit down

00:27:35.180 in the dumps. They're going to be days when, when, when you don't love yourself quite as much. So what

00:27:39.540 are you going to say to your spouse and kids? Oh, sorry guys. I can't love you today because I,

00:27:43.740 I can't love you today because I'm just not feeling great about myself.

00:27:49.260 No, love is an act of will. It's a choice that you make and you can and should make that choice

00:27:56.320 regardless of how you feel about yourself. So I love my wife and kids all the time. I don't,

00:28:04.180 I don't even like myself sometimes. I mean, I, I, there, there are, it's my feelings about myself

00:28:09.400 go up and down. It's not, it's not a steady thing. I think we're all like that, right?

00:28:15.220 You're not going to feel great about yourself all the time, every day. Um, and you shouldn't

00:28:22.600 try every day to conjure those feelings about yourself. You know, you know, the best thing to

00:28:27.460 do, it's just to stop thinking about yourself, put that to the side and focus on other people,

00:28:36.320 focus on the things outside of you, focus on the external realities. If you're not feeling great

00:28:43.600 about yourself, well, that's, that is a perfect time to go and, and focus on loving, especially

00:28:51.660 focus on loving your wife, loving your husband, your kids. Um, and then maybe in the process

00:29:00.840 of going through the acts and making the choice of loving other people, maybe in the midst of that,

00:29:09.740 you'll find yourself feeling better about yourself. You see, so the love for yourself

00:29:15.140 becomes more of a by-product of your love for other people, not the starting point.

00:29:20.780 All right. Um, finally, before we answer some emails, um, I had a thought I wanted to share

00:29:30.380 speaking of families and, and, and loving, you know, your, your family and all that good

00:29:36.580 stuff. Uh, I just thought I want to share, you know, I took my five-year-old son fishing

00:29:41.760 a couple of days ago and we went in the late afternoon. We stayed out until dark. Uh, we didn't

00:29:46.440 catch anything. Neither of us did. And that's partly my fault because usually when I take my

00:29:52.520 kids fishing, which I've done in the past, I'll, I'll have them, they'll be using a bobber with a,

00:29:57.360 you know, a little night crawler, like a little worm. And you just, you cast it out there. You

00:30:02.180 let, you let it sit until a little pan fish or something comes and jumps on the hook. And

00:30:07.260 it's easy to catch fish that way. You catch a lot of little small fish that way. But this time I

00:30:13.460 thought I want to teach my boy real fishing. So I had him using an adult sized rod, plastic lures,

00:30:20.140 um, the kind of lure where you cast it out, you reel it back in, you have to work the rod a little

00:30:24.820 bit and try to put some action in the lure and try to get fish attracted to it. And that's how you

00:30:30.480 catch bass. That's how you catch good sized bass, but you're ruling out the tiny fish, which means

00:30:35.700 that there's a chance that you won't catch anything at all. Whereas if you had used the bobber and

00:30:40.080 everything, you could have caught some small fish. Anyway, that's now I'm getting off

00:30:43.280 into fishing. That's not really the point. The point is he had a great time. Uh, we both did,

00:30:48.280 even though we didn't catch anything. So it didn't matter that we didn't catch anything.

00:30:51.920 Um, afterwards we went and got some pizza. I got him home way past his bedtime, but on the way home,

00:30:57.600 um, as we were driving, uh, my son told me that he wants to be a great fisherman, uh, like me one day.

00:31:07.420 He wants to be a great fisherman like daddy one day is what he said. And when he said that, you know,

00:31:14.320 I, uh, I, I said, Oh, thanks buddy. You'll get there one day. And in my head though, I was kind

00:31:19.800 of laughing because I didn't catch a single thing all day. I mean, being a fisherman like me is not a

00:31:26.880 high bar to get over. Uh, so I thought it was funny that he was that after witnessing me get goose

00:31:32.280 egged like that for three hours, he was thinking, Oh, I want to be a great, I want to be great at

00:31:37.280 fishing like dad. But then as I thought more about it, um, I realized that there's something kind of

00:31:42.620 profound about what my son said there, because as dads, our sons idolize us, they admire everything

00:31:52.860 about us, uh, even our failures. So my son was watching me fail at fishing, but that's not what

00:32:02.060 he saw. You know, that's not what he was focused on. He was thinking about, he, all he was thinking

00:32:07.380 about is that he wants to be just like me, um, and do what I do. And I think that's a really good

00:32:13.760 reason to take this fatherhood job seriously, you know, because our sons are watching us like hawks

00:32:20.900 all the time. They're picking up lessons every day, even when we aren't trying to teach them

00:32:26.360 lessons. And that's a humbling thought. And it's kind of scary because I started to think to myself,

00:32:31.560 well, okay, if he, if he was watching me suck at fishing and, uh, he took a few bad fish fishing

00:32:38.060 pointers from me accidentally, it's not the worst thing in the world. Um, but what about other moments

00:32:44.760 in my life where I, you know, I'm, I'm displaying certain more serious flaws. Um, and he's watching

00:32:50.760 that and picking up on that. If he sees me lose my temper or something like that, um, or have,

00:32:57.840 or be impatient, well, he's going to be watching that too and thinking, I want to be just like

00:33:03.240 daddy thinking, well, that's, that's what men do. That's what it means to be. I want to be a man.

00:33:07.880 Uh, and that's what a man does. So I should be like that. So it's a humbling thought. And like I

00:33:13.920 said, a scary thought, um, but also, also beautiful when you think about it, that we have,

00:33:18.380 you know, um, that kind of responsibility and that we have people in our lives who admire us and love

00:33:28.100 us that much and look up to us. Um, so it's a, it's an incredible responsibility. One other thing

00:33:33.220 about fishing with my son that I was thinking about is I noticed something else on a slightly

00:33:37.480 different note. You know, my son has a lot of trouble paying attention. He's very rambunctious,

00:33:42.720 very energetic. He struggles with the ABCs and one, two threes and all that, um, because he can't

00:33:48.540 sit still and pay attention for very long. But I took him out to the lake and he worked on his casting

00:33:54.260 for three hours. I mean, he must've made a hundred casts and he stayed focused on, he worked at it,

00:34:00.140 focused. Um, and so we, we say about our boys a lot of the time that they can't pay attention.

00:34:07.360 They can't focus. We use these words like I just used, but I think they can, they just pay attention

00:34:16.600 to different sorts of things and they can learn. They just learn differently. They're interested in

00:34:23.880 different things. They have a different style of learning. Now you might say that it's more

00:34:27.980 important for him to pay attention to the ABCs and one, two threes than it is for him to learn about

00:34:32.740 fishing, but is it really? I mean, fishing is a useful skill and he's learning other things at

00:34:38.540 the same time. I taught him about bass beds where the mommy bass lay their eggs. We talked about the

00:34:43.640 different kinds of things that fish eat, um, and how you change the color of the Lord, depending on

00:34:49.880 the clarity of the water, depending on the time of day and all that kind of stuff. Uh, we talked about

00:34:54.500 how bass like to be around structures like stumps and big rocks and laid down trees. Uh, we talked about

00:35:00.820 how they come up into the shallows when it gets cooler and there's, and there's less light. Um,

00:35:05.480 and so he, he learned a lot. He, he had a whole biology lesson right there at the lake and he learned

00:35:12.060 a skill at the same time. So if I tried to sit him down on a chair and just lecture him about fish,

00:35:20.500 um, he would not have been able to absorb anything I said, but take him out to the lake,

00:35:27.300 let him see, let him touch, let him move around, let him explore, let him do something while he's

00:35:35.060 learning. And, uh, and, and what do you know? He learns. And I think it's probably that, that way

00:35:41.220 for a lot of, a lot of young boys, a lot of young boys who have been consigned to the label of learning

00:35:49.000 disabled or, or whatever else. Um, no, they can learn. They just don't learn like that. 1.00

00:35:55.500 They learn differently and that's okay. All right. Let's look at a couple of emails now. Um,

00:36:01.580 this is from Jennifer at Matt wall show at gmail.com at wall show at gmail.com. This is from

00:36:05.860 Jennifer as an OBG wine resident. I have been involved in the delivery of over 400 babies,

00:36:11.000 and I can only recall maybe two dozen couples who didn't know the gender of their baby beforehand.

00:36:15.460 In my experience, the surprise deliveries are way more fun and emotionally powerful than the ones

00:36:20.200 where the parents already know what they're going to have. I absolutely intend for my future

00:36:24.420 pregnancies to be surprises. Are you and your wife going to find out your gender, uh, find out the 0.72

00:36:28.840 gender of your new baby before his or her birth, or do you want it to be a surprise? Did you know

00:36:34.660 the genders of your other kids beforehand? I'd be willing to bet you've never hosted a gender reveal

00:36:38.620 party, but I'm curious to know your thoughts on that as well. Um, yeah, your bet is a safe one.

00:36:44.520 I have never done a gender reveal party and I would never do one or attend one. I find the whole 0.99

00:36:50.500 concept mystifying, honestly. I mean, I couldn't possibly care less about the gender of any child,

00:36:59.360 um, that any of my friends or family might be having. And it's not that I don't care about their

00:37:04.860 kids. It's just, I don't have like it. I don't have a preference for what gender, uh, my sister has it. 1.00

00:37:13.660 So it's not, I just, I don't get it. I'm happy for them that they're having a kid, but I'm supposed

00:37:19.560 to go to a party and be thrilled about whatever gender it is. Um, it doesn't make any sense. If 0.71

00:37:26.460 it's a girl, great. If it's a boy, great. But at a gender reveal party, when the blue confetti comes 0.93

00:37:33.420 down or however they reveal it, I'm supposed to go, it's a boy. Oh my gosh. I had no idea. It's a huge

00:37:39.760 surprise. It's so exciting. No, it's really not that awesome or amazing. It was a 50 50 chance

00:37:45.900 and it ended up being a boy. Great. Good for you. So I don't understand that. Um, the gender reveal 0.95

00:37:52.340 party is to me silly, but, uh, we did find out the gender beforehand. We do, we do, we do find out the

00:37:59.900 gender beforehand. Um, and I also don't understand not wanting to know the gender before it's fine.

00:38:07.820 If people don't want to know, it can be fun to get that surprise, I guess, when the baby is born,

00:38:11.840 but your child in the womb is your child, right? It's, it's whether it's your son or daughter,

00:38:18.380 it's your son or daughter. Um, and it doesn't become your child at birth. So why wouldn't you

00:38:24.680 want to know what gender your child is in the womb? I mean, you might as well say, I don't want 1.00

00:38:30.160 to know what the gender of the child is for the first year. No, don't tell me. I don't want to know.

00:38:33.780 Don't tell me. I want to be surprised on the first birthday. Why? Of course there are parents

00:38:38.520 who basically do that now, or they say, Oh no, it was a, cause the child's going to choose their

00:38:42.160 own gender, but putting those wackos to the side. Um, yeah, I, uh, so I, I can understand one. 1.00

00:38:49.700 Anyway, look, people do it however they want. It's, there is no right or wrong answer, but for me,

00:38:54.260 um, it just seems to me that that's my kid and I'd like to know everything I can about them right

00:39:01.420 now. Why, why wait? Um, all right. From Catherine says, uh, in a handful of relationships, uh,

00:39:09.840 I've known that ended in divorce, all included adultery, but only one involved the husband

00:39:15.100 cheating on his wife. The rest were wives cheating on husbands. In most cases, the wife was career 0.76

00:39:19.200 driven. And in all, but one, um, there were kids involved. This eats at me significantly,

00:39:25.220 especially since one of the cheating wives was my own career obsessed mother. Why is it that women 1.00

00:39:30.040 seem to cheat so much in relationships? And why do they always claim victim when they've been caught?

00:39:36.360 Well, I don't know if women cheat more or men cheat more. I don't know if I would suspect it's

00:39:40.900 probably about even. It's a kind of a human failing that I think stretches across both genders, 1.00

00:39:46.840 but I don't know what the stats say on that. A couple of observations. It's, it's no surprise

00:39:52.140 that cheaters claim victimhood status. Um, someone with a victim mentality is someone who is self

00:39:58.200 absorbed, right? Uh, they're always the victim because everything's about them. Everything is

00:40:03.320 a conspiracy about them. And they feel like they're entitled to be happy and satisfied all the time.

00:40:08.440 And whoever they happen to be around, whoever's in their life, whoever is in their orbit,

00:40:12.880 well, the job, the primary job of those people is to make them happy. Um, and especially in a marriage,

00:40:20.800 these self-absorbed people think that my spouse's sole purpose in life is to make me happy.

00:40:31.100 That's it. They have no other function. It's all about me. And so somebody with that mentality,

00:40:38.860 it's no surprise that they would then go cheat and feel entitled to do so because if their spouse

00:40:46.020 isn't making them happy, then they think, well, uh, I have a right to go and be happy somewhere else

00:40:51.780 because this is all about me. And my happiness is the most important thing in the universe.

00:40:56.100 And then they can also feel like they've been victimized at the same time because they can say

00:41:00.240 to their spouse, well, how dare you get mad at me? You didn't make me happy. This is your fault.

00:41:05.860 So that's where that comes from. And it's also no surprise that career obsessed people cheat men 0.69

00:41:11.380 or women. Um, because of course there's nothing wrong with caring about your career. Uh, nothing

00:41:17.860 wrong with that. But if your career is the only thing you care about, well, that's just another

00:41:23.460 way of saying that you are the only thing you care about because your career is mostly about you

00:41:28.780 and your own advancement, your own success. And so if that becomes the, the focal point of your life,

00:41:36.020 then your marriage is going to take a backseat. It's going to have a secondary status. And if your

00:41:41.540 marriage has a secondary status, then, uh, if your marriage is secondary and you're spending all day

00:41:47.640 focused on something that has nothing to do with your marriage, well, then that's at that point,

00:41:52.700 if you stay with that mentality, it's, it's almost a certainty that you'll cheat eventually.

00:42:00.200 Um, all right, we got to wrap things up here.

00:42:06.420 And, uh, well, I'll read this one. It says, uh, no name provided says I'm a big fan of your show.

00:42:11.720 I'm a Christian and conservative as well. I recently got admitted to Harvard law school.

00:42:15.020 I want to thank you for being part of the motivation and installation of faith that helped me get,

00:42:18.460 get here. I was a poor black kid from the projects. Listening to you taught me what it was to be a

00:42:23.380 man and achieve from sleeping in the back of the 2003 Ford focus to getting a job and getting my S

00:42:28.520 together. Thank you, friend. I can't ever let you know how much you've changed my life. There were

00:42:32.540 days when I didn't even want to live ashamed and embarrassed. Something about listening to your show

00:42:36.820 this past year made it worth it. Never stop what you're doing. I hope one day I can have a show like

00:42:40.920 yours and impact people in a similar way. Uh, God bless brother. Wow. Well, that's, I am blown away. Um,

00:42:47.480 thank you for that. Thank you for that, uh, for that, uh, for that feedback. And also, um,

00:42:55.780 I feel like I don't deserve any credit at all though, because you're sleeping in the back of a car.

00:43:03.200 You're starting with nothing. You're achieving, you're not complaining. You're not making yourself a

00:43:09.620 victim. Um, you've taken your life into your own hands and climbing your way to success. I mean,

00:43:19.360 that, that is all just, just to be clear, that is 100% totally you, but whatever small little tiny

00:43:24.340 role I could play in motivating you, I'm, I'm grateful for that role. So thank you for that.

00:43:29.360 All right. Uh, we'll end on that sappy note. Thanks everybody for watching. Thanks for listening.

00:43:33.740 Godspeed. Today on the Ben Shapiro show, president Trump declares executive privilege over the

00:43:51.160 unredacted Mueller report and Democrats escalate impeachment talk. That's today on the Ben Shapiro

00:43:55.460 show.

The Matt Walsh Show - May 08, 2019

Ep. 255 - If An Unborn Baby Isn't Human, What Is It？

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