The Matt Walsh Show - Ep. 359 - The Commie Generation

00:00:00.000 Welcome to the show, everybody. Glad to have you here, especially on this day, which is a special

00:00:05.600 day around here in my house. It's my eighth wedding anniversary. Eight years of marriage

00:00:10.500 may not be that much, you know, objectively in the grand scheme of things, but by modern standards,

00:00:16.020 anyway, we have officially entered old married couple status, which I'm very excited about.

00:00:20.960 And thinking back to that day eight years ago, you know, a lot of joy and hope and promise,

00:00:26.000 except the only problem is that there was a torrential downpour on the day of our wedding

00:00:29.600 we were getting married on the beach, not on the beach physically. We're not hippies. We were in

00:00:34.480 a church, for God's sake, like civilized people, but a church at the beach. And so the downpour was

00:00:40.640 flooding roads and everything. And, you know, it was messing up my wife's hair and her makeup and

00:00:45.100 my hair and makeup because we're a progressive couple. But the real problem, and anyone who's

00:00:50.280 gotten married in the last 25 years on a rainy day knows what I'm about to say. The real problem is

00:00:57.340 the nonstop Alanis Morissette jokes that just went on for the entire day. And every person who walked

00:01:04.100 into the church, of course, they're coming out, they're shaking off their, you know, jacket and

00:01:08.380 they've got the umbrella. And then they walk into the church and every single person goes, uh, well,

00:01:13.500 this is ironic. And then they look around ironic. It's like the Alanis Morissette joke. Yeah. Pop

00:01:19.100 culture reference. Uh, and it's like, as if they're the first person to make the joke, which is even more

00:01:22.980 annoying because no rain on a wedding day, of course, as many people have corrected this,

00:01:27.480 that is not ironic. It's inconvenient. It's a hassle. It's not ironic. Neither is finding 10,000

00:01:34.600 spoons when you're looking for a knife in your kitchen. That's just a sign that somebody in your

00:01:39.160 house is a degenerate spoon hoarder. It doesn't mean that it's ironic in any way. In any case,

00:01:44.860 happy anniversary to my wife. Um, what I, uh, what I, and to myself, I suppose, what I want to begin

00:01:51.100 with today is a new survey showing that one in three millennials have a favorable view of communism.

00:01:57.300 Um, and, and this is not the only survey of this type that's been done and found results like this.

00:02:02.040 And it's very, I think legitimately terrifying to think that communism is becoming so popular. I want

00:02:09.740 to talk about that and why it is that my generation finds communism appealing. Also two Indian American

00:02:16.680 kids attacked and assaulted a group of black girls in New Jersey, but the New York times knows what is 0.97

00:02:25.280 really to blame for this assault, white supremacy. I'm not kidding. And, uh, and also today speaking of 0.98

00:02:32.200 my wedding anniversary in honor of that occasion, I wanted to talk about the pieces of marriage advice,

00:02:37.260 the common cliched pieces of marriage advice, supposed marriage wisdom that I have found in my

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00:04:30.380 Before we get to the communism thing. I also, I forgot about this, a priest in South Carolina,

00:04:34.600 I would be, I couldn't do the show without mentioning a priest in South Carolina reportedly

00:04:38.440 refused communion to, um, quote unquote, Catholic Joe Biden. Father Robert Morey says that he didn't

00:04:45.260 give Biden communion because Biden, among other things, openly advocates for abortion, um, for the

00:04:52.600 grave sin, uh, known as abortion. Now I just wanted to, I, I want to say congratulations to this brave

00:04:58.840 priest for being one of the few with the guts to actually enforce the rule and uphold the teaching

00:05:03.480 as it pertains to this and protecting the dignity of the sacrament and the church. And not to mention

00:05:08.280 Joe Biden's own soul. He needs this kind of correction for the sake of his own soul. So this was an act

00:05:13.500 of courage and also mercy, I think for Joe Biden. Um, now for those who aren't familiar, the Catholics 1.00

00:05:18.720 have the doctrine of the real presence in the Eucharist, which is the belief that Christ is really present,

00:05:24.320 as, uh, as, as it would seem to indicate really present in the Eucharist. As he said at the last

00:05:28.700 supper, this is my body, do this in remembrance of me, not this symbolizes my body, but this is my

00:05:34.560 body. Do this in remembrance of me. That's where the teaching come from comes from. So people who are

00:05:39.520 in grave sin or in a state of sin in that way are not supposed to receive communion until they have

00:05:45.040 repented of that sin. The Catholic church has always taught that abortion is a grave sin and those

00:05:51.260 who advocate openly advocate for it, promote it, fund it, facilitate in it, facilitate it. They are

00:05:57.760 guilty of, um, not only participating in this sin, but also they're guilty of the sin of scandal. And

00:06:05.620 by that we mean, we don't mean scandal in the political sense. We mean scandal in, in the sense

00:06:10.160 that they are, um, you know, you know, encouraging others to fall into sin in this case, explicitly openly

00:06:19.520 encouraging others. So, uh, pro-abortion politicians for that reason are supposed to be refused

00:06:25.120 communion. It's just that it rarely happens because priests rarely have the guts to stand

00:06:30.900 up to them. Also because pro-abortion politicians rarely go to church in the first place. So to have

00:06:35.900 the opportunity to have communion refused of them. Um, but when they do go, usually, uh, it is

00:06:45.800 disgraceful to note, but usually they'll get communion and no one withholds it. In this case,

00:06:50.500 it was withheld. And so I say good for this priest. Okay. So that's the good news for today. Uh, on to

00:06:56.800 some of the bad news, the victims of communism Memorial foundation conducts these yearly studies

00:07:03.960 to see how people's attitudes towards communism are changing over time. And the results of this year's

00:07:10.560 study, this year's study are truly horrifying. I think reading now from the organization's report,

00:07:15.100 here are what they call the key takeaways. Some of the key takeaways. Anyway, I'm, uh,

00:07:20.700 cherry picking a few of these here that are of special interest. It says, uh, capitalism is still

00:07:25.880 viewed more favorably than other economic systems, holding relatively steady at 61% favorability from

00:07:31.040 2018. Now that's 61% overall. To me, that's pretty low. Only 61% of Americans, according to this study,

00:07:38.880 are really in favor of capitalism. However, favorability of capitalism is lower among generation Z and

00:07:44.680 millennials at only around 50% down six points and eight points from 2018, respectively. Communism is

00:07:52.000 viewed favorably by more than one in three millennials, 36% up eight points from 2018 communism by 36% of

00:08:01.540 millennials. This, I hate to remind you, this is the generation that's taking over the country. Um, 1.00

00:08:09.460 they are inheriting the reins of power. When I say they, I mean, we, and 36% of us are in favor of

00:08:17.740 communism. 15% of millennials think the world would be better off if the Soviet union still existed.

00:08:23.440 A majority of Americans aged 35 and under trust themselves more than the community. Um, but that's 0.95

00:08:29.980 okay. So 35 and under majority trust themselves, 66% trust themselves more than the community or the

00:08:36.980 government. Um, but that means that 34% trust the community or the government more than they trust

00:08:42.920 themselves. Think about that. Um, while 50% of millennials say they are somewhat likely and 20%

00:08:50.180 of millennials say they are extremely likely to vote for a socialist candidate doubling from 10% in 2018,

00:08:55.580 Americans overall are more hesitant about voting for a Democrat socialist than they were last year.

00:09:01.340 45% of generation Z and millennials believe that, okay, well, obviously naturally 45% believe that,

00:09:06.500 um, all higher education should be free on that one. I'm actually surprised it's not higher 45%.

00:09:11.880 Um, although I think the number is trending in the upward direction. Now this is all quite wrong.

00:09:18.520 Of course, I don't mean that the findings of the study are wrong. I think the findings line up with

00:09:22.900 what you would expect. They ring true to me, even though they're horrifying. I mean, they're wrong in

00:09:28.940 that the opinions held by many millennials with respect to this issue and with respect to almost every

00:09:34.100 other issue you can think of are wrong. It might be too much to ask given that people don't like to

00:09:40.560 read anymore, especially read long books. But if everyone would just read the first volume,

00:09:46.640 I've recommended this book a million times. If you would just read the first volume of Solzhenistin's,

00:09:51.480 um, uh, Gulag Archipelago, he wrote a three volume work talking about his own experience in the Gulag,

00:10:01.140 the Soviet Gulag. But also he kind of weaves that into the overall history of the Gulag system

00:10:08.100 in the Soviet union. It's a fascinating book. I've read the first two volumes. I haven't read the third

00:10:13.840 volume yet. Um, but it'd be great to read all of them. If you could only read one, just read the

00:10:19.720 first volume. And I, there's no way that you could read that book and come away from it. Still thinking

00:10:28.880 that a socialist or communist system is a good idea. I just, there's no way you could do it. Um,

00:10:34.760 um, the, these are systems where freedom, liberty, self-expression, self-determination,

00:10:45.260 human flourishing, human well-being are not relevant. They, they, they simply don't factor

00:10:54.500 in. Now, the fact that communist governments promise to take care of everybody and make sure

00:11:00.320 that, uh, and make sure that everyone's needs are provided for and then fail always every single

00:11:06.220 time to follow through on that promise is almost beside the point. Because what happens when we have

00:11:12.620 this conversation is people say, well, look at the bread lines in Venezuela or the empty grocery

00:11:17.080 shelves. Uh, and this is supposed to prove the faults of this kind of system. But even though

00:11:23.720 it's true that that does indicate serious problems with the social system, I think that's the wrong

00:11:28.600 approach. Just observing all the bad things that have happened under communist and socialist governments

00:11:34.020 is not enough clearly. Now, when I recommended the Gulag archipelago, it's not because it chronicles

00:11:41.700 all the bad stuff, which it does and does so powerfully and poignantly. The, the real powerful

00:11:47.280 thing about the book, I think, is how it exposes the philosophical flaws with this system. And that's

00:11:54.640 what we need to focus on communicating is the philosophical problem with it. We need to focus on why it's a

00:12:02.600 bad idea, not just why it's bad in practice, not just why, not, not, not just the practical problems,

00:12:09.660 even if they are significant practical problems, such as mass starvation is a practical problem,

00:12:15.740 pretty significant one I would think. But that clearly has not been, even if it should be enough

00:12:22.000 for people to be convinced, it's not enough. And the reason is there's always a defense mechanism

00:12:27.200 that's that, that, that, that, you know, this defense mechanism has been built up and it's a pretty

00:12:32.240 effective mechanism. And that mechanism, that strategy is the classic move of saying, well,

00:12:38.500 hey, communism is a great idea, but it's just that it's usually not done right. And when you point

00:12:46.020 to an example of a communist or socialist regime, Venezuela, China, Soviet union, wherever, that where

00:12:53.360 there's been horrific results, you could always say, well, that's not real communism or that's not real

00:12:58.660 socialism. Or there's the more skeptical sounding version of this, where somebody says, communism is

00:13:07.400 great in theory, just bad in practice. That no, it's bad in theory. Um, and the reason why it's

00:13:17.420 always bad in practice is because it's bad in theory. And so we need to talk about that theory.

00:13:25.100 Here's, here's the other thing that people need to understand about millennials. And I guess,

00:13:29.720 gen generation Z, uh, I don't know anything about those people. Uh, but even though I guess my kids 0.91

00:13:36.780 are in that group, I don't know, but here, here's what I think some people miss about millennials,

00:13:43.240 the arguments, and not just with, with this issue, with, with economics, but with any issue,

00:13:49.860 the art, the arguments that really speak to millennials are going to be philosophical,

00:13:57.580 moral arguments, which in some ways I would say is a credit to my generation that we're a little bit

00:14:07.780 less focused on the practical implications of things, which there's a downside to that, which we're

00:14:14.360 seeing, but they're a little less focused on that and a little more focused on the moral argument.

00:14:21.640 Like what, what's the right thing to do? Okay. Um, and this, this is a fact about millennials that 0.86

00:14:29.000 everyone seems to miss. How can you miss it? And so this is why the messaging by conservatives to

00:14:34.900 millennials has so often fails because when you start talking about the practical stuff of, oh, you know,

00:14:41.060 you want a job, you want this, that's no, that's not, that's not how you're going to speak to them.

00:14:46.740 Notice, notice what Bernie Sanders does, what Elizabeth Warren does, what all the Democrats do,

00:14:53.200 especially when it comes to economic stuff. Um, much to the frustration of conservatives,

00:15:00.620 they're not making practical arguments. They're not explaining how their plans are actually going to

00:15:07.980 work because the plans aren't going to work. But from a messaging standpoint, it doesn't matter

00:15:13.240 because instead what they're doing is they're saying, this is just the right thing. It's the

00:15:17.920 right thing to do. And they're making that moral argument. It's a bad moral argument, but it is a

00:15:24.140 moral argument and a philosophical argument. So I think here's, here's what it comes down to.

00:15:32.880 The, the, the fundamental questions that pertain to this. What is the point of living? What are we

00:15:42.820 supposed to get out of life? What's the function of a person? What, what are people for to quote a

00:15:49.640 Wendell Berry essay? Yes. The theory of communism is to care for and provide for everyone equally.

00:15:56.800 It never works out that way, but nevermind that for a minute. Let's just talk about the theory.

00:16:05.800 The problem is that's not what people are for. That is not the most moral system, even if it worked,

00:16:15.440 which it doesn't, because we are not as people, just like pigs in a pen where you give us food and

00:16:23.500 maybe a clean out the pen every once in a while. And then you leave us to muck around in the mud in

00:16:28.040 our, in our little safe confines. That's not what, how people work. We are human beings thinking,

00:16:35.920 striving, dreaming, rational creatures, which means in order for us to actually be happy,

00:16:41.900 in order for us to really be fulfilled, in order for us to flourish, we need the liberty to act on our

00:16:48.880 own, make our own, make our own decisions, express our own views, work towards our own goals,

00:16:54.560 care for ourselves. This isn't to say the community is unimportant. It just means that

00:16:59.060 we are communities of humans, not of ants or bees. And, and communism is great for ants and bees

00:17:09.420 because it emphasizes the community completely at the expense of the individual, where the individual

00:17:20.680 basically doesn't exist and doesn't matter. That doesn't work. For, for, for creatures that

00:17:27.080 literally have hive minds, that's great. For human beings, it's not so great. And I think that has to

00:17:34.780 be our message. The reason why communism is so appealing to younger people is that, as I've

00:17:41.480 argued, there's way too much focus on the practical pitfalls of communism, which, which leaves open this

00:17:48.420 idea that in theory, it's great. And someone just has to figure out how to make it work because it's

00:17:54.100 the most moral system. And it's a system that's going to make people the happiest. And so we should do it

00:17:58.720 if we could. And also because before even making the point that communism destroys liberty,

00:18:08.240 which is the main point, the real reason to oppose it. But before even getting there, people need

00:18:14.920 first to actually desire liberty and freedom. And, and herein lies, I think the real problem. A lot of

00:18:19.920 younger people today just don't have that desire for liberty, for freedom, for independence, because it

00:18:25.500 hasn't been instilled in them. And that's what we need to work on getting people to understand,

00:18:29.700 especially young people, why freedom is a beautiful and necessary thing, and something that will

00:18:34.040 ultimately make them happy and fulfilled, and why it is the most moral thing. You know, why it is better

00:18:40.960 to have a system where people are free, and they have self-determination, even if you have things like

00:18:47.480 poverty, and so on. You know, I, I, I knew we had a problem when I started seeing, when it comes to

00:18:56.980 this, you know, you started seeing these reports in the last few years about how kids are driving

00:19:03.240 at later and later ages. They're putting off getting their licenses because they're content to

00:19:09.480 be chauffeured around by their parents. And it's a small thing, but it's illustrative because it used to

00:19:14.300 be that kids couldn't wait to get their licenses, right? Because they, they wanted to be able to

00:19:18.080 get out on their own, hit the open road, have some independence, have some autonomy. Um, I remember

00:19:23.160 I was so excited to get my license and I, I just, the, the idea of being able to get in my car and go

00:19:29.420 run an errand or something, even, even something as simple as that, but just if I, if I needed something

00:19:34.660 from the store, if I needed to go, that I could just get in the car and go do it myself without,

00:19:39.580 without having to depend on anybody. That to me, I couldn't wait to do that.

00:19:44.300 I was so excited to run my first errand as an adult. Um, but that's, that's something that

00:19:53.800 kids today, that's a desire. They don't seem to have quite as much, you know, and in a similar way,

00:20:01.500 it used to be that you'd be excited to leave your home once you were old enough and live on your own,

00:20:05.860 get out on your own. Even if you end up living in some dingy apartment or whatever, even if your

00:20:09.620 living conditions are downgraded in some respects from what you had at your parents' place, you loved

00:20:15.680 it because it was yours. It was your space. You could do what you wanted. It was your thing. You

00:20:19.980 were basically free to live as you wanted. Um, but younger people don't desire that anymore either,

00:20:25.600 which continues to be shocking to me. Just, I can't, I can't wrap my head around that mentality

00:20:31.660 because I wanted to move out when I was 16, not because I had a miserable home life,

00:20:35.800 but just because I wanted to be on my own. I was just, I was just tired of, of, I wanted to do my

00:20:40.580 own thing, but now you've got 26 year olds who don't really have that desire. They don't, they

00:20:46.680 don't really want to do their own thing. Um, so, uh, it's, and, and again, with, with, with something

00:20:57.060 like that, if you want to make an argument to people that, Hey, you know, you should get your

00:21:03.600 license and you should move out of the house and live on your own. I think it's important to have

00:21:09.500 the younger generation doing that and learning how to live independently and learning that independence

00:21:15.080 is a good thing. But if you're going to make that argument, once again, you can't really make it on

00:21:23.360 practical grounds because in a way, as opposed to with something like communism, the, uh, the, the,

00:21:32.600 the very sort of localized communism of a, of an adult that still lives at home with his parents

00:21:38.860 and is taken care of by the government of the house, which would be their parents. That does

00:21:43.360 make it a practical way. I mean, that does make some practical sense because you're saving money

00:21:48.080 and all of that. So in a way, practically speaking, yeah, I can see why you would do it,

00:21:53.760 but there's more of a philosophical argument. It's a philosophical argument for why, even though

00:21:59.780 it makes practical sense, you still shouldn't do it because it's, it's not, because that's not how

00:22:04.600 you are going to flourish as a human being. You'll be more comfortable that way, but you're not going

00:22:10.440 to be happiest. You're not going to flourish. You're not going to become yourself, figure out who

00:22:15.160 you are, come of age, mature. None of that's going to happen if you're still depending on your parents.

00:22:21.480 So I think these are the kinds of arguments we make. And, and, um, if we start doing this,

00:22:29.220 and I think that's how we get people to abandon this idea that communism is the way to go.

00:22:35.820 All right. Um, well, we've been dumping on the Washington post for, uh, mourning the death of the

00:22:42.620 great mass murdering serial rapist scholar, Al Bagdadi. But I think the New York times deserves, 0.94

00:22:48.540 as always a share of the ridicule this week. I, we should, if we're making fun of the media,

00:22:52.780 we should always include the New York times because they're always giving us more and more

00:22:55.520 reasons to make fun of them. I point now to an article, an op-ed published a couple of days ago,

00:22:59.800 which no matter how cynical you are about the media, you might not even believe this is real.

00:23:05.560 You're, you'll probably, you're probably going to look this up and Google it to see if it actually

00:23:09.840 exists, which I encourage you to do, but it is real. It does exist. It's by, uh, Nell Irvin painter.

00:23:15.360 And it's a, an op-ed about an assault on a group of black girls by two Indian boys,

00:23:21.380 Indian American boys, but painter knows who is really to blame for this white people. 0.68

00:23:28.660 So listen to this. Um, she says in the pages of the New York times, two 17 year old boys accused

00:23:35.960 of harassing four African American middle school, uh, middle school girls using racial slurs and

00:23:41.000 urinating on one of the victims are facing charges, including bias, intimidation, and lewdness.

00:23:45.380 The incident, which took place during an October 18th high school football game, the New Jersey

00:23:49.320 suburb of Lawrence township, and was partly captured on video that circulated on social media

00:23:52.900 involves a cast of characters that have given some observers pause. Police say the boys are of Indian

00:23:58.560 descent. While it's tempting to see the reported ethnicity of the boys suspected in the assault as

00:24:04.080 complicating the story and raising questions about whether the assault should be thought of as

00:24:07.860 racist. I look at it through a different lens. Instead of asking what, let me just stop here

00:24:13.960 actually for one second. It actually doesn't complicate the story at all. And it doesn't

00:24:18.540 raise questions about whether or not it's racist. There's nothing to for, for, for those, for

00:24:24.620 rational people to see a non-white person acting in a bigoted way to another non-white person.

00:24:34.260 That's not complicated. That doesn't raise questions of whether it's racist.

00:24:38.380 It's very uncomplicated. That's racist. Because as rational people, we understand that racism

00:24:44.940 obviously exists among all people, not just white people.

00:24:49.120 But, um, the author here doesn't seem to agree. So, uh, she says, instead of asking what the

00:24:56.080 boys reported racial identity tells us about the nature of the attack, we should see the boys as

00:25:00.480 enact, listen, listen carefully, Liz. We should see the boys as enacting American whiteness through 0.81

00:25:10.460 anti-black assault in a very traditional way. In doing so, the assailants are demonstrating how race

00:25:18.260 is a social construct that people make through their actions. They show race in the making and

00:25:23.780 show how race is something we perform, not just something we are in our blood or in the color of

00:25:28.600 our skin. Enacting whiteness. By assaulting someone, no matter what race you are, you are enacting 0.83

00:25:39.020 whiteness. Why? Well, because white people are the only ones who are racist. But you see the circular

00:25:46.120 logic here. Uh, you know, uh, when, when a non white person assaults another non white person,

00:25:54.380 uh, that has to be racist. Why? Because white people are the only ones who are racist. 0.99

00:26:01.320 So you see how the, the, the circle goes. 0.97

00:26:06.520 Every, every racist incident is by a white person or white people are to blame for it.

00:26:11.300 And so when you have a racist incident that doesn't involve white people, well, no, it,

00:26:16.260 it, but still involve white people because white people only wants to be racist. And we just go

00:26:19.960 around and around in that circle of logic, um, or anti-logic, I guess we should call it.

00:26:25.680 Uh, let's see. She could, should we read any more of this? At first blush, the reported assault sounds

00:26:29.440 nauseatingly familiar, like the run of the mill American racial harassment that has been always been

00:26:33.940 in common. Um, but has become increasingly revealed. Thanks to videos shared on social media,

00:26:38.180 the boy's actions resemble those of people who feel empowered to act out the resentment against

00:26:42.520 non white people who are deemed out of place, confronting them with hostility or slurs or

00:26:46.480 calling the police. The people patrolling what they see as their spaces are often, but not always

00:26:51.180 white. The Yale sociologist, Elijah Anderson calls areas that are policed in this way, the white space,

00:26:57.840 even though the spaces in question are officially public. So just to understand what's happening here.

00:27:02.080 When someone is assaults or abuses another person in a space, the person who is doing the assaulting

00:27:15.960 and abusing is defending the white space, even if they're not white, they have now become, I don't

00:27:23.140 know if it's a Manchurian candidate kind of thing where we as white people have brainwashed them to

00:27:28.580 enforce our space, whatever that is. There's someone in the white space, get them. I don't know if

00:27:34.340 they imagine that we're, you know, we're whispering that into a microphone or something, you know, a chip

00:27:39.820 implanted in their ear and they're following our orders, hypnotized. I don't know what they imagine

00:27:44.400 how this works, but, but, um, that's basically the result. Uh, and then it goes on from there.

00:27:51.460 Anyway, I think you've probably heard enough. You get the idea. This is, I think it, it should be

00:27:57.840 noted that I looked up this author's, uh, biography and seeing what it says here, it won't surprise you

00:28:06.540 that this is someone from academia. I don't know if they're still in academia, but someone who was in,

00:28:12.480 in academia, this is what you send your kids to a mainstream college, um, to a major, you know,

00:28:20.340 secular kind of college. What I mean, this is the kind of thing they're being taught as fact.

00:28:28.760 So this is not hyperbole or me being satirical or anything. They, the left really believes

00:28:38.340 that only white people can be racist by definition. And so any racist thing that happens

00:28:45.160 has to be the fault of white people. That is actually what they believe. That is actually 0.86

00:28:52.900 what they teach to kids as a fact in school. And it of course is completely insane and has no basis in

00:29:01.520 reality. Um, and it, it entirely ignores the fact, and in fact is, is meant to obfuscate the fact that,

00:29:12.320 um, bigotry and so-called intolerance and racial hatred is extremely pervasive and common all across

00:29:25.100 the world. And very often is much more common and much more pervasive and much more violent and aggressive

00:29:34.600 and dangerous in non-white parts of the world. Um, but that's the fact that we're not supposed to notice that. 0.99

00:29:46.120 Okay. As I mentioned, today is my wedding anniversary, eight years, and, uh, I thought it could be fun,

00:29:57.160 possibly instructive to go over some of the very common and cliched bits of marriage wisdom, um, that, that, uh,

00:30:06.400 everyone hears before marriage, but I have found to be completely off base and wrong in my experience.

00:30:12.780 And anyone who's contemplating marriage, if you're younger and you're thinking about getting married

00:30:16.580 or you just got married, hopefully this will be instructive for you. Now, I don't know what your

00:30:21.420 particular experience is going to be, but, uh, I, I think probably these are bits of advice that you've

00:30:27.280 already heard a bunch of times. And in my opinion, you should just discard and forget about. Okay. So

00:30:32.640 we'll go through some of these. Number one, um, never go to bed angry. This is terrible advice.

00:30:40.720 It's very common. You hear it all the time. And I really believed before I got married and I heard

00:30:46.880 never go to bed angry. And so I thought, okay, well, guess you can't go to bed angry. What I've

00:30:51.240 discovered though, and you discovered this pretty quickly is that if you're ticked off at each other

00:30:54.940 around bedtime, which does happen, hopefully it doesn't happen that often, but it does happen,

00:30:59.180 especially if you've had a long day and you've got kids and all that, and the kids are being kids and

00:31:03.720 just at the end of the day, you're exhausted and everything. Um, and you're getting on each other's

00:31:08.740 nerves. You get into a, into a fight. Well, okay. You have two options at that point. You it's,

00:31:15.140 it's around bedtime. You're angry, two options. You can fight it out into the wee hours of the morning

00:31:22.860 and then probably still in the end, go to bed angry or just get some sleep and sleep it off.

00:31:30.740 Wake up in the morning and 90% of the time discover that you don't even care anymore. You're not angry

00:31:36.560 anymore. Um, the latter option is better almost all the time. So this, this is almost completely

00:31:45.560 the opposite of the case. Uh, also, you know, I, I, I have personally found that screaming at your

00:31:54.360 spouse, no, don't fall asleep. We can't go to bed angry. That doesn't really work to calm things down.

00:32:01.560 I've discovered anger subsides on it on its own. You can't demand that someone stop being angry.

00:32:07.920 It just on its own, it goes away. And, uh, most of the time in a marriage, depending on how serious

00:32:13.400 the fight is, I mean, you know, if it's something very serious, this will, this isn't true, but

00:32:16.460 the vast majority of the arguments that you have in a marriage are not serious. And it's about

00:32:22.400 something that doesn't really matter that much. And you're both kind of wrong, but you're also both

00:32:27.440 kind of right. You have your good points and your bad points. That's, that's the majority of

00:32:31.520 arguments. And so, but when you're in the midst of it and you're angry, you just, you can't see

00:32:36.680 that you go to bed, you wake up and you'll see that. Oh man. Now, if you, if you cut it off at the

00:32:42.960 pass and decide not to have the argument and you just go to bed, you'll wake up and think about all

00:32:49.940 the things because yeah, you went to bed angry. So as you're falling asleep, you're stewing over it.

00:32:54.840 And you're, you're thinking about all the things you wish you could be saying right now. You're

00:32:58.560 thinking about waking up your spouse to say these great points that you think you want to make.

00:33:03.060 But when you eventually you do fall asleep, you wake up in the morning, you think to yourself,

00:33:06.900 thank God, I didn't say I knew that. That's a very good thing. So, um, definitely go to bed angry

00:33:13.920 sometimes. That's my first, uh, so that's how I respond to it. Number two, uh, people say the first

00:33:18.240 year is the hardest. I, I, I don't know who came up with this. I have to assume that the,

00:33:23.920 the person who came up with it is someone who got divorced after the first year. So this is someone

00:33:28.680 who couldn't hack it at all and got divorced and then figured that, well, first year must be the

00:33:32.160 hardest because it was my only year. So what do I know? The first year is actually a piece of cake

00:33:38.440 barring some kind of, uh, extenuating circumstance that makes your particular situation very difficult.

00:33:45.860 In most cases on the sort of standard first year model of marriage, it is a piece of cake. There's

00:33:53.420 it's, you don't have kids probably, uh, you're just, it's just the two of you and you just got

00:33:59.940 married. You're doing your thing. It's just, uh, it's no problem. It's, it's not until later when

00:34:06.600 the kids come and you got the bills and, and, and, and you've got just all the challenges and

00:34:12.160 the vicissitudes of fortune to use a phrase that I use quite commonly in my household.

00:34:18.120 Uh, it's with all of that, that you start having the challenges and, and, and that's when you have

00:34:22.820 the more difficult moments. I think telling people that the first year is the hardest just sets them

00:34:27.400 up for failure by giving them a false confidence where they get through the first year, they look

00:34:31.600 back at it. They say, really, that's the hardest it's going to get. You kidding me? This is a piece of

00:34:36.020 cake. And then, uh, and then the first time they hit a real speed bump, everything falls apart

00:34:41.280 because they weren't, they weren't expecting that. Number three, people say, uh, you know,

00:34:45.060 never keep anything from your partner. Don't keep anything yourself. Now this is true. If,

00:34:50.880 if the point is that you shouldn't like hide money or have affairs or something like that,

00:34:57.320 then, and with the money thing now that, that is a cliched common piece of advice about don't

00:35:02.920 have separate accounts and don't do that. That I think is a hundred percent correct. That's

00:35:06.880 absolutely true. Um, you get, you let money come in between you and a marriage and you both have

00:35:12.460 your own money. That's that you're just asking for, you, you're at, you are basically, you might

00:35:16.580 as well be literally asking for a divorce at that point. You might as well cut to the chase and just,

00:35:21.100 just ask for the divorce because that's where you're headed. If you, if you're letting money come 1.00

00:35:25.260 between you in a marriage like that. But, um, uh, with the exception of those kinds of things,

00:35:31.180 the way this is often translated, when people say, don't keep anything from your spouse,

00:35:37.100 the way it's translated in a marriage, a lot of the time is that you should always share your

00:35:42.420 feelings and your concerns with your spouse all the time. Never hold anything back or keep anything

00:35:48.640 to yourself. And that, that is definitely wrong. It couldn't be more wrong. Now, um, someone on

00:35:57.640 Twitter, very, I was talking about this on Twitter last night, someone on Twitter very wisely

00:36:00.560 described this as, I wish I could steal this and pretend that I came up with this, but, uh, but I

00:36:04.680 didn't. Someone said that this is like using your spouse as an emotional toilet. It is the emotional

00:36:10.600 toilet approach to marriage. And that is, you're just, you're, you're dumping all of your emotional

00:36:16.640 baggage on your spouse of vomiting out all the complaints and miseries of the day, not because you

00:36:22.860 want to bond with them or share with them, but just because you're trying to unload and you don't

00:36:27.700 want to have it. And so it just makes you feel better to get it all out there. You're trying to

00:36:31.540 vent a good rule of thumb. I think is this, if you have to justify what you're saying by qualifying it

00:36:39.320 with, I'm just venting. You probably should have kept it to yourself. I think 90% of the time,

00:36:47.440 what you feel the need to excuse by calling it venting is something that you, that you were selfish

00:36:53.700 for saying in the first place, because you're taking your own miseries and you're dumping them

00:36:58.960 on your spouse, just backing up the dump truck and unloading it. Here you go. 0.99

00:37:05.840 Go scream into a pillow if you, if you need to, but your spouse is not a pillow to be screamed into. 0.76

00:37:13.540 Um, the, uh, number four, marriage is 50, 50. Uh, this is, I think, obviously now I, before going,

00:37:20.700 and we're going into marriage, I knew that this was, this was BS, uh, marriage is fit. Marriage

00:37:24.660 is not 50, 50. You can't split everything down the line. 50, 50. If you try to do that, it's kind

00:37:29.220 of like the money thing. It's you, you are marching right to the divorce attorney. If you're trying to

00:37:33.920 have a marriage like that, uh, if you're trying to be like my kids, the twins who are con because

00:37:40.840 they're six years old. So they insist that everything is exactly equal. You know, they start measuring,

00:37:47.840 oh, you gave him a little bit more cereal than me. That kind of thing. Um, uh, that's, you give

00:37:54.820 them both a cookie and they, they hold the cookies up to see who has a little bit more cookie than the

00:37:58.460 other. Then the one with less cookie demands to be compensated for the cookie they're missing out

00:38:02.000 on. If you, if, okay, it's one thing if you're a six year old child operating that way, but if

00:38:07.120 you're trying to have a marriage that way, uh, it's just not going to work. What I would also say

00:38:11.840 though, because it's common for people to say, oh no, marriages aren't 50, 50. They're 100, 100 in

00:38:20.440 that you're both giving a hundred percent of a hundred percent all the time. I think that's also

00:38:24.900 wrong. That is also bad advice. Or maybe it's not so much bad advice as it is, uh, an unrealistic

00:38:33.520 expectation that you are giving to a married couple. When you say that, because even if it's true 0.98

00:38:42.140 that in an ideal world, both spouses should be giving a hundred percent all the time, that's not

00:38:48.900 how it's ever going to work. And so in certain areas of your marriage and in the family and in

00:38:54.860 the household, uh, you know, the husband is going to be doing 85% and the wife is doing 15. And there 0.94

00:39:02.480 are other areas where the wife is doing 92 and the husband's doing eight. And there are even going

00:39:06.720 to be times when one spouse is doing a hundred and the other one's doing zero. That's just how it

00:39:11.980 works. And, and I think the point is you can't measure it when you're sitting there trying to

00:39:16.140 measure, whether you're trying to measure 50 or trying to measure a hundred, if you're measuring

00:39:20.400 at all and you're comparing like that, it, you're setting yourself up once again for failure. It's just

00:39:25.920 that a marriage can't work that way. And I also think actually that, um, I think it's

00:39:32.460 really important in a marriage, especially when their kids are involved. It's important

00:39:36.560 that both spouses get chances sometimes to do zero. So I think as a spouse, you should be volunteering

00:39:45.060 to do a hundred sometimes. So your spouse can go do zero for a little bit, have some me time,

00:39:51.700 have some time to themselves away from the kids, away from you, away from the house. Just,

00:39:55.920 just live, just being a, you know, being their own human for a few hours. Um, I think that's

00:40:04.680 extremely important. And, uh, talking to a lot of married couples, it seems like there are a lot

00:40:09.320 of people in marriages where they're, where they never get that. Never. They're never given a chance

00:40:14.320 to go and just do zero. Um, because they always, because their spouse's attitude is always, Hey, 1.00

00:40:20.500 if I'm in the midst of it, then you gotta be here too. You're not, if you're not getting a break,

00:40:25.300 if I don't get one at the same time, that is a lethal attitude, I think. And then number five,

00:40:34.740 uh, the fifth piece of bad advice is, um, people say, and this comes in different forms,

00:40:40.740 but people say happy wife, happy life. You know, this is another one that could be interpreted in

00:40:46.060 a positive, good, healthy way. If what you mean is that you should try to look out for your spouse's

00:40:50.400 happiness generally, then sure. Although wives should be doing that for their husbands too. 1.00

00:40:55.720 Now I don't, it doesn't rhyme as well. So happy wife, happy life. It's a nice little rhyme there.

00:41:00.160 Happy husband, happy. I don't know what would rhyme with husband. That means life. I'm not sure

00:41:03.660 anything does, but both spouses should be looking out for the other person's happiness, which isn't to

00:41:08.780 say that spouses should be dependent on the other for their happiness, but voluntarily we in a marriage

00:41:18.200 should be wanting to do what we can to help our spouse be happy. The problem is that the way this

00:41:25.220 often gets translated is that the husband should just give the wife what she wants, always agree, 1.00

00:41:31.900 never argue with her, et cetera, et cetera, yada, yada. And this idea is communicated in a variety of

00:41:37.360 half joking, but not really joking at all ways, like happy life, happy wife, or happy wife, happy life,

00:41:43.080 or someone says something like, you know, the most important words for a husband to learn in a

00:41:47.600 marriage are, yes, dear. Anything in that vein, all the stuff about how the wife is always right. 0.99

00:41:56.620 And this is something I heard before my marriage constantly. Guys would come up to me and they

00:42:02.960 would say, well, the best advice I can give is she's always right. And then they kind of do that

00:42:07.840 thing where they're half whispering, but not really. The best advice I can give is she's always right.

00:42:11.720 Now, first of all, this strikes me as enormously patronizing to women, where you're just patting

00:42:20.680 your wife on the head and saying, there, there, yeah, you're right, honey. Okay. But more to the

00:42:26.080 point, it's an absolutely pathetic way for a man to approach marriage. And it's hard for me to believe 0.99

00:42:33.160 that any woman actually respects a pushover like that. There might be a part of them that likes it 0.97

00:42:39.340 because they get their way, but they don't respect you. If they can, if they can walk all over you,

00:42:44.040 they're not going to respect you. Women don't want yes, men. They just want men. 1.00

00:42:50.080 Here's the fact of the matter. Wives, and this is a newsflash breaking news here. Wives are not 1.00

00:42:57.360 always right. Sometimes they're wrong. In fact, a wife is just as likely to be wrong as a husband 1.00

00:43:05.020 because you're both fallible human beings. You're not perfect. She's not perfect. Nobody's

00:43:10.460 perfect. So she can be wrong. It does happen. And when she is wrong, as a husband, you should tell

00:43:17.460 her. Now, it doesn't mean you should scream at her or be condescending about it, but if she's wrong

00:43:22.660 about something, you should say so. And if it starts an argument and you're in the right, then hold

00:43:28.840 your ground. You don't have to give up just to try to keep the peace or whatever. If your wife's 0.91

00:43:36.120 happiness hinges on always being agreed with and getting everything she wants all the time,

00:43:42.280 then she needs to grow up. Okay. Your wife is an emotional child in that case, and you can help

00:43:48.900 that process by being a grown man yourself because you are also an emotional child in that you have

00:43:54.080 allowed your marriage to become this. But hopefully your wife is like mine. My wife is a grown woman.

00:43:59.760 She's an adult. She can not only handle being disagreed with, but she very much prefers it over

00:44:05.520 being placated with a head nod. Now, I generally have no reservations. Maybe it doesn't surprise you,

00:44:10.160 but I have no reservations generally with disagreeing. And this can go, you can go overboard with

00:44:15.720 disagreeing. I'll be the first to admit that. And there are times when, you know, pick your battles,

00:44:22.140 that old, there's a, there's a cliche that does come in, come into play. I think in marriage and

00:44:26.400 parenting, you do have to pick your battles. Sometimes you can't fight everything to the

00:44:30.020 death all the time. Um, and so there are going to be times when, yeah, you think you're kind of

00:44:34.260 right, but it doesn't matter that much. And so, and so, okay, you're, you're not going to, you're not

00:44:37.820 going to have it out over this. So there are going to be times like that, but even in those times,

00:44:42.820 and my point is you just, your whole marriage can't be that way every once in a while. Okay.

00:44:47.940 Okay. But even in those times when I, when, you know, I'm in, have a disagreement with my wife.

00:44:53.800 And so, um, but I think it's not a big deal. So I'll, I'll just say, okay, whatever.

00:45:00.660 Usually what my wife will say is, is something like, okay, do you actually agree with me? Or are

00:45:04.880 you just saying that because you don't want to fight? She doesn't, she's not going to accept that.

00:45:09.160 She wants to hear what I actually think, even if it's not a big deal. She really wants to know what

00:45:14.360 I think about it. So, um, I would say if you're a man getting married, I hope that you end up with

00:45:22.360 a wife like that, who's a grown woman as, as so many are. But, um, if she isn't, if she's emotionally

00:45:29.040 immature and she breaks down into tears when you stand up to her and this, there, that exists too.

00:45:34.000 There are men in situations like that. I have heard, well, if that's the case, I'm, I'm sorry for

00:45:40.040 your misfortune on that score. Um, I do not envy your position, but you aren't going to make the

00:45:46.180 situation better by letting her herd you along like cattle and just giving her everything you

00:45:51.480 want. It's only going to get worse. It's going to get worse. And she is going to become more and

00:45:56.120 more miserable. So while you're trying to make her happy, she's not going to be happy and you're

00:45:59.760 going to be miserable and everyone's miserable. And then eventually you get divorced. That's the way

00:46:03.200 it's going to work better to, um, you know, nip that in the bud right away. And, uh, and,

00:46:11.480 and actually just be an adult. And if you're, you know, stand up and voice your opinion and all of

00:46:15.960 that. Uh, and there are so many things like, you know, also related to this is the whole meme about,

00:46:21.160 uh, husbands going off to sleep on the couch when their wife is mad at them. I don't even know if

00:46:27.300 that's real. I, that's, I don't, I'm not sure if that's something from a sitcom or if people actually

00:46:31.440 do that, it doesn't happen in my house and it didn't happen in with my parents. So I've never

00:46:37.660 seen it, but you hear about it. And this is kind of related to the, Hey, she's always right. Just

00:46:43.620 say, just say yes, dear. That's another one where if that actually is happening, I mean, if you're a

00:46:49.400 man and you're letting your wife put you in timeout, like a, like a school boy on the couch,

00:46:56.860 I can't even imagine how that conversation works. Like, okay. So she's mad at you for whatever

00:47:01.840 reason. You're going to sleep. And what does she say? No, no, mister. You're not getting in this

00:47:06.560 bed downstairs. You go and you actually listen and you say, okay, may I bring a sheet and a blanket

00:47:13.900 with me? Will that be okay, ma'am? Can I know you get in the bed and you say, listen, this, this is my

00:47:20.300 bed too. I'm sleeping here. If you don't like it, you can go sleep on the couch. I'm not going to sleep

00:47:23.900 on the couch. If you're the one with the problem, doesn't want to be near me, go sleep on the couch

00:47:27.600 yourself. I'm not. Um, so that's how I would, uh, those are, but I, I would be interested. I really

00:47:38.180 want to know, is that really a thing? Are there guys who actually do that? Allow yourself to be

00:47:43.600 kicked out of your own bed? Or is that just something from Kevin James sitcoms? I'd really

00:47:48.420 like to know that. And I'd also like to know what, what are the, if you're a married couple,

00:47:51.980 what are the pieces of advice that you have found to be very, um, very incorrect and off base in your

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The Matt Walsh Show - October 29, 2019

Ep. 359 - The Commie Generation

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