The Matt Walsh Show - December 05, 2019


Ep. 384 - Identity Politics In Disarray


Episode Stats

Length

46 minutes

Words per Minute

165.92216

Word Count

7,763

Sentence Count

592

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

12


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Well, as you may have noticed, if you listen to the show, I don't really talk much about impeachment on this show, mostly because the subject bores me, frankly, and I'm not good at pretending to be interested in things that I'm not interested in.
00:00:13.860 That's one of the reasons why I was really bad at customer service jobs, you know, when I was a teenager, because, you know, someone comes into the pizza place and says, hmm, what pizza toppings do you recommend that I get on my pizza?
00:00:26.040 I honestly don't care.
00:00:27.460 I really don't care what pizza.
00:00:28.760 Why would I care what pizza toppings you get on your pizza?
00:00:32.220 Just hurry up and order, you glutton.
00:00:34.800 Anyway, so faking interest isn't my strong suit.
00:00:38.000 Also, it seems to me that this impeachment is, for the most part, political theater and not even very entertaining political theater.
00:00:45.400 And never was that clearer than yesterday when the Dems called up a series of, quote, witnesses who didn't witness anything.
00:00:53.380 And, of course, in a legal sense, when we talk about witnesses, it doesn't have to be in the sense that they actually witnessed something.
00:00:59.260 But the fact remains, these are people who had no personal knowledge of anything related to the impeachment case.
00:01:05.540 They were college professors, college professors who were all, of course, political partisans, openly hostile to the president.
00:01:12.860 And the only moment of the testimony from them that anyone's talking about today is this line from a professor, Pamela Carlin, who incidentally looks exactly like my 10th grade math teacher.
00:01:27.320 And I think she looks like everyone's 10th grade math teacher, I'm pretty sure.
00:01:31.320 But here's here's that moment.
00:01:33.360 Kings could do no wrong because the king's word was law.
00:01:36.900 And contrary to what President Trump has said, Article 2 does not give him the power to do anything he wants.
00:01:42.920 And I'll just give you one example that shows you the difference between him and a king, which is the Constitution says there can be no titles of nobility.
00:01:51.060 So while the president can name his son baron, he can't make him a baron.
00:01:55.620 I think I cringed so hard at that joke that I broke a rib, I think.
00:02:05.920 And, you know, she had that line planned for months, probably.
00:02:10.120 She thought of that one.
00:02:11.300 She wrote it down on a note card.
00:02:13.560 She said, oh, this is good.
00:02:15.140 This is good.
00:02:15.880 She practiced it in a mirror 40 times.
00:02:18.420 She was thinking that it would absolutely kill.
00:02:20.600 And then and then and then she delivers it and she gets this awkward pause followed by.
00:02:26.300 And it's even what's worse than the awkward pause after a joke is the polite chuckle that she got from a few.
00:02:32.120 The polite, sympathetic chuckle that she got from a few people in the room.
00:02:35.840 In fairness, in an impeachment hearing is kind of a tough venue for a comedy routine.
00:02:41.880 So I think it would be hard to make your material land no matter how good it is.
00:02:46.180 But this material would bomb anywhere.
00:02:49.160 And I say this, by the way, as a huge apologist for and fan of puns.
00:02:55.120 I have no problem with puns.
00:02:56.160 I love puns.
00:02:57.200 I will defend puns to my dying breath.
00:02:59.780 Um, it's just that this pun was punishingly bad.
00:03:07.320 Sorry, had to throw that in there.
00:03:10.820 Uh, and and and this is this is all there really is to say about that joke.
00:03:16.180 It's cringy, corny, lame, like the one that I just did.
00:03:19.340 And all puns tend to be.
00:03:21.140 But this was, I think, a few levels beyond that.
00:03:23.280 And the fact that these people are coming to the hearing with lines like that ready to go
00:03:31.820 only proves, again, that this is all performative.
00:03:35.400 It's all theater.
00:03:37.820 And I think that should be our focus.
00:03:39.920 We should focus on that rather than, as conservatives, engaging in our own performance, pretending to
00:03:47.400 be offended by the dumb joke that this lady told.
00:03:50.740 Unfortunately, a lot of Republicans and conservatives today and yesterday have chosen the latter
00:03:56.240 course, pretending to be offended by it.
00:03:59.140 In fact, the only I only heard about this joke because a bunch of conservatives on social
00:04:04.400 media were angrily shouting about a Dem impeachment witness who attacked the child, attacked the
00:04:11.440 minor, attacked the president's child.
00:04:14.420 And so on.
00:04:15.800 Someone actually said on on on Twitter, I saw they said someone said something like,
00:04:20.740 she went on an unhinged rant against the child, attacking the child.
00:04:27.040 And I heard all this and I said, wow, what did this woman say?
00:04:31.760 Really?
00:04:32.420 She attacked it.
00:04:33.160 So then I watched the clip and no, obviously she didn't attack Baron Trump.
00:04:38.180 There's no attack here.
00:04:40.800 What exactly is the attack?
00:04:42.500 Her she's saying that Trump can't make his own son a Baron.
00:04:47.080 That's not an attack on the son.
00:04:49.620 Obviously, that's a criticism of the president, not of the president's child.
00:04:54.140 But we all know that.
00:04:55.620 Right.
00:04:56.080 We all know that she didn't attack the kid.
00:04:58.360 Nobody's really outraged about it or offended.
00:05:00.360 But some people on the right are pretending to be.
00:05:04.320 And this is a this is a troubling trend that I've noticed on the right.
00:05:07.400 Now, we know about the fake outrage on the left.
00:05:09.120 They do it all the time.
00:05:09.980 And I talk about it all the time.
00:05:12.080 I think it's becoming more and more common on the right.
00:05:14.420 And I'm really not a fan of it because I hate fake outrage on either side.
00:05:18.620 I think it's pitiful.
00:05:19.960 It's pathetic.
00:05:20.580 It's lame.
00:05:21.100 I don't think it accomplishes whatever you think it's going to accomplish when you engage in it.
00:05:28.680 But some people on the right have have decided that the best way to beat the left
00:05:32.540 is to act like a fainting damsel in distress at every opportunity.
00:05:37.460 Someone today I was talking about this.
00:05:38.740 Someone told me that, well, we're fighting back.
00:05:40.820 This is us fighting.
00:05:42.480 You're fighting by crying about a joke.
00:05:44.980 That's you.
00:05:45.240 That's that's you being a warrior.
00:05:46.640 That's you fighting.
00:05:48.300 No, that's you being a wimp.
00:05:49.720 Okay, it's you acting like a wuss.
00:05:51.700 That's also you undermining everything you've ever said about how the left are a bunch of
00:05:56.100 snowflakes who overreact and so on and so forth.
00:06:00.160 So I don't think that we fight by doing that.
00:06:01.880 I think I think we just become the very thing that we're fighting, which is a profoundly bad
00:06:06.280 strategy.
00:06:06.960 It's also embarrassing and pathetic.
00:06:10.980 And especially to see men, see grown men.
00:06:14.000 So some grown men on Twitter.
00:06:15.640 Why I never this joke was just way out of bounds.
00:06:19.240 I just am so offended by this.
00:06:22.000 I mean, the fact that you're doing it online means you don't have to keep the straight face.
00:06:25.620 But I just I guess I can sort of respect it if you could keep a straight face while pretending
00:06:30.580 to be offended by that.
00:06:33.700 Some other people said that she invaded Barron's privacy.
00:06:38.360 Invaded his privacy by saying his name.
00:06:40.800 He's the president's kid.
00:06:42.200 Everybody knows his name.
00:06:43.520 It's not an invasion of privacy.
00:06:45.160 It's a it's a fact.
00:06:46.400 We all know what his name is.
00:06:49.040 We don't need to reach for some way to make the joke into a crime against humanity.
00:06:54.540 We don't have to desperately grasp for a reason to be offended.
00:06:58.120 I think the much better course, really.
00:07:00.480 So if we could choose between being fainting damsels in distress on our fainting couches,
00:07:06.300 just, you know, collapsing.
00:07:08.240 Oh, my goodness.
00:07:09.660 If we could choose between that or being immature trolls mocking this woman for a bad joke,
00:07:16.060 I would say let's go with the immature troll round.
00:07:18.440 That's better.
00:07:19.260 Let's go with that.
00:07:20.060 It's a corny, lame joke.
00:07:23.600 And that should be our point.
00:07:26.120 And we should leave it there.
00:07:29.680 And then get back to the bigger point, of course, which is that this is all political theater.
00:07:35.200 And this is an example of that.
00:07:38.620 I think I think I think that's what we should be.
00:07:41.660 That's what we should be focused on.
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00:08:59.400 Okay, well, if you want to see identity politics at its most hilariously confused,
00:09:04.980 then let's check in with a meeting of Pete Buttigieg supporters.
00:09:09.860 I'm going to show you the video in a minute.
00:09:11.120 Just a little bit of setup here.
00:09:12.620 This is a meeting held by black leaders in South Bend, Indiana, and they're rallying support,
00:09:19.840 trying to rally support, specifically in the black community, for Mayor Pete's presidential run.
00:09:26.320 Well, Black Lives Matter showed up, and they weren't happy about this.
00:09:31.200 You see, they don't like Pete Buttigieg recently.
00:09:34.980 We've talked about it a little bit, but he's gotten himself in trouble on the racial stuff.
00:09:39.620 Especially last week when an old video surfaced of him, if you can believe it,
00:09:45.260 claiming that there's an issue in the inner city with kids growing up without role models.
00:09:50.220 Which is one of those obviously correct observations that apparently you're not allowed to say anymore.
00:09:59.100 It'll make you racist.
00:10:00.620 So Pete Buttigieg said that a few years ago, and that's one of the reasons why BLM and those folks don't like him.
00:10:07.280 So they showed up, and they weren't happy.
00:10:10.000 They say that these black leaders aren't real black leaders.
00:10:14.280 They're not qualified for that position.
00:10:16.200 They don't speak for the black community.
00:10:17.860 But see if you notice something.
00:10:19.860 I'll play this clip for you.
00:10:20.960 See if you notice something a little bit strange about the BLM activist who is making this point.
00:10:29.820 There's something kind of conspicuous about him.
00:10:33.380 And see if you notice it.
00:10:34.720 Watch.
00:10:34.900 Black leaders that don't have 3D suits, leather jackets, and nice jewelry.
00:10:42.420 Where are these black leaders?
00:10:44.040 Who chose these people as black leaders?
00:10:47.060 These black leaders are here to talk about the people who are having a crisis because of police violence.
00:10:58.240 Who chose these people as the black leaders?
00:11:01.860 Who chose these people as the black leaders?
00:11:05.540 Who organized this?
00:11:06.980 We have a police crisis in this town.
00:11:09.420 Why are we talking about Pete Buttigieg?
00:11:11.860 What kind of justice is this?
00:11:14.120 What kind of justice is this?
00:11:16.140 Actually, wait.
00:11:16.740 Hang on a second.
00:11:18.200 Before we get to the main point here, can we go back very quickly to 23 to 27 in that video?
00:11:25.300 23 seconds, 27 seconds.
00:11:27.540 I want to focus on that for a minute.
00:11:29.120 Let's watch that moment one more time.
00:11:30.660 Okay, yeah, that's what I thought.
00:11:37.120 That's, yes, that's an elderly woman running up with a cane to smack the BLM guy with her cane.
00:11:44.000 But she was restrained by the audience.
00:11:46.860 That, I'm just checking.
00:11:47.780 I want to make sure that I saw that right.
00:11:49.220 And, yeah, that is what happened there, which is, of course, is awesome.
00:11:51.980 Meanwhile, the BLM guy who's stealing the microphone from a black woman and claiming that she isn't a real black leader is not himself black.
00:12:00.080 That's the conspicuous detail here.
00:12:03.260 I'm not going to make any assumptions about what his race or ethnicity is, other than to say that he definitely is not a black man.
00:12:11.040 That much is clear.
00:12:12.060 So, to review, this is a non-black man stealing the microphone from black supporters of a gay Democratic presidential candidate.
00:12:22.540 How do you even begin to do the intersectional math here?
00:12:27.340 It gets very confusing.
00:12:29.300 And this is one of the reasons why the left is imploding gloriously before our eyes.
00:12:35.900 Because the identity politics math has become so confused.
00:12:41.740 They've long since determined, of course, that ideas don't matter.
00:12:45.940 The truth doesn't matter.
00:12:47.640 Forget about that.
00:12:49.040 All that matters is jockeying for position, the scrambling for victimhood status, the placing of people into categories based on their race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, and so on.
00:13:00.680 But there are so many categories now, and we've been divided in so many ways that it's just chaos.
00:13:06.580 I've talked many times about the victimhood hierarchy on the left, the victimhood pyramid.
00:13:16.980 Well, it seems the pyramid is crumbling.
00:13:20.520 And this is the result.
00:13:23.480 This is really no different than, well, think about, what was it, at the Democrat town hall on CNN a few months ago?
00:13:35.900 Where you had a, quote, trans woman, that is a man, stealing the microphone from a woman, an actual woman, to go on a rant about how he's being marginalized and so on.
00:13:49.400 So we're used to seeing that.
00:13:51.900 We've been seeing that on the left now for years, and I've talked about it plenty of times, how these men, these gender-confused men, are taking, are superseding, are taking precedent over women.
00:14:06.260 But this is one of the first times I can think of where you've got a, certainly a non-black guy coming in and just boldly taking the microphone from a black woman.
00:14:19.400 Not just taking the microphone from her, but taking it from her so that he can talk about race issues, so that he can be the one to talk about the situation that the black community is in.
00:14:29.520 Wow. Speaking of disarray on the left, here's one other example.
00:14:38.140 I don't mean to go backwards, but this related to impeachment.
00:14:41.020 This is Representative Al Green.
00:14:43.080 I'm going to play this for you.
00:14:44.560 Although he's a Democrat, you know, he's got a problem with the way the impeachment hearings are going.
00:14:49.640 And maybe you can guess what his problem is going to be.
00:14:52.320 Mr. Speaker, I rise because I love my country, but I also rise today with heartfelt regrets.
00:15:03.220 It hurts my heart, Mr. Speaker, to see the Judiciary Committee hearing experts on the topic of impeachment,
00:15:14.140 one of the seminal issues of this Congress.
00:15:19.320 hearing experts, Mr. Speaker, and not one person of color among the experts.
00:15:27.480 What subliminal message are we sending to the world when we have experts, but not one person of color?
00:15:36.520 Are we saying that there are no people of color who are experts on this topic of impeachment?
00:15:43.560 What is the message that we're sending?
00:15:45.400 Mr. Speaker, if I am wrong, I will apologize.
00:15:51.780 But if the committee is wrong, if the Congress is wrong, what will it do?
00:15:57.000 Mr. Speaker, people of color for too long have been ignored by one party and taken for granted by the other.
00:16:08.500 Too often this happens.
00:16:10.820 Not always, but too often it happens.
00:16:13.040 Mr. Speaker, I refuse to be ignored and taken for granted.
00:16:18.880 I came here to represent the people who are ignored and taken for granted.
00:16:23.320 Yeah, actually, Al, you're in Congress to represent the 9th District of Texas.
00:16:28.920 That's who you're supposed to represent, just to be clear.
00:16:32.080 White and black.
00:16:33.040 But Al Green is worried, not that the constitutional experts might not be experts, not that there might be something wrong with their testimony,
00:16:43.960 but that they don't have the right skin pigmentation.
00:16:48.340 He's worried that the supposed expert testimony will be coming out of the mouths of people whose skin tone is too light for his taste.
00:16:56.100 But that's not racist, remember.
00:16:59.800 It's not racist somehow.
00:17:03.060 Now, if the people giving the testimony were all non-white, and then a white guy got up there and said,
00:17:13.120 we need a white person on there to hear from them, that would be racist.
00:17:16.400 Right, but when Al Green does it, it's not racist.
00:17:20.680 Just so you know.
00:17:23.160 I mean, it is racist, of course.
00:17:24.860 It's definitely racist, but we're not supposed to notice that.
00:17:29.120 All right, moving on.
00:17:30.160 I want to take a look at a piece in the New York Times that I've had on the docket here to talk about for a few days now.
00:17:37.480 The piece written by Bradley Onishi.
00:17:40.900 The title is, Could I Be My Own Soulmate?
00:17:43.900 Maybe Emma Watson and Lizzo are on to something.
00:17:47.400 Doubtful.
00:17:48.060 It's doubtful they're on to something, but let's find out.
00:17:50.660 Reading a little bit now from the article, it says,
00:17:53.840 In a recent interview for British Vogue, the actress Emma Watson raised some eyebrows when she described herself as self-partnered.
00:18:00.240 She's approaching 30, and according to Ms. Watson,
00:18:02.860 it took much hard work to recognize that being single and without children doesn't signal failure.
00:18:07.840 It just means that she is going on her journey of self-fulfillment and discovery alone.
00:18:12.640 And that's okay.
00:18:13.420 Ms. Watson is not the only person to describe herself and her relationship status in such terms.
00:18:20.260 Lizzo, the rapper and flautist, who is she?
00:18:25.320 Is that?
00:18:26.180 Okay.
00:18:26.420 Who went from underground star to mainstream darling this summer, proclaims in her song Soulmate,
00:18:33.480 Quote,
00:18:34.140 I'm my own soulmate.
00:18:35.420 I know how to love me.
00:18:37.000 I know that I'm always going to hold me down.
00:18:38.940 That's just poetry, isn't it?
00:18:41.720 Those are just, those are brilliant lyrics.
00:18:46.020 I'm my own soulmate.
00:18:47.240 I know how to love me.
00:18:48.560 I know that I'm always going to hold me down.
00:18:50.120 Is that even, are we sure that that's Lizzo and not Shakespeare?
00:18:53.920 That sounds like something straight from, from Bill Shakespeare.
00:18:56.320 I don't know.
00:18:56.680 Apparently tired of looking for the one, Lizzo realized it was her all along.
00:19:03.040 For most people, the idea of self-coupling may be jarring, but a closer look might reveal it to be more of an end point of a trend.
00:19:09.740 Marriage rates have been declining steadily since the 1970s.
00:19:12.780 Many of us are dating more, but somehow going on fewer dates.
00:19:16.380 Sex is safer and less burdened with shame than in the past, and seemingly more available, but we're having less of it than we were a generation ago.
00:19:22.380 And despite all these mixed signals, most of us are still looking for the one.
00:19:28.400 And then it goes on from there.
00:19:35.660 This does not mean that seeing oneself as one's own partner or soulmate is equivalent to loneliness.
00:19:41.240 While loneliness is an epidemic in numerous developed countries, including parts of the United States,
00:19:46.000 the self-coupling Miss Watson and Lizzo reference is not the same thing as social isolation.
00:19:50.160 It does not preclude meaningful relationships of all types.
00:19:54.220 Okay.
00:19:55.280 So you get the idea.
00:19:57.360 Loving yourself.
00:19:59.180 Being your own soulmate.
00:20:02.040 A few problems here.
00:20:03.820 Most of them are probably pretty obvious.
00:20:06.920 The first is that love is...
00:20:11.760 Love requires an other.
00:20:16.120 Okay?
00:20:16.660 Because love is an act.
00:20:18.360 Love is not just a feeling.
00:20:22.480 In fact, feelings are many times irrelevant to love.
00:20:27.920 You think about all the people close to you in your life, especially if you're married, if you have kids.
00:20:34.240 You're not going to, every second of the day, 100% of the time, have warm and fuzzy feelings about those people.
00:20:42.440 Okay?
00:20:42.780 Because you're going to be angry with them sometimes.
00:20:44.500 You're going to be annoyed.
00:20:45.660 You're going to be stressed out, drained, all that.
00:20:49.440 So what do we...
00:20:50.060 If love is just a feeling, then do we say, you know, in those moments, as a parent, when you are just ticked off at your kids and you don't want to be around them, you just need some space.
00:21:00.600 Does that mean you don't love them in those moments?
00:21:05.440 Of course you love them.
00:21:08.440 And that's because...
00:21:09.780 Now, if love is just a feeling, then I guess we would have to say that your love for them in those moments is a little bit less than in the moments where you have warm and fuzzy feelings.
00:21:17.300 But that's not the case, because we know that love is deeper than that.
00:21:22.660 Love is an act of will.
00:21:24.240 It's a choice.
00:21:25.260 It is a thing you do.
00:21:28.180 It is sacrifice.
00:21:29.560 And that's why, when it comes down to it, the idea of loving yourself, even putting aside this dumb stuff about self-partnering, being your own soulmate, I think most people with two brain cells know that that's ridiculous.
00:21:46.760 But let's...
00:21:48.240 I think a lot of people would say, oh, yeah, self-partnered is stupid.
00:21:51.800 Being your own soulmate is kind of dumb.
00:21:53.920 But, of course, you need to love yourself.
00:21:56.260 No, I would argue, actually, that loving yourself is meaningless.
00:21:59.820 I would actually say that you shouldn't love yourself, or you shouldn't try to.
00:22:04.760 Or at least that it doesn't really mean anything.
00:22:08.880 When it comes down to it, I think the idea of loving yourself is meaningless.
00:22:13.780 Everyone says you have to love yourself, but what do they really mean by that?
00:22:16.960 What does it consist of?
00:22:18.260 What is this...
00:22:18.740 When you tell me I should love myself, okay, well, what should I be doing exactly?
00:22:24.020 If you tell me I should love my wife, well, I know exactly what that's all about.
00:22:29.560 I could start talking about what loving your spouse consists of.
00:22:35.120 And it's going to be a lot of...
00:22:36.980 And almost everything I say is going to be action-based.
00:22:41.780 Loving yourself, though.
00:22:44.300 I mean, you can love someone else by taking care of them, giving to them, giving of yourself to them.
00:22:53.420 And that's what loving someone else is all about, right?
00:22:58.400 But giving to yourself, and giving of yourself to yourself, and caring for yourself...
00:23:05.280 Okay, well, that's either simple self-preservation, which is fine.
00:23:08.700 We do need to take care of ourselves.
00:23:10.520 That's not about love.
00:23:12.760 When you go and you're thirsty, you take a drink of water.
00:23:15.480 Is that an act of self-love?
00:23:17.740 Oh, I'm so in love with myself.
00:23:19.200 Give me the water.
00:23:19.800 No, it's just you do it because you have to.
00:23:22.700 You want to live.
00:23:25.680 So, on one end of the spectrum, taking care of yourself, giving to yourself is self-preservation.
00:23:34.820 On the other end of the spectrum, it could be selfishness, where you're giving to yourself too much and you're too focused on yourself.
00:23:40.860 But what does love have to do with any of that?
00:23:45.900 To quote the song, what does love have to do with it?
00:23:48.320 I mean, what does love have to do with any of that?
00:23:52.480 Lizzo says, I'm always going to hold me down.
00:23:54.800 Well, okay, but that's because you care about your own interests.
00:23:59.880 It's not noble.
00:24:01.780 You can't try to make that into some noble act.
00:24:04.060 Well, I'm always going to hold myself down.
00:24:05.460 Yeah, that's not love.
00:24:10.140 That's natural.
00:24:11.560 It's even healthy to a certain degree.
00:24:13.240 You're taking care of your own interests.
00:24:14.520 It's not love, though.
00:24:16.480 Now, holding someone else down, i.e. taking care of them, that's love.
00:24:24.960 What about feelings?
00:24:26.920 Well, as I already said, feelings have almost nothing to do with love.
00:24:31.060 But to whatever extent that they are involved, okay, well, if you love someone else, then most of the time, you're going to feel affectionate towards them.
00:24:44.960 What does it mean to be affectionate towards yourself?
00:24:49.680 When I look at my children most of the time, it can have the effect of warming my cold, icy heart.
00:24:57.700 It can be very heartwarming.
00:24:58.820 It can put a smile on my face.
00:25:01.060 So I have a feeling of love and affection for my children.
00:25:04.780 But wouldn't I be a narcissist if I stared in the mirror and just felt my heart warm at my own reflection?
00:25:15.600 I mean, I can look at my kids who are, you know, playing, when they're playing nicely with each other or, you know, they're being well-behaved.
00:25:22.900 And they're just being cute little kids.
00:25:26.360 And I can look at them and, yeah, I have a smile on my face and it's just, and I enjoy sort of just seeing that.
00:25:33.840 Seeing the kids being kids.
00:25:35.180 Well, wouldn't I be a narcissist if I could just sit for 15 minutes staring at my reflection, my heart sufficiently warmed by it?
00:25:48.140 Now, sure, we should have a certain amount of confidence and self-awareness, but that's not love.
00:25:52.180 Or self-assurance, self-awareness too, but self-assurance.
00:25:56.460 So if you want to talk about confidence, self-assurance, fine.
00:25:59.800 But again, that's not love.
00:26:01.000 That's just confidence and self-assurance.
00:26:02.620 So where does the love come in?
00:26:06.860 I don't know.
00:26:09.900 When does that ever help?
00:26:14.600 And it doesn't matter anyway, because this is what I always say.
00:26:20.120 There's way too much focus on how we feel about ourselves and getting our feelings about ourselves right.
00:26:29.880 And people say really dumb stuff like, well, I've got to work on loving myself first before I can love anyone else.
00:26:36.940 No.
00:26:37.960 Wrong.
00:26:39.460 That is totally wrong.
00:26:41.320 And if you go into a marriage or a relationship with an attitude like that, it's going to fail.
00:26:46.920 That's the worst possible attitude.
00:26:48.680 What does that mean?
00:26:49.320 You can't love anyone else until you love yourself?
00:26:53.280 What kind of a selfish bastard are you?
00:26:55.820 Would you say that to your kids?
00:27:00.880 Oh, sorry, I can't love you today because I'm not really loving myself.
00:27:04.020 Yeah, I'm not feeling myself today, so I can't love you kids.
00:27:06.660 Sorry.
00:27:08.320 I'm going to go sit in a corner and really work on feeling good about myself.
00:27:12.180 And once I get there, I can come and show love to you.
00:27:18.460 What an absolutely horrible way to approach relationships.
00:27:24.560 No, I think the best thing is maybe we should all stop worrying so much about how we feel about ourselves.
00:27:34.020 Maybe if we could stop, if we could just stop for five minutes, if we could all pull this off, and it's difficult for all of us, myself included.
00:27:41.200 But if for five minutes we could just stop worrying about how we feel about ourselves, rather than sitting there, how do I feel about myself?
00:27:50.980 How am I, how are my feelings towards myself?
00:27:54.980 Am I confident in myself?
00:27:56.520 Do I love myself?
00:27:59.180 How about just five minutes, shut up with that, forget about it, who cares how you feel about yourself, and go live your life.
00:28:06.820 Live outwardly.
00:28:08.120 Look at the world out there.
00:28:09.440 There's a lot of stuff going on.
00:28:10.560 There are people, you know, people that depend on you.
00:28:13.000 You have a family.
00:28:13.760 You have friends.
00:28:14.980 You got a life.
00:28:15.600 You have a job.
00:28:18.640 Go, go, go for a walk.
00:28:20.380 I mean, go look at the trees and the sky.
00:28:22.320 I mean, look at anything else aside from yourself, from your own reflection.
00:28:25.940 Think about that.
00:28:29.140 Maybe that's the key here.
00:28:32.660 Rather than focusing all the time on our feelings about ourselves.
00:28:36.980 I submit that if somebody lived their whole life never worrying about loving themselves, just no concept of that, not concerned about it, but they love other people, I submit that that would be a fulfilling, well-lived life at the end of it.
00:29:03.540 On the other hand, someone who spends their whole life just working on loving themselves, well, that, at the end of their life, they're going to realize that they've done nothing, they've accomplished nothing, they've just been focused and obsessed with themselves the entire time, and they live their life like this black hole that just sucks everything into itself.
00:29:25.920 No light can escape.
00:29:31.000 All right.
00:29:31.600 So as it turns out, maybe the self-help advice of Lizzo isn't quite as stellar as maybe the media imagines.
00:29:46.140 You know, leftists have taken over the culture in Hollywood, in academia, even online, and it's dangerous because they want to shut down open debate.
00:29:53.940 Well, starring Adam Carolla, Dennis Prager, No Safe Spaces is in theaters on Friday, December 6th, so that's coming up, what, that's coming up tomorrow.
00:30:03.520 Adam and Dennis take you on a wild ride to show you the effects of political correctness, identity politics, cancel culture.
00:30:10.320 The film takes you through the impact on college campuses, big tech, and Hollywood.
00:30:15.640 No Safe Spaces shows us why free speech is important to a free society, how it's being threatened, and what we can do, importantly, to fight back.
00:30:23.940 It's not your typical documentary, it has animation, recreations, plenty of Adam Carolla's signature humor to help the medicine go down.
00:30:31.320 No Safe Spaces takes you behind the scenes on Ben Shapiro's riot-filled trip to UC Berkeley.
00:30:35.440 The God King of Daily Wire has a cameo, and even I'm in the film for a moment.
00:30:42.400 If you can find me, I'll send Prager to your house to wash your car.
00:30:47.740 Apparently.
00:30:48.900 No Safe Spaces, rated PG-13 in theaters Friday, December 6th.
00:30:52.940 Go to nosafespaces.com slash Walsh for ticket information and theater locations.
00:30:58.820 That's nosafespaces.com slash Walsh for ticket information and theater locations.
00:31:04.200 Okay, let's go to emails, mattwalshow at gmail.com, mattwalshow at gmail.com.
00:31:12.480 This is from Andrew, says,
00:31:13.620 Hi Matt, I was hoping you could touch on one of the most under-reported embarrassments of our time.
00:31:19.580 I see people calling breakfast brekkie online, and it sickens me and makes me yearn for the cold embrace of death.
00:31:28.800 Would these people be tortured to death under your regime, or just killed as fast as possible?
00:31:36.580 Brekkie?
00:31:38.160 What?
00:31:39.520 B-R-E-K-K-Y.
00:31:42.240 So you have grown, now, are these grown adults?
00:31:44.200 Are we talking about nine-year-olds saying this?
00:31:47.620 If you're telling me grown men are referring to their breakfast as brekkie,
00:31:54.640 dear God, it's worse than I thought.
00:31:59.520 This is even worse than, I was talking to somebody a little while ago, grown man.
00:32:07.560 And, in fact, we were talking about his, I was in his house, and we were talking about his couch,
00:32:13.480 which is a very comfortable couch.
00:32:15.400 And anytime I sit on a comfortable couch, I always remark on the fact that it's a comfortable couch.
00:32:20.780 But he doesn't call it comfortable, he calls it comfy.
00:32:23.060 This is a grown man using the word comfy.
00:32:27.500 Oh, it's so comfy.
00:32:30.860 My God.
00:32:32.000 No.
00:32:32.520 If you're a grown man, you say comfortable, not comfy.
00:32:35.520 And you say vegetable, not veggies.
00:32:40.600 Brekkie is just, that's, that is a crime.
00:32:44.800 That is, I can't even put it into words.
00:32:46.820 I refuse to believe it.
00:32:50.040 I need, I refuse to believe that there are grown men saying brekkie for breakfast.
00:32:53.960 I need examples of that, because I just, I don't believe.
00:32:56.060 I refuse, I do believe it, but I refuse to, if that makes sense.
00:33:00.360 This is from Jane, says, hi Matt, I think you were way too harsh on the woman who emailed
00:33:03.800 about her adult son who lives at home.
00:33:06.420 Your solution was basically for her to just kick his butt to the curb.
00:33:09.500 Yeah.
00:33:10.340 But I think this condescension for people like you to people who live with their parents
00:33:14.040 is really misplaced.
00:33:15.540 In some cultures, families live together for many generations.
00:33:18.680 You'll have many generations under one roof.
00:33:20.820 There isn't anything necessarily wrong with living with your parents.
00:33:23.420 I would think, uh, I would, I would think someone like yourself who pretends to be pro
00:33:28.420 family would be in favor of family sticking together.
00:33:31.640 Well, Jane, I think family sticking together is a great thing, but what you're talking about
00:33:35.460 is not extended adolescence where a grown man continues living off of his parents depended
00:33:41.280 upon them well into his thirties.
00:33:44.000 You're not talking about a situation where a 30 year old man is still living as if he's
00:33:47.600 14.
00:33:47.960 That was the specific situation I was asked about.
00:33:51.060 It was a grown adult who wasn't working, wasn't contributing, was hanging out in his
00:33:56.700 room all day while his parents support him.
00:33:59.860 That's not traditional.
00:34:01.280 That's not cultural.
00:34:02.580 That's not pro family.
00:34:04.420 That's a grown adult being a leech and taking advantage of his parents.
00:34:09.820 Now, a situation where multiple generations live together, they all contribute, they all
00:34:14.220 are active and present and contributing members of the family.
00:34:17.220 Fine.
00:34:17.980 I have no problem with that.
00:34:18.880 If you want to go back and talk about the old agrarian societies where you would have
00:34:23.240 the sons would live on the farm still and with their wives and families and they would
00:34:28.300 work the farm.
00:34:29.800 Fantastic.
00:34:30.500 I think it'd be great if more people live that way.
00:34:32.720 There's a part of me that would like to live that way myself, but that's entirely different,
00:34:38.100 obviously, but from an adult who plays video games all day while his mommy and daddy pay for
00:34:43.460 his food, clothing, shelter, and everything else.
00:34:45.420 You can clearly see the difference, right?
00:34:50.720 This is from Jarko says, hello, master of dry wit.
00:34:56.980 How can it be possible that voters are called racist because of Kamala dropping when everyone
00:35:02.060 knows Michelle would win if she wanted to run?
00:35:04.360 I'm not from the USA, so I don't know.
00:35:06.800 Are people really blind to this or is it just a media thing?
00:35:09.480 By the way, Kamala means horrible in Finnish.
00:35:14.100 Thank you and take care.
00:35:15.180 Does it really mean that?
00:35:16.440 That's pretty awesome.
00:35:19.100 Yeah, well, right.
00:35:20.540 That's just another example.
00:35:21.680 We talked about this yesterday.
00:35:23.760 There were some people in the media trying to claim that Kamala didn't get any traction
00:35:28.660 for her campaign because of racism.
00:35:30.160 And there are many reasons why that's an absurd claim.
00:35:34.100 You point out Michelle Obama.
00:35:36.260 Yes, and I think this is pretty conventional wisdom that if Michelle Obama did jump into
00:35:42.320 the race, which I guess it's unlikely that she would, but if she did, she would immediately
00:35:47.780 become the frontrunner as a black woman.
00:35:50.420 But we don't even need to talk about Michelle Obama because her husband, a black man, was president
00:35:56.180 for eight years.
00:35:58.060 He won a term in office and then won another one.
00:36:02.060 So that should really put it to rest right there.
00:36:06.760 The idea that Kamala Harris didn't get traction because of her race, meanwhile, the last president
00:36:13.400 we had was black, that's going to be a difficult case to make.
00:36:22.740 This is from Amy.
00:36:24.020 He says, Matt, I hope this question is not too personal.
00:36:26.220 I've been dating my boyfriend for three years.
00:36:28.000 We're both 27.
00:36:29.100 I love him and want to spend my life with him, but he still has not proposed.
00:36:32.260 We both have good jobs.
00:36:33.400 Financially, we're in a good spot.
00:36:34.980 I don't see any reason why we shouldn't be engaged by now.
00:36:37.580 I've dropped all the hints you mentioned on your show a few weeks ago, but either he hasn't
00:36:42.980 picked up on it or he just doesn't want to get married.
00:36:45.420 What do you think is three years enough time?
00:36:49.180 Am I wrong for expecting proposal by now?
00:36:51.660 Now, yeah, three years is more than enough time, Amy, I have to tell you, at the age
00:36:56.000 of 27.
00:36:56.940 Now, if you started dating when you were 15, it'd be different, but three years, I mean,
00:37:02.020 three months.
00:37:02.620 Honestly, three months is enough.
00:37:05.420 By three months, you know.
00:37:08.160 I'll put it another way.
00:37:09.100 Um, I think it's pretty rare that you'll meet someone who was dating someone for three months
00:37:16.280 and didn't think they were marriage material at all.
00:37:20.580 And then eight months later had changed their mind.
00:37:24.480 That usually doesn't happen.
00:37:26.720 And in fact, that's one of the reasons why people talk about, oh, was love at first sight?
00:37:31.100 Well, love at first sight, of course, doesn't exist.
00:37:32.960 There's no way that you could, except in the, in the, in the general kind of way that we're
00:37:37.360 supposed to love all mankind, I guess you could love a person at first sight in that
00:37:40.860 way.
00:37:41.520 But in any kind of deeper sense, it obviously isn't possible that you could really come
00:37:46.980 to love someone in that way when you just first saw them.
00:37:50.860 What you're calling love at first sight in that case is just, you found them attractive.
00:37:54.000 But I think one of the reasons why, you know, if you talk to someone who's been married
00:37:58.600 for 40 years and they'll say, oh, you know, it was love at first sight.
00:38:02.780 Well, I think what they're really expressing is that they knew very early on that this is
00:38:12.780 someone they wanted to marry.
00:38:13.800 It's just, it wasn't literally the first second they saw them, but it doesn't take long.
00:38:18.720 And it definitely doesn't, doesn't take three years.
00:38:21.140 If you've been with someone for three years and you're still not sure if you want to marry
00:38:24.300 them, then it's not going to work and you shouldn't marry them.
00:38:27.020 That's, that's my feeling about it.
00:38:31.140 So, uh, yeah, I think you're right to expect it.
00:38:33.460 And, um, what I would say is if you haven't talked to him directly about it, you say you've
00:38:39.180 dropped hints.
00:38:39.820 Well, I would have a really frank conversation with him about it and forget about all the
00:38:45.200 hints.
00:38:45.560 Just sit down and say, listen, this is my life too.
00:38:48.660 And if this thing isn't going anywhere, I don't want, I don't want to date for another
00:38:51.520 five years for no reason.
00:38:52.700 And next thing you know, I'm, you know, 33 years old and then we're, we're, we're breaking
00:38:57.580 up.
00:38:57.820 I don't want to do that.
00:38:59.460 So I would sit down and have a frank conversation with him.
00:39:01.260 I'm not saying just throw, throw them out, uh, right away.
00:39:04.880 But I would, if you have not had a direct conversation, I would have it.
00:39:08.840 And if it's clear that in that, and I think it will be clear one way or another, if it's
00:39:13.920 clear in that conversation that he's just not looking to get married or whatever, then I think
00:39:18.120 probably you got to cut your losses.
00:39:19.600 All right.
00:39:20.780 Finally, this is from Steven says, Oh, great and wise leader who bequeaths truth, wisdom
00:39:24.720 and punishment in the show in which you talk about people eating dogs.
00:39:28.420 You made a comment about how all animals deserve respect.
00:39:32.140 I think everyone would agree that it would be sick to go around poaching penguins in a
00:39:36.120 city or squashing lizards out of pure joy, but I do not understand where the distinction
00:39:40.680 lies depending upon which type of animal, um, you speak of personally.
00:39:45.400 I enjoy killing some types of animals at a pure recreation at the angst of my wife.
00:39:49.860 I purchased a $45 plastic gun that shoots granular salt and is designed to kill house
00:39:57.020 flies, mosquitoes, et cetera.
00:39:58.420 It is so fun that sometimes I will go so far as to set a bait of raw chicken scraps to attract
00:40:04.660 flies, and then I'll just have a shootout for hours upon end.
00:40:07.680 I also enjoy watching the ants come and drag away the carcasses of the dead flies as some
00:40:11.640 of the abdomens of said flies spew out live larvae that desperate to escape their doom.
00:40:16.640 I've even elevated my attack to wasps encroaching upon my home, which is an entirely new level of
00:40:22.500 risk and adventure.
00:40:23.160 I think it is easy to draw the distinction between house flies, bees, and small birds
00:40:27.780 or lizards, but I obviously, um, but obviously there is a plethora of animal complexity in
00:40:32.460 between these two categories in which the line begin to blur between what is socially acceptable
00:40:36.600 behavior, uh, and what is sociopathic.
00:40:39.620 Am I a sociopath for enjoying the murder of house flies or a valiant warrior defending humanity
00:40:44.320 against insect invasion during your fascist rule?
00:40:47.260 What sort of punishment or praise would be bestowed upon an individual such as myself?
00:40:50.900 Um, when you started getting into enjoying the ants dragging away the carcasses, that
00:40:58.640 was a little serial killer-y.
00:41:01.200 Okay.
00:41:01.620 I got a little bit of a serial killer vibe there.
00:41:03.320 Just a little bit.
00:41:04.900 Nothing to worry about too much.
00:41:06.920 I'm saying you might have a little bit of serial killer in you, just a, just a smidge,
00:41:10.400 a tad.
00:41:12.280 So, you know, not a big deal.
00:41:14.960 Um, maybe like you might be 1% serial killer.
00:41:18.600 I think it becomes a problem when you get to 5%, but stay, stay in the one to three range
00:41:24.100 and I think you'll be all right.
00:41:25.520 But the bigger news here is you're saying that they, that there exists on the market,
00:41:30.180 a plastic gun that shoots table salt and kills flies.
00:41:35.340 That's a thing that exists in the world.
00:41:38.420 That's the news.
00:41:39.300 I had no, that I had no idea that existed.
00:41:41.900 And now I know exactly what I want for Christmas.
00:41:45.440 That is awesome.
00:41:46.780 That's amazing.
00:41:48.140 I've always wanted something like that.
00:41:51.400 And you know why I want it?
00:41:52.620 I want it.
00:41:53.200 And I'm, I'm with you.
00:41:54.780 Uh, for the most part, I'm with you on this totally.
00:41:57.340 And I want it.
00:41:58.240 Yeah.
00:41:58.400 Because for the recreation, also for justice, because so many times, you know, when you've
00:42:04.280 got a fly problem and you just get angry at the flies and you feel like I need to punish
00:42:08.840 these flies.
00:42:09.320 This, this is about justice.
00:42:10.920 They have no right to be in my home.
00:42:12.880 They have no right to fly around on my food.
00:42:17.740 Um, yeah, no, I really do want that.
00:42:19.420 Where it was.
00:42:19.760 So what is that called?
00:42:20.620 Please tell me it's called an assault rifle.
00:42:23.060 Tell, please tell me that's what they call it.
00:42:25.620 If it's not an assault rifle, then that was a missed opportunity of the ages.
00:42:31.080 But that's, that's amazing.
00:42:32.580 Um, and no, I think it's great.
00:42:35.720 I think, I think you got to kill the flies anyway.
00:42:37.760 You're, you're protecting.
00:42:38.600 It's not so much that you're protecting humanity.
00:42:40.280 You're protecting your family because mosquitoes, flies, these are disease carrying creatures
00:42:46.560 and you are defending your family.
00:42:49.900 I think it sounds like you're, you said your, your wife is not a fan of it.
00:42:53.380 Well, I think that your wife should have more gratitude for what you're doing.
00:42:57.240 You're putting yourself in harm's way.
00:43:00.720 You know, again, flies carry diseases.
00:43:03.960 Mosquitoes could have malaria.
00:43:05.980 And what you're doing is you are valiantly stepping in front of your wife and your children,
00:43:11.580 if you have any, and saying, no, I will shield you.
00:43:14.580 I will protect you.
00:43:15.500 And you're charging into battle to go to war against these, against these plague carrying beasts.
00:43:24.880 And your wife has the audacity to complain about it.
00:43:29.180 It's amazing to me.
00:43:30.200 As far as the question of, well, that's, that's pretty much all that needs to be said about it, I suppose.
00:43:37.800 As far as the question, on a, on a slightly more serious level, although I am entirely serious about wanting this, this, this gun,
00:43:47.540 on a slightly more serious level, I, I do think that when we talk about animals and how animals should be treated
00:43:54.280 and even which ones should be eaten and which ones not and that sort of thing,
00:44:00.520 I do think part of what we're weighing here is the, the capacity that these creatures have for suffering.
00:44:10.220 And that's going to have a lot to do with their consciousness.
00:44:12.900 And of course, we can't know exactly what sort of consciousness any animal has because we can't be inside their minds.
00:44:20.800 But it, I think it stands to reason.
00:44:24.820 I think we all sort of assume, for good reason, that dogs have a, in terms of the animal kingdom,
00:44:31.600 have a pretty high capacity for consciousness and therefore for suffering.
00:44:37.280 And that's why, yeah, if there's a dog on your property, you're not just going to shoot it.
00:44:42.440 Flies, on the other hand, I think, again, we don't really know.
00:44:46.260 But they probably have almost no capacity for suffering or none at all.
00:44:54.640 They probably have basically no consciousness.
00:44:58.300 And so, yeah, I don't think you have to worry too much about it.
00:45:01.680 I wouldn't torture them.
00:45:03.440 Like, I wouldn't capture one and tie it down and tear its wings off to try to get it to talk and tell you where its friends are.
00:45:08.880 I wouldn't do that.
00:45:10.940 But I think a shot of salt to the brain, to the fly brain, is a quick and painless death.
00:45:21.820 Probably better than these flies deserve, to be frank with you.
00:45:25.280 All right.
00:45:25.980 And so, thanks for that email.
00:45:27.620 Thanks for letting me know about that awesome product.
00:45:29.480 I will go look it up right now.
00:45:31.120 And thanks, everybody, for watching and listening.
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00:46:24.260 We'll get a whole lot of that and much more.
00:46:26.180 See you there.
00:46:26.700 We'll get a whole lot.
00:46:32.800 We'll get a whole lot.
00:46:34.660 We'll get a whole lot.
00:46:39.220 We'll get a whole lot.
00:46:43.000 We'll get a whole lot.
00:46:44.500 We'll get a whole lot.
00:46:46.120 We'll get a whole lot.
00:46:46.920 Thanks.