Ep. 743 - A Generation Deprived Of Identity
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The story of the non-binary art nerd kid, Ali Rademacher, and his struggle with identity and growing up in a white, Christian, Christian school. Plus, a new book from the author of Raising Ali: How My Non-Binary Art Nerd Kid Changed Nearly Everything I Know.
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Today on the Matt Wall Show, the parent of a non-binary, quote-unquote, seven-year-old provides us an unintentionally illuminating and horrifying look into the mind of a child who's been indoctrinated into this kind of lifestyle.
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It's very interesting. We'll talk about that. Also, five headlines, including the Senate cures racism by declaring Juneteenth a national holiday. That's exciting.
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The Attorney General again speaks out against the imaginary epidemic of white supremacist violence.
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A climate activist group accuses itself of racism and disbands, and Newsweek claims that there's a furious debate about that video of a guy shoplifting a bag full of merchandise from Walgreens in San Francisco.
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But what is there to debate about exactly? We'll talk about that and much more today on the Matt Wall Show.
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Every once in a while, you stumble across something that really puts things into perspective, even if in an unintentional way.
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And that's the case for a post by a guy named Tom Rademacher, who, by the way, is the author of a book you've never heard of,
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called Raising Ali, How My Non-Binary Art Nerd Kid Changed Nearly Everything I Know.
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Of course, you're probably already sold based on that title alone, but here's the synopsis from Barnes & Noble.
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Seven-year-old Ali, a funny, anxious, smart kid with a thing for choir and an eye for graphic art,
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was gravely under-challenged in school and also struggling with identity and how to live totally as themselves.
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Ali begged to switch to a new school with kids like me, where they wouldn't feel so alone or so bored, and so they made the change.
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Raising Ali is dad Tom Rademacher's story of that eventful and sometimes painful school year,
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parenting Ali and relearning everything, every day, what it means to be a father and a teacher.
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As Ali, who is non-binary and uses they-them pronouns and prefers art to athletics, vegetables to cake, and animals to most humans,
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flourishes in their new school, Rademacher is making an eye-opening adjustment to a new school of his own,
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one that's whiter and more suburban than anywhere he's previously taught,
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with a history of racial tension that he tries to address and navigate.
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It's also going to be tough for Rademacher to get his book into the bookstores.
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There's limited shelf space because of the law that was passed a few years ago
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declaring that every parent with a quote-unquote non-binary or trans kid
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must write a book about it and also starred in a reality TV show.
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The point is this tweet from Rademacher yesterday seeking to explain the inner experience of a non-binary child.
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And by the way, every time I say non-binary, please insert the air quotes around the term
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because in reality, of course, there's no such thing as being non-binary.
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There are males and females in the world and only males and females, and that's it.
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He said, I was talking with my kid, who's non-binary, about a friend whose child just also started using they-them pronouns.
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The parents were struggling to get the switch right, so my kiddo said,
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tell them to imagine that instead of a person, their kid is a swarm of bees.
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Now, we're going to assume, for the sake of this monologue,
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that the child really did say what he's quoted as saying.
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That is, admittedly, in most similar situations, an extremely dubious assumption.
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But here there seems to be a deep and important truth,
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though not the truth that Rademacher and the supportive people in the comments seem to think.
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Speaking of which, there were a lot of responses to this tweet,
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and most of them quite positive, unfortunately.
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I want to read a few, just to give you a gist of what people are saying.
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Sometimes I go through all my kids' names, five kids, to get to one that I mean.
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So my oldest is used to me saying he, she, they, them name.
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It's okay, my mom does the same thing even with pronouns.
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I use they-them pronouns, and sometimes she'll call my sister, she, her, by they-them pronouns.
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I have a harder time with they-them than I did with switching from he to her with my niece,
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and it's mostly because of a whole new usage for my old brain.
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If I ever gender my non-binary friends, it's not because I don't respect your identity.
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Another comment, this one from someone with the username Frontline Teacher says,
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My trans friend and I were talking about this a few weeks ago.
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He sent his favorite story to me about a guy who brought an air horn to Thanksgiving,
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and every time someone messed up his cousin's pronouns, air horn.
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Went to see my parents for the first time since last January,
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and since my kiddo came out, and the grandparents struggled with their pronouns.
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Maybe we should simply start calling everyone they-them.
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We already do so when someone's gender is unknown.
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A language divided by binary biological gender is a poor choice in a world where gender is a spectrum.
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Eventually, you will be non-binary too, and you won't have a choice in the matter.
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But what world is that exactly being referred to?
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In fact, I would agree that a language based on binary genders would be a poor choice in a world where gender is a spectrum.
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So if you ever find yourself on planet Zepton or whatever,
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where there are dozens of biological sexes,
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In this world, however, on this planet, there are only males and females.
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But I said that the swarm of bees analogy touches on an important truth.
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And it does indeed seem to provide an illuminating glance
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into the fractured and confused mind of a child
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who's been indoctrinated into left-wing gender theory.
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Bees are insects with very little consciousness individually.
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they're able to work as one unit by communicating with each other
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through the use of pheromones and other signals.
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Of course, a swarm mind is a little bit different than a hive mind
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because bees in a swarm have split off from the hive
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and are now homeless, searching for a new location to build a hive.
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I'm telling you all this partly because bees are fascinating,
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but also because it gets closer to the experience of a non-binary or trans child
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than Tom Rademacher or the clapping seals in the commons probably realize.
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This is how children indoctrinated into this cult begin to see themselves.
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They're not exploring a new identity or discovering one.
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They're a swarm of bees, as the kid allegedly said himself.
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Farmless, homeless, lacking coherence and identity.
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Now, if you go up to a child raised in a healthy home
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who's been helped to develop a coherent sense of his own identity,
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and you ask him to compare himself to an animal,
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And with a well-adjusted kid who's been raised properly,
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he'll probably pick something fierce and majestic and solid and understandable,
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If your child sees himself not as one of those beautiful and ferocious creatures,
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what we can't predict, what we can't understand.
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That means that the more that a person is living on solid ground
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in a world that's understandable and cogent to himself,
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So what happens when you make even a person's basic biological identity
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even though you know nothing at all about the world or yourself.
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And there's an endless array of changing options.
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Rather than revealing the world and himself to himself,
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which is one of the most fundamental jobs of a parent,
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You say that you can give your child freedom by allowing him to be whatever he wants,
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A human being can't be free if they're not first a being.
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You must be something, someone, in order to be free.
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You might as well drop your five-year-old off at the airport with a stack of 20s and say,
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All right, so last show before I go on vacation for several days.
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You know, a wrench was nearly thrown into our plans yesterday
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when we had to take our youngest daughter, one-year-old, to the emergency room.
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She had a possible concussion is what we were worried about.
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except to say that she apparently wandered into a game of the floor is lava
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among the older kids and accidentally got herself bowled over by her brother.
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And honestly, she's lucky that she survived because she was wading in lava to begin with.
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But hopefully we've gotten our vacation emergency room trip out of the way
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And now we can kick back and enjoy, I guess, our 15-hour,
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or really it's a 19-hour drive with four children under the age of nine.
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You know, this is how much I hate flying, that I would rather do that.
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But in fairness, in my experience, people tend to exaggerate, you know,
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the pain of driving long distances with little kids.
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I find it to be no less enjoyable than, say, being buried alive in a box full of rabid squirrels.
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But the good news is that the sustained close quarters kind of psychological torment
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really prepares you in case you're ever arrested and sent to Gitmo or something,
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which, frankly, these days is not outside the realm of possibility.
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But we have a few things to talk about before I can wrap up.
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In fact, I've got, we call this five headlines.
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It's probably going to be more than five because I've got a bunch of stuff and I want to get through it.
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It's all going to be dated by the time I get back.
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So, number one, the Senate passed a bill yesterday, and this is going to go to the House.
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But they passed a bill unanimously establishing Juneteenth as a national holiday.
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And I think we have some of the footage of this potentially historic moment.
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Mr. President, I ask consent the Senate proceed to the consideration of S-Res 269 submitted earlier today.
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Senate Resolution 269 designating June 19, 2021, as Juneteenth Independence Day in recognition of June 19, 1865,
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the date on which news of the end of slavery reached the slaves in the southwestern states.
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Without objection, the Senate will proceed to the measure.
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I ask unanimous consent the resolution agreed to the preamble.
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It's also historic because all of these people who just found out what Juneteenth was, like, last year,
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now, they just found out last year, much of the country just found out last year what it is,
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and now it is a deeply important holiday to them that should be celebrated not only in America but across the planet and, indeed, probably across the entire solar system.
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Here's what I'll—just two quick things about this.
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First of all, in looking at it objectively in a vacuum, having a holiday to celebrate the abolition of slavery makes sense.
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But I have a problem, and I've—and as you know, I've been saying this for years.
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I am opposed, in principle, to anything that is done to appease or impress a mob.
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Anything that is done with fraudulent intentions to appease or impress a mob.
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If there is something worth doing, you do it because it's worth doing.
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You don't do it all in a mad rush because you're trying to impress the mob or you're afraid of them or whatever.
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It's not a coincidence that we had the riots and we have all of this and BLM,
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Yeah, let's make Juneteenth a national holiday.
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I think a lot of the statues that were torn down were not deserving of that at all
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and should have remained based on their own merits.
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There may have been a few statues that you could make a reasonable argument for taking them down.
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But even with those statues, I said all along, I oppose tearing them down now under these conditions.
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If it was not for that, if it wasn't for the mass hysteria and a community just on their own got together and said,
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hey, we don't really want this statue, let's take it down, fine.
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But under the circumstances, that's where I think it becomes a problem.
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If you, as Democrats do in the Senate, if you hate America and don't think that America itself is worth celebrating,
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and in fact, you don't even think anymore that it's worth standing for the national anthem,
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and you also think, as they would tell us and have said, that racism today is worse than it's ever been,
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then I don't know if you're necessarily equipped to come up with new national holidays.
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I mean, I guess that's the deal maybe we should make.
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It's like, okay, you want to make Juneteenth a national holiday?
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Sorry, are you saying now that we can celebrate America?
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We should celebrate that and be happy and proud.
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Putting all the apologies aside, we're moving past that.
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I think you really got to pick a lane, it would seem to me.
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We played yesterday the video of a guy shoplifting in San Francisco from a Walgreens,
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because you think of shoplifting, you think of a guy grabbing something off the shelf,
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sticking it in his pocket, walking out, trying to be discreet about it.
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That's usually what you think of with shoplifting.
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He rode in on a bike and rode out casually with a garbage bag of merchandise.
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If you didn't see that video, let's play that video for you again.
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Well, the good news is you got the security there with the phones, and they're filming.
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He makes a noble attempt, grabbing for the bag.
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Like, either you're going to try to stop the guy from stealing or not,
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and considering you're a security guard, maybe you should try to stop him.
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Why have a security guard at a Walgreens in San Francisco if they're not going to?
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That's, in a way, that's got to be a pretty plush job, to be a security guard in San Francisco.
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If you don't have a job right now and you're looking for something,
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go become a security guard in San Francisco because you don't have to do anything.
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and kind of wave at people as they come in and steal things.
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Well, not really fine, but if that's your approach,
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all right, why even try to grab the bag at all?
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But anyway, the guy, so he steals all that merchandise from Walgreens,
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and we mentioned yesterday how this has been a big problem,
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especially not just in San Francisco, but especially in San Francisco,
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There's like 17, I think it was Walgreens or CVS, I believe it was Walgreens,
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and 17 locations had to shut down because of this.
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And when you start having stores shut down, what does that mean?
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And yet Newsweek says that there's been a furious debate
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San Francisco supervisor Asha Safai also responded to the video by writing,
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this is exactly why I held a hearing on organized retail theft,
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and I'm pushing for greater accountability on shoplifting in San Francisco.
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to discuss the increase in retail crime in the city.
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According to the San Francisco Chronicle, here it is,
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Walgreens has closed 17 locations in San Francisco.
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Among the remaining Walgreens locations in the city,
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theft incidents are four times the average number reported
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Safai said one of the most shocking things from the hearing
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was to hear from Walgreens, CVS, Safeway, The Gap,
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to hear them say that San Francisco is one of the epicenters
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for organized retail crime in the United States.
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you know, you could stop the people who are doing this
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I don't know how much discussion there really needs to be had about it.
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and are probably being generous by saying just some,
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who are essentially claiming that this is a victimless crime.
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And we know that all CEOs are villains, are bad people.
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Unless it's like the CEO of Planned Parenthood or something.
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The people that suffer are the people that work there
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a New Zealand youth environmental protest group
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BIPOC communities are disproportionately affected
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And you would have these white liberals saying,