＂Is Owning A Pitbull A Dealbreaker？＂ - Matt Walsh Gives Advice
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Summary
Jodi, a 30-year-old feminist, wants to date a conservative Christian man who has a pit bull, but she doesn t want to have kids with him because she fears that the dog could bite her kids. Should she get a golden retriever instead?
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So I think I can break my own rules today because there's some ground we've missed.
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I'm going back a day with a lot of, you know, on Wednesdays when we respond to people that
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are asking for advice for things. And so I'm looking over that. There's some good questions
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here. And so we're going to do that today instead. This is from Jody. Hi, Matt. All thanks to you
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and the rest of Daily Wire crew. I'm writing to you as a former blue-haired feminist who has been
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saved from leftism. I'm now 30 years old and I wasted my 20s trying to find a career sleeping
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around and doing the feminist things. Now, more than anything, I want to settle down and have a
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big family. As I've been dating, there have been several conservative Christian men who have great
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potential but have one downfall, owning a pit bull. Is it shallow of me to not want to date a guy who
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has a pit? I've now known of two attacks, one where they almost had to shoot the dog in front of
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children because they wouldn't let go. I don't feel comfortable or safe raising a family around a pit
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or being around one myself. I feel so dumb saying that, but I also feel like it's a valid concern.
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Is this something that I am being too stubborn about and should be willing to budge on or find
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a compromise? I absolutely would not raise kids around a pit bull. Wouldn't do it. Not worth the
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risk. Okay. Anytime you have a pet, anytime you have a pet, anytime you have a dog in the house,
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any kind of dog, there's always a chance the dog could bite. Do you talk about percentages? What's
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the percentage chance? The chance is much too high that this dog will attack the child. And then the
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other problem too, it's not just about will the dog bite the child? If the dog snaps or gets angry or
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whatever wakes up on the wrong side of the bed one morning, what is that going to actually mean?
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How's the dog going to respond to that? Like if a golden retriever bites you, it'll hurt,
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it'll be painful. Maybe you need snitches, but you don't very often hear about golden retrievers
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mauling people to death. That's what pit bulls do. If they decide to attack you, they will try to
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kill you. So you're sort of like trusting this dog to not do that. And that's not trust I would
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have. So it's not that you're not taking it seriously enough. It's that you are taking it seriously.
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And so I don't think you're being too stubborn. And I do think it's a valid concern. I don't
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think it's silly at all. If this works out and I marry this man, I want to have kids. I'm not
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going to have kids with a pit bull now. I'm just not going to. I don't think you have to toss this
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guy to the side right away, but it is something to bring up. And you say, I think this is really
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going in a great direction. I really like you. All these kinds of things. Talk to them about it,
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but then also say, I don't want to be around the pit bull. I can't imagine ever raising kids around
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a pit bull. And let them decide what's most important to them.
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We should obviously kill all the pit bulls, right?
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This is also something that maybe men should keep in mind. You want to make yourself as
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desirable as possible. You want to give yourself the best chance possible. Is it worth it having
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a pit bull around? That could literally scare very high quality women away. These great women
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who just, everything about them is great. They don't want to be around a pit bull. Nothing wrong
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with that. That's a reasonable concern. So do you want to scare those people? Is it worth it to
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have the pit bull? Or do you want to just go get a golden retriever instead?
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an eight-year-old son. He's an only child and was homeschooled to the age of seven. My wife and I
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signed him for MMA, soccer, skating, and t-ball to help socialize him. This year we enrolled him into a
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Christian school and he's having a hard time adapting. I constantly hear how nice my son is or that
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he's too nice from teachers and coaches. I'm proud my son is a kind, respectful, and generous kid.
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However, it hurts my heart to see him struggling to make friends. I'm torn because I like that he's
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independent, but I don't want him to be a loner. Can a child be too nice and should parents be
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responsible for toughening up their children? What are they trying to say? Is he allowing himself to
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get pushed around? Is he getting bullied a lot and he's not able to stand up for himself? Well, that's
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something you want to work with him on, but I would never say that for an eight-year-old child
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we should see it as a problem that they're nice. No, I certainly don't think that you have to worry
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that an eight-year-old child is too nice and too respectful. Put some respect on my name. Or maybe
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I put it this way. If that's the problem that you have with the kid, if that's your biggest problem
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is that your child is too respectful and nice, then you're in a really great spot. That is a great
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problem to have. Very often, especially these days, the problem goes in the other direction.
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As far as him not making friends the way that you would like, I also wouldn't worry about that.
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I'm biased a little bit because my old son's nine years old and it's kind of a similar sort
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of situation in that he's a very outgoing kid. He loves playing with other kids. We haven't
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evolved in activities and he's very athletic and creative and all that, but he's also extremely
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independent. He can go up to the woods for four hours and by himself and just work on building
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a fort. And he loves doing that. So he doesn't make friends as easily as some kids do. And I
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know that there are parents who see that with certain kids. They're very independent. They
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can entertain themselves easily. And you start to see it as a problem and you worry that,
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well, they'll be friendless their whole life. I don't see it that way. I think that a kid
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at eight or nine years old is still really young. Nothing is set in stone. Yeah, you want to put
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them in situations where they can meet other kids and you push them a little bit to socialize,
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but I wouldn't go too far with that. There's nothing wrong with being independent. And again,
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being able to entertain yourself as a child is a really important skill to have. A lot of kids
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don't have that. These are positive qualities in your child that maybe present some challenges,
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but it's not worth trying to kind of mitigate those positive qualities. I would just kind of let
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it play out. All right. Finally, from anonymous says, yeah, all that about marriage is well and
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good. And your head is no doubt in the right place, man, but you offer no actionable solutions
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other than throwing ourselves into the thing that you just canceled. I suggest that you never get
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married in the system and you instead try your best to sincerely get married with regard for being
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seen by God only. This argument obviously boils down to whether or not this country is going to
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hell sooner rather than later. Us despised Gen Z conservatives are trying to tell you that it's
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sooner. And in light of that, we will need a little bit more advice. I find it hard to
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believe that you don't see that, especially with the brain dead comments you've brought up on the
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show so far. It seems you're trying to avoid this and it does scare me a little to see you shill for
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America on this particular topic. Shill for America. You don't want me to be concerned about
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the country? You see that as a negative? Am I shilling for America? I don't think shilling would be the
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word I would use. I'm advocating for the future of the country. I'm not advocating for the government
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or for the regime that controls our country, but I am advocating for the country. Yes, I love the
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country and I want to see the country have a future. It's not going to have a future if people don't get
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married and start families. Everything falls apart and is destroyed in that case and nobody benefits from
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that. You cannot have a country, you cannot have a civilization where young people are not getting
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married and having families. You cut that out and it is the death of civilization is what it is.
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And my position is that that would be bad and I don't want civilization to die. And if we're just
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going to embrace that and accept it, then what are we even talking about? What's the point of anything?
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Why bother? Why are you watching this show if you're willing to just give up on civilization?
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civilization. I understand what the problems are. I understand how severe they are, but I want to
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fight to save civilization, not simply give up on it. Again, if we're going to do that, then there's
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no point in any of us talking about any of this. Just give up, go home and wait for it to all fall
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apart. And you can do that. And some people have done that, but don't tell me that that's the
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respectable, certainly don't tell me it's the masculine, manly response, uttering complete
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surrender, being passive. Is that what being a man is now? No. The problems in the system with
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marriage, I've talked about that extensively. And I have advocated what many of those solutions are,
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including, for example, getting rid of no-fault divorce, incentivizing people to get married and
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stay married, strengthening that marriage covenant as much as we can, certainly reforming a lot of the
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alimony laws and so forth that put men at a severe disadvantage. But it's just a question of,
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yeah, those are long-term goals. Those are systemic changes that we're advocating for,
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we're fighting for, promoting. But what are you going to do in the meantime? What is society going
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to do? Are you just going to give up completely? You're going to consign yourself to the death of
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your own bloodline? That is not a strategy for dealing with the problem. That is a refusal to deal
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with it. That is surrender. And so if what you're really saying is we should surrender, then fine,
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but I strongly disagree with you. That's my pep talk. And we'll do it, that'll do it for us today.
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We'll talk to you tomorrow on Friday. Have a great day.