The Matt Walsh Show - Matt Walsh Reacts to Dumb Gen-Z Trends

00:00:00.000 So today we have another wonderful opportunity to correct some very bad relationship advice

00:00:10.520 from the internet. This time it comes from a viral video with over 12 million views on Twitter and

00:00:14.980 who knows how many on other platforms, which features a young woman explaining the math

00:00:19.920 behind what she has dubbed breakupology. Now many comments, mostly from women, have hailed this as

00:00:26.380 a brilliant analysis of relationship dynamics. They say that there is a lot of wisdom and insight

00:00:31.180 into, you know, in this video, a lot we can glean from it. And they are, of course, wrong about that

00:00:37.820 and I'll explain why. But first, here's the video. If you're a boy who has ever been dumped by your

00:00:43.720 girlfriend for seemingly no apparent reason and you're looking for answers, this is what happened.

00:00:49.820 Okay, this is you guys. You guys are in a happy relationship and now all of a sudden you have

00:00:53.460 one simple fixable problem. For this example, we're going to use no good morning texts. Then

00:01:00.500 your girlfriend who loves you, she's really happy with you. She comes to you and she tells you, she's

00:01:04.240 like, hey, do you think we could start doing good morning texts? Like it'd mean a lot to me if you

00:01:07.980 text me good morning. So you, her loving boyfriend, agree to give her good morning texts. But something

00:01:13.200 happened and for whatever reason you stopped giving her good morning texts. So now we have a bigger

00:01:17.580 problem. She now thinks that you don't care enough about her to send her good morning texts, 1.00

00:01:24.400 even though she asked. But she's going to be like, you know what, this is still kind of a small

00:01:27.260 problem. I'm just going to remind him. She reminds you, you're like, oh my gosh, that's right. I did

00:01:33.720 agree to that. Okay. I will text you good morning. Unfortunately though, you didn't follow through

00:01:38.160 again. Now we have confirmed that you do not care enough to text her good morning, even though this

00:01:43.180 is a simple fixable problem. This is now a big problem. So now your girlfriend who has never

00:01:48.780 picked fights before in her life starts picking a bunch of little fights about all these different 0.82

00:01:52.760 things because she believes that you do not care enough through all of these picking fights with

00:01:58.780 you though. She still loves you and likes you enough to want to be with you. Even though you

00:02:03.280 guys have all these little problems now until one day these become unattractive to her. She's going

00:02:10.960 to realize that all of these little things that you do that remind her that you don't care about

00:02:16.740 her enough are unattractive. And so now the problem is not these things. It's not even that you don't

00:02:22.980 care enough. It's not even that she never got good morning texts. It's that she literally does not

00:02:29.460 like you anymore. Does not like you. Now, unfortunately, she has to break up with you. 1.00

00:02:34.660 Okay. So this is all wrong. Now, to be clear, this TikTok girl isn't wrong when she says that,

00:02:43.640 you know, women sometimes operate this way in a relationship. That is true, but she's wrong in 1.00

00:02:49.320 the deeper implications as we'll get into. The first problem becomes apparent about three seconds

00:02:52.520 into the video. I don't know anything about this girl, but I'm going to assume, I think quite safely

00:02:56.600 that she has not been married for 10 plus years. Okay. I don't know anything, but I think we can assume

00:03:00.840 that. I'm guessing she isn't married at all. And as you know, if you listen to the show that one of

00:03:05.420 my, one of my basic fundamental rules when it comes to this sort of thing is that, um, you simply

00:03:10.380 cannot take any relationship advice at all ever from anyone who has never had sustained meaningful

00:03:18.300 success in a relationship and sustained meaningful success. Success must mean just to start with that

00:03:24.120 they have been married to one person and stayed married for at least several years. Taking

00:03:30.860 relationship advice from someone who has only dated a succession of random people and never moved to

00:03:35.560 the next stage with any of them. It's like taking advice on wilderness survival from someone who has

00:03:40.740 never even camped out in their backyard, much less survived in the woods for a week. Okay.

00:03:45.620 It's possible technically that somebody might acquire survival knowledge just by reading books or

00:03:52.160 whatever. But if I was dispensing wilderness survival tips and you asked me about my own

00:03:57.580 experience in the area and I responded that, Oh, well, you know, uh, one time I slept on an air

00:04:02.200 mattress in the basement of my in-law's house, you're going to promptly ignore everything else I say on

00:04:06.880 the subject. Of course you will. In fact, it would be suicidal to take my advice with you into the

00:04:12.080 wilderness. And the same goes for relationships. The only people who should ever be giving advice about

00:04:17.660 romantic relationships are those who, who, who are married, have been married for several years

00:04:22.300 and, and preferably have kids because that means that those of us in that camp have successfully

00:04:29.820 moved a relationship from first introduction to dating, to engagement, to marriage, to family life.

00:04:38.080 And we've been tested along the way and we've endured and we've gained experience and insight

00:04:43.940 that might be useful. It doesn't mean we're right. We could still be wrong, obviously. And of course,

00:04:48.840 someone who's been married for eight years might be divorced by next week. Like we all understand

00:04:53.840 that. But so, so it's, it's, it's not that all married people have great relationship wisdom.

00:05:00.640 It's just that only married people have great relationship wisdom. So if you're going to hear

00:05:06.260 great relationship advice from anyone, they're going to be married, which doesn't mean that all of them

00:05:11.780 have that advice. But the only, the, the, the, the, uh, category of like, that's the only category

00:05:17.220 where you're going to get the good advice from. Now, um, some 22 year old whose longest relationship

00:05:24.600 was six and a half months just has nothing interesting or useful to offer here. It's like,

00:05:30.780 you don't know, you don't know anything. You haven't done anything. You've never demonstrated

00:05:36.900 any ability to have any form of success in this world. So why would you think that you're in a

00:05:44.140 position to give anyone advice about it? Now, since we have that established, we'll move to the

00:05:51.420 video. Okay. She describes a scenario where, um, a woman decides that she wants something from her

00:05:56.920 boyfriend. Good morning texts in this case, and she doesn't get it consistently enough. And so she

00:06:01.300 starts inventing other problems and complaining about those until she decides one day that her

00:06:05.240 boyfriend's failure to comply has made him unattractive. And she breaks up with him only

00:06:09.500 to, she doesn't say this part, but invariably, you know, this girl moves on to the next guy and

00:06:13.860 repeats the process again and again, and again, et cetera, and so forth onto infinity. Again,

00:06:18.220 you know, she's correct that some women, certainly not all do function this way, but what she doesn't

00:06:22.940 mention and doesn't seem to realize presumably because she is this kind of woman herself is that what

00:06:27.500 she has described here is incredibly toxic, narcissistic, shallow behavior. And the girlfriend in this 0.72

00:06:34.440 scenario is just wrong. So if you're a woman who operates this way and you look at that video and 1.00

00:06:40.460 say, yeah, that's that, that, that, that resonates, you're wrong. You need to not be this way. So if

00:06:47.280 you look at that chart and that's you, that it shouldn't be you. Stop doing that. Stop being like

00:06:52.520 that. You're, you're being wrong is what you're being. The only mistake the boyfriend made was in not

00:06:58.160 pulling the plug and breaking up with her much earlier. So let's go through the red flags that this

00:07:02.140 hypothetical woman is waving around here. Red flag. Number one, she gave her boyfriend an 1.00

00:07:07.100 assignment. Okay. Now asking him to do good morning texts as silly as that might be is not wrong in and

00:07:13.780 of itself. She's allowed to want things in the relationship, even silly things. Uh, it's true

00:07:17.240 that, you know, she, she wants to feel loved and valued and, and, and she should feel that way just

00:07:21.840 as, just as he should. But in this scenario, she asks for good morning texts. She gets them

00:07:26.540 and it's fine. And then life intervenes as it does. The guy has a few mornings where he forgets

00:07:31.760 to send a text and she gets mad. Okay. And he starts doing the text again. And then after a

00:07:36.440 while he misses a few days and she gets mad again. What we see here is that this is not about the text

00:07:41.800 and it's not about feeling loved or valued. Cause at this point, like you're just berating him and

00:07:46.720 harassing him and, and, and, and nagging him for this little thing that you want. It's not about

00:07:52.160 if he does it, it's at this point, he's only doing it to shut you up. It's not, you're not,

00:07:56.900 it doesn't show that you're loved. He's just complying. So when you're demanding this rather

00:08:02.940 meaningless ritual and have no tolerance for a lack of compliance, what you're really looking for is

00:08:08.520 not love, but obedience. Subordination is what you're looking for. Now it's easy to see this.

00:08:15.380 If you think that I'm being a little harsh about it, it's easy to see this. If you just reverse the

00:08:19.680 roles, that's all you got to do. If this was a man drawing up a complicated graph, explaining why

00:08:25.280 he gets angry when he doesn't receive a good morning text on schedule every morning from his

00:08:30.300 girlfriend, everybody, and especially every woman celebrating this video without exception would

00:08:35.900 agree that that man is toxic, manipulative, overbearing and insecure and probably abusive.

00:08:41.780 Now it's true, of course, that men and women are different. And so this reverse the roles thing

00:08:45.180 doesn't work in every case, but manipulativeness and narcissism are bad no matter which sex is 1.00

00:08:52.300 engaging in it. Red flag number two, the woman starts picking other petty fights just as a way 1.00

00:08:58.660 of venting her frustration over this other thing, which is also petty. This is called being a selfish,

00:09:04.480 immature, incredibly unpleasant person. It's just not okay. So again, if you're a woman and you say, 1.00

00:09:09.400 oh yeah, I do that when I'm upset, you shouldn't do that. You're wrong for doing that.

00:09:12.240 You are just wrong. It's inexcusable to do that. Starting fights on purpose intentionally because

00:09:18.660 you're upset about something else is a very bad thing to do. It's very immature, it's childish,

00:09:22.180 and you should not do that. And, you know, starting the fights constantly, not just once,

00:09:29.760 but constantly. And if you're doing that, the problem is you every time, period. If you are starting

00:09:36.760 a fight on purpose, you are automatically wrong about the substance of the fight.

00:09:45.700 Okay. You're the bad guy in the situation, especially in this case, as one of the fights

00:09:49.980 on the graph is, and I quote, didn't remember her dog's birthday. Now, I hope I don't need to tell

00:09:56.120 you this, man, but if you're dating a woman who expects you to remember the birthday of any 0.98

00:10:00.000 non-human creature, you need to break up with her immediately. Don't even wait till this podcast 1.00

00:10:04.780 is over. I want you to pause it right now. Call her and just say, I break up and then hang up and

00:10:09.780 then move on with your life and finish the podcast. Okay. Red flag number three. This woman decides that 1.00

00:10:16.220 she doesn't like her boyfriend anymore because of his alleged failures in a bunch of areas that mean

00:10:20.060 almost nothing objectively. This woman who loved her boyfriend can apparently have that love 0.93

00:10:25.500 extinguished by a lack of texting and the fact that he forgot to put her dog's birthday into his

00:10:30.140 Google calendar. Well, what exactly does the word love mean if this is the sort of thing that can

00:10:34.440 destroy it? In what sense did she ever love her boyfriend? It's not a rhetorical question, by the

00:10:38.660 way. I'd love to hear this girl explain how this woman in this scenario loved her boyfriend. What do

00:10:43.960 you mean he loved her? She loved him. In what way? What does that mean? Because I would say that if

00:10:49.100 your love hinges on text messages, then your love doesn't exist and never did. Which brings us

00:10:55.480 to red flag number four. Finally, you notice the thing that is never mentioned anywhere in this

00:11:00.900 whole breakupology equation. We never hear what the woman is actively doing to maintain the 1.00

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00:11:59.700 Well, cosmetic surgery is on the rise across the country, especially among Gen Z, and not all the 0.89

00:12:04.140 procedures are the traditional type, if you can call any cosmetic surgery traditional. This new

00:12:09.220 generation is, it's getting innovative, often in the most grotesque ways imaginable. So for instance,

00:12:14.260 one of the hottest procedures on the market is called keratopigmentation, which along with being a

00:12:20.480 great Scrabble word that I think I pronounced correctly, actually, is also a surgery to change

00:12:24.660 the color of your eyes. The New York Post reports, quote, don't want to be a brown-eyed girl anymore.

00:12:29.920 If you're not afraid of the risks, including going blind, iris color changing surgery, the latest

00:12:35.200 procedure to go viral online, might be for you. The process known as keratopigmentation involves using

00:12:41.180 a laser to create a tunnel in the superficial cornea in order to place pigment. But experts are warning it

00:12:45.980 could lead to many terrifying conditions, including blindness, not to mention it's not approved for

00:12:50.260 cosmetic use. Just last week, the French company New Color, experts in keratopigmentation, shared

00:12:55.840 footage of one patient who changed her brown eyes to a stark, vibrant blue in a clip scoring 16 million

00:13:01.120 views on TikTok. But for one model, it cost her her precious vision. Nadine Bruna traveled to

00:13:07.440 Colombia to change her hazel orbs to a bright gray, undergoing a different procedure that uses a 1.00

00:13:11.960 silicone implant, only to lose 80% of her vision in her right eye and 50% in her left. Well, 1.00

00:13:18.220 that is surprising. Apparently, if you let someone burrow a tunnel into your cornea

00:13:21.720 and inject it with ink or, I guess, an implant or whatever it was in that case,

00:13:26.080 you know, it might do some damage to your eyes. It turns out that intentionally damaging your eyes

00:13:31.220 will result in damaged eyes. Who could have known? And by the way, if you're wondering what the end

00:13:35.880 result of this eye surgery looks like, well, here it is.

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00:14:10.420 So you can see there, if you're trying to look like one of the X-Men, then this is the procedure for you, I guess, which maybe, it probably makes it sound cooler than it really is.

00:14:19.060 In truth, she just looks bizarre, you know, like some kind of AI recreation of herself.

00:14:24.820 But this is the effect that most cosmetic procedures have on people.

00:14:27.660 And that's a problem because cosmetic surgery, as mentioned a moment ago, has never been more popular.

00:14:33.520 Long gone are the days when only aging, upper class, 52-year-old women got work done. 1.00

00:14:38.620 And now everyone is doing it, especially young people.

00:14:41.560 Plastic surgery procedures increased by 20% from 2019 until now, according to PlasticSurgery.org.

00:14:47.300 The same source tells us that the Gen Z crowd accounted for nearly 40% of all nose jobs in the previous year and 25% of all cheek implants.

00:14:56.760 Because cheek implants are apparently a thing.

00:15:00.380 Meanwhile, my generation of millennials seem to be particular fans of buttock augmentations and have accounted for more than 40% of those.

00:15:07.000 Perhaps not surprisingly, liposuction is the most popular cosmetic procedure of them all, right ahead of breast implants.

00:15:13.440 And all of these surgeries are being performed more often, and they're starting at younger ages.

00:15:18.900 The New York Post again reports,

00:15:19.840 As celebrities scramble for doses of weight loss aid, Ozempic, Gen Z is booking cosmetic procedures more now than ever.

00:15:26.520 In fact, 75% of plastic surgeons saw a spike in clients under 30, according to data released last week by the American Academy of Facial, Plastic, and Reconstructive Surgery,

00:15:36.180 which is a consistently higher plateau over the five previous years.

00:15:40.240 Board-certified plastic surgeon Dr. Ashley Amalfi said that she's seen an uptick in young clientele at the Quatala Center for Plastic Surgery in Rochester, New York,

00:15:50.140 and now about one-third of her patients are Gen Z.

00:15:52.680 Quote,

00:15:52.820 Now, I'm not sure that taking good care of themselves is the first attribute that I would associate with Gen Z or any other current American generation. 0.92

00:16:09.680 You know, over half of Gen Z are obese, first of all, so it's hard to say that they are particularly adept at self-care. 1.00

00:16:14.260 And they may use the phrase self-care and talk about it a lot, and they make TikTok videos about it, but the results tell us a different story.

00:16:20.500 And of course, plastic surgery is rarely an example of taking care of yourself.

00:16:24.880 Now, sure, here and there, you might find a person who had a procedure done, and they actually do look better because of it.

00:16:31.640 I mean, that does happen. I'm not denying that.

00:16:33.400 There are people who have deformities or other sorts of visible physical afflictions, burns, that sort of thing,

00:16:39.000 where plastic surgery could truly change their lives for the better.

00:16:41.880 But those cases are likely in the minority.

00:16:43.900 Probably a rather small minority.

00:16:45.640 And most of these people, especially the 26-year-old women going to the surgeon for cheek implants and Botox and lip fillers and so on,

00:16:52.840 they wind up looking significantly worse by the end of it because they look less human.

00:16:58.980 It's like that woman's eyes. 0.83

00:17:01.020 I don't know what that looks like.

00:17:02.940 Those are not human eyes.

00:17:04.000 It doesn't look like a human's eye.

00:17:05.240 I don't know what that is.

00:17:07.140 It looks artificial.

00:17:08.680 And that's the general effect of so many of these procedures.

00:17:11.440 They make you look less real, less authentic.

00:17:14.940 And looking less real and less authentic automatically means that you look worse because to look less human is to look worse as a human.

00:17:22.080 Because as it turns out, you as a human being are a whole, complete creature.

00:17:27.160 You are not a potato head doll.

00:17:29.360 You cannot mix and match your parts and reassemble yourself however you choose.

00:17:33.440 Well, you can do that, thanks to the wonders of modern medicine, but everyone will be able to tell that you've done it.

00:17:39.160 You know, we'll look at your reassembled face and think, hmm, something's a little bit off about that.

00:17:45.280 It's not quite right.

00:17:46.960 So you may not like your eyes or your lips or your nose or whatever, but those are your eyes and your lips and your nose.

00:17:53.080 And if you go and get different eyes, lips, or nose, they're not going to be yours anymore.

00:17:57.980 Your cheek implants may look like cheeks, but they probably won't look like your cheeks.

00:18:02.500 It will appear as it is, like parts have been artificially attached to you or artificially inflated to resemble a size and shape they were never meant to be.

00:18:11.860 Certainly the case for every lip augmentation that's ever been done.

00:18:15.660 And that's what makes plastic surgery so uncanny.

00:18:17.760 You know, the weird thing about it is that, like, if I see you for the first time and I never knew you before, never saw you before,

00:18:24.560 most of the time, I, like anybody else, will still be able to tell if you had work done on your face.

00:18:29.920 It'll be obvious that those artificial or artificially accentuated features are not your features.

00:18:36.240 Which is kind of interesting when you think about it because I don't know you.

00:18:38.580 I've never seen you before.

00:18:40.720 But I know that how you look right now is not how you really look.

00:18:45.200 That's because the picture doesn't quite make sense.

00:18:47.060 The features don't fit together.

00:18:48.340 It doesn't match.

00:18:49.140 It's not real.

00:18:49.760 There's something asymmetrical and inauthentic and out of balance about it.

00:18:54.600 You don't look how you were made to look.

00:18:56.360 And even people who don't know how you were made to look can tell.

00:19:01.880 But, of course, people don't believe that they were made these days at all.

00:19:04.280 That's part of the problem.

00:19:05.060 The reason cosmetic surgery is as popular as it is is exactly that.

00:19:09.720 Many people think that they basically materialized out of the ether for no reason and for no purpose.

00:19:15.120 And now they are gods over themselves.

00:19:16.840 They are in charge of their own self-creation.

00:19:20.180 They set to work then rebuilding their own bodies.

00:19:22.840 And at the end of the whole process, if it ever does end, which often it doesn't, they have become some pale imitation of what they were before.

00:19:29.560 Some weird Picasso-like rendition of themselves.

00:19:33.820 Which, like any remake, is only very rarely an improvement over the original.

00:19:40.380 And that is why the plastic surgery craze is today cancelled.

The Matt Walsh Show - April 05, 2025

Matt Walsh Reacts to Dumb Gen-Z Trends

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