Matt Walsh Reacts To Stay At Home Husband TikToks
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Summary
Stay-at-home husbands are a group of men who defy gender norms by staying home while their wives do the work. They talk about what they do during the day, and what they don't do, and why they like it that way.
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All right, so today we're going to head back over to TikTok where we know all of the most
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compelling content can be found. The thing on TikTok, there are a lot of different subcultures,
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different groups of people that have found community. They've found a place where they
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can express themselves. And often this is a very bad thing because these are groups of people that
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we should not hear from. We shouldn't even know they exist. And unfortunately, the internet gives
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them a megaphone to announce their existence to the world. And so today we're going to look at
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the group who call themselves stay-at-home husbands, or even apparently some of them refer to
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themselves as house husbands. So these are the men who are defying gender norms by staying home while
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their wives work. And so these are basically, this is like if you want to be a eunuch, but you don't
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want to go through the surgery. This is a non-surgical strategy to become a eunuch is what all these guys
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are. So we'll start with, I'm told this is like the, this is the original. This is one of the
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original house husbands on TikTok who got this whole trend going. I like the original much better. Oh my
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God. He didn't start the trend of being a house husband. He started, but he started the trend of
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them all talking about what they do during the day or don't do during the day because they don't do much
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of anything. But anyway, let's watch the first video. Sorry, tough guys. It's part two of a day
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in the life of a stay-at-home husband. When I say check your misogyny at the door, I mean it. It's the
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weekend. So, you know, I got to let my queen sleep in. So I make her some pancakes. She likes them with
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chocolate chippies in them. On Sundays we strip the sheets and then I load the dishwasher. Next I borrow
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my wife's credit card and I go get some groceries. I check those eggs, check out, make my way home and put
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the groceries away. The fridge organized with all her favorite drinks and snacks and then I take the
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trash out to where the men go. Don't strain yourself, queen. You work too hard. You know
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the drill. Follow to end the patriarchy. So that video was, this video I think is a couple years
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old now. So they're probably already divorced. But if they're not, they will be soon because that's
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the thing about the, your, your wives, your wife needs to be able to respect you. And in a,
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in a marriage that that's something that they, they need that more than they need someone making
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pancakes for them in the morning. So from the wife's perspective, she might enjoy that. She wakes
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up to, to pancakes. She doesn't enjoy the fact that she has a husband who uses the phrase chocolate
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chippies. Chocolate chippies. But she likes the pancakes. She likes all that. Uh, this is someone
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who's like her little man servant going around and doing all these things. It's about time you got
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here. And so on the surface level, she might enjoy that she has that, but underneath that surface is
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bubbling resentment and a total lack of respect. The fact is that she doesn't respect you because
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there might be women who are selfish and materialistic and all that. And so they, they
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like the idea of just having a servant rather than an actual husband and a leader in the home.
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So they try to, they try to talk themselves out of that, but they can't because it's, it's an innate
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biological impulse. And they might not even be fully conscious of the fact that respect and admiration
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for your spouse, these things are necessary, but it still is a need that is not being fulfilled
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by that guy. So if you're not doing that, she won't respect you. And, uh, and that's when the
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marriage will fall apart. And I suspect that I haven't seen these other videos, but I suspect
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that that's going to be a theme that we find in a lot of these. Have you ever read the fine print
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Day one of being a stay at home husband made us some tea and cuddled on the couch. And then I started
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to pack her lunch before she went to work with all her favorite foods. Snuck in a love note, drove her to
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work. Came back to a mess. Proof of me cleaning the mess. Juice break. Put away some leftovers from
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the night before. Starting to unpack. All right. Okay, stop. Of course, this is the kind of guy who
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takes a juice break and drinks it with a straw in his own house. My sensors indicate that you are
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indeed a weenie. That's already enough of a problem. You know what? I didn't need to see
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any of the rest. You could have just showed me that part. You could have showed me juice break
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and he's sitting there in his own house by himself drinking with a straw. Who pulls out a straw? What
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kind of man pulls out a straw? Do you have like a stash of straws somewhere in your pantry and you
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want to drink some juice so you go and you take a straw? You could have just showed me that and I
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would have known the rest of this already. The fact that he's a house husband would not. I would
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have already known that. He says that he does pack her all of her favorite foods for lunch when she
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goes to work. I'm not trying to be rude when I say this, but maybe don't pack her all of her
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favorite foods. Maybe only a couple of them. Maybe one. Maybe none. Might help her out. But I'm
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already noticing a trend in just these first two. Let's watch one more and we'll see before
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I say what the trend is. It's very subtle. Welcome to a day in my life as a stay-at-home
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husband. Because Lucy booked an off-Broadway show, she's currently working two full-time
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jobs. I think it's time to start pulling my weight around here. I started off the morning
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by making my wife's favorite breakfast, a chocolate smoothie with plenty of spinach and
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a bagel with butter and honey. After breakfast, I took out the trash, changed our flights for Christmas
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and headed to the grocery store. I got plenty of groceries for the week and our grand total
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from TJ's was $143.19. After putting the food away and getting some work done on my
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computer, I headed to the gym. After the gym, I grabbed some coffee with a friend. And wow,
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where has the day gone? Because the sun's already going down. Once I got home, I meal prepped for
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Lucy's lunches for the next couple of days. I made salmon bowls with rice, broccoli, and
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sriracha mayo. After meal prepping, I cleaned our whole apartment, scrubbing our bathroom,
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vacuuming the floors, and mopping as well. Once Lucy got home, I had a little surprise for her,
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fresh flowers, her favorite sweet treat, and a little handwritten note too. I'm so
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proud of this girl and all that she's accomplishing right now. So anything I can do to support her
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She is so not into this guy at all, you can tell.
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Here's the trend though. Here's the common thread. You notice something? There are no kids. There are
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no kids in the picture. So these are not even stay-at-home dads. These are stay-at-home husbands.
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Why can't you go work also? Even if you were to decide that, well, we don't want to bring down
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the patriarchy and so we don't want to have the wife stay home with the kids, God forbid. You know,
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you fulfill that need that children have to be around their mothers. We don't want to do that.
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Well, there are no children. So what are you doing all day?
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Here's the thing. If this was flipped around, I would still have an issue, actually. If it was the
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wife who was staying home doing nothing all day, when there are no kids in the picture. Now,
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I fully believe being a stay-at-home mom, when you're taking care of kids, my wife's a stay-at-home mom.
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And there's more than enough to do during the day. And that is a very important, it's not a job,
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okay? It's not a job. A job is like a nine-to-five, you punch in, you punch out, you get a paycheck.
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It is work, though, okay? Not all work is a job. And so that's very important work, to be a stay-at-home
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mom. There are no kids, though. You should be doing something else with it. Like, yeah,
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you might as well go out. You should, yeah, you should have a job if there are no kids. You should
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be contributing to the household that way. Because there's just no kids in the house? How much cleaning
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could there possibly be? You have nothing to do. All day, every single day.
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That's not really acceptable for a woman or a man. You should have work to do. Everyone should
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be doing some kind of work during the day. So that's what makes us all the worse. There's not
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even any kids. When I was first, see, I thought we were going to see a bunch of stay-at-home dads.
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Dads. We don't even have that. They don't even have dads.
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All right, let's watch one more. Welcome to a day in my life as a 26-year-old
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breadwinner. You may have seen my stay-at-home husband's videos, so this is my day. I am an
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actress in New York City, and I also work remotely full-time as an executive assistant. I woke up at
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6.30, and I made my ice latte the night before because I knew that future Lucy would be so grateful.
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I promise this isn't a hickey. It's just a curling iron burn. I finished getting ready. I grabbed my
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little bagel and an apple. Then I headed down to the Actors' Equity building for the audition at
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7 a.m. I signed in and was shockingly number two on the list. This was my outfit. I still had a good
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hour or so to have some devotional time. I worked for about three hours in the waiting room, and
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then at noon, they called my name and put me in the next group. The audition went great. I headed home
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and got an exciting self-tape request for an absolute dream role. Chandler made me some lunch.
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I went to take a musical theater dance class with one of my best friends. While I answered a few
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work emails, Chandler made this delicious cookie skillet. Of course his name is Chandler. Of
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course. I knew that too. I wish I predicted that. I knew that guy was Chandler before she even said
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it. Chandler is the stupidest name I've ever heard in my life. It's not even a name. It's barely even a
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word. Here's what I'm trying to. What's going on in this? So she's an actress, and he's a house
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husband. No one's working in this family. How are they doing this? No one has a job between the two
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of them. Where do they live? In New York? And somehow they're not living in a box under a bridge.
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I can only assume that they have a friend who lets them record their TikToks in their apartment,
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and most of the time that they actually live under a bridge. Because I don't know how
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she's a, she's an actress and he's a house husband. Oh, she's also a remote executive
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assistant. Who wants coffee? I just made a fresh pot of coffee. Does anybody? So there's a lot of
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questions to be asked there, but I also enjoyed how she, she, she clarified it's not a, well, it's
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not a hickey because she wanted to make sure. It's like, I'm not, I'm not actually sleeping with
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this guy. Just so you know, she wanted to make that clear. As I said at the beginning, I don't think we
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need to watch anymore. I think we get the point. So we understand. It doesn't work. It just doesn't
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work because as I said at the top, respect, you know, we talked about this in the past,
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the need for respect in a marriage for the man, you know, and of course, as a husband,
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you should respect your wife, obviously, but the needs are a little bit different and it, and it,
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and it manifests and manifests itself in different ways. But often we talk about how the man needs to
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be respected in the marriage. And that's true. That's a need that the man needs to receive that
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respect, but it's also a need for the woman. Like she needs to have that. She needs to be able to feel
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that respect for her own husband. And if she doesn't, then the whole thing falls apart because
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the respect is what is kind of the, the, the, the gasoline and the engine of the marriage that keeps
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it going. And there's just no way you can't respect that. A man who does not, not only does he not
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provide, he doesn't even contribute to, to providing for the family. There's no respect there. So
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they're, they're all going to be divorced soon enough, but they're going to get their TikTok
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likes out of it. And then that's a great thing. So, so right now, you know, they could be influencers
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talking about house husband and she can be the breadwinner and then eventually they get divorced
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and then they can kind of rebrand. And now she's the influencer talking about her life as a single
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woman in New York. And so it's very, it's very good. They've set up their whole career for years to come.