The Matt Walsh Show - Matt Walsh Reacts To Stay At Home Husband TikToks

00:00:00.000 All right, so today we're going to head back over to TikTok where we know all of the most

00:00:26.360 compelling content can be found. The thing on TikTok, there are a lot of different subcultures,

00:00:31.040 different groups of people that have found community. They've found a place where they

00:00:37.820 can express themselves. And often this is a very bad thing because these are groups of people that

00:00:42.860 we should not hear from. We shouldn't even know they exist. And unfortunately, the internet gives

00:00:47.900 them a megaphone to announce their existence to the world. And so today we're going to look at

00:00:54.260 the group who call themselves stay-at-home husbands, or even apparently some of them refer to

00:01:01.340 themselves as house husbands. So these are the men who are defying gender norms by staying home while

00:01:09.440 their wives work. And so these are basically, this is like if you want to be a eunuch, but you don't

00:01:15.040 want to go through the surgery. This is a non-surgical strategy to become a eunuch is what all these guys

00:01:21.540 are. So we'll start with, I'm told this is like the, this is the original. This is one of the

00:01:26.900 original house husbands on TikTok who got this whole trend going. I like the original much better. Oh my

00:01:33.640 God. He didn't start the trend of being a house husband. He started, but he started the trend of

00:01:37.040 them all talking about what they do during the day or don't do during the day because they don't do much

00:01:40.800 of anything. But anyway, let's watch the first video. Sorry, tough guys. It's part two of a day

00:01:45.340 in the life of a stay-at-home husband. When I say check your misogyny at the door, I mean it. It's the

00:01:50.520 weekend. So, you know, I got to let my queen sleep in. So I make her some pancakes. She likes them with 0.99

00:01:54.740 chocolate chippies in them. On Sundays we strip the sheets and then I load the dishwasher. Next I borrow

00:02:03.900 my wife's credit card and I go get some groceries. I check those eggs, check out, make my way home and put

00:02:08.660 the groceries away. The fridge organized with all her favorite drinks and snacks and then I take the

00:02:12.520 trash out to where the men go. Don't strain yourself, queen. You work too hard. You know

00:02:16.360 the drill. Follow to end the patriarchy. So that video was, this video I think is a couple years

00:02:22.880 old now. So they're probably already divorced. But if they're not, they will be soon because that's

00:02:29.360 the thing about the, your, your wives, your wife needs to be able to respect you. And in a, 1.00

00:02:38.200 in a marriage that that's something that they, they need that more than they need someone making

00:02:42.080 pancakes for them in the morning. So from the wife's perspective, she might enjoy that. She wakes

00:02:47.580 up to, to pancakes. She doesn't enjoy the fact that she has a husband who uses the phrase chocolate

00:02:52.000 chippies. Chocolate chippies. But she likes the pancakes. She likes all that. Uh, this is someone

00:02:58.680 who's like her little man servant going around and doing all these things. It's about time you got 0.90

00:03:03.880 here. And so on the surface level, she might enjoy that she has that, but underneath that surface is

00:03:11.940 bubbling resentment and a total lack of respect. The fact is that she doesn't respect you because

00:03:18.140 there might be women who are selfish and materialistic and all that. And so they, they 1.00

00:03:22.020 like the idea of just having a servant rather than an actual husband and a leader in the home.

00:03:27.580 So they try to, they try to talk themselves out of that, but they can't because it's, it's an innate

00:03:33.580 biological impulse. And they might not even be fully conscious of the fact that respect and admiration

00:03:40.340 for your spouse, these things are necessary, but it still is a need that is not being fulfilled

00:03:44.980 by that guy. So if you're not doing that, she won't respect you. And, uh, and that's when the

00:03:49.480 marriage will fall apart. And I suspect that I haven't seen these other videos, but I suspect

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00:04:52.260 Day one of being a stay at home husband made us some tea and cuddled on the couch. And then I started

00:04:58.960 to pack her lunch before she went to work with all her favorite foods. Snuck in a love note, drove her to

00:05:05.920 work. Came back to a mess. Proof of me cleaning the mess. Juice break. Put away some leftovers from

00:05:14.280 the night before. Starting to unpack. All right. Okay, stop. Of course, this is the kind of guy who

00:05:19.300 takes a juice break and drinks it with a straw in his own house. My sensors indicate that you are

00:05:26.860 indeed a weenie. That's already enough of a problem. You know what? I didn't need to see

00:05:31.860 any of the rest. You could have just showed me that part. You could have showed me juice break

00:05:36.320 and he's sitting there in his own house by himself drinking with a straw. Who pulls out a straw? What

00:05:40.700 kind of man pulls out a straw? Do you have like a stash of straws somewhere in your pantry and you

00:05:47.880 want to drink some juice so you go and you take a straw? You could have just showed me that and I

00:05:51.780 would have known the rest of this already. The fact that he's a house husband would not. I would

00:05:56.320 have already known that. He says that he does pack her all of her favorite foods for lunch when she

00:06:01.160 goes to work. I'm not trying to be rude when I say this, but maybe don't pack her all of her

00:06:06.540 favorite foods. Maybe only a couple of them. Maybe one. Maybe none. Might help her out. But I'm

00:06:16.100 already noticing a trend in just these first two. Let's watch one more and we'll see before

00:06:21.720 I say what the trend is. It's very subtle. Welcome to a day in my life as a stay-at-home

00:06:25.900 husband. Because Lucy booked an off-Broadway show, she's currently working two full-time

00:06:29.940 jobs. I think it's time to start pulling my weight around here. I started off the morning

00:06:32.840 by making my wife's favorite breakfast, a chocolate smoothie with plenty of spinach and

00:06:37.140 a bagel with butter and honey. After breakfast, I took out the trash, changed our flights for Christmas

00:06:41.280 and headed to the grocery store. I got plenty of groceries for the week and our grand total

00:06:45.540 from TJ's was $143.19. After putting the food away and getting some work done on my

00:06:50.580 computer, I headed to the gym. After the gym, I grabbed some coffee with a friend. And wow,

00:06:54.580 where has the day gone? Because the sun's already going down. Once I got home, I meal prepped for

00:06:58.240 Lucy's lunches for the next couple of days. I made salmon bowls with rice, broccoli, and

00:07:02.240 sriracha mayo. After meal prepping, I cleaned our whole apartment, scrubbing our bathroom,

00:07:06.620 vacuuming the floors, and mopping as well. Once Lucy got home, I had a little surprise for her,

00:07:11.840 fresh flowers, her favorite sweet treat, and a little handwritten note too. I'm so

00:07:15.520 proud of this girl and all that she's accomplishing right now. So anything I can do to support her

00:07:19.740 living her dreams makes me so happy.

00:07:23.920 She is so not into this guy at all, you can tell.

00:07:29.020 Here's the trend though. Here's the common thread. You notice something? There are no kids. There are

00:07:34.260 no kids in the picture. So these are not even stay-at-home dads. These are stay-at-home husbands.

00:07:39.060 Why can't you go work also? Even if you were to decide that, well, we don't want to bring down

00:07:48.200 the patriarchy and so we don't want to have the wife stay home with the kids, God forbid. You know, 1.00

00:07:53.440 you fulfill that need that children have to be around their mothers. We don't want to do that. 1.00

00:07:57.420 Well, there are no children. So what are you doing all day?

00:07:59.820 Here's the thing. If this was flipped around, I would still have an issue, actually. If it was the

00:08:09.080 wife who was staying home doing nothing all day, when there are no kids in the picture. Now, 0.95

00:08:14.860 I fully believe being a stay-at-home mom, when you're taking care of kids, my wife's a stay-at-home mom. 1.00

00:08:19.760 And there's more than enough to do during the day. And that is a very important, it's not a job,

00:08:24.840 okay? It's not a job. A job is like a nine-to-five, you punch in, you punch out, you get a paycheck.

00:08:29.760 It is work, though, okay? Not all work is a job. And so that's very important work, to be a stay-at-home

00:08:36.600 mom. There are no kids, though. You should be doing something else with it. Like, yeah,

00:08:40.980 you might as well go out. You should, yeah, you should have a job if there are no kids. You should

00:08:44.840 be contributing to the household that way. Because there's just no kids in the house? How much cleaning 1.00

00:08:49.920 could there possibly be? You have nothing to do. All day, every single day.

00:08:57.260 That's not really acceptable for a woman or a man. You should have work to do. Everyone should 0.52

00:09:06.340 be doing some kind of work during the day. So that's what makes us all the worse. There's not

00:09:13.260 even any kids. When I was first, see, I thought we were going to see a bunch of stay-at-home dads.

00:09:17.480 Dads. We don't even have that. They don't even have dads.

00:09:22.180 All right, let's watch one more. Welcome to a day in my life as a 26-year-old

00:09:26.640 breadwinner. You may have seen my stay-at-home husband's videos, so this is my day. I am an

00:09:31.180 actress in New York City, and I also work remotely full-time as an executive assistant. I woke up at

00:09:35.600 6.30, and I made my ice latte the night before because I knew that future Lucy would be so grateful.

00:09:40.920 I promise this isn't a hickey. It's just a curling iron burn. I finished getting ready. I grabbed my

00:09:45.020 little bagel and an apple. Then I headed down to the Actors' Equity building for the audition at

00:09:49.580 7 a.m. I signed in and was shockingly number two on the list. This was my outfit. I still had a good

00:09:54.300 hour or so to have some devotional time. I worked for about three hours in the waiting room, and

00:09:58.700 then at noon, they called my name and put me in the next group. The audition went great. I headed home

00:10:02.500 and got an exciting self-tape request for an absolute dream role. Chandler made me some lunch.

00:10:06.520 What's the guy's name? Chandler?

00:10:08.520 I went to take a musical theater dance class with one of my best friends. While I answered a few

00:10:12.200 work emails, Chandler made this delicious cookie skillet. Of course his name is Chandler. Of

00:10:16.340 course. I knew that too. I wish I predicted that. I knew that guy was Chandler before she even said

00:10:22.280 it. Chandler is the stupidest name I've ever heard in my life. It's not even a name. It's barely even a 1.00

00:10:28.980 word. Here's what I'm trying to. What's going on in this? So she's an actress, and he's a house

00:10:34.200 husband. No one's working in this family. How are they doing this? No one has a job between the two

00:10:41.100 of them. Where do they live? In New York? And somehow they're not living in a box under a bridge.

00:10:52.760 I can only assume that they have a friend who lets them record their TikToks in their apartment,

00:10:58.000 and most of the time that they actually live under a bridge. Because I don't know how

00:11:01.840 she's a, she's an actress and he's a house husband. Oh, she's also a remote executive

00:11:07.540 assistant. Who wants coffee? I just made a fresh pot of coffee. Does anybody? So there's a lot of

00:11:12.460 questions to be asked there, but I also enjoyed how she, she, she clarified it's not a, well, it's

00:11:18.780 not a hickey because she wanted to make sure. It's like, I'm not, I'm not actually sleeping with 0.89

00:11:23.240 this guy. Just so you know, she wanted to make that clear. As I said at the beginning, I don't think we

00:11:27.280 need to watch anymore. I think we get the point. So we understand. It doesn't work. It just doesn't

00:11:32.780 work because as I said at the top, respect, you know, we talked about this in the past,

00:11:39.220 the need for respect in a marriage for the man, you know, and of course, as a husband,

00:11:45.980 you should respect your wife, obviously, but the needs are a little bit different and it, and it,

00:11:50.200 and it manifests and manifests itself in different ways. But often we talk about how the man needs to

00:11:55.940 be respected in the marriage. And that's true. That's a need that the man needs to receive that

00:12:00.640 respect, but it's also a need for the woman. Like she needs to have that. She needs to be able to feel 1.00

00:12:07.500 that respect for her own husband. And if she doesn't, then the whole thing falls apart because

00:12:16.740 the respect is what is kind of the, the, the, the gasoline and the engine of the marriage that keeps

00:12:21.440 it going. And there's just no way you can't respect that. A man who does not, not only does he not

00:12:28.520 provide, he doesn't even contribute to, to providing for the family. There's no respect there. So

00:12:34.040 they're, they're all going to be divorced soon enough, but they're going to get their TikTok

00:12:37.640 likes out of it. And then that's a great thing. So, so right now, you know, they could be influencers

00:12:42.620 talking about house husband and she can be the breadwinner and then eventually they get divorced 0.99

00:12:47.180 and then they can kind of rebrand. And now she's the influencer talking about her life as a single

00:12:52.520 woman in New York. And so it's very, it's very good. They've set up their whole career for years to come.

00:12:58.360 Okay, good. That's it.

The Matt Walsh Show - September 16, 2023

Matt Walsh Reacts To Stay At Home Husband TikToks

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