The Matt Walsh Show - Matt Walsh Reacts To TikTok Dating Advice - Memorial Day Edition

00:00:00.000 All right, happy Memorial Day, everybody.

00:00:01.600 We're, uh, I thought I'd have the day off,

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00:00:38.220 You know, something we like to do

00:00:39.560 on the Matt Walsh Show, in these videos,

00:00:41.460 is we like to go to TikTok, to the lost souls of TikTok,

00:00:44.940 and, uh, kind of give them some advice.

00:00:46.940 And the thing about on TikTok is

00:00:49.040 they often have, um, these dating experts

00:00:51.640 who will give dating advice.

00:00:53.280 And so, while we're making some meat today,

00:00:55.180 I think we're gonna go watch some of these, uh,

00:00:57.080 dating advice videos, and I guess while I'm making meat,

00:01:00.120 I'll just give some kind of fatherly responses

00:01:03.580 to these dating advice videos.

00:01:05.320 So let's, uh, let's go to the first one.

00:01:07.160 A lot of times in dating,

00:01:08.060 you're gonna experience people that are hot and cold, right?

00:01:10.160 One week they're texting you like crazy,

00:01:12.060 the next week they're being short with you,

00:01:13.500 and they're not giving you so much attention.

00:01:15.460 What's our first emotional response to that?

00:01:17.660 It's call them out, right?

00:01:19.000 Say, hey, listen, I don't understand

00:01:20.340 why you're not hitting me up, or,

00:01:22.040 hey, listen, I think I need to take a step back

00:01:23.680 from this situation because it's really bothering me.

00:01:25.980 Let me tell you something.

00:01:26.920 The worst thing that you can do

00:01:28.860 is verbally tell someone that their lack of attention

00:01:31.180 is bothering you.

00:01:32.020 New grilling, hot tubs, hippie houseboats.

00:01:34.920 Telling them gives them all the power.

00:01:37.320 The reality is, even if you're feeling that way,

00:01:39.560 you need to take actions and stay silent. 0.72

00:01:42.040 You can't say s*** to them.

00:01:43.400 Just take a step back with actions.

00:01:45.340 Don't say your moves to somebody.

00:01:47.600 Because let's say they don't even,

00:01:49.340 they're not giving you attention

00:01:50.340 because they're actually busy.

00:01:51.840 Then it shows you're patient, right?

00:01:53.440 And that's better for you. 0.98

00:01:54.480 And then let's say they actually don't give a f*** 0.97

00:01:56.340 and they're not giving you attention that way. 0.90

00:01:58.140 Their true colors are gonna come out at some point,

00:02:00.560 so you're better off keeping your mouth shut.

00:02:02.660 And now what he says there is basically,

00:02:05.280 if you think there's an issue, don't talk about it.

00:02:08.560 Just remain silent and hope that it works itself out.

00:02:11.460 And the thing is, as a man,

00:02:12.700 I can sort of understand that instinctively.

00:02:15.660 Like I do apply that sometimes to relationships

00:02:17.660 when I shouldn't, I apply it to like household repair issues.

00:02:22.160 Something's broken, my wife says, can you fix it?

00:02:24.000 I'll say, eh, just leave it, it'll work itself out.

00:02:26.740 Medical problems, you know, I feel a certain pain.

00:02:29.740 I just say, well, I'll just, I'll leave it alone.

00:02:32.040 But in reality, that's not actually what you should do, okay?

00:02:35.080 In a relationship, you just talk to somebody.

00:02:38.020 And if you think there's an issue,

00:02:38.940 then you have the conversation.

00:02:40.020 But here's the other point.

00:02:41.720 If you're just dating someone and they're already flighty,

00:02:45.660 and they're hot and cold and they're ignoring you for a week,

00:02:47.760 and then they're into you for a week, just break up.

00:02:51.700 That's the easiest thing you could do.

00:02:53.060 It's not worth your time.

00:02:54.500 If they're already doing that, just break up.

00:02:57.880 Take my advice.

00:02:59.040 Okay, let's watch the next one.

00:03:00.700 15 really personal questions

00:03:02.320 you should consider asking on a first date

00:03:04.420 if you don't want to waste your time.

00:03:06.020 Do you want kids?

00:03:07.820 Do you want to be in a monogamous relationship?

00:03:11.020 Do you want to get married one day?

00:03:12.820 Who did you vote for in the last election?

00:03:15.220 Who do you first go to for support?

00:03:17.080 How often do you drink or do drugs?

00:03:19.220 How done are you with your ex?

00:03:21.260 How important is religion to you?

00:03:23.260 What's your main priority in life?

00:03:25.320 How often do you want to do it?

00:03:26.940 How adventurous are you in bed?

00:03:28.760 When an argument happens,

00:03:29.840 do you initially want to process it or get some space?

00:03:32.500 Would you ever be open to relationship therapy?

00:03:34.840 What's your number one deal breaker?

00:03:37.280 Why do relationships typically end for you?

00:03:39.980 Okay, you see there, the first like five questions actually weren't too bad.

00:03:44.620 The problem is, first of all, is I can pretty much guarantee

00:03:47.220 that he's looking for all the wrong answers to those questions.

00:03:49.860 Like there are right answers to those questions.

00:03:52.260 And that guy is specifically is probably looking for the wrong answers.

00:03:56.120 The rest of it though, listen, it's the first date.

00:03:59.260 You do want to be careful that your first date doesn't become like a law and order

00:04:03.900 interrogation scene where you're going through 20 questions.

00:04:06.880 How long were you with your ex? What are your priorities in life?

00:04:08.880 Like you want to be a little bit careful with that and asking somebody on a first date

00:04:13.420 if they'd be open to relationship counseling.

00:04:16.460 I just met you five seconds ago and you're asking me if I'm ready to be in counseling with you.

00:04:21.800 That's that's a million red flags all at once.

00:04:23.860 So that advice, at least unlike some of the other stuff we've seen,

00:04:28.660 it started strong, went off the rails, unfortunately.

00:04:32.440 Let's check out the next one.

00:04:33.800 Here are five easy ways to tell if he's physically attracted to you.

00:04:37.240 Number one, when you get close to him, you notice his nostrils flare.

00:04:40.400 This isn't a coincidence.

00:04:41.540 It's actually because he's sniffing you for something called pheromones.

00:04:47.020 Pheromones are the chemical that determine compatibility,

00:04:49.480 like if you guys would make healthy babies together.

00:04:51.620 So if you notice him flare his nostrils, he's just subconsciously sniffing you.

00:04:55.180 Second sign he's super physically attracted to you is that when you look at his eyes,

00:04:58.660 his pupils dilate.

00:05:00.360 This is because as humans, we tend to fixate and hone in on the things that we like

00:05:03.800 and the things that we're after.

00:05:04.800 Three is that you notice he's sweating.

00:05:06.360 It is really common to have like an elevated nervous system around people that we like

00:05:10.240 because we're nervous and excited.

00:05:11.600 So if you notice him sweating, there's a good chance he's attracted to you.

00:05:14.200 I wet my arm pants.

00:05:16.000 Have you ever been talking to a guy and noticed that he's playing with or touching his hair like a lot?

00:05:20.520 Guys involuntarily do this when they're attracted to someone because must-up hair is more flattering.

00:05:25.320 So you're going to notice them playing with their hair quite a bit.

00:05:27.620 Finally, do you notice him touching his face a lot when he's talking to you?

00:05:30.660 When we're turned on, our faces and our mouth and lips are more sensitive to touch, hence kissing.

00:05:34.900 If he's super attracted to you, you may notice him doing things that are an excuse to touch his mouth more,

00:05:39.060 like taking more sips of his drink.

00:05:41.160 Okay, what have I told you about body language science?

00:05:44.540 Okay, that's a science, a fake science.

00:05:46.800 You put it in the same realm as like astrology, climate change.

00:05:50.940 Okay, no, you cannot read every little movement that a person makes and then draw these wild conclusions.

00:05:57.740 Like if they're sweating, then they're attracted to you.

00:06:01.660 I'm sweating right now.

00:06:03.420 Who am I attracted to?

00:06:04.220 The cameraman?

00:06:04.860 Like who's, how does that make any sense?

00:06:06.620 I sweat a lot.

00:06:07.260 I have overactive sweat glands.

00:06:08.700 Okay, it's a medical condition.

00:06:10.220 Doesn't mean I'm attracted to everybody in the room.

00:06:11.900 That's the first thing.

00:06:13.260 Second thing is also, if you're a woman, like maybe if you're a man trying to discern if a woman's physically attracted to you,

00:06:19.660 that gets a little bit more complicated.

00:06:21.900 If you're a woman and you want to know if a man's attracted to you and you're on a date with him,

00:06:26.140 I'll tell you how you know.

00:06:27.500 He is attracted to you because you're on a date with him.

00:06:30.700 And if he was not attracted to you physically, he wouldn't be there.

00:06:33.580 I think he likes you.

00:06:35.180 So that's it.

00:06:36.540 That's all you need to know.

00:06:37.340 Don't have to watch for his eyes dilating or how he moves his fingers or whether he's sweating.

00:06:41.580 All right, let's check out the next one.

00:06:43.020 So for all my girlies, dating men, this is what you're going to do on your date because I know dating can be awkward.

00:06:48.620 Okay, but I learned this on TikTok and I need to teach it to everyone.

00:06:52.860 Okay, so the bell comes.

00:06:53.820 I'm you.

00:06:54.380 Okay.

00:06:55.740 Do you need any help with that?

00:06:57.580 Okay.

00:06:58.380 That...

00:06:59.660 What are they going to say?

00:07:00.540 Yeah, you need help with that on the bill that you wanted to take me out to that I had to get ready for?

00:07:06.220 I don't think so.

00:07:07.340 In a patriarchy created by men where men are paid more than women, 0.96

00:07:10.140 even though women typically do a better job. 1.00

00:07:12.140 In a world where all wars have been started by men. 0.55

00:07:14.460 In a society where 90% of rapes are by men. 0.80

00:07:16.940 Don't even get me started on the orgasm gap. 0.98

00:07:18.620 No, babe.

00:07:19.020 When your gender figures it out, maybe we'll talk about it. 1.00

00:07:22.620 All right.

00:07:24.940 Just out in the parking lot by myself making burgers,

00:07:27.980 watching TikTok videos.

00:07:29.740 Totally normal way to spend your Memorial Day.

00:07:31.900 Now, as far as that video goes, uh, no, this is, you can't have it both ways, okay?

00:07:37.500 I know this is what feminists, they're trying to do this. 1.00

00:07:39.500 They realize that they back themselves into a corner with all the empowered woman stuff. 0.96

00:07:42.620 I'm an independent woman.

00:07:43.820 Well, that means now you got to pay the bill and they don't want to pay the bill.

00:07:45.980 So they're trying to figure out a way to make it work where they can still be an empowered,

00:07:49.900 independent woman, but also expect the man to pay for everything. 1.00

00:07:53.500 And it's just, it's not going to fly.

00:07:55.020 And by the way, she says that, uh, well, men, they, you know, they do all the bad things in society.

00:08:01.020 Yeah.

00:08:01.260 Men also, uh, I don't know, build society.

00:08:03.580 Like every bridge you've ever driven across, it's because a man built it.

00:08:07.420 Every building you've ever been in, a man built it.

00:08:10.380 Okay.

00:08:11.100 That's all men doing that. 0.99

00:08:12.380 And here's the thing.

00:08:14.140 We do all that.

00:08:15.100 We make the hamburgers.

00:08:16.300 We build society.

00:08:17.900 We're willing to do it.

00:08:19.820 And we're also willing to pay the bill.

00:08:23.340 But then you have to do your part of it, which is to drop the whole feminist empowered stick. 1.00

00:08:27.820 Okay.

00:08:28.300 So we can, it can work, but you got to play your role in this is the point.

00:08:33.020 But that's also good because men, if you're watching this and you see women, 0.93

00:08:35.740 it's, it's a very positive development.

00:08:37.340 I think for women to be on social media saying things like this because they're advertising 0.99

00:08:45.020 themselves and men, you see that woman and you know, okay, avoid that woman like the plague 1.00

00:08:49.820 or anybody like her. 0.92

00:08:51.820 I think I could stomach maybe one more of these videos.

00:08:53.660 So let's, uh, let's watch one more.

00:08:57.100 I got to pull over for this guys, please enough of this.

00:09:01.100 The friend zone is so easy to avoid because what is important is what not to do, not what

00:09:07.900 to do in order to avoid the friend zone.

00:09:10.220 You have to be aware of the things that get you friend zoned and not do those things like

00:09:14.140 asking her how her day was your entire day and life should be aligned with your purpose

00:09:19.340 and what you are going after in life.

00:09:21.020 If you are wasting your time texting a girl throughout the day to a point of where you

00:09:25.180 can have a conversation of how her day's going, you're doing something wrong.

00:09:29.020 Texting, snapping, phone call, FaceTime, any kind of constant communication throughout the day

00:09:33.740 will get you friend zoned.

00:09:35.180 Always being available, always doing her favors will get you friend zoned.

00:09:39.580 Always saying yes to her will get you friend zoned.

00:09:42.540 But when you use my friend zone escape plan, the love story is just beginning.

00:09:48.460 Okay, this is why I tell you guys, check the resumes, especially important for men.

00:09:53.820 If you got a man who's on social media giving all kinds of advice about how to be a man,

00:09:59.820 I want to know his resume.

00:10:01.020 Like what do you know about being a man?

00:10:03.100 Have you ever even made meat at a barbecue?

00:10:05.580 Are you married?

00:10:05.900 Do you have kids?

00:10:06.620 Like I need to know all these things before I'm going to take advice from you about how to be a man.

00:10:11.020 And I'm guessing in this case, he doesn't have a lot of experience with it because

00:10:14.380 all the things he said you shouldn't do for a woman, those are all the things that if you're

00:10:21.340 married and you don't do those things, you're not going to be married for very long.

00:10:24.140 Okay, if you're with a woman who will be turned off because you asked her how her day was,

00:10:31.740 she'll be turned off because you're talking to her and showing interest,

00:10:34.860 then that's just a good indication to leave and go find another woman.

00:10:39.340 Just break up, take my advice, and find a different man to take advice from like me.

00:10:46.140 And also find somewhere else to get your meats like Good Ranchers.

00:10:49.260 I might have overcooked this one slightly, but that's okay.

00:10:51.500 Go to GoodRanchers.com slash Walsh, use code Walsh,

00:10:55.260 and have yourself a great Memorial Day.

00:10:57.580 God bless America. Godspeed.

The Matt Walsh Show - May 30, 2022

Matt Walsh Reacts To TikTok Dating Advice - Memorial Day Edition

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