The Matt Walsh Show - Matt Walsh's Second Date With A Feminist

00:00:00.000 All right, so today we're gonna do some TikTok reaction videos, and it looks like the videos

00:00:08.480 they have queued up for me today are feminist dating videos. And you know, the way this used 1.00

00:00:13.960 to work is that my producers would, we're doing some kind of TikTok reaction, they'd say, well,

00:00:18.120 do you want to react to these kinds of videos? And I would say yes or no. But at this point,

00:00:22.540 they don't even ask me anymore, because I think they know that I'll just say no.

00:00:25.600 Uh, because I'll, if they said, well, do you want to sit there for 10 minutes and react

00:00:29.360 to feminist dating videos? I would say, I'm not, no, I'm not gonna do that. I don't care 1.00

00:00:32.760 if it's good content. I'm not, I'm not gonna put myself through that. And so now there's

00:00:35.780 no conversation. It's just, uh, the videos are put up in front of me. And, and here we

00:00:40.360 are. So we're going to go through, uh, some of these videos of feminists talking about 0.99

00:00:44.940 their dating experiences and giving dating advice. Go ahead.

00:00:48.600 Why do you think men care about a woman's body count? 1.00

00:00:50.960 Do you? People actually care about that s***? 1.00

00:00:53.660 Men in general.

00:00:55.300 If a man is f***ing asking me a body count, he can get f***ed. Who gives a f***ed? Oh my

00:01:01.400 God, that's so stupid. People actually ask that s***?

00:01:04.140 Yes.

00:01:04.660 You, okay, well then you're talking to the wrong man. If a man is ever asking about your body

00:01:09.560 count, you're talking to the wrong man and he can get f***ed. Like, that's so f***ing stupid.

00:01:14.120 Get f***ed.

00:01:14.940 So, can I ask you this then?

00:01:16.600 Yeah, sure.

00:01:17.420 So, what do you think about the analogy? If one key can open many locks, it's known

00:01:23.400 as a master key. As opposed to if you have a lock that can be opened by any key, it's

00:01:28.840 a f***ing lock.

00:01:30.320 I think that if a woman is an analogy to you, then you're not f***ing ready to be talking

00:01:35.680 to a woman. And you should probably get f***ed. So, if a woman is the key to you, talk to your 0.98

00:01:41.620 mom. Talk to your sister. Talk to your cousin. I don't know. Get a real f***ing life. And

00:01:48.300 get f***ed. Thank you. And a woman is not a key. Thank you. 1.00

00:01:56.860 So, a few issues here. Red flags. If you're a single man looking for the woman of your dreams

00:02:05.500 and someone that you might want to spend the rest of your life with, this is not going to

00:02:10.340 be it. Before we even get to the content of what is being said, when you come across

00:02:15.200 a woman who cannot say two words without dropping an F-bomb. 1.00

00:02:18.800 He can get f***ed. Like, that's so f***ing stupid. Get f***ed.

00:02:23.120 Go the other direction. Like, as fast as you can. That's going to tell you everything you

00:02:26.880 need to know about her. And, yeah. Now, it's also bad if there's a man who can't say two

00:02:30.640 words without dropping an F-bomb. It's worse for a woman, though. It just is. 1.00

00:02:35.560 F*** you. 1.00

00:02:36.100 And that's also advice for women in general. If you are having trouble finding a man, you

00:02:42.240 might want to think also about how you're presenting yourself, how you're speaking, and

00:02:45.920 you see there the problem. But then we look at the content of what she's saying. If someone

00:02:50.500 even refers to it as their body count. Body count, of course, if you're an old fogey like 1.00

00:02:57.740 me, maybe you aren't familiar with this lingo here. But body count means the number of people

00:03:01.560 you've slept with. Now we call that body count. If you're talking to someone who even uses

00:03:12.320 that phrase to describe their past sexual encounters, it doesn't matter what the number

00:03:17.240 is. Again, go the other way. So it could be, if you're in a dating world, if you're a man

00:03:22.240 talking to a woman, it's a good thing maybe to ask her, to say, what's your body count?

00:03:26.840 Because if she says anything other than words to the effect of my body count, what are you

00:03:32.560 talking about? That's not how.

00:03:33.820 Like if she reacts that way to that question, it's a good sign. If she drops a number, oh,

00:03:38.880 here's my body count. Starts talking about her body count. Whatever the number is, it's

00:03:41.960 bad. I can think of nothing of a more dehuman. It's like it is literally dehumanizing.

00:03:47.300 Okay. Now you're just referring to, they're not people. They're not people who you had

00:03:51.440 a sexual encounter with. It's not that. They're just bodies, right? Body count, that usually

00:03:58.080 means dead. They're usually referring to people who've been killed. It's like you're imagining

00:04:02.080 this dead bodies in your wake. That's the kind of like image that comes to mind. So someone

00:04:08.680 who speaks that way is already another big red flag. But yes, no matter how we put it, if you're

00:04:16.900 talking to a woman who's had many random sexual encounters, then yeah, that's not someone who

00:04:23.160 you want. People can be reformed. They can change. They can go through like a conversion

00:04:28.800 experience. People can change. We have to allow for that.

00:04:31.040 Well, if it's going to help end all of this madness, I'll allow it.

00:04:33.940 But a woman like this, especially, who doesn't even want to consider the possibility that it 0.90

00:04:39.080 might be wrong to conduct yourself this way. Well, then that tells you everything you need

00:04:43.420 to know about her character, her self-respect or lack thereof. Just before you even get

00:04:48.660 two words into this, we've got, you know, 50 different red flags. All right, let's go

00:04:53.780 to the next one. Do you reach for your purse on the first date? Yes, always to show my fake

00:04:59.720 kindness. You know better. No, I don't pay for any first date. You asking me out. But

00:05:05.940 you don't even do the like. No, I'm not going to pretend. No, you know what it is. The date

00:05:10.180 is like $100. You'll be fine. Oh, you think that I go to a restaurant on a first date. You're

00:05:15.160 assuming that I date men that would take me to a restaurant. Yeah, but my hand never like

00:05:19.020 gets to the purse. Yeah, you don't touch. I don't touch it. I like play pretend. And

00:05:23.840 then I'm like, oh, then they pay. Yes, of course I do it. It's like a guilt thing. I

00:05:28.520 always reach to like show them. Well, okay. The other day I dug around in here. I felt

00:05:32.680 my wallet and I just kept digging and he was waiting for me to finish digging. And then

00:05:37.980 he finally just paid, but I wanted him to think I was nice. Yes. And then of course they

00:05:42.020 pull it out and I say, oh, are you sure? The are you sure is good. If they don't pay for

00:05:46.900 it on the first date, just the first date, I say no second date. I just think that's

00:05:50.240 weird. Third date, we can start talking about that. What? So you, okay. First of all, you

00:05:54.540 expect them to pay on the first date, but then by the third date you could talk about them

00:05:59.540 not paying. So you want them to be less invested as the date, as time goes on. Should it be the

00:06:05.220 other way around? If anything, that on the first date when they don't even know you, like

00:06:10.120 they're, they're not going to pay. And then, but then as you start to have a relationship

00:06:13.360 now they are paying, wouldn't it, wouldn't you expect that to be the way that that evolves?

00:06:18.280 Oh, he's the captain obvious guy. But in general, I'm an old fashioned person. I believe in chivalry.

00:06:25.020 I believe in all that. I believe in gender roles. I do. Gasp. Yeah. I can say, I think in,

00:06:30.640 you know, all things being equal, uh, it makes sense for the man to pay, but you as a woman 1.00

00:06:35.700 cannot expect that you cannot demand that you have no right to be disappointed. If you don't get

00:06:41.460 it, unless you also believe in chivalry and believe in gender roles, what you cannot do as

00:06:48.960 a woman. Now here's some real mansplaining as a woman pointing at you, you cannot recoil at the 1.00

00:06:56.640 very idea of gender roles, but then expect them to pay. Cause guess what? Cupcake, that's a gender 1.00

00:07:03.280 role. So you can't, you know what? I'm going to discard all the gender roles that have to do with 0.52

00:07:09.140 me, but then expect the man to still abide by every gender role that will benefit me.

00:07:14.600 That doesn't work. You don't get to do that. Y'all can't have it both ways, man.

00:07:18.400 So if you want to be an enlightened, progressive feminist woman who I don't believe in gender 1.00

00:07:22.420 roles, men and women are exactly the same, then pay for your own damn meal. That's it. You can't 1.00

00:07:26.220 expect a man to, you know, it, it, it takes two to tango. This goes two ways. Gender roles do not 1.00

00:07:31.120 just apply to one person. You don't get to, you don't get to, uh, get rid of all the gender roles, 1.00

00:07:34.800 except for the one where you get to have a free meal. Okay. No. So if you are a traditional

00:07:40.380 minded woman and you comport yourself that way, uh, and, and, um, you fulfill your end of the 0.99

00:07:47.260 bargain, you know, part of being chivalrous for a man is to be a man of dignity and a man of, uh,

00:07:51.500 who commands respect and acts in a respectable way. If you also are that way as a woman, which

00:07:57.560 means that you're not dropping F-bombs, you're not talking about your damn body count. Guess what?

00:08:01.360 If you have a body count that you refer to that way, you are precluded from having anyone pay for

00:08:05.520 a meal for you. You're not, you're not that kind of woman. Sorry. I'm sorry. I'm not sorry. But if 1.00

00:08:12.060 you comport yourself with dignity and you believe in tradition, you know, you believe that men are

00:08:17.100 men and women are women, and that's how you act and you expect, and you want to find a man who has 0.98

00:08:21.520 those same values. Great. That's perfect. That's the way it should be. But you gotta, you gotta do,

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00:09:29.840 Dating apps, the place where we all go because we're living in a capitalist hell where we have

00:09:34.400 neither the time nor the sense of community to actually meet people at IRL. Hi, it's Celine

00:09:40.480 Chica. Let's unpack the downfall of society one Tinder bio at a time. 1.00

00:09:44.720 Cut it. Stop it. Stop it. She said we're going to unpack. She said, let's unpack. So we're going

00:09:49.740 to move on from that. I have no tolerance for this. Let's unpack. The moment you say that,

00:09:53.620 I tune out. I don't care what you're about to say next. Maybe you're about to unveil secrets

00:09:56.980 of the universe. Maybe you have a cure for cancer. The moment you say, let's unpack. If you came to

00:10:01.800 me and said, I have a cure for cancer. Let's unpack it. I'm going to say, I don't want to hear it.

00:10:05.120 Get out of my face. Get out of my face. I'll get inside your face. 1.00

00:10:07.900 Here's why dating as a feminist feels impossible sometimes and what to do about it. I'm Lily, 1.00

00:10:13.060 a top matchmaker turned intersectional feminist dating coach. And this question right here is so

00:10:19.100 important. Hi, Maggie, new friend. We DMed about her question. Let me read it out to you. I took notes.

00:10:23.860 So you're feeling apathy, like dating. All right, stop it. This is already taking too long. I'm already

00:10:28.720 bored. Just go to the next one. Did you know that the happiest demographic of people is women over 30

00:10:34.440 without children who aren't married that live alone? Welcome back to part two of things I learned

00:10:39.700 from my feminist mother. You do not need to get married. My mother was born in 1952. For the first

00:10:48.000 22 years of her life, women were not allowed to have their own bank accounts or credit cards. 0.98

00:10:53.640 This changed in 1974, thanks to Ruth Bader Ginsburg. When I was a little girl, I was obsessed with Disney

00:11:01.080 and the idea that somewhere out there was a prince who was coming to rescue me. Each and every time I

00:11:07.660 would bring up this fantasy, my mother would quietly and gently remind me, sweetie, it's okay if you

00:11:13.520 never get married. She told me that marriage was not all it was cracked up to be. And that happily

00:11:18.780 ever after was more often an image that people painted rather than a reality. And now, thanks to that

00:11:24.960 lesson, I fall into the demographic of the happiest people on the planet.

00:11:29.120 Oh, what a shock. I am 35 years old. I live alone. I am not married, nor have I ever been

00:11:35.660 married. And I don't have any children. It's pretty fantastic. Oh, yeah, really? You're exuding

00:11:41.100 happiness. I also think it's funny when people reference ladies over 30. All right, pause it for a second.

00:11:45.100 See, the Prince Charming never came for you because your hairstyle, you look like a My Little Pony.

00:11:50.700 My Little Pony.

00:11:52.040 So maybe if you hadn't done that, then you would have had the Prince Charming. Can you imagine this?

00:11:59.020 I didn't want to make fun of her, really, because it's like she had no chance in life. You got a mom.

00:12:03.620 When you're a little girl and you're watching the princess, you know, movies as all little girls,

00:12:09.460 like my own three-year-old daughter is going through the phase right now that in my experience can last

00:12:13.820 for like three years where she only wears princess. I have not seen her wear anything but a princess 0.60

00:12:19.560 costume for the last four and a half weeks. She wears it to bed. She wears it. She will not wear

00:12:24.200 anything else. But can you imagine going up to a little girl watching the princess, you know,

00:12:28.720 into the princess thing and then saying, you know, that's not real. You won't be happily ever after.

00:12:37.020 In fact, little child, you'll be better off living alone and dying alone. That's what would be good

00:12:43.140 for you. So she claims that the happiest demographic are middle-aged, single women who live alone are 1.00

00:12:53.480 the happiest. I guess this is one of those, what's the source? Trust me, bro. That's the,

00:12:58.720 I guess this is one of those situations because there's no, it's hard enough to measure happiness.

00:13:04.680 And so anytime you hear a new study indicates this or that about happiness, happiness, who's happy,

00:13:10.080 who's not happy. It's just like, it's impossible to actually measure that scientifically, especially

00:13:15.840 across entire demographics. What's the level of happiness in this demographic? It's not possible

00:13:21.240 to actually do that in the first place. I mean, the only way you can even begin to measure happiness

00:13:26.080 is to, is to, is to interview, ask people, survey people and say, are you happy with this?

00:13:32.260 Survey says, it tells you what people will say about their happiness. And so if this is true,

00:13:38.060 I don't know what study she's made, let's just pretend she's basing it on some study that found

00:13:41.280 that a single middle-aged women without children who live alone are the happiness. Let's pretend 1.00

00:13:46.300 there's some study that says that. And probably there is because the study says anything. What

00:13:49.740 that tells you is that single middle-aged women without kids who live alone are the most likely 1.00

00:13:56.620 to tell you when you survey them that they are happy, but that doesn't mean that they actually

00:14:02.180 are. And in fact, in this case, we're pretty sure that it doesn't because they have a vested

00:14:05.360 interest in insisting that they are happy. They want you to think that they're happy

00:14:09.440 because they don't want to publicly confront their own unhappiness. And it also, it isn't,

00:14:15.600 this is where we can, we don't need a study. We can use our own common sense and our own

00:14:19.020 understanding of human nature to know that it is very, very rare to find, I'm not going to say

00:14:25.300 it's impossible. There's all, you know, people are, there are some, there are some people who have

00:14:28.320 a vocation where they're called to, you know, uh, to be hermits living in the woods somewhere

00:14:33.820 writing the next great American novel. I don't know, like those kinds of people exist, but for

00:14:37.720 most people, um, happiness is shared. It is something that we find, um, in our relationships

00:14:44.700 and especially our relationships with our families. That's how we're human beings. This is how we are

00:14:49.120 meant to be. Um, and so when you reject that, you are going to be lonely and you're not going to be

00:14:54.060 happy. So instead you'll dye your hair pink and blue and you'll make TikTok videos insisting

00:14:58.880 otherwise, which is, you know, that's the number one indication that someone isn't happy. If someone

00:15:02.580 is on TikTok saying I'm happy, that's the least happiest person that you'll come across. So.

The Matt Walsh Show - May 20, 2023

Matt Walsh's Second Date With A Feminist

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