The Matt Walsh Show - June 21, 2021


More Relationship Advice For The Reddit Crowd From Matt Walsh


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A husband discovers a love letter from his wife to another man, and he doesn't know what to do about it. A wife tells her husband that her husband might have lost interest in her and is now looking elsewhere.

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00:00:00.000 Okay, it's time for some more relationship advice from the Daily Wire's resident relationship guru, yours truly.
00:00:07.100 Actually, I'm not a relationship guru at all, but we don't have one here, and they don't exist.
00:00:11.100 It's my time to shine!
00:00:13.000 So, I'm the best you're going to get right now.
00:00:16.280 We're going to go back now to Reddit's relationship advice forum to see which lost souls we can guide into the light.
00:00:23.480 And we start here, it says,
00:00:25.780 My wife is constantly texting a male co-worker who resides out of state, and I'm not sure what to do.
00:00:32.860 I've seen the texts, and they feel like they gradually have gotten more flirty, slash, they confide in one another.
00:00:39.320 Kind of bummed, really.
00:00:41.940 Okay, so I'm not sure why this is a I-don't-know-what-to-do situation.
00:00:48.120 Like, you confront your wife immediately right now about it.
00:00:51.640 And you say that she needs to cut off texting this guy, cut off all contact, tell her that she's violated your trust, that she's caused profound harm to your marriage, that she has a lot of work to do to rebuild your trust.
00:01:06.740 Tell her if she's not willing to do that to make that effort.
00:01:09.260 She needs to let you know right now so you can start assessing your options.
00:01:12.200 I mean, texting and flirting and confiding with a man when you're married is not a small thing.
00:01:19.640 That's called cheating.
00:01:20.960 That's not like on the way to cheating.
00:01:22.500 That is actual real-life cheating.
00:01:24.600 That's an emotional affair, at least, if it's not a sign of a physical affair as well.
00:01:29.600 So no excuse for her behavior, none at all.
00:01:32.960 Don't be understanding.
00:01:34.300 Don't be sympathetic.
00:01:35.220 You've got to be a man and stand up for yourself.
00:01:37.380 All right.
00:01:39.640 This one says, wife might have lost interest in me and be looking elsewhere. 0.99
00:01:44.620 We've been together for five years now.
00:01:46.380 For the last six months, we've been fighting and arguing a lot.
00:01:49.520 It's mostly stopped over the last two to three weeks.
00:01:51.700 But as of this last weekend, she suggested an open relationship, stating that she's read that men are happier.
00:01:58.440 I do not want it.
00:01:59.820 But the more I think about it, the more I feel like she wants it for her.
00:02:03.020 However, she's always getting hit on, even when I'm right there and I work long hours, so I'm not home a lot.
00:02:08.700 I know if I agreed to this, it would be just for her.
00:02:11.720 I don't want anyone else.
00:02:12.760 And even if I did, I'm unattractive and socially awkward.
00:02:15.100 So it's not like I'd get anywhere.
00:02:17.200 What set me over the edge is that I gave her my card before work to pay rent, got home and wanted a soda for the store.
00:02:23.620 And as I was looking for it in her purse, I found a letter she wrote today.
00:02:27.900 It doesn't say who it's to, but it's obviously not for me.
00:02:30.700 And it's signed, love always.
00:02:33.020 And then her name.
00:02:34.220 I don't know what to do at this point.
00:02:35.760 Do I tell her how I've been feeling?
00:02:37.600 Do I confront her about the letter?
00:02:40.400 My God, these are depressing.
00:02:42.520 I think I might cry.
00:02:44.620 If I had a soul, I would cry.
00:02:46.640 But I don't, so we're good.
00:02:47.840 But anyway, do you confront her?
00:02:52.520 What do you mean, yes?
00:02:54.680 What else would you do?
00:02:55.960 This could very well be the stupidest person on the face of the earth.
00:02:59.620 What do you mean, do you?
00:03:01.140 What other, I mean, she literally wrote a love letter to another guy.
00:03:07.000 How could you not confront her?
00:03:08.720 What else, would you, what else, what's the other option?
00:03:10.520 Would you go home, like order a pizza, watch MasterChef together, pretend everything's fine?
00:03:16.740 Is that even a feasible option?
00:03:19.320 If I was in your shoes, I couldn't do that.
00:03:21.740 That would be impossible to do that.
00:03:23.720 I mean, you can't be so cowed, so emasculated that you've, that you, that you're that good
00:03:30.540 at hiding your thoughts and feelings around her.
00:03:33.540 So yes, you confront her.
00:03:35.020 Yes, you put your foot down.
00:03:36.080 None of this is okay.
00:03:37.500 None of it is remotely okay.
00:03:38.440 And by the way, there's no such thing as an open marriage.
00:03:41.440 Not quite my temple.
00:03:42.560 A marriage by definition is closed.
00:03:46.360 There's no open marriage.
00:03:48.200 It's like saying that you live in a house without a roof.
00:03:51.100 If it doesn't have a roof, it's not a house.
00:03:53.880 The roof is like sort of the whole point of the house.
00:03:57.180 That's what we talk about.
00:03:58.140 You know, you're living under my roof.
00:03:59.360 I need a roof to sleep.
00:04:00.540 It's the roof.
00:04:01.300 That's what the, the roof is one of the, is one of the main features of the house.
00:04:04.640 And if you don't have that, then you don't have a house.
00:04:06.240 Um, and in a marriage, one of the primary defining features is the exclusivity, is the commitment
00:04:15.640 you make to one another.
00:04:17.520 So there's no open marriage.
00:04:19.120 What there is, is, uh, it's called adultery, cheating. 0.54
00:04:22.380 And even if you both agree to it, it's still adultery.
00:04:26.420 All right.
00:04:27.300 Um, next one.
00:04:28.620 This is from a woman, uh, says my husband and I have been together 10 years and married
00:04:32.080 five this month.
00:04:33.040 The other night while driving to a family event, the topic of our anniversary came up
00:04:37.600 and my husband realized he had rostered himself to work on the day of our anniversary.
00:04:41.820 Uh, no big deal.
00:04:42.800 We can go out on the weekend, but this was no surprise to me.
00:04:45.620 I can't remember in the last 10 years, him organizing a gift or trip or any activity for
00:04:50.200 us or remembering to take time off of work for our relationship.
00:04:54.340 Unsurprisingly to me, he has also not prepared a gift or anything else.
00:04:58.320 I mentioned to him that I'm okay and I'm used to it calmly, but maybe not the nicest
00:05:03.020 thing to say regardless.
00:05:04.100 And he got quite mad at me.
00:05:05.780 He started to plan a trip on the spot to where we were married for the day, three hour drive
00:05:10.720 each way.
00:05:11.320 And I said, I would rather stay the night.
00:05:13.180 He had money concerns about this.
00:05:15.100 Totally understandable.
00:05:16.100 Maybe a little unfounded.
00:05:17.740 I also said something along the lines of that.
00:05:20.360 I wasn't going to get my hopes up because our plans like this always fall through somehow.
00:05:24.160 I feel like he got mad at me because I didn't fight slash was apathetic and I didn't give
00:05:28.720 him the excuse of she's being a bitch, so I don't need to get something now anyway. 1.00
00:05:33.560 The worst part for me is that once he had managed to calm down, he said the reason he doesn't
00:05:37.320 get me anything or plan anything is because he works and because I don't.
00:05:40.960 So I have time to think about these things.
00:05:43.640 He works a regular nine to five, nothing crazy.
00:05:46.020 I only have three days in the year that are special to me.
00:05:47.740 Our wedding anniversary, my birthday and Christmas.
00:05:49.220 I don't expect him to move heaven and earth on these days, but an acknowledgement and
00:05:52.700 maybe a cheap bouquet of flowers would be nice.
00:05:55.340 Okay.
00:05:56.700 And she wants to know what to do.
00:05:57.920 Now, I have to offer full disclosure here and reveal my conflicts of interest.
00:06:03.720 I myself have made this mistake recently.
00:06:09.020 I did accidentally book a speaking gig on the day of our anniversary, the last one, which
00:06:15.260 was our ninth.
00:06:15.880 And so we still went out to celebrate and I got her a gift and everything.
00:06:21.120 I got her a more expensive gift probably than I otherwise would have sort of, sort of as
00:06:25.220 a kind of tax penalty that you got to pay.
00:06:27.600 But I did miss the anniversary for work.
00:06:30.600 And by the time I realized the mistake, it was too late to cancel my commitment.
00:06:35.380 And I realized because I told my wife like just casually, I said, oh, hey, I have to travel
00:06:40.160 to this place on this date.
00:06:41.320 And I was just telling her and then she looked at me and she had this look where I knew I
00:06:45.640 was in trouble, but I didn't know why.
00:06:47.340 And then she said, you know, that's our anniversary, right?
00:06:50.560 You done messed up.
00:06:51.540 And I said, yeah, I mean, no, I mean, I did.
00:06:56.140 I didn't, but now I do.
00:06:58.480 So the point is, in a way I can empathize with your poor husband, though.
00:07:03.240 It sounds like he handled this poorly, even more poorly than I did, which makes me feel
00:07:06.480 a little bit better about myself and his line that he couldn't get you a gift because he
00:07:13.220 doesn't have time to think of it like you do because he works.
00:07:17.380 That I got to tell you guys, that's not going to that's not going to dig you out of the
00:07:21.780 hole.
00:07:22.040 OK, that's not going to get you out of the doghouse, something like that.
00:07:25.140 You got to do better than that.
00:07:26.320 So no question he screwed up and now he's making excuses.
00:07:29.860 And that only worsens the situation as excuses always do.
00:07:32.560 That said, you carry some blame here, too.
00:07:35.520 So I have to tell you, you're not entirely innocent.
00:07:39.660 If men are sometimes prone to forgetting important dates, which we are, you're doing the thing
00:07:45.220 that women are prone to do sometimes, which is saying passive aggressive things while pretending 1.00
00:07:51.160 not to be angry when in reality you're seething with anger.
00:07:56.960 I'm OK.
00:07:57.560 It's fine.
00:07:58.140 I'm used to it.
00:07:59.040 Anyway, you always do this.
00:08:00.760 So it's whatever you always do.
00:08:02.020 So it's no big deal.
00:08:02.960 Whatever.
00:08:03.240 It's fine.
00:08:04.140 I mean, I knew you'd disappoint me.
00:08:05.200 And it's like, I mean, I'm totally used to it.
00:08:06.480 So it doesn't even matter because you always disappoint me.
00:08:08.840 Just stop that.
00:08:09.980 Stop it.
00:08:11.040 Get some help.
00:08:11.940 Just cut that out.
00:08:13.360 You're obviously mad.
00:08:15.180 Say that you're mad.
00:08:16.560 Be honest about how you feel.
00:08:18.640 Explain how you feel.
00:08:19.460 Don't expect him to read your mind.
00:08:20.660 Tell him how you feel.
00:08:21.620 Just present your feelings in an honest and straightforward way.
00:08:25.460 Yeah, he's on thin ice getting mad at you considering he's the one who screwed up.
00:08:28.520 But at the same time, see, guys always get mad at the passive-aggressive thing from women. 0.67
00:08:35.480 See, that always pisses us off more.
00:08:37.500 And you, as the woman, you know that.
00:08:40.680 And that's why you're doing it.
00:08:41.860 So you are intentionally reacting in a way that is going to heighten the tension and heighten the anger while pretending that you're being the reasonable one.
00:08:51.960 And that makes him even more angry.
00:08:56.420 So cut that out.
00:08:58.320 Be direct.
00:08:59.920 And that's it.
00:09:02.160 All right.
00:09:03.460 Let's see.
00:09:04.600 Next one says, my girlfriend confessed that she used to sleep with married men and doesn't feel bad about it.
00:09:11.160 Unsure of how to handle this.
00:09:13.100 You break up with her.
00:09:14.260 Next question.
00:09:14.980 Bye, Felicia.
00:09:15.800 She's a bad person. 0.96
00:09:17.040 She has the morals of, like, a lizard. 1.00
00:09:19.160 So just break up with her.
00:09:20.820 Should I ask my girlfriend to delete intimate pictures of her and her ex from her phone?
00:09:28.060 Yes.
00:09:29.360 Actually, you're not asking.
00:09:30.660 You're saying, get that crap off your phone right now.
00:09:34.700 Or I'm gone.
00:09:36.140 You can choose.
00:09:37.940 Let's see.
00:09:38.920 Okay.
00:09:39.340 Finally, this is a good one.
00:09:41.980 This is kind of a story.
00:09:43.080 So you've got it.
00:09:43.560 This is an epic adventure of a question.
00:09:48.080 Says, I woke up to a text from my fiance.
00:09:50.580 Saying, please call me.
00:09:52.100 I'm cleared from work for two weeks.
00:09:53.720 I just have to see this in person.
00:09:55.340 This may be the biggest thing to ever happen in history.
00:09:58.040 Of course, I called him expecting him to say June fools or something like that.
00:10:02.320 But no.
00:10:03.120 He explained that he's heard on multiple podcasts and news sites that the government is going to make a major announcement about UFOs in the first part of June.
00:10:10.720 He really wanted to see it in person.
00:10:12.760 I like to think he heard one of the podcasts he was listening to is mine.
00:10:16.480 I hope so.
00:10:18.040 I just want to know that I'm making that kind of impact in the world.
00:10:21.180 I asked all the normal questions a loving fiance should ask, like, what in the F have you lost your damn mind?
00:10:27.160 And when I was done with that line of questioning, I got into making sure he had a place to stay, that he was traveling safe, etc.
00:10:33.300 If I'm being honest, he had normal answers to all the questions.
00:10:36.900 And it sounded like this was something he earnestly felt like he has to be a part of.
00:10:40.200 I know UFOs have been a hobby of his since he was a young kid, but I never thought he'd disappear from our bed at 5 a.m.
00:10:47.180 to drive across the country to see something that very likely might not happen.
00:10:50.720 Just to fill in some info, we live in Arizona.
00:10:53.740 Wow.
00:10:54.380 I'm from Arizona.
00:10:56.760 So driving to D.C. is no small task.
00:10:59.320 He works for a major tech company and just got assigned to a huge project, which really could propel him to the next level if he's successful.
00:11:05.300 But his new boss is also his good friend.
00:11:07.240 And I suspect he'll work from D.C. as opposed to taking all two weeks of his vacation time.
00:11:10.880 He has a metric ton of Hilton hotel points, so it won't cost him to stay.
00:11:13.860 Honestly, if it weren't for the space alien part of this, he could have told me he had to leave last minute for work.
00:11:19.580 And I wouldn't have thought twice about this except for missing him.
00:11:22.500 I don't plan on breaking up with him over this, but I would love some other people's thoughts.
00:11:26.500 I can't actually call my mom, sister, or friends and say,
00:11:31.160 Hey, Ryan wants to be there when Biden shakes hands with the aliens so he left in the middle of the night.
00:11:36.020 How was your day?
00:11:37.880 Why can't you say that?
00:11:39.220 I don't understand why you can't say that.
00:11:41.600 I got to tell you, I'm with your fiance on this one.
00:11:44.020 I think he's in the right.
00:11:45.360 What's the problem?
00:11:46.100 He's got his head on straight.
00:11:47.800 He's one of the few people who do.
00:11:50.440 He is treating this issue with the seriousness it deserves.
00:11:55.080 Don't be angry at him.
00:11:56.940 Don't subject him to discrimination just because he's an alien-believing American.
00:12:01.320 We're a persecuted, marginalized minority group.
00:12:03.440 We deal with enough of that already.
00:12:05.280 We can't deal with it also from our own loved ones.
00:12:09.840 The aliens are here.
00:12:11.820 We're not alone.
00:12:12.800 They are here now.
00:12:14.240 He's the only guy in the country reacting the way that he should.
00:12:18.680 He's the sane one.
00:12:20.160 Why aren't you in D.C.
00:12:22.240 waiting for this moment?
00:12:23.280 That's what I call a close encounter.
00:12:25.360 So, may God be with him in his quest and be with you in your coming marriage,
00:12:32.340 which I'm sure will be eventful, if nothing else.