She Slept With Her Celebrity Crush？! Uncovering Reddit's Worst Horror Stories
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Summary
In today's episode, I'll be delivering some sage advice to some lost souls, the hopelessly lost souls imaginable, who are having a tough time mentally and crying about it. I'll go through a few of these, and give advice on how to deal with it.
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okay so today i'll be delivering some uh sage advice or at least at least reasonably defensible
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advice to some lost souls the uh the most hopelessly lost souls imaginable who are the
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ones on reddit so we'll go through a couple of these from these are from various reddit forums
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am i for not feeling anything when my girlfriend cries i 26 male have been dating my girlfriend 25
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female for a little over three years now during the last two years she's been going through a
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rough time mentally, has had quite a few problems regarding her education. Because of this, she's
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been very emotionally unstable, which includes her crying about anything and everything. She would
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cry even if even the smallest thing didn't go according to her plan and act irrationally about
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a lot of things. In the beginning, I tried to be as supportive as possible, talk over the things
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with her, try to understand her side of it. I would cuddle her for hours until she felt better
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and then repeat the same routine day in and day out for many, many months. Dear God. It's been
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about two years of this now where I've tried to push her into talking about it with psychiatrists
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which she adamantly agreed to but stopped every single visit which she didn't feel a good connection
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with that person which I think is totally valid but now I'm having a hard time getting her to
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find another one since she doesn't believe that she can find someone who would actually try to
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help her. I'm starting to feel numb when she cries because it's been happening so often about things
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I have such a hard time relating to. I feel so for this and I wish that this wasn't the case
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but I'm starting to just feel annoyed whenever she cries over the smallest thing that most people
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would just shrug their shoulders over. Really love her. And I don't want to end up possibly
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resenting her for this behavior, but I really don't know what to do. I feel so horrible with,
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with how my mind thinks about the current situation. Uh, so in my, I mean, you are
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for, for continuing to date this, uh, this person, I don't mean to spoil the ending here,
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but the obvious answer is that you should break up with this crazy broad. You're only dating her.
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you have no commitment to her you don't owe her anything your relationship is barely even real
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so just break up with her like if you're just dating someone it's barely real you're not engaged
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and you're not married it barely exists it's that's why you're not supposed to date for very
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long you date for a short amount of time and then you get engaged and then it's more real
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and then you get married and now it's very real but before that it's hardly even real like it's
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You want to graduate to something that's not trivial.
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So the answer to a situation, I'm dating someone and they're behaving horribly and they make me feel terrible to be around them.
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Now, as to the specifics of the situation, which are academic because you should just break up with her.
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But people who are having a tough time mentally and let everyone around them know about it
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by having meltdowns and crying and, you know, making everything about themselves,
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those people are what is known as narcissistic.
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And she is doing what narcissistic do, which is making herself the main character
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and then using manipulation and emotional blackmail against you if you dare say anything about it,
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or even if you simply fail to react exactly as she prefers.
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So you feel bad for having a very human, normal reaction to all of this.
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And the human, normal reaction is to be annoyed.
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It's annoying to be around someone who's constantly crying and whining and complaining and carrying on.
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Even if on paper you're with someone who has a valid reason to cry and whine and complain, it still gets annoying after a while.
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But your girlfriend doesn't have any valid reason. So it's doubly annoying. I mean, think of it this
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way. What if your girlfriend got into a car accident and lost her leg? Well, that's a very
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valid, very good reason to be upset. Anyone would be. I'd be upset if I lost my leg. You would be
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upset. Anybody would be upset. But even then, if for months or even years, every time you were
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around her. Every day she complained about having one leg. If every occasion had the joy sucked out
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of it because she's constantly reminding you about her missing leg, if she was constantly using it
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to gain pity, then even then, after a while and not that long, to be honest, it would get to be
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too much. You would be frustrated, even though it's a serious complaint. It's an understandable
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complaint. But even then, after a while, you would say, okay, I get it. Like, no, I get that you lost
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a leg. It does suck. I understand. But we have to live our lives now. I mean, not every single
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second of the day can be about that. I'm sorry. You're not the only person who exists in the
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world. You're not. So then what do you say about people who take burdens that are incredibly light
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by comparison, which is what so many people do these days? Of course, take these burdens that
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are like almost non-existent and exaggerate them and then make those exaggerated burdens
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Well, what we say is that, or what we should say is not even that, oh, you should see a
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You see all these relationship problems people have, they always say this, that, well, I've
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recommended they go see a therapist. I got news for you. That's probably not going to do anything.
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Okay. Therapists and psychiatrists are not these like magical witch doctors who can sprinkle fairy
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dust over a person and make them not narcissistic anymore. In fact, it works the opposite way.
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Most of the time, your girlfriend's problem is that she only thinks about herself.
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She only talks about her problems. That's all she cares about. She's not alone in this. There's like
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millions of people in the world who are like this well going to a place where you're paying someone
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to just listen to you drone on about your bullshit problems for an hour every week
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that is just feeding the beast that's you doing more of the thing you should not be doing anymore
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so that's not gonna that's not gonna solve the problem uh she has a character defect
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she is morally defective people like this are bad people it's not just oh she's struggling
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with mental health no she's actually a bad person she's a selfish narcissistic bad person
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and uh and so you should just break up with her okay and leave her to sort her own problems out
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people like that like eventually you just have to be people who are aggressively selfish and
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alienate everybody around them. If there's any hope for them, the only hope is that they end up
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alone and nobody wants anything to do with them. And maybe that's their wake up call. If you act
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that way, you don't deserve to have a boyfriend or a husband or a friend. You don't deserve to
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have anybody in your life. You're a horrible person. Nobody wants to be around you. So you
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should just end up alone and miserable. And maybe then it'll be a wake up call. You'll improve. And
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Am I the a**hole for telling a kid at the sleepover to stop acting like a brat?
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My wife's out of town, so breakfast Monday morning was me, the four of them, and my daughter.
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your wife's out of town and you need to sleep over that that's why would you do that to yourself
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why would you do it your wife's out of town and you're having all these kids over that you have
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to why would you why would you do your wife's out of town and you're adding more kids into the mix
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for you to take care of why would you do that why would you ever do that uh i did not want to make
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breakfast for six people so i ordered a catering box from a breakfast place the night before it
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It came with 12 bagels, three types of cream cheese, butter and sliced onions, cucumbers and
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tomatoes. I figured that was plenty of food for six people. Monday morning, I picked up the box.
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I had selected to get six plain, three onion, three everything bagels. Okay, who cares what
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breakfast order. When the boys came down, one of my son's friends asked why there weren't any more
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sesame bagels. I said there was only one that had gone to the daughter, apparently. He asked why she
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got it. I said because she came downstairs first. He said that wasn't fair. I said there are plenty
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bagels, just take one. He asked why I only ordered one sesame bagel. I said, I didn't.
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It was extra. He asked why I didn't order any. And I said, I didn't realize they were
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so popular. This kid kept going on and on about how he wanted a sesame bagel. And it
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wasn't fair that my daughter got one and he didn't since he's a guest. At this point,
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my daughter is already eating the bagel. So it's a theoretical conversation now. I said
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to the kid, just pick a bagel. He said he didn't want a plain onion or everything bagel.
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I said a plain bagel is just a sesame bagel. Oh my gosh, this goes on forever. I told the
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kid to stop acting like a brat and eat a bagel or go to school without breakfast. He said I had to
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feed him and I can't call him a brat. I said I have fed him. I can't make him eat. And so then
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fast forward after pickup that day, his mom called to get my side of the story. I told her what
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happened and she said she couldn't believe I called her kid a brat and let him go to school
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hungry. She said I should have ordered enough food for everybody. There's plenty of food. There
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were four bagels left over after breakfast. Okay. All right. So you get the point. Am I the
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So this is one of those stories that's so outrageous
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But if you know anything about parents these days
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millions of times a day all across the country.
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You go out and get breakfast for everybody. The kid complains, demands better options, complains that your daughter ate the only bagel that he wanted.
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And then later the brat's mother takes her brat's side and lectures you for being so rude to her brat.
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And this is kind of interesting, actually, because it shows the other side of the coin that people don't think about.
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Like parents today get very worried about letting their kid hang out at someone at another kid's house or especially sleep over at another kid's house.
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Parents today are much more reluctant, much more to drop their kid off at another kid's house, especially overnight, but really for any length of time.
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And like I said, many of those concerns are legitimate.
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At the same time, your kid needs to have friends, and he also needs to develop some independence. At a certain point, you need to be able to drop your child off somewhere, unless you plan to be his on-the-scene chaperone 24 hours a day until he's 18, which would be insane. So there has to be a balance.
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But as we see here, there's also a hazard to having other people's kids over at your house.
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You might think, well, the safer thing, I don't want to bring my kid to someone else's house.
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I don't know what's going on in that house. I don't know the parents well enough. Okay.
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I'll just have the kids over here. And so that's safer. At least I can keep an eye on things.
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And yeah, but the problem is that now you've been put in the role of guardian,
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the authority figure for these kids, these other kids, these, you know, strangers, kids
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who might not have parents who raised them to respect authority figures. And if you have to
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speak a little sternly to someone else's precious little snowflake, then you're going to have to
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deal with that snowflake's snowflake parents. And of course, teachers deal with this every single
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day. Now, of course, if the kid has good parents, then there's nothing to worry about because the
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instinct of a good parent is to take the side of the other adult in a situation like this.
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It is not to take your own child's side. This should be something that shouldn't need to be
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said, but it does. It should be obvious. But as a good parent, you do not take your child's side
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all the time. In fact, very often you don't take their side at all, especially with something like
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this. Like when I was a kid, if I had, you know, come home from a sleepover and told my parents
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that my friend's dad called me a brat, my parents would not have said, well, how could he say that
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about you? He said that about you. You're a perfect little child. How could, no, the first
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thing they would say is, what the hell did you do? What did you do that to be called a brat?
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What were you doing over there that warranted, that provoked that, that comment?
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And I'd be the same way with my kids. If my kids came home and they were at, you know,
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they were at someone's house and they had some, some, a guardian and they had an interaction like
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that my first reaction would be, what did you do? What did you do? Now, of course, my kids
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wouldn't be called brats by other adults because they know very well that when they are guests in
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someone else's house or when some other adult is temporarily in charge of them in some capacity,
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they damn well better behave themselves and be nothing but polite and respectful. They better
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be better for that other adult than they are for us. If I found out that my son complained,
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complained about a meal that someone served him when he was a guest in their house,
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complained about it, it would be the worst mistake of his life. I cannot imagine that.
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Having a child who would complain, you're being served a meal in someone's house and you complain
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about it. I don't care what the meal is. This is one of the golden rules of childhood, at least
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scrambled eggs that I swear to you, it tasted like dog meat. To this day, I think they may
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have served dog. I don't know what dogs taste like. I ate these scrambled eggs. I don't know
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if the eggs were rotten. I don't know if they were trying to poison me. I didn't know scrambled
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eggs could taste like that. I mean, scrambled eggs are kind of like, there's not a lot of
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variation in how they taste. These were rancid. They were rancid, rancid scrambled eggs.
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it really did taste, it tastes like a wet dog. Like, did they kill a dog and put them in the
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eggs? I could barely stomach it, but you know what? I ate the whole damn plate because I knew
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well, I knew if I didn't eat it, if I refused it, if I threw it away and that got back to my
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parents, I was in trouble. So I ate the whole damn thing. And that's the attitude that your
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kids should have. So anyway, no, you aren't the kid was acting like a brat and that's what you
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called him. You know, I, some kids need to be called brats. Like there are kids that are brats
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need to tell him to be, that he's a brat, then you have failed. You have failed as a parent.
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All right. Finally, my girlfriend slept with her celebrity crush.
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I'm still in shock. I'm heartbroken. My girlfriend and I have been dating for four years. We lived
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together. During that time, she's been obsessed with a very minor YouTube musician. He has a few
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videos with a couple million views and a small following. During our entire relationship, she
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has always claimed that he was her exception. I always assumed it was a joke. I'd fire right back
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with my celebrity crush we went on tour and played in the city near us at a small venue she went with
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a co-worker to see him after the concert she didn't come home that night or answer my texts
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i assume she slept over the co-workers co-workers since she lives closer to the venue she came home
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the next morning and didn't talk about the concert much i asked questions got vague answers
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later that day she broke the news she said it with a smile on her face as though i was going
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to be happy and excited for her. I'm heartbroken. I was yelling. We were both crying. She said she
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didn't know how I'd react, but she didn't think it would be this extreme. She said, I always knew
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he was her exception. I didn't think she was serious. I'm currently staying in a motel and
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I don't know what to do. I love her so much, but I can't think about her without thinking about what
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she did. She has tainted my memory of her. I cannot help but think that she clearly does not
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love me unconditionally. Oh, you think? My girlfriend went out and had sex with this guy.
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I can't help but think she might not love. I can't. I know it's a crazy thought, but she might
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not love me unconditionally. I can't help. I have this sneaking suspicion. Okay, well, you know what
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my answer is. We already covered it, but break up. Time to break up. Do not pass go. Do not collect
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$200. Go straight to breaking up. Easy call. Nothing to think about. Nothing to weigh. The
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only complicating factor is that you live together, which is a retarded decision. This is why you
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shouldn't be playing house. Like people think it's old fashioned when I say, or someone says,
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you know, you shouldn't live together before marriage. You shouldn't cohabitate before marriage
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and you can go out old fashioned all you want. I mean, I don't take that as an insult, but
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and it is in a sense, and I'll happily admit that it's also just even taking the morality out of it
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which we really can't do. It's just, it's a, it's a, practically speaking, it's a bad strategy.
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Okay. You guys have made no commitment to each other at all. You aren't married. You've exchanged
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no vows. You're not actually tied to each other in any way. And yet you live together. You have
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a place that you share, that you call home. I mean, why? If you didn't live together and this
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happened then breaking up would be a lot easier like you wouldn't have to ever see her again you
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could just break up over the you could send her a text message and that'd be it but now you share
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a place you have to move out you're at a motel you're at no that's what should happen when you're
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45 years old and there's an affair like there's an affair and you're married and now you're at a motel
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but you are well we didn't get the age but you're not even married and you're at a motel now
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and the worst part is even though the woman you're with uh who you live with was all was
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out all night having sex with some other guy she did not actually have an affair i mean it feels
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like she did, but she didn't because you aren't married. She actually has not made any binding
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promises to you at all. There is no vow being broken. There's no family being betrayed. It was
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still wrong what she did, obviously, but she didn't violate an oath or break a vow because
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there wasn't one to break, which is why you shouldn't be living together, which is why you
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shouldn't be with someone and dating them for four years to begin with, and you certainly shouldn't
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be moving in with, that is classic putting the cart before the horse scenario. And also for the
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record, this is why I've never been on board with the whole celebrity crush thing. You know, even
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married people, you hear married people sometimes talk about, oh, it's my celebrity crush. And I
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guess you're supposed to be like jealous and possessive if you have a problem with that. But
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have crushes on other people when you're married
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and they weren't married in this case but the point
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because the idea that a crush is okay, as long as the person is famous, it's like,
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I've never understood that. So if your wife comes to you and says, oh, I have a crush on,
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my celebrity crush is, I don't know, who's a typical male celebrity that women would find
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attractive these days? I don't, I don't even know. Brad, I was going to say Brad Pitt,
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but is it still Brad Pitt? Brad Pitt was 30 years ago. Is there not like a new Brad Pitt?
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I guess there isn't. I mean, it's a whole other topic, but Timothy Chalamet, is it him?
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I don't think so. Who's the new Brad Pitt? Like 30 years ago, it was like, oh, you know,
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like the stereotypical attractive male celebrity would have been just Brad Pitt. And now 30 years
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later, it's still Brad Pitt. That's kind of tells you something about Hollywood. Anyway. Okay. So
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your wife comes up to you and says, my celebrity crush is Brad Pitt. And you're supposed to be
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okay with that? No, that's emasculating. That's like a betrayal. It really is. And if you think
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that I'm being ridiculous, well, what if she came to you and said, you know, my crush is my fitness
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instructor, which your first problem was allowing your wife to have a male fitness instructor.
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I think affairs happen in that scenario, like 97% of the time, I think statistically. I don't
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have the stats in front of me. I think not, I think when a, when a married woman has a male
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fitness instructor, 97% of the time they're having an affair and the other 3% there, the affair just
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hasn't started yet. But anyway, so if she said that you would be understandably upset, even if
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she said, Oh no, I would never do anything. I just mean it in like a silly way. No, that would
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be a crisis in your marriage, right? It would be a crisis. But if she says some famous person,
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it's supposed to be okay. I don't get it. Um, having a crush is, um, you know, what does that
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mean? I mean, it's not just like objectively observing the fact that somebody is physically
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attractive. It's not just that crush means that there's a certain kind of, um, you're pining,
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You're pining after this person. There's a certain kind of emotional attachment to this
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person. That's what a crush is. And as a married person, you should not be pining after anyone
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who's not your spouse. And actually it is in your control. It's actually very easy to not develop
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crushes. Like what are you, 15 anyway? What are you, a grown person with a crush? What even is
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that. You're a grown married person with a crush, especially it's like, even if anything,
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it's even worse that it's a celebrity because it's so ridiculous. Anyway. Um, so that shouldn't
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happen. But, uh, in this case, um, you guys aren't even married. So, you know, in this case,
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like you're not even married. So for her to have a romantic attraction to other people is,
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you know, it's like, it kind of comes with the territory. Like when you're, when you're just
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dating, you haven't made the commitment yet. So you're, you're by the very fact that you're only
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dating means that you're still keeping your options open. It means you're not making the
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commitment. You're still sort of in the job interview process. The dating process is supposed
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to be a job interview, but, but the job interview should not last for 15 years. The job interview
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