The Matt Walsh Show - Should I Move To Another Country For A Girl？ Matt Walsh Gives Advice

00:00:00.000 We are going to take a look at some people that are in need of advice and as always we've got

00:00:04.200 some listeners who wrote in with their questions and then we've got one person who rather than

00:00:09.000 asking me for advice made the mistake of going to Reddit instead and so we'll help that person

00:00:13.720 out as well. This is from Anonymous says, hello Mr. Walsh, I was hoping you could help me with

00:00:18.440 a problem I'm having. I've been with my girlfriend for four years now, I plan on proposing to her

00:00:22.060 this year. I know, I know, I should have already done it by now, I'm a bad sweet baby. Anyway,

00:00:26.400 we've recently begun to argue quite frequently about what to watch on TV when we watch together.

00:00:31.940 She likes to watch reruns of Friends and Seinfeld or early 2000s rom-coms. Not that there's anything

00:00:36.640 wrong with that. No, of course not. I like to watch good stuff like Vikings and King of the Hill.

00:00:41.580 I'm so depressed I can't even blink. With some generally awesome movies thrown in from time to

00:00:46.500 time. She usually uses her magic woman powers of guilt to sway me into watching whatever absolute 1.00

00:00:51.880 garbage she wants to watch. She thinks I'm having bowel issues because I'm always going to the 0.98

00:00:56.220 bathroom. But I'm really just sitting on the toilet waiting for her episode of Grey's Anatomy

00:00:59.840 to end. Will I ever win this war? Is there a way to balance this issue? My flawless taste in

00:01:04.800 entertainment is being polluted by stuff like 90 Day Fiance and Big Brother. Side note, she's also 1.00

00:01:09.940 Jewish and refuses to watch Mel Gibson movies with me. I get it, but come on. I don't get it. First of 1.00

00:01:15.000 all, I don't get it at all. Because she's Jewish, you can't watch Mel Gibson? This film is anti-Semitic

00:01:18.720 and it must be stopped. If you're only going to watch films or shows that star or were made by

00:01:24.860 people who've never said anything offensive or unsavory or done anything offensive or unsavory,

00:01:29.940 you basically eliminated anything you could possibly ever watch, especially coming from 0.66

00:01:33.800 modern Hollywood. So I would even give her that argument. In general, putting Mel Gibson aside,

00:01:39.900 who, by the way, is one of the best filmmakers currently even still working in Hollywood.

00:01:42.920 If there were any justice in the world, which we know there's not, you would be given an Oscar.

00:01:47.340 With women, treat movies and shows the same way you do restaurants. 1.00

00:01:52.680 Listen, where should we go?

00:01:54.000 Anywhere you want.

00:01:55.140 Let's not think about what I want. How about anywhere you want?

00:01:58.520 It's a cliche, it's a stereotype, but it's also almost always true that women have a difficult time 1.00

00:02:03.900 deciding where they want to eat. And so, you know, I'm sure you've had this conversation before,

00:02:08.060 where you're in the car, right, where you're deciding what you want to get on Uber Eats or something,

00:02:10.960 and you ask her, oh, what do you want? And so, I don't know, you pick. And then you say,

00:02:15.080 okay, well, then here, we'll go to Outback Steakhouse. Oh, I don't want that. Okay,

00:02:19.460 well, instead, okay, we'll go here and say, oh, I don't want that. So she won't give you a clear

00:02:22.980 idea of what she wants, but at the same time, if you throw an idea, she doesn't like that.

00:02:27.460 And then you just have this back and forth. That's why when it comes to when you're going out to eat,

00:02:32.100 and this is what I, and I've, I learned this lesson a long time ago. And so if I'm going out with my wife,

00:02:36.560 we don't even have a conversation anymore about where we're going.

00:02:38.980 I'll make the reservations and I'll say, okay, you know, can you get the babysitter for Friday

00:02:44.180 night at six o'clock? And then she'll do that. You know, she takes care of that. And then I go,

00:02:49.360 I make a reservation somewhere and she doesn't even know where we're going until we get there a lot

00:02:52.960 of the times. And it works out. I pick a place that I know she'll like. It's not like I'm only

00:02:57.220 trying to pick stuff that I'll like. I'll pick a place that I know that she'll like. We don't have

00:03:00.340 to have an argument about where we're going. I take care of that. I take the lead on that.

00:03:04.140 She appreciates that more. And really from her perspective, it's like I've taken care of,

00:03:08.200 so you don't have to worry about where we're going to eat.

00:03:10.300 Who ordered this?

00:03:11.400 The gentleman did, ma'am.

00:03:12.560 Most people generally understand that with restaurants, you know, and I think probably

00:03:16.160 most women wouldn't disagree with what I just said. It's a little bit more controversial

00:03:19.780 with movies and TV shows, but I think I try to adopt, I think you have to adopt a similar

00:03:23.900 attitude where it's like, you can come up with shows that you know she'll like,

00:03:28.840 or at least she should like them. And so you just got to take the lead on that and say,

00:03:34.060 listen, here's a good show. We're just going to put it on. If I describe it to you,

00:03:38.940 you might think you won't like it, but I think you will. So let's just watch it. And you just

00:03:43.760 take charge of you. Take that remote. You put it on and that's it. Okay. Now it's a little bit

00:03:49.080 awkward that I'm giving this advice today after I just admitted on the show that that's what I did

00:03:53.180 on Valentine's Day. And I put on a 1990s Kurt Russell action flick on Valentine's when she

00:03:58.160 wanted a romantic comedy. I'll admit that that, like I thought she would like it. Ultimately,

00:04:02.760 it wasn't a big hit. You're not going to, you're not going to bat a thousand on this thing. You're

00:04:06.700 going to make mistakes. It happens. But in general, take charge, take the remote, put on what you know

00:04:14.320 you both will like. All the advice I've just given you, take it at your own peril. That's all.

00:04:20.740 That's the case for all this. I don't, I don't take any responsibility. If I give advice and you,

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00:05:47.980 From Samantha says, Aloha, sweet daddy. My future mother-in-law recently shared that my fiance's

00:05:53.840 sisters and their husbands had all gone out to a strip club together, buying each other dances 0.99

00:05:58.420 and delighting in how the big girls could make it to the top of the pole. From her perspective, 1.00

00:06:02.640 this was a wonderful, normal bonding experience. I was too aghast to respond. And after she left,

00:06:08.220 I asked my boyfriend what he thought about it. He simply said he would never want to go to a strip

00:06:11.840 club with his family because it would be awkward. While this was an encouraging response, I haven't

00:06:15.440 been able to let it go. I don't mean to add to your problems. I don't know how encouraging that

00:06:20.820 response is actually. I would never want to go to a strip club with my family because it would be 0.98

00:06:25.680 awkward. Now, correct. I can't imagine anything more awkward than that. And you shouldn't want to

00:06:31.960 go to a strip club with your family. More encouraging response is, I don't want to go to a strip club at

00:06:36.820 all. Maybe that's the conversation you want to have with him. Although I've always known his

00:06:39.860 family was more lewd and promiscuous than mine, the new level of debasement, debauchery, and

00:06:43.360 dysfunction the strip club snafu reveals makes me extremely uncomfortable. I'm now even more

00:06:47.420 concerned about future outings with these people, and I certainly wouldn't want to rear our future

00:06:51.080 children around this sort of immorality and insanity. My boyfriend is extremely kind and isn't the type of

00:06:55.320 person to criticize his family. Is there a way to broach this type of topic without directly

00:06:59.040 criticizing his sisters, their marriages, and their morality? Am I making a mountain out of

00:07:02.740 molehill? You're not making a mountain out of molehill at all. I mean, this is disgusting.

00:07:06.900 First of all, in general, going to a strip club in general, it's like dirty, grimy, disgusting 0.99

00:07:11.820 places where you've got these drug-addled women who are up on the pole and everything. You shouldn't 1.00

00:07:18.480 even really have any desire to go to a place. I think it's sitting around with other creepy

00:07:23.160 weirdos watching this. It's disgusting in general to go with your family or go with your spouse. I mean, 0.71

00:07:30.880 just levels of disgust. It's like you take something that's already gross and just add

00:07:34.320 levels of grossness on top of it. And so you're not at all wrong for seeing it that way. And it

00:07:41.460 does reveal something about his family. It doesn't mean you hold it against your fiance. He wasn't the

00:07:47.920 one who was there. And it sounds like he objects as well, but it's good information for you to know.

00:07:52.380 Can you broach this topic with him without directly criticizing his sisters and their marriages?

00:07:55.940 No, you can't. Any attempt to broach it without being direct about it, I think, is not going to

00:08:02.800 get you the result that you want. I mean, you have to address this head on, especially with him.

00:08:07.260 It doesn't mean you're berating him about it or taking it out on him. Certainly,

00:08:10.200 you don't want to do that. It sounds like you're not doing that, but just be direct. Like,

00:08:13.600 this is wrong. It's gross. It reveals something about these people that I'm very uncomfortable with.

00:08:18.660 When we have kids, you know, this is something I'm going to take into account. Like,

00:08:22.780 I wouldn't leave my kids with these people, given that their value system is so wildly

00:08:27.620 separated from your own. And so I think that's something that you want to tell him and just

00:08:31.500 be upfront about. And based on what you've told me, it sounds like he wouldn't even necessarily

00:08:35.080 disagree. This is from Matthew says, I'm an 18-year-old from South Australia. About six to

00:08:40.720 seven months ago, I started talking to this girl, call her Eliza, from Minnesota, who I followed on

00:08:45.080 Instagram because she always posts epic-based things to her story, a lot of which concerned you.

00:08:50.020 We've been talking ever since, and it's been really fantastic. I've never met anyone who not

00:08:54.140 only has such similar views and values to me, but with whom I can relate so deeply and thoroughly.

00:08:58.940 I'm certain that she is the perfect match for me. To this end, I've decided that I'm willing to,

00:09:02.080 at some point, when appropriate, move to Minnesota and do all that I can to be with her.

00:09:06.700 Fortunately for me, she has a boyfriend right now, but I've spotted some misalignments in their

00:09:10.180 beliefs and hence problems for their future. She's also said herself that I would be better for her,

00:09:15.260 but she pictures it like those tragic books where the main character doesn't get to marry the right

00:09:19.080 guy. I'm 100% ready to wait for this girl, and I've actually already turned down several offers

00:09:23.200 from other girls in South Australia. I've been told by people, including my mother, most recently

00:09:27.560 last night, that I shouldn't put all my eggs in one basket. I responded that she's telling me to

00:09:30.960 settle, with which she disagreed. Is waiting the right move? Am I wasting my time? Is everyone who

00:09:35.360 is saying long distance doesn't work right? I know it doesn't, but I haven't had a break in

00:09:39.700 conversation with this girl in seven months. What do I do? Wait, get over there and try to win 1.00

00:09:43.680 her over. Give up. I'm in a difficult spot. Thank you, Papa. You're a bloody legend. Love

00:09:48.200 your work, mate. Papa's sweet daddy. Walsh is fine. I'm going to give you the bad news then,

00:09:54.480 unfortunately. Matthew, great name. And that is that the issue is not that it's long distance.

00:10:01.260 Let me say that to begin with. Long distance relationships can be fine. They can work. And

00:10:05.720 in the modern age, when you can be in contact with someone, and even Australia to Minnesota is quite a

00:10:11.600 long flight, but you can get on a plane and fly and be there. What doesn't work is that she has

00:10:16.520 a boyfriend and she's talking to you. And that she's been talking to you, what, for six, seven

00:10:20.020 months, and she's had a boyfriend the whole time. And she's even saying to you, and we can't even

00:10:24.040 let her off the hook here by saying, well, maybe she doesn't realize what this is. She doesn't

00:10:29.000 realize you have feelings for her. It sounds like you both have had frank conversations and she's

00:10:33.060 told you, oh, it's one of those books where you're the right guy, but I'm with this guy and I

00:10:37.240 can't. That is what tells me that you are unfortunately wasting your time with her. And

00:10:42.040 there are girls in your life who, you know, and you're rejecting them in favor of this other girl

00:10:49.880 who's with a boyfriend. Uh, you know, I think that's a very bad idea. And to move from Australia

00:10:55.820 to Minnesota for this person who has a boyfriend is also really bad. And let me tell you why, you

00:11:01.940 know, it's not that you're wasting your time waiting, like more than likely, in fact, not more than

00:11:05.580 likely. Guaranteed this girl will eventually break up with this guy that she's with. I know 0.99

00:11:11.900 that based on her behavior, it's not going to last. Okay. So that's going to, so yeah, I don't

00:11:15.720 mean to encourage you by saying that, but she will break up with him, but she has revealed something

00:11:19.440 about her character. It is so bad. So maybe her political values line up with you. Maybe your

00:11:24.600 ideological values line up with you. She's a fan of mine, which is great. Okay. That's a big plus

00:11:29.640 in her corner there. That's one for the win column. But, um, even so the fact that she's

00:11:38.780 with someone and yet she's talking to you, uh, which is, which is betraying the person that she's

00:11:43.240 with. It's dis it's dishonest to that, to that guy. And she's also stringing you along at the same 0.85

00:11:48.660 time. Oh, this is like a romance novel. No, it's not. It's real life. And what she's doing,

00:11:52.960 she's playing games with you and stringing you along. And she's lying to the guy that she's with. 0.56

00:11:56.600 And I can guarantee you, even if she leaves that guy eventually, and she decides that she wants to 0.60

00:12:01.020 be with you, how do you know she's not going to do the same damn thing to you? In fact, you can be

00:12:04.640 pretty sure that she will. And, and, and, um, you think that you're going to be so grateful and

00:12:10.460 relieved if you ever won the day, you know, you win the girl and you get to be happily ever after.

00:12:15.020 What's going to happen is you're going to always be thinking about those six, seven months when you

00:12:19.720 were talking to her and telling her all your feelings. And she was talking to you while she was dating

00:12:23.780 somebody else. And you're always going to be wondering, is she doing that now with some other

00:12:27.280 guy? Okay. So that's why this person is not worth it. You need to move on. I hate to give you the bad

00:12:35.020 news and actually I think we'll leave it there. We'll, uh, we don't even need to move on to Reddit.

00:12:39.140 I've already given some bad news and, and, uh, something we should all just take some time to let sink in.

00:12:43.840 Sometimes I feel I've got to run away.

The Matt Walsh Show - March 11, 2023

Should I Move To Another Country For A Girl？ Matt Walsh Gives Advice

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