The Matt Walsh Show - This Country’s Dating Culture Is Falling Apart FAST

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00:00:30.000 So last week I did a video on how dating apps are a scam that are destroying, you know, the dating pool and making life very difficult for young people, young men in particular, which is obvious to anyone who's actually paying attention.

00:00:43.360 There's no question that the dating culture in this country is a catastrophe. 0.99

00:00:51.340 A lot of people responded with their own thoughts, their own dating advice, their responses, and some of the responses were smart, some were stupid. 0.99

00:01:00.000 and we're going to read through a collection of both. First up is Melvin Dean, who wrote, 0.97

00:01:06.700 as a young man, I decided that I needed to stop depending on dating apps to find a relationship.

00:01:10.220 I have to start walking up to women I find attractive because at the end of the day,

00:01:13.220 I'd rather embarrass myself than to regret what possibly could have been a genuine connection.

00:01:19.300 Yeah, I think that is the answer in many cases. Not an easy thing to do.

00:01:23.480 I can't really give advice on how to do it. I'm not going to pretend that I can.

00:01:27.340 approaching random people to strike up conversations has never been my strong suit.

00:01:32.760 Also never been something I've ever really been interested in doing. Unfortunately, I'm married,

00:01:36.980 so I don't have the same pressure to do that. I'm more likely to be on the receiving end of

00:01:41.900 unsolicited conversations these days than to ever solicit them. But anyway, I mean,

00:01:49.080 the ultimate solution is to revert back to the real world. And I think the huge challenge,

00:01:55.200 additional challenge, is that when you approach somebody in the real world,

00:02:03.320 and I don't say this to dissuade you, but just to recognize the challenges, the challenge is that

00:02:09.080 you're not competing with just the real world. You're talking to a woman who's right in front

00:02:14.640 of you maybe, but she's also on dating apps. And so you're competing with all that. And this is

00:02:19.900 why it was just better when none of that stuff existed. Now, when we talked about dating apps,

00:02:24.640 I started that conversation by saying I met my wife online in the early days, in the primitive

00:02:30.040 early days, the caveman days of online dating. So it's maybe seems hypocritical for me to say

00:02:38.280 we'd be better off without any of this stuff. The point is, this is the world we're in now,

00:02:42.920 and so this stuff exists. And if you can utilize it to your benefit, then you should. I did.

00:02:48.740 But if I could snap my fingers and just make it so that none of this stuff exists,

00:02:52.460 I wouldn't stop my fingers and make it so that it never existed because then I would never would

00:02:55.820 have gotten married but um if I could now make it so that it doesn't exist I think I would I think

00:03:01.000 it'd be better for for everybody um one of the things that it does like when you're before the

00:03:07.900 this has been one of my criticisms of dating apps especially the way they work now because you know

00:03:14.120 back 15 years ago you meet somebody online I talked about this like eHarmony you fill out a

00:03:19.540 long questionnaire. You had to put a lot of time and effort into it. And then when you were like

00:03:25.620 going through on the site, you'd go to somebody's profile and you'd see all this information about

00:03:30.440 them and you'd see the picture. Uh, what you didn't have back in the, in the dark ages was

00:03:36.200 the app on your phone where you're just swiping and you're making determinations based on nothing

00:03:41.080 but really write the picture. Um, and that's what you have now. And so there are, it's just

00:03:47.560 people are making determinations visually really quickly, which for women in particular

00:03:53.800 is not natural. Women are not as visual as men, but the dating market has sort of reprogrammed

00:04:01.060 women's brains so that they're making determinations on, um, a potential mate 0.97

00:04:07.160 based on a visual, a quick visual examination, which, as I said, during that video, it's like, 0.93

00:04:13.600 If you're a guy and you're not strikingly handsome, if you're an ugly ogre like me, well, it puts you at a disadvantage because in the past, it's like, well, maybe you have that.

00:04:30.180 That's the downside.

00:04:31.860 But before they add to the dating apps, all you're going to do is meet women in the real world.

00:04:36.020 And so then you have a chance to compensate for the looks department by if you're smart, if you're funny, if you've got a good personality, whatever, if you're charismatic, other things that kind of factor in right away.

00:04:50.780 But when you're making these quick determinations based on the little thing you see on the phone, none of that, you don't get a chance.

00:04:57.820 And there's also just too many choices.

00:04:59.500 There are too many options.

00:05:01.320 There's the paralysis of analysis that I talk about all the time.

00:05:04.620 you go down a grocery store aisle and you want to get mayonnaise and there's 57 different types

00:05:10.200 of mayonnaise and it's, it doesn't help. And now you went into it. You're not confused about

00:05:16.460 mayonnaise. All you know, you want mayonnaise. And next thing you know, you're looking at all

00:05:19.320 the options like, Oh God, I thought I want, I knew I want, I wanted mayonnaise and now I'm not sure

00:05:23.220 like all these different varieties. I don't know. And it's that same thing that's happening with

00:05:27.360 dating apps. I think, um, when everything was just in the real world, everyone had fewer options,

00:05:32.280 a lot fewer, which was actually better. Eric says, incels pointed this out like 10 years ago,

00:05:39.040 but now we're supposed to take it seriously now that Matt Walsh is talking about it?

00:05:42.060 Change the laws or shut up. This problem isn't going away overnight because the companies that

00:05:46.420 run these scams are worth billions. I love these kinds of responses. I make a point and somebody

00:05:53.080 goes, oh, so now you're talking about it. So now we're supposed to take it seriously just because

00:05:58.740 you said it. First of all, I never said that you should only take it seriously because I said it.

00:06:05.040 I didn't say that. Did I start that conversation by saying, everyone's talking about dating apps,

00:06:11.380 but nothing that anyone has ever said about it matters. I will tell you the only thing that

00:06:15.500 matters about this. Did I say that ever? Did I even imply it? I think I just said, hey, here are

00:06:21.980 my thoughts on this subject. This is like if I went up to you and told you, hey, it's raining

00:06:27.380 outside and you went, well, someone else already told me that. But now that you say it, now that

00:06:32.960 Matt Walsh has said it, I guess I got to go grab my umbrella, huh? It's like, dude, calm down.

00:06:41.500 Calm down, son. It's okay. I'm just telling you it's raining. That's it. If you already knew it,

00:06:46.980 then that's fine. If you already knew it, then you don't have to listen.

00:06:52.160 If you already knew it, you didn't have to click on the video and listen to it.

00:06:56.380 Because this isn't even me walking in a room saying it's raining.

00:06:58.800 This is you seeking out and clicking on a video of information that you say you already knew.

00:07:06.780 So why did you listen to it?

00:07:11.280 Anyway.

00:07:13.500 And I'm not just saying this for the first time.

00:07:15.260 This is my curse.

00:07:16.100 This is my cross to bear in life.

00:07:19.760 And maybe it's not that bad.

00:07:20.620 People have worse.

00:07:21.840 It could be worse.

00:07:22.740 But still, this is my frustration is that I'm constantly accused of saying things for the first time, even though I've been saying them forever. 0.98

00:07:31.080 I'm constantly, my curse is that I say something for like the one billionth time and I get these morons who go, oh, now you're finally saying it. 0.96

00:07:40.420 Now you're finally saying this thing you've said like every day for 15 years. 0.98

00:07:46.080 I've been talking about this with the dating, literally 15 years.

00:07:50.400 I mean, for as long as I've had any kind of platform, I've been making all of these points.

00:07:57.940 And, you know, I actually, this is, if you want a real, the real criticism of me is that I repeat myself too much.

00:08:06.100 That should be the criticism, which I think is kind of inevitable.

00:08:09.160 You have to repeat yourself.

00:08:09.900 There's only so many things to say.

00:08:13.000 It's my job to say things every day.

00:08:14.620 It's like there's only, you know, there's only about, I've found about 27 things to say.

00:08:21.540 I've counted.

00:08:23.580 There are exactly 27 things worth saying.

00:08:27.000 And so all you're doing is just reordering those things.

00:08:30.520 You're just rephrasing those things, reframing them.

00:08:34.940 Or maybe I'd say there's only 27 opinions a person can have in general.

00:08:38.880 You get 27 and they apply to everything in life.

00:08:42.040 so probably even less than that it's probably like three opinions i think everybody has three

00:08:52.020 opinions you have just like three basic opinions and you just apply to all the things happening

00:08:58.140 in the world and uh so you end up repeating yourself a lot that's the criticism of me it's

00:09:02.160 not that i'm constantly changing my view on things that's that is the opposite of my

00:09:06.700 problem. That's the, if you, you could not be farther off base if you're trying to come up

00:09:12.560 with an insult for me. Uh, all right. I was, I was someone, I was just looking, I got, I got,

00:09:24.720 there's another rash of this. I don't even know what it was in referring to, referring to,

00:09:27.880 but I went on X and just, my mentions are full of, Oh, flip-flop wall, shat it again. Flip-flopping,

00:09:32.940 flip-flopping now my problem is i i refuse to flip-flop on anything like i i'm much more likely

00:09:40.140 to cling to something stubbornly you know out of pride than i am to just put my finger in the air

00:09:47.740 and switch over to that viewpoint neither one of those things are good i'm not saying that but i

00:09:53.380 like my vice is much more the stubborn you know i'm not gonna ever change my mind thing

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00:10:55.100 or by going to expressvpn.com slash walshyt. Ziff1066 says, online dating is like shopping

00:11:02.500 on a clearance rack, nothing but XXXL and damaged goods. Yeah, it's like shopping at a,

00:11:08.420 like TJ Maxx. And you know, that's funny, kind of true, but also not, you know, because it's

00:11:16.340 actually not just fat, ugly, mentally unstable people on dating apps. I think, so if you go on 0.92

00:11:22.740 a dating app, you're like, oh, everyone's fat, ugly, and mentally unstable on the dating apps. 0.94

00:11:27.840 Well, the reality is I'm afraid more depressing than that, because the truth is that everybody 0.90

00:11:33.400 is on dating apps, right? So if everybody on the dating app appears to be fat, ugly, 0.95

00:11:38.620 and retarded, well, that's just because that's people. That's just because there's so many 1.00

00:11:46.580 people that way. You know, it's like when you go to the DMV and it's the most depressing sea of

00:11:53.540 humanity you've ever seen. Everyone, I mean, as everyone knows, the DMV is really depressing,

00:12:00.060 but it's not just because you're there for a long time and the people that work there

00:12:03.840 have no idea what they're doing. It's also just the people you're around. You walk into the DMV,

00:12:08.740 like this is the most, I'm, I'm, I'm, I want to cry. Like I might say, everyone knows how I feel

00:12:15.320 about crying in public. You're never supposed to do it. But, and I think I've listed like six

00:12:19.260 occasions where it's acceptable, acceptable for a man to cry. Maybe I'd add a seventh going into 0.81

00:12:23.500 the DMV and not because you're frustrated about how long it takes, but just you're looking around

00:12:27.340 is like, this, this, I'm, this is a tragedy. I'm looking at all these people. These people are

00:12:32.400 tragedies. Um, but then it's even more tragic because you realize that, no, well, the DMV is

00:12:39.400 one of those places where everybody has to go. It doesn't matter who you are. Everyone has to go

00:12:44.780 the DMV on it. You know, there, there are occasions where everybody has to go. And so if you look at

00:12:50.880 the DMV and everyone is like hideous and fat and gross, well, that that's just, that's what people 0.98

00:13:00.760 look like. That's what people look like. All right. Uh, weak ass comments says you wouldn't 0.98

00:13:10.200 believe the amount of conservatives and Trumpers, uh, the amount of concern. Oh, sorry. You wouldn't 0.99

00:13:15.340 believe the amount of conservatives and Trumpers don't bother that women put right on their 1.00

00:13:20.260 profiles. The first thing you see is political nonsense. And that's frighteningly common. 1.00

00:13:24.640 WTF couldn't believe it bailed pretty quickly. I think actually it's one of the upsides of

00:13:28.540 dating apps. Actually, one of the few upsides is that is when they put that, I mean, I would,

00:13:34.920 I would look at that as a mark in favor of the dating apps 1.00

00:13:39.620 is if a woman just puts right in the profile 1.00

00:13:43.000 or whatever, conservatives don't bother, that's good. 1.00

00:13:47.700 Because you get that out of the way right away

00:13:50.540 and then you don't have to waste your time.

00:13:53.580 Because otherwise, if you're dealing with some lib, 1.00

00:13:58.120 some feminist, we all know the worst thing a man can do. 1.00

00:14:01.160 I mean, the worst thing a man could do 1.00

00:14:04.920 is date and then, God forbid, marry a feminist. 0.94

00:14:07.680 The worst decision you ever make in your life. 1.00

00:14:09.720 Ruin your life.

00:14:13.960 And, but if they just put that in the profile,

00:14:18.580 well then, okay, well you can move on.

00:14:21.800 Because otherwise, you know, you go on a date

00:14:24.460 and maybe you find that out on date number five,

00:14:27.020 think about which time you've wasted.

00:14:30.120 Or God forbid you find that out

00:14:32.240 after you've already walked down the aisle.

00:14:34.920 if you find it out afterwards,

00:14:36.720 that means that you were very unobservant.

00:14:41.260 And that's why I think

00:14:42.220 even if they don't put it in the profile,

00:14:43.520 you go on a date,

00:14:44.200 you should be talking about this stuff

00:14:45.340 on the first date.

00:14:48.020 This is something I've also been saying forever.

00:14:50.980 Talk about it on the first date.

00:14:53.020 And I'm not saying you sit down

00:14:54.400 and the first thing you say is,

00:14:56.260 hey, who'd you vote for?

00:14:58.840 But as you're talking

00:15:00.940 and having a conversation,

00:15:02.280 you should find out

00:15:04.920 what their values are, what they believe in.

00:15:07.580 Find it out right away.

00:15:10.780 Because if your values don't align,

00:15:15.060 if they're misaligned at a fundamental level,

00:15:16.840 then just break it off and leave.

00:15:18.300 Don't waste any time.

00:15:19.900 You sit down on the first date,

00:15:21.120 you're having dinner or something,

00:15:22.500 and you get into this conversation 0.95

00:15:24.160 and the woman reveals that she's a feminist

00:15:26.920 or she has voted for Kamala Harris. 1.00

00:15:31.120 Just get up right then and leave.

00:15:32.900 Don't even finish the date.

00:15:34.240 There's no reason.

00:15:34.700 a total waste of time. And don't pay, because she's a feminist. She would love to pay, right? 1.00

00:15:40.660 She's a strong, independent woman, so she should love that. And just get up and leave and move on. 1.00

00:15:50.660 All right. Let's see if I'll do one more. KJ Scar says, met my wife on Tinder. Sometimes the

00:16:00.800 diamond in the rough is worth all the digging, even when the game is rigged against you.

00:16:06.020 Well, yeah, this is kind of the lesson of life in general. This is my point about all of this,

00:16:12.440 about the dating in particular, ultimately, which is that it's really hard. It's unfair.

00:16:19.200 It's stacked against you. It shouldn't be like this. All of those things are true,

00:16:25.960 but it would be better if dating apps never existed.

00:16:30.940 I mean, it wouldn't be better for me,

00:16:33.840 but it would probably be better for society ultimately

00:16:37.040 if dating apps never existed.

00:16:40.560 But they do, and this is just the situation. 1.00

00:16:44.600 I mean, we read that retarded comment early on 1.00

00:16:48.240 from someone saying, change the laws. 0.73

00:16:49.860 Stop talking about it.

00:16:50.780 Change what laws? 0.60

00:16:54.020 That's just a way of deflecting.

00:16:55.440 You know, that's a way of deflecting because you don't have an interesting point to make when someone says, oh, just change the laws or stop talking about it.

00:17:01.600 It's like I can't. First of all, I can't change any laws, actually.

00:17:06.160 I wish I could. I should be able to.

00:17:09.960 I mean, obviously, I should be the emperor of the world.

00:17:14.160 That's that's my rightful position, but I'm not, sadly.

00:17:19.100 So I can't change any laws at all.

00:17:21.840 um and even if i was in a position of power it's like it's like well what's the law ban dating apps

00:17:29.340 i mean again don't tempt me you can make you could certainly convince me of that argument

00:17:35.240 but that's not going to happen it's just not going to happen that's not a thing that is going

00:17:40.200 to happen so um this is how it is this is the way it is and what else are you going to do

00:17:46.620 um you got to get in there and look for the diamond in the rough and i don't mean on tinder

00:17:52.660 necessarily i just mean on in the dating scene in the dating pool as messed up as it is as

00:17:59.720 difficult as it is as um as i said as unfair as it is as rigged as it is

00:18:05.700 you got to get in there because what's the other option the other option is to

00:18:12.020 give up. The other option is to consign yourself to a life of loneliness,

00:18:19.180 to never have a family, to never have children,

00:18:25.140 to never experience your birthright as a man. That cannot be an option. So

00:18:33.460 get in there and make it happen. There we go. Speech over. Goodbye.

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The Matt Walsh Show - April 25, 2026

This Country’s Dating Culture Is Falling Apart FAST

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