Who's The Biggest A-Hole？ Episode 7
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss a situation where a father forgets to attend a family dinner with his ex-wife because his new wife won't allow him to go because she's afraid of ruining the family dinner. Also, a father who wants his son's last name to be changed to his own, but his son doesn't want to be named after his father.
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my family gets together once a year on thanksgiving i'm recently remarried and my wife hasn't had much
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of a chance to bond with my family due to covid and we are all looking forward to getting everyone
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together unfortunately my elderly parents just told me that they've also invited my ex-wife to
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dinner which i'm adamantly against my ex has known these people for 20 years and that familiarity and
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level of comfort will make it hard in my opinion for my new wife to fit in she insists that i could
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go without her but if she won't go uh then i'm not going to go as my place is by her side my family
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says that my wife isn't that very nice you're remaining steadfastly loyal uh to your second wife
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good that's a man of principle my family says that my wife should just suck it up and deal and that um
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if we're not there we'll ruin thanksgiving for everybody so am i the a**hole for thinking my
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ex should make other plans and not attend my family's dinner yeah you're the a**hole uh i think
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on a number for a number of reasons we're such an a**hole first is getting divorced in the first
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place and this is why you don't get divorced you just make everything complicated for everybody
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you make everything worse and everything complicated for everybody for the rest of your
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life including yourself that's what happens you get divorced and your family keep in mind when you get
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married it's it's not just you it's just the two of you are not the only ones affected you have
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families and your families are now bonded as well through this bond of marriage your parents it sounds
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like have accepted your first wife as their daughter as a member of the family and now they're supposed to
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renege on that they're supposed to reverse course just because you have their bond doesn't mean
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anything anymore just because you've decided to sever it doesn't work that way it's like when you
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you know when parents get remarried and then demand that their kids accept the new person as their
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you know mom or dad you're not my dad maybe they will but that's not their responsibility that's not
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their obligation they have a mom and dad they only need one of each as far as they're concerned
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the fact that you couldn't work out your marriage and you decided to break your wedding vows
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that's not anybody else's problem that's your problem you you figure that out
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i have a 13 month old son who has my last name because his dad wasn't interested in fatherhood
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originally he had a change of heart and tracked us down two months ago to be frank i'm still angry
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he tried to make me abort our son and then washed his hands of me when i wouldn't obey him so besides
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the financial help i'm not grateful or happy about a change of heart he asked me if i would change
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our son's last name to his it made me angry because i'm the one who wanted him i carried him
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and raised him alone until two months ago so i don't think he deserves for our son to have his last
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name however i know it would benefit our son to have a bigger connection to his father's family
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in the long run so i told him i would change his last name to his for x amount of money he was
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visibly angry and made a comment about how i wasn't as innocent as he thought and he told me i was
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very good at hiding my true colors while he did agree to give me the money he's being cold towards
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me now and i keep thinking about what he said which is making me feel like a real a-hole now
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somehow again reddit has said that this woman is not the a-hole when she clearly is now she might not
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be the a-hole because there are two a-holes the father's an a-hole like showing back up didn't want
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any one of the one of the child aborted didn't want to be part of the child's life and then you show
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up now you want to be a part of the child's life and that's good that's a good part you had a change
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of heart but then like two months later you're saying give the child my name you have to earn
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that by being present in the family now if this was a normal situation healthy situation
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where you're the father and you're there from the get-go then uh then yes if the child should
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have your your last name to begin with but not in this case however this woman you are still 100
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thousand percent the a-hole because you tried to sell your son's naming rights what is he a stadium
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why not go auction him off to a bank let's call him a pnc or wells fargo sell his forehead to uh
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best buy they could slap a logo on it and you think you're the good guy oh i know it'd be really
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important for my son to be connected to his father's family so no you're the a-hole he's the a-hole
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i'm the a-hole we're all the a-holes on this episode of am i the a-hole
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i live alone in a one-bedroom apartment recently a co-worker let's call them ally has been coming to my
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supervisor to talk and visit almost every shift they've been talking about how ally has had a
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downturn in job performance and might be laid off soon if things don't improve ally is nice and
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outgoing but not reliable when it comes to office work the past couple of days my supervisor has been
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very interested in my living situation always asking how the area is how i decorate my space
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how my relationship is with the property manager they've even started making comments
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about how lucky i am to live alone and how important community is yesterday after hours
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can we just get to the point here how much we don't need we don't need you don't need to go
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back five years in the story just get to the freaking point um okay for over a half an hour they
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went on and on about how i could let her live with me and how good it would be to carpool split expenses
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and have company at home i tried to keep the shock okay so basically your supervisor is pressuring
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you to have a co-worker move in with you as a roommate you could have just said that the whole
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rest of the story is not necessary we don't need to know what you had for breakfast that morning am i
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the a-hole well no i mean you're the a-hole for telling this long boring story but not in this
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particular situation i hear this stories from people's jobs sometimes and i'm just like what
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first of all why would you tolerate this to begin with your supervisor at your job is trying to force
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you to to to allow another person at your job to live with you i don't know if this is appropriate
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i'd better go ask reddit it's wildly inappropriate and it's definitely illegal in like 50 000 different
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ways so first thing i would do is go and get that supervisor fired and then absolutely you do not let
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this person move in with you though this is coming from someone who i would never let anyone move in
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with me as a roommate i think the whole concept of roommates to me just doesn't make any sense if
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you're getting married and you're starting a family right with someone that's one thing that's not
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really a roommate you get none of the benefit of starting a family yet you get all of the
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annoyances of having to live with other people in your house part of the problem and i don't
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no offense to the meant by this but it seems to be mostly women who use the mida whole forum on reddit
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and this is something women do and look ladies you have to realize that you do this you know if you
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have information that you want to pass on to someone you you always start way further back in the
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timeline than you need to that's the scourge of of of existence for women they're always complaining oh you
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know the men they don't remember they don't listen it's because you're giving us way too much
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information okay and that's not how our minds work we can't retain all that we we're looking for the
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