A DEI Session, Bullying, and a Tragic Suicide: Megyn Kelly Show Weekend Extra | Ep. 606
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Summary
A beloved Toronto principal, Richard Bilkstow, tragically died by suicide in July of 2019. And what led up to that decision is absolutely chilling. Meghan and Rupa talk about what they believe happened to him, and why it happened.
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Like that woman over there with the designer jeans.
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Your home for open, honest, and provocative conversations.
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And this is a story we felt you needed to hear.
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Richard Bilkstow, tragically died by suicide in July.
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And what led up to that decision is absolutely chilling.
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DEI approach that we've been forcing down the throats
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of people in our country and our neighbors to the north
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The Free Press, this is the, you know, the media group that Barry Weiss,
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our friend, started and they've been doing great reporting.
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They did an in-depth report on Richard and the DEI training sessions
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And joining me now with the story is Free Press reporter,
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because the things I'd be saying would be unacceptable.
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And while some are brave enough to push back here or there,
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and she gently, very gently pushed back saying,
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you know, I don't think the country's that racist.
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When I read it, it sounded very familiar to me.
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And he really felt that he could make a difference
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And, you know, not all of us get to live our dreams,
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but he actually got to live his dream of teaching.
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in adult education here in the province of Ontario,
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And he did this not because he needed the money,
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as a principal at an adult learning center in Toronto.
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So he signed a new contract in April of that year.
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That's when his life really began to fall apart
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because she's an important part of the story, obviously.
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And this I've pieced together from people who knew him well,
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And it's also very important to keep in mind here, Megan,
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in that Richard was very much on the progressive left.
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But it all began at the second training session
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She makes a claim that Canada is a bastion of white supremacy
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and that Black Canadians, African Canadians in Canada
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experience racism that is far worse here in Canada
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The racism is, we experience this far worse here than there.
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Like Canada's a bastion of white supremacy and colonialism.
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the very heart and soul and origins of the colonial structure.
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he had taught in an inner city high school in Buffalo,
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a school with a large African-American population.
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And he felt that this claim made by Kiki Oja Thompson
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were far more disadvantaged in the U.S. than in Canada.
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And he puts and he put that view out in the DEI session.
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He says, look, Canada, we have a lot of problems.
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But really, it's a guy kind of trying to defend
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his own country, too, saying, I've been in America.
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Like, wait, it's not worse in Canada than it is in America,
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And he's trying to rehabilitate Canada to a bit,
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And here's a little bit of what he said in top two.
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I just wanted to make a comment about the Canada-U.S. thing.
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The United States is, and we talked about facts and figures.
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and say, Canada's just as bad as the United States,
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I think we're doing an incredible disservice to our learners.
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So it's a perspective from somebody who's lived in both countries
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that any normal, open-minded person running even a DEI session
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and this is why we're in this place that we're in,
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but you and your whiteness think that you can tell me
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And as I said, you talked about facts and figures
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and, you know, listening to the facts and figures.
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And I think if everyone here looks at the facts and figures
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I'm, this is like, I hate the term, but it does work.
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we pulled our kids out of these New York City schools
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I mentioned my daughters, but my son's was over,
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And they were, they had a racial presentation there
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telling you you're a racist or that America's racist,
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if your first response is to question it in any way,
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totally right out of the Robin DiAngelo handbook.
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And this was presented to the parents at the school
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As fact, if you have any resistance to the notion
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that America's racist or you're racist as a white person,
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and you're working through like a 10 step program
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if you get beaten over the head with it enough,
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Kiki Ojo Thompson refers to the previous session.
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One would have expected someone to actually challenge her a little bit on,
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and not a single person stood up for Richard Bilkstow.
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One of the ways that white supremacy is upheld,
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I would have thought my luck would show up so well last week
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that we got perfect evidence of a wonderful example of resistance
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She loves rubbing his nose in it as she calls him a racist.
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we have to keep this in mind that Richard was dedicated his life to teaching
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surrounded by people that he had once worked with,
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he made a claim of workplace harassment to school board officials.
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this body that investigated the matter ruled in his favor,
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egregious and vexatious and rises to the level of workplace harassment and
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The school board failed to honor his contract to return as a principal that
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He had another long-term contract teaching opportunity that,
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no one wanted to associate themselves with him.
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School officials began to distance themselves from him.
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He was essentially seen as damaged goods at this point.
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and that led to his tragic suicide on July 13th,
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And I know that he was in touch with the free press prior to taking his own
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So what was his demeanor and what was he saying?
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a lawsuit and speaking to his close friends and family.
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he was generally pretty optimistic about the direction,
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but he was terrified about the legacy media getting a hold of the lawsuit.
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he feared that his name would be dragged through the mud.
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This was what terrified him in the weeks before his death.
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He was really worried that the mainstream media would call him a white
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And he was last in touch with him a day before Richard killed himself.
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he hadn't been sleeping and the stress was really getting to him.
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very close to him truly know how much he suffered.
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He may have been optimistic about the lawsuit and what,
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who just a year and a half earlier were praising him and telling him what a
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he was seen as a white supremacist and a racist.
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but they're more racist in America when it comes to the children and the,
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the education approach because of the tax districts.
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I've listened to all of the tapes that the free press got his hands on.
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would have made you feel like you're watching some right wing television show,
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Nothing that that one exchange we just played wound up ruining his life because
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Kiki didn't like it and didn't think he had the right to challenge her because
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she's a black woman and therefore everything she says is true period,
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And the question that I've asked everyone that I,
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whom he was very close to and his very close friends.
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there was no prior history of mental illness or,
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this few minutes of interaction at this DI training session,
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that came to me from his family was that the last name Bilkstow is,
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if the mainstream media were to write about his lawsuit,
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dragging his name through the mud and smearing him once again,
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and his family feels that this probably was one reason why he took that
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All that matters is who you actually are and who,
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the people who really know you would know that this was a lie about
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He got spun up in the belief that reputation is real.
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sure it would have real life consequences for him potentially on the
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as somebody who's been through something similar,
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I hope that anybody out there suffering with this,
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because this is being done to people in Canada and in the United States
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and all over the world now should know that this is,
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that these are dishonest brokers who do this to you and that people are catching
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that we've caught on to this cynical game that's being played.
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But Richard sounds like he was a tender soul and,
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this school system ran in bringing in this person.
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this Institute boasts a pretty big client list,
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So they certainly may have made a lot of money from these DI training
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so incredibly tragic and was completely avoidable.
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And what's happened now is rather than being contrite and being
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Ojo Thompson seemed to be doubling down by saying that,
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that right-wing elements are trying to weaponize his death and use it
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even though a man died by suicide after being abused at her training
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which shows truly how Canada has drifted to such an extreme where dissent
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and healthy debate are tarred as disinformation or,
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And this is coming from the prime minister on down.
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I feel that we truly are in this Orwellian situation.
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And it's not at all clear how we go from here and how we get out of this
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south of the border of exactly where you don't want to go.
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this already infiltrated my schools back in 2020.
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I'll guarantee you there's some DEI coordinator who's trying to get into
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the school of all American children right now with this similar
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I've sat there and looked at the slides myself.
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This is the statement in part to which you refer statement by the Kojo
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This incident is being weaponized to discredit and suppress the work of
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While the coverage by right-wing media of this controversy is
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disappointing and led to our organization and team members receiving
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We will not be deterred from our work in building a better society for
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She's I think there was a protest actually a couple of weeks ago by a group
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she's a victim and she's being tarred and by right-wing elements.
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that they would use to try to discredit what happened.
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So unfortunately what's happening is that his name is,
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This is exactly what Richard feared when he was alive,
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would distort what happened during the training session.
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to provide the audio recordings because it's one thing to read an excerpt
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but it's quite another to actually listen to the audio recordings and
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when she calls him a weed and that when she refers to him,
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that how lucky she felt that an example just showed up and she
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that we at the free press provided that embedded that in our story.
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There are more audio recordings on my Twitter thread.
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I I've been through this washing machine and it's horrible,
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but here's the thing that we really need to worry about.
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It's being done to very vulnerable children who are already unsteady,
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all the things that have been affecting depression,
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And they're being subjected to these kinds of trainings.
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they're bringing these into schools and subjecting children to them.
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it very definitely appears to have played a role in his decision to take his own life.
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the fact that you guys are shining a light on this is what makes it so important.
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Did Richard himself like say anything about it?
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a release to the public or to anyone that I'm aware of.
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he was always looking to improve the education system,
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in a similar battle trying to improve the public education system.
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certainly not something that he kept to himself.
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it's important to emphasize that not one of those 200 people actually got up and defended him.
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I sent out a call two weeks ago while writing the story.
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And not a single person to this day has reached out to me.
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we were not going to entertain the likes of Kojo Institute entering our schools and so on.
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because this is something that I've been thinking about.
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but ultimately they're cowardly and don't want to speak up because they're afraid of losing their jobs.
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losing their reputation or their friends or being unfriended on Facebook.
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what ends up happening is that they end up perpetuating the system.
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They're supposed to be cultivating critical thinking in our young people.
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They're true believers or they're just too afraid to speak up.
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I understand in part why they didn't do it in the moment because of her messaging.
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And so I can see a bunch of progressive Canadians sitting up there saying,
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but now to not speak out now to not come forward and say,
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I regret seating the conversation to this nutcase who is up there hurting people
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Here's one other thing she said that speaks to the sort of the shaming of people with a,
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This is from after the first offense and exchange she had with Richard,
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there's a whole bunch going on that isn't your personal experience.
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but so your job in this work as white people is to believe.
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and so I think that one has to really question a number of things.
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she has cornered the market on truth because of her melanin.
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is that she herself used to be a teacher at one point,
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He was white and he was pushing against this claim,
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I do not believe that you spoke truth and I will fight you.
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If you come within 10 feet of any organization that my children or my friends,
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and I recommend everyone listening to me do the same.
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That was not the Institute that came to my schools.
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one was the DEI head and the other one at our girls school.
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And they brought in another group to do DEI training who said the same kind of stuff.
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I understand there was some investigation ordered by the education minister there.
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announced a couple of weeks ago that they were going to be,
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launching an investigation into what happened at the DEI session.
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minister of education in the province where I live has announced,
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because what happened to him was completely avoidable.
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what was done to him and it destroyed his life.
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already smearing him after his death and claiming that the DEI trainer is the
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It makes me want to go to one of these trainings.
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I'd love to sit there saying you're full of shit.
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like if you are forced to be subjected to this by your company or your
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arm them with actual comebacks to the nonsense that this woman spews.
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people see that those of us who challenge this nonsense are in the right
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formed an underground group to push back on this,
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Some of the most outspoken people about it were black families who are like,
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And they were completely aligned with all of us on the harm that was being
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But you don't know if you sit there in silence with your tail between your
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hope all of you pay attention and have a wonderful weekend.