Best of 2022: Memorable Moments Featuring Malcolm Gladwell, RFK Jr., Goldie Hawn, and More | Ep. 461
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It's the last show of the year, and we wanted to bring you some of the highlights of this past year. So much goodness to choose from, and so much goodness that you were there for it all. Here are six interviews from the past year that give you a flavor of what The Megyn Kelly Show is all about, and a little sampling of what we'll continue to do in 2023.
Transcript
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We like to walk that fine line between techno-thriller
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Like that woman over there with the designer jeans.
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Your home for open, honest, and provocative conversations.
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And we wanted to bring you some of the highlights of this past year.
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and we are so grateful that you were there for it all.
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But with more than 200 episodes this year alone,
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There's so many, so much goodness in any event.
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So we're not going to say this is like the best ever,
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So we are going to bring you some of six interviews over the past year
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that give you a flavor, a flavor of some of what The Megyn Kelly Show is all about.
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Got to start with our pal Bridget Phetasy's return to the show in episode 402.
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I feel like this might be the second year in a row she's made,
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it was one of the most talked about interviews I did in 2020.
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Well, a lot has changed in Bridget's life since then,
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and our backgrounds are different, of course, too,
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but we're very aligned on virtually everything now.
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But the one piece of advice I give everyone's daughter
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and you don't just want any Tom, Dick, or Harry
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but you got there through a much more traumatic road,
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of your amazing Substack piece to our audience.
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I'd say most of these usually drunken encounters
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left me feeling empty and demoralized and worthless.
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At the time, I would have told you I was liberated,
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even while I tried to drink away the sick feeling of rejection
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when my most recent hookup did not call me back.
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At the time, I would have said one-night stands
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How did you spend so much time in that dark place?
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I know a lot of it is tied up with my drinking and drug use.
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And it wasn't like I hadn't already lost my virginity,
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and we were raised with that kind of girl power.
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and you can unyoke your heart from sex with no consequence.
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And a lot of those women are coming back saying,
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but I just felt like it has to be with somebody
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who's not going to be able to sit there being like,
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Where, where did you get your sex messaging from?
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I, I thank God I never did suffer a sexual assault.
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Um, and I know you talk very openly in this piece
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good friends with leading figures that time who
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they can pick their own fights but they don't need to
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fight mine and i don't want them to and i feel that way
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about my family too i you know i chose this life
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children and other members of my family have other
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each time malcolm gladwell comes on the show it's one of the most
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downloaded shows of the year gosh he's interesting he's so
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topic he rarely discusses fatherhood you can certainly
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teach manners you can teach ethics you can teach what's
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acceptable behavior and you know a polite society but you
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can't change nature you can't change one's nature you
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know like the kid who's huge energy and can't sit down is
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constantly going and going and going you're never going to
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turn that kid into low energy you know and and vice versa you
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know the kid who's relaxed like it's better to lean into the
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nature that comes to you and help that kid figure out how
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they can make the most of that particular makeup
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yeah yeah i agree yeah it's so funny you know that as a i'm a
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first-time parent so all of this stuff that i you know i used
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to kind of like you know wave my hands in the air and
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pretend that i knew what i was talking about when it came to
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parenting issues now i'm actually doing it for the first time
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how old is she malcolm she's like a year just about a year yeah
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uh so how about to about to walk how has that how's that been for
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you because it can be overwhelming oh it's been fantastic i mean she's
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delightful so i think i think we got lucky um but uh but i mean i
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think all parents think their children are delightful
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i mean like periods of delight but not maybe not universally delightful
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no it's just been i mean i the the thing that goes that i've been going
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through is the thing that every parent goes through which is
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you discover all these things and you think oh i'm you know i've discovered
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parenting and of course everyone else went through exactly the same
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revelation right so you know the the big revelation that oh
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even at a year i kind of can tell how this little creature is going to turn
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out right like yes that's so weird that there's
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something essential already there right that that's kind of so true all three
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of mine have the same personality now that they did when they were one year
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and i don't know and it's not even necessarily like oh this one's doug
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or this one's me you know it's not that either like they come
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fully formed with a totally different nature personality you know they say that
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kids inherit mannerisms but they don't inherit personalities in in most cases so
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it's like you may be dealing with something that's totally unfamiliar to you
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i'm already bracing for it so where are you living are you in still in new
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york city i live upstate uh okay uh we moved up actually before covid uh and
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then um uh that's from my uh i work out of uh uh upstate and
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yeah i sort of we've we've relocated those are my people upstate new york
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that's where i'm from first 10 years in syracuse and the rest in albany
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so i know that area well it's very beautiful upstate new york doesn't get
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enough credit for how gorgeous it is having spent a lot of time in the in the
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beautiful montana i feel like i can speak to this it's truly one of the most
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beautiful states in the u i had not realized you started out in syracuse
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first 10 years my dad taught at the university there and then he took a job
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at suny albany so we moved to the tundra farther east of albany new york i've
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only lived in frigidly cold cities uh except for like the year i did in
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virginia yeah yeah oh that's funny i didn't know
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that so what's the now at the risk of probing too far into your personal life
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are you is there a is there a spouse or a partner is that do i get to know like
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what the family situation looks like yes there is yes there is absolutely uh but
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uh no you're not getting any more information that she's very she's very
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private so i think i i will respect that in a moment
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and but are you you guys are together and raising your baby together
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yes oh yeah and it's nuclear family well seriously thank god because it's a lot
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easier when you're on your own and a lot of people do it by choice now but a lot
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of people do it because a tragedy struck it's i don't understand how those single
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parents do it i have such respect for them because it is so much work so much
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work and you do have a lot of responsibility and so the the thought to just
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round it out that perhaps not everything that's going to happen with this
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child is actually on you you know perhaps if they're high strung they're just
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going to be high strung or if they're i don't know like not that like whatever
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it is whatever thing you're beating yourself up on that you need to change
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you need to change maybe you don't maybe you just need a lot of support
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well it reminds me you know when i was in my 30s i used to go to and see a
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therapist and of course they therapists do this therapist did what
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therapists like to do which is to invite you to blame all of your problems on
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your parents and it's it's awfully kind of enticing to do that because it's a
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convenient explanation for all the things you don't want to take
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responsibility for but now that i'm actually a parent i sort of see how hollow
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that is like it was really unfair for me to blame things on my parents at that
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age for not just me and i was gonna say i was thinking about my own magic wand
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experience experiment like what would i do i'm not a scientist but i talk a lot
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on the show about how it's somewhat facetiously that you need it your kids
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need to be somewhat damaged in order to be successful this is my own personal
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hypothesis that if everything's too perfect they're probably not going to be that
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successful there's something needs to be in order to create drive in a in a
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human being something they need to overcome or feel like they got to do better
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on and so to me i like if i could do the magic wand i'd i'd have a version where
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you know trying to figure out how much damage is the right amount like you don't
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want to crush them but you want to create a couple of issues that they need to
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overcome this is why no one's hiring me to work in a lab coming up we dig into the
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perilous world of social media with tristan harris
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one of the truly eye-opening and terrifying conversations i had this year was with tristan
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harris in episode 244 remember him he was a facebook whistleblower and was part of the
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social dilemma we talked about social media addiction and much more on the other side of
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the screen it's almost as if they have this avatar voodoo doll like model of us all of the
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things we've ever done all the clicks we've ever made all the videos we've watched all the likes
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that all gets brought back into building a more and more accurate model the model once you have it
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you can predict the kinds of things that person does where you're gonna go i can predict what kind
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of videos will keep you watching i can predict what kinds of emotions tend to trigger you at a lot of
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these technology companies there's three main goals there's the engagement goal to drive up your
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usage to keep you scrolling there's the growth goal to keep you coming back and inviting as many friends
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and getting them to invite more friends and then there's the advertising goal to make sure that as
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all that's happening we're making as much money as possible from advertising each of these goals
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are powered by algorithms whose job is to figure out what to show you to keep those numbers going up
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hmm it's chilling and i love little pete campbell from mad men in the background is the guy
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computers um but it's so it's not in fact like the algorithm is effectively the three people in that
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room it's not actual humans standing there right it's like they figured out algorithms that can figure
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everything out in an instant well you see google and facebook figured out how to clone pete campbell
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the advertising guy and just sit him inside of the google no i'm kidding i'm just kidding
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um no i think people looked at this metaphor so in in the film in the social dilemma which i really
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recommend everyone watches it was the second most popular documentary i think in netflix history won
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two emmy awards and it really just lays this out in a way that i think everybody on all political
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sides can kind of understand as well um and and what we talk about in the film is as you said megan
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is that um you know behind the screen you know there's you there's this piece of glass and when you
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scroll up with your finger right there's a there's gonna be another rectangle that comes up next
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do you think that that rectangle that comes up next is just the next thing that one of your
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friends posted no what they do is they fork it off to that supercomputer um which is that pete
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campbell character and that character which is like you said you know character embodiment it's not
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actually like that it's just a computer and it's calculating a number and it looks at every possible
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thing it could show you next like within the space of things it could show you it could show you
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something that'll outrage you politically it'll show you something that'll your ex-boyfriend or your
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ex-girlfriend because that's what you clicked on last time um it can show you a live video because
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facebook wants to like dial up that live video um it tries to calculate which thing would be most
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likely to keep you scrolling because obviously it doesn't want to show you the thing that'll stop you
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from scrolling and it's a supercomputer pointed at your brain to figure out how to basically light up
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your nervous system and the voodoo doll idea one of the reasons we use that metaphor is that if i
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talk about hey megan you know they have your data they have your data and and that that where does
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that hurt you if you think about just as a person like there you are you hear that phrase
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they have my data it doesn't feel like what's the problem with that but if i say look that data is
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being used to assemble a model of you a more and more accurate model that can be used to predict
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things about you and it gets more accurate the more information they have but it's like a voodoo doll
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so all the clicks you've ever made that puts little hair on the voodoo doll so it's a little bit
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more accurate when i prick and try to figure out what would activate the voodoo doll if all the likes
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all the watch time and all the videos you've ever made um that also makes the voodoo doll more accurate
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adds little shirts and pants in the voodoo doll but then what the point is that as that data gets more
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and more accurate over time and it looks at a hundred other people who saw those same political
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you know enragement videos that you've seen and it says well for people just like you this is the
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thing that tends to keep them scrolling watching clicking commenting because all of that activity
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is engagement it's attention it's the thing that's sort of the parasite that that you know makes
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these companies worth trillions of dollars um and that's essentially the system that we're in but
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the problem is that it leads to basically all of these negative externalities that dumped onto the
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balance sheet of society we have shortening of attention spans we have more political polarization
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because affirmation is more profitable than information so giving us more confirmation bias of
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our existing tribal beliefs and why the other side is so bad obviously this trend existed
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in other kinds of media but now you have a supercomputer that's like literally you know
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figuring out this is the next fault line in society and these keywords emerge and whether
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it's mrna or masks or vaccines or um you know no matter what it is it finds the one that works
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on buckets of users just like you and it knows that you're going to click before you know you're
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going to click and i think some people hear that and they think that sounds like a conspiracy
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theory like technology knows us better than we know ourselves but um you've all harari the author
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of sapiens is a friend of mine he's gay and he jokes that you know his partner uh it's sick when
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he uses tiktok it only took it's sick you know one or two clicks for tiktok to figure out exactly
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which rabbit hole to send his partner it's sick down um and and that's the thing about all of us is it
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knows exactly what works but the problem is what works on us isn't the same thing as what's good
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for society or for us even or for us and that's why i mean honestly twitter came out with a thing
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uh i don't know if they do it every year or whatever but they just popped up in the in this
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in the feed um this is how many conservative sites you follow this is how many liberal sites you follow
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and it just sort of volunteered uh you know your information and on mine i was i was very pleased that
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i had a 51 49 percent ratio on my income incoming you know news and and people i follow and that's
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important so it just makes me a little less easy to manipulate in the information game because you're
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definitely getting you're getting propaganda from both sides but at least i mean it's propaganda but
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at least you're getting it from both sides you're a little less easy to manipulate right so that that's
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one step that definitely i mean that's i actually had not seen that specific feature from twitter it's
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obviously better for each of us to maintain more broad you know information diets but the second
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problem megan is that the the business model is we think of it like a parallel system of incentives
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to capitalism instead of getting paid in money you get paid in more likes more views more attention
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more comments and when you say something that basically outgroups the other side and say here's
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yet another example about why the other side is awful we'll pay you more likes more followers
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because that was better for generating engagement for the machine now no one at twitter or facebook
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has a big long mustache and they're twirling it saying gosh how can you create the next civil war
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and and and you know drive this up as much as possible um but that's the inadvertent side effect
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of a machine that's values blind all it knows is what increases people's likes followers and get them
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to invite more people um and and the problem is that those things tend to be conflict so even if you
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have a broad diet and you're looking at information from both sides quote unquote information what it
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really is is basically people you know shit posting on the other side and building on the boogeyman so
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whatever your boogeyman is for you like oh they're doing you know this next in my hometown it now you
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can sort of carry that to the worst next conclusion you can find evidence for every stereotype and in
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fact one of the groups that that we uh interviewed we have a podcast called called urine divided
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attention uh we interviewed uh dan valone who runs more in common and what it really shows is that we
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completely see the other side in stereotypes if you ask um democrats estimate um what percent of
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republicans make more than 250 000 a year they think more than a third of republicans make more than
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250 000 i think the answer is more like two percent if you ask republicans what percent of democrats are
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lgbtq you know uh and and they they'll estimate more than the third of democrats are lgbtq the actual
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answer is six percent if you ask um democrats what you know um to estimate what percent of
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republicans do they believe uh still believe racism is a problem in the united states they think less
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than 25 percent of republicans would believe that racism is still a problem the actual answer is
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something like 70 percent and so we're seeing ourselves with stereotypes and the second thing they
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found is the more you use social media the worse you are at predicting what the other side believes
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not the better because the extreme voices on social media participate more often than the the the silent
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sort of you know calm moderate majority right like the calm moderate people they don't they don't
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actually say that much so that's really the problem that we're dealing with when we look at our
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you know our polarization ecosystem wow this is reminding me that when we closed out the year
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we went to christmas break the last piece i did was on um democrats and you know a lot i have a lot
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of republican listeners i have some democrats too mostly people people in the center but it was a
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reminder that you know the people who are trying to get everybody canceled and so on they don't
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represent all of the left and that it's not quote the left that is the enemy of reason it's like
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activists who are pushing agendas yes we can fight on that but remember your neighbor who's a democrat
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is not your is not your enemy if you're a republican and is not necessarily against the things that
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you're against as well you tell me trust and i when i read them in the news i'm like well that's
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very china right to sort of the big hand of government now controls but i was also like
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hey china for the first time in my life i was like you know what maybe we should consider the chinese
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way yeah well so i was meeting with a um a senator who's deep in the foreign policy world and he was
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meeting with his counterpart in the eu who said um you know who does china consider to be the the
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largest threat to its national security who's its biggest geopolitical rival and of course you would say
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the united states right you would think that's the answer they said no they consider their own
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technology companies to be the biggest rival to the ccp the chinese communist party's power
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now why is that because the technology that runs their society is really the new source of power right
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it's controlling what kids are feeling thinking and believing it controls their identity their
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educational development it controls uh loans that get made jack ma alibaba so they're going after
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their billionaires they're doing all these things but they're really realizing that technology is the
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power structure it's the brain implant that is guiding their society now i'm not trying to idealize
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it now but here's a couple things that you were mentioning that they're doing to deal with the
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problems of the social dilemma so let me give you a couple examples um one of the things they do
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is on tiktok their version of it called doyen when you're scrolling tiktok um if you're under the age
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of 14 you can only use it until 10 p.m at night and then it's closing hours it opens again at six
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in the morning um they actually limit you to 40 minutes a day and when you scroll instead of showing
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you videos of the best influencers they show you science experiments museum exhibits patriotism videos
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because they realize that tiktok is conditioning kids behavior and now i'm not saying that we should be
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doing pledge of allegiance videos to the united states on our version of that but what we have to
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also see is that china is controlling their number one adversaries children's tv programming education
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i mean imagine in the cold war the soviet union controlled saturday morning cartoons for its number
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one geopolitical adversary you know i actually talk to people in our defense and national security
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apparatus quite a bit these days my concern is that our generals and our heads of the department of
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defense know everything about hypersonic missiles and drones and the you know the latest tech you know
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physical advances in warfare but how much do they know about tiktok and how their own children are
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being influenced on tiktok and i'll give you a concrete example a tiktok insider told me this
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he says he said the thing that people don't realize is that tiktok is an alternate incentive system
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to capitalism instead of paying you in money i can pay you in likes followers and attention i can give
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you a sense of boost of all those things so now let's say and china is known to do this they have a
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national security strategy called borrowing mouths to speak so i want to borrow those western voices
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who say positive things whatever anyone in the west says something positive about china and the
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uyghurs are not a human rights problem it's all fine china can just say we're going to dial up those
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people so they get paid and more likes more followers and more views then other people on tiktok
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look at that and say well why are those tiktok influencers so successful and they start replicating
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their behavior so you're creating an alternative system of influence on top of your number one
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geopolitical adversary and you're you're being able to adjust those dials anytime you want and you don't
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even have to get them to trust the communist part chinese communist party's voices you can take western
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voices who happen to be pro china for whatever reason and just make them the ones that are heard the
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most right and my colleague renee di resta um uh calls this amplifaganda it's not propaganda
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it's amplification propaganda i'm taking your voices but the ones that i want to hear and
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similarly we know what russia did you know and not just in our elections but ongoingly is they
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take the most divisive voices especially the ones that focus on race on guns on immigration these these
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topics and they and the ones who want to do um civil war and secession movements and things like
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this and they amplify those voices because they want to amplify propaganda amplifaganda the ones that
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are most divisive there is a world war iii information war that marshall mcclellan predicted
01:05:15.680
in 1968 when he said world war iii is a global information war that will make no distinction
01:05:21.680
between civilian and military combatants because now we are in that war but we don't really see it or
01:05:27.460
feel it that way and i've heard you talk about in the past the difference between we have these huge
01:05:30.960
oceans uh on both sides that make us a global superpower we have this physical you know kinetic
01:05:36.200
asymmetric position you know compared to our adversaries but those huge oceans and borders
01:05:41.420
go away in the digital world you know we have patriot missiles to shoot down a missile that you
01:05:46.600
know a plane that comes in from russia or china physically but if they try to fly an information bomb
01:05:50.920
into our country they're met with a white glove algorithm from facebook or twitter or tiktok that
01:05:56.120
says yes exactly which you know minority group would you like to target and a recent mit tech review
01:06:01.740
article said that actually um at the top uh facebook pages 15 pages that are for christian americans
01:06:09.420
all 15 of those christian american pages are actually run by macedonian troll farms of the top
01:06:16.000
15 african-american pages on facebook these are basically bots right of the top 15 african-american
01:06:21.680
pages two-thirds of those african-american pages reaching something like 80 million americans a month
01:06:26.620
are run by macedonian troll farms so we have to realize that again we're not even really living in
01:06:32.520
a real reality the metaverse is a virtual reality but even within that virtual reality it's a virtual
01:06:38.340
representation of our fellow citizens they're not even our fellow citizens that so that's and i just
01:06:42.980
want to pause and underscore to the audience at home this is something different this is something
01:06:46.660
russia did do okay they did do this this is not russia gate stuff this is not like weird this is
01:06:51.860
totally different russia did do this they they used bots to amplify disinformation if this is it does
01:06:57.240
it come as news to anybody really that they're trying to so you don't have to believe that this
01:07:01.020
influenced the election to just know that what they're trying to do is drive up division ongoingly
01:07:05.460
right and that's that is part of a you know a deep warfare strategy right because we're falling over
01:07:09.880
incoherently constantly disagreeing with each other and and then forced to see the more extreme
01:07:14.940
perspectives our society while these countries are not doing that they're not faced with that problem
01:07:19.220
and and just to pick up on the other point you were making about how they limit the children's
01:07:23.260
access to tiktok and so on in china because they came out with a couple of sweeping reforms within
01:07:28.400
the past few months along those lines trying to stop the children from spending all their time and
01:07:32.120
they're limiting the some of the time on the apps to just the weekends um yes gaming they limit to 40
01:07:37.920
minutes a day and on and only um on the weekends saturday and sunday um and tiktok like you're saying
01:07:43.760
they also do only only 40 minutes a day uh and like i said they have opening hours and closing hours
01:07:48.560
so at 10 p.m it just shuts off and and the reason for that by the way my thought my thought in reading
01:07:53.400
about that was okay so great we we've unleashed these unhealthy bombs on our children in in their
01:07:58.340
country in our country across the globe but china has actually stepped in to try to stop that bomb
01:08:03.180
from doing too much damage on its own children whatever its motivations they do not want a bunch of
01:08:07.860
you know missing the frontal lobe children to grow up addicted to technology just we need to play their
01:08:13.380
game needing to play they want their kids to be smart and to be the next generation's leaders and so on
01:08:17.260
meanwhile we left our kids twisting on the vine there's there's no attempt over here at all
01:08:23.860
as far as i can see by big tech to protect our children in any way in fact the more addicted the
01:08:30.460
better exactly exactly and you know this this perhaps i think is one of also the major issues
01:08:36.460
that in our country we can actually agree on right i mean who wants our children systematically
01:08:41.440
warped and deranged with comeback emails that like a digital drug lord when you stop using i figure
01:08:46.460
out how to more aggressively get you to come back and you know francis haugen the facebook whistleblower
01:08:51.100
you know people point to her credibility it's not her credibility that matters she was just leaking
01:08:55.480
facebook's own she had documents where yeah she had their their own documents and they found that
01:09:00.320
13 for among teens who reported suicidal thoughts 13 of british users and six percent of american users
01:09:07.000
trace their desire to kill themselves on instagram and they said that we make body image issues worse
01:09:13.500
for one in three teenage girls i know uh personally um some instagram insiders who actually left the
01:09:18.940
company after seeing that research because they couldn't justify um i'm staying there knowing that
01:09:23.820
that's the case and but this is all obvious because the whole business model is is designed around this
01:09:29.520
kind of predation on our kids but again i think what we need to do megan is we instead of focusing on
01:09:34.180
you know just these light reforms like how do we make social media slightly more privacy protecting or
01:09:39.380
10 percent less toxic by removing the anorexia thing i worry that this is a competition of two
01:09:44.940
systems we have democracy and we have authoritarianism and authoritarianism that model they're using the
01:09:52.560
full suite of technologies to make a kind of super authoritarian stronger sense-making environment they
01:09:58.380
have many problems i don't i don't admire it i don't want it to be the future um but meanwhile we can
01:10:03.260
notice that our democracy is not employing all these technologies to say how would we make democracy
01:10:08.040
even better how do we do even more consensus-based decision making how do we invite people uh there's
01:10:13.040
actually a model of this in in taiwan where when when instead of posting on social media when you
01:10:17.860
hate something about say the tax system or potholes or masks um when you post about something that you
01:10:23.900
say i want to fix in our democracy instead of that just turning into a long comment thread that
01:10:27.960
then gets shared more virally in the more clever stubborn thing you can say uh the more attention you get
01:10:33.000
in their system when you say i want to fix the tax the tax system has a problem you get invited
01:10:38.260
into a zoom call a stakeholder group that actually talks about how you would improve it and you actually
01:10:43.160
get other citizens and you're actually designing the improvement to that system and then that's taken
01:10:47.640
to the digital minister to actually implement well we could have a whole basis of technology that's
01:10:52.760
about strengthening our democracy and that's my concern about what we need to do we don't need
01:10:56.900
five percent less toxic social media we need a to sort of reinvigorate the values of the
01:11:01.560
declaration of independence for a 21st century age so we're not antagonistic technology to
01:11:05.920
technology we're using it to make a stronger democracy my gosh it just makes me think i i
01:11:10.520
don't really like to crack down on you know alleged hate speech or what have you and i don't like big
01:11:14.540
tech censorship um and i never thought mark zuckerberg should have been pulled into that
01:11:19.500
he was originally like it's not my job to police the internet and conversations having it and i was
01:11:23.500
like right on that's the american way but then he did submit and so on but we're focused on the
01:11:28.540
wrong stuff that's that is not the problem of big tech i mean it's irritating but it's not the
01:11:34.320
problem the their sins are so much more nefarious and ingrained and deep and part of the business
01:11:40.380
model than all that stuff which is a noise distraction exactly and in fact facebook um after
01:11:46.900
francis haugen came out we actually now know from wall street journal reporting they were consciously
01:11:51.840
trying to frame so she released all this research about how much it's dividing and polarizing us and
01:11:56.560
hurting kids and then facebook actually used their pr department to sow stories um saying that this was
01:12:02.500
all about censorship that what francis wants is censorship they whenever they talk about censorship
01:12:07.140
they do that because they know it just creates more division because the conversation about free
01:12:11.220
speech or censorship will never resolve it's the same 800 page just like law textbook conversation
01:12:16.820
everyone brings up the same examples and it never yields any results it's not about freedom of
01:12:21.080
speech we all want that in fact we should have that we should have less censorship on that
01:12:24.600
what we need is is we have to be careful about reach we've decoupled power and reach from
01:12:30.760
responsibility typically in the past the greater the broadcasting capacity you would have the more
01:12:35.760
responsibility you would have yes because you're reaching a large number of people now we have a
01:12:40.580
single tiktok influencer uh in china there's actually an example in china you can in a in one day
01:12:45.480
because you're reaching a billion people um you can actually create a billion dollars of sales there's
01:12:50.860
actually an article in mit tech review i believe it is that a single individual in china in one day
01:12:56.320
generated a billion dollars in sales because when you say something you reach a billion people this
01:13:00.360
could be a 15 year old or a 16 year old and or a kardashian or a kardashian right but instead of
01:13:05.960
the kardashians where it was only a few people in the past in the 20th 20th century we had like a few
01:13:09.900
big celebrities that could do it we're moving to a world where each tech company wants each of us to be a
01:13:14.700
kardashian they want each of your kids to be the influencer they want that to be the model for what
01:13:20.180
being human and being a kid is about and when they do that notice that has an effect on the other kids
01:13:24.480
the other kids say well they're way more popular and successful and getting the attention and i want
01:13:29.320
that attention and they're transforming the cultural basis for what our kids even want and again you zoom
01:13:35.340
out and you say you know china's playing chess and we're allowing these business models to collapse our
01:13:41.500
ability to think and act well in the 21st century because we've got a lot of problems that we have
01:13:45.240
to figure out when we come back a look at one of the great debates on the show this year
01:13:51.320
we always like to bring you debates on this program nuanced conversations with people
01:13:59.820
from all sides so you're not getting spun you're getting educated and entertained and titillated and
01:14:08.160
all the good things that you expect from conversation in this clip from episode 248 248 we took a deep
01:14:15.220
dive into the world of guns and gun control with guests on both sides of the debate we have brought
01:14:22.540
together two of the best minds on gun rights and gun control both men have broken countless stories
01:14:28.120
while covering the gun beat steven gutowski is founder of the reload and mike spies is a senior writer
01:14:35.020
for the trace steven and mike thank you so much for being here hey thanks for having me yeah thanks
01:14:40.960
for having me began all right so steven you are um the reload is i i don't know i don't want to say
01:14:47.200
pro-gun exactly but just for the audience to understand steven you're more sort of on the pro-gun
01:14:51.880
and um mike you're more on sort of the gun control uh beat and focused on what measures we could take
01:14:59.120
to sort of roll back some of the problems we've been seeing um so let's just kick it off with this
01:15:03.840
uh some stats for the audience we according to what i read we had more than 45 000 people shot to death
01:15:11.260
in america in 2020 um we had a spike in violence in 2021 and the vast majority of those gun deaths were
01:15:21.080
suicide uh so it's not all homicide but a fair amount of homicide too and america is the biggest gun
01:15:27.920
country in the world and um in particular what keeps people talking about it is the mass shootings
01:15:33.840
right like what we saw in michigan this kid ethan crumbly going into the school and shooting
01:15:39.140
uh you know other teenagers his parents have now been arrested it's a fascinating case
01:15:44.260
um but we also see it when innocent civilians or police officers are shot to death by people who had
01:15:51.460
no business having guns or the kind of gun that they had and that's where i'll kick it off because
01:15:55.540
here in new york uh overnight the second police officer died who was shot by that 44 year old
01:16:02.020
suspect he also died the suspect has died since but these cops were called to this house in harlem by
01:16:08.020
the suspect's mom they were walking down the hallway to go into his room and see what was wrong and he
01:16:14.660
came out they didn't they didn't stand a chance he came out guns blazing shot the cops uh both of whom
01:16:20.240
are now dead one was 22 uh he was shot and killed and now we have and his name by the way was jason
01:16:27.020
rivera and then there's wilbert mora just 27 it's so awful it's just so awful and steven i'll start with
01:16:34.640
you as somebody who is used to sort of defending gun rights a lot of people looked at that modification
01:16:39.660
he had on his gun which i understand was not lawful i don't know that that was the reason the cops
01:16:44.440
died you know he could have shot him just without that modification but should that guy have had a gun
01:16:48.400
career criminal and is there a gun law that could have prevented it yeah certainly i mean there's
01:16:54.560
there's a lot to unpack with a situation like that domestic violence call that leads to
01:17:00.260
you know the death of of law enforcement officers is a horrific tragedy and obviously i think most
01:17:07.660
people would question well how could this happen how can we prevent this going forward and there
01:17:12.060
are a number of ways i mean oftentimes in situations like that what you'll find
01:17:17.980
and and this is true for uh many mass shootings as well uh some of the most famous ones that we know
01:17:23.840
uh the shooter was prohibited they they weren't legally allowed to own guns in the first place due to
01:17:31.200
their either mental health history or their criminal history uh such as in this case and um
01:17:37.920
you know the question is how do you keep somebody who is already prohibited from owning guns
01:17:44.120
in under federal law so in the entire country from obtaining them and that's where a lot of the
01:17:51.140
uh controversy comes in because you know there's there's different proposals on uh that range from
01:17:57.880
better enforcement let me just stop you there let me stop and forgive my my interruption but i want to
01:18:02.460
make sure we all stay on same page so he should not this 44 year old man now dead the shooter should not
01:18:08.580
have had a gun why well if he had a criminal history that uh included uh either a felony conviction
01:18:16.380
or uh misdemeanor domestic violence conviction uh then he shouldn't have been able to obtain it or at
01:18:23.240
least he wouldn't legally have been able to possess the gun uh in the first place so we see it all the
01:18:28.680
time though with criminals we see it all the time with criminals who can commit domestic violence or some
01:18:33.180
other crime some other felony they get out of jail it seems very easy seems very easy for them to get
01:18:38.840
a gun am i wrong no i mean it can be very easy for uh people who are prohibited people who are
01:18:44.920
who are known criminals to obtain guns illegally outside of uh the current you know system yeah that
01:18:51.560
we have in place to buy guns uh you know through through licensed dealers with background checks
01:18:56.680
involved uh you know there's obviously proposals to expand that system to private sales as well that's
01:19:02.540
where a lot of the controversy comes in with the so-called universal background checks because
01:19:07.020
the idea there is that uh private sales should also have to go through uh the background check system
01:19:15.380
like sales from licensed dealers do although of course in this case you're talking about new york
01:19:20.240
which has a law like that in place already and obviously a lot of criminals just don't comply with it
01:19:27.300
and they sell guns knowingly that's the problem and this gets right to the heart of it right off the top
01:19:32.300
right so it's like mike the we could we do have tough gun laws in new york city um and yet there was
01:19:40.740
this guy sitting with this gun with this unlawful modifier on it again i don't think it wasn't the
01:19:47.180
modifier that led to the death of the cops a regular old gun could have killed these cops just as easily
01:19:51.160
but you know the point is just how easy it is despite the fact this is a career criminal sitting
01:19:56.640
there with the gun you yeah i don't know i'd love a real solution i would i'm not i'm so open-minded
01:20:03.400
on this issue i've been the victim of a crime and i've and so i appreciate guns for with the good guys
01:20:09.700
who protect us but i have three kids and i certainly worry about you know school shootings and the other
01:20:14.360
stuff too so i'd love to see a gun reform that could actually stop the bad guys from getting the
01:20:20.140
guns but i we passed every single one of the gun reforms joe biden's pushing right now that guy still
01:20:24.540
would have had this gun yeah i think the problem across the board in america is that we're pretty
01:20:29.960
weak on accountability measures which is what fuels the illegal gun market so for example one thing and
01:20:36.400
this in some ways also in a different way relates back to the michigan shooting that you were talking
01:20:41.120
about is we have we have pretty poor storage laws and regulation especially when it comes to
01:20:47.480
uh firearms dealers for example it is as as investigations have shown that the trace is
01:20:53.300
done um there's no real requirement in federally licensed firearm dealers or places that sell guns
01:21:00.440
to store them in such a way that they're not easily accessible which is why these like these smash and
01:21:06.980
grab situations where people basically just drive a car through the front door and take a hammer and
01:21:11.700
break glass uh and remove all the weapons and run out or saw a hole through the ceiling and
01:21:17.240
drop in and take all the guns like that's um it's a big it's a it's a it's a it's a gaping hole in
01:21:24.440
our system that allows legal guns to be trafficked into an illegal market um and i think until we're a
01:21:33.000
lot more serious about regulating gun sellers that's going to continue to be the pipeline and obviously
01:21:38.840
the other issue which we have how frequent an event is that mike where people are doing this
01:21:43.260
we've been following the smashing grab of the gucci bags but how often does that happen with respect
01:21:48.500
to the guns well i wish i could give you like a good statistic on that i mean i i think it's pretty
01:21:53.840
i mean i think they are they're recognized as pretty easy targets and definitely you know per the
01:21:59.600
investigation that i was referencing we have quite a lot of video showing the ease with which people
01:22:04.340
were able to break into gun shops and steal a ton of weapons um so i guess well i just want to make
01:22:11.440
a quick point here uh these are this is certainly a phenomenon that happens this is one way that
01:22:18.180
criminals get their guns mike's correct on that point but i i would sort of question the idea that
01:22:23.100
it's easy because given the tactics that are often employed like as mike suggested there literally
01:22:29.700
crashing cars through buildings to get to the guns i don't know what you know that that adding an extra
01:22:35.980
safe after you're willing to knock down the the wall of a building to get to the guns is going to be much
01:22:42.020
more of a deterrent we need a little levity don't we oh who better to ask for that moment than goldie
01:22:49.460
hahn with whom we had an incredible incredible time
01:22:54.240
we are closing things out today with a super fun conversation at times in-depth conversation at
01:23:02.540
times emotional that i had with goldie hahn okay for the full thing go to episode 245
01:23:07.420
here's just a bit of our great exchange on her incredible career and much more
01:23:12.240
your list of movies it's too it's crazy i just went back and was looking like i've seen all of
01:23:20.860
these seems like old times talk about private vengeance swing shift i love that's where you
01:23:25.200
and kurt russell met um and it goes on and on here's just a couple for people who need a refresher
01:23:30.400
like i did uh we'll get to overboard in a second first wives club everyone says i love you that was
01:23:34.820
the woody allen film 1996 same we are protocol wildcats bird on a wire house sitter death becomes her
01:23:39.200
the out-of-towners town and country uh i could go on first wives club is i hear possibly making a
01:23:45.560
sequel so we'll see about that but let's get to the main event okay let's talk let's talk turkey
01:23:51.200
overboard 1987 i just learned in preparing for this interview it was based on a real story there was
01:23:58.060
an actual woman who fell off a boat or showed up on a florida shore with amnesia and in the movie
01:24:04.200
which was apparently written with you and kurt in mind um the the premise is that the woman you're
01:24:09.180
character falls off of her yacht after being a real jerk to kurt russell's carpenter character
01:24:14.060
and he decides after she threw all of his carpentry tools in the water that he's going to go claim
01:24:20.640
this woman at the hospital and convince her that they're married and put her to work for him until
01:24:27.540
she works off all the money she threw into the water it's so funny you could never make this film
01:24:31.740
today by the way you'd get hit for not appropriate not pc whatever so um you couldn't make any of them
01:24:39.820
a lot of them you know yeah i mean when you look at some of the films and the way they were and what
01:24:44.360
they i mean it's just you know things have changed tremendously uh interestingly enough uh it has
01:24:50.520
affected comedy uh quite a bit uh this you know basically being you know uh you know basically
01:24:57.100
politically correct and so forth um because they their jokes were oftentimes made you know on all
01:25:03.100
these different things that you know were sort of liabilities right um and uh you know they i know
01:25:09.800
there's a lot of comics i mean it's sort of like they you know even when they go into universities
01:25:14.260
there's a lot of sensitivity to uh all kinds of stuff so it's really interesting to be a stand-up
01:25:20.120
comic or understand what your subject matters could actually be without offending someone that's
01:25:25.660
going to be so annoying to you you spent a whole career trying to make people laugh like having to
01:25:29.700
worry about the third rail you're supposed to step on the third rails if you're trying to make people
01:25:32.760
laugh well you're supposed to start on what you're supposed to step on the third rails you're
01:25:37.020
supposed to sort of poke the things that normal people wouldn't poke no no exactly i mean don rickles
01:25:43.000
you know was the killer on that um no that's sort of you know what you do i mean it was it was kind
01:25:49.260
of like that you know um i mean i don't know i remember one line i did on and wildcats and you
01:25:56.000
know i told i told him off and you know i was really upset with him and this was um nipsey russell
01:26:01.400
and and i was like really this and i left there and i hot it up and i came back and i said i forgot
01:26:08.160
my purse so and and she went back you know now today that would be a moment which is it was funny
01:26:15.180
but is now it's sort of like oh you're just i'm up down down deep i'm just a crazy female you know
01:26:22.720
um so there's a lot of areas that maybe not would not have been not you've been getting guff for doing
01:26:32.520
this kind of thing for a long time i understand when you you did laugh in that was sort of your first
01:26:36.360
big big thing i mean laughing back in the late 60s was i mean everybody watched it it was like
01:26:41.720
one in four americans was watching laughing which was on monday nights everybody watched that's where
01:26:46.020
she like became a huge star and then your movie career launched right after that but i read that
01:26:51.340
when you were doing that because you sort of played up sort of the the dumb blonde character in a funny
01:26:55.920
way and um i read that sort of the women's lib advocates kind of gave you a hard time saying
01:27:03.360
what are you doing you know you're setting women back and you were like well i don't think we need
01:27:07.280
to burn our bras necessarily to get ahead like i'm kind of living the women's lib thing by
01:27:11.280
paying my bills and working as an actress i don't like is that true what i said to her was this she said
01:27:19.920
well what about women's liberation uh and don't you feel bad because you know you're basically showing
01:27:25.900
off as a dumb blonde i said really i said you know i'm already liberated and she looked at me like uh
01:27:35.580
what do you mean i said well liberation comes from the inside and i'm liberated
01:27:43.580
and she it was one of those moments really where i didn't even know what i was going to say
01:27:49.540
you know sometimes when people ask you questions and you're thinking you know and it just comes out
01:27:53.240
yeah you know and it just came out is that you know i i don't know what you're saying because
01:27:58.780
i'm experiencing liberation right now well you would go on to live a life that showed it i mean i
01:28:03.700
think that's some of the stuff we're talking about producing the movie instead of just starring in
01:28:06.660
at a time when not a lot of women were doing that and standing up for yourself and not submitting and
01:28:10.700
so on taking a lot of bullshit from men um so you navigate yourself to a place where you can do a
01:28:17.120
movie like overboard you got her new i mean really that that was a great role by the way and i was
01:28:25.100
also looking at wonderful roles i mean she was first of all we did the movie you know where i played
01:28:32.720
um annie first i didn't we didn't put in in in order no joanna was the rich bitch version of you
01:28:40.520
and annie was like the one he said no annie's my wife you do all the cleaning annie exactly so she
01:28:46.500
was the one that i had to know who i was so i could play who i didn't know i was
01:28:51.900
so it was it it was quite a challenge to tell you the truth there one of the scenes i love the most
01:29:00.740
goldie is where you're you're you've had it you know this woman who's really joanna who's being told
01:29:06.800
she's annie and a housewife who does all the chores knows at some level that this isn't the
01:29:11.800
right fit and he dumps you in this like sort of water barrel out in the front of the house and
01:29:16.760
we have a clip in which you channel my every thought when i pick up a mop here she goes listen
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feel better i don't belong here i feel it don't you think i feel it i can't do any of these vile
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things and i wouldn't want to my life is like death my children are the spawn of hell and you're the devil
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i haven't seen that in a long time i mean that's like good i can't do any of these vile things that
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oh my god i mean there are things in that film there were there were it was so funny and it also
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was emotional because when she came out and said i how could you you know how could you do this
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it was when she learns that he's been duping her because they do fall for each other and then she
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learns he's been lying to her exactly and then my real husband comes back in his limo
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and the kids were devastated and i was i just didn't know what to do i remembered who i was finally
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and and it was like oh my god now in the middle of a movie that is hilarious right that was a very
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dramatic moment and when she got in the car the kids running after her that was so sad so a movie
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where you can cry laugh um you know just have a lot of uh emotions to it um we're we're really
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extraordinarily lucky to be able to play um the end of the movie was one of my favorite endings
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because when we jumped in the water because we we were pining for each other he was looking for
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i was looking for him and we dove in the water together in the in the sea to get together the end
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of it after they're all bundled up he says what can i give you that you don't already have because
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she had the money and she looked at him and said a baby baby girl yeah kind of like oh perfect line
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perfect line for an end of a movie i mean it's like i loved it but you guys were the key the
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writer of the film is it uh leslie dixon leslie dixon and and and then there was writing from
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every you know everybody harvey wrote some stuff and you know we we were we worked on it together
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well so she says she gives you guys all the credit she's like kurt and goldie are the cutest
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people on the face of the earth she goes i don't say that to be diminishing she goes it's just a fact
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everyone loves them the chemistry was palpable you guys had met a few years earlier on the set of
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swing shift which i also really enjoyed um and you could feel it and then you had a new baby wyatt
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wyatt of now like who's now like captain america um he i just learned today he was running around the
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set he was one of the kids in one of the outdoor mini golf scenes he was nine months old oh my gosh
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i think he was nine months old and my nanny was holding him in the scene so he was just one of
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the the extras right it was meant to be and he's like a baby on the movie set and still is on one
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right and he took his first steps on that movie wow i don't know what do you why do you think that
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movie has withstood the test of time you know because not every movie made in 1987 like moonstruck
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that was an amazing film i think it may have come out that year people aren't still watching it it's
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still not on television all the time so why is overboard doing that well i think overboard is a
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general um uh it's a relationship movie first of all it's about people falling in love it's a an amazing
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premise if you didn't know who you were who would you be uh it's also about when you it's also about
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love um when you think you can't fall in love it changes you and it's also good for blended families
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to see is that sometimes when they don't know who their mother is or they don't have a mom anymore
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a new person coming into the household doesn't mean that it's going to fall apart sometimes it means that
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they're going to have a great time a lot of doctors use this movie for blended families to show
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and uh so it it it has tremendous ability to make people feel and it has nothing to do with time
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that's why it's so timeless it's that it's really about about humor but how people get along
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and how to get along um and you know it was emotional i mean when she wakes up and said
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but when she had you know all that you know she was had um she's i'm so ugly i mean this is where
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she had you know it's she had poison oak exactly yeah you know no it was great when she came out
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he was telling all these stories about her past that she was in the navy and that she had she used
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to be really fat which is why she had he had only these huge house dresses for her that he got from
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the salvation and she goes i was a short fat slut that's right i mean really it's just so funny you
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know and then when we're in bed together right and it's sleeping and he got me a washing machine
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um for my birthday and the kids it's she was so happy you know and then he told her all about how
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she we know was a employee of the month and and she was so happy about it you know and and so you
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have this feeling you you you kind of hated him and you kind of knew he was falling in love with her
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and she was so vulnerable to believe that i was i was employee of the month you know learning about
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who i was and feeling good about it yeah no information for this character that she might
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actually be a good person which joanna the other person not would never have actually heard and by
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the way i mean it must be said your body was so amazing it's like your body looks by the way i've
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had a baby well he was nine months old how is that possible what were you doing well you know i guess
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being a dancer all your life your your body knows the muscles know that there's they have information
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and so it's like when you go back to work again or you lose weight again or you do whatever you you
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kind of got to go back your body has memory and i think that's what happened what did i do i worked out
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i did a lot of things you know i didn't break my back but i i worked out i did my sit-ups i did my
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stuff i had someone working with me you know i did all my weights of course i did aerobic so yeah i mean
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you know i did what i what i normally do um looked amazing you both did just like i think it's muscle
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memory i swear to god you still have it you post these little videos of you and your family during the
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pandemic when you got the puppy whenever i'm like that bitch looks better than i am and she is 76
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now i don't even know what it's like what the hell first of all your body is killer i mean you will
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always have that by the way you know there's nothing to snap back into no it's very jiggly it's not like
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the goldie haunt in overboard trust me it never has been you can't tell me that it's not true but
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anyway um yeah so it's really it is nice but you know what's interesting is we get older um and i'm
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very very what it is you can tell you know i've been a dancer you cannot let that go i mean once
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you're three and four and five and six and seven and eight and that's what you did dance all your life
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you cannot let yourself go right so i you know i went and i got i go to places for cleanses and all
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that we were just talking about that uh this morning and i said you know no matter what i do i go to
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the cleansing place it's great i'm doing all my everything we do we do come on we do the scrubs we
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do the massage we don't eat we have you know all the stuff that we do do you know my stomach is so
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flat and i'm so happy and it takes about two weeks what the hell cleanses this what cleanses this
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goes back again i mean my stomach is it's not huge it's just all in the wrong place you know what i mean
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i'm like oh come on so you know so am i paying attention still yes we can tell is you look
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amazing and by the way abby could you sign me up for dance classes immediately uh goldie on i love you
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so much thank you so much for doing this for doing mind up and the next tequilas are on me sister
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my prayers i know you're out there and i really really appreciate you so excited to start the new
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