Free Speech Pushback, the Gift of Fear, and Dangers of Fame, with Gavin de Becker | Ep. 348
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Summary
Gavin DeBecker has worked with the CIA, the DEA, the U.S. Marshals, the Supreme Court, Hollywood celebrities, athletes, politicians, and for a while, even me. He s the author of many, many books, including the New York Times bestseller, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signs That Protect Us from Violence. Oprah once said it was the most important book she ever read.
Transcript
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Like that woman over there with the designer jeans.
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Your home for open, honest, and provocative conversations.
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that I have been wanting to bring to you for years.
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I am going to be speaking with renowned security expert.
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I mean, this is the security expert in the world,
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the world's most famous and the world's most anonymous.
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Oprah once said it was the most important book she ever read.
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Fear should preside over logical reasoning, even.
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a pre-incident indicator but that's too dated to
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happen in this sweet spot in the months prior to
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someone acting out violently and human beings are
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predictable we predict human behavior all day we
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predict the behavior of our our kids and advertisers
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predict the behavior of consumers and uh you know
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anybody who tells you that human behavior is not
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predictable is not correct and it is uh it's not
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that predictions are always perfect that's not the
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idea but that people who are displaying pre-incident
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indicators uh can be detected if we are open to seeing
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them and of course open to reporting them and the
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number one pre-incident indicator for mass violence
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for multiple victim shootings for example uh is
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misery uh misery alienation uh these are things
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you see in the kids who act out violently again and
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again and it's why rather than even talk about the the
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tragedy of the police response and the fact that you
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know kids were being shot while there were protectors uh
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who in present who could have made a difference putting
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that aside for a moment i think the bigger issue to look at
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and we slip every time there's a mass shooting and focus on
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that mass shooting when the bigger issue is the
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extraordinary number of multiple victim shootings going on
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in america this year 2021 started about halfway mark and
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then through 2022 uh when you know when i was first
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studying these there were a few and you too megan there
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were a few a year a few columbines a year in a in an active year
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there are now five multiple victim shootings in america
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every week and there are shootings of lesser uh numbers that
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are happening every day and so we have to really ask ourselves
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some questions about the uh the misery index in the united
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states uh you know the we can look at inflation
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we can look at alienation we can look at lack of trust in our institutions
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uh we can look at division uh which is being uh you know nurtured
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by politicians uh division between people i want to tell you quickly
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oh yes social media you know at the end of that
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very good documentary that ran on netflix called the social dilemma
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at the very end one of the uh former facebook executives is asked does he let
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and and he's asked what do you think is the natural result
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of this thing that you're telling us about about how
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social media and youtube and other things lean us
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incline us toward the most aggressive uh postures in everything uh he just
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answers immediately civil war he doesn't hesitate for a moment
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that that's the natural outcome of what we're experiencing but i want to
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just comment on uh on all of these things that are leading to alienation
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why do people in power benefit when there is extraordinary uh
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hostility between what is identified as two sides you know the media puts forth
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the good and the bad the abortion and the anti-abortion the pro this and the
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anti that the vaccine and the and the anti-vaxxers and all of these things
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that are that we are um you know in in dispute over
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why do they win and the answer is like many answers you'll get from me is
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historic it has always been this way the king and the queen
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look over the castle wall there's always a wall and there's a reason for the
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wall they don't want people coming over and they look over the castle wall
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and they see the people in conflict with each other
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and that is always good news because it means they are not coming over the
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castle wall and that's where we are today which is
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this degree of alienation uh this degree of uh of
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divisiveness in america actually serves power structures it
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actually serves people in power because you uh what you don't all you
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don't want in a population is that they all agree
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when they all agree you get tunisia or you get egypt but you get the arab
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when 55 percent agree and are are willing to be active
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real fast uh as you said you know our politicians now
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real quick dropped fauci he's not doing an interview five times a day anymore
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uh dropped uh you know the the nearly obsessive focus on getting not
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vaccinated but vaccinated again and again and again and again
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all that stopped because we have elections coming up
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it reminds me of um the the miracle on ice team 1980 and how her brooks
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made these these two factions who couldn't get along because they were
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from the midwest and they were from the northeast and they had been college
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rivals um he made himself the common enemy it's
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exactly the opposite he said oh you know if if i can get them to hate me
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they'll get along with each other and our politicians and our elites are doing
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exactly the opposite strategy on all of us all right stand by gavin i got to
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squeeze in another quick break and so much more to get to uh with gavin
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de becker this is fascinating isn't it right after this break this is the world
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so i understand that i've heard you say that um that suffering is sort of the
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universal warning sign on these shooters but how can you determine right
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because some of them some of them for sure especially in the school setting
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are kids who suffered who were bullied who are ostracized
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and the most recent shooter there's evidence of him saying that and the buffalo
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he never socialized he felt uncomfortable around people he spent all his time
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online and he even he acknowledged that was a mistake
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so there's those guys but then there's true sociopaths
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sociopaths you know then there are people who i don't i think they're born
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somehow sociopathic and i've interviewed some of these moms
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of these these kids who say i i have the next school shooter my child is the next
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you know i don't know showing kindness to that person or inter i don't how do we
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prevent that person from unleashing this kind of terror on us
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well everybody every kind of person who acts out violently
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has some degree of pre-incident indicators that are revealed to people in the
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story you're telling there uh the the young person's mother uh has
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made this prediction already and you know very many cases that i worked on
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people would say afterwards in fact there's one case of a workplace violence
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and when they heard what they thought was firecrackers outside
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or a car backfiring one of them said ah that's probably just moss backer
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uh coming to finish us off talking about a co-worker named moss backer and it was
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being that time and again and there are a lot of them in my
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in gift of fear where you see people say the exact thing
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you know i don't want to open that package i'm going back to my office i don't want to be
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here when it blows up as a joke and dark humor is often a uh you know a cover for
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communicating actual concern and so i'm not aware of cases that occur
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including in sociopathic people without pre-incident indicators now i'm not saying
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they're always detectable uh because there are people uh particularly you know
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what do we hear a loner neighbors talk about the fact that he just
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stayed in his house all the time or he seemed like a nice guy or
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that kind of thing and so it's not always possible because some people
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don't interact a lot with others that was true for
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the unabomber for example uh who uh you know who killed a few people and
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injured many more with bombs that he sent i'm giving you the background because i
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know you might remember it but younger audience members might not so i don't
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think there are cases where there are no pre-incident indicators
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however i want to make a bigger point that isn't in my work because
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we're in a different time and that is when we're getting
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many multiple victim shootings every week when we're in a circumstance like we're
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in today where violence in general is being normalized uh you know portland
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basically uh you know in a state of siege at times but that was normal that
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was you know called by some politicians uh like the summer of love uh when we
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have cities with the degree of homelessness with the degree of public
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drug use with the degree of violence like in san francisco and los angeles where
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you have these flash uh you know uh robberies like flash
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mob where 60 or 70 people will go into a department store
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um and just take stuff or people going in and you know taking stuff off the shelves
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into into trash bags because they know that there won't be prosecution of any
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crimes other than above 1500 for example los angeles has got its version of this
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san francisco has had its version of it well the point i'm trying to raise here is
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that we are in um enormous trouble right now just enormous trouble in terms of the
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degree of alienation and uh and and division uh going on in the country and i
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want to just say a fast note on alienation you might have heard of dr robert malone
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who's a man i've spent a lot of time with he was on uh on uh uh joe rogan's show and
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got something like 50 million downloads and then there was an effort to have joe rogan
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canceled uh because that's what led to the yeah that's what led to joe rogan's the
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first big attempt to cancel him exactly and so malone is the original inventor of
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the mrna technology or platform that is now used in vaccines and he happens to
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strongly oppose these vaccines he's a vaccinologist so he doesn't oppose all
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vaccines but he happens to oppose this particular mass vaccination program this
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particular one which is you know will be billions of people by the time it's done
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anyway um malone talked about on that show mass formation which was the idea that
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you had whole populations just accepting information no matter what from the
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government just accepting without any questions without any uh without any
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hesitation and that links to this alienation issue because if you are alone
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your only relationship is via social media for example or the internet and you are
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lonely and feel alienated you can instantly join a group that is adversarial with
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someone it's emotionally charged you can instantly join a group pro-trump anti-trump
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he's the worst thing that ever existed he's he's great uh pro-hilary anti-hilary uh she's
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just victimized pro-vaccine anti-vaccine pro-abortion anti-abortion these things solve
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your alienation problem immediately because they put you in a community and they put you in
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a community that is glad to have you and accepts you and it's emotional these are emotionally
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charged issues we're not having these uh these um groups around topics like parking tickets we're
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having these groups around topics that are central and represent belief systems and the interesting
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thing is if you are for example in favor of pharma uh you know the most criminally fined entity in
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american culture pharma companies recalled things uh you know produce the the uh problems with pain
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medications and vioxx which killed 150 000 to three all these things and yet now they're kind of heroic
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in the culture if you're for them if you just believe why would they say you know why would pfizer
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say something that's not true about their product other than the fact that they've done it a bunch of
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times so i would just want to download two quick things for people who might be still trusting
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pharma companies as an example um the fda went to court to uh restrict release of the safety trials
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that pfizer did on on these new vaccines they asked for 55 years to release the information most people i
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say that to don't believe me i say you got to google it then they went to court again with pfizer the fda
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and asked for 75 years before releasing the information that's not stuff you do when you
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feel proud about the safety trials and now they have been ordered to release the information and
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the first tranche guess what it's got 1200 post-marketing deaths that are vaccine associated
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well these again no media where is the new york times to talk about this stuff and where is cnn
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and so here i'm bringing this all to my punchline back to shootings we now have instead of an
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individual who has no good relationship with his family who's alienated who's bullied in school
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we have a population that feels that way i don't mean the whole population but probably half of it
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feels like hey we're not getting the truth from our own government they are withholding information
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from us again and again and again and we're not getting well served by our politicians let's say
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the 535 in congress by the way is it 535 i've failed that history class anyway whatever that number is
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i didn't want to get it wrong but and where are we getting well served by these pariahs these
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canceled people like robert kennedy jr who of course in reality you know is a a gifted trial lawyer
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took on monsanto successfully and has a book that's got thousands of citations and by the way
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i mentioned i've read it twice the citations in in that book the real anthony fauci i'm an author
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talking about somebody else's book by the way as a humorous note but anyway the citations they're giving
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of you the citations are to the new york times to cnn to abc to newsweek to time they're not citations to
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some you know you you your your people looked at the claims that are made there and and they're not
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even claims they're history they're the history of what's going on you know has bill gates and the
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gates uh foundation ever had a vaccine program in india where they told people that these were
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wellness shots but they were actually vaccines that could affect uh uh reproduction yes not no yes
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true and so and that was can i just say that was some of the most explosive stuff it was like
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whoa wait what let's make sure and you you run through and you can see the evolution where they
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discovered it they were accused to build you know the bill gates foundation continues to deny everything
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but you've got independent third parties saying it happened we checked what was in your shot uh and so
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it's it's sort of something where you start off thinking oh yeah he must be a nutcase this can't be
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it's bill gates like this all must be untrue and then you keep digging you keep digging and you
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realize there is a nutcase involved here but it's not rfk jr no it's true and by the way also in
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nigeria and all over africa the the testing of vaccines like gardasil uh on on brown people is sort
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of the way it works and uh uh you know i have uh 10 raised 10 kids all together i have two young boys
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and two daughters and the idea that that boys are being induced to take gardasil at nine years old
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because one day they might grow up and and and you know the whole gardasil thing is such a scam
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can i just say this so that's the hpv vaccine and um yes we we love our pediatrician but
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our eldest is 12 he's a boy and then we have an 11 year old girl and we have an eight year old boy
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and so on his last wellness visit just a month ago our doctor wanted us to give our 12 year old boy
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gardasil he wanted us you know it's not sexually active he's a young boy um but he's like you know
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so i gotta gotta give him double dose before he gets to that point and i'm like hell no we are not doing
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that and then i got home to talk about it with my husband doug we're like absolutely not but this is
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somebody we trust you know it's like yes i can see how people easily get sucked into this because
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you don't do any research and you don't read books like fauci and you know enough fauci's rfk juniors
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and you just trust your doctor and the next thing you know you've done it well i want to by the way
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comment on that one because i got asked by clients to do a study of it because clients who have daughters
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were interested and so we did a study of gardasil it's not that hard a lot of it a great deal of it is
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on the fda website and of course on on uh in bobby's book uh there's a lot of good information
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but gardasil is a product to stop cervical cancer which people get in their 50s so you're giving it
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to a nine-year-old girl and you look at your nine-year-old girl and it's a perfect product
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because from a marketing point of view because you say well i don't want her to have cervical cancer
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well first of all cervical cancer is highly survivable it's not that common and additionally it's
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something that she would get if she gets it in 40 years and that we have to assume that in 40 years
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there'd be no better treatment than there is today and we have to assume that the gardasil vaccine works
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and we have to assume that which stops hpv it doesn't stop cancer they're claiming a link
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and we have to assume that it's entirely safe which it is not so it has risks in fact macabre risks that
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are listed on the package insert here's a quick thing for your audience every vaccine every product in
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pharma has a has a package insert that's required by the fda but you don't see the package insert on
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vaccines because you go to the pharmacy and they give you the shot or you go to your doctor and they
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give you the shot ask for the package insert on gardasil read that and then anybody who wants to give
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that to a nine-year-old kid or any kid i'd be really surprised about and why is it a perfect product
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i said megan because their commercials for gardasil have a little girl saying mom dad do you know about
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gardasil it like the little kid is the one who's going to tell you that they've done a safety study
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on the product um it is a terrible vaccine and vaccines are not equal tetanus bring it on right
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you have a serious injury you want a tetanus vaccine right then and there because it can lead to
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lockjaw very serious not all vaccines are bad that isn't my point but these consumer products
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that are you know right now we have a product that is the most promoted consumer product in history
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and the most uh taken consumer product in history often not by uh not by choice more than coca-cola
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and so this i'm talking about the the covid vaccines by the various american manufacturers and the one
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british manufacturer and so um when you have a when you have the fda trying to hold back the safety
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trials for 75 years you have to start asking questions and of course media is not doing it and
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that's too bad uh too bad it's gonna start up again it's gonna start up again because now they've backed
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off temporarily because they were getting hit politically and they see these midterms coming
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and they realized and they saw what happened in virginia with glenn youngkin and they saw what happened
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in new jersey uh where their democratic governor almost went down within three points in a race that
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he was supposed to have in the bag and they backed off but we're going to go back into the fall
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and the temperature is going to change in the northeast and washington dc and probably we'll have some more
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covid cases and the hysteria will ramp back up as soon as those midterms are over so we're not done
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with this battle i mean that's it's not over i do want to say uh my crack team because we like to remain
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unplatformed um says the following the on the number of deaths after the vaccine according to
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this pfizer report following up on what you said um they say among this group that the report shows
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there were 42,086 reports of adverse events 1,223 reports of fatalities within a certain period of
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time following vaccination jeffrey morris the director of the division of biostatistics at
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upenn told usa today but this data does not mean there's a a causal relationship between the
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vaccine and these events in other words the 1200 people could have died of a heart attack of something
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not related to the vaccine i think that that would be pfizer's defense saying our vaccine didn't cause
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moving on right okay moving on um this is all fascinating to me because it's all part of a massive
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manipulation and a deterioration in trust and it's why people try to seek out new information
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in different places and that's led to other problems okay i talked to a woman who wound up on
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the on on january 6th right outside of the capitol thinking about going inside um because she'd been
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getting information you know from places like reddit about trump was going to stay president right she
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was misled because she distrusts cnn she doesn't believe in don lemon she did so she just started going
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elsewhere for her information and went down a massive rabbit hole and when you were talking
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about this i was thinking about the trans craze sweeping our teenage girls right like they're also
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looking for a place to feel like they belong and we used to have that when i was a teenager too and
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people might smoke pot or they'd i don't know join the cheerleaders or they whatever but today's day
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and age has offered this other potentially very dangerous avenue for them where you can have your
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breast cut off and you can take cross sex hormones when you might not actually have any gender
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dysphoria and wind up sterilized right it's this it's sort of a cultism well you must like radioactive
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subjects i do you know i'm sort of a third real kind of person but i will comment on this to say that
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um you know i've raised 10 kids um all the boys uh you know came in with dresses at some point all the
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girls uh did whatever they did that was more inclined toward what we consider traditionally
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male activities and blah blah blah i think that there is gender dysphoria it's a very real thing
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and i think that the decision to um start taking hormones for example uh needs to be taken very
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carefully because now you're getting into things that are not easily reversible and obviously um you
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know uh actual genital surgery or removal of breasts these are not things you back away from
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very easily i think it's interesting that when somebody wants to um transition and goes through
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the whole process and now there's you know there's a an institution of people ready to do that doctors
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ready to do it people ready to encourage it pharma products ready to uh to be used as always well when
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that happens uh you are welcomed however for those few people who would like to reverse gender
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reassignment surgery they are pariahs they are some kind of betrayer there's some kind of of you know
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they should be canceled it's just a fascinating thing because anything that becomes any medical or
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emotional issue that becomes a a cultural and social issue is problematic and i know i i would hope that
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anybody who wants to do uh you know transition surgery does it as an adult and that's right of course
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that's one parent speaking but i wanted to say something about one parent speaking freedom of
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speech is specifically about things we disagree with otherwise you wouldn't need freedom of speech
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if everybody felt the same way and so is it okay for me to have any opinion is it okay for
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rfk to have an opinion or dr robert malone to have an opinion the answer today or you megan the answer
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today is no it is not okay it is not okay you'll get into what would be called forbidden speech and
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there's misinformation that's just an error there's disinformation that's uh an intentional error and
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designed to mislead people they say and now there's malinformation do you know that one megan have you heard
01:06:57.240
that one malinformation is information that might or might not be accurate but tends to diminish
01:07:05.020
confidence in the government that's called malinformation and so you know we've been here
01:07:11.020
before i like to say on all of these things i go historically as you see in my books as well
01:07:15.180
on all of these things it is not the first time that a culture is facing totalitarian behaviors
01:07:23.100
uh by government you could blame it on trump you can blame it on biden or clinton anybody you want
01:07:28.480
but ultimately the federal government is so powerful at the moment that it can control information
01:07:34.700
with complete impunity which is going on right now and you know these things throughout human history
01:07:41.560
some people have sought to control others typically a minority of people right down to the king and queen
01:07:49.120
you can't have a smaller minority than that controlling entire populations that is history and a very
01:07:55.560
quick thing is that if you looked at world history as a pie the entire pie is totalitarian
01:08:03.260
leadership and governance other than a tiny tiny sliver which is the united states and western europe
01:08:10.720
it's not permanent it's not destined to be permanent and most societies move toward greater and greater
01:08:18.440
control of the population and you know favorably uh in 2020 uh a book that hadn't been in print i mean
01:08:27.040
hadn't been published for 70 years it was 70 years old uh suddenly became a top 20 bestseller and that was
01:08:34.940
1984 was a top 20 bestseller in 2020 isn't that interesting people are paying attention they they are
01:08:42.880
um and then but the manipulation is at every level you're right government for sure uh and media we
01:08:49.320
talked about and i one of the things i wanted to ask you about because it's an issue near and dear to my
01:08:53.260
heart is the way the media responds to these mass shootings and in particular to the school shootings
01:09:00.860
in which they take the shooter's name and his photo and they put it on loop and they make a star
01:09:07.300
out of these guys without any thought for the infamy they're giving this guy i you were one of
01:09:16.800
the first people who raised this in my life i can't even remember what you wrote that i read it in but it
01:09:21.480
was it was condemning the media for not understanding how that's being part of the problem and since then
01:09:26.940
many others have written about it as well and the media continues to do it and i understand as a member
01:09:31.480
of the media maybe we have a system where like the ap or we have some agreement where somebody
01:09:36.920
reports the name of the shooter and some facts about the shooter and some some basic bio about
01:09:41.140
the shooter you know it's i'm not saying as a journalistic matter it's totally irrelevant
01:09:44.360
it is relevant um but the lionization almost of these guys is playing a factor in the repeat
01:09:52.480
nature of these crimes is it not oh very much and i it's not done in every country uh there you know
01:09:58.960
in england you can't name the perpetrator until after a trial and uh there are various reasons
01:10:04.260
that's the case but the the upshot of it is that you don't have what you have in america i'll give
01:10:09.200
you a good example of when president reagan was shot by john hinckley um from that point on we saw
01:10:16.440
hinckley's boyhood home interview with neighbors we obviously saw his name all of his pictures through
01:10:21.620
high school we saw him being escorted by federal agents to a waiting helicopter and the whole experience
01:10:27.460
is almost an equalizing of the target which is the president and the assassin who is the shooter
01:10:34.540
and the and i strongly oppose all forms of of um lionization or uh creating a star out of an
01:10:44.460
assassin and yet it's gone on forever the the uh unabomber who i mentioned earlier is on the cover
01:10:50.660
of time and newsweek at the time and it says genius uh because he was he'd written such an intelligent
01:10:56.940
manifesto or was perceived as a genius by somebody the point being that you ought not be able to
01:11:02.600
enter the world of great goings-on with simply a handgun and a few bullets and that is what we give
01:11:08.920
in america we the media gives and i think some don't by the way i've observed your own hesitation
01:11:15.520
about it i've seen people not do it but the immediate turning of a really a a loser uh who could not
01:11:25.600
influence world events by any method other than shooting a senator or shooting at a president or
01:11:31.720
doing a mass shooting turning that person into an enormous star um is damaging because it encourages
01:11:39.420
others and we always saw and we tracked it in my company that within a few weeks of a mass shooting
01:11:46.220
you would have another well now they're weekly anyway so that issue has resolved itself but the point
01:11:51.700
being that you are encouraging others and you are saying among the large menu of choices that a
01:11:57.880
young people can choose in their lives of who to be what to be now there's a new character oh i can be
01:12:04.460
that mass shooter at columbine in that cool black jacket that was worn uh by so and so in in such and
01:12:11.580
such movie i can be like that and i don't have a lot of other good options right my parents aren't good
01:12:17.240
to me my community isn't good to me i'm a loner i'm alienated but i can be a big deal just like john
01:12:23.860
hinckley just like mark david chapman who killed john lennon i can be for a brief time as famous as
01:12:30.280
the person i kill that is an a menu item offered up in america by the media uh that should be uh tempered
01:12:39.220
that should be tempered i'm just thinking about this there's a new protocol in media where if somebody
01:12:44.540
dies by suicide you it's not considered okay to talk about the method by which they did it and
01:12:52.200
because they've they understand that you know i for lack of a better word it can be contagious like
01:12:57.580
it can place the idea in somebody's head yes we saw it right around the time of anthony bourdain and
01:13:01.880
kate spade and some others and i think that's a fine responsible practice by the media but why is the
01:13:07.180
media so responsive to that issue and on this issue where you've got massive deaths and we do have a
01:13:13.180
massive problem with these shootings in america they don't care at all it's like they need their
01:13:18.520
b-roll they need something to keep the screen interesting and make you buy their paper and
01:13:23.820
they don't see their role in contributing to this danger at all yeah and then the replaying it of
01:13:30.200
course over and over and over again the helicopter view of the school and the cops surrounding the
01:13:34.620
school and the kids being hustled out and it another element of this is that it's scary images for
01:13:40.520
kids who too many of them are at dinner with the television news on you know against my best
01:13:46.780
recommendation but nonetheless never let my kids are doing that never yeah yeah it's not it's not good
01:13:51.220
stuff and so uh it leads to being afraid in the world and people who are afraid are actually um
01:13:58.560
less effective citizens we're seeing that right now with uh with covid you know fear of covid
01:14:04.720
we my company did a report back in the beginning of 2020 uh on uh you know who was at risk because
01:14:13.220
when i first heard about covid and you might be the same all i heard was over 60 die right and it's
01:14:19.600
it might be on the box the pizza box that's delivered it won't be on the pizza by some miracle
01:14:24.160
but it'll be on the outside of the box and so that's all we knew but very quickly a report came out of
01:14:29.540
italy nine months before the united states cdc provided the same information for some reason
01:14:34.680
and it came out of italy and it demonstrated that over 94 of the people who died had up to three
01:14:42.100
comorbidities now that's 4.7 by 3.7 in the united states uh so they they were already suffering from
01:14:49.600
up to three lethal diseases and how old were they so more than 90 of them were over 75 the average age
01:14:57.880
was 79 it's now moved to 81 the average occupancy where do they live where did they live they lived
01:15:05.440
in nursing homes 71 of the people who died attributed to covid in canada lived in nursing
01:15:11.380
homes so what that tells me is that if you're my 21 year old son uh you really don't have to focus
01:15:18.060
a great deal on fear of covid but we have a frightened population we have a frightened population england
01:15:24.840
doesn't in the same way interestingly england had bombing in world war ii from uh from germany and
01:15:30.780
they have that's the phrase of having a stiff upper lip you know we go to we go to work i remember
01:15:35.920
at another big fear uh fear fest was y2k most of your viewers won't remember it it sounds funny to
01:15:43.740
even describe it but you remember just trying to describe this to my kids turn right when the clock
01:15:48.460
turned to the new years on two in the year 2000 all devices would stop working your thermostat and your
01:15:54.180
refrigerator and your aircraft and your missile systems everything would stop working because
01:15:58.760
there was no way for the thing to turn over there were yeah tens of millions of dollars spent on y2k
01:16:04.940
compliance my company spent four hundred thousand dollars on y2k compliance being sure anyway i had
01:16:10.900
to fly to england on new year's eve i went to lax nobody there and there were news crews interviewing
01:16:18.300
the few people who were there flying and i flew on british airways 21 people on the plane normally holds
01:16:23.540
more than 300 and the pilot walks through the cabin at one point and i stopped him and i said why are
01:16:28.940
you guys flying american airlines united uh delta continental at those days none of them were flying
01:16:35.140
why are you guys flying and the guy said the pilot said because it's on the schedule um which was very
01:16:41.160
british because it's on the schedule uh america is is a country that you know i write books about fear
01:16:47.840
it's a very frightened country and and it's generally unwarranted fear and leaders throughout
01:16:55.320
human history have used fear to control populations and boy is that happening right now
01:17:00.420
that's got to be your next book like the downside of fear the gift of fear was it resonated and is so
01:17:08.400
true in so many ways but yeah you're right there are some massive downsides of fear and and one of the
01:17:13.480
big ones is it can be used by people in positions of power to manipulate us so how do we figure out when
01:17:20.580
that's what's happening or when the gift is kicking in that we're supposed to listen to
01:17:26.080
we'll pick it up right there after a quick break more with gavin de becker love this conversation
01:17:32.120
so that was a provocative question that we left off on right your your best-selling book that is
01:17:42.300
called the gift of fear and it for people who haven't read it a you need to and b it's about
01:17:47.920
how fear is a gift that intuition that sort of that the hairs on the back of your neck rising up when
01:17:53.340
you see somebody listen to them listen to that that's something instinctual inside of you that's
01:17:59.380
telling you you're in danger but fear can be exploited by bad people or powerful people with
01:18:06.300
bad motives politically and culturally in a way where maybe it's not so so much of a gift so expand
01:18:15.240
on that uh sure the the issue is um is it true fear or unwarranted fear so my book and the benefits of
01:18:26.520
intuition by the way intuition the root of the word in tear means to guard and protect and that's
01:18:32.360
what it does for us our intuition which knows everything much more than we do it knows the
01:18:36.900
distance of the sound and the scent of the smell and it and whether we saw that person earlier and
01:18:42.840
whether that's the same car that was there early it knows all kinds of things that we haven't
01:18:46.520
consciously assessed but the issue is is it true fear or unwarranted fear so i'll give a very quick
01:18:52.940
description of those two true fear is always something in your environment that you sense
01:19:00.300
you see it you hear it you smell it you touch it that is true fear and the unwarranted fear is always
01:19:07.940
based on your imagination or your memory something in your imagination or your memory so i'll give you
01:19:13.300
a real example you're at the airport you're about to board a flight and you get that feeling that
01:19:18.320
sometimes people get which is don't board this flight don't board this flight this plane's going to
01:19:22.080
crash etc if that is based on you know a news video you saw of a crash in caracas venezuela three
01:19:29.600
months ago that is unwarranted fear based on memory uh or imagination but if it's based on seeing the
01:19:36.680
two pilots stumble out of the bar drunk and board your flight um that's true fear because it's something
01:19:42.520
you sense in your environment it's a somewhat you know comedic example of the thing but my but the
01:19:47.520
point stands which is that um true fear is always something in your environment that you uh you
01:19:55.040
sense and unwarranted fear is always something that you imagine or you remember and so when we are
01:20:01.840
presented with something to fear by a government or a corporation or a friend uh or a spouse when we
01:20:08.600
are presented with fears that someone is trying to program into us we have to always ask the question
01:20:14.640
why are they doing it number one and to really dig in and understand the fear so for example fear of
01:20:22.220
covid or before it mad cow disease or before it flesh eating disease or before it y2k or before it
01:20:29.340
killer bees or anything else that we are being encouraged to fear and we have to learn and understand
01:20:35.660
and that's why you know in the blurb that i did for bobby kennedy's book i said you don't have to agree
01:20:41.240
or disagree with anything but you have an obligation in a democracy to learn the details associated any
01:20:47.940
time they tell you to fear something so when we're told to fear the terrible enemy that's coming uh you
01:20:53.880
know uh george bush we got to take the fight to them uh met weapons of mass destruction well 700 000
01:21:01.280
people killed in iraq uh untold billions uh thousands of our own troops killed and there weren't weapons of
01:21:08.120
mass destruction so all right then why did you want us to have that fear of uh of you know
01:21:14.620
hussein sending over terrorists we want to know why and we want to fully understand it so in the
01:21:19.460
present moment we're told originally fear covid protect your children i don't think there's one
01:21:25.400
healthy child in america not one that has provably died from covid uh you have you have kids in the
01:21:30.820
hospital dying and covid is part of what they have and likely part of what killed them if they're
01:21:36.020
already sick but what we needed to hear from the well if i can just say that the problem with that
01:21:41.760
is they haven't released the information the hospitals all along have been just doing deaths
01:21:46.380
from covid in the hospitals as opposed to dying from covid in the hospitals and only very very late
01:21:51.200
in the game did any any one of them try to start making that distinction and same thing with the
01:21:56.020
children they wouldn't tell us how many had comorbidities they just tried to scare us so i understand
01:22:00.720
the confusion on this is like we still don't have accurate data sorry go ahead no yeah it's true and
01:22:06.580
i i've got the video of even fauci explaining that some of the people whose deaths are attributed to
01:22:12.660
covid or hospitalizations are attributed to covid might be there for appendicitis um but they also
01:22:18.480
tested positive for covid so that's with covid versus from covid which is an important issue but on
01:22:24.100
on my main point in the beginning of covid like in the beginning of uh you know after 9-11 with terrorism
01:22:31.040
what happens is events happen so 9-11 happened and then everybody comes forward to see how can they
01:22:38.940
exploit it example i was giving a speech for the for the federal government in dc for directors of
01:22:45.800
security for all the federal agencies and in the middle i gave one speech then i did a q a and then
01:22:51.560
i gave a closing comment and in between there was a break and a guy came up to me and said boy i really
01:22:56.040
agree with you you're really doing great stuff i said oh you know what do you do he said i'm with a
01:22:59.920
company that whatever the name of it was that reinforces federal buildings with extra concrete and
01:23:05.880
bulletproof windows i said oh uh i said that's interesting because in the entire history of the
01:23:11.980
country there's only been uh one incident of a federal building being attacked so he said no no you're
01:23:18.380
wrong it's really like it's like wearing a seat belt i said brother that's nothing like wearing
01:23:22.820
a seat belt spending 300 million dollars to reinforce a building when when it's only happened
01:23:27.860
once in our history is not like wearing a seat belt where you have thousands of people killed in cars
01:23:31.740
every year and so that he that company comes forward to exploit you know let's say 9-11 uh what
01:23:39.160
happened every building in new york suddenly had security uh asking for id you remember you were there
01:23:45.360
asking for id before you go into the building but that's not what happened at 9-11 airplanes were
01:23:50.120
flown into buildings at 9-11 and asking for id does not prevent an airplane from hitting your building
01:23:55.500
so it's never a match the the exploitation method is rarely a match for what actually happened but is
01:24:02.480
always a match for the fear the fear will always be exploited in covet in the beginning we're told
01:24:08.200
instant death you're going to drop dead on the street look at this footage from from uh somebody
01:24:12.880
falling down in china but the reality was that our children and our and our teens and people in
01:24:20.620
their 20s and 30s and 40s and 50s if they were healthy had very very low risk of death from covid
01:24:27.420
and uh that's just the reality that hasn't changed uh but americans weren't told that they were told
01:24:33.240
the opposite where were the leaders who would say uh you're going to be fine yeah you're going to be
01:24:38.920
you know we had we had uh south dakota governor christine oman earlier this week she was one of
01:24:43.320
the few i mean reading up on her backstory she just has a book out called not my first rodeo
01:24:47.580
she was one of the few she was bold and it was because of these first principles she knew as a
01:24:51.620
just as a person who would lead saying trust the people you know trust the people and the actual
01:24:56.300
people you know she lives in a state of ranchers and farmers who know the land and they know how to
01:25:00.060
take care of themselves and they don't need big government telling them go left or go right
01:25:04.340
um and it turned out to be such a great example right it's like my state new york went a different
01:25:09.780
way it's one of it's actually been one of my teachings i don't mean teachings by me but i mean
01:25:15.320
teachings that i've received in the last two years which is i was as um bigoted as anybody about the
01:25:23.060
flyover states and just assumed that you know only intelligent people lived on the two coasts i don't
01:25:29.080
mean it quite as bad as i'm making it sound but it was somewhere in my it was somewhere in my
01:25:34.000
dna that the people you know were somehow uh less able to make good decisions but boy have i learned
01:25:42.620
through covid that people intuitively maybe 50 maybe 60 of the country if you went by the child
01:25:49.400
vaccines it might be 80 of the country just intuitively don't want to give these vaccines
01:25:54.740
to a six-month-old for god's sake um or a three-year-old and so i've learned the wisdom of the people
01:26:02.440
that i've embraced much more in the last two years than i ever had before i'm ashamed to admit but also
01:26:07.700
proud to to acknowledge that i've come this distance and you know you mentioned um uh noam
01:26:13.400
and then there's desantis right here you have a state the department of health in florida by the way
01:26:18.940
run by a harvard trained doctor joe latipo it's 13 000 people the department of health florida is a huge
01:26:26.360
state i think it might be 22 or 25 million citizens it's bigger than most countries on earth
01:26:31.280
and they've come to the decision to recommend against these vaccines for children are they
01:26:37.260
mentally ill are they crazy no they're real public officials and and public servants and elected
01:26:42.940
officials who've looked at the information and made this decision and i'm just disappointed that
01:26:48.580
more states haven't done it no dr latipo is amazing he came on the show and we had a long
01:26:52.480
discussion and and he's been demonized too went from california to florida um but they they've got
01:26:58.100
stats to back up their beliefs and then the results and even now you know now you have all these honest
01:27:04.220
doctors online the great barrington declaration uh doctors behind that some of the most respected
01:27:09.240
physicians in the world uh it's very clear who we should be listening to it's less clear whether we
01:27:14.440
will all right let me let me steal the last the last 10 minutes or so where our show's almost over
01:27:20.360
um just for those people because i'm thinking about my intern here gwendoline she's going off to
01:27:25.140
college and she does she hasn't read the book yet gavin but she's going to um and just illuminating
01:27:31.220
folks on what that gift is because the gift of fear the good side of it and when you should listen
01:27:36.460
to it in your book you tell the story of kelly who was a rape victim and this woman gave you such a
01:27:41.900
harrowing account of what happened to her there are so many lessons in it and you'll when people read
01:27:46.820
the book they'll get it but she she made all the wrong decisions in the beginning with this guy
01:27:52.740
she had her groceries she was going into her apartment building he offered to help her with
01:27:55.680
her groceries she didn't want it he pushed it she wound up changing her no into a yes he got up to
01:28:00.880
the apartment he was like let me take them in she's no but then she turned her no into a yes and she felt
01:28:05.540
bad and she did what all we women tend to do which is she didn't want to be rude you don't want to be
01:28:10.100
rude i know this is also from your book you go get into the elevator in the parking garage and
01:28:14.120
there's a creepy guy in there and he's standing there and you're standing there it's very clear
01:28:17.360
you press the button and your instincts tell you don't get in the elevator and what do you do you
01:28:21.860
get in anyway because you don't want to be rude and you make the point of like you're getting into a
01:28:25.820
locked box with a person your intuition is telling you is dangerous because you don't want to be rude
01:28:30.480
are you insane right so listen to it but this is the piece i wanted to raise with you her instincts
01:28:35.880
kicked in and that she had been raped by this man but and he he said if you know don't complain and i
01:28:43.620
won't kill you but she knew at the end not to believe that this is from your book um if you
01:28:50.800
asked her you asked her um like what what made basically what made you understand you had to get
01:28:57.360
out of there at the end as opposed to listening to him and she says um i don't know she took a long
01:29:03.300
pause gazing off past me looking back at him in the bedroom um she says oh i do know i get it
01:29:11.020
noise was the thing that's why he closed the window that's how i knew you go on since he was
01:29:17.320
dressed and supposedly leaving he had no other reason to close her window it was that subtle
01:29:22.400
signal that warned her but it was fear that gave her the courage to get up after she'd been raped
01:29:28.060
without hesitation and follow close behind the man as he was leaving her bedroom going to another room
01:29:34.260
who intended to kill her she later described a fear so complete that it replaced every feeling in her
01:29:40.280
body like an animal hiding inside of her it opened up to its full size and stood up using the muscles
01:29:47.500
in her legs she writes she said i had nothing to do with it i was a passenger moving down that hallway
01:29:53.960
she walked out opened the door went over to the neighbor's house that person let her in in that
01:30:00.680
condition she did a shh and she lived and that man who raped her had murdered at least another person
01:30:07.580
who didn't have that gift kick that kick in didn't realize the promise of i won't kill you if you
01:30:13.800
comply wasn't true so can you just educate us a bit on the gift how it works and how we know when to
01:30:22.220
listen sure and by the way even as i hear that story um i get chills now and i remember very well
01:30:29.740
hearing it the first time and then hearing from so many people who've been victimized over the years
01:30:34.640
who said to me well i say how did you know that you should get away from that person they say i don't
01:30:38.960
know how i knew and then if i just am quiet for a moment here come the details uh like that tiny
01:30:44.840
detail for her that led her to do this tremendously courageous thing of literally walking right down the
01:30:50.960
hall right behind him she said to me if i had breathed he could feel my breath on the back of his neck but i
01:30:56.380
didn't breathe and then he went on to the kitchen to get a knife interestingly and she uh you know
01:31:01.600
turned and went out her her uh door and went into the door across the hall which she knew would be
01:31:06.920
open and so what's going on there is that uh true fear which she hadn't felt fear by the way up until
01:31:12.480
that moment she said it was amazing that she hadn't been afraid of him she was you know very reluctant
01:31:18.180
to uh be raped obviously and very resistant but she had not felt fear that she would be killed
01:31:23.960
until that moment and uh true fear gives you a dose of some uh adrenaline that's a famous thing we all
01:31:32.520
know but also cortisol which is a brain chemical most people don't know about cortisol uh causes your
01:31:38.620
muscles to swell up basically becoming a kind of armor um causes your blood to clot more quickly in the
01:31:45.300
event that you are you know stabbed for example and and causes all these brain chemicals together
01:31:51.800
basically get your arms and your legs ready for combat uh and that's how they work and so if we if
01:31:57.140
we accept that the natural signals that we get not the information that we think about like there's a
01:32:03.440
woman i'll tell you super quickly um a woman i interviewed for my second book who had somebody
01:32:09.820
followed her and her her daughter as they walked a long walk at night from a movie theater and he'd given
01:32:15.420
to the creeps in line he'd said to her oh is it ladies night out because there were a bunch of
01:32:19.440
mothers and their daughters taking the kids to see a movie and and he had a um t-shirt with a slogan on
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that gave her the creeps everything gave her the creeps and then as she's walking in the night she
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realizes he's following her to the car and so she doesn't want to tell her daughter to speed up because
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if they run he'd be able to run faster and so she just accelerates her daughter slightly they get to
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the car she puts her daughter in the car first and locks that door so she can get around to the
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passenger side and when she gets to the passenger side he is on her already and he's holding her
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legs she hasn't swung her legs into the car yet and she's looking at him and she suddenly gets this
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signal in her mind car key and she thinks to herself well i don't want to be the kind of person who
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sticks a a car key into somebody's eyes because he was right there in front of her and that's when
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she realizes she's already done it and she's already driven away and the car door has already slammed
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shut and her daughter says to her uh mama you haven't put your seat belt on yet all of that
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happens automatically i want to say quickly megan for your audience i there's an advanced view that's
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available for free at called gift of fear.com and that's a gift of fear masterclass interviews with
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me with all kinds of people who have prevailed through violence and it's a nine-part thing and i
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want your intern to see it and your kids to see it before they go off to college and any kids to see it
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it's free and it's it's basically uh put on there as an advanced view i think it'll always be free
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who knows but it's free right now gift of fear.com i'm i'm gonna go and take it myself i would 100%
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take your masterclass i would actually enjoy it i think um you're just somebody who has helped me so
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many times you've kept me safe actually as a client but also just all thanks to your teachings over the
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past 30 years and i'm incredibly grateful to you gavin as are so many public officials and
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celebrities and regular folks um please come back and we'll take a deeper dive into crime and fear
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and all the rest of it so great having access to your expertise thank you megan for everything you
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do as well thank you so much all the best gavin becker wow he did not disappoint i can't wait to take
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that masterclass by the way there's another masterclass out there by victor davis hansen which you should
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also take tomorrow we've got a few great guests including glenn greenwald and filmmaker nancy
01:34:39.780
armstrong now she's also a friend of mine and she's brilliant and she's done this fascinating
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documentary on adhd uh and children and medications and very famous people who have it and the upsides of
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it and the downsides of it and i watched the whole thing and i was riveted and i was like my audience
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is gonna love this so we're gonna talk to her and glenn about all the latest goings on
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and uh january 6th and all of it don't miss the show and in the meantime download us and follow
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