J.D. Vance on Trump, Addiction, and Family | November 2020 Re-Release
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J.D. Vance joins the show to talk about his path to becoming a politician, why he decided to run for president, and why he thinks Joe Biden is the best choice to replace Donald Trump as the next Vice President.
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Welcome to The Megyn Kelly Show, live on Sirius XM Channel 111 every weekday at New East.
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Hey everyone, I'm Megyn Kelly. Welcome to The Megyn Kelly Show and this bonus weekend episode.
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With Senator J.D. Vance being named former President Donald Trump's vice presidential nominee,
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we wanted to look back at the time J.D. was on this show.
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Back in episode 29, we were just little babies at the time.
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We were only audio at the time as well. No video.
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It was November of 2020. We had launched the show in September.
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It was a very different time in our country, quite tumultuous as you may remember.
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Just weeks after President Biden was elected. Think of that.
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And J.D. was just a mega best-selling author back then.
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Certainly not a U.S. senator or a vice presidential nominee.
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We talked for two hours more about a wide range of topics from the 2020 election,
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to his family, to our interview for NBC back in 2017,
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to some blind spots that the Democratic Party has,
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It's a great window into who he is and super fun to listen to now that you know
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You're a good person to have on right now as we watch this election appear to come to its close.
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They do believe there was funny business in connection with this election.
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And I was thinking about you because Hellbilly Elegy tells us the code to follow
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Yeah, I think there's, first of all, a lot of frustration over the perceived hypocrisy.
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I think, in fact, the real hypocrisy, if I'm laying my cards on the table, right?
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So you had this election in 2016 where Trump won.
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It was very upsetting to a lot of people in the establishment press and other institutions.
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And for basically, you know, like two weeks, there was this period where all of these people
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asked themselves, oh, have we gotten something wrong?
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Have we missed an important part of the country?
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You know, we're going to go read Hellbilly Elegy or some other book to try to understand
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It was all about how the election, in some ways, was illegitimate.
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And I think there's just this real frustration that for four years, we've had this constant
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sense and messaging from certain quarters that the Trump presidency is illegitimate.
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And, you know, we're three weeks after the election, and there are these legal challenges
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And people are just preoccupied with Trump needs to accept the legitimacy of the election.
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So I think that hypocrisy, the fact that nobody accepted his election and his supporters are
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supposed to accept the election so quickly after it's done, I think just causes some real
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I don't think, I mean, you look at the last three weeks, you've had a lot of court filings,
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you've had a lot of peaceful protests, you've had a lot of people complaining on social media.
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But I really don't see any reason to think that this is going to become violent or chaotic.
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I think, you know, people certainly feel that they need to fight and they need to see this
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I think they're supportive of the president continuing the litigation.
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But I also don't think, you know, frankly, these are the sorts of people who are going to go
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burn up stores and set cars on fire and make life a living for hell for everybody.
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I think that when Biden is inaugurated, people will, you know, more or less accept it.
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It can be opposing Biden's policies and making sure that they don't get forgotten again, that
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the working class stays in the forefront of one's mind, which wasn't the case during the
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I mean, I think as we've been told so many times by, you know, these sort of elite media
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types that Trump supporters are all, they're Neanderthals, they're Nazis, they're racist, they're
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It's no one actually stops it to pay attention to what Trump did for these guys in the Rust
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Why did he win four years ago, Pennsylvania and Michigan and Wisconsin?
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There was, as you point out, a period where people want to take a hard look at that.
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Then they just decided to dismiss everybody as awful, as just bigoted for voting for the
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And I just wonder whether these folks are, you know, in a uniting mood right now, as
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we're as we're being told we must unite around Biden's agenda.
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I don't think the country is in a uniting mood.
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And frankly, this idea that we're all just going to come together over the new Biden
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I think certainly people will let their political passions subside a little bit.
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Election seasons are always a little bit exhausting for people who are engaged in politics and
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But but no, I don't think people are just going to let bygones be bygones, because to
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your point, you know, the two consistent threads that have come from the mainstream
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press since Trump's election in 2016 have been, you know, one, the election was stolen
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If you look at public polls, a pretty large share of Democratic voters think that Russia
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actually like hacked into voting machines and changed the tabulation.
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And so, you know, there's been this sort of the sense of illegitimacy focused around
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But the second, and I think in some ways, frankly, the more pernicious instinct that's
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existed in our politics is, to your point, you know, turn the Trump voter into this evil,
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And I, you know, I'm 36 years old now, and I can't think of any period where the winner
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or the loser in a presidential election has spent the next four years obsessing about
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the character defects of the other side of the country, right?
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We're going to try to appeal to them, maybe even in a fake way.
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Maybe we're going to lie to them, but we're at least going to try to pretend that we care
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That just didn't happen at all over the last four years.
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There's just been this idea that these people are Neanderthals or deplorables or racist.
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And I, you know, obviously sort of coming from this community, Megan, sort of, you know,
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white working class community with a lot of Trump voters, I really, really am bothered
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And, you know, one of the threads that came out was this idea that Trump voters are animated
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by an extraordinary amount of racial resentment.
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And to dive into the details just a little bit, the way that's usually measured, you call
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people up and you ask them, you know, what do you feel about this issue?
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And there are two really interesting things about these academic studies that identify
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The first is that they're basically just asking people to discuss race issues in the parlance
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So if you talk about racial issues as a modern college-educated urban millennial, then you get
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And if you talk about race issues in a way that most non-college educated people are going
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to talk about them, even if you are not yourself racist, just the fact that you don't have the
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same sort of, you know, verbal rules that you're following, they're going to get you tagged as
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high on the racial resentment score, which allows people to dismiss you.
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And related to that, one of the things you pretty consistently find is that if you look at white
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voters and you give them, or white working class voters, you give them a high score on
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this racial resentment index, you know who else gets really high on the racial resentment index?
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And so there's been this sort of ignorance that there's just like a basic disconnect in how
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American elites and the rest of the country talk about racial politics questions.
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And Trump voters, I think, have been made out to be the villain because they don't use the sort of
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And I just think that's, you know, one, it's unfair.
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Two, obviously people are going to feel put upon if you just call them racist because, you know,
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It's sort of, you know, one of the marks of not being welcome in polite society.
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And then the third piece of it is just that it's created a society where we're not actually
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trying to listen to or understand where these folks are coming from.
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There's just, again, no even pretense that we're going to try to understand these voters' concerns,
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make their lives better, make an appeal to them.
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And you can't expect to run an election like that and then just have these folks,
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come back to the table, willing to unify with the people who were calling them racist just
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It's a and as you look at sort of how the election has shaken out thus far, Trump improved
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his margins largely with Hispanic voters, a little with black voters.
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I mean, what do you think those folks are trying to say to the people who are telling everyone
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you have to speak about race and ethnicity in the way we want?
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Otherwise, you're bad and you have to hate Trump.
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You know, the narrative got turned on its head in when we actually saw voting results.
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Yeah, I think this this is a really important question.
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And, you know, so much is represented in the language and the rhetoric.
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I just think that there's this obsession among professional class Americans to talk about
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And the perfect representation of this is this this phrase Latinx or Latinx, which is
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supposed to be a a non-gendered way of talking instead of saying Latino.
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It's a non-gendered way of talking about that ethnic group.
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And one of the things you find with public polling is that the people who never use that
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Latinos and the people who use that word all the time are white Americans with professional
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And so, again, there's just this weird class diversions in how you discuss these issues.
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And I just think of it as like this ultimate example of elitism, because you're basically
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telling Latinos, you know, I know a number of Latinos.
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A lot of them are very proud of the language, whether it's their first language or their second
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language, Spanish, you're telling them that the language of their home, the language of
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their families is somehow discriminatory and that you, the white person with a law degree
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from Harvard or Yale, you know how to modify their language in a way that's going to make
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them more politically correct and more acceptable in polite society.
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And I don't think it's surprising at all that a lot of folks looked at that.
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A lot of listeners looked at that and said, not for me.
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And they went for Trump in pretty surprising numbers.
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And it's, you know, I think that people who have looked at the exit polls on this stuff
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have actually underappreciated how powerful the Latino shift to Donald Trump was.
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You know, the exit polls are always very unpredictable.
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But there are counties along the Rio Grande River Valley that are like 95% Hispanic, where
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And he didn't just win more than he won in 2016.
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He actually won a majority of the overall vote.
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So we're talking about a pretty dramatic shift to the president and to the Republican Party,
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which I think if Republicans can hold on to, it would be great.
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But I think Democrats really should wake up to the fact that the way in which the professionally
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educated leadership class of the Democratic Party just discusses these issues comes across
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as condescending and frankly, just a little bit weird.
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Like, I mean, how many times have you listened to these people talk, whether it's about racial
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politics or economic issues or gender and sexuality, and just thought to yourself, like,
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who are these weirdos and where do they learn how to talk about that?
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Well, I can relate to the Latinx thing as a woman, because I was told by TED Talks that
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we need to say women, like, I don't even know how you pronounce it, but it's W-O-M-X-N,
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If I don't say that when speaking about my gender, I'm a bigot.
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I said, I don't need TED Talks to tell me how to spell my gender in some new way to be
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And it is annoying, and it's actually motivational.
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I can see it turning a Latina or Latino into a Trump voter because they don't want to be
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whitesplained, too, right, by my neighbors here on the Upper West Side.
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And then, you know, what we get is a situation where four years ago we had Hillary Clinton
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calling them all deplorable, and then Trump won, and people said, oh, we better not do
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And instead of actually taking their own advice, we got four years of Democrats and
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And we have a little soundbite, J.D., that we put together, including, I think it kicks
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off with Christiane Amampur, who just two weeks ago, 10 days ago, doubled down on this.
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She was ultimately forced to apologize, though her remarks sat out there uncorrected for a week.
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This week, 82 years ago, Kristallnacht happened.
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It was the Nazis' warning shot across the bow of our human civilization after four years
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of a modern-day assault on those same values by Donald Trump.
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So many stunning parallels to what Hitler was doing.
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In describing Hitler's psychological profile, and this only pertains to Adolf Hitler, there
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is so much that is resonant of the Third Reich in this administration.
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And this only pertains to Adolf Hitler and pertains to nobody else.
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90% of what he says, I'm like, this guy gets it.
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If you've read anything about the rise of the Third Reich and Adolf Hitler, you will see
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That sounds a lot like a certain leader that killed members of my family and about 6 million
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That was put together by the Washington Free Beacon.
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As they're telling us that we're healed and we're unified, there's been no accounting for
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In fact, there won't be because that is what they think.
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That's what they think of Trump's voters, 74 million people, and especially the white working
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class who will never be forgiven for putting him in office to begin with.
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I mean, you know, first of all, you owe me for having forced me to listen to that.
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The, the, the, yeah, I mean, it really drives home that there is a core component of the
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leadership of the country, the leadership of the Democratic Party that really isn't interested
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When you talk about people like that, when you call them Nazis, when you compare them
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to people who murdered 6 million innocent people, you're not making a play for them
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to come to the table, meet as equals, hash out our differences and move forward as a
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And I don't think people should be surprised that a very proud group of people who feel
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rightfully so, like they had a huge part of helping to build this country, are going
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And so I think we're going to have a pretty chaotic politics from this point forward.
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The other thing I just want to say, reacting to that video is, you know, I'm not a history
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expert, but I understand the Kristallnacht was pretty violent.
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Obviously the Holocaust was like the most violent thing imaginable.
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A hundred thousand front voters gathered in DC a couple of weeks ago to protest.
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And the violence was primarily from like left-wing paramilitary groups against them.
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They maintained an incredibly peaceful presence despite a very heated topic and a very heated
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So I just, the comparison and the treatment of these guys is like these violent criminals,
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It's just, it's just bizarre because they're actually just not right.
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And there are a lot of people who are expressing their views, but they're not doing it violently.
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And that, that's just often completely missed when people compare these folks to, you know,
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You know, I go back to the end of Obama's second term.
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And I was talking with folks close to the white house about sitting down with him because even
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then this is before Trump had even secured the nomination on the Republican side, Obama
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was regretting not having paid more attention to this group of voters.
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He, he's smart and he understood they were unhappy and his policies had not helped them.
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And this could be a growing force in American politics.
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And I think he had genuine regret over not considering them and their needs more.
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And certainly they had the final say in the election of Donald Trump.
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But I wonder what's going to happen now because there's a reason, of course, these folks voted
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for Trump and a lot of the white working class still voted for Trump.
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Most of them still voted for Trump this time around.
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His, his share of white, white men went down a little, but, um, they still were on team
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Trump, even though he lost those states more because of suburban voters and seniors.
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And it could, it was, looks like it was largely related to the pandemic and the way Trump talks
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But looking back at what Trump did, you know, one of the reasons he was elected was he promised
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he was going to roll back a lot of these regulations Obama had put in place that he was going to
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And, you know, Obama wanted environmental regulations over, over any sort of industrial
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You know, he, he tried to reduce, well, he did reduce corporate taxes.
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He, he tried to encourage the return of production to the United States where he would try to shame
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any company that was going to take its plant overseas.
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He, he went after China and their unfair trade practices.
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He, he did reach new trade agreements with Canada, with, with Mexico, with South Korea,
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all trying to favor more domestic production, not to mention tariffs he put in place to help
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This is like, this is all stuff that this group of voters loved, but now you've got not
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just any Democrat, but Obama's number two, Joe Biden in there.
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And I just wonder what, what you think the sense is right now amongst those voters in
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I mean, just as a preliminary point, I do think that one of the lessons for Republicans, there
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are obviously a lot of, a lot of lessons for Democrats.
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One of the lessons for Republicans from 2020 is that they maybe took the white working class
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I think that, you know, you should have expected that group, frankly, to go even more stronger
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for Trump, more strongly for Trump than they did in 2016.
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There was a little bit to your point of a stagnation, not really reversal, but certainly
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And I think that, you know, my read on this is that where Trump, you know, governed as
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a populist, where he really hammered China, the trade issue, the immigration issue is where
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And, you know, when, when he governed as a traditional Republican, I do think that he
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probably, you know, led to some stagnation in that voting bloc.
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And so I think that's, that's one of the lessons to take away from this.
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Because he did ultimately cut a deal, a deal with China.
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I mean, he did ultimately cut a deal, which they may not be happy about.
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And it was funny that the, the, the tax plan, which there were a lot of things I liked about
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and some things I didn't like about it, I think to the extent that that was really focused
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on bringing capital and investment back to the country and cutting middle-class taxes,
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And to the extent that it looked like something that Mitt Romney would have done, it frankly
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And so there was this really, you know, interesting push and pull between the Trump instinct within
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the White House and, you know, the more establishment instinct within the White House, which is, of
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course, you know, something that a lot of other folks can talk to better than I can.
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Um, but, but I, I think on, on the Biden question, you know, what, what would worry me and, and
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what I think a lot of folks are, are concerned about is sort of a reversal on the China issue.
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Uh, so, so I think the China issue is probably the, the most substantial of Trump's, uh, wins
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I think he totally changed the conversation on China.
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And if, if you think about the environmental issue as related to the China issue, so, you know,
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we think of environmental issues like, okay, fuel standards, reducing emissions here at
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home, but the way in which our environmental policy can be most destructive is actually
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Because if the Chinese are allowed to pollute as much as they can, then they can build and
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make things and manufacture things much more cheaply than we can.
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And so if you're going soft on China, which I think frankly, Biden's secretary of state
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looks like a soft on China guy, while at the same time, putting America under stricter
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environmental regulations than the Chinese, then what you could have is a real stagnation
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Which of course is, is sort of what you need to actually build a thriving, working and middle
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You have to have a viable manufacturing sector.
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It's certainly the lesson of the United States in the last 20 or 30 years.
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Um, and so there is this, this fear that a lot of the wage growth that you saw over the
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last four years is going to get reversed in this preoccupation with, instead of building
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a viable manufacturing sector for the middle class, with this idea that you can just transition
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the existing middle class to the jobs of the future.
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And I think that's an important piece of the puzzle, but there's just no way.
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And I think if you actually listen to, for example, Rahm Emanuel talk about the economic
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prospects of the Midwest, you know, Rahm Emanuel said, I think it was on CNN or some other
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network a couple of weeks ago, well, these folks just have to learn to code.
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And I'm a very big fan of investing in the future of the economy, but you can't tell tens
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of thousands, hundreds of thousands of manufacturing workers.
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They're just going to have to go back to school when they're 52 years old and learn to code.
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A lot of people aren't going to be able to do that.
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And so if that is your orientation, let's just focus on the technology sector instead
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of really rebuilding and reinvesting in American manufacturing.
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I think a lot of people are going to get left behind and a lot of the progress we made over
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No, Forbes reported that employment grew in manufacturing jobs by almost half a million
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under Trump after falling by 200,000 under Obama.
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So, I mean, that's a pretty big swing and that's the kind of swing that can turn numbers
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And so if Biden gets in there and starts re-implementing these regulations on manufacturing, on, you
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know, trying to protect the environment at the expense of the American worker, it could
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have real life consequences in terms of our electoral politics and in terms of lives.
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You know, I mean, you talk about, learn to code is so absurd for most people.
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I mean, I'd be one of them, but Hillbilly Elegy takes a hard look at sort of the malaise
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happening in these communities in the Rust Belt, almost the lack of agency a lot of these
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There isn't this, let's go get them kind of attitude.
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You're talking about guys who like took four lunch breaks and they stretch from 20 to 60
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It's not all about what the government can do for you.
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A lot of it has to do with attitudes that have been cultivated in these communities that
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might not lend themselves to brilliant careers as coders.
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Yeah, I think there's a lot of, you know, the way I'd put it is that there's a lot of
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hopelessness in these communities and they've been battered in a lot of different ways for
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the past, you know, not 30 or 40 years, but 50 or 60 years.
00:25:54.300
And there, you know, there's something like grandma, grandpa has used to told me, he was
00:25:58.020
sort of an old, you know, union steel worker voted for a Democrat pretty much every single
00:26:03.940
I think he voted for Reagan once in 1984, otherwise voted for Democrats his whole life.
00:26:09.340
And, um, you know, he, he told me that, you know, look, there are people who just aren't
00:26:17.280
And every, in every community, in every place, you know, there are people and you, you know,
00:26:20.880
these politically incorrect guys who said deadbeats, right.
00:26:22.820
There's deadbeats in every community, like the difference between the 1950s when, you
00:26:28.600
know, Middletown, our hometown had a really viable manufacturing sector, you know, really
00:26:32.860
robust private sector unions, um, because the jobs that supported private sector unions actually
00:26:39.460
existed and hadn't been all shipped to China and Mexico.
00:26:42.980
Uh, but yeah, they were deadbeats back then, but they were enveloped in a community that could
00:26:51.000
When you take a community where all of those sort of support structures have been weakened,
00:26:55.420
where, you know, the churches have been weakened, the jobs don't exist anymore.
00:26:59.620
The people who, if you were slacking on the job in the 1950s would have said, Hey man, you
00:27:07.100
Those people just aren't around in the same numbers as they were 40 or 50 years ago.
00:27:11.460
And so you just have much weaker, what I call community infrastructure.
00:27:16.960
It's about everything that exists in the community where you actually live and you take that stuff
00:27:22.800
And it's just really hard for people to get back on their feet.
00:27:26.820
Um, you know, yeah, some of them are not making good choices.
00:27:32.160
I don't shy away from talking about that, uh, in, in my life, uh, but if you're going
00:27:37.460
to actually help those people, I think we should help people, uh, whether they're ambitious
00:27:41.920
or not, whether they want to learn to code or whether they just want to work in a simple
00:27:45.620
manufacturing job and be able to earn a living wage is you've got to have a viable and robust
00:27:54.080
And one of those institutions is good manufacturing oriented jobs.
00:27:58.300
Um, you know, we can talk about this question of cultural versus economics.
00:28:03.040
I think it's, it's obviously a pretty controversial thing that the book dives right into.
00:28:07.300
You know, I've, I've always thought that the economics and the culture are related, right?
00:28:11.300
If the culture starts to go South, it's harder to sort of maintain economic productivity.
00:28:16.360
Uh, if the economy starts to go South and the jobs disappear, then people become hopeless.
00:28:24.500
And if your solution to this problem, your solution to these communities,
00:28:27.900
is, Hey, uh, you guys just need to go to Ohio state or the university of Cincinnati and pick
00:28:38.180
Uh, then you're not actually going to help people.
00:28:40.320
You're making yourself feel better by ignoring them, uh, but you are ignoring them.
00:28:43.920
And I think we should just be honest about that fact.
00:28:46.060
The other important points to make here, and it's, it's, it's like the third rail of American
00:28:54.980
And there's always the, you know, what, what are we talking about when we're talking about
00:28:58.700
Are we talking about wage competition among the lower class?
00:29:02.140
I think that's actually a big driver of why a lot of Latinos in the Southwest went to Donald
00:29:06.860
Trump is because he was a little bit, um, stricter on immigration.
00:29:10.540
Um, there's this question about, is it, is it culture or race?
00:29:17.120
Um, you know, I, I really don't think that's part of the story, but the third thing that
00:29:21.920
we just don't talk about on the immigration side is the opioid epidemic and the effect
00:29:30.600
And we know that probably 80 or 90,000 pretty young Americans are going to die of an opioid
00:29:38.580
Uh, that has been pretty consistent, uh, for a long time, but one of the ways that those
00:29:45.180
drugs are getting in, especially fentanyl, uh, which is a very powerful opioid that pretty
00:29:49.700
much instantly, you know, gives you an overdose.
00:29:52.500
If you take a sufficient dose of it, um, fentanyl is being manufactured in China and primarily
00:30:00.140
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00:30:05.740
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00:30:09.420
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00:30:19.100
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You talk about culture versus economics and the effect on a community and, you know, the
00:31:31.020
absurdity of the learn to code message to these coal miners, let's say.
00:31:35.500
Think about if they turned around, if, you know, Trump's administration turned around to
00:31:40.480
black America in Chicago and, you know, where you talk about blight, right?
00:31:45.920
And said, learn to code the outreach that we would get in that message.
00:31:52.880
You know, yes, we do have to talk about agency and willingness to get off the couch and fix
00:32:01.880
But we also have to be realistic about what the economics look like and what's really realistic
00:32:11.040
And I just think you can't if you can't do it with the black community, you can't do it
00:32:15.680
And what we're really talking about is people who are lower socioeconomic status and how
00:32:21.260
And you've got to look at both of these things.
00:32:23.100
What's their attitude and what's what's potentially available to them?
00:32:26.400
Yeah, there's there's a sociologist who's actually a very liberal guy.
00:32:35.260
And, you know, very much a guy on the left, but just incredibly thoughtful about these problems.
00:32:41.080
And, you know, he's he's been pretty influential in how I think about this interplay between
00:32:48.660
You've got to take people who are sitting on the couch doing nothing and you got to get
00:32:52.000
You got to get them into good jobs, you're hopefully able to support families, able to
00:32:55.900
raise those families and stability and comfort.
00:32:57.780
And then you create a virtuous cycle from generation to generation instead of, you know, the vicious
00:33:02.660
cycle that we sometimes have in families that are struggling with joblessness and addiction
00:33:09.060
But, you know, one of the things that's going to motivate people to get off the couch, of
00:33:15.360
That's an important piece of it, but it's not the only piece.
00:33:17.960
Another thing that's going to motivate people to get off the couch is when their neighbors
00:33:22.060
and friends are also getting off the couch, right?
00:33:24.280
When you're in a community where there just isn't a lot going on, where a lot of people
00:33:30.600
are doing drugs, a lot of people aren't finding good jobs, even the guys who want to go
00:33:34.840
and work and find good jobs, it creates this sort of mentality where why try, right?
00:33:44.540
You know, hopelessness is a good way to think about it.
00:33:47.040
But if you want to actually improve people's lives, you can't just say, well, here's some
00:33:55.320
Here's a check from the government, spend it well, or here's a good job, go and apply.
00:33:59.600
But you've got to create the community infrastructure that makes people feel like it's possible.
00:34:06.280
And if they try, something good is actually going to come from it.
00:34:10.880
I mean, you know, I've certainly been, I'm sure all of us have been in moments in our
00:34:15.060
lives where we're feeling a little bit lazy, a little bit shiftless, unsure what we want
00:34:19.480
You know, one of the things that helps break you out of that pattern is somebody in your
00:34:22.880
life saying, hey, you know, do something else here, right?
00:34:26.320
Um, you know, go, you know, maybe it's, maybe it's your wife who says you need to do the
00:34:33.180
Maybe it's somebody in your family who said you need to go and apply to that job.
00:34:38.680
But like, I think about my own life and all of these little influences that helped get
00:34:45.860
You take those influences away and it's just me trying to figure this stuff out on my own.
00:34:50.640
And I think things just don't, don't go as well for me, right?
00:34:53.100
If mamaw wasn't telling me you need to go get off your ass.
00:34:58.880
If, if I didn't have, you know, my, my sister and my aunt and my mom saying, you know, if
00:35:04.600
you want to have a good job, you may need to go get an education.
00:35:08.340
If I didn't have people in the Marine Corps saying, you know, here's what you need to
00:35:11.960
Here's how you need to apply for financial aid.
00:35:14.100
Here's how you need to sort of structure your life so you can actually succeed in school.
00:35:17.720
You know, all of these weird little community influences are what I think the building blocks
00:35:25.020
Um, and, and, and those, you know, that, that's sort of, as I see at the interplay between
00:35:29.780
culture and economics is it's not just the good job.
00:35:32.860
It's also the full spade of community actors that make it seem both possible and available
00:35:40.100
to you to actually get off that couch and go do something.
00:35:43.160
Um, and that's what's, you know, that's, what's ultimately missing when you're, when
00:35:46.580
you've got people, um, who, who, who are really, really left behind and, and really don't see
00:35:56.600
I also think that's the thing that's missing the most is people in their lives who can actually
00:36:01.620
It's, it's back to the old, if you can see it, you can be it.
00:36:04.080
You know, it's, it's very helpful to see role models around you who have done it.
00:36:08.040
But I also think this is one of the problems with identity politics because the messaging
00:36:12.140
from people who are obsessed with their gender, their skin color, their sexuality, uh, is you,
00:36:19.580
the reason you can't do it is because of these immutable characteristics.
00:36:23.080
Like you can't, you, the American dream is not possible for you because the system won't
00:36:29.600
And it completely takes away a person's agency and, and they do openly crap on the American
00:36:41.700
And this anti-American sentiment cropping up, I think is another thing that motivates
00:36:46.140
a lot of voters, but it's, they're basically challenging the notion that anyone, no matter
00:36:52.620
their circumstances can achieve success in this country.
00:36:55.600
What, one of the things that I think so beautiful about your book, your story, and the reason why
00:37:01.540
many on the left hate it is that you're, you, you're an example of it being possible, even
00:37:09.560
under really tough circumstances, even for a kid who has almost no advantages other than
00:37:16.980
a grandma and, and grandpa who really loved him and decided to give him a little tough love.
00:37:25.000
I mean, the thing I always ask people when they talk about the structural and systemic
00:37:33.960
factors that make it hard or impossible for people to achieve is let's say you're absolutely
00:37:40.560
Let's just say for the sake of argument that you're absolutely right.
00:37:43.940
Like what good is that message when directed at a kid who's struggling and trying to figure
00:37:51.540
So I, I'm not one of these people who says the people, you know, says that sort of poor
00:37:58.680
Like I can't possibly look at my grandma's life and my grandma's upbringing and say, you
00:38:03.640
know, she had the same set of opportunities as someone who was born in a, an upper class
00:38:12.480
I think frankly, she also had a lot of advantages, right?
00:38:15.080
She had, I think a lot of important cultural training that she wouldn't have gotten, but
00:38:21.320
I don't, I, I don't know who would look at my life and say, you know, JD had it easy relative
00:38:26.820
to a kid born of privilege, but so what in some ways is the takeaway from that to tell
00:38:33.640
a kid like me, when I was 12 years old, your life is unfair.
00:38:40.640
So, you know, why isn't the message that I take from that ultimately, well, I should just
00:38:45.920
If the deck is stacked against me, if there's no hope that I shouldn't even try.
00:38:49.840
And there's, there's just this weird strain of thought in American life right now, where
00:38:54.280
you can't hold two thoughts in your head at the same time.
00:38:57.360
And in this particular moment, I think the two thoughts, this particular question, the
00:39:02.520
two thoughts that we have to hold in our head at the same time are one, yes, life can be
00:39:07.180
hard for people who are born poor in tough circumstances, but two, it's still important
00:39:14.480
for them to see that they have agency and that they need to try anyway, right?
00:39:18.900
It might not always work out and we got to be honest about that fact, but the worst of
00:39:23.480
all possible worlds is where people are just told there's no hope.
00:39:29.460
There's no reason to make anything of yourself.
00:39:31.340
And I do unfortunately think that's the message that a lot of people on the left are ultimately
00:39:38.120
I am, you know, my, you know, my, my grandparents were classic blue dog Democrats and I'm actually
00:39:46.440
sympathetic to a lot of the arguments that folks on the left make about, you know, certain
00:39:52.660
You know, especially when it comes to people who don't, um, who don't have a lot of money,
00:39:57.360
who grew up in traumatic homes, who've grew up in abused and neglected environments.
00:40:01.400
I don't think that they're wrong, that that creates special disadvantages, but you can't
00:40:08.040
just encourage people to wallow in everything that's gone wrong in their lives.
00:40:11.780
You have to be able to say on the one hand, you know, we as community leaders, as policymakers,
00:40:16.520
as media folks are going to try to make it a little bit easier for those who are disadvantaged
00:40:21.100
to have a shot at the American dream, while at the same time telling people who are struggling
00:40:28.040
It is out there for you if you're, if you're willing to work for it.
00:40:32.080
Well, I think the other piece of it too, is once, once is once one achieves the American
00:40:38.040
dream, the response, the collective response from the left in particular should not be fuck
00:40:46.000
That's the, one of the problems we're seeing is success has been so demonized in the country
00:40:50.440
now, even if you are self-made, just having it is a problem.
00:40:53.680
You know, they're, they'll, they'll hold it against you.
00:40:55.940
You've, you've, you must now see the rest of the country as less than you must not be
00:41:03.100
You have to give more of it back, you know, and the less you give the more of a miser and
00:41:08.260
It's like, I don't know that I, I just think we've changed the messaging from good for you.
00:41:13.760
Maybe I could do it to help me understand how to screw you.
00:41:19.580
There's definitely a way in which I think our country is really, I shouldn't say our
00:41:25.040
I think that our leadership class is really uncomfortable with success and with people
00:41:30.280
So I saw this interesting poll just a couple of days ago and it was looking just at Trump
00:41:35.080
voters, college educated Trump voters versus non-college educated Trump voters.
00:41:38.920
And it was, the question was, you know, do you think that it's possible for a person to
00:41:45.300
And I think it was 71% of non-college educated Trump voters said yes.
00:41:50.220
And I think it was, you know, 40% or something of the college educated Trump voters said yes.
00:41:55.320
And it was true for the, for the Biden voters as well.
00:41:57.640
I don't remember the exact numbers, but it was basically the people who didn't have college
00:42:00.740
degrees were actually more optimistic about their future and more optimistic about the
00:42:05.160
chances for the American dream than people who had gone to college.
00:42:08.420
And I, and I think that's because they haven't thankfully absorbed the message that their
00:42:14.960
lives are hopeless just because they don't have all the advantages in the world.
00:42:20.260
And I, I, I worry about our, our country's inability to, you know, try to uplift those who
00:42:28.560
are struggling without treating those people as hopeless children who have no, have no agency
00:42:35.660
Um, you know, there's, can I ask you something about that?
00:42:38.400
Cause I, I, I wonder is the other piece of that, the people who are college educated saying,
00:43:00.560
Uh, you know, I, I kind of made it to the promised land and what do you think?
00:43:06.260
Yeah, I, I, I think there's, there's part of that going on, but the biggest, when I looked
00:43:11.580
at that poll, what I took away from it is that if you're a working class American versus
00:43:18.040
a professionally educated American, a person with, with post a bachelor's education, uh,
00:43:24.460
then you're, you're fundamentally living in, in two different media and information environments.
00:43:29.140
And I, I do think that, you know, our universities, uh, our elite media institutions have just grown
00:43:35.620
pretty pessimistic about the American experience, the American experiment, and consequently people
00:43:42.240
who have spent their lives in those academies, in those media environments.
00:43:47.040
I think they've just absorbed, uh, that things are, uh, more pessimistic and, and more, you
00:43:54.520
know, more negative than a lot of working class Americans believe.
00:43:58.100
Uh, I also, you know, I, I really do think that a lot of this is like ideology ends up trumping
00:44:06.180
people's ability to think because one of the more interesting dynamics is in, in, in, in,
00:44:13.600
in response to the book is that people who were, you know, really well-educated, who are
00:44:20.340
sort of the winners in American society, both in terms of their income and their prestige,
00:44:24.060
they really wanted to project their own political narrative onto the book.
00:44:28.780
And they wanted to sort of fit me into this box, right?
00:44:31.260
So if like JD said, this thing that I agree with, I'm going to ignore that.
00:44:34.720
I'm going to only, you know, attach myself to the things that I disagree with or, or vice
00:44:39.840
People would sort of, you know, had either very strongly positive or negative views.
00:44:44.120
And what I found, you know, is that working class Americans were actually better able to
00:44:49.440
hold two thoughts in their, their head at the same time.
00:44:53.260
I was, I was making both an argument about the fact that, yeah, sometimes life is unfair,
00:44:59.000
but you still got to try to work against that unfairness and make something of yourself
00:45:04.460
And, you know, I think that's just because people who don't grow up in a particular media
00:45:10.720
environment are not constantly looking for alarm bells that a particular idea or concept
00:45:15.980
violates one of their, the sort of sacred tenets of their faith or ideology.
00:45:22.560
I think I predict with your movie, because the movie is now out about, you know, based on
00:45:29.420
your book, you're going to get slaughtered by the reviewers and you're going to get completely
00:45:36.220
It'll be reviewers versus viewers, as we've seen in any film that, you know, that hasn't
00:45:42.360
a message like yours, which is the American dream may still exist.
00:45:49.440
And that even shines a spotlight on this group of people, you know, people in Appalachia,
00:45:53.960
people struggling with the opioid crisis in a way that, that isn't entirely about woke
00:46:00.420
culture or victimization and how the country's bad.
00:46:04.000
You know, it's, it's one of the reasons why Roseanne, the reboot was so successful, right?
00:46:07.760
Like they talked about these issues in a way that really resonated with real America, even
00:46:12.200
though the people who wrote about that, the reboot were like horrified or even before her
00:46:19.480
And I saw this already, there was one review by the Washington Post.
00:46:24.880
That's, this is so perfect because that what their criticism of the book, the movie is that
00:46:35.180
Vance paints Appalachia as a near exclusively white space, erased our black residents and their
00:46:43.780
Missing are the many generations of Native American communities.
00:46:50.120
Disregarded are Appalachians who embrace racial justice and acceptance of their LGBTQ neighbors.
00:47:02.840
Like if you imagine what a movie like that would look like, you know, where, where you're
00:47:06.880
trying to tell the story of a family, but you have to, you have to actually talk about
00:47:10.700
every other conceivable group, majority, minority, what have you, and present them on the screen
00:47:17.500
so that it satisfies this sort of woke obsession.
00:47:21.160
With a little no justice, no peace sign in the background.
00:47:24.120
Yeah, it's, it's, it's just, yeah, it's, it's just totally preposterous.
00:47:27.880
Um, and anyway, as it happens, most of my family voted for Donald Trump.
00:47:31.940
Uh, my family is hardly politically monolithic.
00:47:34.200
My mom, you know, who, by the way, has been clean for six years now, is doing very well.
00:47:38.740
Uh, just, just saw her a few days, uh, just saw her a few days ago.
00:47:41.840
You know, my mom voted for Jesse Jackson in the Democratic primary in 1984.
00:47:45.820
Um, and, and then she's voted for Republicans and she's voted for Democrats since I, I just
00:47:51.500
think that there's this way in which elite Americans want working class Americans to be
00:47:58.680
more ideological and more woke than they actually are.
00:48:01.700
You know, one of my favorite responses to the book or to the movie, I can't even remember
00:48:05.980
which at this point, uh, but is, is that, uh, you know, JD Vance doesn't talk enough about
00:48:13.480
BIPOC, BIPOC, and LGBTQIA Americans in his sort of experience of Appalachia.
00:48:22.360
It's like, okay, so BIPOC is black indigenous people of color, LGBTQIA is lesbian, gender
00:48:30.720
non-conforming, bisexual, transgender, intersex, asexual.
00:48:34.860
And I read this and I'm like, you people are crazy.
00:48:39.520
Like truly the authentic, real Appalachians use these like 14 character pronouns every
00:48:48.920
And, you know, I, I just listened to this and I think, who, who are you kidding that
00:48:53.420
you think this is the way that Appalachians or frankly, anybody else, black, white, brown,
00:48:57.520
whatever talks about themselves and their communities.
00:49:00.780
This is a particular obsession of a particular upper class of Americans.
00:49:05.720
And I think it's insane, uh, but don't try to pretend that that's the real America because
00:49:20.760
You know, what, what, what am I, one of my good friends, just a, a, a side, you know,
00:49:27.780
He calls himself a populist Reagan Democrat, but, um, he's, he's a professor.
00:49:32.080
I won't give his name because I don't want him to get fired, but, uh, he's, he's, you
00:49:36.740
know, he's, he's a gay man, uh, you know, in his, in his mid fifties, just a great, great
00:49:42.480
And he sent me this tweet from Elizabeth Warren's campaign, a Twitter account back when she was
00:49:51.740
And it was like something like, you know, we love all people who are intersex, asexual
00:50:00.100
And this guy sends me this tweet and he says, look, man, we gay guys just wanted to be left
00:50:10.400
There's, there's something about just this bizarre way of discussing these issues that's
00:50:20.740
And I think, you know, ultimately it's going to be politically suicidal for Democrats if
00:50:25.860
Coming up in a minute with JD, how does he think Glenn Close did in her portrayal of
00:50:33.580
Mamaw and what real life item of Mamaw's was Glenn Close wearing for her portrayal of the
00:50:40.540
And also we're going to ask him what his mom Beverly has to say about the film.
00:50:45.620
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Uh, they are celebrating how he did with his daily press briefings.
00:51:19.960
And it's insane because not only has New York just been just crushed by, by COVID and that
00:51:27.260
we have the highest death toll, which no one's blaming that in particular on governor Cuomo,
00:51:31.560
but what pals like my Janice Dean are trying to call attention to is the fact that he issued
00:51:36.880
an order during the COVID crisis, mandating that the nursing homes in New York state take
00:51:47.280
And of course, inside the nursing homes are the most vulnerable population and 6,000 plus
00:51:52.100
COVID positive patients were placed in New York nursing homes and more than 6,000 died.
00:52:00.860
I mean, you can see that they put the virus in these homes and then thousands of people
00:52:04.820
died and the number is actually much greater than 6,000 because many had to be moved out
00:52:08.800
of the nursing homes, sent to hospitals, and they died there.
00:52:12.120
And as Janice has been pointing out, they're not counting the hospital deaths when they tally
00:52:16.440
up the number of seniors from nursing homes who died.
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And even JD has said she wouldn't be trying to blame anybody for any of this.
00:52:26.340
If Cuomo would just take some responsibility for it, if he would apologize, if he would
00:52:35.260
He's blamed the nursing homes, the nurses, God, Mother Nature, the old people themselves,
00:52:45.660
So for him to be given an award is pretty outrageous.
00:52:49.140
And it just speaks to how silent the press has been on his failures that a group like this
00:52:54.480
would even think it would be okay to honor him in this way.
00:52:58.440
So we're going to play for you first, Governor Cuomo, and then Janice on Fox and Friends
00:53:03.900
What an honor and pleasant surprise during these hard times.
00:53:07.320
I thank the International Academy and Bruce Paisner for this incredible award.
00:53:14.800
Your work has brought smiles and hope and relief for so many people during these difficult days.
00:53:20.880
I wish I could say that my daily COVID presentations were well choreographed, scripted, rehearsed,
00:53:27.920
or reflected any of the talents that you advance.
00:53:32.380
They offered only one thing, authentic truth and stability.
00:53:39.460
Every time we see this governor celebrating himself on television, it's just a reminder
00:53:44.900
of the people that we lost, partly because of his leadership.
00:53:49.420
So, Janice, this was a statement from the Academy.
00:53:53.340
They said the governor's 101 daily briefings worked so well because he effectively created
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television shows with characters, plot lines, and stories of success and failure.
00:54:05.920
I heard that to get an Emmy Award, you have to send videotape of yourself to the board members.
00:54:16.500
And so to think that the governor was going through some of his TV appearances talking about
00:54:22.300
deaths in New York and submitting those videos to the Emmy folks really makes me physically
00:54:30.980
He could start his award-winning speech by saying, I'm really sorry for your loss.
00:54:36.520
That's something we have never heard from this governor at any of his meetings or his PowerPoint
00:54:47.320
She made the point, well, this guy's going to be taking home his Emmy.
00:54:52.180
Janice and these other 6,000 families are taking home urns and caskets.
00:54:57.520
And this is no time for his victory lap with his book talking about leadership lessons during
00:55:11.000
How callous and cold toward the families who are still suffering from these losses.
00:55:17.240
I mean, you can say Cuomo isn't entirely to blame for these deaths, but you certainly can't
00:55:22.700
say he did the right thing by issuing that order and by not showing any empathy for these
00:55:28.220
And so to reward it with this kind of an award is just wrong.
00:55:33.300
So obviously I'm on Janice's side and I would be even if she weren't one of my closest friends.
00:55:39.860
By the way, Cuomo said we all have to not travel for Thanksgiving, but guess what he was
00:55:43.800
Make his mom and some family members travel to him.
00:55:48.980
And then when he got outed for that, he had to reverse the order.
00:55:52.100
Aren't you sick of these politicians doing this?
00:56:04.100
Just so the audience knows, Hillbilly Elegy, you wrote it sort of on the side.
00:56:08.900
You were in law school and Amy Chua, Tiger Mom.
00:56:11.920
She wrote the book about, what's the name of her book?
00:56:25.840
She's like, she's got her very strong thoughts on how things should be, but she doesn't shut
00:56:48.180
Um, but it's, it's, I think somewhere between two and 3 million at this point.
00:57:03.260
You are very honest about growing up, um, in your younger, more formative years in Appalachia
00:57:10.760
in the holler, uh, where mamaw was and had a house.
00:57:14.280
And then you guys moved to Ohio and you had a drug addicted mother who went from man to man,
00:57:28.540
And the moment you write about in the book, as I think one of the lowest is portrayed in
00:57:35.680
And I think that was, you tell me, but I think it was the, the, the car.
00:57:40.740
There's, there's a scene where, um, you know, a scene in the movie, but a scene for my own
00:57:46.620
life where, you know, mom sort of loses, loses her temper in a car and, you know, threatens
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And then, you know, eventually, um, you know, one thing leads to another and the cops come
00:57:57.860
and they arrest her and, you know, sort of sets off a pretty traumatic set of moments
00:58:02.820
And, you know, I, I mean, I, I don't know if you got this from, from the book, Megan, but
00:58:07.240
you know, one of the things that I've always felt, um, is that, you know, I think people
00:58:15.440
sort of hear the word abuse and they think like sociopathic, you know, sort of constant
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And that's just sort of what's going on the whole time.
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And, you know, by the standards of like an objective child psychologist, I certainly had
00:58:34.300
There are, you know, these ways you can measure it, you know, how many experiences of what
00:58:38.280
they call ACEs or adverse childhood experiences.
00:58:40.960
And, you know, certainly both mom and, uh, her children had a lot of ACEs when, when they
00:58:45.960
were growing up and when we were growing up, but I never felt like we had this sort of deeply
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I mean, that's sort of one of the points of the book is that, you know, yeah, we, we experienced
00:58:59.120
some ACEs, but, you know, a lot of kids in our neighborhood and a lot of families did
00:59:06.000
And, and I, I try to, you know, there's, there's this book that I read when I was a teenager.
00:59:15.400
And you may have read this book, but it's about a, I think a truly sort of psychopathic,
00:59:20.080
almost torturing mother and the way that she treated her kid.
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And that was just never how I felt about our family.
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And it's certainly not how I feel about our family now.
00:59:29.700
I think that we definitely were a traumatic and chaotic bunch, but there was just a way
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And this sort of goes back to the culture point that I make.
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It's, it's not that anybody in our family was, especially me.
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And I mean, there are a lot of good things about, about mom, um, during my childhood and,
00:59:51.320
But there was just a weird way in which these sorts of moments that do leave their marks
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on kids and do cause real problems later on, uh, were kind of normal.
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And I think part of our challenge, if we actually care about, you know, the most disadvantaged
01:00:08.520
kids in our communities is that we've got to figure out ways to make that sort of stuff
01:00:14.660
And I even see it, you know, to, to be honest with, with my, you know, we have two little
01:00:17.960
ones, a three-year-old and a nine month old, and they're both doing well, but I often have
01:00:22.980
to catch myself because just the natural way that I respond, you know, to my toddler going
01:00:27.900
completely insane, you know, I have to check myself and say, you know what, this, this is
01:00:34.180
This is not a good thing, but if you don't know that, and you don't have any sense of
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what is normal and isn't normal, uh, then I think it can just be very easy to sort of fall
01:00:42.940
into that cycle where again, it's not an intense, aggressive level of abuse.
01:00:47.940
It's just a sort of baseline level of chaos and trauma that ultimately isn't good for
01:00:53.380
Well, of course the consciousness of it is more than half the battle.
01:00:56.760
You know, the fact that you can stop and say, wait, is this a good instinct?
01:01:01.080
And it's what most people who do engage in that cycle of abuse do not have.
01:01:05.960
Um, and you've of course got Usha, who's amazing.
01:01:08.560
And we'll get to in a second, but your wife is spectacular and extremely accomplished and
01:01:13.060
smart and a great partner to you, which is another big advantage.
01:01:16.920
Um, but we talked about this a little when, when we met and I interviewed you on camera,
01:01:21.980
those, some of those, um, childhood experiences, those ACEs.
01:01:27.460
And I, I do wonder whether, cause abuse can cause in adulthood, you know, physical problems.
01:01:34.180
It can cause substance abuse problems, psychological issues like depression, anxiety.
01:01:38.560
A lot, a lot of people have those without having had abuse in their past, even if that abuse
01:01:43.140
was normalized within the community, you know, which may, maybe that takes away the element
01:01:48.180
You know, I, I, that, that would be an interesting thing to look at, but do you, have you felt
01:01:53.880
Because not only did you have this tumultuous background, but then, you know, you're performing
01:01:59.480
at these elite levels now, you know, in venture capital first in San Francisco, now you've
01:02:09.240
And I wonder if you're feeling any of that manifest.
01:02:12.160
You know, I, I think that, um, the way it manifests in me to the extent I noticed it
01:02:19.480
at all is that, you know, in, in sort of super stressful moments, I kind of get this
01:02:25.120
And I talk about in the book, there's, there's been this documented sort of fight or flight
01:02:29.400
I definitely kind of have this, this fight response when, uh, there, there's sort of
01:02:33.520
moments of, of, of high stress and high tension.
01:02:36.140
And so I think by and large, um, that serves me reasonably well.
01:02:41.340
And I think that the main thing is just your point.
01:02:43.380
I have to be self-aware sometimes and check, you know, maybe my, my most aggressive impulses
01:02:48.820
I'm getting to the point now where it's a little bit just more normal, where I've kind
01:02:52.700
of like accepted that there are certain instincts that I have that aren't necessarily super, super
01:02:58.100
And, and you sort of, you know, you, you check them in various ways before they really go
01:03:02.740
Um, I, I do, you know, there's there, you know, one of the, the pioneers in looking at
01:03:08.520
adverse childhood experience, this woman, uh, Nadine Burke Harris, who's a brilliant doctor.
01:03:13.780
And, um, I believe she's a psychiatrist, uh, working in, in, in California.
01:03:20.500
And, you know, Nadine actually has a really great book about this, which I, which I encourage
01:03:24.540
people to read, but, you know, I remember reading her book and there's a story where I, I don't
01:03:28.440
totally remember the details, but where she talks about this guy who had had a
01:03:32.720
pretty traumatic, chaotic childhood, had sort of achieved the American dream, had a pretty
01:03:37.740
stable, happy life, a happy marriage, and just like drops dead of a heart attack at 63.
01:03:42.840
And one of the things she talks about in the book is that you do have these, you know, even
01:03:46.460
for people who pretty much have their lives under control, who sort of, uh, you know, quote
01:03:55.000
They tend to have much worse health outcomes later on.
01:03:57.880
They have higher incidences of, of heart attacks, of pulmonary disease, even of cancer.
01:04:02.960
And so there's this weird, unexplained link between having a chaotic child and having these
01:04:09.440
So there's definitely a part of me that worries, you know, that I'm, I'm sort of, you know,
01:04:13.340
I have, I have a, I have a, I have a little bit less time on the clock than you might otherwise
01:04:17.620
And so I feel that pressure sometimes, but yeah, I wouldn't say that like emotionally or psychologically,
01:04:23.060
I still feel especially affected by it, by what happened when I was a kid.
01:04:26.460
And, you know, I'm 36 years old, it's been a long time.
01:04:28.760
It's over half of my life at this point where I've sort of been on my own.
01:04:31.340
Well, there was also a study out of UCLA that showed the presence of a loving parental figure
01:04:42.160
And, you know, I don't know if I want to use the word rescue, but at least it provides a
01:04:49.360
And you had that, you had that in Mamaw, your maternal grandmother, who is the star of your
01:04:56.460
book, the star of your life, the star of this movie, uh, played by Glenn Close in the movie.
01:05:05.260
I mean, you knew Mamaw, but I'm just saying Glenn transformed herself in a compelling way.
01:05:10.740
And I thought, uh, I just, I was completely enthralled by the performance.
01:05:14.940
What, first of all, let's just start with Glenn and then we'll get to the real character.
01:05:21.860
Yeah, we, we, you know, we, we visited the set a few times and they, they filmed in, you
01:05:27.780
know, a little bit in Middletown and mostly in, um, Macon, Georgia and surrounding areas.
01:05:32.440
And, you know, I, I took my aunt, my mom and my uncle, um, and Usha down to, to Macon, uh,
01:05:41.220
It really was just sort of a family reunion kind of thing where we all got to hang out
01:05:46.740
But the first time that my aunt, my, my mom and my uncle saw Glenn Close in her full, her
01:05:54.440
full makeup and costume, uh, really was, was one of the more emotional moments of my life.
01:06:00.000
I mean, you know, my uncle was not an emotional man, but was speechless.
01:06:03.360
My, my aunt was sort of kind of like physically see her breath being taken away and it couldn't
01:06:09.220
really speak just because of how, how emotional she was.
01:06:12.940
And it's bizarre how much she looked like her and how much she acted like her.
01:06:21.920
It's impossible, of course, in a two hour movie to capture the personality that was mammal.
01:06:25.720
She really was just this larger than life figure, but there were these little things that I
01:06:31.600
can't believe that Glenn got right, that she did.
01:06:35.300
So mammal always, she held her cigarette in a particular way.
01:06:38.920
And when you see it, you know, it, and it's hard to describe.
01:06:42.540
She, she asked all of us, like, how did mammal hold her cigarette?
01:06:46.960
Um, but she somehow sort of translated our confused ramblings about it into something that
01:06:54.740
And, you know, mammal had this twitch that she did with her mouth when she would get really
01:07:03.080
And there were just all these little things about her personality that, you know, even
01:07:06.460
though you can't capture it all in two hour movie, these sort of little things just made
01:07:14.700
And you talked about the movie reviews or I just have to say one, one more thing about
01:07:18.300
this, the most, you know, typically don't let this stuff get to me, but one movie review
01:07:23.780
called Glenn Close's portrayal, a caricature called Mammaw caricature.
01:07:29.040
And that really pissed me off because that's what Mammaw looked like.
01:07:35.240
And the idea that she was a caricature, I think is just pretty insulting because she, she,
01:07:40.560
she was a big personality and she was, she was loud and she laughed, you know, with her
01:07:48.700
But she was just this incredibly loving and positive person for all of us.
01:07:55.640
She was just a real person who was a really, really big and positive influence for our whole
01:08:03.640
I do think some of these reviewers, this Hollywood reviewers, or even, even worse news
01:08:09.080
reviewers, but, uh, Hollywood reviewers can be the meanest soulless, most soulless people
01:08:15.700
And I, they, they get off on writing hurtful things about, um, artistic products that don't
01:08:22.820
line up with their own ideology for whatever reason.
01:08:24.900
So please, I urge you to not pay any attention to that.
01:08:27.520
And, and by the way, I know I mostly stay away from it.
01:08:30.920
If they have any question about whether Glenn Close's portrayal is a caricature, they should
01:08:35.900
just stay tuned for the credits where there's actual video of Mamaw and you still think you're
01:08:44.480
I mean, and by the way, is it true that she actually wore Glenn actually wore Mamaw's glasses?
01:08:51.460
My, my aunt gave her, um, Mamaw's glasses to use for the movie.
01:09:04.040
She's portrayed in the book and I had the pleasure of meeting her and some of your family.
01:09:10.120
She, uh, she's somebody who said a woman ain't fully dressed without a gun.
01:09:18.380
And then the book and the movie portray how she got after you.
01:09:26.060
She was like, get it together and was tough on you when she needed to be.
01:09:34.860
And, and I know you wrote in the book, thinking about it now, how close you were to the abyss.
01:09:44.760
Oh, I mean, most of it, um, you know, a lot, of course, a lot of other folks in, in my life,
01:09:52.080
my sister, my aunt, mom, and, you know, her, her, her own way.
01:09:57.340
But Mamaw was really, I think the piece that held it all together.
01:10:00.740
Um, she was, you know, when I, I've thought a lot about me saying that she just got me.
01:10:08.800
And I think part of what she understood is that you don't really trust yourself until
01:10:17.560
you're sort of forced to experience a certain amount of stress or a certain amount of criticism
01:10:24.340
And so what Mamaw, I think, tried to instill was a sense of resilience that she could be
01:10:33.820
She could tell me to get off my ass and do the dishes and help her.
01:10:40.160
Um, it wasn't, I wasn't too emotionally frail for it.
01:10:43.200
And that kind of gave me this sense of, of strength.
01:10:46.520
And that was just a really, that was a really powerful part of the way that, that she and
01:10:50.540
I interacted that she could kind of, you know, give me, um, you know, give me these, these
01:10:58.300
little encouragements and these big criticisms.
01:11:01.580
And it would somehow all work in a way where the light bulb went on and I understood her.
01:11:07.120
Um, but I also gained some sense that, you know, yeah, I can, I can, I can stand up to
01:11:12.120
And, you know, my, my Marine Corps recruiter once joked that, uh, you know, most kids really
01:11:18.600
struggle with the culture shock of bootcamp because you just have these drill instructors
01:11:23.020
And she, she, he was like, if the drill instructors aren't nearly as mean or as scary as your
01:11:28.800
You know, when, when they, when they, you sort of realize these weird ways where they try
01:11:33.120
to get under your skin and mammal would do that too.
01:11:35.140
But once you sort of recognize it as such, it's a lot easier to deal with.
01:11:40.100
Well, I think one of the first things people wondered about you when we saw you making the
01:11:43.840
press rounds as this graduate of Yale law school, it's like this guy's writing a book
01:11:48.260
about Appalachia about, you know, life in the holler.
01:11:53.280
I like how on earth did the kid who couldn't see it learn to be it?
01:11:58.420
And, and my own takeaway was, let me introduce you to mamaw who took you into her custody
01:12:04.500
after one of the abusive incidents with your mom.
01:12:11.320
Yeah, it was sort of a, it was sort of lumpy from, you know, that the car incident happened
01:12:17.960
And then, you know, I was kind of back and forth between mom and mamaw's house until I
01:12:22.880
But it was, I was, it was 14 when I sort of more completely moved in with mamaw.
01:12:27.860
So that was, you know, it was four years that I was with her basically all through high
01:12:34.220
Because after, after high school came the Marine Corps, which helped, you completed a
01:12:39.760
four-year education in two years at Ohio State.
01:12:48.240
Was it your, do you think your unique background helped you?
01:12:52.640
Because you have to be extraordinary to get in there.
01:12:54.580
You know, I, I think it was a combination of an unusual story.
01:13:02.440
Um, I, you know, I had good grades at Ohio State.
01:13:04.540
I had good test scores that, you know, it's, it's a little bit of luck.
01:13:07.660
I think, um, you know, you, you, you, you part of applying to law school or I guess really
01:13:13.280
any, any schools, you have to figure out how to market yourself a little bit.
01:13:16.800
And I think I just, you know, try to sort of tell a story of a kid from, you know, in
01:13:21.720
my essays of a kid raised by his grandparents from a non-conventional background who had
01:13:27.060
good enough grades and, you know, they, they let me in.
01:13:30.360
Um, but I, I don't know, I, I can't, I can't provide any more insight to that.
01:13:36.820
And, you know, what, what is probably the case is that if you get good enough grades and
01:13:41.580
you have good enough scores and you're not a, a total, totally terrible person, you can
01:13:46.600
get into a, a pretty good school and, you know, what determines whether you get into
01:13:51.120
a pretty good school or great school is a little bit of a chance.
01:13:56.220
Let's talk about addiction, uh, because that's another theme of, of the story, both on, on
01:14:05.400
Uh, your mother is now thankfully a recovering addict, but she's been an addict for a long
01:14:13.520
And as somebody who's had this in my own family of origin, um, I thought the movie did a wonderful
01:14:21.620
job of showing how explosive this can be on a family that, you know, how drugs, they kidnap
01:14:33.680
And like a, like a true kidnapper, they, they demand a ransom that you can never really pay
01:14:41.460
off, you know, and that never really leads to the return of your family member as you
01:14:51.560
Um, it's one of those things where you try to make sense of it until you just realize that
01:14:56.980
you can't actually make sense of it because your mom was, and is, like I said, she's been
01:15:06.560
She's just, you know, one of these like charismatic people, which is, it's true of a lot of the
01:15:13.360
It's, you know, true of, of my sister and my cousin, Rachel in their own ways.
01:15:18.120
You know, these are sort of people who can, you know, show up at a totally different family's
01:15:24.520
family reunion and get invited to give a speech to the whole family.
01:15:28.540
That actually, you know, that happened when we went to visit the set in Macon, Georgia.
01:15:31.780
Our hotel room was, sorry, this is a diversion, but our hotel room was in a hotel where this
01:15:39.340
big family was having like a 300 person family reunion.
01:15:42.540
And my whole family got invited to the family reunion because, you know, they met some of
01:15:46.500
my family and they were just so taken with them.
01:15:48.540
So taken with, with my uncle, with my cousin, with mom, with everybody.
01:15:53.160
And I think that's, that's sort of what is so difficult again, to understand or to try
01:15:59.240
to apply any reason to and like, mom is just this person with so much going for, why did
01:16:04.820
she kept on being, keep, keep on being attracted to the drugs?
01:16:11.020
And I, I think that, you know, part of it is, is definitely that I think her life just
01:16:20.160
She was a very promising student in her own right.
01:16:22.840
And, and things, you know, went off the rails, you know, got pregnant very young, had my
01:16:26.360
sister and, you know, that, that, that changes things and changes the calculus pretty quickly.
01:16:31.680
Um, but it's always just like, there was something that the rest of life couldn't provide some
01:16:39.480
sensations, some feeling that kids and partners and friends and family just couldn't quite
01:16:47.460
fill that void and she kept on, you know, she should have kept on returning to the drugs.
01:16:54.000
And there was a time when I was writing the book where I thought to myself, you know, is,
01:16:59.540
should I put this in there because mom's going to read it and, you know, people are going to
01:17:07.000
And I, I really just thought to myself, well, mom's not going to read it because she'll be
01:17:11.700
Um, and I was just confident that's how it would end, right?
01:17:17.240
That, that every call it six months, 12 months, because sometimes it might even go a little
01:17:22.640
bit longer, but there would always be a relapse.
01:17:28.040
And eventually, uh, she was going to play Russian roulette too many times and she was not
01:17:33.780
And, and, and again, just as unreasonably as addiction takes hold of some people, uh, for
01:17:40.520
some people they're, they're just able to, to snap out of it.
01:17:43.720
And, um, I have tried to psychoanalyze and think about what it is, what it is that has
01:17:53.600
And I really do feel this time confidence for the first time in my life, uh, that she, she
01:17:59.880
And I think, you know, part of it is definitely just getting your life in order, having a good
01:18:04.980
relationship with your family and your kids, you know, not being stressed out about things,
01:18:12.940
So just having your life in order in a way helps a lot, but there were times when mom
01:18:17.720
had her life in order and she went back to drugs and, um, she just hasn't this time.
01:18:24.200
I wish that I could say something more insightful about it, but the, the, the, the reason that
01:18:30.880
void exists is psychologically complex and really difficult to try to explain away using
01:18:38.860
It's so much about feelings and so much about intuition.
01:18:41.860
Well, I, I understand what you said about, you know, she's looking for a way to feel
01:18:48.320
And there is a scene in the, in the movie that it confused me the way I felt it has her,
01:18:55.520
She stole drugs, uh, in the hospital and then puts on roller skates and is going through the
01:19:06.720
She's high, but she is smiling and she's laughing and you kind of get it.
01:19:14.540
I think if I didn't mention that, but if you kind of get, it's like, Oh my God, there it
01:19:20.540
Some joy for this poor woman who in every scene faces one struggle or another and, and may
01:19:25.940
often have a good attitude about it, but you don't, you don't see a lot of joy.
01:19:29.280
And it's like, it kind of shows you how the drugs can be an escape to joy, to happiness,
01:19:35.640
And of course the bitter irony is the come down after and the real effect of drugs on
01:19:42.740
And, you know, I thought Amy Adams did a great job of taking us there.
01:19:47.480
Her physical transformation was shocking, right?
01:19:53.460
And I thought it was perfect because having seen this happen to, you know, someone close to
01:19:58.620
me, the physical transformation can be dramatic, you know, the, the gray hair and the teeth
01:20:05.440
and just the, the weight gain or extreme weight loss one way or the other.
01:20:10.360
And I remember looking at my family member thinking she's in there, but where, where,
01:20:18.040
and, and if, if, and when I can get her back, what am I going to get?
01:20:24.280
And, you know, who, who will it be, you know, do you ever have that feeling?
01:20:30.340
I mean, I, you, first of all, the person is always there, right.
01:20:33.940
And it's even when they're at the peak of their toughest moments, you know, the book sort
01:20:40.660
of dramatizes the scene where, you know, mom has this, this overdose and I'm, I'm trying
01:20:45.780
to help her find a place to stay for the night.
01:20:47.580
And, you know, it's, it's not a totally perfect match with my life, but you know, there are
01:20:59.060
Um, but fundamentally like they're, they're real and they're there.
01:21:03.660
Um, and what I remember most about that time of my life is actually not the stress of trying
01:21:14.420
to find mom a place to stay or sort of the uncertainty about what to do.
01:21:18.440
It was that mom was still like mom most of the time, right?
01:21:25.940
You know, you pull up to this hotel and she looks at it.
01:21:29.100
It's like, Oh, no, I really have to stay in this dump.
01:21:31.220
Um, or, you know, you, you, you walk by, I mean, this is like one of the more crystal
01:21:38.060
memories of my life because it was like, again, I got seen out of the movie.
01:21:41.840
I remember there was like a guy actually shooting up in the parking lot.
01:21:46.040
Um, the, the hotel was just sort of depressing and decrepit in a way that was pretty, you know,
01:21:55.600
And, you know, we chose it because they had an open room and because it was cheap enough
01:22:00.180
And I was still, you know, at that point, I didn't have a whole lot of money.
01:22:04.480
Um, but you see, we, we, we walked by this guy, like doing drugs in his pickup truck and
01:22:09.120
mom's like, Oh, Hey, do you want to go say hi to Terry?
01:22:17.300
She, she, she, that's just who, that's like who she is.
01:22:28.240
And I always just, as a kid wanted her, you know, desperately to sort of come out and figure
01:22:34.780
And of course there's a part of it where you feel inadequate yourself.
01:22:38.080
I don't know if you've, you've experienced this, but you wonder why you can't get that
01:22:44.460
It's because of something about you, something you've done, something you failed to do.
01:22:48.400
So you're always worried about that and trying to modify your behaviors in such a way where
01:22:54.180
you don't trigger them and you get to get the good person that you know is in there all
01:23:00.060
But I think eventually most people just get to the point where they kind of psychologically
01:23:04.560
give up with somebody who's chronically addicted.
01:23:06.840
You know, I've talked to so many people about it since the book came out and you know, what,
01:23:17.480
And it's so consistent and I hear it so many times that I think it's, it's nearly a universal
01:23:21.560
response is that everybody eventually reaches a breaking point where they just start grieving
01:23:28.040
for the person and they lose all hope that the person can ever come back.
01:23:33.200
And that loss of hope, I think it's sort of a protective, it's like a psychologically protective
01:23:40.600
measure because you want to stop investing yourself emotionally in this idea that this, this person
01:23:48.260
And of course, what, what's so crazy about that is I feel like all of us have gotten
01:23:52.000
there with, with mom and then it just changed and things got better.
01:23:58.020
And again, it's, it's one of those things where I, I truly, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm a practicing
01:24:03.880
Christian and there, there is a part of me that wonders, is it just like an act of God?
01:24:08.300
Is there just this moment where something supernatural happens?
01:24:13.520
Because that's the only way I can even try to explain it in my mind is eventually a switch
01:24:19.140
flipped that had never been able to, I'd never been able to flip before.
01:24:23.320
I've tried to flip it myself so many times before and I hadn't.
01:24:26.640
You know, people ask me actually about, about mom being clean is, you know, do you think the
01:24:30.880
Do you think that, uh, the book made mom more sober or sort of at least opened up some lines
01:24:38.240
of communication and got her on the right path?
01:24:40.540
And I would love to say the answer is yes, but I don't think, I don't think it is.
01:24:44.140
You know, frankly, if I had known that when the book came out, mom would be, I think about
01:24:47.840
she was like two and a half years sober at that point, I probably wouldn't have published
01:24:51.680
Because if anything, I think it's probably made it harder for mom to stay on the straight and
01:24:55.060
narrow, but to her credit, she has, um, you know, having all these stories out there
01:25:01.060
Um, and I, I admire mom for kind of taking it on the chin.
01:25:05.520
Um, you know, there, there was actually a funeral for a family friend, not too long after the
01:25:12.980
And, um, there were people posting about the book and whether, you know, I was going to
01:25:21.340
be there or sort of other people in the family were going to be there on Facebook.
01:25:25.060
And I think mom got on Facebook and said, basically, yeah, I'm the drug addict in the
01:25:33.140
You know, there's, there's, there's, so anyway, the long way of saying, I don't think the book
01:25:37.720
has been, you know, at least all the way positive.
01:25:41.420
Maybe there've been some positive components and good conversations that mom and I had.
01:25:45.320
That's definitely true, but it's, it's also just been very stressful.
01:25:48.740
And so I don't think I can take any credit for it.
01:25:51.000
Um, I think if there's anything, you know, that, that I could take even indirect credit
01:25:56.480
for, it might be the grandkids, you know, when, when our son, Yoon was born, my sister's
01:26:02.300
oldest kid or sorry, my sister's youngest kid was, was a teenager at that point.
01:26:06.580
Um, and, and I think that, you know, having the relationship with her grandkids to work
01:26:12.700
towards and mom is just such a great grandma and the kids love her.
01:26:15.920
I think that was a really powerful thing and it has helped her a lot, but at a certain
01:26:21.540
level, I'm just trying to invent theories or explanations for, for a phenomenon that I
01:26:31.320
Well, while you're, I know that mama wasn't the greatest mom to your mom, but she was a
01:26:37.280
And so while your mom may not have had the best role model as a mom, she certainly got a
01:26:45.600
And, um, you know, you, you manifest that in both in the telling of both stories.
01:26:51.920
They put in the movie of you with your mom in the hotel, because I think when you're dealing
01:26:56.580
with an addict for most of the time, you as the family member go through this, if I could
01:27:02.080
just, if I could just, and you're, you're deluding yourself that if you just gave this
01:27:07.760
money or offer this help or got her into this rehab or whatever, you're going to get
01:27:11.820
her over the bridge, she's going to bridge back to sober and normal and, you know, not,
01:27:17.900
And it takes years of doing that and failing for you to finally let go of, if I could just
01:27:25.880
and learn to just not walk away, but take care of yourself.
01:27:31.300
And that's what happened in that scene in the movie where, you know, the, your Amy Adams
01:27:35.500
wanted the fictional you to stay with her when the alternative was going and making this
01:27:43.200
And if you had stayed with her, you would have missed this interview.
01:27:45.840
You would have missed the chance to change your life and you leave, you, you do it, which
01:27:53.340
I think most people dealing with addicts finally have to get to the point of letting go of it.
01:27:58.240
And, and ironically, it can help the addict, you know, it can help them reach rock bottom.
01:28:02.420
It could help them realize they have to help themselves or what's, what they're about to
01:28:05.820
lose, you know, that the, the family's not going to save them.
01:28:11.920
I, having now covered you for a couple of years and followed you, I love that Beverly is six
01:28:19.760
That's such a game changer for you, your family, your kids, all of them.
01:28:25.280
And I, I read that she said, um, the quote I read, I think it was your, your cousin who
01:28:30.860
read an article as a journalist about, about this and said, she said, I'm going to stand
01:28:47.260
Um, you know, when, when you, when you grow up in a tough environment and you see so many
01:28:55.040
of these, these social problems and they kind of surround you, there's a part, at least
01:29:00.980
of me that wondered, like, is, is there just something wrong with us?
01:29:09.340
Is it, you know, what, what makes this happen again and again?
01:29:16.500
And one of the things the book allowed me to do was take a much bigger view of this.
01:29:21.640
It wasn't just like, well, things were kind of crappy last year and they're crappy this
01:29:26.400
And it seems like it's never going to change, but this ability to put the problems of our
01:29:31.120
family in this, this multi-generational context.
01:29:33.420
So like, you know, why are our families so traumatic?
01:29:36.380
You start to understand because that cycle of childhood trauma and chaos, it recreates and
01:29:44.240
Um, you know, why was this the land of opportunity in the 1950s, but now it feels like a place people
01:29:49.700
are just desperate to get out of, you know, why is this addiction epidemic sort of taking
01:29:54.240
hold of our community, but specifically our family.
01:29:57.520
And I think kind of zooming out a little bit, which is what the book tried to do.
01:30:03.260
Um, obviously in the context of my own family did help us all understand these things a little
01:30:09.120
bit better and kind of start to appreciate the connections between what was going on, not
01:30:14.540
just in Mammal's life, but when Mammal was a childhood running or as a child running, uh,
01:30:19.940
from Jackson, Kentucky in the mid 1940s and how there was a through line, you know, 60,
01:30:27.080
70 years later to the way that I sort of instinctively react to conflict when a guy cuts me off when
01:30:34.940
Um, and I think that, that context and that through line gave us a little bit more of an
01:30:41.640
anchoring, a little bit more of an appreciation and, and importantly, just led to a lot of
01:30:48.400
Um, you know, we never talked about this stuff.
01:30:51.980
Um, the book sort of forced that and forced it in an uncomfortable way.
01:30:56.880
So I do think if there is a positive for the, to the book for my family, it's that it's just
01:31:04.680
given us a lot to think about and chew on together.
01:31:07.200
And that's been a little cathartic sometimes, right?
01:31:09.180
It's like, you know, we actually talk about this stuff and get it out in the open and even
01:31:15.220
It kind of feels better afterwards because you've at least talked about things that people
01:31:21.660
Um, and, and that, that is, that is something I appreciate about the book and the experience
01:31:25.740
of writing and publishing as it's at least served as a forcing function in that way.
01:31:34.420
I, I love, there's the line in the book that says hillbillies could go from zero to murderous
01:31:40.260
That's not cut off a hillbilly for the love of God, this holiday season, when driving home
01:31:51.420
Um, yeah, my, my wife sort of recognized, you know, when we were dating, she recognizes
01:31:55.620
impulse in me where, you know, if somebody cut you off, it's like a challenge to your
01:31:59.620
manhood and you have to go cut them off and then, you know, threatening to get out of your
01:32:04.580
And, you know, it's just one of these things where, you know, you can't do that, right?
01:32:08.440
When you've got a family that depends on you and two kids, it's, it's understandable that
01:32:12.420
that's your instinct, that that's what you grew up around, that you just can't do it.
01:32:15.420
And that, that recognition has been pretty powerful.
01:32:18.340
Well, not only that, but your wife's got this killer career who I mentioned her earlier,
01:32:22.240
but Usha clerked for Brett Kavanaugh when he was on the court of appeals and then moved
01:32:26.220
on to a clerkship after that with Chief Justice John Roberts.
01:32:30.500
Um, so she's pretty accomplished and impressive too.
01:32:39.200
You know, it's, it's, it's definitely, um, I don't know that I'd say it's humbling, you
01:32:48.600
Uh, I guess, I guess it is like, Usha definitely brings me back to earth a little bit.
01:32:55.240
And if I, if I maybe get a little too cocky or a little too proud, I just remind myself
01:32:58.740
that she's, she's way more accomplished than I am.
01:33:02.580
Um, you know, what, what, what is interesting about, about my life and just about, about,
01:33:09.820
you know, Usha, um, as part of it is that, you know, somebody pointed out that there's,
01:33:16.900
there's this weird way in which like every phase of your life, you have this like strong
01:33:22.540
female that you could attach yourself to, right?
01:33:25.060
It was your mammal, it was your sister, it was your aunt, and now it's Usha.
01:33:28.980
And I think that's probably a pretty critical insight that like, I'm, I'm one of those,
01:33:33.300
I'm one of those guys who really benefits from having like a sort of powerful female voice
01:33:39.900
in his left shoulder saying, don't do that, do do that.
01:33:43.020
Uh, it just, it, it, it just, it just is important.
01:33:45.460
Um, and you know, Usha is just people, you know, I think, look at her credentials and
01:33:54.800
think, oh, she's, you know, she's, she's, she's so impressive.
01:33:57.120
And just, I think people don't realize how just brilliant she is.
01:34:02.680
Um, you know, she is one of these people who, first of all, she reads books like faster than
01:34:12.320
Um, you know, she can read like a thousand page book in a few hours sitting and just
01:34:18.460
And she, you know, she's one of these people where, you know, Amy Chu actually once said
01:34:23.580
It's like a perfect crystallization of how she thinks that, you know, Usha can take an
01:34:29.440
incredibly complex set of facts and information and details and just absorb them on first reading
01:34:39.180
And then if you ask her about it, she can spit it out in a way that makes more sense coming
01:34:45.840
She can sort of like harmonize information faster than anybody that I've ever met.
01:34:57.500
Um, and she uses, you know, so much facts and logic and I just constantly, I'm like,
01:35:12.560
Cause I am thinking about when I was thinking about you and your life and I love, I love
01:35:16.780
that you're happily married and you've got your two boys now and you know, you move back
01:35:20.700
to Ohio and you're doing venture capital for companies that are not in Silicon Valley that
01:35:30.340
Of course, all the rest of us hope you run for office someday, which I know you told me
01:35:33.660
last time, maybe we'll see, but what do you, what do we have to feel hopeful about?
01:35:42.140
So what are we, what are we feeling good about when it comes to our country and ourselves?
01:35:46.260
First of all, I'm one of these people who believes that to actually solve problems, you have to
01:35:52.820
be pretty honest with yourself about what the problems are.
01:35:56.720
That's sort of the first and most important step.
01:35:59.400
And when I think about what I'm most optimistic at a national level, it's even if you're not
01:36:04.020
happy that Biden was elected, or even if you are really, really frustrated as, as a lot
01:36:10.920
of folks are, and you know, to be clear, I didn't vote for Biden, I voted for Trump.
01:36:16.260
Um, I don't think that we're having the same dumb conversations about the problems that
01:36:27.260
Uh, there is a recognition and, and, you know, like I know a lot of people don't like AOC.
01:36:33.760
A lot of people don't like Tucker Carlson, who's become a good friend of mine, but those
01:36:38.660
people I think are at least circling around the fact that you do have real problems in this
01:36:43.920
country that you do have an opioid problem that's killing tens of thousands of people.
01:36:47.620
You do have the decline of the American manufacturing sector in a way that's, that's caused a lot
01:36:55.020
You do have these multi-generational cycles of family poverty and trauma and abuse.
01:37:00.980
I think there was this weird conceit that we have that things were just getting better
01:37:06.360
It was the end of history that if there was any real problem in America, we could solve it
01:37:10.460
with a little redistribution from rich to poor.
01:37:13.720
And I at least think that most people on frankly, both the left and the right recognize that's
01:37:18.480
not happening and that we're actually making real progress in understanding the nature of
01:37:26.100
So I'm optimistic about the fact that we're just being honest with ourselves about the
01:37:29.660
real problems that exist in the country, at least more so than we were a couple, a couple
01:37:38.120
I'm, I'm optimistic that, you know, we just went through in some ways, a very traumatic moment
01:37:47.580
of American history, a really tough election, a pandemic killed a lot of people, the economic
01:37:55.060
fallout from the pandemic and some of our response to it that has caused a lot of misery, but we're
01:38:02.740
People are still getting together with their families mostly.
01:38:05.320
I know some people, you know, are, are, are, are being cautious and I understand that.
01:38:10.200
But there's, there's still finding ways to be together, to talk to one another.
01:38:16.000
You know, children are still, you know, I, I think of them as, as, you know, it's trite,
01:38:23.400
The children are still being born and raised and, you know, we have a, a next generation of
01:38:30.920
And I think that's, that's just, it's hard not to be optimistic about that.
01:38:35.600
And, you know, as, as tough as it's been, the country is actually still standing, which is,
01:38:43.040
We've, we've survived most of the way through a pandemic.
01:38:46.000
We appear to have vaccines that are coming online.
01:38:50.700
The social damage has been severe, but it hasn't wiped the country off the face of the earth.
01:38:55.120
And I, I guess the way that I put it is, is I think we've shown ourselves to be a pretty
01:38:59.880
So even though there are a lot of problems, there's also a lot of resilience out there.
01:39:05.080
I know that, uh, you, you wrote in the book, I want people to know what it feels like to
01:39:10.220
nearly give up on yourself and, and why you might do it, um, to see sort of what the other
01:39:19.260
Like you were one of those people, you know, of what you speak, you lived it and you, you
01:39:24.900
managed to get yourself out even without a lot of role models, which hopefully now you
01:39:28.860
will be hopefully now the kids sitting in their neighborhoods and Middletown or what
01:39:34.440
have you will say when asking the question, why try, why try because JD Vance, because
01:39:41.880
there is a way forward because maybe, maybe I could be at Yale law school or in the Marine
01:39:46.100
Corps or, or married to Usha, someone like her with kids and a brilliant future ahead
01:39:52.960
Maybe I could, maybe notwithstanding what people are telling me, I could, I don't know,
01:40:00.100
JD, I think we need more of that and more of the possibility of agency and, and less of
01:40:06.400
the, you're downtrodden, you're a victim and there's no way forward.
01:40:11.180
And I'm, it's one of the reasons I'm doing the show.
01:40:13.020
And it's one of the reasons why I find your message so super empowering.
01:40:18.820
Do I, do I hear you offering this from the bully pulpit one day?
01:40:25.320
You were down on politicians and I know you've, you've been scolded for being too down on that
01:40:29.280
because you don't want to discourage good people from going into running for office,
01:40:32.460
but realistically, cause I, I don't want you on the couch.
01:40:36.600
I, I don't want you to, you know, retreat to that instinct just in case Usha's too busy
01:40:42.480
with her law job to get you off of there, right?
01:40:49.280
Well, I think I'll continue to talk a lot about stuff that matters and try to be involved
01:40:54.920
You know, I've, I've done, you know, a fair amount of work there, try to encourage your
01:40:58.600
different folks to think about certain issues and, and, and different and hopefully innovative
01:41:04.120
I mean, to, to, to be honest, the thing about politics and I'll, I'll just, I'll be very
01:41:08.960
direct is, um, I'm feeling a little selfish right now.
01:41:13.040
And what I mean is that, you know, I, I woke up this morning, um, it was up late last night.
01:41:20.740
And so I had both the boys this morning by myself.
01:41:23.040
We made breakfast together, you know, we played together, you know, you and the toddler told
01:41:28.620
me a lot of goofy, ridiculous jokes, and I'm just not quite ready to give up on that yet.
01:41:35.180
And I think that, you know, there is a reason that people call politics sacrifice.
01:41:39.760
Uh, you gotta spend a lot of time away from your family.
01:41:43.460
And I think it's, you know, I've come around to the view, at least that a lot of people
01:41:48.580
Some people don't, but a lot of people do it for noble reasons.
01:41:51.800
Um, so I'll tell you the same thing I told you a few years ago, which is definitely not,
01:41:58.620
Some time down the road, but you know, right, right now it's like the only thing I really
01:42:07.300
I didn't care about making money, certainly not writing a big book, but the only thing
01:42:10.720
I really wanted is, is the life that I have right now, like getting up and, you know, knowing
01:42:16.800
that I'll be able to give my kids the things that I didn't have in knowing that they look
01:42:21.940
at their mom and dad as a rock, that they'll always be there for them and just getting
01:42:26.680
to spend that time with them, you know, spending time with mom who's been sober for six years,
01:42:31.820
having, you know, my sister and my aunt build a relationship with my kids.
01:42:35.940
Like all of those things, I selfishly want to continue for at least a little while before
01:42:41.860
And, you know, once, once I get to the point where I feel like I've had at least, um, enough
01:42:48.360
of that, that I've gotten my fill, then maybe that's a different conversation then.
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But, but for now I'm, I'm sort of, unfortunately, maybe to you, uh, content to be a little selfish
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I I'll, I'll allow it, but don't, don't be too selfish for too long.
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I, cause I, everything you've gone through, everything your family's gone through, they,
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they make me believe the line from Hillbilly Elegy that hillbillies are the toughest goddamn
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And we, we need more people like that with thick skins and a tough attitude to, to take
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on some of these battles that we all want fought.
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Listen, do me a favor, send my love to your family.
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And, um, just know that as always, I'm rooting for you.