Jordan Belfort on His Incredible Life, Victimhood Mentality, and the Keys to Entrepreneurial Success | Ep. 182
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Summary
In the 1980s and 90s, Jordan Belfort ran one of the most successful brokerage firms in Wall Street history. He lived a life of luxury with money, yachts, women, and drugs. But it could not last forever. Soon the FBI caught up and caught on to a multi-million dollar pump and dump scheme that landed him in prison for 22 years.
Transcript
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Like that woman over there with the designer jeans.
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Your home for open, honest, and provocative conversations.
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Joining me today, the one and only Wolf of Wall Street,
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Jordan ran one of the most successful brokerage firms
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He lived a life of luxury with money, yachts, women, and drugs.
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Soon the FBI would catch up and catch on to a multi-million dollar pump and dump stock
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manipulation scheme that would land Jordan in federal prison for 22 months.
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He would later write a New York Times bestselling book, The Wolf of Wall Street,
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And A-list actors would launch a bidding war for the movie rights.
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Leonardo DiCaprio would go on to portray Jordan in the now very famous and high-grossing film.
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It's incredible life and incredible life lessons that Jordan has gotten along the way.
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And today, he is my guest and we'll discuss it all.
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So, I saw The Wolf of Wall Street when it came out in 2013 and now I've read the book
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and have been following you on Twitter and I love your inspirational messages.
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You really have taken a lot of these life lessons to heart.
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And one of the things that attracted me to your messaging was your very anti-victim mentality.
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I mean, you know, you own everything that you've done and have been through and have
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been really open about it, but you also haven't lost touch with the drive that it takes to
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make all the money that you made, some legally, some not legally, but you haven't lost touch
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with what it takes to be successful and to get ahead of the other guy.
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And so I want to get to all of that because that's part of who you are as well.
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And, you know, it's interesting because that you think, well, wow, both are CPAs, professionals.
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You'd probably be upper middle class, maybe even, you know, lower wealthy, right?
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But my parents really struggled growing up and kind of didn't realize that until I was about
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And when I was 10, I remember, it's a funny story.
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I wanted to buy a pair of Pumas because they were all their age back then, right?
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And, like, I think it was my birthday was coming up.
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I'm like, what do you mean you can't afford it?
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My mother was like a trailblazer, just so you know.
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Like, in the 50s, back in Mad Men days, she was going into the city and working as a
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And, you know, it was a big eight back then, accounting firm.
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And she was the oldest woman in New York State that passed the bar when she was 68.
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I was like, well, and she sat me down and she showed me, you know, what was going on.
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She showed me they made X and here are expenses and, you know, our rent and so forth.
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And at the end of the month, we have a little bit left over.
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And I was appalled because I was like, it didn't add up to me.
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You know, I get like, it was something seemed like it was off.
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How could two such brilliant people, hardworking people, educated people,
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And it wasn't long after, I think it started to occur to me, there were certain other elements
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that were necessary to achieve financial success.
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My parents were completely risk averse, depression, mentality.
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And also they were really against any type of sales or marketing type ideas.
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They just shunned them and thought they were evil.
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And because of that, they were never able to use their services or market their services,
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So they worked for other people, they worked for a paycheck, and they struggled badly.
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So I think a lot of that went into my makeup of what it really means to succeed financially.
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Education is usually important, not always, but, you know, at least self-education of some
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And one of those is going to certainly be, you know, taking some risks, working for yourself,
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or at least being in an industry like sales where you can almost work for yourself and
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So how did you understand, like, how did you become such a good salesman?
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Because if you read up on Jordan Belfort, you realize one of the things that made the difference
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They don't want to have to sort of, I don't know, make themselves feel vulnerable by asking
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Seriously, I mean, I think that we all, all of us, each person possesses certain gifts
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I think in my personal genetic makeup and a combination of nature and nurture, I ended
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up naturally being very, very talented at sales.
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But then I trained myself and honed that skill over years and years of hard work and selling
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And then I found myself in a position very young when I started my firm.
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Where I was teaching a methodology of sales that was intuitive to me.
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And it didn't, it was working real well until I tried to go to a much more difficult type
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And when I was faced with this difficult sale, I could do it.
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And it forced me to come up with a new way of training salespeople, which is really what
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allowed me to understand my own sales process much better.
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So, you know, by almost by becoming a teacher, it made me a far better actual student.
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There's a moment in your book, late in the book, where your daughter says, you were supposed
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You promised to take me to the Blockbuster video.
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And you say, I had promised her nothing of the sort, but I appreciated the negotiating
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Like, yeah, you know, you told me to go on a Blockbuster, right?
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Like, almost what she phrases a declarative as a question.
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That's how I'm going to pitch my next big guest.
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OK, so you you were a worker when you were a kid.
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You'd had the paper route and you did all the stuff that, you know, a lot of successful
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You did not sit on the couch watching reruns of Little House on the Prairie like somebody
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Then you did not immediately go to Wall Street.
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You decided that you were going you want to make money and you decided to be a dentist.
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And then tell us what happened your first day at dental school.
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Well, yeah, that was really, you know, about I think it's a reflection of belief systems
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that, you know, we all have infused into us by our parents, society, our peer group.
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And, you know, my mother, my parents are just very highly educated people.
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And to them, it was like, you know, there's only no one noble way to become wealthy.
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And like, you know, time, if you asked me at the age of 21, you know, what do you want
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to be for a living, I'd say, I want to be rich for a living.
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So it was playing in my head like doctor, dentist, rich.
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Now, my uncle was a dentist and he was very successful.
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And the first day of dental school, Dean stands up in front of the audience.
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It was Baltimore College of Dental Surgery in Maryland.
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And then he says, you know, welcome to the Baltimore College of Dental Surgery.
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If you're here to make money, you're probably in the wrong place.
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And I got up and I literally walked out my first day and I dropped out.
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It tells us a lot about you because I would think, I mean, honestly, having been to law school
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and practiced law, you, at that point, your ego's into it.
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You've told everybody you're going to dental school.
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You have some sort of, you know, skin in the game.
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So the fact that you got up and walked out does say something about you.
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Like, you know, it doesn't take you long to make a decision about your life and your future
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That's an important thing that you're hitting on here because one of the biggest mistakes
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that I think people make, and we all make, you know, I still make it, but I try to stop
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myself from making it, is that it's not just ego.
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It's part, it's just part when you get caught up in something, you're in, like, you can't
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Like, you know, anyone on the outside would say, what are you doing?
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So many people will stay with something to a point where it's obvious it's not working
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It's obvious it's not going to get them the outcome they want, but they feel like they
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They've told people they're doing things, so they feel they have to be consistent with
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that, yet to their own detriment, they stay and they, that other opportunities pass them
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And I think that's a very, very powerful thing to, you know, for all entrepreneurs, actually
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success-oriented people is to always be looking at your surroundings and what's going on and
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I don't believe you just keep trying and quitting.
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But at a certain point, you have to get realistic with yourself and say, you know what?
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I should be making a pivot here and trying something else.
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And when you found out it wasn't the means, you were like, peace out.
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So you, you, not knowing exactly what's next, you leave.
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And then the way I hear it, you heard about a kid from your neighborhood who was making
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a million bucks on Wall Street and the light bulb went off and you were like, I too am
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I actually, so this is a very important part of the story is that, you know, when I dropped
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out of dental school, I answered a blind ad in the newspapers, newspapers back then with
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And it was for a sales job and it said company vehicle, a thousand week, a thousand week
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I was like, wow, that sounds pretty good, right?
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And I went down and I even realized that the company vehicle was a meat truck and it turned
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out it was selling meat and seafood door to door.
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And I was like, all right, well, whatever, I'll give it a shot.
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And that was the, that was the first real sales job that I had.
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I'd always been selling stuff, you know, hard work, going blanket to blanket on Jones Beach,
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I was the kid with the lemonade stand, but this was a magic show is even I did when I
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was younger, but this was the first real, you know, job and sales job was like about
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And, and my first day on that job, I broke the company record.
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And that was really how I, it got started is like, you know, me knowing that I could really
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And after about two weeks of breaking the records, I said, let me just try to open up a business
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I always had, I had that entrepreneurial edge and I started my own meatball.
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And over the next year, I built it up to 26 trucks.
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And, you know, I'll train and I train all those employees had to sell door to door and
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And that was really the proof, the proving ground for everything else that came after.
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And then ultimately I made every mistake that a young entrepreneur could make.
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It was like, you can look at that as a textbook for how not to run a business.
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And that was when I heard at the same time about this kid I grew up with.
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And I heard he's making a million dollars a year on Wall Street.
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And about a week later, I went to the local park.
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And he pulls up in a Ferrari, you know, and a beautiful suit and a beautiful girl.
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Like, I'm like, and this guy was not, just to understand, he was not like this kid that
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was voted most likely to succeed in high school.
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If I was saying, hey, Megan, what'd you make last day?
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You would like, you know, ask a doctor, hey, what'd you earn?
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Like, the first stockbroker is calling, hey, I made a million dollars.
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I was like, and I said to myself in that moment, what you probably said to yourself, many
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of your listeners have said, if this idiot can make a million, I can make 10.
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And that really started my quest to go down to Wall Street.
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Having lived in New York for almost 20 years, people are the same way about rents.
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We all live in different terms when you're in New York City.
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Okay, so you get the first big job you get is at L.S. Rothschild.
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And what was the messaging from your superiors there at this?
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This is the portion of the movie in which Matthew McConaughey is portrayed as your boss.
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So I was interviewed by the manager of that office and, you know, the L.S. Rothschild office,
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And I knew I had to stand out because there was like 50 kids lined up for the interview.
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And when I went to this interview, I started pitching him a stop.
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Like, I'm not even really knowing what I was saying, but I knew I was really sounding good,
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So I started saying, hey, I'm going to, you know, this stock is, I forgot what I said
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exactly, but the point is I was pitching him a stock and he's like, whoa, whoa.
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He goes, I'll tell you, he goes, either one of two things are going to happen to you.
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Either you're going to become the most famous broker in Wall Street history, or you're
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And my first day of walking into that boardroom, I was like, I heard the mighty roar of Wall Street
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The fear, the greed, the cursing, the screaming.
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I mean, it was unbelievable, the energy in this room.
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And for six months, I watched all these other brokers selling.
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And the messaging was, you know, let's just say it was very much like Matthew McConaughey
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I think one of the worst, probably one of the worst kept secrets and probably the dirty
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little secret of Wall Street is that most of it is really not in the best interest of
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the client when it comes to because, you know, the fact is, is that most of this whole machine
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is not necessarily of stockbrokers and analysts because you better have just buying the S&P
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But, you know, it was churn them and burn them.
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You know, let's churn them and burn them and move the money around and, you know, close
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It wasn't about lying or, or, or, you know, or like, you know, Bernie made up stuff, but
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it was about get their money, churn and burn and, and you come first.
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And, and, um, I was pretty shocked when I heard that, but, you know, that was, that was
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Was it, is it true that the, the, your boss at the time took you out and flat out encouraged
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you to drink more, consider drugs, consider hookers or masturbation several times a day?
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Like, I mean, does that, did that really happen?
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Yeah, but like, yes, the answer is yes, but more like, but more, you know, in other words,
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He was just, he was that sort of guy that like, he was, you know, he would do anything
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So he was saying, but you know, one thing that was very prevalent, which I, I don't know
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if it still is today, but cocaine back then was like wildly prevalent everywhere.
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And, you know, the, the idea that people were doing cocaine during that, that was like standard
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operating procedure back at that period of time.
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Um, but that was certainly standard operating procedure.
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And I think also was, you were probably all seen from various other movies as well, that
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prostitutes, hookers on wall shoes, also very much standard procedure.
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But the message really grim was just like, you know, smile and dial and have fun.
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And, and basically, you know, you, the idea here is like, and I really, you know, I came
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And I was like, so can we make our clients money?
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They're like, nah, it's like, it's like, that was not like the objective.
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It wasn't the, it wasn't the objective to lose their money, but you would never want
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to lose someone money because it just doesn't, there's no reason to want to do that.
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Even at Stratton, one of the biggest misgivings in the movie states that like we tried to
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You make more money when your clients make money.
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It's just very difficult sometimes when interests are not aligned, which they often
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So that wasn't, you didn't say, let's just rip the client.
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It's more like just, just, you know, churn them and burn them, baby.
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If you have to choose between yourself and the client, you choose yourself is basically
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So, so Jordan winds up going, and we'll get to this in one second.
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We're going to take a quick break, but he, L.S. Rothschild collapses when Black Monday
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But Jordan, you won't be surprised, would not be stopped, and his biggest and now most
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That's where we're going to pick it up right after this quick break, and we'll play some
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When I found out my friend got a great deal on a wool coat from Winners, I started wondering,
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Like that woman over there with the designer jeans.
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Jordan, so Black Monday comes, and that's the end of Rothschild, and you must have been
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thinking at the time, your Wall Street career, too.
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Yeah, I was pretty shocked, because after six or seven months of being a cold cooler, like
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just, you know, darling the phone and passing it to someone else, because they didn't have
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When I finally passed my Series 7, got my license, my first day, literally, my first day
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as a broker, and I was on the phone dialing for myself, the market crashed 508 points.
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Rothschild is, you know, essentially out of business by the end of the day, but it
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took a couple of weeks after they shut down permanently, but they were already like, that
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They were done that first day, so it was really, really sad, and I remember the brokers
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were walking around saying, oh, damn, the game's over.
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But then on that day, down on the ground floor was the newsstand, the New York Post,
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I'm like, oh, I should have stayed in dental school, right?
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When I got home, my first wife, I had not done great in the wife department.
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I've got a few marriages, but anyway, I got it right this time, hopefully.
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But she, unfortunately, didn't know the market crash.
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We were really struggling, and she bought a bottle of champagne.
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And, you know, I walked through the door, she's like, how did you break the rate?
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And she said, that last night, buddy, I'm the champagne.
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And like, sometimes when things are going bad, you think the world is just against you,
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It was like, really, I really was like, I had this moment where I was just like, was
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You know, I should have just been like the normal route, you know?
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And that lasted about five minutes because I didn't have longer than that.
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And we just started looking for other jobs, like outside of Wall Street, like sales.
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And after about a few minutes, she stumbled on some ad.
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It was like stockbrokers, like in Long Island, and it was part-time, full-time.
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But like stockbrokers on Long Island, like this is back in the late 80s where there was,
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And then it was part-time, like part-time stockbrokers.
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Like, you know, and then when I answered, I called the phone.
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I'm like, what about Morgan Stanley or Goldman?
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I never even heard, you know, it sounded like a weird name.
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It was like nothing in the office that, you know, reeked of wealth, success, or Wall Street.
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It was just like, it was going back to like the cave band days.
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They were just, you know, cursing, like, but a different type of cursing at the clients,
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Like, oh, you know, imagine we sell penny stocks.
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I legitimately did not know what a penny stock was other than that it traded at a lower price.
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I didn't understand the context, you know, what it was really all about.
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And in that moment, you know, there was a scene in the movie where I say, you know,
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And he's like, well, you know, that's not true.
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So we actually have this clip teed up from the movie.
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You know, companies that can't get listed on NASDAQ.
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So, you get the dollar signs in your eyes at that point.
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You know, the most important thing, and I mentor a lot of young people.
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I do big events around the world, small events, and there's a lot of people in their teens
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And one of the things I always say to them is, you know, be really careful.
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But that's one of the, you know, it's an amazing move.
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But I just think that it's not accurate in the sense that if he would have said that to me,
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Like, I was a really good kid that never broke.
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And it wasn't like my nature to go in and say, I don't know, maybe it's legal.
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So, and the reason that's so important is because right now, today in the world,
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all you people listening, especially young people, you're going to find yourself walking
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into offices and businesses where they're ripping people off.
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And as a young person, like what I was, you'll just, you assume it's okay.
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Because if it wasn't, it wouldn't be happening.
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These things often take many years to be shut down, if ever.
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If your alarm goes off in your stomach and like, it's like not legit, it's probably not.
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Like, don't just assume they say, oh, of course it is.
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I've had, I've had jobs in the past where you see ethics compromised here and then there.
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And then you detect a pattern and you have to ask yourself, do I stay or do I go?
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But when you, once you realize, oh, this is not an ethical place to be, it's a character
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And actually, it's one of the questions I have for you.
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Cause I'll tell you, I know a guy in New York, um, who he was arrested and he was accused
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of being kind of a mini Madoff and that the jury was hung when all was said and done.
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But it did come out later that he had cheated on his series seven.
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Uh, he had had another guy go in and take it for him.
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And I thought to myself is so like these early ethical compromises, you know, how often do
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Once you cross that line, it's tough to cross back over.
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You know, one of the things I always say when I'm out there speaking, I say, you can't be
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It's because, you know, like, and my story illustrates this perfectly.
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When I started my firm, I was doing everything right.
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And I had this one moment where like, I, I was faced with making a decision of taking
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I was like, well, you know, and I, I figured it was being done.
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I knew it was, I wasn't the only person that done this, but I knew it was wrong.
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I'll do this once and then I'll, won't do anything again.
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But once you take that first step over the line, what happens is your line moves slightly
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So next time, and you do things right for a while, but next time you step over the line,
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you'll step a bit further and then a bit further still.
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And through these tiny, almost imperceptible nudges towards the dark side, you can very quickly
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find yourself doing things you thought you would never do, associating with people you
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Your line has moved, your morality, your ethics, your compass.
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And before you know it, you're, it's insanely off.
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Like, it's like when you dip your toe into a piping hot bathtub, right?
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And then five minutes later, you're submerged under the water and it feels perfect, right?
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When I was a kid, I was like, oh, I guess the water cooled down.
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And, you know, it happened to me so profoundly that when I got my first subpoena from the
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SEC for like something I wasn't really even guilty of, it was just, I vomited.
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Like I was so, I was, oh my God, my life is over.
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Two years later, I'm like, through the paper shredder.
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Like, you don't, you become, it's so weird how that happens, you know?
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And the really sad part is that, you know, you make more money by being ethical.
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And picking back up on your book, that same kid who vomited when he first got the SEC
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subpoena, you write, would wind up bugging the SEC.
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I mean, it was, they came to my office and they were sitting in my conference room for
00:28:48.840
I have no, let's say it was a different world back then.
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We didn't have like computers the way they had us.
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I guess they had to sift through mounds of paperwork because I guess they decided it
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So, you know, we had all these spy shops back then that sold all these, like, cool little
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plug that looked like a, that, you know, it was like a plug and it was actually a listening
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And, and we put that device in and see what they were saying, which really wasn't that
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And then we actually got caught doing that, believe it or not, because my apartment was
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one day when he was incredibly high, he like, they said something bad about him.
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Um, so Bo Dietl would become your like chief investigator sort of protector.
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And a lot of my listeners may know him from my time at Fox and, and he's on Fox.
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He was all the time with Sean Hannity, such a colorful character.
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Um, I was just telling my friend, great story about Bo.
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And there's a, he ran for mayor a couple of years ago in New York.
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And I can't remember the context in which he said it, but it was basically, it was in
00:29:47.520
a magazine article and he was talking about how he's going to clean up New York city, I
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And he's like, I'm going to clean up this city, uh, from Harlem all the way down to
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He's talking about this statue of New York Harbor.
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It's a good way of communicating, but with everything has an attation at the end.
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You know, I'm going to have my lunchtation and my, uh, meditations.
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And you, you write about how, um, this, I didn't know about Bo.
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He's never done it with me, but he calls the people around him, Bo.
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So it's like, he's a, he's like a larger than life character.
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You know, he's always very good friend of mine and I respect him.
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And, uh, you know, he just did, he did a lot of good stuff.
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He personally had people, you know, like, you know, uh, security guards and he did a
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So he tried to help you, but he, he, he was quick to tell you, please do not try to
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Do not try to bug offices or briefcases or anything like that.
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How does Stratton Oakmont, it's got a great name and that's by design, but how does Stratton
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Oakmont, which was officially born in 1989 come about?
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So, so Stratton was actually started, Stratton securities was started in 1979, I think.
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And, um, it was a trading firm, um, that just, you know, did a lot of interbank trading, insurance
00:31:12.220
Um, and then when the crash came, the firm basically lost all its equity and it was teetering,
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Um, and right around the time I decided to open up my own brokerage firm, um, you know,
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Stratton became available that you could like use their licenses with what was called an
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So, um, I jumped on that bandwagon and, um, that's how it started with Stratton.
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Uh, after a short time, another firm named Oakmont became available when I wanted to, there
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The trader was, uh, more professional than what I had.
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So I bought Oakmont and that's how I came to Stratton Oakmont.
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So you wind up going around and hiring a bunch of guys and they're, these are, I don't know
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how you want to describe them, but salt of the earth.
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I've been barely post-adolescent new companies, but in a loving, fun way, you know?
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And you were their fearless leader who was up there like, let me show you how it's done.
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There's a famous scene in the movie in which you're talking to them about selling and, you
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And, and they did respect you and they were very loyal to you and they all looked up to you.
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But here's just a clip of you, uh, well, Leonardo DiCaprio, as you motivating the team.
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I have been a rich man and I have been a poor man and I choose rich every fucking time.
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Because at least as a rich man, when I have to face my problems, I show up in the back
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of a limo wearing a $2,000 suit and a $40,000 gold fucking watch.
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If anyone here thinks I'm superficial or materialistic, go get a job at fucking McDonald's because that's
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It taps right into Wall Street at the time and the guys and it was, you know, F everybody
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That's, you know, that's a really, uh, interesting scene because it, um, it's true.
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I mean, that was, it comes from a speech that I kind of reconstructed.
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I wrote, I wrote my book and, um, but that came later that, that, that, that mentality,
00:33:28.840
like when I, you know, let's just say what we were doing at that time was a little different
00:33:34.260
I, you know, when the firm first started, we were selling penny stocks, um, to average
00:33:39.400
moms and pops like that other company was doing.
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And then I came up with this idea to go to the richest 1% and just to call, you know,
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So the, so the leap that, that really made Stratton, Stratton was we weren't selling penny
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We were selling $5 stocks and we weren't calling average moms and pops.
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And that was also what forced me to come up with a new way of training salespeople.
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Because what happened was the, the way I had been training salespeople with the, with
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the first program, which was calling average moms and pops, it was very easy sales, more
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of an impulse sale, like, you know, dollar and a dream, like a lot of a ticket.
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And it was very different than what was happening when I actually had to go and call the richest
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And some of the kids that worked for me, which were kids that were not educated highly, did
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And also none of them possessed any, you know, let's say there were no members of the lucky
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And I had to come up with a new way of training salespeople.
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That was what really forced me to invent this new system that came to be known as the straight
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And this, this new way of training that allowed me to get these kids to close the, these wealthy
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So, you know, there's always two sides to training this, you know, this motivation and
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So the secret was a combination of motivation and skills.
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Cause we're just, this is a good time for, for a quick pause, quick break and much, much
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more on the opposite side of this with Jordan Belfort, the wolf of wall street.
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So the straight line, what's the other piece of the straight line?
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And the other is actually, how do you sell to really rich people?
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So the motivation is definitely part of the straight line.
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Like sort of the, you know, there's two, there's two sides to, to succeeding at anything.
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Even the digital world that allows us to communicate, you have a one, you have a zero, right?
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And when we speak of sales, you know, there's the inner game of sales success and entrepreneurial
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What's happening up here between your ears before you ever go out and try to close someone
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Then the outer world are the actual real world skills that allow you to accomplish what you
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So, you know, in mindset, there's things like managing your emotional state.
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Make sure that you're in a positive, empowered, emotional state, that you have belief systems
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that support you and that propel you to success and don't stop you from succeeding or cause
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Beliefs like my parents had, where they thought that selling was evil, that marketing was evil,
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Those are limiting beliefs when it comes to making money.
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So, you know, you could have the best entrepreneurial skill set and education, like my parents did,
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But if you have that sort of belief system, it's going to stop you from achieving.
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Then you have another thing, which is called, you know, your vision focus.
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Where do you want to be in five years from now?
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And most people think, oh, I want to make money.
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You know, a why is much more profound than that.
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It's typically to do with someone that you love unconditionally or a cause you believe.
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It'll be about the people that you love or the community or something bigger than yourself.
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And then lastly, on the inner game is something called your standards.
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You know, a standard operates like a thermostat.
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If you have low standards for making money, well, guess what?
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If the thermostat is set to a low level, the thermos shuts off pretty quickly.
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If the thermostat is set to a high level, it keeps going.
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All that's happening every second of every day in your mind.
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And it's influencing what decisions you make, what you do, how you handle adversity.
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And those things, when they're wrapped into one empowered, you know, into one empowered,
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Where you're like literally, you know, you have this ability to just be positive and think positively
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That sets you up for massive success in the outer world, which is now where your strategies,
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your real world business and entrepreneurial and sales strategies take hold.
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For example, as a business owner, you know, there are certain skill sets that an entrepreneur must have.
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When I talk about entrepreneurship, I typically divide it into like these two sides.
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Like you need to learn how to, believe it or not, fail elegantly.
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And because you're wrong more than you're right when you go into business.
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You're going to, you know, be on the wrong side of the test more often than not.
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How do you maximize the lessons learned in the failures, but minimize the amount of money loss,
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time loss, so you can learn from it and move on and try again?
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You've tweeted out and I've heard you say before, if you're the smartest person in the room,
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I love meeting people who know more than me because that's how you learn, right?
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Do it elegantly and understand it's not so bad to be the one learning.
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And also I think one of the, you know, one of the things I, I think a quote I'm well known
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for and I say to my kids all the time, especially when they were younger, is like,
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You're the resources and the capabilities you glean from your past failures.
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If you learn from those failures, you don't become your failure.
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It's a lesson learned and you grow stronger with each time you fail and both mentally and
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And that's what sets you up to succeed the next time.
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So I like that failure means you're a risk taker.
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If you've got some failures behind you, it means you're a risk taker.
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If you haven't failed, then you probably haven't tried.
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Like it's like, it's like, I don't know many people, even like someone, like if you look
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at someone like Zuckerberg, who like you seemingly hasn't failed, but he did fail.
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He's had all these launches and things he's tried since then that hadn't worked out.
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You know, it doesn't affect his, his, his, his massive net worth and his core company,
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And it's what you do when you, when you try and fail, that defines who you are.
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Do you learn from it or do you let it paralyze you?
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And the worst is that you let it form limiting beliefs inside of you.
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Like you have a failure about, you know, in a business and you're like, oh, maybe I'm,
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And that's a massively problematic limiting belief.
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So it's an example of how you could fail and let it paralyze you versus, okay, I failed.
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Let me look soberly at this and say, why, what that was missing here?
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And then when you try again, integrate those lessons from your failure into your next pass
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And if you do that enough times, you surely will succeed and probably sooner than you think.
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And then also on the other side of that is with entrepreneurship.
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So there's failing elegantly and also succeeding wildly.
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What do you do when, when the idea is right, when you have an idea, you test it and it's
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How do you turn a small business into a big business, a big business into a international
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And there's all these rules and strategies that are proven to work and you need to know
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There's an entrepreneur and they're all learnable.
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So, so you're really, I would say, ignore that at your own peril.
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The next skill that's crucial in the outer game is, is marketing.
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How do you go out and identify who your best buyers are, your potential buyers, and how
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You know, there's the online marketing, which is very popular right now.
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And I'm sure it will continue to be things like social media, Google ads, just, you know,
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all the things that we know and use online to reach people both in our local market and
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They're out there and you can hire people if you don't have them yourself.
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And then there's the offline, the traditional TV, radio, you know, knocking on doors, calling
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And marketing brings people into your so-called sales funnel, your store, your website, whatever
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And then the next step is the one that I'm probably best known for is sales, persuasion.
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How do you get them to see the value of what you have to offer, that yours is the best solution
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How do you convince them to part with their hard-earned money now?
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Without that, skill is very hard to make money.
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And then the last part of that is, you know, what I call MSIs, multiple streams of income.
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And what do you do with your money once you make it?
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How do you put your money to work to make more money for you so you can ultimately retire and
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be wealthy, meaning, you know, you don't have to just run around like a chick with a head
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on trying to make the next dollar because your money's actually earning money for you.
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Those are like this four on one side, four on the other.
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So inner game, outer game, eight things in all.
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If you know all eight of those things, you're going to end up being very successful, like
00:43:09.760
Back in 2016, I actually wrote a book called Settle for More.
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And the title was from a saying, the only difference between you and someone you envy is you
00:43:23.660
But right, it's to your to the one of the points you made, right?
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And if you set the low goals and you're sitting there feeling unhappy, that's on you.
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Well, you're probably the problem with most people in their goals, not, you know, people
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The problem is that they not only set their goals too high and miss them.
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They mostly set their goals too low and hit them.
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And then like, because the enemy of great is good, because when you're feeling good or average,
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there's no pain or uncomfortability, so you don't have any impetus to change.
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So it's like, you know, one of the most profound things I ever heard in the interview was from
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He was being interviewed after Avatar came out.
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And now he had like two out of three multi-billion dollar blockbusters.
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You, one person has, you know, two of the biggest grossing movies of all time.
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He goes, well, when I go about planning this out, I'm thinking about it.
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I am shooting to, I'm looking to have a $3 billion.
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I want to have the biggest multi-billion dollar hit in my mind.
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So if I'm only half right, I'm still doing really well.
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He said, go so high that even if he misses them, he's still doing well.
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And I always, I knew that to be true and taught that myself, but to hear it from James Cameron,
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like, so he's like a filmmaker and just showed me how it just translates into all types of
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It's a mindset thing of, you know, where do you set your goal?
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If you're aiming for here, yeah, you'll probably hit it, but then what?
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So you'll need your goal on your average and average, like, you know, average plus average
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It's not like somehow that all coagulates to be great.
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It's like, you know, the mortgage crisis where they said, let's take a bunch of piece of
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shit, deadbeat borrowers, actually deadbeat loans.
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And they're all terrible, but we put them all together.
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Like it doesn't change the makeup, like by putting a lot of bad together, suddenly becomes
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And I would add to that success in love and business.
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I mean, it's, you can apply it across the board.
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And I always say that, you know, like I had incredibly high standards for money and success,
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but very low standards, my personal relationships with my wife, like, you know, what, what you
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have a high standard for, you focus on, you, you, you won't settle for less than.
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And also for ethics, my, my ethical standard was very, became very low.
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So in those standards, we have them for everything.
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I've always had a very high standard for keeping in shape.
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It's hilarious to hear you say that after all the drugs I know you've taken.
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I really want to talk about that because I've, I've told my audience this before.
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I do drink alcohol, but I, I've literally never tried a drug.
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Um, and I, I don't know if I'm in the minority, the majority, but yeah, having lived in New
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York for almost 20 years and having practiced law and been in media, I think that's unusual,
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but I'm kind of curious about all the drugs you took and like how they felt and how you
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Now I know you're sober now, uh, but it was a lot and you lived a life of big, big debauchery
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while you were, while you were running that firm.
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And I, I, I'm just curious about the whole thing.
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Had you grown up, we'll squeeze in a break in a minute, but had you grown up doing drugs,
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Like, were you that kind of person before all this?
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I use drugs occasionally in high school and the college, but not, I was not a drug.
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I was never addicted to drugs and, uh, it was never something that was like an integral
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part of my life growing up, but I tried, I tried drugs and use them.
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Like, you know, most kids, you know, I think back then it smoked pot and, uh, I tried cocaine
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once or twice, but that wasn't something that was really part of my life.
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And so when you were at the penny stock firm and Rothschild before that, this is prior to,
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you know, the formation of Stratton, had it yet blown up in your life where you were like
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addicted yet when you started that firm, the big firm?
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That was a bit, I thought it was kind of, I, to me, it could have been done a bit more elegantly.
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Again, I loved the movie, but if there were things that could change it, they, they had
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And like, it almost like, you know, I go day one, I'm like this really wet behind the
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ears, honest kid that can't we make our clients money too?
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And then the next scene I'm in a strip club, starting Coke, right?
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So we've got a clip to sort of bring that to life for you right after this quick break
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when we have more with Jordan Belfort, the Wolf of Wall Street, sex, drugs, and Leonardo
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How many years were you, I don't know if we can say on the straight and narrow, but like
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how, how long did it take before a full debauchery and drug addiction set in?
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Um, so I would say it took from the time of, I walked the devil of Wall Street, probably
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two years, um, to start using drugs and maybe two and a half to, to be really deep into it.
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Um, and you know, drug addiction is a very strange thing.
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It starts slowly and it creeps in a little bit at a time.
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And before you know it, you know, one drug makes you want to do another drug to counterbalance
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Then the third one, I mean, it happens really slowly.
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And, um, but I would say by 1991, 1991, I was full in very much into drugs.
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And, um, the, you know, it's, I think I understand that just because anybody who drinks alcohol
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can understand the alcohol at night and coffee in the morning.
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This is just a much more extreme version of it.
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And when you, when the firm was killing it and you were killing it, there's a, that's
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portrayed in the movie and you're pretty open about the drugs.
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And here's a clip of, uh, Leonardo as you on the drug cocktail that you'd been using.
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On a daily basis, I consume enough drugs to sedate Manhattan, Long Island, and Queens
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I take Quaaludes 10 to 15 times a day for my back pain, Adderall to stay focused.
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Xanax to take the edge off, pot to mellow me out, cocaine to wake me back up again, and
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All the drugs under God's blue heaven, there is one that is my absolute favorite.
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See, enough of this shit will make you invincible.
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Able to conquer the world and eviscerate your enemies.
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At the end there for our listeners, he was, the, the character was snorting cocaine and
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said, I'm not talking about this, the Coke, he's talking about this.
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I have to say that, um, I wish I could take credit for writing that line.
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That was Terrence Winter who came up with that brilliant statement, which is so true.
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But yeah, it's a real, I, I thought that was so clever of him.
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Um, cause you know, the other things I, I all said, but he sort of pivoted back to this
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ultimate truth that, that the money itself was the most powerful drug of all.
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I, I, you know, let's go back to the time wall.
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So this is a time before hedge funds, before you heard about people making hundreds of millions
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Um, uh, I was making, you know, a million a week in, in the cash side.
00:51:39.960
Plus I was, uh, taking stakes in all these different companies.
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You know, I, I had shares in, you know, I, there was a time I owned 85% of Steve Madden
00:51:51.340
shoes and 20 other companies, um, that were all going public or were public.
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Um, and then I was making the cash portion as well.
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You had a yacht, you had a helicopter, you had a state's mansions and so on jewels for your
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You know, the goal of being rich, were you feeling like nailed it?
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I think the thing about money is that, you know, and I've said this many times, you know,
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I have been rich and been really, really, really happy.
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I've also been rich and really, really, really miserable.
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I've been poor and really, really, really miserable, but never once I've been poor and
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Like, so like, it's like, I think money doesn't buy happiness, but a lack of money can really
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And I've seen a lack of money cause so many problems in marriages with families.
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And money is, I believe, my belief is money is an incredibly important thing.
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It's certainly not everything and it won't buy happiness, but without it, uh, you could really
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be making your life much more complicated and your relationships much more tenuous without
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So I mean, that's the best definition I give you.
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And I make a lot of money now and it's, I love making money, but I don't buy into this
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idea that it's the money itself that's making me happy.
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Because I have times now where I'm unhappy and I have times now where I'm ecstatic.
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Uh, but I, I will tell you that I was broke right now.
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Like what, cause a lot of people fantasize about having all that, all that dough and
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Probably like the helicopter, you know, um, on the, on that yacht at a helicopter and,
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you know, we'd land this helicopter and, um, on the boat and then take it out and fly it
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He was a great pilot and he'd fly 10 feet off the water and, you know, like gunship in
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And, and we just, you know, have that boat in places that, you know, that you would normally
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not go to, like, you know, the Virgin islands or the Caribbean and then take the helicopter
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and just see amazing things land in live volcanoes that weren't currently erupting.
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I think that was probably the most, my most favorite toy, even more so than the yacht.
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And is it true that the, the yacht, the Nadine named after your second wife, um, was taken
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It was a weird, a storm, a massive storm, um, that kicked up.
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It started off as just like, you know, some chop, heavy chop.
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And the captain was, uh, you know, advising me against making the crossing from Rome to
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And, um, also at the time I was doing a lot of drugs, you know, and that sort of got
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I had to, let's go, let's go, let's go, you know?
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And then in unbeknownst to him or I at the time, a freak storm was about to kick up and
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And those six to eight foot waves became 20 foot waves really fast and then 50 foot waves.
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And then we got hit with a rogue wave to the side and that's how the whole thing happened.
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Um, the reality is far more cinematic than the movie.
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I think for budgetary reasons, they didn't recreate what really happened was just, it
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was an 18 hour ordeal where the boat was sinking slowly on its side after getting hit by this
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And they tried to first, the Italians first tried to send out a Coast Guard helicopter, which
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But in 50, 60 mile an hour, you know, it looks easy in the movies, but in reality, the basket
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swinging a hundred feet that way, they couldn't get the basket to the boat.
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So they had to go back and then the captain's like, all right, we need to abandon ship.
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Like, all right, so we all go to the back of the boat.
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And, uh, he puts the rubber raft in and bam, like in one second, the raft washes away.
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When I watched this in the movie, I was like, Leonardo DiCaprio will only be in movies in
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You've survived so many massive life risks, you know, not yes, drugs, of course.
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And then there was prison, but like that, that was so crazy.
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I had a hard time believing it, but I believe you now.
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Um, so you, so the drugs and the whole thing, can we just talk about the marriages for a
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Because in the movie, your wife is, um, your second wife, Nadine, who is this incredibly
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beautiful woman in real life and in the movie, uh, you fall in love with her while you're
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And in the movie they portray it as Margot Robbie walking in and you're just completely
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And, um, just as a funny aside, I'll tell the audience that when I texted you first,
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um, this is, I pulled it up cause it was a funny sort of introduction from me to you.
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I hate perpetual victimhood and people who blame others for their problems.
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I love Brian Friedman, who we both know it's a, our lawyer.
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And I also had a movie made about my life in which Margot Robbie starred.
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Um, there's actually, she, in the movie that was partially about me, Bombshell, she played
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a different character and Charlize Theron played me.
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We actually had a full screen made showing that the split screen of, of the two will
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Look, there's, there's me and me, Charlize and Margot and Leonardo and Margot.
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So, so Margot Robbie plays your second wife and your thoughts now, because Nadine is a big
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star in your life, in the movie, in the book, you call her the Duchess.
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Uh, cause I guess she was British originally, um, your thoughts on her.
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You do wind up having a terribly tumultuous relationship with her.
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And I know you're married to somebody else now, but I kind of wanted you to put a period
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on the end of that relationship for me and how you, how you see it now.
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Um, yeah, I think that, listen, you know, um, she was, I think, you know, you have certain
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people that come into your lives at certain times for a reason.
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Um, and she was the right person for me at that time.
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I, you know, I really, you know, the sad part, but I really loved my first wife.
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And I think she was under portrayed in the book in many ways.
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Like in the movie, uh, she was a beautiful woman.
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The girl played, it was beautiful too, but she really was, it was a good woman.
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And, um, and, but at that point in time, I don't think anyone could have survived what
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I was, everything was taking off so fast and it was, um, you know, the, with the drugs
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involved, it was just like, I was looking, I was in that mindset of just what's next.
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And it was excess and it was excess at every turn more, more weird mindset that you get
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into sometimes on wall street and other times as well, but wall street seems to bring it
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And, um, and, um, and I met her just, it was just like the movie, literally like exactly
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She walked in, I was, but she was gorgeous.
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And then we, uh, you know, I tracked her down and we went out and, and, you know, I learned
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a very important lesson, you know, from that whole situation that about cheating in a
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Um, cause I don't cheat my marriages after that.
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Cause, um, you, you can't choose who you fall in love with.
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Like it's, and you know, you're playing Russian roulette.
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Like, you know, you talk to just kind of have a casual affair cause you don't know what
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I didn't really intend to, but when you do fall in love with someone, um, you know, it's
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very difficult, um, to stay with someone that you're not in love with anymore.
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Cause I think it's hard to love two people at the same time.
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You know, wait, but you're not saying you didn't cheat on Nadine, the Margot Robbie
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character, because that's like half the movie of you with the hookers while you're married
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Is that you're saying when you're current marriage, you don't after her, like when I
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look the whole, when I look back and say, when I perspective, when I look back at my
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When I wrote my book, that was really true for me, writing the book was an incredibly
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like profound experience, but it was almost like self analysis and self psychology, my
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own, you know, strengths, faults, and frailties.
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And when I look back then, even when I was with Nadine, I kind of knew that I made this
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gross error in terms of just like going out and sticking my hand in the cookie jar.
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But just so you understand when you're doing drugs, like the way I was doing drugs, you
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There is no like, Oh, I'm going to be a good, you're like a different person.
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At a certain point, you get caught up in a mindset where everything can be rationalized
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Um, the truth is I had far more, I, I, I, this is going to sound strange to you.
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Um, but you know, in my mind, I didn't consider sleeping with hookers cheating in the traditional
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sense because there was no emotional attachment.
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No, I, I understand that my, my husband wrote a book about Wall Street called ghost of Manhattan
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This is one of the points he makes about the guys who eat, whether it's hookers or what
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they call, forgive me, a rub and tug from a massage therapist kind of thing.
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So yeah, I'm glad that you at least, you know, you don't have to agree with it, but you can
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understand I'm not the only person that thinks that, and I'm not saying it's right.
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In retrospect, they don't think it, but that's how I was thinking at the time.
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She was aware because it was all, everyone was getting married.
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Everyone was having bachelor parties and all the stories were searching, but it was kind
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Um, and then I had some affairs as well as, as did she, you know, she was no angel either.
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And I, and I think that since that marriage though, whenever I've been in a relationship,
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This is a dumb, like, I really feel like a goody two shoes at the moment, but how does
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Like when you first did it for the first time, like, you know, it's not like ordering Domino's
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It's like, it's like ordering Domino's pizza, probably even easier.
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So now it's all done on the internet, you know, and you have all these websites and
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all this sort of stuff that, that goes on around the world, everywhere.
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I'm not really up on the sites these days, but I'm sure if you just, just Google call
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girls in my city, you're like, that was, you know, your public service announcement
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So in, in the movie that's portrayed with like, I mean, it's not just hookers.
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It was, uh, it became, it became, um, some sort of perverted version of can you top this?
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You know, it's like, you know, we were these action junkies that were constantly looking
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for higher and higher cliffs to dive off of and shallower and shallower pools to land
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So every time you would do something, it would be extreme and insane.
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The topic, you know, the first time we did something obscene, you would think it sounded
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obscene that we, some kid that was struggling financially, we, we just said, well, shave
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It was like, oh my God, we're going to shave everyone.
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But then three months later, a head shaving is a hundred dollars.
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Like, you know, let's, you know, it's every time you do something, it's like, what's next?
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So this sort of evolution of insanity that happens by trying to constantly keep yourself
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I always compared to Stratton, like the, you know, the floor of the brokerage room is like,
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it's like the floor of the Coliseum, the sands of the Coliseum where acts of depravity
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I read in your book that you said that you had to impose a rule in the office between
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People were not allowed to have sex on the floor.
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Like that started from, you know, it's really funny.
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In the beginning, I was very, like, very straight like that.
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Like the first time I caught someone was like, they want.
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Now, some kid was getting a blowjob in an elevator in the building.
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And then like, like, well, you know, and then, you know, it's not so tough, like whatever.
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And within a week, the girl had given a blowjob to everybody.
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If you're not actively guarding your own ethics, your own integrity, your own moral compass,
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it is really easy, Megan, for it to spiral out of control.
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Yeah, this is kind of the theme of the interview, right?
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Back to our original point about the guy cheating on the Series 7.
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So when you look back now, how old are you now?
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So when you look back now at that time and the craziness and the excess, you know,
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from a guy who had to be rescued from the waters after your yacht sunk, I wonder what
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is, does anything jump out at you as especially crazy?
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Like, wow, that was the most, that was the most excessive.
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My bachelor party, which we really can't talk about here.
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But, you know, my bachelor party was like a low, I think.
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And it was like sort of a culmination of, can you top this?
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And, and, you know, it's almost like, you know, you see, this is, you know, remember the
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time this is before the internet, you know, and now on the internet, you could find every
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type of perversion and insanity and over the top behavior, whether it's on like platforms
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where they're doing gags and stunts or on porn sites, it's everything that you want is on
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And, you know, you imagine things from what you saw in movies and, and heard things that
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you like put together these like scenarios of what you thought was cool and what you thought
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And we were doing that at, at, at a very high level because we had a lot of money.
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So we, nothing was really out of reach of what we could do.
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So, you know, while someone might have a bachelor's client, have a, a dancer or a one prostitute,
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And, you know, if there's someone bring some drugs, we had a boatloads of trucks.
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It was all with like, you know, sort of five times, five times, 10 times a hundred.
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Would you ever have the sick feeling the next day?
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I don't mean physical illness, obviously that must've come with it, but would you ever
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have the, you know, the moral second guessing the next day, or would that just, that would
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have to wait until sobriety and, you know, prison and all that.
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In the book, I'm always talking about these things.
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Like, I'm almost like watching my own life fall, you know, unfold before me.
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Like I'm an actor on a stage, not in control of my own behavior, which is a massive, incredible
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But it's in control, but you rationalize, never underestimate the power of rationalization.
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And also, you know, what we do as human beings is we surround ourselves with a peer group
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So, you know, what defines what's normal and not in a society is what's happening in
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So we almost form this self-contained society where rules that might seem abnormal or completely
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out of control in the real world seem quite normal in the four walls of the boardroom or
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when we were partying in a hotel or in a casino.
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It's, it's, I see it and I read it and I, it's like, you almost have to look at the
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people around you for the reflection of what you are, good or bad.
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Um, but eventually it would all come crashing down, uh, legally, the marriage, uh, the money,
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And that's where we're going to pick it up next, uh, with Jordan Belford.
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So happy to be speaking with the Wolf of Wall Street.
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I can't skip by before we get to the downfall about, before asking you about the animals
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Yeah, it was, it wasn't like it was a zoo or anything like that.
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I think the people, they just were more than the animals.
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But for the, uh, but yeah, but people would bring in pets like iguanas and, and dogs and
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parrots and, uh, and, uh, fish, goldfish, as you know, one of them got eaten.
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Um, so yeah, that we had the sort of, um, I think we were ahead of our time in that
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Like we had the sort of like fun, loving atmosphere that they, they, the bro culture on and the
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And like, you know, it's sort of like you go to work and like, it's all about being
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comfortable, having fun at work with that, like the beanbag chairs and that obviously
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we had a bit of a twist there, but I mean, some of the untraditional stuff were blazing
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What you didn't know was that that was the, their emotional support iguana.
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I mean, these guys, they needed, they needed a lifeline.
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I read that, um, the one that was a bridge too far for you was, uh, a chimpanzee coming
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in and a diaper and you had, even you drew the line at that one.
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It was, you know, there was always like, uh, interesting things trying to be brought into
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the boardroom acts of the, you know, where they were people, animals, things, you name
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It was a, it was a freak, just, you know, it makes sense when you view it from the lens
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of what happened when you put 3000 barely post adolescent kids in a room and give them
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too much money and too much time and some drugs and alcohol, what do you think is going to
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So it's like I, when I look at this and read about this, all I can think is, can you imagine
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if today's post me to post like woke world, woke world, got to look at this in, you know,
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Megan, I, I, you know, it's really interesting that you say that because, you know, I come
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from a family, as I told you, a really empowered female.
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My mother is a really empowered, successful, educated, trailblazing woman.
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She literally is the oldest woman to pass the bar.
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She was voted pro bono lawyer of the year in New York.
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But like, you know, there wasn't, it's interesting because, you know, rules have changed so much
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If you would ask me if we sexually harassed girls back then, I would say unequivocally not
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If I knew of any girl there that was being harassed, I'd fire the guy.
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Like in a split, if I found out that a guy was doing something to a girl, the girl didn't
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want, I would have insisted that they be fired immediately.
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Most of the girls, they were part of the insanity.
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Now I'm bet, you know, in retrospect, it was happening hidden from me.
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And also in this sort of culture of women accepting things they probably weren't comfortable with,
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but had to smile and, and, and shake it off because they thought that was the norm.
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So I think it's very good on some level that that's changed, that women speak up for themselves
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and, and, and don't accept what they're not comfortable because they feel like they have
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So I'm betting that there was women that were very uncomfortable there and that, but they
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So if you go with the flow or you're out, right?
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I think also, I, I agree that it's gone many, make way too far in some cases with the sort
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of victim mentality, people not taking responsibility for their part and things as well.
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And I think that, you know, going back 20 years and trying to say something happened without
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In some cases, it's very clear, like with animals like Harvey Weinstein, so obviously
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things happen and there's proof and there's corroborating evidence, but it's a lot more subtle
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So I don't pretend that the answer, but, um, um, but we certainly did not look at it
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That, that I tell you that would have been stopped in a second.
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I'm thinking now there was a woman who came on my show at NBC.
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What's happening in the society right in the midst of all of it.
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And she was complaining that her complaint, it wasn't like part of a bigger story.
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Her complaint, she's part of a panel was that her boss told her she looked hot in her dress.
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Cause you want to, you want to be seen as a professional, but like, that's not really
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I, I, all I can think about is a woman from your firm saying that I had a girl next to
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me, giving blowjobs to half the firm, sit down, take a seat.
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A woman would say, damn, I thought I looked pretty hot that day too.
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But like, again, it's, you know, I have a daughter, my daughter's 27.
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She's a graduate from NYU, a degree in psychology, grad school.
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Um, very empowered woman, very, very liberal in our, in our, in our, in our, uh, beliefs
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Well, one thing I, I certainly agree with you is, is victimhood.
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I, I, I think that sometimes this has a way of crossing over into someone becoming a victim.
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I think that, um, I think it's, things have to change.
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It's good that they're changing and, and, and will continue.
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But there's a, there's, I think what gets lost sometimes in these, in these movements
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and these paradigm shifts is like, it's like, you can't paint everything with one brush.
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There's like a degrees of things and there's a continuum and you have to look at things
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really along that competing to decide, you know, you know, what do you do about something
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I think it's really sad when someone loses their career over something that happened 15
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or 20 years ago, when the, when the norms were different, that being said, then there's
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monsters out there that deserve everything that they got.
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So, but I think it's more complex than just bad, good, you know, harassing.
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I mean, I, I was talking with Douglas Murray, who is brilliant and a social commentator and author
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And he, and I was talking to him about these college students who were yelling at their
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school dean saying, these were college students who happened to be black saying, you don't
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We come, you know, we come from slaves that are, you don't have the same ancestors.
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And, you know, you, you, you basically can't explain anything to us because of that.
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And I said, well, you know, how's this guy supposed to respond to this?
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Everybody's got some sort of a painful history.
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This may not equal slavery, but bad, you know, it's bad.
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I have been, listen, my people, the Irish Americans didn't have it so good when we first
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came over to America and you could go down the list, but you tweeted out something on
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July 22nd where I was like, well, I haven't seen a shorter, more succinct version of the
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It's not about slavery, but it's just about victim mentality.
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Sitting around and pointing the finger at everybody and lamenting and feeling like you're bad luck
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I, you know, I have, I've said publicly many times that I am very, very prejudiced against
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And, you know, I, I believe in the egalitarian system.
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I grew up in a household that like, like it was just zero prejudice in my household.
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And when I saw it out in the world so much, it was pretty shocking to me.
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Um, and, but listen, I, it's, it's, it's very complicated.
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You know, this stuff, when you start getting into, into the race struggle, it's, you know,
01:16:54.120
And like, you know, I watched a movie recently.
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I was watching Crash with my wife, Paul Haggis.
01:16:59.180
And, you know, and you look back and it's like, it was appalling, but like what we have
01:17:08.140
Imagine having to, I can only imagine driving in a car and not, like, I never worried that
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But like, you can't use that as an excuse, not to, you got to still go forward in your
01:17:23.000
own life and, and just, you know, do the best with whatever hand was dealt to you.
01:17:28.000
We all have negative stuff that either we was dealt us or for our own mistakes, we put
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ourselves in positions that compromise us, that, you know, caused us problems.
01:17:38.460
And we have to overcome that and put one foot in front of the other.
01:17:40.880
So I just think that, that when you take, sometimes things can be true, but okay.
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Like you can't, if you, you, it doesn't serve you.
01:17:49.380
It doesn't serve your cause to live in the problem versus you actually, you know, living
01:17:54.180
your most empowered version of your own life and, and being part of a solution.
01:17:57.940
Which is work harder, make changes and go forward, but don't blame everyone around
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And I understand it because I, it's not to say that there are no victims in the world
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But I remember even when I was getting harassed by my boss at Fox in the moment, talking to
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my therapist at the time, she was my like marital therapist.
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Although I didn't go through marital therapy with my first husband.
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And now today's people would say, oh, she was wrong.
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She just said, what could you have done differently in, in the room?
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What can you do differently in the future to make, you know, to, to try to avoid that
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Me, I will be the one to change my life and make sure this doesn't happen to me or that
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I navigate it better or that I navigate this deftly in a way that I can preserve my future
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in an industry in which I'm totally green and new.
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Like, I think that most people have to believe, feel this way, the way you feel, the way I
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feel, I think what we have in the Twitter sphere is like a relatively small group of
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very loud, vocal people that, that is found on a view that is really not widely popular
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But I think on some level, what happens is corporate America embraces that because it
01:19:34.440
They say they're doing all this stuff so they can keep raping and pillaging the village as
01:19:42.600
See, but they're actually, in reality, all it is, is smoke and mirrors for them to keep
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doing the same old, same old thing by embracing causes they really don't believe in.
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Because to me, all I'm seeing happening make zero sense unless you look at it in that way
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that it's like it's all part of a much broader strategy to say we're great because if we embrace
01:20:03.260
those causes, then we keep doing what we want and keep making as much money as we want as
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And I, sadly, I don't know whether people are or not, but they, they got to be paying
01:20:15.760
So into your life comes someone named Agent Coleman portrayed in the movie by literally
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the only celebrity I've ever had a crush on, Kyle Chandler.
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I love, I fell in love with him on Friday Night Lights.
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And he, he does a great job in the movie of sort of quietly stalking you.
01:20:33.760
And you knew about this Agent Coleman who was on to you.
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And then he was an FBI agent who was on to you.
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And at first, you know, you, you'd never met him, but then they slapped the cups on you one
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But when you real, like, when was it that you realized the house of cards is coming down?
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I'm likely going to prison and my sort of fast and loose with people's monies, you know,
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What I, in a way that I thought was clever, but maybe not, has caught up with me.
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The answer is probably a bit more lengthy than, than, because it's, it's complex.
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It's not, it's not any one thing happening at one time.
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There's like sort of a lot of things happening at once.
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The interesting thing, I think, is how long it took him to actually find a way to, to get,
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Because, like, to be clear, like, what I was doing was not like a Bernie Mayhoff, like,
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you know, hey, you know, just take your money and, like, not invest.
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Like, I had a legitimate firm that was obeying every single securities law out there.
01:21:45.140
So, you could order my firm and literally living, like, the SEC was there for years.
01:21:49.300
They couldn't find anything other than garden variety, small violations that you would find
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I go, ah, Mayhoff, he just took the money, didn't invest the money.
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No, the SEC was, like, living in my firm and watching every ticket.
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But I was breaking laws, but they were, they were very esoteric and hard to detect.
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They, you understand, it was like, so I'm not saying I wasn't breaking laws, but like,
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if you looked at the firm, unless you could speak to people and they'd admit they were
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It was a very small portion of my business was illegal, very small, but that was enough to
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And the difference with Coleman is he was just doggedly determined for years and years.
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And ultimately, it wasn't even the stocks that he, that got him in to my firm and was
01:22:45.160
It was the fact that I moved money to Switzerland to a Swiss banker that, by my own bad luck, got
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indicted in the United States, not because of me, for some other thing he was involved
01:23:01.160
And he was laundering money for many different people.
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One of them was this sort of offshore, I'll never forget looking at the indictment against
01:23:10.960
It was like, Benny Hanna, offshore boat racing.
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Like, not mine, his indictment, the Swiss banker.
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I was like, oh my God, could I have worse luck?
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I picked the one banker that gets arrested in the United States for laundering money for
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Now, what Benny Hanna, I have no idea what ended up happening with that, but it was in
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And then I knew I was screwed because he got picked up and he's in the US and he's cooperating.
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So, of course, he gave my name up and that was what gave Coleman the ability to go back
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and get the proper paperwork to open up my accounts in Switzerland and that was it.
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When I got arrested, I then admitted to breaking these other securities laws, which is called
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free riding, putting new issues in friends' accounts and that sort of rat holes and stuff.
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The indictment was secured by the Swiss banking stuff.
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He thinks exactly like you, just so you know, you should have him on your show.
01:24:23.400
He shares, you know, he's a very, very intelligent guy.
01:24:31.180
I mean, like, you know, he was like, it wasn't like I was, I was framed.
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You know, Wall Street's a, you know, you can go to any firm and find terrible things happening
01:24:45.140
So I'm not saying I was, I certainly wasn't any worse, but I broke the law.
01:24:49.800
So like, you know, you could say it was happening everywhere, which it was.
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But the things I was doing were happening all over Wall Street.
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And he, he earned the indictment, the old fair, knocking on doors and doing the work.
01:25:05.820
Can I ask you about the, um, there, you, you write about how he came to you and said, I
01:25:12.620
went to a hundred people, you call them Strattonites, guys who work for you at Stratton and nobody
01:25:19.140
And, and you said something like, that's what happens when you're, when you're the cash cow.
01:25:23.340
Um, but so, so they didn't want to turn you in the guys who worked for you.
01:25:27.300
But then I know you, you wore a wire for the FBI, you and the guy who also got indicted
01:25:32.660
with you, your partner, um, did you have to go against those guys, the guys who didn't
01:25:40.700
So this is really, this is, this is probably the most difficult part of my life.
01:25:45.400
I would think, and I ended up, I ended up getting in trouble, by the way, I almost, thanks
01:25:50.200
to Coleman, I didn't do 30 years in jail because I refused.
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So I agreed to cooperate, um, as did pretty much everybody in my case.
01:26:00.480
So, and, and, and, you know, when I was considering whether or not to cooperate, um, I was like,
01:26:06.840
So you're not gonna have to testify against your friends.
01:26:09.340
You're gonna have to give all the information up, tell them where your money is.
01:26:12.640
And, you know, maybe you'll testify against someone you don't know, but it's not most,
01:26:15.800
everyone in the federal system, it's so rare that someone goes to trial in these cases
01:26:20.200
because the, the sentencing garlands is so onerous.
01:26:23.680
And unless you cooperate, it's like, it's like, go to trial, you lose, it's 30 years.
01:26:31.540
And then they were threatened to indict my wife, even though she hadn't done anything
01:26:36.020
Once they threatened to indict my wife, I had no choice but to plead guilty and cooperate.
01:26:40.100
So I started cooperating, giving information on, on what was going on.
01:26:43.700
And then they asked me to wear a wire against a very, very close friend of mine.
01:26:47.920
And, um, and it was a terrible, terrible thing to do because it, for me, that was sort of
01:26:55.900
It was like, I'm okay, you know, cooperating with a rat out, a close friend of mine.
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01:26:59.060
It was just, it just seemed like it was just a bridge too far at the time.
01:27:02.360
And so when I went to meet with him, they wired me up.
01:27:05.280
I passed him a note saying, I'm a liar, don't incriminate yourself.
01:27:10.620
And it was this moment I was like, I'm a good guy.
01:27:16.980
And I, you know, and I passed him this note and sure enough, he didn't incriminate himself.
01:27:21.820
And then three months later, he got in trouble and turned me in and gave me a vote.
01:27:25.860
And, and, and, and, I mean, and that was the point when I think I lost all faith in
01:27:29.500
humanity because like, that was my ultimate low point where I was like, I can't, what
01:27:34.680
do I, do I have any beliefs that are right or correct here?
01:27:40.880
I justified not cooperating because it's my friend.
01:27:49.800
And the government was going to break my agreement and give me the full sentence.
01:27:57.260
And it was agent Coleman that stopped that from happening.
01:28:02.300
He stood up for me and said, listen, you know, he wasn't even doing it to benefit himself.
01:28:07.260
You know, it was a moment of, of stupidity and also trying, he thought he was trying to
01:28:11.380
And like, you know, it wasn't like a selfless, it was, it was like a selfless thing.
01:28:16.200
I just didn't want to hurt someone that I love, the friend, you know what I'm saying?
01:28:22.280
And there was a couple of people that went to trial.
01:28:25.660
And, um, but most people, um, really, I think 90, anyone was really close to me.
01:28:32.080
And, and they all cut deals and you and your partner went to prison.
01:28:44.720
I'm going to ask him about the very famous guy he met in prison who encouraged him to
01:28:49.220
write this all down into a book and about the hundreds of hours he spent with Leonardo
01:28:55.640
DiCaprio and what that was like, uh, our closing chapter with Jordan Belfort right after
01:29:01.720
So Jordan, you go to prison and is it true that you met Tommy Chong there who had some
01:29:15.940
It's actually true that when I get to prison, who is my bunk mate, not just in the same
01:29:20.880
prison, my bunk mate is Tommy Chong from Cheech and Chong.
01:29:27.460
Uh, I guess they were both high profile, so they wanted to like kind of put us together
01:29:31.420
and told me to watch us or just like they thought it was a smart thing to do.
01:29:34.260
And, and, um, you know, he's just a, we are really good guys.
01:29:40.520
Very, very, uh, very highly educated, profound speaker and nuggets of wisdom.
01:29:46.220
And he was writing a book and there's not a lot to do in jail.
01:29:49.320
So, you know, you, you sit there at night and you tell stories to each other.
01:29:52.320
And I was telling him stories about my life and he's just laughing and rolling on the
01:29:56.160
floor because I'm, you know, some really funny stories and I'm a pretty good storyteller.
01:30:00.440
And like the third night, he says, you know, I honestly thought you were full of shit,
01:30:04.300
but my wife Googled you and like, all of this stuff is online.
01:30:08.640
You actually did all this goes, you have to write a book.
01:30:19.700
And I sort of just, whatever you get used to all the inside.
01:30:22.580
And he's like, I'm Tommy Chong and I think your life is crazy.
01:30:27.600
So you do, you write, you write the book when you leave with the Wolf of Wall Street,
01:30:31.300
which is what you were called in a newspaper article.
01:30:33.460
And then everybody's clamoring for the movie rights.
01:30:40.180
And I read that you spend perhaps as many as hundreds of hours with him,
01:30:43.960
getting him ready, showing him what it was like to be on that many drugs and so on.
01:30:48.500
So what, what were your impressions of him and that whole process?
01:30:52.220
I think what people don't realize maybe about Leo is he's, of course he's naturally talented,
01:30:59.140
but the, like the amount of preparation and the care he put into the role,
01:31:04.480
like he really, like, he was just so determined to make it perfect.
01:31:14.340
But he really put in mass amount of hours, just, you know,
01:31:17.880
went through every single line of the script, you know, just again and again,
01:31:22.560
making sure every word sounds authentic and every scene was authentic.
01:31:25.820
And, uh, he just, you know, he's very talented and a very hard worker.
01:31:38.700
lessons, uh, sort of guidance, mentorship, and it almost, in a way it's kind of self-helpy
01:31:46.520
Um, so like, how are you channeling this whole experience into a new version of you professionally?
01:31:53.060
So it's, you know, it's, it's been many years now that I've been doing this.
01:31:57.200
Um, I started in about 2009 and going out there and teaching people first about, you
01:32:04.040
know, the sort of the mindset of success using the lessons I've learned, then very quickly
01:32:08.340
pivoting to teaching sales, the straight line system, which is really what, you know, made
01:32:13.080
my career take off is that the system that I, I had taught the standards was very, it's
01:32:17.420
very ethical, you know, especially when I reinvented the system and, and, and, and made
01:32:25.840
And that's really what I was starting to get hired around the world to teach this to sales
01:32:31.460
Um, and then, you know, also teaching general, you know, entrepreneurship.
01:32:36.980
So I do a lot of consulting with companies and, and yeah, my message is, is very, you
01:32:41.580
know, it's very, um, I would say it's very honest that I, I think there's a lot of people
01:32:46.600
that are out there teaching things like sales and, and entrepreneurship.
01:32:51.080
They don't know the first thing about it really.
01:32:52.420
They just, what they, what they read either in my, for my stuff or someone like a Tony Robbins
01:32:57.600
stuff, who I have a great respect for is a legitimate, really, you know,
01:33:03.240
And then there are just so many just charlatans out there that are regurgitating the same nonsense
01:33:08.680
and just trying to separate people from their money.
01:33:11.020
And I, I really was very, very, you know, early on made this sort of, you know, my, my
01:33:17.540
It was pointing north, meaning towards ethics and integrity.
01:33:21.120
Like I, you know, I was very careful that I never took a penny from anyone without trying
01:33:30.560
You're my, my mindset is always, I'm looking to give more value than I, I ever would get
01:33:35.400
with every transaction I enter into every mentorship I do.
01:33:39.520
So, um, I've had tremendous success with people all over the world and it's great because now
01:33:43.400
it's, you know, the movie became this incredible cult.
01:33:46.020
It's so people come up to me all day, every day I get, you know, whenever I go out, you know,
01:33:50.160
people just say, you know, you, you, you're such an inspiration to me.
01:33:52.720
You're, you inspire me, your life, your teachings, your comeback.
01:33:59.380
You could have skulked away and said, I've been disgraced and you didn't, you found a
01:34:04.680
And you came clean with all of it too, to your credit, which is how we're all learning
01:34:09.340
But I have, I have to ask you about, um, the blowback because I, one of my questions in
01:34:16.860
Cause they ordered you to pay 110 million in restitution.
01:34:23.360
Cause I know some of the victims, some of the, the people who got burned, uh, this is what
01:34:27.540
I read left 1500 clients with 200 million in losses.
01:34:30.660
I don't know if those numbers are right, but did I know they sort of pop up when you make
01:34:39.160
I don't know if you're trying to be blind, but it's just not, that's not true.
01:34:43.100
Um, clients don't pop up, which is odd by the way, because I, the number was wildly
01:34:52.140
But like when Bernie Madoff, um, they said, what was it?
01:34:57.260
When you're, when they're coming up with losses and people, they double and triple count
01:35:04.960
So it knows it only was fine for a hundred million, 110.
01:35:10.660
It was a moving target that no one really knew what was actually lost, but there was
01:35:22.380
I pay some money and I pay a percentage of what I make.
01:35:24.720
And I, I, I said to myself, what's my solution?
01:35:28.020
I'm going to make so much money that I can afford to pay a percentage and still be rich.
01:35:34.800
And I said, I'm just going to work hard on everybody else.
01:35:37.080
I'm going to make so much money that I can afford to pay what I got to pay and still
01:35:46.240
And it's to their advantage too, to have you get back on your feet.
01:35:55.080
And so I only have about a minute left, but I want to ask you, because I know you've said
01:35:58.820
your life serves as a cautionary tale, but others do find it more than cautionary.
01:36:05.100
So what do you want people to know about the Wolf of Wall Street and the takeaway on Jordan
01:36:11.380
The takeaway is, is that my, I think my life represents the best and worst of what human
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And I think that the lesson that you can learn from my life is if you want to model me, especially
01:36:22.060
young people, you want to look at me and be inspired and use the techniques and strategies.
01:36:26.260
Remember, you don't have to model the whole person.
01:36:28.400
You can model all the best things that I did back when I was younger and I do today and
01:36:38.560
I always say, you know, yeah, do all the stuff I did on the great side, have fun, make tons
01:36:44.740
You don't have to, you don't have to take shortcuts like I did.
01:36:49.160
I'm lucky that I had to come back and make back all this money.
01:36:56.440
So I urge people that you can make a ton of money in an amazing world in an amazing
01:37:01.740
Just be very, very careful, but don't take that extra step and make it quick because
01:37:06.980
Model the good stuff and do the opposite of the bad stuff.
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Thank you so much for coming on and being so open and honest with us.
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Want to tell our viewers that we have Steven Crowder on Monday, recently banned from YouTube.
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Don't forget that and check us out on youtube.com slash Megan Kelly.