Navy SEAL Jason Redman on Overcoming the Victim Mindset, His Inspirational Recovery, and Our Military Today | Ep. 560
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On this Memorial Day, we want to bring you the story of a remarkable veteran who stared death in the face and lived to share his incredible lessons on leadership, bravery, and how to overcome any obstacle, no matter how devastating it may feel in the moment. Lieutenant Jason C. Redmond joins us now to talk about his experience as a Navy SEAL and how he was able to survive a near-death experience.
Transcript
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We like to walk that fine line between techno-thriller
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Your home for open, honest, and provocative conversations.
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Today we remember and honor our servicemen and women
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who paid the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom.
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On this Memorial Day, we want to bring you the story
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of a remarkable veteran who stared death in the face
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on leadership, bravery, and how to overcome any obstacle,
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no matter how devastating it may feel in the moment.
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It's so great to talk to you and to see you again.
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Navy SEAL Foundation dinner in New York many years ago
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I've talked about you to basically every Navy SEAL
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And back then, it was still pretty close in time
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I think I still was trying to get back operational
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And it was like, just your whole story was so incredible.
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And of course, I've met so many people over the years
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and I've met a lot of vets too, veterans in active duty.
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the number of people who really stand out to me
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and to be having this discussion with you today.
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So from a very early age, I think it's fair to say,
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I mean, like well before you actually signed up
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was it on the Navy in particular or just the military?
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The Navy kind of came about a little bit later.
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I mean, my parents tell me when I was about three years old,
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and what I like to call in American society, protectors.
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And I was always interested in, you know, that protector mindset.
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When I was three years old, I wanted to be a firefighter.
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That, as I got a little bit older, my grandfather was a decorated B-24 pilot.
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Along with my grandfather on both sides, served in World War II.
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My dad had been an Army veteran serving during the Vietnam War
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and had been a paratrooper and jumpmaster and rigger.
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And that's where he had encountered SEALs for the first time
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and started learning more about special operations,
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and definitely the special operations guys within the G.I. Joe universe.
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And it was about the time when I was maybe 14 that my dad said,
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You know, I think when people think of Navy SEALs,
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and Jocko looks like he's chiseled out of granite,
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you know, and he is the Hollywood version of a SEAL.
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I was like five foot, nothing, especially at that age.
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I was probably, I don't even think I had hit five foot back then.
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I was probably 95 pounds when I decided that's what I want to do.
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And everybody was like, there's no way you'll ever make it.
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And I don't know, that just created fuel to my fire.
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September 11th, 1992 is the day I joined the Navy
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You are the guy who says, say, I can't, say, I can't.
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Like, there's no better fuel for your fire than that message.
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I've come to learn as I get older, there's a balance there.
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You know, you've got to balance reality with where we're at.
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Because when I was younger, man, that was the catalyst.
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I mean, I would do just about anything if you told me,
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And I think some of that, who knows, had to do.
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Maybe I was a smaller guy, so I felt like I had to prove
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But I tell you, back then, it was definitely a fuel
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As a matter of fact, I was told right from the very beginning
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when I went to the recruiting station in Lumberton, North Carolina,
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And I walked in that door probably the first time.
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I might have been 15, probably 15 and a half, basically.
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hey, I want to join the Navy and I want to be a SEAL.
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And they were like, you'll never make it as a SEAL.
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And they basically, the recruiter chased me out of the office.
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because I got frustrated that they wouldn't let me,
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you know, that this guy wouldn't even give me the time of day.
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So I almost joined the Army to become a Ranger.
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because I had ruptured my eardrum when I was a kid.
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He said, well, why don't we go send you to a specialist?
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there was a new recruiter in the recruiting office
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who I got to link up with last year after all this time
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And I got to give a lot of credit to Henry for that.
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in your life and the life of the service industry
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because I understand you officially were allowed to join
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I mean, even today, I'm 5'8 and about 170 pounds.
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the average SEAL is only about 5'10 and 180 pounds.
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This Hollywood version of the Arnold Schwarzenegger type
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because they have strong muscular endurance strength
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and our ability to have to do a lot of activities
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your ability to pull yourself up onto a rooftop,
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any of these different things are marked by what we have to do,
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So I was one of the lightest guys in the class.
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There are probably a lot of guys out there thinking,
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I think the smallest I ever heard was about 5'2.
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The big guys really have a hard time making it through training.
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The amount of pounding on their joints ends up breaking them
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for the hundreds and hundreds of miles that you run
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and the amount of body weight strength and endurance you have to have
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to be able to do 20, 30 pull-ups, to be able to do 50 dips,
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to be able to do hundreds and hundreds of push-ups.
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My nine-year-old was listening to me prepare for you.
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And we were talking all about the SEALs and training.
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And he wanted to know if they make you do one-handed push-ups.
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And I actually, when I, uh, I broke my arm in training
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did not mean that I, uh, that I wasn't still getting yelled at
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So that's so good, you know, but I think you tell me,
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but it seems like whatever the height, whatever the stature,
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the number one thing, the reason you made it as a SEAL
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There's something different in the guys who make it through
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because they have that thing that just, it will not let them quit.
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It's, uh, I think there are two things that enable individuals
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Number one, that we like to call it the no quit gene.
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I mean, the Navy has spent millions and millions of dollars trying to figure out
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how do they increase the number of graduates from SEAL training and all these things they've
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done going all the way back to world war two, when they started training, um, it really,
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the, the attrition rate has stayed roughly the same.
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So 75% of the people that start training do not graduate.
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Um, you know, we often talk about, it's the no quit gene.
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And in SEAL training, they push you to that point and they teach you how to grind through
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Your brain will tell you if I don't keep going, I'm going to die.
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But the reality is your body can keep going almost 10 times further beyond that.
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And, um, so it's the ability to endure that gets you through training.
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But the other thing that I think special operations guys, they have the ability to process massive
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amounts of information in a very chaotic environment and, and make rapid decisions.
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And there's a lot of people that can't do that.
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I mean, when we send guys into, you know, a, um, imagine a hostage rescue scenario where
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they're now having to make entry into a room where there are bad guys in the room that
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You very quickly have to assess that situation, identify who's bad, who's good.
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And, uh, there are definitely guys that make it through training.
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Unfortunately, they don't have the ability to, to process that information at that rate.
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And sometimes they end up going away just because of that.
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So it's those two things that I think truly make, uh, excellent special operations, you
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You know, it kind of reminds me of, um, I was talking one time to the coach, the head
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coach of the Minnesota Vikings, and he was saying when he recruits quarterbacks, he does
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need, you know, an agile, you know, a guy who can actually complete the plays and knows
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how to throw the football and has sort of a physics, a basic knowledge of physics and
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instinctual knowledge of physics, but he was saying some of the guys can't remember the
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They don't remember everything that's in there and when to call which play, depending
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on how the guys line up in the field, far less dangerous, obviously than what you do.
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But it was kind of a similar thing where it's not enough to have the physical capabilities.
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There has to be this mental thing that you either have or you don't have.
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And if you don't have it, it's as much of a deal breaker as not having the physical
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I mean, you know, there are a lot of guys out there that are strong.
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I mean, I mean, a lot of individuals who will say to me, oh, you know, they're, they're
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anywhere from professional athletes to, uh, believe it or not, I meet a lot of high level
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business individuals, uh, in the financial market that will say to me, I definitely could
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And, you know, I laugh at a, the arrogance of that statement, but, uh, and maybe, maybe they
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do have a little bit of the financial, I mean, the, uh, physical ability, but do you have
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the ability to process information and continue to execute when you're in the middle of a firefighter
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after you've, you know, flown in, taken fire, maybe you've jumped in, uh, and now you're
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Maybe you've been in a firefight and you feel where you even get to the target building.
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Now you're in the target, you know, you're in a firefight.
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You know, now you've got civilians you're trying to take care of them along with your
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wounded, uh, while things are still blowing up around you and you still got to process
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Um, I mean, that was all stuff that I experienced in my career.
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And unfortunately there's a lot more that can't, they just, uh, high pressure environments.
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They shut down professional sports is the same.
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You put people off and talk about the, you know, the high level games.
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Um, you know, like the Superbowl or the NCAA championship games and how some of the players
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just can't manage that stress and that overwhelming pressure.
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I mean, in sports, we have an opportunity to see it in a way we don't in military where
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you can see who's a choker and who's not, who performs at that high level in the most
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stressful of circumstances and who, and who doesn't now, wait, this is a stupid question,
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So are you telling me that even in my own exercise life, which I will grant you is more
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limited than it ought to be when I am doing the jumping jacks and I am so burned and my
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legs are on fire and I'm like, I've got to take the next eight out and I've just got to
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Are you telling me that like, if I would just get mentally tougher, I can do it straight
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Most people could, if you had the fortitude and the ability to endure the pain and the
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discomfort, you could probably push yourself right to death.
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There'd be all kinds of alarm bells going off in your brain probably days before you got
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But it is amazing the resiliency of this amazing machine we walk around in.
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And unfortunately, in this day and age, we are not building that much in our people.
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We are not, um, we're getting softer as a generation.
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And, you know, every Monday I put out a leadership and resilience video.
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And this last Monday, it was exactly about that.
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I just finished reading this book called kingdom of ice by Hampton sides.
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And it is about the trek to the North pole in, uh, I believe 1779.
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I read that story and the level of heroism and the level of pain and discomfort and frozen
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temperatures all the time that those guys had to deal with.
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And I, I remember reading it thinking, man, I, how would I have fared in this?
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So fast forward to today, um, we don't have to do a lot of things that really push us.
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People have to do hard things in order to build grit and resilience.
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So I really encourage those of you that may be watching, you've got to push your kids to
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You have to encourage your family to do hard things.
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Otherwise we just get softer and softer and we'll just, you know, it's human nature.
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I mean, we all want to be comfortable, but grit.
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And I like to tell people the overcome mindset is not something you can just flip a switch
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So let me throw my little switch and now I'll be tough.
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And if you don't do hard things, you will never be able to throw that switch when you really
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need to, it reminds me your, your story about your book reminds me of a one time I was skiing
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at this very posh ski resort with my husband and my brother-in-law, some others, and just
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like a downpour of snow came right on top of us.
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Just this huge snowstorm dumped on us and it came fast.
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And so before we knew it, the snow was up above our knees.
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And I said to my brother-in-law, Ken, uh, I feel like Shackleton.
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You know, like where they've got the ski butlers who are going to take off the, this, the boots
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So anything like that I'm all about, but yeah, I hate the cold now.
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And, um, that expedition, I mean, you are, you are in SEAL training.
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Um, and I just think about these guys, these guys were literally cutting frostbite, um, out
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I mean, that's how insane the conditions were and how hard and then continuing to go.
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I mean, there are other people that'd be like, Oh, I'm, I'm, I'm now an invalid.
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But literally it wasn't until like bones were exposed where they weren't able to walk at
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Um, I was just fascinated with this story and the level of grit and resilience and, and
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I mean, thankfully, or hopefully we live in a day.
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We are, we are things to people like you, this is, this is what our children need to
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be watching and listening to guys like you with that same messaging.
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You know, I'd like to say it's still the military writ large, notwithstanding Millie and some
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of these other guys and the messaging from them.
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You know, here's another poll to confirm all that here, go back on social media to make
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They need to be watching your Insta Jocko's, all these guys who have been through about just
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grit and mental toughness, because it is a skill.
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Like you were saying, it's a skill and you have to practice it.
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I love the fact when people read my book and they don't really know my story, what's out
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there is, Hey, this guy got all shot up and he wrote that sign on the door and he's
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What they don't realize is there's a huge part of the story that most people don't know
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And I'll be honest, it was that journey, building myself back up against really hard
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odds that really built the overcome mindset and all the leadership things that I talk about
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Right now in this country, um, you know, I joke with people about, you know, we're still
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in the midst of a pandemic and, uh, and people go COVID and I'm like, no, we're, we, the pandemic
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There is a large swath of society that is being convinced you are a victim.
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You know, you, there, there are, you know, political leaders that want to convince you
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regardless of your race, creed, color, demographic, gender, gender, persuasion, uh, religion, religious
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Uh, they want to convince you you're a victim and that there's no way you can save yourself
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Or oftentimes it's only the government can save you, which is scary and a dangerous thought
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Uh, I, everything I teach on is on self-leadership.
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You have the power to drive forward and create change in your life.
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And, uh, and it is the exact opposite of this victim mindset, but it is pervasive.
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I mean, America was built on these, on fountains of, um, resilience and grit and, and self-leadership.
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You know, these individuals that came across here to this country and said, Hey, we're going
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to, we're going to figure out how to overcome and we're going to figure out how to make our
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Everything, even in the military right now, there's this idea about individualism.
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And I believe in self-leadership, but you have to be part of something bigger.
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It's a whole bunch of leaders who create this unified organism, if you will, that does incredible
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Um, you know, there, there is, uh, you know, I learned the hard way about individualism because
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when I was, when I got myself in trouble as a leader, it was about me.
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It, I was selfish and I was focused on me and I wasn't focused outward.
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And I think there's a lot of that going on in our country right now.
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You got to take care of yourself, but how does that impact?
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How do you set the example for your staff, your employees, your children, your spouse,
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Um, you know, we need more leadership and we need more grit.
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How do we even still have a military given this mindset amongst the Gen Zers?
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Do they, do you think today's guys are coming into the military with this victim mentality
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Or do you think it just naturally attracts the minority amongst that generation that doesn't
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have the victim mentality and that's what they're doing there?
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I think there's still a lot of individuals that are coming into the military who have
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that grit and resiliency and want to be part of specific units and certain things.
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I think the problem is there are parts of the military that are becoming a little bit of
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Like, Hey, um, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm conservative, but I probably have a little more,
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um, liberal views when it comes to social norms.
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Uh, but in the military, there's no room for individualism.
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Uh, we all have to fight together, race, creed, color, Democrat, gender, gender persuading.
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If you want to do that in your off time, that's fine.
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But as a military, we are a unit that must work together and there is not time or, or
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all of that's going to distract if we're so focused on a certain segment or demographic
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of society that we need to, I don't know, highlight or promote everybody in the military.
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Um, we didn't highlight anyone and, uh, and it was amazing to me and just, you know, the
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guys across the different platoons that I worked, they were different race creeds, some
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were religious, some were Christians, some were atheists, um, uh, you know, few other
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religions that were out there, but it didn't matter.
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What mattered was our ability to execute the mission and you could depend on that person.
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And I think the military deeply needs to get back to understanding that and understand
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that the purpose of the military is to protect our, um, our country to protect and defend
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the United States of America, but which should be the same mission for any country that's
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And it's not on highlighting whatever is going on in society out there.
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Uh, those are, those are political, political aims.
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The military should always be apolitical with a singularity of focus, which is to protect
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and defend our nation against, you know, all enemies.
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You know, this is, you correct me if I'm wrong, but this is why the focus by Millie on having
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you guys learn about white rage or Austin defending, handing out Kendi, uh, to, to the troops
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It's not just a distraction from what you need to be focusing on, which I believe it
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It's, it's kind of sending exactly the opposite of the message you need to ingrain in order
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Or frog, like you frog, man, you, you, all the messaging is forget that stuff.
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And I mean, it's the same thing in the military as it's happening in our country.
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Our, our, a lot of political leaders are doing things that are just abiding us as a nation.
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And they want to focus on, you know, specific segments of time.
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It was a terrible thing, but there is no country in the past, you know, 250 years that has made
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But there have been leaders who saw this is wrong.
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And this idea suddenly that, you know, these different initiatives that are out there, you
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know, that focus on America was built on racism.
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We're throwing the baby out with the bathwater.
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And, and there's a lot of incredible things that have occurred.
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And when we start to talk about the level of success of the American dream, it has been
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It's been, there, there are more millionaires in the world that have come out of the United
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States of America than any other nation on earth.
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And they're all race, creed, color, and genders.
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You know, and there are some people that would try and say, well, white males are the majority.
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Well, maybe that's true, uh, right now, but instead of trying to create division, why
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are we not looking for ways, you know, two wrongs don't make a right to continue to create
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division, especially in the military, you're creating individuals.
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You're creating potentially even a level of hatred, which is not going to further that
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It's all about respect for each other, that we are equal warriors that are trying to get
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And it's crazy to me because I think back to Martin Luther King's speech when he said,
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you know, I had a dream that one day men will be judged by the content of their character,
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Yet our political messaging right now is we want to judge individuals by the color of their
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We need to, we are, in my opinion, moving backwards.
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We're moving backwards, both in the military and both as a nation.
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And that's sad to me because I have worked with everyone, you know, everyone.
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When I, when I lived in the Virgin Islands, um, I was the only white kid in my class, but
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Um, and we're becoming this society that wants to focus so much on race.
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I hate the fact that every single form I fill out today is like, well, what race are you?
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If you're an American, if you're an American citizen, that's what you are.
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You know, I think the only things that maybe they still have that on is potentially medical
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documents because there is some linkage, of course, to race and nationality.
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And hopefully they can help prevent that anything else that should go away because it's just
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Our leadership should be looking at how to unite us.
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All right, let's talk about your experience and sort of get the audience through what it
00:30:42.500
So you, as I understand it, you deployed and you joined the military on September 11th,
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I mean, you know, what, nine years later, what was going to be happening in this country
00:31:07.620
I know that this is like small ball for SEALs guys to talk about BUDS training, but everybody
00:31:14.780
I was, you know, just listening to these guys talk about like your friend Leif and Jocko,
00:31:19.000
they were on a podcast talking about how like it's bullshit to talk about BUDS.
00:31:23.300
Anybody, the only people want to talk about BUDS are people who never actually went to
00:31:30.400
But give me a minute on it because I think my sons will enjoy it.
00:31:33.360
And I think a lot of people love hearing about just what we put you guys through in order
00:31:40.900
It's, uh, I mean, there's no doubt about it, but at the flip side of that coin, I kind
00:31:47.320
I actually served with one of the East Coast SEAL units before I went out to BUDS.
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I mean, I had a pretty good idea of what I was getting myself into.
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Uh, first phase is designed to weed people out.
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It is designed to be as hard as possible, physically hard as possible.
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And, um, so it's, uh, it's massive amounts of physical exercises and evolutions, um, that
00:32:17.660
are pushing you out of your comfort zone into that zone of discomfort and pain and forcing
00:32:24.500
you to come to grips with your brain is telling you, you have to stop, but your, your body can
00:32:30.460
That culminates with hell week and hell week is probably considered to be one of the top
00:32:36.180
toughest blocks of training in the U S military.
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Uh, some say in a lot of our, our even global military units and hell week is exactly that.
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And during that week, you will get maybe on average two to three hours of sleep.
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You're carrying the boat around on top of your head, everywhere you go.
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It's not uncommon for guys to chafe holes inside their, uh, inside their legs or inside their
00:33:06.520
It's not uncommon for your toenails and fingernails to fall off during hell week.
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Um, it's also not uncommon to hallucinate during hell week.
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I remember, um, when I went through hell week, um, a couple of things that stand out.
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Um, I remember, um, one, I was in the, I was boat crews go by height.
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Um, so the, the tallest boat crews are in boat crew one, uh, those are the studs.
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And, and, uh, in our class, I remember boat crew one, one, everything leading up to hell
00:33:43.780
And, uh, we got into hell week and on Tuesday night, I was in the shortest boat crew, by
00:33:50.460
So for those of you that enjoy that complete with a little smurf on the front of your boat.
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Um, so, uh, and, uh, I remember like the boat crew one, we're like, God, you know, we were
00:34:02.900
like, those guys win everything, you know, they just dominated.
00:34:05.920
And on Tuesday night of hell week, which is one of the hardest evolutions that culminates
00:34:11.040
on Tuesday night, everybody in boat crew one quit that night, except one guy.
00:34:19.340
Every single person out there that is like, Oh, that guy's got it all figured out.
00:34:28.060
Everyone has, you know, their hangups and issues.
00:34:31.740
The difference between successful people is they continue to drive forward, uh, besides
00:34:37.140
And man, when those guys quit, I was like, I got this and kept driving forward.
00:34:51.400
And the evolution we were doing is something called steel piers.
00:34:56.280
Um, and what they do is, um, you know, they have a, like a fire hose that they're misting
00:35:06.920
So the temperature was probably in the low fifties.
00:35:10.200
Um, the water temp, I would imagine was probably in, um, maybe high fifties and, uh, uh, and
00:35:21.020
And, uh, you, you were forced to remove all your clothing and fold it up.
00:35:27.820
And they would, you were with your swim buddy in these little metal, I don't know.
00:35:32.860
They were probably like three by three foot squares and the whole class is spread out
00:35:39.460
And the instructors would say, place your, you know, pants folded up in the Northwest corner.
00:35:44.480
And none of us had a compass and you've already been awake for like 48 hours.
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So everybody would try and figure out which way was Northwest.
00:35:59.340
And, and, you know, you'd mess it up and then you get yelled at and they'd force you to lay
00:36:04.200
down on the cold steel and they'd spray you with water until you were shaken enough.
00:36:08.080
And at some point they'd scream at you to get up and jump in the water.
00:36:12.040
And, uh, and I remember we'd all run over to the edge and it was like, your body was telling
00:36:17.200
you to go, but your brain would like slam on the brakes.
00:36:21.960
I remember this in my mind, everybody would get up to the edge of the pier and like come
00:36:26.080
to this stop and be like, and then you just have to force yourself into the water.
00:36:30.860
And the instructors would like throw your clothes and your boots into the water, which, you know,
00:36:37.980
So now you're having to dive down in the darkness and find your stuff.
00:36:41.160
And, and this went on for hours, probably four or five hours.
00:36:44.040
Um, and, and, um, I remember when guys quit, they, they, the steel pier was down below the
00:36:53.820
concrete pier, which was up above where the vans were parked up there.
00:36:58.380
Um, and, and there's all, there's a method to the madness.
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I mean, a lot of what, um, SEAL training, special operations training is it's psychological.
00:37:07.900
Um, you know, SEAL training is not, you don't accomplish SEAL training through this.
00:37:13.800
It's accomplished through this and through this, your ability to find it within your
00:37:19.880
So when guys would quit, they would be given a blanket and a hot cup of coffee or cocoa,
00:37:25.720
and they would go sit in the van that was, uh, had the heater on.
00:37:30.000
And you would see them up there sitting in that van, drinking with their blanket on all
00:37:34.420
warm, looking down on you while you're getting your butt kicked.
00:37:38.600
And, uh, it was so easy to say, man, all I have to do is say, I quit and I can go sit
00:37:48.680
Like, man, all I have to do is get a little further.
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And, um, so anyways, that's what happened to boat crew one.
00:38:00.080
All of them, I think got caught up in it and, uh, and they quit during that evolution.
00:38:05.360
So I remember on Thursday or on Wednesday night, I was hallucinating.
00:38:11.580
We were doing an evolution called around the world where you row your boats around, uh,
00:38:17.460
And, um, so now you've been awake for what, 96 hours at least.
00:38:23.020
And it's very common for guys to start hallucinating.
00:38:26.280
And I was, I was seeing fences, chain link fences out in the middle of the ocean.
00:38:35.360
Uh, I was seeing concrete walls that I was trying to steer around.
00:38:39.800
Um, I was hearing voices out in the middle of my, my buddy, he was telling me he saw a
00:38:47.160
And like, he told himself like, okay, that that's not there.
00:38:57.580
Um, so he was like, guys, we got to row faster.
00:39:10.320
The, uh, people really underestimate sleep and, uh, how good sleep is for you and how bad
00:39:17.060
it is for you when you don't sleep, how bad your brain starts to break down and your decision
00:39:21.520
making becomes or, and yeah, even when you're starting to hallucinate.
00:39:25.820
I was just talking to a doctor about this and we were talking about how, you know, some
00:39:29.040
people, they get up at the crack of dawn, pre pre crack of dawn to work out.
00:39:34.680
As long as you've built in enough sleep prior to that point that you've gotten a good night,
00:39:39.000
you know, did you get your seven hours or did you get four hours so that you could get
00:39:42.800
And he was saying they're completely missing the point because sleep is as important as
00:39:48.240
exercise and nutrition to your overall wellness, your, your mental wellness, your brain
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And so unless you can get the seven hours before you get up at 4am, it doesn't make much sense
00:40:06.900
And this is something that I really had to come to grips with.
00:40:09.420
I mean, I teach, you know, something called the Pentagon at peak performance and the base
00:40:13.140
level is physical leadership and sleep is a big component of that.
00:40:16.980
My whole life I've gotten up early, um, but I wasn't getting the, the, I need, I know
00:40:32.280
I was running, you know, I got to get up at five 30 every single morning.
00:40:36.040
Um, and, and in the last year, uh, my cortisol levels were high.
00:40:41.260
I was having, you know, some of these health issues.
00:40:43.340
And I, I said, okay, I'm going to force myself to get more sleep.
00:40:48.520
People just underestimate the power of sleep, especially, I mean, people in the business
00:40:54.880
And they'll say to me, Hey, I, uh, you know, I get by on four hours sleep a night.
00:41:01.020
You are chronically fatigued and nowhere near the optimal self you could be.
00:41:08.440
So it's really, you can't sacrifice sleep, but work out and eat healthy.
00:41:15.880
So you, um, you're in the Navy, you, 9-11 happens.
00:41:36.780
And this is where you, I think it's fair to say would face this major leadership challenge
00:41:41.900
that you referenced earlier in which you feel you fell down on the job.
00:41:51.700
Um, so I came into the Navy in 1992 into a peacetime military, man.
00:41:57.780
There's a, you know, there's a big difference in a peacetime military and a wartime military.
00:42:01.380
Um, I try to, you know, you nailed it when you said, when you signed up on 9-11, you had
00:42:08.420
And I try and explain that to younger guys and gals in the military.
00:42:12.040
Um, you never know when something's going to happen.
00:42:21.140
Within, I think two or three years, all of the SEAL teams were a hundred percent combat
00:42:29.600
So I actually, um, started school in the summer of 2001 and 9-11 happened, obviously
00:42:38.700
Um, myself and a couple of my teammates that were at school together, tried to get out
00:42:43.060
Like, Hey, we know we're going to war, get us out, you know, let us go back to a platoon.
00:42:48.020
And one of our most respected leaders who had helped me get commission, I remember prophetically
00:42:53.060
said, Red, this war is going to go on for decades.
00:43:00.480
Um, so while I was at school, the community obviously was going off to war in both Iraq
00:43:07.080
And one of the things that occurred was typically, uh, the military bases, tactics and strategies
00:43:19.740
And the SEAL team based a lot of our tactics off Vietnam.
00:43:23.040
That was the last time we had seen years of combat.
00:43:25.500
Well, when we got over to Iraq and Afghanistan, we quickly realized a lot of those old tactics
00:43:30.760
used in the jungles and the Mekong Delta and the swamps in Vietnam didn't necessarily apply
00:43:37.680
quite as well in the mountains and the urban and desert environments out of Iraq and Afghanistan.
00:43:44.360
So the bottom line, our tactics changed, uh, pretty drastically.
00:43:48.620
So here I was, this ex-enlisted guy who thought I was like, uh, God's gift to leadership,
00:43:54.020
the ego and arrogance kind of got the best of me.
00:43:56.440
And I came back when I got commissioned in 2004 thinking, man, I'm the man.
00:44:03.140
I'm going to be like patent reincarnated or something.
00:44:08.640
Uh, I stepped back in and, and technically I was probably one of the more inexperienced
00:44:13.340
guys because I didn't have combat experience and probably, um, 60% of our platoon at that
00:44:20.500
And instead of humbling myself and saying, and not only that, all our tactics had changed.
00:44:26.560
So instead of humbling myself and saying to the guys, the young, younger guys who might
00:44:30.740
have been more experienced, Hey man, I don't know how to do this.
00:44:33.200
I made the mistake as a young leader saying, Oh, I'm a leader.
00:44:37.900
If I say, I don't know how to do this, which is a fallacy.
00:44:42.240
Um, but in doing that, I, I started to damage my credibility as a leader.
00:44:53.620
Uh, so when I recognized it was hurting me, so then what was the next thing I did?
00:44:57.840
Well, I started, I recognized that I was damaging my credibility.
00:45:00.660
I was stepping on my toes, uh, not keeping up like I should be.
00:45:10.320
Um, so then I became known as a drunk on top of everything else.
00:45:14.320
Um, fast forward, deployed Afghanistan in 2005 and the very first mission, um, we were getting
00:45:26.660
So operation red wings, uh, was our troop, um, Lieutenant commander, Eric Christensen was
00:45:33.300
A lot of the guys that you will read about that were shot down on the helicopter and that
00:45:37.540
red wings is the, the lone survivor story for those that may be familiar with that.
00:45:41.820
If you've seen that movie or watched our red Marcus's book, we had a show last, last August
00:45:48.680
with his brother and it was just an incredibly compelling episode.
00:45:58.500
Um, our sister platoon was a platoon that was on the helicopter for red wing that was
00:46:04.040
We were getting ready to, um, fly to Afghanistan to turn over with those guys, uh, that following
00:46:10.980
I think we were set to fly like right after the 4th of July.
00:46:14.520
And of course on June 28th, the helicopter was shot down.
00:46:20.320
Um, uh, that's when I first, I met Marcus at the hospital.
00:46:24.120
Longstool Germany, uh, we stood watch on, uh, Mike Murphy and Danny Dietz's bodies.
00:46:30.060
They had not recovered, uh, Matt Axelson yet, um, flew to Afghanistan and the recovery was
00:46:39.200
So here I was this knucklehead young officer, um, who was stepping on his toes, who now,
00:46:48.260
And I wanted to prove myself, you know, Hey, red wings happen.
00:46:58.960
We have to, you know, it should be the, the, the, the mission, then the men or the team
00:47:08.720
And, you know, how do I make myself look like a, you know, a great leader and a great
00:47:14.660
And I may, I continue to make mistakes culminating with a bad call on a mission in, um, in September
00:47:23.700
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That call, um, really did damage to my, my reputation.
00:48:03.800
Um, I am very fortunate that no one was, uh, injured or killed because of that call.
00:48:10.260
But what it did kill was my professional reputation.
00:48:13.500
By the time I got back out of that Valley, the guys were like, get rid of that guy.
00:48:17.880
Um, they were calling me Rambo red, which that is not a compliment, you know, for those
00:48:28.660
There's no room for individualism, especially a leader who is, um, made decisions based on
00:48:37.080
And that was, I saw, I wanted to get in the fight and I saw an opportunity.
00:48:40.660
I took it and I am very fortunate that, that no one was killed because of my decision making.
00:48:48.800
Um, because there were guys who said, kick that guy out.
00:48:52.500
And, um, and it was the lowest point I've ever hit in my life.
00:48:56.380
Um, I went and had to stand in front of my commanding officer and explain my, uh, my actions.
00:49:03.800
He, he, there were guys in that room that were like, get rid of this guy.
00:49:08.400
Um, and, um, and my commanding officer told me to go back to my room and he would let
00:49:16.040
me know that the next morning, uh, what his decision was.
00:49:19.420
And I went back to my room and, uh, and I almost killed myself.
00:49:23.640
I put a gun in my mouth and I started to pull the trigger.
00:49:26.540
Um, but fortunately I think God intervening, I looked, I just, right about the time I did
00:49:34.180
it, I looked across, um, at the desk and there was a picture of my wife and kids and, you
00:49:39.160
know, just this voice was like, what are you doing?
00:49:43.140
What, what, what impact are you going to leave behind on them?
00:49:50.520
I went and sought out special operations chaplain and talked to him and we talked a lot and he
00:49:55.820
said, no matter what happens, you know, if they take your trident or if they kick you
00:49:59.060
out, then, you know, you've got to figure out what the path forward is, but never forget
00:50:03.140
for every, the end moment in your life, there becomes a new beginning.
00:50:05.840
It's up to you what you do with that new beginning.
00:50:10.100
It's a part of, uh, my Ted talk that I talk on.
00:50:16.800
And thankfully, you know, credit to my commanding officer who did not kick me out, even though
00:50:23.860
As a matter of fact, I'm actually surprised he didn't.
00:50:26.780
I mean, here's a guy who's grieving from the loss of 11 teammates only a couple months
00:50:37.740
So, and now he's got this knucklehead ensign who's making bad calls.
00:50:42.120
I mean, I think it would have been super easy for him to say, I don't have time to deal
00:50:45.240
with this, nor do I, nor do I have the emotional capacity to deal with this, but he didn't.
00:50:52.140
He said, you know what, Red, you've done some good things.
00:50:59.740
I mean, there was some, uh, there was some punishment that came along with it.
00:51:02.620
They, uh, any awards I was supposed to get, they were attracted.
00:51:05.200
Um, I had to sign an unofficial letter of reprimand that was held in a commanding officer safe.
00:51:11.980
And if I had, uh, if I had messed up again, that letter would have gone into my permanent
00:51:16.740
officer record, which would have ended my career.
00:51:18.820
And, uh, and I got sent to us army ranger school, which, um, is probably one of the best
00:51:27.680
I mean, to learn how to be a ranger and develop all those skills too, but you emerged out of
00:51:32.500
that with a whole new set of leadership skills.
00:51:39.000
Uh, I'd love to tell people that when I walked out of the office in Afghanistan, after getting
00:51:45.160
that second chance, I was immediately like, yes, I'm going to, I'm going to, you know,
00:51:51.600
But, you know, sometimes in this life, our new beginnings take time.
00:51:55.560
And, uh, and, you know, I talk about this victim mindset.
00:52:01.380
I, I was seeing myself as a victim that the guys threw me under the bus and I hadn't come
00:52:06.240
to grips yet with, you know, the only person that put himself there was me, my poor decision
00:52:11.040
making and really selfishly viewing, looking more at myself and not outward at the, at the
00:52:18.860
Um, and thankfully it was at ranger school that I really started to figure that out.
00:52:22.720
Um, you know, kind of a, uh, interesting side note in ranger school.
00:52:28.840
Um, I screwed up, I failed to land that test and seals are a little bit of anomaly.
00:52:36.580
And, you know, there's that great professional rivalry between the army and the Navy.
00:52:41.280
And, um, and a lot of the rangers, I don't think liked me very much.
00:52:45.220
So they, they let me know it and gave me a lot of grief about being there.
00:52:49.640
And when I failed the land, of course, man, they laid into me, they, I'm sorry, land navigation.
00:52:55.120
This is, uh, orienting with a compass to figure out where you're going in the woods, in the
00:53:01.540
And, um, and the ranger school land, of course, it's pretty long.
00:53:05.400
We started in the middle of the night and I had taught land that once again, ego and
00:53:15.140
Um, and the instructors were totally heckling me.
00:53:17.760
And in the moment I allowed my emotions to get the best of me.
00:53:20.680
And I basically told those instructors what I thought of them.
00:53:28.080
Um, it's the only thing I've ever quit in my life.
00:53:30.500
Um, and, uh, so I had to go meet with the ranger colonel and, uh, and the ranger colonel
00:53:37.000
listened and he said, I think you should talk to one of your SEAL teammates.
00:53:40.540
And I'll be honest, I was utterly ashamed and embarrassed.
00:53:44.340
And I was like, I don't want to talk to anyone.
00:53:47.760
And like, I guess this is the end of my military career.
00:53:50.580
And he said, Hey, I'm friends with a, uh, that the guy's name is Colonel.
00:53:58.000
He retired a two-star general and I had become friends with him because he really amazing guy,
00:54:04.880
And he ended up calling one of our most respected, uh, SEAL leaders who happened to be a mentor of
00:54:15.200
And I remember telling him this whole story, how, you know, I ended up there and he said,
00:54:21.240
Did you ever think that you're, you're seeing this as punishment?
00:54:24.580
He said, did you ever think you might learn something from this?
00:54:30.040
Um, and, and then I told him, I said, but sir, no, one's ever going to follow me again.
00:54:39.040
And then he gave me the foundational level of everything that I teach in leadership.
00:54:47.400
He said, I don't care how bad you've messed up.
00:54:49.460
It's human nature that if someone is on the winning team, if someone is leading a team,
00:54:53.960
a community, a company to success, and they're a pretty good person, you know, despite any
00:54:59.640
mistakes they made in their past, it's human nature.
00:55:02.320
We want, we all want to be on the winning team.
00:55:04.460
He said, so go back to ranger school, crush it, come back and give the guys a reason to
00:55:12.560
I hung up the phone and I, I looked at the ranger colonel and I said, will you put me back
00:55:18.220
You get to go sit in ranger school jail for a month and you'll class up with the next class.
00:55:22.880
So for a month, I walked around Fort Benning, picking up trash.
00:55:27.700
Uh, and it was probably the best thing that ever could have happened to me because it finally
00:55:32.220
And it gave me a lot of time to think about, I was the problem.
00:55:36.960
And it was my lack of my own self-leadership, selfish leadership that put me there.
00:55:46.120
I created a new, you know, my three rules of leadership that I now teach.
00:55:49.860
And, uh, and that enabled me to drive forward, graduate ranger school and slowly over the
00:55:56.080
next couple of years, build back my credibility as a leader.
00:56:00.160
This is what is so extraordinary about our military and some of the leaders who are in
00:56:04.760
They somehow know when it's time to temper that extreme discipline and harsh, unforgiving training
00:56:12.200
with mercy and inspiration and encouragement that the best leaders do.
00:56:19.220
I mean, that's just a gift when you have a guy like that above you who knows you and
00:56:25.400
knows what you need in the moment, whether it's a kick in the pants or a lift.
00:56:32.100
And I, I love knowing that there are guys like that out there training the next generation
00:56:35.340
of warriors and, and that you're out there using these same skills to help civilians to
00:56:39.840
try to get through just life with some of these lessons that apply.
00:56:45.840
I mean, I, I, I frequently speak to the military.
00:56:48.580
I've been fortunate enough to speak almost all the service academies, West Point.
00:57:10.060
That could be the most moving story of the exchange we have.
00:57:12.480
I feel like I learned so much already and we haven't even gotten to the, you know, apex
00:57:18.400
I do, before we get to your injury and what happened, can we just spend a minute on Erica?
00:57:26.040
And we kind of glanced by on my wife and my kids, by the way, when you told me about that
00:57:30.880
moment when you were feeling like you might take your own life and, you know, God stepped
00:57:38.280
That was an angel was sent to you to stop you in the same way.
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I talked to Dakota Meyer last, last Memorial Day.
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It was back when he got stateside again now for him.
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And an angel had taken the bullets out of the, out of the gun.
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He thought it was loaded, which is, I feel like so many of you guys go through these
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massive travails and emotional traumas, whether it's while you're serving or the buildup to
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the serving, or just, you're so hard on yourself and you're so used to being able to do everything
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And then when you have a failure, that's when you really get tested.
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And I just think every once in a while, you need an angel to come help you.
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And I agree with you that there, that God plays a role.
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So I'm glad you had, I'm glad you had your faith to get you through.
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So Erica, just to rewind now, cause we're in 2005, I think when you did army ranger school
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and you had all that happened to you, but five years earlier, you'd been out on the
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What town were you in this back state side, right?
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And you guys were out a bunch of you and you decided that night, for whatever reason,
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you're going to pretend that you were all there as boxers, that you were there for some
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And you see this stunning blonde with a thousand watt smile from across the room.
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I mean, that they, they will live in infamy, but I just, so tell us how you managed to woo
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this amazing woman into having a drink with you.
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So, uh, once again, you know, tell me I can't do something.
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And I hung out with the guys a little more and it was a great big place for any of you
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It was the Phoenix Hill Tavern, which is a, you know, it's a huge warehouse type bar.
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I had like, I don't know, three levels, six or seven bars in it.
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And I'd gone upstairs at some point and I looked across the, uh, the upstairs bar area and she
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was kind of across the room standing on top of this, I don't know, elevated structure.
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And there was a guy talking to her and she, she just looked miserable.
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So I, uh, I went up and I, I kind of jumped up on the platform with her and, uh, she seemed
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rather shocked and the guy seemed rather perturbed, but I just kind of ignored him.
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And finally he got the message and left and, and I don't know, we just hit it off.
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There was kind of a natural chemistry that, uh, we, we talked from that point forward through
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the rest of the night, uh, and ended up linking up with her the next day for a barbecue.
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Um, which is kind of a funny story because, uh, she didn't mention that she had a young
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son who was four months old, um, um, or six months old at that time.
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And literally we opened the door and she like handsome to me here, hold awesome.
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And, um, and then, and then she's like, Hey, by the way, we have a new grill.
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So, uh, so yeah, that was kind of our first date.
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You're going to put my grill together and, uh, I'm going to do things for you too.
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So yeah, I remember I read from your book, your opening line was, um, hi, I'm Jay.
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I cringed at my lack of wit and charm and the weakest pickup line ever.
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Any like faux attempt to be overly clever is usually seen right through.
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So I think, you know, you did the right thing, obviously, because it all worked out.
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So you wound up getting married, you married Erica, and you had two additional children,
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So those are the three, uh, kids and the wife and the family that you referenced, uh, when,
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I mean, she's still with you and we'll get to all of that, but I, I love the story of Erica.
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So now we're post Ranger school and you got to go back out there.
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And is this, it was what it was May of 2007 that you were deployed to Fallujah.
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And oh my God, can I tell you, Jay, I, whenever I even hear Fallujah, I brace myself.
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And it just seems like it went so poorly and it was so incredibly violent and dark.
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And our guys were just overwhelmed time after time and kept fighting and the sacrificing.
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So I, it's already a trigger, I think, for a lot of people who covered the news, you know,
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as I was doing at that time, nevermind the guys who actually lived it.
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So you knew going over there at that point, high, high levels of danger here.
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I mean, we, the, the, um, Jocko's deployment was, uh, 2006 prior to us operating out of Ramadi.
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And a lot of the guys who are operating prior to us, all, Fallujah, Ramadi, and Havana are the big cities in the Ambar province.
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And, um, a lot of the fighting had intensified in 06 and 07, um, really heavily, um, the second big battle, uh, you know, a large battle occurred in Belusia in 06.
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So a lot of the local tribal shakes had finally, I think, had enough.
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And whereas before they weren't really cooperating much with the, um, the coalition forces, the American government and the American military machine.
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I think finally, they said, if we don't cooperate with them, we're never going to be able to get our country back.
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So what started to happen was in 06 and 07, they started feeding us real intelligence at, which enabled us to really start going after, uh, Al Qaeda and insurgent leadership.
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So I will say as SEALs, even though we knew it was, you know, a high level of danger, it also was everything we had ever trained to, um, you know, at the pinnacle of special operations.
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And, um, you know, we got exposed to a lot of direct action going to those leaders, but also even at one point, um, trying to rescue, uh, uh, an army, uh, an army soldier and a Marine.
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And I just, those moments stood out in my mind, like how amazing it was that I was part of a unit that had trained to the level that these were the things that we could do.
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So we had a lot of close calls on that deployment, but it also, I was with one of the best troops I've ever been a part of.
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Um, it gave me an opportunity to grow as a leader, um, and, and learn and really put a lot of the new leadership things that I had incorporated into my life, starting a ranger school on this very intense combat deployment.
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And you'd been over there for quite a few months when I think it was September, uh, rolled around and you were out on such a mission as you just described, trying to take down this relatively high level leader.
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Um, and you'd been given some Intel about where you could find him and you guys moved in to do exactly that.
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And what happened, uh, to make a long story short, we walked into a very well executed ambush.
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Um, the, the initial building we took down, they were not there, but we found a lot of signs that someone had recently been there while we were, um, collecting intelligence and we had found IUD making components.
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Our snipers saw, uh, a bunch of activity on another building about 150 yards away.
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So my boss had me take, um, about nine members of my team, myself and eight other members, uh, seven seals and our interpreter and, uh, and move on, uh, this other building where we had seen individuals come out of the front door and run across street into this vegetation.
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Um, um, what we didn't know was our number one Al Qaeda leader for the Anbar province.
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He had been in our original building we were in and he had moved to that building and he had, he had about a 15 man security detail that that set up an ambush line in the vegetation across the street.
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And, uh, and those individuals we saw go out the door were the last part of his security detail that were part of that ambush line.
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And, uh, and my team and I walked unfortunately right into that ambush.
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I mean, we were, we, we, we knew that there was enemy.
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We had the, uh, air force AC 130 gunship that we were talking to and Hey, can you see weapons?
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Um, so, you know, and, and we had seen this before we weren't just walking blindly.
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I mean, we had, we had seen cases where the enemy would hide, not recognizing, you know, the, you know, technology and things like that.
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Um, so unfortunately, yeah, we walked into a very well executed ambush.
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Uh, my, my medic was initially hit, taken around directly below the knee.
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Um, and then, uh, one of our other guys, Maddie ran forward, grabbed our medic, started to drag him back.
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Maddie was shot up the right side, two rounds in his leg, one in his arms, still managed strong enough to pull himself and, uh, and loop back to, back to the tire behind us.
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Uh, there was like a large tractor tire, nothing but thousands of yards of empty Iraqi desert.
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And there was kind of a large John Deere style tractor tire.
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And then there was a tree, maybe, I don't know, 10 yards away from that tractor tire.
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Uh, I was trying to lay down fire when, uh, both machine guns turned on me and I was, uh, stitched across the body armor.
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I took two rounds in the left elbow, which I thought shot my arm off in the moment.
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I took rounds off my gun, rounds off my helmet.
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I took rounds off my right side plate, um, turned to try and move back to the guys.
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And it was at this point that I caught a round in the face.
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It hit me right in front of the ear, traveled through my face, exited the right side of my nose, took off most of my nose, blew out my right cheekbone.
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What was left in the cheek broke and kicked out to the right.
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Um, the bullet traveled right under my eye, vaporized my orbital floor, broke all the bones above my eye.
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It broke the head of my jaw and shattered my jaw to my chin.
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Um, the, the, the guys saw me fall and initially thought I was dead.
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Um, thankfully, um, you know, a tribute to the SEAL teams and how we train, we don't leave anybody behind.
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Let's continue to try and fall back or whatever we can do.
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Um, but I was, you know, pinned down probably 15 yards in front of them while this literal gunfight was happening directly over me.
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Um, and when I came to, I realized I was still in this gunfight.
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I realized that I was totally unable to do anything.
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And thankfully my team lead, um, Jay, uh, who combat experience, SEAL, um, what we call a JTAC.
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He is trained to coordinate airstrikes from, um, aircraft to the ground.
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And, um, Jay coordinated and said, Hey, to the AC-130, we need an immediate, um, we need an immediate fire mission.
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I was only 45 feet from the machine gun that had me pinned down.
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And that's well, well, well within danger, close parameters.
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And the gunship said, no way we can bring this.
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And, um, so they said, Hey, you need to figure out a way to fall back.
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So gunfight went on for another five minutes or so.
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Uh, the entire gunfight lasted about 35 to 40 minutes.
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They said no on the third attempt, probably after 15 minutes, he basically said, Hey, look, you know, if you don't bring in this fire mission, there's not going to be anybody left.
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You know, it was at that point, they basically put the onus on him.
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They made him give his JTAC designator number, meaning the training that our joint tactical air control controllers go through.
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And they basically say they have the ability to do this job.
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They understand all the danger close parameters and they made him read off his, his JTAC number or give his JTAC number that basically said, you're acknowledging that we may potentially kill you if we bring this strike in.
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And, um, and, um, and Jay did an amazing job coordinating that.
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Um, I remember him calling out to me incoming and, um, the aircraft flies at a pretty high altitude and you can hear the gun go off.
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And then there's a delay probably five or six seconds before the rounds hit the ground.
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And I remember hearing the, you know, of the gun up overhead and the enemy was still firing.
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So machine guns turning away and all of a sudden, you know, explosions incurred in front of us and blew up over us.
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And all of a sudden that, that gun went cold, that machine gun in front of me that had me pinned down, went cold.
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And I heard the enemy like crying out, um, to Allah, Allah, Allah Akbar.
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And I remember thinking to myself, stand by, man.
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And sure enough, next rounds came in, uh, which took him out, took other enemy out.
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Um, Jay came forward at this point, grabbed me, got me back to the tire, got a tourniquet on me.
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And, uh, and we ended up calling in, uh, I think eight or nine more fire missions before we were able to bring in the medevac, um, you know, to, to get us out of there.
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So Jay Ali Austin, I was with him this weekend and this was a conversation we had.
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So this is kind of the first time, but he told me he's okay with being out there more before I had not, we had not talked about it or I had not given his name, but I, I, I, I owe my life to him.
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Uh, and all my teammates, I owe my life to my teammates and that gunship.
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I mean, you know, people want to say, oh, you're so tough, you know, maybe, but I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for those guys.
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I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for that gunship up overhead.
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And that's what frustrates me with the military right now, with this focus on individualism, like it is the team effort.
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It is, um, all different, you know, it's, it's all of us together from different backgrounds and different demographics and different race and creeds.
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And all these different things that, that come together for a very unified mission.
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In this case, that mission was to make sure that we all came home alive or at a minimum, you know, if I had died, they would have brought, you know, hopefully my body home to, to Erica and the kids.
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But thankfully, you know, I, I was able to hang on and they did a great job fighting in that gunship.
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So, um, rightfully so, um, the gunship was decorated.
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I don't feel like our guys were decorated enough.
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It's something I've been talking about with them, about resubmitting them for, um, uh, award reviews.
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But, um, but I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for those guys.
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Hmm. We took some hits, obviously, but we didn't lose a single guy and the other guys did.
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He got away long before this gunfight ever occurred.
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He managed to sneak out the back of the house, but everybody that engaged us, uh, there was no one left to go home and talk about it.
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Uh, another team ended up about four months later, uh, finishing the job.
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So you, what next thing you know, you wake up where they take you to the hospital and it's an incredible story.
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You sort of coming back to consciousness and starting to process what's happened to you.
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Um, yeah, so they initially, um, normally had injuries go to Balad, but I was so critical.
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They flew me directly to Baghdad, um, got to Baghdad and I'll be honest.
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I don't, I don't think I thought I was going to make it.
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Um, but thankfully, you know, and this is a shout out to the amazing military medical teams and the trauma surgeons.
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A lot of people don't know that the greatest advances in trauma medicine are made in war.
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There are a lot of civilian trauma doctors and orthopedic surgeons and all kinds of anesthesiologists that volunteer to go over to the war zone in these dangerous places.
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And literally some of the best and the brightest doctors in the world end up coming and helping to save our, our, our wounded.
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I knew that, um, if you made it to the hospital with a pulse, you had a 90% chance of making it at home alive.
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And I hung on to that fact, like a lifeline as I flew that medevac helicopter and, uh, drifted in and out of consciousness.
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I remember waking up and I was so elated to know that I was, I was still alive.
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I also was, uh, fascinated because I thought my arm had been shot off.
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And I remember learning that I still had an arm, uh, gravely damaged.
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Uh, later they would talk about amputating it and they would keep it.
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But in the beginning I was, I was happy for that.
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Um, and I remember my commanding officer and my command mass chief were there in the hospital as I woke up.
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Um, and, uh, I remember going to talk and I couldn't talk.
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And the nurse said, Hey, you know, Lieutenant, you're, you're, you're traked, you know, you're, you're messed up.
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And they told me that, uh, that Luke and, and Matt were out of surgery and that they were going to be okay.
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And, uh, that's a, that's a funny story or a kind of a crazy story in itself.
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Um, although my commanding officer did not know my mental state and that was a real concern of theirs with this head injury.
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So they didn't know if I did survive, what level of mental, um, did I have a major traumatic brain injury or anything like that?
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So, uh, he would later call her after this and let her know I was doing okay.
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And the third question, I don't know why I asked this.
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They told me no, that getting shot in the face would probably be an improvement.
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And it actually was, uh, I used to have like a big old Tom Cruise nose.
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So two facts, Jay and I were actually joking about this, that I had a big old Tom Cruise nose that I had broken.
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And, uh, I had a deviated septum that right before that deployment, I had gone to see about surgery to fix it.
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And they told me I would be down for like two months.
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So I was like, I'll wait till after deployment.
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And then, uh, and then obviously they shot my nose off.
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So if you've ever wondered about where your tax dollars go, this one made a difference.
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I have to tell you, I've been looking at you and I've been looking at your before pictures
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Your nose is obviously a little crooked, but you just look like a little bit more.
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I don't like the long hair and the beard and like the eyebrows or something's working about it.
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And this look is a little bit better for like the Navy SEAL who served the car.
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So I think, I'm sure Erica backs me up on this, but I, I think you look amazing.
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I mean, there were easier ways of getting there, but yeah, you managed to find your way through.
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So can we talk about the time you talk, you, you first, the first thing you said to Erica
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when you talked to her, cause it's sort of to, it evidences your mental state.
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And while some people thought it was a little surprising, it's a great story about how you
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So, um, so I went from Baghdad where they stabilized and saved my life to Balad.
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I had some more stabilization surgeries and one of my teammates flew with me and I, obviously
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Um, she was trying to get everything taken care of with the kids.
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And, and she knew, um, they had told her approximately when I would get to Bethesda.
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And, um, so my, my teammate, um, who was there with me was like, do you want to call Erica?
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I said, you know, you talk to her, I'll write down what to say to her.
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And, uh, so I don't remember the first couple of things might've been, Hey babe, I, I got,
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Uh, and the second thing I said, but my wangs okay.
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And, uh, and, you know, and military members will fully understand this because, you know,
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as service members, unfortunately with IEDs and everything else, I mean, that is a fear,
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Uh, so when I told her that it let her know immediately that he's okay, his sense of humor
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Uh, when you, when you were talking to Gil, who was the one who was answering the questions
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I try to not, I want to thank him, but the trach of my wire job reclude that Gil then
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And the guys wanted me to tell you, you never look pretty.
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It feels good to be insulted at certain low points in your life.
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It's one of the great, it's one of the things I miss the most, uh, now that I'm out of the
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military, especially this day and age where like we've created it once again, the
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victim mindset, you know, Oh my God, if you say this about me, I must be insulted.
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Even though half the time people say things that are unjust, Oh my God, how dare you joke
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Uh, and in the SEAL teams, there was nothing off limits.
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I mean, we would poke fun at anything and everything, including when I was injured.
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I got, I mean, one of the guys showed up in the hospital, I'm wired shut with my face
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Um, so, I mean, that's the type of humor and I mean, you know, this life is too short
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So you, I mean, we're not going to go through it all, but you did you 39 surgeries.
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Yeah, 40 when it's all said and done, although Erica also known as the long haired admiral
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tells me that, uh, the last two don't count because they were kidney stone surgeries, but
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I'm like, I've had 40 surgeries since I was wounded.
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So, I mean, was that, I, not to ask like another dumb question, but like, was that traumatic?
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Like a surgery of any kind, I haven't just had C-sections, but I mean, it's traumatic and
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just that alone, nevermind after a massive injury and a battlefield and the, you know,
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the, the emotional trauma of all that, like, how did you handle that many times in and
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I mean, you know, I tell people once again, a lot of people assume that my battlefield injuries
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were like the worst thing that ever happened to me, but that failure as a leader, you know,
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It prepared me to deal with all this adversity, that journey back, having to take small incremental
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steps to build back my credibility and reputation, the leadership lessons that I had built in myself.
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And when I was in the hospital, I told myself, Hey man, this, this is no different from that
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I said, this is medical buds, um, which buds is the acronym for seal training, basic underwater
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You know, you don't have to like it, but you have to do it and we have to go.
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So I knew I had to go through all these surgeries if I even remotely had a chance at doing that.
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Um, so every surgery, the doctors used to laugh because literally I would be in the, um, post-op
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and one of my very first questions after they would tell me how the surgery went would be,
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I'd write out, when can we schedule the next one?
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Um, cause I wanted to just, you know, churn and burn.
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I wanted to try and recover as quickly as I could, uh, which ended up to, you know, battlefield
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I mean, it ended up taking almost four years to put me back together.
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Well, I've gotten ahead of myself because immediately post the massive injury before the 39, 40
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I don't think we can call the, I don't think we can count the stones.
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Um, you posted the infamous sign, the sign, the famous sign, not infamous that, that connotes
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Um, and that's how you came to be so memorable in my own life.
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Uh, hearing that story after meeting you when your face was still pretty banged up was just
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I mean, it was a true inspiration to me as a human and it's inspired countless of numbers
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So just set the stage for, we're going to read it, but just set the stage for where you
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were and what made you realize you needed to post a sign like the one we're going to
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So I'd probably only been in the hospital about a week, I would say seven days, give
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Um, and, and I will admit, I struggled a little bit in the beginning.
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I think there's this big spike of elation, like I survived.
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Um, and then the reality kind of set in that I am really messed up.
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Um, doctors were telling me it was going to be months to put at a minimum.
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Doctors were telling me it was going to be years to put me back together.
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There was massive nerve damage, obviously the massive amount of, of damage to my face.
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Um, you know, I was really scared before I saw Erica the first time I was really scared.
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So I had her, but I was kind of struggling with where do I go from here?
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I felt like I'd be a monster for the rest of my life.
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Um, and, uh, and I had some individuals that came into the room and we, we had a short conversation.
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And then I, I guess I maybe was drifting off and they were talking amongst themselves.
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And if any of you have been in that, you know, that in between awake and you're not quite
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asleep, you can still hear the sounds, the TVs.
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And I, I caught bits and pieces of their conversation and, um, and I don't, I don't fault them.
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Uh, there are some people that are like, how rude, how do you, how could they have that
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Military hospital is really hard place to be during a time of war.
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There are young men and women that are blown apart, uh, missing limbs, traumatic brain injuries.
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It is very overwhelming to see this many young people.
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And, uh, and they were there and I think they were caught up in this and they started having
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a conversation about what a shame, what a pity we send these young men and women off to war
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and they come home broken and battered and they'll never be the same.
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And then they left and, uh, Erica had gone down to get a cup of coffee or something.
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So I was in my room by myself, just thinking about this.
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It kind of woke me up and I was, I was both angry and like, is that going to be me?
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Am I going to be this, um, broken veteran, um, you know, that, that is never successful
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Am I going to be like Lieutenant Dan from the movie, Forrest Gump, you know, the beginning
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of the movie, hookers and booze, Lieutenant Dan, not, not, you've got new legs, Lieutenant
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And, um, I just, I wrestled with it for a few minutes and then I went back to everything
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And when I try to explain to people is that the victim mindset focuses on all the negativity.
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We focus on the immediate here and now, not recognizing that the greatest gift you have
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No one forces you to lay there and feel sorry for yourself.
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As long as your brain is still working, you have free will and you have the ability to
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decide how you're going to handle this situation, no matter how bad and uncomfortable and unpleasant
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And it was in that moment when Erica walked back into the room, I said, never again, that
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From this point forward, I will never feel sorry for myself again.
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And I will not allow anybody else to come in this room and feel sorry for me.
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And I asked her for my pen and paper and I wrote out this sign and it said, attention
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If you're coming in this room with sadness or sorrow, go elsewhere.
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The wounds I received, I got in a job that I love, doing it for people that I love, defending
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And I'm going to push that about 20% further through sheer mental tenacity.
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This room you're about to enter is a room of fun, optimism, and intense rapid regroup.
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And the original sign was put on a regular piece of paper that I've been writing on.
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But later, Erica went and bought that large orange red piece of poster paper.
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And we transcribed it word for word, put it on the door.
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And a New York firefighter wrote a blog about it.
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To date, you know, it has been written about in multiple books.
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First Lady Michelle Obama wrote about it twice in her book, Becoming Michelle.
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Sent me a handwritten note on how much it moved her.
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And it has now earned me an invitation to the White House to meet President Bush, who signed it.
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I felt like it belonged to the hospital and the other wounded warriors.
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And it now hangs in Walter Reed in the middle of the wounded ward and continues to motivate and inspire other wounded warriors.
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I mean, I don't know, hundreds of thousands of people who have written me and said, hey, I put your sign on the door.
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I've been injured or my kid has been injured or my kid has cancer.
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So you just never know the power of positivity and choosing to drive forward despite the hardship and adversity we face.
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People will follow if you give them something to follow.
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Like who knew, who knew that maybe your most important role in these conflicts would be helping severely wounded guys coming back with no hope understand that there was a way out.
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And it began with attitude and the decisions about how you'd handle what happened to you and who would have access to you in this, your most vulnerable time.
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Right. I mean, I'm sure we have no idea the number of people you've helped, even outside the military, as you point out, people in cancer wards who read that message and remind themselves, I have a choice here.
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And the choice I make really could be the difference between life and death.
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Well, and to lift up those around you, that was one of my big goals.
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I wanted to set the example for other wounded warriors around me.
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Um, and I think that's such a powerful thing because you can't, we may not be able to change the situation we're in.
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Um, you know, we've got to navigate through that.
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We've got to navigate through the pain and the misery and all the things that were, but we, we definitely can change.
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It's one of the shirts where we created, be the light in the darkness, be the light, you know, in those dark times.
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Um, so many people are waiting for someone else to come save them or someone else to help them.
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Well, you do it, you know, you do it, you be the light, man.
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You know, you start pouring some positivity into yourself.
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You may not, I try to explain to people, that's part of the overcome mindset.
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And, and you may not be able to get back what you've lost.
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I meet so many people who that's what their focus is.
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Like I want back my health or I want back my relationship or I want back my business or whatever it is I've lost.
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And that may not be the case, but a willingness to drive forward.
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You're going to take that the end moment and create a new beginning.
01:32:50.760
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01:33:01.280
I read in your book about how it was when you saw Erica for the first time post-injury.
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And it was actually kind of shocking because you were writing about how, unfortunately, there are a lot of cases where the wife or the girlfriend comes in and sees the severely injured soldier and pieces right out of there.
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But so there was, you know, in the back of your head, some concern, you know, given how badly injured you were in the face and so on.
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And obviously what was going to be ahead of you guys.
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But I know you were worried about, you said, don't bring the kids right away.
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Because obviously when you first saw your kids, you didn't look like you look now.
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You definitely looked closer to right after the injuries.
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And a lot of that I got an attuned to, you know, Erica and I were really locked on.
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I mean, I think that's one of the – as a couple, your ability to be unified in your decision-making and, you know, her and I discussed how would we handle this.
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You know, it's been something that's been a common theme throughout our marriage.
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99% of – first off, SEALs have almost a 90% divorce rate.
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It's just very hard on families to sustain these type of injuries.
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And Erica and I talked, okay, well, how are we going to manage this?
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One of the things we said, and we were fortunate enough to have family to help, we weren't going to change the kids' schedules.
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The kids' schedules were going to stay the same.
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If they had dance and soccer and school, they were going to be there.
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Erica stayed up at the hospital on the weekends.
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Tim's family would bring – not in the beginning.
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I didn't see the kids for probably three weeks.
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And there were several things that I told – I said I wanted.
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One, I was really – some of the original pictures are not out there.
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I think if you dig deep enough, there's some surgical journals that have pictures of me in it.
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But my head swelled almost to like the size of a basketball.
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And I told Erica I didn't want the kids to see me until they had done some more surgeries and some of the swelling had gone down.
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I also did not want them to come into the room.
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I wanted to walk into the room where the kids were.
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I wanted it to be like a family room and I wanted to walk in.
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So that was my goal to get well enough and strong enough that I could get up and walk into the room.
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And then the other thing, Erica was super smart.
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She knew the kids wanted different toys that they had talked about.
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So she went and – normally they would have had to wait until Christmas.
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But she went and bought – my son wanted a Nintendo DS.
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I can't remember what the other – what Sierra wanted.
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But Erica went and bought those things for them and then had me give them to them in the room that I walked into with them.
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So – and I tell you what, that I learned over the next couple of years.
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And I think you can build unconditional love with your spouse.
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But you learn what unconditional love is through your children.
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Your children have unconditional love for their parents, especially when they're young.
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And even though I looked messed up, my kids love me.
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And there was a lot of healing that occurred over those couple of years, especially with my youngest daughter.
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Because my middle daughter and my son, they went back to school by the time I got home.
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So she was home with me and she became – and I had not been around her her whole life.
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She would climb into bed with me as I recovered and we'd watch cartoons.
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I needed that because I was so worried about would my kids be afraid of me and the way I look.
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And, you know, they just – I'll never forget.
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I went to pick my kids up at school one day and my daughter was like five.
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And my daughter, matter of fact, was like, he got shot up.
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You know, especially when they're young, they have that healing power.
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And there is something almost angelic about them in moments.
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And I really believe it's like – someone said it to me this way and it made sense.
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And I think they still have that sort of halo effect around them and on us.
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There is something sort of magical about really young kids when you're down, you're blue, you're struggling.
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And I'm so glad that was – you're so lucky to have your three-year-old with you during those moments.
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Thank God this doesn't end with – and she just left.
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Yeah, I mean, I got to – I mean, and such a credit to her, you know, she became my best nurse.
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Even though I had nurse – in-home nurses in between surgeries, you know, for the first eight or nine months, I was a mess.
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I've got metal hardware coming out of my arm, what's called an external fixator.
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And she's grinding up meds and grinding up food so that I could eat.
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I mean, I became like a fourth child to her to take care of me.
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And I'm just so thankful how strong she was because never once did she ever say, why did you do this to us?
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Why did you pick this job that – you know, that this happened?
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So, man, she is a leader in herself and we're an amazing team.
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Right now we are working on – we're almost done with a relationship book called Invincible Marriage because it's a question so many people have.
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You guys made it through a special operations career.
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So, yeah, I'm really excited to get that book out there and hopefully help others, you know, build a strong, invincible marriage also.
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That's such a great – I mean, think of how we tell ourselves, we outside of your marriage, tell ourselves, oh, this is really hard.
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You know, he didn't show me enough emotional availability.
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This is what, you know, you hear, my God, you don't even understand what the challenges are.
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I had no idea about the divorce rate amongst the wounded.
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I want to ask you in the time we have left, I would be remiss if I skipped the disastrous withdrawal from Afghanistan because everyone who served there, like yourself, had some thoughts on it.
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And some had some real trauma when it happened and just sort of the abandonment of it, of the translators.
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You mentioned that was one of the guys with you in Iraq when you got hurt.
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I think that's going to be viewed and, in my opinion, probably one of the greatest failures.
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I think the way we withdrew from Iraq was poorly done, which, in my opinion, directly led to the creation of ISIS in Iraq.
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And then we repeated the exact same thing, except at an exponential scale in Afghanistan.
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And in Afghanistan, I think we had done so much of a better job, you know, helping the people.
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There were so many people that had embraced this newfound freedom apart from the rule of the Taliban.
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I mean, there were women in leadership position.
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Commerce was starting to grow and thrive in Afghanistan again.
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And we had basically convinced these people like, hey, a free democratic Afghanistan is a real thing.
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And, yeah, when we pulled out of there in the way that we did, I mean, just, I don't understand.
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I mean, you can't tell me that there weren't senior political leaders who were saying this is not going to end well.
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How did we ever agree to allow the Taliban to provide some level of security?
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How did we ever, you know, who in their right mind allowed this to occur with, you know, American citizens that were left behind?
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I mean, trying to get people in the Karzai airport.
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Lieutenant Colonel Scott Mann had created a group to try and help.
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And there were a lot of special operations guys, Chad Robichaw, Tim Kennedy.
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And we were trying to get people out of Afghanistan.
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And we saw firsthand the chaos and the disorganization and the mass confusion by the U.S. government.
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You know, the focus began and became we're just going to get the military out and ignoring all these U.S. citizens.
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And most importantly, the individuals who had been processed, Afghans who had sacrificed their lives to protect us and work with us, who had lost family members to risk their lives, who had been told, you're going to get a special immigrant visa and you're going to be able to come to the United States when all of this was transpiring, that the Taliban was going to take back over, which I had issues with in the first place.
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Why did we turn the country back over to the exact same terrorist group that we were fighting against for 20 years?
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And I think it will impact our national security collection abilities for decades to come.
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Because who in their right mind is going to want to work with America and risk their lives to help us collect intelligence when they're going to go, I'm not going to work with you guys.
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If anything goes wrong, you're just going to sell me out to dry and I'm going to be killed.
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We sent such a negative message across the world.
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I think it was such a poor display of leadership.
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What did I – I mean, you were in Iraq, but same – similar question.
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I still think the way I process it from over here, you guys kept us safe for 20 years.
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You know, remember how afraid we were after 9-11 we were going to get attacked again?
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You kept us safe for 20 years and we're still safe.
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We're still safe because of what you did over there.
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It was not all for naught, though it was terribly, terribly handled.
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And even before the withdrawal, there was a lot of criticism to be leveled.
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It was just a stain on our leadership, not on our guys.
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I mean, I never once have ever thought, oh my God, what a waste.
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I mean, you know, the mission that we did was, you know, we helped a lot of people.
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We definitely got rid of a lot of very bad people who, given the opportunity, would gladly
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do bad things here in our own country and even in other countries abroad.
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So, yeah, I definitely tell fellow veterans, don't ever think that what we did absolutely
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It's unfortunate the way it ended, but, you know, I'm proud of the time that I had to
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serve over there and hopefully make a small difference in Afghanistan, Iraq.
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And your career is as a motivational speaker, as an author.
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I mean, you know, I think the message I deliver is very needed.
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I mean, a combination of coming out of the COVID era and also into just society as a whole.
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How do we build more positive culture within companies?
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And then how do we find balance in this crazy world that we're living in?
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It's one of the foundational principles in my Overcome book.
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I'm now teaching the Point Man for Life program, which is a structured process of building long-term goal-setting and understanding based on your values, what your mission or purpose is in this life with kind of a special operations twist.
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And then, of course, we have the relationship book coming.
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And then something I've started working on, we just concluded our most recent Overcome and Survive workshop.
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A lot of my teammates have a lot of experience, and they are training law enforcement and national organization, military organizations and tactical abilities.
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But I keep meeting average everyday Americans who are like, I'm scared for the future.
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Like, I wish I knew how to better defend myself in this dangerous world where every time we turn around, there's a massacre shooting.
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Or, God forbid, something happened to my family.
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If I take this course, you're not going to throw me in the ocean and hose me down with a hose and tell me to find Northwest, are you?
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People signing up for the course, I had to put it right on the website, overcomeandsurvive.com.
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We want to take the average everyday American and make them better.
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And to give them a basic level of preparation so that they can overcome and survive if something bad happens.
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I've met people from all across this country who have come to these courses, and I'm doing it with some of my former teammates.
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I know there's such a unique bond, and if you don't nurture it, maybe you lose it, and it just becomes a memory, which is not okay.
01:48:50.760
I want to tell our audience that the book that talks about Jay's experience is called The Trident.
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And then you heard him reference his second book, which is called Overcome, Crush Adversity with Leadership Techniques of America's Toughest Warriors.
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And we will look forward to the third book, which is the relationship one, and we'll have you back on for that.
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I'm excited for what comes next in your life and to read your next writing.
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And I just wish all my best to you and your family.
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I know my audience is joining me right now in thanking you, thanking you, thanking you so much for your service, your sacrifice, that of your family as well.
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They do the same in their own ways, and we appreciate you.
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Go to jasonredman.com to find out much, much more about Jason, about his books, about his courses, everything.
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Today, I join you in remembering all of the men and women who have served our country and also thinking of and thanking our current military members serving today.
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Have a great Memorial Day, and we'll talk tomorrow.
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